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| 163 | Awww, this poor baby! Let’s guess what actually happened.Imagine how mind-numbing a conversation with this man must be. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 06:11 PM |
| 2 | Has the FDS-mindset ruined (some) music for anyone else?As a hip hop fan, there's really only one FDS-related topic that I haven't been able to find any art in -- pimp culture. I think it's the fact that it occupies the intersection between rape and slavery. I've liked songs but then a line is thrown in about forcing a woman to work the streets and my reaction is involuntary. It's just gross. It's gross that any one with a mother, daughter, sister, aunt, grandmother would talk like that shit is impressive. I have yet to hear a beat or tune that was s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/21 03:07 PM |
| 6 | Dating during COVID, how to avoid going to their places?Honestly. This is not like going to your job to keep a roof over your head or going to protests for civil rights. This is you, telling a man who cares more about getting some pussy than protecting his own health, that you care more about getting some dick than protecting your own health. That shit sounds like Herpes Central. Super LV behaviour all around. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 12:38 AM |
| 64 | That's why I don't have casual sex...because you didn't want to make future opportunities for him to secretly film your sexual encounters awkward for him, lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 12:31 AM |
| -1 | But who cheats when they’re happy in a relationship?There is a difference between family and romantic relationships. Not everyone is getting married thinking of their future spouse as family. It's a totally different relationship. Being a spouse is about partnership. The parental relationship is not about a meeting of equals. It's a biological connection. You will never have that with your spouse. You will never have a biological imperative to care for someone just because you found them attractive enough to sleep with. I'm not trying to defend c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 02:38 AM |
| 5 | But who cheats when they’re happy in a relationship?It's not a myth. It's a question of family. There are a lot of people out there who are married because of a surprise pregnancy where one or both parties refuse to consider abortion an option. These are people who were just dumb or who dealt with a lot of social pressure. Not bad parents. Cheaters can still be good parents. Being a spouse is a different skill set from being a parent. For some reason, too many people think you have to be good at one to be good at the other and any child of a sing… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 01:26 AM |
| 5 | Summer Walker shames Future’s baby mama for wanting $53k a month in child supportLol, looking at the title, all I could think was: Aren't her most popular songs about expecting the bare minimum from a man and then having to beg him even for that, and being dickmatized? Shocker. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 03:05 AM |
| 22 | When did you have your FDS epiphany?I was dating a guy and was so tired of his over emotional bullshit. Every time I looked at him, I was super turned off. I just felt like I had to constantly baby him through his random dramatic outbursts. And then it hit me how many of my previous relationships had me feeling like a mom. It was very much an a-ha moment, given that I've been militant about being childfree from the time that I, myself, was a child. And that's when I became FDS. It's really not about getting a guy to marry me. It's… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 02:41 AM |
| 3 | FDS and the Housewife seriesIf you're basing off of BH or OC, you're watching the wrong series. Atlanta is the one where you'll hear the most FDS stuff. Kandi wrote No Scrubs. Cynthia and Phaedra were both more successful in their careers than their respective husbands. Eva won America's Next Top Model. None of those women could be accused of coming up off their husbands' work. Marlo and Sheree repeatedly talk about how important it is for a man to be financially sound before they'll give him any time. Porsha is pissed off… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/20 10:50 AM |
| 16 | He’s just mad because he keeps getting rejectedThe logic of his statements makes sense. Until you consider that some of the things I'm selecting for are confidence, directness, willingness to risk rejection. And refusing to ask a man out saves me a ton of time by weeding out all the guys who are too scared to ask me on a date within a day of meeting me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/20 07:09 AM |
| 18 | Woman finds out that her husband’s cousin’s ‘secret child’ is actually his from the time he cheated on her.For sure. I mean, I've had one night stands back in the day. Had I gotten pregnant by one of those guys, I wouldn't even know where to find them to tell them, let alone me dying and the government knowing who to contact. It was 100% more than just a one night stand. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 07:34 AM |
| 6 | Peter panGo watch a Judd Apatow movie. Honestly, like any Judd Apatow movie. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 06:27 AM |
| 1 | What do you tell yourself when you're trying not to fall for a LVM?Remind yourself of all the different ways he's basically a child. Nothing turns me off like a child. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 10:11 PM |
| 6 | Is she a pickmesha or am I trippin?Part of me thinks you might be jealous. When it comes to her career, she should be able to brag to you. The stuff about male validation is probably annoying, especially if you don't care what men think -- I get that. But I think feeling good about someone finding you attractive isn't Pickme behavior. You have to be a robot to not feel good about the fact that other people consider you attractive. And poor relationship decisions are kind of what friends are for, no? That's when you find out who y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 10:06 PM |
| 15 | Woman finds out dirty dick husband is cheating with his mistress again. She sues the Pickmeisha mistress AND she sues her husband since he bought a condo to use as a love shack. Looks like the condo will be going bye bye.Sounds like she's about to clean up in the divorce proceedings. I don't see many cheaters wanting to go into court and have all the details of the affair made public. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 09:48 PM |
| 21 | I’ve been rewatching Daria during quarantineHulu's got it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 04:25 AM |
| 45 | I’ve been rewatching Daria during quarantineI also rewatched Daria during quarantine and had the same thoughts. More recently, I've been rewatching Real Housewives of Atlanta and I am living for all the real FDS shit Sheree is saying when it comes to men. When that boy who was only working a part time job wanted to propose to her daughter, she checked that real quick. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 04:25 AM |
| 19 | PSA: When exes reach out over two years later, it’s not because they truly care about you.Middle fingers up! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 11:54 PM |
| 6 | Biggest libfem pickme TV characters?Sex and the City takes a lot of heat and in some respects, I can see why. But on the whole I really think they got it right when it came to taking the temperature of the dating scene. It felt like every other episode, one of those women was dating someone I had dated or slept with. I, personally, didn't interpret the romantic aspect of the show as aspirational. I'm not sure it was meant to be. It seemed to me that the aspirational part of the show was the relationship between the women. How they… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 04:54 PM |
| 45 | Men are more violent when there are more women aroundI feel like something is being left out of that article. Because the places that are the scariest in terms of the sheer scale of violence and weird sex crimes are the places where there are siginificantly less women than men -- prisons, the military, the Church, boy scouts, frats. I wonder how those kinds of populations within the studied counties were accounted for. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 04:19 PM |
| 21 | Question from a recovering PickMe dipping toe back into the dating world.I recovered after realizing that after things ended with any guy I date, the person who will bear the brunt of helping me move on is me. And so, I should be using my time in ways that will better equip me to be there for myself, not giving my time to people who waste it with bullshit. I honestly stopped caring about what the vast majority of men think. And, I don't know where you live. But if you're in North America, I think in-person dating right now is LV behavior. And if, by some statistical … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 05:33 AM |
| 3 | What would you do if....It's not about the warrant. It's that paying legal expenses is some family shit. Boyfriend =/= husband Whether or not I dump him depends on what the warrant is for and the circumstances around that situation. I'm not bonding him out but I'm also not making him sit. He's making himself sit by not having that shit together on his own. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 05:34 PM |
| 2 | FDS approved movie recommendations?The Aliens series. Like, if you're looking for strong female characters that are doing something other than fall in love, science fiction is where you should be looking. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 05:07 PM |
| 19 | Upleveling my Hinge Profile!I like how you've made your Hinge profile about your accomplishments, not your personality. You've basically intimidated the losers. They should pin this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 04:57 PM |
| 7 | What’s something that you did with good intention, too early for a man, and now look back in it with so much regret?His birthday came up within two months of us dating and I bought him a car part (an aesthetic part, not something needed for the car to function). And while the price is not something I would consider expensive for a birthday gift, I think buying him something for his car made him view me as a mother-type figure. Like, I might as well have bought him underwear. It set the tone for the whole relationship. I don't look back on it with so much regret, but the lesson was definitely learned. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 04:46 PM |
| 58 | Look at the edit, men are idiots 🙄It's always bothered me that AskMen is full of men asking other men for advice on how to get women... There are more of those posts there than on AskWomen. If I cared what men want, I wouldn't be dumb enough to ask a woman. Nor would I be sexist enough to think that men are so ignorant about their own wishes and desires that a woman would know better. Based on the posts on AskMen, men love treating women like we don't know what we want. But FDS is the sub that hates men, right? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 04:16 PM |
| 28 | Indian Netflix Star's Thoughts On "Indian Matchmaking" ShowI watched this show and this lady is right about Aparna. She does all her first dates at this wine bar near her house at 8:30pm. Because she knows they close at 10 and they start putting the chairs up at 9:45, so she knows she's not going to end up stuck on a 3 hour date with a lingerer. I found myself identifying with her a lot especially when she was talking about how annoying it is to hear a guy talk about how he's good at, or an expert about, something when really he's just average at best. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 03:35 AM |
| 5 | "I'm not judging you, I'm just looking at you!"You need to do some self-work. It's not that he's not doing anything. It's that it doesn't matter what he does. You're stuck living with him for now -- fine. But why are you talking to him about anything? This man is not your friend. You need to work on whatever is causing you to feel the need to defend your lack of familiarity with Discord or ask him to leave the room for your own emotional well-being. He doesn't care about your emotional well-being so why do you keep putting yourself in a posi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 04:09 AM |
| 12 | How to neg a male back?You don't. It's a waste of your time and energy. Work out. Read a book. Learn another language. Why give any effort to someone who's shown no effort towards you? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 09:52 AM |
| 11 | Where does the I'm not like other girls mentality stem from and why is it only prevalent in women?It is definitely not only prevalent in women. Almost every single guy who's asked me out has felt the need to point out to me that they're not like other guys. In truth, I have heard this waaayyyy more from men than from women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/20 11:19 AM |
| 52 | Why Men In Their Thirties Won't Commit — Solitary BeastWhat he's wrong about: This myth that women become undesirable after 30. I'm actually in the position of the man he's talking about. I'm getting hit on more, by younger guys, in my 30s than I was in my 20s. Like much more. It's not even close. What he's right about: It was never about the man. It was about me, thinking I needed one. Having seen how much more I get done when I'm not carrying a man, I'm in no rush to settle down. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/20 12:45 AM |
| 3 | Never getting asked questionsI encounter this all the time. This isn't even about prying questions. This is just normal, human curiosity that a surprising number of people seem to be lacking. Anybody who has even the smallest interest in you is going to ask something about you other than "What are you doing?" I've basically stopped responding to messages from guys that don't have any questions in them. Ok, you got a new car... Cool. And boring, very boring. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 06:01 PM |
| 4 | Actual Female Hate Subs being banned? Is this real?!Christ, those titles... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 04:21 PM |
| 2 | The cesspool that is Relationship_AdviceThat subreddit is a goldmine of inspiration and motivation for me. Like looking into some bizarro version of what my life will be if I invest in every low-effort, self-absorbed, excuses-making guy that approaches me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 03:59 PM |
| 14 | Another woman (and everyone who agrees with her) gets torched for being a big ole meanie to her shitty ex-husbandHe cheated on her. He pushed for the divorce. He got into a car without any emergency supplies, knowing he would be in the middle of nowhere. He didn't stop to pick up any supplies later on, despite the fact that he encountered an unexpected natural disaster en route. He wasn't worried enough about the prospect of making the return trip to ask her for anything or to pull over to take a nap. She wonders if she's the asshole. That's basically Reddit in a nutshell. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 03:10 PM |
| 51 | Can someone reassure me that I did the right thing by walking away?He wasn't always affectionate. He was affectionate on the two previous dates you had. That's not a large enough data set to say he was always anything. He was, however, a selfish dumbass once. And it's good that that's all it took for you to stop wasting your time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 02:02 PM |
| 24 | Safety: how many of you own a gun?I've been considering it since plainclothes police officers broke into Breonna Taylor's house and shot her in her bed. But first I'm setting up surveillance cameras. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/20 02:47 AM |
| 2 | I'm not for everybody, and I'm not trying to be. LVM's lazy ways get them none from me.Where can I buy this hat? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/20 03:42 AM |
| 4 | In the Covid-19 Economy, You Can Have a Kid or a Job. You Can’t Have Both.I figured this out when I was a child. Even before I realized how underpaid people who make a profession out of childcare are. The number of kids a woman has has generally been inversely related to her level of education and income. The first thing that happens when women in developing countries gain access to education is that birth rates fall. Kids are quality of life killers, whether you have them or choose to care for them for a living. This isn't new. This is just people complaining because… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/20 03:28 AM |
| 51 | “i win” 🙄I actually like this. I think she should leave too but I like the idea of making a man feel what you felt before you walk away. In an ideal world, she leaves with no explanation and leaves him to wonder if she left him for one of the random guys who's been liking her insta photos. Honestly, my desire for people to get what they give outweighs every other principled position I have. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/20 01:44 AM |
| 13 | Most Men Cheat. Understand This. Then, Know You Deserve BETTER!What's LSA? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/20 01:14 PM |
| 2 | What led you to find this sub?Someone on another subreddit, possibly r/ChoosingBeggars, made a post complaining about a woman expecting him to pay for something or buy a decent engagement ring or something that basically implied the woman should be lucky he gave her his time, let alone his effort, and someone linked to FDS in the comments as though there was some serious man-hating shit in here. And as a lover of r/theFairerSex back when it was public I was really hoping to find more openly critical female voices. But then a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/20 07:44 AM |
| 4 | Oh you know, just a standard day in the life of a pickme.This reminds me of how many times men have told me they're looking for a ride or die type woman. Well, go ahead and ride away, sir. Because the only person I do that for is me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/20 07:20 AM |
| 2 | How to get his words out of my headIt's definitely a standard that's changed. I feel bad for you young girls today because all you've seen almost since the jump is this extreme ideal of what it is to have a feminine body. But let me tell you, as someone who remembers a time before the whole world was obsessed with J-Lo's appropriation of black bodies, the ideal was once anorexic, "heroin-chic". And it was (and is) hard to let go of that ideal if you grew up in my generation. And while the idea of using porn as a barometer for the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/20 07:05 AM |
| 71 | Couldn’t cross post so I took a screenshot. WTF?!I wonder who picked the daughter's name. I've seen a few girls who were already months old when mom found out that the amazing name dad suggested was the name of his celebrity crush or, even worse, One That Got Away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/20 06:22 AM |
| 11 | Woman asks if she's an asshole for wanting her husband to support her during a miscarriage instead of hanging out with his friends .It's amazing how common this experience is. I remember as other women were called in for the procedure, their boyfriends would go in with them. When I got called back, mine went to wait in the car until it was done because we didn't want to risk him seeing anything upsetting if he didn't have to. And when we got home and he left to get drunk with his friends, I didn't ask him to stay because I didn't want him to be traumatized by this whole experience. ...this whole experience that I went throug… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/20 04:25 AM |
| 7 | Alright Queens, I need some advice/supportMe too. It's not even so much about the way guys look because if I like the dude's personality, then some weird rewiring happens in my brain and I find them more physically attractive. But I just... Honestly, I feel like guys our age are too emotional (for me). It's not that I'm totally insensitive but I believe my emotions are my responsibility and your emotions are yours. If you want to talk about specific examples of my behavior that you felt were disrespectful or inconsiderate or that hurt y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/20 09:59 PM |
| 46 | I am scared and don't know what to doNothing. You do nothing. If he wanted someone to take care of his mental health, he would have called a suicide hotline or psychiatrist. Stop letting this stranger make you a free psychiatric resource for a condition he doesn't actually want to resolve. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/20 03:47 AM |
| 3 | What is dating like for 30 years old (or older) women?Easy. You don't waste time. You don't stress over low-value relationships. You don't make excuses for other peoples' bad behaviors. The older I get, the faster I'm able to leave situations that don't serve me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/20 10:25 AM |
| 10 | Young Americans (and others) are having less sex than ever. Newly released study shows in our hyper sexualized culture - real life sex isn’t. No mention of the obvious: the ubiquitousness of porn that creates legions of screen-sexuals & addicts not hardwired for irl sex.I don't see a problem with that. Men would rather play video games and live like characters in a Judd Apatow movie anyway. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/20 10:10 AM |
| 13 | Is there a significant difference between a Pickmeisha and a Cool Girl?I'm not sure. I tend not to theorize about other women. I can tell you, from personal experience, that the times I came across as the "coolest" were some of the loneliest times in my life. And that, as social animals, if we've felt lonely for long enough, we'll dismantle so much of our lives for anyone or anything that can come along and make that feeling stop. Thankfully, I found therapy before I found another average dude. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/20 05:46 AM |
| 2 | Hey Ladies, just a reminder to not post personal pics to your FDS username. The Scrotes are extra mad and are sending around “compilation” pictures of FDS members. 🙄Attempting to publicly shame beautiful women for having an opinion they disagree with, stalking some people they claim to be disgusted by, taking some internet shit too far and feeling the need to carry it offline... Yeah, sounds like some sad, pathetic, loser man shit to me. I'd love to see a pic of whoever made this. We got any sad, pathetic, loser women on FDS willing to go to the effort to find a pic of this disgusting trash excuse for a human being who made this? No? Didn't think so. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/20 04:58 AM |
| 5 | What to do when your boyfriend of 4+ years says he thinks he can "do better"?My advice is that if he just showed you who he is and you should believe him. He's the kind of person who doesn't think about your feelings before he opens his mouth. Which is the stop right before says-mean-shit-when-we-fight on the Relationship That Will Leave You Broken bus tour. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/20 04:02 AM |
| 43 | Is there a significant difference between a Pickmeisha and a Cool Girl?Cool Girl doesn't necessarily want the guy. The guys chase her in the hopes they might get a chance. Pickme chases the guy, by which I mean, she's free to meet up with him whenever he calls, she does mental gymnastics to come up with excuses for why it's ok that he treats her like nothing, etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/20 03:19 AM |
| 54 | #Fact...the importance of letting go. Loving someone doesn't mean that you have to be in a relationship with them. Or save them. Or wait for them. Or stop acting with love and kindness towards yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/20 10:50 AM |
| 6 | 22, low self esteem IN THERAPYI don't approach a man I like for the following reasons: People value the things they work for. A man who doesn't have to work to get you knows he's not gonna have to work to keep you. Hellooooo, doormat! The guy I like isn't the only guy there. Other guys are watching how I behave. I don't want to be that girl whose time gets wasted because guys think I'm an easy lay. My personal type is a take-charge type. I like when a man knows what he wants and goes after it. Any guy that doesn't approach m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/20 01:42 AM |
| 130 | NEVER date a male who used prostitutes at ANY pointI love when guys act like because we don't want them between our legs that means we consider them subhuman or some shit. I didn't realize I was supposed to want to sleep with every half-way decent human male. Shows you how low they set the fuckability bar. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/20 12:56 PM |
| 4 | Ladies, level up and go to therapy....Therapy changed my life. Showed me how hard I was being on myself. Now everyone asks why I'm not as "nice" as I used to be. Because I'm done being harder on myself than I was on the rest of the world, bitches! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/20 12:32 PM |
| -5 | Amal ClooneyI'm team Pinkett-Smith. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/20 12:26 PM |
| 5 | If he cannot take care of himself he cannot take care of youI really want to go for drinks with that lady who advocated getting a cat and leaning in. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/20 09:10 AM |
| 5 | Should you ever forgive? If so, how do you forgive without lowering your standardsWhen someone shows you who they are, believe them. People act like forgiveness is about giving the other person a second chance. No. It's about price signaling. A duck is gonna quack. The forgiveness negotiations are about what you're willing to accept as payment when the duck quacks. So, if you have your heart set on forgiving, for the love of god, set your price higher than a deep, heartfelt conversation. Because that man is going to try to negotiate it down the next time he does it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/20 08:00 AM |
| 6 | I feel like I need to detox anytime I scroll through r/dating_adviceI honestly didn't need to read past "boyfriend, of 7 years" to know this was gonna be some human trash type shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/20 07:54 AM |
| 8 | Why do men think having negative bios will attract women? Doesn’t seem logical to me 🤔I think it’s a reference to a book. A great book, btw, that had me living that FDS life before FDS was an official thing. It’s called “He’s Just Not That Into You”. The basic theme of the book being that women should stop making excuses or trying to investigate the myriad possible reasons that the man in your life isn’t treating you like a goddess. He’s just not that into you. A man who is into you will make an effort. Stop wasting your time on someone who’s just waiting for something better to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/20 11:48 AM |
| 161 | Pretty girls get treated better ?Having been on both sides of the fence, I can tell you what the difference is. When you know you’re pretty, you know another man is around the corner so you don’t feel the need to tolerate shit from losers. The aura of desperation falls away from you. You gotta kiss a lot of frogs to get to your Prince. Pretty girls kiss the frog once. We don’t keep kissing the same frog hoping that one day he’ll become the Prince. And we don’t settle for the frog, thinking it’s better than being alone. So much … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/20 11:36 AM |
| 6 | [Ultimate Pickmeisha] Would it be insane to hire someone to give my boyfriend blowjobs because I can't do it?I hate that people are responding to that like it's a reasonable thing to ask. The answers all the way down should be "YES!" Yes, it's insane to hire someone to do this. Yes, it's insane to be in a relationship with someone whose needs don't align with what you're able and/or willing to do. Yes, it's insane for people to go to these kinds of lengths to stay together when the reality of the situation is you are not making each other happy. Are we that desperate for a man, ladies? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/20 07:21 AM |
| 71 | Rolanda Hollis proposes bill requiring men have vasectomies at age 50. “Year after year the majority party continues to introduce new legislation that tries to dictate a woman's body and her reproductive rights. We should view this as the same outrageous overstep in authority," she said.50? Nah, sis! 16! If men care so much about these unborn "babies", they should prevent the situation in the first place. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/20 07:04 AM |
| 63 | End Result of Pick Me Behavior: Paulina Porizkova got with Ric Ocasek when she was an 18 year old supermodel and he was 40 and married; 30 years of marriage later he cuts her out of his will and leaves her with nothingThis is what happens when you're there for a man who is not your husband or blood relative. They're in the process of divorce, which is basically them both admitting that they are no longer partners. But she was still doing partner shit for him. Surprise, surprise. Women need to stop acting like men are capable of the same kindness and reciprocity that we are -- they are not. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/20 05:16 AM |
| 23 | Thank god I found this sub. No more of this.I know! If I were gay, I'd be knee-deep in pussy. These guys get so socialized to think so single-mindedly about themselves and what they want that they have like zero ability to put themselves in someone else's shoes for like 5 minutes. Some of the stuff I hear these guys say just make me think I could make a lot of money if I taught a fucking class for men on how to think about someone other than themselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/20 05:06 AM |
| 17 | Woman writes a song using her boyfriend's cheating textsSurprise, surprise. He's an artist. Those guys are HVW kryptonite. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/20 05:01 AM |
| 23 | FDS SHOUTOUT IN THE ATLANTIC!Last year, researchers at Ohio State University examined the link between loneliness and compulsive use of dating apps—interviewing college students who spent above-average time swiping—and found a terrible feedback loop: The lonelier you are, the more doggedly you will seek out a partner, and the more negative outcomes you’re likely to be faced with, and the more alienated from other people you will feel. This happens to men and women in the same way. People look at me like I'm crazy when I say… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/20 04:56 AM |
| 44 | What’s the best/highest effort first date you’ve ever been on?Yeah. Honestly, I could write a commercial for the man. One night, coming back from yet another amazing date he planned, my feet hurt from the ridiculous shoes I was wearing and he called a cab and when it got to my place, he picked me up and carried me to my house so I wouldn't have to touch the ground with my bare feet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/02/20 01:11 PM |
| 57 | What’s the best/highest effort first date you’ve ever been on?Lol, no. I wasn't ready for someone who was serious about me. I had just hottened up after growing up "ugly" and was making up for lost time. And I was going through my bad-boy phase. Of the guys I dated, he's the only one I feel bad about. He deserved someone who was ready to be loved. I hope he found a super-ultra HVW. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/02/20 11:28 AM |
| 10 | Narcissistic much? Or is it something else?Sounds like a real vapid, shallow dummy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/02/20 04:33 AM |
| 139 | What’s the best/highest effort first date you’ve ever been on?Picnic. As in, he planned, prepared/purchased and brought appetizers, main course, desserts (YES, MULTIPLE DESSERTS!), picked 2 wines he thought I would like based on a conversation we had in the past -- because he wasn't sure if I preferred red or white. He brought this big blanket and didn't space on utensils and napkins. And he brought nonalcoholic beverages as well. Like basically, he planned something properly as opposed to just showing up and winging it or paying someone else to do all the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/02/20 04:20 AM |
| 1 | He cheats on her. But the problem is HER insecurity.It's still working for me. Try this: https://www.ceddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/f4bpk5/previous_cheater_wants_to_hang_out_with_girl/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/20 12:51 AM |
| 18 | 8 years after her husband's passing, she still receives flowers and notes for Valentine's dayI saw this article and all I could think of is how bad this dead guy is making many of my friends' living spouses look. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/20 12:35 AM |
| 12 | What do we REALLY desire?As someone with extensive knowledge about a country that doesn't normalize the use of BC where sex outside of marriage is unacceptable, let me tell you, sex is not any more romantic. There is no interest in female pleasure. Foreplay is not considered part of sex. Oral sex only goes one way. It's just a lot of beautiful, educated women whose value is determined by their virginity, working full time jobs and then going home to average guys who pump a lot of babies into them and then disappear to t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/20 12:30 AM |
| 32 | He cheats on her. But the problem is HER insecurity.This is normal for Reddit. She wants advice because she thinks the problem is her. But FDS is the toxic part of Reddit that encourages people to write articles because we tell other women how our actions encourage men to continuously disrespect us. Not this endless series of male apologists. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/20 05:01 PM |
| 2 | We don’t endorse lowering standards to attract men? The horror.I think the idea that FDS is all sexual conservatives is bullshit. I don't agree with some of the official stated positions on FDS but, unlike men, women are used to existing in spaces that do not align 100% with all of our beliefs and opinions. This is not the place for me to come and argue my thoughts on porn or dissect the finer points of sexual liberation vs sexual exploitation and I suspect there are quite a few women here in the exact same position as me. I would venture so far as to guess… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/20 03:09 PM |
| 12 | Jobs in which you encounter the most LVM...I'm still waiting to see all these supposedly hot firefighters. Those calendars are extremely misleading. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/20 01:25 PM |
| 59 | IMPORTANT: Rich Famous Men DO NOT equal HVM. His integrity and character make him a High Value. This distinction is critical.It bothers me how many women are going to read that last line about being thrown away after having him absorb anything worthwhile that was left of her and know exactly what she's talking about. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/20 12:32 PM |
| 4 | Why I'm not dating broke guys or guys who don't want to pay for dates.One thing I have noticed is that, when I surprise someone our age with that culture of "inviting someone means inviting them to the event, not the bill", women are always trying to invite me out to specific events to pay it back. We hate the idea of owing someone something. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/20 09:34 PM |
| 9 | Why I'm not dating broke guys or guys who don't want to pay for dates.I'm a millennial who grew up watching my parents basically wrestle the bills aways from their friends. And it's not like either of them were rich. They just knew better than to invite someone to something they couldn't afford to pay for. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/20 08:45 PM |
| 3 | Is it really “MGTOW” if you lurk in a female only forum to send unsolicited messages to women you don’t know? Hmmm... you’re not really going your own way are you?I don't even want the dinner! Dinner dates are low effort for me. Keep your meals, boys. I would rather eat ramen alone in the dark in my underwear. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/20 08:34 PM |
| 73 | Why I'm not dating broke guys or guys who don't want to pay for dates.I don't pay for dates because I don't ask men out on dates. However, when I invite friends out, I pay. If there's an event I invite you to, I'm not going to ask you for money for the ticket. If I ask you to dinner, you're not going to look at the bill. This is just basic manners. Anything less, at my age and income level, feels trashy. My idea of reciprocity is NOT that we split the bill. It's that one of us is not the only person planning these kinds of outings. If I'm the only one inviting the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/20 10:06 AM |
| 86 | Is it really “MGTOW” if you lurk in a female only forum to send unsolicited messages to women you don’t know? Hmmm... you’re not really going your own way are you?What I don't do: Lurk men's forums getting myself worked up because a group of men whose personalities I'm not attracted to in the first place have no interest in me. These guys wish they had something worth being used for. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/20 08:57 AM |
| 24 | LVM keep showing me who they areBlock them? This shit is a success to me! I obviously got someone's number if they felt the need to argue something so inane. I like the reminder of what I'm avoiding every time I don't let some average dude mount me just because he's got a set of dimples and a faded, poorly drawn tattoo on his huge, rippling bicep. (Yes, I have a type, lol.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/20 08:26 AM |
| 13 | Parents and their gender favourismAmerican here. And one thing that didn't hit me until I was older was the racial aspect. It's not until I was older that I started hearing my friends talk about wanting girls. When I was younger, all my friends were black and all we could think of is the amount of time and struggle spent dealing with hair. We, and our mothers, considered boys a blessing -- shave that head and be done with it. As I got older and started making more white friends, I noticed there were a ton of women out there want… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/20 04:15 AM |
| 8 | Ladies, tell me if I did wrong.I don't think there's anything wrong with admitting that you're not equipped to maintain a relationship with someone with a mental condition. I think it's unfair to expect people to be willing to have the knowledge or resources to deal with my issues in addition to whatever issues they may have themselves. As a matter of fact, I think asking about mental conditions is a great idea and I plan to start doing it myself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/20 03:20 AM |
| 39 | Be Like Beyonce and demand compensation for your reproductive laborIt's not like he didn't spend years telling her. What was Song Cry if not a warning? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/20 02:26 AM |
| 44 | Be Like Beyonce and demand compensation for your reproductive laborThis is nothing compared to the money she gives up every year she spends knocked up and unable to work. This is what happens when a Jada doesn't wait for her Will. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/20 02:25 AM |
| 14 | Girl who desperately needs a lecture not looking to be lectured.This sounds like the story of two damaged people sticking together because each justifies the others' pathology. Like a two-man jigsaw puzzle of dysfunction. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/20 04:01 PM |
| 8 | Why do exes offer us friendship?I can tell you why the psychos do this! You have something he wants/might want in the future. Maybe you're comfortable financially and he wants to keep you around in case he needs to borrow money, for example. Maybe you have a large friend group and he wants to stay getting invites to parties and events. He's going to use you to help him get his next girl. Let's say you guys grab drinks at a local bar. He's going to use that time to pick up girls because the fact that he's there with a woman is … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/20 06:43 AM |
| 3 | FDS made it to Black People Twitter... Responses salty as usual!I know. r/AreTheStraightsOK is some of the best shit out there. Like, no, we are not OK! It's a warzone out here! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/20 06:19 AM |
| 56 | Can We Talk About Lesbian Pickmeishas who are always outraged on behalf of men and have “advice” for straight women that’s always about settling for less? They are NOT your friends.Right? My gay friends, black, white Middle Eastern, whatev have pretty much always been the first to tell me to ditch guys. My lesbian friends are lowkey telling me to stop wasting my time with men altogether, let alone preaching tolerance. They know exactly what the deal is because they best friend these dudes and hear the way they talk about women. Lesbians have generally been looking out for women, not defending these bum ass dudes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/20 06:02 AM |
| 21 | Man (29) laments that his coworker (40F) won’t give him a chance because he is 11 years younger than her, is looking for advice on how to get her to give him a chance.Someone needs to tell him that she's just not that into him. I used to come up with all kinds of reasons to avoid saying "I don't want you" because I didn't want to hurt men's fragile little feelings. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/20 05:51 AM |
| 20 | Sexual market place nonsenseBasic econ is bs as a description of sex and relationships. Behavioral econ describes sexual transactions more accurately and, so far, seems to actually support a lot of the tenets of FDS. Like, for example, the reason you don't do things JUST to make men happy (it reduces your perceived value) or the reason you shouldn't waste your time on guys who "only have female friends" (choice overload). Anyone using basic econ to describe something as obviously irrational as sex doesn't know much about e… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/20 09:53 AM |
| 71 | WhyyyyyyyLol, she's talking about mothers having sex with their sons like that shit is #lifegoals. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/20 09:35 AM |
| 4 | How to handle finances when you make 3x the amount that he does?I'm actually not one of the ones who's super into the money. All the fun things I listed were cheap, many were even free. I think it's ok to sometimes treat a man. But when those treats are a form of subsidizing a lifestyle he can't afford, I believe that's something that should wait until the two people are married. I wouldn't share my lifestyle with someone who's not sharing my life. This guy is not your husband. Until he is, his ability to pay for his own recreation is not something you shoul… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/20 12:18 AM |
| 6 | Advice: cohabitating, two year sunset if not engagedOMG, this. It's not like guys don't know that marriage is important to a lot of women. Bringing the subject up again just seems like begging. "Please don't forget this important priority I've already told you about repeatedly." And then, there's always the possibility that he doesn't want to marry her at all and he's letting the clock run out in the hopes that she leaves and he won't have to go to the effort of initiating a break up. It seems like the only viable option is to start living out wh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/20 04:06 PM |
| 3 | I’m Worth MoreAnd the coup de grace: By being so unreliable and unappreciative of the unpaid work women do, men forced us to become hyper-focused on being financially self-sufficient. Not only do we not need men, in many cases we'd actually be financially better off without them. Their value is basically just dick at this point and it's not like they're going to any effort to make sure it's good. This guy isn't just worth less. He's NVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/20 03:00 PM |
| 5 | How to handle finances when you make 3x the amount that he does?I think you need to consider two things: First, him not being able to afford a particular fun activity doesn't mean YOU can't go do this fun thing. If you're avoiding doing things you want to do because he can't afford it, you're making your world too much about him. There is no one person who is going to meet all your social needs. You should be reaching out to the other people in your network for these. This is why we have friends, mentors, family, even coworkers. I have gone to countless coup… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/20 01:44 PM |
| 15 | Is mariage a must in the long run?For me, yes. I don't want kids but I'm not going to share resources or make life plans with someone who isn't family. Marriage is a risk. If you can't put pen to paper and take that risk with me, we're wasting each others' time. Reddit is full of posts about women picking up and moving for their boyfriends/fiances, etc, whereupon the man meets some next woman and she's stuck there with no job, no social network for support, and no legal recourse to get her investment back. That's not going to be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/20 04:09 PM |
| 6 | Dudes always say “Text me when you get home” at the end of a date. I NEVER do it. If you’re worried about my safety, you can follow up later to see if I’m still alive. He’s not being “sweet & caring”, it’s just a lazy way for a “good guy” to score brownie points. Thoughts??? 🤔The only people I've ever heard this from are relatives and female friends. I think if a man is really concerned about whether or not I make it home, he would offer to take me home. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/20 03:05 PM |
| 14 | Ladies, it's not looking good out hereI would rather eat Ramen alone in the dark in my underwear than subject myself to someone so utterly uninteresting for an expensive meal. Time is the most valuable thing I have. I don't want to spend it on something I don't enjoy or get some long-term benefit from. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/20 04:30 AM |
| 3 | Late bloomer strugglesYou're right. Men have been granted the luxury of being coddled for millennia. The ones who hover around me can learn to deal with the truth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/20 01:28 AM |
| 1 | Late bloomer strugglesI don't have low self-esteem. I'm self-aware enough to know my strengths and opportunities for improvement. I don't seek out men to befriend because, in my experience, men make terrible friends. I consider myself as being in the process of purging my life of male friends. I have brothers, uncles, cousins and gay friends if I want a man's insight on anything. The vast majority of my friends are women. I put zero effort, beyond basic human kindness towards my coworkers, into maintaining any form o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/20 01:04 AM |
| 19 | call me crazy but, i hate it when redditors say "Long Term Relationship"I think you're right. LTR seems like code for "girlfrend I'm not gonna marry." The amount of time you have to be with someone exclusively in order to call it an LTR is long enough that he knows he doesn't want to marry you but is just keeping you around until he meets someone he does see himself marrying. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/20 10:36 AM |
| 8 | Ladies, what information about ourselves should we keep private?The question "Why are you still single?" seems so innocent. But it's a trap. Interrupt the conversation with something totally irrelevant (to use the restroom, for example) and change the subject. Someone who knows you won't ask. Only strangers. Nervous ones ask just to make conversation. They don't care if you answer or not. Manipulative guys ask to get you to psychoanalyze yourself out loud in front of them. Either way, I don't answer it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/20 04:14 PM |
| 14 | I find it really disappointing that this sub is so hated on RedditIt's hypocrisy or willful ignorance to have a problem with this sub, as though there aren't countless threads spread across multiple "noncontroversial" subs that are basically just guys looking to assuage their guilt for breaking up with the women who supported them through challenging times, because they happened to gain a few pounds or had kids with him and (surprise, surprise) "stopped being fun" because she's basically dealing with the kid all alone while he spends all his free time occupied… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/20 01:43 PM |
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