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"Sucking at something is the first step towards being sorta good at something!" -JT Dogzone
/r/seduction07/03/17 04:05 AM
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The fact is, you'll get rejected most of the time, sometimes for reasons completely beyond your control, sometimes for things you did. Don't stress about it.
/r/seduction03/12/16 01:03 AM
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Are these women in danger?
/r/seduction01/12/16 12:20 AM
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I like this as well. Seeing both sides of this coin (harsh truth / actionable facts) is a nice contrast. Both have merits - the former for "waking up" and the latter for "moving forward."
/r/seduction03/11/16 05:47 PM
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The differences you see are an illusion created by your own insecurity. Everyone has problems, good days and bad, but you are just placing people into little boxes based on an incredibly superficial understanding of them. Spend some time and figure out what you want out of life and what makes you an interesting human. Figure out what makes other people interesting- they will often surprise you. Stop this "woe-is-me-I'm-not-a-rich-hunk" nonsense- you sound like an unfunny Steve Brule.
/r/seduction29/09/16 06:26 AM
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Oh I don't doubt that it's probably not going to happen but I'm not gonna keep texting a girl that doesn't text back, man. I have some self respect.
/r/seduction17/05/16 02:04 AM
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Tease her or leave her. If she doesn't feel you're worth her full attention for like an hour there's a reason for that. Either you're not carrying your weight or she's just not that into you.
/r/seduction01/05/16 11:08 PM
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Being able to recognize those signs of interest is a massively underrated skill.
/r/seduction30/04/16 03:17 PM
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"I have to return some videotapes."
/r/seduction11/01/16 04:29 PM
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Talk about it with her. What do you want, what does she want? Honesty helps everyone in this situation.
/r/seduction09/07/15 01:32 AM
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Ask questions!
/r/seduction09/07/15 01:25 AM
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Once in a while, South Park really hits the nail on the head.
/r/seduction09/07/15 12:54 AM
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It sounds like you're stuck in your head and have some serious problems with negative self-talk. If you aren't on your own side, then who is? Self-deprecation can be funny but you shouldn't take it seriously. Take some time and think about the actual potential consequences to asking for her number, going for the kiss, lay, or whatever when the time is right. What's the BEST thing that could happen? (Fill in the blank here) What's the WORST thing that could happen? Awkward times, for sure. SO WHA…
/r/seduction08/07/15 12:34 AM
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The failure to distinguish real life attractive and magazine cover is a very sad failure. Perfect lighting, a million takes to get one good shot and photoshop doesn't happen IRL.
/r/seduction08/07/15 12:23 AM
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A+ post right there. I think less than 1% of people are genuinely 'ugly.' Being ugly is usually just being out of shape and having bad fashion sense. Good posture (body language generally) is huge too.
/r/seduction08/07/15 12:20 AM
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Nope. Not a problem. If she's just looking for sex and you don't put out then yeah she might move on but that's her prerogative. HOWEVER, this does put out "relationship" signals so if you're not looking for that you should be honest about that up front too.
/r/seduction08/07/15 12:12 AM
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Option 1: Nut up, go out solo and have fun! It seems harder than it is. Talk to everyone and eventually you'll find yourself talking to girls you're interested in. Option 2: Find some activities that involve other people and meet people that way! Option 3: Get dates via Tinder/OKC/POF/whatever and do those. You're only the outcast in your own head.
/r/seduction21/06/15 09:57 PM
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Wouldn't you say that good body language is a huge component of a good approach? The old line "it's not what you say but how you say it" comes to mind.
/r/seduction29/05/15 03:12 AM
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It's never too late to change, man. Never. There's plenty of good advice here on this thread on things to try. Meditation is a great one, it's like working out for your brain/mind/soul (however you want to think about it). But really, think about what drives YOU. What's your dream life like? What sort of steps do you need to take to get there? Success is never linear, it's ups and downs always. Some days you're on fire, some days you're cold fish. It happens. The important thing is to keep tryin…
/r/seduction29/05/15 03:11 AM
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Be present in the moment. If you stop your own train of thought, it becomes a lot easier to absorb information from all your senses. Your attention is a limited resource at any given time. If you're expending attention on your own train of thought, how can you actually listen effectively to anyone else?
/r/seduction29/05/15 03:06 AM
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Wizard status confirmed.
/r/seduction27/05/15 10:36 PM
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As a fellow 6'3" guy, I know this feeling. Sometimes people stare at me and depending on my mood it either feels awesome or extremely weird. My advice would be to just always assume that they're staring because they like you. It's a healthier mindset.
/r/seduction27/05/15 10:20 PM
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You succeeded in trying and that's worth a lot more than you're giving it credit for.
/r/seduction27/05/15 10:15 PM
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As a PhD student I ran into this a lot, but I've found its wayyyy better to acknowledge that you love your work. Don't just call it boring and move on! That's a huge turn off for women. Give them a concise, impassioned 30 second synopsis of your work in as clear language as you can muster, all while staring deeply into their eyes and allowing a smirk to gradually arise in your face. IF they ask for more details then go for it but most of the time they'll be a bit stunned. Pivot towards something…
/r/seduction11/11/14 06:21 PM
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"Have fun" is great because if she is interested she'll make a move and back off or try to honestly reschedule. It shows outcome independence and although it can be interpreted as passive aggressive, you can easily play it as a positive statement if she responds positively. But really do you want to go on a date with the girl's little sister in tow?
/r/seduction25/09/14 03:37 PM
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Current gf is a stone fox. She gets guys after her all the time. You're going about it wrong in that you treat them differently. She loves that I treat her like a person, and not just a pretty face/body- other men treat her as a potential conquest/object and she swats them away. People want a human connection and purely superficial interactions get old fast. Sure you will have a lower success rate at first with the super hot ones, but who cares? If you're not going to be satisfied with "settling…
/r/seduction10/09/14 05:46 PM
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Smile! It is weird at first to smile at strangers but it gets so much easier. You have to be outcome independent- smile for your own sake! It won't always produce the reaction you want from the other person, but you have value as a person no matter what anyone else thinks of you.
/r/seduction29/08/14 12:34 PM
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You're absolutely right! If our eyes weren't at least a little crossed we couldn't see in 3-d.
/r/seduction26/08/14 01:21 PM
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Just socialize with everyone around you really.
/r/seduction13/08/14 03:55 PM
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The cognitive dissonance is strong with this one.
/r/seduction18/06/14 05:30 PM
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This just sounds like bad news all around. Let it go.
/r/seduction22/05/14 02:20 PM
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On the flip side if you are open about it, you'll find a girl who shares your love of sharp objects faster! If that's part of what you're looking for. As always, knowing when to say things is equally as important as what to say.
/r/seduction14/05/14 04:45 AM
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Because those kind of things don't intrinsically give you confidence. They can certainly help you feel better, but nothing truly "gives" you confidence. That's why you fake it, and gradually, you come to have it. Confidence has a weird sort of Zen to it.
/r/seduction09/02/14 12:57 AM
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Why are you looking for role models? Those guys (RSD Tyler, Mark Manson, etc) don't hold the answers any more than you do. Sure maybe they have more experience in certain realms, but why live your life by their rules? That's bogus- learn what you want from them and move on with your own life. I think you are close to figuring this out anyway, but you've hit a point where in order to grow further as a Man, you just have to go without the training wheels. “We are what we pretend to be, so we must …
/r/seduction31/01/14 08:18 PM
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The first step is always the hardest. Keep it up! You'll get better at it and that little adrenaline rush never really fades.
/r/seduction22/10/13 12:37 AM
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Are you going for a 3-way or a 3rd wheel?
/r/seduction22/10/13 12:36 AM
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You get it man. Play to your own strengths and be the best YOU that you can be. Great post!
/r/seduction17/10/13 06:40 PM
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"thousands of years of evolution" Sounds like someone finally reconciled Darwin and the Bible!
/r/seduction09/10/13 08:56 PM
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Just think of something that makes you laugh and BAM instant, genuine smile!
/r/seduction07/10/13 08:23 PM
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Step 1: Get business card Step 2: Get axe Step 3: ????? Step 4: PROFIT
/r/seduction07/10/13 03:41 PM
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Congrats man! Just one thing: Paragraphs. Use them.
/r/seduction02/10/13 04:14 AM
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eyedrops
/r/seduction02/10/13 03:55 AM
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Everyone likes it!
/r/seduction27/09/13 07:10 PM
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I really like the distinction between nerdy interests and nerdy attitudes. I'm very passionate about some traditionally nerdy things (tech, science, music, metaphysics, etc) but I got rid of the "white knight"/"too smart to relate to people"/"I have to be weird because I'm intelligent" attitudes over the last few years. I like being weirder than I look- it throws people off. The results from this? Life became infinitely more enjoyable, I'm less angry, more fun to be around, more productive, abou…
/r/seduction21/09/13 02:24 AM
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Talk to everyone! Don't get hung up on her before you've even tried talking with her. You are going to fail with girls a lot, that's just how it is. So get better at conversation in general because there aren't that many differences in talking to some random guy on the street and talking to a total babe. Conversation is conversation, but sometimes you want to make it sexier.
/r/seduction21/09/13 02:12 AM
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The D.E.N.N.I.S. System
/r/seduction18/09/13 10:06 PM
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"Well that's just, like, your opinion, man." There is no situation where this beautifully dismissive statement won't work.
/r/seduction17/09/13 07:50 PM
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What do YOU want out of this? You're getting led around by the nose and worrying about her without thinking about your needs. You are the one getting played, sir.
/r/seduction17/09/13 07:46 PM
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The reason you get shot down for that is because it's bogus reasoning. Same shit as "I would get laid more if only ... I was taller I had a bigger dick I had more hair I had more money blah whiny beta blah blah If you changed any of those things that you fundamentally can't control, you would be a different person entirely and you'd probably still find excuses to explain your lack of getting laid. It's a mindset thing. Control what you can control, forget what you can't.
/r/seduction17/09/13 03:45 AM
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Calibration is indeed key, but for a lot of people starting out it's just too much to handle. There are so many variables to keep track of! So we give the beginners the rough guidelines, a one-size-fits-all handbook that doesn't fit any one person perfectly but contains the seeds for growth. A huge part of that beginner handbook is confidence. If you have 0 confidence, you have no range to calibrate with! If you have 10 maximum confidence, you can adjust your behavior to fit from 0-10. Confidenc…
/r/seduction17/09/13 01:02 AM
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Option ONE: Just call her, if she's not adult enough to talk on the phone or face-to-face, I'd say you're about done anyway. If she doesn't want to talk, then don't press her on it, that gives her all the power. If she won't take your calls, drop it and move on, you have an awesome life of your own to attend to. Don't call 20 times a day, that's SO LAME. Option TWO: Freeze her out for a while. If she contacts you, great. If not, MOVE ON. Super-high-drama-girls like the ones you seem to be descri…
/r/seduction17/09/13 12:47 AM
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Everyone gets girls who flake out, it's part of the game. Don't worry about it. Do pay attention to your texts you send out! The more creative you can get with your messages the more they'll stick with you.
/r/seduction17/09/13 12:32 AM
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That last text just comes across as mean. Otherwise very well done!
/r/seduction17/09/13 12:25 AM
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When confronted with death, humans have a natural urge to make more life.
/r/seduction16/09/13 11:44 PM
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Pay attention to her, what she's wearing, how she holds herself, what she seems interested in, etc. Get real specific, it becomes fun to just meet new people! Read about body language and then you can watch in real time how she's responding to you. It also makes you a better conversationalist because you can exaggerate your body language to drive home various comedic (or serious) effects. Conversation threading. Just repeat the last few words she said with a rising intonation and she'll naturall…
/r/seduction11/09/13 04:15 AM
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Quitting, or at least cutting back on refined sugar is crazy hard, but so worth it.
/r/seduction11/09/13 03:57 AM
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I thought about this quite a bit last night and I've come around to the exhortative mode. I still think it's situation dependent, but as a default mode it is probably preferable to the pure imperative when making plans.
/r/seduction10/09/13 01:09 PM
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It depends on the situation and the girl. Sometimes you may want to push harder but there's no one-size-fits-all solution. My main point was to suggest that for most situations, using a question is less effective in getting dates/responses on OKC/text/in-person than the stronger forms. This is based off of my experience- being bolder pays off more often BUT it's not like changing the way you phrase things is going to get 100% success all the time. Take no for an answer, when no is the answer you…
/r/seduction10/09/13 04:56 AM
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Exhortative (or cohortative) mode is a more succinct label, I should have used one of those in my post. Good point! I do think the usage of "should" implies an obligation, and we don't always want to fulfill our obligations. There are many things that "I should do" that I don't do. Both forms strongly assume compliance with the request. I think the success rates of these two would be pretty similar and either will work substantially better than the weaker question forms listed above. Regardless …
/r/seduction10/09/13 04:03 AM
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The "should" weakens it slightly. Sure, you should grab a drink, but are you going to?
/r/seduction10/09/13 02:13 AM
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Those are great; they show powerful leadership and a strong frame. However, depending on the girl/interaction it can be a little too forceful. Just pay attention and calibrate appropriately.
/r/seduction10/09/13 01:56 AM
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WRT "I am doing xyz at abc - feel free to join me", that is definitely an excellent one for the reason you mentioned. I was going more for a "making plans later in the week" kind of interaction which is why I didn't include that phrase. As to the "!" in the statement, I see your point regarding neediness but I feel that "Let's grab a drink." falls a little too flat. I'm a stickler for proper grammar so I don't do the no punctuation thing at the end of texts. I'm old fashioned like that.
/r/seduction10/09/13 01:51 AM
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I was thinking about this during my workout today (caveat: I'm not running game in the gym ). I would be more attentive to getting an IOI from her before approaching. Cold approaches in the gym setting, where a lot of women are uncomfortable to begin with because of guys ogling them constantly, is not my style. I'm sure it can work for some guys but I'd rather keep the metal in my headphones cranked and focus on my workout.
/r/seduction09/09/13 06:05 PM
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This has been my experience as well. Calibrate your response timing based on her reactions (she's doing the same). ALWAYS make it fun for you. If you say something that you think is hilarious and she never texts back, then who cares? Life goes on.
/r/seduction09/09/13 06:00 PM
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Standing up straight not only makes you feel better about yourself, it makes people perceive you as more dominant. win-fucking-win. Why more people don't seem to understand/apply this basic idea is beyond me.
/r/seduction09/09/13 05:55 PM
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I was just curious to see the story you mentioned! No need to get all defensive. Some of us are naturally skeptical of things we read on the Internet.
/r/TheRedPill04/09/13 10:41 PM
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So damn good. I recommend it to anyone with the capacity to understand it.
/r/askTRP04/09/13 04:43 AM
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Source?
/r/TheRedPill04/09/13 04:31 AM
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It sounds like you want to text her and say hi / explain your situation. So rather than posting on reddit, just do it! Since the outcome in this case clearly doesn't matter, just get some text practice or whatever!
/r/seduction01/09/13 01:54 AM
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You guys described a problem I didn't even know I had for years! We tall fellows have that special problem- without a smile we can be very intimidating. I think of myself as a normal size (what other size would I be?) but to others I'm kind of a giant. Add in years of weightlifting... yeah I make a point to smile. It puts people at ease amazingly well and generally improves every interaction! BUT, it's also nice to know that if I want to put on my "fuckoff" face, that option is there.
/r/seduction28/08/13 03:17 AM
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Keep the worlds separate where possible. MUCH easier to do after college,
/r/seduction21/08/13 07:55 PM
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Oh believe me it's just one small part of it- I'm way better in person due to the exact things you mention. I was just wondering if there were any tricks to having better success within that arena- I'll stick to some good old trial and error for now!
/r/seduction21/08/13 05:53 AM
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Well if you want a relationship, you need to find someone else that wants that same thing. Not everyone's into that. Otherwise, standard advice applies. Make yourself an interesting person first and people will be attracted to you/want to spend more time with you. Get cool hobbies, hit the gym, read books/newspapers/bathroom writing, generally be the best you you can be. Abundance mentality is generally good (if you don't get this one girl, who cares? find another one), although I know lesbians …
/r/seduction21/08/13 01:54 AM
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The first step is the hardest, and you just took it. Welcome.
/r/seduction21/08/13 12:51 AM
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The first few are hard then it gets easier, I promise. You just gotta try it man!
/r/seduction19/08/13 08:10 PM
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Essentially. I play in bands so that gave me a springboard into new social groups. Also I just made more solid connections with friends of friends- social network expansion ya know? A lot of PhD candidates are pretty crippled socially- I would try to bring them out of their shell, but I got stonewalled and eventually just gave up. The funny thing is, to the rest of the department, I'm the weird one! I meet new grad students and they've already heard stories about me.
/r/seduction19/08/13 08:05 PM
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I can't translate my math confidence to girl confidence. Sure you can!
/r/seduction18/08/13 11:48 PM
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You are missing a very key point here. You don't "cling to a personal philosophy of awesomeness in the face of rejection" because you don't base your self-worth on what girls think of you. The rejection and your awesomeness are completely unrelated. Base your self-worth on your skills at work/play/conversation/dedication/loyalty/anything that you control. NOT what girls think of you.
/r/seduction18/08/13 11:11 PM
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I had a similar situation (also a science PhD) - I wouldn't talk science after 7 pm and that is literally ALL they would talk about. Eventually I came to the conclusion that to me, they were co-workers, not friends.
/r/seduction18/08/13 12:32 AM
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Then you'll never win!
/r/seduction14/08/13 10:53 PM
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And the vast majority of the time, they have zero clue that they are doing it, or what it means.
/r/seduction03/08/13 04:16 PM
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It's kind of a mixed bag. Use your situational awareness to determine whether or not to buy a drink. Obviously, having some random girl demand a drink from you is a time to refuse. It shows backbone and standards (i.e. you are not an ATM). The basic takeaway is don't use "buying a drink" as an opener - as other have mentioned, that is The Game, lesson 1. Buy her a drink later on if things are going well, why not? You can [change locations] [isolate] [demonstrate value (recommend a tasty drink fo…
/r/seduction30/07/13 04:47 PM
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Great advice for newbies. Start in the shallow end and work up to the high dive.
/r/seduction27/07/13 10:17 PM
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I'm fluent in French (non-native) and I can speak a few other languages to varying degrees (Spanish, German, Japanese); let me just say that many women love the sound of French. Being able to employ the right accent is crucial- get the pronunciation down pat! A secret benefit to speaking more than one language is that it forces you to develop your vocal tract muscles in different ways- you are using your mouth, tongue and lips to create a wider variety of sounds. It's just like playing different…
/r/seduction27/07/13 05:07 PM
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I recall thinking that this was a super douchey book with some really good ideas. The main takeaway I got is that you can use my analytical intelligence as a tool to BENEFIT to my social interactions rather than having it be crippling. Although I had physically grown out of my awkward nerdy kid pubescence, I was mentally still stuck in an AFC mindset (for lack of a better term). I didn't understand why some of my guy friends had a natural magnetism for girls and I didn't. It was frustrating. I a…
/r/seduction15/07/13 03:22 AM
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But you gotta admit it would take balls to sit like that on the subway!
/r/seduction26/04/13 01:54 AM
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no ducks given
/r/seduction26/04/13 01:52 AM
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Better response: Look at the photo, give an honest reply. Don't fall into these silly games- just give her confident, direct answers. By avoiding the question / lying you are just revealing your own insecurity about looking at other girls which in turn just makes her more insecure (i.e. by demanding you look at the picture).
/r/seduction20/04/13 07:07 PM
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Hard mode: Get a braille smartphone, read your messages strictly based on touch. Do not break eye contact.
/r/seduction12/03/13 03:01 PM
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They give you a shit test, you give them a shit-eating grin. Makes sense in a way, doesn't it?
/r/seduction26/02/13 10:15 PM
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That's the thing man. You can learn how to be social and in the process it becomes much more fun! Many of us here have gone through this process in some form or another. If we all knew this shit from the get-go we wouldn't need to read about it would we?
/r/seduction26/02/13 10:12 PM
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Very well put!
/r/seduction20/01/13 11:03 PM
5

Paging Dr. Loggins...
/r/seduction30/12/12 02:20 PM
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Too scared to nurture your passion? Beta as fuck.
/r/seduction23/12/12 05:03 PM
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If you cannot care you are a sociopath. If you choose not to care, then that's confidence. Subtle distinction but important nonetheless.
/r/seduction23/12/12 05:01 PM
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Steve should fucking buy condoms instead of infecting people with herpes. What the shit.
/r/seduction17/10/12 10:21 PM
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The mindset that you even need to compete is super beta. You've already lost frame if that's what you are thinking about.
/r/seduction16/10/12 07:03 PM
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"I hate to advocate the use of drugs and alcohol to anyone, but they've always worked for me!" - HST
/r/seduction11/10/12 04:48 PM
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Nut up, move on, forget about it. It sucks I know but you need to be outcome independent. The only way to do that is to stop caring.
/r/seduction11/10/12 02:12 AM
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Yeah I get the feeling these are mostly lonely pre teens. I too miss the actual useful content of the sub reddit. I don't care if some kid thinks he's ugly and can't get girls. If he read the basics he would see why his post is ludicrous from the get go and would also find a number of easy ways to fix the issue, internally or externally.
/r/seduction08/10/12 02:44 PM
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Spot on man. We medicate ourselves wayyyyy too much.
/r/seduction06/10/12 06:04 PM
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Ugly face? Cover it with hair!
/r/seduction17/09/12 07:13 AM
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Dead on. Contrary to popular opinion, girls are not masters of subtlety.
/r/seduction16/09/12 09:11 PM
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http://www.cynical-c.com/images/rockulikeahermancain.gif
/r/seduction15/09/12 05:45 PM
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It's just urban dictionary, how bad could it be?
/r/seduction10/09/12 11:21 PM
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I think that is an excellent synopsis of a very good frame to present yourself in. It's important to be cool, calm, collected and in control. People respond to that instinctively and will work to gain your attention rather than vice versa. Present yourself as the one in control and you become the one in control. So much of this stuff is "fake it til you make it."
/r/seduction03/06/12 10:11 PM
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George Bluth says it in reference to "SAY GOODBYE TO THESE" Kitty.
/r/seduction23/05/12 05:35 PM
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it's not what you say but how you say it.
/r/seduction16/05/12 03:40 AM
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I think it's an example of people picking out parts they like and ignoring parts they don't. Some of it could apply but definitely not all of it.
/r/seduction14/05/12 05:30 AM
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Play fight right back. Tell her she is so aggressive (playfully)! Pretend to be hurt.
/r/seduction06/03/12 04:18 AM
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