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The father walked in and asked questions, but his daughter claimed to not know McCormick. The father then called 911, but an argument ensued with the teenage boy. The father told deputies that Johran dropped his hands as if to grab something, so he opened fire. Johran was shot in the head and died at the scene. Ok, maybe. It depends on what she said beyond not knowing him. After that, her father called 911 (completely reasonable) and no one was dead. No further information about what she might h…
/r/MensRights26/04/14 12:54 AM
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"I'm also not invested in changing how anyone else thinks about their list of 'shoulds'." That does NOT mean that I don't have my own list of shoulds and my own conscience and act accordingly. I definitely have opinions and I'm not shy about sharing them. I'm just not necessarily invested in 'proving' myself right about relatively abstract concepts --- particularly like 'rape' where every time you start a discussion you pretty much have to argue over what definition we're using today. (As you co…
/r/MensRights26/04/14 12:37 AM
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Do you not think the fucked up nature of how current systems function impede your own life? Do you not think that the insane debt you and your future children will live under will have an effect on your life? Do you not think the theft of your money has an effect on your life? What about the unsustainable nature of the social security systems (think Ponzi scheme)? I just wrote a pretty long comment about this, if you're interested I could copy it in here. What about the inefficient bureaucracies…
/r/MensRights26/04/14 12:08 AM
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But, there are already 'degrees' of rape and different types of sexual assault (in the US)... do you think more are needed or ...? Norway. Right.
/r/MensRights25/04/14 08:27 PM
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It was an example where too many choices led to no choice. Ah, it sounds like my reading list - too many things. Well, I wouldn't always trust experts, or entire fields sometimes. Nor do I. I don't need to sift through a lot of information all to find out what I want to read, and what I don't want to read. I have a tendency to look up information that contradicts my understanding just as a cross check. Meanwhile, I evaluate my sources when processing new information. And, I do read a whole lot o…
/r/MensRights25/04/14 08:20 PM
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I don't see the point or how this helps men's rights in any way. She's 16, her raging father has a shotgun and she's been caught in the act. She lied under extreme pressure - lots of kids would. I say punish the adult in the room with the twitchy trigger finger. (He'd already called 911)
/r/MensRights25/04/14 06:58 PM
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But again, that's why you need philosophy and critical thinking and to find a strong base. Find out what you believe, test those beliefs through the Socratic method, and see what you end up with. There is too much information to ingest, but the same was true for a dude sitting in the library of Alexandria. I'm just not seeing this as a legitimate problem. And this is coming from a guy who cancelled his netflix subscription because I couldn't choose any movies to watch. I'm not sure what your Net…
/r/MensRights25/04/14 05:39 PM
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I don't really mind that at all. You just have to know what you want to study. I do mind since not all information is created equal. The Internet has given rise to a soap box for 'self made' or 'so called' experts who's methods are ambiguous at best. This information is often presented as 'fact.' Well, it's true that context matters for determining if something is rape, but the context of the rape doesn't really have much to say about the morality of rape. Ok. Rape is immoral. We just don't know…
/r/MensRights25/04/14 01:45 PM
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Right. Technology has fixed this problem though, so that's a non issue by now. Technology has created it's own monster - which is the generation of so much data, that sifting through it to find correct information or even relevant information is difficult. Yeah, feminists and social justice warriors certainty have deluded to insanity, but I'm sure there are cases we can all agree that classify. Definitions are a real problem often. This is why context is important. Without context (what circumst…
/r/MensRights25/04/14 01:03 PM
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Yikes.
/r/MensRights25/04/14 06:02 AM
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The only type of automotive insurance that is mandatory, is automotive liability insurance. This is the type of insurance that covers the costs of damage that you may cause to other people or other people's property. Exactly, however they do sell insurance because they know not everyone will buy 'mandatory' liability insurance. If you pay your liability insurance, like a good citizen, but the person at fault does not, then you have only civil courts to navigate to recover damages. Anyway, the po…
/r/MensRights25/04/14 05:38 AM
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I'm not sure what you mean by access. Of course the internet is a major game changer, but that's also a continuation of technology. Further back in history, knowledge from different parts of the world were difficult to gather since book making was not easy. This lead to the rediscovery of many things which were previously discovered - or new discoveries based on things which were discovered before their time. I wonder how much we lost when they burned the great Egyptian library at Alexandria. I …
/r/MensRights25/04/14 05:17 AM
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I don't think it matters whether the birth mother's egg was used. In this case: http://www.jsonline.com/news/wisconsin/supreme-court-says-surrogate-birth-contract-enforceable-b9952448z1-215094541.html The child was genetically from the contracting couple and not related to the birth mother. Yet, the Supreme Court upheld that the birth mother did not have to honor signing her rights away.
/r/MensRights25/04/14 04:36 AM
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Correct me if I'm wrong, but I think in surrogacy cases the original custody is awarded to the birth mother. There seems to be some fuzziness around whether the signing over of full custody is enforceable.
/r/MensRights25/04/14 04:24 AM
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I'm not sure that eating dead humans is immoral. I mean, it's disgusting, and it is fucked up by most standards, but immoral? How so? It leads to certain neurological diseases, that's true, but the only immoral part is the acquisition of the bodies. I'm pretty sure, like certain monkeys, the neurological issues only happen if you eat the brains. Aside from that, I don't know. However, most societies would consider it immoral. Our limited lifetimes don't really post much of a hindrance, just like…
/r/MensRights25/04/14 04:22 AM
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The economics are certainly important, especially for the people that don't really care about ethics or morality, but the fact that it's morally wrong should be enough to convince any decent person capable of rational thought. If I wanted to make a case against slavery when that was going on, I wouldn't burst into a speech about how slavery was holding back the advancement of capital goods in the fields, to say it in another way. The vast majority of people are quite capable of rational thought.…
/r/MensRights25/04/14 03:36 AM
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You are, of course, correct. My comment was a reflection on how far we (society) are from actually being able to 'pull the plug' on people. Which runs right back to the cost of insurance coverage... Please don't misunderstand me, I am NOT advocating letting people die when they could otherwise be saved based on a bottom line.
/r/MensRights25/04/14 03:16 AM
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I think the very least we can do is to make people aware of the implications of common sense morality. If theft is wrong, then taxes are wrong. If slavery is wrong, then conscription is wrong. If serfdom is wrong, then property taxes are wrong etc. Right after we teach them economics? ;) But again, I'm not arguing for revolution, rather a sort of progression towards reason and common sense. That is totally fair. When I look around, I see absolutely nothing that indicates a progression towards re…
/r/MensRights25/04/14 03:01 AM
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For pity's sake, the GOP platform also contains strictures against assisted suicide (euthanasia) and that health providers can not refuse care to patients for whom it is determined 'life is not worth living.' I just. Fail.
/r/MensRights25/04/14 02:53 AM
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Haha, I'm not sure they teach economics at all in the US (in the mandatory schooling), and they certainly don't do that in Norway. I'm not either. Besides, things have changed a lot since I went to school - I attended before the "No Child Left Behind" tragedy. I can relate with the moving around part. I missed a lot of our curriculum when moving around as a kid. I've lived everywhere from the most Northern parts of Norway, to the most southern parts of it. I know, it's weird. You show up and the…
/r/MensRights25/04/14 02:34 AM
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I meant the current model of insurance, which is a one-size fits all approach, further reinforced by the ACA. Yes, which is pretty far astray from one particular clause in the ACA. Debating whether there should be an ACA is a whole other can of worms. We are continually limiting the metrics by which insurance actuaries are conducted, thus not allowing insurance to function like it does effectively in all other forms. The first step would be to separate emergent care and primary care, similarly t…
/r/MensRights25/04/14 01:59 AM
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True, the recordkeeping alone probably costs more than the actual cost of the services.
/r/MensRights25/04/14 01:47 AM
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Exactly. What kind of insurance - the whole purpose of insurance is that you're "betting against yourself" in a way. Whether it's life, property, liability, or health. You're betting that, at some point, something is going to happen that will bankrupt you or, in the case of health insurance, kill you. I wonder if Life insurance rates can take into account what health insurance you have in making risk assessment...? A person with no health insurance should then only be provided with such services…
/r/MensRights25/04/14 01:45 AM
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I always had a co-pay.
/r/MensRights25/04/14 01:27 AM
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That's the point. Women cost more but now gender ratings are disallowed. Yes, and I don't think that was always true since I remember premiums being different at one time although it was also scaled by age. I'm not sure I agree. If we point to the ultimate source of the problem, wanting to go up one level and saying one proximal cause is bad so we should get rid of it fails to capture other possible factors, or a common thread among them. I meant the option of eliminating the construct of insura…
/r/MensRights25/04/14 01:18 AM
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More unplanned children do not seem like a sensible strategy for this country.
/r/MensRights25/04/14 01:06 AM
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It's great that you want to learn. I moved around a lot as a kid (dad was military) so it is possible that I literally did skip the year they taught economics. Either that, or it consistently seems that people in other countries have much more outstanding knowledge of economics than I do. I keep running into this - seriously. Thank you for the list. No, the creators of the government were not "the people", like, at all, in any way. Fair - but the 'innovation' was that the 'right of rule' was not…
/r/MensRights25/04/14 12:49 AM
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Yeah, you caught me, bad analogy.
/r/MensRights25/04/14 12:25 AM
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Well, once again this speaks to the construct of insurance.
/r/MensRights25/04/14 12:24 AM
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This is the larger problem of how insurance is formed - is it a pay for what you might need and infrastructure or something different. I am deferring further comment on that issue until I do a bit of reading. Abortions seem to be more of a moral, ethical, religious topic than a gender based topic - since, even though only women have abortions, men are affected by whether or not they have a child or not.
/r/MensRights25/04/14 12:22 AM
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This has strayed off into the spectrum of national mandated health care and into the realm of whether or not that's a good idea. It's a very important conversation to have but one that is outside the scope of this particular topic. I'd argued a bit about collective costs but then was reminded that I must've missed the "economics" day in school. I need to do some reading and some thinking before I comment further on that. Thanks.
/r/MensRights25/04/14 12:17 AM
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Yes, and thank you for clarifying about the OTC possibilities for OC.
/r/MensRights25/04/14 12:14 AM
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Except the scope of women's checkups are greater(e.g. men don't get free breast cancer or prostate cancer screenings), which means women's cost more, but many people think women shouldn't have to pay more despite this. This is beyond the scope of the proposed changes. As far as I know, insurance policies for health are not able to 'rate' policies by gender - am I wrong? All the more reason to remove the one-size fits all intermediary be it insurance or the government in its involvement, which fa…
/r/MensRights25/04/14 12:13 AM
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See above, I've changed my mind.
/r/MensRights25/04/14 12:05 AM
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All right, I can get behind OTC pills.
/r/MensRights25/04/14 12:03 AM
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I've relooked and it's all lumped under 'contraceptive care' with vague references to 'the pill' - so I don't know about IUD's or diaphrams. Would such insurance allow doctors to write prescriptions? Reading below it does seem safe enough to make the pills OTC. But, fair enough, if you feel it's not an issue that would also affect men.
/r/MensRights24/04/14 11:57 PM
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I'll give you one thing, it keeps popping up that I need to do some serious homework on economics and economic policy. Any recommended reading? The creators of the government (presumably by the people - at least back then) granted the government the right to levy taxes in the Constitution. The history books tell us that the rights of the government (in the US) were granted by the governed (ok, a small oligarchy). I don't think anyone even pretends that's true any more. I concede on the economic …
/r/MensRights24/04/14 08:26 PM
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Without a proxy, or a paid pool of money, then only the very rich would probably have access to technologically up to date hospital equipment.
/r/MensRights24/04/14 08:01 PM
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Not every woman takes the pill for birth control - some of us had to take it for other reasons. Economically, I can't see how it helps since insurance pays for annual check ups for men and women - but women have annual screenings for cervical cancer. That, in addition to the blood work we all do (cholesterol, etc) is generally enough to manage birth control unless there are issues. It is probably true that more women actually GET annual checkups than men - and even most likely because of cervica…
/r/MensRights24/04/14 06:05 PM
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True, lots of places do hand them out.
/r/MensRights24/04/14 05:54 PM
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Generally, there are the annual blood tests that most people get with their annual check up. Women don't remain static throughout their lives (just like men) and unless you become good at interpreting your own symptoms and medical test results, any random woman doesn't have the knowledge to figure out if it's a problem. Also, let me mention that the woman is at the doc every year for an annual cervical cancer screen (check up) --- so denying that opportunity for a prescription seems.. kinda sill…
/r/MensRights24/04/14 05:05 PM
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The system in place requires everyone to pay for health insurance which covers a variety of things. The change in question is a specific exclusion for women's contraceptives. People still pay for births, annual exams, cancer, etc.
/r/MensRights24/04/14 04:45 PM
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Well, the general reasons for pooling money through taxes/insurance is the ability to have very expensive things. Let's take medical equipment, for example. An MRI machine costs in the neighborhood of 1 million dollars. Also, you need trained technicians, repair people, maintenance, etc. Operating theaters cost and so do trauma centers. If it was a pay by person by service situation then chances are hospitals wouldn't exist or the first person with a traumatic brain injury would be out of luck i…
/r/MensRights24/04/14 04:42 PM
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I did ;)
/r/MensRights24/04/14 04:33 PM
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All that is true but I was aiming more for insight on how men feel generally feel about increasing the cost/difficulty of women's birth control. I am NOT coming at this ONLY from the single woman/single man hook up POV - but also taking into account that many people who are married or in a ltr have sex without wanting children. Married people and people in ltr's also can't afford children sometimes. It's not just single mothers.
/r/MensRights24/04/14 04:32 PM
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The irony is that I'm republican. I took that from the GOP platform and don't particularly attach any religious significance to the topic. After all, married couples use birth control for family planning. This isn't about restricting birth control for 'unwed' women. I've read on here enough to know that men's rights are very concerned about their ability to plan their families (presumably married or not). You already do pay more for things that don't apply to your gender - births, pregnancy care…
/r/MensRights24/04/14 04:29 PM
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Not without a prescription which requires a doctor's visit. Also, not everyone can use generic formularies.
/r/MensRights24/04/14 04:19 PM
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What about stepping up to provide cheaper access to condoms?
/r/MensRights24/04/14 04:15 PM
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Women visit a doctor every year for an annual well woman check (pap smear for cervical cancer) any way. Most of the time birth control pills are discussed then so I don't see why it's such an added cost. Once again, there is no one 'pill' and OTC is not going to be a possible way for women to choose a pill.
/r/MensRights24/04/14 04:14 PM
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Once again, there are too many factors and formularies for oral contraceptives for them to be OTC.
/r/MensRights24/04/14 04:11 PM
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I can agree on state subsidies - otherwise, make it equal and let the state fund condoms, as well. There is no one 'pill' but rather 100's of formulations because the side effects and body chemistry differ substantially from woman to woman. (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Oral_contraceptive_formulations) Making it over the counter - or even pharmacy dispensed is not a practical solution because they do require physician oversight. New formularies are developed and can be quite pricey compared to g…
/r/MensRights24/04/14 04:10 PM
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Many times if she knows she wants an adoption - the agency or adoptive parents will cover the medical costs if she can't.
/r/MensRights24/04/14 05:08 AM
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I wasn't worried about being able to get a flight so much as once the medical field gets a hold on you, they won't stop while you have the money to pay for all the 'necessary' treatment.
/r/TheRedPill15/08/13 07:16 PM
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No doubt. Just figured others might not know. Hence, post.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/13 06:08 PM
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Make sure someone posts it on the internet! ;)
/r/TheRedPill15/08/13 06:07 PM
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There's tons of private long term care and nursing services if you have money Also things like supplemental and gap insurance and the like. Thanks, danabanana9. I appreciate your insight.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/13 06:06 PM
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Save money your whole life, That's all that will protect you. If you live in the US, you'd better amass quite the fortune. If you're young, get health insurance. I've looked but after age 65 it seems all that's available are medicare supplements. Medicare is a hot mess all ready...
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/13 05:52 PM
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See I don't really trust women because every fiber of logic and every LTR experience I've experienced and heard from other men (including married men) coupled up with a rather astute observation of feminism has taught me that the family unit has all but been wrecked. I agree. It doesn't have to be either gender. Relationship does matter though, legally. If a blood member of the family decides to change your will/whatever after you're incapacitated s/he will have an advantage in court. If you're …
/r/TheRedPill15/08/13 05:36 PM
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Oh. Thanks. I've seen it expressed on TRP and MRA often enough.
/r/TheRedPill15/08/13 05:31 PM
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Oh. Just a moment, I'll scrounge up some links.
/r/TheRedPill15/08/13 05:22 PM
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Well I think things are best decided by two people, an objective party (or two) and someone with an interest like a friend or family member that is trustworthy. A good thing to do is to plan now... make a living will. It is basically a document for how to deal with your health care when you are unable to do it yourself. Yeah. Never too early to plan. I know right... it's like the perfect send off. Plus it gives all your buddies an excuse to have an epic party. YouTube Song [NSFW]: Finnegan's Wak…
/r/TheRedPill15/08/13 05:21 PM
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Most relatively simple estates (cash, publicly traded securities, small amounts of other easily valued assets, and no special deductions or elections, or jointly held property) do not require the filing of an estate tax return. A filing is required for estates with combined gross assets and prior taxable gifts exceeding $1,500,000 in 2004 - 2005; $2,000,000 in 2006 - 2008; $3,500,000 for decedents dying in 2009; and $5,000,000 or more for decedent's dying in 2010 and 2011 (note: there are specia…
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/13 05:13 PM
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Would you advise women to LTR with no protection?
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/13 05:09 PM
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I suppose that's possible - maybe even likely. Society is changing. Not in a friendly way towards the elderly. A woman today needs a plan to avoid being alone/screwed. If she enters a LTR, I would tell her to write plans into the agreement.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/13 04:32 PM
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Ah. ;) Sorry.. I didn't realize it was that early on in your relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/13 04:23 PM
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I, for one, welcome our new nanobot rulers.
/r/TheRedPill15/08/13 04:01 PM
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Oops, you're right. I meant partner. Do you have provisions in place for caring for one another in the event of incapacitation - not all incapacitation is permanent, either. Sometimes people just can't make decisions for themselves. Quick example. Did you know that for 24 hours after being under general anaesthetic you are not legally able to sign a contract?
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/13 03:52 PM
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Adult Children are only as flaky as you raise them to be. I'm sad to say this has not been my experience. I've watched 2 generations of 3 different families (all related - in laws, etc) and one, very awful, young initially not effective suicide. The fighting between the adult children or parents or friends is horrifying. You see people cleaning out accounts and taking off with the valuables while simultaneously refusing to even visit the person s/he claims to love. That said I don't think I'd wa…
/r/TheRedPill15/08/13 03:10 PM
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Nobody needs to die in a hospital. And it's a horrible misprioritization of economic resources to consume thousands of hours worth of productivity to add a few months of unproductive life to someone who's already had a good run and is now just prolonging the inevitable. When I can no longer live a good life I'll bow out gracefully and cheaply. A big problem is actually getting out once you're in. If you're there for something serious then the ethics board of the hospital has to clear the decisio…
/r/TheRedPill15/08/13 02:57 PM
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Adult children are also pretty flaky these days. The real problem lies in finding someone who's reliable - be it a buddy or someone else - can you hire a lawyer(ish) type person?
/r/TheRedPill15/08/13 02:47 PM
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Enjoying your life includes enjoying the end. Planning is a good idea.
/r/TheRedPill15/08/13 02:42 PM
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Not a great plan. It's not that suicide is a bad way to go - it's more that depending on what happens, committing suicide is not easy once you're in the system. That's why there was so much fuss about Dr. Kevorkian.
/r/TheRedPill15/08/13 02:41 PM
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The sad truth is that being a Bull Alpha is a high risk way of living. You might not make it to old age because in the end all of those risks add up. I think it's a bit like hitting the Wall. Maybe the average age is what .. 30ish? That doesn't mean that a woman can't hit her personal wall at a much younger age. Some young women don't live long enough to hit the wall. Over the long term, though, they do. My personal plan is to live within my means not make big purchases and then move to another …
/r/TheRedPill15/08/13 02:38 PM
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The end of life plan for going your own way is the same as the plan for married guys. Money. Assuming you make it to old age, usually your wife might be old also so she can't take care of you. She might be .. but she might also be quite capable. I remember my grandpa had lots of money. He also had a wife that cared for him. In the end though, it's his money that took care of him. Grandma was too old and senile to care for him in his final years so he was in a nursing home. I hope it was a good h…
/r/TheRedPill15/08/13 02:34 PM
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I've talked to an old woman that has this arrangement and she's quite happy about it. A couple of 20 year olds buy her groceries 2 times a week (she pays of course); check on her every day, sometimes in person sometimes by phone; take her to the doctor when she needs it, and so on. Haven't heard anything shifty about this, and they don't quit if it takes more than a year or stuff like that. Honestly it sounds like a good deal to me. Sounds like a great deal to me! I'd take them up on that.
/r/TheRedPill15/08/13 02:25 PM
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heh. Why 80 and not 81?
/r/TheRedPill15/08/13 02:24 PM
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It looks interesting.
/r/TheRedPill15/08/13 02:23 PM
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I'm so scared now. It can be scary. I know this isn't a happy thing to talk about. I also know that this sub is very strong about living healthy - the reality is that it's not always enough. I can only imagine a future full of people who are dying alone in their homes... I'm afraid it gets grimmer. I'd rather fall down and die in my own house than what the medical community provides. It's ghastly. Now, I don't pretend that avoiding it all together should be the goal because many times it's what …
/r/TheRedPill15/08/13 02:22 PM
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This is the answer. Be an economically productive member of society; consume less than you produce; work (at something you love) for your whole life; use your savings to buffer your final years. Sounds like a nice plan. I don't know where you live, but in the US I've seen the cost of medical care. Hospitals charge horrendous amounts - for kleenex, gloves, and other disposables. Once they open the box, you get billed. Certain things they insist on providing (gloves) and they are fond of moving yo…
/r/TheRedPill15/08/13 02:16 PM
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I'm sure it's even better living with those you love, but many things could happen that would leave a person alone. My closest friends have often joked about buying land to share our old age together. Many things do happen. Many things happen that you would never in your wildest dreams imagined happening. Your friend's ideas seem like a good idea to me.
/r/TheRedPill15/08/13 02:07 PM
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Yes, it's tough to plan for your parent's future. There are so many considerations and, since they aren't your children, it's an odd type of power. I think it's important that they feel as much control as they can while also getting supplemental care.
/r/TheRedPill15/08/13 02:05 PM
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I think that you're American? I'm Canadian, so my experience with health care is a little different. Yes. We have a lot of palliative care stuff here, but even still, you're always at the mercy (as an elderly) of your care taker. My grandmothers were all really good, though, except for one, but she was out the door the same day. If one is truly concerned about end-of-life care, start doing your research now and start a fund specifically for that. Or move to Canada, where much of it (comparativel…
/r/TheRedPill15/08/13 06:23 AM
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and purchasing medical insurance. Spread those eggs around, ya'know? I do know. I just don't know what's going to happen after the health care bill gets passed implemented, I mean. Medicare is already struggling under the load. The worst part about the whole thing (to me) is that there will probably always be a safety net for life saving measures. Unfortunately, those measures won't be in place for quality of life after it's been saved. Edit. Misspoke.
/r/TheRedPill15/08/13 06:11 AM
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Do they live together? That's one saving grace about my parents - at least the other one is there to dial 911. Also, my father is a Veteran career military so they do have good benefits. My big problem is my MIL who is widowed, lives alone, and survives on medicare alone. Oh, and her eldest son is an ass.
/r/TheRedPill15/08/13 06:06 AM
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Real wealth is built through leverage and finding ways to grow your money with your money (instead of always trading labor for money). Oh definitely. Though having some of those assets be more liquid might help in the case of a medical crisis. I don't know what your concept of real wealth is but I've witnessed medical bills run into the 7 digit range after just 2 weeks of care - and it continued for the next 6 months (though at a much slower rate). Fortunately, he had earned great insurance. Ben…
/r/TheRedPill15/08/13 06:03 AM
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That works. If I find myself widowed when I'm elderly, that's my plan.
/r/TheRedPill15/08/13 05:49 AM
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Saving is great advice. It is shocking, though, how quickly a medical crisis can burn through all of that. With the current cost trends, I'm starting to wonder if you actually can save enough.
/r/TheRedPill15/08/13 05:49 AM
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While "Never Marry" is popular around here, it's not dogma. Just as often, you'll see "Never Marry an American woman." From the few times I looked at the sub, I believe redpillwomen had a number of wives in it. Oh, I know. I participate in RPW as a wife. My parents are still married though they both have serious health problems. Having the 2 of them together really decreases the logistics involved in making sure they're cared for. My MIL is widowed. Her physical impairments aren't nearly as extr…
/r/TheRedPill15/08/13 05:46 AM
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Unfortunately, that's an issue I'm currently dealing with. Children aren't always the answer. It's shocking what they'll do to their parents when they're vulnerable. As for having a disabled wife, just having someone home to dial 911 in case of an emergency helps the logistics of caring for people. For example, my parents are late into their 70's. My mother is disabled and my father has been quite ill. However, together they can support each other enough to not need help. My husband's mother is …
/r/TheRedPill15/08/13 05:43 AM
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People are paid to take care of the elderly and disabled, so I'm not sure why savings isn't a satisfactory answer. Savings is a perfectly satisfactory answer. This is usually presented as a reason for children. Some children take good care of their aging parent(s), some are neglectful or absent, and some are present and abusive. Funny you should say that because I'm childfree and I've seen what shit adult children do to their parents. I don't think children or the State can truly be relied upon,…
/r/TheRedPill15/08/13 05:39 AM
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Being self-sufficient is incredibly empowering and also not that hard once you learn to man up, get organised and work out your weekly routine. Don't see why this would be any different when I'm 120 years old (and yes I'm totally planning to live to 100+ and kicking ass every year until I'm there). Fair enough. Thank you for answering.
/r/TheRedPill15/08/13 05:22 AM
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Given the advice to never marry (or mingle things too much) and not to have children (not nearly as consistent) I think it is somewhat applicable to sexual/relationship strategy. Perhaps I'm wrong.
/r/TheRedPill15/08/13 04:58 AM
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Never really thought of that. Always figured I'd kick the bucket doing something epic. I think we all want to die quickly and without suffering. It's hardly a plan, though.
/r/TheRedPill15/08/13 04:47 AM
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You have. Thank you very much. Benefits (military, social security) can make a difference in quality of life for the LTR survivor. If blood relatives hate your partner, your partner can loose enforcement ability. Your wishes might not be followed. This creates problems if you are unable to make your own decisions. Does that make sense (not being rude, just checking).
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/13 04:16 AM
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Hi danabanana9, It's probably because I'm infp. Regarding legal rights: can you legally arrange the same legal benefits to your partner that comes with marriage? Are there documents (ex. POA) for every benefit marriage provides?
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/13 03:45 AM
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We feel society is already headed towards disaster so instead of getting chewed up by the family court system in an attempt to prop up a dying institution we instead choose to Enjoy The Decline. www.puerarchy.com for details. If that's what you (or anyone) wants to do, then fine. I'm not motivated to go argue at TRP that it's a bad approach. We're not worried about being taken care of when we're sick because we eat well and pick up heavy things so our chances are significantly lower than most of…
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/13 03:36 AM
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I'm so sorry for your loss. Life is hard. It's been very hard on me. People disappoint me with the callous disregard they have for others - even their own parents. It's sickening. Right now I'm dealing with a son who's willing to take everything his mother has and sell it and put her in a home so he can forget about her. All this because she's depressed and he doesn't want to be bothered. Is it really any wonder she's depressed. If it matters, she's widowed. She needs some help but is no way nea…
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/13 03:16 AM
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The goal for both subs is long term happiness. For RP men, we have determined that is through a harem, or serial monogamy. Any legal ties with a woman are highly discouraged. For RP women, however, marriage is still a great deal and our hope is that through educating women on how much power they actually have combined with building a community to support femininity that they won't divorce rape their ex-husbands if the marriage ever goes south. (bold emphasis mine) I'm very interested in lasting …
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/13 02:45 AM
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Oh. Powers of attorney are easily and cheaply done. The trick is to get them before you need them.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/13 02:22 AM
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I saw it. Unfortunately, I'm dealing with elder care for our family (my parents and his) and it gets pretty bleak so I'm probably a bit more on edge than usual. It's sad, frustrating, and utterly demoralizing. You have adult children doing awful things like cleaning out their parent(s) bank accounts. Things, you'd never thought someone was capable of - let alone to his mother! I've been to enough hospice, nursing homes, hospitals, rehab centers and the like to have my fill. My grandfather died, …
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/13 02:19 AM
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Pardon me for interrupting.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/13 02:11 AM
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Marriage is important to me, full stop. Luckily I'm married. Also luckily not all men are anti-marriage. Well, there's a lot of discussion about LTR's verses marriage. Is that really a compromise that benefits both parties - ie relieves the danger for the man while providing some stability for women? I really want to know if you can do anything in a LTR that you can in a marriage - because given the fight for gay marriage it appears there are a few holes left. Well, to be fair, this isn't a horr…
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/13 02:08 AM
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I don't need contracts or titles, all I need is to know that he loves me. As long as I have a man loving me for the rest of my life, none of those other things are important to me. End of life issues are on my mind lately as our (me and husband) parents age. Do you plan for end of life and what happens to the surviving spouse?
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/13 01:56 AM
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Marriage has always been a deal breaker for me. I found a man who wanted that and children as well. We had good role models growing up too so there's never been any concerns with us. We also were married young and have nothing so there's no possibility for divorce rape. We are both quite happy with the direction our life is going :) Awesome! If you were giving advice to a young woman regarding marriage (taking into account the current system) would you tell her to hold out for it or is there an …
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/13 01:55 AM
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Seems to me that the purpose of red pill knowledge for women is to make yourself as attractive as possible to the most alpha as possible man you're able to attract and to keep that attraction going for the longest possible time. That being said I've really only ever cared about being with someone exclusively hopefully forever, marriage or not. You're married but a lot of people have asserted that you can do everything in a ltr that can be done in marriage. This might be true with current laws an…
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/13 01:53 AM
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How do you feel about marriage? Is that part of your plan. If not, what types of protection for her and the children's future security. Oh. I found my Prince Charming.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/13 01:49 AM
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You don't need to agree, and it is an issue because they are nothing but a parody sub designed to get TRP shutdown through false flagging and taking everything we say out of context. And yet, someone asked a question about women in tech which has nothing to do with either TRP or TBP. The subreddits (and reality) demonstrate that there are fewer women in STEM. I only addressed that. In the end, they were quite rude to me. If you want to engage in their brand of insanity knock yourself out, but I …
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/13 01:44 AM
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It's not about the philosophy it's about being able to keep RPW and TRP on Reddit. You need to understand that any "infringing" on their territory by us puts the subreddits in danger of getting the boot. TBP wants us gone. That's their agenda. Well, they weren't exactly welcoming even though I was not posting about relationships at all. This is what I left there: comment. It's not about sexual strategy. Behind the scenes, I'd messaged the mods (TBP) to find out if I was permitted to post there. …
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/13 01:34 AM
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TRP is focused on harems. RPW is focused on LTRs/Marriage. This has been stated since day one, and is even included in the Welcome Message on the sidebar. There is no reason the communities cannot coexist and support each other even if our mating strategies are very different. This is true and it surprises me when here people discuss how much of a rotten deal marriage is for men. If that's part of our philosophy, then what type of LTR should people be looking for? I'm pro-marriage and yet that s…
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/13 01:29 AM
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Might be true. There are a lot more women than men in your average assisted living or nursing home. I'm unsure if that might be due to the age gap described by the person who posted this concern. Beyond a certain age.. well.. life expectancy goes down obviously.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/13 07:02 PM
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"Fulfill your needs and be happy" should be the motto of every individual. And with out a doubt some people will be happy within the power dynamic of feminism. However it is not a convinient system to build a society on. Up to a point. Suffering just for the sake of suffering is silly. Being a martyr doesn't help anyone and, even worse, it makes people not like you very much. Some people would say TRP is backlash against the feminist message that women should always be happy. Telling everyone to…
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/13 06:52 PM
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And beta males accept this with a "Thank you, ma'am, may I have another?". Alphas insist that they're going to get better treatment out of life. I hate the Greek letter thing. Whatever. Insisting that you get 'better' treatment is not living in reality. Guess what, you're in no position to take 'better' treatment unless you're the head of a government organization or a multinational corporation (In which case you can demand what you want.) Otherwise you have to pay for it somehow and that scheme…
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/13 05:14 AM
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It's simply not fair to regard a man as a time-waster because he refuses to enter into a contract like that. Since we discuss reality here - life is often not fair. She wants what she wants. She may not get it, but if it's not going to happen with this guy that doesn't mean no other guy worth having won't step up. Unless, of course, you consider any man willing to get married as not worthy.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/13 02:16 AM
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The root cause of the problem is my continued struggle with expecting her to reach the same conclusions as me. Then concentrate on fixing that - you can change yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/13 02:02 AM
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I'll just drop in to add: "I've achieved a resting point" type of mentality which incites bouts of bad behavior. People aren't projects. If you never expect her to achieve the goals or expect her to work hard at constant improvement her entire life, then you're setting both of you up for failure. If this is the case, then start re-evaluating your goals for her. She has to know that there is an end or she's going to give up. Now, that doesn't mean you set the bar in the stratosphere and give her …
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/13 01:57 AM
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men are more like other men than women. Yes, I'd agree with that on a general scale. I don't mean to cast doubt on the idea that men, as a social group, don't have their own, separate, discreet voice on things that only affect men. (For example, women aren't biological fathers). Sure, you could probably comb through a bunch of records, find a hermaphrodite and prove me wrong but we're talking about an extremely rare occurrence. Sexual dimorphism hints at a non-equal but complementary relationshi…
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/13 12:09 AM
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It depends on who did the asking, for me. If I ask you to dinner, I prefer to pay. If we agree to meet, then we split. If you ask me, I'm prepared to pay but I'm also going to let you make the first move. Nope.. been that way all my life.
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/13 05:36 PM
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Not likely. I have a graduate degree in my profession and 20+ years in my other skill set. I have almost 20 years of 'familiarity' with what he does but I'm not trained in it - and neither of us really wants or needs that.
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/13 05:30 PM
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In aggregate, sure. Unless you're trying to marry or have a relationship with aggregates then ignore individual differences at your peril.
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/13 05:10 PM
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That men and women are not the same, that they do not think the same, do not place the same value on things and have different needs) Isn't that true of people in general? I'm not trying to argue the feminist point of view but, such a blanket statement pretty much includes the entire set of people.
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/13 04:39 PM
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Well, yes, of course it's all in my head. Where else would it be? Wanting recognition is all about me! I don't understand your meaning - I have feelings. Why shouldn't I ask for something (within reason) that helps me feel more motivated and appreciated? I'm not asking to be full partner or director or even an officer. I just want some recognition for my hard work because I'm a human being and I have needs.
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/13 03:18 PM
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FleetingWish, Good morning, You've been most helpful in pointing out the underlying dynamics of the situation. I do need to learn more and there are people out there that would walk into the situation, cold, and come up to speed faster. Notice either way we are trying to not bother your husband. He is trying to start a business, he has enough stress on his plate, without having to worry about whether or not you're affectively doing your job. He needs to be able to assume that for the most part y…
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/13 03:14 PM
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It does happen. My Gram lingered on for years. It's hard to watch. Fortunately she'd built a family to depend on. Oh, and when you go to the assisted living/nursing homes there are many more women than men. I don't know if that's because they out lived their husband (likely) or because of other reasons. It's not science, just an observation.
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/13 02:43 PM
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Hi, FleetingWish. I've spent the day dealing with a family crisis. I've read what you've so kindly written but my mind has shut down for the day. I'll read it with fresh eyes once this storm has passed. Many thanks for your thoughts in the interim.
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/13 05:00 AM
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I worry about this, also. It used to be that parents relied on their children and companies/society took care of the elderly and sick. These days, everything seems to be a cost/benefit analysis but most people aren't looking nearly far enough into the future. If he is 75 and dies, and she is only 61, she has 16 years alone. HOPEFULLY they have a huge nest egg for her. But with markets and such being very volatile, I gotta wonder if she is getting screwed in her last 5 years or so. People who are…
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/13 04:58 AM
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I found it to name some of what I've always known. The real attraction, for me, is the strong bias on reality. Just getting people to focus on that is a large enough feat to be worthy.
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/13 04:29 AM
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Thanks. This is what I'm most worried about. We can talk professionally with other people but trying to do that mode (at this stage) is difficult. Very, very difficult.
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/13 07:23 PM
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You might have better than even odds because he's had previous relationships and recognizes that you're more compatible. Your fears about the relationship going away after the talk are all justified. If he tells you that he's not going to marry you (ever) and that is what you really need out of a relationship, then your only recourse is to leave him and find someone more like minded. If he tells you he might marry you some day and is really vague about 'some day' and just that, I'd recommend you…
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/13 07:20 PM
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Yeah. That's more what I was thinking. I want business cards... I want something on my resume'. I want to be more than 'just the wife.'
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/13 06:22 PM
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It always is shared money. We don't do the whole split accounts thing. When we started out we each had like $20 and $40 was way more liveable (gross exaggeration. I don't care if it's money, it's just the simplist and would mean the least from me. I guess what I really want is to be valued in a more than "she helped" way on this particular issue. There are lots of areas where I don't need that kind of back patting because it's just what I do. But that's how I feel about this particular type of b…
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/13 06:17 PM
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Can you pm me the thread, please?
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/13 06:06 PM
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I suppose we'll have to see. I don't think it will be a movement in greater society, though. We've been purging ourselves from one bad idea to the next worse one and on to a slightly better one that's then exchanged for an extremely bad one... lather, rinse, repeat for aeons. There always seem to be some small segment of society that maintains a sense of pragmatism while the majority ponders on into more ideas. Utopia, as a concept, has been around for millenia.
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/13 02:44 PM
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This is also very true. We manipulate things/people/concepts all the time.
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/13 02:41 AM
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What if there was a way to change all that without sacrificing who we as individual women are? Why is sacrifice such a bad idea, anyway? Everybody, everybody has to make decisions in life that choose a path (sacrifice something for something else). Why shouldn't you be ready to sacrifice something - even if it's your life? (I think pride is harder in a lot of cases than life itself but YMMV) I like RPW because we can talk about reality here. The reality is that everyone who lives - dies. This is…
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/13 11:32 PM
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Some how that does not appeal to my sentimental side... but thanks. The lyrics are interesting. Serious question: Is that really what you want?
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/13 11:13 PM
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This lists 9 different types of intelligence. I suspect there are > 9. Link fixed now.
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/13 10:23 PM
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For what values of intelligence? I.Q. tests?
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/13 10:11 PM
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I don't know why but every time people try to explain submission vs. et al. I map it to cooperation.
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/13 08:08 PM
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My personal pet peeve is when you go over to visit someone and they have the tv sound set to 'deafen' and then proceed to try and hold a conversation by shouting. My family does this...
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/13 07:55 PM
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Everyone knows that men outperform women, and outnumber women, in the most intellectually demanding professional careers: Science, Technology, Engineering, Mathematics. The nit I pick with this is the idea that STEM is the most intellectually demanding type of career. STEM people are just more rare in the population than other skills. http://www.census.gov/hhes/socdemo/education/data/cps/2012/tables.html I'm not sure you can conflate rare with complexity or intellectual demand. It's not my field…
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/13 07:42 PM
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Being a warm hostess is a really nice feminine value to have. Learning how to be gracious, in general, seems to be on the declne in the west.
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/13 06:27 PM
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I think that there should be something pointing to the gatekeeper information and that women and men are, generally, focused on getting different things. Kind of, sort of. Some men don't want relationships/children and all that... but, I think, the majority of men want to find a life partner. It's just qualifying to be a life partner and actually doing the life partner thing if you've found your spouse is a part of what I think of RPW. This is very, very different than TRP because men and women …
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/13 06:00 PM
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I'd like to see it, as well.
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/13 02:57 PM
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The ending sounds sad...
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/13 01:38 AM
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Very nice.
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/13 01:32 AM
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They also seem to go in/out of style. When I was in H.S., we had like 14 Lisa's and a group of Anne's.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/13 07:35 PM
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I also have a very unusual given name. I wasn't bulllied but I've been mispronounced/mispelled in many, many ways. I've adopted a nick-name.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/13 07:32 PM
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Sounds to me like a lotion or a hair treatment....
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/13 07:29 PM
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Oooohhh, good idea. I'd love to know everyone's love song of choice. I'd listen to that one now, but I'm all cried out.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/13 07:28 PM
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Do you treadmill or do it on the street?
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/13 03:38 PM
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I see this happen way too often. Gentle acquiesence ... I suppose some might call it submission but I don't like that term so I choose not to use it ... rather than shrill argument is part of being well and gently mannered. It's uncomfortable for everyone in the group (or maybe it's just me) to see some poor man being browbeaten by his wife/gf.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/13 02:56 PM
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Oh, I get it! You meant the "Dumb it down" title. I was wondering what you meant. ;) Edited to add: I was thinking of the title of the "Ridiculously Bad Advice" title not the slide title The worst mistake a girl can make is to make a man feel intellectually inferior or inadequate as a male. We men need a lot of reassurance. This is a bit murky for me. The first is true - you don't want to make (really, anyone) your husband feel inadequate! But, just knowing more about some topic - especially if …
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/13 02:44 PM
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I'm stubborn as fuck when it comes to doing stuff myself. One of my many flaws, alas! :p You and I have the same problem with that. I come by it honestly. My mom is like a rock and my dad is a hard place!
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/13 05:22 AM
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Thanks, I'll give it a try again. My problem in life is that I can't seem to stop my mind from just going off on tangents. I need an "off" switch. For one thing, it drags me ragged.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/13 05:20 AM
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I have a poor nephew in law who's parents decided to name him "Seven." (They don't have seven children... I think he's the second.) That poor kid. Edited to add: For the longest time, I referred to him as "Sven" - then they corrected me by spelling it out.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/13 05:17 AM
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Yeah. I talk a lot about my Grandmother. In her case it was very good advice.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/13 05:15 AM
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No, I haven't. I'm going to look into that - thanks. I've also wondered about hypnosis...
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/13 11:35 PM
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I'd really like to be able to actually change my mood - as opposed to adjusting my behavior so people experience me more appropriately. I wonder if it's a T vs. a F thing. Or, maybe I'm just a bit broken.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/13 11:11 PM
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I disagree to an extent with 2 of these: Dumb it down. Why would you do that? It seems patronizing to me. Don't pretend to be an expert in something you're not in... but if he has to know what temperature of the oven to cook the pork or how to get the spot out of his suit or anything that fits in your domain... why wouldn't just answer his question? I don't think any good man can't handle that you might just know something he doesn't. Same thing if you're a professional in an area. Don't be coy …
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/13 11:02 PM
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I've never been able to actually meditate.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/13 10:48 PM
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To add: This is advice for women from a woman. Men have their own methods which work just fine for them. Women using this approach invites other people into their comfort circle. I don't think I've ever seen a man approach someone that way - but I can say from years (I'm old) of experience that when you approach a man with this method it greases the wheels. Whisper, what do you think?
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/13 10:44 PM
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Of course I've also noticed the power of complimenting people in order to motivate them to do stuff... I try not to do this personally, because I see it as manipulative and I prefer to gain experience and competence by doing shit myself, even if I'm not the most qualified person in the room at any given time. Helping someone be motivated or appreciated is not manipulative if you genuinely mean it. It can be over done and make people feel uncomfortable if they sense that you're just blowing sunsh…
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/13 10:39 PM
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Next time your man asks you to submit to something you don't particularly care for, remember that you do have a choice in how you feel even if you don't have one in the situation. You're going to be there no matter what your feelings are, so choose. Choose to be happy, choose to make the best of it, and reap the rewards of a happy relationship. I've never been able to change my feelings. I feel whatever I experience at the time. I guess the best that I can do is shut off my emotions - like in em…
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/13 09:16 PM
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if your doing things right it should be about a pound, maybe two if you really work hard at it, a week). If you join a gym, they will almost certainly have a - oh the name escapes me - but it's a gadget that measures your %-age of body fat. Don't count on the scale as a weekly guide. Watch how your clothes fit, instead. Women, especially, have a harder time with this because we have more fat stores than men do. Just avoid the scale when you're having that time of month. The great news - you can'…
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/13 04:24 PM
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| I find that hard to believe. This is the core of my disagreement with you. Well, then this has a happy ending. That's the part I'm most unsure about. I'll open up my mind and pay more attention to that aspect in the future. For entertainment purposes, I submit the following link: http://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/1ipb4j/the_dark_underbelly_of_the_rationalization_hamster/ Oh, I know, she'd be lousy for an affair because she has quite the agenda. Now, you may argue that these men would…
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/13 03:14 PM
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I honestly don't know why you are here. You have moved the goalposts 5 times in this comment chain alone. To refresh your memory you said: I'm here because TRP is supposed to be about actual reality. In actual reality, if someone hasn't obtained guardianship over you, you actually do have options. As you refreshed my memory - that does not mean those options will be better than the status quo. If you're arguing that having nothing but bad options is equivalent to not having any options then we'r…
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/13 02:58 AM
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Needless to say, I was very disappointed to learn as an adult that men have to be 100% proactive in every aspect of dating. Yeah, that's no fun. Have you been in a relationship and found that it differs over time?
/r/TheRedPill06/08/13 01:11 AM
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My assertion is that the empirical facts prove that men can, in fact, cheat. So can women. It is an interesting artifact that there is variation on how often the 2 genders cheated - I'd have expected the numbers to be much more equal. So it is your contention that men have as easy access to sex as do women? Is that your stance? My contention is that it changes over time. Also, there's a gender difference in the emotional impact of sexual relations. The paper discusses that men have very differen…
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/13 12:55 AM
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Thank you.
/r/TheRedPill06/08/13 12:23 AM
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She gave up eventually, on the slapping and the relationship. Probably a good move for both of you.
/r/TheRedPill05/08/13 11:20 PM
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lol DYE cheer for the bad guys in movies that want to destroy 'life as we know it?"
/r/TheRedPill05/08/13 11:17 PM
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Heh. I've not read much Poe. Opening the emergency exit on a plane mid-flight. This used to be one of my popular fantasizes when travelling because I hate it so much. Then my husband disabused me of the notion saying it can't be done. Perhaps experiencing a fantasy to be dominated helps to keep one under control. This is insightful. Maybe one of the reasons we have such rich imaginations is so that we can "act out" safely without actually wiping everyone off the planet.
/r/TheRedPill05/08/13 11:08 PM
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Very nice. Thank you for the link.
/r/TheRedPill05/08/13 11:02 PM
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Heh. Thanks for replying.
/r/TheRedPill05/08/13 10:59 PM
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The sample used in this study is comprised of 4,593 women and 4,224 men, from which 2.3 and 3.9 percent, respectively, reported having had sex with more than one partner last year. Note: The definition of infidelity was >1 sexual partner within the last year. Controlling for other factors, our estimates show that the probability that a woman has an affair increases about 8.5 percent if she is not very happy with her marriage while the probability of a man having an affair increases about 9.8 per…
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/13 09:53 PM
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Fair enough. Thank you for your reply.
/r/TheRedPill05/08/13 09:30 PM
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Your fantasy is fine, but useless. But aren't they all, mostly? Fantasizing about ruling the world might make me megalomaniacal but I know it wouldn't be as much fun as my imagination makes it out to be. It's totally useless except that it can entertain me for a time. "imp of the perverse" Fantasizes are the domain of perversity. I think that if we actually managed to access someone's stream of consciousness, we'd discover that even 'good people' think about really nasty stuff.
/r/TheRedPill05/08/13 09:25 PM
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Back to your question of "do men have rape fantasies?", we probably won't have any empirical research to show this because men don't buy (it's one of the most popular types book purchased by women) and read shitty romance novels about raping. Heh. So true. They are awful. Which was another limitation of the study. There are a few things going on when talking about fantasy. There's the woman fantasizing and the non-consenting woman in the story. The actual woman is in no danger of actual rape. Th…
/r/TheRedPill05/08/13 09:21 PM
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I don't really understand why people worry so much about what other people do when it doesn't involve them. Maybe it's just my personality type but it feels like it would be a massive waste of energy.
/r/TheRedPill05/08/13 09:15 PM
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When men file for divorce or separation at an 80:20% rate then maybe, just maybe your statement would mean something. When reality intrudes upon you then perhaps it will mean something to you. In any case, that 20% of divorces/separations are initiated by men, flies in the face of the idea that they can't. I never said it would be nice or fun or fair or even not ruinous. I simply assert that men can do it. How much science does it take? Seriously? Oh, I don't doubt the science and I'm not going …
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/13 09:08 PM
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Fantasies are for those without the will to make their dreams reality. There are ways to responsibly enjoy almost any fantasy that isn't specifically about causing harm or death, and no reason not to. The tricky part is not causing harm. Death should be avoided, as well. Otherwise people will say unkind things about you. How much do you trust yourself to distinguish between non-consensual consent and actual problems? (Problems being loosely defined as causing harm/death.
/r/TheRedPill05/08/13 08:57 PM
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Nothing better than coming home to find your gf on her knees, dressed how she was instructed to, with her collar on, wanting on masters command. Doesn't all that direction get tedious after awhile?
/r/TheRedPill05/08/13 08:53 PM
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A college sex ed class back 20 years ago said that a study found 50% of men would rape if he was guaranteed never to be caught. Yeah, I've read similar studies. I am curious as to the appeal of such behavior. I think about it like all the times I've wanted to kill someone - sometimes in not-so-nice but very creative ways. Faced with the actual reality of doing it? Nope. Don't think so.
/r/TheRedPill05/08/13 07:18 PM
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The fantasy is ruined once I realize it wouldn't work since I could just push them off of me since I go to the gym. Heh. Well, maybe she tied you up .. or something.
/r/TheRedPill05/08/13 07:16 PM
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Women I'm with have to have some degree of dominance, not over me, that doesn't work, but you need to be a powerful woman worthy of being with me. Yeah... people who know what they want and ask for it tend to rank higher in my book, as well.
/r/TheRedPill05/08/13 07:15 PM
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for pleasing you is what truly makes her happy. That makes sense. Thank you.
/r/TheRedPill05/08/13 07:14 PM
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Very few men have multiple options. Those that do have them for a reason. Men can file for divorce (in the US) just like women can. Now, that choice comes with consequences and, maybe, it looks like it's not an option because it's not palatable. We're past the days where we kept people together in misery. Men can also cheat - just like women can. female hypergamy. sigh
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/13 07:08 PM
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Hi again, sorry for the late reply. Little brother wanted to play video games with me. Video games are the spice of life. Unfortunately, I suck tremendously at them. Speaking of romance novels, did you hear David Cameron is planning to filter out of the UK content such as "child abuse" and "simulated rape"? I was wondering whether he'd seize and burn 50 shades of Gray and all the other ones females use, or if only male sexuality is "think of the chidren"-worthy. There are always some subset of p…
/r/TheRedPill05/08/13 05:39 PM
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I'm not convinced that sort of contract would be upheld though I suppose there are waivers for just about anything. I went snorkeling with sharks last week. You basically have to give up all your rights for any recompense should one of the sharks decide to eat you. So, I'm reading this and thinking... They could literally stand there and pour chum over your head and if the shark decides to come in for a taste, that's the risk you took. Oh, and don't get me wrong - I think the waivers are totally…
/r/TheRedPill05/08/13 04:39 PM
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Oh. I see. Thank you so much for clearing that up.
/r/TheRedPill05/08/13 04:32 PM
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Yeah, you got me. I got too eager for the logical extension of the fantasy there. I wonder how often women fantasize about rape and the guy walks out the door and never sees her again. I would think that somehow they end up being soul mates and love conquers all. (a la romance novels) True. That would be completely true for my neighbourhood. The thing is in the places where crimes in general and rapes are rampant, I hear the police doesn't have resources to clear up more than 1/3 to 1/2 of murde…
/r/TheRedPill05/08/13 04:29 PM
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There is one thing they can do for real though: She can sleep with whoever her parents hate or fear, and tell them she was raped. And hey, if her father is in the KKK, that's how history is written. I'm not talking about an actual experience - I'm still in that fantasy realm - not even in the rape play arena. Now that doesn't mean that women don't have fantasizes about having the power to ruin someone's life - but that's not gender biased. We just go about doing it in different ways. I'm honestl…
/r/TheRedPill05/08/13 04:05 PM
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Rape fantasies are common in BDSM environment, seek their knowledge about how to rape play in a safe way. Thank you for your response. I'm not interested in rape play, for myself. I just noticed the headline of the study on TRP and got to wondering about the appeal to the men's side and, also, if men fantasized about being raped.
/r/TheRedPill05/08/13 03:43 PM
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they have rape fantasies because the men they go for do not have the time for mediocrity. Therefore they indulge in these fantasies so that they can a) imagine being guilt free if it were to occurr, and b) rationalize to themselves that their imagination that it is a product of society, not of their own wants. I suppose that's probably one of the answers I was looking for but, as you said, it's not a realistic expectation. What I'm fairly certain of though, considering how few rapists murder the…
/r/TheRedPill05/08/13 03:41 PM
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good hair for pulling Another thing I'm curious about. What is the fascination with hair pulling? It seems to be a new thing (I'm old). I don't see anything particularly wrong with it but it just seems like an odd thing to enjoy. When my hair was long.. it being leaned on or anything during sex required quick repositioning.
/r/TheRedPill05/08/13 03:32 PM
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Thank you for the response.
/r/TheRedPill05/08/13 03:29 PM
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Thank you for the response.
/r/TheRedPill05/08/13 03:29 PM
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Lots of women have fantasizes about being rescued...:)
/r/TheRedPill05/08/13 03:28 PM
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Being raped or doing the raping? Either or both. I did google it and there are some people's personal experiences chronicled but nothing like the study.
/r/TheRedPill05/08/13 03:27 PM
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Consensual rape play is another matter though. I imagine it would be. Being raped myself? Never fantasized about that, and the thought pisses me off to no end. I just wondered. There are studies that women fantasize about rape but I've not seen one done on men.
/r/TheRedPill05/08/13 03:25 PM
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I believe the context was that she just didn't seem to be into oral sex in general, whether he ate her out or not, it just seemed like something she wasn't comfortable with doing. Yes, that other post did have that context. I was answering the more general thread topic because the OP wants to clarify the advice. Which, to clarify, is that cheating isn't always a deal breaker because people never act in a vacuum. I think the advice given to him to find another woman was not good advice. u/sniperh…
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/13 03:16 PM
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It seems to never occur to fools that merit and good fortune are closely united. Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/13 10:19 AM
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a man with options can afford to lose any woman Everybody always has options. Some better than others. You can keep your hand or you can choose a new one. Sometimes, you can even do both. I do know that TRP is about spinning plates and keeping other woman options open. shrug If all the plates are somewhat equal in value then loosing one won't make much of a difference. However, (and I know this isn't general TRP advice) if you invest in one plate and now it's value is the equivalent of Flora Dan…
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/13 12:23 AM
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However, if you don't live in a dealbreaker world, that doesn't apply. Living in a 'dealbreaker' world sounds nice but, I've found that actual reality is much, much messier.
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/13 11:05 PM
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she's likely to still desire him, Never gamble what you can't afford to loose.
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/13 11:01 PM
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I was at a party a couple of years ago and one lady leaned on the balcony railing (1 floor) to watch a volley ball game in process. I stood there and watched as the railing simply peeled away from the supports. The good news, she survived and mostly recovered. The bad news, she was seriously injured. The dumbfounding news - the homeowner's insurance co offered her 1,000 to settle. I make the distinction because the owner of the house wanted to commit bloody murder of his homeowner ins. co.
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/13 08:29 PM
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Glad I could help. Good luck.
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/13 02:09 AM
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Oral IS a normal part of sex. (I dropped the I think part). No one would ever suggest I have to negotiate and talk talk talk in order for her to have vaginal intercourse with me, or be allowed to touch her with my hands, or see her nude. To me, oral is no different. Reality proves you wrong in the no one part. You've found one of the few women that don't like oral and doesn't happen to think it's normal. You can explain it to her and give her statistics to 10 decimal places and it's not going to…
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/13 02:03 AM
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I don't consider that advice to be good advice. No, it's not acceptable - but it can be understandable and that's a very, very different things. I don't really have dealbreakers - well, except the children thing.. I'm sterile and I don't care to raise children. As for cheating, it would vary wildly with regards to the situation. If the situation was he wanted more blow jobs and mine weren't acceptable because I didn't follow some strict rules he laid down that were just not practical - then that…
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/13 01:37 AM
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Let me give you a little context in the form of a true conversation I witnessed between my father and my mother. So, we're sitting in the family room one day. My dad gets up, goes to the closet, and brings back a blanket. He sits down and covers himself with the blanket. This disturbs my mother. She asks him why he has the blanket and he answers that he's cold. My mother then proceeds to tell him she's warm and, after checking the thermostat comes back and announces that n degrees is plenty warm…
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/13 01:18 AM
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1) What is a "high value" man? Is it the same as being "alpha"? I'm not really the one to comment on the Greek letter thing. What makes a high value man to me is his character - honesty, integrity, ambition, honour, courage, self discipline, intelligence, ethics, humor, self confidence, and decision making. When I think about it, those are qualities I apply to most of the people in my life that I choose (rather than the relatives you're dealt). But, they are essential for me to get along with a …
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/13 10:21 PM
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Trusting your partner is required. I think it needs to go deeper, though. I think you have to be able to trust yourself in either role. I finally read some more. The faq pretty well goes over what the predicted outcome would be in my life. f you or your spouse were to feel chronically flat, sad, distressed, resentful, frustrated, depressed, weary, bored, angry, trapped, oppressed, less of a person, less, autonomous, weighed down with obligations, burdened, or if you were to lose your joie de viv…
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/13 11:13 PM
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I wouldn't weight it enough to be an objection and it was late at night. I see more clearly now that you've pointed it out. Sorry about that.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/13 04:42 PM
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its like disciplining children General case: Should perform better. Not all parents are trustworthy. Children don't choose their parents.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/13 02:51 AM
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Growing up in an abusive household, I want to make the generalization that most male to female abusive environments seem to come from a man who feels out of control of his environment (for whatever reason), and using violence and abuse to gain control. Physical violence is just one manifestation. People who are out of control - seek control. People who are unable to control themselves will often act out in abusive ways (physical or emotional). I think men get a bad rap on this because you can't …
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/13 02:49 AM
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i dont understand anything you wrote there, sorry Unpredictable people should not try this.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/13 02:46 AM
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it is about having the option to use some manner of physical chastisement if it gets down to it. obviously its not for you. I don't think it's about beating the fuck out of anyone. I have a very long, slow burning, fuse. Unfortunately, once it reaches the end, it's a chasm not a step. This would be a terrible idea for me because once I dive into that gulf very bad things can happen and it would be irresponsible to allow myself to be in that position. I know that about myself, already. That doesn…
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/13 01:50 AM
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From what I've read of the subject, relationships of this kind are often suggested by the submissive, rather than the dominant partner. That seems more intuitive, actually. You don't tend to notice people who have great self control - we don't stick out. I'd guess it takes more trust to be the HoH than the submissive partner.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/13 12:38 AM
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Also in one case to help a woman with emotional issues "snap back" to reality. I have to say, as a person with emotional issues, I have no doubt it works for someone in the Great Out There(tm). It does seem to be a rather large risk for someone to be willing to take - and, I would suggest, be at the bottom of a long line of other measures (clinical) before giving it a go. If you're talking about someone without 'emotional issues' then, informed consent makes a lot of sense. If you're dealing wit…
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/13 12:20 AM
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The question I'd have is what happens if he makes a mistake? Do you have a way out - to let him know he needs to move away and compose himself - if he doesn't recognize it soon enough?
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/13 12:01 AM
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Nope. Not me, not ever. I got triggered just reading about it. I simply can't handle being physically 'handled' or blatantly emotionally manipulated without it being.. quite seriously.. life threatening for me. I didn't read all of the document. I did read far enough to see the "Go slowly" emphasized advice - and that's good advice. I think that it could work if someone was willing to truly, with all good intentions go through with the discussion beforehand and such. Is there a safe word? I'm tw…
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/13 11:59 PM
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I have an extremely inappropriate sense of humor. ;)
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/13 12:43 AM
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I'm sitting here thinking "what could go wrong? So, you wake up the next morning and the guy has a heart attack when you say "Good morning." Just sayin...
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/13 12:38 AM
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Please, please tell me you don't believe in the 'raise your vocal tone' stuff tho... ;)
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/13 12:33 AM
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I think time would be better spent here: http://www.wikihow.com/Be-a-Lady How do you link to things here? It's not in formatting help.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/13 11:50 PM
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Honor, self discipline, integrity, courage, manners = dominance over the self. This is the whole idea! People who cannot dominate themselves should not get to dominate others! This is the most basic premodern idea ever. The alpha is the man who first and foremost can rule himself. The whole idea of premodernity is that our egos are dangerous. If we get to dominate, suppress, cut down our own egos, we can offer the same service, the same gift to our women. Right. I just don't happen to think the …
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/13 07:32 PM
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Is there supposed to be a link?
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/13 04:55 PM
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I'm glad. The two of you had such opposite ideas of what you each wanted the other to do. It does seem like both of you have a better idea now and I think his goal is going to be much harder to attain than yours. Best of luck to you and I hope you stick around.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/13 04:08 PM
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I'd like this discussion to be about what makes a good woman, what makes a good man, and what should the goals of those who would call themselves good be in relation to this community. IE. further support whats going on over in TRP. Change good to successful. You get to define success. TRP does not define success for anyone other than those who decide to adopt their definition. Success might be: sleeping with 10,000 women having 'plates' spinning around them never getting married/moving in/havin…
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/13 04:06 PM
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Ah. I see. That makes sense - best of luck to you.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/13 03:18 PM
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Thank you so much for updating. I can't say I'm sorry this happened because it's for the best. How are you holding up?
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/13 03:15 PM
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Why is it important to you to become an extrovert? I understand getting over social anxiety and such but recharging your batteries is only important in the sense that you do it. I'm naturally at the line between E/I. The key factor that switches me to an introvert is that I simply recharge faster alone. A simple 15 minute car ride recharges me pretty quickly. If I'm constantly surrounded by people, I still recharge - just more slowly. The good news is that if I'm alone and feeling down/tired/str…
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/13 03:11 PM
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chuckles Maybe it is... but it's a helluva lot harder to communicate than math shorthand. I want you to explain an xor using interpretive dance. Begin...
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/13 02:12 AM
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Sadly, no. I really wanted to become a doctor but that's a really long story. I've seen/done some pretty gross stuff though and it really doesn't bother me. the grossest thing I've seen in RL was a pressure sore that tunnelled down to the spine. You know those ER shows they have on TV? I watch them. As for law school - it was never on my horizon. If I had the knowledge, I'm sure I'd have the ability to defend someone though.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/13 01:18 AM
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the jobs highest in sociopathy are surgeon and attorney, does any non-socio/psychopath believe they could crack peoples chests open all day and pull their hearts out? Oh definitely. Blood, guts, oozing fluids... bring it. INFP means healer. or defend someone they thought actually may have commited the ACT of the crime but the state isnt able to meet its burden of proof? it requires GREAT detachment to deal with the most physical and most intimate human things without overempathizing and putting …
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/13 01:08 AM
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You'd have thought I'd have noticed. I spend an inordinate amount of time around T's. I've learned how to communicate with them, sometimes they think I'm a T. I'm not! I even feel understanding about math, science, and logic. (I know, I know, roll your eyes, and move along.) I promise not to try to make it sound sensible - but I do!
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/13 12:59 AM
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Oh, I know! I'm not just an F.. I'm the blinking hypertext F.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/13 12:50 AM
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Yes, I agree. When I choose to follow someone, I expect him/her to measure up to my values. I'm disappointed way, way too often. Respect is always earned. Any direction.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/13 12:30 AM
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Absolutely. Your values are who you are and all you really have to cling to in this harsh world. For me, values are both something I am and something towards which I aspire. It's always work and it will always be work. It's a life's work. TRP is simply an understanding of why we do certain things seemingly without thinking about it. You know, this might be a good explanation for me. I look around and it all seems crazy. You see, I never learned the alternative. For me, life was work and work was…
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/13 12:24 AM
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Evolution provided humanity with the ability to be flexible and to learn new things. Honoring her commitment to her mate would be detrimental to her legacy, so you could say that women have had evolutionary pressure to avoid honor. My connection to history is through my family - from my great grandmother (stories) to me. Maybe my connection is so small that the all of evolution is not applicable. I can tell you what I was taught - how I was taught to be a woman by another woman. I can tell you w…
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/13 09:21 PM
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Honor: Your actions mimic your words; to the extent that other people can take your word as contract. Honor is amoral - if I promise to do terrible things and actually follow through; honor is established. Fair enough. I would consider what you wrote as integrity but honor fits. Do you ever listen to what people claim their priorities to be? Usually, it's along the lines of family, children... And then, you observe that s/he works 100 hours a week - and doesn't need the over time for more basic …
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/13 08:34 PM
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I'm not sure eye contact is a good indication of submissiveness. Anyone want to weigh in on this? Maybe for a dog? I'm not all that enthralled with the whole submissive business, but putting that aside, eye contact in many spheres of the Western World indicates truth or honesty. (This does not hold true in other cultures.) I was taught to always look a person in the eye when shaking hands. If he's old fashioned and kisses my hand, instead, it should be absolutely clear that my attention is direc…
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/13 08:14 PM
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What do you consider honor and bravery/courage?
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/13 07:56 PM
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Oh, goodness, no! I'm not at all insulted - it takes a whole lot to insult me (and even if you're trying, I'm likely to judge your effort ;) ). Actually, I was referencing back to what you said about qualities manifesting in different ways. Yeah, I can't lift the heavy thing or fight off the bad guys - but that doesn't mean I don't have strength in many other ways. It's more useful to him because he knows he can fight off the bad guys. Handling more delicate, emotional situations is where I shin…
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/13 07:42 PM
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I also have nothing to prove. I don't need to be 'empowered' or 'freed' to run out there and get myself killed and/or distract my husband in the process of protecting me. I'm not strong physically - but I have a whole lot of strength.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/13 07:25 PM
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Oh, thank goodness! Now I don't have to feel lonely. :)
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/13 07:20 PM
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I think you're a Unicorn. To be fair, I did ask for that flair from the moderators. ;) I don't know whether to be happy or sad. I was lucky enough to have a great role model. My Gram was a lady through and through. She taught me how to be one. It also, so happened (which I was to learn after getting married) she was the proverbial 'whore in the bedroom.' I've always wanted to be her when I grow/grew up. Or, perhaps I'm just overly cynical. Or perhaps I have myself to blame. Admittedly I was real…
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/13 07:18 PM
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Hmm, now that I think about it, I think you're right, I think they just exhibit themselves differently in women. For instance an example of courage in a man can be the courage to protect someone they love, and an example of courage in a woman can be the courage to totally submit to a man, and trust him entirely. I agree. The other night we were watching a movie and the man runs by and shouts at the woman to "Stay inside!" I said "Of course she won't stay inside." Husband said, "If I said that to…
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/13 06:56 PM
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Well, I think that most of the things you described are just traditional masculine traits and values ("honor, integrity, courage, self discipline"), and yes I think men should exhibit them. I think women should also. For me "stong ethics" is a little more complicated I consider ethics the will to stick with your standards rather than take the easier path which often presents itself. When I get angry, it might be easier to give in to the temptation of ranting and raving and going on and on and on…
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/13 06:24 PM
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Checking in as an INFP. Husband is an ENTP. *edited to add: Am I the only F?!
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/13 06:16 PM
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Sure, sure. But if you've burned off 1/4 of your population in 3 years, your long term strategy is a bit off (oh, and there's no end in sight to it), don't you think? Being serious, my point is this: people might start off as good leaders and have good intentions and all that. It might seem that sticking to your ideas is always a positive trait but it isn't. A good leader understands that flexibility is a good idea. Following doesn't mean abandoning all good sense.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/13 05:48 PM
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Oh, but doesn't that sound FUN?!!
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/13 05:45 PM
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Ah. Great point! I'm backing away from the ledge.... ;)
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/13 05:42 PM
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World leaders need to acknowledge that people are going to die right off the bat. Sure. It's about scale, though, isn't it?
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/13 05:39 PM
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Good! That avoids the awkward moment, deep sigh, and then pulling up your pants and tucking in before heading back home/to the bar. lol
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/13 05:35 PM
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Charisma can go a long way. But don't mistake not subscribing to your values as having a bad character. If you are defining character by honor, integrity, etc that can exist in people I would deem bad people. Complicated, I know, but I know plenty of racists that have good character, as one example. It's not as easy as defining it as one thing or another. I'm not really talking about values in a moral sense. I'm talking about a fundamental requirement in leadership to assume the responsibility y…
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/13 05:30 PM
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I have slept with or am in the process of This made me giggle. I imagined a man taking off his pants and switching to using "Darlin" or "Doll." Thanks.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/13 05:20 PM
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I consider these things to fall under confidence and leadership qualities. When I am talking about a good leader I am talking about honor, integrity, courage, etc. Pol Pot worked his way from the ground up to a dictatorship in Cambodia. People definitely chose to follow him. I don't think he had good character. Though.. it is true that I also don't consider him a good leader. I'm conflicted.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/13 05:14 PM
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How would you respond to a woman asking you not to call her "Darlin" or "doll?" Assume she does it nicely.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/13 05:10 PM
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Oh, absolutely. Culture makes an enormous difference. Though, 'babe' still seems a bit odd. The problem is that it's affecting her professional relationship with this person by confining her communication to avoid it. You can nicely ask someone to call you something else.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/13 05:01 PM
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For me education is important. I'm not sure I'd count education as a core value. It likely stems from one. Maybe it comes from ambition. Or, maybe it comes from a desire to educate others. Try to drill down a little and figure what it is about education and getting one appeals to you. A sense of humor ranks pretty high as well. They've got to be able to make a joke and/or take a joke. This one also seems to be more of a trait than a core component of character. Putting relationships off the tabl…
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/13 04:55 PM
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it's usually in a bar. Well that's much different. In a bar, you're in a fun, playful environment.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/13 04:39 PM
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You know, I mean no offence when I say this, but this attitude is part of what I think has gone wrong. Just because someone gives him/herself permission to misbehave does not mean you have to indulge yourself with the same. Have higher standards and stick to them.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/13 04:24 PM
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I find that it depends on the age of the man. Elderly men who do this strike me as cute - well, they don't use 'babe.' Professionally, it does bother me. I once had a supervisor that liked to assign 'pet' names to his team. I was not fond of the name he chose for me. One day, walking down the hall, he shouted at me using my 'pet' name. I simply waited until he caught up, leaned in and spoke very softly but firmly and said "You may either address me as <given name> or Mrs. hateCaptchas. Do not re…
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/13 04:03 PM
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Do any women here with Alpha partners worry about their partner finding other women to have sex with on the side? If you are in a relationship with a man who visits The Red Pill frequently does it ever concern you that he may want to go out a find other women to sleep with? Thanks to anyone who replies to me, I'm not sure if my questions are silly as I am new to this and just have a few anxieties about The Red Pill and what it means to men already in relationships. It's always a concern for eith…
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/13 03:53 PM
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I second everything margerym said. I'm so sad that happened to you. It was unequivocally not your fault! You were 9! You have nothing to be ashamed of - and the men responsible have a whole lot of... well, words fail. Find a good therapist - and remember that you don't owe him/her anything if at any time you feel there's insufficient rapport or the therapy isn't working. Shop around. Consider the first few appointments to be an audition or job interview for them. You are the sole arbiter of whet…
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/13 02:31 AM
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Why be in a relationship with an enemy anyway? You know, it really does make you wonder. But, I've seen it. I've seen people who are drawn to drama and conflict. I have absolutely no clue what the attraction is...I'm not entirely sure I want to know.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/13 10:55 PM
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The woman is seen kicking and screaming in the front seat of their car when the husband says that he can't take her to the lake on a hot Saturday because he needed to take care of chores. I don't understand why anyone accepts that kind of behavior from someone who isn't mentally handicapped, mentally ill, senile, or below the age of say.. around 5. It's not helpful for anyone to encourage such bad manners and lack of restraint. Most of all, I utterly fail to understand why any person would allow…
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/13 10:38 PM
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I definitely think so. I have been learning a lot and thinking about redpill truth and whatnot. You and me, both. I have learned that if a guy does not have any show some "beta traits", I won't see anything coming happening with us. Over all, I like the emphasis on men knowing who he is, knowing what he wants and being unafraid to say it, acting as if his life has meaning, and understanding that his happiness is very important (and looking for someone who also believes it's important). There doe…
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/13 10:23 PM
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Just to add: My Grandmother told me that everything (no matter how big) should be resolved in 3 days between a husband and wife. So, yeah, he knew going in what the max time line of 'space' would be.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/13 08:10 PM
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If you disagree; how much fervor do you put into 'having it your way'? Are there punishments, conscious or otherwise, for disagreeing with you? Does he fear 'the dog house' or 'sleeping on the couch'? Alpha males do not need such trivialities as a dog house. I know you're not asking me, in particular, but I'd like to respond to this. "Having it my way," well, it really depends on what it is, you know? But, quite honestly, there are very few things in life that are that binary. We'd already settl…
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/13 07:46 PM
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Meh. I am seriously not the one to ask about the Greek letter assignments. But my opinion on your relationship is that you've found yourself a winner (or made yourself one, depending on how you want to view it). I'm not convinced that good partners exist out there 'in the wild.' You basically both start out as base models. Features start becoming defined over time and through investment. If the base model is not structurally sound (for you), then nothing you can do will fix it. If it is, then th…
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/13 06:07 PM
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I'm in the same type of relationship. There is no doubt that my H is a leader/confident/takes care of me. At the same time, he trusts me, believes I can love, knows that I'm not 18 maturity wise, understands that I can 'logic', and we split chores and decision making according to skills. For example, I do all the bill paying/bookkeeping/record keeping. So, when we decide to buy something big, I generally say whether it's even reasonable to consider. It's not a "no" per se. But, sometimes, we jus…
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/13 05:46 PM
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It does seem like a lot. I wish I could just tell you: look for someone sensible and practical - and be done. The problem is I have actual values in my head for sensible and practical - and you're not in here with me! ;) I tried to describe a few factors I look at to evaluate those qualities (or, what I identify them as in myself). The good news, after awhile it becomes much easier to tell. Just remember that you're always looking. If you find her next week - which you won't know for quite awhil…
/r/TheRedPill20/07/13 07:05 PM
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Does it appear to you that the majority of them are good/real leaders? Do people seem inspired or confident? People have been getting into leadership positions for aeons without having any redeeming qualities. Stencilling someone's name on a door will not endow that person with good leadership qualities - life would be much, much easier if it did.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/13 05:42 PM
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Good for you! That he didn't treat me right and that I deserved better, someone nicer and more caring Did they ever tell you why they felt this way (I'm sure they did)? The only people who freaked out about my husband was my immediate family - and they've now learned to love him.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/13 04:44 PM
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I think its beta to be afraid to commit to a worthy woman, which is why I'm asking about worthy women because I realise the vast majority are low quality nowadays. I'm from RPW. I appreciate that you're not ready to commit yet. Here's the thing, though, compatibility is something that's built over time. The qualities you are seeking will require compatibility. If you want to hedge your bet, then start building compatibility early (soon) so that, when you're ready, someone will be available. Good…
/r/TheRedPill20/07/13 04:31 PM
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My initial thought on this was that nature, history and time all run in parallel planes (surfaces/dimensions) - I'm tired, so I smashed everything into planes. Upon further thinking, I realize that, for some values of history over time, nature is described. And, for some values of nature over time, history is described. Therefore, there must be an intersection between history and nature. So. Historically people did natural things. Right. We agree. Edited to add: For values of t (time) > 0. Edite…
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/13 04:33 AM
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I second sugarcrush on this one.. 12/10 on the weird scale for me!
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/13 03:53 AM
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I completely understand. I wouldn't either, at this point.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/13 03:24 AM
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What are the benefits of these gender roles? I view gender roles as a sensible distribution of work. How that happens can vary quite a bit from couple to couple. Traditional gender roles happened - well, because of history. Do most people date in college until they find an awesome partner to battle through the rest of life with? Because that is my current plan... Well, I can't speak for everyone, but that's what I did. I think there's a real advantage to building a relationship young. One, is th…
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/13 03:17 AM
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sigh
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/13 03:09 AM
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Men don't need shit-testing any more than you need to get beaten. True. Life generally offers more than enough shit tests. It's not a plus and it doesn't make you more attractive. We like someone in spite of her stupid shit, not because of it. People like people for whatever reasons they have. When/If you attach and love a person, you develop an affinity for their flaws and their strengths. How much time have you spent with the older generations? Did you know, that people often miss the things t…
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/13 02:38 AM
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Five years is not a trivial investment - for either of you. I do suggest that you explore his willingness to change. Personally, I wouldn't jump straight into an ultimatum - unless it's really come to that point of desperation for you. I would, though, have a very frank conversation with him about the poor state of your relationship. In order to do that effectively, you really want to be able to compress your information down to around 5-10 minutes. Try to answer any follow up questions within 2…
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/13 01:03 AM
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1.5 years. We have talked about one day living together... maybe. One of the things I'm trying to learn about TRP is that promises of the future can't really be made, it's all conditional. It's conditional on me not getting fat, it's conditional on him not going all beta. If things continue going the way they do I suspect we might be together a long time, I'd like it to go that way. Ah, I see. I know lots of RPM don't want any ties (sharing a residence, etc) though I don't really know how much i…
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/13 12:07 AM
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Yup, I know what it takes to make men want to stay around, since I don't have the option of marriage to force him to stay around, I had better get good at the whole "want to stay around" thing. How long have you two been together? Have you discussed future plans - and on what scale (5 years, 10+ years)? Forcing people together does nothing but generate miserable people.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/13 11:53 PM
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I look at it and I think some variant of "same shit, different day" or, to be more specific, "Look!! There's a group of men talking amongst themselves about women!!!" yawn I mean, I don't know about you, but I've never sat and listened to a group of women spouting nonsense. Look. This is the Internet. The vast majority of stuff out 'here' isn't worth the bandwidth. Here is a very early example of people fooling around with the Internet (back before it was the Web, even): http://www.cs.cmu.edu/~c…
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/13 08:30 PM
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My previous comment wasnt upto par when it comes to clarity ,was it? Allow me to try and make it up to you,anyway here i go again: My apologies for the delay. Your other comment was just fine but I still didn't quite understand everything. I agree ,i just stated it as an option that many men are going with nowadays.With women though it gets a little more complicated.Would you agree that an MGTOW would face less alienation from friends and family than a WGTOW and would have better options if he w…
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/13 07:08 PM
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Have I missed the update? How are you doing?
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/13 05:20 PM
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Oh, right, make sure you mention that you expect them to follow strict confidentiality to maintain your privacy.
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/13 04:06 AM
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Report it to Corporate HR using an email (tangible proof with a date/time stamp) and carbon copy your boss and everyione in your local HR. That should be sufficient to cause them to cease and desist immediately.
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/13 04:03 AM
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Margerym, I wanted to call this to your attention: Confidence is often mistaken for leadership. But, you see, the trick to leading people is convincing them to follow you. A real leader doesn't just have confidence, s/he INSPIRES confidence in others. I'm wondering if this is part of the puzzle in bridging the gap on understanding why anyone would be "submissive" with regard to this subreddit. A key piece that's missing might just be telling folks that we don't just blindly follow people who hav…
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/13 01:40 AM
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The thoughtless selfish dick can mask as Alpha, though, until you scratch the surface. Not sure what the correct term for a false Alpha is... I prefer to think of them as a waste of my time. People who are confident don't necessarily make good leaders. Selfish, thoughtless people make horrible leaders. Here's why: Confidence is often mistaken for leadership. But, you see, the trick to leading people is convincing them to follow you. A real leader doesn't just have confidence, s/he INSPIRES confi…
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/13 01:35 AM
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Oh, I know. It just gets a tad ridiculous when the combination of factors between the two of us renders our odds of having a child into the realm of divine or alien intervention (which ever you prefer to imagine). But, disclaimers and what not.... I can't be the only one who looks around society today and marvels at the extent to which applying a bit of sense and being direct can get you into trouble. At some point, the culmulative effects of A, B, C ... really does zero out. I think we need a t…
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/13 01:19 AM
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I know that people have tried to capture it in words but it's hard to do! It's a combination of so many, many things - and it's not all inclusive. It's more like you need 3 qualities out of column A, 2 from column B, 1 from C and 4 from D... At some point the combinatorial math just gets ugly.
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/13 09:18 PM
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This is his fault, and no one else's. I say break up with her because she sure as shit deserves better. None of what I wrote is inconsistent with this sentiment. However, during the breakup, (the OP) telling her that she deserves better is simply self serving simpering in an effort to assuage his (OP's) feelings of guilt and therefore has no place in the conversation.
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/13 09:05 PM
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This doesn't come from what Red Pill actually means or stands for but from the skewed definition of masculinity and Alpha itself. This is one of the reasons it's so impossible to have a conversation with people outside of Red Pill about this; we're saying different things when we say "masculine" and "Alpha". Well, to be honest with you, I'm not entirely sure that I have a clear understanding of what people are referring to when they say Alpha, Beta, Omega, Epsilon, and other Greek letters on Red…
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/13 08:57 PM
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What, pray tell, would be your advice to the OP?
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/13 08:44 PM
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Would further contact have helped you?
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/13 08:31 PM
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that doesn't stop me from feeling sorry for her. I do know that what I wrote sounds very harsh but, please believe me, that everything I listed was with a huge amount of sympathy, concern, and sadness for her and to try to minimize, as much as possible (and it's not much), her trauma. The list of don't's is primarily designed to take the focus off the OP and force it to stay on her during this period - such as letting her have her say. He has a right (and responsibility) to grieve the relationsh…
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/13 07:45 PM
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Thats pretty much the reason for MGTOW,they decide that the bad outweighs the good and so this whole deal is best avoided. Well, sure. Opting out is always a choice for either gender. It's not even necessarily a bad choice. a man struggles to get a woman and a woman struggles to keep the man.RP seddit and RPW only serve as tools to keep you ahead of the competition.This works out well as the worse the competition gets,the better you seem by comparison. At some point, preferably before you're com…
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/13 05:12 PM
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Yeah, well, Dr's (particularly OB/GYN's) just don't tell you that you can't have children. Even when the Dr. that did my surgery was presenting the pictures of my innards to me, she only allowed that it would be 'challenging' for me to get pregnant. This also considering she knew my husband had a vasectomy years prior. When my husband had the vasectomy, the urologist also hedged around the potential of birth control failure. So, it's not just a women's issue. I am doubtful that her Dr. explicitl…
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/13 03:23 PM
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What concerns me most about this is that she doesn't seem to care. Are you sure she's not just having a hard time processing this? It is an awful lot to take in. I find it quite likely that she might not really understand all of the implications of her condition. The OP is a medical student and is somewhat versed in A&P and what the Dr. actually said might mean different things to him. I am absolutely sterile. I have never heard those words come out of a Dr.'s mouth - in fact, I've been told (in…
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/13 03:06 PM
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i dont know why this would be downvoted If I had to take a guess, it would be because it doesn't really answer his question. It validates his decision but fails to provide a meaningful guide on how to go about breaking up with her. For whatever reason, I can't downvote on this subreddit. I don't mind so much but now I'm feeling rejected. Does anyone else have this issue?
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/13 03:00 PM
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Removed because I can't find the stupid source.
/r/TheRedPill17/07/13 06:17 AM
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Well, before I start doling out advice, I'm a bit concerned that you might be acting a bit too rashly. I realize that you're in medical school, doing well, and I would hope you have a good understandng of disorder. That said, have you done due dilligence in ruling out future medical intervention? You might very well like to do a review, run it past a professor or colleague, or get a second opinion. Please understand that it is not my intention to plead with you to reconsider. But, like any serio…
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/13 05:45 AM
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I keep being told in essays I switch tenses but I cannot even begin to recognize that. I recommend that you pick up a copy of Strunk & White, The Elements of Style. It's a very small book that compresses the most essential parts of writing English properly; and, it doesn't waste time on unnecessary jargon. Amazon has it here: http://www.amazon.com/The-Elements-Style-Fourth-Edition/dp/020530902X .
/r/TheRedPill17/07/13 02:47 AM
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but denim is some tough stuff & requires a special heavy duty machine The best machine for this is one of these: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Overlock I only know that because my mother told me. ;)
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/13 07:05 PM
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I should probably recuse myself from the general rape discussion because of my past. I've had 2 sexual assaults in my life. The first (at 14) involved significant violence (to the point that emergency medical intervention was required), intense pain, and extreme traumatic stress. The second (19ish) involved minimal violence (he pulled a weapon and made a credible threat that he was going to kill me), some pain, and intense traumatic stress. So, that's twice in 43 years. However, I am horrified a…
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/13 06:08 PM
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Thank you for the link to the thread - it was very informative and more to the point on the particulars of how men feel in today's society. It's tragic, really, and explains why /r/redpill exists for men to come and get support and advice. Here, on RPW, it seems as though the point is to try to do our part (it always takes 2) of fulfilling the partnership role in a relationship (established or not). If that's not possible - and, honestly, if a man doesn't want to compromise on any of the items o…
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/13 05:38 PM
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Growing up together will lead to a strong pair-bond that persists even past the point of the later, and almost inevitable divorce. One can only hope.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/13 04:52 PM
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All of these things you mentioned benefit women. Believe me, I think marriage is great for us women. Marriage was never a sour deal for us really, and its only gotten better. But for men, it's gone from fair to terrible rather quickly. You're right. Maybe it's my age/generation, but I've watched my grandparents grow old together. Watched my grandmother care for my grandfather until the day he died and do the same for each of her handicapped brothers, as well. So, after a certain age, sex really …
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/13 03:39 PM
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"flow free like a river of womanhood". Nice. Thanks for brightening my day a little.
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/13 06:30 PM
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Maybe that was possible in the 80's.With the internet ,people are accustomed to getting whatever they want ,instantly.Its what allows a person to keep dating multiple partners without having to waste time on a single person with whom a relationship may or may not work out. All right, I wasn't that old to be dating in the 80's. ;) But the web part of the internet hit the public sphere in the mid 90's and I do remember someone getting married to someone from another country after meeting him on th…
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/13 03:16 PM
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This is such the beauty of personal opinion. Everyone on the redpill has one. You are very observant to pick up on the 3 basic types on the subreddit: MGTOW, PUA, and married guys. Each guy will likely present different advice on given scenarios based on their own belief. The general consensus is to do whatever makes you happy, but to be very informed on every decision you make. Oh good. That clears that up. Thank you. I didn't assume the other 1/3 were married, but rather, that their life goals…
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/13 04:07 AM
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Inherent value. We've covered the basics so we'll skip to the advanced section. Rather than telling people that they have no intrinsic value, it is a better statement to generalize that our culture breeds women who generally have a negative intrinsic value. The traditional/historic intrinsic value women brought to the marriage table was primarily child bearing/rearing, legitimate offspring (though we've found out that wasn't always the case), and secondarily running a household. Sex was pretty m…
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/13 02:27 AM
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I'm not sure why you think I wouldn't finish reading your post. It was highly objective and I agree with you here. Since the thread is quite old, I didn't know whether you'd moved on from the topic. Thank you for your reply. I think a few things need to be cleared up still. I agree. I'm going to address them in reverse order. I agree with what you said regarding absolutes as they pertain to human behavior. I understand that using generalities about people when you're taking to a broad audience i…
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/13 08:05 PM
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Everyone wants that.But you've seen the stories of people with ridiculous partner counts,what kind of people do you think they are?jaded ,cynical or self absorbed? would anyone want to be with such a person? Well, that's most of the reason I started this thread. In my parent's generation, the standard for women was virginity. In mine (at least where I was), some experience was expected. It's not that virginity was bad, per se, but regarding the people I hung around with - a basis of comparison w…
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/13 06:13 PM
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Evidently that eventually did become very important as it's one of the things that early history recorded. Our observations of modern aboriginal people demonstrates that they have very different ideas of responsibility of children. Children tend to belong to the tribe and the whole tribe shares in the bounty or starves in the famine. It's not like every man has to provide for his family - they all cooperate to kill/gather food for everyone. There would be a siginificant chance that any particula…
/r/TheRedPill14/07/13 04:17 PM
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I also think somewhere along the way they figured out that they needed a measure of genetic diversity.
/r/TheRedPill14/07/13 04:18 AM
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Heh. We were great friends for about 2 years before we got together. We both had relationships with other people during that time. Finally, he took me to bed and here we are 21 years later.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/13 04:10 AM
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I envy you. The first 21 years of my life sucked ass. Fortunately, the past 22 has been pretty awesome.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/13 04:05 AM
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Heh. Prior to my husband, my longest relationship was 3 months. It wasn't them, though. I just have very little patience. Oh, that, and they all wanted children some day. One of them was such a nice guy, he'd recently gotten out of a relationship with a girl who was pregnant with someone else's child (not his) and he knew it and was willing to raise it with her. Predictably, as soon as she had the kid, her ex wiggled his finger and she went running. Poor guy. I hope whereever he is today, he's h…
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/13 03:49 AM
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lol. I don't think I have the lady balls to die by fire. Though if I had my choice I'd totally do the Viking burial thing - set me adrift and on fire. So, did you find dating to be more straightforward than it seems to be now?
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/13 03:44 AM
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Oh, I can imagine. Here's the thing, though. A woman always knows she's had kids (and how many). I can't imagine how it would feel to be a man and not know you have a child out there in the world.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/13 03:40 AM
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By the way, what is your secret to time management? I consider myself only about average at time management and clearly I should've gotten out more!
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/13 03:38 AM
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In a sense. I think order is a bit too sophisticated a term, really. I think the customs/rituals regarding breeding behavior were just practical. They were implemented before order became important. One thing we know has never worked was voluntary abstinence - I submit all of human history as proof. It also explains the primal bias towards male offspring and, if you want to project, Eve's role in the destruction of Eden. You needed enough women to repopulate but having an excess was quite danger…
/r/TheRedPill14/07/13 03:17 AM
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Oh, and not just to limit. Remember the Christian abdomition to 'go forth and populate the earth.' It's about population control - you can either encourage or discourage breeding through customs, rituals, or what have you. Have you ever noticed that the overwhelming majority of polygamous people were 1 man -> multiple women?
/r/TheRedPill14/07/13 02:35 AM
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Yes, that's what I think, anyway. Once you get past ensuring survival (and we're not worried yet about inbreeding because we only get to live like 20 years so there's no long term plan) eventually, you'll have too many people. To solve the problem of too many people, you'll eventually want to control the breeding habits of the women. Now how you confer 'rights' to breeding is where alpha/beta come in... Edited to add: Mind you, I'm talking about the hundreds of thousands of years prior to the in…
/r/TheRedPill14/07/13 02:19 AM
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I would say that you are ignoring one very important component, tribalism and tribal warfare. If a tribe of 5 bulls and 5 cows goes against a tribe of 2 bulls and 8 cows, who wins out? I submit that the 5 bulls will have a better chance against the 2 bulls. Cows will "cower" due to their inherent biological submissiveness. Sure, you're right. Let's assume Tribe A (5 men) kill all of Tribe B's men. Then they take all the women and assimilate them. So, now you've got (5 men, 13 women). Come spring…
/r/TheRedPill14/07/13 02:17 AM
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I rather doubt that early man had any grasp of genetics - the chances are they intermingled with people that pretty much looked like them and acted like them so paternity by looks was probably misleading. I think men invented marriage because they'd made observations about the population of animals. If you have a herd of 10 (5 bulls, 5 cows) then, in one breeding cycle you can get approximately 5 more animals. If you have (2 bulls, 8 cows) then your max output is approximately 8 animals per bree…
/r/TheRedPill14/07/13 01:14 AM
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Wow. I suppose we can stop worrying about the economy - between him and the 300+ guy, they'll have the downturn reversed by condom sales alone!
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/13 12:43 AM
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How long has he been at it? It makes me wonder whether the first 20 were as good/better as the second 20 and the third 20...
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/13 12:35 AM
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Right. When she says she's not ready, that probably means that she's not convinced you're the best deal in town. You can either: give up and move on.. or you can try to convince her that she's not your only option (and you don't want to be her shoulder to cry on). If you put distance between you, one of two things will happen: She'll either make no attempts to contact you - in which case it wasn't going to happen. Or, she'll rethink her opinion of you and contact you.
/r/TheRedPill14/07/13 12:31 AM
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"Absolutely, me too, I just didn't want you to feel bad when I (don't call, don't text, unfriend you, <whatever>)."
/r/TheRedPill13/07/13 11:26 PM
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I was active until May. Since then I've been working out and studying for the bar exam every day. There's a crazy amount of information I have to study so I haven't contacted any girls. Great for you! Also I've met a guy that's been with over 300 women. So, do you spray the couch with Lysol after he comes over? ;) Seriously, though, that is impressive.
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/13 10:58 PM
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I don't understand why violence hasn't exploded into epic proportions. I give you credit. I read the article and I largely agreed with the exception of this one: ”Would you wipe my spotted ass when I’m an invalid?”* I mean, it's obviously a genuine shit test. To me, though, it's what makes love so endearing. I've watched the older generation take care of each other - I've wiped my share of shit, pee, and vomit and I have never, ever, loved any one of them any less.
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/13 10:52 PM
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Sorry, my other reply got a bit rambly. So, are you active in the dating scene (single)? (I'm not trying to pick you up - I'm just curious - have you met many ppl with partner counts in the 50's?)
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/13 10:42 PM
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The good women are a lot quieter and we don't hear them. Yeah, they're probably busy having a life or something. Seriously, though, what do you think of all the mind games going on? I was raised by a woman who, at the very least, is an amature of Olympic standards in mind games. When I got out, I decided I wasn't going to play anymore. It's exhausting. Example: If a person tells you s/he is hungry. What are the chances: The person wants food. The person doesn't want food and is actually testing …
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/13 10:35 PM
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Assuming I kept that rate up 3/2 for the last 21 years, I'd still only be at 31.5....
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/13 10:11 PM
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I actually loose sleep thinking about his dating pool. Oh my goodness, I don't blame you. It's a fucking madhouse out there! Mind games inside of mind games inside of mind games....(lather, rinse, repeat). What ever happened to just liking people and getting to know them?
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/13 10:08 PM
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I don't know where all these low count women were that everyone talks about Apparently somewhere else. I was busy, I worked 3 jobs and took a full course load. I waited until I was actually 21 before hitting the bar scene. I got that all out of my system in under a month - it's expensive and made me miss work once because I'd stayed out all night and made the huge mistake of going to sleep for 1 hour before I had to be somewhere else. Epic Fail. It's been a long, long time but I'm pretty sure my…
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/13 10:06 PM
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Your age has pretty much destroyed your chances of having kids which excludes you from a huge demographic in terms of relationship potential. Heh. My age is the least of my problems in that arena. I've always been sterile due to a congenital defect. Fortunately for me, I never wanted kids. He had a vasectomy before we found out I was infertile, btw. Without sounding mean, if your income alone won't support you if your husband's ceased to be accessible, do your level best to woman up, be as femin…
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/13 09:58 PM
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Right. It's much, much harder to be disciplined, calm, and principled. Being impulsive or reckless just requires the ability to do things without letting the fear of consequences creep into your psyche.
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/13 09:01 PM
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All right. I'll bite. So, now you've (the guy) has more sex and an insecure wife. Unless you do something meaningful next (like improve the relationship), the insecurity will wane and you'll find yourself (the guy) constantly needing to inspire dread in his wife and potentially needing to escalate into behavior that might violate his personal set of values. I don't see the appeal of a chronically neurotic wife, myself. YMMV If it was me (and, I'm not a guy so take this with a grain of salt), I'd…
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/13 08:54 PM
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Bah! I refuse to do this forever. Assuming I live to the age of 75, I'm dumping all this stuff and I'm going to go WILD and CRAZY at the old folks home! /s (or is it? hmmm)
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/13 06:25 PM
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I know I'm very late to this thread, but I'm glad I found it. I've been getting increasingly confused about whether I'm RPW or just 'old fashioned' (the two aren't mutually exclusive). I like your definitions, they're very clear. However, I'm struggling to apply them towards the rest of the information posted. Perhaps you'd help me out. Part of the problem I have is that the concepts here seem to deal in absolutes, which you so nicely explained causes cognitive dissonance. For example: Intrinsic…
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/13 05:04 PM
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It depends a bit on how long you know each other. If you grew up with her (in the same schools and what not) then chances are you already know most of the important stuff. Date 6-8 months and then tack on however much time it takes to plan/pay(?) for the wedding as the engagement If you're starting from scratch (you just met) then the amount of time spent is not as important as the quality of time you spend. If you spend 5 years taking her to movies and dinner, you're still not ready. If the sta…
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/13 03:31 AM
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In my view it wouldn't hurt to stop with the scare-tactics around marrying young. I quite agree - I think marrying while you're young is beneficial because you do your first's together (and, no, I'm not necessarily talking about sex). You learn to budget together, you learn to shop according to different tastes, you buy your first new car, get your first career position, buy your first house, make promises and KEEP them, put someone else before everyone else in your life, compromise, negotiate, …
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/13 02:55 AM
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I consider proper etiquitte a traditional wifely responsibility for my husband. I manage the social calendar with regards to thank you's, cards, and gifts. I also think it's important when socializing with his colleagues - men want you to be a good reflection of them. Sure, his mother probably knows I pick out her gifts, by now, but she still thanks him. It's all part of the deal. “A dying culture invariably exhibits personal rudeness. Bad manners. Lack of consideration for others in minor matte…
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/13 04:43 AM
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What?!?!?!?! Can we even say that anymore in our society? That's ALL we talk about. I, as a woman, am even sick of hearing about it. I was sick of hearing about it before I took the Red Pill! Indeed and we're talking about 3 things!. The laundry list of what women want probably wouldn't fit in 3 pages.....
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/13 05:41 PM
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what does anyone else think I think that the prevailing cultural dogma of the day was that women who enjoyed sex were considered dangerous to marry because they'd be more likely to stray. I don't think anyone was concerned about women who were disgusted by sex (regardless of reason) within marriage - chosen or whatnot. I think they were interested in maintaining the illusion that wanting sex was a bad trait for women. My opinion is pretty opposite of yours. I think the culture hoped that women d…
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/13 05:27 PM
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Sorry, it was too late for reddit last night, apparently. The phrase "Turn your head and think of England" was not from Queen Victoria, it's from the snopes article I linked to and was most likely after her death.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/13 04:42 PM
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Sure! I don't measure so this is a bit of guideline and you can tweak as necessary. Ingredients: Whole cut up chicken (unless you like to cut apart whole chickens) Yellow onion (2) White onion (1) Celery (4-5 stalks) white wine (I use sake') Parsley (I used dried - and a lot) Fresh ginger (optional) Noodles Some general seasoning (I use Mrs. Dash) a small amount of lemon juice carrots (optional) sesame oil butter Directions: Chop/dice onions Grate ginger (I find this much better than crushing it…
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/13 04:32 PM
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I don't assume men are psychos - hardly! What I was trying to convey (and apparently not well) was that women need to understand their limits. I have a bad habit of being a people pleaser and will twist myself into pretzels trying to give more than I have to give. That results in unreasonabe resentment and blame on the poor man because you've done something that you pushed beyond your limits. It is not someone else's responsibility to determine what you can or can't do - it's yours. I guess, in …
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/13 04:18 PM
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if you actually read what i wrote i was SPECIFICALLY saying, I did read what you wrote. I disagree with you. Rape as as a specific crime dates back to Greek times where women were punished for being too promiscuous. Rape was a way to distinguish between someone who was offering herself to the public (prostitution - who could not be raped) and someone who was otherwise chaste (according to Greek standards). That's why Zeus was often used as a perpetrator of rape - the woman didn't want her reputa…
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/13 04:09 PM
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I generally disagree with anything that says never. Like everything else, it depends on the situation. Hopefully, you find someone that is comfortable finding something you both can live with. If not, I think both parties need to have an honest discussion about the relationship's future viability. I wouldn't be able to stay married to a man who 'forced' me into having sex (again this has degrees and things change over time). I wouldn't leave at the first slap, either, but one beating sufficient …
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/13 05:23 AM
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There are, indeed, degress of don't want. I don't think anyone should force themselves (or allow themselves to be forced) into anything that compromises their physical/mental health and well being.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/13 05:04 AM
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"rape" existed as a separate category when a female and her chastity had value to either her father for the marriage market or her husband for reassurance of paternity. it was basically the despoiling of another man's property. the reason we have so much trouble defining it today is specifically because there is no reason to define rape as separate from battery. There is a difference between rape/sexual assault and battery. Plain old vanilla assault (not sexually motivated) is reasonably hard to…
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/13 04:55 AM
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I've never quite figured out how to get around the resistance to going to the doctor, though. Broken ribs? " I'll deal with it" unless he's unconscious he's not going to a doctor. Anyone have any ideas? I'm sure you all know that it's near impossible to get a man to do something he doesn't want to Fortunately(?) for me, my husband was exposed to this exasperating behavior early in our relationship. My father is/was like this (I've since reasoned him around). It was to the point where my husband …
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/13 04:23 AM
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Learn to make homemade chicken noodle soup if he likes it. I even do that for my sick (female) friends.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/13 04:20 AM
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Or, at least set the expectation that you're just getting something off your chest and you're just looking for a friendly ear. Don't go on about something without setting his expectations because he will feel obligated to offer you help and you might not be ready to take that step yet. *Edit to note: This does NOT apply to issues you have with him. I'm talking about life stuff - traffic, family, society or whatever.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/13 04:05 AM
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When a man has a hard day, all he wants to do is destress. It's highly dependent upon what has gone on, of course. In the worst of times, a simple statement like "I've got your back," "I'm on your side no matter what." or "I believe in you." can do wonders. Otherwise, for him, it's a matter of getting out of his way of doing what destresses him - for my husband it's often physical activity, riding his motorcycle (or racing), or just hanging out with the guys for a little while - sometimes, it's …
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/13 04:03 AM
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Yes, why yes, I do. I carry a tape measure around whereever I go. I measure for length, girth, ball size and also make a highly subjective critique of the aesthetics of his penis - both aroused and relaxed. I, then, write a review and give his penis a rating from 2.556 - 13.998 and post it (and any relevant pictures I take) onto a website along with his full name, address, place of employment and shoe size. Doesn't everyone?
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/13 03:50 AM
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weve all heard the cliche that queen victoria advised women to "turn their heads and think of england" when they had sex with their husbands, i always thought this was a negative victorian attitude towards sex period, but ive come to believe it was an admmonition to women to just shut up and take it when they were married to men they werent attracted to From a cursory search, snopes has this to say about it. http://www.snopes.com/weddings/newlywed/advice.asp That said, in earlier times, there wa…
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/13 03:41 AM
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OH YES!!! My new bil is just cringeworthy. I shit you not - the first time I met him (we live in different states) the three of us went to a restaurant where she proceeded to show me (impress me??) with his 'tricks' including saying "I am so stupid. <sister> is so smart. I'm just a man and I don't know anything." out loud, in public, and in front of me. I literally lost my appetite and couldn't eat anything else for fear of throwing up. There is so much wrong there that I have no words....
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/13 11:10 PM
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Thank you for your response. All information is good. My husband is the exception but even he tried to be non-threatening. I see people who are threatening as quite a turn off. In my experience, the vast majority of them are all bluff and bluster (time wasting noise) - the rest are truly psychopathic. For me, confidence/assertiveness means not having to threaten but, rather, trusting yourself to have/exert control.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/13 10:28 PM
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I wish society didn't abuse men such as him. Me too! Fortunately for him, he was in one of the generations before the social insanity began.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/13 10:09 PM
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In my case I kept the good pieces, and threw out the bad ones. I think that's emminently sensible. It's a bit curious to me because I have an older sister who has absolutely hideous taste in men and we both grew up with our parents (they are still married). I realize people are different, but I honestly wonder why she does some of the things she does. So, obviously, just having a good role model is not enough. And, obviously, not having a good role model doesn't mean you never find a good man!
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/13 10:03 PM
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I have a copy of Pride and Prejudice but I've not read it yet - I don't think it would be my type of book. I tended to date assertive men (leader types) just naturally but there is a lot of variance in that set. Did you find you had to try out a bunch of different (with regard to assertiveness) types in dating (and by dating I do not mean sex)? I dated one unassertive guy. It lasted weeks - and only that long because we were not in the same town. Edited to clarify.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/13 09:57 PM
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Well, goodness, that was fast luck! Damn, I'm good. Happily married 21 years here.
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/13 03:41 PM
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My father is retired (career) military - he joined of his own accord and fought in Vietnam. He was a good father to me even though his job took him away from us quite a bit. Growing up that was very hard since my mom is also crazy and we were left alone with her quite a bit. They're still married. I asked him, once, why he stayed - at this point I should mention that she is disabled and requires a lot of assistance. His reply was "I still remember the woman I married (before she got sick). I see…
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/13 03:28 PM
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I dated different types of men. Prior to my relationship with my husband, my longest relationship was a whole 3 months! I think what happened was that they weren't what I was looking for - but I knew it when I found it. I have to say, though, that my husband does not look like my father.
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/13 03:17 PM
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My mother has also been a very, very negative role model to me. I remember being very young and watching her behavior and thinking "I'm never going to do that." Actually, I think it's weird that I'm married at all! I never thought I wanted to be married because I just never wanted to be like my mom and I spent a fair number of my early years a bit paranoid that I would. Best of luck to you in your search.
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/13 03:14 PM
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We both work full time. I make 30k a year; he is making about 15k a year. As such I tend to 'call the shots' around the household, do the accounting, budget for things, decide when we get things like a new TV as well. I'm so tired after work that I end up not really being a feminine woman. Instead of being a natural second in command to him, I'm dragging him in my path. I can understand this... sometimes men will get lazy and avoidant if his SO is constantly directing things. It happened to me, …
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/13 02:50 AM
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Hey, no harm no foul. I can see where your reaction came from - it was just weird to read because most of the abusive stuff I wrote about was about an abusive woman! Oh, and the man involved is NOT a beta - he fought in a war and was wounded in service to his country, he would die for her, he has protected, sheltered, and provided for her and her children the entire time they've been married. He's the one who's figured out how to make everything work out. He's my hero (love you, dad). Edit: I sh…
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/13 02:09 AM
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i dont understand what purpose is served by continuing to present psychobabble boilerplate definitions when someone is clearly rejecting those explanations and definitions. I didn't realize that you were rejecting the idea that men can be abusive. I, too, think that the word 'abuse' is bandied around too much these days. And, when I say abuse, I mean responding in such a way that clearly exceeds whatever provoked the other person (real or imagined). If your child reaches for a hot stove and you …
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/13 01:54 AM
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Let's take a look at behaviors and break them down. Displaying extreme anger via shouting, cuss words (which I don’t use nor do I like), and Mel Gibson-style storming around The abuse test: Just about everyone shouts sometimes and storming around isn't necessarily threatening. Cursing is also extremely common and not something to be overly concerned about. When starts to become abuse: If it becomes a frequent behavior and s/he will not otherwise agree to work things out in a productive way or di…
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/13 10:39 PM
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Yeah, you're right. That is pretty horrible. I hadn't processed that part.
/r/MensRights04/07/13 02:40 PM
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No person shall solicit another, not the spouse of the offender, to engage in sexual conduct with the offender, when the offender is eighteen years of age or older and four or more years older than the other person, and the other person is sixteen or seventeen years of age, whether or not the offender knows the age of the other person. This applies if you're over 22 and communicating online with a 16-17 year old about sex. Calling, stopping by...
/r/MensRights04/07/13 05:15 AM
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I oppose this idea but it has nothing to do with who's paying for what. First, it seems to deprive children (raised in foster care) of family ties. This is already happening with regard to fathers and our increasingly mobile nuclear family is already isolating some people from their families. Heritage is valuable. Even if parents were allowed/encouraged/required to 'visit,' you're still taking away the primary role of the parent in the child's life and replacing it with (hopefully loving and com…
/r/MensRights04/07/13 02:06 AM
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You have failed to do so. The reason is that there is no possible way for you to credibly do so. As a result your entire pro-abortion (all it "pro-choice" all you like, you are still advocating for abortion to be present in society). At this point your entire argument is null and void. You have failed to do so. The reason is that there is no possible way for you to credibly do so. As a result your entire pro-abortion (all it "pro-choice" all you like, you are still advocating for abortion to be …
/r/MensRights03/07/13 05:00 AM
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You're completely and utterly ... <snip> ... You have failed to do so. All right, then. "Human rights", such as they are, are not and never have been natural laws. They are afforded by humans TO human (for whatever definition of human that society recognized). For validation, I submit actual reality. If human rights, in fact, were a natural law in any basic sense, then it would neither need to be enforced (ex. gravity) nor would it be able to be circumvented (ex. gravity - yes, air travel - even…
/r/MensRights03/07/13 04:49 AM
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Nope. You don't understand what a proper argument consists of.. but feel free to wander off if you're done.
/r/MensRights03/07/13 04:43 AM
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Says the person who clearly cannot recognise what a membrane is when it's staring them in the face. After all when the cervix is not dilated and at no point did nature intend for it ti dilate for the purposes of abortion. A cervix is not a membrane, it's made of cartillage. http://women.webmd.com/picture-of-the-cervix Either you're a liar or not even bothering to read the sources you send my way. That 99% stat came from your last link. Didn't read it. Yes those stats ... <snip> hardly compelling…
/r/MensRights03/07/13 04:21 AM
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And here is where I finally call complete bulldust on your part. Go ahead. Call it. The fact is that abortion is by its very nature a form of eugenics in terms of targeting a group based on a common factor (in this case age), So the prochoice (feminist) eugenic movement is based on randomly ridding the world of fetuses? Really? in an effort to kill a significant percentage of them and using dehumanising language in an attempt to excuse it. That is eugenics (as well as a form of genocide) in a nu…
/r/MensRights03/07/13 03:45 AM
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A complete strawman on your part. You are comparing letting natural forces run their course with scientific research and development. Pure fallacy on your part and you know it. So all we need is more research/development on unnatural forces? People get abortions because they've been mislead to view a human being at their most vulnerable as a clump of cells - pure and simple. When you look at the propaganda used by Sanger and oothers, that becomes blatantly clear. sigh mutter I don't believe that…
/r/MensRights03/07/13 03:35 AM
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Yet you ignore ...<snip> ... go down that road. No, you have absolutely no idea what you're talking about. Find an anatomy and physiology site or book and read up on it. Yes and of those deaths 99% of which happen in the developing world where there is a lack of access to 1st world health care. Your 99% statistic is completely made up. I forget why this is important... something having to do with convenience with regard to abortion or the invasiveness ... Anyway, here's a stat to chew on. That m…
/r/MensRights30/06/13 09:27 PM
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So by your own admission, your definition of eugenics is utterly hypocritical, and here's why. You claim that abortion has nothing to do with eugenics whilst claiming to support abortion and reject eugenics. In general, the individual choice of abortion really has nothing to do with eugenics unless some group of people are intentionally selecting for or against a trait. This begs the question of the disabled - that might (if you squint your eyes and hold you head sideways) imply eugenics if it w…
/r/MensRights30/06/13 08:19 PM
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For starters, ...<snip> ... of the point I was making. The point you seem to have been making is that the sheer numbers of creative thinking minds inspired (presumably) by funding can overcome (obviate) a whole host of other factors (time, experience, practice) and render the time of discovery to be directly proportional to the number of minds (amount of money) invested. Is that correct? Yet you fail to grasp the obvious with the entire process you bring up here - namely that the more skilled pe…
/r/MensRights30/06/13 04:53 PM
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Since when was the cervix designed to allow anything besides sperm and a woman's period to naturally pass through it in its typical state (and I would class dilation as an atypical state which only naturaly occurs during childbirth)? The fact is that with D&Cs, and D&Es you are artificially accessing a part of the body that is designed to be shielded from being accessed. Ergo by its very nature, traditional abortions, even if drugs rather than a scalpel are used to bypass the cervix, are invasiv…
/r/MensRights28/06/13 09:04 PM
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On the contrary, I told you it was a Vernadskian principle, meaning that you could have easily sought out the writings of Vernadsky for yourself. Yes, you did. Yes, I could have. I never said you were the ONLY source of information but simply that I was using you as MY source. I stated that I had no information on creative density and merely took what you provided as a basis for further discussion. If you felt it was important, you might've mentioned other applications in your description, provi…
/r/MensRights28/06/13 04:36 PM
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As I have said, if there is an alternative which would allow for successfully transplanting the child in less invasive manner, then I am all for it. However it would have to come down to the least invasive manner which gave the best outcome for the child where a womb transplant was required. That is acceptable. You clearly need to go back and read what started a discussion of invasiveness. It was in response to someone saying that abortions were completely non-invasive. Even if you're using drug…
/r/MensRights28/06/13 05:25 AM
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If it works? So you're claiming that science building up as a body of knowledge where scientists build upon the body of prior knowledge to reach new and more complex understandings of the universe isn't how science has advanced since the dawn of civilisation. Yes, indeed, IF it works. According to you (my only source) creative density is defined as such: It's a Vernadskian principle of higher thinking. Essentially the more trained minds (and that's the catch - if minds are untrained in critical …
/r/MensRights28/06/13 04:35 AM
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Because you're failing to grasp the impact a larger creative density within artificial womb research globally would result in. and On the contrary, the more funding you have, the more money you have to employ more researchers into the field - therefore the greater the creative density you achieve. You're right. I am not factoring creative density into the impact of research. If it works, I'm in favor of it; but, I have serious doubts about the viability of such a process. It's simply too close t…
/r/MensRights27/06/13 07:39 PM
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including what is regarded as best practice for getting a child out of a womb during a difficult labour. C-sections during a 'difficult labor' are emergency procedures (non-scheduled) designed to protect either the fetus or the mother (or both). I can't imagine (assuming a self sufficient artificial womb) why there would be a need for emergency surgery. We cut people open all the time in emergency medicine. Planned procedures generally follow the least invasive/most effective treatment. C-sectio…
/r/MensRights27/06/13 07:06 PM
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Nobody wants to tell you what to do with your body, we'd just appreciate a say in our own lives. In my post, I intentionally singled out a clause(?) of the proclamation regarding giving guardianship of a fetus to a potential father. The discussion that ensued regarded the woman having to be a proxy through which the potential father would assert his guardianship. That would, in fact, tell a woman what to do with her body. With regard to LPS, quite frankly, my mind is not yet decided.
/r/MensRights27/06/13 04:45 PM
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You clearly haven't considered a c-section being a part of a womb transplant. Right! My question is why do you consider it a good idea? Ideally you would want to perfect the techniques so it could be done during the first trimester. Furthermore considering you're generally not using pliers and forceps during a c-section, why would you use them during a womb transplant. You're the one that brought up the forceps and pliers. Is your intention to punish the woman with the most invasive procedure yo…
/r/MensRights27/06/13 03:55 PM
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You'll find though that in countries like here in Australia though abortions are state subsidised. Furthermore, even if things have changed; the fact that billions were spent annually previously is highly telling in terms of possible research funding by today's standards (factoring in inflation over time) if the world considered it a priority. A quote from *Confessions of...." is: Simple arithmetic at $300 a time, 1.55 million abortions means an industry generating $500,000,000 annually, of whic…
/r/MensRights27/06/13 03:31 PM
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I was talking about womb transplants versus D&Cs, D&Xs and D&Es. Well, unless you're taking the whole uterus out, there's simply no excuse to carve her up. Have you had abdominal surgery? I have. I've also had a D&C (I 'aborted' a benign tumor). And, there is one hell of a difference. My point was that you're still talking about a highly invasive process by dilating the cervix and then inserting objects into the uterus - be they forms of suction or pliers and foreceps, so the notion of invasiven…
/r/MensRights27/06/13 06:26 AM
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The late Dr. Bernard Nathanson's last work was published/released circa 1996. Google "Hyde Exception" and "military abortion regulations." Do you understand the concept of creative density, because the way this reads, it doesn't sound like you do. Actually, no. My Google-fu has failed. Do tell. On the contrary, by the time you've got that proceedure downpat, you would logically also have perfected the ability to heal and stop any possible uterine bleeding and you would have the teleportation pro…
/r/MensRights27/06/13 06:06 AM
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On the contrary. In one method you are forcibly dilating the cervix and inserting objects into the uterus; with the other, you are making incisions into the abdomen and uterus. Both are highly invasive with only a minor difference in terms of how access if achieved. What?! Why on EARTH would you make incisions to do this? Cutting through the peritenium, stomach muscles, and the uterine wall is a much, much bigger deal than just a matter of 'access.' I don't even know where to begin... Medical te…
/r/MensRights27/06/13 04:29 AM
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The thing I would point to there is the low rates of funding and low levels of research into the subject. You are comparing apples to oranges. I don't know of any existing research funding that is going into abortion techniques. We've pretty much got that down pat! Marketing/advertising/political campaigns are a completely different story, however. I'd like to think that there are many, many areas which would be enriched with those funds. The problem is convincing the people spending to stop doi…
/r/MensRights27/06/13 04:09 AM
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That works - if the woman is willing to be your proxy. Otherwise, it's problematic.
/r/MensRights27/06/13 03:24 AM
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If this research were to continue, a logical next step would be to rear younger wobbegong embryos. Prior to the late-term stage, the wobbegongs, like the nurse sharks, rely on a complex and delicately balanced uterine fluid. Creating this artificially would be a difficult but feasible challenge, Otway said, but he’s not sure it’s the best idea. Those sharks were raised within a natural (surrogate) womb until 1 month before birth out of a 9 month gestation period in and spent 18 days in the artif…
/r/MensRights27/06/13 03:09 AM
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For men, pregnancy isn't a dangerous outcome of promiscuity. For women, it is. Men never developed a biological reason not to want to spread his seed. However, men did develop a sociological reason. If a man did get a woman pregnant, and was required to support that child, he wanted to make sure that that child was his. Social constructs of primitive societies is vague, at best. In this study of modern hunter-gatherers, http://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s12110-004-1014-8, it is found that…
/r/MensRights27/06/13 02:44 AM
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The reality is that the most current research that I could find by Hung-Ching Liu, Ph.D., hasn't been successful with mouse fetuses. Also, considering the labryinth of laws that would have to pass to allow experimentation on human fetal cells, the movement would inevitably be slow and ponderous - and likely opposed by both 'sides' of the issue. If I had to place a wager, I'd bet that the technology will exist before the social mores adjust to enable the passage of such laws. If you examine the e…
/r/MensRights27/06/13 01:56 AM
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The prospective father has the right to personal guardianship of the fetus when required to protect the well-being of the fetus or to preserve the right to custody. Considering this definition of guardianship: Guardians - A guardianship is a legal right given to a person to be responsible for the food, health care, housing, and other necessities of a person deemed fully or partially incapable of providing these necessities for himself or herself. From http://www.expertlaw.com/library/estate_plan…
/r/MensRights27/06/13 01:31 AM
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So, by that argument, since women bear children 100% of the time, then women should have 100% custody, decision making, and financial responsibility all the time?
/r/MensRights26/06/13 03:33 PM
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I am struggling to come to terms with my upbringing and some of the things I experienced as a child. My wife can't understand, she grew up in a nice middle-class Asian family and doesn't have a frame of reference. Talking to her about this stuff just makes me feel numb, or like I am wasting my time. I'll say up front; I wasn't molested or sexually abused, and I wasn't raped. I am not sure if I'm just being a whiny bitch about it, or if I have a legitimate basis for feeling this way. You have a l…
/r/MensRights20/06/13 04:58 AM
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Yes, I understand that there needs to be a line.
/r/MensRights18/06/13 06:56 PM
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I don't refer to this as a contract because that would imply that any stipulations whatsoever are fair game. I am shooting for making the reasonable, basic expectations a man would have of his wife regarding childbirth, enforcable. The expectations of a partnership in raising children in which both partners commit considerable resources to the effort. Surrogacy is not about forming lasting partnerships. I see - marriage used to be the way to do that (and it continues to do so for many people). I…
/r/MensRights18/06/13 06:13 PM
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I don't know if that's where you are going or not, but I encounter that position often. I mentioned this in my other reply to you but let me elaborate. There's a huge difference in 'no women' (none exist) and any woman (all of them) so when speaking in generalities things get a bit fuzzy because women are unique. So, within the set that comprises all women, I would say there exists a subset of women who, upon making a documented agreement, can be reasonably expected to make a 'good faith' effort…
/r/MensRights18/06/13 03:29 PM
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The window is the first trimester (as set in Roe v Wade, as the point beyond which states are allowed to forbid abortions). Right - but a woman may not find out she's actually pregnant until well into (or beyond) the 1st trimester. When you factor in possible waiting limits and arrangements (appointments, etc) it can get a bit tight. When it comes to pregnancy and child-birth, there should be a way for women and men to make certain promises to each other, and the legal system should enforce thos…
/r/MensRights18/06/13 12:21 AM
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That's quite a story. I would not have guessed that a lot of boys know that little. Completely agree that society needs to take sex and pregnancy education far more seriously. Oh. The stories I could tell... One more. So, I'm sitting in a college class (gen ed requirement) and I'm chatting with a young woman sitting next to me (circa 2007). Somehow birth control comes up and she tells me that she was upset because she recently found out that condoms were considered protection for std's. Once aga…
/r/MensRights17/06/13 06:33 PM
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If we are talking about getting an injunction against smoking and drinking while pregnant, there would be a non-trivial chance that a guy the she had made such an agreement with, and then slept with, could be the father. I think, given what he has at stake, that should give him standing to get an injunction against her drinking and smoking. Ah. If we're talking about a prearrangement then, yeah, I'd agree. Perhaps I'm a bit naive but many pregnant woman are responsible (no drinking, smoking, she…
/r/MensRights17/06/13 05:03 PM
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First, thank you for your reply. The odds would be low, because most people are decent. The whole point of having a legal system, however, is for the cases when people are not decent to each other. That is fair. It gets a bit fuzzy around the issues of having a legitimate claim, though. To wit, if a woman is pregnant, then we're pretty certain the child is hers. If a woman is married or has a SO, it does not always follow that the fetus is genetically related to her husband/SO - and that is not …
/r/MensRights14/06/13 03:57 PM
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I hate the "don't have sex" argument. We are able to have lots of child free sex - why not enjoy it?
/r/MensRights13/06/13 11:04 PM
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I think we have a misunderstanding. I was advocating for the implementation by which LPS could be accomplished - not commenting on the status quo. I would do the opposite, unless you signed for a kid before sex, it's not your problem. You also have no parental rights whatsoever though. This suggestion appears to not equalize men's rights with regard to children with women's rights. In your system (if I understand you correctly), any man who fathers a child without a prior agreement has NO rights…
/r/MensRights13/06/13 11:02 PM
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Checkmate? What does contraception have to do with the issue? Let's assume that birth control is used and you still end up with a fetus. At that point she's going to be doing something - either gestating or aborting. Do people really not know whether they want a child before they have sex? I mean, if you don't want a child, then what's the problem telling her about it before a fetus vs. after?
/r/MensRights13/06/13 08:41 PM
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The problem with doing the opposite is that, even though sex does not imply consent to children, sex does not also constitute consent to an abortion or pregnancy + adoption. Declaring your intent (not to have a child) thereby gives the woman involved explicit and undenable information that you don't want to contribute to raising a child (with her/at that time). Otherwise it's the same murky situation that seems to contribute to the problem that we already have.
/r/MensRights13/06/13 07:24 PM
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I think there should be a legal mechanism by which a man can effectively say to a potential partner,"Even though we are using birth control, there is some chance you will get pregnant by me. If that happens, I want you to make a good faith effort to bear and raise the child with me. If you are not up to making a promise like that, then I am not interested in having a relationship with you." If you made that statement to a woman, how high do you think the odds are that she would abort a fetus if …
/r/MensRights13/06/13 07:14 PM
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I am generally in favor of children being a conscious choice for a family. So, I do think that men should be able to declare their intentions prior to sex as to whether it is a consent to children or not. So, I would construct a LPS differently. I don't think that waiting for the pregnancy to happen is a responsible approach to childfree sexuality. The morality of abortion is highly contested and, even if a woman is pro-choice, that does not necessarily mean that she's willing to go through the …
/r/MensRights13/06/13 07:01 PM
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