Dealing with monotony

BloomingSloth · 2021-05-28T15:31:34+00:00

One thing I found to be helpful is doing one task today that tomorrow me will appreciate. When I frame it that way, it helps keep things manageable. I also am sure to acknowledge my task the next day like “wow I’m so glad I did that yesterday. That really helped today start off on a good note”. I found that verbalizing it, helped solidify the habit.

HappilyMrs · 2021-05-28T15:04:02+00:00

I know what you mean. Another morning, another cycle of the morning chores. Rinse and repeat. I usually dont have my morning coffee til it's done so at least I have something to look forward to.

I find this is worse if I'm feeling resentful of others not helping, or if my self-care is low.

Lightandlush · 2021-05-28T19:41:44+00:00

Im not saying this is the best strategy, but when I find myself bored with the monotony of home/cleaning, I take like a whole work week (m-f) and just spend a bunch of time doing fun out of the house things with my kids. Go to the park. Go to the beach. Go on a hike. To a local kids museum. Aquarium. Zoo. Friends house. Ice cream shop. Local pizzeria etc.

I do the bare minimum cleaning that week, and my husband helps pitch in as well. Im lucky that my husband really values me doing fun things with the kids, and recognizes that as important for them, and one of the big benefits of me being a SAHM.

Then over the weekend, my husband and I catch up on the house together, and the next week I feel prepared to tackle the house again :)

Also, I find listening to podcasts/watching stupid TV shows/ dancing to Taylor Swift to help me get in a cleaning zone too, haha.

Jenneapolis · 2021-05-28T17:33:52+00:00

I listen to podcasts when I do chores. It’s helps my mind wander

EvieFire · 2021-05-28T18:15:18+00:00

Life without a dishwasher is a neverending cycle of dishes best broken by getting a dishwasher or at least a drying rack cabinet.

Life with a dishwasher I think is just getting to where more and more of what you own fits well and is dishwasher-safe. We run our dishwasher every single night and unload it every single morning.

Have you read Atomic Habits? There's surprisingly a lot in there about cleaning routines.

ezer_kenegdo · 2021-05-28T16:07:37+00:00

Dishes are my bane of existence as well. Unfortunately it's my husband's least favorite chore so I tend to get that one even if he takes a chore.

For me, I can keep on top of it because it's just me and 2 under 2 when my husband works. No idea for when they are older.

Even if I let it build up during the day, it's actually fairly calming for me to clean the kitchen after the kids go to bed. It's quiet, relatively dark, and methodical. Listen to music or an audio book when you do it.

Out of all the chores, that one has to be done for me. Even if I pick up the family room the kids will just bust out the toys again in the morning, so being able to come downstairs in the morning to a clean kitchen for my morning coffee sets the tone for my day.

JoyfullMommy006 · 2021-05-28T22:07:55+00:00

Girl! You are not alone! Dishes are literally the worst! I go in ebbs and flows as far as being able to stay on top of it. I enjoy the clean kitchen so very much, sometimes that's what gets me up and working. Sometimes it's just knowing that I'm the only one that's actually going to do it any way so I may as well get to it. Sometimes I reward myself with an episode of a show or part of a movie or some kind of snack and that's enough to get me washing. I don't think I ever find joy in it - joy when it's done, joy when someone (especially hubby) says it looks nice - but never joy while the cleaning is happening. And after 17 years being Chief Housekeeper, I'm finally (mostly) okay with not finding joy in that part.

customerservicevoice · 2021-06-08T00:46:40+00:00

i tend to rinse dishes in hot water and set them to the side to be used later.

I always empty the dishwasher before starting to wash dishes.

i always clean all pots. i use a warning tray to heat plated food. this way I can enjoy dinner and not worry about the cleanup.

laundry room forced to organize, but i finally found a system. every this has a place so i can get through the chore half asleep.

if there’s a task I loathe, i try to find away to treat myself to enjoy it. for example, i used to hate cleaning windows until i discovered how to invert them. now cleaning is so easy and i’ve learned to appreciate the fact that I have beautiful, new high class windows. i used to never be able to keep wi does clean in the apartment because they didn’t open in.

I used to hate laundry. then i bought hauled an audible subscription and now I look forward to my books.

Vaeloth322 · 2021-05-28T15:13:10+00:00

I recommend getting rid of most of the dishes. Everyone gets 1 plate, bowl, silverware set. They are responsible for cleaning after use.

Also any cooking dishes should be washed immediately anyway

I'm a dude and I wouldn't imagine doing it any other way.

shinynorah · 2021-05-28T19:31:25+00:00

Podcasts and audiobooks, with a good comfortable set of wireless headphones, are a game-changer for cleaning.

Title	Dealing with monotony
Author	anothergoodbook
Upvotes	19
Comments	20
Date	May 28, 2021 2:44 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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