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i don't think you're gonna like this answer, but in my experience that "buying 100 roses" stuff is just fantasy. most girls actually feel pressured by that kind of behavior. most girls want a guy who is more interested in their life purpose (job, hobbies, whatever) than in them. most girls want a guy who is fun, light-hearted, and has to be dragged into commitment. i'm dating one of the coolest girls of my life, and i've learned a lot about women from her. she says that one of her nightmares is …
/r/seduction07/12/16 06:38 PM
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reposting this from below cause i think it might help you: i did my first sober, solo game a few weeks ago and it went really well. what i did was first start talking to guys at the bar. it ended up that the first guys i talked to were super cool, super outgoing, and were not local so they were happy to have friends. they invited me to their table and i hung out with them the whole night. from there it was as good as having gone out with my friends. i hung out with them in between sets and goofe…
/r/seduction06/12/16 02:33 PM
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nah i understand that. i've been thinking of doing that too. night game was easier for me to start with, since everyone is drunk, it's dark, less social pressure when approaching, etc. but i have done a bit of day game now and it feels more... authentic? it's also a lot easier to have subtle flirtations. i guess ultimately it's good to do both. btw, how do you get girls on instagram?
/r/seduction06/12/16 02:32 PM
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i did my first sober, solo game a few weeks ago and it went really well. what i did was first start talking to guys at the bar. it ended up that the first guys i talked to were super cool, super outgoing, and were not local so they were happy to have friends. they invited me to their table and i hung out with them the whole night. from there it was as good as having gone out with my friends. i hung out with them in between sets and goofed around and danced. the icing on the top was that their ja…
/r/seduction06/12/16 02:21 AM
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i went to a party tonight and i tried a new strategy: i gave myself a time limit of how long i could stay. i said "okay, i'll be here for four hours then I'll leave". That meant when I started feeling exhausted after only an hour of talking i was able to look at my clock and say "ok, only three more hours!" and give myself more energy. of course, by the time I had 45 minutes remaining, i was wishing I had more time. it was almost like my extrovert self made a bargain with my introvert self - "ok…
/r/seduction06/12/16 02:16 AM
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agreed. the purpose of this post was to find out what unique challenges us introverts have and how we overcome them.
/r/seduction06/12/16 02:11 AM
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nice. i really like this frame and it's one i'm trying to have more often. but have you found that you can still game as well from this frame, or do you game better when you are high energy and entertaining?
/r/seduction06/12/16 02:10 AM
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yah i get that. as long as it's something you are doing because YOU want to be doing it. also bear in mind that sometimes your "flaws" can be used to your advantage. i've seen RSD Madison talk about using vaguely racist comments to your advantage - like heightening racial stereotypes but bringing the girl into them in the process. for instance he is black and will say things to girls like "back in africa i could trade two goats for a pretty girl like you." but yah good luck on your journey of se…
/r/seduction27/11/16 12:04 PM
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good for you man! i'm not sure how i got by without it either haha. i have a few friends struggling with girls they like that also like them, but they don't know how to escalate properly, so they end up hanging out at the girl's house until 4am without anything happening. then they leave not understanding what went wrong. btw, are you still speaking different dialects? that seems like something you might want to get over, cause you should find a way to be yourself. remember, you're good enough a…
/r/seduction27/11/16 02:05 AM
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first off... it was definitely not a mistake to friend zone an attractive girl. clearly it's working out for you. just be a fun, outgoing guy at this party. express your personality without inhibitions and you'll find a few of the girls gravitating towards you. usually "be a cool, normal guy" is bad advice, but when it's a 3:1 ratio at a small party with friends, just be a cool, normal guy and you should have some success (as long as you know basic game - DHV, kino escalation, etc).
/r/seduction26/11/16 11:57 PM
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yah, all good points. i also think that putting too much effort into a conversation sometimes backfires. that actually when i slow down and don't worry about keeping the conversation flowing, more interesting topics arise naturally.
/r/seduction26/11/16 11:26 PM
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haha cool that's a good idea. i'm actually already a bit into meditation and i bet a meditation class would have similar types of girls (though more guys i'd think?). i'll give yoga a shot. yes, being an introvert is a definite struggle, which is why i'm trying to push myself to be more interested/conversational with people i might at first find "boring". meditation actually helps get me out of my head and into my body more, which makes conversation easier for some reason.
/r/seduction26/11/16 11:05 PM
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thanks man :). yah i'm thinking that a more "passive day game" is my next step - just approaching girls in my daily life that seem cute/interesting. i have a really busy work life (it's a job which i love) and am also an introvert who loves reading, movies, video games, etc, so i'm never short on things to do. with so little time, going to clubs is a bit boring if i do it two nights a week (not to mention tiring). so yah, maybe a venue/niche change is what i need!
/r/seduction26/11/16 10:53 PM
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yah, that's a good point. i say that though because learning game has opened me up SO MUCH, things i thought i wouldn't enjoy or could never do are things i now enjoy/do, so i want to continue to push myself into new, uncomfortable experiences. i do agree that i shouldn't try and like people i don't like, but i also want to keep pushing my conversational skills to allow me to connect with people i wouldn't normally. but yah, i think i don't need to take ALL the responsibility for a boring conver…
/r/seduction26/11/16 10:48 PM
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thanks. i do think i might need to re-evaluate what i want out of game (if anything at all). maybe a small break is what i need, as I was pushing myself really hard for six months and maybe burned out i dunno.
/r/seduction26/11/16 10:18 PM
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yah, that's a good point... asking myself why i do this. it started 6-8 months ago because i had a girl put me in the friend zone me and i felt really shattered and confused by it, but i've grown so much i'm almost wondering if i've gotten where i wanted/needed to get. i've also considered that i'm possibly done with clubs (at least temporarily) and should focus more on day game, just approaching interesting girls as i see them. the night game club stuff feels a bit shallow maybe? but yah it's a…
/r/seduction26/11/16 10:14 PM
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haha it's not exactly that, but i already have a super cool girl i'm sleeping with 2-3 times a week, so my nights where i play video games and do other introvert activities are precious to me. i LOVE meeting new girls, but a girl's personality is important to me, so meaningless sex is not as interesting anymore since the majority of girls i meet are just not that fun or interesting to talk to. BUT maybe this is my fault? I feel like maybe i'm not pushing myself to make things interesting by blam…
/r/seduction26/11/16 10:10 PM
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Interesting. I like the tension this creates. It also REQUIRES you to be assertive with your opening, because you can't just side step in and say "I'm (name)" and hope to get a reaction. I'll try this.
/r/seduction26/11/16 06:17 PM
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it's called something like "tyler's epic rant on his emotional journey". really highlights the good side of pick up. also madison has one called something like "game is life" about how learning game makes you better in all aspects of your life.
/r/seduction26/11/16 06:10 PM
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cool, nice to hear :)
/r/seduction26/11/16 06:07 PM
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no reason not to analyze it/get outside knowledge! game is all about objective analysis. :)
/r/seduction03/11/16 07:50 PM
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my understanding is that he recently broke up with a girl he'd been seeing for 2+ years. they broke up because he wasn't willing to be exclusive with her, so she got involved with another guy and decided to break it off with RSDTyler. as a result he's started to express interest in an exclusive, long term relationship, saying that maybe he's getting to an age where he's finally ready.
/r/seduction31/10/16 12:47 AM
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sure! also, for escalating with him, don't think of it as initiating a kiss. work up slowly to it. when he says something funny, give him a flirty push. when he sits down, make sure you're sitting just a little closer than you would with a friend. by the time you kiss, the vibe should have been physical and romantic for a while.
/r/seduction30/10/16 04:20 PM
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ah i just saw your post below about not wanting sex outside of a committed relationship. i get that, but there's a lot of seduction that leads up to sex that you can use without having sex (kissing, cuddling, holding hands, hugging, etc). while i do think men and women have drastically different issues from a seduction perspective, i think a key for both genders is to make it fun. if you start getting too much in your own head, getting too serious, clingy, desperate, it's gonna kill the vibe. Ha…
/r/seduction30/10/16 03:16 PM
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i think you should try and sleep with him. i could totally see a scenario where he likes you but is shy, and has another girl that is openly into him, and because he's a bit insecure he's afraid to push things with you. as a guy, if you've known a girl for a long time, it's actually quite hard to get the confidence to make the transition into something romantic, as there's more risk for embarrassment and losing a friend. having a conversation about being exclusive right now seems a bit weird. in…
/r/seduction30/10/16 03:10 PM
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hard to say without knowing your exact situation, but it's very likely that she actually likes you and is using your friend to see if you're into her. so, are you into this girl?
/r/seduction30/10/16 02:13 PM
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i meet a lot of pretty girls so for me it comes down to a girl's personality when i'm choosing which one to hang out with. i often find i'll start talking to a really hot girl, then spend the night with the less attractive, but much cooler friend. deep, interesting girls are much rarer than hot girls, so if you're already physically attractive to a guy, focus on finding common interests and being interesting and challenging. a strong man likes being challenged by strong women. as for "destroying…
/r/seduction30/10/16 02:07 PM
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lol dude 25 is nowhere near too old. if you are going places and feeling too old, you're going to the wrong places, places where only teenagers hang out, or more likely you are just in your own head. there are tons of places with 20-30 year old girls, which makes you the "normal" age for at least 10 more years.
/r/seduction30/10/16 01:56 PM
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i think that moving onto a new set immediately after a set is something i should definitely work on.
/r/seduction09/10/16 08:45 PM
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my main goal is getting better at game and getting more socially outgoing. Getting sex is a secondary goal, but of course something I want. Mostly though I am trying to have fun and get out of my head and party (while not drinking, which is new for me).
/r/seduction09/10/16 08:44 PM
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that makes sense. i'm a pretty good conversationalist actually, so my sets tend to last for a while, which is why doing like 16 a night is tough. also i often bounce back to a group i was having fun with earlier, so i might have multiple "sets" with one set. i'm definitely having fun out there and making good connections with people, so I guess I'll just keep at it.
/r/seduction09/10/16 08:43 PM
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interesting yah. that's why i think i have avoided doing too much scanning/approaching.
/r/seduction09/10/16 08:41 PM
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you should check out the book "the game" or watch videos by RSDTyler on YouTube. you'll learn a lot of the basic game terms like these.
/r/seduction09/10/16 08:39 PM
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i'd say yah, go with the flow and keep it fun and light. but also be honest with her if she starts to talk about relationships and just tell her that you want to keep it casual for now. but before she brings it up I wouldn't get too worried about hurting her.
/r/seduction09/10/16 08:37 PM
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It is a numbers game, but real life is nowhere near as extreme as Tinder. Most girls aren't going to like you, just like you won't like most girls, but many will. That's why it's important to be out and meeting lots of people. For me a big part of my growth has been just getting in the habit of going out 1-3 times a week. If you're being social in a few weeks you'll talk to several dozen girls and at least a few will be into you if your game is good.
/r/seduction08/10/16 11:43 AM
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i'm confused about what you want out of this. you want to sleep with her but don't want to date her? i wouldn't worry so much about her getting too involved in a relationship with you if you aren't even sleeping together yet. it actually seems like both of you are being a bit confusing towards each other. i'm guessing it's because, as you say, you are new at this, so you aren't even sure what you want. so yah, step one, figure out what you want. then just take it slow and keep it light and fun. …
/r/seduction08/10/16 11:38 AM
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just saw this comment. what do you mean by "always get the callback"?
/r/seduction13/08/16 12:19 PM
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nice :)
/r/seduction31/07/16 06:38 PM
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i dont know, this seems a bit beta male. i feel like a girl would more want to know that out of all the girls you are seeing she won you over because she is the best. and the part about "taking care of her" feels like being what RSD Tyler calls "the provider male" instead of being "the lover". maybe though as you transition into relationship this is more the approach to take? thoughts?
/r/seduction30/07/16 10:28 AM
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This is great. according to this he says you just need to keep hooking up, having fun dates, and she'll start getting more attached. He says it takes about 2 months for her to "fall in love". So far we've been hooking up about 1 month, so I guess I should keep cool and keep hanging out? Also i like how he says that 99% of the time when you make a decision out of fear it doesn't bring about the outcome you want. I have found that to be completely true.
/r/seduction30/07/16 09:59 AM
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That's great! Anything else along those lines?
/r/seduction03/06/16 02:38 PM
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interesting idea...
/r/seduction03/06/16 06:42 AM
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Good for you, man. I did the same thing two months ago, and no joke, in that short amount of time I am a new person. I am more confident, I am more social. I have gone out twice to do cold approach day game, which is something I literally thought I'd never have the balls to do. I still have so far to go, but I'm also so far from where I started. I'm happy and excited for you. I strongly recommend 'The Game' by Neil Strauss. It is a great introduction to the world. After that maybe 'The Mystery M…
/r/seduction02/06/16 10:51 PM
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:)
/r/seduction01/06/16 09:13 AM
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yah i ended up deciding just to be nice and relieve the tension. i said something like "well actually before you showed up i was having a good cry myself" which made her laugh.
/r/seduction31/05/16 02:57 PM
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haha i wasn't meaning to seem cold or autistic. it was just a weird experience and i wasn't sure how to handle it.
/r/seduction31/05/16 02:54 PM
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like i said, i wasn't looking to get laid after she started crying. the whole point of this post was trying to figure out why she started crying and came up to me. she had closer friends at this party but seemed to want to talk to me. i was confused is all.
/r/seduction31/05/16 02:52 PM
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dude, yes. really great post.
/r/seduction31/05/16 10:02 AM
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do a personal inventory and figure out what you are good at. then appreciate those things about yourself. if you are funny, give yourself credit for being funny. if you are artistic, respect yourself for being artistic. it sounds like currently your low self esteem is getting in the way of you accurately analyzing yourself. i think it's okay to say "i'm not as attractive as i'd like or "i'm not smart as smart as i'd like" or whatever, but don't obsess on it and don't forget to focus on your stre…
/r/seduction20/05/16 10:55 PM
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I like the waving her over thing. I'll have to try that. It shows a different and very interesting type of confidence. Wondering though if it wasn't intimidating for her coming into a group of people she didn't know?
/r/seduction20/05/16 10:40 PM
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I understand the feeling, man. But I think some of your problem might be having assumptions about the lives of others and irrational expectations about your own life. You say you've traveled many places and done many adventurous activities, yet you don't know how to create an awesome life. Sounds like you are doing awesome things but not feeling awesome on the inside. You're putting pressure on yourself to "be happy" or "be cool" or "be confident" or whatever. Have you stopped to consider that m…
/r/seduction19/05/16 12:14 AM
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Yah, I'm thinking a bit more shit tests might be in store, and that should be careful to not show her too much attention (since her male friends probably do a lot of that and I need to remain different than them).
/r/seduction12/05/16 03:30 PM
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Not sure if anyone will see this, because the thread is already on the second page, but I want to say thank you to everyone that gave feedback/support. I felt really low yesterday, but a combination of these discussions, seeing friends, and making resolutions about ways in which I want to change my self and life, I feel incredibly hopeful and excited today. The heartbreak, of course, isn't gone, but I've decided to embrace it and grow from it. So yah, thanks everyone.
/r/seduction08/05/16 08:13 AM
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From what I've read, many PUAs don't drink while in the field. Mystery encourages sargers not to drink so they don't have their faculties clouded by alcohol (and probably also because so they can overcome social anxieties while sober in order to really grow as a person and PUA)
/r/seduction07/05/16 10:37 PM
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I do agree with this, but I should clarify that this infatuation/attachment almost never happens to me, which is what makes it so painful. I believe it's the second time I've felt this in my ten years of dating girls. 99% of the time with girls I date or sleep with I am almost instantly not interested in them because we don't have, from my perspective, a good intellectual/friendship connection. However, the two girls with which I've had this very quickly put me into the friendzone. That's what's…
/r/seduction07/05/16 10:33 PM
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Awesome and helpful response. You're right about so much of that. I've already started reading "No More Mr Nice Guy" and there's so much truth for me in there. He speaks of paradigms by which we live, and I think I'm realizing that my paradigm for a romantic relationship might be a big part of the problem. I hide a lot of myself, and I think that the romantic side is something I don't, and have never, felt comfortable expressing. I have never even felt comfortable telling my parents when I was d…
/r/seduction07/05/16 05:38 PM
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Glad to hear this has been helpful. I'd be curious to hear what your situation was like and how everything went down. It's nice to hear others' stories to feel like you're not the only one it's happening to. It's weird that right after this happened I felt the immediate urge to post on this site, not speak with a real life friend, because I knew what their advice would be: "Ah that sucks. You're awesome, though. It's her loss." I knew this community would instead respond "get your shit together …
/r/seduction07/05/16 05:24 PM
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I appreciate the honest talk, but in my post I literally said "this is not a post of self-pity. Fuck that. I am writing this because it's time to make a change. I am going to embrace the methods of the seduction community and transform myself." The point was that I've decided to use this heartbreak as an incentive to change my ways.
/r/seduction07/05/16 12:58 PM
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i DEFINITELY need help with this. even if it isn't affecting the girl's perception of me, it puts ME through hell, which is enough reason to get it under control.
/r/seduction07/05/16 04:59 AM
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I needed to hear that. Thank you :)
/r/seduction07/05/16 04:37 AM
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As to why it happened, her words were that it "didn't feel like fate" even though we "connected very deeply on a friendship level". I asked her if she had ever felt that "fate" feeling of romance with someone (as I suspected she was resistant to relationships in general) and she said that yes, she'd felt it before she met me, and also with other people since she met me. That hurt the most, knowing she had met others who gave her that magic feeling, while I hadn't been able to. And all that while…
/r/seduction07/05/16 04:36 AM
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ok, i'll buy them both tomorrow. what about my story made you think of those books? i'll plead ignorance here on not knowing what "inner game" actually means.
/r/seduction07/05/16 04:27 AM
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All very good advice, thanks. Though the feeling I have now is like I have been hit by a truck full of bad emotions, it's actually better than it has been the past ten days or so, when I knew that something weird was going on, but couldn't tell exactly what. i prefer the finality of my current situation to the confusion of the previous ten days. And yes, you're right about needing to grieve a bit before making a quick turnaround.
/r/seduction07/05/16 04:24 AM
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i will check out both of those, thanks. and you are totally right about feeling too needy with this one. the frustrating thing is that with 99% of girls I am not this way. It's only when I really like a girl that this comes out, which has only happened twice before... :-/
/r/seduction07/05/16 04:20 AM
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yes, i feel it like an ache in my chest. i also feel it in the connection we had at a friendship level. i am physically attracted to many girls, but to very few at the level of deep friendship. i am wondering if that is part of my problem - that the girls i actually like are ones that I find really compelling as friends, and so I overdo the friendship aspect of the relationship and underplay the emotional/romantic element. which sucks though because personality is the #1 thing which attracts me …
/r/seduction07/05/16 04:19 AM
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care to elaborate? because at this point i have no idea what my problem is.
/r/seduction07/05/16 03:02 AM
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