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gorlewski/r/Divorce_Men29/12/22 08:10 AM
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gorlewski/r/Divorce_Men26/08/22 04:06 PM
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gorlewski/r/Divorce_Men25/12/22 07:28 AM
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gorlewski/r/Divorce_Men21/09/22 11:16 AM
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At first when she told me she filled I thought it was a huge failure. That I was a failure. Then I realized that I am a human being. I fail at a ton of stuff. Was my marriage my biggest failure? Maybe. I am not looking at it like that anymore. I’m looking at it as a chapter in my life. Like a chapter of a book. I have finished that chapter, it may have not ended well or left everything on a cliffhanger for the next one but I have opened my next one and started writing it. You will feel many thin…
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/23 01:25 AM
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So I just finalized my divorce yesterday. I moved to an apartment back in mid September. My ex helped me pack and move everything. She helped me set up my apartment and my daughters room too. I still have stuff at the house that I have to get and she has even offered to help me with that. When she needed help with getting stuff I helped her. I guess what I am saying is every situation is different. I was mad at her for springing divorce papers on me. I was mad that our marriage ended. I also rea…
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/22 05:24 AM
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I don’t drink often. Yesterday was a day to do it. When I get the official documents I will have another.
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/22 06:02 PM
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I figured I had nothing to lose so if I stood my ground what’s the worst thing that could happen. We would have had to sell the house. I would still have come out much better than her even then. Our retirements were close in value we make close to the same income with me making more. What just strikes me as astonishing is that when I was served the papers I sat down and made the exact offer to her and she agreed to it. Then someone else got in her ear and she changed her mind. And here we are ba…
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/22 05:57 PM
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I drank a bunch of bourbon last night. I don’t remember going to bed. I was lit.
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/22 05:49 PM
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Kentucky 21 years married and she works full time.
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/22 05:23 PM
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It was very interesting as my lawyer and I were very well prepared. We both walked in with bags full. I had all of the paperwork that we had sent back and forth all of my documents. I brought my laptop and even a notepad. My ex walks in with nothing. Her lawyer with just her computer. It also felt that the mediator was on my side as he could see everything and that I was being more than fair. Her lawyer did not prepare her at all for what was going to happen. I feel for you. I hope things get be…
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/22 02:45 PM
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We have a 17y/o daughter. I had to do some odd negotiations to get the money to work to keep my retirement. However I got everything I wanted.
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/22 01:39 PM
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Thank you. That is my plan.
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/22 09:52 AM
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We have been together for 25 years. My divorce is between my STBXW and me. My mother supports me, however she has a very good relationship with her. I am not going to force anyone to take a side because that is not right. My wife and I are both to blame in the failure of our relationship. This is the first Christmas since she filed so everything is new for everyone. I am sure things will change with time. For now I will continue to go to therapy and work on myself. We have a kid together so I wi…
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/22 02:26 AM
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When my STBXW filed and I told my parents, I told them that this was between me and her. We have been together for 25 and they have developed a relationship with her. We also have a 17 y/o daughter. I don’t think it’s right that he is planning parties behind your back and that needs to be addressed. If my mom did that it would piss me off too. You didn’t mention how long you were together and time does make a difference. Now my in-laws on the other hand… my FIL passed away 12ish years ago and he…
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/22 06:22 AM
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Not rotating but I work midnight shift. I have an agreement with the STBXW that my kid can’t be at my place by herself (she’s 17). It is written in the initial settlement agreement. We share 50/50 custody I’m off 3 days a week. However she is 17 and drives and is very independent so it doesn’t matter that much to me/us on the weekends or breaks as long as she is with a friend or a parent.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/22 07:39 AM
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The hardest part for me was the little conversations in the morning before I went to bed (I work midnight shift) and the conversations in the evening. The how was your day/rest of your night what are your plans etc. I have been doing better and have been staying busy. I also make a point to stay in touch with my best friend every day. I also started therapy and it helps too. I know that it gets better but be careful with the alcohol and if you want to chat hit me up.
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/22 03:57 PM
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I have ADHD and depression. I treated the depression for years with medication. Was diagnosed with the ADHD about 5 years ago. She did not believe in the diagnosis. I treated it with medication as well. What I should have done is also treated it with therapy. I feel some days that this divorce was all my fault. I do know it takes two to tango. I’m now taking care of myself. We are doing what is best for ourselves and our daughter. I do wish that we would have talked years before we got to this p…
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/22 01:03 AM
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I’m about 2 -3 weeks ahead of you. The only things that have been saving me are working a ton, Yankees baseball and listening to music. I have also gotten professional help from a therapist and a lawyer. I talk to my best friend every day no matter what. Even if it just a text to tell him that he sucks and I’m doing ok. I still have shitty days. Right now is kind of one of them as I write this I am watching Yankees baseball but I am all by myself in a small apartment with my daughter at school a…
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/22 07:41 PM
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I agree with you. There are two sides to every story. My STBXW are both to blame in the end of our relationship. While I don’t like what is happening who knows what will happen to me in the future. We will always be together because we have a daughter and I hope we will always maintain a good relationship. ETA: Now that I will be a single male in the near future what will I think of women/marriage? I am 99% sure I will not marry again (never say never). When I am ready I will look for someone to…
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/22 08:14 PM
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I always agree a good punch in the throat fixes a lot of problems. You are right it is not allowed.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/22 12:27 PM
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Again thank you. I know I am going to have to “fix” myself before I can even start a new relationship with someone else. I don’t want to make the same mistakes again. I have already begun that journey. For the next two years I’m going to focus on getting my crap together and making sure that my daughter gets off to college.
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/22 12:51 AM
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Thank you for the perspective. I am still in the early stages of the process. My lawyer says we should be done with everything by the end of the year. I’m really scared of starting over after 25 years. It is nice to see light at the end of the tunnel
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/22 11:25 PM
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We actually sat down last night and this morning and talked about how we wanted this to turn out in the end. I was surprised that we were both on the same page. We really don’t hate each other we just grew apart. I am going to seek out some therapy soon and have a meeting with an attorney next week. I’m going to get everything together and see what happens next. Thanks for your kind words. I wish you well.
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/22 03:52 PM
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I don’t plan on it. We have been living like this for so long what’s it matter now.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/22 08:28 PM
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I am there with on that. I am a mechanic and I tend to work by myself a bunch and I have been trying to fix stuff through tears. Then putting on a mask so no one else at work can see how much I am hurting. Therapy is next on the agenda. I am taking one day at a time.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/22 07:41 PM
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Let’s do it. Sorry to hear about it for you as well. I am just glad that I have a few guys around me that have gone through the same thing in the past few years.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/22 06:24 PM
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I truly understand that. I was just living a fantasy in my head. I really needed to live in reality.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/22 06:23 PM
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Still caught in the feels but I got few buddies that have gone through this recently.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/22 04:23 PM
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Already in the process of getting one.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/22 04:20 PM
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