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No amount of sex is worth getring "corrupted" into some idiot's unhealthy lifestyle.
/r/seduction26/05/26 06:17 PM
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Funny, these exact words were said by the French president regarding some covid strategies back then;m: it's not a failure, it didn't work out 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 06:10 AM
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I'd associate that with unhealed attachment partterns. Most men don't get to live up to the teenage standards they see in movies and it's a wound they keep carrying. Personally, dating was awful for me from age 15 to ahe 25. I had a difficult life at home with a single mother that had both emotional and financial issues. I didn't really have a plan how to sell myself to a potential partner, just desperately wanted to be loved. It simply didn't work until my life had a bit more autonomy. I still …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 07:39 PM
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Spot on. I've always thought, if I like sex with one woman I've bagged, I'll try to come to her again to explore deeper, rather than starting from scratch with another.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 06:52 AM
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Idk maybe it's also a skill issue when the guy can't get her in the mood. Most women hang on to the attention they had at the beginning of the relationship, so the guy needs to always keep courting her, taking her on dates, ensuring she feels sahe and at ease, building sexual tension. And I don't say it's right or wrong, it just is so. If the guy just goes like "woman, do your wifely duties, please and thank you", nuts in 2 minutes and falls asleep... That's probably the reason ☠️ Idk. For the r…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 06:47 AM
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How were your vows? I never was married but I cringe a bit when I hear "until death does us apart" meaning only force majeure is allowed to separate the partners. I'd make a vow of "until lack of shared goals does us apart" tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 06:39 AM
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Sorry I'm surely missing 1 cultural cue (not from US) but what's a Hangela?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 06:37 AM
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I'm definitely settling down with a woman I like with the premise that we will have regular sex, But I won't settle for just any woman out there just because she has regular sex to offer. There are other things to look for or to avoid in a long-term partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 06:33 AM
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alcoholism, nice
/r/seduction17/04/26 10:17 AM
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Not to the redpill. Or atleast, they redefine that guy to be a beta male who women want to extract resources from after she’s been used up by Chad. It is one of the redpill talking points that infuriate me the most. As if these men weren't after being Chad. But Chad isn't red pill so the 2 worlds don't get to overlap.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 06:21 AM
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Or they don't want this lifestyle quite enough
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 06:15 PM
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for sure :)
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 06:13 AM
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Well in a perfect world everyone is polyamory and one can have as many romantic partners as they have friends, but we're not quite there 😎 understandable why he was horrified 😉🤭
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 06:09 AM
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rule 6
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 10:59 AM
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yep. once I find my girl, I won't be worried that I look like Shrek to others. Actually it's more trouble when another woman likes me and I must now tread carefully with the unsollicited attention even though I like it. Never happens when I'm single and sulking, what a surprise :p
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 10:46 AM
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I'm not even high value but I consistently stay away from women who don't know how to drink, or who smoke. I think lifestyle match is what makes a couple last long.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 06:50 AM
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Yeah. Vetting is an all-time skill for both men and women 😊 all the best to you!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 05:18 PM
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Just once. I hit on someone because of misreading signals, next thing I knew I had a shit reputation in my uni group and only my loyal male friends were ok to hang out with me. Rest of it is indeed reading scaremongering. But I particularly wanted to ask this commenter on how she deals with having to reject uninteresting folks. The reason was she promotes that everyone learns how to gauge social interactions. But I think it works for women too. I don't want to meet women who would snap at me wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 12:53 PM
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okay
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 12:27 PM
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hey at least you've got a loyal community for yourself, might as well enjoy it for the sake of it
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 12:18 PM
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idk :) tell your guys to bring friends or whatever. honestly it also doesn't help you to be so snappy :shrug:
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 12:02 PM
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fair enough, thanks :)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 11:43 AM
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I agree, it should be that simple. It's sad seeing my younger self and many men can't understand that the "score" won't be happening in a matter of minutes and in front of a whole crowd :')
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 11:40 AM
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No, I know, I'm just asking whether how you reject strange men aligns with "you learn it from being in social situations and interacting with people", because depending on the rejection, a man can stop being bothered to learn how to interact. Some of the rejections I've taken were blatant mockery and cruelty and honestly it's taught me nothing but humiliation.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 11:36 AM
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organize one then
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 11:14 AM
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I've got a bad reputation at uni from trying to hit on multiple women, it's scarred me a bit, so I became cautious in groups I meet all the time. I think there discretion is key.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 11:09 AM
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believe it or not, I chatted up a woman while we were waiting for boarding and we kind of matched, spent the whole flight making out... was definitely fun :')
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 11:09 AM
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thanks for saying it. if I can't speak, my approaches at flirting will all fall short, because speaking is precisely how I connect.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 10:13 AM
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a lot of women apparently get very sour or just scared when a man approaches and it falls short. The man is directly labelled a creep. how would you personally treat failed approaches without cruelty nor suspicion of ill-intent?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 10:10 AM
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a lot of people believe escorts must be really good for their pricing, but most of them can't be bothered to give the slightest bit of "girlfriend experience"
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 08:10 AM
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I love to be giving when I don't have to, sometimes to the point I'm self-aware whether it is enough or not and I need to ask for reassurance... And incidentally I don't have really high expectations from my partner, but I do notice when she goes out of her way to be kind to me. I really hope we keep being one another's safe place.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 08:04 AM
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I also don't behave particularly "masculine" whatever that means to women 🍀 nowadays I'm in a relationship and I try to find balance between worshipping the shit out of her and tending to my life goals.
/r/seduction18/03/26 07:10 AM
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I guess you're just a kind person that people want to keep around. But if you really want to not be caged you will need to give boundaries. A lot of women can actually hear "I am not looking for anything serious right now" but it needs to be said.
/r/seduction18/03/26 06:47 AM
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I am the same. I don't think it is a failure though. The problem imo with hookups, is that you are full-time performative. In relationships, past the first few dates you can stop being in the seduction and enjoy building quiet boring little moments with your S.O. In hookups you'd have to be seen as fun, free-spirited and interesting to quite a lot of different people, and regularly. As someone who's comfortable with showing my insecurities, I find this exhausting, and now I understand fully why …
/r/seduction18/03/26 06:46 AM
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would you say you try to turn hookup situations into relationships and you then get turned down, or do you approach different persons for relationships, than you do for hookups?
/r/seduction18/03/26 06:42 AM
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What is your idea of fun? I know mine has lot of nerding alone 😂 met my gf through facebook dating
/r/seduction16/03/26 11:25 PM
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Daddy lying about his identity... Should be penalized too. Daddy disappearing without a trace... Should be penalized too. I've seen in other comments that in this case dna research is used. Daddy divorcing... Already encoded in a way that he'll pay up. So yeah. I think overall we agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 03:15 PM
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Okay. I thought we agreed that it would be immoral for a 10+ married wife to lie about it 🤣 Yes I know, a man being intense and paranoid on only grounds that "all women 'lie" is rogue. But again, on the offchance that he was right and his particular wife just threw theatricals to obfuscate her lie, that would be rogue from her, too. Anyways, as you have said, not every couple looks like this, and thanks god. I don't know, I think we both have fairly reasonable opinions and keep bickering on mere…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 02:27 PM
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thanks for agreeing that it is immoral
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 01:40 PM
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Okay, I admit I wrote too fast. But then, what happens if the judge declines the request for a test, and it still comes out later that, the father is not the father? For example if the child gets diagnosed with a genetic issues that shows no correlation with the father. That's a way it could happen. Or maybe the mother admits to cheating years later because her health declines and the secret became too heavy. What I mean is, having a judge screening to go through, leads ro mistakes.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 12:02 PM
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Test de paternité en France : comment faire légalement et qui peut le demander ? you only can get to test your child's paternity if a judge allows it. So any sneaky attempt that's not authorized ends up unusable in a court. And most French women say that it is exactly as it should because, why would a suspecting partner go out of his way to confirm his suspicions without alerting the woman who's faulted. In this case like in any other fraud, it is always better to have advantage and surprise ove…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 11:39 AM
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it really fucks me up knowing how many women on this sub would be game to live with such family secrets. It's ugly folks, you don't make a happy family with secrets this important.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 11:37 AM
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in France this is illegal
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 11:33 AM
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but like, why would a woman want to keep building a long-term life project with someone who's not the actual father of their child? why the lies? you sail off with your baby papa and you're all set??
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 11:32 AM
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I hear all the comments of patriarchy and a man's ego, etc, but as always in this kind of discourse, people forget fundamental biology. The truth is likely to come out when the child or his offspring falls victim to genetic disorders and sickness. Imagine the double grief event when you find that 1/ your child is sick and you cannot help him with your own kidney or blood or whtever else and 2/ this is all because your trusted wife actually got pregnant decades ago from someone she forgot the nam…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 11:30 AM
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maybe not a crime, but it still can give a shitty situation for the child, what if the child (or his offspring) get genetic health conditions that only can get traced back to the hidden father? this is probably the way truth comes out even after surviving years of lies and it adds an unnecessary layer of grief.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 11:25 AM
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"on paper"... ah sorry, it's a French idiom, maybe it doesn't translate the same in English. it means: theoritically. it means I want to have control over my ability to fall head over heels for someone I haven't yet spoken to. in that way, I find it healthier to believe that, all women are the same until I've got the chance to have a communication with them. it's ok if we disagree, it is merely a framework for me to not get super into someone anymore because I hate where this tendency has taken …
/r/seduction27/02/26 12:50 PM
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I got clocked as exactly that in my uni years. For 2 years my reputation suffered. It was a sobering moment to say the least. I was really desperate for any validation... Eh 🤷🏻‍♂️ it's in the past now.
/r/seduction27/02/26 10:23 AM
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One girl is just as good as another on paper. What makes a girl special is the connection you build. No one is special just on their own 💫
/r/seduction27/02/26 10:21 AM
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I guess it's not simple. Some actions done by people result in hurting someone elses's physical and mental health. I'd argue that "evil" can be a denomination for people who exerce their seduction or influence in cruel ways. i.e: men who knowingly go and manipulate their partner for immediate goals... can take a form of lying about intentions to get laid and then disappear, or straight sociological behaviour like drugging your long-term partner to keep them foggy and weak. But what's not "evil":…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 03:10 PM
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"live and let live" I don't have a loooot of things I'm not able to talk about, but once someone demands that *I think like they think*, I'm gone.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 11:45 AM
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Idk, I think his approach might be a simple nudge in the direction of at least dating and getting a girlfriend? Most "seduction" games focus on getting laid as soon as possible, but funny enough, none of the seduction advice I've read had insight on the longer term and the emotional/intellectual connection✌🏻 Honestly I naturally follow this protocol when I meet someone new, it doesn't always lead to quick lays but it's enough to get dates and express your personality in a way that feels spontane…
/r/seduction20/02/26 10:12 AM
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I guess it depends. Text to plan a date? Definitely. Text to chat for long hours already? Comes out needy. I've needed to adjust this too.
/r/seduction18/02/26 03:49 PM
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I love giving boyfriend energy and I'll end up dating all my lays even if it's short and even if it ends badly, that's a thing in me I won't change even if changing it gave me access to 10.000 women. Thanks for the reminder that we men need to act in consequence of the energy we give.
/r/seduction18/02/26 01:35 PM
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as another commenter said, it's healthier when the hurt part can say they're hurt in spite of the theoritical arrangements. A lot of drama resuting from failed fwb's is with the hurt person claiming the other party hurts them intentionally, and then arises some nasty cichés of "slut" or "player" when realy it's just: I've been crystal clear what I'll do of you and you kept believing otherwise". It would be simpler if we didn't have to feel our feelings, but sadly we do.
/r/seduction18/02/26 01:33 PM
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the moment you need "protocols" to throw physical states out the window, I find it aggravating for our species. drinking coffee is also a protocol I don't follow.
/r/seduction18/02/26 01:30 PM
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most definitely, and I think being able to formulate this paradox counts as a superpower. being hurt and angry and still being able to say out loud "I thought I would be OK on paper but I'm not" takes a lot of unnecessary guit from the shoulders of the so-called offender.
/r/seduction18/02/26 01:27 PM
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hmmm... starting to wonder if being a mediocre fuck could deter a woman's hopes from increasing... but it coud lead to simpy stopping the fwb connection because then it's kinda useless when she does a better job with her hands and toys.
/r/seduction18/02/26 01:25 PM
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well articulated and honesty I always find this hard to process, it's like some things you really can't just be 100% honest about, because unfortunatey even the most rational statements can't fully get through versus an idealized version of a connection.
/r/seduction18/02/26 01:23 PM
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Bro can't seem to take a risk. Like of course people all have baggage. Men who've fucked around have less tolerance for women who cannt give them the right blow job or death grip or finger in the bumhole or what have you. Just take informed risk and live your life, Nothing matters and we're all going to die.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 10:52 PM
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I've done it but it ends up being hard to face the grey zone where exclusivity picks up with one of them and you need to dump the others one by one, I find it emotionally draining. anyway if I do have a rotation I keep it to a strict 2 or 3 because ain't nobody has time for dates with multiple demanding women. Me-time is sacred.
/r/seduction11/02/26 08:47 AM
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At this point I think he just wants to have affairs with the friends 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 06:57 AM
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I think this person is afraid his gf's friends will tell bad things about him. Many men believe that women always always listen to their girlies, so if the friends are not particularly attracted to him, they're at risk of saying "why'd you date such an uggo loser" resulting in the gf leaving him. Fortunately some people are decent and won't influence their friend into dumping their partner based purely on looks. Though I'd totally recommend her to dump him for wanting the friends to find him hot…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 06:53 AM
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I think the overcompensation in itself fastens the fall.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 08:30 AM
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I don't think so. Emotional intelligence is a weakness in fields that land enough income to sustain this model. Most of these guys are just trained to act like sociopaths in their whole professional life. In my humble opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 09:11 PM
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Idk, I don't really care abt those topics until I'm years into a relationship and it degrades out of the blue. I'm mostly hypervigilant in the few 1st months, to understand whether she will communicate needs & boundaries or not. When she doesn't I lose interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 07:34 AM
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Always ask people what they want before giving what you think they want
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 07:07 AM
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Yes. But I will change that. I only treat women how I want to be treated. For those who like it too it's a cool match, for the others it's "smothering". I'l no longer meet women I don't know how to treat.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 10:27 AM
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The man is the prize. We need to remember that 🤠
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 07:55 PM
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Thanks. Yes. Nervous system and brain chemistry trigger all sort of unpredictable things in people and we can just try our best to cope with it all. That's why in seduction vetting is so important. You can like a woman and clock from a mile away that she will make your nervous system exhausted. In that case, better to not engage at all.
/r/seduction18/01/26 10:07 PM
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Thanks for the kind words.
/r/seduction18/01/26 07:49 AM
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I'm struggling with that too. I cannot play detached until I'm not. What's the point. I don't date to swap partners like toilet paper rolls, I date to fall in love and choose someone who'll stick around too.
/r/seduction17/01/26 11:20 PM
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you have no idea how I wish I was a robot in real life but cool :P
/r/seduction14/01/26 01:25 PM
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remains the option to use the social media to approach the 1st time. But you're a drop in an ocean of simps so good luck for that too.
/r/seduction14/01/26 01:15 PM
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I think I would happen onto them if I was in their social circle (which I'm not), but I wouldn't be able to do it from seeing them in some piece of media to finding where they can be found in person to pulling them. Other than that they're too normal humans with qualities and flaws, and you do want to remind them their flaws exist and that their accomplishments are not a sufficient argument to hang out with you :p good luck. I'm pretty sure I'm already staying home while they're out and about fo…
/r/seduction14/01/26 01:14 PM
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So for me it's always happened quite spontaneously. I was never wooed by their looks, they had a very calm and confident aura, and speaking with them just felt good and playful to the point I then decided to flirt. So it's always started with being acquainted with them without afterthoughts and quite simply speaking.
/r/seduction13/01/26 07:03 AM
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Yeah there's that. In corporate there's also a whole world of people who help their spouse find a job in the same company. Don't know where that stands on the scale. It's a wide world...
/r/seduction08/01/26 06:43 PM
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I'm not sure this applies to every single woman on the planet. Sure, on the few 1st dates you're giving a good impression, but I have known women in relationships, whose idea of fun is to stay home, eat cereal and milk and play video games. Though it's a side you reasonably find about after a couple of weeks, minimum 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 06:03 PM
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since our judgment can be clouded by infatuation. fify
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 12:47 PM
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Following my 1st comment, if she asks why you came to her before you're already sexual, just make up something. She has a vibe. You liked her scarf. She seemed to really enjoy herself that moment and you wanted to know more.
/r/seduction07/01/26 06:44 PM
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"well duh!" And if you're already there, slap her butt. Not fawning doesn't mean you can't appreciate her looks after you got her interested.
/r/seduction07/01/26 06:43 PM
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Treat her like the bro who gives you a blowie and then says "no homo", we all have one, right? 🤣🤣🤣
/r/seduction07/01/26 06:07 PM
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Show that her beauty is not your kryptonite and look for stuff you don't like in how she carries herself. Makes her think you know what you want and you're not afraid to say it. It gets easier with time. And make her feel something. You're not there to fawn over her looks like the thousand other simps.
/r/seduction07/01/26 06:05 PM
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Well, now you know that she knows all too well how an actual can of coke feels in her, let that sink 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 06:49 AM
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Yeah the virtue signalling gets tiring.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 06:46 AM
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Ain't people got better things to do. I can't do that because I don't live in the same city more than 2-3 years, so by the time the woman has got single, I'm already gone, byeeeeee 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 11:07 AM
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Yeah and they still won't get what it is to be a woman 🌌 though these persons are easier to pick up for lust.
/r/seduction01/01/26 04:46 PM
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Women can bag a man for a date or a night of lust but men still are the lead decision makers in who they're going to marry.
/r/seduction01/01/26 04:45 PM
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Absurdism. None of this makes sense, we're all gonna die, be silly and keep on living.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 11:41 PM
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Beczuse if women would sympathize, they could gaslight them into giving them a chance.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 11:38 PM
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Hot girls are just girls in the end of the day.
/r/seduction23/12/25 07:58 PM
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Well you never know, she might be dying to tell you that she too is dealing with diarrhea.
/r/seduction23/12/25 07:52 PM
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Ah you meant class like classroom 🤦🏻‍♂️ lol ok thx for clarifying I haven't sit on a class bench for a decade now 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/25 07:26 PM
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What do you call class clwon? Someone who's lowkey classy but doesn't take themselves too seriously?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/25 07:02 PM
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Why not both? Sex and feeling loved and chosen? That's what relationships are about? 🤷🏻‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 10:50 PM
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Yes, delude yourself 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 10:00 PM
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🪿 half an hour of bad sex with someone who doesn't care about me as a person? Lol. Better jerk it off.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 08:32 PM
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Not always. Sometimes it's about making her feel comfortable while you're at home. A common trick I see for cooking sessions is to give her jobs so she feels useful and maintaining physical contact to give a sense of intimacy. I didn't do that myself just yet because there never was a need for that in my approaches, but what I'm told essentially is, if she agrees coming to your place the 1st time, she's open to the opportunity of escalation, if done right.
/r/seduction18/12/25 03:33 PM
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then I have privilege what can I say :p
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 10:51 AM
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i'm most of the time able to keep someone around, but it is sometimes hard to have that first encounter to activate the rest of the story, not gonna lie ;) best of luck to all
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 10:33 AM
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Man you're so wrong. Paid sex is by the hour and you don't get girlfriend experience. On a street hoe you get maybe 50 usd/hour and on good escorts you get 200 usd/hour (i don't know, I live in Europe). With my date I have an average of one encounter per week, with a sex and intimacy yield averaging 3 to 4 hours each session. That would cost me 4 x 200 usd/week for a good escort, so 800 usd. With a girlfriend, I just show up, maybe have a coffee date, a cooking get together, and actually all the…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 09:50 AM
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God forbid a normal guy finds garbage dumpsters unsafe to have sex at 🤷🏻‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 09:44 AM
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The one who goes speak to her first.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 04:18 PM
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I was at a friend's place for a board games party and I met a friend of his. She and I chatted and I really wasn't thinking anything, just pouring some opinions or facts of life out. That same night she added me on facebook and told me she found it all super sexy and wanted me, so we arranged to meet. She had a son at home and would only meet me in her car. We liked it and it became something regular for a while 🤩🤠 well until she had something romantic starting elsewhere. Was 10 years ago... Sti…
/r/seduction14/12/25 08:03 AM
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Maybe it was by accident 👉🏻👈🏻 /s
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 12:08 PM
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If a woman threatens me to leave, I'll just say; by all means. Yeah it's heartbreak, yeah I don't have many options, but I've survived all my single periods until now (some spanning for more than a year) and I intend to do so again. Nothing better than peace of mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 08:56 AM
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I agree it was gross to just happen about it.
/r/seduction10/12/25 05:59 PM
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Word.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 07:24 PM
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Different walks of life 🤷🏻‍♂️😅
/r/seduction09/12/25 04:30 PM
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Look up their profile ✨
/r/seduction09/12/25 03:18 PM
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Bro how do you spin 4 plates and accept they blow up your phone, I'm already exhausted with 2 😅
/r/seduction09/12/25 12:23 PM
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When patrilinearity took over matrilinearity, Suddenly all had to know which man was the father of a child, because a man could not take a heir that was not his, In matrilinear structures, the clan was taking care of the children, and the genitor had not such a pressuring role as he has in patrilinearity.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 11:38 AM
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It's happened in the history. Very few surviving matriachal communities now. There's a french website dedicated to the history and geography of matriarchal communities, sadly the founder of it has died at a young age. matriciens.org
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 11:16 AM
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Psychology and neurology are moving forwards to demonstrate that most relationships' success or failures have nothing to do with domination, but how much they appease or disregulate the nervous system of both individuals. I fell down the rabbit hole and really rarely come back to evolutionary stuff like "need to spread the seed" or "hypergamy", if ever. Now I think as a man I'll reach my life goals with or without a woman in my life, and I'll be miserable with or without a woman if I need to be,…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 11:06 AM
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It's not a grim observation that AWALT. It just informs you how to act and how to trust. Even though AWALT, I wouldn't have it any other way because wishing things is what makes me miserable. There's a lot of room to work with AWALT best of my ability anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 02:45 PM
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No one has to know if you're virgin or not. If they don't know, they won't try to use that fact against you. And if you in fact attract a woman first time and have a good bonding to her, your lack of experience might not even be a problem because you would be laughing with her about it. Just remember women will mirror your emotions, so if you're convinced your virginity is a turn-off, that will be the reason why it is one. Just don't take yourself so seriously. And also another rule that's never…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 02:11 PM
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Because you can't say you conquered someone's heart (or body) 😉 It's all bloody ego. Ok, either that or, Could be deep rooted insecurities or not feeling enough, wanting to have a purpose in life, needing companionship to function. And it's not gendered. Lots of human just want to be partnered for all the wrong reasons and can even prefer bad relationships to being single. It's just how it is. Though I find it funny how single men try to create hive minds and cults based on their individual love…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 02:06 PM
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That's a pretty grim view and I really hope all my fellow mennain't like that. I've read the manosphere bullshit too but it doesn't mean I'll embrace their cult 🤠
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 02:01 PM
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Who wouldn't like getting to know their close one better and better until there's essentially nothing left to learn... Which is a stretch because people change, so you can choose to fit these changes with your changes, or not. In a way, it's never boring. And if it is... Well you still can get out of the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 12:17 PM
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I can't conceptualize why passing my own genes is important. I don't stress for any legacy left after I die, because I won't be there to see it, nor the lack thereof. I expect my outlook might change but I'm already 33 years old and thus far I've been this cynical and jaded for quite long. Who knows 🐴
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 12:15 PM
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I don't think it's specifically gendered, it just shows how much humans care about statements, symbols and stories. In extreme cases, in absolutely unhealthy ways. Actions will always speak louder than words.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 11:53 AM
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Mothers commit to their child, not necessarily to their partner. Well, some mothers don't commit so well to their child either but thanks god they're a 🤏🏻 tiny minority. Motherhood is an interesting example because it can introduce challenging changes to the sense of intimacy in a couple. Some men stick through it, some men fall apart, some men leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 11:45 AM
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Then maybe we should change the vows to "til our values grow apart" and try not to be bullied by some tradition from another time. Case closed.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 11:39 AM
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I wouldn't go as far as "replaceable" but, as I grow, I acknowledge most women are interchangeable, most individuals can actually give me something to work with and that fulfills most of my needs. I think it's healthy to recognize we're all not so unique as we'd like to believe...
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 11:37 AM
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You don't need to become asshole, you need to learn how to regulate your insecurity patterns.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 12:23 PM
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unfair! I agree to a lot of the points you make and I would never call myself logical. I'm very emotional too and any man who tells me otherwise can eat a bag of dicks :p we all have attachment issues and triggers that we need to work on, it isn't gendered.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 12:53 PM
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appreciate the insight, thanks a lot!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 10:55 AM
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If you're not taking the steps to clarify what's up, you're the one acting lika a child tbh. Lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 10:16 AM
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Thanks god someone else is proposing this reasoning!!! Hallelujah.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 10:16 AM
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It seems independament-eye is very sour with women who have fearful anxious attachment and has no experience whatsoever with other styles of attachment. So I think he's got massive bias.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 10:14 AM
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Date women with avoidant attachment and they will be the ones pulling away from you ☺️ you don't need to surround yourself with a type that's unfit for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 10:12 AM
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Always and never are trigger words and attack character. They need to be used only as a red alarm button, not in everyday fights...
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 10:09 AM
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This kind of stuff is related to attachment style and mean something else. As a partner (man or woman btw) we need to understand these needs by asking clarification. "You always are working" you can mitigate by offering a date night once in a week or once in two weeks so that she receives meaningful time with you. "Always business trips" you still can build a system where you communicate more often and she doesn't feel left behind. There are plenty of ways one can find compromise if we don't esc…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 10:08 AM
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Unfortunately not 😋 I tried to keep in touch but she didn't want to do long distance.
/r/seduction02/12/25 12:36 PM
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I don't really know, sometimes it just goes better than you could ever expect. And so you keep on hoping this stuff happens again whenever you shoot your shot. One day a woman at a bus stop asked me for a cigarette and I happened to have one pack, even though I'm a non-smoker. I didn't even have the cigarettes strategically 🤣 I had bought them along with my magazine at the magazine dealer's because I needed to pick something more to reach the minimum amount for debit card payment, and cigarettes…
/r/seduction02/12/25 08:43 AM
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That reaction alone suggests you don't even know how to flirt 🤔 are you sure you feel friendzoned when you flirt? I certainly don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 07:30 PM
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That's another thing that's rarely ever advised. Women chat all day long with their friends. Want her to show-up at your date, don't be too open about yourself, be busy and let her know the one time window you're ready to open up so she has a chance to get to know you. And that's it. If she ghosts you or doesn't show up without a valid reason, block and next.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 07:28 PM
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Become better at arranging in-person dates. Be ready to make them happen asap. Don't try to chit-chat by text. It works 🥳
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 07:26 PM
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That's the thing. Flirting is not the same as being friends. And if you become friends who flirt, you can just plain say it like that so no one builds expectations.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 07:21 PM
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She will be too ugly for you 😎 or maybe she's physically blind and din't see you visibly fumble all of her friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 07:14 PM
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She's too extreme. The right way is, acknowledge you're not fucking tonight. But if you're ready to just relax your nervous system for a bit, you might speak, have a good interaction, leave with a phone number. Never expect to fuck tonight. It's not necessary and people who have success in it are compensating something else. You don't wanna know what keeps Chad up at night. Everybody has different problems to manage, be thankful you just have your own.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 07:12 PM
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Don't try to teach with words, they have to learn with pain.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 07:10 PM
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I always believed liking a girl = making her your girlfriend from the 1st flirt. But it's completely... Not like that. Lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 07:09 PM
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Well. If you move to another one and get shit on for it, best you can do is "I didn't owe you anything, why are you being possessive" and that's it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 07:08 PM
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I would be more accurate in the statement. I think specifically you need to lower the standard on the physique. All that's proportions, body fat ratio, body muscle ratio, cheekbone ratio, color of the eyes. Anything that can be standstill and measurable. But then, focus on body language and body movement. Figure out a standard of things you wanna see when they move AND when they interact with YOU (or their loved ones). And learn to clock whenever it clicks together with your body language. That'…
/r/seduction28/11/25 02:46 PM
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Sure. That too. Women are good to mirror emotions, so if you convinced yourself you're a creep, you'll be one.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 03:58 PM
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I still try to figure out what normal men are doing so wrong to trigger such emotional responses to approaches. I now take that most women will get approached in rather untasteful ways by multiple men, and will take off the edge on the one guy who was doing it decently, because at least he won't straight up pull up a knife or insult her after being rejected, and the number of unpleasant approaches is just too much to give a chance to anyone. Just an infortunate state of things. So really creeps …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 02:59 PM
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you don't bring up smashing, you start kissing her neck, that's the signal :p
/r/seduction27/11/25 07:39 AM
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This guy right here. My bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 10:56 PM
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What if some men and women can be intimate partners, life companions and friends too, without anyone forcing them. Crazy notion I know.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 10:56 PM
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Not sure the sex doll will understand the exact motion of my favourite pat on the head, but y'know what, let these guys go for the sex dolls, more women for me to vibe with 😎
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 10:54 PM
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Reasonable. That's why I didn't keep speaking that much after. I know christian nutjobs are something different in usa.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 06:47 PM
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If I could, I would ✌🏻 we agree on that
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 03:23 PM
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that's the thing, citizens are born in the country and you deal with them anyway, with vetting immigrants you can decide if you add trouble to your trouble or not. I don't exactly get why most people get so worked out on this topic, regardless of who promotes it on a political level. It's plain common sense... also, ancient Greece had a practice of exiling criminals from their cities altogether, could be cool to bring it back :')
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 02:59 PM
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🤷🏻‍♂️ I can't really care, I'm not a USA citizen. But there are a fraction of illegal migrants who have an ideology that oppresses women, so vetting them would be important, in my humble opinion. Anyway, enjoy your day, bye.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 01:42 PM
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Hey, how exactly is it against feminism to be against illegal immigrants.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 12:37 PM
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Thx for the heads up chief
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 08:28 AM
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you don't find a relationship, you build it and you vet it. Having absolutely no boundaries or standards for what we find acceptable in a relationship makes us look like clowns.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 07:51 AM
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well suit yourself ;) and I'll do me
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 07:50 AM
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another thing, it's never been a need to show your hand and your full intention. Walking into a 1st date will phrases like "I want a sex" or " I want a relationship" is stupid, all you want is get to know the person for a moment to assess whether they're a match, and then you move it forwards, slowly enough that everyone feels seen and understood.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 07:37 AM
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I think just accept that men are the driving force in the initial seduction steps. Women are very good at inconsciously tuning to our internal states, so if every step of a flirty interaction we feel like we don't belong, that's the reason they will reject, because it just doesn't feel genuine or right for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 07:35 AM
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I think you raise a fair point. As a man growing up I was socialized to expect sex as soon as I wanted it, it's a toxic little culture between teenage or young adult men, we can't just believe that playing the long game, hell even a days-long game, can lead to slightly better results. We all want to grind it and get it on asap. Nowasays I don't bother anymore, whenever I'm desperate for a lay I just do me, and then maybe go out and see what's up. But no more pressure to bring someone home asap, …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 07:26 AM
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you know what, no matter if this is true or wrong, OP should touch grass and go seduce a woman already, he'll have less time for philosophy :')
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 07:12 AM
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It's possible. Need more data 🤝🏻
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 08:49 PM
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I was reading this when a friend of mine called me to tell me a guy has been leading her on, at first love-bombing and meeting her almost every day, then after she was hooked, postponing and cancelling meet-ups for months, and nothing at all getting out of it. And when she showed a bit of boundaries, he was all like "ohhh no you misunderstound me let's just be friends"... And I told her, even as a friend he's shit-tier for wasting her time, so back to the trash where he belongs. Can't invent it …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 08:12 PM
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What helped me feel grounded emotionally when it is lacking on the relationship side, was to surround myself with trusted friends. Always helps to have someone else to whom you can talk and be vulnerable.
/r/seduction23/11/25 04:13 PM
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Protip: sometimes women have nothing interesting to say in the moment because they're just waiting for you to make a move and have sex with them ASAP 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 01:02 PM
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Worth also noting that, from my pov, no man and woman are a super catch more than the next one and that's also a very important lesson... No one is whole, everyone has issues, the number of different issues is so wide that we can still work together and it's actually a good thing. Seems a bit cynical and anti-romantic right? But I think it's really true. Every romantic or sexual connection we want or grow happens in our own heads.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 08:11 AM
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I think it's a skill issue first and then a confidence one. If a man think he's a creep, a woman will catch on it and make it happen. Women manifest what's in the air, that's why they are so interested in astrology and magic and what-have-you. Most of my successful encounters are made when I decide that I'm not too much and that I'm just out there trying to find the person who's actually into my approaches. It's not all that hard in spite of the various insecurities and throwbacks, we human are …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 08:04 AM
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I appreciate it, thanks
/r/seduction22/11/25 10:52 AM
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Tbh I'd like to see that translated in a Cursed Conlang Circus.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 05:37 PM
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The charlatans are doing a good job at pushing their narrative sadly, nowadays young men believe they only want girls who have large social reach and party a lot while they secretely hate them and wouldn't be interested to get to know their habits. The real definition of beta should be for the guy who still doesn't know what he wants and doesn't know in what circles he's at his peak. I saw a thread here recently where some "alpha" said he's not super fit nor sociable but is so passionate about h…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 03:57 PM
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Don't give women what they want. Why forget yourself?
/r/seduction19/11/25 05:12 PM
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I've been in relationships with an amount of women with avoidant attachment so I get it kind of 🤝🏻😊 good luck in your dating prospects!
/r/seduction18/11/25 04:10 PM
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Life finds a.. way
/r/seduction18/11/25 03:54 PM
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for me it was not the fear of rejection it was the fear of humiliation, at age 13 or 14 I was very open about my feelings for someone, and ultimately they told the whole class and these asshole teens mocked me to death, some started bullying me out of nowhere after the incident, I mostly got over it but I know exactly why I don't approach in places where I'm not completely anonymous... giving OP's age I think it might be something they want to talk about?
/r/seduction18/11/25 03:30 PM
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by approaching girls basically do it with lowkey intention don't approach a girl to invite her out, just go and ask for the time, increase goals for the next girl, maybe now you can ask her what's the origin story of their pendant and say you wanna offer a similar one to your sister, just try to be goofy idk edit: more serious answer, I'm still not completely at ease, but I became more observant at least to identify signals that a woman might not mind or even like if I approach her. it has been …
/r/seduction18/11/25 03:28 PM
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I've found that, if I vet correctly, suddenly a lot of women look and behave alike, and it becomes like a treasure hunt to speak (and more) with many of them to find out when something really stands out. I just accept that I used to be in love with falling in love. now I know I can achieve that with the right person who can fit in my lifestyle, and I should not gift it to just anyone.
/r/seduction18/11/25 03:19 PM
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exactly
/r/seduction18/11/25 03:17 PM
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if it wasn't disgust, might it be some fear, or feeling pressure? omg why is this guy choosing me, we only know each other so short, he doesn't know yet my cray-cray side, what if I relax and behave at my goofiest and he gets scared and leaves me, that's what I understand from this discussion most of the time.
/r/seduction18/11/25 03:15 PM
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it's because some women are emotionally stunted too, not every woman you meet is in tuned with what we consider women's needs.
/r/seduction18/11/25 03:10 PM
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you don't need to lie. most connections start casually because women don't wanna hear early on if the guy is going to commit or not, they find it's too much pressure.
/r/seduction18/11/25 03:05 PM
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I've read it through and I've seen much more toxic stuff, whereas this seems like a standard secure attachement approach overall. So thanks. for those hesitating to read the whole thing, click the link and go straight to #25, that's the one I've been exercising for months now so I could stop being into my own head. It's slowly yielding results.
/r/seduction18/11/25 02:07 PM
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Oh yes, definitely.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 04:14 PM
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🤷🏻‍♂️ honestly, I care very little about what I look like and most young men would benefit from that too. Men are desperate to get laid precisely because they couldn't be bothered to approach whenever it was relevant (like in teenage years).
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 03:44 PM
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Yes yes. I'm going there slowly ✌🏻 I've healed from a lot lately.
/r/seduction17/11/25 02:26 PM
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Just plain vetting. Realizing FOMO works against me and that the woman I like, if she doesn't like me back, I could find dozens of women with characteristics similar enough. Some behaviours and lifestyles are not compatible with me and no vibe or attractiveness will fix that. Mankind isn't a monolith but no human deserves that I make myself sick over finding them one-of-a-kind, and it's just as good like that ✌🏻🔥
/r/seduction17/11/25 02:00 PM
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oh but I do. When I meet in person I ask about their texting habits. I wouldn't turn to a 100% text discussion because it's just not natural to me. I had this one ex who couldn't stand the use of a thumbs up emoji for example :')
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 12:12 PM
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Thanks for the good reminder. Approach paralysis is bad because approaching is honestly so harmless and has no commitment at all.
/r/seduction17/11/25 11:56 AM
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I have read in a book by a French author that cold approach is most appropriate when the man has not yet a community around him. In a way, if you are new in town with no friends, cold approach would have been a way to expand your network faster, at least in times before Internet was democratized.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 10:52 AM
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that's what "man up" means in my opinion. I have an old-school acquaintance, +/- 15 years older than me, she says men always, always bear the responsibility of taking the risk of an approach, even if it means some feminist activist (redacted) will call the cops on him :'), and the more difficult the grind gets, the more rewarding the positive outcomes are. I appreciate the talks I have with her.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 10:51 AM
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word
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 10:48 AM
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nonsensical. messages are cold and hard to interpret. all the times someone thought I was mad because I didn't include the right emoji...
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 10:47 AM
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why would something biologically encoded be insulting? how would you react to a long-term partner telling you your appearance has never mattered and never will? Is it comforting or does it feel like he doesn't value it?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 10:46 AM
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Men have been socialised to consider appearances as a foot in the door at the very least. I've come accross women who only became attractive to me after we found some stuff in common. But paradoxically, it's also not very nice to say. The general baseline is you wanna go speak to someone because something about them is visually appearing. Though, if that can give you a form of reassurance, it's not always the body shape. For me at least, I also notice outfit, hair style, accessories, or just how…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 10:42 AM
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if a woman can't handle a little patience and then loses interest, it's all I need to know about her.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 10:37 AM
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hey girl, *pants*, sorry to interrupt you while you're running to catch your *wheeze* bus, but, *coughs*, gimme your phone number! hey girl, I see you've taken a kilo of sausage. You should have asked me first! hey girl, I know we're literally in the middle of a crossing going in different directions, but, gimme your phone number! hey girl, sorry, I can't hear your name over the sound of your goddamn crying baby!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 10:33 AM
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there are certain archetypes of women I don't want to talk to either. And I can catch the signs at a glance. So, I stay away from them and they stay away from me, everyone's happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 10:30 AM
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globalization made that extremely diffiuclt imo. our grandparents didn't run into such issues as much as our generation, simply because the social mould was much more consistent... of course there were still mavericks who were shamed and had an overall shit life, so I won't say it's been the best of times either. it's just the time of hyperinformation, I'm even shcoked our brains can keep up with it all.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 10:28 AM
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I have no interest whatsoever in persons who just stay in da club and actually enjoy the noise and humidity for hours on end, because that already qualifies as a mismatch in lifestyle for me 😝 so I son't mind if they don't wanna be approached by me.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 10:11 AM
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I'm not so butthurt on the topic because I have responsive desire too. I find a lot of strangers visualy hot but it takes me a bit of talking and complicity to actually form the desire to get flirty and more. Looks aren't everything... And I'll add, when dating apps are too excruciatingly slow to yield me dates, I'm not shy to take action in the outer world.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 09:15 AM
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I politely disagree. Some of my flirts or good friends were made because I came speak to them at some bus stop. Another interaction I had was carrying on a conversation after someone asked me for a cigarette. It's not always black-and-white. It all comes down to the skill of reading the room, in my opinion. Of course if I see someone walking fast, not smiling back and avoiding to look at me directly, I'll certainly keep to myself 😉
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 09:12 AM
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Oh yes. I understand that. Inappropriate for sure. I'm just in my narrative that if I make a kind approach for a casual chat, I'd rather not be treated as if I had looked up and down or made a dirty comment. But I get that it's infuriating when some jerk will cross the easiest of boundaries.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 08:52 AM
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Well personally I don't approach in noisy places because it doesn't make sense to me if I can't talk and hear what they're saying. I won't be bothered to approach my ear to their mouth and hold a screaming match over blasting loud music. In that regard, an open-air space like the street feels much more comfortable.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 08:45 AM
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The problem is most women will rightfully feel exhausted from the hundreds of daily micro-interaction like what you describe. But I'd say it's unfair to be resentful at an individual person. It's not because they're the 100th guy who breaks the camel's back, that they're the one responsible for the whole build-up. Agreed, most men are unaware of how many of their peers hit on the women as they did. We all want to feel unique and original 🍻 But overall, good luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 08:37 AM
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Thanks. I'm like that too.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 07:18 PM
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🤝🏻 I'd say so too, funny that taking anal is still a frowned upon topic with women, whomever butthole it's about 😝
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 11:18 AM
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Hey man I appreciate it, thanks a lot!!!
/r/seduction14/11/25 10:13 PM
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It's super important that men stop pretending women don't also lose 50 hours a week on their stupid jobs just like we do 🤣 it's such an embarrassing situation. All humans deserve dignity. Also: love "boss bitches" who thrive on red wine and prada handbags... Make it make sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 03:26 PM
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I think nowadays it's a mix between exactly what you say and being at least aware of what your woman manages. I see so many American romcoms where men are clueless about even the name of their child's doctor, I understand how stressful that can be for the wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 02:28 PM
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I never faced the situation myself, I can only pull ideas out of testimonies I have read, generally written by people who don't always recognize their own faults. Just see r/deadbedrooms, it's full of that. I just sure hope it never happens to me and that I won't have to feel trapped in a relation that's no longer rewarding.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 01:55 PM
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Ok, I am glad we agree on that. Yeah, of course there also are other cases where sex isn't the essential part, works well with asexual or demisexual people as long as caring and supporting for one another is the top priority.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 10:42 AM
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Yeah the premium dating app model is so rotten. I stop using that shit altogether, you get better bang for your buck either going straight to whores or having this 1 out of 1000 daygame encounters where the woman actually accepts to follow you for a drink. Men who waste time and money on dating apps are just clueless, but one needs to live it through to understand how toxic it was, so I'm not mad at them.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 10:12 AM
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Do you consider sex as a healthy part of a relationship? Extreme cases left aside (severe illness, high stress life change), if one day my partner or wife starts withholding sex while still expecting me to be loyal or exclusive, I will consider that blatantly abusive.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 10:08 AM
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Thanks :)
/r/seduction14/11/25 08:57 AM
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hey mate I would say go for it, you are still free to turn down casual if the occasion arises. Though allow yourself to be flirty for the sake of a good banter. I think the real question is do you plan on dancing salsa after you meet this person, because if they attend the class, chances are they love salsa. so it'll be your primary shared interest. just try it, make friends and be goofy.
/r/seduction14/11/25 08:31 AM
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No. I'm just saying it is wild to me to say to a stranger they're sexy as an introduction. I internalized noone wants it. Prove me wrong?
/r/seduction12/11/25 09:50 PM
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love this, thanks fam, I wanna see more like that in that sub. I think this sub fails to understand different people have different contexts and biases and not every woman dreams of doing holidays in dubai drinking cocktails all day long.
/r/seduction12/11/25 08:30 AM
1

definitely. some hot girls have a boring lifestyle (i.e one that I don't enjoy) or downright mean personalities. I'd rather have a girl who follows me in my mentality and vision, than one who's hot but has completely different goals.
/r/seduction12/11/25 08:27 AM
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i never used a "i think you're sexy" opener, does it have any rate of success in the wild? now with all the social norms and shit, I imagine a woman would never accept this compliment and give you a chance in front of people, because feminism dictates that she needs to call you a creep. So she'd only give in when no one is watching, get me?
/r/seduction12/11/25 08:24 AM
1

Were you able to grow into your new persona with the same woman or was it with others? I'm still wondering if trying to grow into my better version will change the perception of people I already know 🤔 even though... Don't tell me that "you don't need to say you changed, that's just who you are now", it's my intention already 😎
/r/seduction11/11/25 07:18 PM
1

Well I do understand that feelings are non linear and that fomo exists. And I'd rather have someone cheating and owning up to it, than persons who put morality in it and come up with sorry excuses and ask for redemption or forgiveness.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 03:48 PM
1

I should approach married women more then 🤪
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 01:11 PM
2

Even though, if the monogamy only is serial, I don't get why cheating (i.e a mere overlap in the bigger scheme of things) is considered so morally wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 01:09 PM
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1 deep truth about loser men who don't fulfill these "women crave" criteria: It's ok. Take time to really learn who you are. Invest in discovering what you want. Become good at something, and proud of yourself. And when you get there, you won't need to read that stuff and feel bad about not being it.
/r/seduction10/11/25 10:45 PM
0

As stupid as it seems, all good things came to me easy when I actually started getting my head out of my ass and touching grass. You need the clear mind to operate your life, in love and elsewhere. No one will know how clear your mind is for you. Get it done.
/r/seduction09/11/25 10:06 PM
1

Challenge the girl and you're the prize. She's not only pretty, she has to show her personality qualifies for your fascinating lifestyle.
/r/seduction09/11/25 12:11 AM
1

Well yeah of course I enjoy it but nothing beats an actual passionate kiss, being kissed turns me on the most.
/r/seduction07/11/25 12:14 PM
4

man legs day, a day for all women to compliment men's legs when they are walking in shorts :') would be hilarious to see in action
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 02:58 PM
3

Love to read abt good mythology like pay gap.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 02:13 PM
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Sounds lovely
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 09:47 PM
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My 2 previous longer relationships were set in a way I could only meet them during weekends.. I hope I will make it to live together with someone and share sex at least once a day or once in 2 days. Good for you if you already have this going on 👋🏻
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 01:50 PM
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That's what I'm trying to become, a simple man who has his shit together and makes everyday life seem effortless. I never was into the macho stuff because it's not so interesting. 🤓 Glad that your husband and you found the right balance for your couple!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 01:57 PM
1

I think you're getting it wrong. The self-improover does so, so he can have his life together and then be rid of his idiot mental blocks and go for the "don't give a damn attitude". That's how I see it for myself... I'm at a point of life where if I don't improve my environment, no woman will want to be in it, so 😅 and I also don't need to explain everyone how things used to be, what my effort is and where things are now... When it's well-done, you just exist self-improved as if you never would …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 01:48 PM
0

In a world that's massive in population, has civilization and everything interconnected, there ought to be a cultural draw towards living like insects. It's already happening in many spheres of life, for the better and also for the worse. Technology, food industry, apartment units, etc. In this context, I understand why it's no longer PC to want to abandon bastards. Ultimately, the poor kid who was conceived in adultery has nothing to do with his mother's whoreness and deserves to have a normal …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 02:49 PM
3

So true. I was amazed by the women who actually enjoyed my feminine side. To each their niche.
/r/seduction07/08/25 01:55 PM
1

Yeah. I've all too much seen women who would throw tantrums because I would assume my mission of the day in a slightly different way than they're used to do for themselves. Like if I shall follow a professional procedure for this stuff, she's better off just doing it herself no questions asked. I've lived alone too, I too know how to care for my shit, many thanks 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 01:51 PM
0

That's the tragedy of it. So many good sexings killed in the egg because of poor marketing.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 07:41 PM
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Honestly I'd love to have such connections, getting recommended to friends 👽 but it's a minority that has been invisible to me. Probably doesn't overlap with the usual places and cultures I'm found at.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 07:40 PM
1

What I have herd on the matter is, with Swedes it's easy to connect and get close physically but it takes a bit longer to establish trust and romance.
/r/seduction19/07/25 02:09 PM
2

Because no one calls them out on their blatant lies. Don't know if his fiancee agreed at all to have an open relationship, but if it's simply cheating, you can expect they will blow up when she finds out.
/r/seduction04/07/25 04:59 AM
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Thanks for bringing this to the debate, I think I didn't see it talked about before. I feel this way. I enjoy my charm but I already know certain things trigger me in a bad way later on when intimacy grows. Working on it too... But it's definitely a thing.
/r/seduction04/07/25 04:53 AM
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I think it's like a hobby. Probably your cousin has his life together and is on autopilot. So he can nerd all he wants about getting it on with women. Personally I've always nerded other topics so I'm not so willing to let them go and replace them by multiple women, even though it seems appealing. Do you really want the harem lifestyle? I think entertaining intamacy and a form of trust with multiple women is a big task to raise. And about his seeing multiple women, do you know how ethical he is …
/r/seduction04/07/25 04:50 AM
1

I am surprised that the immigration influx has not made these stats move a bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 09:24 AM
2

Fuck that's amazong my man ✌🏻
/r/seduction02/05/25 08:43 AM
1

Well for one the 30 yo virgin man doesn't have to let anyone know abt it. You high school best friend will know for sure. But if in-between you landed a job in a new city and you're a stranger there, no one cares until you give the info away.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 08:27 PM
1

Come on you can "travel" to the village next train station, it's not as spectacular but will make you will feel good about yourself all the same. Stregth to you my bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 08:25 PM
81

Thanks god. I wish this fact was more admitted.
/r/seduction25/04/25 05:26 AM
4

Nah that's a lame-ass hypothetical. If she's hard to satisfy in bed, she can always communicate and teach, and I'd learn. If she's not willing to do that then, yes of course I'll go have my fun with mrs. 6
/r/seduction25/04/25 05:26 AM
1

we all settle, and we all keep a nice facade by not stating it. I do not mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 07:24 AM
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well, take it as anecdotal if you will, but that does not describe my dynamic to single mothers. I am a son of a single mother. My father stayed in the picture from afar, she was driving him crazy, I am glad he showed me how a normal life looks like. I don't mind meeting a single mother who was wronged by a bad man, but I won't accept a single mother who wronged their man and also treats their child poorly.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 07:22 AM
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It's a pity. Nothing wrong with a bit of waiting until sex. That's how I met my gf, we hit it off in a nightclub and made out at 4 am. I then offered to take her back home, the answer was "I live far away and don't give in first night, here's my phone number and thanks for the night". Not leaving her behind has proven to be a good decision, now we're 1-year sweethearts. Anyway I don't trust people to be functional for a fuck at 4 am, and if they are... Don't wanna know on which excitant they run…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 07:12 AM
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Yes of course. But that was when I was younger. All men have this phase, but one needs to grow up at some point.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 01:38 PM
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Looks are the foot in the door. Of course I'll see a banging body and try to get to know who that is. But it's never been enough (for me) to be sure the relationship is going to last. On average my time spent having sex with my partner is 2 hours a week. Gonna be happy when all the other hours she's treating me well. I wouldn't give time of day to a sociopath crazy girl even if she looks 11/10.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 01:04 PM
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Yeah and that's because people still struggle to see the impact of personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 09:21 AM
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I'm nowhere near excellent but what made me better than I was long ago is recognizing that everyone has different attraction triggers and if I don't find it all the time it's ok. Also recognizing my own attraction triggers, my limerence triggers, learning how to move on when it doesn't work out. I still have relapses in pain sometimes, but generally I meet someone new at the peak of my limerence pain, allowing me to move on. So I basically just need to trust my dumb luck. Not the best but good e…
/r/seduction18/04/25 04:52 AM
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I would say gorgeous girls are kinda used to the hypocrisy of being approached for their looks. If she catches glimpse of a guy who seem to align to her values and interests, she might go for it before he vanishes again into anonimity. Means that the guy probably shall have some sort of very visible quality; maybe he's a baseball team leader motivating his troops in a bar, or has had a minor car accident with her and is leading the negociations without being an asshole. Charisma and composure.
/r/seduction17/04/25 11:33 AM
1

beautifully put
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 01:14 PM
1

From the moment I get my first kiss it's easy sailing for me tbh. I struggle so much more to get to that 1st kiss, I'd rather not pump and dump and reach body #100 lol.
/r/seduction10/04/25 04:27 PM
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https://youtu.be/yajZHqUXi9w?si=myTSRkc1vDQE2RNq it is in french though, désolé. In this video he's describing a bit how low value men turn to rap to cope with their being low value and how rap has this cult of masculine traits to a point you really wonder if they're closeted gays ✌🏻 And what I mean by "the phase" is, as a teenager I was socialized to be horny and objectify young women all the time, it was a topic of conversation with my friends, didn't question it until later in my 20s. And now…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 04:19 AM
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I'll ask the question since the memory seems still fresh, have you just slept with the women once? or dated then for a while? or maybe fwb arrangements? have you stayed friends after things ended? have they introduced you to their social circles? I am curious how people do because I do not see myself jumping from one sexual partner to another in a short time, I always end up wanting to get to know them.
/r/seduction09/04/25 12:58 PM
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I guess he's just saying maybe shame is a good thing because women should be modest (or some other bigoted bullcrap), seems to be where the reasoning is going at. I agree to all your points. Now that my teenage years are over (thanks god), I no longer understand why all the explicit behaviours, nor the fetishization of certain carachteristics in women (youth, size, breast cup etc.), end of day I'll ditch all of my teenage years fantasies of the perfect body when I find a person who shows up for …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 10:23 AM
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I think there's no superpower to girls who fit certain physical traits. Some of them are cunts and I wouldn't want anything to do with them, even if I had magically become attractive to them. It's a matter of lifestyle. I've met good looking girls who are a better match with my lifestyle than the usually pedestalized type (in her 20's, partygirl, alcohol, and whatever else is found in teen dramas). Funny enough I've met my current partner in a nightclub, it was my first time ever flirting correc…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 01:24 PM
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I know a guy with physical traits standards or even fetishes. Bloody nightmare what I hear from him. "Oh yeah I've started seeing this girl she treats me so well... BUT..." (fill the blank with that one physical appearance insecurity you have)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 01:20 PM
1

I have a friend from Serbia. I tried to date her, had a couple nice moments, but ultimately she's rejected me. Later when we agreed to be friends, she took me to Serbia to attend her cousin's wedding. She still treated me like I was her bloody husband (in a bad way). Like dafuck girl, you don't want me romantically, I won't obey your bullshit national male duties. Since we came back, I no longer show my vulnerabilities, no longer give her time of day, no longer catch up as much as we used to. Sh…
/r/seduction07/04/25 10:24 AM
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yeah genius, thanks for the morning depression :p anyway the opposite is true. In terms of looks, apart the fact that she's aging (10-year age gap), my girlfriend is way fitter and sportsier than I, and I am blessed that she enjoys my belly and body hair. I know that these were deal breakers for others. Anyway I think there's also a level of luck and social personality involved, if you are more able to talk to everyone and to keep an open-mind, that is how you will score persons "out of your lea…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 08:30 AM
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I think, anyway shady women can fake the adverse reaction just good. One can perfectly blatantly cheat and then play offended. Even moreso that they know the result will spill the beans.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 06:34 AM
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I think, anyway shady women can fake the adverse reaction just good. One can perfectly blatantly cheat and then play offended. Even moreso that they know the result will spill the beans.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 06:32 AM
0

Sex with best friend ? Seems like relationship to me 😆
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 10:26 PM
3

Wait, are you transitioning too? None of it was said in the main thread, wild 😅 anyway enjoy yourself 💪🏻 glad you find solace in the outer wilds. If not, please explain MtF aha 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 08:00 AM
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limerence vibes
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 05:08 AM
1

Well, me not believing in gender essentialism certainly would paint me as a blue piller I guess. Even if gender essentialism accounts for at least 80% individuals, I was lucky enough to not have incidents with women, therefore rp is for me more of a cautionary tale to keep not meeting cunts.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 01:21 PM
1

I consider myself no pill/purple pill because I think each pov has its strengthes and weaknesses
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 10:16 AM
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Look, I would not concur with certain other commenters that all is going down the drain, you could still make it work if your partner is open to communication. I don't know how much I represent "'men" (lol), but for me that act of sex is all about getting connection, touch and intimacy. Sometimes I don't even climax from penetration and, while it makes my gf worry that she's not been good or something, for me it's completely fine, there are times I climax, others not, nothing's wrong. And I also…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 12:24 PM
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This 😅🤭 last time I had a sex with my gf I didn't come, then went a bit limp, and she was sad for me, so I just started furiously masturbating while kissing her repeatedly 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 12:14 PM
1

thanks for your feedback, I never really aimed for numbers, I don't understand the grind at all, I was also lucky to find a long-lasting connection in most of my successful encounters.
/r/seduction10/03/25 08:17 AM
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actually depends. I'm earning comfortably enough to bring food on the table, go on some holidays, but if she starts having luxury standards like brand purses or brand shoes, I'm out. For me to provide, we would have to agree on what actually is a good investment. Basically my mindset is gold-digger free because I wear it on my anonymous, casual clothing style.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 07:43 AM
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I am having my first valentine's with my partner, initially we had planned to go out for a dance but the venue was booked too fast, so instead we're going to go for a special dinner cooked together at home and a movie. If she wants anything more in the future and a big surprise, I won't provide, I do not like surprises. If she gets worked up in anger or disappointment, I'll offer to postpone and do something later. Temper tantrums will be red flags. But fingers crossed, she usually is understand…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 10:53 AM
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comparing women to killer whales :') good one
/r/seduction11/02/25 04:10 PM
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how can one be afraid of a ruthless rejection if they never took a single one??? honestly, hearing experience from others has limits, at some point one would need to try. Maybe I was lucky, but the most ruthless I've got was the woman laughing to my face and walking away... Recovered in only a couple of days.
/r/seduction11/02/25 03:39 PM
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That + the real fathers who are kept in the dark and might have wanted to know and to be involved in their child's life. I don't say it's not a problem. My argumentation generally is, there is the right dosage to find between the current situation and making paternity tests systematic because they make no sense in couples where there is no cheating. Also, I know I'm beating an overused argument again, but I agree with law that the well-being of the child comes first, and if the child has a mothe…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 06:14 PM
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Nice 👍🏻
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 03:07 PM
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Yeah, I get it. But it really does not have to be this way. In older settlements, children were raised within the clan and multiple people were participating in the effort. I'm personally antinatalist thus far in life, so I don't imagine myself in a distant future all alerted that my genes don't pass over, if it's not mine, it'll be someone else's, and mankind will still be there (not that I care what happens after my death).
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 02:35 PM
2

Got ya, sorry for mixing up 😋
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 01:25 PM
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what will you do if you find the child's not yours? what do you do if you find out while she's still pregnant? if he's 10-yo? 20-yo?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 01:18 PM
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I'd also argue, in the macro scale, paternity fraud doesn't matter, as long as children keep being born and raised. I know it sounds like a blow to men's right, but the probability of it happening is low in spite of not having mandatory tests. I know you would answer to that; if it's untested, it doesn't mean it's not a paternity fraud 😋 yes maybe such cases exist too but anyway, why would you break the news to a guy who's otherwise been kept blissfully ignorant? In these cases I'd argue truth h…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 01:03 PM
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a common answer to the discourse is: why make it systematic if most couples are healthy and the father has no reason to believe the woman has been sleeping around? honestly, I wouldn't push for one if I have no reason to suspect a lie. But if she had really cheated, I hope she will keep the narrative up and never give me a reason to doubt.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 12:50 PM
2

You get all the moves on bulbapedia or serebii.net Wait...
/r/seduction06/01/25 08:12 AM
2

The sahms 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 07:42 PM
4

Because they no longer belong to communities
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 07:37 PM
3

Thanks for the advice! Aw man I finally had my 'aha' moment with a woman a couple of months ago and it was fantastic to see her enjoy and appreciate the tension. But man, for a first successful attempt, it felt like l was putting a lot of work. Long long build-up, lots of dancing, being ready to leave the place quite late (4 am 🥵) staying hydrated, etc 😝 but oh, thanks god, it's paid off 👌🏻
/r/seduction26/12/24 07:14 PM
2

Well done am I right 😋
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 07:58 PM
0

To follow on the hype of course 😂 Just popped in my news and I had an opinion abt it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 07:52 PM
1

Of course it did, I was one of the 101 guys after all. Just kidding. No, it didn't affect me personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 03:39 PM
2

omg that's a feat. couldn't. gg wp
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 02:05 PM
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Then, ok. Seems like I overreacted. Hope she gets her world record or so. Still, why want to deprive yourself of sleep lol. Some people tried depriving themselves of sleep for 8 days, didn't go well.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 02:00 PM
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because she did all this to herself. I find it terrible judgement. I'd rather have her be happy and fulfilled. no pun intended.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 01:50 PM
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I wouldn't care if she didn't break into tears on the day of her interview. She obviously was badly affected by the event but then she WILL reiterate with tenfold more partners because of... money and fame? I'm out, she's just stupid if she cannot listen to her own body's boundaries.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 01:48 PM
2

5 years
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 08:04 PM
5

I don't know how average I am but I am in a relationship for a couple of months now and I get some older ladies hitting on me at karaoke night 🤷🏻
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 11:04 AM
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If someone says that to me I'll kick her out then call her one week later for a fuck as if nothing had happened 🤟🏻 wonder how she will take the gaslighting
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 11:19 AM
2

Everyone is hurt and afraid to die, even that 10/10 girl, don't waste time and smash
/r/seduction03/12/24 05:43 AM
2

I respect that and it's word for word my plan for when I get married. I've got a lot of stupid crushes and I've probably have had more affairs than I should, + porn consumption of course, so all around I know what attracts me in a woman's body, but I also know none of the visual cues really matter in the sack as long as she will know how to touch me and make me feel like a king. I'll take any healthy enough body type (can't do morbidly obese, that's my limit). Of course if I directly meet a woma…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/24 10:00 AM
1

Yeah I don't know... On my side I hate to have to cover the sound of blasting music to be able to talk, so I just take one drink and invite dancing, and when they speak, I try to either let them understand it's dancing only, or to take a break out of the sound system. As for spark. If they accept to dance, you get one shot. Make it fun... I've seen some videos for that. Dance game is all about playing with distance, so you pull the woman close, and then push her away (a bit), then close again...…
/r/seduction16/11/24 11:52 PM
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I'm not good at being an asshole, it's a natural talent, I'll leave it to the pros
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 11:43 PM
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As for my experience; I've been repulsed by quick sex over some dirty nightclub toilet for as long as I can remember, but I was still jealous of guys somehow managing to pull it because the seduction is just amazing, For a long time I was depressed when on the hunt in a club because I couldn't get a match, Last March that has changed for the first time of my life (age 32), I danced with a woman, we had fun all night dancing until 4 am, then when we got out she needed water and to be guided until…
/r/seduction16/11/24 11:40 PM
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Sex is never urgent. Take it as a game and chill dude. I don't have solid advice, I only escalate in person 😝
/r/seduction16/11/24 06:28 PM
2

But what do you do with the child then? That's the question all the women who protest here ask. Honestly, the child deserves to thrive once he's been brought to this world.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 05:22 PM
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Don't forget to also test the mother's DNA to make sure the baby hasn't been swapped for another one at the hospital 🤪 Disclaimer; ok the possibility of this happening puts a dent to me promoting matrilinearity in my other comments 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 05:11 PM
2

And really I want to care but it really is true that no kid should have to be a victim of difference of treatment for that. So obviously, if there is no way to know early on, no one wants growing children to suffer. It's disturbing. In older times, children from alien unions were called bastards and would greatly suffer, even their whole lives. It's literally not their fault.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 05:09 PM
1

That would be an amazing movie plot 😂😂😂 oops I switched the babies. Actually we have a movie about exactly that in France: La vie est un long fleuve tranquille.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 05:05 PM
2

History shows that there have been matrilineal societies where the genitor of the child has low responsibility on raising the child and the family/brothers of the mother entertain all the support. Keep family responsibilities and sexual technicities separated. These kinds of societies punish incest much more harshly, to the point of death sentence. But other than that, it makes sense. You can always know who's the mother, because she's the one giving birth. The day men starting to treat women an…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 04:56 PM
1

Hmm shady, I love it. But given the state of justice, if it turns out he's not the father and he brings it out in front of a court for a case of divorce without liability, they will state it's illegal to just proceed in the back of your spouse, rendering the whole procedure void. Just pay child support already dude, there's no way out!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 04:53 PM
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Completely agree that the child never should be a victim of these stories. How do you address the guys who actually get scammed? Something has to give.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 04:48 PM
1

Ok, fair enough!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 04:34 PM
1

Ok, that makes sense. I wonder how many men would mention it before. Maybe the lady will leave them still and they need to find another mother of their child! Tough luck!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 04:30 PM
3

Can you conceptualize such cases, although minority, do exist? Maybe it's not your character, maybe it hurts to be mixed up, but it doesn't remove the fact that it exists.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 04:28 PM
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What would you say to the guys who actually got fucked over by an alien pregnancy and can't know about it, although they could legitimately suspect it? What about those who've got their suspicions listened to and actually got the according result by request of law? (Don't even know if such cases are attested). Because they're a minority, doesn't mean they shouldn't get justice. Or, alternative solution, we bring back matrilinearity/avuncularity and don't ask genitor or husband men to provide res…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 04:26 PM
2

I enjoy this point of view a lot!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 04:22 PM
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On another hand, what do you say to all the fathers who believe being a bio father they're not? Just fuck them because they're minority? That's unfair. Could they ask for DNA tests years fown the line and reclaim money? It's unfair for the child, so they would lose the case. But can we agree that women trapping a man in pregnancies they're not responsible for are freaking rogue sociopaths? Can you justify this behaviour? Give me a single good reason a woman will just cheat around and get pregnan…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 04:03 PM
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So what? You would know if he's "cheated" by buying some super specific expensive lawnmower? Or if he's actually cheated by booking some weird hotel rooms and dinners for 2? The worst that a man could do that compared on analogy to a women getting pregnant from someone else, is to get someone else pregnant. I'd agree with you, that there should be a way to know if a man is entertaining a double life, because it would mean he's actively diverting resources from your child to another. Btw, I hope …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 04:00 PM
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Really love how feminists want to reject feminine gender roles while keeping masculine ones. It's a freaking scam.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 10:47 AM
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Funny enough, I've seen an instagram video with a guy in a bath presenting a method on how to trap your farts in a jar in three simple steps.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 06:08 AM
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Only thing to do is to not buy the fart jars and to shame people you know who buy the fart jars
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 05:15 AM
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Yep yep
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 10:04 AM
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I agree on this. I hate my gender's tendency to just enjoy hook-ups and then blame girls who've done hook-ups. Like choose man, if you don't like girls who do hook-ups, then don't hook them up!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 09:59 AM
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What's tragic is, these lies are well designed and men pass them over through seduction techniques and such. So it's mostly clever to behave like they do. Especially if they have a history of failing their attempts at approaching and getting their sex sesh, or if they really are awful to be in a relationship with (and they know it). I've personally learned to be content with relationships, because the rare phases in my youth where I was looking for casual sex with various women (without manipula…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 09:55 AM
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All relationships are transactional.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 09:52 AM
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Once there was a girl at my office, she was not an employee but the daughter of the boss' friends. She was a student in sociology and needed to write a paper about my job. She was comically thin with her head larger than her body, and she had that kind of nonchalant attitude only people born in richness know how to perform. Needless to say I've been thinking about her a lot 🌡️
/r/seduction17/09/24 05:03 AM
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Are you sure you get the meaning of pump and dump? As fas as my understanding goes (maybe wrongly): pump and dump specifically is used for guys who lie about what they want, just to get a woman to ease up sex. As in courting, love bombing, telling the girl she's special, and then just leaving and cutting ties without a goodbye. You know you've been pumped and dumped when the guy you've spent the night with doesn't call you back, after specifically courting you by means of stating he'll want to s…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 07:36 PM
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I've been looking for one top actually 🤣 no luck so far but I'm just recently found bi
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 04:52 AM
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These days I'm trying to get a friend of mine to approach more. I'm giving him crash course exercises where he shall just go say hello and speak as long as he can. Seems to go well but of course we're not just yet escalating to phone numbers. I find this "the juice ain't worth the squeeze" somewhat true, in that you want to be selective enough. In my point of view it's not enough anymore that a woman knows how to doll up. I also want to be able to enjoy her in other ways: spending time together,…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 04:44 AM
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Agreed to your points! Yes. Of course, negociaiton occurs only if the 2 parties are open to. If not, they have a deal-breaker. As to why the desire to meet others, I could not answer in general, only for my case, which is: plain curiosity. Or fomo. Or what-ifs. They're all rent-free in my head 😛 but I'm in control of it so far. As well as: what if my current partner would end up finding me too much for them. I'm inspired by how discourse on polyamory states having multiple partners help alleviat…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 02:14 PM
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Would you consider exclusivity important in a child-free context? I'm in a child-free relationship too, and with each in their own apartment, but I think it'd be nice to just meet other people sometimes (she's been very clear she wouldn't condone that ahah). In my head it goes with some rules: to not go further with someone else than with the main partner. So if I am child-free with someone and ask them to open the relationship, it would be a real definitive asshole move to make the other woman …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 09:39 AM
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I mean the only thing you seem to miss is there's literally no recognized standard when it comes to looks. Of course we'd all go for a young good looking woman. But: Some persons will definitely stay aroused in spite of their partner aging, putting on some weight, etc. And it all comes down to: do the sex acts still bring them emotional connection and closeness. I'm not worried for the women who've hit the wall as long as they cultivate qualities that make them persons men want to be around. Of …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 09:35 AM
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I'd argue it doesn't need to reflect this person's views. Society as a whole has treated women as incubators for a long time and only modern feminism and reorganisation of priorities came to kick this old normal. Not so long ago, families would pay men to marry their daughters and have an offspring. In some countries, women who don't want to partake in child-bearing are frowned upon, etc. I agree it shouldn't be this way and we should know better as an intelligent species. But we can't say these…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 09:30 AM
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I've removed myself from the gene pool and as an effect it's expanded my horizons as to whom I find attractive 😝😂 I can virtually have non-committed fun with anyone
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 09:27 AM
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Fair points!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 02:41 PM
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Having not enough money to sustain one self certainly is a fatal issue (I'm sure it's caused a good amount of suicides), but you could argue that the women who actually suck the money dry probably do it with reason and don't imagine it would literally ruin someone's life. You probably would be right. 2 famous divorces like Bezos and Gates, the ex-wives seized very high and these guys are still alive. But honestly it's not as simple. I don't condone money fights in couples who divorce because I'v…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 02:03 PM
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Try guys 💀
/r/seduction06/09/24 06:33 AM
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Yeah but that does not happen because Tyrone had all the aggressive dominant genes, making the kid a semi-god who never ever gets in trouble with his health, contrary to what could had happened with the loosy genes of betabuxx Joe. Am I right? /s
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 09:54 PM
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Flirt
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 03:52 PM
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I arrived fresh in Austria last year with only a bit of prior knowledge in German language. I'm a member of the app Internations, that allows me to meet people quick in casual and generally safe settings. Since last year; I've met someone in the first few days who became my crush, then my friend, then my bratty friend with whom I fight all the time. I've matched someone living in Hungary on Okcupid and dumped her 2 months after. I've found a synagogue to spend schabbat at. Someone from the synag…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 08:19 AM
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I think i represent quite well a stereotype of lazy, unambitious, undriven guy. I love receiving positive attention from women, more often than not, this attention drives me into r/limerence. I'd love having sex often, but at the same time, I get tired by the effort of it 😂 so I stick to once a week, which is reasonable, and allows me to at least, do it good. I'd love to fund a family of my own, but at the same time, I can't seem to take care of myself correctly, so there's no way I'm dragging a…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 10:42 AM
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Ah I see. I'm glad he no longer brings that stuff up and din't bond further with those women.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 11:06 AM
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Have you let him try his hoe phase while in a relationship with you? Or has he decided to not go through with it as he realizes he has it good with you and can keep his fantasies to himself? I was a bit like that with my ex but looking back I find that attitude toxic, she really didn't need to know everytime I was struggling to shut down my curiosity.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 11:05 AM
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That's the most brain rot thing I've read on this sub. And I'm a seasoned lurker.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 07:43 AM
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They call it "social proof" at seduction 101
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 11:20 AM
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I think you don't have to cheat. You might as well just banter a bit more and be subtly flirty with other women when she's here. She has to see you've still "got it".
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 10:52 AM
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Daydream and that's it. In my company we are a whopping 300 people coming here everyday, out of you can count a good 20 waifus. Lile reading some good horny teen boy manga. Just don't be weird about it. It's natural to be attracted to pretty much everyone, but one can just catch a look discretely and go back to their own business. Don't forget to become friends or acquaintances with the attractive people or women. Even if you don't get to bring them back home, at least actually getting to know t…
/r/seduction28/06/24 05:48 AM
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What do you want from your dating? I've realised I don't have a plan and it makes things harder for me. I think women are more prone to follow a man who has a plan and I'm not mad at them for it. So far I'm trying to be gentle to myself, heal some past trauma and try to get someone to be nice and intimate to me along the way... I can get some with girls, but I am not just yet equipped to actually build anything. I'm still very much struggling to have my shit together 🍀 especially if it comes to …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 11:01 AM
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Enough with that bullshit. It used to be this way to divide tasks efficiently. Now a lot of these tasks women used to do at home have been simplified by the rise of technology (washing machine is certainly peak engineering), and the state has been made to provide financially when the father of a child isn't around.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 06:34 AM
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Men could use some bromance to wind down their frustrations with women and life in general. I have a best friend whom I tell I love him and we hug one another and he's part of my support system when everything else goes to shit. Also he's tired hearing about my limerence episodes 🙉
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 06:00 AM
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Love this insight!!! I think more men could use the friendships and plow through the awkwardness. I do it all the time even when it hurts so bad because I just can't lose the person nor say goodbye forever.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 09:22 PM
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Been practicing this with my current best friend. We regularly have cook-out nights, and when we meet, we hug and tell one another how much we care. Honestly it's all good. No weirdness at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 11:16 AM
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How can you keep having hook-ups with multiple of them while still living the lessons and not having any hard feelings between them. I'd dream of suddenly having success in some community after word is out that I fuck well (incidentally, I do, but I can't really sell it), but it never seemed to happen... Also because I'm more drawing towards romantic attraction and exclusivity, but still. Seems lile a massively good skill to have.
/r/seduction10/06/24 10:59 AM
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It's an issue I have to. Now I collect best friends 🍀 so good to have so many friends. I don't resent it much. When I like someone I treat them like I'm their mom ☔ I've attracted all the girls with mommy issues. Bless.
/r/seduction07/06/24 09:28 AM
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I don't bother with stats - I mostly feel shit and unworthy as I navigate life - when some mutual attraction happens I thank my angels and try to play it cool. It was quite fun, I've moved to a new country last August and since then have had 3 catastrophic flirts/affairs and at last one in progress. I also have made female friends along the way so yay friend zone I guess. I don't care. I just need one companion to be happy.
/r/seduction03/06/24 08:16 PM
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That's cute
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 09:12 AM
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This. I hate myself at times for being so thirsty. I usually don't get extremely thirsty at first when I hit on someone new, but then I'm already on cloud 9 after a mere couple of hours chatting and getting to know each other. I kinda ruins the vibes that I'm so quick to escalate emotionally. It's like my feminine side taking over. I always favour emotional connection over sexual connection/innuendos, it makes things worse because women don't expect that at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 08:57 AM
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A girl who punches me and calls me a dumbass wants a guy who's feminine and nurturing? That sounds so counter-intuitive. Might look for this vibe more. I don't usually mind tomboys, looks-wise. Interesting.
/r/seduction14/05/24 06:42 PM
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20 yo with 40 yo mind! A woman with experience who finds back her youth! That would be a very confident woman!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 06:25 PM
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I don't know still... Noisy environments really set me off. I'd rather be somewhere quiet where one can talk and listen, without having to yell at one's ear. But I guess lots of people just decide to make out without a word exchanged. It's just not how I function 🤭
/r/seduction13/05/24 09:25 AM
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That seems so simple when used in that sentence. Go somewhere and disrobe... Go somewhere and disrobe... Just beautifully put. I'm curious if daygame could work for that? I'm not OP btw. I don't like clubs and other bar venues because volume is too loud to actually speak, and my body language is usually not convincing enough to convey safety. I dream of picking up someone in, for example a museum, chat a bit and then bring them back home.
/r/seduction13/05/24 07:48 AM
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I've found such a woman. Great friend. Platonic friendship. Won't touch me. Even as an "open" thing as she calls it: no. When I fall in love, I want to get frisky. When I get frisky without love, it does not feel right. I want the whole package deal. It's a fucking shame. She still gets somewhat jealous about the fact I have a gf who touches me. But that's just her goddamn opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 06:45 PM
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Fuck I wish I was this good with communication. I have a weird/ambiguous friendship and every time she disengaged from the romantic side I reacted hurt on the phone, by text, etc. Anyway she really doesn't seem to know what she wants so I just went and dated someone else. I no longer mind her antics as a friend. Her loss.
/r/seduction10/05/24 06:59 AM
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I couldn't care less what she does on her off time as long as she doesn't bring an STI or a fetus back.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 09:09 PM
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Yeah. I'm now seeing someone who gives me long hugs and makes out enthusiastically. Now head over heels just yet, but it's coming along 👌🏻 I'm really glad I haven't met wishy-washy women before in my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 08:18 PM
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She's still worth, she knows to entertain the friendship very well, treats me well, she just really needs to calm the fuck down. Maybe she really is stressed that I will move on and forget her. Seems she has that problem with other dudes too. I guess if she keeps doing that limbo shit, at some point I will just lash out the most aggressive physical approach of my life and expect either passionate love or an adverse reaction so big she will no longer trust me and will want to put an end to the fr…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 08:07 PM
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I was in love with a "friend". When I came close to her to flirt, she commented on how indecisive/unmanly I am and that it doesn't awake her desire at all. Fair enough. Then I acted like a friend and went to tend to my other flirts more, and suddenly she mentioned again how much she likes me and doesn't want to lose me. It's happened a couple of times as I came back responding. Who's indecisive now bitch 👀 But it's only one in dozens... I don't generalize but she in particular, what a massive cu…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 07:50 PM
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I've been in that situation and it felt wrong. Just stopped writing her after that. Think I'll also unfollow her insta in a couple of weeks too.
/r/seduction06/05/24 11:02 AM
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I'm more in touch with my feminine side. I don't like to have it shut down for no good reason. M32
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 09:28 PM
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My height helps. I'm 186 cm, 97 kg (should be 82 in a perfect world), and good shoulders and legs. I pull because I don't feel ugly or repulsive. I stop pulling when my emotional insecurities rise up. But I'm blessed enough to know I like my body with its ups and downs regardless.
/r/seduction30/04/24 01:35 PM
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Breaking the cycle can come extremely difficult 📛
/r/seduction30/04/24 10:59 AM
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Fumbled that with a flirt not long ago and it's spot on. Word for word what she's explained me. Will just let it go as I'm not naturally so 'dominant'. Very good explanation.
/r/seduction30/04/24 10:53 AM
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Happy cake day!!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 11:46 AM
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Ok that makes sense to me, I would have the same type of reaction
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 04:14 AM
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And if I can get a hundred I can get the one I actually need :) that's the best confident booster! Thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 05:16 PM
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Ok guys one quick question, Q4A by the way, why would a guy "pump and dump" exactly? Like he's probably did all the seduction techniques in the world to go from socially awkward to confident, and when he begins ticking all the boxes so an actual girl he's just slept with wants to him again, he departs and leaves her high and dry? For the anecdote I've finally closed my first kiss in a club after years of not figuring how that's done, she didn't want to take me to her place on the first night, th…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 04:21 PM
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Hm. I kinda like it. Look can you give me your opinion on that; My neuroatypical crush/gf is not into anything touch or sex right now, though we talk about it at times. I ended up telling her that I'm finding myself somewhat bi, and she inquired how my latest encounter was... Then told me it kinda turned her on? (yaoi fan vibes). I was driving the car and blurted "yay let's fuck then" to which she said "no" and we both laughed about the situation. I don't know... I just found this interaction cu…
/r/seduction24/04/24 02:10 PM
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Coitus is a dance. Each partner shall find satisfaction. Every sexual encounter I've done right, included tons of foreplay, and honestly the foreplay turns me on a lot too. Good luck, this man needs a good teaching.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 07:16 AM
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I'm having this right now. She specifically went out of her comfort zone to give me another chance, saying that my personality traits are rare and not the ones she usually gets, and she thinks they might be good for her on long-term. Thanks!
/r/seduction22/04/24 07:13 AM
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I wouldn't be uncomfortable with someone believing that tbh. Their problem, not mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 07:50 AM
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I know a girl who says she's not into fwb's, takes a long time to vet someone and has issues with her family. When she tells me about it, it feels like she's very lonely. A good portion of the guys she tries to vet just don't stick around and leave her high and dry. Imagine growing up to an emotionally unavailable family and trying to repair years of coping mechanisms. Sure she may have orbiters but it's not fulfilling. Also she's very much committed to her work, she does tons of overhours, so s…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 07:18 AM
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Might want to look into attachment theory. It seems like you have avoidant attachment. If he could get some info about that, he'd maybe know better how to express his needs and teach you how to do. Or you could teach him your ways too. I'm sure you have ways of showing affection that he doesn't always pick up.
/r/seduction17/04/24 06:04 AM
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I keep losing this word I don't know why 🫠 thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 02:20 PM
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Thanks! Oh also, username checks out ahah!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 08:32 AM
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Hey, I enjoy this piece of opinion. I also believe I don't want kids, but for some reason I don't want to have the surgery to be completely free of the risk... So my recent reasoning is: I still want the choice of having kids, or I want kids deep down, if I could have the right arrangement. I know it's true and I no longer want to swim in my own cognitive dissonance. Have you made this surgery? If you have not, why not? What happens if on some night you forget a condom and make someone pregnant.…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 08:30 AM
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I have a question for you since you seem pretty familiar with the lifestyle, how do you go spinning plates without nurturing any form of attachment? What do you decide if one of your "plates" starts to show signs she wants something committed?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 08:25 AM
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This is eerily too similar to my story 🌝 just in case: girl I want to see you asap, I'm just waiting for you to come back from your trip in your hometown 🦋 and I pulled away from you 3 weeks because I was hurt. Now we've clarified things, please don't retreat. I just want to take our time and get to know each other. Edit: phew, wasn't her 🌞
/r/seduction01/04/24 02:08 PM
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What's your drink
/r/seduction27/03/24 10:43 PM
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Praise. Nothing more interested than a furious chick 🤣
/r/seduction19/03/24 03:55 PM
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Imagine if it happens early on though.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/24 08:54 PM
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I've got that from an ex who at that time didn't even sleep with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/24 08:53 PM
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Love these titles to bits. Thanks! 3rd one seems particularly promising.
/r/seduction13/03/24 07:32 PM
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I feel seen lol. Toxic shame is a perfect way of wording how it feels.
/r/seduction13/03/24 11:32 AM
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Get invested too fast and scare the girl off after perfect first pick-up moments. It's super "fun" because, for the untrained eye I look like some sort of Dom Juan, since I chat up pretty much everyone and I can get phone numbers or instagrams without an issue. Just literally I need to stop being needy and keep the nurturing behaviour for later down the line.
/r/seduction13/03/24 06:38 AM
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Don't behave like a caring boyfriend when you're 2 hours into flirt. Who would have known.
/r/seduction06/03/24 05:11 PM
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Pff usually I go show my dance moves and see if they smile. Still pretty experimental approach but I need to try something at least 🤦🏻🤷🏻🤷🏻
/r/seduction02/03/24 11:25 PM
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I don't care if I have a girlfriend or not. I'm good on my own. But give me a single crush and I'll be an idiot for her every damn time. That's what's challenging my self worth. Messing up interactions with crush. It's not even like I fail to take a phone number or to arrange a first date. It's much more insidious. It's about how I handle myself emotionally and how it shows a couple of weeks down the line. They realize they don't want to fix me ahah. Fuck.
/r/seduction01/03/24 10:58 PM
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Praise man. I'm everything any man would want to be right now, good job, ok looks, tall, no money issues, and I'm still hanged up with my attachment issues. I'm working on a tremendous effort in year 2024 to lose these insecurities completely, they've bene ruining a good part of my social life.
/r/seduction29/02/24 06:48 AM
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I too really enjoy using Instagram this way!
/r/seduction29/02/24 06:47 AM
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I think everyone may fantaisize about whom they want. That's as long as they don't proudly share the facts. Imagine the chaos. "Hey Sharon from accounting, I've just seen your photos from your vacation in Turkey on your Instagram. You look great in bikini, if you know what I mean 😏" Even talking to your friends about masturbation habits I find creepy. Who would say what they masturbate to in the open? Lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 06:45 AM
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Worst that's happened to me is being rejected after spending time with someone and convincing myself there was a connection. I'd be willing to stomach 10x more rejections at the 'taking phone number from good-looking stranger' stage if that could preserve me from going through dates and then realize they were not into me or that I'd ruined momentum with my poor rizz ✨✨✨ I hate being left high and dry. Lol. Feels good to vent it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 01:04 PM
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But muh genes 🥵
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 11:06 AM
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Exactly!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/24 01:14 PM
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I think this fallacy is because of pickup artists being a thing. A guy will tend to think: there's 1 sure way to seduce 1 woman at any moment. I am not good enough to not know this way. I should find this way. I'll pay 2000 dollars to a guy so he teaches me this way.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/24 06:43 AM
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Just say hi. If the vibe is comfy enough, you'll find other words. If not... Well you'll leave it knowing you've tried.
/r/seduction17/02/24 07:10 AM
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I would not. She's pushed me away once and I've learned my lesson. She'll either get my polite acquaintanceship or my silence. Plus I've had the chance to have a friend come unto me 4 years after I had my first crush on her, and it turned out she wasn't a good fit. Still friends with her after a little period of no contact. If it's not meant to be, I'll leave it alone.
/r/seduction10/02/24 06:53 AM
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For me it's been true. I usually have accidental rizz with women I wasn't into before some flirt happens. I'm much better at picking flirt cues from women I'm not overinvested with. I can't seem to connect that way with women I've build big expectations for already. I think that's the meaning. Now I'm debating if my attachment issues are because I really like someone or if it is only something in my head that functions like an addiction/obsession and has no real ground.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 06:23 AM
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From experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 04:56 PM
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Because men will take her for granted. Most men like the feeling of having earned their partnership.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 02:43 PM
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It is ffs
/r/seduction04/02/24 01:04 PM
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Brah you're such a beta brahhh look at me I bring one different woman back home every hour, that's right, I could even become an escort at this rate, but remember brah, they're all 10/10's because that's how steamy and manly I am, brahhh you can't even fathom what you're missing out because you're a beta cuck brah (this guy, probably) Sarcasm of course. All the best :)
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 11:35 AM
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(continued) As to how I get over the shitty times... It just clicks with someone new eventually (after long monthes, semesters...) and I don't have to think about reforming myself until the next big crisis. I never refrain from getting out of my comfort zone, new acquaintances, new hobbies, even chatting up a stranger in a train or at the bar. Also lots of supports from friends, taking good care of my health, objectives and hobbies. Hobbies are tricky because I'm neither talented nor patient at …
/r/seduction29/01/24 09:52 AM
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The issues I've identified - I build expectations before knowing the person well, I have anxious attachment and it triggers me like crazy when I hit on avoidant attachment girls (happens a lot as they do like me and find me handsome, but we can't be aligned in communication, and it feels terrible). Funny enough I get more secure or avoidant with secures. I didn't get a chance to date anxious attachment girls for a long time, but if it's more than me it could be a mismatch. I've left a girl I'd j…
/r/seduction29/01/24 09:43 AM
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Well in my case it's every time I'm set not to meet "girls" but "the" girl who will stay my partner medium or long-term. Good looks, and being tall helps, but I've also got a contact from a cold approach who believed I was bald under my hat, it was hilarious when she found out I still had hair. And my best moments to secure a girl were in the sack, I could become attentive, good listener and deliver what she wants. I even was able to pull a girl once more, one year after not being in her city. I…
/r/seduction29/01/24 05:25 AM
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I agree that sacrifice should be back on the table. Every time I meet someone new and we identify problems in communication or so, I'm 100% in trying to solve and experiment, while they generally don't react well to my attempts, and eventually get fed up and leave. It's a pity because it's not the end of the world to wait a bit before all the most glaring issues or icks are settled, with a bit of work and patience. Hurts especially when there were lots of green flags.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 01:52 PM
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I have a look at too many cuties daily, I hope I can turn off the superpower when I don't absolutely need it. I would love to be able to predict how asking someone out will unroll... Because, as far as my experience goes, it always changes something if that's someone you see regularly. I could have predicted that one girl at uni would draw a particular reputation for me just from my clumsy attempts at getting with her.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 12:18 PM
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This is hypocritical. I'm a man and I can definitely feel when I'm settling for a second choice. It's been a pattern I try to change, so last time it happened I was way quicker to disengage early. Poor girl still got hurt. 31M. I'll marry the woman who gives me the butterflies or I won't marry. Or maybe I'll too reach 40 yo alone and settle for a woman I wouldn't have looked in my 30's. We do it too pal, we just give ourselves more time. 30 is the age women need to bear children, 50 is the age s…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 11:04 AM
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Understandable. I don't think I've done these before.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 12:33 PM
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Very good! Yeah putting temporary distance and reassessing priorities can sometimes be a lifesaver.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 06:04 AM
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Exactly!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 06:02 AM
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Point taken, you have explained well how impredictable things are in healing, no matter how bad one may want to heal from their feeling.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 10:28 PM
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I'm in love with someone who only can let me be her friend with benefits. And we haven't even had the "benefits" just yet. Since I'm completely unable to move on with someone new and committed just yet, I'll enter this world, meet other like-minded friends for distraction, see how that hurts me, and retreat from it all once my spirit stops being intoxicated with this woman. Clown man, but you know what they say, you only understand something once you've experimented it first hand 🤷
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 10:21 PM
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My point is, the gift of civilization lets humans work around what they want, negociate, change, heal. Feeling something for someone is personal, doesn't have to ruin anything. Throwing a friendship to the trash on the smallest sign of interest or curiosity seems like a stretch to me 🤷
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 10:17 PM
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Regarding the foundations of the frienship, where exactly is it written that feelings towards the person are forbidden to grow or to change?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 10:13 PM
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I think acts beat thought and feelings. I believe if someone can handle a rejection well and keep being the friend they always have been, they should not be shamed for feeling the way they have felt and expressing a vulnerable moment. The same like if a person is committed and has a crush on their friend, they should be held responsible only if they go the extra mile of cheating, not for the mere thoughts. We're all thinking a lot of stuff. Good stuff, bad stuff. And I also believe one should no…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 10:06 PM
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Women can use other objects to penetrate if they really wanted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 02:05 PM
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My god, that was me and I'm so sorry. On the other hand, she was the one wanting casual while I really thought I wanted a relationship. Neither got what they wanted in the end, she snapped after I tried to flirt romantically instead of going for the sex, now I'm left with a weird vulnerable friendship to rekindle, boundaries and apologies to be uttered.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 11:04 AM
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Oh I completely understand, I would dump one's ass right there if they insisted to look through my phone with purpose of stalking and scanning my private discussions. I think if I ever get someone who disallows opposite gender friends, I'll tell her I'm bi just to piss her off her socks.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 10:01 PM
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Good for them if it works
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 02:43 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 05:52 PM
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I think the guy coming for sex just has to not set up creep/desperate vibes. Even women with no interest in ons respond better to a non-creep than to a creep.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 10:37 AM
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This is shit behaviour I agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 09:10 PM
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We built whole civilizations and made wars for sex 💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 09:02 PM
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I'd sit down and say I'm going to see whores once a month. But yeah that aside it would suck if I couldn't even flirt or play in my dead bedroom.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 03:17 PM
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I like it too but doesn't it get old after a while? I'd rather take a sabbatical in one single place for its culture, rather than waiting my 10 days of vacation each year to another place. My ex-gf used to communicate to me how she likes resorts and doing nothing while all the catering employees do the work for you... I failed to find what about this is fullfilling but I didn't argue because she also works really hard for her dayjob.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 05:20 AM
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Tbh I never was able to just go and ask for a hookup because I feared my reputation could be destroyed (uni is a tiny can of worms after all). To this day I still wonder how people who do ONS are able to agree on it and arrange it effortlessly, while even my feeble attemps at going friends with benefits eventually mutated into full-fledged relationships, for better or worse...
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 04:53 PM
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I'd just sit with my wife and tell that I'm ready to keep being with her for whatever we're building, but that I'll at the very least go to the whores monthly.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 11:08 PM
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What I wonder is why sleeping around still is frowned upon, cheatery and dealbreaker even when a dead bedroom takes place. When I marry, I want to make it clear that not meeting emotional/sexual needs while keeping me from being satiated elsewhere is downright fucking cruel.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 11:04 PM
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I have stopped doing this now. I was younger. Dealing with the kind of emotional turmoil I had was hard. I had issues at home and wanted a partner who could understand me. Literally anyone. I just wanted to feel normal, and being in a relationship looked like a good norm to abide by. On the other hand, I don't see why I should insist if someone turns me down... I don't really understand the "didn't try hard enough" realm, and I don't get why it could hurt someone to see me move on fast after the…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 01:31 PM
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I so understand you. I feel like anytime I'm going to manifest attraction to a woman in groups I am supposed to see frequently, I could be called creepy or ridiculed. Once a woman knows you're into her (and doesn't reciprocate) it makes things weird even though you are ready to move on. I did this a lot at uni, moving on and switching target after a rejection. Since I could do it multiple times in a week I was soon dealing with bad reputation. Damned if you do, damned if you don't. The Beatles h…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 05:04 AM
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Ew ew ew. I'll never keep attending noise. I give up on bar/club women. Who the fuck enjoys music blasting their ears and losing the capacity to speak with a mouth. I've been told, if the mouth can't talk, the body should do the talking, alas I'm not that smooth, and now I'm also aging (31), so I'm not sure I can learn this any more. Happy for you if you can seduce ppl while clubbing, I can't. I prefer any hiking group because it is more laid-back with having a good talk.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 05:00 AM
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What do you mean visitations? Sorry, english is my 2nd language. As I understand, you mean that fathers who are divorced won't fill in with their visitation rights? That sucks. I was lucky that my father was there even after divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 06:32 PM
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I agree :) but the statistical divorce rate doesn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 05:20 PM
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Ok but then the wifey would also have to let go of luxuries offered by the surplus of money. Can she? Maybe letting go the house employee. Limiting the amount of expensive vacation. Stepping down with brand clothing. It really is a double edged sword.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 03:05 PM
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Yeah but what about taking the bread to the table
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 01:55 PM
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I wish I explore all the basic incompatibilities before going into marriage. Growing apart is also frightening to me, I know people change but I also feel I don't change all that much apart from cycling my hobbies. I think I'll just show all my good sides and bad sides and it will be for the partner to decide if she's ok bearing with that. At the minimum, she shall do the same. Hope I don't find about a hidden feature, as all married men end up reporting. "What terrible in marriage, the man expe…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 07:24 AM
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Oh yeah, I understand. Fun how this life is nothing like OP believes. Way to go! I'm glad it works for your partner and you.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 05:22 PM
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Honestly, if the gym girl lets me enjoy myself at home while she's hard at work, I'll love it. Even better if she successfully convinces me to follow her to the gym and that we celebrate the results of my weight-loss journey lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 04:23 PM
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I wish I could find a wife who will accept to marry and stay with me, but nowadays I find people can't just fall in agreement with me when I say consumerism ruins everything. No matter what type of girl I am able to make my wife, she's probably going to divorce me because I don't gift stuff or offer vacations as often as she would like. It's like... Is there a woman out there who is content with chilling at home and learning new things with me, rather than having to go places and buy things? So …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 04:17 PM
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can browse and pick. the dream celibate life. the one that your bros mourn at your bachelor party when they book a stripper. jk, I have had more sex now that I am in couple.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 09:47 PM
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I never find interesting satirical or otherwise things to say during a purge but I enjoy a lot everyone else's bits. It is sometimes hard for me to discriminate what is satire and what is not. Some of the points made during the purge are similar to typical MRA content.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 01:11 PM
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so cool!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 01:06 PM
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what do you call "fake" in "fake relationships"? is it fake because at some point the guy decides to break up? Does that invalidate the good memories and time spent together?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 01:05 PM
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more mojito for momma
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 01:03 PM
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I had the same when I was young :') even cried in front of my best friend because I was in love and knew it couldn't be reciprocated (because I didn't imagine a world where trying would work). but really it is healthier to grow out of that attitude as one ages.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 10:29 AM
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honestly, I call bullshit. If you only were friends to deploy your romantic agenda, then you're not friends. I am a "hopeless romantic" and become curious romantically or sexually about a LOT of female friends. It sometimes occurs I will open myself about it and they will reject it. Doesn't matter, I'll stay a friend because I am able to compartimentalize that stuff. No need to ghost whatsoever, I just call my loss and seduce someone else, it is not like I wanted to marry anyone anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 08:27 AM
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this is like a corrupted version of mgtow. the philosophy of mgtow is to fuck off to another country, make big money and not pay taxes to countries who favor women. while this... this is just getting off the grid and stop making money altogether, all to become a parasite. same goal, different approach, pathetic :p
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 06:52 AM
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Plain is the perfect word to describe it. Even with make-up and clothing, most women are copies of each other just every time they regurgitate the same piece of marketing.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 09:23 AM
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I think what men dislike is when the rejection based on looks comes with an attitude. It is hurtful when you try an approach and the girl acts all disgusted and offended, as if "ew fucking slug, how do you even talk to me".
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 08:43 AM
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I have lost count honestly. I don't give a damn about a woman's effort to look like in a magazine, as long as she seems to be kind to others and shares values with me. I have got confused a lot, conflating friendliness and flirt, I was all awkward, all over the place. I think I obsessed hard over 6 or 7 different girls at best, during age 15 to age 25, those are the one I cried about not being able to seduce. Nowadays, I grew older, I try to not be that involved in relationships that are not hap…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 08:49 PM
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Yeah, honestly I popped that up for "short-term" cheating, where the lover is a one night-stand or a drunk mistake or a prostitute even. I personally could live with such a guilt because it is just one point in time and it's not worth taking down a long relationship for it. Of course it will become harder and harder to stay in hiding with a second partner if the relationship lasts and they cannot call it a relationship, that hurts one more person, and eventually confuses the cheater, who begins …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 11:15 AM
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Oh yeah I meant mysoginistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 10:37 AM
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Good food for thought, thanks. I have read a blog about matrilineal/avuncular societies, where the family unit is defined by mothers (and their clans) and the biological father is absent. It inspired me too.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 10:33 AM
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Sorry for making you repeat.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 09:34 AM
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True that. I'm on the side of commonalising marriage too. Sorry. It is possible that I'm wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 09:29 AM
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Of course. But succeeding in keeping it secret is the best other option.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 09:28 AM
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Oh yeah, that's for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 09:27 AM
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why tf not? isn't the whole monogamy thing designed so parents can raise their children? why refuse the right to make sure about a child's lineage? or... we could turn to other models that untie family life and sex life, it is called matrilinearity and it doesn't try to control what people do in private with other people they vibe with.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 09:02 AM
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I advocate mandantory dna testing after birth before certificate. in most "safe spaces" that would be called sexist. truely hilarious.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 08:59 AM
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oh come on, they say consensual between the cheater and their lover, not between the cheater and the cheatee :') anyway, most cheaters are to be blamed rather than their lovers, some persons don't accept to be a side-dish, so the mainstream strategy is to lie to them. Some people can be intentionally wreck an union, but it is less common.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 08:57 AM
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with the implicit agreement that you will stay monogamous fixed it for you. cultural norms. we're so moulded in monogamy that the word "monogamy" literally never appears in a conversation whenever people decide on a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 08:54 AM
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been meaning to say that. good to find a like-minded redditor.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 08:52 AM
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I think, as long as the other party has no means to know they're being cheated on, it is only a matter on the cheater's own torment and guilt. Cheat ethically dude, don't bring back std's, don't get caught in a shared social group, and don't make someone pregnant. A friend of mine once told me, if someone is to cheat on her, she would prefer to not kow it at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 08:51 AM
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We accept exclusivity and monogamy as a norm because we are born and moulded in it. The biological reason to have exclusivity, is because the individuals bond as partners as well as parents, and the hormonal equipment we have encodes it so that a man and a woman who are close will develop attachment and not leave each other, for the sake of the newborn. Just the same as "the baby smell" is too a natural weapon to keep the parents committed. Attaching morality to cheating or not cheating is nice,…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 08:45 AM
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Yeah it's a bit cliché, I took it from the movies.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 07:06 PM
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success for women as I see it: to have kids with a guy, guy conforms to their love language, usually said love language is gifts, remembering milestone dates and surprising her with holidays in exotic summer places like Maldives. Cliché I know but I expect to not entrap myself in a wedding with a woman who consumes brand clothing, shoes, and follows the herd on summer resort vacations. So... feel free to contradict.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 09:24 AM
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I hated to hear it when I was a horny (unsatisfied) teen, but it is the same conclusion as yours: the spark, the vibe, the feeling, the click one moment you don't know why, but you are suddenly comfortable physically with her, and the moment after you're kissing. I didn't believe it when it happened to me the first time, then the second, then then... Now I try to be very aware of the tinisest sign of physical complicity, especially with girls I'm not head over heels for. Serves no purpose to dro…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/23 01:34 PM
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By all means - if you have sources about it. I often notice that, when acquainted with new persons, my girlfriend enjoys a lot talking about my jobs and hobbies even before we are asked, she is prouder of my accomplishments than I am ahah...
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 12:50 PM
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I think that most women just want a partner that’s close to matching the partners of their friends in their social groups. Similar levels - looks wise, career wise, personality wise. the herd mentality of women at it yet again. so weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 07:43 AM
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I'm really lame at looking for hookers, my good experiences finding one are rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/23 03:10 PM
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Correct. As an average dude I'm more likely to keep myself busy with hobbies and porn when I have a dry spell, rather than trying to pursue hos and bjeeches. Then eventually I get myself into a relationship and it lasts a good while.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/23 02:56 PM
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Happy cake day!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 04:54 AM
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It was a good read, thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 04:47 AM
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I mean, some men don't care about their duties at home. Traditionally a man who's committed should be operational to fix anything that requires labour job, like getting a furniture built, mowing the lawn, etc. And yet, movies (sorry for the dubious sources, I know it is cliché) show more and more men just kind of slouching around and watching the game inebriated with friends, while the wives do all the work. Anyway, living with a partner is not for everyone and I don't want to claim I can do it.…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 04:40 AM
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I don't know what kind of lunatic I am, but I'm not into lingerie just yet. Maybe that changes when I age.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 04:36 AM
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Love languages. There are 5 of them, and for me gifts are last. I'm often troubled to receive a gift when it's an item I don't need... Because why would I want to add something to the pile of junk my apartment is lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 04:35 AM
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An acquaintance of mine is fit, with an attractive face, with good intentions, but she has a drinking habit, her apartment is unkept and she has anxiety attacks all the time, meaning that her close friends need to walk on eggs speaking to her. I'm worried for her and I hope she can make it through, but I cannot date her because her life is too much for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 05:48 AM
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I just believe men make it too much of a hassle to say they like someone. All the women I was able to approach began in an acquaintanceship, but then at some point I'd go, "you know what, I like you, please join me on xyz", and this is a date. There are some sentences that can let a woman know you like her, without lighting any red flags for her. Just keep it casual and self-confidence, and prefer moments where there are fewer people around, as to see whether there's this spark or not. "I like y…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 06:19 AM
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aren't we all wild animals
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 12:49 PM
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For example, even at places like bars, one example of a third space sorry but wrong example, nowadays bars blast loud music and no one can hear each other, I have been witnessing this in Canadian bars.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 06:23 AM
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Well... My current milestones are to have a successful professional life, my first car and my first apartment. I would prefer to have all of these checked before having a serious relationship. But who knows maybe it wil be around the corner.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 02:13 PM
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I try to not wonder what I'm doing wrong and to take things as they come... So whatever tickles my fancy I'll do, and if it does not work out, eh... Bummer.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 02:07 PM
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A sort of toy headgear made of fresh flowers.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 02:01 PM
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Hehe good for you. I enjoy cosy restaurants. With my current girlfriend, our first official date was in a breakfast/brunch restaurant and I came with a flower crown I'd buy in the market. It was a silly present but at the same time sweet.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 01:56 PM
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brahh it's just a restaurant, it won't kill your wallet.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 10:54 AM
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This reminds me of romance novels where a man chases after a woman for a couple of years before he finally gets to marry her. I think it would be a noble goal. But tbh men these won't be that long in pursuing someone, we move on faster and most have lowered their standards too, instead of dreaming about some wedding.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 06:05 AM
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I was young and silly probably. There are other pop actresses I used to like: Kirsten Dunst, Alysson Hannigan.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 05:35 PM
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Probably won't root for entitled chicks either even if they looked like Jessica Alba.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 03:23 PM
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Let's be real though, it is true some asshole men go out of their way to be rude to ugly chicks.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 03:09 PM
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I guess some would enjoy the excessive chivalry simps display with stacy's huh.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 03:08 PM
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Hmmmmm.... Hard to tell. For me, I'd relate it to health standards rather than appearance. I think BMI is a somewhat healthy measurement, I use it for myself too: I am currently a chubby man. Skinny: issues with anorexia, weak-looking arms and legs, I used to call them toothpicks... Normal: not muscular nor overly fit Chubby: extra chest and buttock surface to cling to when... Well you get it.. Fat: more than chubby? Signs of greasy skin? Obese: heavy health problems, difficulty to walk, or to r…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 01:55 PM
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I am not familiar with the acronyms AF/BB. These are criteria I observe when selecting a partner: - Alcohol abuse (I don't drink that much and I hate inebriated anger or even worse, inebriated self-humiliation behaviours) - cigarette habit (because of the non-stop foul smell) - scorn and entitlement... Like... If I am dating in a restaurant and the girl throws a fit at the waiter, I won't consider her spouse material - a passion for dramas and pettiness, we're not high schoolers anymore - a pass…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 01:19 PM
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My girlfriend took me to some nice lounges indeed. Thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 12:39 PM
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Understandable. I (m) would love to be approached for a change.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 12:38 PM
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I can relate to that ahah! I do love karaoke. What I don't like is when a socialization place like a bar is too noisy to allow people to talk normally; completely neuteurs the intention.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 12:28 PM
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Yeah, I sure hope that I'm not a vicious type. I lose respect for fellow men when I hear them trashtalk someone for no good reason, the same as I do women. Bars/clubs are shit and everyone should get a grip and leave these evil places.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 12:24 PM
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As a man I have noticed that I treat women unattractive to me with more indifference. It's not downright cruelty because I'm usually not a jerk, but I'll be a bit less thoughtful to them in general. I agree that something changes as compared to women I am attracted to. That said, once I've got past the initial indifference, I've buit some nice friendships. A colleague of mine is getting married soon and cracks jokes on how hard it is to find a wedding dress for extra sized women. Which is sad bu…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 12:16 PM
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I mean, why not? I don't get why things should get awkward after I manifested my interest and got rejected. Being rejected isn't the end of the world, I'll just remain friendly as always and move on to my next target.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 07:46 AM
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thanks a lot. the world's best sex coach Jean-Marie Corda basically says this. He wants to be surrounded with women at all-times and has a passionate hate for pick-up artists. one should pick up like-minded women in his social circle, rather than going out of his way in awkward situations like the open street.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 11:34 AM
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I think I too have the avoidant attachment style. Good luck dealing with it, it is completely controversial with the so-called normality sold in hollywood movies.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 04:42 PM
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Right? I'm far better that I enjoy being home alone and do my stuff whenever I want to.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 03:43 PM
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Same to you mate, cheers!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 02:25 PM
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thnaks for sharing your thoughts. I usually don't visit other's profiles unless prompted to. I guess you have some points.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 02:18 PM
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it has become tremendously hard to be the sole breadwinner. some men can still pull it up, but it requires aggressive development of skills, a high number of overhours, and as a result, it is tiresome. Lots of movies with this modern day hero prototype. I've heard some horrors stories of men who try to do that, and then get cheated on with someone who's more available. Now, there also is a number of men who prefer to sit on their asses until late at the office, rather to take some "nagging" from…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 01:32 PM
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I am surprised how judgy you seem. What if they don't want to disclose what they bring? What if their partner is happy with whatever deal they have (20 years must mean something)? It makes me sick how eager people are to attack others simply for a few sentences.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 01:28 PM
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My mother has been through a lot. Now she's in peace, RIIP. I think, ultimately, she wanted to do her best. With her efforts, I never was hungry or cold, and we had a roof on our head, my little sister and I (now f27 and m31). Nevertheless, my mother was abandoned by almost everyone in my father's family after her divorce (initiated by my father), and later by my sister. My mother had 2 big issues: 1/ emotionally busted, I've suspected she'd have borderline disorder, but it never got actually di…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 01:07 PM
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I'm not against that if such man doesn't misuse what he's got. A man assisting his partner with this power without abusing his position shouldn't be that much seen as negative. I think women with good husbands used to thrive in taking care of the home and raising kids because, some women are pretty good at that, and like having this kind of comfort doing it without having to think about what work brings the bread on the table. I'm not a believer, but when christianty calls its women to be submis…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 01:01 PM
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If a man dates a girl and begins questioning her beauty because she's not 24/24 all pampered and in lingerie, it is a problem. If a man dates a girl and begins being resentful because she won't indulge in some dirty kink he saw in a porn, it is a problem. If a man discusses these topics with his friends as if they were a big weight on his relationship, it is a problem. But I think keeping those creepy thoughts to ourselves, even if they shouldn't be there in the first place, is a fit solution.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 12:58 PM
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I think this thread should be flagged Q4F.. If I understand the question correctly.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 12:07 PM
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Thanks. No, I'm not planning to break up over our differences. It's just I hear all too much, that 'look at this incel nerd, he' s into xyz because he copes and seethes that he's forever alone', which just isn't true.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 07:28 PM
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As I say in other comments, I don't only pursue one bird, so I don't mind someone leeching my attention for a moment, there will always come a time where I'm busy on my own.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 07:19 PM
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Understood. I agree with the sense of purpose. As long as the person feels good with themselves and able to follow their thing, they will be at ease with seduction too. Some friends of mine stand their ground in deviating from corporate ladder and I find them very brave, because I don't have an idea to make a living without the employment system.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 02:40 PM
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True. How would your define ambition?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 02:25 PM
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Haha, on point!!! I used to hang out with roleplaying friends and I was totallly not motivated to commit to this thing long-term.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 02:14 PM
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Nasty gatekeeping. What I'm explaining is I still do nerdy stuff on my own though I'm in a relationship. So... How do you feel about Start Trek? Would you abandon it in a pinch just for some wench? Didn't you come to love it? If a magic wand gave you a gf and some chad stud life, would you just hate Star Trek? Or be indifferent? All the things I picked up because I had nothing better to go for, even now that my life is a bit fuller, I don't want to let them go. I'll give you that I've made the c…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 02:13 PM
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Side-thing, I'm kinda in the process of learning a new, hard skill: music production, and for that I'm ready to be less involved in big consuming schemes like a big wedding or holiday resorts.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 01:04 PM
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Why should I sacrifice something more? I'm already benefitting society with having a job, all this time I could use being elsewhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 01:03 PM
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I reject it too. If the world burns because I didn't have a kid, then so be it. Highly unlikely anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 12:59 PM
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May you find a peace that doesn't alter your mind, friend, good luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 12:22 PM
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I love this arrangement of yours. I've never lived with someone but I can happily cook for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 11:52 AM
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Same. I don't feel like giving up on all these things I'm trying to entertain, at least not until I got good at doing them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 10:56 AM
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hygiene is important but I think it's taken seriously in most open relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 08:32 AM
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I agree, everyone is like "wow this guy can get any woman he wants, he's a chad", how does that matter if he only can have one at a time.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 08:31 AM
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been there done that when I was young, learned from it and moved on. thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 08:29 AM
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mmmh.. Maybe, maybe not. One of these friends who are not attractive to me and enjoy deep conversations, is a colleague of mine, I thought she might have a thing for me. Turns out nope, she's dating another colleague for 2 years, and they just announced that along with their coming wedding. So it's not as 1-dimension as people make it out to be. I enjoy friendships and I enjoy being attracted to someone, sometimes it happens to be both. That being said if you enjoy your friendships that's comple…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 08:27 AM
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hmmm... I guess, not in the same way. Because with less attraction, I'm let's say less touchy-feely. This kind of thing. I have female friends I'm not attracted to, too. I enjoy deeper conversations with them, even.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 08:20 AM
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E/ Silence is awkward as fuck only if you call it that. I get awkward at the moment the person I'm not talking with goes "ookaaayyy there was just silence, awkwaaard...". So what? Get your shit together and enjoy the moment. I've seen some people saying silence can be a powerful strength of seduction when used wisely, because it can favour body language, getting close together, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 08:17 AM
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Actually I still have urges and desires for a lot of women including friends, but I am in a commited relationship, so it's all good that I don't smash all these other women I guess..
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 08:15 AM
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I don't mind, I'll fuck someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 08:14 AM
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And what's even worse is if said men get their sex with blatant lies, and only then reveal they entertained the hope of a relationship just for sex. I enjoy some fooling around, but I state my intentions first hand, and get rejected because of goal incompatibility, and that's ok. I've had my fair share of rejections, I don't get why men get all pissy about it. Plenty of fish in the ocean as we say... A woman's body is the same as another one's. If I am just about fulfilling biological needs, any…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 08:11 AM
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do they really want it? I certainly am dtf a big number of my female friends if the opportunity showed up, but to say a long relationship with them would be successful if only they let me the chance (sob sob)... Not so sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 08:08 AM
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it's their whole theory that wahmen will let ugly beta bois treat them with their money (as if they'd otherwise use their money correctly anyway). probably certain women can exploit the lack of boundaries of certain men, but I personally didn't experience any rogue with the female friends I'm attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 08:05 AM
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He's usually homely to some degree. home body gang here.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 07:56 AM
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on point
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 07:53 AM
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seems legit. I've seen in some comic the concept of "girlfriend zone", it was an interesting take on how girls feel when someone ends a friendship due to this "friend zone" shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 07:50 AM
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I don't care being in the friendzone, if it so exists. I've had attractions and crushes on all sorts of women, sometimes it didn't work but we still enjoyed hangigng out as friends, so what. I think the worst "victims" of the friendzone are the men suffering of the "one-it-is", as it implies they stay friends with their female friend who doesn't reciprocate feelings, but they don't even pursue relationships with other women who might be interested... It is a balance to find. Generally if a woman…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 07:43 AM
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I actively encourage it so I can get some :p
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 07:15 AM
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for what it is worth, I do not condemn legitimate defense. I actually was bullied by little shits in middle school, but instead of becoming more physically aware, I made my best to rise in a less violent environment, surround myself better. At some point I stopped being a victim, but that was more a work on self-confidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 02:51 PM
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Read your first commnt to find out. But ok at least you're consistent.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 02:02 PM
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My mother, after her divorce, became a secretarial master to leech every and any help possible from our town. Despicable, maybe, but I never was cold nor hungry, in spite of the (legitimate or not) money fights mother and father had (he wouldn't give in kek). Still, if she had devoted her secretarial talents to an actual job, she would not have been so lonely in life. So your statement is right. No living in style.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 12:28 PM
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ok.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 10:39 AM
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did you ever test for covid?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 10:06 AM
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I like it! There's a french blog called matriciens in which they explain in some civilization models, mothers would raise kids with their clans (brothers, cousins, etc) rather than with whoever's seed was used to conceive.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 09:32 AM
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What do you mean inheritable property laws? Not familiar with that. We could be wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 09:05 AM
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ah, I see what you mean. ok. Then I probably never really suffered either lmao. Some immoralities I consider really vile: scams, theft, physical violence are good examples.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 06:48 AM
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to avoid that you just hide the fact that you were doing dumpster diving. Eventually you fall in love with said "dumpster". Everyone wins, the end. Or if you are rogue, you exploit their weaknesses. I've seen some cases of guys enrolling their morbidly obese girls into mukbangs so they could generate online revenue.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 06:43 AM
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it's not even that hard to land sexual relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 06:41 AM
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agreed. my mother raised my sister and I on her own and I can believe it's been a nightmare. That and the endless fight she had with my father over divorce money. It was a shitshow.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 06:39 AM
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why would you assume they never suffered?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 06:37 AM
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oh, as I said I'm childfree by choice too. Or maybe it wasn't by choice for me and I don't know it yet lmao. I just loathe the idea of taking care of a little one when I hardly even take care of myself. Anyway, I've been following a lot of this "evolutional psychology theory" lately, so excuse my bias. I'm not willing to argue over that belief, it just so happens to be practical to explain why I can't seem to build solid relationships (ie. I don't want kids and I don't want to be a typical provi…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 06:34 AM
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men have a physical advantage but women are masters of emotions, they can drive a man crazy (that he often will turn to physical violence too, as a last resort), they can ruin a reputation, they can spread rumors. It is often said that women have better empathy, better understanding, better communication... So it is no surprise that when these qualities are used for ill, it is damn successful.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 06:28 AM
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that said I agree with your conclusion, I'm a freaking man child and I don't get all pissy when someone with better life goals than mine turns me down.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 06:24 AM
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Women can and do protect, provide and care for themselves. that's until they become single mothers. I've read horror stories on this topic and especially in the US. But it is true that generally the State can come in and help, most of time financially.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 06:23 AM
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well, poor women in America often are obese too, so there's that. anyway a lot of ppl in Ameriqua are obses right? I wouldn't know I'm an European.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 06:13 AM
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you cannot say that about Ukraine, it is a beautiful country and a super power at European scale, so much that the good EU has compromised the supply of gas of all their lower-tier countries to blame Russia for attacking this beautiful and prosperous country, that Ukraine is. Slava Ukraynia!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 06:10 AM
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you guys are missing the point, men's strategy is to plant a seed in every woman, women's strategy is to find the best suitable father that will give good genes and stick around to take care of the child (can be 2 separate men). We all have to seethe about that crap because it is incompatible by design, but that's how it works. At least with weddings and such, tradition made it a little fancy and it gave a sense of purpose to mankind. I'm against having an offspring anyway, so from my pov I just…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 06:05 AM
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nah they're all whores except mom, jokes aside, I like a lot of stuff in women, my favourite is just having a good talk with a woman, I just find them to be more emotionally open and mature than male friends overall,
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 08:29 AM
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even more aggravating, now men and women try to copy the opposite gender role and they do it all wrong, women trying to be strong, tough, provide => climbing to power position using manipulation tactics and more cruelty than seen in men, men trying to be weak, soft, nurturing, affectionate => clingy, cowardly, can't seem to protect loved ones against threats (and as a modern man I count myself in this demographic)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 08:44 AM
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I wish I could turn off desire in me sometimes. I find myself finding women hot when I look at them, and then can move on, But whenever I meet someone new at a friend's party or so and they actually talk with me, infatuation becomes much more intoxicating.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 03:46 PM
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I'm having a hard time understanding why women are so much more quiet than men in everyday social life about whatever horny things men talk about. I've come to believe it must be some conditioning by the movies, that men always have to act horny even when they aren't. As a teen I used to check out girls with my friends, and comment, and cheer. It feels like women on the other hand hardly ever do that. I don't know at this point, I just would wish desire and expressing desire was either not a thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 03:42 PM
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Jeez man what an epiphany read! Thanks. I've observed these in my daily struggles.
/r/seduction28/10/22 07:17 PM
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Thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 01:48 PM
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thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 11:11 AM
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ah yeah. money from divorces. that's an ugly reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 10:34 AM
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thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 10:28 AM
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thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 10:27 AM
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I must admit this job comparison begins to lose sense to me. But I think ultimately we agree that jealousy can't really be expressed with coercitive measures.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 09:52 AM
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Would you quit your job before getting another job lined up? did it once, regretted it for a bit, but surely was better than what I'm living now, trapped in my job and with too low levels of energy to be serious about looking for another one. I think I'm breaking out quite soon. To each their own. Well cool story bro but I don't get your point. my point is you can't eat your cake and have it too. Either you ban unfaithfulness completely and stop looking for something else, or you try to not be a…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 09:20 AM
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oh also, do you have any idea why "vetting" came to have this meaning in english? Like... When I read "vetting", I think about the guy who's doctor for animals, the vet. Just english second language person silly question... ahahah...
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 09:15 AM
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I enjoyed reading this answer, thank you. It is clearer to me now. I agree that filtering out certain characteristics when looking for a long-term partner might be so hard. Where I live, some girls told me that a lot of wife-beaters show their true colors only after a few years have passed from the wedding day. So it's no surprise the infamous monkey branching can show late, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 09:12 AM
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I should be more ambitious about my status, too, but unfortunately it's not my priority.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 09:04 AM
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hmmm. yeah. I can't personally relate to this person because I didn't reach this stage of my life (actively needing an offspring), but I can agree it's heartbreaking he has to go through an abortion he doesn't want. It really sucks to fall victim to such communication failures. You'd clear things off before becoming comitted.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 08:54 AM
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She can leave you, take half, take your kids, and then force you to pay her for taking your kids. while still being taken care of by a potential new lover (and that's if she's lucky though). I mean, there are certain cases where I would completely approve that; ie. if such divorce cases apply to deadbeat fathers, wife-beaters, dysfunctional couples, anything where the ex-husband definitely is at fault. But it came to my attention, this divorce system is being rather abused in USA and Canada. So …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 08:45 AM
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I'd like to develop my thoughts on your logic, but so far it does not completely answer my question, if a woman is supposedly always on the look-out for a better partner, why would she want to keep her current partner in check so he doesn't look for another partner too. What I can say is, I don't much understand the resentment part. If in a relationship there's the slightest bit of resentment, don't stick around, don't wait for the "better", just leave already and see what is is to look for some…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 08:39 AM
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yeah, that's what I thought, thanks. I'm glad I only indulge in red pill stuff in small amounts :p
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 07:56 AM
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a display of conspicuous consumption that's an opinion I share. I think if I ever marry, I will do my best to stay away from "bride-zillas", and if my sweetheart becomes one of them I can just call it off. women behave in contradictory ways, and can completely change their minds about their relationships over time? You’ll figure it out eventually. it's conforting because I am doing that shit too, must be my feminine side talking lmao. I don't quite believe a relationship can stay exclusive until…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 07:48 AM
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I'd answer this not correct. In my opinion, women would want as much casual sex but would be more picky on how it happens and with whom. A man can be attracted by any girl next door and will enjoy some casual intimacy right away if she offers or accepts it. But women... They just got to be more wary about the guy they will meet.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 11:11 AM
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why does it have to be that way?
/r/seduction25/10/22 10:40 AM
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That’s what I was thinking now too lol. I don’t see us as friends anymore
/r/seduction25/10/22 06:00 AM
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hey at least now intentions are cleared
/r/seduction25/10/22 05:56 AM
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1/become serial killer 2/??? 3/profit It's just that easy
/r/seduction17/10/22 05:50 AM
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I wish I could talk about my internet hobbies the same way someone talks about their outside hobbies :(
/r/seduction07/10/22 10:43 AM
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I love that. But I also have the downside, which is being attracted to new acquaintances although I am in a relationship already. Hard to shut down the noise in my head lmao.
/r/seduction07/10/22 10:42 AM
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I find it very comforting to stay at home, I always have a lot to do there that the outside can't seem to beat.
/r/seduction07/10/22 10:39 AM
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I’ve been staying in the house too much lol sounds heavenly to me.
/r/seduction07/10/22 10:38 AM
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my mother was an angry yelling woman and cohabitation has had some rough patches. so now if I ever have a live-in partner, I'd expect them to be as chill as I am. when my mother used to shout at me, I would bite back and the argument would last long painful exhausting hours until eventually it calmed down.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 12:14 PM
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I don't fucking care what people do with their bodies before meeting me. The only true valid answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 09:12 AM
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There's a ton of ways to keep yourself occupied and interested and busy; despite what you may think, you will not die if you never have a girlfriend lol. true that. I grew addicted to learning hobbies, so much that even after starting a relationship, I keep my gf at a distance so I could practice and have time on my own. not so long ago, being a "nerd" in the sense of, having passion for some activity, was shunned, people used to say only gf-less losers were nerds, and not being able to having a…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 08:10 AM
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even when I know that, I still like the funni lil mbti's
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 12:00 PM
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i fail to understand how public appearances are important when the chemistry is good, fuck what people say
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 11:57 AM
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It means teasing isn't asshole to me.
/r/seduction27/07/22 05:15 PM
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Imo there's no wrong gently challenging a girl's shortcomings.
/r/seduction27/07/22 04:59 PM
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damn you guys get tinder matchs, wild
/r/seduction22/07/22 08:51 AM
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what do you call ethically?
/r/seduction22/07/22 08:48 AM
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I understand the feeling, I stayed a creep for a good portion of my student life. It's all about context and self-confidence.
/r/seduction21/07/22 11:47 AM
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To be sure, put your hand on her hand and see how she reacts.
/r/seduction21/07/22 10:08 AM
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Maybe the girlfriend felt something was up and started confronting him and inquiring about you. If he were into you and couln't find something to say his gf about your insta and whatnot, that might be the reason. Yoy're a girl, you should know how girls can sense something is off with their man.
/r/seduction11/07/22 03:10 PM
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I'll add that on top of rosephase's comment, from my experience as a cringy emotional teen who "wanted to have a gf", I was not aware of any social correctness. I would just go to girls I didn't know yet and shoot my shot like "hey i love you very much pls date me pls whats ur number", which often was ill-interpreted because: 1/ they never saw me before 2/ i would come out in front of their friends (cringe) 3/ they'd have to reject me and look like the mean person, although oftentimes they were …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 08:39 AM
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I'm not kidding, sometimes casual flirtations will open doors in other situations lile business etc.
/r/seduction04/07/22 06:16 PM
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basically it is, how can I overcome the need to escalate seduction even though green flags show in the early acquaintance process. as an opportunist, if I catch there can be something more, I go for it, but it is not the best course of action sometimes,
/r/seduction04/07/22 03:44 PM
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I would not know because I am too shy to get in debt for anything, so although I have a comfortable income, I have nothing to show for it, no car, no house, no nothing because it just sucks ass to suddenly lose freedom of choice, all by long-term commitment. All I can say, I wish I could just secure a living place on long term and imagine having a wife in there. I'm foreign to all things you could do by living with a partner and I am 30 already.. post nut existential crisis is real.... didn't ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 01:52 PM
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You are basically a sex toy and will be put away when we are done like it’s Toy Story. r/BrandNewSentence and tbh cracked me up, gg mate
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 01:33 PM
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I think I get what you mean, girls won't generally choose any dick, while us men could go for any girl giving us the slightest attention,
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 11:28 AM
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is that really blue pill though? :) good game regardless, if it lets you score more frequently.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 11:19 AM
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darn, I never got such acquaintances, did I miss on something?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 11:18 AM
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yes, I already have read that somewhere and only now trying to apply the concept to my life, wish I was more focused 10 years ago ahah.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 07:29 AM
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I really wish sex wasn't needed all that much in my idiot brain, when it is missing, it kills all my focus just because men gonna be monke, I sometimes hate it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 07:15 AM
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that + let's not forget some "red-pilled" men receive attention from women and just choose to dismiss it because they're done with women's antics. I'm currently in a relationship where I'm seeing my gf every week-end or so, but I sometimes find it exhausting to spare time or attention for her, so I can imagine how hard it would be for me to actually live with someone. I really love to have time for myself and develop skills in hobbies and such. Conversely, women seem to only care about organizin…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 07:05 AM
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I have had markedly better results when I am genuinely a dick to women. I hear people say “those are just toxic women” or “you shouldn’t want those types anyway” but I’ve had these same results with genuinely good girls, not just trashy bar hoes or TikTok thots. I'm interested if you were able to score long-lasting relationships and not just the ONS you can grab at a bar, also did these persons let you interact with their friends and families after a while, like it is done in a couple, or were y…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 08:45 AM
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I'm a 6+ ft tall, fat hairy man and I kind of had a crush on Timothee Chalamet when I saw him acting in Don't Look Up. Now that explains a lot lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 06:04 AM
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primal instincts always beat "feelings" or "reasoning"
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 07:09 AM
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Yeah most defnitely :)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 05:32 AM
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With my gf we often tell each other our past encounters and how they were... Nothing weird, just how we met xyz partner and what happened with them. I didn't inquire how many of them there was. Nor did I count. It's just cool love stories to hear.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 05:27 AM
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r/BrandNewSentence
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 06:48 AM
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I have a couple female friends. Most of them I've lusted over them (and then got over it); some of them I enjoy their humour or their company; generally there's no trouble, I didn't have to report female friends using me or something. I'm just happy to talk about their lives and my life and sometimes they have valuable advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 02:25 PM
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thanks! All my youth my mother was nagging like that when I did my chores as a good kid, and the "do it yourself if you're not happy!" line burst out very often. As well as "I'll show you how it is when I do nothing at all in this house!" I must mention my mother, ever since I was little, has had health conditions and did very little at home and in life, but always had something to say about how people who voluntarily helped her were oh so wrong. Unbearable. Lots lots of friends with her damned …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 06:25 AM
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I've read the whole exchange and believe you went overly obsessed with this guy. Like he has a maid and does not like chores big deal. And you? I'm sure you would hire a gardner or a plumber time to time, is it a red flag?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 06:23 AM
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but there are very few other masculine qualities I like. do you mean you hardly find qualities to men other than their genitals? it's a bit contradictory with the previous statement My ideal man is quieter and softer, arguably more feminine in demeanor. I don't think that's a quality so rare to find in the wild, especially with the whole metrosexual lifestyle trend. Anyway best of luck in your romantic and sexy endeavours.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 05:46 PM
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yeah sure, it has been studied what impact has a missing father on children and it's not so good. even a man who takes the responsibility for a child who's not his, is better than no father at all. are you able to guess/recognize what's the level of testosterone of a given man? :p
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 05:27 PM
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Women want all three and I don’t see why she wouldn’t try to have the children of all three if that means producing offspring from three different men. Welp, conventionally, a man does not want to provide for kids that aren't his. Men even have enforced this concept in a number of religions and in the creation of the word "bastard", used to call illegitimate offspring. I'll agree that nowadays it has become hard for men to have nice genetic qualities while still having high testosterone and ener…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 05:15 PM
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Disapprove. Sometimes showing weakness is an effective way to get help and progress instead of staying stuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 02:15 PM
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That's really good reasoning.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 05:13 AM
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Ok. I'll see where I can find this test.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 06:34 PM
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If the paper about matrimonial societies I mentioned is of interest for you, you'll find it on the link below, it's all in French but auto translation should fare well enough. https://matricien.wordpress.com/parente/matriarcat/
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 02:22 PM
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I've read a paper about matriminial societies where women would supposedly raise their kids with their siblings (but still impregnated by men outside family circle of course). Makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 02:20 PM
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I'd do that but I'm afraid of not finding a supportive partner(s) for non-exclusive, + the fact that it's so completely frowned upon by the whole society ahah... Quite the controversial topic. Anyway, staying with someone for the wrong reasons ain't good I know it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 02:09 PM
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Yeah. I have been dealing with a somewhat low libido and I'm doing my best to keep things entertaining outside of the bedroom. Ultimately it's not heading for sustained succes because we're doing exclusive and I am idealizing non-exclusive situations. One day I'll be able to try non-exclusive with someones elses.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 01:47 PM
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great read 5/5 In reality, sex only takes up about .5% of the time you spend with your partner. guess that's what I'm trying to do already with my girlfriend, we enjoy time spent together a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 01:36 PM
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I've never been jealous in my exclusive relationships, I don't mind if other men lust over my partner. I wouldn't feel so great about my partner reciprocating in front of me though... Except if I had someone else to go chat to, too... Ahah.. All about being able to be busy. I also don't mind each partner having their secrets outside of the relationship, as long as it stays strictly separated. A horror story I've been reading is men or women bringing STDs back home from their affairs, which to me…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 01:21 PM
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hah, fair point! I guess probably no difference in fact :') One would say I'm kind afraid to commit to a relationship and then ending up not knowing how to sustain mutual attraction. It's the basic MRA cliché/nightmare, to sum it up roughly, beta provider doesn't please wifey anymore so she cheats on him with Tyrone. So I may have been projecting my fears onto a statement. I really wish I could become a sex nerd but realistically I'm far from being one, I nerd on other subjects (I can be quite t…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 01:15 PM
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hah; I think I qualify immoral anything that goes against the current zeitgeist if you will. Not in a Christian sense only, but more in a sense of what's commonly accepted in a society. Example in case, breaking the rules of a conventional exclusive relationship, also known as cheating: immoral. Because it allegedly hurts the partner who's cheated on. I think people who go sexually creative with their partners in a sustainable manner over time are resourceful, talented and lucky.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 12:48 PM
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I really wish monogamy wasn't such a staple in society building.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 12:43 PM
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they're just pretentious apes love it
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 12:42 PM
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Many people don't put in the effort needed to have responsible sex. So true. I don't often think about what I want right now in sex, and have even less opportunity to express it to my partner, because I am lacking words. I have quite a few ideas about good practices in sex and relationships with multiple partners (i.e polyamorous), because it is a lifestyle I have considered. So far my list goes with common sense and hygiene matters, but I have trouble understanding what sex with multiple partne…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 11:55 AM
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Okay but why have sex if you are not going to want children? Well, it feels good. There is an exchange of pheromones and your hormones make you feel good. It's fantastic. It is fulfilling. I think you trying to deny that you are a sexual being is one of the saddest things I've ever heard on the internet. I know right? It must be my deep-rooted self-confidence and self-identity issues at work. I wish I didn't embrace the bio-evolutionary psychology theories like I did because it makes me so overl…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 11:47 AM
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I must admit I get bored of the sexual act pretty quick but I rather enjoy the moments of cuddling and intimacy leading to it. I can't fathom how there are some people who can go at it for hours though. I also enjoy seduction and flirting a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 11:42 AM
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I think with your answer I found a way to put simply what I grew to believe: people who believe in sexual pleasure and its research, either end up bitter in life, or willing to do immoral things in order to become fulfilled (before moving on to the next disappointment).
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 09:47 AM
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I'm not committed
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 09:57 AM
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wow this is a massive unit of a post and I've read it all. cheers mate, wish you all the best,
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/22 08:33 PM
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I don't know. In my current relationship I enjoy my gf's company when we meet, but I don't see us ever living together, mainly because it is an age gap relationship, she's older. I just enjoy sharing times when we cuddle and care about each other, in the good as in the bad times. Currently she's recovering from a painful dental operation so I'm gonna go at hers, prepare a nice purée and watch a movie together so she doesn't stay on her own. Regardless of my current relationship, the woman I coul…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/22 06:51 AM
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Don't really care, I just stay away from the whole trend because I feel it could get me addicted somehow, which I don't want for myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 08:22 PM
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words of wisdom told here.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 07:52 AM
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once I've met an fwb in a choir... everything can happen mate. If you think bars and clubs are trash don't go. If you desire to try them, keep an eye open for uni party flyers; who cares if you hook up with some 22-yo graduate.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 01:53 PM
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fair points, nothing to react to this time, thanks. In all honesty, I'm kinda terrified to the idea of failing as parent.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 11:52 AM
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yeah, ok, that's fair. I also imagine, kids born in richer environments don't have 100% chances to turn out well and happy later. they could have nevrosis and traumas unrelated to missing money to get by. In fact, this is what we generally consider in antinatalist views, we wish to not bring any suffering upon a brand new existence. Personally though, I wish I wasn't raised by a single mother who could never fend for herself properly. Now I work and have to help her get by.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 09:05 AM
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especially in an ear that requires you to work long shifts and promotes self-sacrifice in work.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 08:55 AM
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This said I don't think you could solve the entire mankind's mental health problems by allowing them to mate and do offspring. Therefore it's rather innocent thinking hard about it. You might want to enroll in politics if you want to make a change.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 08:53 AM
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I agree to a point here because I find it ridiculously hard to be a teenager in this era. The kick of hormone pushing for mating occurs very early in a young adult's life and then slowly fades away especially in men. At least in my experience, I've lost a lot of the crazy horny I was as a teen.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 08:52 AM
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lol. but then what's the point. to stop working means no income to sustain a place to live in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 08:49 AM
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completely agreed,
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 08:48 AM
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I'm kinda tired at evolutionary psychology. I've fully embraced my childfree and antinatalist views because I don't want to bring a new soul in a world that's so complex and painful to understand and to merely get comfortable with. I'm still kind of willing to build another type of project with a partner though, entrepreneurship, music band, anything else.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 08:48 AM
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I think I like someone playful and who validates me. I feel like with the company or partnership of a woman, we can play like children thanks to the relationship of trust. Actually, what I crave in women was well depicted in this French show: Bref. https://youtu.be/LI0mfa3sqWY
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 01:05 PM
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for me it needs to be a hobby that leads to interacting with a community or that has a concrete result. from personal experience, when I'm only passive about something (like, if I binge watch series and forget them one week later) I feel like shit. on the other hand I try to entertain my more creative inclinations like sharing my music online, or finishing the painting of that one piece of furniture my gf gifted me.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 11:14 AM
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For me it dates back to my parents' hateful divorce, I see no value to a happily ever after couple life; so I have trouble engaging in committed relationships. I am lucky to see a woman for 2 years now but deep down I know what keeps the passion going is to only see her at Sundays, as opposed to actually living together. Besides, my father has retired to his own place after living 5 years with his current partner. He feels he has more space for himself now. There's also the lack of self-confiden…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 08:33 AM
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physical traits: not obese, has a healthy skin, charming mellow voice, dexterity in a music instrument or sings, has fun tickle points to play with when I touch her; doesn't smell like she fell in the bottle of perfume; doesn't abuse eyeliner; gingerhead is an asset; lifestyle traits: doesn't abuse her body limits (as in binge drinking, binge eating, destroying her voice with abusive smoking habits, etc.); doesn't insist on my own limits (don't make me have another cocktail or try this awkward s…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 10:00 AM
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indeed, I didn't answer the thread, sorry, goodbye.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/21 09:04 AM
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I'd like my lover recommend me to their friends, could be funny. Btw this is something rare no? generally women are jealous like a lioness.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/21 08:44 AM
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lol I barely can protect and provide for myself so yeah
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/21 09:34 AM
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because I am in a relationship, I'll agree this time. but from memory and experience I can tell that starvation from sex (or any other gesture of affection actually) on extended periods of time, can lead to a dramatic fall of one's mood, man or woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/21 09:53 AM
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maybe that's my problem, so far I don't seem to let my past dating history influence my present choices. I've had a pretty good selection of partners so far though. It was good because I never got to actually live with them. I'm such a noob.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 01:40 PM
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care to explain? the girl fakes pregnancy to that one guy? or she's got pregnant from another guy, wants to tie him as the provider? but yeah if he had had a vasectomy before she became pregnant... she can't tie him.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 12:05 PM
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To be franck I just want the significant other to lie proper and clean. If they play their double-life good and I never know about it, I'll just be fine. But let me find out in some unexpected event like an abusive lover beating her or a STD caught, and I'll turn into an angry man.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/21 09:02 AM
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my mother is a NEET and has had professional inactivity most of her life. Though she claims my father owns her big. It's been on the roll for a good 20 years. Ever since I'm in the workforce, I help my mother get by financially every month. That on top of "neetbux" she gets in the for of state aids. Realistically she's not just a despicable, lazy person, she has had health conditions and all, but still. My father though, due to their dispute, never talks to me about his problems, but currently t…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/21 08:39 PM
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'you know, if i saw you on tinder, i would have never swiped right on you' probably would take offense on that and dump her ass. Some things need not be told. Happy little lies keep everyone mentally well.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/21 07:35 AM
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that was a good read to me
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/21 01:12 PM
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got you. seems there is an automatic translation https://youtu.be/hB3xYz8-_pY
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/21 03:43 PM
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hard to tell but this kind of theory is described by French philosopher Frédéric Delavier. I should take note of my sources more often I admit. I'll try to find a video that has english subs for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/21 03:41 PM
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I believe, even our physical needs are designed in a way that we'll seek companionship. I've heard some stuff on how men and women believe they love one another but actually trade the subconscious needs they have, which can either work until they pass, or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/21 01:36 PM
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I would appreciate to not see insulting or emotional responses to statements. What do we know? A lot of things occur in a subconscious level and on long-term. I don't know why I like certain things and not others. We ain't in whole control of the body engine.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/21 01:34 PM
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ah, yes, that's better explained than my attempt of a comment, thanks,
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/21 01:33 PM
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It's just that one size does not fit all; This statement clearly forgets about alternative sexualities or romanticisms, since we are blessed to be a species that's aware about it. Of course, the primary goal of attracting opposing gender and to form monogamy couples, is to offer safe growing conditions to a child, and to perpetuate life. This goal has been culturally marked by religion, too, since the fact of having sex has become considered solemn or sacred... Therefore the various "specific tr…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/21 01:31 PM
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I can agree to an extent but such relationships are not sustainable. If I notice a woman has nothing else to offer than her good looks, and on top has problematic behaviours such as addiction, child-like tantrums or laziness, I won't commit to her on long term.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/21 05:38 AM
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true love is an imaginary friend we like to summon in order to forget everything in our psyche is evolutionary. The concept of love really is the load of chemicals our brain produces. All of it is on design so we have incentive to produce offspring and (in ideal cases) make sure they are safe until they reach adult age. this said. male here, can't answer the original question. I will say, if a women settles with a man she doesn't love, it is because she wants this man to be the right provider-ty…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/21 06:22 AM
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probably not. I'm more about leaving the anesthetic job if it meant I could learn how to master my hobbies.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/21 05:48 AM
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The question does not mention whether the features of attraction or repulsion are observed during the seduction phase or once the deed is done, so I'll just give insights of my experience during the relationships. mating: attractive: know how to use contraceptive methods/condoms, is playful, knows what she wants, enjoys oral, enjoys a good, warm shower after the deed, repulsive: hesitating, not able to communicate her needs, fails to perform/hurts my pp, fails to let me feel safe, patronizes me,…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/21 02:13 PM
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