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I cannot imagine just thinking it’s not relevant to mention you are in a full on relationship… If I’m having sex with someone, I’m emotionally attached and I want them to be mine. Full stop. She was feeling unhappy in the relationship and they were on 'break' so it didn't count as cheating to her nor did she feel like she needed to mention it. We only seen each other 3-4 times. So she wasn't really 'interested' in me except in how I made her feel and existed as one of the trinity axis for escape…
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/24 09:19 PM
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I may be wrong, but the 'soft alpha' is basically a 'hard alpha' minus all of the alpha red flags. Soft alphas, in whatever way they're doing it, lead in their work and personal relationships.: Alpha Red Flags: Regularly flirts with other women in front of you Makes it clear that he doesn't care about your needs or feelings Uses fear/intimidation/anger or other negative actions to get his way (fbreakfast edit: more cocky/arrogant masculinity and confidence vs quiet/stoic masculinity and confiden…
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/24 05:56 AM
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Some thoughts on discussion points: POLYAMORY In his estimation, 15-20% of the women he met on OLD were either poly already partnered or had been poly in the past and wanted to continue that lifestyle (granted OLD is going to overrepresent poly than real world). I'm a younger millennial and this was when I was dating back in college. Between the girls who were serially monogamous 3-5+ guys while they were in college and the girls that were simply kinky and open/offered different types of poly re…
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/24 05:15 AM
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So if there is something between Alpha and Greater Beta, that’s where he sits. Possibly a soft alpha from RPW vetting part 3: The Alpha/Beta Mix Many RP women describe their excellent spouses/LTRs as "Soft Alpha" or "Greater Beta." These gray area classifications show one of the limitations of the somewhat simplistic Greek Lettering System for Men.TM The takeaway point is, Red Pill Women have reported over and over that a healthy blend of leadership and provisioning traits is a proven formula fo…
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/24 04:04 AM
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The way he describes it is "she's pretty but I get turned off as soon as she says something From guys perspective, it’s an instinctual animal ‘wanting’ and it’s different from ‘liking’ that comes from higher order reason and long term values. Everyone wants and craves high sugars and fat from ice cream, chocolate, and snacks. But our reasoning mind and on a personal preference level we can choose not to like it if it conflicts with our values and goals.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/24 01:50 PM
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Men are visual: all men are like that. It is evolutionary biology. An ERP Study on Decisions between Attractive Females and Money https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3471902/ Researchers studied how guys’ brains react when they have to choose between seeing a clear picture of an attractive woman and getting some money. They had 18 men decide between looking at “beautiful” or “sexy” women or taking cash. Here’s what they found: Quick Brain Reactions (P2): When choosing between money and a “b…
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/24 01:32 PM
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I'm thinking it's some mix of shock/dark/dry humor and a bit of copy writing like someone in the thread mentioned. Something similar to the snappy tinder profile descriptions people write: https://www.reddit.com/r/Tinder/comments/uubz5y/incredible_bio_no_notes/ To the guys over 25: I work a stable job and have my own place To the guys under 25: I love Star Wars and have a fat ass
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/24 05:01 AM
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I never did any online dating because I always did well with social circle warm approaches and there was always a lot of people to meet in person despite being in a small town between university, grocery stores, gyms, different meetings/academic clubs, etc. A lot of the comments on the post covered what no-comfort is missing (it's a dating ad from +10 years ago where they didn't have photos. Mentioning things like race, age, std status were all pretty normal in context) and things are being anal…
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/24 04:29 AM
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this makes no sense in response to what i was saying I was being hyperbolical with my reply, but it looks like the message isn't landing so I'll try a different approach. I'm writing the below and all of these comments with the intention of outlining that the community values 'not moralizing' and giving actionable advice. as a collective we should start looking for predatory signs in women like we do in men. narcissists and predators don’t make up the majority of population and aren’t really pro…
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/24 04:24 AM
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holding each other accountable actually works best in these cases. How much leverage do you have? What's your current social reach? How influential are you on social media and online forums? I would like a great society too with healthy, happy, and functional people but screaming into the void of the internet only boosts your feelings of self-righteous achievement and leads to near zero change in the few people who read your comments. The idea that change starts first with ourselves is to build …
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/24 02:27 AM
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I agree, I just wanted to offer a counter perspective from the men's side on this matter. Guys who are sharp can tell if someone's genuinely in a hard spot, going through heavy emotions and crying, or if someone really needs a hand - the intention behind the behaviors is what matters and can be read.
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/24 11:42 PM
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I don't have an exact number on it, also am introverted, but the amount of women I've met and who I would classify as actively dark triad (conscious or unconscious) in their day to day life is about 15% to 20% (leaning towards <15%). They're phenomenal at screening men, building beta orbiters, and know the exact types of men to avoid if they feel they'll get push back or challenged on any of their requests and behaviors.
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/24 11:35 PM
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Yeah, an easy view to spot if someone is showing major signs of dark triad is to put all of their long term relationships under a microscope, I'm big on spreadsheets, and look at the patterns and the stories it tells. People who prioritize short term objectives and self-interest will typically leave a trail of relationships that they demonize once they've broken the halo effect or the utility of the person has ran its course. There's other small tells, but that's beyond the scope of this thread.
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/24 11:30 PM
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as a collective we should start looking for It would be nice, but it's best to start first at home, with ourselves, before we start raising moral crusades. Everyone thinks about changing the world, but we can only change ourselves.
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/24 11:26 PM
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Playing the victim card, crying, and other emotional manipulation tactics tend not to work on men who have more important things on their plate than rescuing 'damsels' in distress. But that's probably the objective of 'lucifer's daughter', vet for soft targets who are easily influenced rather than try to break through hard targets.
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/24 11:22 PM
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OP hasn't mentioned these parts of her history and is asking for advice, but I think the mods should lock the post under 'problems beyond the scope of RPW'. Her challenges and obstacles run back a full year under multiple subreddits who has likely advised her on multiple levels on different options and strategies she can take. For her to now post on RPW and ask for advice, I'm not sure how well it's going to land considering her track record on reddit.
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/24 05:06 AM
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There's been physical abuse in the relationship as well. One of OP's post has a story about her husband tackling her to the ground with a chokehold because she wanted to look at his phone early on when he was cheating. There's also the months of gas lighting and other wild stories. The only possible reason I'm seeing that she's staying with him and 'giving' him another chance is because he makes a lot of money and she's co-depedent.
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/24 05:05 AM
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On alpha widowhood / Oneitis: Oneitis is a slang term for an unhealthy romantic obsession with a single person, or the belief that they are the one, even when they are unavailable. It can cause people to have one-sided conversations, chronic relationship fantasies, and put more effort into the relationship than their partner. Oneitis can also lead to feelings of hopelessness, heart palpitations, dry mouth, depression, anxiety, and an inability to seek out other romantic or sexual relationships. …
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/24 11:04 PM
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What chatGPT is saying about Jung's and Myers' cognitive stack is simply wrong. But it is very popular on the internet. OpenAI (ChatGPT) trained their model on a lot of reddit comments; I'll have to go back and give him a thumbs down to contribute to his RLHF (real learning human feedback) algorithm. I was worried about when I was going to run into one of the models hallucinations and have it convince me that that was truth because I was being lazy on fact checking and not doing my due diligence…
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/24 10:27 PM
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we can set aside the cognitive functions stack and P/J issue if you want :) it's something not even real psychologists can agree on. I find it an interesting topic exactly because no one can agree on anything lol No worries. The point of these mbti posts was to bump the subreddit away from all of the 'advice' posts we've been getting lately and open more interesting and fun conversations. I've been having a lot of fun discussing with you. I'll take a rain check on the function stack and P/J issu…
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/24 09:52 PM
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All this you have to do xy and z first sounds funny to me. I think you naturally have good vibes and will enjoy touching each other throughout the day or flirting, if you're active. Sounds like something a 'natural' would say ;) Sometimes people lose their spark in a relationship and they forget what makes up that missing 'x' factor for them in a relationship. Having a reminder and practical 'xy and z' allows us, as humans, to communicate actionable steps to reproduce the romance and passion in …
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/24 04:53 AM
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/u/_Pumpkin_Muffin, I'll make my reply here so we'll have the chart comment above to reference. I don't have the time nor interest in reading super deep into any of Jung's actual books or MBTI official theory; instead, this is what I've been learning from the GPT-4 models insight. We had a lot of questions from our last discussion, I'll side step those for now and answer the J/P divide briefly since that was our stopping point. If you had a specific question you wanted a burning answer to from y…
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/24 03:55 AM
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On a serious note, I've only met one ENTJ (not counting Vas because I'm pretty sure he's an ENTP), 3 or 4 guy INTJs, and 2 or possibly 3 INTJ girls. Most, if not all of them, were socially calibrated and I'm not sure if any of them were doing something like autistic masking besides the 1 intj girl who was high functioning STEM major/CS career and had the characteristic stemming / ocd behaviors, she didn't show people, that she found soothing. Her social skills were undeveloped in college (not to…
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/24 01:44 AM
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This is something I've been thinking about lately as life has become more busy and I’ve been needing to pick up additional life roles and responsibilities. I’ll come back with some of my personal thoughts, but here’s some practical action steps and playbooks to practice ‘The Five Faces of The Perfect Wife’. 1. How do you fulfill these roles for your husband? How to apply The Mother and The Whore SouthernAthena wrote this theory post about 7 years ago. We have a more recent theory post by /u/suns…
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/24 02:45 AM
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Do you think it's typical of xNTJ to "mask/pass as" sensors and feelers in their social life? Nope - when they manufactured us in the robotics industry they left out our feeler and sensory functions in favor of a machine learning algorithm. There's no need to mask or pass when you can brute force with reasoning, logic, and effective decision trees.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/24 04:46 PM
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Sometimes he needs me to remind him that people are... still people lol. I find it puzzling. It's not "fake", and not calculated per se, but it's... well thought out. Completely foreign to me as I'm pretty transparent when dealing with people. (I hope I'm not making him sound like a sociopath) TJ users were statistically some of the largest percentage of personality types that are Fortune 500 CEOs. And I believe there’s correlational studies or statistics about sociopaths and anti social persona…
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/24 04:21 AM
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It’s not all female intps, but 60-75% of the ones I’ve interacted with and or have become friends with - I’ve noticed their inferior Fe is usually well developed in contrast to the male intps I’ve met/know. Out of the three/four male intps, one might be passably skilled socially but not really.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/24 03:51 AM
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I have a friend who’s INFP and he works as a programmer. Great with his feelings and his Thinking (Te-extroverted thinking or effectiveness as 4th cognitive function for infp stack ) is also well developed. He was and is always a heart type and that was what lead him into programming because he made a promise with his childhood friend that set him down a technical hard skills path to fulfill the promise. It’s a bit hard to type people by observing outside behaviors because what’s seen on the out…
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/24 04:07 AM
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Sorry for the text wall Ark, but this is also for _pumpkin_muffin. I think my husband falls into Effectiveness the best even though those aren't his MBTI. The machine test won't always report someones true type due to a variety challenges. This is my pseudo-accurate way of reading someone in person: 1. I usually ask them the introvert/extrovert question first: Do you need alone time to recharge or do you need to be around others to increase your energy? This gives me a reference point for E / I …
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/24 02:28 AM
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That's the ultimate goal for these posts - with all of the advice posts cropping up, I wanted to try changing the tempo a bit.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/24 01:13 AM
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I'm hoping we'll catch it all in a few GPT prompts.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/24 01:08 AM
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he would prefer to know what I want rather than ask what I want. I've also had to ask him to not praise me too much because it feels like it sets up unrealistic expectations (this is usually related to cooking for others) These are both me as well. I think it's related to our desire to be competent and capable for the first. True for all guys in general, but INTJ-Te effectiveness in particular prides itself on being able to achieve. And one of those fields happens to be knowing our partners and …
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/24 01:03 AM
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A few random points on your model: I was in a rush last night, but here's the link to the person who made the theory in the post: https://personalityhacker.com/blogs/articles/personality-type-ask-love It's from Antonia Dodge and she had a course to sell with it: Couples Mapping A lot of MBTI was genuinely horoscopes that made a lot money.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/24 05:30 PM
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Before we do a deep dive let's set up some frames to help organize our ideas so we'll have a bubble to go back up for some air. First, I'm not a real scientist :) and I definitely wouldn't want to be a social psychologists or personality researcher unless they were paying me +6 figures and it was contributing to AGI or something equally fun. Second, for me, MBTI/cognitive functions/enneagram/socionics is for work and for pleasure. When I'm with friends, I'll share 16 personality and maybe will g…
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/24 05:25 PM
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In my experience, it's about maturity. A younger woman will be more inclined to damsel and vent her frustrations, while an older woman will step up and solve the problem. A neat resolution that I've seen on RPW to this particular challenge is to ask your partner explicitly if they need problem solving, a listening ear, or a combination of both. Then both parties are on the same page. The man then gets to be an effective problem solver by listening and the woman gets her validation need for being…
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/24 04:49 PM
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You're welcome.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/24 04:46 PM
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Step 1. Read this, put it into practice, and come back to RPW with a field report on your experience after following the advice: Advice for a RPW Teenager For more specific advice. You might not be thinking of it in these terms, but what you're experiencing is called rejection anxiety. One of the ways we handle this anxiety is by playing defense and trying to read our partner or sending out our friends to feel the water for us: When we talk during school breaks (we're not in the same class), we …
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/24 11:21 PM
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I crushed more and harder when my life was going poorly and I was single too. Definitely a correlation there. I'll make some time to get around to writing a simple theory post on this, but the 'crush' has a simple formula when you break it down. Crush (Infatuation threshold) = Basic Needs + Special needs There's a baseline minimum of attractiveness, stability, provisioning, etc. that will satisfy what people need at a basic level in a relationship. Anything beyond that is just extra. Add in spec…
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/24 02:42 AM
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Perhaps it's only tangentially related, but one interpretation I have is that one should take caution when having an idea to meet some desire they have - ideas that pop into our minds to meet short-term needs are often destructive. Absolutely. I usually have a good grasp on whether or not what im thinking, feeling, or experiencing is coming from a lower level desire/impulse or if it's coming from a genuine place of good will/care or higher order desire/intention. It's usually linked back to whet…
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/24 03:25 AM
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On the opposite side of the field - the polygamous desire to have sex with many women. I've found that there's usually either an emotional/physical driver of 'something' that is making me attracted to strange. When I nail down specifically what 'it' is, I use it as an opportunity and gift that I'm currently missing 'x' in my relationship (excitement, challenge, novelty, etc. that I'm seeking) and express gratitude that I can begin putting in the same work that lead to that passion, security, or …
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/24 02:09 AM
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For me it's big enough that it deserves its own separate category. It's the foundation of everything. I realize now how absolutely fundamental this is. I think it really deserves its own category. One of the beautiful things about theory is that theory is great until it's actually put into practice. Theories often begin as a starting point or a framework, but the true value and utility is when it is applied in the real world or the field and it will either help us accomplish our relationship goa…
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/24 01:10 AM
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I'd place honesty under loyalty too. Mean what you say and say what you mean. No "I said nothing" when it's obviously Something (capital S). Or maybe I'd add a fourth D - dishonesty. You need to be true to yourself and to each other (more on this at the end). I love that you mentioned this. When this discussion thread went live a few months ago, I was waiting on a RPW community member to mention whether or not dishonesty or lying is a major deal breaker and whether or not this should change the …
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/24 03:30 AM
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This is some synthesized responses from gpt with my additional edits: —— MBTI and its cognitive functions are popular for personal insight, but they lack robust empirical support when compared to other psychological models like the Big Five. The MBTI model, built on Carl Jung's theories and expanded by Myers and Briggs, introduces cognitive function stacks that significantly influence personality analysis. However, this aspect of MBTI isn't strongly backed by broad psychological research. And th…
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/24 02:06 PM
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Everyone is going to be passionate about something. I'm very much a Ti-Ne user, but I don't see why internal logic should be alternative to authenticity (Fi) or be opposed to harmony (Fe). I do think that the sharp dichotomy T vs F is a flaw of the MBTI model, especially when most people will fall somewhere near the middle - very small differences get magnified and divided into strictly different categories. The whole personality traits linked to cognitive functions stacking makes very little se…
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/24 03:08 AM
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10-10-10 Rule: Helps balance immediate desires with long-term outcomes, appealing to Ne’s ability to forecast and Ti’s need for logical consistency. Flip a Coin: Uses the emotional response to the outcome to reveal underlying preferences, offering a quick decision method that bypasses overanalysis. Five Why's: Drives deeper into the rationale of a decision, satisfying Ti’s need for thorough understanding and clarity. Limit Your Options: Counters the paralysis that can come from Ne’s exploration …
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/24 02:10 AM
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3 was actually one of the GPT generated answers (minus the marry the i/entj lol). It's a tad bit of a double edged sword to consult a third party because of Ti-dominant cognitive functions for INTPs do not want interference from other peoples logic (unless the third party is specifically chosen to counterbalance the INTP’s natural tendencies). But Ne (extroverted intuition - aka exploration) allows them to explore more logical ideas from other people to gain a bigger perspective and incorporate …
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/24 02:07 AM
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When we've chatted in the past, I noticed your passion in a few areas. Most perceivers in general are open and flexible, but INFPs tend to dig down really deep and have a lot of strong convictions and beliefs that are aligned with their intrinsic values. INTPs on the other hand are a bit more dispassionate, cool headed, and are open to opposing logic. Nobody is an archetype and there's examples of the opposite being true, but that's a typical cognitive function trend for each of those types. The…
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/24 04:17 AM
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INTP (me) and probably ENTJ (him) From our brief conversations we've had in the past on rpw, I've always read INFP from you. It's surprising and amusing that I'm off on that by a mile. I can see how your INTP x ENTJ relationship pairing would be great. On one side is research, openness, and flexibility. On the other hand is the J of decision making. E vs I can be quite challenging too. Often we each do our own thing and come back together when we've recharged. Works well for us. I've always foun…
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/24 07:26 AM
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Chatgpt and MBTI is chefs kiss. I got a chance to visit my friend on the east coast last summer and we were chatting about the weaknesses of INTPs/INTJs and I remarked casually, "We could chatgpt this." That ended up with a rabbit hole conversation on how you could mitigate the weaknesses inherent to intp's indecisiveness through 5 different ways (flipping a coin, 10/10/10 (how would this path play out in 10 seconds, 10 days, 10 years), and other neat decision heuristics. Spinning the gpt wheel …
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/24 05:27 AM
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/u/sillkentofu This is the self-improvement space I mentioned the mods were setting up.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/24 05:05 AM
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Life evolves, it never stands still - the latest cognitive science research is showing more advancement in the mbti (Jung’s cognitive functions) and its relevance to modern times than ever before. Living 25 years in the past based on old experiences stops progress - it might be counter culture and horoscopes for now, but give another 7 years of cognitive neuroscience and we’ll re evaluate a lot of “untestable” ideas and theories/hypothesis
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/24 11:59 PM
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Mbti and rays not for everyone. I relate to him because he was on the ai movement for stock trading before it was even a thing so he’s a cool boomer in my books
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/24 11:56 PM
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Do you think this is mbit types or do you think this is more male/female? This one in particular is a MBTI thing for my SO and me. She wants to keep the harmony because her mirror neurons are tuned up to 100 for people and I’m in deep cerebral head space of effectiveness and things. Her preference is to keep the relationships for the long term and balance the soft elements of people and people patterns. I would look at the probability, patterns, and execute the process (and the people!). I suspe…
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/24 11:20 PM
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We've talked before about this! I just want to reiterate my type changes whenever I take the test It’s a bit tough to nail down someone’s base cognitive type because there’s only so much a machine test can do to figure out how you’re really taking in information from the world and how you make decisions on those observations. Vas mentioned about how he comes across as both the visionary (ENTP) and the commander (ENTJ). Without going any deeper into cognitive functions from Jung’s system and maki…
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/24 11:11 PM
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We had to take it for work. I think understanding whether someone is E vs I is useful but not sure about the other stuff as much Ray Dalio (Bridgewater Associates - $150 billion in managed assets) uses it in a suite of custom tools (Principles in Action) for employee management and team groupings in addition to a few other metrics.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/24 06:35 PM
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I’ll make sure to report back to my girlfriend of three months plus half a decade + about the men, books, and crystals ): P.s. What’s your mbti?
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/24 06:23 PM
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You’re going to give me an identity crisis if you think that 😉 - I have a lot of blog research riding on my next theory post and I sourced my references from chat gpt.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/24 06:20 PM
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MBTI gets it right where burnout is an issue, but I have this more with my kids than my marriage. Kids don't stop taking, so I have to learn to stop giving for all our sakes. You get an early sneak peek of what the second theory post will include some of: https://personalityhacker.com/blogs/articles/personality-type-ask-love How “Harmony” answers: “Yes! I love you!” I will meet your needs before I meet my own. I will check in regularly and make sure you’re okay. I will do my best to keep morale …
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/24 05:51 PM
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We both tend to approach things...ah...rationally... My SO's an INFJ to my INTJ. ArkNemesis mentioned harmony types naturally understand others, want the best for them, and will typically look to and serve the best interest of their loved one's before their own. That was good synergy in our relationship early on because I was a natural leader and she was a natural follower/helper and guys have a natural disposition to protect and care for those who are under them. But there was a few value's con…
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/24 05:43 PM
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INTJ here, my partner's INFJ as well! I've made friends with healthy INFP/ENFP's folks in the last 2 years. I've always thought that they were hard to get along with, but it was more that unhealthy people are unhealthy regardless of their personality. And healthy people are healthy and good to be around - but ENFPs and INFPs are really good friends when you share natural compatibility and chemistry with them and have similar values and goals.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/24 05:21 PM
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From your writing, I had you under ENTP. The ENTJ's I know were fairly high strung, but then again, they weren't late stage career/life achievement. Myer's and Briggs is considered 'chick' horoscope and not taken too seriously (39-76% get different results on test-retest reliability after 5 weeks) - but girls love horoscopes and it was a fun activity to talk about when I was dating and if they took the test you could see their neuroticism scores under the turbulence v assertive score. Most peopl…
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/24 05:14 PM
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Excellent field report and great work on the introspection, personal development, and massive growth you're doing. /u/fastlifepineapple, +1 star for /u/dropdeadgorgon field report please. I really enjoyed this part of your field report: If I hadn’t shown I was open to honest feedback, who knows how long I would have continued unknowingly making his mornings harder. The community can sometimes overly focus on 'doing the checklist' (STFU, submission, etc.) of 'RPW™ Things' that they forget these a…
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/24 04:43 PM
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Can you make a prediction about how likely you guys will get married based on your viewpoint: 30%, 50%, 80%~99%?
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/24 06:34 PM
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Op, I know you’re just doing a drive by post to crowd source answers from the community - but strongly consider running some of the subreddits processes like answering community questions and asking yourself vetting questions: https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/1bd4xbi/vetting_questions_to_ask_yourself_discussion/
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/24 06:26 PM
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I like how /u/whisper organized these ideas on objective and subjective HVM. Let's try breaking this into two elements. All of the men you describe are value because they apply effort successfully to achieve their goals. A man whose high value is about being wealthy isn't a high value man simply because he has lots of money. He is high value because at some point he said to himself, "I want to be rich", and then figured out what he needed to do to make that happen, and he did it. So, first, an H…
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/24 04:58 PM
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I think the op is one of those post and run types - she's not going to likely reply to the post. There's a lot of relevant details in her posting history that would shift the type of advice she would be receiving: 3 months ago: My 35M boyfriend had sex with my 25F coworker While we were broken up for a month Abortion subreddit 2 months ago: Aid access shipping ?
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/24 03:45 PM
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All of my dating and relationships were done through day game, cold approach, and social circle. But the fundamentals are pretty much all the same if I ended up with a girl's phone number and we didn't get a chance to immediately go do something together briefly and get to know each other a bit more. The Rules Revisited: Men Don't Fall in Love the Same Way Women Do Many of a woman's triggers for romantic love are less immediate: His personal strength and emotional stability, which can only be de…
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/24 03:34 PM
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When I open up my energy, people flock to me like bugs to a bug zapper. I knew I was doing something wrong with my new age mysticism… gotta up my law of attraction and stick my finger in an electric socket. Got it /s
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/24 12:01 AM
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First rule about fight club, you don’t talk about fight club. Most of the ECs /mods and star community members are on alternate accounts exclusively for RPW - both for avoiding being doxxed (your boyfriend in this case), but to also post freely on the subreddit. I think the mods are talking in the background about setting up a space for exclusive smv/rmv accountability and self improvement space. Still a good idea to build an exclusive RPW account though.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/24 11:51 PM
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I updated my comment with an Ian Ironwoods blog post on the girlfriend experience. If you've already read the other links, you'll definitely want to check out that one. It's an old classic that's buried a little deep in the wiki and is a highly recommended read.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/24 02:16 PM
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If you're on mobile, you can click the 3 dots under a comment and click the save button to save to your profile 'save page' tab. On the desktop site, it's immediately under the comments/post to click save.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/24 02:12 PM
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There’s no one way to be a rpw, if that’s even a thing. We have feminist, conservatives, religious traditional conservatives, and strategic daters who are all here. If you become an active voice by linking back to the wiki and offer quality and actionable strategic relationship advice - the mods and ecs will likely put you on their radar for starring A big part of the community is helping women accomplish their relationship goals and sometimes that involves offering more traditional dating advic…
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/24 10:15 PM
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There’s a lot of traditional conservative women on the subreddit and in more recent years, ‘natural’ game where you improve fundamentals and ‘be yourself’ agrees with a lot of the women on the subreddit, but the original theory post like: Learning girl game from Lucifer’s Daughter Part 1 Part 2 And other strategic and amoral strategies and tactics are in the subreddit wiki. Things like mimicking the girlfriend experience, etc: Creating ”the girlfriend experience” Ian Ironwoods Girl Game: The GFE…
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/24 09:46 PM
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/u/fastlifepineapple - can we award a star for their op comment in combination with this one Excellent advice from mature experience Firm and good 'leave him' advice that's actionable and offers teachable perspective
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/24 02:51 AM
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This one is great! I usually have a bakers dozen of vetting questions I go through, but this was definitely one of my top 10 I went through early on when I was dating my partner.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/24 02:32 AM
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I think you're just here to stir the pot and watch the drama - or just really bad at reading and writing. You're ignoring answering many of the community member's questions and only answering half of the questions that are not that important. I'll leave it up to the mods to figure out what they want to do with that. I followed different pick up websites / teachers when I was younger because they broke down social dynamics into bite sized mechanical aspects that were effective and learnable for s…
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/24 01:02 AM
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The thread is still pretty early (Vetting Questions to Ask Yourself), but these are some vetting questions you can ask yourself that many of our top community members ask during vetting: Do I want to be with someone else? Is this a reasonable expectation? Would he hold the puke bowl for me? Will this person take care of me when I’m sick? If I’m hospitalized? Will I want to take care of him if he’s in these situations? Do I trust him, do I trust him not to hurt me, even inadvertently Does this pe…
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/24 04:57 AM
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1b. The guys you use might become disenchanted by women, believing them all to be incapable of affection or companionship, and become P&Ders themselves, thus perpetuating the cycle. Holding on to bitterness, resentment, or anger is like drinking poison expecting the other person to die. Once that happens - hurt people, hurt people. I've read the occasional TRP field reports on posters 'zero to hero' journey of being a blue pilled beta orbiter and eventually their return home as an 'alpha'. After…
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/24 04:18 AM
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You're making progress and growing; good work! I came across this dating mantra a couple years ago from an INTJ girl's guide to her dating journal for mindful/intentional dating: Dating is a means to teach me about myself. Even if things don’t work out, I will gain tools to take with me in my journey forward. I have set boundaries, and I will track when someone violates them, or if I betray them myself. There's a lot of different tools, lessons, and personal experiences you'll be using and exper…
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/24 12:34 AM
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With all of the responses so far on your post, what's your current conclusions on the entire situation?
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/24 04:47 AM
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I'll have to go back and fact check this, but this is what GPT4 generated for me after I prompted it to use it's trained data on current marital statistics and insights on why marriage divorce rate trends are matching the 1960s lows using chain of reasoning. If this is true, it's blowing me away that we're actually seeing a solid pivot swing after about 50 years and how increasing education and technology can actually benefit and lower divorce rates. I'll have to go back and do some deeper resea…
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/24 03:22 AM
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I understand what you mean, but I don't think Whisper would see an evolved relationship as adversarial, more the opposite. Wisdom leads to fewer misunderstandings, better self-control. Having both sides enlightened encourages mutual understanding and respect. That was a small snippet of a conversation I was told from girlwithabike who shared a deeper conversation with whisper about why he posted on TRP and RPW. Whisper's action spoke louder about his intentions for 'collaboration vs combative so…
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/24 04:10 PM
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I stumbled across RPW at some point and started lurking. It was a combination of reading posts from /u/whisper and /u/girlwithabike posts in addition to a number of other ECs/star users comments that I realized that this community had something really special going for it. I stuck around primarily because Whisper was active on RPW and his comments on frame control, critical thinking, and major posts from him like 'Who killed Marriage 1.0' and 'Submissive Behaviour As Strategy' were and still is …
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/24 12:58 AM
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I have friends who have had deep and meaningful sugar relationships and I believe there was even a post here about similarities between that type of dating and RPW tactics. I just suspect it may be similar in that both parties are going into it with open eyes, aware that there is a time frame on this relationship and it won’t last forever. That way, they can manage their emotions and expectations Self-awareness and the ability to navigate and accomplish their goals is key here.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/24 02:19 PM
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I think that's true for one-itis and OP's youthful infatuation. Alpha Widow is different. She's more likely to overvalue herself. Good point. I wonder if Leo's girlfriends are Alpha Widowed after he let's them go. He probably spoiled them in terms of lifestyle, but I can't imagine them being as damaged as a typical Chad Chaser at the club. Ultimately, I think this all comes down to whether or not the women who are in this position have set higher or lower standards for their relationship partner…
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/24 03:44 PM
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Even humans have been occasionally shown to develop lifelong preferences that are largely shaped by their first experiences in multiple realms, including initial relationship partners. Lol, you might be far more correct than you think about the imprinting hypothesis. It's called attachment theory and babies who grow up with secure attachment will typically have multiple life vectors (relationships, work, life span) that are healthier than those who have non-secure attachments. Current theories s…
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/24 12:05 AM
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Guys are susceptible to the same phenomenon, called 'one-itis'. When a young man becomes romantically obsessed, he puts her high on a pedestal and worships her, devotes his life to her. I remember reading from one of the more traditional conservative women on the sub about how she would get the 'ick' from men who placed her on a pedestal. And this was because, from her perspective, the only one who should be placed on that pedestal is God. Any man who was willing to put her on the pedestal was b…
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/24 11:54 PM
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Regardless, I think it's an interesting hypothesis to say that a woman with perfect mental health cannot be alpha widowed. It's my core conviction that everything in life is a skill: relationships, marriage, building wealth, programming, sales, marketing, etc. A woman with 'perfect mental health' would be the idealization of a human who has immense mastery and skill over their ability to direct their focus in life to things that empower and give them life. And mastery over their emotional well b…
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/24 09:23 PM
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Alpha is relative. Do you know what Chad looks like? He's that broody artist in your film class that's so passionate about his career. He's that guy you met at Comicon wearing your favorite band T-shirt that has actually heard of that obscure anime your so into right now. He's that guy in medical school that looks more like he should play a doctor on TV than an actual physician. And do you know what all of these Chad's have in common? They would have sex with you but not commit to you. Even in t…
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/24 01:42 AM
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This is copy pasted from another recent post on dating and red/green flags - the material is relevant: This is a post I wrote on vetting with a small snippet on red flags and green flags I quoted below and a small comment I made about energetic and emotional attraction if you're into 'woo woo': One important key if you’re not a natural at this and have patterns of inviting into your life lousy dates, friendships, partners, etc. is to absolutely examine a red flag when it shows up and to not dism…
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/24 03:35 PM
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This is a post I wrote on vetting with a small snippet on red flags and green flags I quoted below and a small comment I made about energetic and emotional attraction if you're into 'woo woo': One important key if you’re not a natural at this and have patterns of inviting into your life lousy dates, friendships, partners, etc. is to absolutely examine a red flag when it shows up and to not dismiss it as something cute and funny or rationalize the behavior away as them being stressed or this is j…
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/24 03:33 PM
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/u/chamomilemist Can we award a star for this comment.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/24 05:11 AM
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Huge piece of advice (and I’ll actually write this on the wedding shower game lol) is sometimes it’s more important to be happy than to be right! The way I've heard this is that, "You're not there (in the relationship) to win arguments, you're there to win hearts". Getting the dopamine hit for being right and not being wrong and 'winning' does nothing for you if it destroys your relationship rapport and love for the person you care about.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/24 01:46 AM
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I think there's pros and cons to both the EC/star and self-moderated user flair system. Neither is perfect because just as the star/ec system doesn't give contextual clues - random drive by comments and even regular posters won't flair up or even worse people who lie. I've been talking with /u/fastlifepineapple in the background when I've noticed 'married men' who claim they've qualified to participate on the subreddit but their profile show they're active on 'passport bros' threads talking with…
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/24 01:35 AM
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Tbh this sub often blends with other relationship subreddits at this point, where it's man bad woman good, the woman can do no wrong and should leave him. Eh, I'm pretty sure the mods wrote "Getting started" and added the "Navigating by User Flair Guide" at the top for a reason. Comments from Star Contributors should be weighed more strongly in your estimations. These are people who have proven their ability to understand and apply RP ideas on a regular basis. Theirs is the type of advice you ha…
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/24 01:18 AM
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I'm just scared that I may be overreacting and that, to other people, this may not be as big of an issue as it is for me. He's said that it'd be less of a problem for me if I was older, less idealistic and less of a liberal. I think there's some other questions that can be very beneficial to introspect on since we have some geat answers from community members like /u/anothergoodbook . This is from one of my old posts, Vetting: Hyper-Courtship and the Halo Effect under 'Advice on who to select': …
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/24 03:16 PM
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I like this, we need more actionable advice of this type in the community.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/24 05:28 AM
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I get where this is coming from. If you share similar values and goals, then not trying will make things natural and effortless and you don't have to force anything. But where in the world is good girl game in that? It definitely works for those who are naturals and get lucky with men who have the right mixture of dominance, leadership, and provisioning - but what about those who aren't naturals and aren't getting the types of relationship they want in life? A better, "Don't try" advice is tell …
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/24 08:34 PM
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Is there such a thing as too big of a goal This is a quote from Ray Dalio (Author of Principles and retired founder of Bridgewater Associates - $70B in managed assets as of 2024): "I learned that if you work hard and creatively, you can have just about anything you want, but not everything you want. Maturity is the ability to reject good alternatives in order to pursue even better ones." In his book, Ray says it this way when he's speaking to his son, 'You can have anything you want in life, but…
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/24 04:51 AM
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Thanks Delia! I actually picked up the idea from one of the older guys who had spent time between TRP and RPW comments. When I asked him about it, a lot of small details clicked and I was like nice - sweet and simple but so good. Small tips and advice like 'always present a united front in public, even if you strongly disagree with your husband' (covers you on indications of disloyalty). Or allowing your partner to destress for an hour when he gets home and not dumping on him immediately or nagg…
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/24 02:16 AM
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Agreed. There’s this book called ‘The Magic of Thinking Big’ and the idea is that basically you can 10x your results from what everyone is doing by simply setting a 10x goal. The author writes about different companies high performers who had outsized returns from the business average. It wasn’t because the employees were smarter, worked harder than anyone else, or had any particular special advantage. In fact, some of them worked less and were pretty average all things considered. The only diff…
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/24 01:18 AM
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You did great! The community received the post well and there’s a number of women who found value in the post.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/24 12:12 AM
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It could also be what causes committed men to slip into resentment and/or passivity. Yeah, it definitely is. If you check out r/marriedredpill you’ll find a bunch of field reports of men who allowed their wives break the 3D rules on disrespect and disruption where they no longer feel supported. The wives usually become captain with their husbands as first mate in a number of those situations where their relationship is filled with bickering and the crazy cycle. It’s usually the more firm men who…
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/24 12:07 AM
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This was early college (late 20s now). I turned down the first girl who was a RN and I was in the process of getting my trade degree. I wasn't looking for a relationship at the time and she was. I didn't want to hurt her feelings and send the wrong signals by taking up her offer on movie trips, food, and other boyfriend/girlfriend activities she offered. Second girl was when I was at university after some time after my associates. I wasn't looking for a relationship then as well, but wasn't agai…
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/24 04:55 AM
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Been busy past couple weeks, wanted to drop in and comment on your post when I seen it awhile back. I've always been focused on game dynamics: pick up when I was younger and wasn't aware of bigger picture of goodwill and real relationship game (short or long) trading business, etc. Understanding the rules of the game, grokking hidden patterns, and studying game theory/dynamics was a big driver for me because survival and getting enough certainty and security in my life was a basic prerequisite b…
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/24 03:58 AM
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Been out of town the past couple weeks, wanted to drop in with a comment but been a bit busy. I remember reading this post about a few days after it was submitted and thought, man - this is a really peculiar but motivating way of implementing a sustainable and fulfilling system to get a great result from something that's pretty tough sometimes. I wonder who this is, because they need to get a star. After checking the name, realized it was a regular EC and smiled because it made sense. The $1/hou…
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/24 03:24 AM
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I'll start first, am guy, but want to get the ball rolling. One of the deal makers my SO inspired me with to pursue her when we were younger was that she cooked for me. I know the community rules on men keeping quiet about their personal preferences, but if a guy is accepting your cooking and being fed - the answer is likely yes to the 'what are we' question. Out of all of my previous dates and short/long term relationships, the amount of girls who actually offered to cook/cooked for me was abou…
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/24 01:33 AM
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Eh, don't want to dive too deep into the madonna whore complex - but some men definitely get the 'icks' from n count even if they don't know why exactly. One of the things that some girls unfamiliar with game will do, because it works on them, is to seed male jealousy games as a form of pre-selection. Women like when a man is surrounded by similar and attractive women because it's a heuristic shortcut that signals he's been vetted by women like me (same/similar status) or women who are more attr…
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/24 01:24 AM
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Hey! Congrats on EC status as well edit: /u/youllknowwhenitstime that awkward moment when you realize that one of the 5 star community members you thought was promoted to endorsed status was actually not who you thought it was. lol, sorry - thought you were jenneapolis, she's been on fire with her contributions on the sub lately; she was on the other field report post where someone was granted as star as well (mixed up the two posts / commenters)
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/24 06:59 PM
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I'm going to make a discussion post on 'Deal Breakers and Deal Makers' in the next couple of days that I've been sitting on for awhile. The short answer is yes if a potential partner isn't interested in it, but also no. 3D Rule: Disrespect, Disruption to a man's life, and Disloyalty. Most of the guy's I've spoken with in the past have a common theme centralized around those three principles on what makes or breaks a relationship. If hiking/camping are highly valued goals and values that are cent…
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/24 04:59 AM
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I wrote a response that made the assumption that this was an early to mid 20s relationship where it's a bit hard to find a combination of ambition and empathy in high efficacy men. But you guys are both in your 30s and this may be behavior that is here to stay in the long term. I have an uncle who's married with two kids in their early and late teens. He's in a high powered career position (6 figures) and is fairly competitive and high ambition (ex marathon runner, tennis player, etc.). His wife…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/23 04:12 AM
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I think that's the greatest difference between many of the women who decided to go all in with their husband's/so. They screened and vetted for men who had a great amount of willingness and not 'wanting' and were able to find men who accomplished their goals they set. That ambition and ability to accomplish goals is reflected in more than their work and business life.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/23 12:36 AM
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Moo. I have zero regrets. AMA Username doesn't check out 🤔
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/23 12:31 AM
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When I was younger and actively dating, I enjoyed and preferred when girls would throw in shit tests during conversations. It showed that I was outside of the friendzone and that attraction dynamic when you successfully 'pass' a test (body language usually becomes warmer, brighter smiles, giggles, and banter comes up) usually meant it was a good green light to move forwards. Too many disruptions and or the rare nuclear shit test usually got a, "have a good day'' (no soft next) and being cut from…
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/23 02:18 AM
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Great job on this write up to shit testing! RPW usually recommends no overt/disrespectful testing, but breaking it down as levels of shit, haha, and how to tone it down to a more playful and constructive banter and rapport transforms something that can be unconscious and destructive until a gift and opportunity for connection, play, and vetting.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/23 01:59 AM
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There's a lot to break down in your post, but I'll be brief because sometimes you don't reply to your messages. I have not known one single “slut” who ever had a problem finding a man to date her. My husband’s ex has slept with many men and she’s also had many long-term relationships. Most of them ended because she got bored and broke up with her boyfriends. The average person (both men and women) would want to secure continuous long term support and a secure relationship to build a life with. B…
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/23 02:16 PM
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Sure, pornography/pornographic material can be tough to crush if you've used it as a major crutch (or if it's all you know) to meet your needs for feeling good, a substitute for rich and fulfilling relationships, life engagement, and other areas of life achievement and meaning (PERMA). I've had my own struggles with it and understand how life can sometimes feel like you're in a rut and you can't make progress. When you're feeling extra low, you need to put on the horse blinders and focus on: sma…
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/23 01:11 AM
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The mods just dropped a back to basics on vetting (A Comprehensive Guide to Vetting Men). Check it out when you get a chance.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/23 04:23 AM
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There's this experiment called 'Rat Park' that was conducted in the late 1970s on drug addiction. You had a lonely rat that they put in a small cage all alone with two bottles: one with water and one with a morphine mix. The lonely rat started drinking lots and lots of the morphine laced water. And rats that got placed in a Rat Park with tons of cheese, exercise wheels, toys, and other rats to socialize and play with (rats in Rat Park also got two bottles: one with water and one with morphine). …
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/23 03:58 AM
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One of the reasons why I enjoy reading RPW, red pill theory can often be applied equally to both men and women. I like that both 'comprehensive guide to vetting men' and RPW part 1 vetting share in common is that they start with seeking to fully explore and learn about yourself as part of the vetting process. They go well together in that RPWi comprehensive guide goes into specific details with a step by step exercise in the 'wants and needs' part of the post while RPW covers a larger birds eye …
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/23 02:35 AM
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In this post, Camille and PhantomDream team up to write a comprehensive guide. I had read this incorrectly and had a small chuckle.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/23 02:06 AM
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Interesting post on Greater Betas. Even though I fit the description, I disagree with the premise that a man is either Alpha or Beta. RPW has some seriously good theory on 'alpha/beta' written by a number of community members. This is one that originated from within TRP/RPW crossover writers and the evolution of ideas when RPW adapted TRP alpha/beta principle to fit women's long term goals: Vetting Part 3 - Alpha and Beta Traits This is one that's sourced from RPW's sister subreddit if you're in…
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/23 04:05 PM
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I think looksmaxing is just the vernacular that came out of femaledatingstrategy or the vindicta subreddits unless it became an organization recently.
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/23 02:13 AM
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yellow-throated splotch lizard I will expect this to be someone's new username now. Lol 🤣
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/23 06:02 AM
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Check out incremental reciprocation post from sunshinesundress.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/23 05:56 AM
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Dating a man that doesn't properly court you is the antithesis of what we stand for. No, the subreddit is a lot more encompassing and diverse than this. Read the side bar and the community rules on what the rpw sub actually stands for.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/23 05:50 AM
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Maybe RPW needs to make "Classic Womanhood" a thing instead of TradWives "Classic Womanhood" as strategy - I like it! You're right on the traditional maxims and precepts being powerful, but also limited in flexibility. The fact that it works and is an easy path of default conservative risk strategy makes it a hard sell to persuade others to stop thinking in terms of black and white good/bad and step back from ideology.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/23 05:36 AM
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It's the confusion on giving men a cow and not selling the milk... wait /s Cultural 'progress', mismatched values and expectations make for a confusing dating and relationship market. Thank God for the internet and technology
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/23 10:32 PM
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For anyone following this thread, OPs answers to ykwit questions: https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/15f0ac4/gaining_trust_after_infidelity/jue3ls9/
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/23 07:56 PM
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Are you offering more than the other cute women who are your competition? My SO had bought a meal for me when we first met back in college and we weren't even dating then. It blew me away and was completely refreshing. I was a broke college student and normally courted girls with coffee, walks, cheap meals and invitations to cook together. She was/is from a traditional conservative culture and very nurturing. It inspired me to pursue and 'chase' her when on most dates I went on I phoned it in. B…
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/23 07:40 PM
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I agree with you that the cuckoldry thing just doesn’t happen THAT often in practice, though I can understand men’s innate fear and rage over something like that. It happens in practice. Sharing my response to countthebees on the research data for the dual mating strategy 'cuckoldry' or acquiring strong genetic material from an alpha and raising the child/children with a provider unknowingly. https://old.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/15fxq1e/evolution_happens_quickly/jupyegy/
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/23 04:48 AM
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While I don't deny AF/BB is alive and well... I think its universality is under question https://www.researchgate.net/publication/299839892_Cuckolded_Fathers_Rare_in_Human_Populations This is the referenced research paper that stated cuckoldry is at 1-2% rather than the original 10~30% that's traditionally stated from evo psych theory. Near the end of the article, it mentions that in lower social economic areas in mexico they found that the rates were at 30% and 10% in a particular south america…
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/23 04:36 AM
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What you're talking about is the idea that there are some long term innate evolutionary traits, that are hard to change, and there are also surface level traits that are very easy to change? Yup. Male and female secondary sex characteristics typically begin at puberty for both genders and have an evolutionary purpose of increasing the chance of breeding. In men: Broadening of the shoulders and chest (shoulders are wider than the hips) Growth of body hair (abdominal, chest, pubic, facial hair) In…
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/23 03:42 AM
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I don't think macro evolution moves that fast for R and K selection behaviors and traits that it would change what women find sexually attractive (primal attraction). Mystery (Erik von Markovik) wrote about how value can be distilled down to: V (value) = S+R where S+R = Survival and Replication In essence, womens attraction is determined by their value judging system of men's perceived survival and replication value (ignoring personality, preference, culture, etc.). E.g. higher relative height, …
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/23 05:47 PM
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Took me some time to gather my thoughts on this post. I read the guys version then read your version and felt that it was very similar to Tony Robbins 6 Human Needs model. The 6 Human Needs Certainty (SECURITY): assurance you can avoid pain and gain pleasure Uncertainty/Variety (ESCAPE): the need for the unknown, change, new stimuli Significance (STATUS): feeling unique, important, special or needed Connection/Love: a strong feeling of closeness or union with someone or something Growth: an expa…
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/23 10:51 PM
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How do women who desire monogamy square this with our need to feel secure The ECs went super theoretical in the comment chains, but... CountTheBees mentioned an excellent point that 'vet, vet, vet' is step one in securing men who have a pre-disposition for monogamy for whatever motivation ArkNemesis00 answered that there's basically constructive, destructive, and neutral ways of getting our needs met - offering alternative constructive ways of getting a relationship partners needs met is how you…
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/23 10:12 PM
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That sounds like him. He is typically a person to call out bullshit, corruption, and lies and trp was an answer when the social contract for marriage 1.0 stopped being fulfilled and government decided to continue domesticating and exploiting it's citizens. Then he continued the conversation with RPW because despite being an anarchist in a corrupt society, he values a stable and strong civilization.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/23 10:06 PM
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"Naw, sis, that ain't it." I know I have the bright pink girly endorsed contributor flair, but I have too much of the guy's plumbing to be a woman 😉
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/23 09:58 PM
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To me, a fascinating question becomes why would Whisper advocate against marriage full-stop? Whisper's an anarchist. Or at least his character whisper was when his Reddit account was still active. I'll have to catch up on his latest writings on https://www.trp.red/follow/Whisper I'm waiting for him to write the follow up on that post to see his thoughts on marriage 3.0+ but I'm thinking his answer is /r/redpillwomen as he wouldn't have invested a decade of his writing efforts here. I think that …
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/23 09:31 PM
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I briefly skimmed the wiki you linked. I think you're strongly discounting agrigarian based societies. I read Whisper's post, and both it and your statement are based on the premise that people were marrying radically earlier than they actually were. Some quick thoughts. There's 3 heuristic fulcrums that impact early marriage (ordered by hard to soft influence): Technology Age of economic independence (to be financially self sustaining) and eventually economic surplus (to have financial abundanc…
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/23 03:49 PM
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Maybe this is because women couldn't 'provide' so much as a man, but they could do the next best thing which is to use the raw materials that the provider has brought and make a home out of a house. Nice.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/23 03:55 AM
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Our forebears knew whether someone would be a good spouse without living with them, and by and large it worked out beautifully. Why are we different? Technology and the time it takes to become financially able to provide a home, security, and raise a child. Op's partner has already acquired his master's at 22 and has yet to have the financial provisioning that somebody in the 1950s or 1-200 years would have already achieved at 14-19 years of age. If you haven't read it yet, check out whispers "w…
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/23 03:11 AM
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Looks like your post became an impromptu ama. One of the strategies we discuss on RPW is, submissive behavior as strategy (https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/80ryqx/submissive_behaviour_as_strategy/). Sometimes, new rpw women to the subreddit usually attempt that and end up getting burnt because they chose men who were unreciprocal or dysfunctional in some way (abusive, emotionally dysregulated, etc.). What are your strategies, standards, and boundaries in order to find high quality …
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/23 02:48 AM
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Tradcon is RPW, but RPW is not tradcon. Our sidebar states that we come from all walks of life and do not necessarily share similar world views, values, etc. But a way of relating to men. /u/Kind_Advisor_6920, and the community should be aware that we have an endorsed contribution who is a sex worker. I personally would like to see field reports and other girl game strategy from an amoral view point to get a more comprehensive and deeper understanding of sexual strategy for women.
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/23 09:34 PM
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By not letting this slide and keeping him in check I mean to not let this kind of behavior become the norm. You might want to consider editing your last sentence in the first post with this. The way it's presented now appears to be framed as being a 'boss babe combative women wears the pants' dynamic. That type of combative relationship dynamic is how you domesticate your man into a beta and wonder why you're either receiving continuous negative relationship crazy cycles or criticism and contemp…
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/23 05:02 PM
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Welcome to the community! Thank you guys for improving the wiki
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/23 04:29 PM
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I offer it freely! You gotta finish it now, looking forward to that post soon lol I'm kidding, but if you're having a hard time starting, consider using chat gpt: AI Assisted - Using chat to brainstorm, research, and make a writing outline based on: "Your guide to normiemaxxing" to the mods. Step one for young women would be to cut yourself off from male RP content for a long while, additional steps are looking cute, fitting into an fsm and having a social circle. I don't mean this as snark--I t…
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/23 10:12 PM
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Submission is for husbands, aka men who have committed to the leadership that entails. Agreeableness is for men you're interested in. Submission is when you 'get onboard' with your captain's decisions and fully commit to the path he's chosen once it is made, even if you personally disagree. Agreeableness is a pleasant demeanor and openness to demonstrations of leadership. I like this idea that submission is a higher level of compliance in an invested relationship while agreeableness (deferring t…
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/23 05:55 AM
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superslavi linked to that deleted post by camille: "Monk Mode and RPW" It's still deleted, but the comments have hints at the discussion that was going on 7 years ago on the recommendation to not recommend nun mode. This is a long shot, but if you remember any details or user accounts who might've made comments or posted more (either on that post or other places on the sister subreddit) can you pm me them. I'm doing some preliminary research for a nun mode theory post and it seems like camille's…
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/23 01:08 AM
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Even if you can’t make Sunday service you can take part in other activities there. Agree, there's usually a mid week service at most denominations too, as well as various volunteer positions/events. OP needs to calibrate this to the demographics of the community she's involved with as there's old folks home where there's not much in options for fellowship with younger crowds and others where it's only middle aged families and all of the children are too young to date.
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/23 12:48 AM
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Realistically, if someone asks just give them the number of significant relationships you’ve had, not how many men you’ve had flings with. My assumption is that you're (not you, the women who are going to follow this advice) looking for high quality men. Men who have the social acuity to be able to tell when someone is bullshitting them. These men aren't stupid and are able to discern when you're telling half truths or when later information comes up that points towards a different story. I've h…
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/23 12:16 AM
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/u/AmazingInterview1493 I didn't comment early on because I was wondering what the OP's goals and values were since she was being vague and unclear. But if she's here to learn from RPW with good intentions and not doing a drive by post to crowd source some ideas and ghosting RPW because she didn't read the sidebar and didn't realize the community is about securing healthy, secure, long term relationships: The Wall: and for humor 29/31 by Garfunkel and Oates Hypergamy (hypergamy is monogamy) and …
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/23 12:11 AM
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This is probably better suited to r/Diabla if you’re looking for a short-term thing with the perk of having your rent and bills payed for. That's savage - hard core red pill.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/23 05:51 AM
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It would be awesome if someone broke down what Nun Mode looks like but I have yet to see that here in anything other than comments I noticed similar. There's a number of field reports on RPW about nun mode and one from /u/superslaviswife on RPWi. From the few that I've read, there's usually an 'A' and 'B' pattern when you follow up on their comment/post history and they've either succeeded in the self-improvement and led them to a successful relationship or they were diffused somewhere and are s…
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/23 05:19 AM
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/u/lianne_tran Seconded. I would like to find a dedicated RPW post on nun mode, but OPs going to have to settle for the next best alternative: TRP Monk Mode First, I must sing the praises of “Nun Mode,” which is a period of time (minimum 6 months) dedicated to self-improvement during which a woman completely foregoes dating. As with TRP’s “Monk Mode,” the purpose is to obtain self-awareness and self-sufficiency. -rubywootoo
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/23 11:34 PM
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Great breakdown - the op is in critical need of introspection and major self-improvement for both understanding herself and how she's socially perceived. When she begins to gain a better understanding of how men and women think/feel/perceive and the social dynamics that surround relationships, she'll have a better footing on accomplishing her relationship goals. In the meantime, nun mode with a particular focus on isolation and improvement until she raises her levels of introspection that she no…
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/23 11:25 PM
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We're Christian now, & a book I've gotten for my girls is Preparing to Become a Helpmeet, by Debi Pearl. The gist of it is is basically what you're doing, improve & work on yourself doing what you love & after that look up & see who's around you doing it as well, you're likely looking at husband material. I really like this idea and if you happen to have some free time to write a post on this idea, that would be awesome! I've had a post on my mind about high probability dating using an 80/20 par…
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/23 01:43 PM
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This is a solid field report - you've put in the work. Theory is great until it's actually practiced, then it becomes experience and eventually personal mastery. I'm grateful that you found the tools you needed to help you in your relationship :) When I started seeing the blue hyperlinks, I was like 'this is star material'. /u/fastlifepineapple can we award a star for doom-vixen
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/23 02:41 PM
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The Four Agreements Don Miguel Ruiz https://fourminutebooks.com/the-four-agreements-summary/
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/23 02:34 AM
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Glad you found it helpful. Continue posting on RPW in order for the community to continue giving you feedback. You likely have a high dominance threshold and your current relationship partner is what rpw would call a greater beta. If you see enough potential and feel that the relationship is worth it the long run, rpw has the tools for both situations: https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/xftbg7/back_to_basics_september_relationship_dynamics/ https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comme…
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/23 08:15 PM
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My advice is that you need more information, more rationality. If you haven't already I strongly suggest you read the book In An Unspoken Voice by Peter Levine. I think you'll be receptive to his perspective, and IMHO, it's a much better book than The Body Keeps The Score. He discusses some of the somatic aspects of trauma and how it can cause anxiety by way of interruption of our innate mammalian methods of dealing with it, and how we can get stuck in fight-flight-freeze. If we're going in this…
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/23 05:46 AM
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There's feminist women on the subreddit. The community is comprised of suburban white picket fence traditional conservatives, BDSM subs, feminists, women who run their own businesses, child free couples, modern conservatives, and even sex workers. The article is an opinion hit piece, but a poorly written and researched one. The sidebar quotes: We come from all different walks of life, so on RPW you will find harmonious and productive discussions between very religious traditional conservative wo…
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/23 04:32 AM
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Hi op, highly recommend that you read the 'Getting Started with RPW' post to learn more about the community.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/23 08:05 PM
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At this juncture in a relationship — and feel free to share otherwise — I feel it’d be rather silly to breakup with someone because I get the ick from their poor friend choices. It would be silly, unless it was actively harming your relationship as you mentioned. But there's also the information behind the behaviors of choosing poor friends (social meta data that can forecast outcomes and future behaviors). It could mean that they have poor vetting skills for the people they allow in their life …
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/23 11:29 PM
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Good comment. Can we award dehydrated jellyfish a star? /u/livelylychee
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/23 10:26 PM
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These are a few personal vetting strategies for the quality and skills of people that I want around me in order to accomplish my life goals. Unshakeable Integrity: Can I trust that if I left a large sum of money or needed to leave my SO in their care and left for a large amount of time that nothing bad would happen (this includes cheating and lying on morally grey areas) Open Candor: The ability and skill to have hard conversations and diplomatically but directly discuss uncomfortable topics tha…
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/23 09:49 PM
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Great comment! Whisper talks about the five stages of the average frustrated TRP user. The vast vocal majority of men are the 80% who are going through their stages of grief. The 20% are those who are or can be competent leaders.
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/23 09:15 PM
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Whisper touches on sexual strategy and 'good and bad' when it comes to the different archetypes men can display. In a nutshell, he mentions that there is no 'good' or 'bad' when it comes to sexual strategy/identity. What matters most is values and goal alignment. A guy who merely supports liberal ideas will get a one-way ticket to the friend zone if he has nothing else going for him. It's not particularly redpillwomen, but I think that there's some women who are sufficiently low enough on their …
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/23 04:52 AM
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I see this idea a lot in red pill circles, but I think it has to be a myth. I see you haven't met 'Chad Thundercock's Younger Brother, Dylan' yet. ^It's a fun post by the EC who wrote wife love goggles.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/23 02:57 PM
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Imbalance of rules is a pretty sweet framework. I like how it's not just the rules, but how you're calibrating it to how people reciprocate based on the 'level' that they're operating at. It reminds me of my overly long posts on the categories of men and their goals, but more clear and well written lol.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/23 02:42 PM
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When I feel like I'm at a particularly low point in my life, I think of myself as a Sim. I've been studying a bit of the Hexaflex model from 'The Happiness Trap' book uses triflex model: Being present (contacting the present moment & self-ascontext), Opening up (defusion & acceptance), and Doing what matters (values and committed action)) this would be called a cognitive defusion technique: In a nutshell, you're creating some distance between yourself and your internal experiences that helps red…
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/23 06:39 AM
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The mods can be spicy at times and the self-proclaimed submissive women aren't submissive to the random men that stumble on the subreddit 🤪 /s
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/23 06:20 AM
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You've flip flopped on your position multiple times - I think people will be more receptive to your ideas if you stayed consistent to either semen retention, fasting from sex, being sex free, or whatever it is you're trying to argue from limited experience. Perhaps a look down the karreza, tantra, or semen retention subreddits will help you build your knowledge base and you can return with a theory post for rpw.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/23 03:26 PM
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There's a number frameworks you can use to analyze this, I'm choosing the SAC model (Similarity, Arousal, Compliance): Similarities: These are the qualities that helps build comfort, trust, and are typically beta green flag traits - it looks like you mentioned he has a number of these qualities He’s kind, charming, thoughtful, handsome, has a good career path, always plans and pays for dates, has compatible beliefs, and is generally everything I could hope for. Arousal: These are the qualities t…
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/23 02:57 PM
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Many men are catching up onto this ancient eastern philosophy, but women we are far behind. I see, you're part of The Dao of No Plow that holds the ancient secrets of the vestal virgin and immortality. The one true red pill 💊.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/23 03:04 AM
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Great post. Can we grant a star to diaryofalostgirl, /u/livelylychee
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/23 05:28 PM
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-Thinking you will just date doctors once you graduate and start working. Unless you’re very very attractive, the odds are stacked against you. Most of the male doctors are firmly taken although there are some workaholics floating around who just haven’t prioritised dating. There’s def older doctors as an option (likely divorced with kids). This is an excellent point. Hypergamy typically shifts the window towards men who are across and up from you in the dating and relationship market. If you're…
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/23 05:51 AM
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/u/blackswan8426 I asked chat to extract the key points that would be relevant for this post based on the previous article with a priority focus on RPWs goal of a sustainable and happy relationship with a great man: Choose the right environments: As discussed earlier, gold diggers tend to frequent upscale venues, such as high-end nightclubs, where wealthy individuals are more likely to be found. To meet someone who aligns with your aspirations, consider attending similar environments but also se…
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/23 06:41 AM
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I faintly remember whisper was looking to write something specific about boundaries and standards around the time that reddit decided to ban him - he didn't like the way the community discussed it and was likely going to make whisper post on it. ' ' ' I believe, fundamentally, the hierarchy of these ideas goes like this: Values > Standards > Boundaries Values are the foundation for setting standards, and boundaries are the practical application of those standards in relationships. When someone m…
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/23 06:00 AM
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I'll return to leave a fuller comment. This is an article I read/studied when I was younger on 'vetting' strategies (screening and qualifying), this one pertains to gold digging (warning, has nsfw images in the article): The higher-level gold diggers work to cultivate other parts of themselves to make themselves better companions for elite men, too. They may study history, business, economics. Some of them work hard to build networks of powerful men (usually using sex, or the prospect of sex, to…
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/23 03:15 PM
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I find it really easy to be casually friends with a lot of guys without any issue. That's the key. When men and women's relationships progress past the casual stage, sex is always something on the table (When Harry Met Sally...).
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/23 04:14 AM
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You can learn a lot about a person based on what they find fun in life. This isn't causation, but there's strong correlation with the music, people socialized with, fashion, work, and other small details of a person's life that can give you insight into their life.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/23 04:33 PM
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First rule about RPW, you don't talk about the secret music 😂
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/23 04:29 PM
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Can we award littlestircrazy a star for this comment. /u/fastlifepineapple
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/23 04:28 PM
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Excellent comment, thank you for taking the time to write that for op. Can you award youllknowwhenitstime a star /u/fastlifepineapple
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/23 05:40 AM
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/u/tr1shylol RPW usually link back to 'The Rules Revisited: Why Women Don't Know What Men Want' on projecting the desires that they seek in men by becoming it themselves (e.g. they like masculine men who are confident then they should be less feminine and show overt confidence). The like attracts like principle is more about similarities in culture/sub-culture, socio-economics, and personality (in a nutshell, energy). We're a lot more comfortable and trusting with people that we're similar to an…
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/23 04:43 AM
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Hi OP, how long have you been on RPW as far as reading the wiki and major fundamental posts such as: Submissive Behavior as Strategy RPW Three Part Vetting Series (Part 3) The Captain First-Mate Dynamic There's been women who visited RPW in the past and blindly submitted and followed posts like 'STFU' without having any form of introspection or looking towards Endorsed Contributors or community members with stars (star contributors) for further clarification and guidance. This has led to strange…
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/23 04:49 AM
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I was planning on linking to one of your previous comments on building social momentum through making small goals to build a confidence ladder for socializing and eventually dating. Great advice as usual, /u/SunshineSundress
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/23 03:23 AM
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Great advice /u/CountTheBees. /u/Abject-Goal7380, read the link on vetting that CTB posted. It's a 3 part series that's fundamental reading on RPW for screening for high quality men and how to become a woman that these men are looking for.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/23 02:36 AM
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Good advice. OP is way too inside of her head and dealing with some unconstructive mindsets, but making small daily achieveable goals to practice talking and being sociable (practice with the cashier, waiters, old and young people) will help her build momentum and begin slowly pushing her comfort zones. Adding in online dating practice and checking back in with RPW will get her going in the right direction.
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/23 07:16 PM
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When I was a lot younger and dating, this was some of the advice I was given for navigating and selecting a woman for a long term relationship. Given my inexperience, I shouldn't date any of the girls I was seeing casually because it's easy and comfortable to want to stay in a LTR with them if you're seeing them regularly Stick to seeing girls once a week in order to not send the wrong message if you're not serious about them Outside of the basic red flags, cluster b personality disorders, and s…
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/23 06:46 PM
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This is a copy and paste from one of my old comments that has some solid RPWi theory on dominance relationship dynamics: Relationship Dynamics: Part 1 Relationship Dynamics: Part 2 In a nut shell, different women have different dominance thresholds - for the high dominance women with high thresholds, it requires a man with an equal and greater dominance level for them to submit.
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/23 07:34 AM
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Maybe an unpopular opinion here, but I don’t think she should give him ‘boyfriend’ perks unless they’re in a relationship. So this is the ''Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free'' idea - don't give 'x' benefits until you've secured 'y' level of commitment (girlfriend status, ltr, marriage, etc.). I personally believe that this withholding strategy, if not executed well, removes your ability to use incremental reciprocation which is one of the more powerful tools in the toolbox in in…
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/23 03:52 AM
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If you scroll down towards the bottom (middle bottom) of the wiki index. You'll find chapters 1 - 7 immediately under the chapter book reviews for fascinating womanhood.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/23 06:20 AM
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You're welcome, thank you for being part of the RPW community and sharing your experiences and lessons.
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/23 09:11 PM
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I'm a bit late to your post - sorry for the necro-posting Improving our ability to select a relationship partner is one of the most fundamental factors that determines the success or difficulty of a relationship. It can be tempting to just jump into a relationship because we feel a strong attraction or connection, but taking the time to assess compatibility and make a thoughtful choice can pay off in the long run. RPW has maxim on this principle that you can choose men who have pre-commitment ri…
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/23 08:54 PM
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We each have a decision to make in every single moment of our life. Do we choose comfort or do we choose growth? We can't have both which means we have to choose one or the other. We can choose to be comfortable with how we are and what we're used to (and not grow), or we can choose growth and become the people that we aspire and hope to be and accomplish our goals that we value (but be uncomfortable in those moments of deciding to grow and working towards those goals). You're comfortable with m…
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/23 07:54 PM
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This a post I saved from /u/youllknowwhenitstime on her field report for long distance to marriage. I remember from your post that you've typically had good mindsets on approaching your relationships, so you may already be familiar with her advice - but having personal experiences and stories as well as community is always great to have. Plus, this is one part of the wiki that needs expansion on for long distance relationship game theory that I'm hoping can receive more field reports and write u…
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/23 07:29 PM
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Women's emotional states are like waves and are usually tied to their cycle phases. Our highs are high and our lows are low. On the other hand, most men don't want to talk about their feelings. They want to go into their mental cave and resolve things internally. During these times they typically "pull away" from their women... These are the parts of the book that I seen merit to in that they were able to bridge the gap between men and women's understanding of each others which is critical for l…
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/23 06:46 PM
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I wouldn't recommend it in favor of starting from the RPW wiki guide resources or even For Women Only which is one of the two currently recommended books in the wiki. I've read the book when I was younger before I came into contact with rp / manosphere content and found the book to be too emasculating to be of any use for a guy (if the principles only work half way (for women only) and does not provide an encompassing praxeology for both genders, the advice and frameworks might prove questionabl…
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/23 06:18 PM
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Can you go into details on any actionable lessons from the book? I remember disagreeing with you on this subject, but perhaps there's a lesson in there I missed.
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/23 06:02 PM
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will I ever find a hvm who is willing to wait that long ? And as irrational as it sounds, I'm 99% sure I made the right choices but the 1% of me just wonders if he would have wanted a ltr if I wasn't as conservative. If you read through /u/sunshinesundress profile, she has great break downs on the 4 categories of men and their risk which is one of the OG theories on vetting men. The comment post I linked to, she breaks down the types of HVM who are willing to wait longer vs men who have abundant…
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/23 06:07 AM
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Is it possible to have a relationship without games or power dynamics? What is love even? I'll be a contrarian answer. No, I don't think any relationship should be had without games or power dynamics. There's some people who believe that relationships should just be natural and real relationship with real love are partnerships where you can just be yourself. I think that's a recipe for a future /r/DeadBedrooms situation or a relationships that is sustained solely through marital/religious commit…
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/23 05:42 AM
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We don't need people to fall in love with us to form and sustain a relationship, why fall in love even? Why eat food that's satisfying and taste good when you can just have a meal replacement drink. Except, you now have to have that meal replacement drink three times a day, seven days a week, 365 days/year. If you're one of those people who can eat purely for sustenance and can completely cut out eating for pleasure, A+ you're a machine. It does not necessarily have to be "the one" but how do yo…
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/23 05:09 AM
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Hey /u/livelylychee +1 Star for anonymous for this comment, her comment contributions on rpw has been consistent and she's been on point with her understanding of the theory
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/23 02:58 AM
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Read the sidebar and the rules. Men belong here if you're wanting to be involved with the red pill network of communities. https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/23 10:16 PM
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On RPW, we prefer the 'tools in the toolbox' and praxeology approach to describe the subreddit and its ideas. There's no one way to be a red pill women in contrast to an ideology such as feminism or christianity. There's BDSM subs, religious traditional conservatives, modern conservatives, feminists, and everyone in between. Anyone can pick and choose from the variety of tactics and strategies in the forum - these aren't, "religious traditions, religious laws, or moral obligations'' as Whisper o…
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/23 06:53 AM
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Discouraging open communication in relationships. I often see posts here where women don’t want to “nag”/emasculate/be un feminine and won’t openly communicate with a partner on his behavior. This is a thing on RPW? I'm pretty sure the official subreddit suggestion is to bring your captain your problems, not ''don't openly communicate". If you're reading random comments that are not from endorsed contributors, mods, or other vetted endorsed members you're likely reading some random commenter tha…
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/23 10:43 PM
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Thank you for all of your hard work and dedication to moderating the forum over the years. I've learned a lot from your writings and always appreciated your perspectives and experiences you brought to the community using your free time, energy, and care. You deserve a well needed rest and thank you again for your investment and the love that you put into the community. Mod work is a labor of love and it can become difficult when community members graduate and you begin losing original voices, th…
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/23 06:47 PM
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That's because this forum wasn't designed for you, you're a guy on a women's subreddit who hasn't read any of the sidebar material or the wiki - you don't know about RPW endorsed contributor tags or star systems on who to take advice from. You've casually read a few comments from random posts and suddenly you know everything about the RPW community.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/23 11:03 PM
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This will answer your questions: https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/7gn6sg/rpw_and_trp/ This is the forum rules: https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/about/rules/ read rule 9 this community wasn't created to answer men's question about why the women who are on RPW believe in what they believe in its also a congregation of proponents of a philosophy that other people want to know about Yes, and you can also respect their community rules and actually read their sidebar if you want to …
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/23 10:58 PM
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OP, your post is actually suppose to be removed because you're a guy asking questions on a forum designed to help women. You've already had an endorsed poster tell you to go read the side bar as well as the forum rules. This is your second endorsed contributor telling you to stfu, lurk, and read the sidebar and wiki.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/23 10:53 PM
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Dunno about the people being discussed in OPs post is, but: TradCon is RPW but RPW is not TradCon. There's a lot of RPW members who works full to part time, makes six figures, owns their own businesses, etc. but subscribe to the model of having male-led relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/23 10:43 PM
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Most women out here actually think they can get and keep a high value man all to themselves... When in reality they're going to have to share him... Quick question - how do you explain the trad cons that have the stereotype hvm trope 6 feet, 6 figure, 6 pack that traditionally follows monogamy based on their values system? And if you're going to caveat with saying it's not all hvm who's going to cheat, then how does telling the women on RPW help them accomplish their goal of having a satisfying …
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/22 01:56 PM
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Leaving a quick comment if you're new around RPW. There's an endorsement tag and star system on commenter profiles that should give you a heads up on how reliable and how trustworthy from the red pill perspective an advice giver is. Take caution with navigating comments by upvotes or how 'authoritatively' someone is speaking about red pill theory. There's a large influx of guys on your post for some reason and they're giving advice that might be true on TRP for their perspective and use case, bu…
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/22 01:43 PM
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Is that a bunch of feminists just waiting in the wings wanting to download anything that they disagree with? It's just an internet thing. It takes time, effort, and investment to build rapport with the community, but you have to remember that the forum is open to everyone. You'll encounter: mods, ECs, founders, TRP endorsed members, women who are starting their RPW journey, but also random men and women from purplepilldebate, femaledatingstrategy, and other places who come on the forum with comb…
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/22 08:50 PM
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maybe I'll keep this account around. It's best, if you're going to be around for awhile, to keep an exclusive RPW account handle. A lot of our mods, endorsed contributors, and other writers keep a RPW specific account to not have identifiable information for potential saboteurs who visit the subreddit with a chip on their shoulder to potentially harm you IRL or just to keep some personal privacy from people that might know you from your daily life. Deleted information on this throwaway can still…
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/22 08:25 PM
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This poster made a similar post to yours (26F) - consider following it since you're competing for the same advice and are 3 hours behind: https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/zmpbmr/how_do_women_cope_with_red_pill/
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/22 08:10 PM
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Good post, I enjoyed your writing on developing girl game around entering into different socio-economic circles. If you can make another alternate account that is your permanent main, consider keeping these posts around so it can help benefit and grow the community. One quick note on learning about 'Red Pill Dating Advice' from random youtubers like Just Pearly Things, Andrew Tate, Fresh and Fit, etc. etc.: I fell down a bit of a red pill dating advice rabbit hole last night on youtube and while…
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/22 07:50 PM
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You tread water to initially survive. Once you can survive, you continuously work towards growing until you began thriving: For Single Ladies “Late to the Red Pill” Part I: Motivations for being RPW, Facing the Wall, Dealing with N-Count For Single Ladies “Late to the Red Pill” Part II: Nun Mode, Realism vs. Settling, Vetting Mistakes For Single Ladies “Late to the Red Pill” Part III: Finding Your Man, Showing Your Value, Vetting Your Friends
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/22 04:56 PM
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There's a variety of web scrapers that interact with reddits API to archive posts and comments. Unddit (https://camas.unddit.com/) is one of them that allows you to search a reddit username and explore their posts or comments. All you need to do is copy and paste their username into the 'Author' section and select the other options you would like to screen by. If a user deletes their comments or posts from their reddit account, it'll usually show deleted/deleted (mod removals will show a deleted…
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/22 03:46 PM
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OP is a guy who's using RPW as his fetish lit-erotica role play: https://camas.unddit.com/#{%22author%22:%22%20WealthRecent1148%22,%22searchFor%22:1,%22resultSize%22:200} /u/youllknowwhenitstime threw me off as well when you check in on their post history and it's empty, but the OP has enough post karma to not be auto-modded for being a new account that's posting on RPW. /r/Incestconfessions /u/WealthRecent1148 - My dad feels bad sometimes when we have sex. /r/Incestconfessions /u/WealthRecent11…
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/22 02:32 AM
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I think OP has found her confidence and I love that. I think she has a ways to go but I’d love to support her in that journey. I felt she made some strong points about the perspective of being overly submissive and the dangers that comes with that if your 'picker' is uncalibrated and you didn't properly vet for alpha red flags in a partner. It would've been great if she kept her post up because it was a good discussion. - Some of the women who visit and strongly disagree with the material and po…
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/22 12:09 AM
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No problem :)
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/22 12:07 AM
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This isn't meant for you, sunglasses - looks like OP deleted her post or account while I was typing out a response for her. Adding to your comment chain so OP can see it. (edit: removed username as per ops request) Do you agree that the RPW could be a death sentence for the right type of woman? Do you agree that Religion (feminism, or 'x') could be a death sentence for the right type of woman? Any sufficiently dysfunctional individual can use any 'x' reason as to why they're struggling and incom…
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/22 06:07 PM
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"STFU" is a mantra on this sub. It's basically a reflex. I didn't mean you said it to me specifically. I wrote a comment yesterday about this on "STFU". https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/zipeyo/struggling_with_communication/izutv3s/?context=10000
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/22 05:13 PM
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I don't mean to discount your experience, you've had a rough childhood upbringing that didn't provide you with healthy and successful role models for your standard of relationships. I can relate because growing up for myself wasn't easy and I had to essentially raise myself with the help of parasocial relationships and the internet. Finding a community online that you can identify with and that gives a sense of 'truth' and authority can be relieving because you now feel that you can successfully…
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/22 04:44 PM
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STFU is an old theory post on RPW that often get's miscommunicated because people rarely link the original post link. With the vernacular being clickbait to get the forums reader engaged and some misinterpretation on how it was originally applied and the context it was applied in - RPW newbies think it means just shutting up when there's any problem as a form of submission/deference.
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/22 12:31 AM
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What i can say is, red-pill or not the most important advice that i’ve come to find is never give wife privileges to someone who isn’t my wife, so don’t give him husband privileges when he isn’t yours yet. No. This is one of the counter discussed strategies about this subject: Why Buy the Cow When He Can Get the Milk For Free...? Right...? Before you give advice on RPW, please familiarize yourself with the rules if you're a guy. Rule 4. Strategies should be from a Red-Pill Perspective Rule 9. If…
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/22 08:39 PM
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He knows that women are emotional, and has said things that hurt my feelings. He told me tonight he doesn't care about my feelings. I think he's seen so much content of men like Andrew Tate being overly masculine and short when talking to women that he's adapted it to how he talks to me. Do you feel this red pill content is hurting men to a point that they lack empathy towards women? So Andrew Tate is a random minor celebrity who likely has read much of The Red Pill from what I can tell by watch…
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/22 08:15 PM
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Pandora's box is from Fascinating Womanhood which is one of the two highlighted books from our wiki (the other being For Woman Only). I'm aware that different personality types are drawn to different 'tools in the toolbox'. For some women who have preferences towards being: 'Head' Centered - For Woman Only may be more preferred 'Heart' Centered - Fascinating Womanhood may be more preferred But as far as having a handbook of clear, straightforward, and simple actionable tactics and strategies - I…
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/22 08:48 PM
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Luckily, often, people here are more realistic. Although there are comments here and there which will always land the ball back in her court when she describes what is abusive or at the very least nasty behaviour. You'll likely find this specific 'land the ball back' situation when the op has been in the relationship for over 4-5 years and have children. For some reason, the majority of these abusive men these women are in relationship with are suddenly and surprisingly making a 180 after being …
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/22 07:02 PM
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If you have a country in despair and apathy attempting to reason with them from an intellectual stand point does nothing for them. You can moralize and attempt to shame them into functionality, but that one requires a good amount of work. Rile these people into anger, criticism, and contempt - and you can recruit that emotional energy into action and change. There's a purpose to the anger, it's not just a phase. And there was a design behind it.
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/22 12:34 AM
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Watch and read better content. The Red Pill network has endorsement tags on Reddit usernames and also a YouTube channel. The contemporary wave of YouTube/TikTok/social media 'red pill' content wasn't endorsed by any of the original founders who wrote the decade's worth of information that built the foundation of the praxeology.
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/22 03:18 PM
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That as an RPW, you see yourself as an oversized child incapable of deep thought, self-regulation, or goal directed behavior without an alpha male and his lordly penis there to guide you. That you believe men are always right about everything because they're men and thus are beings of sheer logic and reason, unimpeded by emotion or selfishness, who would never make a thinking error (and if they did, your dainty, emotional lady brain wouldn't understand it anyway). That when you bring concerns, h…
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/22 11:04 PM
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So technically is it fine (and possible) to be a feminist and a RPW, but using feminist ideology is not allowed in responding to questions in this sub? Yes. Feminism has been discussed on the subreddit, but we're not purplepilldebate. One of the core axioms on RPW is that there are innate biological differences between men and women. Feminism dictates that there are no differences between the two genders and we can both equally have a satisfying life if we pursue the same goals (women in STEM, h…
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/22 05:55 PM
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We have feminist women on RPW and they also share the goal of male led relationships with a good leader.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/22 01:16 AM
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Relevant article from Whisper, one of the TRP and RPW founder: ''Don't Fall for Natural". From my perspective, there's two general groups that men will fall under when it comes to invasive cosmetic procedures. Bonders Actors Bonders are people who lean more towards "K" selection theory of preferring to invest in monogamy, children, family/home/security, etc. Actors are people who lean more towards "R" selection theory of preferring to invest in short term relationships, status, social ladder cli…
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/22 05:05 PM
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Thank you. I appreciate your energy and involvement in the RPW community too, it's always enjoyable reading your advice and perspective (with hyperlinks!). but rarely get any advice on how to help OP solve this problem beyond “tell him that it’s not okay and highlight how serious this is”. I don’t blame anyone for that either, because as women who don’t experience it, we don’t know the best course of action in a situation like this. I wouldn’t know how to solve a problem like this either. It's c…
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/22 04:45 PM
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I'm going to piggy back on your comment for your book recommendation of YBOP for the OP. Growing up, I was raised traditional conservative in a high control religion that would use formal social ostracization strategies where if you broke one of the core biblical laws (apostasy, adultery, fornication, etc.) the entire congregation and your family was not allowed to speak to you (until you repented). It wasn't necessarily not allowed, but highly emphasized that I wasn't to date or have friendship…
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/22 03:55 PM
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I'll have to see if there's an archive of his blog somewhere. I know married red pill talks a bit about MMSL so they might have it and a quick search yesterday shows a MMSL book article compilation on Amazon. Edit: a searchable index of all the web archived MMSL blog - https://web.archive.org/web/*/http://marriedmansexlife.com/*
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/22 01:14 PM
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Np, I really enjoy the theory work on TRP/RPW - any time I get a chance to share with someone that'll appreciate it, I'll take it. I feel the RPW wiki is getting closer to completion and when it does, I'll likely move over to TRP.red where whispers active at.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/22 01:00 AM
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Good comment post. If you ever get the opportunity and find some time, consider sharing your experience as a field report or discussion post.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/22 10:33 PM
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Love that post! That kind of breakdown always scratches the right itch for me lol. I got the chance to read that post first on RPWi, but the user profile was already deleted by the time I found it. The person who wrote it was brilliant and I still find neat gems when I get a chance to reread it: What can we do with this information? We should all be aware of our biases, and our individual dominance levels and thresholds greatly affect the responses we leave about other people’s relationships. A …
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/22 08:02 PM
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OP for sure is looking for comfort. I assumed her boyfriend was fitness testing her because she might have been no challenge, but a further look into her profile post history shows that they might both have a tendency of running dread game, seeding jealously plot lines against each other, and diving deep into the passion paradox for emotional control, rather than giving beta affirmation/comfort. I read 'disagree with amused mastery' incorrectly on my last comment. if you have a link for those I'…
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/22 07:45 PM
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The idea of "playing along" is the same, but the woman's version towards the man is more like DIS-agree and amplify. You're correct! Good intuition. While there are many categories of technique, such as "agree and amplify", "disagree with amused mastery", "pressure flip", and so on, what you really need to understand is that the pass condition for a shit test boils down to one single thing: A shit test can be passed by literally any response which shows that you are not rattled. This is from whi…
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/22 10:50 PM
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Approach him using a 'rapport sandwich'. Start with something positive about the two of you. I haven't heard about this one yet, that's a pretty neat social rapport tactic.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/22 08:19 PM
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Agree and amplify. This one's a classic and it works just as well with high dominance men who need more challenge if their women leans more towards low dominance personality traits. It needs to be calibrated towards being collaborative, playful, and uplifting banter that draws the relationship closer together. The men's version is typically geared more like a slap back for women who feels superior and is giving shit tests and for building rapport and playfulness.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/22 08:16 PM
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/u/LightOverWater There is absolutely a camp of women on RPW who believe submission is EARNED. I don’t necessarily believe that, but that’s because I’m in the “submissive behavior as strategy” camp. So while some women here will only submit to a man masculine, accomplished, and desirable enough to submit to, others will USE submission to gain the attention, attraction, and protection, of a man they want. There's a post that covers this dynamic, but it doesn't explicitly talk about it that was re…
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/22 07:58 PM
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No. RPW isn't about being a good human being. The forum does not endorse a moral stance and you can be banned for repeated offenses for moralizing. RPW is a set of tools and understandings about human psychology that allows different people from many different walks of life to accomplish their goals of a lasting and happy relationship with a great man. This will typically skew towards being a 'good human being', but there's different relationship dynamics on the far end that can lean towards 'lu…
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/22 07:33 PM
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Good link :) I remembered the ratio was somewhere in the area that you wanted it above the neutral/break even point at 3:1 - but 5:1 with John Gottman's research behind it lends a lot of support.
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/22 04:10 PM
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relationships with more positive interactions to negative ones (I think the base ratio is at least 3 to 1) I think heuristically that is correct in order to neutralize a negative interaction you would need 3 positive to every 1 negative. This is because of the human biological tendency to have a strong negative bias focus. The key is that you want to keep the ratio at 4:1 because 3:1 neutralizes while 4:1 makes relationships flourish. When you create a positive relationship spiral we tap into ou…
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/22 02:13 PM
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Great field report! These are the three types of reciprocal men you'll meet when dating: Men who will not reciprocate at all when you do something for them or ask for investment. Men who will only reciprocate when you ask them to reciprocate. Men who not only reciprocate but also proactively invests without your prompting The first group of men should be screened out because they fail the incremental reciprocation test. The second group is a hit or miss because you'll need to do a lot of ground …
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/22 02:05 PM
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/r/RedPillWomen08/11/22 03:01 AM
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If so, you must accept that these are the kinds of things HVM have done in their pasts. HVM visit cheap prostitutes in third world countries? But do you want to be moral, or to be loved? Why not both?
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/22 01:51 AM
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Hey, finally got a chance to think about some of the books that might be helpful for your husband. He grew up in an all woman household raised by his grandmother and mom and never had a male influence to actually guide him "No More Mr Nice Guy: A Proven Plan for Getting What You Want in Love, Sex, and Life" (Dr. Robert Glover) is on the sidebar from TRP. I haven't fully read this one, only about the first quarter on a trip to New York. I liked the material, but it wasn't really applicable to me.…
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/22 06:18 PM
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Thank you for the update and clarifications.
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/22 04:05 PM
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/u/Chapitta OP's husband went off the deep end and into the caricature territory of hyper-masculinity alpha patriarch. He's operating from emotional reactiveness and self-interest as compensation for not leading properly with inspirational leadership for the first 7 years of his relationship (benevolent masculine dominance, inspirational influence that motivates successful following, and mentorship and guidance that builds trust). Sure, op is/was not perfect, but if he had the leadership positio…
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/22 03:59 PM
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Hey op, seems like you're a bit loss. You're on RPW which is part of the Red Pill network of subreddits. Your questions belong to /r/TheRedPill. If you're looking for a TRP recommended book on understanding these dynamics from the praxeology, Practical Female Psychology for the Practical Man is one of the recommended books on this subject. Your post is likely going to be removed soon for breaking the subreddit rules on, "If you're a guy with questions...".
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/22 03:13 AM
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I'm in agreement with you. The 12 points would be catalyst points for men entering the survive regions of their brain, but wouldn't justify or excuse OPs husband's behaviors. We can't control how we feel, but we can control the strategies we use to get our needs met. The current strategies and behaviors in both posts points towards destructive rather than a neutral or constructive manner of getting his needs met and this should be something that an external professional should handle. But there'…
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/22 06:44 PM
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I'm not disagreeing with you, I read the same comment post. I'm just curious on how OP vetted a man that she felt she could trust to be in a LTR for over 7 years and to have a child together with that she wants to continue in a relationship with because of the qualities she admire. And yet he's pulling a Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde and OP has no idea where it's coming from or if the guy she's been in a relationship with for near ten years is someone who's easily influenceable enough by random intern…
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/22 05:00 PM
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Dysfunctional relationships require dysfunctional management and leadership styles. I'm playing the devils advocate to discover more information. Sean Connery on slapping women and what merits it.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/22 04:38 PM
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OP's husband is plainly going down the route of uninspiring punitive, critical, and controlling domination. I'll play devil's advocate here though. If op is only sharing half of the story (she has a comment history stating she trusts her husband) and is actually doing everything on the 12 point list in her post, I can see some potential reasons as to what's driving the husband to be motivated to do what he's doing suddenly after 7 years together and a child. I trust that he loves and wishes a I …
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/22 11:45 AM
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/u/Chapitta Can you fill us in with more information on this point. Now a lot of the "lack of respect" sounds like there is something bigger going on in the background (ie: why are lies being told about your partner?) but since you aren't sharing, we'll focus on the broad strokes.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/22 11:31 AM
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If op has no idea about what he's talking about in regards to this area on dishonesty, I'll add another point on considering paranoid schizophrenia if it's sudden and out of the blue. Otherwise, I would think that op is not being as honest and sharing her full side of the story and her husband may possibly have some justification for entering full on threat regulation survivor brain mode where he feels his partner is breaking the '3D rules' on dishonesty, disruption to his life, and disrespect. …
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/22 11:18 AM
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I’m currently reading Gods in Everyman by Jean Shinoda Bolen Sounds interesting, do you like it so far?
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/22 04:00 AM
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From what I remember from girlwithasidecar's spark notes on, "For Women Only", the author is religious and there was a few chapters that was influenced from that perspective. I haven't had the chance to read "For Men Only", but I would think that it would be written for a secular audience but with a Christian author orientation.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/22 01:04 AM
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Skimmed the RPChristians sub, this was from a recent book request thread (1 day ago): https://www.reddit.com/r/RPChristians/comments/yddx8y/any_book_recommendations_on_being_a_man_grounded/ The Biblical Masculinity Blueprint: A Christian Man’s Guide to Attraction, Relationships, and Marriage in a Messed-up World It's good to be a man - Michael Foster & Dominic Tennant
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/22 01:00 AM
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Guy here, I've read 2 of the 3 books you've recommended on your list. "King, Warrior, Magician..." is a nice read, but I wouldn't recommend it as something that would be pivotal and foundational. It'll move the needle for understanding aspects of masculinity, but is not very actionable and has too much 'woo woo'. I read "Men Are from Mars..." as a child because my uncle had it on the coffee table when I was young, even at that age, I felt that the message that John Gray was writing about was ext…
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/22 12:25 AM
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I recently got a chance to reread /u/girlwithasidecar post "submission: a rose by any other name" from earlier this month. It's a great break down and starting place for understanding the principle from an endorsed RPW perspective. https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/xlduno/submission_a_rose_by_any_other_name/
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/22 02:43 PM
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RPW wasn't designed to be a hug box - the forum was created to help women accomplish their goals of a "lasting and happy relationship with a great man". You can visit any of the other relationship subreddits if you want a dog pile that calls your date out as an asshole or a meanie - but on RPW, we believe that "we can't change the world, we can only change ourselves". This means confronting hard truths and giving the women who visit a hard reality check that just because they can catch the footb…
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/22 05:25 PM
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If op is still highly avoidant about confronting hard truths, I hope she at the least will read the sidebar, wiki, and do some research on nun mode from the sub.
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/22 04:59 PM
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I'm curious if you're genuinely looking for advice to improve yourself or you're fishing for validation and confirmation that your date was a 'big bad meanie'. Your replies to some of the commenters piercing questions are either being ignored or answered in such a way as to give no information about anything wrong on your part or you're just completely not self-aware of your relationship market value and what you bring to the table.
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/22 04:51 PM
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Would you agree that a toned down version of u/Jessicacaitlin 's advice could be beneficial? As in, not actually entertaining dates, but preparing herself physically and mentally to succeed on a purely hypothetical dating market/in her own life, on her own terms. In theory, yes. With the new context that OP updated, this is one of the practical situations that would not be benefit from using natural dread game. OP is falling more into the identity and dynamics of the shrew and would benefit more…
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/22 06:13 AM
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OP’s husband is not a committed man. It’s about the person’s values and morality. I don't believe the world is as black and white as to say someone is a ''committed or not committed man'' or if someone is 'moral' or 'immoral'. There's a lot of grey in the world and relationships can be complex. /u/KombuchaEnema has a very similar strategy to what you recommend in this post, but it's from a position of intention and goodwill that's intended to reinforce OPs relationship with her man through strat…
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/22 06:08 PM
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This is one of the first steps towards the passion paradox. OPs husband loses attraction to the relationship and begins investing less. The 'one down' becomes vindictive and cuts off her investment and begins ramping up her sexual attractiveness (SMV) and becomes 'fit and hot' entertaining dates and emotional validation from outside of their relationship. Investment levels between both of them continuously flip flops and because this was driven by fear, desire, anger, and self-interest. Passiona…
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/22 04:40 PM
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Leaving should not be the first option when considering strategies for a sustainable and happy long term relationship. There's two children in this scenario and it's easy for you to drop the 'leave' message, but you're not the one who will deal with the final outcome of that situation.
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/22 04:26 PM
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i don’t get where that 18 years exactly comes from - a joke on how he’s immature? Haha People typically don't change much from when you first start dating them. There's been a number of field reports / rpw posters who initially dated their man for 'potential' and committed themselves to improving their relationship over time. That usually doesn't pan out too well because now they're locked into the position of needing to manage their expectations of someone they expected potential from in additi…
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/22 11:52 PM
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And I think there’s maybe a 10% chance actually he’s trainable and just has never actually been in a position in life like he was then / now to really live alongside someone and learn how to be in a relationship by example. Do you want to train a man you're in a relationship with and is 10% an acceptable probability of a fulfilling and successful long term relationship with someone you're seeking to build a family with? edit: That would be 18 years of training in addition to family and childcare…
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/22 11:33 PM
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How did your relationship with this ex end (did you or he end it) and why/what are you guys considering to get back together for?
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/22 11:16 PM
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There's a physical and personality type that I've noticed as a pattern I'm attracted to and have ended up in relationships with. Overall though, I think our first initial relationships builds positive feelings and memories and that sort of directs a 'type' pattern over our lifetime. But if you have new experiences with someone who's not your normal type, you can build new positive feelings and experiences and acquire a second preference that you have warm feelings and attraction to. That comfort…
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/22 04:00 AM
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It would be flattering at first, but you can usually tell there's something off about those types of people. My thoughts is that it would be similar to the feeling when you have someone pursuing you only because of your ethnicity. We like people who like us initially, but there's usually a gut feeling this is a novelty fetish for them.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/22 03:38 AM
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Glad you liked it. I didn't go into further details in this series, but when vetting deeper you'll want to basically use the 'red flag/green flag' system from the original RPW 3 part vetting series for the shared goals and values you want in a relationship. Green flags are basically any of the positive traits you would want in a man from one of the categories. Red flags are any of the emotions that appear from the emotional category. One off emotions shouldn't be an automatic flag, but when they…
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/22 03:19 AM
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Thank you - yea, I would agree that like attracts like and they would be in the same 'category'. I have a small comment post about energetic and emotional attraction that goes into more 'woo woo' territory, but in a nutshell socioeconomic and subculture similarities will be attracted to each other. If you're a business alpha, you're likely going to attract and be drawn to either a strong supporter that synergizes that life style or a power couple dynamic like in the case of Alex Hormozi and his …
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/22 03:07 AM
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That makes sense. Incompatibilities with over arching long term goals (timeline based goals, etc.) wouldn't be resolved with making compromises (we vs the problem) if both partners haven't fully clarified conflicting goals and values. In those cases, ''You vs the problem vs me'' would be the better approach to fully explore and map out everyone's goals and values to determine if the relationship has enduring shared similarities that would make for a great long term relationship. I've been in a r…
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/22 06:21 PM
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I've also been in a relationship where it was overwhelming you and me vs the problem and that also had its flaws. Can you give some examples from your experience? From my perspective, I've always thought that 'we' vs the problem provides a united front and places the relationship dynamic in a stronger collaborative frame where you have both partners best interest as a top priority. I haven't seen any drawbacks to this position as it has always moved towards the direction of a 'win, win' dynamic.…
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/22 04:56 PM
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Thank you, the second post with category 2 and 3 will likely see a revisit in the far future so that I can communicate the message more effectively and reach peoples hearts without raising their guards about religion and the Andrew Tate example. Better examples that are more relatable and that highlights the intentional/successful religious men who are not ideologues, as well as egalitarian and other groups of men.
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/22 04:24 PM
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What do you mean by "first stage," "second stage," etc? Each category of men have stages that they can progress through. The first stage is usually the beginning skills, mindsets, values on how these men will accomplish their goals in a particular environment. As they progress through to a higher stage, they usually stabilize and master the values, goals, and skills and are able to more effectively accomplish their goals in those environments. 1st category are Machiavellian environments 2nd cate…
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/22 06:24 AM
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That particular bot is here to stay due to OPs deleting their posts after they received great advice killing the content in the community. I usually press the small (-) icon next to it when I want to shrink the text so I can read the rest of the user comments.
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/22 09:22 PM
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If I have disgusted sex twice a day, it will be physically impossible for me to have further sex, so impossible to physically cheat. Speaking from a guy's perspective. This contradicts the coolidge effect. The Coolidge effect is a biological phenomenon seen in animals, whereby males exhibit renewed sexual interest whenever a new female is introduced, even after sex with prior but still available sexual partners. To a lesser extent, the effect is also seen among females with regard to their mates…
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/22 11:19 PM
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It's good that you're self-aware of the damaging aspects of nagging, but there's a way to communicate to your partner and make him feel like a hero for helping you and you'll get a win win for both of you guys. "The Mental Load..." was a field-report by an endorsed contributor on how she found a great strategy for ''bringing her captains her problems and not the solution'' when she felt overwhelmed and needed help with cleaning without nagging. This is a highlighted comment from another EC that …
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/22 12:01 AM
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On sex. Our goal is to make him feel alive and encouraged at home first and to act as a cheerleader... And of course sex. Sex is affirmation!!!! It plays a huge role in a man’s self confidence. A man can be having a horrible time in every other area of his life but if his woman wants him physically he’ll feel capable of handling it all. On the other hand, if he gets the don’t touch me message at home then it will be more devastating than failures in the other areas and he’ll feel an impostor in …
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/22 03:51 PM
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We've been getting really great posts from a lot of good writers this month on rpw - I'm enjoying reading a lot of the content everyones contributing and writing on the subreddit.
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/22 02:34 PM
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This post covers my thoughts on leadership, responsibility, and the common drawbacks of equality within co-equal relationships. Leadership carries authority and the responsibilities are fault and ownership of the relationship's ultimate success and failure. Men have a tendency of using egalitarian relationships as a crutch to step back from the alpha role because inherent within leadership is hard work, accountability, and fault. Men who lean beta, egalitarian, or feminist have a convenient scap…
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/22 02:44 PM
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Talking in terms of Alpha/Beta seems to be the way to go when the woman is married or otherwise committed. But HVM seems to be useful to women in the dating scene learning how to vet. /u/pearlsandstilettos I believe this is somewhere in the direction the HVM term will begin to evolve (not exactly in that manner, but for the ideas to fill different purposes and doing so effectively). This was what happened when RPW adopted the alpha/beta terms from TRP and used it in our vetting framework by expa…
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/22 08:43 PM
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But the men who wash up at MRP who have provided and helped and given to their wives until they are miserable and their families are failing apart are, in my opinion, suffering from a hyper-feminine leadership style. Good comment. I enjoyed your perspective on the leadership styles and the polarity between men's masculine and feminine ruling styles.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/22 12:06 AM
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I agree that ''not having tattoos'' is on my personal preference list as a guy for LTR. But there are men who have modern values (ok and open with tattoos) but lean conservative in regards to family, relationships, and home. For the RPW who does have tattoos and are looking for marriageable men, the subreddit should be helping them accomplish their goal of finding the types of men who would have similar goals and values with them. This youtube channel is a perfect example of a couple with modern…
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/22 11:50 PM
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I like this system. I don't think it's fully complete, but it does operationalize the sexual social hierarchy of dominance, submission, and thresholds for submission which is really great. The breakdown on women's D levels and D thresholds makes sense to me and I can see it in my relationship with my girlfriend. I feel that our relationship leans in the HLH dynamic (90% of the time) where she's a natural submissive that is highly motivated and happy to fulfill the support and helper role. But I'…
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/22 11:00 PM
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This is from the follow up post part 2: Personality traits can sometimes be misleading. Not all alphas are extroverted, cocky - funny players, nor are they always explicitly leading others. Betas are also not all dorky losers who are inept with women. There's a bit of nuance that the second part covers under the alpha categories and their archetypes that talks about how not all alphas are one dimensional stereotypes (low agreeableness, domineering, etc.). But I do agree with you that there's som…
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/22 10:29 PM
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When dealing with burn out self-care is absolutely fundamental, but not all self-care is self-soothing. We're a lot less likely to want to do our basic self-care when we're under a ton of stress or feeling hopeless and depressed: things like showers, eating regularly, exercising, drinking enough water, getting sunlight, socializing with good friends and family members, and other basic needs. The 'zero productivity' is 1 of 4 parts to the self-care process, self-soothing; all self-soothing is sel…
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/22 04:14 PM
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Thank you for this post. It was a good expansion on neuromancy's discussion. I wanted to check in with you to see if you knew where the post on, "How Love and Respect Flows in Relationships" and "the hierarchy between men, women, and children". Pretty sure that's not the name of the post, but it's about how: love flows down in relationships respect flows up in relationships The hierarchy is like so: Men > Women > Children > Pets Men cannot expect unconditional love (a mothers love) from his part…
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/22 02:15 AM
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...I can tell how satisfying it is to him and how calming it is to me. Given that we don't perform gender roles much in our relationship, I was just thinking a bunch about what it was about this balance that is so satisfying to him. This is going off of red pill theory, but this is the framework in which I understand this about myself: There's two simple messages that our emotions and feelings are telling us at any point and time (note: I strongly dislike the NVC model, but their system on expla…
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/22 02:00 AM
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Text wall ahead, but it continues our discussion on the technology and over population subject. Technology isn't the cause of declining sexual appetite, it's removing the old cultural technologies (religion and marriage) that previously kept us civilized (and properly socialized) due to our inability to work outside of Dunbar's theoretical number. It's not that technology is causing a decline in sexual appetite, but that technology and science removed a social protocol/system (marriage and relig…
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/22 03:28 PM
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And while you say that the cause is urbanization I think it is actually the other way around. I think it starts in the mind and I think the cure is in the mind. Someone has gone to great lengths to remove all positive female role models from culture. I'm also adding your comment with stripe to this discussion so that I can discuss this all together. I guess my response to that, is we've had cities and urbanization for centuries but only now has the culture shifted. So my gut says something else …
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/22 04:37 AM
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I don't believe that low divorce rates would be a sign of male committent to a happy marriage in places where forced/underage marriages and domestic abuse are common. In regards to this manner, I'm searching for truth and what are the effective strategies that humanity can use to be reliably happier, healthier, more sustainable, and with less suffering. We don't need to duplicate everything the middle east does based on their low divorce rates, but there's likely silver lining lessons we can lea…
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/22 04:33 PM
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I agree with a lot of your arguments, but you might want to re-examine those middle-eastern countries divorce stats and their changes over time. I looked: Kuwait has a 48% divorce rate, Egypt 40%, Jordan and Qatar 37%. These numbers come up from a google search about the top middle-east countries by divorce rate. Of course you'll see large numbers if you grab the highest divorce stats by rank. This is a pdf (https://www.healthymarriageinfo.org/wp-content/uploads/2017/12/MarriageMiddleEast.pdf) w…
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/22 02:20 AM
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It's like there was this idea of a woman being virtuous until proven immoral, a presumption of virtue, at least from my place in society and what I saw in it. But that's gone. Women are no longer assumed to be virtuous until proven otherwise. I've had a good few days to ponder on this and I'm still no closer to generalising it into a sentence or a good way to describe it. A big part of TRP tone in the past was a deliberate strategy to break the 'Woman-Are-Wonderful' effect bias. Back in the 90s …
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/22 04:24 PM
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I'm grateful that we have this update for the subreddit - it's sad when you lose the context and receive a collective brain drain when OPs delete their posts.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/22 04:00 PM
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Conversely, men also respond to infringement on their lives by overbearing partners with the horsemen Yes. An overbearing partner that's infringing would be an example of breaking the 3D rule on disrupting / disruption to a man's life. I'm planning to make a future theory post on what the 3D rule is about (need to finish editing my current one first), but basically every guy has this final straw rule in relationships (for most, it's unconscious) that's centered around disrespect, disloyalty, and…
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/22 03:53 PM
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Speaking from a guy's perspective, I don't see the immediate connection between a desire for freedom (A-argument) and taking the primary leadership position in my relationship with my SO. I lead because it's the most effective decision for our relationship dynamic. My SO values being in the follower position and prefers helping over leading and making decisions. I enjoy building visions, setting missions, and accomplishing goals that gives us a sense of meaning and purpose in life. We share simi…
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/22 04:23 AM
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I think we need to go back to basics in order to answer the question on why male led relationships work: "'For Women Only' - Respect and Love - Chapter 2" and "submissive behavior as a strategy". The TL;DR on respect and love is that men feel loved when they're respected which is greatly in contrast to how women feel loved. For a man, feeling disrespected is no different than feeling unloved. If you take away one thing from this post, let it be this: To Men, respect means more than love. In fact…
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/22 02:05 AM
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This post reminds me so much of this post about the mental load. Back when I was a freshman in college, I had a college professor teach us about this social psychology theory called relationship equity (equity theory). In a nutshell, people in relationships will seek to maximize their outcomes. When the different inputs (time, energy, acts of service, etc.) matches the outputs (loyalty, care, verbal affirmation, financial support, leadership, protection, good sex, etc.) people will generally fee…
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/22 12:38 AM
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A quick google search and a manosphere post discussing the mice utopia from Return of Kings popped up: https://www.returnofkings.com/36915/what-humans-can-learn-from-the-mice-utopia-experiment I feel the writer could've did more with that article and give it a bit more love, but it did just ok as far as references to the similar themes that occurred in different human populations. Edit: On a second and more thorough read, I rate the article 8 to 8.5/10. His references to dunbars number, breakdow…
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/22 01:53 AM
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You know you have a well written side bar when there's zero commentary on the repost. I don't see anything you could possibly add or remove to improve what we currently have. You and the other mods did good work on that, good job :) I did have a question about the wiki, but after examining it a bit further, it eventually made sense to me why it's currently formatted the way it is. We normally direct new visitors to read the wiki, but the first landing page is the index that has the: welcome post…
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/22 01:06 AM
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This has been an issue in Japan for quite a while now. I found it darkly ironic that the Mice Utopia experiments discovered within the 3 different categories of male mice (during the population decay phase - behavior sink) that there was a socially reclusive, passive, and nocturnal group that developed in the lower status group members. Eerily similar to the Japanese hikikomori and 'herbivore' men.
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/22 06:15 PM
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Back in the day when loyal feminine women abounded, saying "woman" would simply be synonymous with saying "loyal feminine woman". However, we are seeing the fallout of what happens when there are no loyal feminine women for men to chase after: they withdraw completely, not just from the relationship market, but from the SEXUAL market as well. Because before, the default woman was a loyal feminine women and all men wanted a piece of that. But if the default woman is not loyal and not feminine, th…
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/22 06:35 AM
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This is likely to be buried considering how dry the theory is, but for those who are reading this far I want to expand on this section: Everyone has a responsibility to understand that male and female sexual strategies without seeing any approach as inherently wrong. TRP and RPW are connected, and represent different sides of the same ideas. It is important for everyone to have the space they need to learn and improve without being attacked for their goals. The community will be a stronger and b…
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/22 05:40 PM
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Some key highlights and small summaries from the post for those reading the comments only: Reconciling RPW vs. TRP Part 1 All red pill communities work from the same wellspring of knowledge, but how that information is used can often look so dissimilar that newcomers mistake each sub as a separate entity that bears no relation to another. The most important thing anyone can do is revisit theory posts at regular intervals, maybe every 4-6 months, and explore these ideas critically and logically. …
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/22 04:56 PM
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Good questions and suggestions, I'm glad you were able to elicit more information and clarity from op on her situation and get a win win for the sub readers as well.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/22 03:44 PM
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How does that support our imperative of getting a good, committed, involved provider for our children? Correlation does not mean causation, but typically men who are capable at reliably securing sex from the gatekeepers of sex would mean that they have a lot experience (competency), social skills, and are socially proofed in that other women find them attractive. Value is subjective, trad or conservative women could potentially prefer men with 0 n count or smaller and use those metrics in screen…
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/22 02:49 PM
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Friendly reminder: Remember that u/LivelyLychee and I did not write these posts. We will talk to you about them from our perspective as mods and members but they aren't our original thoughts. Last September, a lot of users were mistaking these 'Back to Basics' as coming from the mods.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/22 02:41 PM
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These are some of the tools in the tool box that is from RPW wiki and main line theory - once you complete your vetting for values and goals, you'll want to began using these ideas: Submissive behavior as a strategy is a side bar article and one of the classic must-read post: it highlights men's instinctive desire to protect and care for women and women's instinctive desire to submit, defer, and to obey men. These instincts can be taken advantage of to build stronger relationships. When you unde…
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/22 02:30 PM
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Is there a biological purpose for PMS? What could the purpose of PMS hormones be, and if there is one, how can I use them in a good way? I found an amusing answer from Susan Massey on Quora: Originally Answered: What is the evolutionary purpose of PMS? The purpose of PMS is to punish men for not doing their job, their job of getting us pregnant, potentially month after month. Suffer men, suffer with us. The more theoretical answer was a few places beneath that response which is likely to be more…
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/22 11:05 PM
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Would you say that floor 1 corresponds with Red, 2 Blue, and 3-4 being two different variations of Orange? Or is 4 Green? Yes, for 3-4 being variations of orange and 4 being green as well. Spiral dynamics organizes the framework for orange to be (merit-based, scientific, pragmatic, goal-oriented) and green to be more (people-focused, egalitarian, diversity and inclusion, equality, etc.) - I feel C. Grave did a good job on mapping out those categories and organizing the theory as he did in the 70…
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/22 05:33 PM
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This may be true for you, but the average guy definitely knows by the time the 'lust goggles'' are off after intimacy (The Final Exam). Even more so after a couple of months in and emotional and sexual investment on both sides has been exchanged (The Rules Revisited: Men Don't Fall in Love the Same Way Women Do - tl;dr men do not fall in love gradually). This uneven emotional and sexual investment after one or two years does not favor women in general as there's an opportunity cost and fertility…
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/22 06:41 PM
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Crab Mentality Tall Poppy Syndrome The people you work with can make or break your job. Ultimately, it's best to try to surround yourself with people that will have your back, support you, and care for you. But that's not always going to be the available option, so you'll need to get ready for corporate land. Corporate Land New Rats Guide Corporate Land Working With Women The rest of /u/vasiliyzaitzev corporate land series
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/22 06:19 PM
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Thanks for actually giving a normal response. The fact that only 1 out of 3 managed that, already proves my point. Rule 9: if you're a guy with questions - STFU, lurk, and ask questions on TRP I apologize in advance if this question comes off as aggrevating. My intent here is actually not to upset, but to read from the female perspective and have a healthier and better outlook on life. Rule 3: Do not insult the users here Your disclaimer and tone is obviously rubbing the users wrong here - might…
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/22 11:59 PM
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Hmm, I think there's some merit to the idea of a specific 'area' that can balance the forums split desire for pro male input and con male input. We've had a few recent posts within the last week where we've gotten about 40-50+ users in agreement that they would like to see the forum become 'for women only'. I highly doubt that that will work out in the long term as /r/RedPillWives initially took that approach to ban all men and later adjusted their stance to reallow men into the forum because ha…
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/22 06:11 PM
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I've always held a lot of respect for men who wrote about sexual strategy and life between TRP, the pick up industry, and the manosphere. There's usually a number of women who are aware of who /u/whisper and some of the other prominent writers on TRP are and their promotion for men's sexual strategy in the modern west. Along with this awareness is usually some mixture of moral superiority, anger, and contempt that these guys are the embodiment of 'evil' for teaching men how to improve socially, …
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/22 05:24 AM
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One of the challenges of utilizing another company's market, despite being a great avenue for broadcasting your content to large amounts of people, is that if you do not comply to their requirements you're removed. There's always been a slow trickle in this direction of internet censorship since the 90s with a particularly strong increase post 2013 from what I've noticed. You have two choices at this point each with their own pros and cons: adapt and submit to their frame and narrative leave and…
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/22 06:55 AM
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We recently had a post about this from an Endorsed Contributor on, "What is a High Value Man" (Buy matching luggage, carry it together). First, we talked about alpha and beta and women thought they needed the most alpha-y-ist man that they could find - whatever that means. It was in the eye of the beholder you see. ...Now we have moved on to high value, a term that is possibly vaguer still. And then, without defining what high value means, we say "high value men allllll want a woman who does X".…
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/22 06:26 PM
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Re-edited my previous comment; I mentioned the wrong love language for INTP. Smoking a brisket late last night and brain made a fumble
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/22 01:28 PM
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taking responsibility for what may not even be your fault is the only way out. Someone has to be Atlas take the sacrifice and bear the world on their shoulders to turn their family's future around. Because if everyone just did the minimum expected of them and demanded help from the government - well you see, the last 50 years happen. I'm a believer in extreme accountability. Basically, take ownership of every element and atom of your life regardless of the situation and become relentlessly resou…
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/22 07:19 AM
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That's actually typical for INFJ's to be social chameleons and socially mirroring / being other people (work, family, friends, lovers, people in general). Was recently chatting with sunshine on typing her partner and we're slowly making headway on finding out his type. We're currently examining, https://www.personalityhacker.com/personality-type-ask-love/, to determine which love language he falls under to root out a few options. If you want to tease out yours, check if you fall under authentici…
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/22 06:43 AM
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I would like to make another guess first - INTP. You enjoy playing devils advocate, as mentioned the other day, by 'throwing wrenches in nice theories' :) I believe I mistook you as INFJ because you do exemplify bridging hard discussions between multiple people (harmony function - Fe), but that's also a function that INTPs have (just not as easily accessible as one of the feeler types would generally have as a natural strength). I had to make a re-evaluation after reading through some of your re…
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/22 05:49 AM
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I think these types of discussions are important, because the average person approaches life in a casual and informal manner. They enter relationships based on feelings. They have children because of feelings. And they exit their commitments based on feelings. The worse part about it all, is that they'll become entitled that the world should change for their desires (government should allocate taxes better, the rich should pay for equality, my partner/children should just be better, etc.) despit…
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/22 04:56 PM
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What’s your type and why? Just your everyday average INTJ - we're good with hidden patterns and figuring out how systems work to accomplish our goals. Weak with relating to other people, but eventually discover that there's systems for that too 😂 That can get us in trouble sometimes when we're younger and lack a bit of self-awareness and neglect to emotionally check in with people and pace their reality.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/22 03:50 AM
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I always gravitated more towards “For Women Only”, probably because I’m an INTP (that I’m still mind-blown that you just guessed and got right about me!). I understand people's dislike for MBTI accuracy, reliability, and overly simplistic stereotypes as well as Jung's original theory work and woo-woo ideas. But I've found it useful and fun as both a self-improvement framework and system for deeply understanding and relating to where people are coming from. As well as how to meet them at their le…
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/22 05:27 PM
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I was reading this post the other day. It's a excellent one and should be required reading as far as theory goes. I feel the book itself, "For Women Only", may be more immediately applicable and relatable than "Fascinating Womanhood" for goal oriented women (women who lean more towards thinking preferences over feeling) - but I haven't directly read either of those books to say for certain (only the RPW wiki sparknotes since they're both in our wiki).
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/22 01:51 AM
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When we first got married, this was easy for me. I trusted him and thought he was amazing. What happened, unfortunately, is that he struggled to get a permanent academic job for 5 years after finishing his first very fancy postdoc. This meant we had very, very uncomfortable stability during that time... During that time, I did not like or trust the way he handled the situation. But now we are in a place where I am viscerally afraid to put our life in his hands. I noticed weaknesses I cannot unse…
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/22 06:32 AM
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I seen this post awhile back and was keeping my eye on it. I've been debating with myself on whether or not to keep my mouth shut because one of my values is to keep silent if I do not have any personal successful experience with a situation I'm looking to counsel others on. I'm commenting because your situation is heading in the same direction as my older brother's past relationships (one tradcon marriage that ended in divorce and one child, and eventually a second relationship outside of tradc…
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/22 01:20 AM
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A post 6 years ago on RPW on "Who is Chad?" When I hear the name Chad, I image a bro-duche. Maybe a frat-boy in a striped polo shirt, drinking a PBR... ...I thought, hey if I can stay away from that obvious d-bag frat Chad, I won't get my heart broken. But Chad isn't a stereotype. . Do you know what Chad looks like? He's that broody artist in your film class that's so passionate about his career. He's that guy you met at Comicon wearing your favorite band T-shirt that has actually heard of that …
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/22 03:01 PM
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It's not being a good girl that makes an RPW, it's being a good woman to her man. Well said.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/22 02:56 PM
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Lol, I'm aware - I linked your comment because it was memorable and remarkably insightful on the meta discussions about sex, marriage, timing, and RPW risk tolerance and values. This particular values discussion (that becomes arguments often) between traditional and modern rpw comes up repeatedly when you read through the last 7-8 years on the sub. From my understanding and the current posts I'm aware of, I believe that was the first conversation where 'post and pre-commitment values', risk tole…
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/22 02:00 PM
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I think I'm understanding you more clearly now. Your values is that sex when had within the bonds of marriage helps build intimacy as a personal choice. And when partaken in casually, outside of marriage, does not accomplish the same goals (and so by cause and effect, one shouldn't expect the same result of building deep intimacy, reciprocal commitment, and strong bonds). It's not that you believe all relationships and all sex should be viewed as sacred and only given to each other within the bo…
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/22 03:49 AM
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When we give away access to sex outside of marriage - we are treating sex like a thing, a fun activity. Is this universally true for all women? Or just a value that's specific to more conservative and traditional leaning women. From reading this post, the message I'm receiving is that any sex outside of the institution of marriage is automatically bad because you're giving away sex and it cheapens the value across the relationship market. And so any relationship that does not follow a traditiona…
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/22 01:32 AM
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Great post! Commitment is when you stick to something or someone, even when you have zero interest! This is how you can be committed... You may have no interest at all, but you are committed. Devotion is when you are super committed. ...You can be committed without active interest, but you cannot be devoted without active interest. Devotion being an upgraded commitment is a nice analogy. Commitments have a possibility of being broken and decaying over time, but when someone is 'super committed' …
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/22 03:11 AM
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Interesting side story on The Bad Excuse method. I was having lunch with my girlfriend and friend of hers one day and we were catching up talking about relationships, life, etc. We came across the subject about that friend's dating options and how it's hard for her to meet guys. The Art of... and 'Drop the Handkerchief' came up and so I began telling her about the method and how it's one of the strategies of opening up your options by being proactive in your dating life. She agrees with a bit of…
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/22 01:00 AM
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In the unlikely event of a zombie apocalypse, I think this man could bring people together and coordinate efforts to keep everyone alive and human. This should be higher up on the list, lol
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/22 09:53 PM
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There's a second group of high income bachelors that are found during high school and early community college - men who are working in high demand trades. In my area, there's a number of young conservative men who start an early apprenticeships and are working while they're in high school and have accumulated about three to four years work experience by the time they finish their degree. There's going to be a large range of alpha/beta among these men, but the women who find these guys are usuall…
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/22 06:59 PM
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We still appreciate all of the hard work you guys put in on maintaining the sub and taking care of things. Thank you and thank you to the rest of the mods.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/22 02:10 AM
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Thank you lol :) I'm still on the rookies scale for contribution - my post/comment count still has some more work to do
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/22 04:48 AM
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OP. There's a star rating system in addition to an 'endorsed contributor' tag next to each commenters name. Zero stars like mine or no tag can represent someone who is new and unfamiliar to TRP and RP praxeology. Use the star system / endorsed contributor tag (5*+) as to what the community actually endorses.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/22 03:06 AM
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Going against the grain here, but dark triad traits are simply a different set of goals and different set of environments that favors those behaviors and strategies. This is obviously not OP, but there are women who are not looking for marriage and find strong compatibility and shared goals with some men who are 'dark triad wolf'. Introduce a collapse scenario (massive inflation/depression, sudden disruption to our western supply chain, or a civil war) - and you'll find that these 'wolves in she…
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/22 02:50 AM
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My elder sister had been with her husband for at least six or seven years before they were married. They've now been together about fourteen years in total with two boys. They were living together from year one or two of dating. Times are changing and people are becoming a lot shyer with early marriage as a sign of relationship commitment (especially if you're not culturally/traditionally religious: which is becoming a very small percentage of the u.s. population). I wasn't very close with any o…
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/22 10:11 PM
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Your story is a regular one on /r/TheRedPill. If you're new to this side of the internet, you'll likely want to read the side bar on TRP: 2012 TRP Introduction Post https://therationalmale.com/2011/12/27/women-in-love/ https://therationalmale.com/2012/09/10/men-in-love/ The Manipulated Man, Esther Vilar (pdf) (My addition) Practical Female Psychology for the Practical Man, (Joseph W South, David Clare & Franco) Reading your story, I'm grateful that I was young enough to catch the internet mimeti…
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/22 04:51 AM
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Good post! Women want a verbal confirmation from their partners to know where they are in the relationship. I'm pretty sure almost every reader/visitor on RPW usually have some form of, ''don't listen to what he says, look at what he does'' advice that they have thought of or recommended. I believe the logic behind that saying is that: Words are cheap and can be easily lied about or promised without guarantee of fulfillment Actions are more expensive and more reliable as they have an investment …
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/22 02:19 AM
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Good comment - seconding The UltraMind Solution, Atomic Habits, sunlight, fasting, and going no sugar. After going through an elimination diet (zero carb), found out that my gut health from poverty level nutrition / food cleanliness in childhood gave me chronic inflammation / debilitating depression from literally every food stuff (food preservative chemicals, gluten, sugar, anything processed/manufactured, etc.). It was sudden onset inflammation/depression that gradually appeared seemingly out …
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/22 01:24 AM
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TL;DR is at the bottom. My daily work as a day trader requires risk management skills that requires focus and calm and steady emotions with minor mood fluctuations. Being able to focus, take things in stride, have consistent daily performance is part of the job. Mindfulness, daily stress and fatigue management, as well as emotional self-regulation is critical in my field if you're doing this as a full time job or a career/business and not treating it as a casino (an emotional trader is a dead tr…
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/22 11:40 PM
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Hi Scooby, Have you read any of the vetting series in the wiki? Vetting a Man (part 3) Typically, the strategy on RPW is to focus heavily on vetting in the early phase of dating which allows being 'vulnerable' to be a low risk action as you've likely screened out people who can hurt you early on and you're then dating men who are functional and protective of you. If you're having trouble around properly reading and vetting guys though, it might be a good option to go into nun mode while you work…
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/22 03:09 AM
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The three pillars are pretty solid! - it could be nicely rounded out to four for completeness if we add one additional pillar that I feel is crucial and something you wrote about recently /u/SunshineSundress. Investment If a relationship does not have strong mutual and reciprocal investment (during dating phase or post-relationship phase) it will not progress nor last. You can have the most amazing chemistry and out of this world attraction in addition to being with someone who share significant…
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/22 02:32 AM
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This is good fundamentals. From guy's perspective on sex, investment requests, and dating in regards to this theory/strategy. Some of the women I've dated non-seriously and moved quickly to intimacy with, usually only later wanted to cook for me, buy me things, or ask for dates (movies, trips, museums, etc.) that were outside of tea or a quick bite at a local hole in the wall - I normally refused their investment request and gently let them know I wasn't looking for anything serious. To me, as a…
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/22 02:12 AM
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Excellent point, in telling this story in the format of The Husband Store Joke as part entertainment and part lesson - I hope I didn't detract from some of the fundamentals of RP theory by leaving it 'as is' in some places.
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/22 01:01 AM
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I had to do a double take when that friend asked me, ''if my girlfriend succs me'' - then he pulls out his phone to show me the meme and I had a good laugh
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/22 06:09 AM
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Hey Eli, I don't have any direct recommendations. I'm currently using trello and a mixture of a few other apps that I have to work together. You can probably do some exploring on youtube of different youtubers 'productivity system' and see how they're organizing their work and note taking for an idea of how tracking behaviors/experiences works: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BtiQvhQF8IA The video is a bit advance if you've never done it before, so I would start with something simpler like check…
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/22 05:29 AM
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The post is fairly abstract, the following post, "Categories of Men and Their Goals" will be more concrete and actionable with videos and pictures of the categories of different men. There's a lot of metaphors, broad group names, and jargon in this post which makes it unclear writing for non-intuitives: abstraction ladder. The men on the first floor are the ones guides by pure emotion and primal urges, is that right? Yes and sort of. Have you ever met anyone addicted to hard drugs who couldn't f…
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/22 04:28 AM
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Hopefully you also got a good deal on the warranty ;) Good investments should be protected
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/22 12:44 AM
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This is something I've frequently teased my so about when a friend shared with me a secret on how a woman can give comfort to her partner. Can you S.U.C.C. him? Support him Uplift him Comfort him Care for him Support is about being there for him when he needs you, but it also means being able to understand when he needs time to himself if he's grieving. Uplifting him is about being a soft place to land. Utilizing feminine polarity that is accepting of his masculine. This is one of the special gi…
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/22 12:19 AM
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Hey, thanks for the read and feedback. It's an interesting bunch of ideas, but the foundation and person it's built on is rocky at best. I'm not too particularly interested in the citation strength, arguments, nor debates over how strongly Clare Graves presented himself and his work in academia. I'm writing a descriptive framework for navigating the sexual marketplace effectively, not an academic thesis paper that I'm looking to defend. NOTICE: This post is theory heavy, there’s really not much …
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/22 11:37 PM
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I don't want to go too deep on this subject because I'm not particularly knowledgeable about the theories in this area and there's material that covers it a lot better than I can (Game B wiki: Game A). This is the timeline of humanity as we currently understand it: 150,000 years ago was when we were anatomically human 50,000 years ago was when our cognition and behaviors became similar to the present day (you could use a time machine to kidnap a baby from this era and raise them as behaviorally …
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/22 06:11 AM
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For OP: Bring Your Captain Your Problem, Not Your Solution /u/Confident_Buy_3686 Protocols Example 1: is bringing your solution or overt demands that can shake the boat The emotional energy here can come across as angry, tense, and painful. Example 2: stating boundaries with masculine demands The energy here can come across as annoyed, frustrated, irritable. Example 3: Soft, yielding, establishing strong boundaries and bringing important information to your SO for him to lead with The emotions a…
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/22 05:01 AM
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Thank you :) when I was originally writing the post - the original source essay from Clare Graves was super dry and I wanted to add a bit of humor and lighten the material; the husband store popped up in my head and I was like, "perfect!"
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/22 04:25 AM
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It's an old theory post in the subreddit wiki - The STFU Method. On how to quiet the hamster and reduce complaints or criticisms as well as reflexive defensiveness that can lead to unhealthy combative communication dynamics in relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/21 12:21 AM
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Men are not, never have and will never be interested in long term commitment with women who give them everything they want early - because they (usually correctly) assume that she does this for every man she meets. Right before I began exclusively dating my current so - I was casually seeing another women who was about the same age but slightly different life stage. I was vetting both and eventually I chose my girlfriend, despite knowing and dating the second woman earlier. I chose my girlfriend…
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/21 02:27 AM
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There's a new wave of younger women on rpw who are a bit ideological and not super informed on the etiquette, rules, and rpw basics. I wouldn't take it to heart when you have a freshman to the forum do drive by comments and have yet to invest or contribute anything of worth to the community. You have a lot of people here who really appreciate your insight, energy, and time investment - and I personally really appreciate that you're back in the community and sharing rpw on hard mode that I can pe…
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/21 10:36 PM
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This would be a great sidebar/wiki post for additional articles on vetting and the expanded use of submission as a proactive strategy and tactic. The 'incremental submission test' strategy would fall in line on vetting with soft power and feminine collaborative energy as better alternative to overt combative 'shit tests' - basically, 'Official RPW Guide to Vetting: part 2' but more proactive than passively screening and verbal vetting.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/21 10:11 PM
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Human's are emotional creatures and we also like people who are similar to us. This can be easily seen in that we're inexplicably drawn to things that give us great emotions: good food, sex, drugs (alcohol, caffeine, sugar), attractive people who give validation to our self-image, status, etc. In particular though, when we relate to each other interpersonally, we literally feed off of each others emotions. We like people with positive energy and who are uplifting (charismatic people are magnetic…
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/21 11:34 PM
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https://psychology.wikia.org/wiki/Triune_brain The R-complex, also known as the "Reptilian Brain", includes the brain stem and cerebellum. The term "Reptilian brain" comes from the fact that a reptile's brain is dominated by the brain stem and cerebellum which controls instinctive survival behavior and thinking. This is similar in humans.
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/21 12:15 AM
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This is a comment I made to another user under the same comment chain about why RPW posts are very different from TRP posts. If you would like to see how a few 'red pill truths' can be used to 'manipulate, bully, and lie' in order to achieve a short term relationship goal (status, financial, and other material rewards) from a women's perspective: visit /r/Diabla
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/21 03:17 AM
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This is on the forum's side bar. This community was created as a harbor for RP minded women whose goal is to build a lasting and happy relationship with a great man. We explore the female RP sexual strategy, better known as "girl game", in an objective, realistic and compassionate manner. RPW does not endorse a moral stance. We discuss the elements of girl game not as behaviors that are right, or good, or morally superior, but as tactical behaviors that work to help us achieve our goals. RPW goa…
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/21 03:10 AM
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This is a really heart warming story. There's a top post (currently at the number 1 all time position) in the sub that a lot of the people who has been around RPW for awhile, has likely read, "How to avoid branch swinging". Leila's post reminded me of how one could apply the lessons that we can learn from the Mei-Ling folktale. Specifically: We don't have to be slaves to our emotions. We can gradually change and direct our emotions through conscious action. Our brains will find an emotional "exc…
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/21 02:06 AM
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Good video link, I haven't watched all of it yet, but I like the menstrual chart at the 7 minute mark on the varying cognitive and emotional behaviors that are influenced by the 28 day cycle.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/21 11:11 PM
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I was discussing this subject with my so recently on the impacts of birth control and mate selection. In a nutshell, menstrual cycle hormones influences behavior to select for alpha genes at peak fertility and be drawn to beta males when pregnant or during menstruation - which a lot of the current research and correlative findings are pointing towards. I'm not sure if you have it linked under the smell section, but S Craig Roberts PhD did the t shirt sniff experiments and BC pill experiments (he…
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/21 10:02 PM
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Thank you for sharing your experience, Whisper. Also, thank you for sharing your energy, knowledge, wisdom and time investment over the years on TRP and RPW. I learned a lot from both communities and the legacy that you and the other men created.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/21 12:29 AM
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What are your thoughts on alternative relationships becoming something that's widely accepted as a social norm in the us as a political and social norm? It's a covert secret that we have a "don't ask, don't tell" policy that people with wealth, power, and competency can 'break the rules' and live life on their terms regardless of societal programming and common consensus. Even if people are not at the peak in those areas, they can still begin dictating life on their terms as they began building …
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/21 04:23 PM
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Small snippet of a personal random sample experience. Back when I was younger and dating casually in college, I had met/dated girls who were open to polyamorous relationships (unprompted on my half). I wasn't interested in 'spinning plates' as per rp terminology and was fairly upfront about my intentions when dating. I noticed that this situation normally occurred with girls who didn't have the highest self-esteem and or had blended family situations (parents having a divorce and new marriage) g…
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/21 01:59 AM
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I'm not an EC on the men's or women's side of Red Pill, take everything I say as a random guy who has read a lot of red pill theory over the years on both forums and is on 'team humanity'. I do feel that RPW is one of the very rare and few communities that are open to discussing human nature and relationships outside of the perspective of social ideological consensus (feminism, religion, politics: democratic/republican belief systems, most social sciences, tradcons, liberals, socialists, rationa…
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/21 11:29 PM
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u/LivelyLychee - looking forward to the series this month, thank you for your hard work and contributions :)
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/21 01:53 AM
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CountTheBees: Women and men differ in that a job is not just an income for men. Men derive their worth from their actions and work. Women derive their worth from who they are loved and cherished by. TheFruitofKnowledge: This is a pretty dangerous thing to say. I see RPW being about intimate relationship dynamics between the genders. For anyone, it is unwise to derive your worth from another person. - u/countthebees replied to you in regards to this concern. Not saying you can't derive personal s…
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/21 12:27 AM
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I like your post you had written, it was simple and clear - I feel that you had accomplished your goal as the proof is in the pudding and we have it reposted here today :) Thank you for writing it.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/21 11:31 PM
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Adding on to u/pearlsandstilettos comment on how the the core axioms of "Red Pill" principles are generally in the same foundational direction (within this framework), but can have additional nuance when viewed from the red pill men's perspective vs red pill women's perspective. Whenever anyone is participating in any subreddit community on reddit, the norms is to discuss the ideas and topics in relationship to the main ideas and core theories of that community (one wouldn't post about new age m…
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/21 04:21 PM
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I think graduating from RPW is part of this meta process for most. I like your use of the graduation as a metaphor for this. With Whisper’s “Final Exam” post, it’ll only be natural that we’ll see parody posts on “How to graduate from RPW University with Multiple Work (husband) Offers” and "A Review RPWU Social Clubs: are you conservative or open to adventure?" one day in the subreddit, haha. Continuing with that line of thought, it would be nice if the older RPW 'alumni' came back to visit so we…
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/21 12:50 AM
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I didn't mean anything negative with the 'low hanging fruit' comment :) There's usually a life time cycle between endorsed contributors participation in RPW and usually 80%? leaves (entering marriage or another life stage) in about 4-7? years (a lot of the old endorsed contributors accounts shows that they're inactive around this percentage and time line and I'm really curious on how their understanding of rpw is currently playing out in their relationships and their long term success or general…
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/21 02:42 AM
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Great post as usual, I really appreciate the way you write that makes RPW theory accessible and relatable for beginners. Your "How do you do this" links is always on point as well, haha. I've found that you normally cover the basics so well it becomes hard to contribute to the conversation as all the low hanging fruits have already been picked up (that's a good thing though, quality theory is built on great foundations!). This is going beyond the scope of your post as it probably has more to do …
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/21 09:22 PM
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On Generational Wealth: 7 in 10 families tend to lose their fortune by the second generation 9 in 10 loses it by the third generation Money alone does not make a HVM.
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/21 08:37 PM
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For an introduction to the Gottman Institute for anyone that's reading this thread: The Four Horsemen of Relationship Apocalypse: https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-four-horsemen-recognizing-criticism-contempt-defensiveness-and-stonewalling/ Bids for Connection: https://www.gottman.com/blog/turn-toward-instead-of-away/
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/21 12:18 AM
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1987 made great suggestions, I'll second her recommendation with the passion trap by Dean. I read the book when I was younger and it gave me solid frameworks and tools for taking the lead in my relationship when my SO was in the 'one down' position and she was feeling a bit insecure and was starting 'chasing' behaviors after our first few months of dating. In a nutshell, Dean talks about a concept called the Passion Paradox in his book: When I first began to question the prevailing approach to r…
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/21 11:38 PM
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Glad you found the post useful :)
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/21 08:57 PM
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Are you familiar with the concept of, "have, do, be"? You want to HAVE something, so you DO 'x' actions to have it Once you DO it enough times and have it in abundance, you can finally BE the type of person that naturally haves "x" A lot of girls want to be a feminine lady so they take the actions that a feminine woman do. After they do it often enough and it becomes part of who they are, they simply become a feminine woman. Now, it's not a matter of doing or having the characteristics or action…
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/21 04:15 AM
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If they are, they're misguided. Anger management is the first step to any sort of therapeutics because as long as the person is angry, the harder it is for them to think logically and logic is what's required to TRULY connect with a feeling that is engrained deep enough to be causing damage. Besides which, destroying a positive social instinct wouldn't be the way to go, but rather teaching the ability to discern between the natural protectiveness (positive) and overindulgence, manipulation and i…
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/21 02:07 AM
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Hi Pola, happy cake day. You might want to read the side bar and the RPW wiki. This community was created as a harbor for RP minded women whose goal is to build a lasting and happy relationship with a great man. We explore the female RP sexual strategy, better known as "girl game", in an objective, realistic and compassionate manner. - RPW does not endorse a moral stance. We discuss the elements of girl game not as behaviors that are right, or good, or morally superior, but as tactical behaviors…
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/21 12:34 AM
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Your journey in dating / personal development in interpersonal relationships reminds me a lot of myself :) There was a tipping point when 'less is more' became the right action after years of immersion and practice of trying things that makes us stretch ourselves socially and personally (ways of being that often don't feel natural and intuitive to us). It's the challenge that guys and girls who aren't 'naturals' face, but also, after the crucible of growth and development (becoming congruent wit…
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/21 03:42 AM
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I like this a lot :) I didn't consciously think about it before, but those are some of the qualities that immediately caught my attention when I first met my girlfriend in college: positivity, kindness, a bright smile/fun. It could be viewed as something that's not a big deal since anyone can have those attitudes/energy, but you would be surprised on how uncommon it is from the guy's perspective on dating in college. She actually fed me right from our initial friendship/meeting and I was like, '…
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/21 03:09 AM
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So I do a lot of reading across reddit: Things like femaledatingstrategy and other places to get a look into the minds of men and women and how they process, view, and relate to the world One person I found created a 'dating journal' to mindfully approach this area of life because she was having trouble with online dating after exiting a long term relationship (ltr: 2 ltrs within past 10 years) I really enjoyed what she put at the initial part of her templates: The Dating Journal Mantra: Dating …
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/21 10:09 PM
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Edit: Rollo Tomassi actually has written about this: https://therationalmale.com/2011/09/27/social-matching-theory/ - his thinking and writing is obviously a lot more structured since he's had a lot of time to think and write on these subjects. As another commenter mentioned, it would be a good place to start reading. Simple answers are usually best, we're attracted to people who are most like us. If you do not have a degree and come from poverty or working class, you'll likely be most attracted…
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/21 03:11 AM
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Good post :) Thank you for effort and research in writing, compiling, and synthesizing thoughts from various RP writers as well as adding 'SunshineSundress' energy to your posts and comments. I've been finding a lot of hidden articles that I haven't read yet through your exploration, discovery, and analysis - I appreciate your effort and competency
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/21 08:19 PM
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Lol, that Michael comment on dalrock was a blast from the past Pretty sure that was some guys fanfiction of the invisible men to alpha transformation porn with 'the wall' role reversal themes thrown in
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/21 06:44 PM
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Thank you for sharing. Your experiences with finances remind me of some of the themes I've seen in my brother's relationship and acquaintances from college and their family experience growing up. It sucks big time when the captain is not leading the family as the captain and foundational principles for financial management (accounting, budgeting, planning) and other elements leads to stress, chaos, and tribulation. In my brother's case, despite making a healthy living from a blue collar trades j…
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/21 11:40 PM
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I think you've gotten a pretty clear answer from everyone's replies, but here's one more from an old post on rpw: https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/5s08ni/how_to_vet_against_the_chad/ Scroll down to section 4: "He mentions he's going through a phase in his life where he "wants to explore."" Taking a hiatus from work, travelling, experimenting with startups, saying all he's done is be in school for his whole life, all translate to also experimenting with....women. (looking to change …
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/21 01:30 AM
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Categories of men and their risks Hey, can you link the post; searched for it and I think I'm passing right over it.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/21 01:20 AM
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If you've had a chance to follow up on the link for 'How Does Each Personality Type Ask, “Do You Love Me?”" from my post - counter to the normal advice that RPW emphasizes on not emphasizing career achievements. At least for the INTJ sigma, we value competency as part of our personality over emphasis on effectiveness. This is one of the primary reasons why you guys were able to meet and resonate at an intellectual level and he said that he respects you because you were able to meet him at this r…
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/21 07:53 AM
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Asian guy here, guys from different races do not vary much from the perspective of our behavioral personality and emotional dispositions. You can normally get a gut vibe check by asking yourself how you feel about him and his intentions or making a "future" prediction on how you think the relationship will continue from here. If you're not on the spectrum (high functioning) or too cerebral, you'll normally pass the emotional check or future prediction fairly well. Otherwise, bring together a few…
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/21 06:28 AM
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Positive intelligence teaches a framework that identifies the neuro-imperative tendency to focus on the negatives and criticize others and how to balance it. It'll give him a set of scientific tools to weaken those criticism/judgement habits, build up positive behaviors (compassion, empathy, positivity), and it's based on neuroscience and is a fairly effective system. I discovered it back in highschool and it radically changed my attitude from cocky arrogant to a more empathetic and kinder indiv…
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/19 06:39 AM
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There's a link in the subreddit FAQ: https://www.forums.red/p/RedPillWomen/1033/rpw_101_cultivating_a_feminine_frame_of_mind https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/wiki/index/tableofcontents#wiki_internal
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/19 05:09 AM
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Thank you for confirming what I've been intuiting. I'll be able to articulate this better to my girlfriend that it's more about feminine energy and confidence (still good to have and develop the looks maxing skillset). There's plenty of girls who are very good at putting on their "made up" face but have cold/dismissive (or generally unsocial) energy. When compared to the "girl next door" who's not as polished/looks maxing but has that magnetic femininity/masculinity polarizing energy - you just …
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/19 02:51 AM
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A lot of the other users in here gave some great advice on manageable goals to help you work on your "outer game" to improve your feeling of efficacy and confidence. That should definitely be the first area to simply get started and not over think and be struck by decision paralysis. While you're working on these external goals for different achievements, remember to internalize them and update your self-image of who you are and celebrate the small and big wins (this is improving your inner game…
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/19 06:48 PM
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Good post; nice and easy screening qualities to determine leadership competencies and qualities that qualify for submission.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/19 06:27 PM
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Good advice. I like your recommendation on gaining dating experience with the intention to explore, have fun, and setting learning objectives over performance objectives while navigating the challenge around sex. Good mindset paradigm shift as well :) thanks for sharing
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/19 03:10 AM
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Directly above the paragraph I linked to is another paragraph that goes more in-depth about the two types of interpersonal needs: basic needs and special needs ("Attraction"). Basic needs - companionship, intimacy, sex, and acceptance You mention alpha, popular, 100% trustworthy and committed, and attractive.; these are usually social acceptance indicators that RPW endorses (obviously not all of them, but a good starting point). They might not necessarily trigger the infatuation threshold for yo…
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/19 06:50 AM
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Took a quick peek through your profile and see you're currently facing challenges with anxiety and have anxious attachment relationship style. A few quick pointers to help with the anxiety: If your boyfriend has a secure attachment relationship style with you, then being in a relationship with him will slowly transition you from anxious to secure attachment as you learn how to relate and build positive relationship experiences with someone who is secure. There has been studies that show when peo…
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/19 06:10 AM
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There's this book called "The Passion Trap" by Dean C Delis. It covers fundamental concepts on passionate attraction, "love", and the feelings and relationship dynamics that occur when two people meet initially and began to court each other and how relationship power dynamics create "one ups" and "one downs". Dean tells us about a concept called the infatuation threshold that can occur when two people meet and began to date (aka - "spark, chemistry, etc."): Infatuation Threshold = Basic needs + …
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/19 02:32 AM
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I'm really enjoying the book series chapter summaries you're putting out. Thank you for the time investment
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/18 05:09 PM
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Good comparison, that clears up what hypergamy is like from a woman's perspective for me.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/18 05:07 PM
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Coffee shops are a bit easier to meet people at: Do Nots: Don't wear headphones Don't work too vigorously on any assignments/work Don't be with a large group of friends Do not hold resting bitch face Don't be afraid to make conversation and display indicators of interest Do: Have a book you can read make sure you're enjoying yourself and is in a good mood Do be aware if the coffee shop is in a business district vs hipster area (and if that's the type of men you're trying to attract do be aware o…
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/18 04:40 AM
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Street game is considered one of the better venues to pick up girls simply due to the quantity, quality, and types of girls you can meet (office workers, students, finance, scientist, etc.) as compared to say the club or house party. With that in mind, it is a lot tougher for the average guy to approach girls in those types of situations due to the social frame difference. House parties and clubs will see people expecting and looking to meet and socialize (so it wouldn't be strange to randomly s…
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/18 04:34 AM
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I use a spreadsheet system with Google Sheets (cloud access + sync: cell phone, laptop, home office, on the run, etc.). __ I've modified and synthesized different systems into a singular format (spreadsheet) that I can consistently adjust, improve, and delete as needed: bullet journals, morning routines (behavioral scripts), night routines, stress journaling, cognitive and behavioral tracks, cognitive schema tracking, and "habit tracking". https://imgur.com/a/UGr5A __ I keep myself accountable b…
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/18 07:57 PM
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There's a quote that's normally attributed to Peter Drucker, “What gets measured gets managed”. __ That was applied to the personnel management field as well as the industrial automation age which has taken the business world by a storm and is now considered basic industrial standards to assist in learning, improving, optimizing, and troubleshooting complicated systems and processes. __ Taking that to heart, those who have the skills, abilities, tools, and knowledge to track habits, behaviors, a…
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/18 07:30 PM
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Here are some resources I found useful in improving my self-esteem: The missing tile syndrome: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1qanDVZHliw Martin Seligman on positive experience and positive psychology: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Mp8xN1K-ITs | https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1qJvS8v0TTI Familiarity with different theories on self-esteem on wikipedia: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-esteem#Types The long and short on self-esteem involves a host of variables: Self-image Self-efficacy Secur…
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/18 02:08 AM
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The triangular theory of love is a good starting place to understand this feeling in a structured format. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Triangular_theory_of_love After you've read a bit on the 3 components of love, check out the chart for an easy visual to see if you're in love: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Triangular_theory_of_love#Forms_of_love
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/18 05:05 AM
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