Changing your personality type

balalasaurus · 2015-04-19T20:01:41+00:00

If there's one thing TRP should teach you, it's that who you are is not set in stone. Now aside from the fact that the scientific justification for Myers Briggs personality types is questionable, it is possible to change your personality type. I used to be an INTP. That changed to INTJ. Now I'd say I'm close to becoming an ENTJ.

Johnny10toes · 2015-04-19T19:46:48+00:00

Yes, you can change whatever you want about yourself. However you should look for your strengths and play to them first and then change other things. Sometimes you don't see your own abilities. I'm pretty good at seeing the potential in other people rather than myself but I'm an absolute master at counting my flaws. This makes for a recipe of self loathing. When I eject myself from my headspace I see that I'm successful in my career, decent looking and could clean up well, intelligent and funny. A good catch for a number of women and a good friend for a number of guys. So my self loathing is a lie I tell myself and believe. And don't arrest your development by getting good at something then stopping. For instance I said I was successful in my career. I recently ended a few month project on how to be even more successful, ripping what I do right apart and asking could I do it better? Faster? Safer? Currently I'm researching how to be funny. Can I have more wit? Can I be better with timing? Could I look at some things differently that I don't find funny and get humor out of that? Look at /u/illimitableman where his blog and his posts were amazing. He's taken it on himself to be an even better writer. Or /u/gaylubeoil where everyone says not to stir up the feminists, don't rock the boat. He says why not? Lets black knight for shits and giggles which are uncharted manosphere waters.

In social relationships whether friend or chicks you can look at this as Chen and Chi. The Art of War talks about this. You can look that up. It's interesting. But in terms of war it's a frontal assault, Chen, which the enemy expects and a flank assault, Chi, which is unexpected. In terms of business it's an added value. A toaster that makes toast, Chen, and it also blow drys hair, Chi. Horribly outlandish example but I hope you get the point. Or the very hotel room I'm in now. I expected them to have clean sheets and towels but I wasn't expecting a full refrigerator and kitchenette. For the same price? That's awesome! I'll definately be staying here again! Also free washers and dryers by the gym. No breakfast and they only clean the rooms every 3 or 4 days. Suppose they have to cut costs somewhere.

You get the idea. A girl looking for a well built guy. He's also funny is an added value to her. Eventually the Chi becomes the Chen. You then must adapt.

Read the book Certain to Win to get a better grasp of Chen and Chi. It's very well written and was tough for me to finish because every paragraph was so full of ideas that my brain would go off on a tangent with the endless possibilities. Once you understand Chen and Chi you'll see it everywhere. Not just war, not just business, which is what this book is about mostly.

Also, don't worry too much about people liking you. Two of the most likeable guys I've known in my life that everyone adores could give two fucks if you like them or not.

ghrelly · 2015-04-19T15:00:23+00:00

First, personality profiles are complete pseudo-science. They have no basis in reality and there is no studies or evidence to support the classification.

Secondly, ou shouldn't ever search for excuses for your behavior, because everything you do is under direct control. You have the ability to act however you chose to and how ever you want to to achieve personal gains.

throwaway-aa2 · 2015-04-19T20:19:38+00:00

I actually recently took one of those personality tests. I can show you the screenshot (it's a different one from the one you take, but similar idea).

The cool thing about this personality test in particular that I took... is it didn't just give you the personality type the questions you filled in are most closely related to (how most of them work, so that it's more MAGICAL). This one showed gave an amount of dots each type that you were most closely related with. And I basically had 5 dots for 2 of the personality types, and had 4 dots for another, and it was basically not clear cut at all.

What I noticed answering the questions, is I was torn on a lot of them. Some of the questions I wondered how in an ideal world I would answer, or how I would normally act. Let me explain.

I actually disagree with the top commenter... these personality tests are quite accurate, IN A SENSE. Usually you're going to have people that will 9 times out of 10 fit into a very predictable personality type. The only type of person that this doesn't fit in with, is the type of person that's going through extreme life changes and actively trying to change his personality. That's where this takes a little twist.

See, while I was filling out this personality tests, I was answering questions in a way that wasn't very congruent, and was very conflicting. But that makes sense, because I'm pushing myself to grow as a person. I'm reading books, really going out and approaching women and getting myself into difficult & hard situations and really pushing myself. So some things I haven't internalized completely, while others I have. For instance I've gotten a lot better in social situations and being alpha, but at the same time I still have this feeling that I NEED to always explain myself to people (which is clearly beta) but usually most people go one way or the other.

How this relates to you: The personality thing DOES have a certain level of accuracy in my experience, HOWEVER. Personality is malleable, especially when someone is going through such length to change themselves. So whatever you're going to find in a personality test, represents your personality NOW, at the current moment. But that can and will change if you're committed to changing your perspective on things.

If you make the decision to not be a protector, and start to come off as warm with people, after a while having done that consciously, it'll become apart of the unconscious and hence your personality.

[deleted] · 2015-04-20T04:29:02+00:00

First step: Being loud. Be loud and say 'k' to everybody who tells you to quiet down or ignore them after a while. If they dont tell you to quiet down it feels fucking great.

Now I'm loud all the time and tell people to directly fuck off immediately that tell me to quiet down :)

I didn't realize when I started TRP it would end up as the key to personal happiness for me.

Title	Changing your personality type
Author	Messenger_Baltar
Upvotes	6
Comments	15
Date	April 19, 2015 2:42 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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