ezer_kenegdo Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
0	Also OYS		ezer_kenegdo	/r/RedPillWives	04/06/21 05:10 PM

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5	Widow 31f. Mom of soon to be 4. Proposed to and engaged and this man(35m) wants to provide for me and loves me...but I wonder if it would be better to marry wealthier man. If u were me wwyd. So you're pregnant from your husband and already engaged within 9 months? And you want to know if you should hold out for someone richer? I think you need to reset your expectations and slow down this relationship if you are questioning things.	/r/RedPillWomen	24/02/26 11:56 PM
31	Inspiring my husband’s confidence? You could ask him more questions. Like we'll tell me the pros and cons of these? He will let you know through the response which one he thinks is best, then go with that one. He shows he knows what he's talking about and he feels like you really got an opinion in the matter.	/r/RedPillWomen	22/04/22 07:24 PM
11	Refused redpill. Now My boyfriend wants to break up with me I'm not entirely sure what your question is. You need to think about what you want in life and if this man is capable of giving that to you, and vice versa. If you can't "play" the stereotypical wife, then that's ok! Just own it. Some red flags...unless you skipped some of the conversation, he isn't communicating with you very effectively. What does he mean he doesn't view you as his wife? You immediately jumped to red pill but there's no evidence that's what he means from the text. What does a …	/r/RedPillWomen	21/04/22 11:32 AM
5	What do y'all think about a guy who wouldn't let his wife stay home until she has children, and would make her go to work once they're in school? I think you need to sit down and evaluate. Maybe seek advice from a different sub. While most of us are traditional, we also know our worth. If you aren't married to him, you are in the vetting stage. Now is the time to figure out if you are compatible or not. You are allowed opinions and values. You already do, otherwise you wouldn't be here. But saying it's the man's job to determine what is worth it or determine your worth is incorrect. As well as you saying he doesn't want to pay you to watc…	/r/RedPillWomen	01/11/21 05:25 PM
1	Why are you guys (women) so incredibly hard to get? When you say women are picky, how does that apply to you? Have you asked for input? What are these women saying about why they won't date you?	/r/RedPillWomen	31/08/21 02:43 PM
20	What do you do when you realize that you are a Femcel? How old are you? If you are legally an adult, you don't need your parents to get antidepressants. And as for the other stuff, if you want to fix it, you just have to do it. Google how to pluck your eyebrows and put on basic makeup. Make sure your outfit is feminine and well put together. You don't have to spend all the money or spend hours for maintenance. Even just making sure your hair is brushed, your clothes are clean, and a little bit of make up and jewelry can make a big difference.	/r/RedPillWomen	27/08/21 01:38 PM
16	What kind of relationship should I pursue? From scoping your post history, I'm guessing you aren't over him. So you need therapy or something to heal. Or time. It's ok to not be ready to date. On the other hand, going on one date won't make you someone's girlfriend. If you go out with a few of them you won't be coerced into a relationship unless you let yourself be. So don't. Go out with a few of them, see if there's some chemistry in person, and if not..then don't pursue them. Time isn't of the essence. You won't be happy as a wife and …	/r/RedPillWomen	23/08/21 04:11 AM
5	Going to my husbands friends wedding, advice please I think we need more detail...is this just for a weekend or longer if this is going to be your vacation? How long have you been married and why was is so bad that you have trauma for anyone else's wedding? Without full background, just by going off of the post, you sound whiney. He's asking you to, it sounds Ike it's a close friend...just go. Either make new memories in the city that are more pleasant or take the rest of your vacation in a place close by that's more agreeable to you. Eventually …	/r/RedPillWomen	22/08/21 01:45 AM
26	At a crossroad with fiance I would be curious if he could handle any disability. What if screenings didn't turn up anything and the child was born with a disability? Or got one later? Would he be able to handle it or would he leave you? What if you became disabled? I would start asking those hard questions. You need to know if it's that specific scenario or if he is not willing to care for someone with a disability. You, parents, children..	/r/RedPillWomen	15/08/21 12:37 AM
3	New Date: Any Potential Here? (Update) Because he may have 2 or 3 big trips planned left, but he's an adventurous guy. It's almost guaranteed he doesn't have just a few things left on his bucket list and then he'll be satisfied forever. Just so you know, settling down doesn't necessarily mean never going anywhere ever again. Maybe you need to further explain what that looks like to you, because you seem to the it like an all or nothing thing? Plus, you said you kinda felt like you were feeling the time crunch. 2 or 3 big trips aren't…	/r/RedPillWives	28/06/21 03:57 PM
12	Ways that you inspire your husband. When my husband was that burnt-out, I was working part time. A position opened and I interviewed after taking with him about it. I ended up taking it, and he kept the job but we went on my insurance, so between the money and the insurance, he knew he wasn't trapped there and he had options. That helped take the edge off. Maybe if he really isn't happy there any longer you can support him by encouraging to try something else. It isn't unmanly to switch or even need a break, especially because the…	/r/RedPillWives	22/06/21 03:46 PM
2	I need your help… advice on balance? That's good. Maybe have a quiet hour for everyone during the day so at least it isn't hectic even if you don't get a nap. How are your kids with lunches? Do you make full blown lunch every day? My kids are young, but I think I'm going to start making a charcuterie board every day. So we can just snack on fruit veggies and some meat and cheese throughout the day. But every family is different. Some need consistent planned meals, my kids are just constant grazers, and the charcuterie board helps m…	/r/RedPillWives	21/06/21 03:17 PM
2	I need your help… advice on balance? That definitely changes things. 4 kids and homeschooling especially after this last year...a lot of us are with you. It's a little hard to give advice for that one. I can yell you that it's a phase of life that you will get through. If you get to quit your job, then know that this phase will change sooner than you think. You might be the type that needs rigid routine, in which case we can help work with you on that. If that sounds like it will just overwhelm you more, then we need to find a diff…	/r/RedPillWives	21/06/21 03:09 PM
2	I need your help… advice on balance? Also, the clean eating thing...it gets better and takes less effort the longer you do it. If you like cooking, you can make that into more than just eating for fuel. Cooking is one of my hobbies because I get to be creative and it's something I can easily do since I'm here, it doesn't require going out to do it. Meal prepping could help you if you are interested. I do get the mental aspect of it though. Trying to improve yourself in multiple areas is hard, because you're trying to be perfect in …	/r/RedPillWives	21/06/21 02:43 PM
3	I need your help… advice on balance? Couple of things...self care is important. It sounds like you need some, because honestly if you're burnt out after an 8 or 16 hour work week, it's more than just being lazy. Where do you feel least burnt out? How is your motivation? For example, I like to relax in the morning with coffee before I start my day, but I need to start moving pretty quick because if I sit around too long nothing gets done. So I go hard in the morning, and then I get to have a relaxing evening. My husband is the oppos…	/r/RedPillWives	21/06/21 02:36 PM
4	New Date: Any Potential Here? Well regular dates are fine. I just would use it as part of flirting . Like I'd love to meet you here for coffee before you work. Or the weather is gorgeous show me your favorite nature trail! Especially since your previous posts say you like showing appreciation with gifts. If he invites you for dinner, say it sounds great but you'd love to see him sooner, even if it's just waiting outside the coffee shop to catch up a few minutes before you guys start your day. You can always buy the coffees a…	/r/RedPillWives	19/06/21 01:08 PM
1	New Date: Any Potential Here? Not a problem that's why we're here. If you're worried about resources then keep it simple like you like. Coffee dates and hike with him. You'll really get to see what he's like if he's in something he's passionate about. And talk lots, phone calls are cheap but let it be organic	/r/RedPillWives	19/06/21 12:52 PM
3	New Date: Any Potential Here? Ok let's start from scratch. We need info. Age/job/what you bring to the table. You said he's only about 5 years older. What is his career looking like? Where does he think he wants it to go? After 2 dates is still pretty early but with the right guy, you'll end up in deeper conversations earlier and find out more sooner. I wouldn't pass and judgements yet, but now is definitely not the right time to start the I want to be married and pregnant in a year conversation. Have you been working on you…	/r/RedPillWives	19/06/21 12:43 PM
7	New Date: Any Potential Here? What is it you think you're going to do? You've had 2 dates. Being adventurous or outdoorsy isn't a bad thing. If you think you two are really incompatible that way don't pursue further. You aren't going to change his personality, especially in that new of a relationship and if you did get him to stop doing that for the relationship he's just going to resent you for the rest of his life.	/r/RedPillWives	19/06/21 12:28 PM
7	I get distant when he does not want to have sex... I'm in the same boat. And my husband says it's not attractive when I act distant so it makes it hard. I don't really have advice cuz I'm still in the middle of it, I just make it very clear I'm always available and that it is about connecting not necessarily sex, so doing things just for him is ok. And on nights you really want it, just be extra flirty. Sometimes being pretty open helps. Like hey I know you're tired but can you try to save some energy for tomorrow night? That gives him a chance …	/r/RedPillWives	16/06/21 05:19 AM
1	Also OYS Gotcha. I'm going to stay mostly with wholesome inspirational plus my home and garden stuff.	/r/RedPillWives	04/06/21 09:39 PM
3	Tea Time I get it too. Sometimes you just need a little nudge to work through some stuff. My biggest thing was not pushing him into it and making sure he was comfortable with the counselor. I still want to make sure he is ok and if he feels like she is taking sides or anything like that. We have a strong basis so it can only get stronger, and in the meantime I can keep owning my stuff with the discord.	/r/RedPillWives	02/06/21 03:30 PM
10	what are some good conflict resolution skills? Being honest about what's going on, without being cruel or hurtful. No mind games.	/r/RedPillWomen	02/06/21 01:27 PM
3	Tea Time We have a counseling session together today, and I'm nervous and excited for what we can accomplish and make us stronger. We are going for lunch together afterwards which makes me super happy because even a quick lunch date stolen is more than we normally get. My house is slowly getting back to normal from the holiday and our roommate moving in. A little more work and it will be back in shape for another weekend. I'm exhausted and not coherent. Hoping for a nap today.	/r/RedPillWives	02/06/21 01:18 PM
4	The Scrapbook I kinda knew from the first time we looked at each other, but you say that a lot sometimes you know? I was single, had just started working at the warehouse, I had met a lot of the men already and I was definitely looking and responding to flirting. I was being given a tour at the end of my shift, and we ducked our heads into his office so I could be introduced. We stared at each other so intently like we were already claiming each other. We didn't get to interact too much during work as we were…	/r/RedPillWives	02/06/21 01:53 AM
3	Defining the use for a room. My living room is also currently the catch all. Some of it makes sense though. Our bookshelves are in here, and I like it like that. I read in my bed, but I like my bedroom clean and uncluttered and therefore very simple. This room feels like my 'living' room. It's where we spend the majority of our time. My mother in law has a living room and a family room. The family room is the catch all and the living room is more like the formal parlor. One day I would love to have this. Just like I like a …	/r/RedPillWives	31/05/21 10:34 PM
3	Tea Time We are having our memorial day picnic tomorrow with my side of the family, and every holiday I offer to bring more than I can reasonably get done, and yet I've done it again. It's because I absolutely love hosting and bringing gifts when others host and I love cooking for other people. So busy day today.	/r/RedPillWives	29/05/21 07:31 PM
3	Tea Time My mom tells the story about how spouse bashing is so common, especially for the stereotypical "soap opera and bon bons" wife that no one at my dad's work believes him when he says my mom gets up every morning at 5 am to make his lunch and see him off for the day.	/r/RedPillWives	29/05/21 07:29 PM
4	Tea Time I just tell my husband it is a good chance to change the sheets lol	/r/RedPillWives	29/05/21 07:27 PM
3	Dealing with monotony Dishes are my bane of existence as well. Unfortunately it's my husband's least favorite chore so I tend to get that one even if he takes a chore. For me, I can keep on top of it because it's just me and 2 under 2 when my husband works. No idea for when they are older. Even if I let it build up during the day, it's actually fairly calming for me to clean the kitchen after the kids go to bed. It's quiet, relatively dark, and methodical. Listen to music or an audio book when you do it. Out of all t…	/r/RedPillWives	28/05/21 04:07 PM
8	I'm an invisible woman and I hate it. Most of your post is stuck in the past and doesn't help you right now. I'm sorry you were bullied. But it's over. It won't happen again. Don't let it. But all the things you say you tried to do to meet people were also in the past. What are you doing, right now, to meet people and men especially? If you don't want to meet men online, then you need to start joining clubs, churches, going out to where the people are. You have no pictures on your post history so I can't tell you about that. The wal…	/r/RedPillWomen	28/05/21 12:59 PM
2	In the modern era, what should a man's protection actually look like? It takes a lot of practice to see the small stuff, but it gives you a lot of blessings when you get to count them all up.	/r/RedPillWives	28/05/21 11:55 AM
9	Weight loss You need to be in a calorie deficit. Low carb, keto, it's all forms of CICO (calories in, calories out) 90% of weight loss happens in the kitchen. Go to tdeecalculator.net and figure out you maintenance calories, then subtract. 500 less calories a day equals a pound a week lost. Download an app like my fitness pal or loseit, and track everything. Any oil, condiments, everything. A food scale will help you be more accurate. Try not to drink your calories. Water should be most of your drinks. You …	/r/RedPillWives	28/05/21 02:34 AM
22	In the modern era, what should a man's protection actually look like? It was an early morning, but I will try to make this coherent. I think a lot of the protections men can/will offer will be behind the scenes and subtle. I have had a little experience in all these areas, so I will share what I know. When my husband and I first started dating, I was working full time (we met at work.) I was a shipping clerk in a warehouse, he was a production supervisor. Warehouse culture is pretty fascinating. All the men tended to be more on the crude refined side, but warehous…	/r/RedPillWives	27/05/21 12:12 PM
1	OYS 3 Me 32, husband 43, sahw and mom of 2 under 2. This week has been mostly taking care of the house, I got my garden planted and already canned a few special projects. This weekend was busy because his sister was in town, so when he isn't working we are doing things with them. So the house hasn't been as messy, but I haven't been home to do much at the same time. Beauty: I've been wearing my contacts more, and I wore a skirt today. I have a lot of skirts and dresses but I'm still a little hesitant …	/r/RedPillWives	25/05/21 08:59 PM
5	Wives, how did you meet your husband? At work. I was a shipping clerk in a warehouse 2nd shift and he was 3rd shift production supervisor. We had to interact for some night reports, otherwise it never would have happened because it was 2 different shifts at opposite ends of the warehouse. He stood out amongst a very rough and tumble environment (if anyone knows the kind of culture warehouse workers are.)	/r/RedPillWives	21/05/21 07:40 PM
2	Sub related stuff- a new type of field report Let me think over some ideas and I'll get back to you. I wouldn't be opposed to the idea of spearheading it, but I am the same with life taking the forefront. Plus if we were going to use creator content as a criteria, we would need time to get people to start posting more :)	/r/RedPillWives	20/05/21 05:50 PM
1	Sub related stuff- a new type of field report Well if I remember correctly, in the male sub they vet by quality of. posts/comments I think the first thing is to see who is open to volunteering. I think the age of the account/age on the sub should be considered. Maybe make the condition of regular posts/activity on the sub. I would also want a way to report the mentoring if advice seems off, or ignoring multiple messages. Asking questions similar to groups on Facebook when you join, or mod a sub, could be a route to take but it would also be…	/r/RedPillWives	20/05/21 05:02 PM
2	Sub related stuff- a new type of field report Do you think it's possible to have a list of mentors? People who have been vetted for people to go to with questions if they volunteer? I've gotten a few private messages asking questions after a few of my comments and I'll bet there are even more lurkers who would feel better with private conversations before publicly joining the community.	/r/RedPillWives	20/05/21 04:33 PM
10	Sub related stuff- a new type of field report I like the idea just as I like the idea of our own own your sh*t, but our version is definitely very different looking. A field report is just that, a report from the field of action, as the theories are being put into play. For me, my 'field report ' looks like quiet reflections during the first cup of coffee/tea at the breakfast table while I enjoy the quiet and plan my day, or during a late night bath or shower after the kids go to bed. So I like the sound of bathtub reflection or tea time. Y…	/r/RedPillWives	20/05/21 01:52 PM
5	Own Your Stuff I just did CICO, and capitalized on the quick drop after I gave birth to my daughter. Definitely lost the weight better than with my son, but I was also able to nurse him longer Currently we are in a townhouse saving for a home, so it's much smaller. I try to stay up on laundry but usually my husband and I spend all weekend switching out loads, and I put it away during the week. I just don't stop moving, and sometimes I can only do 5 dishes at a time before they want me, but my husband works 2nd…	/r/RedPillWives	12/05/21 12:47 PM
10	Own Your Stuff OYS: Health: I am 50 pounds down after having my 7 month old. I have 20 more pounds to go and I've hit a wall I need to conquer. I was always overweight so this is a completely new me. Beauty: I started wearing my contacts again and got my hair permed. My husband seems to like it and comments regularly . Kids: I need to get out of the house more. I'm a stay at home wife and mother and with everything going on it's easy to stay in the house. I took my energetic 2 year old to the zoo today, and it…	/r/RedPillWives	12/05/21 02:12 AM
4	Own Your Sh*t for RPW? Losing weight, deeper and more honest communication with my husband, and keeping up with my 2 littles. I'd also like to learn a little more handiwork like plumbing so my I can take on some projects my husband doesn't have time for.	/r/RedPillWomen	28/04/21 02:29 AM
53	The existence of all red pill ideology highlights one big issue: Why do we tell people looks/money/personality type doesn't matter when it does? I read this a long time ago and it's always stayed with me. It's because people aren't perfect and change is hard and the reality of it is harsh. It takes away your control so you can be the victim. If only the fates hadn't made me fat/slow/boring/lazy...people are selfish if they can't accept the way I am! That's a coping method and takes a long time for people to get out from that mentality.	/r/RedPillWomen	26/04/21 01:27 PM
17	Dating for potential of growth or progress already made? You shouldn't have to push them into anything. You should be able to recognize when a man has ambition and a sense of leadership but not enough experience yet to grow it, and a guy who is open to the idea but needs you to lead him to it. It seems like you need someone who already has a plan for you to support. And remember so many things get thrown at you in marriage, you still might be surprised by a situation neither of you planned for. You want a guy who can take charge and figure it out quic…	/r/RedPillWives	20/04/21 08:09 PM
3	Feeling inadequate Have you two discussed what will happen after baby is here? Are you going back to work or staying home? Either way, things will look different. You obviously have drive and pride in your abilities, and you like the physical evidence of your hard work and productivity. With a kid, your work will have to come second. If your baby gets sick during daycare/babysitting, and the majority of your paycheck could possibly end up going to daycare, which means you might end up feeling like you are working …	/r/RedPillWomen	13/04/21 10:56 AM
7	"People don't know how to live this way anymore. Many of my young adult peers have no idea how to cook, what grocery stores are cheapest, how to find a produce co-op, how to make healthy meals on a budget, or what things are never worth it to buy new." I put the cooking channel on a lot for background noise and its amazing the tidbits you pickup from the shows and competitions. Plus all kinds of new ideas. Bulk prepping is the easiest to start out with if you won't get bored of the same foodstuffs quick. But repurposing food is good too. Tomato soup, ground beef and rice can be Spanish rice, stuffed pepper filling or stuffed pepper soup.leftover meats can make a good stir fry, and you can change it up.just by using different vegetables	/r/RedPillWomen	30/10/20 12:04 AM
42	Anyone else grinning and bearing through a career while hoping to be a homemaker one day Part of that is the current view of women. My husband supported me when I told him I wanted to be a stay at home mom, but we had an honest talk about what that looked like. His previous wife did that, and she was the classic do nothing, spend money and cheat, and blame him for never being home. I told him my goal was to be with my son for at least the first year of his life, then we would reevaluate. I made it clear that if we needed more income I would go back to work, but the goal was to try t…	/r/RedPillWomen	28/10/20 06:04 PM
2	Are women capable of loving men? How do you define love? Most people attribute love to the squishy feelings you get in New relationship energy and the honeymoon phase. Thats why people say they fell out of love. But love is also a choice and an action, that you have to make daily, whether you feel the squishies or not. But think about the question when someone asks, "why do you love me?" How do you answer? Does it sound something like you're funny, and kind, and a good provider... So yes love is generally conditional for both m…	/r/RedPillWomen	25/10/20 11:21 PM
3	I'm not sure I understand RPW What does it mean to be strong, independent and free to you? I can do all of that in my traditional role. I control what I wear and what I do with my children during the day. I manage my entire household. I decide what goes in my fridge and pantry and how we eat. I taught myself.how to manage basic household tasks without him, some plumbing, electrical... I choose my hobbies and he makes sure I get time to pursue them. If I want to learn something new, I do it. Supporting him doesn't affect my '…	/r/RedPillWomen	16/10/20 06:51 PM
7	I'm not sure I understand RPW Anytime. We certainly have our share of problems. Just remember that you aren't perfect either, clear communication is absolutely important, and analyze situations and develop your logic. I was very much an emotional responder in the beginning, and over time have matured to where I can think about situations from a more meta approach.	/r/RedPillWomen	16/10/20 02:43 PM
33	I'm not sure I understand RPW It could be they feel threatened. Most people see it as women haven't had a voice in so long now they get to demand everything and have a turn to be the voice. I take it as childlike rebellion. Like right now my toddler has learned he can make choices. So now he is exercising that new found ability. So he doesn't eat the good stuff mom knows is better for him, he comes to the snack container and demands 12 pounds of pudding for his entire food source for the day. Feminists think if they aren't s…	/r/RedPillWomen	16/10/20 02:30 PM
121	I'm not sure I understand RPW The part that most people tend to skip is that we are fully in control to vet the man we choose to be in control. It isn't slavery, its willful submission. Its like the difference between being a captured slave on a ship and trying to find a job as a first mate, you get to look at all the ships and all the captains and choose which one you trust to control the helm. And that doesn't mean your input doesn't count, nor that a conversation can't take place. It means you have a talk about the situat…	/r/RedPillWomen	16/10/20 01:59 PM
-1	Resistance to RP ideas I'm sure part of it is because it is hard to openly embrace red pill in today's society, as well as the fact that people have corrupted the idea and twisted it to suit their mantras in toxic femininity and masculinity. (And by this I mean real toxic masculinity, not 'omg, he's mansplaining.') Also, women are so much more emotional and red pill theory is scientific. So even if we can accept the premises, its still hard not to believe in an ideal romantic love and the goodness of men and women tha…	/r/RedPillWives	16/10/20 01:55 PM
8	What advice do you have for women in their early or mid twenties in terms of vetting and finding the right man for them ? What are common mistakes you see? Well if she's your ex I wouldn't worry about it with her. Easiest solution is to have that talk before your first fight. If you are already in that situation then its harder, but if it doesn't change then think about whether its a deal breaker or not. My husband thinks I bottle up too much. But I can be very open and say, when I come to you with issues, you get defensive and it starts a fight. I'd like to avoid that. How can I approach you with something that's troubling me so we can work it thr…	/r/RedPillWomen	25/09/20 12:35 AM
26	What advice do you have for women in their early or mid twenties in terms of vetting and finding the right man for them ? What are common mistakes you see? Conflict resolution. Have a discussion about how he fights and rules for fighting. It sounds so weird but my husband and I were so compatible in the beginning we almost never fought, so it wasn't until later that I saw how he handled conflict and it was a struggle. He tends to shut down, avoid me and the problem until we apologize and then pretend it never happened. You need someone who can hear problems and issues without making it about them, who will either give you space or comfort you depen…	/r/RedPillWomen	24/09/20 10:29 PM
17	What is RedPillWives? How does it differ from RedPillWomen? Yeah when I offer input on posts I always try to point out to look at the histories of the people offering advice. So many times it ends up being a man who lurks but doesn't post anything of substance, or 19 year old boys who somehow stumble on this sub who just say what they think red pill means. I like the flair options and being responsible for taking the time to vet who is commenting so I can decide whether the advice comes from a solid place. I agree that men have some valuable input, but f…	/r/RedPillWives	23/09/20 02:00 PM
1	Ways to show genuine admiration and appreciation? The linked account up top talks about how she is just using her boyfriend for money, and the account's comments says she praises him on this account because he knows this one. It is the same person.	/r/RedPillWomen	21/09/20 12:13 PM
2	Ways to show genuine admiration and appreciation? Your comments say you post on this account saying you love him. Sounds like you want a sugar daddy forum. This is most definitely not it. We don't do that.	/r/RedPillWomen	21/09/20 12:12 PM
7	Intro thread! Hi! I'm 31 and a sahm with an 18 month son and am currently 37 weeks pregnant with my daughter. I've been with my husband, 43, for 7 years, married for 5. I came to TRP as a logical extension of my biblical upbringing as a productive submissive wife (think barefoot and pregnant or tradwife), but I like that the principles are grounded outside of a religious standpoint as well. Right now I am a sahm, and i take pride in maintaining the household for my husband. I can, garden, and am processing my…	/r/RedPillWives	19/09/20 11:59 AM
2	Baby in bed, no intimacy Exactly. So don't listen to the ones who think you can just put the baby in another room and be done with it. It makes you more tired to have to get up and go comfort baby and then come back to your room. It isnt feasible right now. See if the baby is open to taking a bottle. I have a bottle on my nightstand and when he fussed I give that to him. Sometimes after just a sip he's back asleep. Or if your child still uses a honky, try that to comfort instead. You do not need to choose between breast…	/r/RedPillWives	06/09/20 06:48 AM
3	Baby in bed, no intimacy I didn't want to cosleep and it just happened. My son is 18 months and im due in a month...its hard. Yes your husband is a priority, but you two made the choice together to raise a family, and he trusts you to do it the best way you can. Our intimacy is slowly recovering, and it takes more intentional effort for both of us. My libido didn't take a dive like most women, but it is a recognized and normal part of early childhood. W.H.O. recommends breastfeeding at least to a year, and i think now t…	/r/RedPillWives	06/09/20 02:59 AM
8	Baby in bed, no intimacy 13 months is still an appropriate time to be breastfeeding, and you will not ruin your child by too much coddling at this age. You do need to talk to your husband but if he isn't willing to drop whatever he is doing to be intimate with you he may have a low libido at the moment too. Intimacy takes 2, not 1. Let him know well in advance that you would like to spend some time with him when the baby goes down for their nap, so maybe if he plans for it it won't be taking time away from his other tas…	/r/RedPillWives	06/09/20 01:57 AM
5	What is the appeal of marriage? You seem to be asking two different questions. Your title asks the benefits of marriage, but you are looking at the specific male led, female supported marriage. Many people have all kinds of different relationships. It isn't the only option. I guess I'm just trying to follow your thought process. You can still engage in a relationship or marriage without our ideals. So are you just curious about why we follow our ideals?	/r/RedPillWives	31/08/20 06:59 PM
1	Can a marriage be repaired after infidelity that lead to a child being born outside the marriage? My husband is a terrific father even when I am unimpressed with him as a husband. Sometimes cheating can be gotten over, sometimes not. I know for me, I would try to get over it but i know myself well enough to know that if a child came out of the affair, we would be done. That adds so much more complexity and I know I couldn't keep going after that. Maybe that's you too. That isn't necessarily a bad thing. Sometimes divorce is in fact justified and does not make you a failure or unlovable.	/r/RedPillWives	15/08/20 03:49 AM
3	Conflict advice with blended family dynamic Sounds like a couple of different issues. It seems like you have tried to address them. Is it that things are ok for a little bit, then they go back to normal? I'll try to do this methodically. 1) I'm 31, my husband 42, 3 kids from 2 women, married once before, I have not. His children are now 20, 18 and 14. The step parent dynamic is hard, and you just need to find your comfort zone. It makes it harder with the older ones, because you are closer to their age so they may not see you as an author…	/r/RedPillWives	04/05/20 09:47 PM
1	Question about married sex life I know what you mean. I'm not sure what you have tried, but it always seems like it never gets any better.	/r/RedPillWives	04/04/20 07:38 PM
5	Question about married sex life There is a sub, r/deadbedrooms, that has a community for us in the situation, but just be warned to take it with a grain of salt, they don't all share the same values and so a lot of advice you may not agree with. You can always pm me to vent, ask about my personal situation. It makes it hard because we want our men to lead and he masculine, when in this situation it seems like the onus is on us to fix it. Sorry you are in that spot.	/r/RedPillWives	04/04/20 07:31 PM
1	Advice for how to help my sister That might be something too I very rarely use video because I can call my friend and we can chat while also doing things like laundry or dishes. But you also might want to talk to her about depression. If she is breaking down that.much that she is letting the kids scream in the background...unless you meant like play screaming. Then maybe an anti anxiety or antidepressant, or therapy, something to help her for herself, might be a good idea as well. But remember, she might be videoing because she…	/r/RedPillWives	30/01/20 07:47 PM
4	Advice for how to help my sister ok, that clears a lot of things up. Thank you for explaining. I agree with u/phoenixtycho, pointing it out just makes it seem like she is rubbing it in his face. Not that she is, men just can be fragile with their egos, and I learned this lesson myself...even if I don't mean it, our relationship changes drastically if my husband feels disrespected or feels like a failure. Organization is key. Even if you are far away, that is something you can help her with. Everyone does it differently, but for…	/r/RedPillWives	30/01/20 07:30 PM
6	Advice for how to help my sister I hope that this advice is not unwelcome or overstepping...I do think that homemakers need to support and encourage each other in such a difficult (but fulfilling)path. Besides her being overwhelmed, does she actually want what you want for her? You seem to have some disdain for their choices...saying they galavanted around for years instead of pursuing their careers, and then you said she forced him to turn into a suburban married couple. You dont seem to have any respect for him, and from what…	/r/RedPillWives	30/01/20 07:13 PM