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| 0 | Thinkinking about breaking up with my boyfriend. Should I?Your first sentence has me rolling my eyes a bit. Reverse racism energy | /r/ExRedPill | 15/02/23 06:52 PM |
| 3 | Has anyone woman that is in her early 20s or prime as the red pill would call it ever dumped a guy if she found out he was redpill or find men who are redpilled repulsive?I’m all of the above 😁😁😁 but partying only on occasion | /r/ExRedPill | 30/01/23 11:44 PM |
| 21 | Has anyone woman that is in her early 20s or prime as the red pill would call it ever dumped a guy if she found out he was redpill or find men who are redpilled repulsive?Anyone spouting red pill bullshit is too dumb for me, lol. | /r/ExRedPill | 30/01/23 11:30 PM |
| 1 | What are your main problem’s with the red pill?A “high value” middle aged man would damage his personal and professional image by dating someone who could be his daughter. Only creepy sleazebags are impressed by that | /r/ExRedPill | 12/01/23 05:07 AM |
| 1 | Girls, what are your initial reactions to hearing that you're a guys first real relationship?Might depend on the person. I had a ton of relationship experience by that age but have several friends who really didn’t. I’d probably pass to leave you for a less experienced or jaded lady, but not if our chemistry was immaculate and you were nice and responsible | /r/ExRedPill | 03/01/23 05:44 PM |
| 1 | I (20M) can't stop thinking of women in a negative lightYeah unfortunately that’s life bro | /r/ExRedPill | 02/01/23 05:52 PM |
| 1 | I (20M) can't stop thinking of women in a negative light“Waahh!! I have to have a career I like that pays the bills, be fit and healthy, and have fun hobbies!” Like, what’s the problem…? I’d assume you’d want to shoot for those goals for your own benefit | /r/ExRedPill | 02/01/23 05:49 PM |
| 1 | Ex red pilled men. Have a read of what the general population are thinking. Outside of red pill circles.I’m only 5’9” but never had trouble dating. Wear 5in shoes regularly, it’s great for filtering in only really tall guys or super confident short ones w a thing for tall girls. Everyone wins | /r/ExRedPill | 02/01/23 05:22 PM |
| 5 | Fighting Words - Anti-Feminism, Christianity & Conservative PoliticsFor real, also getting my wires crossed with the creepy anti woman vibe of the old RedPillWomen, hard to keep track | /r/RedPillWives | 19/08/22 12:11 AM |
| 7 | Fighting Words - Anti-Feminism, Christianity & Conservative PoliticsHm, I like that this post exists, but it’s hard to tell whether it’s for RPW feminists to post or RPW tradladies | /r/RedPillWives | 18/08/22 04:37 PM |
| 1 | Help: I've made a lot of mistakes; will my husband ever be okay, or did I break the relationship?Red pill is not about coddling men (or women). It’s about taking ownership and being self disciplined, so | /r/RedPillWives | 12/02/22 07:48 PM |
| 2 | Help: I've made a lot of mistakes; will my husband ever be okay, or did I break the relationship?It won’t be healthy to model resentment and codependency for the kids. I know it’s trite advice but couples counseling would be a good first step. | /r/RedPillWives | 12/02/22 07:46 PM |
| 4 | Help: I've made a lot of mistakes; will my husband ever be okay, or did I break the relationship?No she’s saying this relationship may have run its course | /r/RedPillWives | 11/02/22 09:56 PM |
| 3 | Help: I've made a lot of mistakes; will my husband ever be okay, or did I break the relationship?Ok! Re the lazy description, I was basing that question off you historically feeling like his mom. Sounds like it’s not an issue. However the porn addiction is a huge red flag - he needs to proactively keep that under control to be a good leader in the relationship imo. And he’s right that it’s not your job, but it IS his job to do therapy or whatever works AND not ok at all to blame you for his addiction. I think this relationship started on shaky foundations on both sides and May agree with th… | /r/RedPillWives | 11/02/22 09:56 PM |
| 6 | Help: I've made a lot of mistakes; will my husband ever be okay, or did I break the relationship?Is he still a lazy porn addict or no? | /r/RedPillWives | 11/02/22 05:43 PM |
| 3 | Do women consider how good a father a man will be?Of course we consider it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/12/21 11:57 PM |
| 2 | Based on my experience women don't seem to value "intelligence" as an attractive traitThe fuck are you talking about? Yoga, new age bullshit, astrology and crystals are absolutely not things intelligent women associate with intelligence. Social issues, current events, analysis of pop culture, clever humor, etc sure | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/12/21 11:53 PM |
| 1 | Based on my experience women don't seem to value "intelligence" as an attractive traitIt’s fairly easy to show by having a witty funny profile and a smart job. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/12/21 11:51 PM |
| 1 | Based on my experience women don't seem to value "intelligence" as an attractive traitIntelligence also usually = imaginative, funny/witty, emotionally intelligent/socially skilled, interesting career. All of this is damn sexy and I only date highly intelligent guys. You’re right, we don’t care to listen to you blather on listing facts about things that interest you and you alone. That’s selfish and boring | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/12/21 11:49 PM |
| 9 | Lovebombing or attentive pursuit?Thanks girl. Yeah, someone who likes to pontificate and marinate in and share and get paid for proving their opinions is a little dicey lol. Although the field is tech more broadly, and the day job seems fine. He doesn’t know the timeline on the recent breakup and I’m keeping the details kind of close to my chest. | /r/askFDS | 12/10/21 11:09 PM |
| 21 | Lovebombing or attentive pursuit?Ok, thanks for validating. I’ll stay busy with my own things, keep dating others, and not allow any pressure to build from perceived courtship effort. Realistically cracks should start to show in a few months, and i don’t want to be exclusive or intimate until then to be sure we are on the same wavelength. | /r/askFDS | 12/10/21 10:36 PM |
| 22 | Lovebombing or attentive pursuit?We talked very briefly about this. No mean or dismissive language like that, but one ex apparently didn’t understand his need for independent alone time. Another one apparently started pushing to move in 4 months in, and they broke up at the 9 month mark. To me, these are signals of avoidance or commitmentphobia once the honeymoon period wears off | /r/askFDS | 12/10/21 10:34 PM |
| 19 | Lovebombing or attentive pursuit?Yeah the quick idealization of me (didn’t know anything yet about my family, past struggles, annoying habits, etc) combined with relatively short-lived relationship history seems iffy. Wondering if he’s avoidant and projecting something on to me or anxious and controlling. Either way at our ages it seems unlikely that this would be the proper approach to vetting for a wife. | /r/askFDS | 12/10/21 10:33 PM |
| 2 | Ignored AskFDS advice, guess what happened? lmaoThank you 🙏🏻 It’s been an up and down couple of weeks. Gotta remind myself of the bad things tbh To just randomly “not feel in love,” comparing us to his cool but bipolar LVMs relationship w his different continent dream girl (he’s proposing and she’s moving countries to be w him after a total of 2 weeks together irl…) idk love is a choice and I like a calm stable love. More mature, more lasting. I’ve felt several types of love and prefer the sweet quiet kind. But I’m taking this as a gift. He d… | /r/askFDS | 15/09/21 05:45 PM |
| 38 | Question about a recent decisionYou’re fine. I wish I did what you did at your age. Good job. You can find that + more ambition | /r/askFDS | 15/09/21 07:51 AM |
| 6 | Ignored AskFDS advice, guess what happened? lmaoReading your comment feels so uncomfortable, but it’s gotta be true. And I feel the same way about burning man. I have been to regional burns and enjoy participating in the art and exploring, but there also seems to be so much excitement surrounding the orgy dome, the nudity, etc that I just don’t need to be in close proximity to as I look to build a stable family. Maybe when we are old as hell and bored… but all that sensation seeking gives me bad vibes. There were a lot of weird little sexual … | /r/askFDS | 08/09/21 06:14 PM |
| 22 | Ignored AskFDS advice, guess what happened? lmao😂 😂 😂 😩 Lord… my stepmom said my only problem is I don’t break up with guys fast enough. She’s legit HVW, I should listen to my elders | /r/askFDS | 08/09/21 04:22 AM |
| 8 | Ignored AskFDS advice, guess what happened? lmaoTysm. When I have journaled it’s been good. I want to restructure my life to include journaling and meditation or yoga each morning before work. Really appreciate the back pat. I’m a recovering pickme with CPTSD and I’m taking it one day at a time. Found FDS shortly after the start of this relationship and am so glad I did | /r/askFDS | 08/09/21 04:20 AM |
| 22 | Ignored AskFDS advice, guess what happened? lmaoAlso am I crazy for being weirded out by the roommates thing? They’re a couple, 25 and 28, but he’s mentioned off and on how hot they are (usually referring to the guy, a bodybuilder). But then he pays the chick to clean and like they hang out and he talks about them a lot and they tell him about relationship problems etc etc. plus she always wears like zero clothes, which is fine it’s her house just, I’m hoping y’all can reassure me here. Like just for a 43 yo it seems strange. Can’t get past t… | /r/askFDS | 08/09/21 01:02 AM |
| 23 | Ignored AskFDS advice, guess what happened? lmaoIt’s so tempting to question whether I should have just been fine with the good things that were there, but I know in my heart of hearts that’s not the move - I need to do the opposite. Now just need to recover. I wonder what FDS recommends for breaks before dating again | /r/askFDS | 07/09/21 07:50 PM |
| 3 | Rant about my weird dateAbsolutely. Bullet dodged | /r/askFDS | 07/09/21 06:41 PM |
| 1 | I LeftNot fixable, otherwise nice advice (the part to focus on her) | /r/RedPillWives | 06/09/21 06:33 AM |
| 1 | I feel like a failure :)https://www.reddit.com/r/personalfinance/comments/p73aar/20_years_old_no_job_no_ged_cant_find_a_job/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf | /r/RedPillWives | 19/08/21 01:38 AM |
| 1 | I feel like a failure :)Its not a misconception that people who drop out are uneducated. By definition, they absolutely are. Did you mean unintelligent? Because that’s fair, plenty of brilliant people are deprived a formal education. Please don’t plan your entire life around a hypothetical man - that’s how you end up with an abuser. Plan your life for you, then once you meet and vet a compatible Christian man, you can focus on your family. | /r/RedPillWives | 18/08/21 09:24 PM |
| 3 | I feel like a failure :)HVM don’t want high school drop outs. Terrible idea all around… makes you seem like a clingy mooch tbh, or a little crazy to do all that just on the off chance you can get married right away. Not saying you are, just how it might be perceived. Also if you place all your bets on one horse (magically meeting a magnanimous high earner to get married ASAP), you’ll have too much incentive to rush the vetting process, and can ultimately end up having wasted years with no education skills or savings. P… | /r/RedPillWives | 18/08/21 12:48 AM |
| 0 | Age Gap Relationships Discussion ThreadDisagree, 30 and 18 is creepy, 30 and 21 way less so since they can drink and stuff. Just a few years makes a big difference when you’re young | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/21 07:12 PM |
| 2 | Age Gap Relationships Discussion ThreadYou’re gross | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/21 02:44 PM |
| 1 | Age Gap Relationships Discussion ThreadPick me supreme over here, hard no | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/21 05:05 AM |
| -2 | Age Gap Relationships Discussion ThreadI also had a rough childhood and sought out older partners because I was an easy target for manipulation and didn’t realize how hard I was settling until I got older and went to therapy. Just my 2c Also your 35 yo best friend is a weirdo lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/21 05:02 AM |
| 1 | Age Gap Relationships Discussion Thread🏅🏅🏅 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/21 05:00 AM |
| 0 | Age Gap Relationships Discussion ThreadThe problematic part is objectifying your partner | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/21 04:59 AM |
| 5 | Age Gap Relationships Discussion ThreadThis ain’t it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/21 04:57 AM |
| -3 | Age Gap Relationships Discussion ThreadGotta say, you don’t sound like much of a stable family oriented man, which is why I personally avoid men who deliberately seek out much younger women. Peter Pan complex. To each their own though. Why are you in your 40s with the dating life of a 20 something? Fine for you, but makes sense why women would want someone in a more grown up mindset. I want a man ready for a real family, not so concerned with the hot new concerts. Ofc that’s exactly why we wouldn’t be compatible so it all shakes out … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/21 04:56 AM |
| 1 | Would you share him?100% agree | /r/RedPillWives | 06/08/21 06:41 PM |
| 1 | Would you share him?Well I mean, my bf has a huge dick and makes 300k and looks super handsome, AND he is honest, kind, assertive, healthy, loyal, etc. You can find both if you are a good catch yourself, and I would never sacrifice the latter for the former. Tbf I wasted my time on crappy guys in my early 20s. Now early 30s with an early 40s guy. Some of us take longer to grow up and learn not to put up with nonsense haha | /r/RedPillWives | 06/08/21 06:21 PM |
| 3 | Would you share him?Lmao yes 🙌 | /r/RedPillWives | 06/08/21 06:19 PM |
| 6 | Would you share him?It’s called self control 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/RedPillWives | 04/08/21 04:43 PM |
| 14 | Would you share him?No, still no Women are not so shallow we only care about money and looks. Those are bonuses but any decent woman cares more about stability, integrity, work ethic etc | /r/RedPillWives | 04/08/21 02:26 AM |
| 50 | Would you share him?No, absolutely not. There are too many decent men out there who don’t need to do bullshit like that. Happy to “sacrifice” a few inches of height or whatever for basic common decency and not treating me like a bang maid. Tbh tall guys with 6 figures is… a low standard. I make 6 figures, I’m tall too, so what? Kindness and integrity are what you really want to filter for, less common and infinitely more valuable. Now, if I was into it/thought it was hot/was allowed to also have partners, that woul… | /r/RedPillWives | 03/08/21 08:05 PM |
| 8 | A Young RPW, would love some advice:)You should probably start therapy and focus on yourself, your education/friendships/hobbies for a few years before you start worrying about dating, especially since you’re keen to marry. I came from a broken home as well and tolerated so many shitty guys, wasting years of my time. Finally did a few years of weekly therapy and started attracting healthier people into my life. I say this with love but you allowing this dude to yank you back and forth, and being vulnerable indiscriminately are red … | /r/RedPillWives | 30/07/21 04:28 AM |
| 10 | Why do people dislike this community so much?TBF the RedPillWomen subreddit got in a weird space where they were excusing abusive behavior from male partners. The vetting piece is ongoing and so so critical, it’s dangerous to create an atmosphere where women are constantly blaming themselves for bad treatment and shouldering the entire outcome of a relationship. Good men are 100% worth submission and vulnerability, but to suggest all men deserve that is dangerous. I noticed that the RedPillWives does way less of that, which is why I’m so h… | /r/RedPillWives | 29/07/21 05:53 PM |
| 14 | I tried to relinquish control of the finances and my husband said, "No."I think your husband sounds like a levelheaded, respectful partner. There are other ways to feel you’re in a submissive role that you may be able to explore with him, such as having him make day to day decisions while you still have some foot in the overarching financial goals you have as a family. FWIW in many traditional Asian cultures where the man is expected to be the earner and leader, the wife is expected to manage the entire household, including finances. Consider that your association a… | /r/RedPillWives | 19/07/21 05:00 AM |
| 2 | Does anyone actually follow the financial plan in The Surrendered Wife?Sounds like he shouldn’t be in charge of the finances if he’s missing payments and damaging your family’s credit. | /r/RedPillWives | 30/06/21 08:32 PM |
| 13 | Traditional or controlling?I would proceed with caution. Be sure to vet vet vet and take your time getting to know this person. Acting like he owns your time and privacy are red flags in the early dating stages Also, trust your gut. | /r/RedPillWives | 16/06/21 08:37 PM |
| 1 | What is a woman’s value over 40?What was your boyfriend’s stance in this conversation...? | /r/RedPillWives | 08/06/21 12:24 AM |
| 57 | Did I do the right thing?Sounds a bit narcissistic/player. You made the right call | /r/askFDS | 25/05/21 07:01 PM |
| 5 | Not wanting marriage due to governmentDo not have kids or stay at home and financially depend on a man who won’t marry you... and he’s “Christian,” ugh | /r/RedPillWives | 09/05/21 02:17 PM |
| 4 | Loneliness after miscarriage - husband hot/coldI noticed you edited your post to remove a lot of detail. I’m not sure how to fix it, but it’s not ok that he’s not being supportive right now. If you can, it might be a good time to lean on female friends and family members a bit. Good luck | /r/RedPillWives | 29/04/21 02:26 PM |
| 3 | Yellow flag?He also clearly wasn’t courting her correctly from the jump by being super low effort. She doesn’t bear all the blame in that case IMO, other than that she wasn’t vetting correctly, and reading the room re: his interest in her. You dress up and give your all to a man leading and invested in you, not a low effort Tinder hookup man. | /r/RedPillWives | 19/04/21 06:02 AM |
| 4 | 2 truths and a lie at 3 monthsI think this is the real issue. They should ask before 2 months imo | /r/askFDS | 16/04/21 07:24 PM |
| 2 | Do you honestly believe that men want younger women predominantly because he can't get women his own age as opposed to young adult women just being more attractive?You are a gem to be treasured | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/21 02:38 AM |
| 1 | Do you honestly believe that men want younger women predominantly because he can't get women his own age as opposed to young adult women just being more attractive?He’s single ladies! Don’t stampede to get to him, please form an orderly queue | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/21 02:37 AM |
| 23 | 'When a man in our culture days no, it's the end of the discussion. When a woman in our culture says no, it's the beginning of a negotiation.' Just bought the gift of fear and was giving praises just 3 pages in.Absolutely amazing book! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 01:25 AM |
| 9 | Do they even themselves believe it 😂😂 as a 18 year old in my 'prime' i DEFINITELY don't want greasy hairy old pathetic 50 year olds 🤢🤢🤮🤮Blech, I am 31F, date men and women, and couldn’t see myself going younger than 27 for either gender. Just feels off... and like, I’m secure enough that I bring enough to the table to attract someone close to my age who is also attractive - so why would I need to go for “fresh meat” who is too easily impressed?? As I’ve aged I’ve realized just how creepy dudes have been, once I’m able to see it from my own POV at the age of men who have creeped on me over the years. And real talk I was a cutie a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 08:15 PM |
| 2 | Do they even themselves believe it 😂😂 as a 18 year old in my 'prime' i DEFINITELY don't want greasy hairy old pathetic 50 year olds 🤢🤢🤮🤮Also for men open to pursuing younger women based on factors other than desirability, naturally an 18 year old will qualify for all ages 18-28 at least - the study design is trash | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 07:58 PM |
| 10 | Do they even themselves believe it 😂😂 as a 18 year old in my 'prime' i DEFINITELY don't want greasy hairy old pathetic 50 year olds 🤢🤢🤮🤮Also they didn’t account for overall volume of messages sent out BY various age groupings - like maybe 18-23 year old dudes are way more active on tinder, and maybe divorced 45+ women are more active and more willing to send messages first; should be a proportion of those presented in the queue rather than just # of messages total | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 07:51 PM |
| 27 | Do they even themselves believe it 😂😂 as a 18 year old in my 'prime' i DEFINITELY don't want greasy hairy old pathetic 50 year olds 🤢🤢🤮🤮Men (and women) literally physically peak around 25. Best athletic performance, fertility/virility, higher blood oxygen content etc. I hate pedo lite old man glorifying bullshit | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 07:49 PM |
| 5 | Do they even themselves believe it 😂😂 as a 18 year old in my 'prime' i DEFINITELY don't want greasy hairy old pathetic 50 year olds 🤢🤢🤮🤮I really wanna see the source and study methodology for this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 07:47 PM |
| 9 | It's he the tags for me 🤣Oh my god I’m internally screaming | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 07:46 PM |
| 10 | Has relocating ever improved your dating pool?Yeah. A lot more variety here at least and a bit more politically aligned, so those are pluses. | /r/askFDS | 30/03/21 04:42 PM |
| 11 | Oh no, men’s porn addiction is our fault apparentlyLol they act like most guys don’t have sex partners or relationships, or that guys who have sex never watch porn. Yeah ok 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 05:45 AM |
| 2 | Having low standards doesn't make you any less shallow.I have always questioned this data - I’m curious whether the ages were visible or not | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/21 04:58 AM |
| 81 | Infuriating post about low effort scroteThe comments are like 10x worse than the post IMO. Aaaaa so much gaslighting and pickme-ism. Jfc I highly doubt this relationship is excellent. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 06:37 PM |
| 1 | I love being tall. There I said it.The huge platforms definitely take the sting out of the heel height lol. It’s more like a 3in arch | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 06:17 AM |
| 22 | The same day that I posted a shot of my scientific publications on my social media, he ended our relationship with this text...Haha aww Anyways | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 07:53 AM |
| 22 | Re-read the best seller "Memories of a geisha" after 9 years and I am shocked at the misogyny/pick me brain washing!100% and the Chairman fixation is a kind of lesser of all evils, Stockholm syndrome thing from how I interpreted it. Vibed like a tragic survival story amidst opulent upper class settings. Really interesting facet of culture, but this book should not have been written by a white dude and even artsy upper class disenfranchisement and objectification of women is still depressing capitalist patriarchal bullshit | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/21 06:34 AM |
| 28 | Re-read the best seller "Memories of a geisha" after 9 years and I am shocked at the misogyny/pick me brain washing!Rad, I will check out her book, thanks | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/21 04:08 AM |
| 57 | No surprise that 95% of the stories here are about men.Makes me paranoid of having kids w men or leaving my kids in the care of men tbh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/21 12:21 AM |
| 25 | A lot of men need to hear this. They wonder why they have dead bedrooms but dont even tryThat voice helps 😩 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 10:45 PM |
| 72 | Swipe left on the dude whose bio says "vaccinated"Also being vaccinated doesn’t necessarily stop people from transmitting the virus... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 03:46 AM |
| 3 | I lowkey relied on a man to be the provider in my marriage.Cannabis was a big thing for me as well. I think I was using it to moderate anxiety. It might be a helpful starting point to join a subreddit or self help group with likeminded people if you’re having difficulty taking a break. Sending good vibes ☀️ | /r/askFDS | 14/03/21 02:15 AM |
| 15 | I lowkey relied on a man to be the provider in my marriage.You’re only 23! Be glad you didn’t get started later, girl. It took me way longer than it should have, but biting the bullet and going to grad school kicked me out of my comfort zone and opened up a salary range that would set me on course for a good life. Grad school doesn’t have to be your thing. It could be a trade, a business, a coding boot camp, a certificate for personal training or massage. Just do some research, get practical, and hatch a plan to get a career kicked off. Even a modest in… | /r/askFDS | 13/03/21 08:23 PM |
| 2 | Verbal affection?Appreciate the feedback, it’s definitely validating. At a place where I need to vet hard or just be on my own. In the early 30s, what do you think is an appropriate gap? Within 5 years maybe? | /r/askFDS | 10/03/21 02:22 AM |
| 18 | Great thread. I get it’s a joke but it erases the violence and often horrifying nature that has come with being a housewifeThis gives me all the warm fuzzies | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 03:54 AM |
| 144 | Chinese dad makes beautiful dresses for daughter; the dad is adorable, the daughter is adorable, and the dresses are adorable! From the South China Morning Post YouTube channelAND he’s fine 👀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 09:57 PM |
| 9 | Seriously?Wow.... I’m so sorry. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 06:13 AM |
| 40 | Seriously?For real. At the very least it gives you back a sense of agency in your ability to trust yourself. This shit is emotionally abusive and damaging, and sometimes we need the information to get a slap in the face and shake loose from an unhealthy situation | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 09:52 PM |
| 85 | Seriously?Found essentially this in my NVM ex’s journal, which I finally read as I was getting my stuff out of the apartment (no, I would normally never do this). He was stringing me along and lying to my face for months and months, talking about me like an object. He also endlessly gaslit me when I would voice my concerns, couched very carefully as NoNvIoLeNt CoMmUnIcAtIoN. He was too chickenshit to be honest. Always. Trust. Your. Gut. If you feel like you’re being used, that’s because YOU ARE. If you fe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 09:18 PM |
| 21 | If you’re going to do OLD, I recommend OkCupidI like OkC for this exact reason. I almost always find something left swipeable in the questions. All my serious relationships were from men I met IRL so I decided to get out there and make a data driven relationship decision. First, I put unabashedly that I’m looking for marriage and kids, and strict monogamy. Still plenty of matches with the same criteria. Then I just ruthlessly eliminated people until I found the guy I’m currently dating. 99% match, had answered hundreds of questions. He kept… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 03:26 PM |
| 3 | Dating as a high earner/highly educated womanThat sounds like a nice place to meet folks, also maybe if you have any outdoor fitness classes or volunteer opportunities available. I know it's not popular here but we met on OLD. I was looking for integrity first and foremost, and wanted someone to match the positive changes I've made in myself. So I got on OkC and just ruthlessly unmatched people at the first sign of shadiness, disrespect, selfishness, instability, indifference, etc. All of my serious relationships had sprung from meeting me… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 01:45 AM |
| 7 | Just had this DM'd to me. LVM can be found with degrees too.They can afford the most ruthless lawyers first of all | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/21 07:42 PM |
| 19 | Dating as a high earner/highly educated womanI’m not in a particularly prestigious field but as an analyst, I will be looking at 100-150k income for most of my career. Honestly I do prefer to date men making at least close to that much, since I want to buy property, raise a couple kids, and retire comfortably. I’ll do it on my own if I need to but if I’m going to partner up I’m not making enough money to feel comfortable supporting a SAHD (my dad was one, my stepbrother is also an amazing homemaker and dad). I get really creeped out when m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 10:36 PM |
| 19 | Dating as a high earner/highly educated womanLol, dated a doctor, can confirm. Don’t get swept away by job titles or degrees, ladies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 10:29 PM |
| 11 | If he walks faster than you in public, DUMP HIMMan, this sub has put into perspective how insidiously emotionally abusive my ex was. Like, I knew it at the time but it was just borderline enough that I felt guilty for calling it like it was. Because oh but he’s good with his cats, he calls his mom, he gets along with everyone. But no, fuck that, this is exactly how he treated me; I was only permitted to exist on his terms and there was no winning. He was an absolute drain on my psychic energy. After we finally split for good and I removed ev… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 07:24 PM |
| 7 | The audacity is off the charts. This is also why FDS advocates blocking and deleting men as soon as it’s done (NOTE: this screenshot was found on Twitter).Ahahahahahahahahahahah | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 03:50 PM |
| 41 | These cries for attention crack me up. “ChEcKmAtE, fEmInIsTs We ArE nO lOnGeR hElPiNg YoU!!!!” As if they ever did? I’ve had way more “help” or protection from other women in public situations than men.Wow, misogyny aside, what did children do to deserve that? Everyone should be looking out for them, the fuck. That being said men are usually fucking cowards ime | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 10:25 PM |
| 21 | This is a REAL MGTOW scrote video giving advice on how to verbally abuse and manipulate women!! So many trash males out there. Ladies, watch out for this scum!🤮Wow, just like my abusive ex I had when I was a gorgeous 22 year old pick me with a 18.5 BMI. Jfc women can’t win with these abusers. It’s like they all compare notes. Be on guard ladies, I wish I knew all this a decade ago. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 10:33 PM |
| 44 | I want to share an eye opening conversation i had with a guy friendY’all ever read the book The Power? The main premise is that within a short time, women develop organs with lethal electrocution powers, triggering a massive shift in gender power dynamics. Men are raped, objectified, stalked, demeaned at work, etc. While I was reading it, I caught myself horrified as if this shit is brand new. It’s happening ALL THE TIME but we are so desensitized to violence and discrimination against women it barely even registers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 07:51 PM |
| 14 | She’s 18 and he’s 23I hate when people say this, because all medical science points to 21-25 year olds as the most fertile with healthier pregnancies, with only tiny decreases each year through the 30s. The teens are highly dangerous years to bear children in. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 04:19 PM |
| 9 | Women resent men for seeing them as just a body. LVM want what's underneath the clothes, without caring about what's underneath the skin; the naked body without the naked soul. LVM resent women for placing a barrier between them and sex because we prioritize our emotional wellbeing over sex.Lol where’d you get this pic of me and my ex | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 04:06 PM |
| 4 | Men do not consider us human enough to be our friends.Ehh, on the flip side, how awkward is it when you meet a guy who insists on keeping every past dating partner/hookup floating around in the background? Have some boundaries and move on with your life, you know? Hopefully we all have enough friends already. That being said, I have absolutely been on the receiving end of this, and it only stung when it was with men who were actual friends first (not OLD or cold approaches). Met through mutual friends, family, or school, and then wanted zero to do … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 08:49 PM |
| 27 | "His teeth are gross but I love him." 🤢🤮This is exhausting to read. What a waste of energy on this man | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 11:59 PM |
| 12 | Would you consider her a pickme ? I feel like I understand her message but it seems like she’s using this for validation given the men in her comments...Lol. A nice suit is way more expensive than shoes, fuck that. I understand the energy behind it but hard pass on needing to spend money on him. Currently dating a guy who makes like 2x as much as me and I don’t lift a finger toward my wallet when we are out together, if he wants me to put myself out financially when he has the net worth he does, he doesn’t have my best interests at heart. That being said, I also take care of my own bills and am not lazy. I work hard and help him out where approp… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 06:43 PM |
| 9 | Expectations for communication while physically apartHonestly, 30-60 minutes on the phone every day when you’re only apart a week at a time sounds a bit smothering, and I’m a pretty attentive/communicative person. Especially if she is busy with caring for relatives, she probably could use a little space. How you feel is valid, but maybe you can compromise with just one call? | /r/RedPillWives | 10/02/21 07:42 PM |
| 1 | 33yo husband cheated during a moment of weakness but im staying with himInteresting that you’re so vitriolic towards her when he is the one with broken vows, but ok. Hope it works out I guess | /r/RedPillWives | 07/02/21 04:01 PM |
| 1 | Would anyone be open to mentoring?H | /r/RedPillWives | 28/01/21 12:06 AM |
| 18 | What man is "good enough"So you’re only 20, and want a guy with a job that gives back to society, with a low maintenance lifestyle, who likes to read habitually? And you absolutely bring the same to the table? That’s completely reasonable. You have plenty of time to meet people and vet for those qualities! | /r/RedPillWives | 28/01/21 12:05 AM |
| 1 | How do you tell your family you're traditional?Law is a risky professional school these days in terms of costs vs yield. A master’s, MBA, PA degree, or even med school would all be safer bets. The market is totally saturated already, and she’ll be looking at med school debt but potentially stuck in an unemployed- 100k zone as opposed to 130k - 400k basically guaranteed income as a doctor or about $80-140k for an MBA which would only run her about $40k in tuition. | /r/RedPillWives | 25/01/21 07:24 PM |
| 2 | Vetting this specific manBreast implants are an advantage for many men, not a disadvantage. Not everyone’s favorite but provided they turned out nice, they’re going to age nicely. That point aside, you can do better. Don’t date someone you want to fundamentally change - it’s controlling and codependent. | /r/RedPillWives | 25/01/21 06:58 PM |
| 3 | “Don’t build with a man”Well if he only appreciates you as some rich guy checklist trophy, you don’t want him as a husband anyway tbh | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/08/20 05:07 PM |
| 1 | I need a RPW refresher/content for "older" women (30+)I unfollowed for similar reasons honestly. Thanks for bringing this topic to the forefront! Also it started to feel unhealthy reading constant reminders about how ugly and worthless and late to the game any unmarried 30+ woman is. Clashes with everyone’s take who I know IRL so I wanted to be sure I wasn’t brainwashing myself in an unhelpful negative way. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/08/20 05:03 PM |
| 1 | How widespread is the notion of shaming women and girls for their femininity?What if you’re a feminine feminist? | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/20 06:16 PM |
| 15 | How widespread is the notion of shaming women and girls for their femininity?Shaming femininity is just misogyny tbh. And I think people absolutely over state it here lol. Grew up loving dresses and pink and cooking in absolute liberal echo chambers and never had an issue. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/07/20 07:02 PM |
| 10 | Feeling like I am ruinedSo you’re a perfectly normal person? Relax and be easier on yourself. You were recently in an abusive relationship, which comes through in the way you talk about yourself honestly. You need to heal and recalibrate your self-worth and picker. Get a therapist, an exercise regimen you like, and try a new hobby and stick with it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/07/20 05:42 PM |
| 1 | Vetting for emotional intimacy/depth?Wow, worded perfectly. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/07/20 11:47 PM |
| 11 | "What even is Red Pill Women lolol?? pLaTe sChOoL???1?"There’s a middle ground between hyper feminist and RP though... | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/20 10:04 PM |
| 5 | "What even is Red Pill Women lolol?? pLaTe sChOoL???1?"To be fair, there IS a lot of internalized misogyny floating around here especially around aging. Also your BP messaging examples are mostly straw men. No one really believes that you are entitled to a great guy if you’re ugly and don’t put yourself out there. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/20 10:03 PM |
| 2 | "Transwomen are Women"?100%. If trans women existing makes you feel like less of a woman somehow, I think that’s a you problem, not a trans women problem. The more ladies the merrier IMO | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/07/20 04:07 PM |
| 2 | "Transwomen are Women"?I hate this sub sometimes. You’re correct | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/07/20 03:19 PM |
| 0 | "Transwomen are Women"?It’s because this sub is deeply transphobic 🙃 | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/07/20 03:18 PM |
| -9 | "Transwomen are Women"?Well it’s not really our business to speculate on something like this, and seems only tangential to the spirit of the subreddit. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/07/20 04:50 AM |
| -4 | "Transwomen are Women"?Why is this even a thread here? I have worked with trans patients in public health days and have a few trans friends. They are women. They also have experience presenting and moving through the world as a male. So that’s a difference, yes. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/07/20 04:22 AM |
| 1 | My boyfriend seemed like a mature, intelligent guy but he's actually a huge man-childUm, Tolstoy > Dostoevsky any day of the week! Agreed that dude in the OP sounds like a smug dbag though. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/20 07:31 PM |
| 11 | My boyfriend seemed like a mature, intelligent guy but he's actually a huge man-childOh no, this is something I could see myself falling for when I was like 18-20. Lesson learned OP... Even if a guy actually does like heady literature and wines and trivia, anyone acting like a pretentious try-hard should be pinging your weirdo detector. And even if a guy is classy and intelligent and everything you want, including being multi-dimensional and humble, wait at least a few more dates to bang! Not shaming, just take your time. Let anticipation build. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/20 04:44 PM |
| 8 | Can fishnets ever be classy?I LOVE nude patterned fishnets (more doily-like than regular ones) under a pastel dress & cardigan or blazer, with a heeled t-strap sandal. Just beautiful, and demurely sexy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/07/20 09:03 PM |
| 2 | Ms. MidwestI do not hate myself for being white in any way and do not have any desire whatsoever to continue talking to you. Good luck. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/07/20 02:23 PM |
| 2 | What is a red wine that pairs well with the summertime?Oh duh! Rose is the queen of girly summer wines | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/07/20 05:27 PM |
| 3 | Ms. MidwestHoo boy this is a lot of nonsense. We are not threatened or oppressed because of our skin. We look like most politicians, celebrities, and business people. Stop making straw man arguments. This is toxic white supremacist language. Whiteness is not a culture. I’m white with a touch of Jewish so maybe I’m more sensitive to this but you need to gain some perspective and drop the victim complex. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/07/20 05:24 PM |
| 3 | Ms. MidwestWell, there is definitely some overlap that can be attributed to additional variables. Not that it’s causal. So you’re not wrong perse. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/07/20 09:58 PM |
| 2 | Anyone else’s ex(es) tried to get back in contact with you during quarantine? 🤦🏻♀️I agree! Definitely reassuring to hear. I hope he meets someone great and better handles his relationship next time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/07/20 07:18 PM |
| 3 | Ms. MidwestWell sounds like I need to check out The Feminine Fancy. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/07/20 07:14 PM |
| – | What's for dinner?Sounds delicious and super healthy! | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/07/20 07:12 PM |
| – | What's for dinner?That sounds awesome. I need more recipes for the slow cooker! What veggie do you like to pair that with? | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/07/20 07:12 PM |
| – | What's for dinner?Whipping up turkey and chickpea chipotle chili tonight w/ Greek yogurt (our favorite sour cream sub) and avocado. We still have a Boston creme pie to finish but I was thinking of making a berry custard tart this weekend. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/07/20 07:11 PM |
| – | What's for dinner?Oooh, ahi or canned? That sounds like a perfect quick summer dinner. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/07/20 07:10 PM |
| 2 | Anyone else’s ex(es) tried to get back in contact with you during quarantine? 🤦🏻♀️Yes. My ex called me on Father’s Day to check on me which was very sweet. I had his # blocked though, so he emailed me. Said he was wrong for how the relationship ended, I am a great person with strong values and he hopes i keep those, I was an amazing gf, etc. He really treated me poorly (mommy/maid/trophy vibe) and didn’t take responsibility for himself or others, although he’s a good person at heart and I hope he’s taken the opportunity to grow up a bit. I’m not going to respond. Things are g… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/07/20 06:41 PM |
| 3 | "Post-wall" ladies, how do your red pill efforts shift with age? How do your efforts change in terms of still feeling attractive to your man? Does age impact how you support your man and family?This whole thread is a cool drink of water on a hot day. I’m 31 now and feel like I’m taking crazy pills when we are told we are no longer supposed to be alluring, cute, etc. like ???? Just does not match up with reality or with the reality of the good men I know/meet. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/07/20 06:38 PM |
| 3 | What is a red wine that pairs well with the summertime?Oh a nice Malbec would be dry and light w a grilled steak and vegetables. But I always love Malbecs! | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/07/20 06:35 PM |
| 0 | How long to wait for a proposal?Because he doesn’t want to marry her | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/06/20 08:33 PM |
| 4 | How long to wait for a proposal?Because this is the RPW sub. Also the guy isn’t proposing because he doesn’t want to marry her, not because he wants to be proposed to, that much should be obvious. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/06/20 08:10 PM |
| 2 | Accepting that I've lost an Alpha?Girl I promise it’s ok. You weren’t perfect but that’s alright, neither is he. I know it’s trite but everything happens for a reason... take this opportunity to learn how to be more direct with communication and go find someone whose values sit right with you. He’s out there! | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/06/20 06:09 PM |
| 2 | Red and green flagsThis is hilarious. The last 5 red flags are totally solid but the rest are dumb. “Has a job normally worked for women” “vegan” “likes Star Wars” So you want a boring sexist bro? Ok more for you I guess | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/06/20 04:40 PM |
| 3 | Accepting that I've lost an Alpha?People are being harsh with you. No, you shouldn’t have bugged him after he ended things. But tbh it sounds like you guys had different values, and he seems callous/impatient. Is that really who you want to be with long term? Someone who you can’t be yourself around? | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/06/20 04:36 PM |
| 2 | consequences of beauty.Intelligent people can also be pretentious and snobby, so watch out haha. Filter by kindness, temperament, and humor IMO. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/06/20 03:11 PM |
| 3 | what does the exclusivity conversation sound like?I think he’s spinning things back on you and deflecting responsibility. He seems immature. Move on. Also - I see chicks kind of lie with the whole “yeah I also want to take it slow and see where it goes.” No, you like him and want to be exclusive or move on. So say that, and do just that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/06/20 09:50 PM |
| 3 | Belle Delphine's new videoAhegao is so dumb. It’s all over the place in porn but is completely contrived. It’s like a 13 year old virgins idea of what women look like when they cum, I hate it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/06/20 09:45 PM |
| 6 | Any girls struggle finding female friends?Yeah I’m curious why OP thinks she’s intimidating? | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/06/20 02:29 PM |
| 3 | What are you working towards?Oh my goodness good luck!! How exciting ❤️ | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/06/20 06:22 PM |
| 1 | What are your thoughts on what this woman is saying in this video?Sure, but the whole point of RPW is to find a leader-type guy! 😁 | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/06/20 10:23 PM |
| 2 | Those of you who have actually had good luck with online dating— which sites did you have the most luck with in quality?I met my current bf on OkCupid but we had mutual friends, which I realized from his pictures. So that really clinched my decision to meet him, but the compatibility questions were helpful to know we had the same politics and values. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/06/20 03:25 PM |
| 12 | Importance of friends in RPW? How to make female friends?Lay off the judginess. Other girls can smell it a mile away. Be positive, complimentary, and ask if someone wants to grab a coffee. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/20 11:29 PM |
| 3 | How to not end up like my mother100%. This goes past just plain infidelity, it’s pretty exploitative. Make sure your values align, and I’m sorry OP, that’s disappointing | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/20 09:05 PM |
| 3 | What are your thoughts on what this woman is saying in this video?Ooo I love this. Thank you for sharing | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/20 09:03 PM |
| 2 | What are your thoughts on what this woman is saying in this video?Lmao @ dust bunny women! Stealing that one | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/20 07:46 PM |
| 8 | What are your thoughts on what this woman is saying in this video?I am chagrin to admit this on RPW but honestly, any man I’ve ended up in a relationship with I’ve been ready to sleep with very fast. I’m not married though (although I’ve always been the dumper), so speaking from experience I think that’s a bad move for vetting since you let yourself get sexually attached (live and learn lol). But in terms of mens’ perceptions and getting your foot in the door commitment-wise, if the chemistry is there, it’s there, and if it’s not it’s just not. No amount of ma… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/20 10:14 PM |
| 6 | What are your thoughts on what this woman is saying in this video?I doubt men are turned off by it, but if you want an assertive man who is into pursuing and leading you, holding back screens out men you won’t be compatible with. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/20 07:24 PM |
| 9 | What are your thoughts on what this woman is saying in this video?Babe I hear you but you’re also 21. I feel like you’ll gain a lot of perspective in the next decade of life. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/20 06:20 PM |
| 23 | What are your thoughts on what this woman is saying in this video?It’s really not as risky as people act, especially if the woman is in good health with education and quality medical care at her disposal. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/20 05:16 PM |
| 13 | What are your thoughts on what this woman is saying in this video?Ok just checking! I mean, maybe she’s looking for that? Not great RPW advice. I am just feeling a bit defensive of her for some reason, maybe because she doesn’t actually claim to be RPW. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/20 05:14 PM |
| 7 | What are your thoughts on what this woman is saying in this video?Totally. Being hard to get is good, but playing hard to get is games and will put off a guy with strong frame and self worth. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/20 04:57 PM |
| 20 | What are your thoughts on what this woman is saying in this video?We don’t have any clue whether she does or not. She’s giving dating advice, not fertility maximization advice | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/20 04:53 PM |
| 23 | What are your thoughts on what this woman is saying in this video?So because she’s not married you’re calling her a prostitute? That seems cruel | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/20 04:51 PM |
| 23 | What are your thoughts on what this woman is saying in this video?Y’all I know maternal complications increase after 30. I know. But it’s routinely overstated in here and we don’t even know her goals. Maybe she doesn’t want kids. Maybe she wants to adopt. I have like 3 32+ women in my family with MDs who recently had beautiful healthy kids and are aiming for more. My mom had me at 35. Two of my friends waited until 40. Not everyone lives to have kids young; that doesn’t mean they can’t be sexy and attractive and have a fulfilling dating and romantic life. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/20 04:24 PM |
| 27 | What are your thoughts on what this woman is saying in this video?You can have multiple children even if you start after 30. She’s not 45, she’s 34. Not ideal for us ladies here maybe but she’s not some withered old hag lmao | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/20 04:17 PM |
| 31 | What are your thoughts on what this woman is saying in this video?Is she really post wall? She’s gorgeous, despite the overdone lips. We really tear each other apart in here | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/20 04:12 PM |
| 48 | What are your thoughts on what this woman is saying in this video?34 isn’t that old, damn. I love RPW but the internalized misogyny is depressing. Women aren’t worthless and unsexy and unlovable after 30 That being said, take ANY monetized dating coach advice with a grain of salt! | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/20 04:10 PM |
| 1 | How do you ladies deal with anxiety around knowing men almost unanimously prefer women in their early twentiesYeah somehow you’re supposed to vet while abstaining from sex for months, not move in before engagement, AND be engaged within a year?? Seems confusing haha | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/06/20 02:13 AM |
| 6 | How do you ladies deal with anxiety around knowing men almost unanimously prefer women in their early twentiesI sure wouldn’t wait 10 years, maybe 2-3, but my cousin and two coworkers of mine were proposed to 10 years into their relationships. Everyone wanted to wait after finishing degrees, hitting 30 etc. If people start dating early sometimes it just makes extra sense to wait. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/06/20 02:11 AM |
| 1 | How do you ladies deal with anxiety around knowing men almost unanimously prefer women in their early twentiesI absolutely agree that it should at least be discussed as a tangible next step to work toward! But that’s a big step away from an actual proposal is all. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/06/20 02:08 AM |
| 15 | How do you ladies deal with anxiety around knowing men almost unanimously prefer women in their early twentiesI think proposing within a year is extreme, personally, at least in many circles and cultures. It’s not really fair to make a blanket statement that he doesn’t love you if he doesn’t propose before then. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/06/20 10:38 PM |
| 1 | Vetted, Committed, but wants to see other people.You are a CATCH! Go find your captain!!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/05/20 12:42 AM |
| 4 | Boyfriend and weedIt’s ok to break up if he won’t stop smoking weed. There are more compatible people out there for each of you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/20 06:26 PM |
| 29 | So, my father asked my husband for a divorce.Yes. Also she acts like this is 1930s and she lives in Yemen. Depressive episodes will not make you lose custody in 2020 in the UK. So many excuses. I definitely feel for her though, what a scary and daunting situation. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/20 06:24 PM |
| 2 | Female Role Models?Megan Markle is just wonderful imo. Really held up under all the media pressure. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/20 08:22 PM |
| 4 | Female Role Models?Frida Kahlo is a queen and a treasure but doesn’t really fit the RPW mold at all | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/20 08:21 PM |
| 6 | Female Role Models?I’ve never learned something about her I didn’t love! | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/20 03:02 PM |
| 7 | Female Role Models?She’s a gem. Great pick regardless of your personal politics. Just bought her book | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/20 02:34 PM |
| 59 | Female Role Models?Dolly Parton! Honestly. She is feminine, diplomatic, kind, talented, and in a super long happy relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/20 02:10 AM |
| 2 | Should I send my ex-boyfriend’s mom a thank you card? If so, how? Would love some help from the RP ladies!That’s really wonderful to hear. I’m glad things turned up for him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/05/20 09:48 PM |
| 5 | Should I send my ex-boyfriend’s mom a thank you card? If so, how? Would love some help from the RP ladies!Wow OP, I’m really sorry to hear about your brother. My father had schizophrenia which was mostly managed until the final years. It’s heartbreaking on so many levels to have a loved one with this illness. Please feel free to reach out if you need to talk. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/05/20 01:19 PM |
| 2 | Boyfriend extremely distant and cold after sexI’m getting bad vibes through and through. If a guy is making you confused about his feelings for you this early on it doesn’t bode well. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/05/20 10:54 PM |
| 3 | Burnout12 is more than old enough to help around the house! I used to scramble eggs and do my laundry from like 8+ | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/05/20 12:18 AM |
| 2 | would you still have children if your partner had autism?Yes | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/20 11:13 PM |
| 4 | Should I go to college and have a career?Hahaha. Well, maybe 31’s the year it will happen. Better invest in cats now... ;) | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/05/20 09:09 PM |
| 6 | Should I go to college and have a career?I got my undergrad and MS. There was nothing keeping me from dating while completing them. I had a couple promising long term relationships that didn’t quite fit so we parted ways after a few years. Now I’m 30, and half a year in with someone I could see myself marrying. I’m so glad I went to school(s)... making close to 6 figures allows me to have investments, savings, regular therapy and beauty treatments, access to interesting hobbies, and I’m not loaded with debt. Plus the men I’m interested… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/05/20 08:42 PM |
| 3 | How can I make my man more “alpha”?Who says that to a dog? This guy is mentally screwed up. Get away from him, and stop worrying about fixing him or managing his life. He’s an excuse/distraction from fixing and managing your own life. Get out, work on yourself, go to therapy, and THEN find a guy, vet him well, and after all that is done you can worrying about surrendering and all that Jazz. Can’t build a house on a shaky foundation. Better to do all of this right than to do it faster. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/05/20 08:48 PM |
| 2 | Pleasing him when he's feeling sexually submissive?Oh ok, 100%! Understandable. Sexual incompatibility is super important. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/20 04:51 PM |
| 4 | Pleasing him when he's feeling sexually submissive?I think the points of being a switch or not are totally valid; if it doesn’t work for someone maybe it can be a case of sexual incompatibility. Or, perhaps the two can reach a compromise just like hetero couples who dabble in anal only on special occasions because the woman knows he likes it so much. Just didn’t sit right with me to imply that there is something psychologically wrong with a subby guy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/20 03:17 PM |
| 19 | Pleasing him when he's feeling sexually submissive?This seems really extreme. Often, strong or powerful men are into the kink as a way to finally relinquish control for a little bit to a beautiful woman confident enough to enjoy him as she pleases sexually. It’s very validating for busy men to get to relax and be a sex toy for a half hour here and there. If he’s dominant most of the time there can be a little taboo factor that can be fun for him. Submissive kink is a spectrum anyway. A guy who likes to be tied up and ridden or have you sit on hi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/20 02:41 PM |
| 2 | I’m leaving my partnerProud of you girl! Onward and upward to find a better match for everything you bring to the table. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/05/20 04:17 PM |
| 1 | Vetting and ambivalenceHey, that’s a really good point. Thanks for the detailed, measured posting. I definitely loved your Op, my bf is more of a cat-type person and I’m a bubbly squirrel, so it’s a good reminder to not be nervous if he doesn’t seem as engaged or bubbly as I would expect. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/20 06:55 PM |
| 2 | Vetting and ambivalenceYeah I love the OP’s post but feel like it applies a little better to established relationships where he has already demonstrated initial interest and invested somewhat. Lol I do not have time for a dude who can’t be bothered to text back within a day or who doesn’t make plans if he’s not even my bf. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/20 06:08 PM |
| 2 | If women get what they want now, why are they so unhappy?I’m not broke by any means but I’m also under no delusion that we aren’t just cogs in a few oligarchs’ shitty profit machine. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/20 08:02 PM |
| 1 | If women get what they want now, why are they so unhappy?You’re not supposed to deep throat the boot dude | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/20 07:39 PM |
| 2 | Q4A: Why is desire for young women (legal age or older) singled out and not treated like any other standard?Ha! Not a hot young thing? Speak for yourself lmao she’s still like 98th percentile | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/20 07:34 PM |
| 1 | Q4A: Why is desire for young women (legal age or older) singled out and not treated like any other standard?I routinely get mistaken for 23-25. Oddly enough I was mistaken for that same age range from about 19-22 also! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/20 07:31 PM |
| 5 | If women get what they want now, why are they so unhappy?You’re being such an asshole for no reason. Two things can exist in parallel; men had very little options and struggled HARD. As you yourself said, this was primarily a class issue. Fat cats have been chuckling at all of us from the top of the hill while we turn on each other, for millenia | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/20 07:21 PM |
| 2 | If women get what they want now, why are they so unhappy?You must be joking. As a women your options were: die in a shitty factory job, work alongside your modest farmer husband, be a kept woman (if you were rich already from a good family), or be a prostitute. In any single case above, you couldn’t vote, couldn’t take out loans, couldn’t attend college, couldn’t have a chance working most jobs, couldn’t go to the cops if you were being abused. Have you literally ever cracked open a history book? This isn’t to say all men are bad or anything, just tha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/20 07:06 PM |
| 0 | If women get what they want now, why are they so unhappy?Well that’s probably because their spouses were kind and respectable and wouldn’t smack down their wives. Plenty of men did and never got in trouble for it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/20 06:58 PM |
| 0 | If women get what they want now, why are they so unhappy?Oh ok well then I guess that makes it ok. I feel so happy now! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/20 06:56 PM |
| 5 | If women get what they want now, why are they so unhappy?Sorry but point to unregulated market capitalism and automation, not women. You’re welcome to move to Oman or something to live out this fantasy of yours. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/20 06:40 PM |
| 2 | If women get what they want now, why are they so unhappy?What system are you talking about? The original comment said women have more of a platform to voice their opinions now, and that they weren’t necessarily happier before legal abortions/right to work etc. Are you talking about tradcon marriages? Because that system hasn’t been thrown out and a lot of people happily live that lifestyle. That lifestyle, however, is only safe if the man is a good person, so it’s better that women have recourse to support themselves if things go sour. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/20 06:28 PM |
| 4 | If women get what they want now, why are they so unhappy?So no husband has ever hit his wife then? How cute that you would think otherwise. To an abusive drunk, “no reason” can mean burning dinner, getting flirted with, asking him for favors, getting fat, etc etc And lol a large number of police do abuse their power, and there have been active efforts to reform police culture with body cams and increased accountability. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/20 05:50 PM |
| 2 | If women get what they want now, why are they so unhappy?Thank you for posting actual information instead of bullshit | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/20 05:47 PM |
| 4 | If women get what they want now, why are they so unhappy?Lmao no they weren’t, they could get beaten up and thrown out in the street if they complained about anything. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/20 05:42 PM |
| 9 | How do I adjust my dating strategy when I make six figures?If they have 2 brain cells to rub together and you’re not in the public sector most people should implicitly understand that engineers make a good salary. Don’t put the salary, it’s tacky. Maybe you can say you’d like to meet a hard worker, someone in a similar field, someone passionate about their career etc. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/04/20 04:14 PM |
| 2 | Q4A: Why is desire for young women (legal age or older) singled out and not treated like any other standard?Dude Leo is dating international supermodels in their 20s. Hardly comparable to “I need someone who will never question me” bullshit. He’s dating them because they are status symbols and he can. They have money and power. It’s a bit different. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/20 03:58 PM |
| 7 | Q4A: Why is desire for young women (legal age or older) singled out and not treated like any other standard?Imagine actually believing this | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/20 03:32 PM |
| 2 | Q4A: Why is desire for young women (legal age or older) singled out and not treated like any other standard?Small dick energy. Also women closer in age can still be soft spoken and submissive? If you feel like you need external factors to have a “controllable” woman you’re a weak man, sorry | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/20 03:19 PM |
| 7 | The SAHM/Homemaker role is great. Women gave away their happiness and power by choosing to work for a corporation insteadA degree with a huge experience gap will probably net you a bottom of the barrel sales or receptionist job, not factoring in the fact that our economy is currently circling the drain... Not enough to pay a mortgage and raise a child alone in most parts of the US. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/20 02:54 AM |
| 3 | Why are the caring loving fathers against their daughters being a housewife and dating an older man?True. I wish I did a better job of noticing those flashes myself and walking away! Glad to have a dad of course to pick up the slack though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/20 02:15 AM |
| 14 | Why are the caring loving fathers against their daughters being a housewife and dating an older man?Wow man. My stepdad who is Functionally my dad, really liked my Engineer bf who I am dating now. He is respectful, organized, calm, etc, but sort of really liked my doctor ex. Except the doctor ex was late, sort of republican, sexist, etc and my stepdad saw through it and didn’t like him as much as the engineer. I know part of it is that tech guy loves another tech guy but as much as he loved me dating a doctor he didn’t like the guy... it’s so good to have your outside opinions imo | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/20 12:58 AM |
| 9 | So, what if you're into military type men?My cousin is an ex-Marine turned firefighter and engaged to an absolute gem of a woman. He treats her like gold and is the human equivalent of walking integrity! The good qualities of military guys can be: discipline, sobriety, tidiness, respect. But ofc there is a potential dark side. Just like doctors can be intelligent and caring, they can also have huge egos. Just vet as hard as you would any other guy. And if he’s still in active service I hope you’re ok with lots of moving and potentially … | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/20 06:37 PM |
| 4 | So, what if you're into military type men?Great point, add doctors, professors, etc... | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/20 06:36 PM |
| 0 | People over-glorify youth. Specfically, the 18 to 24 demographic.Mid 30s isn’t old | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/20 06:04 PM |
| 1 | Why can't men talk about women's bodies?Well 100 lbs at 5’5” is a BMI of 17. Don’t make ridiculous sweeping statements. Yes climber women are definitely lean, petite, and sexy. They’re not skeletal and being over 100 lbs is completely fine | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/20 01:52 PM |
| 2 | Why can't men talk about women's bodies?Do you really know the weight of all the female climbers in your gym? Amazing, must be cool to be omniprescient | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/20 02:11 AM |
| 8 | Why can't men talk about women's bodies?What? I climb. Climbers weigh more than 100lbs. That weight only makes sense for women under 5’4” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/20 02:17 PM |
| 11 | Redpillers, and FDS. What are the ideas that you disagree with when it comes to your own community?After 38 or so, I’d rather date a divorced dad who is active in his child’s life than risk wasting time on a Peter Pan fuckboy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/20 03:19 AM |
| 6 | Redpillers, and FDS. What are the ideas that you disagree with when it comes to your own community?Yeah but just because she’s not peak of peak doesn’t mean she can’t be objectively attractive and have suitors. Psych studies actually indicate that for middling attractiveness people age is super important for their looks, but that highly attractive people are rated close in attractiveness even at age intervals (20 to 30 to 40). If a guy thinks a woman in her late 30s can’t be objectively attractive, he either is young, thinks women he sees irl are younger than they are, or has his standards wh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/20 02:12 AM |
| 5 | Redpillers, and FDS. What are the ideas that you disagree with when it comes to your own community?And conversely, with enough money and effort, women’s “wall” might be way further down the line than 30. Look at any model or actress. Or honestly even just healthy UMC women in metro areas. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/20 11:35 PM |
| 1 | His previous online activity is ruining my trustAgain - looking is pretty normal, but liking/interacting is creepy, especially if it’s the age of minority where OP lives Hard disagree on 16 being women’s prime lmao. Women’s peak fertility and healthiest births are in the early 20s anyway. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/20 09:22 PM |
| 2 | Discussion: Would women appreciate it if men looked at them less?100%. I stopped making eye contact at the gym/in public in my early 20s for this reason. It would be a hassle when someone thought he got the “green light” when I was just trying to get a workout in or buy my groceries. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/20 03:22 PM |
| 15 | His previous online activity is ruining my trustI disagree. 17 year olds are young, hormonal, and dumb and adults should know better than to give them sexual attention. Look, don't like (personally I'd rather be with a man who sexualizes legal adults). Not to mention nothing in your post suggests the girls dislike the attention lol. I agree with the other posters, though. Either you can't get over this or you can. He sounds like a pretty decent bf otherwise but personally the underage thing would put me off enough that I'd bail. I'm not you t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/20 09:24 PM |
| 8 | His previous online activity is ruining my trustLiking a teenagers bikini pics would earn a hard pass from me. Who does that? | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/20 08:39 PM |
| 2 | How is it possible for a man to attract younger women and yet not be good enough for women his own age?Sounds like you guys have a nice thing going. Be good to her 😸 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/04/20 11:56 PM |
| 2 | How is it possible for a man to attract younger women and yet not be good enough for women his own age?I think you have a nice mindset about her job. But yeah, especially in big cities, I think partly because CoL is high and people are wary of being married for money/freeloading. This can be confusing for guys also. My last bf was a doctor from a traditional Catholic family, but held progressive ideals and all his friends were doctor-doctor or doctor-phd couples. He seemed confused, wanting me to take on the cooking/cleaning/nurturing feminine role but also wanted me to excel at work, monitor his… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/04/20 11:38 PM |
| 1 | How is it possible for a man to attract younger women and yet not be good enough for women his own age?I noticed you’re Muslim and the expectation is she will stay at home, so maybe it’s different. But generally any decent UMC or MC guy will need a minimum of a BA/BS and some semblance of a career to show off to mom and dad in any girl he brings home, even if she’s going to quit her job to be with the kids eventually. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/04/20 11:23 PM |
| 10 | Ladies, have you told your SOs that you that you read RPW/consume this media?How, why or why not?Yeah it seems to be like a 20-80 split of strong manly sweetness and oh-god-I’m-glad-that’s-not-my-spouse | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/20 11:13 PM |
| 2 | How is it possible for a man to attract younger women and yet not be good enough for women his own age?That’s creepy imo, unless you’re in your 20s | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/04/20 08:23 PM |
| 32 | I’ve lost everything.Oh my goodness, dear. I’m so sorry to hear what’s happened. Nothing I can type on this forum will suffice, but my heart goes out to you. Please be gentle with yourself, and may you and your children find peace. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/20 02:31 AM |
| 16 | How to deal with loneliness and shame from being single?There is a lot to unpack here. Have you had a repressive religious upbringing? You're super young. You are not in a rush. You need to be working on yourself and growing up first because you sound ripe for, at best, codependency or, at worst, latching on to the first abusive jerk who gives you the time of day. You don't need to date right now. You don't sound like you're mentally healthy with solid self esteem. Also, there is a pandemic going on. Take an online excel course, or learn to crochet a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/20 08:20 PM |
| 1 | [CMV] Betabux as a strategy doesn't exist anymore. Women no longer need men as providers.Of course you can monetize your sexual services. Unfortunately most of the consumers of those services are men and a handful of old rich women. There's nothing stopping you except your own "ick" factor here. Or you could be like my stepbrother, and be super good-looking, agreeable, and domestic, and stay home and raise a big-baller career woman's kids. He loves it. Welcome to 2020. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/20 05:00 PM |
| 1 | [CMV] Betabux as a strategy doesn't exist anymore. Women no longer need men as providers.Men are adults. No one is forcing them to waste their money on OnlyFans. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/20 04:49 PM |
| 3 | [CMV] Betabux as a strategy doesn't exist anymore. Women no longer need men as providers.What if I told you that a guy can be both attractive and a stable provider? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/20 04:46 PM |
| 2 | [CMV] Betabux as a strategy doesn't exist anymore. Women no longer need men as providers.I mean, if a guy really does have a stressful job, and the woman works hard at being a SAHM... If you really wanted to monetize what she should be doing each day: - Chauffering kids - Providing childcare/tutoring - Cooking - Buying groceries, running errands - Planning appointments, holidays, social events - Cleaning - Laundry - Sex A busy busy man would have to fork over money for any one of the things listed above anyway. Why not save his time, find a hard worker to do all of this for "free" (… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/20 04:42 PM |
| 13 | About to turn 27, and I've realized the truth about "The Wall"Mom and dad will be happier to have their son bringing home an educated women who isn't poised to be a leech on their family. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/04/20 04:07 PM |
| 1 | Does anybody have statistics on Alimony and child support?I'm curious, what scholar and what context? I know here in California, presumption of shared parenting is usually good but also includes abusive fathers. Not worth it to throw the baby out with the bathwater, so to speak, but it's very hard to restrict access even when it's a bad man using his kids as a control token over his ex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/20 08:43 PM |
| 5 | Are women turned on by men who help with the chores?Oh look, you must have met my ex. Like yeah, I know he’s a doctor and it’s tiring and important, but I work FT as a consultant. Just because I worked from home when I visited him it’s like he thought I sat around with my thumb up my ass and got mad if I didn’t cook and clean and cater to him perfectly. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/20 02:23 PM |
| 1 | Is it sensible for AF/BB to offend the guy if the woman is childless?Women do pay higher in divorce settlements, depending on income. My mom paid $1k/month to my dad when he divorced her since he had been a stay at home husband. Was it fair? Honestly, yeah, she could afford it and he did his part in spending his time being a good reliable dad and husband. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/20 09:49 PM |
| 6 | What's your opinion in the Light Switch effect?Yeah I notice that “woman expressing needs” = nagging for some reason. It’s one thing to be rude to your man, it’s another thing to open your mouth and speak up and be honest. Why is that automatically classed as offensive or nagging behavior? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/20 07:03 PM |
| 0 | Paper AbortionsWhat do you think happens to the child when you imprison their primary/only caregiver just for being poor? The foster system is overloaded as it is | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/20 06:50 PM |
| 0 | Paper AbortionsSo a debtors prison? Highly unconstitutional, how could you even suggest that | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/20 02:27 PM |
| 4 | Paper AbortionsPregnancy and childbirth can be fatal and cause you to lose your job. Not the same as being on the hook for payments. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/20 02:25 PM |
| 1 | Beauty TreatmentsThat wouldn’t really be a job for Botox. Botox just relaxes the muscles in the face to smooth fine lines and prevent deeper wrinkles from forming. So areas like crows feet, frown lines, forehead lines etc. I have had it done in those three areas, and always ask to be less-than-frozen so I can still make expressions lol. It’s been a gorgeous little touch up luxury that is working in combination with Retin-A and sunscreen to age me gracefully. For under eye hollows, typically a hyaluronic acid fil… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/04/20 12:05 AM |
| 1 | Beauty TreatmentsChemical peels every week or so, either lactic, glycolic, or salicylic Botox a few times a year (no one can tell) Olaplex bond repair treatment once or twice a month | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/04/20 03:57 PM |
| 10 | Dealing with resentmentJust a question I had, prompted by OP’s situation and some similar traits I recognized in my ex: Is a guy who is “difficult” and/or moody, temperamental, or whiny/complainy a guy with weak frame? My ex had a similar vibe and it felt weak and immature. No comment on the dismissiveness; the male commenter is so right and your partner would go a long way just helping you feel heard. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/20 10:02 PM |
| 7 | OrbitersAny guy being wishy washy at that age deserves a pass. Either he doesn't have his stuff together or he isn't that into you. There are others! | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/20 04:12 PM |
| 2 | Do you find that insecure men have a problem with "confident" women?Hang in there! :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/20 04:07 PM |
| 4 | Do you find that insecure men have a problem with "confident" women?That resonates. Water seeks its own level, etc. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/20 04:05 PM |
| 4 | An Au Pair's perspective on RPWYeah, no wonder they are having problems in the marriage. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/20 03:54 PM |
| 6 | Are Homemakers Doing Better Than Feminists During COVID 19 Shut Down?Oh sure, there are lots of great reasons to work besides money! I guess I meant that not everyone even has the option to stay home. I have to say, this pandemic has had the opposite effect on me. I like work, and being an analyst and flexing my brain, but it's a nice little breather to soak up the domesticity even though I'm still working. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/04/20 09:27 PM |
| 1 | COVID19 and the hypocrisy of modern feminismGood point!! Just look at what's happening to Social Security in the US (spoiler: it's not sustainable). | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/04/20 08:19 PM |
| 8 | Are Homemakers Doing Better Than Feminists During COVID 19 Shut Down?Edit: removed unnecessary snarkiness Depends on whether or not the “feminists” have lost their job and health insurance, probably. Most women have to work out of the economic necessity and/or to relieve their husband of all that financial pressure. Also, being a feminist and a homemaker is not mutually exclusive; nor is being a non-feminist and working... | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/04/20 07:52 PM |
| 2 | Cut my hair?Sounds like he probably thinks pixies are cute but doesn’t want to sound like he doesn’t like your current hair. Maybe tease him about it lightheartedly so he knows you’re not going to take it super seriously? | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/04/20 04:25 PM |
| 1 | COVID19 and the hypocrisy of modern feminismOk. Having to care for children is tough and the US doesn’t provide childcare. Nurses, CNAs, techs, and caregivers are overwhelmingly women. They’re not wrong, they’re probably just worried about different things from their POV. Everyone is stressed and not thinking totally straight right now. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/04/20 02:32 PM |
| 4 | COVID19 and the hypocrisy of modern feminismI hear you. However, Taiwan and South Korea also have single payer healthcare and did an amazing job responding in this. NYC is largely privatized and has seen a similarly grim outcome. Quarantine is what everyone is doing right now, single payer or not, because that is how to stem the spread in populated areas. While I hear your concerns and agree it can’t be touted as a panacea, it’s a place to start. Our system has so many flaws outside of this pandemic and we are lagging behind the rest of t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/04/20 02:28 PM |
| 1 | COVID19 and the hypocrisy of modern feminismThanks tea, that's what I meant. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/04/20 07:58 PM |
| 13 | COVID19 and the hypocrisy of modern feminismThis whole disaster makes a good case toward single payer healthcare and UBI. Peoples lives should not depend on their jobs to this extent, especially in the richest country. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/04/20 07:26 PM |
| 2 | COVID19 and the hypocrisy of modern feminismMen expected to be breadwinners with no societal safety net, for starters. It’s not about no agency it’s about sociological trends and nuance. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/04/20 07:25 PM |
| 10 | COVID19 and the hypocrisy of modern feminismSure, but I guess here (sf Bay Area) a lot of tech and finance is male dominated and they work from home. Shop keepers, caregivers, fast food employees are still working which is either gender balanced or primarily female. People always cherry pick facts lol. I think the best and only thing we can all do right now is stay inside and call our loved ones often. It’s too bad our country has no real social safety net which is why people are still working. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/04/20 05:49 PM |
| 6 | COVID19 and the hypocrisy of modern feminismMaybe I just run in different circles, idk. I’m in a total leftist bubble over here and lots of people are talking about how men should be extra careful, how it’s a scary time for male health providers. I know my experience isn’t representative though. I know a disproportionate amount of doctors, researchers, and people who consume a lot of dense news. I see what you’re saying. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/04/20 05:41 PM |
| 15 | COVID19 and the hypocrisy of modern feminismWell I think taking a random opportunity (like a worldwide pandemic) to complain about fat people/feminists isn't super productive, but ok. It's just petty and there are more important things going on. Not a time for "gotcha!"s. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/04/20 05:32 PM |
| 3 | COVID19 and the hypocrisy of modern feminismThis is an interesting article for anyone concerned about this disparity and wanting to learn more: https://www.wired.co.uk/article/coronavirus-death-men-women | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/04/20 04:53 PM |
| 38 | COVID19 and the hypocrisy of modern feminismI mean, people (doctors, epidemiologists, etc) are definitely discussing the impact of preexisting conditions, including obesity. Are we just looking for something to be angry about? "No one is discussing impact of obesity" is patently false. There are bioengineers all over the world investigating this thing right now. https://www.aljazeera.com/indepth/features/doctor-note-obesity-risk-factor-coronavirus-200406065716658.html https://www.beckershospitalreview.com/public-health/obesity-increases-r… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/04/20 04:36 PM |
| 57 | COVID19 and the hypocrisy of modern feminismYes, this thread is ridiculous. Who would we direct outrage at? The virus? Black American women die at disproportionate rates in childbirth, controlling for SES and health factors (obesity etc). Are we also angry about that? How about we use our energy more productively to either solve the problem or do something else positive? | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/04/20 04:35 PM |
| 2 | Important questions to ask during courtship/dating100% agree about wishy washiness under stress. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/04/20 08:32 PM |
| 27 | Important questions to ask during courtship/datingThis is a good post to talk about vetting. I'll be keeping tabs on this one since I'm back in the game and things seem to be going well. Not married yet so I need additional help haha. I will say, that in my last relationship (family-oriented pediatrician, confident and smart), I noticed several times that he would be inconsistent in his stance on various things. How he felt about friendships, what kind of lifestyle he wanted, how he felt about his job, what his short term goals were. I brushed … | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/04/20 06:08 PM |
| 2 | Being a stay at home mom has been ruining my marriageRight, best case scenario is that they’re simply codependent and she’s caught up in unhealthy communication dynamics. I suppose square 1 is to be totally honest, but he seems likely to be dismissive. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/20 01:46 PM |
| 12 | Being a stay at home mom has been ruining my marriageYeah not good for this situation. That's good when you're bitching out your husband for wearing polos instead of button downs, not when you're being trapped in your house like an indentured servant. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/20 11:20 PM |
| 4 | Being a stay at home mom has been ruining my marriageThank you, I felt like I was taking crazy pills. OP, hang in there. Your feelings and needs are totally valid. You sound like a very selfless and giving wife and mother. I'm sorry you're going through it right now. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/20 11:18 PM |
| 49 | Being a stay at home mom has been ruining my marriageNo one else thinks OP’s husband sounds kind of financially abusive? I mean, I don’t know the full situation but he seems to have absolute control over you, including your feelings. I personally couldn’t live like this and I doubt he will change without the two of you going to therapy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/20 10:43 PM |
| 3 | What Makes You Swipe Left?Any explicit sexual references, although I appreciate the honesty so I can skip Pics of them with their arm around women and the women’s faces edited out Only selfies Doesn’t like cats or animals in general Doesn’t want kids Wants non-monogamy in any way Any references to casual, hook up, fwb, “see where it goes” Too many professional, model looking pics. Seems vain? Business headshots always sexy and welcome Lots of focus on burning man (I’m in the bay) Desired age range max is lower than their… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/20 05:45 PM |
| 3 | Since we're all (hopefully!) staying indoors, what kinds of things should a feminine woman post on her social media?Those are my favorite pics to see from friends also! If it’s not pretty nature pics, homemade food, pet pics, or handmade stuff (or hilarious memes) I don’t care | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/20 05:37 PM |
| 7 | Being a reliable first mate and taking care of the home routineNo commute has been nice; I’m back to feeding the people and cats and tidying and making coffee for us in the morning instead of launching into traffic by 6:45. Consistency is hard because we have such random food around. We are making it work. I make us lunches except for his remote team lunch day. I make us dinner with whatever we have in the fridge but depending on time of week (groceries delivered wed) it can be pretty dismal. Last night I made the worst salmon quinoa dish I’ve ever made but… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/20 04:44 PM |
| 4 | I’m “playing wife” to someone I’m not (but would like to be) married to. What should I do?Those sound like weak reasons/moving goalposts. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/03/20 10:39 PM |
| 27 | Cautionary tale of hypergamySide partner needs to get ousted! But all this is exactly why poly is so messy and extra | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/20 12:03 AM |
| 16 | Am unable to satisfy my husband - looking for tips from women in similar situationsHow is this related to her problem? For all we know she is a marathon runner | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/20 02:37 AM |
| 2 | Is there a point where you can't surrender anymore, or am I just resistant and self-sabotaging?Sorry, he is an addict and an abuser. You can’t fix him and are only enabling him by staying with him. He’s not fit to lead. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/01/20 09:07 PM |
| 7 | I’ll never be as special to my husband as I didn’t lose my virginity to him. It’s just the way things go.“As special” is the wrong way to look at it. You didn’t get to have one of a variety of “firsts” with him. There is no point in dwelling on anything you can’t change. Did you go to prom with him? Learn to drive a car? First try ballroom dancing? Go on your first camping trip? Any first can be a special moment but these are fleeting. What matters now is coming together to piece your individual experiences together to enable you both to create new experiences and grow. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/20 05:52 PM |
| 2 | Wanted to share with you ladies how beneficial eyelash lifts are, IMO they rival getting eyelash extensions.Great tip, thanks! Looking great | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/20 05:49 PM |
| 28 | Am I really being abused?Wow, amazing that an abused women might exhibit classic symptoms of depression... | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/20 03:04 AM |
| 3 | [Advice] Mean girl at work, also how not to become the older bitter woman?Nah, she might see it as weak or desperate. Just try to completely tune her out. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/20 10:40 PM |
| 8 | Break up with a RP man - how to handle the healing process and redefine my value?Damn, I wanna print this out and stick it to my mirror | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/20 11:35 PM |
| 2 | Stressed out in relationshipSounds like disrespect = having needs or human emotions! | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/12/19 05:42 PM |
| 1 | Stressed out in relationshipTo be fair, relationships do take work... but in the form of mutual communication, compromise, and supporting each other in personal growth. This guy is an abuser. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/12/19 05:37 PM |
| 2 | Is motherhood a goal?Such good advice. Hope for the sun but prepare for rain. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/12/19 09:36 PM |
| 8 | The Best Gift You Can Give Your HusbandYeah a high quality man, IMO, likes to participate in the holidays with his family. Sure, he can sit back and relax a bit, but a thank you and a token Xmas gift and a glass of nog with the kids shouldn’t be a vast amount of effort lol. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/12/19 07:43 PM |
| 22 | The Best Gift You Can Give Your HusbandYeah this is a pick me post, I’d rather not be married if my husband was that emotionally absent | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/12/19 07:13 PM |
| 10 | How to deal with snarky comments (especially from women) in a graceful way?I’d make a joke like “Well I was tempted to wear sweatpants but figured it wasn’t allowed in the dress code. Everyone looks great!” They will just look like a dork | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/12/19 02:27 AM |
| 18 | How to deal with snarky comments (especially from women) in a graceful way?Your sister’s comment at the wedding was maybe bitchy, or maybe joking since you’re only 21 and clearly unmarried at a wedding. Based on the other two, I think you’re being really over sensitive and imagining bad intent where there might not be any. You’re handling it fine; just ignore the comments and talk to someone else if you feel uncomfortable. I doubt everyone’s out to get you as much as you think though. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/12/19 09:50 PM |
| 6 | Do any of you worry about the future of male and female relationship?This is very black and white. Women, including feminists and traditionalists alike, aren’t either all perfect supportive beauties OR abjectly abusive beasts. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/19 12:28 AM |
| 2 | Do any of you worry about the future of male and female relationship?Well, with each wave of social change that has occurred, there has been blustering doom and gloom about how families as we know it will crumble! Protestantism, suffrage, interracial marriage, etc. Yet people still have families. It’s in our dna, and we are here able to make choices. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/19 12:27 AM |
| 43 | Do any of you worry about the future of male and female relationship?People will adapt socially and always be able to find love even if things change a lot. I’m more concerned with the health of the environment and economic stability for my future kids. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/12/19 11:09 PM |
| 15 | What is one thing you've learnt on RPW that changed your life for the better?Seems counterintuitive but being more discriminating about vetting. I used to indiscriminately submit, which led me to getting frustrated with men who don’t lead, or ones who aren’t fit to lead. I like that RPW encourages us to have high standards for ourselves but also seek the same in our captains so we don’t stew in the unhealthy drive to change them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/12/19 11:26 PM |
| 10 | What are your best solutions to late replies?RPW also isn’t for casual situations, so I’m not sure why you’re so worried about catering to him correctly. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/12/19 03:24 PM |
| 9 | What's your opinion on nudes?No way, avoid guys that ask | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/12/19 08:49 PM |
| 2 | Are men and women even compatible anymore nowadays?Yeah, he wants a woman who can act as an objectified addition to his life, not to merge his life with another person's life. Avoiding all conflict is unhealthy. But I guess it doesn't matter if you're cool with the playboy serial-monogamy lifestyle. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/19 08:04 PM |
| 1 | Are men and women even compatible anymore nowadays?Well, not to be rude, and it sounds like you are a catch who has his shit together, but you haven't exactly been successful in building a home with someone else. I think that may be a whole different ballgame. More power to you, though! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/19 08:00 PM |
| 1 | Women who claim that being physically fit is an impossible or high standard for women to be held to are lazy as hellhttps://healthyeater.com/ideal-body-weight-calculator Also, yikes the range for me is more like 131-137. Better watch it over the holidays. :D | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/19 07:32 PM |
| 1 | Women who claim that being physically fit is an impossible or high standard for women to be held to are lazy as hellRight, it also means that you can take little steps to get healthier, even if you don't ultimately end up at a conventionally healthy or attractive weight. Which is awesome! A lot of obese people get sad and self-loathing and give up because it seems like such an uphill battle. If all someone can muster is passing on soda and taking the stairs once in a while, hey at least it's a start and good for them! None of my business. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/19 06:42 PM |
| 13 | What shall we do with the drunken captain?Great post, thanks for sharing. Especially important for women seeking a submissive and trusting role. This book has been on my list for a while, so thanks for the reminder! | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/11/19 05:39 PM |
| 2 | Happy TalkThank you! That would be hard to walk away from as well. And ughhh commitment was on its way, we were looking at houses and talking about buying a dog etc but I got cold feet. So nice to hear things worked out for you (and your husband). We take what we can learn from each experience and use it to inform and appreciate our future dating. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/11/19 03:50 PM |
| 2 | Happy TalkThank you so much for the kind words. I know it was a good move for me in staying true to myself, but so disappointing. We parted on good terms but he really didn’t like me questioning some of his choices. Right from the start, I was a little curious how a 6ft handsome pediatrician hadn’t had a gf in 7 years and expressed “I am good at getting dates but not at getting to the gf stage.” I guess it makes sense and I hope he can figure himself out. Maybe this relationship helped him cut his teeth a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/11/19 03:30 PM |
| 1 | Happy TalkGood point. It started long distance so was a high-investment, low-information situation from the outset, and we seemed so good together on paper! I probably wouldn’t have continued in a OLD situation past the first 5 dates or so. Importance of vetting I guess. Still a little raw. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/11/19 03:22 PM |
| 7 | Happy TalkIn general, I love this thread and concept. Thinking ill of men in general is also unhelpful, and honestly ignorant. Question - I recently initiated a breakup with my bf due to a few things (lies of omission about drug use, constant complaining/whining, arrogance and mean comments about staff below him at work and poor people, dismissing my job and feeling entitled to my “wife type” favors). I had posted to RPW about these and mostly ladies told me it was bad news. During the breakup, he told me… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/11/19 01:42 PM |
| 1 | Found out I was seeing a guy with a girlfriend... I feel low valueA 23 yo dating a 17 yo is a creep. You were naive and expecting him to validate you. I’m sorry and stop concerning yourself with his opinion at all. Now is a great time to go nun mode for a bit and get yourself into therapy to work on your own self image. Best of luck! | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/11/19 08:14 PM |
| 2 | [ADVICE] My(28F) friend(29F) is extremely negativeThis is great advice for a lot of situations. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/19 12:24 AM |
| 1 | Always Pads to Remove Feminine Logo To Accommodate Transgender MenHow am I minimizing pain? It’s widely recognized in the scientific community that the best treatment for gender dysphoria are steps to confirm gender identity with lifestyle changes. Are you saying that above and beyond the obvious distress of gender dysphoria, trans people don’t face external difficulties or discrimination? https://scholar.google.com/scholar?hl=en&as_sdt=0%2C5&q=trans+gender+dysphoria+discrimination&btnG=#d=gs_qabs&u=%23p%3Da0Kqw79ZjcgJ | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/19 09:26 PM |
| 1 | Always Pads to Remove Feminine Logo To Accommodate Transgender MenWell, counterpoint, my good friend is a MTF woman who had her entire facial feminization surgery and hair transplants covered by work. She’s a successful analyst for a top company in a liberal city. She’s been on estrogen therapy for a few years and is getting her top surgery in a couple weeks. Shit is HARD and it’s been a hell of a process, but she’s happier than ever and can’t wait to get her boobs lol. I’ve never heard her or any other trans/non-binary person say they don’t want trans people … | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/19 09:17 PM |
| 1 | Always Pads to Remove Feminine Logo To Accommodate Transgender MenOf course she wants to be perceived as a woman, because, well, she is. We agree on that! Trans men who have uteruses have periods. How is acknowledging that in any way ridiculing them? We are both getting into “but my friend is black” territory, but I worked as a health education counselor in an LGBTQ hormone clinic for a while and learned a lot. I think you might be confusing some of the vocabulary and maybe we are having trouble communicating. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/19 08:59 PM |
| 8 | Always Pads to Remove Feminine Logo To Accommodate Transgender MenUnderstandable! Sorry for sounding kind of condescending, it’s easy to forget not everyone has had the same learning experiences. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/19 08:52 PM |
| 12 | Always Pads to Remove Feminine Logo To Accommodate Transgender Men.... Trans men, who were originally women, have periods, unless they have taken enough testosterone to stop that function. This is a simple fact, not a suggestion. Understand? No one is saying cis men (99% of men) are “supposed” to have periods. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/19 08:48 PM |
| 14 | Always Pads to Remove Feminine Logo To Accommodate Transgender MenPeople born with female parts who identify as male are trans men. People born with male parts who identify as female are trans women. It’s not super hard to understand. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/19 08:39 PM |
| 7 | Always Pads to Remove Feminine Logo To Accommodate Transgender MenLegit how does this feminize men??? It’s a shallow marketing ploy targeting trans men who still have periods. Zero effect on cis men | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/19 08:03 PM |
| 1 | Always Pads to Remove Feminine Logo To Accommodate Transgender MenLol what? Nice argument 👍🏻 | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/19 07:44 PM |
| 5 | Always Pads to Remove Feminine Logo To Accommodate Transgender MenTrans people didn’t petition for the logo change, it was a marketing move. They just want to exist and be themselves and not be endlessly scrutinized. Seriously, most of the trans people I know are relatively apolitical anyway. They’ve got enough going on and are very normal cool people. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/19 07:37 PM |
| 3 | Always Pads to Remove Feminine Logo To Accommodate Transgender MenThat’s a ridiculous straw man argument, but ok you do you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/19 07:31 PM |
| 7 | Always Pads to Remove Feminine Logo To Accommodate Transgender MenSo? People with wheelchairs make up a tiny percentage of the population as well. Are you wasting time being upset about wheelchair ramps? | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/19 07:26 PM |
| 1 | Always Pads to Remove Feminine Logo To Accommodate Transgender MenYeah it’s like, transgender men exist, they have periods, transitioning is a pain, and why is a logo adjustment a big deal to any of us? Chill out and mind your business lol | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/19 07:09 PM |
| 1 | Always Pads to Remove Feminine Logo To Accommodate Transgender MenEasy for you to say when you have zero personal experience on the subject. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/19 07:07 PM |
| 1 | Always Pads to Remove Feminine Logo To Accommodate Transgender MenI know at least 5 and you’re overreacting. It doesn’t hurt anyone to be a little more inclusive. Is this sub about self improvement or about policing others about petty issues? | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/19 07:06 PM |
| 2 | Do you like being "put in your place" and any good and or bad experiences youve had?It’s a term for a sub who deliberately acts out and pushes boundaries for extra punishment. It’s fun. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/19 12:56 AM |
| 7 | Can anyone help me put a name to my trauma so I can start to overcome it?He was definitely abusive. I’m glad you’re away from him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/19 12:51 AM |
| 12 | Can anyone help me put a name to my trauma so I can start to overcome it?Borderline sexual assault. He put his desire to bust a nut over your comfort and possibly safety. I had a bf like this, would keep going when I cried. Awful. I’m so sorry, it’s a creeping gross feeling when you process how not ok it is. Do you have any access to therapy? It might help you sort out your feelings. Sending support and positivity your way. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/19 12:51 AM |
| 1 | How busy is too busy for a relationship?Yeah, I mean being a devoted SAHM with a busy husband is one thing, but I meant he sounds more like someone who wants an “out of sight out of mind” wife with no individual needs that he’s expected to attend to. Moving way too fast talking about this stuff anyway, I mean you guys are young and barely know each other. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/19 10:13 PM |
| 0 | Is this considered rape? Or is it just me exaggerating?Because she went through a traumatic experience and empathy is not that hard. How’d you get so hard hearted and judgmental? | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/19 12:34 AM |
| 12 | Do you like being "put in your place" and any good and or bad experiences youve had?My man has calmly called me out when I’ve been a bit irritable, or driving distracted, or not focusing on a work task etc. I love that he has the balls to do it and the kindness to not be a jerk about it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/19 12:23 AM |
| 9 | Struggle gaining weightThat’s most likely a deficit if you are at all active. Try bumping that up to 1,800 and lift HEAVY, like 4-8 reps til exhaustion. 3-4 sets. Deadlifts, squats, rows, chest presses, etc. If you eat like a bird just sneak in extra healthy calories with olive oil, avocados, peanut butter, etc. Make sure you’re getting 80-120g of protein every day. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/19 12:20 AM |
| 2 | Weight loss - skinny arms - advice please?Rock climbing +1!!!! You’ll get lean without really trying, make friends, have fun, and get an incredibly sexy back and arms. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/10/19 05:32 PM |
| 1 | Weight loss - skinny arms - advice please?Thanks botto | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/10/19 04:28 PM |
| 7 | Weight loss - skinny arms - advice please?OP please don’t listen to this person. Hire a trainer. As someone who used to have an ED this has red flags all over it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/10/19 03:07 AM |
| 5 | Weight loss - skinny arms - advice please?Interesting that you made a removed post in r/Fitness about low body fat and irregular cycle. Sounds like you’re not being honest here. Of course looking like a VS model is great, just stressing that 18% is already significantly low since it’s the standard for literal runway underwear models. And no offense but your bodyfat measurement method is either way off, or your eating/exercise habits must be far outside the norm to maintain that level of bodyfat. For normal women who want to get sexy wit… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/10/19 03:00 AM |
| 7 | Weight loss - skinny arms - advice please?Um, Victoria’s Secret models are between 16-18%. Bodybuilding women hover around 14-15%. Lower than that and you stop having your menses and/or develop osteoporosis. Not to mention the lifestyle commitment it takes to stay there in a healthy manner... Ladies need our estrogen! It stays in our fat. 18-20% will give an incredible slim sexy look. As long as you’re strength training and eating well up to 22-24% is perfectly healthy. Let’s be supportive and not foster eating disorders! | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/10/19 11:59 PM |
| 8 | How busy is too busy for a relationship?I also respect the desire for a trad relationship too, but being so clear about it, then dismissive of her reasonable concern, and already talking about moving in after 1 date sends off a weird vibe. Sort of like a wife is a checkbox to take care of at some point, ideally someone he doesn’t have to bother with and can leave at home to handle stuff. That sounds cynical and doesn’t necessarily make him a bad person, but it does seem odd. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/10/19 11:50 PM |
| 2 | As a woman who doesn't want equality between the sexes, I think only ugly girls say they want equality cos they're jealous they couldn't receive the benefits that pretty girls have.You forget poor working class women confined to factories, farm labor, or prostitution. The sudden growth of the American middle class after WWII allowed more (not all) women the option to stay at home. Looks like we have all gotten so comfortable now that we are whitewashing and romanticizing the past. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/19 07:56 PM |
| 5 | As a woman who doesn't want equality between the sexes, I think only ugly girls say they want equality cos they're jealous they couldn't receive the benefits that pretty girls have.I’m just saying it’s a low cognition post and these ladies have been nice enough to contribute to it. Not sure why you’re hostile to people in the comments. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/19 04:21 AM |
| 1 | As a woman who doesn't want equality between the sexes, I think only ugly girls say they want equality cos they're jealous they couldn't receive the benefits that pretty girls have.Your post is about what exactly? Ugly girls bad pretty girls good? Why are you out here assigning homework? | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/19 04:16 AM |
| 1 | For women who work in an office, do the women there get along well?My workplace is a small firm of 20 people. All but 2 are women. It’s one of the most calm, professional work environments I’ve ever been in and I love it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/10/19 05:34 PM |
| 1 | Q4 RP Men: What does a gorgeous perfect virginal young woman get out of dating and fucking only you if you’re against marriage and will leave her for someone younger when she hits her “wall”?Because you’re ingenuously omitting the more important part of the definition that it is about violating someone’s bodily autonomy. It’s absurd and insensitive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/19 09:20 PM |
| 1 | Q4 RP Men: What does a gorgeous perfect virginal young woman get out of dating and fucking only you if you’re against marriage and will leave her for someone younger when she hits her “wall”?Or you could just call it exploitation instead of rape??? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/19 08:16 PM |
| 7 | New to redpill. Have certain opinions.You can do both, they aren’t mutually exclusive. In my case at least, it took me some time to know myself, improve, and grow to the point where I am ready to be a solid wife and mom (30, masters degree, educated family where everyone marries after 30). I’ve never had trouble keeping men, but would settle for the wrong ones and was still a little bit naive/messy. Some women are ready earlier in which case it’s great to meet the right guy and build a life... but don’t put the cart before the horse… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/09/19 05:41 AM |
| 5 | Reading men don’t love women like youAssertive is not the same as bitchy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/09/19 07:24 PM |
| 3 | Women's Rights: Bring Back Dominant Masculinity to Protect WomenBut what if a woman doesn’t have a family? | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/19 09:11 PM |
| 7 | Women's Rights: Bring Back Dominant Masculinity to Protect WomenYeah this proposition is so narrow minded. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/19 04:14 PM |
| – | What's for dinner?I made us some braised chicken breasts with garlic & green onion mashed potatoes, roasted balsamic brussels sprouts, and chicken gravy. It's my go-to sort of kind of healthy comfort dinner. He loved it! This week I've been cooking for myself and looking to shed a couple pounds. Tonight is lemon pepper pan seared salmon on a bed of sautéed red cabbage with roasted baby asparagus on the side. Lemon is gonna be my friend here. Trying to power through all the veggies I can before I go backpacking th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/08/19 11:27 PM |
| 2 | Great bf, but nervous about how he handles his mental healthFacts. Thanks for the reminder, pokersnob :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/08/19 11:16 PM |
| 1 | Great bf, but nervous about how he handles his mental healthThank you for your input and sharing your experience. I'll definitely keep that in mind going forward. I hate nagging but I guess this is an appropriate hill to die on if it keeps being an issue. Super glad to hear you got everything sorted! I remember being really pro-therapy and meds etc but never bothered to pull the trigger for myself until I was being irritable and weepy enough that I realized it was affecting my relationships. I finally had enough stable people around that I got a glimpse … | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/08/19 11:00 PM |
| 4 | Great bf, but nervous about how he handles his mental healthThank you. I don't want to fall into a nagging role, so I guess that's where I feel conflicted. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/08/19 10:44 PM |
| 4 | Great bf, but nervous about how he handles his mental healthThank you for chiming in! It's great to hear from others with similar experience. I agree that it is concerning they stepped in to such an extent. When he originally told me about them giving him the day off, I think he downplayed it a bit. I hadn't realized they specifically asked him to schedule an appointment. Hell, I feel conspicuous if a coworker asks me if I'm tired or ok on any given day; I'm surprised it got to this point without him getting more concerned. I also agree that it's a big t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/08/19 10:43 PM |
| 3 | Great bf, but nervous about how he handles his mental healthGood guess. That's a definite possibility. Step one is probably for him to get a real diagnosis. Do you find that irritability is a component of your condition? The main things leading me to believe it could go further than ADHD are that he does indeed experience mild cyclical depression, and he has markedly "upbeat" periods which seem to slide into his irritable periods. Also, when he takes Adderall it does help him focus on work and errands, but he either takes too much of it (seems like he ha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/08/19 10:10 PM |
| 7 | Virginity: Save it or give it up?I mean, female libidos are a real thing. Better to wait though. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/08/19 01:08 AM |
| 11 | ServitudeYou sound like a fantastic woman, wife, and mom. Clearly he loves the way you are, as evidenced by the 17 years of marriage. Are you staying in shape? Are you kind, supportive, and Have a sunny disposition? If so, I think it’s ok to relax and be yourself. Not every guy needs the stereotypical bells and whistles of femininity. But if you’re curious, I suppose you could ask him and see what he’s into. Then you can surprise him once in a while for a treat at least. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/08/19 12:30 AM |
| 1 | Essential skills for women?I wanna start this!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/19 05:19 PM |
| 16 | Dressing Femininely and Negative Reactions From Other WomenYeah, I mean, she said no one ever acts nice, dresses nice, has an acceptable bodyweight, etc. Does OP even like these people? | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/07/19 07:22 PM |
| 22 | Dressing Femininely and Negative Reactions From Other WomenSure sounds like a lot of generalizations and extreme black & white thinking. Why not just focus on what you are doing instead of what they are doing or what you think they "accept"? If you're not meant to be friends with these ladies, it will fade and you can meet other people you click with better. Right now, it sounds like you're overthinking this a bit. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/07/19 07:20 PM |
| 4 | Should I interfere with my sister's future marriage to "save" her fiancé?Lol what? Your sister hasn’t really done anything wrong. You sound a bit jealous tbh and need to chill out and stay in your lane. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/07/19 10:41 PM |
| 19 | Should I continue talking to this lust-filled man?I’m concerned that you aren’t more weirded out by this guy. He’s completely nuts. Move on. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/07/19 04:16 PM |
| 1 | Introducing Chad Thundercock's Younger Brother, Dylan -- A Lady's Man for Our Modern AgeSTOP THIS IS MY EX AAAHH Amazing post Too real. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/07/19 07:58 AM |
| 1 | What are your thoughts on non-monogamy (polyamory, open relationships)?Goals!! Thank you for sharing your experience. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/19 11:29 PM |
| 1 | Do you try to get friends to take the RP?You have some good friends. Gotta support each other. 🥰 | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/06/19 08:33 PM |
| 25 | Do you try to get friends to take the RP?You can state your own personal preferences without putting down theirs or trying to change them, right? Do that. My circle is full of liberal, childfree, poly, egalitarian people and I’m sort of the token “girly girl.” Everyone knows I am submissive, love kids and animals, want to be a good wife, aiming more for work life balance than to maximize my career. But they also know I respect where they are coming from and appreciate that their choices make them happy. They respect me in return. No pr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/19 08:27 PM |
| 1 | Should I stay a virgin until marriage?Come on, not being a virgin with a man doesn’t mean you can’t love him completely. That’s being said OP, if you’re not sure whether you might care, WAIT. It is a special moment and young love can be fleeting. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/19 12:12 AM |
| 1 | Throwaway account: bible cult, abusive marriage, affair, BP open relationship, nun mode. LONG READ100%. And child support is important for the children. So many of these decisions are treating the kids as an afterthought. :/ | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/06/19 10:26 PM |
| 43 | I Put On A Dress TodayYou sound cute as heck today! I’m visiting my bf and filled my suitcase with sundresses and a pink romper. I love summer. ☀️ Thanks for the cheerful post. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/06/19 10:01 PM |
| 16 | What do you offer?That’s true. True dependability is absolutely priceless and cannot be faked or rushed, only demonstrated over time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/06/19 09:07 PM |
| 10 | What do you offer?Goals! Good luck! 👍🏻 | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/06/19 08:56 PM |
| 33 | What do you offer?Well what makes you high value to your best friend? It’s basically all of the basics you already listed, plus that ^ intangible connection and bond he can’t get from a friend, ONS, or hired service. ETA more: I think it’s tempting especially for us eager RPW to perceive relationships as transactional, like if only we can manage to do x and y, he will give us z in return. But just as it’s unfair for men to treat us as sex dispensers, it’s unfair to treat men as commitment dispensers. All we can d… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/06/19 08:23 PM |
| 6 | Is there a pretty girl privilege?Lmao what does that have to do with Marxism?? | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/06/19 05:43 PM |
| 1 | I feel bullied by women.Ok before reading this, I was curious whether you might have said something “fluffy/girly” to set one of these women off, but I am flabbergasted they actually said your face is distracting and that it’s an issue with your looks. I work in HR and while a good looking appearance isn’t a protected class, this screams hostile work environment. Realistically, there's no point making a stink or suing but I want to affirm this is completely awful. This company sounds like a bit of a shit show to be all… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/19 09:56 PM |
| 1 | I feel bullied by women.A knee length skirt suit in gray or navy with nude hose, low pumps, and a French blue or white button down is considered peak professional attire. I have absolutely aced interviews in that exact getup and don’t believe this for a second. Learn how to dress professionally... I see women show up wearing dumb sun dresses and Forever 21 sandals and think they look ok because it’s not revealing. Sure, but you still look like a bimbo because it looks like you don’t “get it,” not because you’re cute. S… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/19 06:25 PM |
| 1 | How do you get out of the friendzone when a guy showed he was attracted to you before?Try reading the book Attached. You’ll love it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/19 02:59 PM |
| 6 | How to resocialize and make the right friends or new friends?You should become comfortable with taking the initiative to tell her how you feel earlier. Don’t let things sit and stew so long. As soon as you recognize it’s becoming a drain, you say, “Hey friend, I want to be supportive to you, but I think I’m starting to feel a little drained hearing about Ex. I’m sorry, I know you’re still hurting, but maybe you could journal or talk to someone else about it for a while? I’m still happy to get your mind off things by watching shows/doing activity/etc!” It … | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/05/19 10:29 PM |
| 5 | How did you know he was the one? At what moment where you in love.Thank you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/05/19 01:14 AM |
| 29 | How did you know he was the one? At what moment where you in love.My dad passed a week before my SO was due to visit my city for his cousins graduation. I put on my best face and went with him to meet the family. As it turns out, the cousin’s dad died a few years ago too. When her mom made a tearful speech about their loss, he put his arm around me and asked me quietly if I could go with him to help find a bathroom. As soon as he led me out of sight he pulled me into a giant hug and stroked my hair. I felt so seen, supported, and safe. In that little moment I … | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/05/19 09:02 PM |
| 14 | I'm not where I want to be, nowhere near, but I'm getting there.It costs $0 to not be like this, Buzz Killington. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/05/19 10:36 PM |
| 5 | I want to see a discussion about this video, my medical ethics teacher showed us this video during class.You could also just get the nonhormonal copper IUD. It’s awesome | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/05/19 03:31 AM |
| 0 | Retinol Product for beginners?This is the best answer so far. Retin-A ensures faster cellular turnover at the lowest levels, so it's not just good for treating wrinkles, but also preventing them and keeping skin blemish-free. See a derm! | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/19 06:52 PM |
| 2 | Is Feminism oppressive to women? (video)No, that if people elect to choose traditional roles, that's ok and traditional roles aren't devalued simply because they're feminine. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/19 02:53 AM |
| 1 | Boundaries in the gf vs wife dance with a busy bfOk so we talked on the phone about it. He saw my point of view and felt crappy for putting me in a position to feel unappreciated and like I’m serving his sex/cleaning needs instead of his awesome gf needs. One thing we are good at is communicating, so there’s that. Still, he is old enough that I can’t expect him to change if this is fundamentally who he is. His parents are Russian/Croation Doc/nurse combo and extremely RP. Mom is ultra skinny, fastidious, welcoming; when we were out visiting th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/19 02:19 PM |
| 5 | Boundaries in the gf vs wife dance with a busy bfThat’s also the impression I got. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/19 06:51 AM |
| 1 | Boundaries in the gf vs wife dance with a busy bfThat’s a great idea. He was suggesting a 1 month stay actually. I’d love to test that out but would prefer to see whether I can drive my cat out or not, and if not I can try to set him (the cat) up with a friend and maybe take him (the bf) up on his offer. I like the idea of staying at my OWN temporary place during that month. It would give both of us a chance to feel out our dynamics with some of the pressure removed while still making relationship progress. I feel like a big drawback of a LDR … | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/19 05:14 AM |
| 1 | Boundaries in the gf vs wife dance with a busy bfHa! Yeah good point. He says this is an especially stressful rotation month and on other rotations he probably wouldn’t have thought of it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/19 04:13 AM |
| 1 | Boundaries in the gf vs wife dance with a busy bfWhile I appreciate your take and agree with you on paper, that phrasing GenericMiss suggested would have been received much better by me. Not sure if I do too much, though. I am really appreciating everyone’s input in this thread to gauge what normal expectations should be at this stage. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/19 04:12 AM |
| 1 | Boundaries in the gf vs wife dance with a busy bfGreat points and I agree it doesn’t feel good either. I love to dote on partners but this is the first time it’s ever felt expected. Past bfs have been annoyingly egalitarian so while dating someone with traditional roles in mind is a bit of fresh air, I didn’t expect it to be expected as a given so soon. He asked a few months ago whether I’d be willing to consider moving to his state. I said I wouldn’t necessarily be opposed but let’s see how his allergies handle my (semi-hypoallergenic) cat wh… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/19 11:53 PM |
| 3 | Family baggageCracked up at your edit. You’d be fun to vent over a beer with. That being said, wow your bad/good signs are so spot on in my own experiences. Before I really got myself in gear to actually process things (in therapy, etc) it was almost like retelling or explaining my past was a half assed way of me grasping at closure. That’s not how it works though so you just end up with a bunch of other traumatized friends/partners (for better or worse lol). Now that I’ve done the work, I seem to also attrac… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/19 05:34 PM |
| 1 | Is it futile to try to come up with a timeline for marriage/family?That stinks, I’m sorry. Do you go to temple services? Any chance you could meet men there? | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/04/19 05:30 PM |
| 1 | Is it futile to try to come up with a timeline for marriage/family?Have you tried using J-Date? | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/04/19 01:18 PM |
| 1 | Lies and the hidden truthWhoa! That’s a really good way to think of it. Broken heart = much more baggage than any sexual fling anyway. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/04/19 01:16 PM |
| 4 | Is Feminism oppressive to women? (video)That is categorically false as the original suffragette movement is, by definition, the origin of American feminism at least | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/04/19 05:24 AM |
| 9 | Is Feminism oppressive to women? (video)I’m glad men haven’t been oppressive toward you. I have been sexually harassed by 2 bosses and groped and talked down to, so I’m thankful feminism paved the way for those issues to be taken seriously. But I also am thankful to have the choice to do my own ladylike thing still. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/04/19 02:25 AM |
| 6 | Is Feminism oppressive to women? (video)Most feminists hate TERFs | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/04/19 02:22 AM |
| 4 | Is Feminism oppressive to women? (video)‘Cultural feminism’ embraces traditional feminine roles in the context of modern egalitarian ideals. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/04/19 02:22 AM |
| 1 | Circumcision Sex Pain is the leading cause of Relationship problems in AmericaGet this Holocaust denial, stream of consciousness rambling bs out of here please mods | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/19 07:48 PM |
| 11 | urge to have kids at 21Girl chill! 8 months is pretty fast at your age. He sounds like he’s on the same page. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/19 02:18 PM |
| 2 | Age Gap Red Flagshttps://www.google.com/amp/s/www.today.com/today/amp/tdna74671 No idea. Women are culturally not the gatekeepers of marriage so it’s less relevant | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/19 02:05 AM |
| 4 | Age Gap Red FlagsThat’s gonna be a no from me dawg Woody Allen also married his adopted daughter but I don’t think we should be looking to either of these examples as peak romance... Imagine this being your favorite age gap story 🌝 | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/19 11:46 PM |
| 3 | Age Gap Red FlagsAlso, my parents and social circle would disapprove. I’d look like a sex toy or a gold digger even if it weren’t the case. I’m at a comfortable 5 year gap right now and usually stick to 3-5 years. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/19 11:36 PM |
| 5 | Age Gap Red FlagsEhh stats also show a super sharp decline in men’s likelihood of ever marrying after 38 if they’ve never been married before. It’s less about marriage ability perceived by women and more about likelihood that the guy is actually marriage minded. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/19 11:31 PM |
| 1 | Has anyone noticed that movies/shows seem to all star aggressive/masculine women nowadays?Wait I’m Jewish and have seen like 5 vaguely antisemitic comments on RPW now. Is this a thing??? | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/03/19 03:44 PM |
| 4 | Rant on why I’m joining the “dark side” and going full red pill and it’s really silly.Do you always comment in pairs? | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/03/19 03:27 PM |
| 1 | Captain makes less than me.But the dude in question isn’t broke or unemployed. It sounds like you both have a relatively high income floor ($90k+ annually?) which IMO matters much more than that ceiling. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/03/19 09:21 PM |
| 1 | Husband emotionally distant, please help me.Yeah the financials are the biggest problem IMO. You’re married, you’re legally tied, there is NO reason you shouldn’t be allowed to review this information. Sounds like he has one foot out the door honestly, although the back and forth talking about divorce probably hasn’t helped much. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/03/19 08:49 PM |
| 10 | How has RPW changed your appearance?Good question! I climb 2x/week so I can’t keep mine long. But you can keep them short and polished in cute colors, healthy w cuticle oil etc. anytime I know I’ll be away from climbing for a week I get the fancy long press ons. They look and function just like acrylics at 1/3 the price and way less damage. Plus you can soak & remove whenever it’s time to get back to hobbies. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/03/19 04:37 PM |
| 3 | How has RPW changed your appearance?I pay attention to my nails and toes, wear more dresses and heels, wear contacts now around bf (first guy I dated who doesn’t lowkey fetishize my glasses). I was already pretty and fit in terms of skin and athleticism but now I don’t let myself slack on details. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/03/19 04:34 PM |
| 2 | The Big BragThanks! Please do 🎵 | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/03/19 09:45 PM |
| 8 | The Big BragMy body fat is in the 19% range for the first time in a year! And I’m flying out on Saturday to meet my long distance honey for our official “meet the families and best friends” trip. His parents asked whether we would like to cook for them one night, so of course I am dead set on impressing them. Tentative menu: Arugula salad with green apples and red wine vinaigrette Broiled salmon w a lemon cream sauce roasted asparagus with slivered almonds Herbed risotto (mom’s fave) Cherry tart (dads fave)… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/03/19 10:43 PM |
| 3 | Am I overreacting? (probably)So why did you agree to print out his cards again? This dude is weak | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/03/19 11:16 PM |
| 10 | Where to go from here? Red Pill SO abandons animal in parkWhat a trash human. The least he could do is just drop the poor bug off at a shelter. My abusive mom did that to my cat, and I still feel guilty on her behalf years later. I will never ever allow anything like that to happen again. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/03/19 08:44 PM |
| 1 | Smv after a nose jobNo nose job, but I got a boob job after thinking about it for 10 years. Super happy. Hasn’t made a huge ripple on my SMV as I think that comes more down to confidence/grooming/fitness, but it has been fun for me to confirm my femininity and for my partner to enjoy. I know facial surgery is different, but I think it could be nice if you’re doing it for the right reason. How extreme is the projection? Are you relying on this as a pie in the sky fix all or are you realistic about the outcomes? Are … | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/19 05:13 PM |
| 3 | Childhood traumaGreat question. I have some trauma too and wait a few months to bring it up. I’ve had a partner who was super dismissive which cut me pretty deep so it has made it scary to bring up again. I don’t want anyone to think I need them to do anything for me, just understand and accept. I recently finally told my bf of 5months about something and he was very sweet. It was a huge relief... just knowing he’s not judging me and cares about me is so reassuring that it makes the whole deal of processing it … | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/19 05:56 PM |
| 3 | Childhood traumaThis was really reassuring. I also have a fair bit of trauma and I do feel like it’s made me a more empathetic, grateful person. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/19 05:51 PM |
| 2 | What to do when he is angry with you?Awesome advice. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/02/19 05:05 AM |
| 10 | Dominant MenTry reading Why Men Love Bitches. It’s not about being actually bitchy, but more targeted toward explaining how to balance traditional sweetness/femininity with enforcing healthy boundaries and advocating for your needs. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/19 08:07 PM |
| 7 | How should I feel about this?Yeah IMO this is basically already cheating. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/19 03:08 PM |
| 12 | How should I feel about this?Sketchy | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/19 07:49 AM |
| 2 | In honor of Love Day, what is the best relationship advice you have ever received?This is my new life motto! | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/19 07:46 AM |
| 6 | In honor of Love Day, what is the best relationship advice you have ever received?True. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/19 07:45 AM |
| 5 | As a 30 year old single woman, I feel left behindThis is such a fantastic post. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/02/19 05:58 AM |
| 8 | As a 30 year old single woman, I feel left behindShe needs to work on herself and try not to feel desperate. What’s wrong with that advice? Fixating on your own loneliness and feeling shitty about yourself are great ways to stay single or attract weird guys. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/02/19 02:27 AM |
| 1 | As a 30 year old single woman, I feel left behindI'm kinda there with you but met the love of my last by random chance last fall. It happened so fast... just work on enjoying your life. As soon as you can make peace with yourself, I swear that's when love finds its way out of the woodwork. Also realistically your fertility window can stretch to 40 these days. Don't sweat it, just keep continuously improving inside and out. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/02/19 05:13 PM |
| 4 | How do you ladies deal with the beta orbiters?I literally ignore guys who aren't work colleagues or real friends. It's not hard. I used to entertain guys like this under the guise that they were my friends, but they aren't. I have plenty of other actual friends. The guy friends I do have go way back and we have incredibly solid boundaries. I don't even do things like text them at night. They got the picture a long time ago so it's not an issue. I have a friend who is really cool but she thrives on male attention. When we are out dancing… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/02/19 05:06 PM |
| – | Monthly GoalsGet to 135lbs or 20% bodyfat Stay on or under budget on project hours at work Spend $50/week on outings/lunches/non-essentials Paint a watercolor and mail it to the bf Start my volunteer hours at the humane society Bake a really good cake for my friend's birthday | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/02/19 01:31 AM |
| 1 | What to do when you’re not as pretty as the other girls?Sure, that's true for the most part, but some things are just really socially debilitating, like no chin or a huge underbite for example. In that case I almost class it in with reconstructive procedures. Just my 2c | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/02/19 01:11 AM |
| – | Monthly GoalsYou have the best username Same! GOOD LUCK US! | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/02/19 12:55 AM |
| 1 | The Feminization of Men in AmericaRacist conspiracy theory is what it is. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/19 11:32 PM |
| 7 | Just curious about the first time you and your captain said “I love you.” Who said it first?We just said it for the first time (4 months in) this past week! He asked me while he were hanging out if I had “thought about the l-word” and I said yes, and he switched to “our song” on the record player and then declared his love. I said it back and then he listed out all the reasons he loves me. It was so cute. Aaaa I knew I was falling for him a while back, although I wanted to keep vetting more. Also, I never want to say it first...! | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/19 03:30 AM |
| 3 | Do any of you date busy men?Have you ever dated a man with a busy schedule? Yes! Currently dating a medical resident. What adjustments did you make to meet each other halfway? I try to get my work and errands done on his call days (28-hr shifts) and while he sleeps so I can be more available for him when he is free. He calls me when he gets downtime overnight. We wake up before work together so we can sit together over breakfast and coffee. How can I make his life easier? Take care of errands if you can and it doesn’t put … | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/19 03:00 PM |
| 8 | Celebrating Non-Toxic MasculinityI LOVE this post! It’s uplifting and both progressive and very RPW. Healthy masculinity is a gift 💝 | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/01/19 01:35 AM |
| 4 | What to do when you’re not as pretty as the other girls?Yeah you can always go for less attractive guys, slightly bald, a bit paunchier. They can demonstrate value in humor, work ethic, integrity, etc, and you can still work on your femininity and body. Also plastic surgery is fine imo if you’ve really thought on it for a LONG time, it’s not irresponsible financially, and you do tons of research. Surgery is NOT necessary to find a good guy who loves you however. I promise | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/19 09:50 PM |
| 3 | What’s in your kitchen?Similar, except I always keep tofu, white wine for cooking, and fewer grains (to avoid carb temptation). Nice guide! | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/19 11:18 PM |
| 6 | [27F] and feeling behindAnother similar person checking in here! 29F, been in weekly therapy and on antidepressants for a few years now. It’s been a process, but take care of yourself, proactively handle your baggage, and work on developing your goals and inner peace and you’ll do much better at any age than if you blindly flounder around grasping at partners younger without doing the work on yourself. Life’s only gotten better and better for me personally. I look forward to aging now because you can leave your past be… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/01/19 10:44 PM |
| 2 | How do I become more submissive?Wow bus drivers and even strippers are pretty distinct from crack whores. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/01/19 10:40 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts on plastic surgery?Alright, looks like 10-20 years is the norm, my bad. Still worth it for those who want it. https://www.webmd.com/beauty/news/20110622/fda-silicone-breast-implants-dont-last-a-lifetime | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/01/19 07:55 AM |
| 1 | Thoughts on plastic surgery?I’m with you on this, but my attitudes have definitely changed as I’ve gotten older, ha. Older men seem to “understand” a little bit of this kind of upkeep as well. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/01/19 03:42 AM |
| 1 | Thoughts on plastic surgery?I’ll be up front and say I am biased since I had mine done. While it’s true there is risk assumed with the procedure, it’s highly unlikely with a skilled surgeon and proper aftercare. Implant rupture/replacement before 10 years is also highly unlikely. Within 1 year is... not realistic at all. Fat transfer is not permanent. Obviously elective surgery doesn’t sit right with everyone, which is absolutely understandable but I think there is a lot of misinformation floating around. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/01/19 03:36 AM |
| 1 | Being sexually dominant as a RPW?Idk you’re being a little closed minded. It’s just sex, it’s fun when it gets weird | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/01/19 08:28 PM |
| 1 | When is there a time when you're being too submissive? And if so, how can I fix my situation?Hmm. Try reading Why Men Love Bitches. Helped me stop being a doormat or swinging the other way and being a nag. The title is misleading; the key is NOT to be a bitch, but how to enforce boundaries and elicit respect, and why men appreciate when you have the self worth to do this and the submissive finesse to do so in a feminine way. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/12/18 09:24 PM |
| 0 | Being sexually dominant as a RPW?No, power plays can be arousing for anyone. It’s sort of like how angry radical feminists secretly get off to (consensual) rape fantasies sometimes. Taboo is fun! | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/12/18 08:51 PM |
| 12 | Being sexually dominant as a RPW?I’m a bit of a switch and my bf is also a switch. In our relationship, he’s the leader, and he’s very dominant most of the time in the bedroom. However, sometimes he really likes the idea of being used by me, serving me, me generally having my way with him etc. This works for me since I genuinely have fun in that role, provided he eventually overpowers me and takes the lead again. NSFW Just things like telling him what to touch, when to cum, to take off xyz article of clothing but don’t touch ab… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/12/18 05:14 AM |
| 6 | I have no idea what to do with my boyfriend.I’d suspect the porn might be an issue as well. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/12/18 04:45 PM |
| 5 | Emotionally unavailable menIt’s so tricky balancing self-improvement and not wanting to nag with appropriately advocating for your own emotional needs. Best of luck finding what works for you! | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/12/18 06:36 PM |
| 3 | Unexpected things he cares about?Shoes! Ok, I can handle that, haha. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/12/18 03:47 PM |
| 22 | Emotionally unavailable menYes, this was my last bf. It was impossible to communicate well or fully feel like we were moving into the level of intimacy I will need in a marriage. Despite being 29 and him otherwise being a solid guy, I had to walk. The whole thing felt too one-sided and he wasn’t appreciative of how much I was trying to submit to him. SO GLAD I did. Took some time but found a new guy who is over the moon with me. He’s so much easier to connect with, and he’s head over heels with how much I take care of him… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/12/18 03:21 PM |
| 1 | Husband-hunting in a new city and need all the RPW tips I can getMany guys that age do not want to go after so women so young because it LOOKS bad to family, friends, coworkers, etc. The OP is NOT going to have problems dating simply by virtue of her age, but for a host of other reasons. Provided someone takes care of themselves and has good girl game dating should be no problem even taking more time. Chicken littleing about being 24 is absolutely insane. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/12/18 08:05 PM |
| 1 | Husband-hunting in a new city and need all the RPW tips I can getNo, I said she is young, not too young. Men in their mid-late 30s who think women over 22 are too old are creeps. I was addressing her catastrophic perceptions of the dating market. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/12/18 04:51 PM |
| 2 | Help picking between two guysNo contest, guy 2 sounds way better for you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/12/18 04:14 PM |
| 1 | Husband-hunting in a new city and need all the RPW tips I can getNo it’s in the medical literature as a function of hormones and bone structure. Im dating a pediatrician and have 2 obstetricians in the family, one of which just had 2 beautiful baby girls around 33-34. You’re fine lol. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/12/18 03:18 PM |
| 1 | Husband is very RP. Also suspect that he is Bi.I have dated a bisexual man and it was fine. He was faithful and the sex was good and he had his life in order. I am also bisexual and would be very hurt to be judged in such a way, but no one is compelled to be with someone, whatever the reason. They’d be better off with someone more open minded anyway. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/12/18 03:10 PM |
| 2 | What do you do to stay fit?I climb indoors 2-3x/week, do spin classes, power yoga, and weights. I also bike as transportation. I can’t bulk easily because I am an ectomorph, but I do love to eat and can be skinny fat easily if I don’t make the effort to maintain a solid muscle base (from weights). I used to run but I recently discovered I have arthritis in my left knee (at 29!) so I have to stay away from that now. :( | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/12/18 02:19 PM |
| 11 | Husband is very RP. Also suspect that he is Bi.I can’t say I understand your priorities at all. Best of luck. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/12/18 09:46 PM |
| 3 | Husband-hunting in a new city and need all the RPW tips I can getNo, that’s a myth. Teens have more birth complications and lower birth weights. Fertility peaks in early to mid 20s. From 30-35 the chance of spontaneously conceiving drops 3% each year. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/18 11:52 AM |
| 1 | Husband-hunting in a new city and need all the RPW tips I can getI'm sorry if I've been coming off preachy or critical. It sounds like you've been through a lot. Good to hear you have a support system, especially as much as there is to feel anxious about in terms of building a life. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/18 03:52 AM |
| 1 | My boyfriend doesn't like when I wear makeup but seems to be more attracted to me when I'm "done up."Dude sounds misogynistic. Tricky to differentiate between traditional and misogynistic but they don’t have to come as a package. He sounds like he has a lot of generalized hostility about women that he hasn’t figured out what to do with. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/12/18 11:02 PM |
| 2 | Skincare Routine?Mine is more intense than most of the ladies here but I am 29 with fair skin and previous sun damage (plus I won’t settle for anything less than porcelain). I used to want to be a dermatologist so a I nerded out hard and dig into medical journals to figure out most effective active ingredients for collagen preservation and anti-aging. I have dry skin so I am not worried about acne. Gentle salicylic acid cleanser 2x daily Tretinoin cream every 1-3 nights, never within 48 hours of a peel (magic cr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/12/18 08:51 PM |
| 2 | Skincare Routine?Love CeraVe! Also as much as I fuss over products and routines sleep is easily the most important factor. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/12/18 08:45 PM |
| 1 | Husband-hunting in a new city and need all the RPW tips I can getGuys don’t care that much about a woman’s career status, especially since you’re looking toward more blue collar guys. But a decent guy worth investing in won’t label you old. However a decent guy worth investing in will be put off by your need for external validation, lack of self esteem, and defeatist attitude. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/12/18 08:20 PM |
| 5 | Husband-hunting in a new city and need all the RPW tips I can getLol yes you can compete. I’m saying this with kindness but all of your posts reek of insecurity, which will always be an unattractive trait. So you’re not a natural 9. Neither was I. I worked out, got into nutrition and skin care, got my boobs done (optional, ymmv), improved my wardrobe, started weekly therapy, learned to cook and bake, and fostered my family and female friend relationships to make me a more attractive and self-fulfilled partner. I have kind of crooked teeth and less nice skin t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/12/18 08:16 PM |
| 11 | Husband-hunting in a new city and need all the RPW tips I can getHe’s 34. And picky! I’m just exactly his type and do my best to bring plenty to the table. The confusing thing about RPW is we don’t really advocate going for guys who explicitly identify as RP. They’re usually caught up in the anger phase. There are plenty of solid captains with full lives looking to lead a healthy family that are too busy to be posting in online forums, haha. You’ll be fine. That stuff can mess with your head, so don’t let it get to you. I recommend reading ALL the material he… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/12/18 07:53 PM |
| 5 | Husband-hunting in a new city and need all the RPW tips I can getTell that to my 34 year old 6’2” physician bf. In all fairness, I know plenty of good men going after beautiful, fit 26-32 year olds to start families. This is not uncommon at all in educated circles (doctors, academics, tech moguls) who don’t live to breed by 25 or endlessly cycle through trophy wives or have their colleagues gossiping about the new sugarbaby. It’s not so “old” she should be “settling.” RMV is important too. Plus, a 30 yo who was a 9 in her prime can stay a 7-8 for quite a whil… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/12/18 06:48 PM |
| 9 | Husband-hunting in a new city and need all the RPW tips I can getI’m 29 and have options all over and recently landed an amazing man. Just stay thin and humble and stay out of the sun. Take your time. Freaking out about your age is going to put you in a position where you might latch on to a guy who is not good for you. And to be honest, any guy over 25 who thinks women over 22 are washed up are... not good guys to marry. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/12/18 05:20 PM |
| 10 | Husband-hunting in a new city and need all the RPW tips I can getDon’t listen to those guys, that’s nonsense. A guy with a good career and strong reputation doesn’t want to look like a creep dating some young bimbo for sex. Younger than him? Sure, absolutely. But 24 is young. Stay off those forums and stick to RPW and MRP. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/12/18 05:15 PM |
| 16 | Husband-hunting in a new city and need all the RPW tips I can getCalling yourself old at 24 makes me think you lack perspective, are rushing, and need to work on your self esteem before you jump into anything. Real talk | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/12/18 05:11 PM |
| 2 | How to bring back sex and passion into a relationship?And it's only going to go downhill, realistically! Does not seem like a branch swinging moment to me. The random guy at the party is less the issue than realizing that maybe the current relationship doesn't need to be the end-all be-all just yet. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/12/18 08:45 PM |
| 12 | It's official!Sounds a bit like a shaky set up but wishing you all the best. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/12/18 01:25 AM |
| 7 | Online Dating: Yellow Flag DiscoveredHa! Very accurate honestly. I also stopped putting those hobbies at the forefront when I realized it was bringing me the wrong dudes. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/12/18 12:59 AM |
| 1 | How to manage the equation in a polygamous marriage?I know polygamy is culturally quite different from polyamory, but you might try looking at some of the threads about managing insecurity on /r/polyamory. Also please consider the book More Than Two. It is a really excellent resource on framing your relationship with your metamour (the other wife in this case) in a positive way. Also contains good tips on communicating your needs with your husband and staying grounded/managing jealousy/etc. Please consider they have a unique relationship and have… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/11/18 10:37 PM |
| 7 | What makes a woman great in bed?Rub it around on stuff, compliment it, get on your knees, beg for it etc | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/11/18 10:27 PM |
| 9 | What makes a woman great in bed?Not to brag but this is one of my strong suits. Suck dick well, like figure out how to deep throat, slap your face with it, get sloppy, gag a little, stare at him while you do it. This stuff actually gets me completely wet. Also just be down to experiment! Have boundaries but try anal, titfucking, dressing up. Be dirty. Be submissive but not passive. Also idk but I feel like a lot of guys have just a hint of switchiness to them. Being dominant all the time can get tiring and sometimes he will wa… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/11/18 10:20 PM |
| 1 | Big trip coming up! Given free reign over the kitchen and decorating. General advice/ideas?Ok, I want to do nice things for him because he does them for me, and because they are fun. I'm not sure how you got that impression from my OP. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/11/18 12:01 AM |
| 0 | Big trip coming up! Given free reign over the kitchen and decorating. General advice/ideas?I guess a little, but if I had broken up with him a week after he paid for our entire last trip he might have regretted it, too. These are things I like to do, and my work will come first. I'll have down time alone at his house. I'm not obligated to do this and he just threw it out there as an idea. What are you getting at? | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/11/18 11:49 PM |
| 0 | Big trip coming up! Given free reign over the kitchen and decorating. General advice/ideas?Well he pitched it like a suggestion and I think it'd be fun. I wouldn't be paying for it either. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/11/18 11:45 PM |
| 0 | Big trip coming up! Given free reign over the kitchen and decorating. General advice/ideas?Yeah, he did. Thanks! | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/11/18 11:36 PM |
| 3 | Big trip coming up! Given free reign over the kitchen and decorating. General advice/ideas?Thanks for all the great advice about freezing food! I'll have to keep that in mind. I'm thinking muffins, a cheesecake, lasagna, and some individually-wrapped burritos. Also thanks for the decorating tips. I have an ok budget money-wise so it's nice to know what will make a big impact. Last, I'm glad you like the dress! I love retro fashion, and the boob enhancement is good. I want to look smokin' hot but not like I'm trying too hard. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/11/18 08:05 PM |
| 11 | Red Flags in menCriticizing people behind their backs in a meanspirited or unwarranted way. Like, pointing out an unattractive person in the grocery store, or cutting his friends down. He'll turn it on you, it's just a matter of when. This is different from, "Yeah, Mike is really flakey. He's a good friend but he can be annoying." (warranted, not meanspirited) or "Haha, look at that person eating mayonnaise on the bus! Weird." (action based vs appearance or socio economic status based) | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/11/18 06:58 PM |
| 6 | SMV when you are not thinI like how everyone suddenly thinks they’re a doctor in this thread. Agreed with the other commenter I saw - don’t listen to us, keep yourself up, I’m sure your man likes what he got himself into! It's true that you CAN change your body comp with a lot of effort and care, but I'm sorry people are dismissing your condition. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/11/18 03:36 PM |
| 12 | I want to have kids, but my husband has some conditions...Abusive partners often escalate after childbirth. Jesus, I'm so sorry. I wish there was something I could do to help you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/11/18 04:27 PM |
| 13 | I want to have kids, but my husband has some conditions...Has he not discussed the details of this "plan" even? | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/11/18 04:23 PM |
| 30 | I want to have kids, but my husband has some conditions...But it's also your body and your children and your life too? That's what's bizarre. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/11/18 04:22 PM |
| 144 | I want to have kids, but my husband has some conditions...He sounds very controlling, past the point of reasonable leadership. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/11/18 08:26 AM |
| 7 | Being too obliging and "surrendered" too early?Great post, great comments. I’m in a similar situation with my new LDR. The sexual chemistry is absolutely insane and this is the most alpha guy I’ve ever been with. He’s been treating me very well, and wants me to redecorate part of his apartment and drive his car around while he’s at work during my visit. I wanna make him all the food, and we’ve been getting super kinky pretty fast. It’s really thrilling for me but definitely scary since it’s that whole honesty/vulnerability about how much I l… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/11/18 01:22 AM |
| 1 | Being too obliging and "surrendered" too early?Haha, it really sort of is just that simple, huh? | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/11/18 12:50 AM |
| 3 | Update - hypergamous in the early stages of dating - Went for it!!Nope, his good qualities are still good. Instead of 'grating,' I could say 'evident'. We just had a slight misalignment of values that I realized might have been creating that lack of chemistry/growth, and explains why my gut had me hesitate when he wanted to be exclusive. I mean, do I need to list them all? You date and sometimes find differences that mean you're not the best match. He's very career focused, which is neat, and so is new guy. But new guy has more of a philanthropic/environmental… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/11/18 09:15 PM |
| 1 | Dating timeline in an LDRI always like your posts! Good advice. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/11/18 03:54 AM |
| 2 | Update - hypergamous in the early stages of dating - Went for it!!Thank you! Those details make a big difference. I want to make sure my kids experience those great holidays, too. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/11/18 03:50 AM |
| 1 | Update - hypergamous in the early stages of dating - Went for it!!That's a cute detail to focus on, hah. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/11/18 03:47 AM |
| 4 | Update - hypergamous in the early stages of dating - Went for it!!Ok, thank you for explaining. Normally I wouldn’t even consider it, so I understand. My more skeptical friend told me to bring pepper spray haha | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/11/18 10:31 PM |
| 2 | Update - hypergamous in the early stages of dating - Went for it!!Fair enough. We are not there yet but I think that makes sense. My good friend got engaged before moving to the same city as her bf and they had to postpone the wedding... I’m not trying to do that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/11/18 10:30 PM |
| 3 | Update - hypergamous in the early stages of dating - Went for it!!Also - I feel like we are feeling differently about “commitment.” All this means is we have made a mutual decision to be sexually exclusive and invest in getting to know one another. I guess it doesn’t seem like a huge deal to me? Especially given how well we click. Icky is such a gross word to use. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/11/18 10:05 PM |
| 2 | Update - hypergamous in the early stages of dating - Went for it!!Thanks! The next trip out should flesh out our compatibility a bit more, since we will both be working/existing normally instead of having a ridiculous vacation weekend. I’m holding off on social media stuff or talking to core family members yet. Maybe after then. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/11/18 10:00 PM |
| 6 | Update - hypergamous in the early stages of dating - Went for it!!Totally. I know, I know. No family meetings or huge announcements yet but I’m glad we are on the same page enough to be exclusive and give this a shot. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/11/18 09:58 PM |
| 3 | Update - hypergamous in the early stages of dating - Went for it!!Agreed it’s a little tricky but we at least have felt it out. He’s 34 and I’m 29; he wants this stuff but it has to wait at least until he finishes residency (1.5 years) and gets placed in a fellowship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/11/18 02:29 PM |
| 2 | Update - hypergamous in the early stages of dating - Went for it!!I’m not gonna lie to you and say it’s not scary feeling so vulnerable right now. I am simply assuming he can be faithful, honest, and consistent within a relationship. I know I can do that, but do my aunt & her husband really know that about him? Maybe not. Their opinion of him is my only “collateral” in that respect. I’m taking a chance but it just makes sense somehow to go for it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/11/18 02:18 PM |
| 9 | Update - hypergamous in the early stages of dating - Went for it!!Yes, he wants marriage and kids (comments and indirect conversation). His parents are still married and he has several nieces and nephews. He wants a dog. He’d like to end up in a b or c city and I’d like a b or d city. We are both half Russian Jew culturally not religious but love Passover the most lol. He’s like one of my aunts husbands (been together 9 years now) very best friends from a 4-year school program and he visits them all the time. Idk it’s not like we haven’t talked. We even joked … | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/11/18 02:15 PM |
| 1 | Hypergamous in early stages of dating?Thanks for the reminder :):):):) https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/9tinn8/update_hypergamous_in_the_early_stages_of_dating/ | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/11/18 10:06 AM |
| 27 | How to Deal with a Man's Love?Folks on this sub overemphasize youth. Yeah, men think young women are hot, and I would say most tend to prefer slightly younger partners, but most guys do want someone vaguely age appropriate and interesting. The kind of 30 year olds who would go after 20 year olds are not the kind of guys I want to date (30 and 40 is a way different story), and I’m not short on options personally. The upside is that being young gives you a wider range of slightly to very older partners to choose from. You have… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/18 12:27 AM |
| 5 | Is nun mode worth it at 24? (Long but I really need help)In fact, it usually isn’t true! Life is long. Definitely take some time to improve and get comfortable with yourself, and try not to feel rushed. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/10/18 11:29 PM |
| 2 | Vetting: what are (or were) your personal deal breakers?Yeah, plus there are plenty of toxic or apathetic marriages that aren’t exactly great to emulate either. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/10/18 12:58 AM |
| 2 | I don't want a trad-con manI can relate! It’s an interesting space to be in, wanting some traditional gender dynamics while also being a little counterculture. Those guys exist, it just takes a while to find them. Also, all the same RPW principles apply except the hysteria about aging and n-count (literally never had either of those things be an issue tbh, maybe it’s a liberal social circle thing). | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/09/18 09:15 PM |
| 2 | Hypergamous in early stages of dating?To be fair, I completely understand where you’re coming from, hence my posting here asking for advice. I should say that one reason the descriptions come off that way are simply because I know guy #1 much better and have only impressions and commonalities to base my description of guy 2 off of. Guy 1 is super attractive, I’m melty around him and now we are having really great sex etc. I haven’t hooked up with guy 2, was just startled by the commonalities, easy connection, etc which in a traditio… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/09/18 05:07 PM |
| 2 | Hypergamous in early stages of dating?Great points. I don’t think that question is disrespectful - we waited until about 7 dates then had sex. I had lost “eyes” for anyone and that’s why the strong chemistry knocked me off guard at the wedding. I had even spotted the guy but ignored him to spend time with my family, but as we chatted over the guestbook at the brunch the next morning it was just like, I couldn’t not talk more with him. I’ll be seeing guy #1 this weekend and will keep this in mind. Thanks for the input. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/09/18 01:19 AM |
| 1 | Hypergamous in early stages of dating?Hmm, I guess I had that question in the back of my mind but hadn’t explicitly thought about those traits that way. Do you think it would make sense to ask a bit more about the split to get a little more detail surrounding what happened? Would you elaborate a bit on how you would expect the behavior to change? | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/09/18 06:58 PM |
| 2 | What are some universal tips on improving your SMV? (Physical only).I order all my stuff online from makeup artists choice.com since it contains high concentrations of the active ingredients without the useless fillers. You have to kind of know what you’re doing though, like what alpha hydroxy acids vs beta hydroxy acids are. Vitamin C serums are best ordered online with simple ingredients: vitamin c, hyaluronic acid, and some substrate. It should be clear and is no longer chemically active once it oxidizes. Tretinoin cream is only available via prescription in … | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/18 09:33 PM |
| 2 | What are some universal tips on improving your SMV? (Physical only).Skin care! Use a tretinoin cream, night cream, get lactic and glycolic acid peels, toner, vitamin c serum, and sunscreen every single day. Edited to add: Store bought products are either useless or overpriced (good if you can afford those) in my experience. The things I listed above require some research and clever sourcing but are the best for anti-aging concerns. If you can afford it, just a touch of Botox and juvederm can keep you plump and glowy also, but backfires if you overdo it (maybe ha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/18 07:59 PM |
| 11 | What are some universal tips on improving your SMV? (Physical only).What?! Short men can absolutely stand out if they work out, be successful and assertive etc. Also leanness and proportion > thinness | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/18 07:56 PM |
| 8 | Ditch the ResumeI would strongly disagree that men lose respect for a BA/BS outside of Engineering or Accounting unless she gets a Ph.D. What about business administration, social work, teaching, chemistry, public health...? They’re not the most prestigious but losing respect is a pretty strong statement. And what about MPH, MFT, and RN degrees? They all lead to fulfilling, stable careers. The more prestigious the better, but I don’t think either extreme end of the spectrum is necessarily the answer here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/18 12:13 AM |
| 14 | Ditch the ResumeThat’s a really sweet POV. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/18 12:05 AM |
| 4 | Is it shameful or natural? Choosing high value men over female friends.Moot point - your friend was taken, the whole thing was shady from the get go. Also, I wouldn’t personally want a guy who would mess around with a taken girl anyway, call me picky. Part of my vetting process for RMV is integrity, and this would immediately lower a man’s value in my eyes. But I digress... In general, I would absolutely not ever EVER “compete” with a friend of mine or betray her over a man. If we are all single and the chips fall such that the guy likes me more, my friends have go… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/18 11:11 PM |
| 18 | Ditch the ResumeAlso, of course men are incredibly attracted to 21 year olds, but many men actually, honestly, would not consider women of that age for marriage prospects, especially in some educated academic circles. So, if your pool of women is actually more like 25-32, having a nice degree or a business accomplishment is only a bonus and helps someone stand out. So yeah, it doesn’t make sense to lead with accomplishments, but some men do actually respect/desire them. I feel like people posting on this sub co… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/18 10:32 PM |
| 5 | What do you fight about most?Hmm, that sounds annoying. How can you relax and be yourself around someone like that? | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/18 04:28 PM |
| 1 | Regretting my "alpha" career, do I even have a chance at the love life I want?No https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/m/pubmed/11020591/ | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/18 06:37 AM |
| 7 | How are your interactions with other women?You sound super negative. Maybe you’d make more female friends if you weren’t so antagonistic and judgmental? I know plenty of women who are fun, don’t like to gossip, and have cool interests. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/18 06:27 AM |
| 4 | I’m liberally minded in my political beliefs, and tend to date more artistic guys who see the world similarly. Do I have hope at a RP relationship?Word - the term is cultural feminism. And yes, dominant chivalrous men with progressive views definitely exist! | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/18 06:21 PM |
| 1 | I suffer from perfectionism/low self-worth and it's hindering my relationships.I have another take, as someone who has coped with similar issues in the past and come out much healthier on the other side: what kind of men are you choosing? My guess is that in your current state, your anxious tendencies draw you to avoidant men, creating a pursuer-distancer cycle. That’s where the anxious partner over compensates to gather reassurance, while the avoidant partner gets an ego stroke that the anxious one will never leave while simultaneously finding the behavior annoying. The d… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/18 03:02 PM |
| 6 | My body, my choice?Porn and orgasm create an incredibly strong dopaminergic reward cycle in the brain, in the same way drugs, food, and gambling can. Young men are being treated for ED at much higher rates. Heavy porn use (of course some is fine) is problematic, and no, it’s not always women’s fault. Further, the brain undergoes “neural pruning” at around the age of 11-13, in which connections that are more strongly reinforced remain while others are “pruned” away to create processing efficiency. For example, lear… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/18 05:08 AM |
| 2 | How to hold your value as a single mother to a newborn?Right, I also think men on the older side might be more open to this, as women around their own age are more likely to have children or ex husbands already. OP, you sound like a super sweet person. Keep doing your best! | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/18 04:56 AM |
| 10 | My body, my choice?You made a post with a somewhat inflammatory message. Don’t be surprised when people disagree. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/09/18 09:16 PM |
| 12 | My body, my choice?This is a lot of unsupported generalization. Um, yes, we always retain sovereignty over our bodies, and women should always maintain the option/ability to provide for themselves if need be. This post rubs me the wrong way; captain first mate dynamic is a choice which is what makes the lifestyle wonderful. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/09/18 08:21 PM |
| 73 | Regretting my "alpha" career, do I even have a chance at the love life I want?30 year old beautiful doctors are an amazing catch for high value men (think surgeons, like my uncle, who married an obstetrician). You can always go the GP or dermatology route so you enjoy work? Don’t think your job will preclude your entire family life, that seems like really extreme thinking. Chill and remember life after residency will be a lot different. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/18 12:41 AM |
| 8 | Another story of "seeing what's out there", from a thankful newbie. Questions welcome!100% agreed. As people have said, you can’t unring a bell. So what are you supposed to do, give up? No! Continually improve, self-reflect, and put energy into a good man with this knowledge. Personally, my n-count doesn’t even really get asked about very often? Although I’m almost 30 and live in the most liberal pocket in the country, so men seem surprised I don’t put out on the first few dates... | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/09/18 12:08 AM |
| 28 | Ex wife still lives with bf, need help on how to handleThis seems like a giant red flag with "NO" painted on it, for a few reasons. Vetting mistake. Move on IMO. Just the baggage in and of itself wouldn't be a big deal if he was handling it well. He's not. Why are you taking on a caregiving role with his young child after only a few months of dating, when this kid already seems to have an unstable situation? Bad judgment/parenting on his part, in my opinion. Why does he have meltdowns all the time? Is he unstable? This may explain why he attracted t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/18 10:00 PM |
| 2 | BF wants me to lose weight - what to do?This seems like the best advice in this thread. Of course losing weight is a good idea, but OP might be putting herself in this carrot on a stick situation for a very long time, which isn't fair to her regardless. 2 years is way too long to be stashed. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/18 06:28 PM |
| 2 | “Women sleep with who they want. Men sleep with who they can.”Kind of an extreme take when this thread seems more moderate: https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/97hsc5/what_do_men_want_how_soon_to_have_sex/ | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/18 04:12 PM |
| 2 | “Women sleep with who they want. Men sleep with who they can.”It's definitely way off (more like slightly over half of women, slightly under half of men): https://www.webmd.com/men/news/20060601/how-many-men-become-fathers http://time.com/3774620/more-women-not-having-kids/ | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/18 04:08 PM |
| 3 | “Women sleep with who they want. Men sleep with who they can.”Larger than zero? | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/09/18 12:58 AM |
| 7 | Last shot at making it work with bf [27]Honestly, from the comments it seems like the issues are at least fair to bring up. Submissive or not, people should be able to communicate to some degree. Sounds like these two may have different attachment styles which can take some work to navigate through. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/09/18 03:31 PM |
| 6 | Avoid loving opportunisticallyBeautiful post. Thanks for the uplifting sentiment. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/09/18 06:35 PM |
| 5 | How can I make more female friends?Bumble has a BFF option which is nice 😊 | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/09/18 03:04 PM |
| 9 | When he calls / texts other women in other roomYeah it’s like... what does a 39 year old have in common with a 22 year old? I know when I was that age I didn’t have any male friends that age who had only platonic intentions. You’re not being paranoid, it’s sketchy | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/09/18 12:52 AM |
| 3 | Marriage AgeStats I’ve read for secular Americans suggest marrying after college/graduate degree and after 30 years old correlate with lower divorce rates. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/18 05:57 PM |
| 4 | Your Outlook on Life Matters!Lifting does wonders for creating sexy curves and building solid mass to burn more calories at rest. It’s really hard to “””bulk””” especially if you start off slim. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/18 07:09 PM |
| 5 | Vetting Your Current ManGreat post. Thanks for listing all that out! | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/18 06:49 PM |
| 1 | Purifying the heart makes you more attractiveAwesome! Thank you for sharing. One of my ultimate life goals is living in true integrity, so that my actions/expression fully line up with my internal beliefs. It’s a process but creates space for authentic connection that can’t be faked or forced otherwise. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/18 06:46 PM |
| 5 | Does anybody require a certain dynamic to feel sexual attraction??That second paragraph is so on the money!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/09/18 01:51 AM |
| 2 | Silent treatment versus physical abuseIt's totally fine to take space before discussing/reacting to something. Just be transparent about it and let them know you just need a little time to cool off. That is ok. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/08/18 10:03 PM |
| 3 | Accidentally chased the chaser. Is it too late to correct course?Right! Pursuing a little too much isn’t gonna make or break a situation. Remember, there is a lot outside of your control. Let him show you what he’s about. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/08/18 12:27 AM |
| 2 | How to vet with on line datingI don’t know, I get plenty of messages. If you’re not getting many, it makes sense to reach out, but being patient seems to yield enough to weed through and select a pool for first dates. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/08/18 05:49 PM |
| 14 | One year of dating and no talk of the futureRight. I’ve been pleasantly surprised to find that most men I’ve been seeing in the 30-34 range bring up kids/settle down city/marriage within the first few dates. It’s honestly weird at this age to balk at that topic, regardless of views. Just possible dealbreaker stuff to get out of the way. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/08/18 08:32 PM |
| 9 | I just found out that my boyfriend had a sexual relationship with his aunt and an all-around shady sexual past.Disagree with being abused or having sex w a trans person as automatic red flags, but the rest still stands. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/18 08:48 PM |
| 9 | Is it too late to repair what I've done?I just finished Why Men Love Bitches and this whole thread reminds me of it. You never want to be rude, just pull back when he stops chasing rather than nagging or putting in extra effort he isn’t reciprocating (babe in total control of herself). Still curious how some of those ideas gel with RPW. I am assuming there is a good balance in there. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/08/18 05:18 AM |
| 16 | How do you manage food with your man?Eat smaller portions and/or order side salads for yourself? Prep food you can quick roast/bake (like have chicken breasts marinating, season veggies, put it in baking pans) or make protein & grain-centric salads you can slap together for yourself before grabbing food out with him. I think he should be able to understand if you want to stop sharing orders. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/08/18 09:43 PM |
| – | Simple QuestionsSounds like it might be time to move on. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/08/18 09:32 AM |
| 2 | Boyfriend has an extreme sexual fetishSchizophrenia isn’t really a spectrum disorder. Do you mean autism? | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/18 05:56 PM |
| 2 | Avoiding past vetting mistakes and starting afresh at 29You guys are awesome! Agreed with both of you. Poly provides a cover for shallow, fragmented relationship styles but also the flexibility for more “real love.” I know myself well enough now that I don’t have time or energy to discern the difference in my own relationships! Haha. Best to keep it simple. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/18 05:18 PM |
| 2 | Avoiding past vetting mistakes and starting afresh at 29That’s very sweet of you to say. I really appreciate it. I definitely plan to continue therapy indefinitely and have realized it might need to be a central part of my self care. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/18 05:16 PM |
| 3 | Avoiding past vetting mistakes and starting afresh at 29100% not something I want to keep going with. I wasn't seeing anyone else during that relationship and realized I just didn't want to. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/08/18 10:00 PM |
| 6 | Avoiding past vetting mistakes and starting afresh at 29Thank you for responding. There were a few people close to me who didn't like the idea, and I'll be more attentive to their opinions. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/08/18 07:42 PM |
| 2 | I offer to pay and end up paying a lot (go figure...)Wow, no restaurant dates before getting engaged even? | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/05/18 05:10 PM |
| 2 | RPW in relationship with past violence?So he routinely verbally abuses you? And he's strangeled you? You know that's the #1 predictor of spousal homicide, right? Honestly your self esteem sounds so eroded, I suppose that's why you seem so desparate to make things work with this guy. I mean, I know it's been 3 years since he assaulted you but he calls you crazy and says horrible things to you. There are men more worthy of your effort. Just my 2c... | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/11/15 01:44 AM |
| 8 | RPW in relationship with past violence?He doesn't sounds like a very good partner. Focus on your degree and stay in therapy. Remember you aren't responsible for his actions. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/11/15 07:31 PM |
| 2 | Natural Beauty/Health AdviceI can't stress sun screen enough. Make sure you use something with titanium or zinc oxide (physical blockers), always check the expiration date, and don't leave it in the sun. At ~21 I had accumulated a ton of damage from trying to tan my fair skin, so I started using lactic acid peels (makeupartistschoice.com; not "natural" but amazing and inexpensive) and getting crazy about sun protection. Big hats, long sleeves, dark tights with sundresses, reapplication of sunscreen every 2 hours etc. Now a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/15 04:11 PM |
| 2 | Even the Catholic Church, once a stalwart bastion of the strong nuclear family, is now throwing in with the feminists and is encouraging divorce and man shamingTrue. Just because you're not doing it doesn't mean it doesn't happen. And divorce is ofc reasonable when the woman is abusive too. | /r/TheRedPill | 25/06/15 12:44 AM |
| 1 | Even the Catholic Church, once a stalwart bastion of the strong nuclear family, is now throwing in with the feminists and is encouraging divorce and man shamingLol not sure why you got downvoted. Yes people should leave abusive partners.It's not a very far-fetched concept. | /r/TheRedPill | 25/06/15 12:43 AM |
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