I'm pretty new here, but having gone out almost everyday for the last six months I've noticed some behavior patterns emerge in men and myself alike. The first I'd like to share is the distinction between people who are 'proactive' and those that are 'reactive'.

Let's take the example of two men on a night out. They don't know each other, but happen to go to the same club / bar.

The reactive man sees a woman flick her hair provocatively, laugh hysterically or stumble into his direction. Immediately, he takes it to mean more than it's worth. He turns his entire body, gives her too much attention, steps aside, makes room for the girl, judges her, thinks about what to say something etc. etc. He reacts. He's letting the influence of his surroundings and the influence of people surrounding him direct his actions. Usually without him even knowing.

On the other hand, the proactive man is subtly aware of what is going on. He is able to step back figuratively, let things play out and then make a calculated decision. It might be something as simple as not stopping his current conversation, or instead of making a commotion with his body language by shifting his head, turning around, and 'engaging' with the girl and her situation, he just glances at her through his peripherals, holds eye contact and smirks. He is proactive. He is in charge. Not being influenced by everything around him. As a result, when he does want to engage he does it willingly, and most probably has something interesting to say, something he's thought of in the extra 15 seconds he earned by not reacting right away.

This doesn't just apply to 'night game' (I don't want to classify this as a PUA post) but your day-to-day life and experiences as well. Whether you're in a classroom, on the street or in a bar. Not reacting to all the bullshit around you is a good quality to embody. It implies you have a solid frame, one which people will respect far more than a guy who jumps into anything.

Summary: Work on being proactive, not reactive.

If you have any ideas, critique or feedback to add, please do!