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I quickly skimmed the 7 reasons and I have done almost all of these, but Im ok with eye contact if Im talking directly to the woman. That said, its all true that it turns women off. Im 23, never been in a relationship and still a vrigin and got walked all over and treated like crap by the girls I went on dates with. Ill be 24 very soon too. For all the guys out there reading this, avoid doing all these things if you want to be better than me. Please dont be a loser like me, dont get walked all o…
/r/seduction08/11/18 02:35 AM
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Thanks.
/r/seduction15/10/18 03:26 AM
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I put my foot down with the girl I went on 5 dates with, I told her I wasn't looking for a friend because it seemed that is what she wanted and now I could easily walk away from that girl or like the others I've met who have treated me similarly. I can see it wasn't a good thing but everything she did makes it difficult to really see myself as a good person or the victim. At the end of it all when I left her games she texted me saying it was all my fault and sent this long message but never gave…
/r/seduction15/10/18 03:26 AM
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Idk how to ask them now. I tried and they just didnt want to answer. What did you change? I know it takes work but Im done. Guys younger than me have already fulfilled that part of their lives. They have experiences I never got with college girls and I can never get them. All those experiences are in the past, it cant be changed, Im not in college anymore. Whenever guys talk about their past i cant say anything. And I mean relationship and sex wise. I want to get better but I dont want to get be…
/r/seduction14/10/18 08:36 PM
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Im sure in relationships your SO isnt yelling at you whenever a guy walks by you? Im sure he wouldnt try to hide the fact that you guys are dating? Or tells you randomly that the close friend of his is not someone he has feelings for? Or leaves you over texts randomly after he just saw you and then came back to you a few days later without wanting to explain why multiple times? Or flirts with you after he already ended things with you? Or gets pissed off at you when you stop giving him attention…
/r/seduction14/10/18 08:15 PM
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Thanks
/r/seduction14/10/18 06:00 PM
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She was the last girl to do that and that was like 2 years ago. I got three dates a few months ago. Two were only first dates, and the third was 5 dates but she said we had not chemistry but didnt want to end it and saud she wanted to see me again and then ghosted me. Havent heard from her in over a month. Youre right its my fsult, its all my fault. If this is who I am then why try again? Some other woman would do it again and im back to square one. I went through almost 24 years and Ive been si…
/r/seduction14/10/18 05:00 PM
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I dont think she was supposed to like me, its all the going back and forth with me and treating me like shit that messed me up. There was so much more to it than she didnt like me. These accomplishments dont make me happy or make life worth living. Id rather live under a bridge in a box if it meant one girl would have wanted me. I would have given that degree, job, everything if it meant that could have happened. Im not going to be 70 looking back at 23 and saying "Yes this career made me feel s…
/r/seduction14/10/18 04:48 PM
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After what ive been through how do I get over being emasculated like that by a friend? Being walked over by many girls? Im fine with rejection but its the ones that trated me like shit and made me their back up guy that make it difficult. One girl does it then maybe shes just weird but many means Im percieved a certain way. What woman would be good enough now anyways? I never got to be in college wuth her or go through lifes biggest moments with her, that will never change I cant go back and do …
/r/seduction14/10/18 04:03 PM
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She wasnt the only girl to treat me badly, others have as well. I have not been able to find a single girl that has wanted me that I found as attractive since her. The girl I dated right before her was the girl next door type and she was the only girl to really make me feel like she was happy to talk and see me. She even asked me out for our second date, I could really feel something there like she wasnt hard to read. I had such a huge feeling to kiss her, never had that befote ever but in the e…
/r/seduction14/10/18 03:50 PM
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The key part is having sex the first time. Everyone who has had it might not care because they have had it. Ive been treated like crap by the girls Ive dated and walked all over as well. Im a 23 year old always been single virgin. Hard to not care or feel confident after that. I even had to watch a guy who was better than me and someone i considered a friend get into a relationship with a girl I dated and cared about. All I will remember is how at 21 he got to be with and most likely have sex wi…
/r/seduction14/10/18 02:49 PM
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Its easier said than done. I know no one gives a fuck about me, I dont give a fuck about me. Ill try to do what I can for myself but I honestly dont think there is anymore time, everything I wanted cant happen anymore. Even if I turned 40 and some 21 year old virgin wanted me Id be disgusted by it and feel even more resentment because Im not her age and I didnt even get to be with her or anyone else at that age. No one and no experience will ever be enough at this point. Anyways, Ill do what I c…
/r/seduction23/09/18 01:15 AM
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Thanks, I just want to go monk mode forever. I don't think a relationship or sex is worth what I've had to go through and miss out on already. I don't want to have to get over a girls past, pretend like it was worth going through all that crap and loneliness to get to her, or that I'll even matter to her. I can't even see a girl actually caring about me because of the way I've been treated, it will always just feel like lies and fake to me. I'll keep doing those things but I'm not sure how to ge…
/r/seduction23/09/18 12:09 AM
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Because shes attractive, I trusted them both and they lied to me, I cared about her and she treated me like crap, I feel inferior to him and a joke to her, I havent been able to get that kind of relationship and experience and its what Ive always wanted, and I feel resentment that they have that after what they did to me and Im still nowhere.
/r/seduction22/09/18 01:37 PM
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How do I get over what happened to me?
/r/seduction22/09/18 11:50 AM
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Im not sure what else to do.
/r/seduction22/09/18 11:50 AM
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At least you have had sex so clearly women are into you. I guess you just need to try and date rather than focus on having sex.
/r/seduction19/09/18 09:26 PM
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23 year old guy that has gone out on dates with a few girls, kissed a few of them but awkwardly as well, got walked all over by them though but other than that I'm pretty much OP. I'm also looking for advice, I want a relationship but I also fear I'll miss out on sleeping with a few girls and I don't want to be inexperienced while the girl I end up with has had a fulfilling life, if I find someone that is. I feel so behind that I missed out on relationships and sex. I wish I was with someone in …
/r/seduction19/09/18 01:49 PM
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As a 23 year old guy who cant attract anyone, despite doing all those things that this subreddit mentions, work out, dress well, etc. And having some looks, apparently redditors think Im a 7-7.5, I dont know what to do anymore. I mean no offense to older guys, you guys are doing way better than me in every aspect of your life, but I just feel so worthless. Like I clearly dont know how women, dating, relationships, or sex works. I feel like Im so incompetent while everyone else gets all of this.
/r/seduction18/09/18 10:28 PM
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Alright I get what you mean now. I just don't want to date 20 year olds when I'm 40. I want to meet someone close to my age now and stay with them.
/r/seduction21/08/18 03:38 PM
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Why did you change your mind about it?
/r/seduction21/08/18 03:15 AM
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Lol I wish, based on my experiences you would walk away, treat me like crap, or barely give me the dame attention. I just dont get treated the way women treat other guys, ever. I might sound great here but after a couple of dates something always happens. I like her but honestly Im not feeling much excitement or anything really going anywhere. There is just so much time in between dates and so little communication that it doesnt even feel like she is interested or that we are dating. On dates sh…
/r/seduction19/08/18 09:42 PM
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I dont get it though, so many girls my age date guys who dont have much going for them. I get praised for being mature and caring and all that by girls Im friends with but I never see them with a guy like me. I dont want to be with them, but what Im saying is I dont have what those guys have and those girls arent all going for older men. Regardless, you are saying I need to be older so are you saying I should just give up and try to meet someone when Im 40 instead? I have no experience relations…
/r/seduction19/08/18 09:33 PM
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I understand, while I do want to do things I enjoy, I find it hard to find women to meet. Like I feel like Im working on all these things about myself only to not meet anyone. I see others click easily, get into relationships, have sex, etc. and Im still not getting anywhere. While hobbies are good to have and I need to work on myself, I dont see a point if all I will ever be is alone and single. I dont want to pretend to be content alone and fill my time aimlessly with work and hobbies, I want …
/r/seduction19/08/18 09:28 PM
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As a 23 year old guy, what do I need to do to get attention from someone my age? Like I have gone on dates before, currently I have reached a 4th date with a girl I like but she isnt putting much effort outside the dates so Im nit sure how much longer we will last. Overall I think I got stuff going for me, Im not buff but I am fit, dress in a style I like and people seem to like as well, attractive based on comments I get, I have a good career lined up to start in a few months, college graduate,…
/r/seduction19/08/18 01:17 PM
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I'm 23 and never had a relationship or sex. Thought I had something finally going recently but it seems like I got ghosted or she lost interest. Anyways, Im really considering giving up on it too. I never got to have fun like everyone else with college women in college. I got lead on, made the back up guy, other guys got picked over me, a guy I thought was my friend got with the girl I was seeing who was like the girl of my dreams, and their relationship is everything I always wanted. I can neve…
/r/seduction08/08/18 07:32 PM
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Is that ok to do? I always thought that could be weird to ask or it would make you seem like you are not confident. I just had a second date with a girl and completely messed up by not kissing her. While I'm supposed to see her again and I will go for the kiss, I'm worried about how good I am. I have only kissed a few girls, its been almost two years since my last kiss and I had mixed results. One girl "dumped" me, or whatever you call it, after the second date because I was bad at making out th…
/r/seduction06/08/18 08:40 PM
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That first one made me laugh, that is such a weird reaction. I don't think you should feel bad about that because its so uncalled for and random. Like I'd imagine that in a sitcom where the main character tries to be nice to a person on the street and gets yelled at for no reason. After reading the rest I don't think these are that bad but more that there are girls who are really out there. Maybe they had bad experiences with guys wanting to talk to them so they act crazy to get you away from th…
/r/seduction01/08/18 03:14 AM
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I do have friends who are girls but they havent really helped me meet anyone really.
/r/seduction30/07/18 07:44 PM
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Im pretty sure not everyone hooks up with the person they get into a relationship right away and specifically at the guys place. That sounds so crazy honestly. Basically you are saying I need to find my own place, hook up at my place only until one girl wants to be with me and thats how I get a relationship. I dont really understand why Im boring for not wanting to drink or go out to those places. There are other things to do in the world. Maybe it works for you and thats great but your basicall…
/r/seduction30/07/18 03:09 AM
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I started at community college and then was at a small off campus site when I transferred to a university so I didnt have options. I tried when I could but it was rare since I had to go to the main campus to be around more girls. Plus the girls I did meet all throughout college treated me like crap because of my accommodating, people pleasing, anxious, and low self esteem personality. No one really gave me a real chance after a date or two, I was just the guy they used for attention. I dont like…
/r/seduction30/07/18 03:02 AM
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I have drank before, I dont care for it. Its also hard to find someone else to be the DD so I avoid drinking so I dont need to worry about getting a ride home, I can drive myself if I am sober. Plus everything is out the way, the university I went to is about 20~25 minutes away so an uber would be expensive to maybe get a date. Im not looking to hook up either, Im looking to date and get a relationship. I dont even have my own place or even room at the moment to hook up.
/r/seduction30/07/18 02:44 AM
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I dont like drinking, bars or clubs.
/r/seduction30/07/18 02:30 AM
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It makes me feel hopeless that at 23 I can't even get past a second date but guys younger than me have lived more fulfilling lives already than I ever will. At least you are living a good life man, you figured out how to be good enough for women where I can only ever dream of that.
/r/seduction27/07/18 11:51 PM
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As a guy now out of college, spending his days working on a certification, working part time, and most of my friends are busy when I'm free, how can I meet anyone? I'm not really someone who likes to drink or party or go to clubs but I'm starting to think I need to change to meet anyone. Dating apps lead to some matches but mostly flaky women, it at least seems the kinds of girls I am interested in find me attractive so that helped. But I'm not sure what I can really do if drinking and most othe…
/r/seduction21/07/18 10:00 PM
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Where did you find dancing classes?
/r/seduction15/07/18 02:54 PM
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I will try to look into it then, thanks. Yea it seems to be helping. When I think about approaching women, I think about public places, like the grocery store, mall, street, coffee shop, bookstore etc. But I've heard thats wrong and I shouldnt do that. Theres a lot of reason why I don't want to date anymore, a woman having any kind of experience is one of them. I will always be less experienced than other women and I hate that, I want to at least be on the same level so I don't feel below her. I…
/r/seduction07/07/18 03:09 AM
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Is there a certain way to meditate because all I know is sitting, closing my eyes, and trying to relax with no distractions. Yea I will try that when I get the chance and life isn't as hectic. The book is more about how men should behave when meeting women, like avoiding being needy, be vulnerable, let women know you are interested rather than pretend you aren't, walk away from people who don't respect you, etc. It has a different but very true view on dating and this subreddit is very similar t…
/r/seduction04/07/18 08:48 PM
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I guess I'm working on it and have improved a little to get there but its a long way off still it seems. It sounds like I am that kind of person, what else could I do to help calm myself then? That is something I could try to do, I need to look into going to an actual meetup. Oh ok, well its highly recommended on this subreddit so I'm going with it and it is useful from what I've read so far. Its more like after what I've been through with women and how I'm now out of college where meeting someo…
/r/seduction04/07/18 12:37 AM
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Everyone is telling me that, people on reddit and my friends but I've never been in a relationship or have been able to get a date in over a year. It all makes me feel like I'm just really weird and off putting, even if that isnt the intention. I just want to be cared about by someone, to be able to have intimate moments with a woman, be able to have someone to hang out with whenever, have someone I know is around that isn't just a friend, etc. But at this point I don't really know how to feel a…
/r/seduction01/07/18 05:24 AM
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Everyone is telling me I need to be happy alone, so what it means to me is that I need to shutup about being single and wanting a girlfriend and stop whining about how I cant get a date. That wasnt anger or anything towards you, just saying how it all comes off to me. I dont know how to be happy either way though. Im just not really sure how to do any of this. I just feel like I need to accept being alone, be happy somehow that way, and after that I want to just stay alone. It seems like it will…
/r/seduction30/06/18 07:36 PM
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I understand what this means but I'm not exactly sure how to do it. I've been working on myself, trying to build up my confidence and stop being a push over people pleaser because this has been my downfall each time I met a girl. I'm working on building myself up with positive thoughts, I go to the gym, I go to counseling, and I pretty much have the college degree, good job lined up, many friends that are both guys and girls, dress decently, I like my style and others seem to too, and I have the…
/r/seduction26/06/18 02:13 AM
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Im 23, Im about to graduate from college, I have never been in a relationship or had sex. I have been on a couple of first and second dates and kissed a few girls but thats it. I hate myself and my life because of I was never good enough for those girls and they chose other guys that they did want to be in relationships and have sex with. Even a guy I thought was my friend is now with the last girl I dated and he got everything from her, while she treated me like shit when we were seeing each ot…
/r/seduction13/04/18 12:28 AM
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You dont have to be sorry, you sound like you have a lot of positivity in your life and you are going somewhere. I hope you overcome your depression and self esteem issues, you are doing really well for yourself. Today my therapist suggested I think differently when those thoughts hit as well and gave me exercises for it but I cant. I just truly hate myself and my life. I want to swear off women for good, I dont want to be a problem to another girl again, I dont want to be someones joke, I dont …
/r/seduction24/01/18 09:56 PM
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I just want to accept that Im not good enough for any girl. I cant do this anymore, Ive missed out on so much, the girls I wanted never gave a fuck about me, Ill never be the man they wanted and I just want to leave it at that. I hate the night life and drinking, its not for me. I appreciate the advice but I cant put myself out there again, I just want to live my life alone now, its better for everyone that way.
/r/seduction22/01/18 05:09 AM
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No, I'm just saying that is my type. I would have slept with a girl I found attractive even if she didn't look like that or have a nerdy personality. I just don't think I am good enough, I don't even have my own place or my own room. I live with my parents in an apartment 30 minutes away from my school and I'll be graduating in a few months. I just think I am horrible over all, I have cold approached before and it didn't work. I keep getting rejected and lead on and I can't get over the last gir…
/r/seduction20/01/18 11:48 PM
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Yea I know, I have had friends who are girls tell me they wanted to set me up with a friend of theirs but then it ALWAYS falls through. I know it has something to do with me but I'm not sure what. I usually just wait a week after they tell me themselves they want to set me up to ask if there is an update and something just happens. I'm not sure its all just very weird, not to mention my own failures with dating overall. I'm not interested in having sex with girls I'm not attracted to. I don't th…
/r/seduction20/01/18 02:12 AM
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I don't know what that means, I just know I am not manly like other guys or what girls want. I don't even know how to handle seeing the last girl I dated with the guy I trusted. I get anxious and nervous seeing them together. I mentioned it in my post, it was with that last girl back in November of 2016.
/r/seduction20/01/18 12:20 AM
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I have listened to the audio book and it did resonate to me but I don't remember it talking about how to improve. I guess being beta is one of my problems but improving that part of myself wont change my past, I'll always still be less than all those other guys girls want. I am not sure if I should read Models, it sounds like a book for dating and at this point I feel like I shouldn't be dating at all anymore. I'm not sure how its supposed to help me be better since I will always keep getting re…
/r/seduction20/01/18 12:18 AM
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I mean even if I toughen up its too late, I failed with the last girl and every girl before her, I haven't been able to get a date since the last girl either. There has always been a guy that came after me when I stopped being those girls doormat for attention and those guys got everything I was trying to create with the girls. I will always remember how I failed because I wasn't man enough for them and maybe there were more areas I fucked up on. I cant even get over this last girl and I'm stuck…
/r/seduction20/01/18 12:12 AM
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I do work out and I'm gaining weight since I am skinny, but it doesn't really make me feel anything. I do it cause I like it and I'm seeing improvements but its not life changing to me or anything to me. I still feel like shit, people say I'm attractive or whatever but I don't believe it. Being in shape or at a good weight hasn't gotten me a date so I don't really care about whatever people think of my looks but I am improving them.
/r/seduction20/01/18 12:06 AM
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Ive posted on here before and got a 7-8 on looks and many people have told me I am attractive, I'm not sure how to rate style but I have been told I have a good style, money I try to be smart with it and don't spend much but definitely dont have a lot, I am going to graduate college debt free and have a good paying job lined up for after graduation so I could easily move out when I start working there. Not sure about status but I have a lot of friends and people I know, at school a lot of people…
/r/seduction19/01/18 11:54 PM
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Im a 23 year old guy in your exact situation, thinking the same exact ways, it sucks and I have way less of a chance than you do.
/r/seduction18/01/18 02:50 PM
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Im not friends with them anymore, I stopped talking to them months ago because the girl kept playing games and leading me on, her friend kept joking about how I was seeing other girls to create drama even though that was way after me and her friend stopped dating, there was also drama between me and her friend, and the guy stuck with them so I kept to myself. The guy has said hi to me this semester but the last time I saw him he was really jumpy and ignored me and now I found out that they are d…
/r/seduction29/10/17 08:49 PM
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I just feel like I overthink so I overlook what they do because I dont want to assume they are like every girl before them but they always are. But I guess Im just a magnet for that kind of treatment. These are usually friends who are girls but they throw in how attractive I am and all that so sometimes I dont think they worry about me taking it the wrong way. Regardless it is nothing in my mind since its useless to me. Ive tried online dating, Im doing it now and its not working. I barely get m…
/r/seduction29/10/17 06:19 PM
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Youre right im a people pleaser, I am too nice, but I dont think I deserve a relationship or sex for it. Its the disrespect I get that gets me. I put my feelings out there and get lead on, manipulated, lied to, etc instead of getting a "Not interested". I tried so hard to make it work with the last girl and it didnt work. She would always get insanely jealous of any girl that spoke to me, would leave me over text and come back with no explanation, kept things from me, among other things. She was…
/r/seduction29/10/17 02:52 PM
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This is good advice for people but Im not even sure how to start. Im going to therapy, I try to work out 3 times a week and gain weight, I have plenty of friends, I have a job lined up for when I graduate. But Im stuck thinking about how Im a virgin, never have been in a relationship, always get lead on and never make it past a second date. I think about all those girls that I failed with and then got with another guy right after, I think about the last girl I dated a year ago, how she screwed m…
/r/seduction29/10/17 02:01 PM
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I get what you're saying. Yea I find it very hard to just wait until after I graduate. I will try to find an even ground. I know its not healthy, its just what comes to my mind because it hasn't worked out with any girl so far and since I get lead on a lot it feels like that is the best I can get. Also, a girl told me once that being the kind of guy I am isn't really attractive for girls in their 20s but it is for older women and that is probably when I will have a chance. I just find it hard no…
/r/seduction11/08/17 04:04 AM
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I get what you mean, I tried being open and honest about what I wanted and I tried talking things out with her but she would barely tell me anything. Getting her to open about herself, even on the first date, was impossible. She kept saying she was unstable, that if I found out about her past Id see her in a bad way. No matter what I did, she kept pushing herself away. We only dated for a month and never became official, she wanted to keep us a secret to avoid issues at least until we became off…
/r/seduction10/08/17 04:01 AM
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I have been to counseling and it hasnt really helped. I was told that it wasnt me and she sounded like someone who was just trying to have her cake and eat it too but I cant accept that. Even my friends think that way, some even know her and believe she is the one who caused it because of the way she treated them, but I still cant see it that way for some reason. I have gotten lead on so many times that it just makes me feel like I could have prevented this if I was some other guy who was just b…
/r/seduction09/08/17 04:45 AM
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One time I had a girl say she wanted to try it out and apologized so much for being busy but then failed at trying to make it work every time. She even made date plans to convince me she was serious but cancelled two days later because she wanted to work, which she had just told me she didnt need the money really and she just took the shift because she wanted to. She got into a relationship shortly after that but tried to keep my attention as well so I blocked her and moved on. Its just difficul…
/r/seduction08/08/17 07:53 PM
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I just dont know when they are being sincere about not having time or whatever so I give them more chances since I dont want to assume all girls are the same and I get lead on every time. I cant even find one girl to talk to, Im not sure how to find more to keep me from sticking to one while Im in the "Not in a relationship yet but seeing each other stage. I will work on finishing it then. As for cutting the past out, idk how. I keep going back into thinking about the last girl I was seeing almo…
/r/seduction08/08/17 05:19 AM
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Yea I will work on that.
/r/seduction04/08/17 05:49 PM
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How should I practice taking risks? With the last girl I dated, we talked about what we were doing and I made it clear where things were going but she kept ending it and coming back to me. When I tried to talk to her to try and understand and prevent it from happening, she just avoided the conversation and then she started avoiding me. It came out of nowhere since she ended it the first time right after I left to my car and when she came back to me herself, it was just doomed from there but I di…
/r/seduction04/08/17 05:48 PM
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I get nervous because I don't know what is ok to do and isn't. I will see a girl I want to talk to but then think about the times I've seen on here that you shouldn't say excuse me to get her attention, approach her from the side, don't think about what to say, etc. and that messes me up. Then I think about how I should act and I come off awkwardly to those girls I'm interested in or I at least feel very stiff compared to other people I talk to. I have had an almost relationship and I have dated…
/r/seduction01/08/17 02:12 AM
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I will give it a read.
/r/seduction01/08/17 02:07 AM
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I have tried not to think of each girl as the same so I give them more chances and every single time they end up stringing me along. This is why I have been lead to look really stupid multiple times and I think that says a lot about me at this point. I am still getting over a girl that I dated for a month last year and strung me along for months after and then proceeded to treat me like shit after I moved on, I feel like I will never find someone like her again and that keeps me up at night. I k…
/r/seduction01/08/17 02:07 AM
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Youre right about the first part because im not sure if Im coming off wrong, weird, or too strong and I second guess myself around the women im interested in. For the second part, I dont expect them to want me for being nice, Id prefer them to be straightforward if they arent interested but thats it. I know nice =/= getting laid.
/r/seduction01/08/17 12:17 AM
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I think youre right, I understand being desperate is bad and Im really hoping the nice aspect comes off as sincerely nice and not "nice guy" nice. How do I fix that? I dont mind rejection, I just never really get a straightforward rejection. I also feel like crap after asking a girl out and I figure out they arent interested because it feels like I annoyed them. I just dont know what to do and I at least want to stop projecting my desperateness even if it doesnt change anything else.
/r/seduction31/07/17 11:46 PM
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Looking at these replies it makes me wonder how bad I am. Im about to turn 23 and have been lead on many times by women who just wanted my attention whdn I wanted to date them so I have low self esteem and havent gotten past making out. Ive asked my friends, a few girls I dated, counselor, and people who dont know me that well, where I fail and could improve on and yet I am always just told my positives. I am very nice, a gentleman, have good looks, etc. Yet the only thing I ever got was that Im…
/r/seduction31/07/17 11:22 PM
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How do you exemplify non-neediness? I always end up going out of my way for the girls I want and I find it hard to be myself when Im around them. Im not sure how to stop it and I think thats one of the things holding me back.
/r/seduction08/07/17 04:29 PM
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Yea I'm trying to do that. I asked a friend whos a girl, if she had any single friends but no luck. Another guy I met invited me to go out with him to some clubs but I ended up going out with a different friend that night. Turns out I picked the better option but I'm working on expanding my circle of friends. I'm considering talking to a girl in one of my classes but I just need to get the chance to see her outside of class. She usually comes in last minute and there are barely any seats so sitt…
/r/seduction19/02/17 11:54 PM
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I get what you mean but what should I do if bars and clubs aren't my thing? I like to go out more in the day and those aren't really my scenes. I prefer to talk to girls face to face rather than try to dance and somehow get her to talk to me afterwards. I've never really been to bars either and I don't drink much but overall it is hard to get friends to come out with me too. The one thing I like to do at night is go to raves from time to time and I'll drink a little to loosen up.
/r/seduction19/02/17 10:05 PM
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That is something that I am working on right now. Looking back at all the girls that I have gone on dates with and gotten to know, I can see that there are many out there. It just scares me that I may meet another girl and this will happen all over again and I don't know how to avoid it. So I get that there are other girls out there but I don't want there to keep being other girls, I want there to be some that have a good impact in my life, not just create bad memories.
/r/seduction19/02/17 10:02 PM
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Yea I will try to buy it when I get a chance, I have been meaning to pick it up for the longest. I might just get an e-book though but thanks for the advice. Any other advice or comments you could give me?
/r/seduction19/02/17 08:36 PM
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Thanks for the link! I was reading some of it but I do have to get back to studying (Talk about a nerd). But it is really helpful, especially the lines you could use to approach girls. I'll read it all when I get a chance later, thanks again. By the way, any other advice you could give me?
/r/seduction19/02/17 08:35 PM
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Thanks for the advice, I will try doing that from now on and will look into the field reports and sidebar.
/r/seduction19/02/17 07:44 PM
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What should I work on? I'm not really sure where to start. That makes sene, I will try to avoid this situation in the future. I've been acting as if the way she treats me doesn't bother me but its really annoying. Should I do anything differently? I just feel like this is all my fault and idk what to do.
/r/seduction19/02/17 12:33 PM
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Thanks for the advice, its really helpful. Is this the same mindset I should have during the day as well when I approach women? We also ended up going to a club and there were a lot of women there but it was loud, I dont really drink, and dancing isn't something I can really do. So I didn't talk to anyone. We tried finding things we both liked but the area seemed pretty out of place for me and my friend so we just ended up going back home in the end. Not the best idea for a night out but it was …
/r/seduction11/02/17 07:24 PM
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Ah ok I'll try to find things to cook then. Thanks a lot for the advice!
/r/seduction17/01/17 02:44 PM
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Thanks for the advice, I'll look into it. Also, I know I need a lot of calories since I'm skinny but for the time being I cant really afford protein shakes. If I eat what I normally do and work out am I still helping myself or is it pretty much a waste? Finding a good diet that I can afford is tricky honestly.
/r/seduction17/01/17 04:05 AM
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So you would recommend avoiding running completely and looking for a body-weight program until I can use my school gym?
/r/seduction16/01/17 05:36 PM
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I get what you mean, are there any workouts I could do without a gym that could still help me though?
/r/seduction16/01/17 05:33 PM
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I wanted to take part in this, to build myself up at least, I honestly can't afford a gym right now. My school gym is open once the semester starts in a few weeks and they dont have much not even a bench for a bench press. They have a few treadmills, pull up bar, and dumbbells plus I can only go to it twice a week so I can't really do those workout routines. On top of all of this I am skinny. I was thinking of running a mile three times a week and working on my abs instead since it seems more do…
/r/seduction15/01/17 11:38 PM
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What do you do if you don't have your own place to take them to? I live with my parents and share a room so coming back home is not an option for me.
/r/seduction25/11/16 02:26 PM
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How about a guy coming up to you during the day in public and doing the same thing? Is there any other way you think is better to approach you?
/r/seduction30/07/16 10:57 PM
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I've talked to girls in my classes, and girls I approach in public, like on campus or in a store or something like that. I dont really go out at night, I've been to a few parties, clubbings not my thing, and I haven't been to a bar yet surprisingly so I wouldnt know.
/r/seduction17/06/16 03:03 AM
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I'm kinda eager waiting for a text but I don't think it shows in my texts. I put effort in the conversations but I'm not irrelevant and I dont add many questions, just one. As for dates, thats what I usually do. I set up a specific time and if it doesnt work then I ask them what works for them. Thanks for your input but it didn't help since I'm already doing that but I still aporeciate it.
/r/seduction17/06/16 03:01 AM
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Ah ok, I live in the U.S. and go to college, which I pay for myself so it isn't as easy. But sounds like its fun.
/r/seduction18/05/16 10:36 PM
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How can you afford going abroad?
/r/seduction18/05/16 10:29 PM
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This is going to sound even more annoying but I have been to a club for like 10 minutes with a friend. It was dead, I felt awkward, no one was doing anything so I just didn't want to go to clubs after that. We left cause she had to get home but I just didn't seem to like the vibe there, I go to raves and have fun but I'm drunk there so its different. Clubs just seem like I need to know how to dance, pick up girls to dance with and with my luck I will get rejected a lot, and I don't really see an…
/r/seduction18/05/16 08:10 PM
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I will try that out, its definitely a different perspective on going out alone. Thanks for the advice!
/r/seduction18/05/16 08:05 PM
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The first one I approached in the food court at school. I said "Hey I'm forget4," She waved and said hi. "I noticed you and thought you were pretty and wanted to get to know you." Or something very similar and she told me to give her my phone. She put her number in it and I started talking to her about where she was from since she looked Hispanic and I am too. We talked a bit and then she told me to text her. The other one is a girl from my class. My friend knew I was interested in her and hes g…
/r/seduction28/04/16 01:07 AM
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Ok I keep hearing mixed things about it so I wasn't sure if it was a good idea or not. I'll try it out when I get a chance then. Thanks for the advice.
/r/seduction11/04/16 06:26 PM
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Great way to put it although I'm always confused on what to say first. I like to be upfront so saying something like "Hey I thought you were cute and wanted to come over and say hi. My names forget4." But I'm not sure if thats the best apporach. Also, what if shes walking by or with a group of friends? Those are reasons why I dont go for girls I dont know at all but I usually do if its a situation where I have a class with the girl or already have talked to her a bit.
/r/seduction10/04/16 10:27 PM
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I can see why you wouldn't want that but you also have to remember that you have to communicate what you want or else they will expect all the effort from you. Either way if I were in that position I would not expect the girl to be the one leading me the entire time. I guess it could just be those guys you went for. Also, whats your opinion on how a guy should approach a girl in public, school, etc. That he wants to date and get to know her but does not know her at all? Like from initial convers…
/r/seduction01/04/16 11:39 AM
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I just put myself out there and approach girls when I find them attractive or interesting. I don't party or club much so this usually happens through school or friends sometimes but I don't approach girls left and right. There is usually a small bit of time (weeks to months) before I approach another girl basically. My friend let me borrow Models but I haven't had the time to read it. I just have the mindset of, if I want to make something happen then I need to go for it and I always run into re…
/r/seduction13/02/16 06:05 PM
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I get what you mean but I feel like shit trying to put myself out there and I can't even get rejected upfront. I want to have sex and be with a few girls before I settle down. Yet it seems like relationships just dont happen with me because girls aren't interested in me. So I don't see the point in trying to get into something girls dont want. I've even been told by a girl that girls my age dont want a guy like me until they had their fun and want to settle down in their 30s. So why bother if I'…
/r/seduction13/02/16 01:15 PM
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I literally just gave up on the dating life today because I got stood up and I'm tired of the whole being lead on instead of girls telling me they aren't interested upfront. But I have that same issue, I want a relationship and want someone who I can depend on and can depend on me, I just don't see it happening with what I've experienced in my 21 years and what I've been told. Any advice on how to work on getting casual sex instead? I don't know how to bring it up or lead up to it so that's why …
/r/seduction13/02/16 03:48 AM
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Thanks I like the way you put it. Its pretty disheartening the amount of rejections and the amount of times I've been lead on. I'm trying to gain the confidence I need but its not easy. I will do what you told me and hopefully things will change, I just hope whatever problems I have that I can't seem to fix, will be fixed on their own. Thanks again for the help.
/r/seduction20/01/16 10:41 AM
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Ok I don't like clubs and I don't party much but it seems like I'm going to have to try it. I will work on my issues and hopefully improve. My plan was to go back to the gym since I'll be able to go to thd school one so that's not a problem. The girl who I'm friends with, I wasn't planning on dating her, I met her and we became friends. She had a bf at the time and has dated and slept with a few guys since then. I'm not her type and I doubt she's interested in me, the guys she goes for are the o…
/r/seduction19/01/16 03:14 AM
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Yea I already have a part time job abd I'm using it to pay for school since the only other help I'm getting is from financial aid and that's not a lot. I would love to rent a place with a roommate or a few other people but I don't think I have the money to afford it and pay for food and everything plus school on top of that so I'm stuck living at home until at least the end of December 2017. Ok make friends with guys first, that makes sense. I'll try to do that. Ok I get what you are saying, I'l…
/r/seduction19/01/16 03:03 AM
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I guess I will stick to my car since I live in a small apartment with no guest room of course. Also, I wont be dorming in college, I'll be with my parents in the apartment unfortunately. I guess if I have that kind of chance I will go for using my car. Let me put it this way, I'm not good at keeping friends from what I can tell. I met a bunch of people in community college, guys and girls I wanted to be friends with and girls I was interested in, but only one stuck with me and shes just a friend…
/r/seduction17/01/16 01:36 AM
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I want to date and get into a relationship, that is what I am always going for because its what I want. But I would not mind hook ups or anything like that, I just don't know how to go about that considering I don't know how to lead into it and I don't have my own place let alone my own room. I hear about so many people around my age just hooking up left and right and I just don't get how. I get what you are saying about getting to know people but I haven't had that luck of meeting people who ha…
/r/seduction15/01/16 12:37 AM
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Its more the fact that I want to date and experience a few girls before I find a girl to settle down with. I keep hearing all these things everyone is doing from relationships to sex and I can't even get a girl to reject me to my face.
/r/seduction15/01/16 12:18 AM
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I'll probably leave it alone and wait until the day before to text her about where to meet at. It feels best to leave more to talk about when we're together. Thanks for the advice though! Also, how would you advise me to go about talking to girls when I'm on campus or in public anywhere that I find attractive and want to date? I had used a line similar to "Hey I saw you and thought you were cute so I had to come over and say hi. I'm forget4," so far I got a girl to tell me straightforwardly that…
/r/seduction13/01/16 11:31 PM
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Ok I did that last night, I actually fell asleep and did it three hours later. Also, just to make sure I was clear, I should not try texting her until the day before just to tell her where to meet even though theres 5 days between now and the day we meet up?
/r/seduction13/01/16 10:51 PM
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Ok actually the conversation went Me - Yo when were you trying to go back to campus? Her- Let's go next week, when are you free? Me- I'm free Monday as far as I know, we could go around 12 Her- That works for me, I should be free Monday. Me- Alright Jones (Our joke is she asked me if I remembered her name when she texted me her number and I pretended I forgot so I've thrown in random names) I'll see you then. Hit me up if anything comes up. (She literally just sent this before I sent you my last…
/r/seduction13/01/16 02:51 AM
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I understand, just seems like I run into only flakes. Like these last three girls I've talked to seemed like they were interested in me and the first two just dropped me out of nowhere. Then the two girls I dated before apparently weren't that interested but I got a completely different vibe from them while we were on those dates. This is considering they were saying themselves they had fun and were in no rush to end the date early at any chance they had and the dates went on longer than I had a…
/r/seduction13/01/16 02:37 AM
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Ok makes sense, I'll work on it. Thanks for the advice.
/r/seduction13/01/16 02:29 AM
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I texted her, we made some witty banter and I asked her about meeting up again to find our classes. I decided on Monday and she agreed so we'll go then. I ended it, threw in a joke fron earlier and told her to let me know if anything changes. She never replied to that though. So since its 6 days from now, should I keep in contact or just wait a few days before and ask her if we're still up for meeting up?
/r/seduction13/01/16 02:29 AM
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Ok sounds like something I can work with. I'm a business major so I'll stick to the coffee and drinks though lol. What about the girl who asked for my number today so we can meet up and check out campus? How should I go about that, text her two days from now to set up a day to meet up or what? And then what about after we walk around to find our classes, should I try doing something with her after?
/r/seduction12/01/16 02:32 AM
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I could try the hug part but the thing is she hugged me before I left too. I wasn't really expecting that.
/r/seduction12/01/16 01:57 AM
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How long should I text before calling do you think? Like text a few days or after a good point in our first text convo or what?
/r/seduction12/01/16 01:56 AM
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I keep getting the bad ones then.
/r/seduction12/01/16 01:55 AM
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I'll give it a shot. Any other advice?
/r/seduction12/01/16 01:55 AM
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I've talked to many girls since high school and not much has changed. Except for the fact that these two girls talked to me first. How exactly should I go about the insta-date route? Also, just met a girl at school. We're both new and we don't know the way around campus so she said we should meet up before the semester starts in a few weeks and figure out our classes together and asked for my number. She texted me her name at that moment so we now have each others numbers. How should I go about …
/r/seduction12/01/16 01:54 AM
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Coffee place- So what are you drinking? "Blah" Really I never tried that/thats my favorite/etc. She has a book- What are you reading? "Blah" Whats it about? School- Whats your major? "Blah" Why did you decide on that?/ I'm studying blah/ Wow what a shitty major, good luck getting a job with that/ How is it? At a store- What are you buying? She looks or sounds foreign- Where is your accent from?/ Are you from around here?/ Where are you from? Whatever is going on at the moment, try talking about …
/r/seduction29/12/15 01:20 AM
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I meant something more detailed that I can see as an example. Like how the conversation went.
/r/seduction28/12/15 09:03 AM
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Yea I understand that but I wanted an example of an approach that went well so I can take tips from it.
/r/seduction27/12/15 11:35 PM
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I meant like an example of an encounter that went well. I've approached girls many times but I want someone elses take on it.
/r/seduction27/12/15 11:27 PM
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I agree tinder doesnt work well in getting the kind of match you want compared to daygame. It does take away the fear of rejection but to me it leaves me without any sense of accomplishment since it seems like I didnt do anything compared to talking to girls in public. Quick question, how do you open with a random girl you see in public? And do you make your intentions clear from the get go, just casually talk and leave with her number, or ask her out or what exactly? Like however your interacti…
/r/seduction27/12/15 01:32 PM
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Ok I will try doing that. I was at the mall but I didn't really see any girl around to really do something like that. Hopefully I will have more luck tomorrow.
/r/seduction02/12/15 09:23 PM
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She could say she's not having sex if I want to use it so theres that. She could even rip it and I may not notice. She says she doesnt want to date but she definitely showed that she wants to be in a relationship with all the other guys shes been with. Thats the main reason why they all stopped talking to her. And her cousin literally said "Would you consider hanging out with her and seeing where things could go?" That sounds like dating to me. I'm expecting it to not be the greatest thing, but …
/r/seduction01/12/15 10:55 PM
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Well she jumped from a bunch of guys and then to me, its one thing if that was spread out by months or even years but within a few days, I don't like that. She also doesn't use protection, she probably wouldn't let me use it if we had sex. She's part of my group of friends and if I dated her and it failed it would be weird. I was not interested in her to that extent, maybe I'm picky but there are too many red flags for me.
/r/seduction01/12/15 10:22 PM
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What exactly shows that from my post? I actually want to know, I'm not mad if I'm coming off that way.
/r/seduction01/12/15 10:18 PM
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I can have a conversation with a random person, especially if they are elderly. I was thinking about going up to a group of girls and try to talk to steer it where I'm just talking to the one I'm interested in. I just don't know how to go about it. There are other things, like going someplace alone and talking to people there, which would be uncomfortable to me. Girls are one thing since I want to date them but if I were to try talking to a guy or some couple or a group of friends randomly, I'd …
/r/seduction01/12/15 10:16 PM
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I really just go to school (community college), the school gym, work, and the mall. I usually hang out with friends at their place or we go out to eat. Sometimes I go to raves or parties. Not sure where to go to meet people though. So how do I make her want to meet me? The girl is cute but not my type which is why I wouldnt date her, if thats what you mean by comfort zone. Unless you mean that I wasn't able to tell her happy belated bday, was me staying in my comfort zone. I'm also kinda glad I …
/r/seduction01/12/15 10:09 PM
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The girl was a kind of friend of mines, ex and he cheated on her. My friends joked about us hooking up one day and she pretty much said that would never happen. Later that day she was venting to me about another guy she was talking to. A month later she makes out and messes around with my friend but she doesn't want to have sex. She also calls him my name a majority of the night. She also tells him that she wants a kind of fwb/cuddle buddy thing with him with no clingyness whatsoever and he agre…
/r/seduction01/12/15 10:02 PM
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Lol that's one way to do it.
/r/seduction15/11/15 09:12 PM
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So pretty much unless she brings up going to her place, I'm out of luck?
/r/seduction15/11/15 09:12 PM
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So how would you bring that up? "Hey can I meet your dog?"
/r/seduction15/11/15 09:01 PM
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What should you do if you still live with parents while in college?
/r/seduction15/11/15 08:53 PM
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Well I am saying hi after she says it though. So I shouldn't try talking to her more or asking her for advice then?
/r/seduction05/11/15 11:04 PM
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This is really great help for me since I haven't had my first time yet, so good to know for the future. I was wondering though, if a guy does not have a place of his own, how would you want to go about meeting up for "netflix and chilling" if you were into him? I'm 20 years old so I have limited options. Also, how does a guy even go about it to get to that point? Do you date a few times first or does he just meet you randomly on the street one day, get your number, then tells you to come over fo…
/r/seduction03/09/15 12:46 AM
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So you're saying it probably wouldn't be a big deal to a girl down the road?
/r/seduction01/08/15 07:14 AM
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I've never been in this sort of situation and I don't have my own place so bringing a girl back would be difficult. A friend told me if I ever needed a place I could use his, how should I go about this if I end up getting a chance with a girl? I'm just not sure what I would say if I wanted to make it more than a one night and she finds out thats not my place.
/r/seduction31/07/15 04:54 PM
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Yea eye contact is something I didnt do at that last rave so I need to do that next time. Also, what she did was a dick move, I just stuck around cause my friends were with her. I just didn't try talking to her after that. I will work on eye contact, although I just assumed thats how it worked since my friend and every other guy there seemed to be doing that. I guess I just wasn't paying attention that much. I wont be dorming because that is too expensive. I am paying whatever is left after fina…
/r/seduction09/07/15 04:33 PM
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I didn't know that, I will start then. Plus I should be more active anyways. Apparently when they saw my little brother, they got into talking about me and then they got into what they thought of me. But yea that is pretty much what it was. I get what you mean now. At that time she was 19 I think, all I know is she's at least a year older than me. Yea, it was a really stupid situation. She wasn't the first girl who liked to be dramatic, luckily I haven't ran into another dramatic girl recently. …
/r/seduction09/07/15 02:15 AM
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Yea I'm currently doing that. I'm trying to gain weight so I'm not running but I use my friends equipment three times a week to do some workouts. Hopefully that can help out a bit. I don't remember what happened exactly, but that's what I was told. Then I heard that again from the girl except this time my little brother heard her say it. He had no idea I was ever interested in her or knew anything about what had happened. He knew I knew her and since the person she was talking to knew that was m…
/r/seduction08/07/15 05:18 PM
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I'm skinny as in I'm not toned. I'm 5'10" and weigh about 130 lbs. My friends don't go and point it out but I have been told I am skinny by other people, just generally. This was two or three years ago, I asked a girl out and she rejected me. I ended up hearing from a friend that the reason was because I'm skinny and she only likes buff guys. Also, because I'm Hispanic and she says all Hispanic guys are shady, I was an exception to that rule to her, but still she only goes for white guys. Anyway…
/r/seduction07/07/15 06:19 PM
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Yea it is. I get what you mean about it being controversial, people like to point out that I'm really skinny. I've actually gotten rejected because of it, so I'm not going to hold back and say that I'd date a girl that I don't find attractive because she is overweight. I wouldn't tell her but I mean if my friends asked me if I would do it I would say I wouldn't because that is not the kind of girl I am attracted to. They have tried to say its bad that I think that way but being skinny gives me a…
/r/seduction07/07/15 05:22 AM
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Ok I get what you mean, I don't think my "pickiness" is bad, I'm not going for specific girls that are clearly the opposite of me and live a very different lifestyle. I'll learn to take their opinions when they matter only. Well I would prefer a skinny girl, as in someone close to my size. Its hard to explain, there's just a certain thickness that I cannot really feel comfortable with. Again I'm not going for perfection, mostly nerdy girls are my type and the ones I mean don't have perfect bodie…
/r/seduction07/07/15 03:05 AM
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You are right about that, I definitely know what I am looking for. I should not try make something happen if its not what I want, I need to remember that. I definitely need to work on that weird mindset I have. I know rejection is good so I don't waste my time but it still gets to me. I also do need to work on rejecting girls as well if it comes to that. I did not know that before so I will take most of the advice on here with less weight besides mods, and people like you. But yea in the end its…
/r/seduction06/07/15 04:50 PM
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Apparently I'm too picky according to my friends which I'm not sure if that's good or bad. Plus add the fact that I'm skinny, I have a certain mindset of the kind of girls I am willing to go for. Like I said she didn't look anything close to Kate Upton, and there are way more attractive girls out there but she was exactly what I wanted. So far I haven't met a girl that stood out to me like her so that gets to me but yea I do know what I want. I didn't want to seem too clingy. I had just asked he…
/r/seduction06/07/15 04:38 PM
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There are two other ones I've mentioned in reply to another user in the thread. They are pretty long so you could check those replies out. I'm on my phone, it's late and I have school in the morning or else I'd send it to you directly, my bad.
/r/seduction06/07/15 02:46 AM
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I'm just trying to make sense of my rejections, I get people run into a few rejections but I can't even get something good going. I just assume its me, or the ages since I hear girls my age aren't interested in relationships yet I know so many people in relationships. Yea I should be honest to a point, I guess I'll have to cross that bridge when that happens. Thanks for the advice though!
/r/seduction06/07/15 02:37 AM
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True, that is good to know. I just knew she was doing stuff that weekened and Monday seemed like a good day since I thought we were both free so I went with it. I just heard from Seddit, again, that having the details made out is more effective rather than just saying "Hey we should go out sometime." But I get what you mean.
/r/seduction06/07/15 02:34 AM
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I wanted to go out again to make sure I wasn't giving up on a good chance. I only ever dated one girl before her and since I usually get rejected, it weighed on me a little.
/r/seduction06/07/15 02:30 AM
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I get that, honestly I'd rather focus on dating a great girl and then the sex will come down the line. Some of my friends say it will happen, some say I just need to lose it, and others say I should wait for a girl I'm into physically or romantically. Then after that I will stop being running into my girl problems or something. How do I go about that though? Say I meet a girl at a party and she wants to have sex, do I say lets go back to my place or tell her its not my place or what? It would be…
/r/seduction06/07/15 02:18 AM
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The other girl I dated is a long story, happened a little more than a year ago and still kinda affects me since she was the first girl I really dated and makes me feel like I screwed everything up. Sounds stupid but yea I haven't been great since her. It's a long story so be prepared. Lets say her names Janice. Janice was in my Spanish class and she really stood out to me, she wasn't a model but she was my type. I got the courage to talk to her after class two or three times and I asked for her …
/r/seduction06/07/15 02:06 AM
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Ok I'm understanding your point of view more now. Yea I just assumed that's what you were getting at but I should have pushed on it a little more to get a clearer answer. I wont see her until possibly Thursday so I'll see what happens. I just have experienced situations where things seem to go great but in actuality I wasn't seeing the whole picture so this situation confused me. The two options girl: I talked to her on OkC, we messaged back and forth for a few messages and I asked for her numbe…
/r/seduction06/07/15 02:06 AM
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Yea that's true, I will look into that. I'd text her but I'm just not sure that's a great idea so I will have to wait a few days. Thanks the advice is very useful. Also, this is random but since I have had pretty bad experiences dating wise, my friend thinks I should focus on having trying to lose my virginity instead. One big problem with that is I live with my parents and brother in an apartment and I share a room with my brother so I don't have a place if I could get a girl. My friend told me…
/r/seduction05/07/15 09:17 PM
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Ok that is the only thing I can think of so I don't ever go with that option since it is expensive in my opinion. I'm not sure if that's being cheap but that's just me I guess. I will remember sitting side by side next time because that does sound like a good idea. I get what you mean, it would be hard for me to pull off honestly during that time but I could try something. It sounds corny but I get what you are saying haha. Yea her parents have no monitor on her at work as far as I know so that …
/r/seduction05/07/15 08:10 PM
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I get what you mean then and ok I would think it would be something like Chipotle or some place where you actually eat lunch. That's true it is up to me, I wont see her until Thursday probably so I have to wait on that for now. I need to do all of that so I will. I meant that she works at 7 AM on Saturdays as far as I could tell. The day I asked her out was Friday so she got off at 10 PM and I asked her out around 8 PM after my shift ended. If I had made plans to get coffee with her for Saturday…
/r/seduction05/07/15 07:26 PM
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First off we live 30 minutes apart, pretty sure she works at around 7 and it's a grocery store. I dont think giving her like a 20 hour notice would have worked. 12 hours even less if she was available in the morning. That was just my thought process at the time. As far as I know she feels like she needs to make sure her parents are put first or else she will face some type of consequence. That is what a coworker told me that she told him. She wanted to go drive up to her friends birthday party a…
/r/seduction05/07/15 05:35 PM
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I felt as if making another time would be pushy and make her think I was desperate or something. I've seen Seddit talk about how if a girl doesn't actually say another day then she must be letting me down easy and/or not interested. Plus along with what I know about her situation with her parents, work and everything else she has going on it seems like leaving it up to her would be best. That's why I didn't say another day. I'm not sure where you picked up the fear part but ok lets just say that…
/r/seduction05/07/15 05:22 PM
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I was giving an example, I have many other instances this happens with other girls. I get what you mean by me being wishy washy but at the same time I thought I'd seem too desperate and/or available if I picked another day. I always thought if they don't say another specific date then it means they arent interested. Thats why I was wishy washy with her. Its confusing because I hear two different things, if I'm vague its bad and if I'm quickly available for another day its bad. Which is why I'm u…
/r/seduction05/07/15 02:22 PM
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Thanks will do!
/r/seduction05/07/15 03:30 AM
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I get what you mean, and I really do need to find my way but it is not easy.
/r/seduction05/07/15 02:21 AM
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If she cancelled after agreeing and kept being open ended about the next time we could meet up, I just assume they aren't interested. But yea I get what you mean, if I get my foot in the door that way and I get a date then I should make the most of it and show her I'm fun. But I haven't gotten that chance yet. Yes real world experience would be better but I've only ever been rejected. I have never gotten that 1 out of 10. Now its probably going to be 1 out of 1000, its an exaggeration of course …
/r/seduction04/07/15 11:38 PM
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I feel like I'd come off as an ass and ignorant to hints of an easy rejection. Plus I've heard of those kinds of guys before and it seems like I would come off as desperate. But I guess I could try that.
/r/seduction04/07/15 11:33 PM
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She worked Saturday and had rehearsal on Sunday. So Monday was my only next option. We also live half an hour away from each other. I didn't think the next day after her shift would be great because I'm sure she'd be tired getting off late Friday and then again Saturday. I dont know how long her rehearsals go so I just assumed since we both had Monday off and were free, it was a good idea. Also, apparently her parents are really strict and pay for college so she has to please them or else she th…
/r/seduction04/07/15 11:22 PM
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I was on my phone and had a few minutes to reply at the time so I went into detail about what happened with the coworker. After she cancelled and I said no worries maybe some other time, that conversation ended is what I meant. I've texted her recently and shes replied. I asked her out, she agreed on the spot to go and then a few hours later she told me about having to confirm it. At the time it sounded like a legit excuse. Then because she apologized again at work I thought it meant she was sti…
/r/seduction04/07/15 11:14 PM
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I get what you mean but these girls go from wanting to go out to I dont exist anymore out of nowhere. That's what I don't understand, once or twice thats ok but after as mamy times as I've experienced its killing me. I've done all of that on OkC and I barely get anything. Just a few messages before they just stop replying. I guess I have to keep trying.
/r/seduction04/07/15 08:00 PM
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I get what you're saying but it just seems like even a yes doesnt meant yes anymore. I cant even trust a girl to give me an honest answer or I have a serious problem that no one wants to tell me about. I don't know how to fix that part. I'm also talking about dating, having sex is another problem in its own for me. I'm still a virgin while everyone else I know isn't. I am trying to keep the advice from seddit and you for the next girl. But rejection and being lead on with no end doesn't sit to w…
/r/seduction04/07/15 07:57 PM
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Sorry for the confusion but thanks for going into detail with your reply. So basically I started talking to my coworker in the beginning of June since I'd see her almost every day. I decided to ask her out for coffee after a few days of talking and joking around. So as I get off work she comes up to talk to me so after a bit I throw in that I'd like to get to know her more and get coffee the following Monday at a certain time, it was Friday. She said yes and I gave her my number so we could text…
/r/seduction04/07/15 04:31 PM
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Once they stop replying I can't really assume attraction though.
/r/seduction04/07/15 11:39 AM
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True sounds like a plan. But for the record if a girl is reading then approaching is not an option then?
/r/seduction20/06/15 04:20 AM
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I prefer the nerdy type girls and girls who read seem to fall into that category. Although I don't read any books at all. So I can't specifically jump into taling about certain books that's why I feel like it's leading on if I go that route since I don't seem to have that kind of knowledge. You at least know about purses in your example. I would be interested in asking about what shes reading or looking for to get to know what shes into but I don't know if that comes off the wrong way in my case…
/r/seduction20/06/15 03:50 AM
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Well what if the situation changed and you were walking around a book store looking for a book? I'm just trying to find a better approach to a situation like this. I rarely ever go straightforward with it and I think thats my problem since I usually get lead on rather than a straight no if the girl isn't interested.
/r/seduction20/06/15 03:04 AM
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So unless I'm interested in your book, I'd really have no way to get your attention?
/r/seduction19/06/15 11:29 PM
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How would the direct approach come off to you?
/r/seduction19/06/15 06:46 PM
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I'm going to meet a coworkers friend next week and I need the same advice on my situation too. I just have the mindset of wanting to take her out to coffee if she seems like a nice girl. What should I be doing for my first interaction with her when my coworker introduces me to her? If it were a random girl I went up to in public, I'd talk a bit and get to know her for at least a minute to five minutes and see how well its going. Then, if its going well, I'd try to get her number or ask her to co…
/r/seduction21/05/15 01:34 PM
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I read through your post and these are things I try to keep in my mind. Although, I have a hard time approaching because of only ever being rejected. Yesterday I saw a girl sitting by the bathroom where I was headed. She looked up and I told myself to keep eye contact but she had a possible bitch resting face so I caved and looked away. I thought about what if I said " Hey I saw you, thought you were cute etc." I just wasn't sure if that was a good opener even though it was true. Does that usual…
/r/seduction11/04/15 01:18 AM
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Ok I get what you mean. I usually have that mindset anyways. I could try that, I work in a supermarket so I'm usually in one just not sure if doing that on the job is the best idea. I saw a cute girl earlier who needed help but she was probably 24 and I'm 20. Plus I was working so I didnt try to get her number or anything.
/r/seduction08/03/15 04:06 PM
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Alright I'll stick to that, so that removes a lot of options now. Any advice for starting a conversation? What do you mean as in manipulate?
/r/seduction08/03/15 03:38 AM
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Ok I get what you mean about being yourself, and go with what feels right. But any personal advice you could give on daygame? Like where I could go, and who is approachable and who isn't? I've heard of guys going up to girls sitting but say don't go for girls moving around. Then I hear its alright to do that but don't go for people working. I have little experience with cold approaches so any insight would be great. I see girls around school but they are moving or in groups, etc. And I'm not sur…
/r/seduction07/03/15 06:22 PM
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Yea anxiety and rejection isn't really a problem for me anymore. More so I'm trying to get out there and I'm having trouble with it since I'm kinda on my own. As in no friends to go out with and I don't want to go out at night to clubs or something, I nust prefer day game.
/r/seduction07/03/15 06:16 PM
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I like this post but reading through your post something was off. Also, I'm a 20 year old guy. I always hear don't go up to a girl expecting anything from her and don't overthink. But you said you should have your intentions thought out. I usually think things through before talking to a girl (always daygame btw) and I decided to just go for it one day without thinking anything through. I was nervous, and caught off guard when I tried to set up a date. Overall she was nice and gave me advice, to…
/r/seduction06/03/15 05:05 PM
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