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Wasting your time. It’s not worth it. Abundance.
/r/askTRP05/01/20 04:24 PM
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It’s actually easy once you delete your account and realise how little value FB and Instagram add. Reddit on the other hand, can be useful depending how you use it.
/r/askTRP31/10/19 08:00 PM
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Tell her that you’ll go celibate and wait an eternity for her if she went into a coma. Defuse with humour. Maintain frame.
/r/askTRP01/08/19 07:54 AM
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Seems like you’ve put women on the pedestal, man. Your new year resolution was to go on a date? The underlying tone of this suggests you’ve had a “needy” mindset for far too long. Now it seems like you’re looking to compensate to the other extreme and sideline women completely. You have to find the middle ground. You mentioned a few times that you don’t consider yourself good looking. Does your self-improvement include gym and exercise? Also, have you taken it upon yourself to improve your fashi…
/r/seduction17/07/19 04:44 PM
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Not to get academic, but interestingly, If you’re referring to skill in a career sense (and ultimately financial success), research suggests that women are more attracted to the ability and determination to become financially successful, versus the financial success itself.
/r/seduction16/07/19 08:05 PM
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Thanks for your feedback and effort into moderating. Cheers
/r/seduction16/07/19 07:40 PM
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Golf. You can play for years unlike more physically intense sports. Not a “team” sport per se but absolutely great for networking and socialising. Join a local club and play in a different four ball every week.
/r/askTRP15/07/19 09:37 AM
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Cool, makes sense. My last suggestion then, as I’ve also seen complaints recently about newbie questions like “what to respond to texts”, example: https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/cb3gb9/stop_asking_what_you_should_respond_to_a_text/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app So what about a daily newbie thread? Where any questions can be asked in the comment section without judgment. Example: Newbie thread
/r/seduction15/07/19 07:26 AM
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Read Atomic Attraction. Brilliant book
/r/seduction14/07/19 08:26 AM
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What about a threshold low enough to indicate a genuine, but throwaway account, like 50 karma for example? Most throwaway accounts who have raised this point do have enough karma to suggest it’s not a spam account. Unless it’s possible to use some form of AI type moderating that automatically deletes posts or comments if they violate sub rules (as seen in other subs across Reddit). In this case, the common spam posts can be flagged and future similar posts will then be automatically deleted? Thi…
/r/seduction10/07/19 12:41 PM
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Yeah, but your dedicated account has more than 500 karma which is way more than enough to suggest a genuine account. These spam accounts are usually less than 10 days old with 1 karma. More active moderating would be great, but probably unrealistic unless it’s AI based moderating.
/r/seduction10/07/19 12:30 PM
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“Meet me for coffee at [time] on [day] at [location]”
/r/seduction10/07/19 10:03 AM
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Agree. Every time you overthink a text or are about to ask for texting advice, recite the mantra: Texting is for logistics Proceed to text appropriately.
/r/seduction09/07/19 05:03 PM
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Sometimes you have to make the distinction between a shit test and simply a toxic person. If you decide it’s the former, then agree and amplify or ignore (back to basics of the shit test). If it’s the latter, which I believe this is, then delete number / block and move on.
/r/seduction09/07/19 04:45 PM
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I never said she would. I was restating OP’s implicit intention.
/r/askTRP06/07/19 06:35 AM
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Your problem OP, is that you’re trying to outsmart her. Not texting her because it will get her hamster wheel spinning so that she will come running to you. However, she has clearly made up her mind. If she wanted to leave her fiancé and pursue you, she would have. But she hasn’t, and she is looking for validation and excitement that she clearly lacks in her LTR. She will only use you to provide that, whilst sticking by her decision to marry some cuck. You’re best going no contact for the purpos…
/r/askTRP05/07/19 08:00 AM
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Don’t do it.
/r/askTRP03/07/19 06:49 AM
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General question, highlighting that if she is or is not cheating physically, but you’re noticing negative behaviour then that should be an early warning sign
/r/askTRP23/06/19 12:32 PM
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How is that logically possible? Off-ish / distant behaviour may indicate that she could be emotionally checking out, but how could that conclusively mean she is cheating? You may speculate or deduce an answer from your inclination, but you’ll only know the truth from hard evidence. The real question is why are you tolerating such behaviour regardless?
/r/askTRP23/06/19 12:25 PM
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Well, you could go straight to the source of Neil Strauss’s influences, eg. The Mystery Method. I haven’t read it so I can’t comment, but I’m not sure how dated it is. Other than that, the usual recommendations on this sub; Models by Mark Manson, The Manual by W Anton etc.
/r/askTRP21/06/19 06:38 AM
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Don’t go in with the expectation that this book is a guide to pick up. It’s a quasi-autobiography of Neil Strauss’s life as a PUA. But still a great read.
/r/askTRP21/06/19 06:27 AM
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Censor her face man.
/r/seduction20/06/19 09:28 AM
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/r/askTRP18/06/19 02:28 PM
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HB7.4 Your rating scale is strangely precise.
/r/askTRP18/06/19 12:06 PM
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She will try and convert you. Not worth it.
/r/askTRP17/06/19 02:50 PM
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I’m going to be the bearer of bad news. If you continue like this, she will lose respect for you and your relationship will fail. Women appreciate men who maintain themselves as their number 1 priority. The fact that you jeopardised an interview and are willing to get fired for her, means that you lack self respect. She does not want to love a man who doesn’t respect himself. How will you support her if you’re getting fired because you don’t care about your future? You are being needy. Realise t…
/r/seduction06/06/19 08:50 AM
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LDR is an absolute no. Why put yourself through that?
/r/askTRP31/05/19 08:52 PM
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Men because women to the are left always right
/r/MensRights24/05/19 03:37 PM
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Did you even read the post? It says so right there. this is not the saviour schema
/r/askTRP18/05/19 03:32 PM
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I was also confused, until the very last sentence at least. but being ugly def doesn’t help You need confidence, man. You’re a good looking guy. You have your shit together from what is seems. So your variables are you confidence (which lacks), your mindset and subsequently your frame. Work on “inner game” and jack up your theory and you’ll be successful.
/r/seduction08/05/19 07:55 PM
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Huge red flag. Next. If that's her mindset, no frame of mind is going to change it.
/r/askTRP06/05/19 01:11 PM
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she just broke up with her ex of 6 years and was not over him (she still isn’t over him now). He doesn’t want her back and she’s definitely alpha widowed. They still communicate and it’s always her initiating. ​ Major red flag. ​ It's important to remember that high SMV (looks, social status, job, working out etc.) all increase your chances of success with most women, but don't guarantee success with all women. People are irrational and make irrational decisions. So don't rack your brain trying …
/r/askTRP30/04/19 11:15 AM
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Main sub sidebar is good starting point
/r/askTRP18/02/19 06:00 PM
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This is fucking gold.
/r/askTRP18/02/19 04:13 PM
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My goal was exactly to get jacked and fuck girls the last few years There's nothing wrong with this. As long as it's a byproduct of the bigger picture. Set goals for your business startup that you mentioned. Set career goals etc. Put a plan in place to achieve that and go for it! For example, if you want to be an engineer, what side projects can you do that will help you land a big gig at a top firm once you've graduated? Something above and beyond what all your classmates aren't doing? Same app…
/r/askTRP08/02/19 02:07 PM
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Exactly. only tell her that if she goes to see him you’re done, which still idk if it’s a good idea As you mention, even this is an ultimatum which gives her power. Cut your losses flybors
/r/askTRP08/02/19 01:22 PM
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You can't do anything to prevent him seeing her. Of course he's going to do so. Nor do you want to mateguard. You have to set the precedent that if she disrespects you then she's out. It's probably already too late, because if she had respected you from earlier in your relationship, then this wouldn't be happening. I'd next her and learn for the next relationship that boundaries need to be understood.
/r/askTRP08/02/19 01:14 PM
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Seems like you've gotten stuck in a routine. What are you long term goals? Maybe you need to re-calibrate those now that you've come a long way. If your long term goals are still correctly aligned, then perhaps you need to add more meaningful goals to the equation? Much like David Deida speaks about in The Way of The Superior Man. Search for deeper meaning (stage 3 man) beyond only being jacked and sleeping with women.
/r/askTRP08/02/19 01:10 PM
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This is so beta to the point where I can't tell if you're trolling or not. How are you allowing yourself you be disrespected like this?
/r/askTRP08/02/19 01:03 PM
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I think a major cause of oneitis, particularly if it comes in the early stages of meeting a woman, is due to idealisation and lack of abundance. Perhaps you're lonely so you meet a woman and think she'll cure your loneliness, or you just lack an abundant mentality, and therefore you paint her out to be someone she isn't, in the hopes that she's going to fill some gaping void. Make her prove her worth to you before you become emotionally invested. Quit thinking about her all the time. It takes a …
/r/askTRP07/02/19 12:58 PM
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Why not? You’ve got nothing to lose and only value to gain.
/r/seduction03/02/19 04:32 PM
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There’s a difference between being a genuine good person and being a “nice guy” and often these can be confused. Being a nice guy is more of a mental frame versus actually doing “nice” things. Nice guys sacrifice their own needs / happiness in an attempt to satisfy others and inevitably end up coming last. Good people only do good things when it’s viable for them to do so, without sacrificing their own happiness whilst considering their needs as priorities, essentially knowing when to say no. Le…
/r/askTRP31/01/19 06:49 AM
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It’s pretty obvious that it’s a rhetoric value used in an attempt to get a point across. So why are you getting so sensitive about something so insignificant in your life? Try r/psychology if you’re looking for academic-backed research to each post. You’re gonna have a bad time here if you get triggered by something so clearly not implied to be backed by statistical research.
/r/seduction30/01/19 06:29 AM
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As soon as you start overthinking it, you're already over-invested. Keep it basic and stick to logistics in the beginning. If she's interested, it won't matter if you text her an hour later or a day later. Just don't be needy.
/r/seduction29/01/19 07:37 AM
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I've DM'd a woman who ignored my message and showed absolutely no interest. By chance, I happened to bump into her at a bar about two months later and ended up making out with her. Your return on investment on IG is low because of the vast amount of DMs women receive. Unless you have a solid IG account (like 5,000+ followers), don't do it.
/r/seduction29/01/19 07:31 AM
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My take on the "looks don't matter" comments is that it's an attempt to help people get out of their own head and out of their usual excuses. It's an easy fallback for most to blame circumstances that they were born with. Of course look matter - I completely agree with you. I've had conversations with many "interesting" women but I have had no desire to pursue them sexually because of a lack of attraction. But in saying this, it doesn't mean that if you didn't hit the genetic jackpot you'll be d…
/r/seduction28/01/19 07:55 AM
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Well said. This is why there’s so many different styles of game that can all be successful. If your mindset is right, and you’re willing to put in the effort, then half the battle is already won - regardless of what “technique” you use to game her.
/r/seduction25/01/19 05:00 PM
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I don't know your personal circumstances and by no way am I downplaying what these might be. The point I'm trying to raise goes back to your previous comment; Time and time again online, including in this sub, women say they don't want to be approached by men they don't know, especially not during the day when they're out-and-about trying to get stuff done. This is opinion. There will always be these types of women. That's how society works. Everyone's brains are wired differently. But if you ha…
/r/seduction24/01/19 07:07 AM
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Where did I imply that it is?
/r/seduction24/01/19 06:16 AM
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It seems you’ve got a pretty negative perception about how this all works. So why are you even here? If you aren’t going to change your mindset, then nothing posted in any seduction community will help you. Don’t be a victim. Go own and dominate your circumstances.
/r/seduction24/01/19 06:03 AM
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How many women want to be approached by some random guy, though? I've had this discussion with women and I don't recall one occasion where a women has said she wouldn't prefer being approached during the day. It demonstrates so much more confidence and she appreciates that versus the 10 guys who only have the balls to approach in the club. I've been told here recently, by another coach, that cold-approach is a myth often used to sell products Everyone has their own opinion. Throughout history, t…
/r/seduction23/01/19 07:14 AM
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Great point. Coffee shops also present opportunities for situational openers that could quickly lead to discussions that the target is interested in - i.e. have a look at her textbook and initiate conversation based on that. She's studying the subject so should therefore interested.
/r/seduction23/01/19 06:58 AM
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You walk away with the following: A mindset of “IDGAF that I got rejected because by just approaching I’ve achieved more than most men would” You realise that approaching random people is entertaining You’ll learn from your mistakes and be better next time And most importantly, you realise that your day was that much more interesting by speaking to a random stranger who you usually wouldn’t have. I’d rather get rejected every now and then instead of never approaching and having monotonous lunch …
/r/seduction22/01/19 07:56 PM
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Great points you raise. Especially about getting stuck into it as quickly as possible. I’ve been out solo and the longer you take to socialise, the more awkward you feel. You’ve gotta strike whilst the iron is hot and settle any doubts, Also, the point about giving fun instead of taking it is very important. Avoid at all costs getting trapped into creating a false sense of neediness being solo. The only point that I’d add which you didn’t include: if you’re struggling to get into “the zone”, the…
/r/seduction22/01/19 07:46 PM
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Exactly. This seems to be an unpopular opinion but the downside outweighs the extremely slim upside as you mention (unless you have already met her).If she's even remotely attractive, she'll be getting tons of attention of thirsty guys. It demonstrates a lack of abundance. You're on the back foot from the get go.
/r/seduction21/01/19 12:07 PM
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The best answer is simply don’t do it. Having said that, good luck my friend.
/r/seduction21/01/19 11:18 AM
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One of the things that makes a man a man is accepting their mistakes and suffering the consequences of their actions. This is profound. Thanks
/r/askTRP19/01/19 10:19 AM
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Just reading this makes me want to NEXT her on your behalf.
/r/askTRP18/01/19 08:21 AM
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This is why I say "a general rule", especially for someone asking a question who seems as to have limited experience (all due respect to OP). People are more self-conscious about things they are judged for, not by what they control Exactly my point? People aren't self-conscious about what they can control. Don't like my shoes? IDGAF. But imagine someone inexperienced teasing her facial structure? Not sure how well that will go down. Someone more experienced will know where the boundary is based …
/r/seduction18/01/19 06:23 AM
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To add to this, a general rule of thumb if you’re uncertain; tease her about things she has control over, not about how she was born. Otherwise you’ll make her self conscious.
/r/seduction17/01/19 12:28 PM
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She’s a woman and wants you to take the lead. She’s definitely not going to start “making moves” as you hope, especially since she’s shy. Be confident and needless to say, respect her if she says no (verbally or physically).
/r/seduction17/01/19 12:14 PM
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Flirting and teasing is situational and there's no canned response to your question. Start off by reading the plentiful literature available out there to help you succeed. For example, The Mystery Method, Models by Mark Manson etc. Even sorting this sub by top will be a decent starting point.
/r/seduction17/01/19 12:08 PM
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Sort TRP main sub by top, and you'll see a detailed post on Stoicism.
/r/askTRP17/01/19 07:41 AM
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How honest have you been with her? She’s probably “closed” because you yourself have not been transparent enough with her. Make sure she knows exactly what your expectations are with / from her. Sit her down and tell her what you want from the interaction. That way she’ll appreciate your honesty and trust you enough to open up.
/r/askTRP16/01/19 07:52 PM
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Not what you want to hear; it’s not worth it. Read my post on r/ExNoContact and learn from the mistakes I made. https://www.reddit.com/r/ExNoContact/comments/aci2s2/a_lesson_i_learned_15_years_after_breaking_up/?st=JQZKUBS3&sh=d433b440
/r/seduction16/01/19 07:27 PM
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Perhaps it’s your own environment that’s created your misconception? I’m 5 years out of college and my social circle is stronger than its ever been (because you stick with those who are your true friends and ditch the ones who were around because of proximity I.e. same college). Social circle game is very much alive beyond college.
/r/seduction16/01/19 07:24 PM
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Don’t try oversell your maturity (as this might seem instinctive). Game her like you would anyone else. Get straight to the point. Set up a date ASAP whilst minimising back and forth texting.
/r/seduction16/01/19 07:19 PM
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i was very emotionally invested. Now I dont care at all though I'll challenge this statement because if you're posting this here, then you're clearly emotionally invested. You're overthinking the entire situation. It's only awkward if you make it awkward. If they're your friends and you enjoy hanging out with them, then do it. Just don't act butt hurt about being rejected. Be confident (abundance mentality) and this will make everyone more comfortable.
/r/askTRP15/01/19 07:30 AM
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you will come to the realization that a lot of girls, if not all, are indeed blatantly disloyal. This is a beta and insecure mentality. There's no reason a woman would cheat on a man who satisfies her both emotionally and sexually.
/r/askTRP15/01/19 07:20 AM
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Context is key. How many times have you been on a date with her? Is she genuinely busy that validates her delayed response? Or Is she responding to you sporadically because you’re low on her priority list? You need to understand the context and then make a call for yourself. My instinct though tells me that you should NEXT her. In most situations like this, when you’re uncertain, it’s best to apply Mark Manson’s Fuck Yes or No law. Google it if you haven’t heard of it yet.
/r/askTRP14/01/19 07:48 PM
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It sounds like you’ve put so much pressure on yourself to talk to women that you’ve become your own worst enemy. You’ll only learn that rejection can actually be a good thing once you begin to experience it. I say this because you’ll learn so much about social dynamics (from being rejected) which will help you out in so many aspects other than just seduction. Work, friendships and so on. Each occasion I approach and get rejected, majority of the time I can look back and see what I did wrong. Lea…
/r/askTRP14/01/19 07:38 PM
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I understand that confidence is something you have to work on, but everyone gets rejected. No matter their looks, social status, job title etc. It happens to everyone. So don’t view that as a reflection on you, but rather a reflection on that person. We all have preferences in life. Consider this simple analogy. What’s your favourite car? A BMW. Cool. Does that mean Audi is shit? No, it just means you prefer BMW. Same applies to when a women rejects you. You might be an Audi and she wants a BMW.…
/r/seduction19/12/18 05:00 PM
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assume I’ll fail if I try. The only way you’ll realise that you (or nobody else) gives a fuck if you fail is when you actually do fail. Then you’ll see how failing is just another learning curve and it isn’t so bad. Eventually you’ll end up laughing it off each time. And if you do fail, it at least means that you actually had the courage to go up to a girl and try. That’s already more than most other guys are willing to do. So view that as a win. See failure as a minor victory and keep at it. Su…
/r/seduction19/12/18 04:11 PM
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If she’ll cheat with you, then she’ll cheat on you. So it depends what you want out of it, but be careful. Different story if they break up. Then go for it.
/r/seduction19/12/18 03:59 PM
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Approaching girls online? Sounds good, doesn't work.
/r/seduction19/12/18 02:59 PM
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You’re looking for someone to fill a void you have about feeling rejected. You have a victim mentality. Work on yourself and your confidence to develop the mentality of worthiness and abundance. I’m sorry to say, but you won’t have any success using “pick up” tactics until your mindset has improved. Be proud of who you are. Be confident. Don’t seek validation from women and you’ll begin to attract people with your improved nature.
/r/seduction15/12/18 09:54 AM
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I would highly recommend the audiobook Break Through Difficult Emotions by Shinzen Young. Half the book discusses the more technical aspects of emotions and the rest is guided meditations to overcome these. Helps you deal with the likes anger, anxiety etc. So it’s great if you have approach anxiety as well as coping with rejection and simply just being more consciously aware of your emotions. It’s relatively inexpensive too - well worth $ 10 or so.
/r/seduction10/12/18 04:53 PM
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