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THEORYgyrogoddess/r/RedPillWomen19/07/17 01:38 PM
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RELATIONSHIPSgyrogoddess/r/RedPillWomen13/07/17 08:36 PM
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ADVICEgyrogoddess/r/RedPillWomen04/07/17 05:21 PM
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DATING ADVICEgyrogoddess/r/RedPillWomen01/08/17 07:25 PM
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/u/Redpillschool could discontinue this sub at any moment Is that threat supposed to keep us in line? I'm ready to unsub.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 10:48 AM
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Shit, I didn't look at her post history. OP, you need to eradicate that behavior before you do anything else.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/17 12:14 PM
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Lose weight. You are not going to see a drastic change in your SMV if you change your hairstyle or whiten your teeth, but it will skyrocket if you get in shape.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/17 11:36 AM
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:)
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/17 02:47 PM
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I'm glad to do it :)
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/17 10:44 PM
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Okay hon, here is my advice without getting too raunchy. There are only so many tips I can give you because every man is different. You need to learn what he likes in a blowjob. Just ask him. Don't be afraid to ask for feedback. He will definitely appreciate that you want to learn more about what his preferences are. Also, enthusiasm is paramount. You have to love what you're doing. That may be something you need to learn. It may take some effort, but I would highly recommend that you do so. It …
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/17 07:32 PM
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Blowjobs. Yes, I'm being serious.
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/17 05:33 PM
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You're so right about being ethnic around super white people, lol. I stand out in my extremely WASP-y, cookie cutter town. I always felt growing up that I wasn't as pretty as the skinny, straight haired blondes with cute little ski slope noses because they always got attention and I didn't. Now that I'm at a very diverse university in a big city, I don't feel like I stick out like a sore thumb, and I don't feel like there's anything wrong with the way I look. People say I look exotic, which I do…
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/17 03:03 PM
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Of course :) <3 It's a problem for me, too. I have had a complex about my nose since I was in elementary school. Our house caught fire when I was in 3rd grade, and my babysitter said "Thank god we caught it before it got out of control!" I thought to myself, "Maybe it wouldn't have been so bad. If I caught on fire and my nose burned off, maybe I could get a new one." I wanted to get a nose job the summer before starting college, because I was convinced I wouldn't be able to attract a high qualit…
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/17 09:05 PM
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I'm seeing something of a pattern here. You keep saying you heard that "x does this" or read "y is bad for z," not to mention going on TRP and reading about how supposedly women with attractive partners lose weight to try to keep their man. Almost all of these comments focused on appearance, and you mentioned hitting the wall in your post. Also the fat grafting (I don't even know what you look like but I'm pretty sure you don't need it!). Love, don't worry so much about your looks. Yes, it's imp…
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/17 08:42 PM
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How have you been losing weight? Are you just not eating or are you actively trying to live a healthier lifestyle? Exercise is something that can obviously help you trim down, but also boost your confidence. Getting stronger and seeing the progress you make in your running times/number of reps you can do/weight you're able to lift will inspire you to keep going and make you feel a sense of accomplishment. If you're not into going to the gym, find a type of exercise that you have fun doing. Perso…
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/17 07:40 PM
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That's what we're here for :)
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/17 03:04 PM
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This is not "crabs in a bucket," at all. You've known this guy for years, and from what it sounds like, longer than she has. Your opinion is definitely valid. I don't even know the guy and I can tell he wouldn't like the boudoir shoot based off of the basic details you've shared (his being religious and conservative). That is a pretty tacky idea for an engagement present in general. A real friend will listen to what you have to say and thank you for your input, even if she doesn't agree with it.…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/17 02:42 PM
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Completely agree with this. I have a slew of psychiatric disorders and the only thing my mom gave me is anxiety. You cannot always predict the mental or physical health of your future child. Millions of people live with mental illness. It is a difficult life for many of us, but it isn't a life not worth living.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/17 12:38 AM
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I don't mean to sound harsh, but why are you surprised that he didn't want to fight for you? Why are you shocked that he wants to move out as soon as possible? He has made it clear through his actions that the relationship you two have is not a priority to him. It doesn't matter what he thinks; he is obviously dishonorable and untrustworthy. You are making the right decision. I know you're scared, and I completely understand why you would be scared, but you have to learn how to be alone and be o…
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/17 10:02 PM
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Welcome! We're glad you're here :) Keep reading up, and feel free to post any questions you have if they aren't answered on the sidebar. I have found the responses I've gotten when I've made advice posts to be extremely helpful and insightful. Again, welcome and don't be afraid to ask for advice!
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/17 09:43 PM
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I'm mainly referencing the DBT Handbook I use for my DBT group. To summarize, DBT stands for dialectical behavioral therapy, which is a combination of dialectics (two seemingly opposing ideas that can both be true) and cognitive behavioral therapy (identifying certain behaviors and the thought processes that cause them, and working to reframe those ideas and change the behaviors). DBT also draws upon a lot of Zen Buddhist ideas as far as the mindfulness section goes. Yes, DBT is a type of psycho…
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/17 04:43 PM
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In order to capture the attention of a high quality man who's interested in committing to you, you're going to need to be a lot more than just young, virginal and long haired. I'm not saying that these things aren't important; they're a good start, but a man with options is going to have very high standards. Focus on taking your cons and turning them into pros. You say that you're "moody" and "easily overwhelmed." Work on developing skills to regulate your emotions, practice mindfulness and grou…
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/17 11:29 AM
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There's a difference between leading and controlling.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/17 08:15 AM
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Anytime :) Seriously, I am sometimes appalled at how disheveled some of the girls at my university look on a daily basis. They don't just look like they've just rolled out of bed; they look like they've just climbed out of a dumpster. Really, I don't understand how you can possibly feel good about yourself when your clothes are torn to shreds and your top is so small that your boobs are about to fall out the sides of it. Girls our age tend to just follow current clothing trends on Instagram and …
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/17 02:48 PM
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I see how that can cause some challenges. Maybe try dressing more maturely than you currently dress. I wouldn't expect you to start drawing fine lines on your forehead :p I look very youthful as far as my face goes, but I dress well (dresses and skirts, nice tops/sweaters, heels occasionally and on a normal day some nice flats) and men who are older than me approach me because I look like someone mature for my age, due to the fact that I don't wear crop tops/torn up jeans/sneakers.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/17 02:11 PM
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Fair enough; it doesn't sound like you're looking in the wrong places. You may want to try looking for someone a bit older, who has already moved past the "sowing your wild oats" phase. How to go about finding them, though, I don't have a definitive answer for that! Maybe you could try sitting in on a grad school lecture on a topic that fascinates you. You could also see if you could find a Meetup group that aligns with your interests. Depending on what kind of activity it is, you could find men…
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/17 01:50 PM
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My question would have to be: how are you meeting these men? Where and how you are meeting them makes a big difference in what caliber of men you're coming across.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/17 01:36 PM
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I don't know what you're on about. What right does he have to tell her to not post on social media? He's not her dad.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/17 10:15 AM
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Oh! Okay, that definitely changes things. He sounds really controlling. You should dump him. Who knows what he'll try to control about your life next?
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/17 12:51 AM
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I don't know if I've ever technically dated a Chad, but I have dated someone Chad-like. He was strong, confident, masculine, decisive, no bullshit kind of guy, which was what attracted me to him in the first place. He didn't give two shits about anything. Really, he did not care about the repercussions of anything he said or did. He said all kinds of awful things to me about my weight. He thought that making me feel like shit about myself would motivate me to go to the gym. He was actually the g…
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/17 05:54 PM
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Agreed, he doesn't sound that great. I am still a bit concerned about OP's need for attention on social media. Even if this relationship doesn't work out, I could see it being an issue in a future relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/17 01:56 PM
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More so than the "hot kiss," I think the bigger issue is that you listed the fact that he's not into social media as a negative. If you and your ex were really like "celebs" in the amount of attention and publicity you were getting from your peers, and you plastered your relationship all over social media, it sounds like you primarily focused on keeping up appearances rather than the more important aspects of the relationship. You probably take issue with the fact that your boyfriend doesn't use…
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/17 11:32 AM
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It's been a while since I exercised regularly, but I remember when I played field hockey in high school that my grades were higher during hockey season than they were in the winter or spring. I think it's a combination of the physical activity itself, and also how long practices and away games forced me to manage my time better and become more efficient with my schoolwork. Keeping busy in general, not just with physical activities, has done wonders for my mental health. Having a full schedule do…
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/17 08:09 PM
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I bet! I'll have to check that one out :)
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/17 04:29 PM
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What do you think the sidebar is for?
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/17 09:26 AM
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I respect people who use Reddit for self improvement and the like, but other than this subreddit, I mainly look at subs with cute animals (r/aww, r/eyebleach, r/AnimalsBeingBros, and the wide variety of cat subreddits). r/progresspics is also very inspiring, as I have been trying to lose weight for some time and love seeing other people's results.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/17 05:48 PM
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I think that will be good for you both, too. It will give him something to be in charge of, and will take stress off of you, which will allow both of you to feel more comfortable.
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/17 02:29 AM
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I don't really think he was self conscious about it, at least as far as I know. He's a very rational person, and I think he just saw that my mom didn't care, so he figured he shouldn't be bothered by it either. He also is confident and secure in himself. He knows he has a lot to offer as a husband and father, even if he isn't the breadwinner of the house. My mom handles the majority of the financial stuff, as she works at a bank and that is her area of expertise. Does your husband currently hand…
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/17 01:25 AM
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That's awesome! I feel the same way about blowjobs, as you can tell from my original comment. Keep up the good work; I'm sure he'll appreciate it :)
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/17 01:16 AM
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My parents are in a somewhat similar situation to yours. My mom earns significantly more than my dad, and has for a while. She is the breadwinner. This, however, doesn't make my dad feel insecure. He knows he contributes to their marriage and our family in ways that aren't just financial. He is very handy, and has renovated our house and the apartment my parents bought as an income property all by himself. He is an amazing cook, and outdoes himself making delicious meals for us all. He is also m…
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/17 12:36 AM
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This! I have one close female friend who lives nearby, but I'm starting to feel like our friendship is strained because we ARE so different as far as our way of seeing the world goes (she is pretty BP). I think it's really special when you do find another woman who is on the same wavelength as you. That happened to me when I was on my semester abroad, and I started talking to one of the girls that lived across the hall from me. We are so much alike, and I can actually talk to her about RPW-relat…
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/17 02:08 PM
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I find it fascinating as well! I don't blame you for being interested in their stuff. I found TRP and MGTOW before I found RPW. Finding RPW was like someone throwing me a lifesaver when I was drowning in the bottomless abyss of AWALT examples that are TRP and MGTOW. I thought there was no hope for me until I came here. I thought I would be a complete slave to my primal urges/hamster in spite of all my efforts to be rational and do the right thing. I get so much inspiration from this sub and the …
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/17 05:56 PM
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You pretty much answered your own question at the end: don't focus on other women; focus on yourself. Work on improving in the areas you think could use improvement a little bit each day. Come up with some concrete, specific goals for bettering yourself. Don't make excuses, and don't give up. r/TRP is for men, really. The majority of its subscribers have just been woken up from their blue pill way of viewing society and the world as a whole, and they're angry. There isn't the same kind of anger …
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/17 02:45 AM
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I totally agree with this. My mom outearns my dad significantly and has been the breadwinner of our household for most of my life. My dad is better at cooking and cleaning than she is, so he does the majority of those two things at our house. He is not any less of a man because he earns less than my mom and does more "women's work" around the house than his wife. He is very masculine and there is no doubt that he wears the pants in their relationship. My mom also doesn't think any less of him fo…
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/17 01:33 PM
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Popping ED meds to "keep up with you" doesn't sound sustainable. You said you already had a libido too high for the men you previously dated. How old were they? Age is not the only factor that affects the ability to get an erection. I've been with guys my age or younger that had issues getting it up, and older guys who had no problem at all. If he says he thinks he needs ED meds to give you the amount of sex you want, though, that's not a good sign. If you are willing to look past performance is…
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/17 04:57 PM
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Since you said you're in school, you can try meeting men on campus. Check out the bookstore, the coffee shop, go to fundraisers and other events, attend a talk, etc. I know you said you're shy, but you won't meet people if you don't put yourself out there. Make yourself available. You don't necessarily have to make the first move, but do indicate that you're interested. Smile, make eye contact, and if they do approach you, have a pleasant demeanor and be open to making conversation with them. Do…
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/17 11:05 PM
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This is a great idea. Going to a lingerie store with her will make it an actual experience for both of you that you can share together and bond over, instead of just buying her something online. Like akanachan said, you can both see how the items fit her before buying them, and you can always get a little handsy in the privacy of a dressing room if you really like how something looks on her ;)
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/17 08:46 PM
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Um, no. I just know that sex is extremely important, and you can't just neglect that aspect of your relationship because you may not "feel like" doing it. This is a pretty widely held belief here on RPW. I don't know what you're on about. It's pretty obvious that you don't know much about this community. slaves to their male partner Yeah, this smells like feminism. Have you read our sidebar? This is an antifeminist community. men feel entitled to women's bodies Yep, still smells.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/17 11:22 AM
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My point still applies in that situation. Clearly, you don't want to come off as an emotionless robot, yet that is the way your friends see you. I consider myself to be an introvert, yet I can still be talkative when I'm with my friends. Your friends are the people you are supposed to let all inhibitions down with when you're with them. Engage. Being the "laid back observer," as you called it, isn't going to strengthen your friendship with them, because you're not engaging, so why put yourself i…
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/17 11:18 AM
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This is a very broad question. Is there anything in particular that you're worried people may be critical about? As a rule, if you want to be seen in a certain way, you need to portray yourself as such. If you want to seem like a woman who is sophisticated and poised, dress well, take care of your appearance, have good posture, speak only when you have something of value to add to the conversation, keep your emotions in check, etc. That's just one example. There are some things for which I care …
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/17 12:17 AM
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Um, what? How does this in any way align with RPW philosophy? With a username and post history like that, you're clearly a troll.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/17 10:58 PM
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Thank you for not wanting to contribute to stereotypes. I feel like in many cases, people meet someone who has bipolar, borderline personality disorder, etc. and assume that ALL people with that disorder are like that person and are all the same. We are individuals, just like "healthy" people are. Yeah, she sounds pretty reckless. I would suggest distancing yourself from her.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/17 01:42 AM
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I have a pretty high sex drive as a rule, but sometimes I'm really tired, or stressed, or sad, etc. and I don't feel like I'm in the right mindset for sex. What we all need to realize is that you don't have to be in the mood for sex to have it. Here's an example: I was out late with my ex, and he tells me in the car that he really wants me to blow him when we get home. I'm so tired, as it's really late and I've had a long day. I don't think I'm really up to doing it. I started blowing him, and y…
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/17 11:23 PM
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As someone who has bipolar and anxiety (and a few other mental health issues), her illnesses in no way excuse her behavior. I am almost 10 years younger than her and have my illnesses in check. She needs to get her shit together and stop taking it out on you and your husband.
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/17 11:02 PM
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Very true :)
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/17 05:17 PM
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I get it. Believe it or not, I was flat chested for most of my life. Then they kind of just appeared when I was 18. I am about 50 lbs heavier than I used to be (yay for medication-induced weight gain), so they have gotten a bit bigger (about 2 cup sizes). I remember when mine were small that trying to show them off just made them look even smaller, at least when I wasn't wearing a push-up bra. Do whatever you're comfortable with. You said that you don't particularly like showing cleavage, so don…
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/17 09:52 PM
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Sure! I actually couldn't find an example via searching on Google, so I took a picture of myself, lol. I hope that doesn't break any rules. My face isn't showing. http://i.imgur.com/98eze3b.jpg As you can see, the shirt covers up pretty much everything, but it's tight, so you can still tell I have boobs. I think the extra coverage actually makes them look bigger. I'd normally pair it with a cute flare skirt, but I didn't have much time to get ready this morning. The neckline is important, too. I…
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/17 05:06 PM
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"Cakes on a plate" is the only kind of cleavage I can achieve, due to mine being far apart. Thanks for bringing that up. As long as they are well supported, they should be pleasing to the eye. I have a few tight, thin (but not sheer) t-shirts that make my boobs look AWESOME. No skin showing, just fabric that outlines my curves nicely. Shirts like these should be considered as well, as it is not always appropriate nor practical to have your breasts showing in certain situations.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/17 12:01 PM
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How is smiling not one of these (but sticking out your tongue is)?!
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/17 11:35 AM
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Maybe with RP, not so much with RPW. I'm not the authority on the matter by any means, though. What are you looking for with a unicorn? Is she going to offer anything besides sex and maybe some superficial companionship? Is that going to strengthen your relationship? She already sounds like she's not really comfortable with this potential arrangement. If you have "fire chemistry" as you say, why would you want to compromise that? If she is submitting to you (not just in the bedroom), deferring t…
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/17 09:01 PM
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I think this question belongs more in r/BDSMcommunity.
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/17 08:50 PM
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Thank you. I think nun mode is the best thing for me to do right now. As far as therapy goes, I'm working through some of my most recent trauma with my therapist, and on hobbies, I've started taking voice lessons (something I've always wanted to do). Little steps :)
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/17 08:19 PM
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Thank you for your response. Reading between the lines is very important, and the "translations" you came up with are very accurate. I need to stop just taking what people say at face value. It certainly hasn't helped me thus far. You're right, I need to remember that I have value. It's easy for me to forget when so many people in my life have tried to convince me otherwise. I shouldn't listen to them, but it's hard not to when you've already internalized it.
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/17 08:18 PM
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The man I was last with put me down constantly. Some of it was constructive (encouraging me to work on my health and fitness), the rest of it just made me feel awful (grabbing the fat on my stomach, saying that he won't let me meet his parents until I lose weight, etc). She sounds like a lucky woman. Continue to cherish her and I'm sure she will return your love for her tenfold. Thank you :)
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/17 08:14 PM
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You're not being harsh. I do need to dig deep. Various life experiences have led me to believe I don't really deserve a good man. I will keep working on myself. I'll check out that blog! Thanks for the tip :)
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/17 08:09 PM
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Thank you so much. Your words brought a tear to my eye. I need to remind myself more often of the last thing you said.
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/17 01:11 AM
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Thank you for your insight. I'm a doormat due to a lot of reasons. I think I am just a naturally submissive/yielding person, but I take it too far. I was abused during my childhood and I have been raped and sexually assaulted on multiple occasions. All of these things made me feel worthless, and I haven't really moved past all of it. Mental health issues on top of that certainly don't help. I know on a certain level that I would have a lot to offer to a partner, but I don't truly believe it. In …
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/17 08:56 PM
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Anytime :)
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/17 07:25 PM
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Thank you :) I am pretty open about my illness. I couldn't give a damn about what people think. I have made it my life's purpose to work in the field of mental health. I want to advocate for people like me and do whatever I can to destigmatize mental illness. I thought I'd start with myself, by being open about my illness. Only when more of us come out of the shadows and show the world that we are just like them, normal people trying to get by and find their place in the world, will the negative…
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/17 11:55 PM
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They were. I switched to a new medication and dedicated myself to eating well and getting active. I weighed myself this morning and have officially lost 20 lbs. I'm pretty excited :)
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/17 11:38 PM
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I think an important one is holding your tongue when you have the urge to nag, whine, butt in, etc. When he's making decisions, whether important or not so important, defer to him. If he asks for your opinion, give it, but don't tell him what to do. Respect his choices. This will do wonders for your relationship. You will be giving him the respect he craves, and it will inspire him to continue to lead and be your Captain. This kind of yielding/submission will have more of an impact on him than t…
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/17 11:51 PM
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Were you manic when you got on that medication? Psychotic? Depressed? There's a reason why I wasn't taking care of myself, and it wasn't because I was lazy.
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/17 11:03 PM
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It is clear that you did not really read my post. I gained weight due to the medication I was on. It ramped up my appetite and slowed down my metabolism. I had been healthy my entire life prior to starting that medication. Only after switching to a new medication was I able to lose any weight. I am not going to get fat again if he dumps me.
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/17 10:16 PM
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My family and friends should care whether or not I'm overweight, because at the weight I was at (and even the weight I'm still at), my health is at risk. It has nothing to do with seeing me naked. My family did bring it up, but they were too harsh about it. My friends told me later on that they were concerned, but were too worried about hurting my feelings. The guy I talked about struck a balance between the two. Feminism tells women that there's nothing wrong with them in all sorts of ways, inc…
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/17 01:07 PM
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It's pretty stupid. At least we have a place to discuss the alternative to that. That I am grateful for.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/17 03:08 PM
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Well put. I was pretty astonished when I realized how much this stuff all made sense, yet I had never heard anyone talk about it. No one talks about it because it doesn't align with what today's society deems morally "right" or "acceptable." Doesn't make it any less true, though.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/17 09:05 AM
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I'm saying this in the voice of what society thinks, not what I think.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/17 08:48 AM
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No, I would not get fat again if I were left to my own devices. I only gained weight because of the medication I was put on. I had been healthy my whole life prior to that. He was the catalyst. I wanted to lose weight anyway, but I just didn't have much motivation to do so. Call it what you want. Some people told me "You shouldn't be losing weight for him, you should be losing weight for yourself." I'm doing it mostly for me. In the end, I am the one who would primarily benefit from losing weigh…
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/17 02:15 PM
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I think it had more impact on me coming from a man, because in this case, I was romantically interested in the man who told me that. When he told me that I was "big but pretty," it alerted me to the fact that I may not meet his standards for a romantic partner, which motivated me to change so that I could meet his standards. Hopefully that makes sense.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/17 10:51 AM
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Thank you! Also, thank you for nicely summarizing my points.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/17 10:46 AM
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That's what I'm going for! Thank you for sharing your story :) I can't wait to be wanted and desired again.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/17 06:46 PM
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People can be honest about some things and dishonest about others. Are you that dense?
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/17 04:56 PM
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Wait, you were 170 and lost 90 lbs? I hope that was a typo. That doesn't sound healthy. Aside from that, everything you said about how you started putting more effort into your appearance and how people started noticing you are all things I look forward to once I lose the weight. You're so right about people looking right through you. I used to be able to capture the attention of most people I encountered; now I'm invisible. I wouldn't have changed either if someone didn't wake me up to the stat…
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/17 04:50 PM
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Thank you, I'm honored! I hope they enjoy it. I'll make posts whenever I think I've come up with something worth writing about. I honestly enjoy writing, so I look forward to doing so whenever I get an opportunity :)
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/17 04:42 PM
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Yeah, it was a summarization. These conversations happened over the course of several dates. That would be a little weird for a first date, lol.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/17 04:35 PM
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Lol, you're right. I probably shouldn't have said anything. It's just that insinuating I "upgraded" is such bullshit because there isn't anyone else in my life right now. I am in love with him but he is with someone else. We agreed to meet in 6 months and see where we're at. I'm not going to get my hopes up. I'll just go into nun mode and keep working on myself.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/17 03:59 PM
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I switched onto a different medication. Sorry, probably should have mentioned that.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/17 03:50 PM
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Actually, no. It's because he has a girlfriend. I didn't want to get into it because I didn't think it was relevant.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/17 03:29 PM
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It really makes a huge difference. I'm very happy for you :)
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/17 02:56 PM
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Oh. I don't know. I checked on desktop and it said it was 99% upvoted. Whatever, lol. I'm not bothered by it.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/17 02:18 PM
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Ugh, filters are cancer. I avoid them at all costs. Yeah, I'm just going to focus on self improvement in general (health and also inner cultivation and all that). I have always struggled with putting myself first and prioritizing my needs over the needs of others, and I have suffered because of it. No more. Thank you :)
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/17 01:59 PM
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I don't think anyone has.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/17 01:53 PM
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Haha, yeah, I told myself it was okay because every other picture was current, so what's the big deal if one of them is old? The current ones were just my face, though, and you can't tell I'm overweight from my face. I'm going to take a break from dating for now. I'll wait until I'm back at my original weight (145) because I know I'll have many more options at that size.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/17 01:52 PM
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Wow, thank you for sharing this with me. I do feel like my spiritual/sexual psyche is muddled. I'll be doing something and randomly, a thought of one of the many men I've been with will pop into my head. It's always unannounced and unexpected. I wish I could erase all of it. How much I would give to have as pure and unmarred of a conscience as I did before it all happened.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/17 02:27 AM
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I'm sorry. My heart truly reaches out to you. Please PM me if you want to talk.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/17 01:56 AM
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I've been meaning to practice more. I'll definitely give it a go now that you say it helps for that issue. Lol, the second one definitely doesn't apply to me. I only really feel compelled to masturbate when I am in a relationship with someone. That sounds odd, but it's because I don't have much sexual desire when I'm alone. I masturbate a lot about the person I'm with when I'm with someone. I guess I'm weird!
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/17 09:45 PM
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That's a great point about the effect that casual sex has on men. You have a point. When I was a virgin, I simply went for the first man who continuously pursued me, as I was ignored for the entirety of high school. Being noticed felt good. I still don't think it's good to get pumped and dumped just for the knowledge you can glean from the experience, though. (He didn't pump and dump me; he just wasn't a good boyfriend.) I am concerned about my ability to pair bond because even with men who are …
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/17 01:21 PM
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That's unfortunate that your mom lost respect for your dad. My dad's employment has always been more unstable than my mom's, and she has always outearned him, but she doesn't see him as beneath her. She doesn't see him as less of a man. She is not a perfect wife by any means, but I definitely admire her on that.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/17 12:47 PM
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That's so true about the lowering of standards. Yes, women are expected to give it up pretty quickly. Guys will only consider waiting if you are a virgin. I think everyone needs to adjust their expectations for the benefit of society. Thanks to being manic, I had almost zero emotional connection with the men I slept with, which I'm somewhat grateful for. I just completely lacked the ability to feel and process emotions. I was raped during that period of time, and it didn't even register with me.…
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/17 12:07 PM
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Yes, I have a therapist. I just saw him yesterday, but we didn't talk about this topic. I'll bring it up next week. Hey, I'm also a psych student. My illness is primarily what draws me to the field, because I want to help people like myself.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/17 11:54 AM
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It makes me sad that men can feel this way too. Sex is supposed to be a unification of two people, but when it's done indiscriminately, it seems to only pull people apart. At least you have found someone who you can fully trust and feel comfortable with. That's the first step. Even if you are a bit jaded at this point, you can still try to overcome the feeling of things not being special. I think taking things more slowly could help, and dedicating at least 30 min-1 hour to lovemaking so that yo…
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/17 09:34 AM
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Thank you :) That means a lot.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/17 09:26 AM
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It makes me sad that having a low count is something you were ashamed of. It just goes to show how brainwashed society has become. I'm sure that your sister and friends are probably jealous of you, if they're divorced and aimlessly swiping while you're in a stable, loving marriage. You make a great point about sleeping around seeming to be the way to connect with people. It is portrayed that way. All it seems to do, though, is wear women down and make them jaded.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/17 09:23 AM
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I like hearing different perspectives. Yeah, I think insecurity is definitely part of it. I haven't looked at the study myself, so I will take it with a grain of salt. Sure, sex can be just sex, but you can't say that bonding can't happen through it, that it's only about the non-sex stuff. Yes, I think being jaded can definitely be a result of a high n-count. That could be part of my problem, too. Well, of course it's self-inflicted. I wouldn't feel this way had I not slept with so many people. …
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/17 09:17 AM
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It makes me feel a little better that I'm not the only one. Hey, there's nothing you can do except learn from your mistakes and keep moving forward. That's what I'm trying to do. Anytime :)
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/17 09:08 AM
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Anytime! I am still a bit embarrassed to be talking so candidly about my past, but if it can help a woman on here to realize that sleeping around can be detrimental to her happiness, I am more than happy to divulge.
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/17 11:33 PM
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You make a great point about "slowly" riding the CC. Often enough, men just give enough emotional bait to the women they sleep with to keep them wrapped around their little finger. My best friend ended up in an "exclusive fuck buddies" situation with a man she was in love with. Did he have any feelings for her? No, of course not. Do you have the links to the study that statistic is in? I'd love to show it to my friend, lol. She is admittedly quite blue pill. Not in a rabid feminazi kind of way, …
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/17 11:21 PM
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I completely agree. It's ridiculous. You're not going to find The One™ by riding the CC, sorry to say. Neither do you need to test your sexual compatibility with people you wouldn't seriously consider for a relationship. That doesn't even make sense. Sleeping around indiscriminately is neither "liberating" nor "sex positive," contrary to what blue pillers say.
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/17 10:35 PM
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Good point. I always get so confused because people talk about how great they feel when they're manic, but maybe they're talking about hypomania.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/17 09:22 AM
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Thank you. I have always been a pretty self aware person, and I know it definitely helps with all this RP stuff. Eh, I think thick girls can definitely look good (like Iskra Lawrence), but it's not so much about how I look, but how I feel/what kinds of physical things I am capable of doing/my overall health. I want to be able to run a 5k, or hike with my school's outing club, or dance all night without getting tired. I used to be pretty fit when I played field hockey in high school, and I was ar…
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/17 04:04 PM
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I have actually been cutting out dairy and gluten from my diet for a while now (except for Greek yogurt, can't help it as I'm Greek lol) and it seems to have helped in a lot of ways, especially with losing weight. Yeah, I don't want to have sex with anyone who I wouldn't consider to be marriage material. It's a waste of my time. I've already done some pretty crazy stuff sexually while I was manic, so I don't feel like I'm missing out on anything. I would rather do kinky stuff with a partner I ha…
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/17 03:51 PM
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Glad to hear from someone who can relate. I'm already on a different antipsychotic (Latuda) and it hasn't made me gain any more weight, so that's good. Lol, I guess it's a good thing that I don't drink coffee and rarely consume alcohol. Yeah, I'm able to tell now when I'm getting manic. It makes me really uncomfortable. I feel worse when manic than when depressed, which seems to be uncommon. A lot of people enjoy being manic because they feel on top of the world, and they're very creative/produc…
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/17 08:07 AM
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I did want an honest answer, and I'm glad that you gave me one. I know that I need to be exceptional in order to land an exceptional man, even more so than the average woman (given my issues). I have no problem putting in the extra work. Apart from just getting a guy, I need to work on myself if I want to live the kind of life I'd like to live. There are a lot of things I'd like to achieve during my life (professional and personal), and I won't be able to reach my goals if I don't become more st…
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/17 03:04 PM
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Thanks for all of your help :) I really appreciate it.
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/17 10:16 AM
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Thank you! Hey, it's not a competition. We don't engage in the Oppression Olympics™ here. I may objectively have it worse but that doesn't diminish the severity of your own experiences. That's great that routine helps you keep on track. I know it would help me too, alas, I am not very routine-oriented. I know it is worth the effort, though.
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/17 07:19 AM
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That's why I'm going to be joining a DBT group. It was originally meant only for people with BPD, but now it can be used on anyone who has extreme emotions/destructive behaviors. I try to be. I know I'm not perfect, though. That's a good idea. I used to be awful at remembering to take my medication, until I realized my parents will never let me move back out until I'm on top of it. Now I have a bunch of alarms and try to pair taking the pills with breakfast and dinner a la classical conditioning…
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/17 06:56 AM
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No, it's okay. I don't have BPD, but the professionals at the hospital I stayed at last year said I had some Cluster B traits. You're right, I was looking for sympathy. As I have only known him for a month, it's not the same as telling my mom or my best friend (i.e. my closest confidantes) what had happened. They are part of my support system; he is not. Expecting him to be there for me like my friends/family are this early on is not fair.
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/17 06:18 AM
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You're absolutely right. I have been getting to know someone and we had an argument that made me feel bad enough to self harm. I told him what I had done and he said himself that he would not want his girlfriend/wife resorting to that kind of behavior. I completely understand why. I am very sensitive and it doesn't take much for me to get to the point where I want to hurt myself. I know that makes it nearly impossible for me to be in a serious relationship. Maybe it is best if I just focus on my…
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/17 05:55 AM
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That is a good point. I am doing much better now than I was last year, but I still have my moments. Probably the biggest problem I still have is self harm. The last time I hurt myself was only two weeks ago. I am going to be joining a DBT group recommended by my therapist, which is essentially a skills-based therapy group that focuses on tackling destructive behaviors, so that should be helpful.
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/17 04:41 AM
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You make a very good point with the last thing you said. I know I need to keep working on myself if I want to attract a quality man. I need to do it for myself, too.
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/17 08:01 PM
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I am. I'm very grateful that I've found medications that manage my symptoms and found a treatment team that helps me immensely. My family and friends have also been a huge help Thank you again for being so nice :) I always knew that RPW was a supportive community, but I wasn't sure what people here would think of me.
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/17 07:59 PM
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Thank you for your advice and kind words. I really needed to hear it. You're right about it being my problem and not his. I would never want to become burdensome. I now have some hope :)
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/17 07:24 PM
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