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gratefulstudent76/r/Divorce_Men01/02/26 06:31 AM
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gratefulstudent76/r/Divorce_Men02/01/26 04:32 AM
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Hey man, it’s gonna suck for a while but it will get better. Also, you guys sound like you still like each other. Did you ever try reconciliation? Divorce is pretty tough.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/26 02:29 PM
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I recomend finding a group of friends that are also divorcees that can help you. Also, a lot of the best women won’t want to date you until you’ve been divorced a year or two so just know that. Finally, a lot of men and women go though a ho phase where they basically have a lot if hookups before they are ready for an actual relationship. It’s all ok. Good luck.
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/26 09:01 PM
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Divorce is so hard man. I’d really consider therapy or something first. This feels more like a midlife crisis
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/26 09:30 PM
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Yeah.
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/26 04:09 PM
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Man, I resonate with so much of this. You aren’t alone. Especially the fact that nearly every woman diagnoses their ex as a narcissist. Not every man can be a narcissist!
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/26 04:08 PM
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We just became really different people. She became more dogmatic and conservative and religious. I became the opposite.
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/26 11:01 PM
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This. You get to decide how you want to approach it
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/26 07:50 PM
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I’m so sorry. I think this is quite normal. If she appreciated you she likely would have stayed. I feel the same as you. I’ve struggled with the fact my ex has no gratitude for what we did, interest in whether I’m well, a desire to even talk about the kids together. 20+ years of being my best friend and poof it’s gone — at least for her.
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/26 01:21 PM
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Just be aware that it’s a dynamic situation. You might need to adjust boundaries over time. Also recognize that you are going to be prone to promise her all kinds of support and such that might be hard to actually give later. Have an attorney help you. Don’t let present emotions and situation confine you long term to the present moment.
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/26 01:13 AM
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I’m so sorry. My ex and I divorced a year ago after 20+ years. It was so hard to lose my best friend. Unfortunately, some of this is basically like a really bad flu, you will just have to suffer through it. And then you’ll start to feel better and another wave of hurt will come back. But it eventually gets easier. Less waves. Less intense. You really will get through this. It will take a while but you have so much life ahead of you. You will get through it.
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/26 02:25 PM
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My life is really busy but I can’t imagine only seeing my kids every other weekend. That would be really hard. I’m really glad I asked for 50/50
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/26 05:33 PM
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I'm sorry man. That's so hard. Make sure that you don't try to tie this to your worthiness for love and good partnership. This sounds like its just her shit. Hobbies, working out, crying when needed. Just take care of you in those quiet moments and fight like hell for 50% with the kids and for not giving her too much financially nor for too long. Child support, sure, but minimize the alimony. You'll need the money. Especially to find a woman that is a true partner.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/26 07:24 PM
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Get an attorney and fight. She's not entitled to half. The government taxes are going to go up and your living costs likely will to. Fight, fight, fight. It's worth it. Even if it costs a lot in attorney fees.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/26 07:21 PM
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Debes buscar un abogado. Es muy serio
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/26 05:38 AM
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One more thing. Hormone replacement can do a lot for women. If she’s going into menopause that could be a lot of the problem
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/26 04:18 AM
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You could try a legal separation and see if anything gets better
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/26 04:50 PM
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You need to remember the tax implications. Alimony is paid after tax so it’s quite high and you will be in a much higher tax bracket as single bs married. I wish I had considered that more and fought for lower alimony.
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/26 12:00 AM
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You can date Christian women that have the same values. There are even apps focused on that
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/26 05:09 AM
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Not a bad idea. They’d have to be good with kids but not need their own. I had a vasectomy and am not having more kids
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/26 08:23 PM
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Fuck man. That's rough. At least you don't have alimony. Think seriously about a nanny or housekeeper to help out. Its a lot all by yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/25 09:54 PM
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It's common for people to go through a Hoe phase but don't feel that you need to stay in it longer than it feels good.
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/25 09:53 PM
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It's so hard but it doesn't stay that hard forever. Hang in there. It's like having a really bad flu. You just have to kind of suffer through it but you eventually will feel better.
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/25 09:35 PM
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It’s rough. You’re right
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/25 06:49 PM
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A wonderful man who won’t get in the way of me and my kids
/r/Divorce_Men16/11/25 01:42 PM
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That sounds incredibly hard
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/25 07:02 PM
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Get an attorney. You are gonna need your half. Life is way more expensive divorced. Taxes are much higher and you will be maintaining two households
/r/Divorce_Men28/10/25 02:27 PM
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If that’s important to you then you should talk about it. It sounds like she has moved on already.
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/25 03:33 PM
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Many have. Nothing you described is insurmountable. Find an individual therapist and a marriage therapist and work with both.
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/25 02:14 PM
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Yes
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/25 12:09 PM
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Outside of the emotional stuff, making sure she doesn’t get pregnant is key as well
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/25 03:33 PM
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I don’t know. I’m not that long divorced so right now it sounds pretty awful to be married again. But I’m a romantic guy so it’s likely I’ll get married again one day with a prenup.
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/25 12:36 PM
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Utah. It’s limited here to length of the marriage. Which would likely have been how much longer I’m alive. It was my understanding that half the length of the marriage is common here. So she offered to keep it to 7 years if I gave her about 5 years worth of alimony in house equity. So she still gets approximately 12 years total of alimony at about 3000 a month. It’s a shit ton of money.
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/25 11:45 PM
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If she’s cohabiting with the boyfriend I imagine you can argue for that
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/25 03:16 PM
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I would argue for no alimony. 50/50 custody. Minimal child support. She cheated. She doesn’t deserve financial support
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/25 02:49 PM
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Thanks
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/25 03:23 PM
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Good luck. Tough stuff
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/25 01:20 AM
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I wasn’t very helpful with my comment. What I meant was that once you say divorce she probably won’t hear anything else. So I might restructure where in the conversation you bring up the possibility of divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/25 12:37 AM
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Just get an ED drug. Cialis gives you a lot of flexibility. You can take it every day and be ready for whenever the opportunity arises
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/25 10:16 PM
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This is not going to go well. The moment you say you want a divorce she’s gonna fall apart
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/25 10:13 PM
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I was married to someone who was really, really not affectionate. And she had me kind of gaslit into thinking that is just how things are. It's been kind of awesome to realize that most women really like to be kissed, held, made love to. Ironically, right now you have commitment without affection. What tends to happen in singles world is that women are more likely to want affection, but are hesitant on commitment. And not being married...likely the affection will be more spread out. Maybe every …
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/25 04:47 PM
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If she can go to marriage counseling with you or sex therapy you might be able to fix it. It sounds like it’s not going to get better with just the two of you talking. Side note: in the singles scene women around your age often have more libido than when they were younger. They aren’t just diving in but once they feel safe and are attracted that desire really comes out.
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/25 02:35 PM
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You gotta meet with a lawyer man. Seriously, just pay for 2 hrs of time and meet with them secretly
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/25 11:59 PM
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I didn’t but there are many that do
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/25 02:02 PM
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I’m sorry. That sounds so hard. And it isn’t normal. You went through an especially bad situation
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/25 08:08 PM
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There is no legitimate reason or illegitimate reason. You deserve to be attracted to your partner and she deserves to have her partner be attracted to her. There are a lot of aspects to marriage. Make sure you know what you are giving up as well.
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/25 08:06 PM
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I find that it depends moment to moment but the good moments are more than the bad now. Early on it was almost all bad. Therapy, group support, doing things you couldn’t do before all help. And time. Allow yourself to feel how much it sucks. This too shall pass
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/25 02:40 PM
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I left our Mormon faith
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/25 01:35 PM
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