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Shit you may be right. I feel like I don’t know how to act once I get a positive response because I think the girl would have no interest in the real me. Any idea of a fix from your perspective
/r/seduction27/03/18 10:15 PM
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I think I’m gonna take another shot at asking her out when I see her next and if it doesn’t work oh well next girl. Thanks for that man I always appreciate others taking a look at my situation from the outside since I have a tendency to overthink the fuck out of everything
/r/seduction23/03/18 02:12 AM
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Wow ya that’s a good rule, I’ll keep that in mind. Thanks
/r/seduction22/03/18 08:46 PM
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So do you think I should take the time and focus on other girls? Also have you found any good methods for how to prevent the “this girl is an amazing and I’m going to marry her!!” State I’d mind. Like I don’t want to get into the mindset but I guess it’s so easy sometimes
/r/seduction22/03/18 06:35 PM
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Ya I think I might have messed it up, I asked her on the walk to try and show her “hey like I’m down for this but i just wanted to make sure stupid shit didn’t happen while we were drunk” but it looks like I came off as a nice guy who respects girls
/r/seduction22/03/18 06:32 PM
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Ok I see what your saying. I don’t see her all that much so would a phone call be a good alternative? Also if I do propose another hang out should I be more along the lines of “Hey if you’re free come with me and get coffee in a hour!” Or “Hey are you busy tomorrow around 3? we should go for a coffee” (that would be over the phone)
/r/seduction22/03/18 06:25 PM
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Thanks for the tips, appreciate it. What do you mean by “don’t overshadow yourself in her life. Most of the relationships ends before they even begin“ ? Ok so you’re saying if she says no just tell her when I’m free? Also when you say all chewing gum do you mean don’t get all sappy and needy?
/r/seduction22/03/18 03:14 PM
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Ok I see what you’re saying, you seem to have this down to a science. We were both pretty drunk that’s why I didn’t want to make a move, good idea? Bad idea? So should I wait until she asks me what I’m doing? Or should I still reach out to find out her availability?/ text her throughout the day. Still new to this shit kinda confusing for me
/r/seduction22/03/18 03:11 PM
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Ya I think I might’ve. You have examples as to how to lead as opposed to negotiate? Thanks
/r/seduction22/03/18 02:52 PM
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Forgot to add a bit of information: after I told her liked her we talked about what days are best to hang out, she said Friday or Saturday, I asked her to watch a movie on Friday. Thanks for the encouragement I knew I had to ask her. Should I try and have text conversations with her in the meantime? To try and develop a little more comfort? I fully understand things aren’t looking good and I am prepared to move on. I’m just confused since she seemed so into me, even my teammates noticed. I keep …
/r/seduction22/03/18 02:51 PM
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Ok I see what you are saying, thanks for the advice! Any tips from your experience on how not to have the conversation be like an interview? I feel like I either ask too many questions or just talk about myself like you said
/r/seduction05/02/18 04:17 PM
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I totally understand looks don’t matter, as the initial attraction is there but I just can’t escalate through conversation. I’ll try and do that, when do you do this during the day? (At an event where the girl is [didn’t go together] is it possible to physically escalate during this time?)
/r/seduction05/02/18 04:15 PM
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Wow thanks for that, I feel like I must be making one of these mistakes. Any way you could expand on them to help me understand how to fix these problems? (like example conversations) I feel like I must be along the lines of too weird, too aloof, too approval seeking. Really appreciate the comment you made
/r/seduction05/02/18 01:11 PM
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Ya this is really good advice, the second you start overthinking is the second you make things a bigger deal than they are. See a cute girl, then go talk to her
/r/seduction05/02/18 06:05 AM
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Any advice on how to have conversations that help the girl feel comfortable around you?
/r/seduction31/01/18 06:44 PM
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Everyone needs to have that written down on there hand when they go out! Same thing I’ve discovered, has helped me a ton!
/r/seduction18/01/18 07:46 PM
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Simplest explanation is literally “girls just want to have fun” (period) You go on a date... have fun!!!!! Have fun with whatever it is, if you’re having fun (and not by mocking her or being rude) she’s most likely going to have fun as-well. If you think of something do it, no thinking. Who would you rather be around, someone who’s firing all of the classic questions and you’re firing back the same generic answers, or someone who’s listening to you making a great conversation and enjoying the mo…
/r/seduction18/01/18 07:44 PM
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If you had he mindset that you were going to get this girls number, go on dates with her, marry her than ya it’ll hurt. If you had no expectations and just went to talk, then it hurts a lot less and is easier to make good conversation when you’re not focused on a goal(darn I need to make a move, man I’ve got to get the conversation to keep going so I can get her number) get rid of those thoughts and it’s just a regular conversation with another person, if it goes well then you can say to yoursel…
/r/seduction15/01/18 05:07 AM
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Thanks for the reply. I see what you’re saying, I just need to get it in my mind that they aren’t so grand and mighty. Do you think talking myself up in my head would help? (You’re better than this guy....he’s just another person....you’re a cool guy too etc)
/r/seduction12/01/18 05:01 AM
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Thanks for that, it really does make sense the way you explained it. I can now think back to conversations and find the point where I started comparing myself to them. Do you have any suggestions as to how I can change this problem (things I could read, things you think I should do) and work on myself so this doesn’t affect me anymore? Thanks
/r/seduction12/01/18 12:25 AM
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Seems like samonesto is right on. My suggestion, own the freindzone. Accept that she doesn’t like you, move on, but don’t shut her out of your life. Be one step ahead of her, she might be trying to put you in the freindzone so she has someone to confide with since she still thinks about her ex. So do that (without explicitly telling her) and keep improving yourself. Since she’s using you for emotional support use her for practice with flirting and getting comfortable around hot girls. Some peopl…
/r/seduction05/01/18 12:35 AM
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In a girls bed
/r/seduction03/01/18 06:27 AM
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Listen to this guy, he’s got it spot on. Happened to me as well
/r/seduction24/12/17 06:06 AM
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Oh ok I see now. When I look back at the moments when I’m down it’s because I think gosh I have no friends, I have no life, I don’t party, but then when someone asks to hang out or when I find myself getting invited to a party I feel great. This is just a few of the many examples that keep me on the rollercoaster of feeling down then feeling great. How can you get internal sense of self worth? I’d like to work to achieve this so I don’t feel so empty sometimes
/r/seduction18/12/17 08:06 AM
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I’m in a similar situation. What do you mean by getting it from an internal source?
/r/seduction17/12/17 06:08 PM
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Point 7 is honestly something every guy in their first relationship needs to get tattooed on their hand
/r/seduction09/12/17 06:47 PM
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Best places I’ve found to meet people are organized events/volunteering, you’re all there to help out or to participate. It makes it easier to get a conversation going since you have the event as a topic to talk about. If it’s a recurring event it puts less pressure on you(if you’re new to making friends) since you’ll see them often and can take your time getting to know them. Once you meet people like this eventually it will be easier to just go up to someone and start a conversation since you …
/r/seduction30/11/17 12:18 AM
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