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Don’t forget UTI’s, yeast infections, BV and HPV.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/21 12:32 AM
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I thought sarcasm was typed out like sArCaSm. Did it change?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/21 07:53 PM
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My ex wasn’t a Chad. He had a shitty role model of a father. The abuse didn’t start until he had trapped me with a kid. So stop victim blaming. Narcissists can be really good at hiding who they are for a good amount of time.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/21 07:49 PM
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Women will seek out the top prospects and if they are unable to get them, they just won’t date. > Then why do so many women stay with abusers and cheaters? So they really think they can’t find a non-abuser/non cheater? Believe it or not, but there are women that are really codependent and women that monkey branch before leaving a partner. Some women seem to always be in a relationship and simply cannot be alone. Are there some women that would rather be alone than in a bad relationship? Yes, but…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/21 07:39 PM
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I was replying to the person that said adderall killed their drive. I had undiagnosed bipolar1 so it threw me into a mania/hyper sexuality stint.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/21 04:41 AM
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I’m hoping to find a boyfriend with a drive on the higher side 😃. I tried the FWB thing, it was not for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/21 01:40 AM
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Oh if I accidentally miss a day of meds it flares up for a day or two. It’s all good though. I’ve collected toys for flare ups, lol. There could be worse things wrong with me 😂 it taught empathy a little bit too.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/21 01:37 AM
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I had my first manic episode last February. It included about 6 weeks of hyper sexuality, I had the worst acne ever and could not stop thinking about sex all. day. long. It got in the way of work and school and my personal life, lol. I got a quick insight to what it must be like to be a teenage boy.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/21 12:49 AM
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It has the opposite effect on me, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/21 12:47 AM
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If you think a gay guy would be less drama than a woman, you must not know very many.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/21 12:45 AM
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How is wanting my kids to eat healthy toxic?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 09:48 AM
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Women don’t care how the sausage is made, they just want the end product. Nope. I was married to a genetically very lucky guy that was a junk food addict. If he didn’t have a fast metabolism he would be 400lbs easily. He wouldn’t eat anything healthy that I made. It taught our kids that they can eat whatever they want. Now our kids are also little junk food addicts. When they come to my house for their parent time, they scream and throw tantrums when I want to feed them nutritious meals. He is g…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/20 07:11 AM
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I live in a very religious town ok. Coffee and alcohol are forbidden for the most part.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/20 06:52 AM
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Don’t you tend to talk more about your bad relationships than your good ones though? No one comes on here for advice on their relationship that is healthy and going well.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/20 05:50 AM
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Oh, I’ve noticed that the guys that insist on dinner after I suggest hot chocolate or ice cream are almost always keepers. They are also 1000% less likely to have sleazy intentions.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/20 04:50 AM
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A woman who never pays is a parasite? While I am a firm believer in offering to go halfsies or paying especially if I was the one that did the asking out, I don’t like that women feel entitled to fancy places. I’ve only once in probably over 100+ dates had a guy ever take me up on my offer.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/20 04:19 AM
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I would be thrilled with anything other than “Netflix and a beer at my house?” Or hey, let’s just go on a walk in a field or the mountains.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/20 04:13 AM
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I think you hit he nail on the head with the bold is attractive. No one wants a weak man. I think a lot of women mistake cocky for confident. Also, women that witnessed abuse in their family of origin are only attracted to assholes because it was normalized and familiar to them. This explains why women of domestic violence often end up being attracted to another loser. With domestic violence being so prevalent, it makes sense why such a huge percentage of women select assholes. I even got caught…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/20 11:52 PM
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I have fallen out of love over abuse and infidelity. Substance abuse would also make it difficult to stick around. Those are my dealbreakers. The other thing that could be a huge factor is that women’s hormones drop faster than men’s. Lower libido equals less sex which can be construed as losing attraction. When you were a teenager with raging hormones, were you more willing to sleep with less than your looks match? I also stayed in shape and my ex husband completely let himself go. While that i…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/20 06:18 PM
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I wouldn’t say they don’t care about each other. That’s not a fair statement. Men want to solve problems when you tell them your problems and women want to feel like they are heard and feelings are valid. When men can’t fix the other mans problems, they tend to not give verbal re assurance that things are going to be alright.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/20 08:30 PM
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Sorry. Disagree that people who multi-date and people who date one person at a time usually end up together. It has not been my experience. Guys only seem to care if I’m a multi-dater when they are ready to ask me to commit. I live in an area where men outnumber women 10/4. Most guys I date tell me I’m the first date they have gone on and most know I see one person at a time. These are not ugly or unsuccessful guys either. They almost expect that all women here have a full inbox.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/20 10:10 PM
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I’m gong to disagree with that. I date multiple people at a time because I want to find the most compatible person I can. Healthy lifestyle, matching ambition, similar communication style. I think it wastes massive amounts of time and is not efficient if you have an end goal of a relationship. You aren’t going to find someone if you are dilly dallying around. You are more likely to find some one you click with if you are going on dates once or twice a week instead of dating one person with sever…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/20 09:06 PM
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I wonder what I am doing that guys constantly say they can’t read me. 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/20 08:58 PM
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I don’t know. Statistics usually show that when the woman initiates the message first on OLD, one third of the time, of they exchange numbers one in three progress into a relationship. At least according to bumble. I’ve personally had more luck when I initiate the conversation. If They aren’t interested, they either don’t respond, or don’t ask me to meet. So I do the initiating first, but I definitely gauge interest level moving along. It’s been a pretty good “strategy” if you will.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/20 08:56 PM
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I totally agree to. Some of them have the mentality that if I tell them I’m not interested, they think I’m playing hard to get. I’m, nope. It’s usually guys that are younger and less mature or who have minimal dating experience. You may be right about them being in denial of rejection.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/20 08:50 PM
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There actually is some psychology to back you up on this. If anyone shows way to much interest, way to soon, it instantly repels is. I’ve never played hard to get, but I have definitely hid my enthusiasm early on. I wait for the guy to start sounding like he plans to have me in his life for more than a few weeks. I’m attracted to guys that are really independent, so it usually does take some time for them to get attached. Maybe this is a strategy, who knows.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/20 08:48 PM
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I waited until I was married. Both times, lol. I wanted a virgin as well. I remember asking about “the law of chastity” on the first date if I wasn’t friends with them first. I did date one guy who had sex one time, but he had “confessed and repented.” I did of course get engaged at 19. There is no way in hell I would have married a man that had slept around. I wouldn’t date anyone who I had heard to be sleeping around. I knew they would be pressuring me for sex and wouldn’t have the patience or…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/20 10:18 PM
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Low self esteem is a clinical term used in psychology. I assure you there are people out there that are miserable because they are superficial. My own self esteem has absolutely nothing to do with how I look, how famous I am and how much money is in my bank account. It’s healthy because my worth is based on how I treat other people and how my career contributes to society, factors all within my control.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/20 06:37 PM
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Are you as big of a celebrity as those two? Because if you are, you might just be able to pull that off. None of the Kardashians have put up with being cheated on. I assure you if Kanye cheated, Kim would leave his ass so fast, she’d have someone better by the end of the week. The kind of women that are ok with being abused are ugly AF, dumber than rocks or a complete door mat. If you like girls with no self esteem, you probably could find you a unicorn like that. Other than Beyoncé, I can’t thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/20 05:38 PM
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You want a chick that’s ok with you cheating and no commitment, but you don’t want her to be dumb. I don’t think those two are synonymous.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/20 04:17 PM
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My bad. Haha. I’m sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/20 08:06 PM
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Wow, a decent guy on PPD. Like seeing a unicorn in the wild.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/20 03:22 AM
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Not even going to say my n count. But I’ve never had a guy tell me a favorite position other than doggy. If you google “why does do...” it auto fills with “doggy style hurt so bad” haha. So I know I’m not the only woman that finds it excruciating. It actually does allow a guy to go in about 3/4” in farther just because of anatomy, so sadly, makes sense why so many guys like it. None of my friends, sisters, coworkers have ever told me they like super rough. Only people I’ve read about Online, no …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/20 03:17 AM
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While the sentiment can and should be true, it isn’t always realistic. Ive had more than one partner be to rough (not on purpose) and then was sore for a few days. Men don’t get UTI’s, BV or yeast infections from sex. They don’t have to waste a $40 copay and go on antibiotics. Men don’t seem to be nearly as traumatized from sexual assault as we are in most cases. 30 seconds of fun is just not worth having to worry about puking my guts out for 9 months, or having to take off work to go to the doc…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/20 10:06 PM
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You can internalize opinion read online as well. A lot of times people are more honest when anonymous. I sometimes have to remind myself that this sub isn’t always realistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/20 09:31 PM
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Yes!!! Thank you! I can’t believe how many people don’t care if their partner is also having fun or even if they are in excruciating pain or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/20 01:04 AM
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I’m about as right hemisphere brained as they come, so I’m attracted to Men with STEM careers. My parents are paired this way, so that maybe plays a part in the fascination as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/20 10:22 PM
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I literally make just enough money to survive. Rent has tripled since I was last single, so my one entire check covers rent. I had a pro bono lawyer and fell far enough behind that she had to withdrawal from the trial. If there was a way for me to still take my parent time and get a second full time job, I would do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/20 06:18 PM
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My ex had an attorney and I couldn’t afford one. I was a SAHM for 10 years. I didn’t know any of the court jargon and his Lawyer absolutely crucified me on the stand. I’m not getting child support (50/50) or alimony because he lied on his financials. So no. It doesn’t always pan out that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/20 06:00 AM
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I’ve dated both kinds of guys. Most don’t care about my lack of experience and some almost had a weird fetish type obsession with it. I met a guy that I was pretty damn compatible with, independence, ambition, religious views, communication style wise, lots of chemistry, close looks match. We Would have made a great couple. He decided I wasn’t “sexual” enough for him because I make guys wait and I don’t do one night stands, (no thanks, keep your diseases to your self.) He also talked about how h…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/20 11:31 PM
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If 9.5’s are pursuing me, I’m probably not a 1 or 2. (Maybe my personality bumps me up to a 3/4🤔.) Why is it so hard to believe that the hotter guy wasn’t better relationship material? Have you never met a gorgeous girl that was stuck up?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/20 12:19 AM
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Until I saw people’s mask wearing abilities 🤣🤣🤣🤣. Isn’t that the truth. I saw a guy take his mask off to sneeze because he didn’t want it to “get gross”. Wtf, That’s like wearing a condom, taking it off to finish and then putting it back on. 🤦‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/20 10:46 PM
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This must be a survey of women with no kids. Nine months of puking my guts out cured me of the inconvenience of condoms forever.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/20 09:01 PM
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Can confirm. I met two guys a few months ago. I literally just picked the 7 over a 9.5. He will be just as sweet and funny at 80 years old.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/20 08:51 PM
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And apparently I’m attractive because I assume all men have Sti’s, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/20 08:42 PM
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there were more marriages where men out number the women This is so true. I live in a region where men out number women 10+\4. Combine that with OLD where the numbers are also in women’s favor. Why would I settle for someone that is only looking for a hook up or FWB situation when I can find a man without commitment issues. People kept telling me I couldn’t find a boyfriend From OLD, but I’ve men several men that were boyfriend and even husband material. It is very common to see men that are bel…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/20 08:08 PM
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About 1/3 of the time when a woman messages first on OLD, it results in a relationship. So statistics are on your side. You do always hear that women shouldn’t chase after men, you should let them chase after you. This is pretty accurate in my opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/20 07:32 PM
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It depends on the context. The cat calls I got when I was 12-19 years old, infuriating. When I am nursing a screaming baby with a cover, not the time. Appropriate time: My OLD profile pics, when I’m at a club or speed dating. If I say, “no thanks, I’m just not interested” more than once, that’s not code for try harder. If you are old enough to be my dad, you have no business hitting on me 🤢🤢🤢🤮🤮. Telling me I’m smart, funny, kind. Great! Only complimenting me on my appearance or body type. Kinda …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/20 02:05 AM
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Why do you assume you are in the percentage I was talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/20 09:56 PM
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I concur. The bitterness is about equal. Then again, we have a few haters in this group.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/20 09:27 PM
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I know you were talking about low value men instead of low value men, but I don’t have to date a ton of abusive men/partners to know their general mindset. I can also use these pats to identify red flags earlier than I had in the past.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/20 09:26 PM
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Not to brag, but I work out everyday, eat healthy, blah blah blah. When I find out that is the only reason they dated me I bolt. When I go through menopause or have a baby. are they going to take off. When I had an eating disorder, I have never been hit on so much in my life 🤢🤢🤢🤮. It’s not even about being selective. It’s about hipocracy is unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/20 09:19 PM
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I’ll have to screen shot some men’s OLD profiles. “I want a fit woman,” “No BBD please, just don’t want to waste anyone’s time.” 🤢🤢🤮🤮🤮. It probably is gross to read a height requirement in reverse. I assure you both sexes have a good portion of shallow people. I do agree that the stigma of men never being abused is a thing. Ive heard at least 5 men I’ve dated admit they lost their virginity to a much older woman while they were sleeping, drunk or otherwise unable to give full consent. They didn’…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/20 05:51 PM
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My ex husband went from psychologically to financially and physically abusive. So, no. Neither of those things caused the divorce. Money is actually what turned him into a narcissistic asshole.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/20 06:53 AM
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Hahaha! You are awesome and we should be friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/20 12:51 AM
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I have a hard time finding ones in my age bracket that don’t have anger issues. All the divorced men are divorced for a reason. “My bitch if an ex said I’m abusive.”
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/20 10:31 PM
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I prefer POF because you can filter out anyone that has selected “not looking for anything serious” in about 2 seconds. Tbh it’s the only one I’ve tried.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/20 04:17 PM
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That’s not necessarily true. Ambitious women tend to pick more educated partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/20 04:05 PM
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One in 3 couples met online. I’ve personally met my last 3 or 4 boyfriends online. So it worked for them. I would so much rather be approached online. It gets old asking out married people that aren’t wearing their rings. Do you mean that OLD doesn’t work for some people?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/20 04:01 PM
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I once unknowingly dated an entrepreneur. He listed Tech support as his occupation. So I was thinking maybe a call center job for Hewlett-Packard or Dell. I messaged him because his profile was effing hilarious. Several dates in, he slips up and said something about hiring someone. He explained that owns a tech company. He didn’t put CEO in his bio because he wants a non gold digger. So if you want to weed out shallow people, consider that type of strategy. And I totally agree that career choice…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/20 01:28 AM
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Perhaps. It’s also subjective. I’m told I’m beautiful once in a while. I think I’m just cute (6) or mildly pretty a (7), lol. Maybe 8 is beautiful, 9 is gorgeous and 10 is Gwen Stefani.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/20 12:41 AM
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I’ve dated multiple lawyers, doctors and business owners that were in the 30-45 range. Only one of them was apathetic towards wanting a family. That hasn’t been my anecdotal experience. Musk, gates, jobs and zuckerberg were relatively young when their careers took off.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/20 10:49 PM
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Average dating men swipe for matches about 20% of the time. So a good majority think 20% is good enough looking to date. Men that swipe with every single match were not included in this demographic.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/20 10:41 PM
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Haha, that’s a really good point.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/20 10:38 PM
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This totally depends. Rent has tripled in my area. House prices have doubled. My state has a high amount of SAHM’s and several are having to go back to work to afford to live. The economy isn’t what it was in the 50’s where $40,000 a year fed a family of 6. I would probably be a SAHM again if I could afford it. It’s better for the kids. Also, if you think being a SAHM is an easy and glamorous job, you should come watch my kids for about two days.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/20 10:33 PM
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I have no idea how much money my current boyfriend makes. Not even a clue. Ive never asked guys I’ve dated how much they make. That is just so rude and socially awkward to ask until you are getting engaged and combining finances. I make enough money for me to live off just fine. I’m really lucky I can actually look for love without it being about the money. I view money as a tool to live, not something that has magical power over people. Im sure there are women out there that have a wealthy man …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/20 08:31 AM
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You are afraid a woman that makes more than you will financially abuse you? Is your picker so broken that you ignore red flags before getting to the point of disclosing financial information? Are you sure you aren’t the abusive one? You wrote “women submit to men” twice. Asking someone to submit, insinuates you aren’t equals. Do you want an equal partner? I know so many couples in my area where the wife makes more. They are all still together and have been for 10+ years. Divorce rates are lower …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/20 03:57 AM
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Did you not read the articles I told you about? Science is true wether you believe it or not. -Neil DeGrasse Tyson
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/20 06:10 PM
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By most people’s standards. I wasn’t initially attracted to him at all until I got to know his personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/20 06:03 PM
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Google “are men more visual than women?”. Ncbi, psychology today, scientific American all reliable sources have study after study of empirical evidence. It’s ok if men and women are different. Thats not a bad thing. I’m also happy to send you a picture of my last boyfriend who happens to be the funniest guy on earth if you want to send me your email.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/20 06:00 PM
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It doesn’t mean we have zero physical attraction to men. Especially when those teenage hormones hit. It just means the timing for feelings in a potential long term relationship is different. In my experience men are slightly more visual. They all want the lights on during sex, so they can watch the action, lol. Women tend to close their eyes (I do anyway) and just think about how things feel. Far more men view porn than women (there are always exceptions, I suppose.) Every guy I have ever dated …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/20 05:22 PM
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That’s nice of her to tell you what major decisions you should make in your life. 😠
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/20 12:47 AM
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I don’t know, how much do they both weigh?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/20 03:20 PM
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I’m far more attracted to men’s personalities than women’s. So they become more physically attractive over time. I think men operate the other way around. They are initially attracted to looks, then to personality. So the attraction is equal, it just happens in a different order. Because yes, naked men are not as pleasant.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/20 04:27 AM
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I thought it was a book that a psychologist or “relationship expert” that talked about all the studies behind some of the pillars.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/20 01:39 AM
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5’7” you could literally see my rib cage. Also my hair was falling out and my cycle stopped.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/20 02:41 PM
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I actually like the size I am now 🤷🏼‍♀️. I’m doing on date wise. Just no where near the craziness from the sickly days.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/20 07:02 AM
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It’s not like 1 in ten of the guys I’ve dated either. It’s a HUGE majority. None of them are seeing it for what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/20 06:31 AM
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I got really sick in college. I mean really sick. I got down to 108 lbs and couldn’t keep anything down. I have never been hit on so much in my entire life. It really grossed me out to see the reactions.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/20 06:11 AM
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Part of this is a wrong cultural message. I’ve had more than one man tell me that their first sexual experience was when they were a preteen. Either they weren’t sober enough or they were asleep/really tired. They were asked and didn’t get the chance to give consent (usually an older woman/girl that was really aggressive.) Me: so you were assaulted? Them: no I can’t be raped, I’m a man. I bet some are harassed without realizing what has happened.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/20 10:48 PM
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Was going to disagree with you until I read all the female comments, lol. Surely there must be a girly girl like me who frequents this sub. Nope. All the female comments are the type of video games that they play.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/20 05:16 AM
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Hahaha! You just described my parents to a T.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/20 01:20 AM
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I think they are a great idea. I wish there were even more filters on most OLD apps. I won’t date smokers, and Men that don’t want to date a single mom should have the option to not waste either of our time. I don’t think wanting somebody with a similar lifestyle/compatibility is being picky.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/20 03:01 PM
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I totally agree
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/20 02:56 PM
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Most people have a hard time losing weight when their body doesn’t process insulin properly.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/20 11:52 PM
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I’m literally living this hell right now. 50/50 so no child support.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/20 11:24 PM
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Most states are moving away from child support. The state I live in (50/50), there is no child support because both are splitting the expenses equally. Alimony isn’t awarded unless the marriage was 10+ years and one gave up their career to raise kids. My ex kept the house because I couldn’t afford to buy him out (he makes 4 times what I do). I had to move in with my family. So your scenario is not always the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/20 11:22 PM
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Or heaven forbid they find a partner with the same goals as them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/20 11:11 PM
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Yeah heaven forbid a man spend any time bonding with his own children. What kind of marriage are you in where children aren’t a joint decision?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/20 11:08 PM
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I’m in Utah and getting screwed tf over from making the mistake of being a stay at home mom for 11 years. He got a shark lawyer and I didn’t have money for a lawyer.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/20 11:02 PM
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It’s hard enough work making a relationship work when there are two imperfect people. I can’t even imagine another party to add to the arguments. It sounds like a nightmare. It just adds another person to disagree with.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/20 04:44 AM
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There is a joke among therapists about how much money is made on threesomes and poly relationships that have ruined families.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/20 04:37 AM
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Sorry to hear. There is a gender imbalance where I live too, but it’s In favor of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/20 04:01 AM
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Can confirm. My ex didn’t start physical abuse until 17 years and 3 kids later.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/20 06:23 PM
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I think you hit the nail on the head with #1. Abusive men wait until they know they have you trapped, (living together, married, a kid or two.) before the abuse becomes blatant. When I was younger no one ever sat me down and told me what early red flags looked like. I had to learn the hard way.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/20 04:53 PM
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It will if I get my way. Bwahahaha!!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/20 04:09 AM
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I don’t believe in soul mates either. Just compatibility. Most women do though for some reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 06:13 PM
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I actually don’t believe in soul mates either, I believe in compatibility, but I know that most women do.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 06:12 PM
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Yep. I like only paying $40 instead of $400 a month for insurance too. When people ask why I drive a mini van, I always reply with, yeah, I’m not into material bullshit. Haven’t had anyone argue back since then.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 06:05 PM
1

Anytime I see women post something bagging on shorter men, I have to jump in and say something. It just doesn’t make any sense to me. You just missed out on your soul mate because you were to shallow. We’re all the same height lying down, lol. It does bug me too.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 05:51 PM
1

Read the thread on why women have screwed guys that aren’t attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 05:48 PM
-2

The gender wage gap is true wether you believe it or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 05:32 PM
1

So true 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 05:28 PM
1

I’m one of those weird chicks that likes nerds, lol. (Rare, but we’re out there.) the guy I’m dating right now listed “Tech support” in his profile as his profession. So I was thinking he probably makes about what I do, or a little less. Several dates in and he tells me that He actually owns the company. So, just an idea to help you weed out girls like that. I dated a lawyer a few months ago and he drove a Toyota Corolla from the 90’s. I actually thought that was cool that he wasn’t wasting his …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 05:23 PM
1

I’m 5’7 and dating a 5’5 guy right now, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 05:11 PM
1

Newly single after a LTR. Stumbled on this sub a few weeks ago. I was wondering what the ideologies of all these different “pill” dating strategies were. I’m pretty horrified by how the men on this sub speak to/about women. I’m not going to be staying much longer. I mentioned being “cute” and got a shit load of pm’s calling me a lying gold digger, lol. It’s to bad because I was neutral and like debates. I like to research both opinions before choosing sides.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 05:10 PM
1

Co dependent personalities often seek out fix-er-uppers.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 05:05 PM
1

Me too. It makes me question humanity.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 05:04 PM
1

Wow. You are awesome. What are you doing on this sub and not a regular dating one?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 05:00 PM
0

Actually, there is a sub called r/sex
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 04:52 PM
11

I’m pretty neutral. Newly single after a LTR. Wanted to see what the pill theories were all about. I’m pretty horrified after watching how disrespectful the men in this sub speak to women. I won’t be staying long. It’s to depressing here. It’s to bad because I enjoy a good debate. Anytime I present a new point of view, the view isn’t challenged, I’m just called names.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 04:50 PM
7

Mine is pretty bad, and I’ve never ever ever had a guy say a damn thing about it. Never asked questions about it. Nothing. I think as long as they are getting laid they don’t really care. There is even porn dedicated to it. So... obviously it’s a preference for some. The person that loves you for you will love everything about you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 04:23 AM
1

10.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/20 02:41 AM
3

Wow, a decent human with moral character. What the hell are you doing on this sub. My ex used to make fun of disabled people. He went on to have 3 special needs kids. Karma is a bitch.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/20 02:14 AM
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What are you doing on this sub, you person of moral character? My special needs son is happier than any one I’ve ever met.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/20 02:09 AM
1

I had no idea he had money. He listed construction management as his profession on his profile to weed people out. I have my own money, k thx. Maybe you aren’t getting laid because you call women you don’t even know gold digging sluts.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/20 01:59 AM
1

And if they have hemmroids or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/20 01:19 AM
1

I couldn’t climax on paroxetine for the first few months on it. It sucked.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/20 12:35 AM
1

We talked about this in my human sexuality class. Men typically have a quicker build up and release. Women typically have a more gradual build up and release. The average man’s is 3-10 seconds and women’s average is 20 seconds. I’m sure there are exceptions, but generally speaking, we release seratonin slower.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 11:36 PM
1

It def makes them easy to eliminate
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 09:24 PM
1

This pic of some guys I’ve dated?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 09:21 PM
1

Yes, thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 09:20 PM
3

Good personality really does make a guy physically attractive to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 08:19 PM
2

Thank you!!!! Funny is a panty dropper for some of us.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 08:17 PM
4

Can confirm. Really really funny is a panty dropper. My room mate: “be careful girl, I’ve gotten pregnant twice over funny.”
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 08:16 PM
1

He made me laugh harder than anyone ever. I’m weird because funny is a quality I NEED. Another guy came to this country with nothing (he had to wear his dads clothing in high school), he started a lawn care company. Used that money to get a masters. Now he invests in real estate. He was only 24 years old. If I can tell they are marriage material, I usually move a lot faster physically.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 08:15 PM
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Can confirm. The narcissist ex husband put the house up for sale without my knowledge to pay for his lawyer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 07:12 PM
1

And they “have less problems than hetero’s.” 🤣🤣🤣🤣. Yeah because society treats them as equals.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 07:04 PM
1

Gay men aren’t dramatic, OMG delusional!!!! Have you never seen any reality show?? Ever??! I love my gay friends to death, but there is no way in hell I could date them. I assure you, skinny and fit gay dudes don’t have to settle. With only 3% of the population orienting that way, the chances for a successful relationship are pretty slim. They won’t wear condoms, some of them are into stimulants, fetish stuff, many won’t wear condoms. A huge percentage cheat because of easy access on grinder etc…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 06:55 PM
1

No kidding. If men damn near barfed, couldn’t breathe or had their jaw in pain there would be a lot less men servicing their women, lol. Same with anal. Why don’t you like having your skin ripped?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 06:34 PM
2

Is there a way to ever know who has stronger orgasms? Women have longer ones, that’s for sure. Unless you have been both genders how can you quantify this? I don’t think there is a way to accurately measure how many hormones and endorphins are released. Any teams people that have transitioned, want to weigh in?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 06:25 PM
4

The cervix (entrance to the uterus) expands during orgasm and releases a secretion thinner than semen. How does that not help sperm reach the Fallopian tubes?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 05:07 PM
1

Damnit I’m on the wrong app.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 04:50 PM
2

Dating apps usually have a 10:1 ratio. The genders are even more skewed in the area I live in. It’s closer to 20 men to 1 female. Very date I go on , “this is my first date from this app” some of the hottest guys say this. After I heard this statistic it made sense that my inbox had hundreds of messages and guys were getting like 5-10.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 04:44 PM
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I know right? Some men just can’t comprehend that women shouldn’t be all lumped into one category. He also didn’t notice that the over 30 dating group is for both genders. And everyone has been cheated on. Some of the best looking people I k ow have been cheated on.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 04:34 PM
1

Do you think after her first experience when she was younger, maybe she learned from her mistakes and got better at not ignoring red flags? I definitely ignored red flags when I was young because of looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 03:51 PM
1

Help me guys. I don’t know why she canceled for no reason. His original post was hilarious. I should have saved it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 04:32 AM
1

Where’d that judge mental incel guy go? And just as I was starting to like him
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 02:15 AM
1

Sent. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 02:13 AM
1

Wanna see some of the cocky “chads” I’ve dumped, lol? raises eyebrows a few times
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 01:52 AM
1

I think he left the thread after calling me a stupid stuck up slut, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 01:44 AM
1

How do I send a photo in this app,lol? It’ll be a second I have a gazillion photos on my computer, lol. I won’t forget though.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 01:07 AM
3

Maybe your looks isn’t the problem. I mean, look at how disrespectfully you are talking to me. Huge turn off telling me I’m a stuck up slut. Would you talk to your mom or sister like that? I’m on here because I like to gather information from all sources before I pick teams and make logical decisions.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 12:46 AM
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So, I actually didn’t see the screen name or avatar. I assumed it was a guy’s post. When I thought it was a man, I kept thinking, this dude doesn’t pick partners very well, lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 12:39 AM
1

Just pointing out that not all women are ugly on the inside.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 12:34 AM
1

And don’t call yourself ugly. I hate that word to describe people.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 12:26 AM
0

Telling me I only care about looks is very judge mental. I’m serious, dm me your snap, and I’ll send a pic of my last bf.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 12:26 AM
0

Stop judging people you don’t even know. Send me your snap chat, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 12:18 AM
1

TF did I just read? I didn’t believe in violence until I read this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 11:17 PM
1

Yeah, I figured that’s what you meant. I’m just a smart ass.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/20 11:12 PM
3

Nope, I have a thing for Latinos (or other tan guys.)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/20 11:09 PM
1

I’m sorry, I don’t understand the question. Do ugly brown guys exist? Lol, actually two were pretty cute. The other two were funny AF. (Like Gabriel Iglesias funny.)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/20 11:03 PM
2

Looks like you hit a nerve of his and he took it a little personal, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/20 10:19 PM
2

Nope. Last four boyfriends were Latino or black. Send me your snap chat and I’ll send you some pics, lol. She’s not the only one. One was 5’7” the other is 5’5” and I’m 5’7.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/20 10:15 PM
1

Same. Latinos are hot. Extra points if they are funny. A good percentage of them like blondes, so it works out nicely.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/20 10:09 PM
4

A true asshole would have a manipulative profile asking for a LTR and then convince the chick he has FeEliNgS after two dates. At least this fake display is honest.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/20 10:04 PM
2

It really is. One of the pillars is financial independence. The men that are made fun of usually deserve it. “I suggested we get coffee and go to a field,”
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/20 09:50 PM
1

The woman
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/20 09:44 PM
1

It kept reading “try again later,” when I tried to post, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/20 09:43 PM
0

I’m sorry, but I have to do this. It’s *fascism.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/20 08:59 PM
0

I’m sorry, but This is going to drive me bonkers. It’s *fascism.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/20 08:58 PM
0

I’m sorry, but This is going to drive me bonkers. It’s *fascism.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/20 08:57 PM
1

I’m sorry, but I have to do this. It’s *fascism.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/20 08:54 PM
27

After my ex got custody, he gave my son a known drug allergy because he was trying to prove that he can handle the kids on their own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 02:13 PM
1

I have found the total opposite in my area. But the women in my area outnumber women 3:1.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 11:21 PM
1

For sure. No fatties in their profile (I’m pretty dang fit) and it’s still super offensive. automatic block for me. Some of the trash just can’t help but tell on its self.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 11:20 PM
1

I’m never approached IRL almost ever. I’ve almost only ever used OLD since becoming single. It did take me about a year and multiple apps to finally find a keeper. It made all the shitty dates and harassment totally worth my end goal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 11:17 PM
1

I think this totally depends on the app. I’ve actually met some damn good guys OLD. It has not been from tinder though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 10:21 PM
3

That’s actually a good idea.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 10:08 PM
11

Damn, I’m using this, but in reverse. They are always out of the blue. I never k ow how to reply. This is what I shall do. Imy bestie says you aren’t thick enough. Or hard pass on that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 10:07 PM
25

Nope. I’m sure just used her for sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 10:01 PM
9

That was my first thought to. Double negatives are from what, 3rd or 4th grade?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 10:00 PM
2

Shoot, I only need to hear it once. You don’t like me. Ok. You can be replaced by the end of the week.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 09:27 PM
3

These are some of the best comments ever. I’m actually working on a fitness blog right now to help women loose that stubborn baby weight. I don’t like how my face isn’t photogenic and hate having my picture taken/being in the spot light. So I’m doing it because I know how hard it is to struggle with self esteem issues. I want to help women feel their best again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 03:37 PM
3

It sounds like red pill stuff is stressing you out. Time to eliminate it from your life. Live at home until you have a good job. You are 24 not 42. I went on a date with a guy that was 39 and had never moved out of moms house. Do you think you will still be there in 15 years? Do whatever you have to do to get through school. Including staying home so you have as little student debt as possible. Hell if I got along with my mom I would have stayed there long enough to save up for a house.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/20 06:27 AM
16

I had an hour long fight over me not describing the median lane correctly. 🤦‍♀️that should have been my cue to gtfo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 06:07 AM
17

I’ll never bring an angry man on vacation again. They can find shit to get mad about on a cruise ship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 06:05 AM
28

Wow you just described my marriage to me ex. I’m pissed off, why are you so happy??!! Uh, because I choose to be. It pissed him off even more when I stopped giving a shit. He was angry all the damn time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 06:02 AM
22

This article was talking specifically about when they have twins. But you are right. No brownie points for what you should be doing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 01:10 AM
1

Being funny. If your profile makes me laugh thrice, you’ll get a phone call, and possibly a date. If I laugh my ass off on the first date, you definitely get more. I can’t explain it, but it is such a panty dropper for me. My BFF is the same way. She says; “careful, I’ve gotten pregnant twice over funny”. Probably the least attractive quality a guy can have is to be full of himself. Don’t care how good looking, smart or cute you are. I’ll end the date early if they are full of themselves or if T…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/20 12:36 AM
1

Thanks. You sound like an empathetic lover. I hope you find what you are looking for too.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/20 10:14 PM
2

Google the Atlantic the science of cohabitation. It compiled several several studies through out the years. Several new studies. You do have to read the whole article for conclusions. It has gone down slightly from 30-50% in the past 20 years; however, this is more likely due the average age people get married at. So you are 30% more likely to divorce. We learned about this in my sociology classes and in my marriage and family relations classes. It also concludes that couples that didn’t live to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 10:12 PM
1

Yep. And toys lol, with our without a buddy.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/20 03:04 AM
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It’s always the ones that don’t cuddle, give massages or do pda. You are confusing sex with a love language.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 02:49 AM
9

Sorry, but I can’t not say this. People that co-habitate before marriage are twice as likely to divorce.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 02:47 AM
1

That’s one of the reasons. It actually hits the clit sometimes. Just barely though, lol. My uterus is tilted. And I have an auto immune bladder disease that causes cramping and inflammation. Also being able to control how rough. I have only climaxed from PIV like maybe 5 times in my life. There are no nerve endings inside the vagina, so I don’t understand why so many women can. I wish I had control over when I cum. Sometimes I just can’t. It’s frustrating. Guys are really turned off when they he…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/20 05:11 PM
1

Woman on top is the only one that is actually enjoyable for me, and the only one I can actually climax from, and also only if they wear a vibrating ring. Side ways or jack come quickly are alright. Missionary totally depends on the guys size. Doggy is sometimes bare able, but sometimes excruciating. I had a boyfriend that was really really tiny (j/k but seriously tho), and nothing would have hurt had he not been into only super rough. I was never sore from him the next day.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/20 02:46 PM
14

This guy must be from that purple pill sub. Totally delusional.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 02:34 PM
1

Stop following models and celebrities. Start following inventors, motivation coaches. Artists and scientists and your view will change. I had to unfollow my sister, lol. I couldn’t handle even one more selfie with out my eyes exploding.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/20 09:45 AM
1

Bingo. They were a blast as a kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/20 09:41 AM
3

It sounds like she found a decent man too.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/20 09:38 AM
1

I go to court today to try to get more time with my kids. Thank you 🙏 For the advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 09:30 AM
1

Lol, that’s so awesome!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 09:19 AM
1

Men with no dates and social life. That’s who has the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 09:18 AM
1

Yes!! Thank you!!! I wrote the same thing and a man was telling me that I was having sex wrong because certain positions are painful. No, jackass it’s painful with every partner. It’s just worse when they are huge or unnecessarily rough.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/20 09:08 AM
7

This sub has such a huge number of abusive and entitled people.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/20 09:02 AM
2

How do you know if something is painful for me? Are you going to tell me when I’m hungry and tired too? Don’t tell people how or what they feel when it’s not your body. I’m not the only female that thinks doggy style is painful. Do a quick google search “why is doggy style painful” and you will see that I’m not the only female that hates it. Also, my babies were all 6 pounds and early and I still had to be stitched up for almost 45 minutes. It’s usually genetic not circumstantial. If your mom to…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/20 08:58 AM
3

Yep. The really good looking ones are usually selfish or narcissists. I would take a really funny and sweet 6 over a selfish 10 any day. If they are selfish with their time or money they are always selfish in bed. I just got rid of a FWB 10 because he couldn’t even handle FWB. It was an eventual turn off.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/20 08:06 PM
2

No kidding. It’s not our fault some men have broken pickers.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/20 07:54 PM
1

My ex couldn’t as much but a house or car without his moms approval. I assure you mommas boys and emotional incest abuse runs in both genders.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/20 07:53 PM
2

You probably treat your partner as an equal then. There’s a reason women file 84% of divorces. I can’t tell you what a turn on it is to see a man help out with the kids or clean up their own messes. Resentment happens for a reason. Keep doing whatever it is you are doing for her.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/20 07:51 PM
1

Yeah, why would they commit when they are already getting it?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/20 07:45 PM
3

Any time I have ever given it up to soon, I have been accused of cheating for almost the entire relationship. Even if I explained to them that I only moved quickly because I felt an instant connection and saw them as boyfriend material. It causes severe trust issues for even for even the most secure males. It’s ok for us to learn from our mistakes and to not repeat them. It’s also okay for us to weed out the ones that want a LTR, vs the ones that will take off the second they get what they want.…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/20 07:44 PM
2

And they didn’t pay for it because McDonald’s does tuition assistance.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/20 07:36 PM
11

That’s the most abusive manipulative attitude. Sex isn’t usually excruciating for men. That’s a good way to make your partner hate sex. If your women “needed” to peg you with a strap on he should do it because love? Nope. That’s so rape-y. Pick women that already like that shit instead of coercing someone that doesn’t want to. Thats not love. People that love each other care about not wanting to make their partners cry from pain.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/20 07:34 PM
5

I think doggy style can be just as painful sometimes. Especially if it’s at an angle where they are smacking your ovaries as hard as they can.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/20 07:29 PM
2

I think doggy style is just as painful sometimes. Especially if it’s at an angle where it’s smacking into your ovaries or if they are jack hammering harder than they do with other positions. Ive damn near cried from both of those. It’s a good thing they can’t see my face when it’s excruciating.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/20 07:27 PM
10

Coercion is still manipulative and abusive. No means no. It doesn’t mean to keep asking until we give up. If a woman tried something and it was excruciating, she is not obligated to keep trying it. You are not entitled to anything. That’s how resentment happens and women start hating sex. It’s unfair? Do you think it’s fair that we should have to tear to our ass when giving birth? Can you imagine your penis splitting open? Sex is never fair. Sex isn’t painful for most men. That’s not fair. I sho…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/20 07:23 PM
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I am benefiting from marriage. I got half the equity/profit from the house, I got half his 401(k). I’m getting 20% of his income for the next 15 years. That’s pretty beneficial.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 03:18 PM
21

False, I put that bastard through school and now I’m getting half the equity/profits from the house and half his 401k. I’ll be getting 20% of this abusive asshole’s salary for the next 15 years. When there’s a shitty prenup there’s no benefit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 03:17 PM
5

I don’t know? Are you done with your education and is your career established? Is marriage and kids your goal? Has he ever said he isn’t the marrying type?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 03:14 PM
2

This is going to probably be an unpopular opinion, so take it with a grain of salt. I think you haven’t processed the trauma that assholes have put you through and now you are judging all men because of your experiences. If you get an infection, you need to get into whomever you can and not wait around for a specific gender of a doctor. Gynos have to go through extensive additional training in their field. They mostly deliver babies. There is absolutely nothing erotic about bringing a life into …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 02:04 PM
5

If the statute of limitations isn’t up you can still press charges. At the very least if it can’t be proved, hopefully he will never do it to anyone else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 01:27 PM
17

My ex would bring up the, my IQ is 7 points higher than yours, so I get to make xyz decision. Also a computer programmer. I’m in nursing. His emotional intelligence is that of a bout a 12 or 13-year-old. He didn’t have any musical talent, artistic ability or athletic ability whatsoever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 04:06 AM
15

I regret giving them to my ex husband.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 02:48 AM
12

That’s a good point. If we all refused to do this they all wouldn’t feel so entitled to screwing holes that aren’t meant to be screwed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 02:36 AM
1

We will most likely get 50/50 custody with most of dads time in the summer. It’s not their best interest, but that’s the court system for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 09:43 PM
1

Men do this with looks frequently. I almost never see a man with women 2-3 points lower. The only difference is that you have more control over your career/ ambition than you do over looks beyond working out/hygiene. Who the hell are all these people asking their dates what their salary is? Finances is something you should inquire about when you decide to get a joint bank account. I had a lawyer insist I look at his bank account. It was the most awkward thing ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/20 06:27 PM
20

Lmao!!! This field guy is never going to live this down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 06:18 PM
3

Uh, the 50 year old I’m dating right now made it very clear to not waste his time if I wasn’t also looking for a serious relationship. He’s been divorced and about to sell his company to retire next year. He says he Wants somebody to travel the world with him. I said are you 100% you want to get married again? He said yeah why wouldn’t I. I automatically know when a 25 year old messages me, I’m 40 by the way that he is looking for a hook up. Also please don’t use the word retarded. I have three …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 03:42 AM
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I’m a girly girl and I just do toner and sunscreen before my makeup, lol. I don’t think any of my exes knew what toner is.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/20 07:40 AM
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This sub has the funniest people in it. Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 07:25 AM
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No, I think it’s more a yeah, I know I was out of line thing but less grovely. They did realize they weren’t being fair in the first place
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 07:22 AM
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Or an unsolicited dick pick someone else sent you. That’s my favorite
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 07:20 AM
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It gets better when you get older, I promise. As soon as their hot starts falling out they panic and do a 180.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 06:35 AM
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It gets better when you are older. I promise. Then it’s the opposite. They want to get married before all their hair is completely gone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 06:34 AM
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It was the same chick with a wig. There wasn’t an actual dude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 06:29 AM
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This is so true. Shouldn’t we be the ones that need variety?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 06:24 AM
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Just to spread genetic material, huh . Why do I want to do foster care to adopt programs. I’m capable of popping out more babies. Also, I go to the gym so I don’t have to be on antidepressants.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/20 04:36 AM
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A skin care routine. just drooled on my phone
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/20 04:30 AM
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I know right? I won’t do two men and one woman threesomes because I’m not gay. You sure are fine with forcing that on me.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/20 10:19 PM
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I wonder if there is a separate app or It’s not on mobile or desktop version.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 10:12 PM
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He even said, not to be rude rude before. So I thought that was bizarre. There is no way to scientifically measure this stereo type because looks, value and personality are subjective and can’t be measured. So that’s why my views are based off life experience. Spit my drink out at @pua sub. I have no idea which ones of them are rich, smart or good looking. Girls are sleeping with some of them. I would call them delusional and unethical. Also I did say multiple times that I’m sure there are excep…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 10:02 PM
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Where the ads used to be. I haven’t been on FB for a year and they change it so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 09:29 PM
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I guess John Malaney is cute and he’s a comedian (my type). I have had multiple guys tell me they assumed I would be shallow because of my looks. My last boyfriend told me that I have the personality of a girl that is 250+, so I know some men share my life experience. I’ve had guys ask me to hook them up with my more average friend because they “tend to work on their personalities or careers more”. I don’t think curvy girls are ugly, so I can’t answer that question objectively. The two really ho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 09:26 PM
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It used to be on the side suggestions. Try a search.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 08:42 PM
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Thank you sister!! That made my day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 08:41 PM
1

Correct. The layer of muscle is severed side to side, not top to bottom.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/20 08:32 PM
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I’m working on the exercise/macro tweaking portion now. Most gyms don’t allow nursing babies or un-potty trained kids. So I have access now. My butt will be thick and round wether I weigh 90 lbs or 200. My goal isn’t muscle, it’s to look good because I’m a terrible person, lol. Also to meet nutrient counts. I couldn’t get body building big if I tried. (Pear shape, Ectomorph) My only saggy skin is the bottom of my stomach. When your waist triples in size 4 times stretch mark damage is inevitable.…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/20 08:26 PM
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“They still love the woman they cheat on”? It’s usually a psychological (trust issues, insecurities, unresolved childhood trauma, control issues abandonment issues shitty role models, sexist cultural) Unhealthy people don’t hurt someone they love unless they are insecure, narcissistic, abusive or hippo critical. Be honest and up front about wanting variety by only dating women into open relationships. There are plenty of women who like to experiment.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/20 07:08 PM
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This explains why I close my eyes when I’m starting to have fun and my dude always has to look straight at what’s going on. Explains why men view porn more.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/20 03:48 AM
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I dated a guy that said he couldn’t climax with strangers anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/20 03:44 AM
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This is so true. The roomie and I have complete opposite tastes. We rate guys on dating apps and our numbers are 2-3 points away from one another.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/20 03:40 AM
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Same. I can fix his insecurities with compliments. I’ll just fix a few things then send him on his way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 03:32 AM
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Or they are such a narcissist they think you are the one with the problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 03:30 AM
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Two have profound disabilities and other has adhd. It’s gotten much easier since the divorce and now he is forced to watch the kids without my help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 01:49 AM
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Is do able, but the hardest thing you will ever do. Of course my boys are only 10,6 and 3, lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 01:45 AM
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Water retention probably 4-6 lbs most of them from the IVs. Not sure on the muscle. I want some fat left on my body because I love my boobs and don’t want them to disappear, lol. My ballet days were not my best look. I Did things kinda different than most. I took before/after pics showing the weight loss from diet alone. Now I’m working out to take a third pic that shows the impact exercise makes. I’m sure you’ve heard the, “you get skinny in the kitchen and toned in the gym” saying. I’m trying …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/20 01:42 AM
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And macros are important too, so t get me wrong. No carbs is what gets me through those stubborn plateaus.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/20 12:44 AM
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I lost all 50-60 lbs of my baby weight after each kid using my fitness pal app (calorie counting and macros) so I’m doing something right.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/20 12:25 AM
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Half veggies, quarter protein, quarter carbs. I cut out sugar, wheat and eat cleaner than clean. And actually you can eat 900 calories of Oreos and loose weight. Your muscle tone will disappear, and you will be tired all the time. But no. This is why keto works, Atkins works and counting calories works. Calories in, calories burned. My brother does sports medicine and my sister is a registered dietician with a masters.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/20 11:54 PM
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For sure. Hey look, an empathetic person in this group!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/20 10:39 PM
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It took 3 years and damn near starving myself. I can still have empathy for women that have their thyroids jacked up after. My hips and rib cage are so much wider that I went up 2 sizes. I still have empathy for women whose thyroid get completely jacked up or who become diabetic afterwards.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/20 10:02 PM
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Excuse me “terrestrial kingdom” or “outer darkness” hey do you have a BBC account?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/20 09:56 PM
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Oh, I felt so awful about myself. It just made it exponentially worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/20 09:40 PM
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The muscles from c sections can never be repaired. Having your boobs inflate 3 sizes bigger and then shrink changes them. Some of it is genetics. You see hundreds of women? None of my friends or sisters. I lost all but 5 pounds and I have loose skin on my stomach. Those women had fast metabolism before they had kids (usually younger moms.) My metabolism has not been the same since. I work out so much harder and eat so many less calories than pre baby. I assure you my bladder will never ever be t…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/20 09:37 PM
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Mine had a sleeping disorder and didn’t sleep for more than an hour tops. It was our first kid so we thought that was normal. I finally mentioned at one of our check up.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/20 09:28 PM
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Women loose their sex drive because the hormones of pregnancy drop, mainly progesterone. I was a freaking rabbit when pregnant (especially with boy pregnancies) Both actually loose their sex drive because they live off of 4-6 hours of sleep. One of my kids didn’t sleep through the night until he was 2 😩.It gets worse the more kids you have and the more exhausted you become. Some men’s testosterone actually go down during their partners pregnancy and post partum period, although experts can’t exp…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/20 09:16 PM
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So is anorgasmia. Look at the causes; death grip.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 07:55 PM
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We lost a healthy 46 y/o nurse that I work with. We have a teacher in critical condition in my area due to covid and we aren’t even a red state. Look up stats for how many medical professionals have died in New York.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/20 04:04 PM
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We are using triage for rooms and lost a 46 yo heathy nurse. Our state isn’t even red. Where do you live?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/20 03:43 PM
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My therapist diagnosed me as very introverted and severely independent, lol. I don’t care. There are no articles about how to help extroverts to be less social. Only ones to “help” us. I do think there is a higher percentage in men though.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/20 07:59 AM
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I wrote a comment below that has so many examples not just submission thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 05:12 AM
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Did not know that, lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 05:11 AM
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Shoot. I talk about how prophets can take on younger wives (a cop out for cheating and treating us like baby machines), bible, Islam, FLDS, Mormon. Why did god create more men than women if polygamy is divine. I call extra bull shit on that one. What a miserable life. There’s a few others. Why can’t women be bishops, reverends, prophets, priests? Only men can be a conduit to god? If women can run countries they can run and teach in religions. Women make better teachers. Men call women whores in …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 04:58 AM
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Yeah, I live in a very religious area. 70% of the MD’s are hard core religious (Mormon) and don’t want to spend eternity in hell for cheating. I’ve only heard of a few affairs here and there. None of the ones I have worked for (at least not that I know of.) that’s funny that you are in Mexico and want the girl to offer. The only guy that has let me pay was white, lol. The two from Mexico were super offended that I offered to go halfsies. 😂 Medics here refers to ambulance and emergency.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/20 04:26 AM
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Two of them are special needs, so they won’t leave the home. I do have a website that I sell my art because I need it for sanity.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/20 03:21 AM
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Nope. Nursing is my jam.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/20 03:18 AM
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I would have gone into the arts if I thought I could actually take adequate care of my kids on that income. 😞
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/20 03:06 AM
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That’s the one thing I don’t agree with in FDS. I think whomever asks pays, because equality. With that said, I’ve only once in my life had a man take up my offer to split. They also insist and some cultures I date get offended. Surgeons are 90% Narcs, I’ll give you that. MD’s, PA, NP’s, I respectfully disagree with you there.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/20 02:43 AM
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The entire point of the post was to not become financially dependent on a man (which is one of the pillars of FDS). Careers such as Medicine, law and STEM were 95ish % Men. More and more women are realizing they can study just as hard, be ambitious and choose careers that break the old fashioned stereotype. Don’t complain women get married for money and soak up your resources when you are bashing them for using men for money.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/20 01:12 AM
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Except one is bettering yourself as a person and the other isn’t. How is the profession going to shit when we are risking our lives for others? It takes guts for us to go to work right now. Are you insinuating that if you were dating two girls equal in other aspects that you would choose the one that would be reliant on you (or possibly use you for money) that you would go for the lower earner? I assure you status had nothing to do with my decision.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/20 01:04 AM
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People that put other’s lives before their own are pretty valuable in most people’s opinion. I feel the same way about fire fighters and teachers. The entirety of the post was that there are positive messages was about women not using men for money. You are missing the entire point.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/20 12:56 AM
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That’s not true. Several posts tell us to become the doctors that our parents told us to marry.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/20 09:04 PM
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There are a few ideologies I agree with on this sub and some I don’t. I wish the sole purpose was avoiding abusive men.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/20 09:03 PM
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Nope. See my other comment for other sexist examples.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 08:58 PM
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And why is God automatically a man? Because male prophets told us so? Hmmmmm
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 08:57 PM
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Christianity has some sexism in it too. See my excellent comment below, lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 08:55 PM
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If the Bible is inspired by God, why is it in there? See my other examples below of other overt sexism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 08:54 PM
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But you literally said that men lead us. Screw that. If they can be prime ministers they can be bishops priests, reverends. That’s my point. This oh it’s Devine for men to be leaders is a crock. In my hible opinion. See my comment below.me. ‘Men are not a conduit to spirituality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 08:32 PM
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This is just one example, see my comment below.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 08:27 PM
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This is just one example ladies. Telling women to cover themselves up instead of telling men to effing control their thoughts and using it as an excuse to rape. Men taking and marrying more than one younger wife when she gets older (men made this revelation shit up to cheat because god said it’s ok) (Mormon, flds, Muslim, even in the Bible prophets subjected women to sharing a husband.) Women are labeled whores and not men. Why can’t women be priests, reverends, pastors? Are men more more “spiri…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 08:27 PM
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This is a personal choice though, even though this has happened to me. Literally. Thank god for child support and alimony for me to rebuild my career I started.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 08:16 PM
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It literally means that you aren’t equals though. It is a partnership. That’s not the definition to equal. Why doesn’t it read, the people shall submit to god? Instead of mentioning the man first? Every religious man I’ve ever dated has only looked at the Ephesians 5.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 07:04 PM
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I can’t agree with this post more. Money is what ruined my husband too. After he started making good money. All of a sudden, everything was his. His house. His kids. He accused me of being a gold digger in front of our kids. I was like, “bitch you made $10 an hour when I met and married you.” He too, also started making nasty comments about my body after having kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 11:38 AM
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Hate this on face book and social media queens!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 02:40 AM
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I can’t up this enough. I don’t know how women vet so fast. Those covert narcissists hide really well for months sometimes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 12:17 AM
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This is so true. Both genders are being painted as if they are using one another. In a good relationships there is a balance of give and take. Don’t want women to “use” you for money? Don’t use them for sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/20 04:55 PM
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Thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 08:09 AM
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Uhh, a sickly scraggly sinbad. You give him to much credit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 06:25 AM
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No no. Other girls need to see his face publicly to avoid his trap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 06:22 AM
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At least he is marrying her. Some Lvm string women along for decades.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 06:18 AM
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I find myself attracted to not 25 year olds anymore too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 06:01 AM
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Almost all of them. Jlo has twins even. She worked her ass off in that new girl power movie that came out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 06:01 AM
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Those blood clots can be completely avoided if the filler remembers to pull back before injecting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 05:39 AM
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You can actually get an injection just kind of under your eyebrow and it will pull the muscles up on it a little bit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 05:36 AM
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I do what I want!!!That’s a weird thing to bully someone over. It’s ok if we aren’t all a carbon copy of each other in this sub. It’s okay for me to have different opinions than you. We are supposed be building each other up instead of trying to tear others down. God men tear us down enough!!! In 20 years I’ll be laughing at everyone with my (still) wrinkle free face. Some of us are going to school to open up our own medical practice and spa to be injectors. Stop hating. You do you. Stop shaming…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 05:10 AM
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There is nothing wrong with liking funny guys!!they will still be funny when they are 90.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 03:41 AM
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Of my gosh. I’ve had ones wait like two months. I’m like who?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 03:39 AM
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And pics of dead animals? Like what?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 03:06 AM
5

Where is My future wife Gwen stefani!! Who the hell put this list together?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 02:57 AM
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Some women have shoes. Some clothes, some cars. I clip coupons and drive a minivan so that I can get fillers, lol. It’s worth every penny to have people guess my age wrong by 13 years. $300 every other year isn’t half bad. microneedling isn’t painful at all. I bought one at Walmart for $5.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 02:57 AM
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I did not know the writers said that. I’m suspected to be on the spectrum, and was excited to see someone represent. Womp womp.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 11:32 PM
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I’m 40 (I do look younger says everyone) and have had no difficulty getting dates online. Also noticed tinder is more hook up, bumble and match.com are so much better quality. I’ve had some success in POF because it says if they want a relationship or not looking for anything serious. I also like that it has if they smoke and if they want kids. I get messaged by twenty something year olds occasionally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 09:53 PM
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Kind of. Psychopaths have no conscience (have a prefrontal cortex disorder or brain injury) and sociopaths have little empathy, usually due to upbringing, less to do with their biology. Then there’s Personality disorders too. NPD and BPD have very similar traits.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 09:49 PM
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Where the hell are their moms? Are they scum bags too that it’s okay that this is what they raised? Or was their dad the one that taught them to be abusive narcissists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 09:41 PM
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I’ve only paid once. He did offer to Venmo me to split I was the one that asked.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/20 09:15 PM
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I’m a chick and I totally agree. However with that being said, if he insists I let him. I’ve only once in my life had a guy take me up on my offer to split when Ive pulled out my cash monies. That would be messed up for me to ask somebody out and then say, hey let’s go out. You can buy me a steak. It’s also presumptuous to assume that certain places are in someone’s budget. If I ask though, I make sure we go somewhere that I can afford. I am; however, more frugal than like 98% of all women. I li…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/20 09:11 PM
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That too. The husband rarely tells the mistress that she’s the side piece. I personally think it takes two to tango When breaking up families. I personally would never do something like that. I still think my definition of a slut is someone that knowingly helps cheat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 07:34 PM
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I used grocery store spermicides for 15 years and never had an issue. If you don’t ever want kids then consider using condoms on the 2-3 days you are fertile. Was it a copper iud or the hormone kind like mirena?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 05:05 PM
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Cops and lawyers are the worst to date!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 04:52 PM
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Abusive stalkers are a real thing. File a protective order for stalking. He will get jail time or a few thousand dollars in fines if he violates the order. After the po expires get a stalking injunction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 04:52 PM
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I found a job after being a SAHM for 10 years. Now I’m finishing my degree to make 3 times what he makes. You can do this sis !!!!!!! Is he physically abusive or a psychological narcissist? My ex turned physical while I was divorcing him and still living in our house. Don’t leave the marital home unless he gets physically abusive. Call the cops for proof when your protective order is filed and go somewhere safe (not a relative)s or battered women’s shelter preferably in another state. If you are…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 04:49 PM
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Training a new hire. Ok. I can see that. They might be afraid to ask questions. But you absolutely need to be a boss lady when speaking to your other equal colleagues, like you know what you are doing. Do ask the man that said this if he would be having the same conversation if you were a man. It might be that you are so intelligent that even the other MDs don’t understand you. I have met more than one geneticist that could educate circles around me, but they were the most humble men/women I’ve …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 02:53 PM
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Yeah, when you give men one night stands then they all feel entitled to them. You are ruining men. When you get mature enough to settle down the men your age won’t because why would they?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 02:20 PM
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Who the hell can pleasure a woman on the first try? It takes forever to train them to follow directions or stop being so damn rough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 02:17 PM
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I think 99% of us just want relationship sex. Men have just brain washed us into thinking that we have no consequences for 30 seconds of fun. Women are statistically more depressed and have worse self esteem than women that are less promiscuous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 02:15 PM
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Don’t call yourself (even your previous self) a slut. That word was invented by men to put us down. You were naive and to trusting, inexperienced. Not slutty. Sluts are women that sleep with other women’s husbands (in my opinion.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 02:10 PM
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Uh, sex can be fun with the same person. I assure you there are products, toys, clothes, public places, all sorts of super fun stuff. Without having to risk getting hpv or herpes (the sti’s you can still get with condoms.) plus who wants to train a man to pleasure you once? Uggh, I can’t even imagine having to constantly tell someone that doesn’t know what hurts me and what I like. It’s a headache just thinking about it. I’d rather get really really good at pleasuring the same guy than a differe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 02:08 PM
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Don’t date men you feel sorry for in the future.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 06:19 AM
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I’ve dealt with a lot of stalkers. You have to tell them you have a boyfriend now and send a picture if you can.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 06:18 AM
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No, he’s on the spectrum. Technically. They struggle with empathy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 06:15 AM
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Wow!!! You are awesome. You are my hero!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 06:08 AM
3

Wow. I don’t blame you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 06:07 AM
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Would have been more awesome if he showed up to the appointment and a gay man was waiting in his room. After paying more for “extra.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 05:43 AM
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Kinda related but not so much. A date I recently went on gets massages regularly. He said the lady made the jerking move and said, you want finish, 60 dollar? He said no and she offered 40???? Like what the hell woman. Your making the rest of us look bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 05:41 AM
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Going through the same thing!!! Now that I’m dating, I can literally pick out which ones are abusive or selfish sooooo much faster because they will say something that reminds me of the ex. I even caught myself almost dating someone I could fix. Three weeks later I met someone that wouldn’t hurt a fly. I am choosing to look at this as another chance to pick a better partner this time around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 03:26 AM
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Wow, a reasonable person in this sub. It is hard to tell isn’t it? Negative Personality traits don’t come out for sometimes several weeks.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/20 02:58 AM
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Per Abusive narcissists. There’s no way that post is serious.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/20 02:54 AM
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Only 24 downvoted he got?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 11:42 PM
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Preach!!!!! It’s to bad you can’t actually comment on his tweet, because that’s a slayer comment sis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 11:37 PM
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What the hell didi just read? Do you get to handcuffs all of his fingers when he’s in the shower??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 11:32 PM
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I’m getting there too. I’m slowly rebuilding my career so I don’t ever have to be financially dependent on a man ever again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 09:57 PM
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Oh. So he wanted a friend with benefits but knew you wouldn’t put up with that shit, so he gave you a girlfriend title.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 09:51 PM
3

Or he could just work on his career so that he can afford a good investment in his hygiene in general. But that would be to easy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 09:21 PM
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Actually your inbox would probably fill up and explode.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 09:19 PM
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I don’t think they realize that men outnumber women on dating apps something like 10:1. I can’t believe how many dates I go on tell me I’m their first date. I always think really, but he’s such a nice guy, or funny or cute. To me online dating is more logical because you can only hit on so many people that have a SO until it gets frustrating.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/20 02:12 PM
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But this one is hilarious. You can post a queen meme anytime you like. You could probably find a ton on Pinterest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 01:59 PM
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Going through a divorce too from the same exact type. The physical didn’t start until after our third kid. I swear they wait until they have you trapped. Glad you are doing better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 01:52 PM
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I don’t know if he “settled” for you if he liked you the most. He just has some weird excuse to not date one person at a time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 01:40 PM
1

That is such a perfect way to describe it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 01:34 PM
2

Three of them have fallen into the same trap AGAIN. Ceasar, Meredith and blond Aladdin wife lady.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/20 09:14 PM
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This is such a perfect example of both sexes being completely blind to the fact that they are used.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/20 06:51 PM
2

You had me in the first paragraph. It all went to hell in the last one. I was all about having a provider when I was 18-20. The husband isn’t loved? Uh, in healthy relationships love grows the longer you are together. I have my own money. I do t “need” a man. I would like one. Your kids leave the home, but your partner is with you until death. How else can you model healthy relationships besides showing them a loving respectful relationship? Single moms are some of the hardest working people I k…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/20 06:00 PM
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She has the most choices? No, it takes two to tango. If both people decide to not use a condom, both people caused it. Both partners choose to have sex. Women can’t get themselves pregnant. It has literally nothing to do with available choices. This only proves my point even more. They do make male birth control now. Did you know that?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/20 03:32 PM
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You have never in your life heard of a condom ripping? Condoms are only 90% effective. Birth control is 95% effective unless you want the kind that kills your sex drive, required surgery or makes you gain 30lbs. You don’t know anyone that is an accident? 2 out of 3 of my siblings were birth control babies.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/20 03:20 AM
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Give me a real life (can be anecdotal) example of only men having responsible traits. For example, religious men tell women to dress modestly so that they can control their thoughts. Another good example is men often say, She got knocked up, instead of “we”. Or, she was dressed slutty, so she was asking for it. Is used to justify sexual assault.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/20 03:14 AM
0

I messaged you.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/20 11:24 PM
1

Wow. Yeah, bare boobs don’t belong in your bio if you want to look for marriage material. Every single dad has my “kids come first”. That phrase never bothers me. I don’t want to date a guy that puts booty before his kids until we are serious. I don’t have any requirements in my bio just compatibility info. What’s wrong with wanting them have a job? The thing that kills me in men’s bios is “please have all your teeth, lol” I don’t understand the height requirement either. Do short guys beat thei…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/20 07:42 PM
1

Probably. 38 and just got out of a 15 year marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/20 07:15 AM
2

I don’t think I’m taking it offensively, I just haven’t heard that verbiage in like 20 years, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/20 06:43 AM
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Nope. I’m dating a really awesome guy right now. Finally found one that takes his career as serious as I do.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/20 04:06 AM
10

I could not have sex with a man with a monster plant tattooed onto his chest. How could I concentrate with that ugly ass wall paper.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 04:03 AM
14

What?? Thank you to whoever pm’d me this group!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 11:36 PM
2

I know. Yikes. Get some therapy and fix yourself until you don’t view all relationships as a death sentence. No seriously. Don’t even screw around until you are well enough to view love as a privilege. Bitterness and judge mental aren’t attractive qualities. Oops, sorry replying to his weird rant.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/20 11:30 PM
5

Omg you are my spirit animal.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/20 11:27 PM
6

I waited until I was married to have sex by choice. It is really presumptuous for them to think that they are just so hot that we can’t control our selves.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/20 11:12 PM
1

Because I’m a good example of a woman that thinks funny is sexually attractive. It’s a nice bonus if they are cute, but no humor is a complete dealbreaker for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/20 11:10 PM
8

And what is up with uni-brows? It’s not that hard to fix. I can’t even appreciate their personality when I’m distracted by looking like two caterpillars are about to kiss. 🐛
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 10:25 PM
-1

What’s wrong with a woman communicating her intents? I don’t judge men that are looking with FWB, I just don’t want to waste an hour of my time with them. When guys don’t communicate their intentions it’s called playing games. Do you just not like direct communicators? Why is this acceptable when men mature enough to want a family. We don’t judge them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/20 10:19 PM
-1

What is the politically correct terminology now? I’ve only really ever heard men say this. Women usually say I’m ready to find my soul mate.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/20 10:13 PM
12

I cannot tell you how many men confess to judging me. I thought you would be shallow because you are pretty. I thought you slept around because you go on a lot of dates. No, I go on lots of dates because a lot of them have red flags or don’t have their shit together, or they just want sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/20 10:00 PM
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I know right? And who the hell grills a woman about her sexual history? Maybe a high schooler. They just can’t fathom that more than one type of woman exists and some of us are I dependent. Men that label women sluts are usually the ones using them. Good quality men don’t label women or lump them all into one category.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/20 09:57 PM
17

That’s abusive. Ewww.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 08:19 PM
24

Smokers are twice as likely to get divorce too. It’s not the actual smoking but the fact that they are more impulsive and have addictive personalities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 08:18 PM
23

I hate kissing big huge beards. Uggg. When will this lumber jack trend be over. It ages them like 10 years. It’s just an excuse to be lazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 08:16 PM
1

I don’t think he is ugly at all. He’s cute enough I would date him.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/20 08:11 PM
1

He’s my “favorite” as in I’m about to delete my dating app. Gross, sex isn’t a “reward” 🤢🤢🤮🤮. Believe it or not, but some people actually date with the intent of a relationship or marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/20 08:05 PM
1

I choose those two examples because they are my favorite style of comedy (self deprivation is my favorite). Plus they are both family oriented, don’t swear and talk about food as much as I do l, hence they would be perfect for me. They happen to be my favorite of all times. John Malaney, James Corden and Shayne Smith are my close thirds. Comedians I don’t find funny at all: Carrot top, Jay Leno, Weird Al, Jimmy Fallon, Tosh.0 (is just to crass). Thanks for judging me though.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/20 07:43 PM
19

It took over a year for my abuser to move on. It wasn’t until he met his new fiancé. I hear you though. My self esteem was pretty bad when I first started dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 07:33 AM
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I was thinking it was brilliant too because your plan was exactly to let an abuser find a new victim. That’s the only way they leave you alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 06:44 AM
1

I’m going to strongly disagree with that. Gabriel Eglesias and Jim Gaffigin are like my dream husbands, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/20 06:35 AM
1

Lol. They removed his post. I didn’t even report it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/20 05:59 AM
1

Not matches. Messages. My room mate has never got more than like 20.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/20 05:52 AM
8

Mine too!! I was supposed to be in bed rest but I wasn’t going to let the house go to hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 03:01 AM
2

Most places are pretty good. I’m not lds so I fit in pretty well in salt lake. It’s finally getting more diverse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 02:41 AM
3

Literally every city in Utah has sushi for $5-10. Maybe it’s 10-15 downtown salt lake or park city. The way fancy places where you have your own sword throwing chef are like $20-30. Please don’t move here though, I don’t want our house prices to go up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 02:30 AM
3

I know I was calling the field murderer creep a dumb ass. My comment wasn’t directed at her. I didn’t think it was rude at all. If you don’t agree, say hey, I live in San Francisco and sushi costs $200. I I will be like, oh, okay cool. Maybe he lives in Dubai.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 02:28 AM
1

I mean, I have 197 messages in my inbox on POF today, do you want a screen shot? So there’s a few guys that don’t think I’m hideous.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/20 02:16 AM
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I’m dating s guy that’s 5’5” right now because he is funny AF and confident, independent. I’ve probably been on 50 dates and he’s by far my favorite.. on date 4 and he still hasn’t tried to get in my pants. Because he’s a gentleman. You meant to say shallow girls right?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/20 02:05 AM
2

There are typically 10 men per every woman on most dating apps (don’t let that discourage you though). I live in an area that is 70% Mormon and some Muslim. Mormons will not marry outside their faith or sometimes race. There are far more Mormon women than men, so the odds are in my favor here because I will date any race, religion, height or occupation. I have a good career, I’m in good shape. Im told I’m really pretty. I was answering them all at first, but have decided to filter out smokers, d…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/20 06:10 PM
15

Yeah, see he was harming the community. So it’s like I was a hero, not a villain. He went to jail, so it’s a “happy ending” for everyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 06:16 AM
19

I married a porn addict too. I’m sorry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 06:10 AM
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I hear you, I really do. But some of us scientific thinkers need solid proof until our Instincts mature and improve over time because we have been gaslighted into thinking we are crazy for suspicions that we’re dead on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 06:06 AM
5

Especially when we have google and reverse look up these days.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 06:00 AM
7

Yay!!!! So glad you found a sweet heart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 05:38 AM
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This is a funny story. Thanks for asking. I found an emergency contraceptive receipt in my house that wasn’t mine. So I went through his phone. He was sexting plan B girl AND I discovered that he was selling her hard core drugs. Another time (different guy), I found out my ex husband had a secret bank account and was taking out loans to hide his spending addiction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 05:35 AM
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Every single time I have ever had a feeling something was fishy it has been confirmed. Every single time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 05:22 AM
1

This is so true. If their OLD bio makes me laugh two or three times, I’m going to message them.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/20 05:09 AM
5

To entertain normal people like us when we aren’t on real dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/20 05:02 AM
6

Why thank you doctor. You would also probably like my argument in this sub where a dumb ass tries to tell me that UTI’s can’t be treated and are never caused from sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/20 04:50 AM
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POF helps shit loads to because it requires you pick out your intent. If They pick “isn’t looking for any kind of commitment” they can date girls looking for hook ups. If it says “looking for someone to marry”, they really really mean it. From my experience their intentions match what they selected. I’m not going to lie though, for every 15 dates I go on off there, I probably go on a second date like 10% of the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 04:42 AM
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Like “oh no girl”, “you gonna be on the news honey.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 04:06 AM
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It was hard to read. But keep in mind abuse escalates and most women don’t leave until the abuse escalates to physical or sexual, especially if kids are involved. Oh, edit. Her combined marriages were 17 years, not the one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 03:44 AM
7

You could buy a plane ticket to my city for $60. Where does this ass live that sushi is more than $10?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 03:35 AM
13

I’ve found good dates on OLD. It is 100% faster to vet when their bio has all their info. I think it totally depends on the app. Tinder is a no go. Bumble and Facebook have ya better quality. POF is where I met my current man. He only takes me to expensive dinners.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 03:34 AM
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That was my favorite part too. No free food is worth hanging out with an asshole for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 03:29 AM
1

Lmao!!! I see why you did there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 03:28 AM
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Good catch. It seemed bizarre to me to that she would wait that long.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 03:22 AM
35

I was on a dating app for a few weeks and was getting hundreds of messages a day with only one a day going anywhere at all. After about two weeks it occurred to me that I could send messages too. It’s been far more productive as about 80% of them write me back. Of those that write me back, I end up actually meeting a good majority of them. I read a recent statistic somewhere that theorized that women initiated dates tend to be more compatible and are more likely to end up in a relationship. So M…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/20 03:18 AM
8

I don’t think either sex is more selective. There are overly picky people in both genders. There are people in both genders that aren’t picky enough. I don’t like to generalize all men or all women into a proverbial box.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/20 03:05 AM
6

Lmao!!!! I know right???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 03:01 AM
6

Thanks. I figured this would be a good place to appreciate our past mistakes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 01:09 AM
2

I was speaking specifically to teens/young women’s Uti’s. Hospice/homecare (my specialty) are from completely different reasons (usually dehydration or immunosuppression.) The entire point of my post was that changing partners messes up our ph balance. They are using the word chronic to describe more than one acute outbreak, does that make sense? And to answer your question directly though, yes. I get on antibiotics after every uti I get. I’ve only had one that didn’t clear up with the first scr…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/20 08:20 PM
2

I’m in the medical/nursing field. Uti’s are acute NOT chronic. There are chronic conditions that would cause someone to get them frequently like interstitial cystitis or those that are immunosuppressed. The majority of young women’s Uti’s are from a new partner or to much sex. Once in a while you will see one from dehydration or a cyclist or women that wears thongs a lot. I assure you women get Uti’s from sex. I know this is anecdotal, but two of my sisters and three of my friends get them with …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/20 07:43 PM
4

Yeah, I wouldn’t even bring it up unless they have already been filtered through.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 05:50 PM
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Good for you!!! I hope you seriously used the word creepy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 05:48 PM
1

I only get Uti’s from men or from having to much sex, so I’m within my right to blame. You act like I have control over men’s micro biomes. Also Sorry about your uti, they blow goats.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/20 08:25 PM
2

If dealerships were ripped off as much as consumers were, then it might be closer.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/20 08:10 PM
2

They can’t Fathom that some women are attracted to funny and intelligent so they lump us all into one category.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/20 08:03 PM
1

I have my own education and money, thanks. Younger women sometimes are obsessed with status. Ones that have no brains or talent. The term trophy wife is a thing. I have had more than one lawyer tell me that he deserves to have a “woman like me” because lawyers should marry beautiful women.....🤢🤢🤢🤮🤮🤮. No buddy, your personality blows goats. There are shitty people in both genders.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/20 08:01 PM
2

The analogy is shitty in general. Cars don’t have feelings. Cars can’t get pregnant or Sti’s. Cars can’t get raped. It’s not the same thing at all. This is just a stupid analogy for guys to use the sexually compatible bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/20 07:53 PM
2

No, but it would show me he isn’t spending hundreds of dollars on porn or video games. Money is the only think they think we use them for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 07:46 PM
3

And telling people to just get over a medical condition doesn’t offer much empathy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 07:42 PM
0

I’m lame now. I just reply with “those are for women that don’t have real careers or anything to lose.” Or girls that don’t have prefrontal cortex’s. Most of the time the response is, I. Respect that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 07:41 PM
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That’s a good way to let predators get away with stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 07:35 PM
3

There is a saying among therapists. We get so much business off of marriages that have been opened. 99% of them are regretted and a huge portion ruin the trust completely. It’s so rare for long lasting complications. There was one two days ago about a man that suggested his bi-curious wife add a lesbian encounter so he can watch. Yep he walked into the two having sex and now the wife is with the lesbian. Because duh, if you can get yourself off you are good at pleasing another woman. It was his …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 07:04 PM
1

Why should you be worried about sexual compatibility when communication style, religion, core values, ambition and life goals are far more important?? Want to know if you are sexually compatible? Use your words and actually tell the person you are dating, hey, I’m into bdsm, or I need oral once a month. I need sex three times a week bare minimum. How often do you need it? I can’t do rough sex. I need role play. I can’t be with men that are over x amount of inches long. See how much you can learn…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/20 05:33 PM
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Using him for resources? Uh, because no female ever wants an actual relationship or companionship. I’m sorry women have used you for money, or whatever in the past. It’s not fair to judge all women in your future experiences. There are females (and males alike) whose end goal is marriage and family. Saying women use men for resources is the equivalent of saying that all males only want to use women for sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/20 04:33 PM
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I have severe anxiety too. Like I’ll have diarrhea for days after my custody trials despite being drugged up. How about going ax throwing or an art museum. Going climbing at an indoor gym. Riding the flow riders, amusement parks. Something that helps you move around would kind of dissipate the extra adrenaline you make. Tennis or rollerblading, ice skating. Look up Ifly locations. It’s gets easier the more dates you go on, I promise!! Hang in there my anxious sister!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 03:48 AM
5

Well and here is the thing too. If all women got on the same page either this, men would only ask out women they like instead of someone they think will screw them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 03:42 AM
3

I’m not getting turned on here ass hole. Send me pics of your bank account. (Not really) yeah, see how degrading that is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 03:39 AM
5

I save them for when guys ask me for nudes. What, you didn’t specify who the nudes depicted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 03:35 AM
3

Preach!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 07:31 PM
2

I wish. Two of them are immune suppressed. We tried daycare and within two months he was fired for missing so much work. In both our lines of work you cannot miss a day or two a week to run kids to the er or instacare. Kids can’t go to daycare if they are sick. If we could afford a nanny we would be all over that shit. One of them has gastrointestinal problems and throws up 4-5 times a week.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/20 07:03 PM
2

Holy shit. Nope. I’m a nurse and I assure you staying at home full time was the most depressing emotionally draining job I have ever hated. I legitimately wanted to kill myself just from the constant noise, cleaning up puke, poop and fighting. And I wanted to be a stay at home mom. I used to cry daily when my kids would get the flu. Now that my husband is the full time caregiver he is so angry all the time. There’s a reason SAHP have such a high rate of antidepressants. He constantly apologizes …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/20 06:50 PM
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Statistics back you up as well. When there is a ten year age gap divorce rates are about 60%. When a twenty year gap, it moves up to 70%. When there is a 30 year gap, it goes up to 80% divorce rate. The financial abuse is more and more likely as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/20 06:39 PM
14

If you want to level yourself up, you can find him and his wife in Facebook and send her screen shots of him making plans with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 09:44 AM
3

Yay!!! More bff s that won’t drive me bonkers!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 07:04 AM
17

I was just telling my therapist about this. He said I’m severely Independent, and I just need to look for someone who is also, lol. Do you mean emotionally clingy or physically clingy? Because I can’t do the emotionally clingy. Text me five time a day. What are you doing? Working. Eating. Washing dishes (as should you should be doing too) lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 11:58 PM
1

There is a healthy amount to sharing your day and frustrations. No one has zero problems and no worries. And then, there is a really unhealthy amount of venting. And there are men that need validation about everything constantly. And then, finally, there are men that expect me to fix their self esteem for them. I can’t fix your self esteem for you bro. I cannot tell you how many fights my exes insecurities caused. Probably at least 2 a week. I also had an ex that would complain to his buddies, c…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/20 08:31 AM
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Hey, so I’m the same way. I would rather chill at home and also I’m cheap. Just raised frugally and have always been even when I was making really good money. I will just warn you that when you do go to men’s homes and have people over to your home, they literally think it’s an invitation for sex. I was wondering why I was being groped and being ignored when I said stop. I have had to nearly taser men to get them to stop. I think the takeaway should be about your safety rather than your comfort.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 07:06 PM
12

This is just anecdotal, but I was beat as a kid and I hate rough sex. Hate it. You do you boo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 02:08 PM
1

I know right? More partners does not equal me suddenly turning into someone that is ok with hurting people. Usually cheating happens when something inside a person is severely broken. Either they watched their parents and it was normalized, or they have insecurities or they are an entitled jerk.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/20 02:44 AM
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It gets better the older You get, I promise. They do eventually realize that they don’t want to be alone forever. I even talked to a date that said he had to fake climax because it got so old. But you are correct in working on yourself so that you can raise yourself to a man with good character. Work on your boundaries and your career so that a man can be an enhancement to your life, not a constant fight to be seen as an equal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 06:07 PM
1

I said, so you were assaulted, and both said, “men can’t be raped. “
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/20 10:44 AM
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Omg guys. I’m an ex Mormon and I totally thought this was on the ex Mormon sub I follow. There are non believers who haven’t come out yet and sneak coffee and alcohol. 🤣 oh just kidding it’s the dating one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 12:55 AM
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I don’t know, I’ve had enough guys keep trying to stick their hands down my pants after I said no to last me a lifetime. I’ve only been single for a year and a half. I know rape is far more traumatic, but I just wish these men would put themselves in my shoes for even a second. This is a horrible example, but what if I grabbed a guys wallet and just started taking cash out. He says I’m not there yet, so I kiss him for 2 more minutes and then try for a credit card. It really is ruining dating for…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/20 12:48 AM
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I like this. Looking forward to our date. See if he corrects you. Except I really do need friends too, lol and I don’t block people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 11:24 PM
1

I don’t care. But if they make $10 an hour they better not be spending 11. I’ve met broke doctors and I’ve met truck drivers with 401k’s. It’s so much more important how they manage what they have. I dated a lawyer that made fun of the fact that I change diapers for a living (nursing), so there are assholes on both sides of the fence.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/20 09:58 PM
1

It is a double standard. Not even a question. I personally don’t want to marry a man that has had hundreds of partners. Your body makes less and less oxytocin the more partners you have. So I’m choosing science on this one to keep the number as low as possible. I want a man that has the capacity to love. You are correct though about the red pillers are hippo critical. They want a virgin but a huge percentage don’t mind “ruining” other men’s wives.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/20 09:44 PM
3

I don’t know, my parents have been married 40+ years and I still catch them in the pantry making out. That would be awesome in my opinion to still have butterflies and look at how much they must respect each other. Plus as someone who is hit on by much older men, there is a threshold to where it becomes beyond creepy AF.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/20 07:03 PM
2

As far as sexual harassment? No. As far as other unprofessional behavior. Yeah, the younger girls at my work get away with more than they should.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/20 06:59 PM
10

Congrats on your freedom and your opportunity to find someone who actually deserves you!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 05:20 PM
1

Thank you! That’s sweet. I’ve had the opposite happen too, where they looked so disappointed that I was taller than them. 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/20 06:07 AM
1

Late 30’s. I live in an area where a very sexist/oppressive religion makes up the majority of the population. I was married for a very long time, and things are very different. I’m in complete culture shock with the dating culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/20 05:58 AM
4

Pm me if you ever need someone to talk to. I have a lot of the same issues I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/20 11:40 AM
1

That reminds me. Excessive video games, also a deal breaker.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/20 10:03 AM
1

Haha. Preach. I had to check the dsm when someone told me about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/20 10:01 AM
1

This dude had never been to school and had no plans to ever move out of his moms place. 5 years of cleaning your own place is really respectable. I’m not knocking school at all. If that’s helps you to get your education do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/20 09:59 AM
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But after you get married, you will discuss important stuff with the wife right? You guys will be a team? My ex was constantly putting his moms wants over our families needs. We would have a brand new baby at home and he would drop everything to go fix their computer twice a week is just one example. It sounds like lots of other women have experienced this issue. There’s an entire sub devoted to this, I think it’s called DWIL (dealing with in laws).
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/20 09:55 AM
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I don’t care about height. I don’t know why girls are so weird about it. They are missing out on a lot of great guys. My last boyfriend was 5’6” (I’m 5’7) and the funniest guy I’d ever met. Some girls like tall, I’ve just always liked funny. I can’t explain it, it’s just hot, lol. I guess I cared more when I was like 17 or 18.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/20 09:38 AM
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I only have a handful that I text once a week too. It’s totally fine to be independent. I dated a guy (not for very long) and he didn’t have any friends. It turned out he was a functioning drug addict. So he had screwed every friend he ever had over. It’s totally different to chose quality over quantity when looking at one’s social circle.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/20 05:18 AM
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That’s literally how I weed them out. Wants nudes, obviously doesn’t want a woman with a career.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/20 04:28 AM
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I’m not religious and I effing hate casual sex. Keep your nasty ass diseases to your self.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/20 04:25 AM
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There are actually. I’ve met a few. And others I wouldn’t touch with a 10 foot pole. Although people with divorced parents are twice as likely to divorce (statistically speaking), so proceed with caution I say. My dad was a perfect exception to this rule.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/20 04:19 AM
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In my neck of the woods they are still living at home. 41 and never moved out.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/20 04:15 AM
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If they want their moms approval more than mine. (My ex literally had to get his moms opinion on buying a car, a house ). Anything. If you aren’t willing to stand behind your woman and defend her, you aren’t secure and established as a man. If he complains about his partner to his parents, also a big red flag that emotional incest is controlling their life. I dated a 40 year old that still went to church for the sole purpose of making his parents happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/20 04:13 AM
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I try to. I always offer, especially when I was the one that asked them out. That would be messed up to ask someone out to dinner and then expect them to pay. If some one absolutely insists, then I let them. Are you insinuating that I owe men something if they buy me a slurpee? Because that’s the first date I always prefer.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/20 03:54 AM
2

Duck that noise. I make own money.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/20 05:29 PM
3

Holy crap. Paranoid personality disorder. That’s a fun disorder. My ex had that as well. After 17 years of marriage, still thought I was cheating without a damn ounce of evidence. He thought everyone on the effing planet was trying to molest our children. Super fun to try to convince them they need therapy and meds because doctors are all “snakes skin oil salesman”. I’m sorry you went through that.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/20 05:25 PM
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Men who stereo type all women into a box or refer to women as “crazy”, also a huge red flag, lol. I have anxiety and haven’t missed a single dose of Paxil in 18 years. I gave up all alcohol and caffeine, sugars processed processed foods. I go to therapy and the gym 5x a week. That’s how serious I take mental health. Perhaps you are thinking of people that don’t manage or medically treat a genetic condition they didn’t choose??? Because 50-60% of the population has depression or anxiety. You just…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/20 04:57 PM
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If they have anger problems, or no empathy. If they are materialistic, if they can’t manage their money regardless of income, if they won’t respect my sexual boundaries (this is why most guys don’t get a second or third date). If they get too clingy to fast. If they are judge mental, have hygiene issues or a super unhealthy lifestyle. If they lie about being family oriented. If they give back handed compliments. If they slut shame or hate stay at home moms. If they don’t view women as their equa…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/20 04:53 PM
2

I assure you millionaires have no problems finding women. There are so many women (especially young ones) that are into material bullshit) that will overlook any social awkwardness or unfortunate genetics. I dated a very ambitious lawyer and he made fun of disabled people, women that haven’t been married by 35, had zero communication skills, was judge mental had worst of all he had zero empathy. If they try to grope me After me explaining my Physical and emotional boundaries. There’s a certain t…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/20 03:51 PM
3

I would want to know if I was with an abusive asshole. I have always wanted to warn women, but never have because I don’t want to be accused of drama. But, this woman sought out to confirm what an ass hay she was with. I don’t k ow. Maybe OP also got closure that the crazy making behavior was real and she dodged a bullet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 11:17 PM
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Haha good point!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 10:28 PM
3

Oh I guarantee if this same dude was butt raped he wouldn’t be posting it on Facebook and shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 10:13 PM
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I’ve met two boyfriends on POF. For every ten dates I go on, I usually go on a second or third with one or two.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 09:05 PM
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Nope. Please don’t victim blame. I live in a very sexist non-progressive area. The religious men are the worst. Cops and lawyers are really bad too. I have met two keepers. I do fitness modeling if that makes a difference at all. I dress very conservatively as well. Every woman in town says they have the same problem. So please don’t judge and generalize people you dont know. I’m figuring out by talking on the phone first as to which ones have bad intentions.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/20 03:52 PM
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So true, the same guy used the same line on my and my roommate. She said, this guy just asked me if I wear contacts because my eyes are hypnotizing, lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 03:45 PM
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My ex witnessed the most toxic marriage. His parents are both physically and psychologically abusive. It was unfortunately what he thought was normal. I didn’t know this until after we were married and his sisters said, “oh my gosh, my dad used to do that.” Where was this group 17 years ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 03:42 PM
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Ok, I’m more pissed that he wasn’t listening to my lecture on HPV/HSV (the kinds you get even with condoms) than I am concerned with which set of morals he chooses for himself. But I’m probably the weird minority.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/20 02:39 PM
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I don’t agree with women expecting the man to pay. Honestly I think whomever asks for the date should pay because it’s just logical to me. I try not to let men pay until I have serious feelings for them, because I don’t like using people. Although probably 90% of them just absolutely insist and I don’t want to cause a scene or embarrass them. I also don’t judge men by their bank account. How they manage their finances is by far superior. There was a post/meme today about become the doctor your p…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/20 01:58 PM
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Honestly, I joined FDS because of the huge percentage of men that kept trying to stick their hands down my pants on the first date, and then they would get mad and storm out because I wasn’t “sexual” enough for them. Maybe it’s the region I live but, but men literally expect me to put out on the first date. I don’t even know if I like you, but I’m supposed to just screw you because “sexual compatibility”. A good 95% (and I go on a lot of dates) of the men I have been on dates with don’t even fuc…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/20 01:16 PM
1

You should work for anything you want in life. Anything. This includes finding a decent mate. People that are more open minded find mates quicker. I’m fairly attractive (at least I’m told that) and I have only been asked out on dates IRL maybe a dozen times. Im flirted with a lot, but they look to nervous to keep talking to me. People have so much more confidence online. As soon as I started online dating, I get about 100 messages a day and I no longer have to ask someone out because they weren’…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/20 10:14 PM
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No, she is definitely an idiot for expecting him to read her mind. This is her playing games to “test” him. I was just pointing out not to judge one’s intentions when we don’t hear the other side of the story and that it could be an excuse. If I’m not attracted to some one because of looks I will think of any excuse but the one that will hurt them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/20 02:26 AM
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I’m going to disagree with you as someone who is a serial multi dater. Men do complain about women. They just complain about different things. Men with anger issues always refer to their ex’s as crazy bitches. Nothing is ever their fault. Also women cheat less than men but only by like 15%. To me that says that women have moral issues as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/20 01:46 AM
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Because I’m a woman and like to go halfsies unless they absolutely insist (such as a Hispanic culture) . After I have moved them out of the friend zone then it’s okay (for me to be more traditional. Its okay for women to be modern. If you want a more conventional woman then ask before the date. It’s okay for people to be traditional and it’s okay for me to have my opinion of don’t use men for free food. That’s a weird thing to get mad over.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/20 07:34 PM
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And everyone can still practice consent (yes even in bars) Except for maybe a strip club where it may be ambiguous.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/20 07:11 PM
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Because imposing your standards of living isn’t a good thing. Some women or men may do it because they are confident in their appearance, some may have other motives such as attracting a mate, some attracting everyone. I don’t judge which motives are which. I never assume ones motives. I personally think the mentality that women should be responsible for men and women’s sexual thoughts are is 100% their responsibility. A woman can walk down the street naked and she still has zero responsibility …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/20 07:05 PM
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It might be that he wants a more conventional lady. Maybe he wants a very gender stereo typical roles where the woman is submissive from the very start. Maybe he was crappy at communicating expectations. Maybe it had nothing to do with any of the above. Who knows, maybe he was embarrassed to being arguing in public. He didn’t like her perfume. People are weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/20 06:05 PM
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Or doing chores. Oh.emm.gosh. That’s the hottest thing ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 04:22 PM
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Probably another part of the issue is that they constantly hear how sexual this younger generation is, how they just love casual sex. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 04:34 AM
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How dare you talk about Connery like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 04:27 AM
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And if men had to carry the babies, no one would have more than one child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 03:43 AM
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I think it’s hilarious that they think we teach women to be manipulative. Um, no. We demand to not be used.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 12:46 AM
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I’m going to disagree. I don’t care how good looking they are if they were to lazy to write a bio. It shows me how much work they will put into getting to know me. If I am on the fence about their looks, a funny or witty bio will tip the scales for me every time.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/20 04:20 AM
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That’s what she chooses for herself. It’s ok to respect her point of view, and still have a preference of your own. The whole point of this sub is to build one another up and help others avoid toxic lifestyles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 03:35 AM
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That’s fine too, as long as both parties consent. You can still be selective and not sleep with LVM or put your health at risk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 03:33 AM
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Don’t beat yourself up or label yourself as promiscuous. It was a series of mistakes that you learned from and nothing more. You do have control over yourself. You just needed to educate yourself on your worth as a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 03:26 AM
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Lol @3 inches of thunder!! Haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 03:04 AM
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I’ve done that too. His mom took his side because his dad treats her the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 08:49 PM
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I know right? Like why don’t they scream?? Before I was diagnosed and medicated as bi-polar, I would get the hyper-sexuality hormone induction. It was crazy. I got a little glimpse into what it would be like to be a 17 year old boy. For two weeks I thought about sex 100x a day. It kind of gave me some empathy, lol. Do we enjoy it more though? I don’t know. That is my only experience being a male. It would be kind of cool to be a man for a week. It would be cool for men to
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/20 07:45 PM
1

How was it decided then that women make 2-3x more oxytocin than men during sex? (which explains why FWB fails for so many women)? Can you find anything on that stat?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/20 07:07 PM
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We learned about it in my human sexuality class and in one of my psychology classes and I haven’t been able to find control group/peer reviewed study that disputed it. If you find one let me know. The oxytocin percentage is not a myth, it requires a simple blood draw.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/20 06:48 AM
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I keep the men around that respect my boundaries. Because I think it’s romantic when a man has self control. Don’t group all women into one category. My only issue is that when men are super romantic on a first or second date, it doesn’t seem like that could have that strong of feelings for me and it feels like a lone more than a genuine effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/20 02:06 AM
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This is so true. It makes it so difficult to distinguish which men are genuinely looking for a partner and which ones just want hook ups. So many women have put out to early and now they all expect it and literally won’t even consider a relationship because “sexual compatibility” on the first date. I get that women have a right to enjoy sex, but we have sooooo much more to lose than men do. Women’s cervical cells change with every.single.partner. The more they change, the more likely you are to …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/20 12:30 AM
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My date last week, a (lawyer) showed me his bank account, I guess he thought I didn’t believe him? Or he thinks I’m into material bull shit? Then again, he did several socially awkward things that made me scratch my head. 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 08:15 AM
2

I mean, all I cared about when I was 20 was cars, guys and money. Now that I’m older I don’t care if they make $10 an hour as long as they aren’t spending 11.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/20 08:09 AM
2

Are you lookin for an answer other than, because younger girls are more attracted to money?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/20 06:24 AM
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I like your point of view, and I get the screening process, but even if I didn’t like the guy, I still learn something about myself. I learn what questions to ask and not ask. I went on one that changed my life forever. I didn’t even know open-mindedness was something in my need category.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 05:28 AM
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Ditto. I don’t want to waste anymore time than I absolutely have to. If we click then great! Let’s spend more than 20 minutes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 05:24 AM
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This drives me bonkers too. Do you not have a life? Wyd? Working. Wyd? Eating dinner. Wyd? Cleaning my house, probably like what you should be doing too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 03:05 AM
1

I know. How the hell is the population in the billions when men are so stupid they can’t even properly court us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 04:17 AM
1

Haha. So true. You are brilliant sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 04:13 AM
1

The ex husband said to me while I was pregnant and taking my bra off for the night. Wow, they are still big, (I wear padded bras) later that year he asked me to get a boob job. I said no and he retorted, but my friends wives all want them. He just couldn’t get over that I’m happy with what I have. Just FYI, I’m a 34D unpadded. I wear padded because I can’t stand R.T.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 04:09 AM
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I always love your comments lady bug. You’re brilliant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 03:56 AM
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Did you know that 75% of people that marry their mistresses are divorced within 5 years. and all couples that started as an affair have a 95% divorce rate. Hmmmmm. I wonder why. Tigers can’t change their stripes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 03:05 AM
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And why, for the love of all that is holy is he playing video games when he should be helping you take naps. Uggh. I just can’t even. Is he treating you like this because you let him???? What a sexist a-hole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 11:36 PM
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Your body and especially mental health takes almost 18 months to heal from babies. I have a family member that has kids that are just under 7 months apart. (She got pregnant 2 weeks after delivering) One of the biggest risk factors in having a micro preemie is having another one right away. Your risk for PPD and psychosis skyrockets when kids are that close in age. I would make him take over night duty on the weekends and keep telling him that he needs to pitch in more if he wants more kids. You…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 11:34 PM
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I’m going to say proceed with caution. Look for other red flags. Everyone is selfish, it’s a survival instinct. Is he selfish with his time? Selfish with his emotional needs? Is he selfish in bed or does he enjoy making sure you have fun. If he is selfish in other areas as well, he’s not a keeper.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 11:09 PM
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My ex would do this. His IQ was 7 points higher. He would bring it up all the time. This is stupid because all IQ tests measure is how logical and analytical you are. Musical talent is another type of intelligence, athletic ability, emotional intelligence (which he had none) are all types of cognition.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 06:49 PM
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