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SELF IMPROVEMENTgd_reinvent/r/RedPillWomen18/06/22 12:22 AM
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The Salvation Army does free or low cost therapy for straight married couples in your situation even if you are not actively Christian. Go in to your local branch and tell them your situation and they should be able to help you.
/r/RedPillWives13/07/25 05:26 AM
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Therapy.
/r/RedPillWives13/07/25 12:39 AM
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It sounds to me like he’s mentally ill. Has he seen a psychiatrist? That said, he has to want to see one.
/r/RedPillWives29/05/25 08:52 PM
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I will not tell you what to do but: Whatever you do, whatever he says, absolutely don’t have kids with this guy until you have the protection of a legally recognized marriage (not married in the eyes of God or engaged, legally married) as then that will leave you stuck in the relationship with no legal protection or security. If you must have sex before marriage, Make sure your contraception is 100% solid and can’t be tampered with and you’re using at least two methods. Remember you don’t have R…
/r/RedPillWives17/05/25 12:05 PM
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My mom used to: Volunteer at school events Help with homework Drive to and from extra curricular activities Drive to netball on Saturday Help with singing competitions Take up and take down clothing and adjust hems and sleeves on her sewing machine and sew buttons and small tears by hand Cook Do housework Cleaned bathroom Vacuuming and mopping Rug doctored carpets and upholstery once a year Do laundry Walk dog Animal care such as feeding and taking to vet Gardening Grocery shopping Cleaned glass…
/r/RedPillWives11/09/24 11:12 AM
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It was sad to see him disappear. I was really hoping to see him write more Christian stuff.
/r/RedPillWives21/07/24 02:15 AM
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Do they live together though? So his dad would know if there was a family emergency or if he were sick? Would he tell you do you think? I wouldn't send any more texts for now, but it is possible a work emergency came up. I dated a guy who would 'ghost me' for 1-3 days at a time when his work got really really busy. Maybe try again next week.
/r/RedPillWives16/02/24 01:49 PM
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Did your boyfriend actually set up a date with you on Valentine's Day and then just ditch you without even calling or messaging you to cancel or anything? That's super rude. Does he have a mental illness like bipolar, schizophrenia, schizoaffective disorder, depression, BPD, autism or something? (Narcissism doesn't count). If yes, then he could be in an episode or his mental health could be in the red and that could be the reason why he's not contacting you right now. If you know for a fact that…
/r/RedPillWives16/02/24 01:15 PM
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This man is OP's superior, and if he hasn't touched her, stared at her breasts, made any inappropriate comments or sent any inappropriate messages, asked OP to hang out alone outside of work for non work related reasons or complimented OP in a romatic or sexual way, then he could be flirting, but he could also simply be just being a little bit overly friendly, he could be socially awkward and not understand certain cues, he could even be gay and that could be his personality. If all he has done …
/r/RedPillWives30/11/23 03:37 AM
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If he hasn't touched you or made any inappropriate comments or sent any inappropriate messages, I would just keep doing what you're doing, and not return the long gazes. If he compliments you (in a non romantic/sexual way), just say a very quick "Thanks" and walk off quickly. If he escalates any further than this, I would start looking for another job completely outside the company and then move once you find one.
/r/RedPillWives29/11/23 10:36 AM
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Let the tables get booked out. Don't do it for him. Either he'll find an alternative or he won't and he'll deal with the natural consequences. There will be other weekends and there will be other restaurants with other tables. You have the rest of your lives together.
/r/RedPillWives20/09/23 01:17 PM
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I looked at your post history, it looks like you're either still in high school or very recently graduated from what I can see. Maybe, MAYBE if he was the best man in the world I could understand you wanting to marry him now, but marrying this? When you're still this young and have at LEAST another ten good years to find someone a thousand times better who has never cheated on you and will never cheat on you (which is pretty much the bare minimum)? Come on.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/23 01:00 AM
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Do you have kids? If not, I would leave and block him and get a divorce lawyer to get half his stuff. You literally told him that he could have other women if he just kept you informed and he can't even do that, he sounds like the dumbest idiot in the world. Why would he even need to lie if you literally gave him permission? If you do have kids... I feel very very sorry for you, I would think twice about divorcing, but I most likely still would as this guy is just an ass.
/r/RedPillWives31/03/23 07:49 PM
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A woman killed by her father for not being a virgin on her wedding night? No real Muslim I know would subscribe to doing that and there's nowhere in the Koran it says to do that. "For he who kills just one person, it's as if he has killed the whole world." Words from the Koran - and words read out in court by one of the victims of the Mosque shootings in my home country. They lost their three year old child.
/r/RedPillWives10/02/23 12:23 PM
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A nice designer perfume or a nice classic jewelry piece. Or some nice shoes.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/23 10:54 AM
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You don't sound traditional, you sound like a doormat to be honest. You want your daughter to get married at 14-15 years old? To a man in his 20s? 30s? 40s? Yuck. That's not traditional. That's rape. A fourteen or fifteen year old girl is still a child and an adult man still has no business marrying and having sex with a girl that young. In the times of Jesus and the Prophet Mohammad, it was one thing, but in this day and age, any adult man seriously wanting to marry a girl that young is a pedop…
/r/RedPillWives10/02/23 10:31 AM
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In that case... unless you really really love him and you seriously think his good points outweigh all of his bad points and you really think it's salvageable, I would leave. You're still young enough that you'll be able to find someone decent especially if you get/keep in shape, he's not providing any financial benefit currently and even if he was it wouldn't be particularly huge, you don't have children or other dependents together and nor do you want children ever, plus he has had multiple af…
/r/RedPillWives01/02/23 02:26 PM
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At 35 you could work to get your looks back - there are beautiful women in their 30s and even 40s out there, and some of them look better than women in their 20s. Do you have kids together? Would you struggle without his income and is he still at least a good father even if not a particularly good husband? Does he provide for you? If you answered 'yes' to these things, then I would stay at least for now until the kids are older and try to keep working on things. If you don't have kids together, …
/r/RedPillWives31/01/23 04:38 PM
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I have a T shirt and loose trousers and sneakers. I also have a one piece bathing suit.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/23 06:15 AM
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Do you live near a school or a daycare? If you do, then be very careful about where the brother lives, he will have to register as a sex offender and might not be allowed to live near there. Failure to register as a sex offender will get him sent back to prison for more time even if the offense was in another state. Re jobs: Could he retrain in a trade such as carpentry or welding? Felons typically do a lot of that and those can be high paying. Re feeling unsafe for your kids: Does your husband …
/r/RedPillWives01/01/23 03:09 AM
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Do you do boxing?
/r/RedPillWives20/12/22 06:01 PM
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I'm not a feminist. But understand that the last two months in China have been extremely stressful and traumatic. Unless you have lived in China, you have no clue. We have literally been locked inside our apartments because of this lockdown- not just our communities, our actual apartments. There have been some apartment buildings who have had their elevators turned off to stop people from going out. Others have had their emergency exits locked so that they can't get out using the stairs. A fello…
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/22 01:21 PM
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Ahhhh the 'engineering an encounter' trick that Charlotte Lucas used on Mr Collins in Pride and Prejudice. Never gets old. I think that women need to be the first to initiate on Bumble. I don't think that men can send a message first unless you are using Bumble BFF. Try asking him out first for a coffee and see what he says.
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/22 09:03 AM
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Look to see if there's a Gilbert and Sullivan Society or a Light Opera Society or a society that performs Rogers and Hammerstein type stuff. It's more old fashioned, but you will probably meet more redpill conservative types that are a part of shows like that. On the downside, the Gilbert and Sullivan/Light Opera Society I belonged to didn't pay at all, there's no way they could afford it.
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/22 03:06 AM
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In performing arts: Musicals and comedy shows about subjects such as menopause, penises, periods, abortion, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/22 03:02 AM
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Don't talk about politics and religion at work. It's an easy way to get cancelled. If other people want to overshare, just go, "Mhmm." "Mhmm."
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/22 02:59 AM
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I had a high school music teacher who committed suicide at age 21 because she wanted to 'honour' her mother. No, this kind of thinking isn't healthy and nor is it a way to honour the dead person.
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/22 08:20 AM
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I would honestly say to leave it, there's no point in texting him again unless you want to get back together and if you were together for eight years without getting married, then I don't see the point in getting back together.
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/22 09:50 AM
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My boyfriend sees me as precious.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/22 01:28 AM
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What about Helen B Andelin's Fascinating Womanhood? It's not the best fit either, and some of the advice is out of date, but she still doesn't give it a completely free pass.
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/22 01:47 PM
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Four things come to mind here: One possibly, he wants an open relationship with other people, but he doesn't want you to have an open relationship. Another possibility, he wants there to be more excitement in the bedroom and he doesn't think you're doing enough but he doesn't know how to bring it up without upsetting you. Or, it's another area of your relationship that he thinks is lacking, not necessarily in the bedroom, but he doesn't want to discuss with you because he doesn't know how to fin…
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/22 01:46 PM
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You should do neither. You should say, "It's a few" or something like this.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/22 10:48 AM
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Another exception as I pointed out above are Māori and Pacific Islanders who get culturally and spiritually significant tattoos that aren’t gang related on the face.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/22 06:47 AM
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Unless it’s a very small face tattoo or unless it’s a moko (Māori culture face tattoo that is extremely spiritually significant to the wearer) then there’s just no reason to get them on the face and it’s kind of weird, especially if you’re looking to get a job dealing with the public.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/22 06:44 AM
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As long as they’re tasteful I think they’re hot.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/22 06:41 AM
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Get an education. Get a degree or an apprenticeship in something. Software engineering is a good one if you’re good with computers or willing to learn. Nursing is another good one. Maths or economics or PE are good ones if you’re good with those subjects. Teaching is another good one, but with the way the education system is right now, it is not for the faint of heart. Early childhood is also a great one for being a tradwife but the pay is terrible and I don’t see it improving any time soon. Com…
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/22 05:39 AM
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This is where soft limits and hard limits come in. I might do something for a partner sometimes that I’m not really into but it gives him untold amounts of pleasure and because I like to make him happy. That’s a soft limit. A hard limit is a hell no, never ever, regardless of how happy it’d make him.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/22 05:15 AM
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Beyoncé got cheated on by Jay Z. Most guys would kill to even just have one night with her. And the guy who had arguably the most beautiful and stunning woman in the world as his wife still cheated on her. Guys who want to cheat will cheat. Guys who don’t won’t. Not having sex with the guy you’re married to sure doesn’t help things though and it will contribute to guys who are naturally more inclined to cheat following that path as well as tanking your marriage in other ways even if he doesn’t c…
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/22 05:05 AM
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Three years (especially three more years) for just moving in together is way too long. Honestly if it’s been a year and he’s not ready to make moves towards doing it now then I’d honestly just break up. It shows that he could never be ready. If he was talking about a timeline where he wanted to start talking about moving in soon, and get engaged in the next year ish, and married three years from now, then that would be different. I would have one last conversation with him telling him your hones…
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/22 11:18 PM
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My thoughts exactly. Probably not Abu Dhabi either. She might have better luck in Sharjah (the dry emirate that emphasizes cultural and religious values) or one of the other lesser known emirates. Abu Dhabi and Dubai were fun for the day, but in Dubai the guys would not stop harassing me to go with them, even though I was wearing long grey pants and a long sleeved manteau down to my thighs and up to my neck and only wasn’t wearing a scarf because of the heat. The only thing that I could say to g…
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/22 01:01 AM
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Helen Andelin also recommended dealing with a husband who didn't want to work with the following advice: 'Is he disabled? Is he capable of working? If not, then accept it and support him in sickness and in health to the best of your ability. But, if he is not disabled and is in fact capable of working, and there is no other reason why he should not work, then you should ask your husband to leave on account of failure to provide an income for the family, until he wishes to get a job and provide a…
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/22 05:33 PM
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I love that my man is not afraid to push back and not take shit. I love that he is not afraid to ask for what he wants and needs. I love that he is a very strong person mentally.
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/22 04:17 AM
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I'll ask my boyfriend next time we talk. He's Indian and living in Bengalore. He's Muslim, I'm Christian. He's 5 foot 9, works as a software developer, speaks Hindi and English and has a really cute American accent. And a nice smile. He said my dog can live with us when we move in, just not in the bedroom.
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/22 06:19 AM
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Have your fiance talk to your MIL, it's his family. I personally think that if they want the event to be unisex, then it should be an engagement party, not a bacholrette party.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/22 04:54 PM
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Don't break up over text.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/22 04:57 PM
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I am overweight and trying to lose weight. I will be honest with you, your advice to lose weight was fine, and it was fine to give some suggestions on how to lose weight, but your whole post and your other posts read as being really really tone deaf and extremely insensitive. I'm not surprised your post was poorly received. Even my friends that are trying to help me with weight loss and who are being honest with me right now haven't been that tone deaf.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/22 12:56 PM
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I have seen a handful of posts from Redpillwomen who have asked about lesbian relationships before, just not for a while, most of them were pre covid or in the early days of covid. It is true that most posts here are based on heterosexual relationships, and not all of them would apply to same sex relationships, but I do believe that you could learn about the general principles of redpillwomen such as being more feminine if you think that is for you, weight loss, make up, housekeeping, keeping go…
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/22 06:58 AM
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My father didn't divorce my mother. He stayed with her until she died.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/22 02:43 AM
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What a horrible guy, to not even express concern after a chemical burns accident or even ask how you were and then break up with you. Even if he was planning to break up with you before the accident, he should still have been there to help you through your accident and dealt with the breakup after. He should have at least made sure you were okay, asked how you were, and if you needed him to do anything, and made sure you had someone else helping you. He was probably cheating, I'd put money on it…
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/22 12:05 AM
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We're not Helen Lovejoy's tea drinking gossiping and fingerpointing club, what did you want to get out of posting this? She's not even one of our posters. To answer your question, if the pregnancy was planned and she genuinely thought she wanted kids, I don't see how that is selfish. People sometimes just don't suit parenting, especially in this day and age, especially if they thought their partner would be supportive and then they realize they aren't, or they want to work and can't, or have to …
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/22 09:46 AM
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No... this is a sub for women to ask questions, not for men to invade. Especially when you argue with every single answer you're given. u/pearlsandstilettos
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/22 12:15 AM
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Oh my dear. This is nothing new. Have you read Pride and Prejudice by Jane Austen? It is a book more than two hundred years old now. The opening sentence of the book: 'It is a truth universally acknowledged, that a single man in possession of a good fortune, must be in want of a wife.' Just look at the way Caroline Bingley hovered around Mr Darcy and put down the woman she saw as her competition. Darcy was 'nettled' and eventually snapped. Look at the way she tried to further cement her position…
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/22 07:30 AM
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No, it doesn't. OP from her original post sounded extremely stressed out and like she didn't enjoy her meal, so it sounded like it negated the point anyway at least for her as she didn't get proper quality adult time or to enjoy the meal to the full extent as she was stuck doing childcare duty. Paying a sitter would mean she as well as her husband would have comfort and care. You choose to have kids, they are a responsibility that cost money and need to be taken into consideration when you get i…
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/22 03:13 AM
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I work in ECE and I am one of those strangers who is paid to have people's children left with them. 'Paying to leave your kids alone the whole day with strangers.' is not comparing apples to oranges. There is a big difference between a date night or special occasion babysitter for a few hours once a fortnight or so which is OP's situation and 'paying to leave your kids alone the whole day with strangers' which is what my job is - full time preschool and which I don't think is ideal by any means.…
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/22 02:29 AM
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Thank you. We have talked about doing this and would really like to do this. I am just a bit worried that my boss wouldn't let me go to a third country either but I can always ask. What other issues did you face as a long distance couple?
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/22 01:06 PM
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Where did I argue with the advice that was actually sound?
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/22 11:42 AM
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Do you have actual advice or are you just here to throw insults? You didn't give a single bit of decent advice here.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/22 06:57 AM
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Most guys will be suggestive, you don't need to be a prude, but you do need to be aware of guys acting too pushy.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/22 02:17 AM
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Having money, status, being 6 feet tall, a good career , good looking, popular and having nice things does not automatically equal HVM. Most guys will probably try their luck sex wise but if they are really pushy and get angry or demanding or bring up what they buy for you etc then they're not HVM. Also, a guy can have a lack of money, friends, looks etc but if he has a good heart and gives what he has, he can still be a HVM.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/22 02:16 AM
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You are absolutely wrong that Muslims must marry other Muslims for a start. Muslim men are allowed to marry Christian and Jewish women. Also 'Just leave him' isn't accepted as advice in this community, especially when the couple both want it to work. You did make some good points to talk about regarding his culture and my dog and things his family would be ok with, so I can raise those with him. Thanks.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/22 11:45 PM
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My boyfriend is a software engineer. As far as I know, he does not have much debt. I don't think he's that wealthy but India is fairly low COL, moreso than China even. His parents are both still together, quite religious and Muslim from what I can gather but they are not what I would call overly strict. He has a pretty good relationship with them. I am not concerned about him being unable to lead at all, he has handled this well. I will also say my SMV isn't as high as it once was, but I really …
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/22 12:08 PM
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About the Stay at home mom thing: I do not want to be a working mom. Teaching is a lot of work, especially kindergarten teaching, and I just do not want to be responsible for childcare, housework and fulltime work. I would be happy to find some relief teaching work but not full time. I think this is in line with him. I have asked him about his family and whether they would be willing to accept me or not. He says he really thinks they will as I am a Christian. I think he knows his family best. Hi…
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/22 11:26 AM
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Ehhhhhh.... I'd agree if teachers in the US (and in general really) were paid a decent wage according to their qualifications and expertise and treated by admin with the respect they deserve, but go on r/teachers or r/eceprofessionals and you'll see the exact opposite. Pretty much a case of 'Not paid enough to care about that crap'.
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/22 12:07 AM
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Look, you need to go talk to him and have conversations if you want something to happen. Start small. He may very well be shy. He also may very well have a girlfriend. Also: ASK HIM FOR HELP. Start with things at work, but if he is super receptive, try asking him for help with something small out of work and see what he says. This builds a connection too. If you write stuff, ask him to check it. If he is busy, tell him there is no time limit to stick to but that you would love his input (if you …
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/22 11:41 PM
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Disagree. Lots of teachers meet and start dating at work.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/22 11:38 PM
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Dude, this is the women's forum. If we let men in here enmasse, we'll get quarantined too. Not fair, but it's reality. Go to the redpill discussion forums on the website, they're listed in the sidebar.
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/22 12:29 PM
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The options as I see it: Have him make a plan for earning more money over the next three years and make him stick to it. Get a higher paying job than you have now, save most of your income, put it in your account, not his, and then have that as contingency money Have him get a higher paying job or a second job Get pregnant, quit to be a SAHM and let him figure the money troubles out if he wants to keep his current job. Save money for another year, get pregnant, be a SAHM for a year, then put you…
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/22 05:35 AM
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Yyyyyyeah. Ok. I've dated several older guys throughout my twenties. Age differences ranged from seven years to thirteen years to twenty seven years. My first boyfriend was also 21 when I was 16. He was nice and a protective provider kind of guy, but I remember that when my classmates at school (junior year of high school/year 12 in NZ) found out we were together, they went to the vice principal, she wasn't too happy about the age gap and called my parents and it created a big drama at school. W…
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/22 11:10 AM
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And? Why are you angry over it? They will always exist. Why are you so obsessed with them that you come here to moralize? We don't want to become an echo chamber or FDS lite. If you don't like them, don't look and focus on yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/22 04:49 PM
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Ask to see certifications for child sex abuse counselling and EMDR. If they minimize you, ask them if that's something a child sex abuse, rape crisis or DV trained (whichever they are) counsellor should be saying and why. And how is that supposed to help you heal, because you don't find it very helpful, very supportive or very healing. Also, counsellors aren't always gentle. I once had an older counsellor who was quite tough at times and blunt, but it was her style and I needed her to get tough …
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/22 04:08 AM
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Was the therapist trained in child sex abuse or rape crisis specifically? If yes, it just might not have been a good match. You are also allowed to speak up in therapy and tell them how you feel.
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/22 11:47 PM
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I think the fact that you climaxed as a result of child sex abuse is further evidence you are incredibly traumatized and need to see a counsellor, specifically, a counsellor trained in child sex abuse.
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/22 11:43 PM
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Your father was NOT a partner. He was NOT YOUR partner. He was a RAPIST. I think that before you even think about finding a solid partner, you should find a counsellor to get through the damage your father has done to you. I also think that after you have worked through that, you should begin to work through your other past relationships with your counsellor. You might need more than one counsellor - you might not find the right fit straight away. You might also find a counsellor that is very ju…
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/22 03:45 PM
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You answered your own question, cut him out. 100%. He doesn't care about you.
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/22 03:12 AM
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I'm doing CICO and logging calories in an app. Before, I was not logging any calories and was just estimating, have started logging them now.
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/22 05:27 AM
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I'd just say, 'Why would I want to get a job? My husband has one!' 'He brings enough money in, I don't need one!' 'Why would I want to earn my own money when I can just ask my husband for money?' 'Why am I mooching? I'm at home raising kids, why would I want to get a job and add to my workload when we have enough money?' 'Why would I want to put my kid in daycare when I can raise him? Sounds like a huge waste of money to me.'
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/22 12:50 AM
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Hey love. So I looked through your comment history (Us regulars at RPW do do that.) Correct me if I am wrong, but I can see that you are 26 and he is 46? That is a pretty big age gap. But I am not criticizing you for that. I have dated guys with that big an age gap and I was younger than you too. It is possible to make it work - but... the reality is that adding kids is going to make things harder. So much harder. Most of the older guys I dated only had nieces and nephews. I did date one close f…
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/22 11:38 AM
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This is terrible advice. HE is the parent, NOT her. HER feelings ARE valid. Your language 'selfish' 'centre of attention' is appalling. This is supposed to be a safe space for women to come and get help, not to be torn down and treated like children. Either offer constructive advice or leave.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/22 11:12 AM
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Ok, so I downloaded the MyFitnessPal app. It was a pretty big eye opener. They think that I shouldn't consume more than 1459 calories per day. I logged all my meals, drinks and snacks for last week, and there were only two days I ate less than that. All the other days I ate at least a hundred calories more, sometimes hundreds more. This weekend was way over too. I need to cut back even more.
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/22 11:12 AM
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My BMI is around 30. There is a point where you need to at least consider losing weight.
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/22 02:45 AM
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I don't like the term 'less than' or 'lower your standards' or 'your standards are too high'. I read an article on a redpill website a few months ago that said that frequently, the problem is not that a woman's standards are too high, it is that they are too narrow. Case in point, there was a viral post from someone at FDS saying that she wanted a guy who was in his late 20s-mid 30s, no younger no older, no kids, 6 foot tall minimum, athletic, didn't drink alcohol even socially, wasn't balding, …
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/22 02:49 PM
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Vas... If this young woman becomes the 'sex fairy' and gives it up to every guy she dates without any effort, as it seems to me you are suggesting she do, she will then raise her N count until it becomes higher and higher. Guys who are commit minded don't ideally want a woman with a high N count. Now, I am not saying it is impossible to get into a relationship with a high N count, but it is harder and I wouldn't encourage a woman to go out and raise her N count because it works against you. If a…
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/22 12:29 PM
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Then he should break up with her. If she's that mentally unstable and he knows that she aborted the babies and he's choosing to stay with her, then he's enabling her and she needs help, not to be enabled. Tell him this once if you want, but if he still wants to stay with her, let it run its course even if it ends horribly. If he really wants to stay with her despite being told all this, then he's a lost cause and he can't be helped.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/22 09:11 AM
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Oh gosh what a mess. He was calling you constantly and telling you all about his personal life, yet he didn't tell you he had a girlfriend? Ummmm ok. Things were moving kind of slow but he still wanted you available? He wants you to 'respect' his 'boundaries' and 'still be there for him' and 'accept that he has a girlfriend' but still 'be friends' after all this constantly calling you avoiding you, hot and cold? And you said his girlfriend aborted his baby twice even though it was against his ex…
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/22 08:38 AM
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Fascinating Womanhood by Helen Andelin Also: The Fascinating Girl by Helen Andelin Timeless by Dixie Andelin Forsyth Man of Steel and Velvet by Aubrey Andelin The Case for Settling for Mr Good Enough The Surrendered Wife by Laura Doyle How to win friends and influence people The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People Bible/Koran/Torah Also, these can be useful up to a point although they are just novels: Jane Austen's Pride and Prejudice/Sense and Sensibility/Emma E M Forster's Howard's End Cha…
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/22 02:27 AM
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Don't be aggressive about it. When a man invites you up to his apartment, smile, give him a kiss and then say, 'I'm not ready for that yet.' If he argues, say, 'I'm just not. I'll be ready soon enough.' Then smile. If he practically begs you for it, ask him, 'Well... Am I your girlfriend? No? Oh well then, I guess I'm still not ready for it.' 'Answers still the same. Asked and answered.' 'But... Maybe... I might be ready for this... just a little...' Kisses him again, looks him in the eye, slide…
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/22 04:31 AM
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You're 32 and you see this dude as hot shit when really he was an asshole. Wow, he sent you a gift after you broke up? Guess what? There are guys that do that and don't cheat. My mom was 35 when she married my dad and he was 39, so... guess not all the good guys are gone? I mean, my dad never paid for all of their dates from what he has said, but there is more to a decent guy. And btw, my dad had never been married or had kids before either. He had almost been engaged before but it didn't work o…
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/22 03:49 PM
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So, let me get this straight. He didn't provide for you. The sex was ok but not that great. He was 'nice' but not that nice because he whined his way into having an open relationship with 'that one girl who he once had a crush on who turned him down because he had no money but who wants him now because he has money now.' Ew. He promised you the moon, promised you'd be number one, but of course that didn't happen and he gave into new girl and let her disrespect you. New girl threw a tantrum, she …
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/22 01:23 PM
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Ok, so that was way too long to read all of it, but... What I DID get from it was that you are thirty years old, your man treats you like a queen when he's happy with you. Ok. He got super angry and deleted all your photos off his iphone after a nasty argument. Ok. He won't go to therapy or counseling. Ok. You want us to help you convince him to go. Ok. First off, No. We're not going to help you do that, not because we don't want to, but because if he wants to go, he will, and if he doesn't want…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/22 06:37 AM
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There is purplepilldebate but that is not a good place to get advice from men.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/22 04:06 PM
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I enjoy reading from guys like Vas though. There are some guys that really are super cool and give solid advice that women just don't give.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/22 03:52 PM
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Roosh V spoke significantly about Elliot Rodger before he converted to Christianity. In his first post he said that game could at least have bought him time until some kind of intervention could have been made. His second post said that he had learned more about who he was and he had changed his mind - that he now thought Elliot was an entitled little shit. Not for wanting sex, not for wanting a girlfriend, not for being upset or frustrated at being a virgin, not for wanting a hot girl, not for …
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/22 01:25 PM
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Cho Seung Hui had a good relationship with his dad too. And he was from a culture that really pushed intact marriages. Elliot Rodger had a present father. The Tops shooter had a present father. Have to correct you on Adam Lanza though. He had not lived with his,dad since about age 13, and he had not communicated with him for around two years prior to the shooting. Nancy didn't push the relationship and when Peter demanded to talk to him she simply told him Adam didn't want to instead,of insistin…
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/22 01:12 PM
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Thanks.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/22 12:54 PM
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u/pearlsandstilettos We have another guy whose mommy didn't buy him his dinosaur shaped chicken nuggies at the supermarkey
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/22 04:56 AM
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I mean, yeah it sucks, but do you want help?
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/22 01:15 PM
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You need to give it up and you need to go and see a sex therapist. If money is an issue, talk to the Salvation Army and ask if they can help or if they know of any churches that can help. Look into twelve step programs in your area too, like sex addicts anonymous. I get that it's very embarrassing, and I get that as a woman, you will suffer double the embarrassment, but you have got to do this. Also I am a woman who has struggled with it. I know the embarrassment well.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/22 01:06 PM
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I am sad to hear that Whisper has been banned from Reddit. I don't agree with everything he has said, but I still don't think that's a reason to ban him. Also, if it's true that restrictions were imposed by Reddit on TRP like not saying f word, r word, etc: I've said those words on other subs all the time, at least the F word, so that's treating TRP subs differently specifically.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/22 06:45 AM
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This guy right here. The guy was verbally abusive. Move on, honestly. If he comes back looking for validation, block him. Guys that are abusive need a one way ticket out the door. Don't give him a glimpse back in.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/22 10:24 AM
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Personally, I'd go. The music, the food, oh my goodness, the tacos... I'm very very jealous of you right now. Your Spanish not being great: Work your butt off and improve it. Duolingo is free, easy to use, has a Spanish section and works well. Combine it with practising with your husband. Get on italki and see if there are any Spanish or Latin American women wanting to learn English and ask them to do a language swap: An hour of teaching English for an hour of teaching Spanish. Brother getting k…
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/22 05:37 AM
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I'd like to join but I've only got Fascinating Womanhood, not Surrendered Wife.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/22 09:11 AM
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Why don't you read Fascinating Womanhood by Helen B Andelin and if you can afford it, go to therapy or if not, talk to a friend? That book addresses this exact issue. If you are a working mom, try to cut down your hours at work.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/22 04:55 AM
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Some are and some aren't. Some just really enjoy sex and riding the 'cock carousel' and all power to them... Some are professional escorts... Some are part of the BDSM scene and like that aspect of the lifestyle... Some have a strong connection with a guy (or girl), and it certainly has potential for a relationship, but it's the girl who doesn't feel in a position to go exclusive rather than the guy. Some are in open relationships and are allowed fwb on top of their regular relationships, and th…
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/22 04:42 AM
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My ex was an alcoholic. Alcoholism is a disease, sure, and it's horrible and debilitating, and it caused his behaviour to deteriorate, yes. But he made the choice to get in his car every single time he got a DUI regardless of how drunk he was and regardless of how under the influence he was, that was STILL on him. And if he had injured or killed someone while driving under the influence, he and he alone would have been fully responsible for his actions and would have deserved to go to jail for i…
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/22 05:48 PM
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'He did seem truly remorseful when confronted...' When confronted. He's sorry that he a) got caught and b) is now going to lose at least short term access to you, the on demand sex, and the wife/live in girlfriend benefits that go with you. Would I go back to him? We are not allowed to say, 'Just leave' as it's not our call to say whether or not he is a worthy man. You and you alone can make that decision. Not us, and not him and not your parents either, by the way. You say that he has provided …
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/22 05:30 PM
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Not every grandmother can or wants to look after her grandchildren, nor should she be expected to. You still need some kind of childcare if you WFH. 'Taxpayer pay for things' That is why we pay taxes. 'That means a rise in tax'. No, it could mean that they cut spending in other areas to invest in education or invest in community. Less essential areas where money is being wasted. 'If you don't pay tax the government sends someone to your door with a gun.' This is funny, really funny. Pointing a g…
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/22 11:46 PM
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I agree with you that promoting family based initiatives is much better than funding daycares. Times one thousand. And I'm doing myself out of a job by saying it, but you are absolutely right. But the States seems to view families who ask for such initiatives as 'welfare queens'. At least that is my understanding. But it is absolutely a lot better than funding daycares. Why put in the effort to teach when you know you will be paid anyway? Well. I have a guaranteed amount I am paid each paycheck …
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/22 02:23 PM
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I don't know what to tell you. I really don't. You don't think actually paying teachers what they're worth and not treating male teachers like they're wannabe child molesters and female teachers like they're idiots would work? Why don't you go take a look at r/eceprofessionals and see just how many American ECE teachers are quitting and why. Paperwork is a part of it, ratios, disrespect from admin, disrespect from parents and the relentless poverty wages are ALL part of it. If there is no subsid…
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/22 12:50 PM
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USA doesn't have any subsidy whatsoever, but their centres still have waitlists a mile long because centres are understaffed and as I said, underpay staff and parents can't afford to pay proper wages and staff leave because even McDonalds pays the same at least. Taking away the subsidy doesn't solve the problem, it only makes it worse. Building more centres,and encouraging more women considering elementary and social work degrees to choose ECE AND giving centres the government funding to make wa…
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/22 09:40 AM
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I have worked in childcare and I AGREE with you that it is NOT good for children to be spending lots of time in daycare or with a caregiver other than a stay at home parent. The reality is however that cost of living in many places in Canada and the US is staggering, and the perception is that parents need two incomes to survive. I strongly disagree: Parents 'need' two incomes because most of that money is spent on luxuries they don't actually need, including childcare, but there is some truth t…
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/22 08:04 AM
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I think I could live with most of it except I would also want you to pay rent or mortgage until the youngest child was 18 and they had finished high school, whichever came later. I would also want rent paid for six months if we separated IF we had no kids and there was abuse or adultery. I'm not sure about the commitment penalty but I can see the logic behind it, I wouldn't rule it out.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/22 07:02 PM
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Do you mean child support or alimony? Since you mention having children together as being the only valid reason, I'm going to assume you mean both, but apologies if you didn't. Alimony as I see it is just spousal support. Child support is meant to support the children. If I was marrying you and you gave me that, I would also want unconditional child support of 10－15% of non custodial parent income minimum to be paid in the event of divorce or separation, plus paying rent and health insurance of …
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/22 09:18 AM
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Yeah those people suck. If marriage is just a piece of paper, why did the LGBTQ community fight tooth and nail for their right to get married legally if 'being a boss babe' and 'living together being spiritually married' and you 'don't need that piece of paper?' Why was it so extremely important for those couples to have the right to get married if it's 'just a piece of paper?' For Marriage Equality? But they said it's just a piece of paper, why do they care about having marriage equality if it'…
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/22 06:38 AM
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If her name is on the deed, and she put money into the deposit, she would part own it, but it would still not guarantee the same level of access. It'd be like two friends buying a house together. If he wants her to put money in but not even have her name on the deed, and won't even negotiate putting her name on the deed or her not putting money in, then I'd just break up now, in that case he's a user.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/22 04:55 AM
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Honestly hon, he's already 34. How much longer does he need from you? I would tell him you won't buy a house with him unless you are at least engaged and you expect both of your names to be on the deed. I would also tell him you won't ever have kids without getting married. And I'd tell him this isn't an ultimatum, but that you expect a proposal by your fourth anniversary if he is serious about you and your future together. Also, if Roe gets overturned, your access to abortion and contraception …
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/22 04:43 AM
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I'm going to die alone and miserable. Probably. My thoughts on that: To quote Jeremy Clarkson, of Top Gear: OH NO! Anyway... Your mommy called. She said you've been naughty and it's time for your daily spanking.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/22 04:09 AM
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I just can't..... The previous commenter said there was no benefit for her having a child and house with him (without marriage). This is absolutely true. A man who truely loved a woman would NEVER demand a woman put herself through pregnancy and childbirth unless they were married first. Ever. Women get sick during pregnancy. VERY sick. Women can DIE during childbirth and it's not that common anymore, but it is still a risk. Women get their pelvic floor messed with and get what's called a 'mothe…
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/22 03:22 AM
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Nope. Women have different goals to men in the Red Pill. We are not here to be your future plates or to support you or enable you spinning plates. We do not condone nor condemn you spinning plates as we realize that men are the gatekeepers of commitment while women are the gatekeepers of sex, and we do not see it as good nor bad. But we are not obligated to participate in it nor help in any way whatsoever and we suggest you take that back to the men's subs.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/22 03:13 AM
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And my dad's friend cheated on his wife with her best friend after forty five years of marriage, then divorced her and married the best friend, then cried about it when his ex wife then married one of his close friends. Sometimes bad people do bad things in marriage. Man or woman. Your friend's husband lost a decade of his life and his money. My dad's friend's wife lost almost half a century of her life including all of her youth and fertility years. Shit happens in marriage and relationships on…
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/22 03:05 AM
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I agree with the others that your husband needs therapy. But Helen Andelin does touch on this in Fascinating Womanhood: 'There are times when a man might sink to the point that he doesn't seem like much of a man on the surface and there doesn't seem like there is much to admire in him... Here, you should think about what first attracted you to him and remind him of that, and think of what you liked about him in the past, and specific instances you can recall where you admired him in the past, an…
/r/RedPillWives11/05/22 09:56 AM
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Thanks. Any other opinions welcome too!
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/22 07:21 PM
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The guy above said he made it clear he was not available, even when he was surrounded by women. I'm just curious what he or others would say about a guy who avoids answering simple yes or no questions about having a girlfriend, and instead says things like 'Don't worry about it' or 'Why?'
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/22 07:11 PM
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Question: You announced you weren't available. What would your opinion be on a man who doesn't talk about girlfriends ever and when asked about them, instead of saying yes or no, avoids the question and says 'Don't worry about it'? Just curious.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/22 06:16 PM
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How do you know they're gay if you can't confirm? My two friends have both told me to my face, one is very gay pride, and the guy from my church is still not out but we have had a conversation about it.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/22 03:47 AM
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I'm in class so I'll read,your post later, but just going off your title, I think gay male friends are technically ok if they really are gay. I have one male gay friend I went to kindergarten and church all through high school with and Iwouldn't drop him for the world. I have another male gay friend I went to high school and did my music major with and he is an amazing concert pianist. I wouldn't drop him for the world either, quite apart from the fact that I could need him career wise.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/22 01:28 AM
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Well, darling, I could stop taking my meds on my husband's request, but my husband probably wouldn't like it very much if I suddenly passed out while cooking the family dinner without any prior warning and then set the kitchen on fire, meaning no dinners for him or the children for the forseeable future. Or, if I was doing my wifely duty of taking his person in my mouth, only to seize up, without any warning, lose control of my motor functions, including my jaw and teeth, resulting in a lot of, …
/r/RedPillWives07/05/22 04:49 AM
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Yes, but I'm into Christian BDSM (Yes, that's a thing), so that would turn me on. So you're asking the wrong person. Also, you are aware that not everyone here is Christian, right?
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/22 04:35 AM
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I actually think that people from these kinds of communities should be allowed to come here and ask these questions provided they are genuinely curious and want to discuss and not just argue or troll. Hostility doesn't achieve anything. OP to answer your question, I personally haven't come across anyone against antibiotics in the last twenty years, not in my church, not in the SAHM community my mom was a part of, not in my extended family, not among the anti vaxxers I know (I'm not anti vax myse…
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/22 04:13 AM
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'Young women are like new cars... Old women are like old cars...' Ohhhhhh, so THAT'S why Glenn Quagmire has a 1957 bright red Chevy Bel Air convertible as his daily driver. And THAT'S why I was seeing all those beautiful decades old American hot rods with Confederate flags in the windows at the car shows I used to go to pre covid. And THAT'S why I've held onto my 1987 Suzuki GN250 all these years instead of just throwing it out and buying a new bike. Because old cars (and motorbikes) are definit…
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/22 03:07 AM
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Interesting. Random question. I have a guy friend I kind of like, and an older guy who is both of our friends found out the other night and told me he has a girlfriend and acted really sympathetic and just said, 'I can't believe you didn't know, they've been together a while.' I have never seen him with her and he never talks about her. So, I asked him casually, 'Hey, you have a girlfriend don't you?' He said, 'Why are you asking me?' I said, 'Oh, just because X said you did the other night.' He…
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/22 01:50 AM
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Really? He's not the kind of guy that can't just break up with a girlfriend he's no longer into? If this is the case, he really is a loser and not much of a man at all and the new girl is too if she dates him.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/22 11:30 PM
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Even if he's keeping his options open, it's not ok.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/22 11:26 PM
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I'm not sure to be honest. I don't think it's healthy for you to be going through his phone. It indicates a serious lack of trust and boundaries between the two of you. The first comment where he mentioned that he would probably have gotten into a relationship with her if he could have I would dismiss as just a remark. But... Why is he talking about hypothetically breaking up if he doesn't think it's very likely? The pet names could just be innocent, she might not like him like that. But the fac…
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/22 03:11 PM
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Actually very few US states recognize it. And the ones that do only recognize it after strict criteria like seven years of living together continuously. I am not from the US. Most states by far require a proper marriage to get legal benefits.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/22 10:41 AM
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It's not just bad women by the way. In my home country, they recognize de facto marriage if you have lived together continuously for more than two years. The key word being continuously. One deadbeat guy took his ex girlfriend to court claiming that because they lived together for two and a half years, they were in a de facto marriage even though they were never legally married and therefore she owed him half of everything. Thing is the word continuously. They lived together continuously for abo…
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/22 09:25 AM
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Population collapse wouldn't be the worst thing to be honest. I think society has become absolutely selfish and rotten to the core. But that being said, I have hope and faith and love to give, and still want a family.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/22 08:27 AM
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Well, unless you know about that specific case I am referencing, the specific people involved and the specific country, I would be inclined to trust my dad and what he was told over you. I can ask him again though.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/22 08:24 AM
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Why not a big push to change the divorce laws: Because fighting in divorce court over scraps benefits lawyers who win big. Men who really are rich and powerful couldn't give a damn about the divorce laws. Jeff Bezos for example... if he'd really wanted to, he could have put all of that money in overseas accounts and trust funds and he had the money for a court battle. He paid his ex wife because he knew that the money he gave to MacKenzie, he'd make back very easily. He honestly didn't care. Som…
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/22 07:21 AM
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He drinks heavily through the weekend but is sober Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday... Check! When you define 'weekend' as beginning on Thursday afternoon and ending on Sunday night, you're in trouble... For drinking purposes anyway. If he can hold down a job without too many problems still, then he's a functional alcoholic. Even in that case, he's still doing a number on his brain and liver.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/22 04:00 PM
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You're pretty. Certainly pretty enough to be in a serious relationship with a good quality man. But this man will never be attracted to you sober. And he will never get into a relationship with you that is any more serious than the one you have with him right now. Never ever. I could tell you that from your very first sentence. Why not? Because you are already 'being intimate' with him, two months in, in a casual relationship. And, you have said yourself you willingly are 'intimate' with him whe…
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/22 03:45 PM
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The big thing I would be worried about with her going back to Canada is that in my experience, with these countries, if you are a woman married to a citizen, you can't just leave. You need your husband's signed permission or his family's signed permission. So do the kids you have with him if they are under 21. The only way around it is to go to your original country's embassy, in this case, Canada's embassy, and they would help, but there is no guarantee they could get her son out.
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/22 08:47 AM
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That sounds familiar. Even if you don't think it'll be any use to talk to them about their attitudes, I would still ask them to talk about things they like doing, the nice places around the community they can take you, activities you can try together, anything to build a bridge, really. Even if they're things you've already done, if you enjoyed them even a little, it'll be an activity you can try together. I guess you speak the local language and cook the local dishes, but if you're a bit rusty,…
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/22 08:38 AM
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Are you Pakistani? If yes, it will be easier, because you will know the culture. If not, then I can imagine how tough it must be for you and how cheated you must feel. I live in Mainland China which is also a culture that is generally male led, although there are a lot of very loud and outspoken older women here too, perhaps in the 35+ age group. In the culture here, also, the grandparents very often live with the parents both to save money on housing for everyone, to save money on elder care, a…
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/22 05:47 AM
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Go to China. You will find lots of excellent male teachers of young children, both foreign and local. They do it because education and teachers are still valued and loved here. And for male foreign teachers, the pay is very good. Plus the opportunity to learn, use and teach English. Men don't teach little kids in the West, not because they don't want to, but because men who love little kids are viewed with suspicion. And the unliveable pay for doing a thankless job.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/22 03:27 PM
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You are not showing restraint or class by posting this. Also, she said she got turned off a man by a Facebook post. It's a reasonable question.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/22 11:12 AM
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So, you'd consider my cousin, in his 50s, sharing on Facebook how happy he is to have been married to his wife for twenty years unmanly? Ummmm... ok. What about my singing teacher's husband constantly posting how much he misses her and will always love her, is that unmanly? (She died, she was only about 48 too.)
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/22 10:08 AM
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You are the sole breadwinner He gets mad if you don't clean impeccably He's been mad at you for a month because you parked a car somewhere and it got broken into. He claims he no longer loves you. He doesn't work. Why not? Do you have kids and is he a stay at home dad? Does he take on all of the housework and cooking instead of working (Doesn't sound like it to me based on what you said)? Is he dedicating his life to some kind of volunteer work like missionary work? Is he caring for a sick or di…
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/22 02:47 PM
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I might wait until your current child is a little older... but if you are SAHM, bear in mind that a lot of those households he sees have two parents working.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/22 12:45 AM
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u/pearlsandstilettos
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/22 03:46 PM
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Definitely do the weddings, even if you don't need the money. I am honestly so jealous you can play the harp.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/22 02:59 PM
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You sound like you are doing a great job with your kids. Don't listen to women who look down on you. If you can, do see if you can get just a little part time work in your field, even if it's volunteer or just once a week. You will find it so much easier to go back to work after your kids are grown if you at least have some small connections in your field left who can vouch for you and who helped you keep your skills updated. Also, my grandmother was a SAHM in the 1950s and my father said she ab…
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/22 02:54 PM
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I'm a musician, did music for ten years, worked with a community of musicians, studied music at university, and can teach it. You just said nobody, including my potential future husband, cares about something I deeply value.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/22 02:46 PM
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The vertical labret... It's not the worst thing in the world, and you can always take it out and it'll close up. Hair dye... could you just get highlights instead so it looks less noticeable but still gives your hair a bit of life? Hair length: If you don't get the labret, you could definitely cut your hair. If you get the labret, I would keep your hair long at least unless you take the labret out. Don't get anymore tattoos, especially if you dye/cut your hair or get piercings that aren't in you…
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/22 02:47 PM
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More than you and your Greta Thunberg impersonation. How dare you be 29? How dare you think about not dating anyone? How dare you try to be better?
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/22 02:43 PM
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I don't get you. You stated my age and 'nun mode.' If you're going to comment, can you please ask a question or give advice.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/22 12:41 PM
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Well, since my dad's best friend's wife was over 30 when she met him, I wouldn't say these men are all invisible. Some are, some aren't. And OP is in her late teens, not late 20s, she has at least 3 years or so to grow before she needs to worry about turning thirty.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/22 12:40 PM
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As someone who has actually been in a relationship with three older guys, I strongly disagree this is what she needs. A teenager or early 20s girl does NOT need to be dating a thirty year old or forty year old. Even my one way older ex that treated me very well... I don't regret being with him and never would, he taught me a lot. But if I had married him, it would have meant being with someone who saw me and treated me as a very young girl, yes an adult, yes cute, but more of a pet rather than a…
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/22 09:33 AM
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My cousin met her husband 12 years older at 17 and she is in her 60s now (she is much older than me) and still married happily. However, it is not always an ideal thing to marry an older guy, there can be a power imbalance especially with a girl that young, and you do have to be emotionally ready for marriage, otherwise it will fall apart. My cousin is a particularly strong lady, always has been.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/22 05:04 AM
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You are 19, you are really young. A lot of guys are not looking to marry until their late20s or early 30s. I think ifyou want to marry,that is a greatgoal, but maybe wait just a couple of years, work on yourself, read Fascinating Womanhood and practise the skills Helen Andelin outlines, and try to really work on your skills as a home maker. Also, try to build even a small job skill set for yourself before getting married, you never know when it might come in handy. 21 or 22 will still be a great…
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/22 04:58 AM
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Is there a PDF copy somewhere here? I'd like to, but I'm not sure I could just get it easily in my current country or my home country.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/22 03:32 PM
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I want to lose weight and become much more physically attractive I am also hoping that I will have much less guilt about saying no and will be able to attract a man that I find attractive and is mature, wanting the same things I do, kind, honest and has integrity. I am hoping I have a lot less nerves and a lot more courage to talk with men I do like and I can learn to be a lot more attractive in the way I come across whenI am speaking to them, the kind of energy I give off. I would also like to …
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/22 01:29 PM
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What sites do you think are the best for LTR,and aren't full of guys just looking for hookups/fwb/plates to spin?
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/22 03:54 PM
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I actually have struggled a lot with this too, I just didn't know how to phrase it. I don't know how to say no, either with men, friends or an employer, and as a result I have been put in some awkward situations with guys in the past, I get really nervous and scared around guys I actually do like, and I find it hard to lay down boundaries. Even with one of my bosses, I find it hard to say no when they ask me to take on extra work.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/22 01:53 PM
1

Would online dating help find men who are actually looking for more than just friends?
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/22 01:12 PM
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But where do you meet them?
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/22 01:07 PM
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I'm 29, not 40 Also, I just am finding it very hard to meet men who want to be anything more than friends. When I do go out, most guys tend to just see me as a friend or have a girlfriend already.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/22 01:03 PM
1

So how to do that stuff without nun mode? And once I've improved myself more, how do I put myself out there to find the kinds of guys who are looking?
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/22 12:59 PM
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I feel completely dejected and I feel like I need a nun mode to recharge. I want a husband that is my own age, not older, that I can feel attracted to, that is kind, honest, has integrity, and is serious about committing. I am introverted, and work takes a lot of my energy, but when I do go out to socialize, I feel like a lot of the guys in my circle or community are already taken, and the ones that aren't are either way too old (over 50) or not interested/ready to do the who LTR thing. I feel l…
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/22 12:46 PM
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As I said in my other comment, you are 27. You should be looking for a life partner at your age. Do you really want to work a full time job plus do all housework and all childcare for the rest of your life while all he does is work thirty hours a week and that's it? If he's like this now it won't get better once you have kids. Do you really want to be yelled at over sex for the rest of your life? Do you really want to be told to STFU whenever you try to talk during a dispute for the rest of your…
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/22 11:11 PM
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You are 27. At your age, you should be looking for a life partner. How do you want to be treated by the person you are with for the rest of your life? Also, I think you should talk to a professional. Even a volunteer from the Samaritans or Salvation Army could help you with your situation.
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/22 10:51 PM
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Yes, this, Beyonce got cheated on too and she takes super good care of herself.
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/22 12:11 AM
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When she's older and you're telling her about not having friends with benefits, waiting until she's at least eighteen to have sex with an actual committed relationship, etc, don't do what my mom did and say, 'Because I said so' or 'Because those,are the values in this house' or 'Because you won't be sorry if you do wait'. Take the time to give detailed explanations as to why these things matter, and why they're so important, and the possible consequences of not waiting - explain at length how sh…
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/22 12:05 AM
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This, so much this.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/22 08:11 PM
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If you believe the man should pay for the date and pick you up, that's your right. It's not being disrespectful as a RPW to state that as 'your standards'. What would be disrespectful is stating that it is HIS JOB to pay EVERY SINGLE TIME and that you'd NEVER contribute anything because you're a woman. It's not disrespectful to say you want to be with someone who picks up the check or picks you up, but you do need to have gratitude for these things. Also, if he doesn't want to do these things as…
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/22 11:56 AM
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He has a girlfriend or had a girlfriend? He's trying to break up with her? Huh? Why doesn't he just sit her down, say, 'I've been thinking and for me it's not working out.' No is a complete sentence. If he can't do that, not much of a man in any sense and both you ladies deserve better. 'We have kids/difficult finances/a house together/dependants/debt/bad credit/car payment/etc' - He is probably a very nice man, but if this is the honest reason why he cannot break up with her, you should not get…
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/22 04:46 AM
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Don't do what my cousin and his friend did (take full advantage of the free open bar and get piss tank drunk. He had to be looked after in order to make sure he got home safely, he was so drunk by the end of the night he had no idea where he was anymore. My aunt was so angry and forced him to get up and wash all the dishes the next morning as an apology).
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/22 05:00 AM
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Find a channel that has the old Mickey Mouse and Disney cartoons. Old Disney, not new Disney. Old Cartoon Network and old Nickelodeon too, example Kim Possible and Transformers and Ed Edd and Eddy. As for Youtube channels for kids... Super Simple Songs, Pinkfong and Busy Beavers are good, but too babyish for a ten year old unless they are still learning English. Oh Shittake Mushrooms is cute and family oriented, but not really conservative. Serpentza I'd definitely show him, very cool and educat…
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/22 04:27 AM
2

How long have you been together? Forget the baby stuff for now. If you've been together at least two years, you should be having a serious talk about engagement and marriage before you even think about kids. If he won't even do that, or says it's 'just a ring and paper', then he's future faking. I wouldn't give him an ultimatum at that point, but I would move out and continue dating (dating each other, NOT other people), and tell him it's not an ultimatum, but that you want to get engaged, marri…
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/22 02:40 AM
1

He can be. I have noticed that while he doesn't smile much, young children make him smile. Big time. I don't want to give specific examples in case someone I know reads this, but I have noticed that he is very kind and very gentle with very young children even though he's not like my dad who kids love because he has them in hysterics within seconds. He is a very busy guy who values his work, but he will still go out of his way to help me when I ask for it. He did today actually. Just little thin…
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/22 08:39 AM
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Could you please elaborate on ways that he is a lot like you? He is usually willing to help out at work as long as he has time and has gone out of his way for me before.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/22 06:22 AM
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When I first started working there, I would have agreed with you. Nothing special. Before I got to know him. Also... when I look at the men's subs here, I keep seeing a lot of guys talking VERY negatively about women who look at guys like that. That women who only look at guys who are tall, naturally outgoing, laugh out loud funny, cool, earn 200k plus a year, etc, will end up going, 'Where are all the good men?' I am already 29, and I feel like I have very little time left. I want to find someo…
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/22 04:47 AM
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I hate to break it to you hon, but say you go into ECE, summer camp, nursing home/CCA work or work at a school, they'll want you to get all of your vaccines up to date, not just covid, and you may have to do a TB test as well as a covid test. They have been doing TB tests and requiring vaccines for these kinds of jobs for decades.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/22 04:18 AM
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ECE (Early childhood) is crying out for educators right now, and the right centre will pay for your qualifications, or at least part pay. If you turn out to be the right person and do well with working towards qualifying, you could be given a lead teacher or co teacher position within a year as most areas really need educators at all stages. Be warned though, ECE is a rewarding job but not for the faint hearted. You will be under a lot of scrutiny from head teachers and parents, and the ratios c…
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/22 12:12 AM
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When my singing teacher died, her husband was there, yes, but there were so so many others that remembered her too. Others that had no connection to her husband, that were connected with her through music. Also, she met her husband at 31 through online dating. And you only have to look at her husband's Facebook to tell he is a high value man, but if you just went off superficial things like height, job, hobbies, etc, you'd be very possibly doing yourself out of a match.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/22 04:37 AM
2

Although low mv will depend on the person. I read somewhere that one woman was in her fifties and obese, and had been married for thirty years. Her husband however was obese too. They were both very kind and giving people. Would they be labeled low MV? Maybe by some people, but it's opinion. Clearly they were a great match for each other.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/22 08:52 AM
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She doesn't sound one bit angry to me. She sounds like she has a backbone against people that tick her off. The fact that she said that about her traditional Muslim family really shows who she and her family are, and who you are in comparison. Even if most worthy men would leave it, which I don't agree with, but let's just say hypothetically, so what? In that case, nothing she can do, and better to be alone than with someone unworthy.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/22 06:27 AM
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A lot of old school feminists from my mother's generation of feminists (1960s) strongly subscribe to the notion that any kind of casual sex is bad. Some liberal feminists still view it as empowering today, but it is ever so slowly, very slowly, starting to swing back the other way. Christians and Muslims and Jews also generally believe that cheating, especially if the adulterer is unrepentant, is a valid reason to end a marriage, yet none of those groups are wildly feminist. RPW is also quite po…
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/22 11:47 AM
1

Agreed. I read somewhere on one of the other RP sites that it's not even a case of lowering standards, it's a case of broadening them. Because the person who wrote it said that in a lot of cases, your standards aren't too high, they're actually too narrow. If you want a virgin, look in the conservative religious communities and be prepared to conform to their values too.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/22 08:16 AM
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A couple of things stand out for me. The past is the past, so you can't change anything regardless. I think you did the right thing by ending it immediately after he became abusive for number one. Number two was fairly brief, unfortunate but not much you could have done. Number three: You were with him for four years, you were living together, but he never proposed. I'd personally have called it after two years, maybe moved out after two years and kept seeing him for another six months or so to …
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/22 06:05 AM
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Extended suicide? What on Earth? Yeah, I really don't think you should have kids with this guy. Take your dog with you if you leave and keep it locked up. If you get suicide threats from him after breakup, call cops for a wellness check. Do NOT respond to him yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/22 10:18 PM
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Obviously not out of character, if he said it. I wouldn't have even stayed till everyone left. Don't, next time. Get up and leave. Don't say anything back.
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/22 01:36 PM
1

A girl who can't cook can easily learn. A girl who 'won't fuck' (gross) is a better prospect in regards to what she is looking for, that is a LTR, not a ONS. Maybe she has a massively overinflated sense of her own beauty, but beauty can be worked on. Perhaps her list of requirements for a husband is too much, but she should learn that in time if nobody wants to date her. The fact that she is a virgin though is a fantastic starting point and she can definitely build up from there!
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/22 10:49 AM
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I got my first nannying job at age 20, I wasn't very good at cooking, the family said if I wanted to keep working for them I'd better learn fast. So I did.
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/22 10:37 AM
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Why don't you adopt? It's hard in the US, but in your current country it could be much easier. It is also much easier in the US if you are willing to adopt an older child.
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/22 12:53 AM
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Better you have no kids than have kids with someone incompatible. Kids are not relationship glue, nor do they deserve to be used as relationship glue. Also, if the relationship does fall apart and he is truly abusive, he could fight you all the way in court for access and custody. A lot of women tend to think, 'He never was interested/was really lazy when we were together, why would he bother?' Answer: Because if he still has access to the children, he still has access to YOU. Whether or not he …
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/22 12:42 AM
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I am really concerned about the language you use in your post. 'Failed at my job' A relationship is not a job. You are not earning a salary, you are not being given performance reviews or evaluations. And if your boyfriend actually is using language like this or evaluating you... RUN! He is NOT your employer! 'It is my job to provide him sex whenever he wants it, feed him when needed...' Ahhhh no. If you WANT to do these things, then you CAN. It is NOT, however, your JOB. Yes, you should be plea…
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/22 10:22 PM
1

Idk if it's staged or not, but look at Big Ed from Ninety Day Fiance. Guy is 54 years old. There are some nice looking 54 year old guys out there, don't get me wrong, my dad was one of them. Big Ed is NOT one of them. He is very short, very overweight, doesn't dress very well, isn't particularly great in bed, cheated on the wife he did have, refused to shave or cut his hair for a very long time, and expects women 24－30 years younger than him to find him attractive. His list of requirements inclu…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 10:18 AM
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