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Paying or not paying really depends on the girl, as well as what date you should take her on. This is why its important to always try new things. For example, if its a rather shallow younger girl that doesn't have that much money, you pretty much can take her to a nice restaurant, pay for her meal, and can get guaranteed sex for quite some time just from that one time. As for others, the easy way is simple reciprocity - find an activity, pay for activity, and then when it comes time to get food …
/r/askTRP25/06/15 06:34 PM
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First off, the only time you would be considered a sleaze is if your game is far ahead of the rest of you. A fat neckbeard trying to make things overly sexual will be labeled a sleaze. A well groomed, clean dressed guy, with a good physique that is just being friendly to girls is not going to be labeled as a sleaze. Secondly, really, nobody remembers you as much as you think they do.
/r/askTRP25/06/15 05:59 PM
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I mean it's one thing to say just go out on your own, or swing some weights around the gym, or have hobbies. I have all those. You need more than hobbies. You need goals. Challenging goals that you need to feel some negativity about ever being able to do, but you push anyways, and in the end you accomplish them. That is your number one problem. You settled into a risk-averse safety bubble and now you are essentially bored. The black moods is just you feeling emptiness in your mind. For example, …
/r/askTRP24/06/15 07:53 PM
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this is a fucking disrespectful behavior towards me Get over yourself. Demanding respect is a sign of insecurity. Also, if you care enough about how she treats you, you are on the verge of getting oneitis.
/r/askTRP24/06/15 04:22 PM
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I thought I would sound like a dick This girl does jack shit for you. She is absolutely useless in your life. Why in the wide world of fuck would you care what you sound like to her? Get rid of this attitude. If you want to run game, then learn game and run it, but you still have this predisposition to care too much about what other people think of you, and that is going to be your downfall if you can't get rid of it. Become a great person in your own right, know that you are great person, and t…
/r/askTRP23/06/15 03:39 PM
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This is a pretty shitty thing to do on his part, but he is basically creating a loose loose situation for you. If you say nothing, you appear weak and can't stand up for yourself. If you become confrontational, you are a drama queen. In general, you should probably stop hanging out with him though, unless you get direct benefit from his company. However, if you are relatively on good terms, you can do the "playful confrontation", where you basically become confrontational as a joke, and it shift…
/r/askTRP18/06/15 04:21 PM
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If you can pay $100k a month, you can definitely afford to put a clean hit on her.
/r/TheRedPill18/06/15 02:18 AM
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You absolutely can start ignoring her. You don't owe anyone shit. Don't waste time on people who serve no value in your life.
/r/askTRP14/06/15 10:59 PM
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While I understand the desire to help, you have to remember this. recovering beta fixing my life here(about 30% done) Don't start involving yourself in other people's problems until you have fixed your own. You can have a talk with your brother, suggest talking to a therapist, but no more then that. An unfortunate truth in life is that everyone is responsible for their own well being. Some people are just irresponsible in this regard and will fail, and its not always a guarantee that you can get…
/r/askTRP12/06/15 08:50 PM
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Lucky for you, actual science is blind to things like feminism or feelings or looks, or behavior.
/r/askTRP12/06/15 06:06 PM
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Am I being ridiculous? Honestly, sort of maybe? My girlfriend isn't very interested in having children, and she's very against being a stay-at-home mother. She doesn't want to take her husband's last name, nor share bank accounts. I feel like if we got married, she would get all the benefits without any of the risks. This is the type of girl that is not even going to care about alimony, nor even get it legally since it would be very easy to prove that she can fully support herself. If you guys a…
/r/askTRP11/06/15 06:37 PM
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So I have this friend who is pretty much in the same boat as you - makes good money, takes care of himself, lives in Miami, drives a BMW, and so on. But, he barely gets any pussy. Always lusting after chicks, but can never get any one in bed. While I have another friend that makes $60k, is a typical bro, and regularly hooks up with a good amount of girls. The key difference in them? The former one is literally being to picky . He has a very specific standard for what he is attracted to in girls.…
/r/askTRP11/06/15 03:31 PM
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As long as you are not "depressed" about your sex drive, a.k.a wanting to have it but not being able to get it up, there is nothing wrong with you.
/r/askTRP10/06/15 08:33 PM
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All I said to her was 'to be always two steps ahead and to have a plan'. She started to cry and say why didn't I approve of what she was doing and saying how I always make her doubt herself. That, my friend, is called crazy. Which is the opposite of what you want to put your dick in.
/r/askTRP10/06/15 08:29 PM
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Its even deeper then that. Humans are really good at avoiding any and all responsibility for their actions. In the same way that people have gone from "Im scared to do things" to "I have anxiety that I need medical help for"
/r/askTRP10/06/15 05:54 PM
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You are fully correct. Anybody can get muscular with lots of definition, and its mostly a matter of nutrition (for example, people often don't hydrate enough which makes them look less bulky). While a skinny guy will never look like Arnold in his prime, he definitely can get lots of definition as well as gain functional strength. The differentiating factor is the time/effort required into actually bulking/lifting for the effect. If you are used to putting down large amounts of calories per meal,…
/r/askTRP10/06/15 03:40 PM
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And the other 20% is just being active. For example, just simply riding a bicycle to work can greatly improve your health.
/r/askTRP09/06/15 08:02 PM
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Its very highly likely that he knew what was going on, he knew how to package the files, and so on, but he also understood how to keep "his bitches" under control and minimize the work load. He understood that there wasn't anything they could do to shift the power dynamic, and that openly creating conflict would just make them resent him instead of make fun of him, so he just let them make fun of him and in return he got compliance. And I guarantee you that not a single one of those women had th…
/r/askTRP09/06/15 07:52 PM
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Honestly, it all depends on your SMV. Realistically, if you are in an affluent area, you have a lot of competition, girls will always know they can do better and thus you won't be an attractive option always. Yet, if you somehow make good money and live in a population dense but less affluent area, you will easily be the cream of the crop.
/r/askTRP09/06/15 07:35 PM
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This really needs to be more in /r/seduction, but anyways. I thought to myself. I should approach her Don't think. Do. You already got the "upper hand" when she looked away. All it takes is for you to smile, walk over, make a small stupid joke like "Hey, I promise I don't bite, whats your name?", and then just ask her what she is doing tonight and go from there. Any hesitation on your part equals hesitation on her part. The first interaction when you both locked eyes is like an upside down pendu…
/r/askTRP09/06/15 06:01 PM
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If you feel the need to control your LTR like you say, you definitely do not be in a relationship with her. Quality women are first and foremost quality people, they have a good moral compass, and you should be able to trust them like you trust your close guy friends. No human is without error, and there will be some conflict, but the conflict arises from misunderstanding, not a fundamental character flaw. And in the spirit of red pill mentality, you as a man should have a good filter and know w…
/r/askTRP09/06/15 05:52 PM
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The thing that you really have to understand even before therapy is that your anxiety is not really a disorder in the sense that there is something wrong with you. Its more like you have developed bad habits along the way, and to compound it, you "validate" that feeling of nervousness as an anxiety disorder, which sorta subconsciously gives an excuse to your actions. I used to be super nervous talking to girls in general, and at some point, something inside me clicked and I realized that this ne…
/r/askTRP03/06/15 05:20 PM
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Yeah, but the sweet money afterwards though is worth it.
/r/askTRP03/06/15 04:40 PM
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Or really though, just ignore and move on. The quality of sex with these girls is marginal at best.
/r/askTRP03/06/15 04:12 PM
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I have read the sidebar, but seriously, how do I remold frame here, or do I ? Re-read the sidebar on /r/redpill and the pdfs it links. You are not a special snowflake, that advice applies to everyone. Do the things that it tells you to do. The guides go in pretty good detail about frame. The main point relevant to you is this: I have physical issues that prevent some of the aspects of being alpha to develop ( ie I have a neuro disease that prevents me from looking great, and I am short STOP MAKI…
/r/askTRP01/06/15 09:25 PM
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The best thing I ever did for myself is cut my dependance on people. I learned to make friends wherever I go now. Its fun to catch up with old friends, but I don't miss them in any form and way.
/r/askTRP29/05/15 02:28 PM
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The first step to getting unfucked is to stop trying to look for sympathy and hope. I mean, what if I told you you were fucked? Would that just be an excuse for you not to continue doing anything in self improvement? Would that be the easy way out for you? Or if I told you that you were not, would that just be the light on the never ending tunnel? Would you keep continue to doing what you do, slightly getting better, but never quite getting there, but always hoping? Stop wondering on how or why,…
/r/askTRP28/05/15 05:16 PM
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How do I apply RP philosophy to my... unusual circumstances? You start by stop thinking you are special snowflake. Nobody gives a shit about your problems or your excuses. Everyone has got their own personal issues, you are no different. Red pill philosophy is about taking full accountability for yourself. You have 2 legs, 2 arms and a brain. You can do things to improve yourself. Work on your hobbies, work on your career, work on your fitness, set goals, accomplish goals, set new goals and proc…
/r/askTRP26/05/15 10:21 PM
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Depending on what you want to do. If you want practical self defense, obligatory get a gun, but Krav Maga is the best in terms of practicality/functional strength. The problem with TKD/Karate is its hard to find a proper dojo, as many are McDojos these days simply for profit. But, if you manage to find a good one with a teacher that focuses on actual martial aspect and not the art aspect, it can be fun. Another good one for general fitness and flexibility is Capoeira. I did it for a while, it gi…
/r/askTRP26/05/15 10:14 PM
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an American fourth-year visual arts major A.k.a drama chick. This is the number one red flag to avoid at all costs.
/r/TheRedPill20/05/15 05:19 PM
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No, never. Abundance mentality: you can always give your attention to another girl. And its up to the girl to make you focus that attention on her. Of course, if you are socially inept, this doesn't work, so you gotta work on getting the SMV up.
/r/askTRP18/05/15 08:16 PM
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Hard to say. Conflict like this is in most cases a mood breaker. There are better ways you could have played this, like playfully just sandwiching yourself between the girls, and be like "this is where I normally sit". And the best way of avoiding conflict is making them irrelevant (see example with the male anchor) My general rule is not to invite people I don't know or trust into my house, or even give them rides, unless Im getting something in return. I learned the lesson the hard way after h…
/r/askTRP18/05/15 05:37 PM
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Willpower is a "muscle" that you have to train. The more you excersize, the easier it gets. Also, don't find excuses for yourself. There is nothing wrong with you. You are not depressed, you are not emotionally crippled, you are just a pussy. Society has made it ok for you to express your vulnerabilities like this and feel that its somehow not your fault that you have trouble in life. Well, the same society also dictates that you need to be a beta bitch in regards to women. Once you accept full …
/r/askTRP18/05/15 05:04 PM
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Save up aggressively for some time, while putting together a bysiness plan slowly in the evenings, then quit and start your own business. If it doesn't work out, you can usually go back to doing what you are doing.
/r/askTRP16/05/15 06:29 PM
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Dude I think you care about this way too much. There is a vast amount of stupid in this world, from both men and women. I am pretty sure that the days of the human race as it currently exists are numbered. You can't control it, you can't fight. The thing that is under your control is how much you let it affect you, and what lessons you can learn from it.
/r/TheRedPill15/05/15 07:14 PM
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The problem with just learning responses is that words are very meaningless by themselves. What gives the most meaning to words is the person behind them, and how he is viewed by the person he is talking to, and with which tone and attitude he is saying it. If you already established bad rapport, no words are going to reverse the girls opinion on you. She already views you as someone she has control over. In order to reverse her opinion, you really have to practice game, which involves picking u…
/r/askTRP12/05/15 07:05 PM
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They sound retarded to you because you are reading them on the internet. Word content is only part of the equation, the other part is what kind of person says it and how he says it. You may not find a dumb joke funny if its told by one of your friends, but I guarantee you that if someone powerful like Elon Musk said it to you, you would respond with at least a chuckle.
/r/askTRP12/05/15 06:18 PM
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That and the time/lawyer fees may not be worth it considering he probably won't be able to take off work that much. This is why one of the best things you can do for yourself is to work on your career where you can have a well paying job with flexible hours. If you have enough time/money to go after people legally, you can absolutely wreck their shit.
/r/TheRedPill08/05/15 06:22 PM
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""I need to stop meeting up with boys with a view of finding a relationship, because they only care about one thing. And they lie so convincingly so fuck that. If you want a local friend then you've got one." "Cool." Neeeeeeeexxxxtttttttttt
/r/askTRP04/05/15 07:31 PM
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There is a lot of posts here that are like this. You are better asking this in /r/seduction or /r/pua. TRP is all the steps to get you into the mindset aand give you the confidence to actually go out and do this, but the specifics are more "socially-romantic psychology". Just like a salesman pitching a sale, there is a lot of nuances that you have to pay attention to, as well as be able to understand what is going on in the girls head right away and adjust. And that is really in the case that yo…
/r/askTRP04/05/15 06:37 AM
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Unless you are black and have a lot of money. "I love it when they call me big poppa"
/r/TheRedPill01/05/15 05:04 PM
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I wanna see that get done to a girl and watch all the feminists collectively loose their shit.
/r/TheRedPill30/04/15 07:03 PM
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Even in US, I prefer Asian women over Caucasian. From the ones I dated, I have a hard time trusting any white girl who is even decently pretty to be LTR material.
/r/askTRP29/04/15 05:13 PM
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The thing that I am wondering is that for a mil, you could prosit have her taken out
/r/TheRedPill29/04/15 01:55 PM
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The things is though jobs are dime a dozen for typical college graduate with an easy degree like real estate. I know plenty of girls that went to work for things like apartment communities, being receptionists, low level HR, and so on. This isn't really significant. Even if the pay is not bad. However, a girl that wanted to be an animal trainer since she was a kid, and went to a college for this and now works at a zoo for a low wage, often on the weekends as well, is somebody who is worthy of a …
/r/TheRedPill28/04/15 08:15 PM
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But who wants a career woman? I think if a woman is going to fullfill the wife/stay-at-home mom role, it's important for her to filter for somebody financially stable There is a huger problem with this type of mentality. The "all I want is to be a mom, I will be stay at home and take care of the kids", mentality that the girls get at an early age means that she will do slightly more than the bare minimum to take care of the kid, then the rest of the time she will just have an easy life and hang …
/r/TheRedPill28/04/15 07:58 PM
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He eve says he presents results in a flexible way. And thats the really main argument agianst it, the fact that if you are a certain type means you are boxed into that behaviour.
/r/askTRP19/04/15 08:57 PM
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First, personality profiles are complete pseudo-science. They have no basis in reality and there is no studies or evidence to support the classification. Secondly, ou shouldn't ever search for excuses for your behavior, because everything you do is under direct control. You have the ability to act however you chose to and how ever you want to to achieve personal gains.
/r/askTRP19/04/15 03:00 PM
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I would go even further. I would make my gender something like "zahthraakrothansthan", and when people mispronounce it I would report them for harassment and intolerance.
/r/TheRedPill15/04/15 07:29 PM
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The number one thing that a lot of guys don't realize is that a girl has made up her mind about you whether or not she would date you in the first 30 seconds of meeting you. Just like guys can decide if they would fuck a girl within the first 30 seconds of meeting her. And overall, girls get hit on most all the time, so there is no point in trying to hide your intention. Overall, there is nothing that you can say or do to make her flip flop. Don't be under impression that TRP mentality can makea…
/r/askTRP10/04/15 07:23 PM
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Im not going to belive you just because you say so. Im an engineer by trade, and from what I have seen and read in regards to my own fitness, the studies correlate with reality.
/r/TheRedPill02/04/15 01:19 AM
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If you read the actual studies, they never claim that anything is best. They simply state results and let the readers formulate their own decisions. But these studies are also performed in a scientific manner, and to discredit them is a little bit pretentious.
/r/TheRedPill02/04/15 12:10 AM
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He is enthusiastic, but completely full of himself and spouts a lot of pseudo-scientific shit liek https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aPnTpfaBNxU
/r/TheRedPill01/04/15 05:58 PM
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If you want to be LTR material, you have to bring quality of character into the relationship. And keep in mind that being loving, gentle and caring isn't really that great of qualities, as most any other girl who truly is into the guy can give him that. Women are empathetic in nature, they love with more emotion that comes naturally to them, just like love in physical form comes naturally to guys. And overall, its likely that he has a pretty good life, so he is not looking for solace in another …
/r/askTRP27/03/15 05:50 PM
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So the thing about culture is that its defined by where you are, not where you are from. If everyone around you follows the same protocol, (such as in Japan for example, women come second to men), then its expected of you to do the same. In America, you cannot get mad at her for that for cultural reasons, because you are surrounded by people of different culture. You can still demand that she respects you in whatever way, but that is your personal quirk, and you have to deal with the consequence…
/r/askTRP26/03/15 09:52 PM
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Churches/fitness are too generic IMO. Plenty of the air headed girls still go to church and the gym. The quality that you have to look for is the personal goals (and actually progression towards those goals) that are outside of getting married, having kids, and so on. For example, a girl that is very interested in animals and works as a animal trainer at the zoo is absolutely the type of person for LTR potential. My LTR has been great (even though plenty of AWALT signs, but far from what my typi…
/r/askTRP26/03/15 09:34 PM
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You need to be more specific about your culture. Are you both from the same culture? Are you located in your home country, or America?
/r/askTRP26/03/15 09:20 PM
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The number is more of a consequence of her personality, which you should focus on more than the actual number.
/r/askTRP26/03/15 09:16 PM
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I ride a motorcycle, or play video games. Having something to focus on keeps my mind on point until the things I am concerned about no longer seem like a big deal.
/r/askTRP26/03/15 03:22 PM
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You need goals and targets for life. Easy way is military, they will provide the goals for you. Harder way is figuring out what you like to do, and aim to be the best at it. And this stuff has to be valuable to your everyday life, shit like video games don't count.
/r/askTRP24/03/15 11:54 PM
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The only thing that worries me is that AWALT still applies because she's a woman, and I want to avoid future shit storms. If you just wanna freeload off of her and use her and then just leave once you are on your feet, then do that, but you would be a shitty person, especially if she has good qualities. The proper man thing to do is to view this arrangement as a "temporary loan for rent money". Once you get a job, you should aim to slowly pay her back for the 2-3 months of living rent free, whil…
/r/askTRP24/03/15 11:51 PM
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This is more of a question for /r/seduction or /r/pua.
/r/askTRP24/03/15 11:36 PM
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a co-worker Don't shit where you eat. Plain and simple.
/r/askTRP24/03/15 10:22 PM
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If you wanna set yourself apart, do something that is not necessarily romantic, but is unique and fun enough for both of you to enjoy. For example, Laser tag. Its so dumb, but unless you are dealing with a prissy bitch that is afraid to break her nails, its fun for both of you because it makes you feel like kids. Or a random "learning activity", like you taking her to a sailing class, paragliding class, scuba diving class, and so on. The goal is to convey that you have a great imagination and ar…
/r/askTRP22/03/15 07:55 PM
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This is really an open ended question. You have to evaluate what you are good at, what you are interested at, and what your ultimate goals are. Too many people fall into the trap of trying to work hard in the wrong direction and never really get anywhere.
/r/askTRP22/03/15 07:50 PM
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willpower is a muscle. Train it and it will grow stronger.
/r/askTRP02/03/15 07:59 PM
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When you " ask" for a meetup, you don't ask. You ask if she is free, and then you tell her that you are taking her somewhere. And if she doesn't respond after the first time, you just move on, to the next. If she wants to hang out, she will text you. And if she just wants to text you about random shit, you take it for what it is, either you just chit chat for thr sake of it or you ignore her if you have no interest. Or you plain out say "hey enough talking, why don't you come over here and lets …
/r/askTRP02/03/15 07:51 PM
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