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Thank you very much for the detailed and honest response! This makes total sense, especially the line about “healthy girls want a playmate, not a therapist” I am, in fact, a therapist so that image totally clicks for me. I do definitely want a playmate but this way of phrasing it is a strong reminder to make sure my behavior comes off that way. Also, since you seem to have a different view than most of the other responders as to whether I personally am an alpha widow, I’d love your thoughts on t…
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/18 12:50 PM
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That just seems to me like a severe misunderstanding of masculinity. A guy operating from a strong and solid frame who knows how to listen is EXTREMELY masculine and a huge turn on to me (a girl who likes extremely masculine guys) while a guy operating from weak frame who knows how to listen is nothing special. I may as well have a female friend. It’s one of the main bones I pick with TRP. They say the same thing about paying for dates. “Beta bucks” I feel like a lot of them really miss the fore…
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/18 03:31 AM
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Hahah no worries girl, this is why this sub is here! Glad it makes more sense to us both now :) I still found your answer helpful because you clearly understood my points.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/18 03:25 AM
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Gotcha, thanks for helping clarify. I think I was misinterpreting a bit.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/18 03:24 AM
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This makes total sense and I appreciate the well crafted and well thought out response! I have to admit though, I do not always see this play out in real life. I’ve seen as many men reject women as I’ve seen women reject men. So females as the selectors, eh, I’m not so sure. A lot of men have very high standards too.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/18 03:23 AM
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Thanks! The community definitely adds value to my life, I think I just needed a little time away.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/18 03:21 AM
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Gotcha, thanks for the clarification. I did mean bad relationship prospect more than anything but I definitely could have phrased it better.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/18 03:13 AM
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This makes sense, I think I was a little off definition wise. Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/18 03:13 AM
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Thank you! I’m glad it’s not as hopeless as I thought.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/18 03:12 AM
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Thank you! This is encouraging to hear you don’t think I’m completely crazy.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/18 03:12 AM
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I would be inclined to agree with you except I feel like “quasi homosexual” is very insulting to a heterosexual male so I don’t think it was seen as a good thing at all in the article.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/18 03:11 AM
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This made sense, thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/18 03:10 AM
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This is awesome, I’m so happy for you :) I totally get men not wanting to be with a post alpha widowed female but what am I supposed to do? I don’t feel like it’s really controllable. I expected to be with this guy forever so this whole concept of being back on the market feels like a foreign concept and it’s really not going well for me.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/18 05:26 AM
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Thanks for this! It was helpful in clarifying and the article was a good read. I do feel less like an alpha widow now after reading it. The only thing I don’t like is his comment about “quasi-homosexual beta male with superb listening and sympathizing skills” I can’t stand that RP tendency to see being a good listener and an actual kind person as beta. It’s not. Not when you’re alpha in other ways. When you’re alpha as a whole being a good listener makes you the girl’s rock. Like my ex. When you…
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/18 05:25 AM
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Awesome field report! So encouraging when you see these kinds of results after such seemingly small changes.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/18 03:18 AM
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On a bitchy note....I really feel like you need to add 3edgy5you as a tagline on this post. Because that’s how you sound. OMG guys, this girl doesn’t go to church and might want a threesome. Help we got a real badass over here! On a serious note, giving you the benefit of the doubt that you aren’t a troll, you are welcome here. You’re right about the core of RPW and there aren’t really many people here who would prescribe a set way of being. We may attract a lot of people who want to live a cert…
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/18 01:36 AM
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As a woman with some sense in her head, I apologize for the insanity so many of my gender are promoting. I watched the Kavanaugh hearing and it broke my heart. To see a man’s reputation so instantly destroyed just because a woman said some words. No proof. Blatant evidence against her claim. It still doesn’t matter. She said it and that’s enough for this crowd. It’s devastating to me, and as a daughter to an amazing man and sister to two other amazing men I can’t imagine how I would feel if some…
/r/MensRights28/09/18 05:50 AM
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I have a lot of debt, six figures, and I’m not happy about it, but it’s all student debt. I was very BP when I accrued the debt but it already occurred to me that my future husband may not like it. I don’t have any credit card debt. I’m responsible about the debt I do have. I graduated college and got into my desired career immediately. I’ve been extremely successful in my career and have risen the ranks very quickly. I’m easily able to pay my loans every month and I have a decent credit score. …
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/18 10:43 PM
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Hahah no my friend I have not hit the wall, though I don’t see what on earth that has to do with my response.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/18 04:53 AM
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No. It isn’t true. And it’s one of the things that irritates me the very most about the red pill subs for men. I have no doubt that there are many terrible women out there who use and cheat on men, but there are many women out there who genuinely love their particular man for who he IS.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/18 04:42 AM
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Thank you! Preach. I was going to comment exactly your first few statements . Without knowing more circumstances there’s really not a whole ton of insight I can offer. Are we talking medical reasons? Education? Moving to another country? Just not wanting to work and having that option because of other financial resources? I’ve got my guesses but without some actual facts it’s nearly impossible to decipher.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/18 06:43 AM
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I’ll raise a point no one else seems to have raised yet. This should actually make you happy if you look at it right, because it means this well-rounded and fantastic man chose YOU. Your guy obviously has high SMV and other girls would be happy to have him. I can tell this by how you describe the behavior of his female friends at the restaurant. And yet he chose and continues to choose to commit to YOU. That’s pretty awesome :)
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/18 01:34 PM
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Okay, good to know :) I’m far from a feminist but I don’t like seeing people devalue themselves based on their gender either. Thanks for explaining.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/18 12:56 AM
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My time “even though I’m a woman” whoa whoa whoa back up. The red pill is not about misogyny, whatever others may say. Of course your time as a HUMAN BEING, male or female, is valuable.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/18 12:47 AM
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What do you mean by love him vs love things about him? It’s the “things about” someone that make me love them so I’m a little confused. Happy to answer the question though, just need a little clarification.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/18 03:39 AM
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I’d totally be interested. I don’t know the difference between IRC and Discord but would use either or if someone taught me how. Also I use Reddit exclusively on my iPhone app (which is why I never have any flair ☹️) so I can’t tell what layout I’m on.
/r/RedPillWives15/08/18 05:50 PM
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Thank you!! All of this advice is very helpful and you’ve given me some great tips. Going to look into the things you mentioned in your last paragraph! Very cool that you met your fiancé via EH without even trying. One of my best friends had the same thing happen!! And I have to admit that even though they met online their story was still pretty darn cute.
/r/RedPillWives15/08/18 05:31 PM
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I wish, hahah but no, West Coast USA here. :) and no, actually I haven’t. That’s a good idea now that you mention it though. But my only fear is that it would come off desperate.
/r/RedPillWives15/08/18 05:28 PM
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Why does he want full access? Have you done something to make him skeptical? Has he been cheated on in the past? Do you have full access to his technology? Does he think this is normal for relationships? I wouldn’t be so bold as to say “drop his ass” but this is a little bit excessive.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/18 05:17 PM
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Okay, hard truth time. I had to learn this same lesson. That 189 pounds looks worse on you than you think. I’m 5’6 and a classic hourglass as well, and I got up to 175 at my heaviest and thought “oh it’s not so bad, I’m an hourglass so I carry it well” I didn’t realize just how bad it really was until I was trying on a dress and a snooty sales associate informed me that I needed to go at least three sizes bigger. At 175 I was dangerously close to obesity. At 189 (I pulled a BMI calculator) you a…
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/18 02:57 PM
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I hope moving will be good for me! Definitely appreciate your point about being the person I want to attract. That’s a great reminder. I definitely consider myself an extrovert. I have many friends, and do go to a young adults group at my church. It just seems like all the guys I meet are taken.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/18 07:54 PM
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Very good point. It doesn’t have a prescribed playbook. I like the meet up idea. I’ll look into that.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/18 07:52 PM
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That’s helpful to know. Mainly I dislike that it feels like an interview, and that it feels very....forced? I’m not sure the right word to use. There’s no gradual getting to know the person and deciding you have feelings for each other. There’s no mystery and I like a bit of mystery. It’s clear from the beginning what you’re both about. It just feels like a very practical, business transactiony way of going about things and I don’t love that.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/18 07:52 PM
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You make a good point and I appreciate it! Especially your last sentence about experiencing them all or risk missing the chance to tell all the other stories. I should probably clarify, it isn’t so much not liking the story of how we met, it’s more that I don’t like what feels like an “interview” style approach to dating.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/18 07:50 PM
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As a recent college grad I totally agree. College is the BEST place to meet guys statistically. But when girls don’t find a husband before they leave, it’s usually not because NONE of the men were good enough. It isn’t that simple. 1.Sometimes the girl never got asked out (I have friends like this) RP makes it sound like guys will ask anyone out and have no standards and girls are the only ones doing the rejection. This is just not true. Some girls are wallflowers or overweight and unattractive.…
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/18 03:59 PM
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That sounds super fascinating. I’d love to hear more about it.
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/18 07:23 PM
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Honestly I’ve never understood this “men date and marry down” notion. I’ve seen countless fat, balding men who aren’t wealthy with gorgeous women. And I’ve seen plain looking women with very attractive men. Call me a hopeless romantic but there really is something to be said for personality and individual compatibility. Outsiders will probably always see one half of a couple as having married down but relationships work best if both people involved see themselves as having married up.
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/18 03:19 PM
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I’m one of them, and the answer is both. Because a well written (OPs letter isn’t well written but that’s a separate issue) letter that reminds you of how you fought through the bad times together and grew as a couple to get to more good times would be a very good keepsake.
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/18 03:01 PM
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I disagree about it not being a subject you should write a letter about. It depends on the circumstances. With some guys (like my ex) a letter works way better than in person communication. I’ve written several to him about hard issues and it’s gone over amazingly well because he’s a major introvert so it gives him space and time before responding, which is something he really values. It also prevents us from rabbit trailing the conversation which frequently happens in person, and gives me space…
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/18 10:16 PM
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Been there. Best response “it’s okay babe, sometimes it’s one of those days :)” and leave it at that. He will do the rest.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/18 01:14 PM
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Fascinating Womanhood revolutionized my life. More specifically Secrets of Fascinating Womanhood, which I actually liked better than the original. I wish I had discovered it years sooner.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/18 02:57 AM
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It made such a difference!!
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/18 02:56 AM
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Hmm. I’d say my biggest issue has always been wanting to fix things. I guess I think like a guy on that lol. Because when someone mentions a problem I tend to leap to solving it. And so realizing that most of the time, men don’t WANT you to solve their problems, was helpful for me. I’ve learned to never say “you should” I try to avoid making suggestions 80 percent of the time because I make them way too often but if I do have a suggestion, I say “have you thought about” because that’s acknowledg…
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/18 10:19 PM
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Depending on the weather, tight spandex shorts or basic black leggings, fitted work out tanks/jackets in girly colors, and my personal favorite secret....pearl (they can be fake) earrings. I LOVE the look of pearls with athleisure. A delicate pair makes you look a little dressy and girly without looking high maintenance or ridiculous on a camping/hiking trip.
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/18 10:13 PM
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Absolutely! Unfortunately my last relationship still ended because my RP behavior was too little too late, but when I did act in a submissive, feminine, and above all, RESPECTFUL way, the difference in response I got was astonishing from when I acted like a nagging shrew who always had to upstage him.
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/18 09:27 PM
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Being worth the work.
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/18 12:43 AM
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YOU ARE AMAZING . Keep writing please!!
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/18 11:56 PM
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Genuine question cause I’ve wondered this for a while, how much does someone have to have travelled to be “accurately” able to list it as a major hobby?
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/18 06:54 PM
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This is a little confusing. Because I don’t think too many girls get with guys they don’t consider hot so I feel like it’s hard (for me at least) to be objective. I feel like all the guys I’ve been with are hot or I wouldn’t have been with them. So even the LEAST hot one is still pretty great. And that’s assuming everyone would even agree on who the least hot one is. But different people have different taste so the guy I personally think is the least hot guy I’ve been with, someone else might th…
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/18 07:26 PM
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Right? I don’t exist either. I swallowed the red pill at the ancient spinster age of......20. My incentives? Well first, there is a definite desire to be happily married and a supportive, loving wife who would be an asset to a high quality man rather than a liability. Second, I actually care about these things for more than just myself. I care about our society and culture and the direction that we are moving. I want to see the tides of this ridiculous battle of the sexes turn back and men and w…
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/18 05:49 AM
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Why am I getting downvotes for thanking you for your comment? Are you serious? This is why I’m deleting this app tonight. 😑
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/18 01:03 AM
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Right?! And that guy had the nerve to get on here and tell people how to run their lives. Made me feel a little sick tbh.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/18 10:26 PM
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I agree completely. People have zero filter on the internet and it’s a side of some people I don’t wish to see. In real life people are far more temperate on these things!
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/18 10:25 PM
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Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/18 10:24 PM
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Thank you very much for the advice! Much appreciated :)
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/18 10:24 PM
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AMAZING POST. One of the most insightful things I’ve ever read. I don’t know how to give gold stars. If I did I’d give you one
/r/RPChristians13/07/18 05:54 PM
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I highly recommend the book Fascinating Womanhood. She deals with this issue in a bit more depth than Laura Doyle. I think you’d like it!
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/18 02:54 PM
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You notice how only girls ever post these sorts of things? I’ve never seen a guy advertise all their negative qualities on a dating profile. I really would love to know when it started to be seen as a good idea to proudly advertise all the things that used to be seen as “dirty laundry” it’s so insanely trashy.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen13/07/18 01:49 PM
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Where is the issue here? She doesn’t say she hooks up, just that she doesn’t like the hookup culture. I can’t stand the hookup culture either. I don’t engage in it because I can’t stand it. Don’t y’all on this sub also not like the hookup culture because it promotes hypergamy in your view? I must be missing something.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen13/07/18 01:44 PM
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Please do!!
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/18 04:16 PM
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Doesn’t affect opinion whatsoever for me. Won’t lower my interest in a guy, won’t increase my interest. One caveat though, there does tend to be a correlation between guys not having social media and me liking them. But this is more about them being sigmas and not caring about that whole circus, guys like that tend to be what I always go for, and less about the actual act of not having social media. I personally don’t have Facebook but my opinion was the same when I did. I do have Instagram but …
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/18 11:01 AM
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Not even going to enter the abstinence discussion but I just have to say that this sort of thing infuriates me. If your ENTIRE Reddit history is full of porn you have ZERO place telling people how to live their sex lives. ZERO. zip. nada. Zilch. Honestly, I understand men and women are different, sex affects us differently blah blah blah. But you sound like a full on sex addict. Go away.
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/18 05:24 PM
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Her baggage is that she has this FWB that she left her boyfriend for, and then left the FWB but it’s his fault not hers, and she’s “so alpha widowed she will never recover” but instead of following the enormous amount of advice she’s been given to go into nun mode and work on herself she continues to date new guys she’s not ready for and gripe about their fingers. She posts here all the time about this nonsense. I’m not even giving advice this time because she hasn’t listened the past four or fi…
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/18 03:28 PM
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Hey! Sadly, cards were spot on last time. I was the 10 of swords girl. So now what I want to know is when will I next get into a relationship? Also I’m leaving for another continent in just a couple days. Will this be a positive or a negative for my love life?
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/18 06:32 PM
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Hi! I’m glitterchild. I’m 24 and newly back in the dating game after two years of what we call on RedPillWomen nun mode (the first year voluntary, the second year not so much) after a nasty breakup. I’m an active member of RedPillWomen and was invited to this sub by another active member over there after I voiced my disappointment with the direction of that sub. It’s been a valuable resource to me in navigating the harsh truths of the red pill. But lately the advice and posts have been getting a…
/r/RedPillWives13/06/18 06:30 PM
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I recognize a lot of y’all. I’m a regular poster over there. Mainly because A. It’s way more active, and B. I’m not married or even close to it. But while some of the advice is awesome, a lot of it is extremely inconsistent and not very good and has been making me more and more irritated. Not to mention the fact that red pilled guys seem to troll that sub for posts they can make fun of on other subs that shall not be named but are quite hostile to women. I was invited to check out this sub by an…
/r/RedPillWives13/06/18 05:19 PM
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Well that sucks :(
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 12:28 PM
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Thanks for the help! I didn’t get a chance to respond before the comment was removed. But I very clearly stated in my post that that was not the case
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 12:47 AM
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Thank you, I like this approach.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 12:18 AM
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Thank you for the insight!
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 12:18 AM
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This is my exact opinion. I feel deceitful saying I’m a virgin because that implies no guys have had sexual intimacy with me and that’s not true. But at the same time PIV (and anal) are major activities in and of themselves that someone will be the first (and ideally only) guy to experience with me. So I don’t want that guy to not realize that he’s the first. Thanks for your point about context. I definitely don’t give it up quick so thankfully that’s not something I need to worry about. In fact…
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 12:17 AM
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Thank you, this is helpful! I feel like I’m way overthinking it.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 12:14 AM
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Step 1: block him. Phone number, all social media etc. Step 2: STOP POSTING ABOUT HIM HERE. You post practically every day about this guy, all that’s doing is keeping him front and center in your brain. Knock it off. Step 3: self improvement. Set practical goals. Work every day to meet them. Step 4: socialize. I wouldn’t focus on meeting men, you’re in no place for that right now, but meet women, make friends, enjoy your new city. Eventually you will heal. Sometimes you just need time. Took me t…
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/18 10:37 PM
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Fun :) I’d like to ask the cards whether things are headed in the direction I’m hoping with this new guy I’m seeing or not.
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/18 05:47 PM
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Why are people down voting you? You’re being honest. You can’t just downvote a person because you don’t like the truth of their situation. It’s no less true.
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/18 12:44 AM
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For sure! Well I can tell you what my reasons AREN’T. The ridiculous assumptions made by u/grandmasbroach that it’s because I’m looking for my beta bucks after having hopped off the CC. Which btw, simply bothering to read my actual comment, let alone any of my posting and commenting history in this sub would reveal is not the case. Anyway, snarkiness aside, to answer your question, it’s more of a negative association that goes along with high N count men. The way I see it is, if a man has a high…
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/18 11:12 PM
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To me they are. I’m in no way recommending women stack up a high N count and think it’s a good idea. You’re talking to a virgin in her early twenties. I’m simply saying high N counts in men are ALSO unattractive to a great many women, myself included. And that such men don’t deserve to be insistent on a virgin. But to other women it’s not an issue. And to some men, high N count in women is not an issue. Which is why my whole point is that it’s highly subjective.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/18 08:47 PM
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You’re absolutely right. I’m not trying to give any advice (and personally would feel very poorly qualified to give it on this subject) thank you for helping me clarify. :) and FWIW, I’m one of those women that prefers a lower N count guy so that definitely affects my view. The responses to this comment I think go a long way to demonstrate my primary point, which is that it’s very personal to the couple.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/18 08:43 PM
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I’m curious what other people think too! I think it’s very relative to the couple tbh. Religions, ages, cultural backgrounds, etc. will all come into play. I also think HIS n count is a factor. A guy with a high n count demanding a virgin for marriage is no different than a girl with a high n count who “is tired of the players and wants a guy that’s willing to wait” both have been there, done that, don’t like it, and want to have their cake and eat it too. It doesn’t work that way.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/18 07:45 PM
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I stopped reading at “he liked another female’s photo on instagram” Good lord, from the types of posts we keep getting these past few weeks I honestly feel like we need a “RPW 101” post of some kind, for just the very basics of what not to do. That’s a serious request btw. If anyone wants to write one, I think a lot of people need it.
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/18 10:11 PM
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Oh my word. Okay, first of all, you can not increase your smv drastically enough in two weeks to make any sort of difference. Second, alpha dude left you what, less than a month ago? Of course you’re going to feel alpha widowed. You need to give yourself some time to be ready for the dating market. You’re not remotely ready for it. The pain is way too fresh. You need to be in VOLUNTARY nun mode. Third, quit thinking so robotically about RP lingo. It’s meant to make you aware of the way the world…
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/18 02:38 PM
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First of all, get off Reddit!! This sub is great for harsh truths but tbh sometimes (by putting the idea of “alpha” guys and hypergamy in your head) , it’s easy to get that on the brain to the point where you see behavior in men that is actually a GOOD trait, like generosity, as “weakness” That’s a lie spread by bitter men on TRP who don’t know the idea of balance. The real world is not an internet sub where everyone fits into nice little boxes. Get off Reddit until you can get yourself in check…
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/18 01:05 AM
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Thank you. Honestly, I’m really not trying to be rude and I am not going to tell her she’s posted here like I did the last time. But I agree with you. This girl is ADMITTING and UNDERSTANDING her own nature. She KNOWS it’s hypergamy and said that in the title. And every commenter telling her to leave him she’s pushing back against. She’s making it clear that she wants to be with him but is struggling with her own hypergamy and wants advice for OVERCOMING it. Not justifying it. It’s honestly real…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/06/18 12:57 AM
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You need to give waaaaaay more info on your curren relationship for anyone to begin to know whether it’s salvageable
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/18 05:48 AM
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Hey there! I’m a social worker in my non Reddit life and work with a lot of people in extremely similar situations to yours. If you want, you can send me a PM and I can try to give some advice. :)
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/18 05:19 PM
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I’m sorry that that happened. I don’t agree with a lot of things the mods do honestly, particularly the way they treat guys. They get angry when a guy says “man here” because “your gender makes no difference” and to me it absolutely does make a difference because if I’m trying to get a high quality MAN I want to know what MEN think. I’m guessing that they are hostile because we’ve had a LOT of rude and angry guys come on the sub just to yell at us. But I still don’t think that excuses the way th…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen30/05/18 06:21 AM
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I apologize if this is seen as argumentative. I don’t mean for it to be but if it is the mods can let me know and take it down. I just want to clarify because I know our lingo sounds extremely strange to anyone who doesn’t frequent the sub. Yes, that’s exactly what a red pill woman is doing. She’s waking up to her own nature. Many women can and do realize not only our own inherent flaws but also how far society tips the scales unfairly in our favor, and we don’t like it. RPW is our attempt to “w…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen30/05/18 01:06 AM
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This is the creepiest thing I’ve ever read. No man in his sane mind tries to impregnate a girl he met a month and a half ago. No high value female puts up with that sort of guy for a second. Block him, drop him, raise your standards drastically. Sorry if that sounds harsh but I seriously shuddered just reading this.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/18 05:30 AM
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So how do you recommend handling guys who DON’T want to maintain that boundary? This is the problem I have. I try to maintain the level of friendship you describe with guys I’m not interested in romantically, particularly when I’m in a relationship. But they tend to try to force the issue.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/18 05:39 PM
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Gotcha. I’ve recently discovered that all my guy friends would sleep with me. This is something I was previously very unaware of and is what prompted me to ask the question. It’s a tough spot to be in, because many of the guys I’m referencing, I genuinely enjoy their company the same way I would enjoy that of my female friends, but I don’t want to sleep with them, and that seems to be a problem for a lot of people.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/18 05:25 PM
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Can confirm. Work for federal social program. Selective service registration is mandatory for men hoping to get benefits through the program.
/r/MensRights18/05/18 02:25 PM
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Hello, just a heads up, I almost guarantee the mods are gonna take this down and tell you to post it on a sub called r/asktrp. Ifyou aren’t familiar with that sub, it’s a Q&A sub for guys from a red pill perspective. But right now your post is still here so I’ll answer as best I can. :) I have some good news for you! The answer is NO, these girls are very likely NOT your league (disclaimer, that’s based on just the info provided) because girls date, marry, and have sex up. One of the widely ackn…
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/18 01:50 PM
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So cool :) I love happy field reports like this one! I’ve struggled to get really into Laura Doyle personally, but this is making me want to reread her. I’ve definitely had similar results with Fascinating Womanhood! Kudos to you for making positive changes and congrats on enjoying the results.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/18 01:33 AM
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This is a good reminder! Even a good look at TRP confirms that. Thank you :)
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/18 02:03 PM
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You’re absolutely right. I’m not doing too badly for myself and could honestly handle myself without him if I had to, but I would never want to. Life would feel so much more hollow. It’s nice to be reminded that men feel the same.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/18 02:02 PM
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You are definitely right, thanks for bringing me back down to earth with that reminder. The TRP voices scream loud sometimes (and I’m not trying to disparage them because I think they make a lot of positive difference in the lives of men who are miserable) but they don’t have it right on everything, theoretically I know that, but it’s easy to get anxious anyway.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/18 02:01 PM
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Thank you. :) this was super encouraging to hear. I agree, nobody can replace a GOOD wife, it seems like so much of our society is trying so so hard to do that and it sends me into a little bit of a panic. But truly, considering the happiest men are those in HAPPY marriages, those efforts are obviously not succeeding.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/18 01:59 PM
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Thank you! You’re so right, I don’t think the importance of gratitude can honestly be stated enough. You are right too about not assuming the worst, that’s been an Achilles heel of mine in relationships in the past.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/18 01:57 PM
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This is true. :) He chose you for a reason right? I’ve always put more stock in the intangibles generally but sometimes those “on paper value discrepancies” really trip me up. Thank you for this insight!
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/18 01:55 PM
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Thank you for this practical approach, I’ll put these tips to good use!
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/18 01:52 PM
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Keep your head up. :) I truly don’t think it was your fault. At all. A 23 year old virgin is a very high value woman in our society. Some guys are just looking for casual sex and you can be the best woman in the world and you won’t be able to change that, particularly without having ever met the guy face to face. This is a HUGE factor. Think about it. I’m sure he has women where he’s at, he can have sex with them, he can date them, he can commit to them, so why would a guy with a casual sex mind…
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/18 03:20 PM
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How old are you?
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/18 01:05 AM
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Honestly, you’re being too hard on yourself. A navel piercing, living in Africa for a year to do humanitarian work, and having a liberal arts degree are not red flags. If they are I’m as screwed as you. And six appears to be a low partner count compared to most of the girls on here surprisingly. Honestly, you’re aware of the problem and you’re doing what you can to manage it. That’s about all you can do.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/18 01:04 AM
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This may be the first thing you’ve said on this post that I agree with. It’s honestly not THAT hard for even average looking guys to get a girlfriend (unless I’m just surrounded by all alphas without realizing, which I doubt very much) the only incels I know are either genuinely ugly or have such poor social skills that women are scared of ending up in their freezer.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/18 07:28 PM
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I don’t like a high N count. It’s a turn off for me. Not a dealbreaker, because there’s definitely something to be said for being the one he commits to. But all other things being equal I’d take a lower N count.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/18 04:38 AM
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Yeah, for religious reasons
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/18 03:25 AM
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Gotcha. Fair enough. Fortunately for me I’m neither over 25 nor fat. But I would agree it’s probably pretty rare of a find
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/18 03:18 AM
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I actually have no clue whether you’re being sarcastic or not.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/18 01:31 AM
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I’m a virgin. And never done anal. But I have sucked two dicks....four years apart. Guess I must be a slut.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/18 01:14 AM
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Virgins don’t exist?
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/18 12:57 AM
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I disagree, the man who alpha widowed me asked. But we are both religious (me more than him) so that may be a distinction.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/18 10:47 PM
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I love this outlook!
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/18 09:55 PM
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Yay for a follow up to our conversation yesterday! I think I may be in the minority of women here in that two out of three of my exes asked about my N count (as have the bulk of the guys who have asked me out but been rejected) and as some fun entertainment for you all, blue pill glitterchild was such an idiot that I lied about my sexual experience in the other direction! Cause I thought no guy would want a “prudish” virgin. Yes, please feel free to laugh at my expense lol. I won’t be making tha…
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/18 08:43 PM
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I agree 150%
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/18 04:42 AM
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I don’t think that’s a great way of securing trust though, not a good framework. But I do agree on not disclosing it.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/18 09:04 PM
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I’m inclined to agree with you about just not bringing it up. I don’t feel comfortable with the idea of lying personally. But agree a hundred percent you shouldn’t publicize it. But I’m curious to hear the other commenter’s opinion because he doesn’t think that approach is a good one and I’d be curious to hear an alternate perspective.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/18 08:40 PM
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This comment is awesome and should be voted higher. Best comment in this thread :). I have a question for you because of something you brought up. The idea that this sub tells women to cover up their slutty past and act like angels. My question for you is what should they do instead? If a girl with a slutty past finds the red pill, sees her errors, and wants to change, how should she handle it in the future?
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/18 08:16 PM
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Great post. Should be required reading. Take all my upvotes. :)
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/18 07:36 PM
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Thank you for the tip. :) I appreciate it and that is definitely the plan. I think you’re still missing my point a bit though, because I’m not asking for someone who thinks it CAN’T happen to him. I’m asking for someone who trusts me enough (after careful vetting) to think it WON’T happen to him, or at the very least that the rewards outweigh the risks. But we can agree to disagree on this, I do very much appreciate the advice.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/18 01:10 PM
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You’ve been posted on r/whereareallthegoodmen just an FYI.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/18 06:27 AM
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Yeah, I am in the states (the hyper liberal West Coast no less) so sadly this is very true, and so I don’t deny it’s still very risky for a man. But I think a little less so, because divorce is only acceptable in extreme circumstances. So vetting properly for a woman who is committed to the religion would, I think, (and for my sake I hope) make him feel a bit safer.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/18 04:54 AM
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Well the only reason I used examples from the previous generation is because the people in my generation haven’t been married long enough yet for me to safely say that they probably won’t divorce, but I know plenty of people in their 20s and 30s who have marriages that are great so far. Maybe my experience varies a bit because of my religion and the fact that most people I know are the same religion, and marriage is taken very seriously. Edit: typo
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/18 02:00 AM
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Agreed. And if I agreed that marriage was the incorrect choice I would agree with you. But since I don’t, it isn’t a problem for me. I genuinely don’t believe marriage is a bad choice for man. Risky? Absolutely. Bad? Not necessarily. Like all of us I’ve seen marriages gone wrong ruin men’s lives, but I’ve also seen marriage done right be the best thing that ever happened to both men and women. My own parents are an example. 25 years and counting. My grandparents are at almost 70 years. My aunt a…
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/18 12:32 AM
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You are very right. On all counts. But more and more men are waking up, and I don’t blame them although that hurts me by extension. But I don’t think I could respect a blue pilled guy. Perhaps I’ll have to find a purple pilled one although that’s probably even harder.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/18 10:27 PM
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Yes to this! If you don’t have ugly clothes you won’t wear them. That made such a difference in my wardrobe.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/18 10:04 PM
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This is a great comment. I agree sadly with all of these factors playing in. But that makes me sad. Sad for all the guys who have been screwed over primarily, the main factor that drove me to actively identify as anti feminism was hearing about all the men who kill themselves, primarily because of being so screwed over. I hate it. I’d outlaw no fault divorce and severely restrict alimony in a heartbeat. But it also makes me selfishly sad for myself and OP and women like us. Because women in gene…
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/18 09:56 PM
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Thank you!! I wish I knew how to give gold stars. This is the best comment I’ve seen on this thread. :) I’ve been sitting here trying to phrase a response and you said it perfectly.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/18 09:41 PM
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I know what branch swinging is, I’m not advocating that. I’m talking about choosing the man you are willing to commit to in the first place, not swinging away after you’ve found one.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/18 08:18 PM
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I can definitely answer number 2. Yes absolutely. It definitely depends on who you are but for many women (myself included) we value the man making the first move enough that even if he’s on our mind all day long we won’t initiate a conversation because we want him to do the pursuing.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/18 08:11 PM
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Burning question that I’ve been reflecting on lately. I’ve asked it before sort of but am still unclear. Why do I so often see this sub promote the idea of settling for “Mr good enough”? We talk a lot here about unrealistic expectations and I support that concept wholeheartedly. If you’re an obese 40 year old shrew with purple hair and an n count of 50 who is ethically opposed to cooking for your man because “the patriarchy” than obviously you don’t deserve a top tier guy. But shouldn’t the answ…
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/18 08:08 PM
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Having read this and Surrendered Single I would definitely recommend this one first and foremost. Surrendered Single is helpful in landing a man once you’re already the sort of woman who deserves one, Fascinating Womanhood helps you become the sort of woman who deserves one.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/18 07:46 PM
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I wish I knew what to tell you. I honestly do. I can’t imagine how much that hurts. I suppose the only thing I can really say is that it’s perfectly understandable in your case to not be willing to go down that road again, nobody could fault you for it.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/18 02:02 PM
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Good lord do people really believe this? I have no idea how many times I have to point this out on this sub but as I’ve said before my mom found a husband at 33 and had perfectly healthy kids at 34, 37, and 39. She could have had a great many more kids too, she didn’t hit menopause til her early fifties.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/18 01:58 PM
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Not at all!! I really hope I didn’t imply they were! In case I did, I want to mention again that I can absolutely understand a man wanting one, and I can respect it. Especially one who has been burned before, or even just one who has seen others burned. I’ve seen it myself and the lasting damage it causes. It’s heartbreaking and any rational man needs to take it seriously. As long as both parties are okay with it more power to them. I’m only saying that they aren’t compatible partners for me bec…
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/18 08:20 AM
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He absolutely is. You’re 100 percent right. But that’s exactly the point. In good faith. That’s that trust factor. If he doesn’t trust me not to leave he can do us both a favor and not propose. If I don’t trust myself not to leave, I can do us both a favor and not accept. Once you say I do it’s final (barring the circumstances I mentioned in my last comment) You can’t expect to have a successful marriage if you go in preparing for failure. In most circumstances it’s a wise idea, but a marriage i…
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/18 07:32 AM
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Amen
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/18 03:14 AM
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I don’t take it as argumentative. :) I guess it just really rankles me when people say things like “nowadays blah blah blah” because I could care less about “nowadays”and I can’t control the year I was born. I live how I want to live. That said, you have way more right to be rankled than I do because you’ve been screwed over. And I admit I don’t know what to tell you. I’m not a fan of prenups and would never agree to one, but for someone like you I can’t say I’d blame you for insisting on one in…
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/18 03:13 AM
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Yes. Commitment has to entail marriage for me. Because commitment is about trust. It’s about trusting the other person NOT to leave you and screw you over. If you can’t trust them you have no business being with them. That’s where vetting comes in.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/18 06:57 PM
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OP I agree with you. Tbh while I am one hundred and fifty percent a supporter of red pill philosophy, and agree with the other commenters about how modern western women think it’s acceptable to offer nearly nothing to a romantic prospect except for a list of demands a mile long, I do think this sub and others have a tendency to swing a little more the other direction than I do. I still cling (and always will sorry everyone) to the so called soulmate view. I don’t believe any feminine woman and a…
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/18 02:32 PM
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Is he working? This post implies you’re the breadwinner
/r/RedPillWives29/04/18 09:54 PM
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Um yeah they do. I’ve had a relationship start that way . Best friends turned FWB turned exclusive relationship. It’s not common I’m sure but it’s not laughably unheard of either.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/18 02:50 AM
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8 days a month?! Good lord I feel sorry for you. Longest period I ever heard of.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/18 01:15 AM
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Thank you for calling my career interesting and high social value! 😊 In other news, awesome post, I agree completely! I remember we’ve talked about this a bit in another thread a few months ago. Take all my upvotes
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/18 04:28 AM
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I’m with you 110%. Life is no fun when you don’t allow yourself to be appreciative and dare I even say dependent on others to add value to your life. Being a tough “I don’t need no man” woman doesn’t help you, your man, or anyone around you enjoy life. Don’t get me wrong, I think you should be able to take care of yourself. I’m financially independent and can handle myself fine on my own if I have to, but why would you if you don’t have to? I’m not as much of a Laura Doyle fan as some posters ar…
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/18 07:24 PM
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I think objectively that nobody SHOULD be lucky to have their SO. They should be within the same league and equally matched, but for an amazing and healthy relationship I think it’s great if they both FEEL lucky to have their SO, and see them as far out of their league (even though objective bystanders wouldn’t) because that creates a “biggest fan” element that I think is a huge part of a successful relationship. Nobody wants to feel settled for. Men don’t. Women don’t. Nobody does. Everyone wan…
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/18 11:09 PM
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Eeeek, I believe you about the hypothetical scenario with the 5 girl and 10 guy but I have to totally disagree with you that a girl would do the same. If a 5 guy came up to me and said meet him in the bathroom etc. I would be creeped out and run away.
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/18 04:40 PM
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I knew just from the description that the second one was going to be Valeria! I love her videos!!
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/18 03:46 PM
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Hahah I gotta agree with you there! The antelope valley sucks as far as quality of guys. (LA girl here) but you’re not far from Edwards AFB. There are probably tons of guys that are your type there.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/18 01:57 AM
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What do you consider breaking frame?
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/18 07:03 PM
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A few thoughts.... I agree totally about the messages from some red pilled men. I’m not trying to knock TRP as a strategy but some of the men in it come across EXTREMELY poorly, and not “alpha” in the slightest. I read the comments that poster made about you and they were extremely rude and totally uncalled for (although to be fair, your comments to him didn’t shout kindness and maturity either) You are so so right about the “just take any man, have babies, and be happy” thing. This is probably …
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/18 01:44 PM
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Hey hey! I’m on the Whole30 too! Just started yesterday :) How are you liking it so far?
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/18 01:24 PM
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I love a blog post on The Rules Revisited (sorry, I can’t link it from my phone, I tried) called Feminine Beauty is Highly Controllable. I would highly recommend reading it. It really changed the way I view my appearance and increased my confidence because it shows that even if you have a few “unfortunate” features, you can still be pretty highly attractive by maximizing everything you can control (sounds like you’re already doing that, so this will help increase your confidence in that) also wi…
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/18 03:54 PM
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FYI she referred to him as her husband and has a detailed post history involving him.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/18 03:22 PM
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I really don’t understand why people get so worked up over alcohol in one direction or the other. Everyone is either “omg alcohol is life, can’t have fun without it, is it the weekend so I can get wasted yet?” Or “oh my gosh, alcohol is terrible, people shouldn’t drink, it’s gross and unfeminine and wrong” Both sides of the coin are ridiculous IMO. It’s just drinking. Do it if you want. Don’t do it if you don’t want. I do think getting sloppy drunk is extremely unfeminine but drinking socially i…
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/18 07:51 PM
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Honestly, the something being off was probably his frustration/embarrassment at himself. Not you.
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/18 05:18 PM
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Yes please!!
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/18 03:35 AM
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I’m a millennial! (And fellow SoCal girl) And while finding a partner with compatible values hasn’t been a struggle for me, feeling like I don’t fit in with my generation definitely has. I don’t love the attitudes of most twenty somethings but I’ve learned to just be friendly, not get in debates, and “lead by action” if you will. The best way to get people to change their attitudes is to show them the benefits of the changed attitude.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/18 03:33 AM
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If you keep it off forever how have you already lost value? I’d think if anything you gained value...
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/18 02:58 AM
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I don’t think I’m explaining myself well, I agree totally about not taking a new relationship too seriously, but I see this as an example of not taking it seriously enough. One of the most common ways of describing a relationship is “more than friends” yeah? Well by inviting a mixed gender group of friends (as opposed to a “just the guys” trip) and NOT inviting your exclusive, committed girlfriend (if she was a plate or in the initial vetting process, of course this would be different) you’re ba…
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/18 01:29 PM
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You’ve been in a committed relationship for four months (at the time)and he’s leaving you out of this group thing? That tells me he doesn’t take you seriously. I would get if it was a guys trip, but he’s inviting a mixed gender group of friends and not his own girlfriend? I don’t know, I mean I obviously don’t know the guy but I don’t think that’s a good sign. As far as her specifically though, I do agree with the other poster, she had no reason not to back out in front of you, I mean for all sh…
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/18 02:20 AM
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Thank you for the point about being patient. I know it’s not something to expect immediate results on but it’s kind of hard not to.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/18 11:02 PM
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Thank you, I’ve been working on this, this is a great reminder.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/18 11:01 PM
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How long have y’all been together? To be honest, I’m seeing red flags here but not so much in his friendship with her (especially since she has a bf) worst case scenario, he was friend zoned by her. But I really see red flags in the fact that he doesn’t seem to take your relationship very seriously. You seem to be playing second fiddle to his friends. Now I would get this if you two were still in the non exclusive vetting stage but when commitment has been established, you shouldn’t be playing s…
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/18 10:48 PM
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Man, this hit me hard and was really discouraging. But I’m not denying it’s truth! After all, I didn’t swallow the pill for comfort. I’m curious what advice would you give someone who has gone really far in that direction but can’t tell for sure if she’s gone too far?
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/18 01:44 PM
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I figured someone else would be able to relate! LOVE these ideas :) you’re doing an awesome job at being a soft landing and an escape from it all, I bet your man really appreciates it. Stealing these tips!
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/18 02:38 AM
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Amen, exactly what I’m going for.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/18 02:35 AM
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Thank you! This is really helpful. I can see that it’s a big focus of yours to be an escape if you will. I find that interesting because now that you mention it, he’s definitely hinted at that to me before, quite a few times. Will put a focus on that. :)
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/18 02:32 AM
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I would go. She’s his mom for better or worse. She’s going to be in your life for a very long time if you end up together, and wouldn’t you prefer that be as enjoyable as possible? This could actually be a great opportunity if you look at it in a positive light. She can get to know you better, one on one, and you may be able to sway her opinion. Just remember that even if you have nothing else in common, you both love her son. That’s some pretty major common ground.
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/18 07:17 PM
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Thank you! This is helpful, I’ll try to scheme some ways to do that. Do you have any specific thoughts on what to say in the actual conversation piece when he’s talking to me about it? I think “ I’m sorry, that’s frustrating” just doesn’t really cut it. And I don’t want to say “you can do it” because he’s a realist and knows it’s out of his control to an extent so that just sounds patronizing. But I want to sound like his cheerleader.
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/18 07:01 PM
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This really helps clarify, thank you! I agree completely.
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/18 06:50 PM
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That’s the vibe I got as well. And by that definition I agree with him. Whining and complaining isn’t masculine or attractive. But I don’t consider that vulnerability. And I don’t think vulnerability is a gendered thing or that it’s in any way preventable, unless you harden yourself completely and don’t allow yourself to care for anyone or anything. To care for anyone or anything, makes you vulnerable by definition. IMO it takes a lot more strength to be vulnerable and able to handle it without …
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/18 06:49 PM
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I’m disagreeing initially but I think it’s because I’m not understanding your meaning properly. Specifically I’m curious how you’re defining vulnerability. Can you explain a little more about that part?
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/18 04:30 AM
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Hmm, at first glance it sounds to me like he’s struggling with some depression or insecurity. I’d be curious to dive a little deeper. What is his emotional state like most of the time? When did these things first start? You mentioned you have a 7 month old. Would you say that since your baby was born these issues have improved, stayed the same, or worsened? Is he going through anything especially stressful at work?
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/18 09:41 PM
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That is super thoughtful and generous of you to plan such a fun birthday for him! But I’m with everyone else on this one. You’ve been together for a month, you definitely don’t need to be spending that much. My brother and his GF are both hopeless romantics who love going all out for birthdays, they’ve also been together for almost 4 years and they STILL don’t spend that much. For his birthday maybe try making his favorite dinner and cake, plan a surprise for him, take him to a non insanely expe…
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/18 03:25 PM
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You are so right! I didn’t mean it if I came across like I thought all men were smarter than me, I mainly meant that I don’t mind if men in general are smarter than women in general because that gives me a bigger dating pool. That’s a win to me :) Individual IQ is definitely not guaranteed by gender. I agree, the rudeness is a shame because it obscured his points and I do think it’s a fun topic to discuss. It all seems to have gone down hill pretty quickly from when I had to get back to work 😬 I…
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/18 02:47 AM
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Alright, I’ll bite. I actually find this topic extremely interesting and agree with you about the strength and intelligence as a general rule. Personally, I love the idea that men are stronger and smarter than me. I could never be attracted to a man who wasn’t stronger and smarter than me. I’m not sure why women are insulted by being told that. It doesn’t mean women are stupid. I know I’m not stupid as I also have an IQ of 133, so learning that someone else is smarter doesn’t really bother me. I…
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/18 08:41 PM
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Hi there! Yes, ROK is one of my favorite websites. I much prefer it over the TRP sub when I want a male perspective :). It definitely struck quite a few chords with me. Things I’d already believed about female nature and male/female interactions but had never been able to put into words. Hypergamy for example, I had always just called it having high standards so them having a concrete word for it was a real light bulb moment. As far as what they say about women and female nature, I think a fair …
/r/RedPillWives25/01/18 04:44 AM
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You are on your first step to the right track and this random internet stranger is proud of you!! It takes a lot of insight and self discipline to leave an unhealthy situation when you have a deep emotional connection to it. You’ve shown that you have those qualities and I think you will thrive in the self improvement world. Welcome to the red pill, it’s bitter but it’s worth it. You’ll see there’s so much better stuff out there than what society has taught us to accept. :)
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/18 04:33 AM
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This was on my Facebook feed this morning too! I love it.
/r/RedPillWives25/01/18 12:35 AM
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FWIW I don’t think you sound like an ad at all. I’m not sure why people are getting so irritated with you. I appreciated hearing your experience with this because I’ve always found these meal plans interesting. I don’t have any interest personally but it’s still fun to hear about something that’s working for you.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/18 07:00 PM
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Seconding this. PS hello from a fellow west coast RPW :) I’m a lifelong Seattle and LA girl myself and I completely agree with everything you’re saying. I would even take it a step further though and say it’s not just the top one percent in places like CA and WA. It’s more like the top 40% from what I’ve seen. It’s EXPECTED here that you’ll be college educated and a white collar professional or something equally impressive if you want a high quality mate (whether you’re male or female) otherwise…
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/18 04:30 PM
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Thank you. I was going to say exactly this but you beat me to it. Have an upvote :)
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/18 07:20 PM
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Amen to this.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/18 09:26 PM
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Don’t underestimate the power of a simple but sweet text of gratitude and missing him :)
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/18 05:01 AM
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Thank you for this response, it’s very well thought out and a helpful perspective :) while it does make me feel beautiful I confess my main reason for getting it was to have it as a fun and sexy surprise for my future guy, I’d never been in a relationship when I decided to get it so that was more of an abstract idea than something I knew from experience. I suppose you could make a fair argument that it’s attention seeking in that sense, but not in the commonly meant sense where I show it off to …
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/18 04:23 AM
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I appreciate hearing a male perspective so I have no issue with what you’re saying but I’m confused on how navel rings are attention seeking. To me it seems like they are much less so than just about any other piercing because they are so hidden. Most people don’t even know I have one because I’m not much of a crop top girl. Same with short term thinking, I would argue a navel piercing (or really any piercing) is not nearly as much “short term focused” than a tattoo for example, mainly because i…
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/18 08:34 PM
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“Don’t be such a shrew!” It’s a miracle my ex put up with me as long as he did. I wish so much that I had known about STFU and not nagged and criticized him over every single thing, most of which were so not worth it Edit:typo
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/18 08:23 PM
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I have one and love it. Im single right now but my exes have been completely neutral honestly.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/18 04:42 AM
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I was raised in a tradcon Christian family that I would describe as decidedly purple pill. So I already had a bit of a foundation. As I grew up and went through high school and early college I saw so many blue pill feminist things going on and I saw the misery they caused and I just knew inherently that they were not the right way to go. I also have always been extremely open about certain red pill concepts that I just saw as common sense long before I knew there was a term for it. I also fell h…
/r/RedPillWives11/01/18 08:21 PM
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I agree completely
/r/RedPillWives11/01/18 02:43 AM
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Oh absolutely, that’s 100% true but in order to keep him in love you need to develop your personality. And so I can see how what you’re saying about 45 year olds competing with 25 year olds is a valid point but they don’t need to compete for the same guys. A fit 45 year old with great skin and a sweet personality to match is a steal to your average 55 year old. Your average non sugar baby 25 year old isn’t going to even glance at that same man.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/18 04:34 AM
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I’m gonna have to disagree with you there. They can improve their personality/mindset/and behavior. That’s the most important thing to improve. Looks get you a man, personality and character keep a man. This sub is a gold mine for that kind of inner improvement, regardless of age.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/18 02:11 AM
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I’m a little confused on what seems to be your equivalency between fat women and older women. Maybe I’m not reading your comments properly. I think there’s a big difference between fat (which is largely controllable in 97 percent of cases) and age which can’t be controlled. For an overweight woman, a thread like “don’t be fat” could be just the push they need to lose weight, so it’s no surprise at all to me that they would want to be here. People here are pushing them to be their best. Older wom…
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/18 10:13 PM
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Hi there! I’m a fellow female lurker, I enjoy reading this sub to get an honest and unfiltered male perspective. This sub can definitely be a little shocking and seem extremely harsh if you aren’t familiar with the manosphere. I’m totally with you there. What’s important to understand is that for the most part these guys are not cold hearted misogynists. These are normal (and honestly probably pretty high quality since they’re clearly independent thinkers) guys who are realizing, usually in a pr…
/r/TheRedPill04/01/18 04:21 AM
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I understand and thank you for the insight :) I will try to follow the guidelines better in the future. I agree that the hostile responses aren’t helpful, trolls or no trolls
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/17 12:43 AM
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Yay there’s more of us! Welcome :)
/r/RedPillWives23/12/17 12:40 AM
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Thank you :)
/r/RedPillWives23/12/17 12:39 AM
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Such a great community, I wish I’d found it sooner! I’m trying to soak it up like a sponge
/r/RedPillWives23/12/17 12:39 AM
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Thank you! Excited to be here :)
/r/RedPillWives23/12/17 12:38 AM
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Sorry, I’m not trying to be rude to you. I’m sure you have to give people the benefit of the doubt as a mod. I just can’t believe there’s any way a story like that could be true, it’s every storybook cliche out there. My attitude was directed at the OP. If this is a public thread I don’t see why my opinions are less welcome than anyone else’s but that isn’t really worth arguing over to me so I’ll let it go. I honestly wasn’t trying to sound rude to you and I’m sorry if it came across that way.
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/17 06:39 PM
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Thank you! It's a horrible gamble!
/r/RedPillWives11/11/17 12:23 AM
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I'm not sure if you're trolling or not but let's assume you're serious. She should definitely try to look for a better captain as you're not a captain at all, no offense. I looked through your post history, you've got bipolar, you have a kid, and you have a post from six months ago about cheating on someone, either that was her and she should have broken up with you right then or that was someone else and you do this in your relationships in general, either way you're not exactly a high quality …
/r/RedPillWives10/11/17 06:51 PM
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I love this! If there's international women's day there should absolutely be international men's day. Personally I'll be celebrating this by celebrating the men close to me and I think if everyone else does the same it could spread like wildfire. :)
/r/MensRights10/11/17 04:17 PM
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Not a dick at all, it's an important question. Nothing is more annoying than a fat blue haired " the patriarchy" chick who swears like a sailor saying she deserves her male unicorn because "muh strength and independence" I promise I'm not one of those. I'm not gonna go into a million specific details because the last girl I saw do that on here really did come off like a narcissist. There's really no easy way to talk yourself up on the internet so I prefer not to do that. But I will say that I'm …
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/17 02:02 PM
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Exactly! Thank you, someone who gets it!
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/17 01:40 PM
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It is a little bit insecure, I'd be the first to admit that. I'm a virgin so I'd always be worried about not being as good as the many girls before me, and I can't get into anything sexual without knowing a guy very well and trusting him. It's an extremely intimate thing to me, partly because of religion and partly because of my personality. So to have someone who has such a radically different view would make me very insecure and honestly I just wouldn't feel like we meshed well at all. But tha…
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/17 01:36 PM
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Oh I know I'm looking for a unicorn. I'm totally unashamed of it honestly. Although since I'm getting so much snark which is probably earned cause I left out a valuable piece of info, I should probably mention that I'm a Christian and this has a lot to do with it. What I'm describing isn't AS uncommon in Christian circles. A lot of men and women practice more restraint.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/17 01:30 PM
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It totally did. It reminds me every morning.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/17 01:25 PM
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It matters hugely to me. The guys on red pill who say "girls love you if you sleep with tons of girls!!!!" Have never met me, I've rejected multiple guys based on high N count. I want a guy who has high enough SMV to have the opportunity to sleep with tons of women, but I don't want him to actually do so because it shows low standards and I don't feel special, I feel like just another notch to be compared to all his other notches....that isn't romantic or sexy.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/17 03:20 AM
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I'm with you all the way. I'm a girl too and I've been with 2 guys in my whole 23 years.
/r/askTRP24/08/17 02:25 PM
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I don't. I have DEFINITELY met many women who do but I don't. Now if we are directly competing for a guy I'm generally not the biggest fan of the competition but I've actually been known to respect the girl game of a lot of my "competition" not like but respect 😝but girls I'm not competing with, I like just fine if they're a good person. I can't imagine what I'd do without my four best female friends. It helps hugely that none of them have my taste in guys I'll admit but those girls are my rock.…
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/17 02:43 AM
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Yes to this!
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/17 02:55 PM
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Fellow ENFP!!!
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/17 02:53 AM
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Who actually cares? You can be like minded without having the same skin color.
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/17 10:02 PM
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Same here. Finally someone who gets it! And it's as much for the guy as for me. I KNOW I'd be tempted to cheat/branch swing if I was with a beta so why would I put myself in that position? I'd much rather wait til I find someone I would actually want
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/17 01:40 AM
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Are we twins??? I'm with you on everything you've said about sigmas (and not settling for a beta)
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/17 08:26 PM
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You're very welcome :)
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/17 04:35 PM
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Yes, thank you. I think this is more what the other commenter meant and this is definitely true.
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/17 04:35 PM
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Call her out next time she does that. She's probably incredibly insecure because of her husband, and could probably use a healthy dose of the red pill. Ending the friendship straight away is incredibly selfish. At least give her a chance to fix what she's doing. Tell her straight up, I'm not comfortable being around you when you do this and say this, if you keep it up I'm not going to want to be around you. She may be grateful for someone having the guts to call her out and she may realize she n…
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/17 04:31 PM
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Yes of course in the broadest sense of the term but this is a very broad question
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/17 04:51 AM
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Um my mom had her first kid after 30, what's wrong with that? I'm all for advocating having kids young and personally want kids in my twenties but this "women can totally not get pregnant after 30 without ivf" nonsense drives me crazy. My mom had a pregnancy scare at 50! And had her last child at almost 40 with no ivf involved and none of us have birth defects or Down syndrome or any of these things you're supposedly doomed to have if you get pregnant over 30. That being said, I'm with you about…
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/17 01:33 PM
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It could definitely be because you got a rollerball, I have the island vanilla in a rollerball and a regular size and with the rollerball I have to touch up constantly, but from my experience the full size bottle had awesome longevity :)
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/17 03:38 PM
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What's wrong with your face if you don't mind my asking? I find it extremely unlikely that you need plastic surgery as there are very few people who are so ugly that they "need" it. If you have acne/bad skin, up your skincare routine, bad teeth, get braces, wonky eyebrows, shape them, a flattering haircut and proper makeup technique can and do work wonders etc.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/17 03:10 PM
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Pacífica island vanilla is the world's most amazing perfume
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/17 03:06 PM
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I love color! I also love black! Black can be EXTREMELY feminine if done right. All black outfits with pops of color are so gorgeous and striking
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/17 10:34 PM
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Frustrating situation for sure :( several thoughts... I recommend not having sex before exclusivity, it can work and turn into exclusivity, but that only happens in like 5% of cases which means the rest of the time guys relegate you to plate status, such a double standard. But it's the way it is so you have to work with it. This CAN (although you'd probably be able to tell) be a sign that he actually is interested in you. I have had beta orbiters do this to me often. I have such bad luck with gi…
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/17 01:53 PM
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You have to go :( I so hate telling you that. This was me last June 110% and I would not listen to anyone else. It ended in disaster.You have to go. He's already mentally gone so you hurt only yourself by staying.
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/17 02:09 PM
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Not OP but I would love to see more of all those things you mentioned, and also less comments like OP's responses and synthjw's response, it's okay to productively disagree with someone instead of just dismissing or insulting them because you disagree
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/17 02:03 PM
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No offense to anyone at all and I have on occasion been part of the problem but I agree with OP. This subreddit has become rather catty, and it's a lot of I don't agree with xxxx is that ok? Followed by snooty comments, which again, I've done myself before because sometimes the posts are downright exasperating but what happened to being a strong supportive community? OP just a word of advice though, don't become part of the problem. You're getting some catty responses (go figure, even on this su…
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/17 01:50 PM
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Same here!
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/17 03:39 AM
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About 3 years for belly dance, it's become my favorite type of dance, I've done dance of one sort or another since I was tiny :) how about you?
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/17 12:32 AM
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I love belly dancing!!! It makes me feel sexy and feminine and plus it's just fun! I also love me some baking so I'm a sexy granny I guess lol. Fun to see a fellow belly dance girl on here :)
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/17 12:07 AM
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Someone who isn't a brainless brat.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/17 02:19 AM
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I don't think reading a few threads makes me better than you, I think not being a brainless brat makes me better than you and I could care less if you cry yourself to sleep or celebrate, I'm just telling it like it is.
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/17 10:15 PM
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First off OP you sound like an immature brat and not very RPW at all but if you actually want a genuine answer it's very simple. Have sex when it's worth it. How you decide if it's worth it is up to you but deep down you'll know. That's how I live and I have no regrets or pain from my sexual history. Life isn't a scientific formula. Don't be an impulsive idiot ruled by your sex drive but you don't need to be a prude. When you find a man worth having sex with have it. When you find a man worth ma…
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/17 03:47 PM
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Honestly I can see both sides on this one. I agree very much with the "why buy the cow"statement but on the other hand, marriage is a HUGE commitment and in my book it's for life. Divorce is not okay unless there's cheating so I absolutely want to be positive that I'm willing to spend the rest of my life with this guy and I think living together gives you much better knowledge of what he's really like.
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/17 04:11 AM
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Because she's into you, trust me if she sees you as the best option she will work hard to prove herself to you, and your comment is exactly why. We don't want guys to see marriage as just a responsibility and a liability. Quality women want to enhance your life and make it brighter.
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/17 04:06 AM
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I'm willing to show them how I can make their life better, that's my whole goal in a relationship, but seeking them out...:that's a struggle
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/17 03:31 AM
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Ugh can we trade???? I'd kill to constantly attract intelligent lone wolf types
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/17 12:46 AM
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It does come off that way but if you read the post history it's a serious person, she's been posting for a while and her story is too consistent to be a troll
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/17 04:31 AM
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I'm with you 🙋🏻 Also 23 and tend to like older guys too. Not always but it tends to happen.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/17 03:12 AM
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Where did I say it wasn't? Clearly the fact that I have social media when none of the guys I'm ever into have it proves that. My point was that I personally don't even think about how I come off on social media to guys because the ones I like aren't on there anyways.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/17 03:09 AM
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I'd be curious to get opinions on this. For myself I rarely post at all and don't think much about it because the guys I go for always without fail loathe social media and don't even have accounts
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/17 02:09 AM
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Yeah that's a fair point, those things are a lot more awkward because they're less changeable. I personally would still rather know but I'm sure many women would disagree. I wouldn't want to be in a man's position on pointing out those things, that's for sure :/ it sounds like kinda a no win
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/17 12:50 AM
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No prob girl :) I struggle with scarcity mindset myself
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/17 11:50 PM
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Thank you for the insight, it's nice to hear from a guy's perspective. I have to say though, I would much rather a guy tell me I needed to fix something down there than just stop calling. Sex is so connected with trust for me that if I'm trusting you to see me naked I trust you to be honest with me. I remember the first time I had any sort of sexual experience, I had no idea what I was doing, my then boyfriend was very patient at explaining it, he taught me how to do it well, and I wasn't offend…
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/17 11:46 PM
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If you don't feel you know your fiancée well enough to discuss this with him.....you DEFINITELY don't know him well enough to marry him
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/17 11:16 PM
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Next!!! If you think about it a monogamous FWB is basically getting all the relationship perks with none of the drawbacks. That's incredibly selfish and unfair. Abundance mentality is something you've gotta cultivate. You're operating out of scarcity.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/17 01:09 PM
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Aw poor thing :( I feel for you, I've been through very similar. I so recommend reading Fascinating Womanhood. I would have killed for that book when I was in my last relationship. It may never have ended. Also I think you should sit down and have a sincere conversation with your man, apologizing and reaffirming how you do trust him and you want to do everything you can to show him that. Don't snoop, learn to trust. It's hard but when you're inclined to get jealous, remove yourself from the situ…
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/17 03:56 PM
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I'm in :) if it's private enough that is. Controversial views do not go well with social services work.... but if it can be private enough I WOULD LOVE getting to interact with other RPW on FB. I don't know many in real life :(
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/17 04:31 AM
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Hon, a word of advice, when I can tell without a doubt that this post was written by you by reading one sentence and not even seeing who posted it.....that's a good sign that you have got to knock this crap off. I honestly wish you were a troll. If you want to know why you have relationship problems it's because you are deluded and arrogant beyond belief. I've defended you on other posts but you just keep saying the same exact thing. And before you say I just wouldn't understand I'm a fellow Ang…
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/17 07:08 AM
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Tact. Please. Where is the class and intelligence in your comment? I'm sure you mean well and are just trying to be honest but there is a line between honest and rude and calling an internet stranger a vapid millennial whore crosses that line.
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/17 02:41 AM
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Well frankly if it was me I would totally be up for this because I'm hyper submissive sexually and would find the idea of pleasing my guy enough to earn tips incredibly sexy, more so than the money itself. I think it can be a fun game in a committed and healthy relationship if both people like the idea. However, key words COMMITTED and HEALTHY relationship. If you're spending money on cam girls you have an unfaithful and unhealthy relationship and aren't at all in a place to be making demands be…
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/17 03:10 PM
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Ironically this is a very one size fits all question. Define doesn't want commitment. From anyone or from a specific guy in question? How old is she? Why doesn't she want commitment? She doesn't want it now or she doesn't want it ever? Does she want sex without commitment? You're really oversimplifying an incredibly complex question.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/17 08:49 PM
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You seem to have a good grasp of the style you're going for, natural but classy looking. Good, that's step one. Step two, specify that. Think about that "natural yet classy"style, what specific things come to mind? Pinterest can be SUPER helpful here, browse style boards, create one of your own, pin outfits, and look at your recurring themes. This will help you get a good idea of what colors, patterns, pieces, etc you like. For example, my style is very romantic meets preppy. Think headbands, fl…
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/17 08:30 PM
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I have friends who met on vacation in Hawaii and have now been married for 25 years! It can definitely happen :) Use common sense and a degree of caution but it doesn't sound like there are any red flags so I say go for it
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/17 02:37 AM
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Amen. Maybe not everyone can get the girls they WANT but I've yet to see anyone male or female not be able to get SOMEONE, I think there's more fiction than fact in this concept.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/17 11:34 PM
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Frankly it pisses me off when people do that and I'm sorry that commenter said that, I've seen that on other threads too. Some people on here are way too quick to slap the mental disorder label on anyone who disagrees with them. That said, I don't really think asking if RPW is right for you is a very RPW thing to do. It isn't an exclusive club that you get kicked out of (hey I wish we were that cool) you can subscribe to certain aspects of it but not others and you're still totally welcome here …
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/17 02:34 AM
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Ding ding we have a winner. Came on here to say exactly this. I think OP has been reading a little too much of the male TRP side, OP I don't think it's that he isn't sexually attracted enough. 8 times in 3 days says otherwise. I suspect he doesn't think YOU would be into that. So many guys are conditioned to be ashamed of their more primal side, you may just need to subtly give him the green light that it's okay. I've had to do that before and it made a world of difference. I really don't think …
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/17 01:16 PM
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Extremely common
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/17 09:16 PM
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For me this would be a definite deal breaker. I absolutely do not think your feelings are invalid nor do I think it was wrong of you to give him chances anyway because after all you care about the guy and things are rarely that simple. On the other hand it's easy for me to say it's a deal breaker, I don't know you and I don't know him. You know him well and you care about him. You ultimately need to decide if everything else about him is worth this. One thing I've always heard said that I think …
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/17 03:43 AM
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I love MBTI! ENFP here, and single currently but last SO was INTJ and personality wise we were a perfect fit, I would definitely go for another one.
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/17 11:02 PM
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I just don't get why people are so hateful toward people they don't even know. This article blows me away. :(
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/17 12:14 AM
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You know you can message people right?
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/17 12:51 AM
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Hey girl, welcome to RPW! I think you'd be surprised how many women here come from left wing backgrounds, you are not a bit out of place :) I encourage you to read the sidebar and find out what we're all about, I'd say the biggest benefit is that it feels so natural (even though at first when you're not used to it it can feel very awkward) and freeing, because this is how it's really meant to work imo. Also seeing how happy it will make your boyfriend is a huge bonus as well, and it will most li…
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/17 02:13 PM
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You're not old!! You're 23, I'm 23 too and always get called "just a baby" you've got your whole life ahead of you and having a zero n count at 23 is impressive, that's a positive not a negative.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/17 03:02 AM
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Sorry hun but this is false. I lived in LA until very recently and got commitment from two guys while I was there, one wanted to marry me but I was young and pre RP and panicked and broke up with him. The more recent one was a hyper commitment phobic alpha type but I got him to cave. Also out of all my married friends (I've lived all over the west coast) a good 75% met their husbands in LA. If your therapist really told you guys in LA don't commit they should be fired. Also I think other posters…
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/17 01:40 PM
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Now I don't think that's a fair or true statement. I've met with women with men who definitely do not have it and women without men who do.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/17 01:30 PM
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Pardon my ignorance but is MMV like RMV?
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/17 01:25 PM
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Loving everyone's responses, some great advice. For myself I'm in year long monk mode, 3 months left, eeeek it's gone by fast since I decided to take the plunge in July. What's worked for me has been focusing on one specific thing hardcore for a month, and then mini focuses within that category each week. For example April is domestic skills month, and this week is organization. So I just go into obsession over that one thing, and what I've found is that the topics from the previous weeks and mo…
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/17 09:08 PM
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Loving everyone's responses, some great advice. For myself I'm in year long monk mode, 3 months left, eeeek it's gone by fast since I decided to take the plunge in July. What's worked for me has been focusing on one specific thing hardcore for a month, and then mini focuses within that category each week. For example April is domestic skills month, and this week is organization. So I just go into obsession over that one thing, and what I've found is that the topics from the previous weeks and mo…
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/17 09:08 PM
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As a long standing connoisseur of pranks, I wholeheartedly approve this message. Always nice to have a bit of humor in the sub from time to time
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/17 05:40 AM
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Anddddddd this is why red pill guys don't like us.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/17 03:22 AM
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23, social services work (yeah yeah I know, social worker but you're not a flaming feminist liberal? And yes my field is dominated by people who do not agree with me on many things at all, but I LOVE LOVE LOVE it and them just the same. Also you can be a traditionalist and still compassionate) okay rant over sorry ;) I'm RPW because it's always made natural intuitive sense to me, just needed some honing on the specifics. I was raised by religious and fairly conservative parents, still had a bit …
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/17 04:06 AM
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Please please write it!!
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/17 02:32 AM
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Oh how I wish I did. I'd love to have like minded friends. You'll find me in a blue pill metropolitan liberal hotspot on the west coast. I keep my more radical opinions pretty much to myself but I live RPW in my daily life and have had no problems. Sometimes it actually inspires other people and starts interesting conversations.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/17 01:45 AM
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I second the whole too many variables bit. It's not at all odd at 18 to have never been in a relationship, it is a bit odd at 35. Then you have to look at culture, SMV, location, and so many other things.
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/17 01:36 PM
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Two things, number one I am totally okay with being alone because I would much rather be alone than with a guy I don't want to be with, but I definitely see your point for girls who aren't okay with being alone, but number two, where do y'all live where only fifteen percent of guys are over six feet? On the west coast it feels like 75 % at least.
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/17 04:29 AM
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Why is that a problem though? If you want just ONE guy it doesn't matter what percent of them are over six feet. Fifteen percent is a large percent when all you need is one.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/17 03:55 AM
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Well my grandmother passed away some years ago and her husband has since married his high school sweetheart. They were both... wait for it...80! I attended their wedding and it was very sweet and they're quite happy together several years later :)
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/17 02:35 PM
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Thanks everyone for your responses! I'm honestly stunned by how so many people are completely misinterpreting me, or maybe I'm just misinterpreting what hypergamy even is. What many of you are describing is what I would call branch swinging, not hypergamy. Thanks to those of you who understood what I meant and actually answered my question. Everyone else, i don't mean leaving your partner when you have one, I mean wanting the absolute best you can get and refusing to "settle for mister good enou…
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/17 04:32 AM
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I would agree about just being interesting, I would also argue that they think extroversion ties in with confidence which, take it from an extrovert, it does not. Mmm I wouldn't so much say I would compromise on the big five, more that it is a part of my big five, swapped out for extroversion. I'm just not into extroverts. IM the bubbly and outgoing one, I want someone to balance me out.
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/17 02:29 PM
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Right? And getting to know them more and more is like a treasure hunt since not everything is an open book.
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/17 02:23 PM
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At first glance does anyone want to take bets on which word appears most? Bitter or losers? I kinda have my money on losers.
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/17 02:13 PM
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I've definitely got a type. Hahah it's very very very obvious to everyone who knows me. Friends and even my own parents will comment "oh you'd be totally into so and so" You mentioned extroversion, and I give a big resounding no thanks. Give me the mysterious introvert any and every day of the week. I find they come across much more "naturally alpha" which I'm unashamedly attracted to. However, that only goes for mysterious introverts who have confidence and frame (so many people scratch their h…
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/17 05:22 AM
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Gotta say though, don't underestimate ice cubes. Some guys love that. The other things, eeeek.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/17 06:35 PM
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If all you're exposed to is the men's side I totally get where you're coming from. I started on the men's side myself and I think some exposure to it is good so that you get male perspectives but to understand how we as women should relate to that and behave, this sub is a much better bet. Start by reading the sidebar if you haven't and then feel free to post questions. Everyone on here was super helpful when I posted questions in the past.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/17 06:18 PM
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Are you looking at TRP primarily from the perspective of this forum or the one for men? I think you'll find they're very different.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/17 06:04 PM
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Such a great post! If I knew how to give gold I would give you gold
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/17 05:59 PM
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I've never had a crappy less than stellar experience other than the exact same one you've had (virgin with resentment over boyfriends with higher n counts) so I can't speak for that, but I can and will say this, you are more than welcome to have all the one night stands you want, and you never have to get married if you don't want to get married. But if that's the case don't waste your time on a forum where everybody holds the opposite view. What are you expecting to hear? This is what we believ…
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/17 03:00 AM
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Exactly. Feminism forces them to ignore their biological instincts but ultimately people can't ignore their biological instincts. They'll either express them in a healthy way or an unhealthy way.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/17 11:29 PM
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Ooh I love theorizing about this subject. It's absolutely biological I suspect, and it's made even stronger by so many women fighting against their biological instincts. Society says women should be stronger, smarter, better leaders etc. than the men around them and so many believe it, but deep down they know they still want alpha males and that comes out in some strange outlets sometimes. For myself I've never read 50 Shades, but I do love alpha male romances in general. But then again I love a…
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/17 08:18 PM
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Sorry girl :( but if it makes you feel better, that exact thing happened to someone I knew quite well four years ago and she was engaged to her now husband 13 months later. Keep your head up!
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/17 08:07 PM
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How can you tell? I'm genuinely curious. I've read ROK articles claiming they can tell as well.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/17 03:22 PM
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This. Absolutely this. Long term always beats short term.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/17 02:23 AM
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I'm with you 150% both my exes had high (compared to me) n counts and it didn't make me think "oh my god what a stud, so many girls want him" it made me feel anxious about not being "the best" and it made me resentful that they had treated these other girls like sex objects. I totally understand the pain. Totally. But the answer is not having a high n count yourself, that's a bad bad idea because it cheapens something that isn't supposed to be cheapened. The answer is to vet for a guy who CAN ge…
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/17 07:53 PM
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Others have said it well. Sex is an intimate thing whether people admit it or not and it's much much better when it's with someone you care about. My theory is that CC riding damages the ability to pair bond because in order for a girl not to get hurt by it, she has to shut off her natural emotional instinct to get attached, thus when a man she actually cares about comes along it's very hard to switch that back on. Having a high sex drive is an awesome thing to bring to a relationship though, an…
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/17 06:41 PM
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You have issues. You really do. You're paranoid and jealous of a SEVEN YEAR OLD SISTER. God forbid you ever meet a female friend of his.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/17 06:48 AM
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Thank you. Oh my gosh. Men are honestly a lot more clueless than they think as far as the beauty and youth of women or else makeup wouldn't be such a booming industry.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/17 05:18 PM
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These other commenters are right you know. It's not at all uncommon for women in their 20s to play 18 year olds. And good lord it's not at all uncommon to actually look younger than you are without it just being "flattery" I work as a camp counselor during the summer. This past summer I actually started to get annoyed with how many times other people (staff and campers) thought I was one of my 15 year old campers. I was 22. And no they weren't being flattering. Lectures about how you can't be he…
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/17 05:16 PM
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You didn't describe your fashion or hygiene habits but I suspect that has a lot to do with it. Do you dress feminine? Tasteful makeup? Flattering hairstyle? If not start right there, and watch your SMV raise a full point AT MINIMUM. Now if you've already taken care of those things the next step is to start being more social. It doesn't mean you have to become a loud party animal. My best friend is very very reserved and quiet and she has no problem attracting guys. Remember that femininity still…
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/17 04:40 PM
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Excellent post, I almost think this should be on the sidebar! Thanks for it :)
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/17 05:24 PM
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My ex was an INTJ and I (if you're familiar with the other personalities) am an ENFP. So I'm very very emotionally expressive and he is not. At first it seriously bothered me but the more I came to understand him the more I began to learn how to see where he expressed his emotions, it was usually subtle little things but they would just melt me to the core because I knew how much he was really saying in those small little actions. I would advise sitting down and just telling him honestly (INTJs …
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/17 04:17 PM
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I would really argue that that isn't true. My mom definitely had not hit any walls at 35. She only had me at that time (she had both my younger siblings easily long past 35 and they're the pinnacle of health) and had a pregnancy false alarm at 53 which turned out to finally be the beginning of menopause. She also didn't have a wrinkle on her til about 55 and now at 57 is only beginning to have gray streaks. Now obviously at 50 people never mistook her for a 20 something but even up to 40 people …
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/17 04:08 PM
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This is a very good post. I enjoyed it, but just one thing is irritating me and maybe I'm just misreading what you wrote. I fail to see how a monogamous LTR has to consist of nothing but missionary sex. You can be very fiesty and sexually adventurous and still monogamous. It's actually much hotter tha way because it's your fun little secret.
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/17 03:30 PM
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There is no way this is a serious post. This thread needs to get better at catching trolls. It's getting old. Seriously old.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/17 10:47 PM
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I too am in need of recommendations so I'm loving seeing what everyone else has posted :) but I'm gonna have to second Fascinating Womanhood. Like others have mentioned it does have a Christian flavor (though I'm Christian so I find that extra beneficial for me personally) and some major major cheesiness. But if you can look past that, let me tell you, those.tips.work. Seriously, I was blown away, and I'm single, can't speak for those married or in LTRs but I've gotta imagine it works great ther…
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/17 04:27 AM
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Well I figured I was probably average so that would make sense but at the same time I don't know what's considered an explosion of attention relative to other girls. I don't go to clubs and have been to a bar a whole one time, and I don't use online dating. Do I have beta orbiters, yeah. Did I have a very alpha boyfriend who never did commitment give me commitment, yeah. Do I get hit on by every man in the room every time I'm in a room, no. So I guess it depends on your perspective, but you're p…
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/17 03:51 PM
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I live in LA and ironically seem to do better there than my hometown. Granted I did not know how to play up my looks in my hometown.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/17 03:42 PM
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Amen to this and thank you. I'm still fairly new to RP terminology so I'm sorry if I came across wrong at all.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/17 12:58 AM
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I second this
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/17 11:02 PM
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Thank you, this was helpful! My face is my main confusion point. I'm 22, in great shape, long hair, take care of my skin, but my face is kind of asymmetrical, to me it looks like a Picasso painting, but no one has ever commented on it. So I'm not sure how much it affects SMV
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/17 11:01 PM
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Sounds alpha to me, but I'm not sure about "red pill without knowing it" I think you'd be surprised how many men know about the red pill, it's starting to hit the mainstream and hit it fast. But either way, definitely seems like you have an alpha :)
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/17 06:19 PM
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Thank you, goodness. I was starting to think I was the only woman who felt this way.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/17 12:53 AM
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If what you say is true then you have some major issues that need fixing and it's up to you to do it. This sub can be a great resource but you have to take charge. First thing is get this idea out of your head that you're already doing as much as you can and just can't improve anymore. That's the entire premise of the red pill for men and women alike. Self improvement, self improvement, self improvement. If you think there's nothing you can do, look harder. If money is an issue, I can give you a…
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/17 11:33 PM
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Both guys I dated in college had been big athletes in high school but they were both out of sports by the time I met them so I'm not sure if that counts
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/17 04:43 AM
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Boy I hate having to give this advice because I'm all for relationships working out, but my heart is seriously breaking for you, because you are describing my ex boyfriend to the letter, and our relationship ended in disaster. I think you and your man are headed down that track potentially. I hate to say that because I'm sure he has amazing qualities and you really care about him, and it's wonderful that you are understanding and want to support him through his trust issues, but like other comme…
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/16 05:43 PM
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Good point, thank you :) that was my exact thought and reason for asking, I didn't know if I was considered to have already played it or not.
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/16 03:35 AM
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Thank you! Your response was exceptionally helpful :) Happy holidays to you as well
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/16 03:33 AM
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Thanks for that point about researching. I'm actually in the process of doing exactly that because I've heard a lot of people say what you've said and I think it deserves more studying on my end. As for a guy who shows little interest no thanks. I have an extremely high sex drive, I just control it. I want someone who does the same, low sex drive would be a deal breaker for me.
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/16 03:32 AM
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Not to start a fight but I'm honestly curious why you would think someone is likely to be crazy because they're a virgin. Is our society really that far gone that you're considered weird for wanting sex to be special? I don't mean that to sound critical because maybe you have seen evidence to the affirmative but if so that makes me sad.
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/16 03:28 AM
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Sorry, maybe I didn't make a ton of sense (since it's my first post) but I definitely haven't and definitely won't.
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/16 03:26 AM
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Thank you, it seems like he didn't understand quite what I was saying. Thanks for helping to explain better.
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/16 03:25 AM
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Wow thanks for all the replies! Definitely didn't expect so much feedback :) thanks guys. Most of you have been super helpful. I'm seeing a lot of disagreement over 2 vs 0 but most of you seem to agree that it isn't a huge deal either way. I think moving forward I'm going to go by a don't ask don't tell policy regarding sexual history as far as it's up to me but if I get asked I'll answer honestly. Thanks again everyone. I really appreciate the straightforwardness and mostly respectful advice on…
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/16 03:23 AM
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Lurker here :) finally signed up for Reddit just so I could actually start posting.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/16 01:55 AM
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