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DISCUSSIONfrvalne/r/RedPillWomen30/12/19 07:25 AM
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Define rich? My husband has no trust fund, no grand inheritance coming his way, and we’ll never be WEALTHY. However, at just under $300k a year, that’s still just 3-5% of men in the US including men who are already married. He’s able to support me and 6 kids and I live quite comfortably so I really couldn’t ask for more. Plus he’s a good man and a wonderful father. The thing is, he wasn’t making $300k when I met him. He was young and making maybe $26k. Sometimes the best thing to do is to stop p…
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/26 04:38 PM
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I married well and seem to have a good life. And it is a good life, and I really can’t complain. But all I will say is the same old thing that everyone has heard before which is that the grass isn’t always greener and everybody has their problems. Mine? Very traumatic childhood, lots of emotional and physical abuse and neglect, dad who committed suicide, estranged from my mom who cut me out for leaving her religion, my 6 kids don’t have grandparents. I grew up really insecure as a result and nev…
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/25 03:28 AM
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I’m sorry. It hurts to realize these things. I am almost 43 now but I was where you are once. I was a couple of years into a relationship that was headed nowhere fast, convincing myself that it would pan out eventually. But my boyfriend at the time was stringing me along and never really committing 100%. I was 26 at the time myself. I truly had to dig deep and be really strong to break it off and it was uncomfortable to do. And I couldn’t really see the forest for the trees and I didn’t know wha…
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/25 09:38 PM
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Even if you were being unreasonable (which you absolutely ARENT!), you’re entitled to that because this is your freakin life and future and some of your biggest hopes we’re talking about. He’s not serious. He’s not invested. He enjoys having a long-distance woman who is not all up in his business so he can continue doing what he wants without being locally accountable for it. He doesn’t want to get married to you. He wants things to continue like they are. Don’t waste anymore time.
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/25 07:04 AM
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Been married 14 years. Have 5 kids. I’m a SAHM who homeschools. Husband and I met at work. I wouldn’t say he’s “red-pilled”, just traditional and a very decent man. Our values aligned from day one.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/24 01:27 PM
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I got married at 29 and I was a virgin. And beautiful. I have 5 kids now and I’ve been married 12 years and I don’t tire of doting on my husband.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen11/12/23 05:23 AM
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Just tell him.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/23 03:45 AM
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Dumb Just another way to demean women. We’re so gross huh
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/23 02:22 AM
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I got the 666. And he’s fit and handsome and has a full head of hair and makes over $300k. Buuuuuut…I’m a SAHM and homeschooling mom of 4. I honestly work my butt of caring for our kids, our home, cleaning, cooking, educating kids, caring for myself, keeping all my kids actively involved in competitive dance, swim team, soccer practice, and caring for an infant. I just asked my husband if he would’ve been ok with me just working PT if we didn’t have kids and he said no way. He loves taking care …
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/23 08:40 PM
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We didn’t. I mean I married him poor. We dated a year but I married him poor and worked alongside him to build what we now have. His current salary came after a decade of reallllllly hard work.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/23 11:07 PM
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Ok my husband isn’t a surgeon, but he’s in finance and he makes $300k+. He’s 6’5”, handsome, fit, head full of hair, handsome face. More than that he’s a man of character, loyal, and an amazing father. As for myself? I’m a stay-at-home mom and I homeschool our 4 kids. My husband doesn’t give a single crap that I’m not also pulling in the big bucks. He’ll tell you so. He’ll tell you I’m his dream wife and that he wouldn’t change a thing about his life. A few things I want to mention. Just because…
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/23 06:14 PM
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You entirely missed my point. Your worth as a human being is not tied to your attractiveness to men. As a person, a unique person, you are intrinsically valuable, and your worth is beyond measure.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/23 01:21 AM
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I’m a conservative, traditional woman. I’m a SAHM of 4 kids who I homeschool. I’m 12 years married. I say that so you understand that I get a lot of what redpillwomen “teaches”. But I can’t help myself. Your value, your worth…it’s intrinsic. You were born with inherent value. Sure we all try to be more attractive and appealing and we try to improve ourselves, and that’s good. But I just wanted to tell you that. Also, IMHO my husband was a high caliber man (is!) to me because of his character and…
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/23 09:58 PM
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I learned with my own damn husband and not on a bunch of randoms who meant nothing to me
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/23 07:13 PM
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You might want to ask a group of redpill, conservative men for a more honest response because the women here are kidding themselves. I had one partner prior to my husband and he wasn’t thrilled. Not because he was trying to judge me but because I shared that special intimacy with someone before him, and he, as my HUSBAND, wasn’t the first or only. Harsh truth: many men will say it’s no biggie to your face, but they care.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/23 03:17 AM
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But, I’d argue that you aren’t a lady if you’ve slept around a lot. That’s not going to be a popular opinion but I’m not alone in thinking so. Many men would agree
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/23 03:13 AM
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I got married at 29 and had 4 babies. One baby at 40. Don’t totally freak out but do make this dream of yours (marriage, kids…) your full time job.
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/23 07:43 PM
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Well first of all, it could just be, that he fell in love with her and didn’t fall in love with you. People don’t choose a checklist, they choose a person. So keep that in mind and don’t be hard on yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/23 09:01 PM
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I live in Utah, SAHM capital of the country. I’m not kidding. I’d say 90% of the moms in my neighborhood are SAHMs. Several of them are hairstylists and have in-home salons with the sinks and chairs and everything. They do hair extensions and color jobs and make great side incomes. Lady across the street does eyelash extensions and makes a killing. In-home salon again. One is a part-time real estate agent. I do microblading in an in-home salon and I do some part-time remote work writing online c…
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/23 05:40 AM
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I met my tall, dark, and damn handsome husband at age 27 and married him at 29. I’m 40 now and I’m not some hag. I’ve never had Botox or fillers or false lashes or any other cosmetic procedures or enhancements (i’m only saying this to say that you don’t have to suddenly consider yourself an old wretch just because you’re 26!) Don’t be so quick to give up on your life! I dare say your tendency to throw in the towel and undermine yourself is doing 100% more damage than your nasolabial folds for th…
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/23 02:45 AM
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Of course not. I’m a 40 year old married woman of 11 years. I love my husband very much. Not because of what he can do for me but because of the truly wonderful person he is. My advice to you in general would be not to let anyone else define you. Including this group.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/23 02:56 AM
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I’ve been a SAHM and wife for 11 years now. I have 4 kids who I homeschool. My husband would tell you he values and appreciates me a lot as a wife and mother to his children. Here are some of the things he has most appreciated as traits in me: I respect the money he works hard to make: We started out quite poor. I had our first baby within a year after we married so he was the sole breadwinner. We lived off of $43K in Seattle where rent and COL was high. Now he makes $250k. But ultimately, it di…
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/23 06:23 PM
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Dated some losers in my 20’s, finally got smart in my late 20’s. Met my now-husband at 27, married at 29. Baby girl at age 30 Baby boy at age 33 Baby boy at age 35 Wanted more, let society and doctors make me feel old. 4 years later decided it’s not about pleasing others, got pregnant first try at 39, had baby boy 4 months ago at 40. I wish I’d been younger starting this whole phase because it’s THE BEST. But also, my husband was absolutely worth waiting for. I married him poor, but kind and goo…
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/23 10:53 PM
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What do you mean? Like what specifically are you referring to? I gave some sound advice. Obviously advice is just that: advice. There’s no one solution for any person. She can take it or leave it that’s kind of the point.
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/23 01:47 AM
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I understand him expressing a desire that now that you’re in a relationship with him that he prefers that you don’t go to clubs because it makes him uncomfortable because of the culture at clubs. But… OK I’m trying to think of how to put this. I am a happily married woman of 12 years and our marriage relationship is pretty traditional. My husband is the provider and I’m a stay at home mom and wife and I respect him as the head of the home. I don’t go to clubs or bars, because those kind of days …
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/23 06:17 PM
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I mean, that’s the least of it. He got a virgin wife who keeps her hair long, waist small, house super clean, dinners homemade. 12 years of marriage, I married him poor. I respect his budget and abide by it. I raise his 4 kids. And I treat him like I like him for who he is, rich or poor, because I really, really do.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/01/23 12:54 AM
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I have the 666 husband. He’s 6’5”, makes $250k, has a defined 6 pack. He also has a full head of hair, is very kind, and is a wonderful father. Ask me how I got him tho I’m sure you can guess
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/01/23 03:35 AM
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It’s the same for me and I had the same thought
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/01/23 03:22 AM
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You need to work on your anger issues
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/23 01:55 AM
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No
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/22 03:54 AM
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Your mom is a piece of trash. So is mine. And I’m sorry! There are a million things I wish my mom taught me other than how to not be like her. I have no fond memories of her. She neglected me emotionally and physically. She taught me nothing worthwhile. Everything having to do with womanhood, I taught myself or learned the hard way.
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/22 07:57 PM
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I’m a 39 year old wife and mother of 4 kids. My husband is 34, makes $160k, is 6’5”, has a head full of hair and abs. We’ve been married 10 years. I got him and keep him by being the total opposite of every woman highlighted on this sub.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen21/05/21 11:39 PM
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It’s not funny. That poor girl. Her dumb bitch mom totally betrayed her and failed her.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen11/02/21 12:09 AM
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They aren’t engaged. There’s no ring on her finger. She mentions there’s been no recent discussion about moving forward. I stand by my advice 100%
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/21 08:05 PM
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Be upfront with him. He’s your boyfriend of a year, so you should be able to speak frankly. Tell him you’re dating to marry and these years are crucial. Tell him he’d given the impression that marriage was in the near future and yet it doesn’t seem to be heading that way. Tell him you need to know where his head is at because you want to marry soon and move forward, that you love him and want to be with him, but if he’s not feeling marriage-minded anymore then you need to move on. Don’t be afrai…
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/21 10:31 PM
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I’m also a woman and I come here regularly.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen20/01/21 05:32 AM
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That’s referred to as “upspeak”. It’s awful.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen28/12/20 03:18 AM
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If fidelity was “natural” If selflessness was “natural” If humility was “natural” If hard work was “natural” If patience was “natural” You get my point. What is “natural” is lesser. Animals just do what’s natural to them. The best human beings fight against their nature to overcome and to improve themselves above the average person who just does what they want because it’s more convenient/comfortable/pleasurable. In my marriage relationship I have to constantly push aside what might seem natural…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen28/12/20 03:09 AM
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Truth
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen13/12/20 03:33 AM
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And tons of them are. Everything isn’t racist. Just like noticing some stereotypes ring true with many women isn’t automatically misogynistic. Stfu
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen29/11/20 07:32 AM
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Now you’re just reaching
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/11/20 04:19 AM
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I looked up the author of this bullshit on Facebook: she’s everything you’d expect. A fatass, pro-abortion spinster with a sassy attitude.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen09/08/20 08:28 PM
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My response to her would’ve been, “You willingly CHOSE a man to marry for purely selfish reasons unbeknownst to him, and he rightfully expected a partnership. He assumed love and loyalty whereas you wanted everything on your terms. How dare he think you might move to support his career which likely supported you. And how dare you divorce him only to go and have a child all by yourself and leave that child without a father or a mentally and emotionally stable mother who’s just looking for another…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen28/07/20 08:23 PM
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He’s married to me.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen24/07/20 02:30 PM
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I was so attracted to my now-husband while we were dating. It was often very difficult to resist him. We were both physically drawn to each other. But we remained virgins til our wedding night. I’m so glad for that. We both belong to each other in every sense and it’s always been that way. I’m his and he’s mine.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen20/07/20 04:08 PM
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I live like this and this idiot can shut her mouth. My husband works hard to provide for my every financial need and the needs of our three kids. As part of a TEAM and partnership, I clean all day, everyday. I do ALL the dishes, ALL the laundry, ALL the cooking, and the majority of caring for the kids and all their many demands. We work together. He works hard, I work hard. I’d like to slap her.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen28/06/20 12:05 AM
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I was a virgin when I got married at 27 and my husband was as well. Chastity and virtue used to be the expected norm. Now it’s rare. You can still find it. Us Mormons still place a high value on chastity and keeping sexual relations of all kinds within marriage ONLY and there are countless reasons for it. Because I think deep down no one wants used goods. Chastity keeps STDs away. Chastity prevents the scourge of single motherhood. Chastity allows for pair bonding. Chastity keeps women (and men)…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen22/06/20 05:52 PM
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Now look up her “About” section on loveemmaaustin.com She’s a mom of 4! And married to a “lovely man” BUT! She’s polyamorous and pansexual (a slut) so “who knows what my future will hold”. Those poor kids. They deserve better!
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen19/06/20 09:41 PM
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Not true. At 35 the chance is 1:350, by 40 it’s 1:100. The real stats can stand on their own. No need to over exaggerate them. Edit: spelling
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/05/20 10:02 PM
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Mormon women might be your answer. We’re by and large a wholesome, beautiful bunch.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen31/12/19 09:07 PM
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How nice of you, thank you! I’ve had former High School friends pity me so it’s lovely to have positive responses to my “old fashioned” life choice ❤️
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/19 05:08 AM
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I guess it depends on what your definition of dismantling the patriarchy would be. I think it could mean many different things to different people.
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/19 05:05 AM
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I’m happy you enjoy it so much! It’s so nice to just freely admit it!
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/19 05:04 AM
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Thank you! Yes, that is good that they appreciate that. I hope your dream comes true!
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/19 05:03 AM
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He’s a CPA on track to be CFO of a midsized corporation.
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/19 05:02 AM
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No you’re right. That is feminism at its core: freedom to choose. Congrats on the twins! That’s exciting! Housekeeping isn’t super exciting, but it can be satisfying.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/19 04:59 PM
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Well I agree that it’s a high honor and an important calling in life. But these days it’s not very feminist, is it? People still ask what I do all day or insinuate that it’s the lazy way. When you put your heart into it, there’s nothing easy about it. Thank you so much! Because I’ve been home my husband has been able to thrive in his career. I’m there for the kids and to run a home when he was working 70 hour weeks early in his career. So it’s been a blessing.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/19 03:16 PM
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I have a master’s degree. And I do some very part-time work in the mornings before my kids wake up. And I do microblading twice a week from a home studio. We don’t spend a lot of money eating out or driving nice cars , etc. You can have your dream of staying home with children! There are ways to make it work! Even on half my husband’s current salary we did it and those were some of the best years together. I’m sure you’d be a wonderful mom! Edited for spelling.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/19 03:09 PM
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Exactly. And I agree; making adult friends is just hard in general sometimes!
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/19 03:06 PM
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I actually have several friends who live a similar lifestyle but the truth is, being home with young children can be isolating at times. It’s just the nature of things. We go out and about everyday and meet up with friends but it’s not the same as the all-day, daily adult interactions that you’d find in a full-time job with other adults. Just comes with the territory. But as my 1 year old grows, it will be easier to socialize.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/19 03:05 PM
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I do. I also have kept up-to-date on the MGTOW movement. I have a lovely little girl and two cute little boys. What are their relationship prospects like?
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/19 07:10 AM
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