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Damaged Goodshouseoftolstoy/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen15/07/21 02:13 AM
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Single Mom Tearshouseoftolstoy/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen25/02/20 03:42 AM
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Pushing Muh Agenda!houseoftolstoy/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen12/01/19 02:36 PM
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Dual-Mating Strategyhouseoftolstoy/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen19/09/18 11:28 AM
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Entitlement Princesshouseoftolstoy/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen11/10/22 01:41 AM
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Cock Carousel Riderhouseoftolstoy/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen12/11/19 03:04 AM
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Crossposting this one at the request of polishknight.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen27/11/24 05:17 AM
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Please have a look at Rule 1 here. Thanks.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen09/03/23 09:40 PM
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No direct links to other subs, please (rule 7).
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen05/03/23 01:27 PM
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Like all forms of credentialism, graduate degrees also are becoming something of a requirement for many fields just to get to entry level work (e.g. psychology). And yes, they do not mean they are difficult or truly rigorous. But they certainly do make it so that colleges and universities get more money, as well as making the people who earn them get false assurance in their intelligence. I have said before and will say again, if you cannot determine someone's intelligence without asking about i…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen08/02/23 04:43 AM
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Often, yes. Whether or not these women are guilty of doing the same thing in their 20s, they do not like having the competition of younger women dating the men that they think should be theirs. It makes it worse if they are hypocrites. Regardless, if a woman wants to be dating/married to a man close to her age in her 30s, she should be prioritizing the men who are in their 20s when she is in her 20s. Men would much rather have a woman cheering him on during the race rather than only congratulate…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/01/23 08:33 PM
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Rule 3.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen11/11/22 02:25 AM
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Only because of the rule we have about linking to other subreddits (rule 7), I have to remove this for the time being. If you take out the direct links, I am happy to reapprove. Just addressing liability things.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen18/09/22 08:38 PM
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The solution involves actually making things better for men, which will as a result seemingly take away many privileges women have (gender quotas for certain fields of work and study, preferential treatment in family court, gender specific grants for college and starting up businesses) and repealing certain laws that are clearly biased against men. But because they are not politically acceptable, thus never implemented. So men will not get the better deal they need to have motivation to check ba…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen14/09/22 02:39 AM
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It's all good. Just making sure we prevent any issues.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen01/09/22 01:45 PM
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I have to keep this removed due to the direct link to another sub. I don't think you are intending on doing anything wrong, but we just want to mitigate any accusations of brigading. If you remove the link, I am happy to approve it.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen31/08/22 03:52 PM
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If you are looking to "correct" the title, you should know it was faithfully transcribed from the source material. Hence the use of the word "Preganet" as well.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen30/08/22 02:57 AM
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A couple of things /u/Imaginary-Depth3771. First, we only allow posts to originate from our alt forum. That will be where you would want to post content first, then you can post it here with a link. Second, this post really does not fit our theme, as it does not show a woman who is struggling to find commitment as a result of her poor choices. She is similar to many women who are examples here who have a past, but she does not demonstrate the rule 5 criteria we want to see. Last, any posts that …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen09/08/22 04:20 AM
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Have to remove this comment due to direct links to other subs. Nothing against your comment, just liability reasons. If you remove the direct links, I will be fine reapproving it.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen01/08/22 04:34 AM
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I don't think you are looking to go against Rule 3 (saying it is fake), so I will give it my approval. Just be aware of this though.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen21/07/22 06:35 PM
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It is a lot easier to pick who is going to win the race after the race has already concluded. Though it is not exactly impossible to discern if a man has real potential to succeed. But often, such men are "boring" to these women, and they take for granted that such men are in fact worth more than the fleeting thrills they would get from finding random guys on Tinder.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/07/22 03:37 AM
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My search results do not bring up the sub here, though I often do not find what I want with the search results regardless, even without political bias changing the results. Said bias does make things worse. I also prefer quality over quantity. For example, when I would write forum posts on WATGMA, I would expect to get a lot less comments than I would get if I were to make a post here. That is built into my expectations, so I have no issue with that. I have those same expectations on the alt for…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen29/05/22 08:13 PM
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This interview serves as a great example of the ways that many women fail to give men what they truly want. Many women either do not know or do not care to find out what men really want from women in a relationship. This woman is clueless about what the men whom she wants want in return. In short, they do not want a woman like her. If you are not one the type of man she describes as her ideal, you can still do the same thought experiment Kevin Samuels laid out to her. What kind of women can a ma…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen17/05/22 03:57 PM
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We'll just create another subreddit without idiot mods. I welcome you or anyone else to try. See if you can prove us wrong. Consider all the other subs that have been banned and ask yourself, what will be different this time?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/05/22 03:43 AM
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Rule 4. We cannot allow for any accusations of brigading. This should have been caught earlier, but I am catching it now.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen01/05/22 07:04 PM
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Rule 3. If you can prove it is fake, feel free to message the mods. This story is not something impossible, as many men have found out that they were not the biological fathers of the children they thought were their own. It is not out of the realms of possibility for a woman to come to these conclusions.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen23/04/22 08:42 PM
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As a guy who is also shorter than average but also dealt with internet dating, I have no idea exactly how many women filtered me out based on height alone, but I am sure there were many of them. I do wonder what would have happened if I did lie about my height. My guess is that I would get a lot more initial interest, though it would predictably fizzle out the moment they found out that my claimed height and actual height did not match. Probably better that I did not do that, since it would have…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen13/04/22 03:10 PM
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Could go either way. You can make yourself age more gracefully with good health habits, or you can make it quite rough with not only bad health decisions, but also alcohol and drugs. That said, lying about your age online is by no means rare.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen12/04/22 02:30 AM
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MGTOW is just a label. Indeed. Prior to any conception of the term, we have had bachelors exist for many, many years. Probably before we were writing down our history. For a great number of reasons, there are men who opt out of the idea of marriage. Though I would wager with many men today the reasons are far more likely to be issues such as feminism than for most other reasons. Men are not suddenly going to start wanting to get married just because one term is stigmatized.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen12/04/22 02:18 AM
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This may be a bit fringe, as the commitment seeking part is a little vague. But I would argue that because it is the weekend and that she is the definition of needing and ultimately seeking a bailout, I approve it. With additional statements made in response, "fringe" was an unfair classification. She is offering a crap deal that is worse than a regular commitment. Just a "chance" at a commitment. Which is still her looking for a commitment, but providing no guarantees from her. Yeah this is wor…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen10/04/22 12:50 AM
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Do remember that we have forums.red, our alt site. At least you should know where it is.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/04/22 03:37 AM
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Wow, I forgot to add a word. Thanks!
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen01/04/22 02:17 PM
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Gentlemen, this is a perfect example of a woman who did not realize that her decision to pursue a doctorate may very well come at the cost of the very relationship she is currently seeking. Like many women, she was told that she could "have it all." Well, one part of her "all" just so happened to include getting a doctorate, which takes many years of your life to complete. For women, these years just so happen to be the ones where they have the greatest capability of having children. This woman …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen01/04/22 04:06 AM
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Rule 7, no links to other subs. I don't think you mean anything bad, but we would rather not give ammo for accusations of brigading.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen01/04/22 12:58 AM
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There is also adoption for those (like myself) who do not support abortion. Babies are almost always adopted right away, as most couples prefer infants to adopt. Just addressing the argument that babies will somehow be left unadopted. It is the older children who are waiting a long time, sadly.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen30/03/22 12:05 AM
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Another case of a woman who wants to have things both ways. Sure, while this is not concrete evidence that she is sleeping around and she can claim that she is not selling sex, she is provably using her sexuality to make money. We can debate all we want whether or not showing pictures of yourself in little to no clothing is prostitution, but for many men that is functionally the same thing. This factor alone disqualifies her in the eyes of many men from being considered for marriage. Would you w…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen25/03/22 08:32 PM
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Rule 1.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen25/03/22 04:15 PM
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So many women describe themselves as "hopeless romatics." It is becoming endemic just like "my kids are my world." Whether or not they are just parroting something they thought sounded good or somehow have come to such a conclusion, I always have to wonder how they got to the point they are at. I often think that it comes down to having way too narrow and unrealistic standards in what they think a relationship should be when they reach their epiphany phase while spending their 20s "having their …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen25/03/22 01:38 AM
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Why are the guys at parties and bars with lots of drugs and alcohol only interested in sex? Because the kind of guys who would be interested in relationships don't do those things or at least not often. A very good point. Who you surround yourself with greatly affects whom you socialize with. It is very unlikely that you will find someone worth marrying at a bar. Not impossible, just like it is not impossible to find gold in a garbage dump. You are still going to see mostly garbage and have very…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen24/03/22 04:01 AM
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You are quite right. Happened to me once before, and I frankly should have seen it coming.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen22/03/22 02:12 AM
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Rule 3.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen22/03/22 02:08 AM
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Good point. Her intentions show that she has checked out of the marriage. Her success rate may not be as high as if she were at a healthy weight, but the fact that she is attempting it in the first place tells us much about her. Not only that, but hypergamy still makes her want more, even if she should be grateful for what she has.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen20/03/22 02:07 AM
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Trying to control a woman's sexuality is another form of policing her freedom. It is up to each woman to decide who she does or does not want to sleep with, and when a man tries to judge her, it only speaks to that man's character (FYI, you look like a dick). If a man is going to commit to a woman (especially with marriage), you are damn right he will be "controlling her sexuality" as well as "policing her freedom!" Yes, other men are not going to have a say in this, but from what I am seeing wi…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen17/03/22 04:15 AM
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The thing with "slut shaming" men is that it really does not happen. Women could very well choose to start shaming men who sleep around a lot, but they do not want to do so. With the exception of women who would reject a man who slept around for moral reasons, most women do not see a man having a high partner count as undesirable. Rather, he is able to sleep with so many women because he is desirable. The real problem is that women do not like it when they get penalized for "sleeping around like…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen17/03/22 04:00 AM
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You would think that women would want men who are disinterested in them to filter themselves out because of their high partner count, but not this woman. She merely does not like the consequences of her past behavior meeting up with her now that she wants to "get serious," so she gets mad at the type of man she wants to have for a commitment because he would rather choose someone else. Given trends with women and their requirements, such men have options, and would prefer a woman who does not ha…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen17/03/22 03:45 AM
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Sounds like she lives in an expensive area, given her house sale price. 230k per year is good money still, but it still important to consider cost of living.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen14/03/22 04:59 AM
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37F I'm single atm but eventually do want kids "I have my final project that us worth half my grade due next week and I am waiting for just the right idea to use for the project. Am I on the right track to get an A for my class?" Not necessarily the best comparison, but I hope my point is made. She really does not have time on her hands to be using the words "eventually" with having children. She will be lucky to have 1 child at this rate, as she is still at square 1 where if being a mother was …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen14/03/22 04:57 AM
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Now this is quite the find! In spite of not using the imperial units that Americans use, she still wants to use the exact same cutoff that so many American women use for height. 182 is not just some arbitrary number, it indeed converts to almost exactly 72 inches (there are some tenths to account for but you get the idea). It is not some accident that she chose that number, she still has that arbitrary standard for a man to be 6 feet in spite of the fact that the scale not being used in her coun…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen12/03/22 08:04 PM
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Being a doctor is not just any job. It is one that asks a lot from you. Time and money spent in the years studying and residency before you can be an actual doctor. And after that many long hours in a week that can be stressful and difficult. For a man to become a doctor, this does not penalize him in the dating world because as a doctor, he brings home plenty of money and has the status to attract many different women. For a woman to be a doctor, she has to spend her prime fertility years in sc…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen11/03/22 03:47 AM
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Projection sure is the darnest thing, isn't it? She became a doctor and business owner, and regardless of her motivations for doing so, she thinks that because she has done what she finds attractive in a man, it must make her attractive to men, correct? It seems to be lost on many of these women that relationships are not about finding your equivalent, but your complement. A man who has the same status as she has is sought after many different women, including a woman like her. The thing is, he …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen11/03/22 03:37 AM
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It is a lot easier to bargain for the role of being a housewife if you are not already a mother to the children of another man/other men. With the most optimal scenario where the woman is a housewife, her end of the deal she would be providing for the man is to take care of the home and his children. I emphasize his children here not to say that they are not her children equally, but rather to show how the deal this woman provides is by no means optimal for any potential man. She would be asking…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen11/03/22 03:26 AM
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Curly Howard: You can't fire him! Moe Howard: Why? Curly Howard: He quit! You remembered what I said about watching that. For clarification, my dad showed me a lot of those growing up. We still like watching them when I am able to visit him. That is why I know that Three Stooges so well.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen11/03/22 03:12 AM
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That is also an acceptable alternative. My guess is that this picture was deliberate and made sense to her in her own bizarre logic.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen10/03/22 04:45 AM
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it is bad form to have anyone else featured on a dating picture Strongly agree, though with the exception of when there is a clear and plausible explanation for the inclusion of someone else. So if this was her brother, then it should be stated by her profile very explicitly. Even if that is the explanation here (I doubt it though), it is still not a good idea. I will not believe for a moment she could not find a different picture to use instead.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen10/03/22 02:22 AM
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I am not Italian nor have I ever been to Italy. But I highly doubt that there are no Italian men that would indeed fit the criteria of being commitment-minded. Stories like these make me wish I could see things first hand and see what is going on, as reality often does not match the story we are told. As always, we must ask the question of what she was doing for over a decade when she had the greatest opportunity to find the quality man she claims to want now. We can often observe that such wome…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen08/03/22 03:32 PM
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Nice find, OP. There may appear to be a contradiction on the surface of this post (which is indeed correct), but in her mind she is not asking for much. She sees being granted with all sorts of benefits that costs a good amount of money as something that should be given to her without her having to give much back. She does not see traveling on cruises as being "that much," which shows that she will not be appreciative of any man unfortunate enough to date her to moment the cruise is done. She wi…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen08/03/22 03:59 AM
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What do we have here? No man to blame when things go south when it comes to lesbian relationships? Yes, indeed, women have always contributed to issues within a relationship (the degree of blame can vary), but when both in the relationship are women? Well, it just shows that much of what is said about men being the problem is at best exaggerated or an outright lie. This is not to say that men are never causing problems in relationships, but rather that it is unfair that they get all the blame wh…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/03/22 08:29 PM
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When words/terms/labels are misused, they become unreliable for conveying information accurately. With the word "curvy," most men assume that a woman is using that term when she is fat. Perhaps we could say the general rule is that when a word is misused, the assumption will be the worst context possible. Try this out with other terms and see if that applies.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen26/02/22 02:17 AM
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Even if you do not have the desire or initiative to create an account on the other forum, at least have the site location saved in some way. We never know what our future holds. My actual comment can be found there.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen23/02/22 05:45 PM
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Women like this either do not really know what men want or care about what men want. I say this because she spent her 20s (her prime years) sleeping around while she had the best chance to find a man who would marry her and give her the commitment she now claims to want. It is not as if she was ignorant of the existence of the guys who would provide this commitment, but rather that she made sure to avoid this kind of man in favor of the guys who gave her the tingles but no commitment. But now, s…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen22/02/22 05:07 AM
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My theory is that they are trying to sell themselves as being serious, which will supposedly signal to guys that they are now a "good woman" who is "worth it." They are probably not thinking about how guys see women who have slept around with many other guys is a turnoff. They are used to being prized for their existence, so they think that if they declare that they are only wanting a serious relationship, guys will still prize them even though they no longer can command the same attention that …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen22/02/22 04:58 AM
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That is only possible if he is aware of any of this. If not, he is likely to have a rough future. The question is whether or not she lets him know or if he finds out otherwise. Then and only then will he have a chance to decide. Hell, no guy wants to think that this sort of thing could happen to him. So he might not ever even consider that she might not feel all that strongly about him. At times like these I would want to be a fly on the wall and see if the relationship has any glaring issues.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen21/02/22 05:49 AM
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Thank you for your submission, /u/Maximum-Complaint-68, but this post is more about a woman behaving badly (Rule 5b) than a woman who is complaining about how she cannot find a good man. Perhaps this could qualify as a weekend post with her being a WAATGM-in-the-making, but it just is not quite the criteria for the standard post we are looking for. I think I know where you found this. Often those posts have those characteristics of women seeking conmitment, but they are more often just women tal…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen17/02/22 07:47 AM
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Your title, it needs work. It does not have to be the most clever ever, but it should not be so generic that it could apply to basically any profile. The example for what we want posted here is good though. Almost 200 pounds at that height? That's not going to look pretty. You almost never work out? You don't say!
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen17/02/22 03:37 AM
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This is exactly why women should not spend their 20s with a lackadaisical attitude if they want to be married and have children in their futures. For women who think that they can just shift gears from "having fun" and being completely thoughtless with how they approach dating to "getting serious" and finding a man who is marriage and father material, they are mistaken if they think that they can put things off until the last minute. Even if it does not take long to get married if you find the r…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen16/02/22 04:59 AM
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After spending years with the bad boys, now she thinks she is entitled to make a request for the very type of man for whom she has done nothing to prepare herself for in terms of a relationship. The man she describes (6 feet tall, earns good money, is fit, etc) is the very type of man that so many other women claim to want. And what does she have to offer other than a selfie that has tortured all the filter settings to create? Nothing. And when I say she did not prepare herself, she in fact did …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen09/02/22 06:32 PM
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Hey, it works great until it doesn't. Then you get yet another among the ranks of people asking for their student loans to be forgiven. Even worse, her daughter has to live with her mother being the primary example of what it means to be an adult. A bad example, of course, which does not set her daughter up to succeed.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/02/22 02:48 AM
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Thank you for your submission /u/asdf333aza, but this post lacks any evidence that she is looking for a commitment (Rule 5). So I will be removing this post. To further elaborate, she is merely a badly behaving woman, which does not meet the criteria for our posts (see part b of Rule 5).
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen01/02/22 04:10 PM
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Short term effort versus long term effort. It may take some effort to mess around with camera angles and filters, but the effort is soon over with and the "payoff" is immediate. Eating healthier and exercising is a long toil, and you do not see results for a long time. Along with that, many fat people fail to realize that they have to make permanent changes to their lifestyle, not just for a few months and go back to the way they did things before. This is why so many of them say "diets don't wo…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen30/01/22 04:01 PM
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The big red flag here is the close up shots that do not show even her whole torso. Many overweight women do this, which shows they are well aware that being fat is not attractive. They are just attempting to hide that in hopes that a man will look past that once they meet. Contrary to what many overweight people may claim, being fat is not just an issue for superficial reasons. It is an indicator of many issues, including but not limited to poor impulse control, health issues, physical limitatio…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen30/01/22 03:53 PM
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It really does not matter what they were, the point is that she was willing to do them with other guys but not the man she claims to love the most. All while keeping this information secret and claiming that it was none of his business while she expected him to just accept the bad deal she was giving him without any sense of transparency.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen24/01/22 04:35 AM
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I was pressured into doing these sex acts Pressured? What was the pressure exactly? That he would break up with you? He would not take you out on any nice dates? Unless this form of pressure was something that would be illegal (which does not seem to be the case as that should be brought to the police), you had ever opportunity to say no. You did not want to say no. Because whether or not you wanted to do the acts, you wanted the approval of this man enough to do those acts. And that is enough t…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen24/01/22 04:25 AM
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As callous as this woman is, it is not surprising to see a woman shirk her marital vows considering how many of them initiate divorces. This just has more sting to it, because she dishonors her own marriage by not even being willing to see it to the end with the man who still is her husband. Anecdotally, I knew of someone who was given 6 months to live, but had lived for about 5 years after that diagnosis. I was rather surprised when I was told of his death, as he never gave any indication that …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen22/01/22 09:01 PM
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That good man is far less likely to be interested in you since you recently proved that you are way too easy to get into bed and therefore not a good candidate for a long term relationship. How much does anyone want to bet she only emphasized finding a good man after she got pregnant by a different one?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen22/01/22 08:55 PM
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Now this is quite a find. I don't know how you keep it up with the titles, but you have done it again! my ex is a senior software engineer/TechLead making 600k/yr Now that is quite the pretty penny to earn! According to income percentiles, he is in the top 1% for earnings. She can say all she wants, but that fat paycheck is a large motivator for why she was ever in a relationship with him. I told him the past was the past...[he] started asking me a bunch of questions. I told him it's none of his…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen19/01/22 06:39 PM
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Now I'm scared that if I tell him, I will loose him. Yes, do let him loose! He can then move on before the inevitable happens sooner rather than later. This is exactly why young women are warned about premarital sex (or are supposed to be). Bad decisions often have lasting consequences, including the loss of opportunities from prospective long term relationships. I do have one speculation with this case though. Had she not become pregnant in her teens, she would have continued her patterns of be…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen18/01/22 06:18 AM
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Not just Bumble, but many modern "dating apps" are like that. Yes, physical attraction is important, but it is not the only criteria that should be used. Contrary to what gynocentric voices will say, women are much more picky with physical attractiveness requirements, as seen with the statistics from these very dating apps. Bumble is different in one way, making the woman initiate the conversation. From what I have heard, it does not really improve the quality of conversations.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen16/01/22 02:50 AM
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Life choices have lasting consequences. There is no going back from the fact that you are/were a prostitute. Sure, a woman like this could quit and try to turn over a new leaf, but that will be a mark on her past forever. She is in a no-win situation because she put herself there. She did not have to become a prostitute, she did so by her own free will. She is guessing correctly that this man will dump her if he finds out the truth. He most certainly has options, and he will not be choosing a wo…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen15/01/22 05:17 AM
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Rule 3 and maybe even rule 2. Either way, there is rule you are breaking.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen13/01/22 05:48 PM
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Women do not look for their equal, they look for a man who is superior to them. You can see this especially when it comes to income, as women who earn 6 figures not only demand a man who also makes 6 figures, but makes an income that is greater than hers. When it comes to height, this is no surprise either that she would make such a statement. Not that it is hard for a woman to find a man taller than her in general, as men on average are taller than women. But even with the limited scope of her …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen13/01/22 04:17 AM
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At 41, the requests for height are even more ridiculous than they already are normally. But if she wants to shrink her prospects even further, then I guess this would be the way to do it.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen13/01/22 04:12 AM
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Save for a brief period of time when the score was out of 2400 (they added a writing section to the SAT), the score would be out of 1600. 1500 out of 1600 is a great score, but as my point states even if she is telling the truth about her score, it matters very little when her real world decisions reflects a person who does not make intelligent decisions.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen13/01/22 04:09 AM
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The question of "What do you have to offer?" is answered in the worst way possible here. Silence with a lot of struggle thinking about it would be preferable to "she does not have to do anything, she's a queen!" At least attempting to think about it even if there is nothing but a blank drawn shows some consideration. For those who are curious about a Christian perspective, Proverbs 31:10-31 has a good perspective on what a wife should be. Hint: it is nothing like this woman who asks for everythi…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen11/01/22 04:42 AM
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Yes. Perhaps she thinks that it will be somehow different if she reveals that information in messages rather than in her profile. Sure, she was able to get at least this man messaging her, but that did her little good as it only made the rejection more apparent. She may have many silent rejections by men who would see that she is a single mom, or more direct ones when she reveals it in her messages. Either way, she is rejected, and there is nothing she can do to prevent the vast majority of thos…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen10/01/22 03:13 AM
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Dads While the number of men is not specified, we know it is anywhere from 2 to 7. It would not shock me if the number is closer to (or is exactly) 7 than 2. Women like this are in a no-win situation. She full well knows that having 7 children is a deal breaker for most men (especially when there are multiple fathers in the picture), and if she is ever wanting to get any relationship, this fact will come up. So when is there a good time to do so? The answer is that there really is not. But she d…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen10/01/22 03:10 AM
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Ah, the classic "why do men only want me for sex" while using a bikini photo. It does not get old. Even if we discount the fact that she is using Tinder (a hookup app known for looks being the most prominent filter), how you present yourself will strongly influence how others interact with you. Advertising your body is a sure way to get those who want quick and cheap sex. Not only that, it will also repell anyone who wants a serious relationship, as they will (correctly) figure that a woman who …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen08/01/22 03:09 AM
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Here's a funny implication with what this woman is saying: she ended each relationship with all the guys that did all the romantic unique dates, sweet gestures, and brought up the "what are we" conversation. And I am making the assumption that she broke up those relationships because if a man asks "what are we?", he wants to have and keep a serious relationship. If she is still single after passing up those kinds of men, it shows that she was not having all that serious of a mindset herself duri…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/01/22 03:57 AM
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Here's a funny implication with what this woman is saying: she ended each relationship with all the guys that did all the romantic unique dates, sweet gestures, and brought up the "what are we" conversation. And I am making the assumption that she broke up those relationships because if a man asks "what are we?", he wants to have and keep a serious relationship. If she is still single after passing up those kinds of men, it shows that she was not having all that serious of a mindset herself duri…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/01/22 03:28 AM
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Ek, why do I have to start the message? Maybe because you are on Bumble, moron. That is the distinguishing factor with that dating app and all other ones. You can choose a different dating app instead. But let me guess, given the opportunity to initiate the conversation, you are going to open up with the standard "hey". The rest of this profile, quite the dumpster fire. But that is nothing new in these parts.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen05/01/22 03:01 AM
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I can personally attest to knowing someone (more indirectly than very personally, have met her once) that has even more kids than this woman. All different fathers. Yes, these women exist. They might be extreme examples, but they certainly exist.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/01/22 02:20 AM
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Rule 3. Yes, there are women this bad, so it is not enough to assume the profile is not authentic. We welcome all evidence to the contrary in our mod mail.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/01/22 02:43 PM
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Rule 3. Yes, there are women this bad, so it is not enough to assume the profile is not authentic. We welcome all evidence to the contrary in our mod mail.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/01/22 02:43 PM
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Rule 3. Yes, there are women this bad, so it is not enough to assume the profile is not authentic. We welcome all evidence to the contrary in our mod mail.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/01/22 02:43 PM
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While I am nowhere near the left in terms of politics, I often do not consider a profile bad just because a woman mentions that she is liberal/feminist/whatever. This profile is not one of those times, as she goes further with the whole wage gap propaganda and all. She may claim she is just joking there, but I will not buy for a moment that she does not believe that. You only have an out with "joking" if you do not stand by the words you have stated as also being true. I am not stating all of th…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/01/22 05:34 AM
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You are spot on. The underlying issue of comparing men and women who are "single parents" is that many people have false assumptions of equality and interchangibility of men and women. If you assume that men and women are indeed equivalent, you might come to the conclusion of there being a double standard, like this woman does. But because men and women are not the same, the situations are far different, just as you described. At least, women who subscribe to the feminist ideology will talk abou…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen01/01/22 10:27 PM
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Even if she did not outright reject the "right guy," by continually going for this guy even though it was pretty clear he was not going to be father or long term relationship material, her continuing to go for this guy makes her unavailable to the "right guy" that might have been interested in her had she not spent her time with the guy who knocked her up. Most likely, she did reject this kind of guy up until now. She does not really want the "right guy," she needs him, because clearly the guy w…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen28/12/21 10:12 PM
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Given the prevelance of divorce, that is the attitude of many women.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen27/12/21 03:46 PM
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"this is the guy you choose to fuck." You have it right. Many times, I will see the excuse "I did not know that he was like that" before sleeping with a man. As if that is s goof excuse, as that means she is either having sex with a man far too early, well before she could properly vet his character, or she is just a bad judge of character. Even with these women knowing that they fall into these traps, they do not consider that they should not be having sex if they cannot figure out how not to g…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen20/12/21 05:27 AM
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women punish normal men for what the chads if their past have done (or what they have allowed them to get away with) Someone treated her badly ? All men are assumed to do this I have a theory about why women will do this. It allows women to take responsibility off of them in their choices of men. If all men are guilty of being as horrible as the men she selected, can she really be blamed for her choice in men? If all men are guilty, she does not have the choice of a good man if they are all bad.…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen17/12/21 04:31 PM
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Many issues here. I will focus on the tattoos and piercings part. There is a strong correlation with those who like getting numerous tattoos/find tattoos attractive and a lack of long term thinking. This woman is a good example of someone with both traits (hence why she ended up being a single mom and all). Like her still desiring tattoos in a man, I doubt she has fixed her issues with how she approaches relationships. Rather, she just uses some different words hoping that she will find a man wh…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen13/12/21 04:17 AM
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Many women do not really want the marriage, but rather the wedding. While a wedding is generally necessary to have a marriage, women who desire the wedding but not the marriage are a phenomenon of today because they have lost perspective with what it means to get married. That means a lifetime commitment. It is not surprising that the secularity is increasing with the marriage ceremony as well, as seeing marriage as a means to have a princess party rather than a start of a commitment. The commit…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen13/12/21 03:46 AM
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Not sure how many guys are "creators" on OnlyFans, but for the sake of argument, she would need to find someone who is the male equivalent of a camwhore. Not sure what that guy exactly is, but he is not likely who she is going to want. The type of guy that is okay dating a woman who shows her nude body to strangers is very unlikely to be the traditional, long term relationship minded man. She wants that type of man, but he certainly does not want her.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen11/12/21 03:40 AM
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Here we have a woman who wanted things both ways, to sell her body (indirectly but still selling it) and be a woman who could have a long term relationship and family. She found out the hard way that men who are commitment minded are not interested in a woman who shows her naked body to strangers. It did not have to be this way. Some foresight could have allowed her to think about whether or not the type of man she wants for the long term would accept this aspect of her. And if she lacked the fo…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen11/12/21 03:13 AM
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Fuck, this actually makes me angry. No need to worry about it too much. It does show one thing: any woman is capable of being unreasonable and can show no concern or shame. It matters little that she is overweight, she still has demands and requirements. A more physically attractive woman might seem different when she demands much and offers little, but that is just the outer appearance propping up an entitled woman. In the end, you still have the demands and entitlements.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen10/12/21 03:47 AM
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I can confirm having those. Not sure what they think they will accomplish. Almost amusing, if it was not sad. Especially since he was trying to convince me how bad the "rules of moderation" are, considering that I am a mod.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/12/21 02:47 AM
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maybe I was just kidding Even if that is the case, that is a disqualifying action/trait for any relationship. A man would only go along with the games women like this want men to play because they believe the reward of "winning the girl" is worth it. If he comes to the conclusion that the games are not worth playing (whether the prize is found not to be as worth it as thought or whether the conditions for playing the games become an impossible hurdle), it should not shock women for men to spend …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/12/21 03:48 PM
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While I am weary of the role reversal point, keep in mind a man who would want to divorce his wife because of weight gain would not receive sympathetic feedback. While we do not see the feedback here, she has no reservations with bringing this up and sees this as enough justification for divorce. Another point to address, she states that she does not wish to cheat, but she is just going through extra hoops of justification to make it so that she can say "I [technically] did not cheat on my husba…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen05/12/21 04:54 AM
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Not that I think there is any real virtue or restraint with the "3 date rule," but when it comes to any waiting period for sex, it is supposed to signify that sex is supposed to be special and reserved. At least, it should not be given away too easily. But this woman shows that her "rule" is just a manipulation tactic rather than a true principle. Again, 3 dates is hardly much of a principle, and she stll showed that did not matter for Chad. The only real principle that makes sense when it comes…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen01/12/21 03:01 AM
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Her church group must not be that strong of an influence if she thinks that she can be so brazen with how she speaks about casual sex. Yes, Christians do believe that no one is without sin, and that humans are fallible to committing sin. The big issue here is that she shows no shame or remorse with her sin. She should not be acting as if her hookups are not a big deal. Christians should always seek to avoid sin, not just indulge in it and just assume "I will be forgiven." God can forgive you, bu…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen30/11/21 03:35 AM
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Women who are at a minimum threshold of attractiveness can expect to be able to attract a wide variety of men (assuming she is at a healthy body weight and does not have any extremely off-putting qualities). This gives the average woman the power of choice. She can choose to give her time to whomever she wants, regardless of attraction. If she keeps encountering bad men by her own words, it is because she is choosing them. This clip says it much more succinctly than what I have said, and this wo…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen29/11/21 09:35 PM
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Often we can see a lot from what is said, even when it is trying deflect from the truth: [I] just so happened got lucky enough to end up with a dead beat baby daddy [sic] As if she was not the one who chose him in the first place. If you sleep with a man before you know him well enough, you did so too early. If you could not figure out if a man would be a good reliable man before you slept with him, you did not put in enough work there. No I am not looking for a hookup I'm too damn old for that …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen28/11/21 04:53 AM
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Well stated. Men know they are needed, but they desire to be wanted as well. They know for sure they are not wanted when she "has her fun" with guys she full well knows are not marriage material while making the very men they marry wait for as long as they think they can get away with it. If marriage is supposed to be the most significant relationship in your life, would it not make sense to give the best of yourself in marriage? Women really show that they do not lovr their husbands that much. …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen24/11/21 03:20 AM
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A combination of an increasing threshold of unrealistic expectations and a decline in her overall standings of the type of men she is able to obtain has led to these results. It's not going to get any better. She better figure out a means to compromise on her expectations or accept a life alone. It is one thing for her to talk about her disgust with men in online dating, but when it applies to in person reactions? That sounds like it is more of a her problem than a problem with the men. Very few…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen13/11/21 11:56 PM
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wanting a nice guy who will treat my kids like his Own In all fairness, there is a way to find this kind of man. There is one very important step to take with a nice guy in order to make sure that he will treat the kids as his own. That is: have the kids actually be his own. Crazy? I know! There's this thing called biology that causes men to be invested far more into a child if his genes are present in the child. Not that it will always work, but if you make sure that you have a good man who is …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen12/11/21 04:35 AM
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While not mainstream, I appreciate that it is saying that women need to take proper actions if they want to be married/marriageable. Too often these topics are avoided because "We can't offend women! That's the worst thing anyone can do!" Yes, women should marry when they are young, have reasonable standards, not get fat, not be promiscuous, actually act like they want marriage by showing that with their actions (related to marrying when young and not being promiscuous). With the last one, whene…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/11/21 03:09 AM
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Good stuff by Dalrock. Indeed, he is right to point out how those "Put a ring on it" types are scarce or even opposed to condemning frivilous and normalized divorces. If your goal of trying to get more marriages overall only focuses on shaming men into getting married while ignoring the issue of women who refuse to make themselves suitable for marriage, you are making things worse, not better. Men require proper motivation in order for them to desire marriage, and shaming and blaming men for not…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/11/21 02:55 AM
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We'd bang hot, but unstable girls and then when we were ready for marriage, settle down with a virgin. So why the ol' double standard (besides "a lock that's opened by any key is a lousy lock"? I notice that the women who are upset by this "double standard" are those that slept around and are upset that they cannot get a man who is willing to commit to them when he finds out about her past. Women that are virgins either are less concerned with a man's sexual past (so long as he is capable of pro…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/11/21 02:25 AM
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Thank you for your submission, /u/Maximum-Complaint-68, but even for the weekend, this post lacks the necessary elements we are looking for in content (namely Rule 5). While politics can be a part of a woman's unreasonableness or faults that lead her to not finding the good man she wants, her being strongly opinionated in her politics alone does not provide enough evidence that she is being too unreasonable.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/11/21 02:07 AM
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Sadly it is becoming less weird for pregnant women to be on dating apps as it is becoming far more common. Not saying it is something that should be acceptable or is not weird, but by it becoming more common it by definition becomes less weird. The trends are not getting better either.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen05/11/21 03:21 AM
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The fewer number of college educated men are "ruining" sex and dating for women? No, it is women who continue to place college degrees on a pedestal that are ruining dating for themselves. They do not have to choose college educated men. Now that college is becoming easier to graduate (but also more expensive), college serves as a poor litmus test for intelligence. So what are women to do? Perhaps they should learn how to discern intelligence without asking about college degrees. Also, they coul…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/11/21 04:14 AM
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She really has a hard time thinking things through. She mentions that other strippers have long term relationships and is envious of them. But when she is asked about the kind of men those strippers are with, she talks about how many of them are drug dealers and she could not possibly date that kind of man. Does she not understand the bigger picture with all of this? It seems as if she only thinks as far as "some strippers have long term relationships" and "I want a long term relationship" while…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/11/21 03:19 AM
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A good policy to have. Most often, women do not make for good friends to men. It might offend women to hear that their "friendship" is not of much value to men in the vast majority of cases, but too bad. It is not their fault, we are just wired differently. This goes against the gender equality agenda, and women who actually believe it will often get upset about men expressing distaste for the friend zone. "What's wrong with being friends? Is my friendship a crappy consolation prize?" Yes. Yes i…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/11/21 02:42 AM
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I am also ready to have that conversation. Like what you said, I don't think they would like my answer either. If the problem these women have occurs so often that they accumulate a high body count, then why do they continue patterns that lead to these situations? Or are men somehow always to blame here? Women used to have the protection of men, namely their male family members (especially the father). But this was considered bad because PATRIARCHY, so thanks to state incentives, women destroyed…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/11/21 02:31 AM
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Edit. After reading the other comments I now realize that the top SAT score was 2400 when she took it; not 1600 like it was when I took it. I was wondering if that was for sure the case or not, but my point stands regardless. If she indeed has a 1500/2400, that only shows that she is being deceptive with her supposed intelligence. It would just show that the proclamation or illusion of intelligence is a poor substitute for the genuine article.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/11/21 04:07 PM
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Intelligence should be demonstrated, not proclaimed. She is going to have a difficult case to make here considering her having at least one child out of wedlock. An intelligent woman would know how to choose a man that would stick around for sure, and would understand the importance of having both the father and mother in the same home when raising a child. That 1500 SAT score is not all that spectacular when considering her lack of smart decisions in her personal life. Speaking of self proclaim…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/11/21 02:20 AM
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This man does not want to just be needed, he wants to be wanted. This is a valid concern considering marriage is no longer held sacred by much of society. A woman can easily divorce a man and get great benefits from doing so, meaning that she can still get the resources she needs without having to abide by her marriage vows. Maybe he is not thinking of that prospect in particular, but he understands what it means to be used, and he certainly does not want that. That highlighted portion, wow. Tha…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen01/11/21 01:22 AM
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Even with the more suitable guy, she still has more things to say about physical traits (looks, height, tattoos) and traits that are not all that important to the foundations of a strong relationship ("he is in to me and we like the same music") than traits that have real meaning (being a Chemistry PhD is a great accomplishment). It is not that these traits are bad, but rather that it shows her relationship compass is not functioning in a way that will actually lead her towards a relatiomship be…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen29/10/21 03:49 AM
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And if she is morally against abortion, she can give up the baby for adoption. I say this not only because of my own moral stances, but also to show that there are other options out there than "I am going to become a single mom even though I really should not be raising a child under these conditions."
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen29/10/21 03:34 AM
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The best way to find a man that will accept you and your child is to first marry him, then have his child instead of some other man's. The other man in this case is barely out of the rear view mirror on the timeline. Whether this man was in a "relationship" with her and bailed or was a one night stand, it is not a good sign. This is not a woman who demonstrates good judgement, long term thinking, or respect for the future man she is asking to pick up the slack for the situation that was easily a…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen29/10/21 03:16 AM
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My take on Dennis Prager is that he is unable to understand that the rules of the game have changed, becoming worse for young men. He is not alone in this, as many in his generation grew up in a time where norms and expectations were different. I am sure if he were transformed into a young man in today's world trying to apply his own advice to succeed in dating and marriage that he would get eaten alive.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen28/10/21 03:40 AM
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I am so scared when someone lovebombs me. I am doubting she is scared for her life, but rather is just "scared" as in not sure what to do because her relationship compass is so completely broken that she has no idea how to navigate a relationship with a lens of realism. Which would explain why she only goes for the type of guy that is not interested in her while ignoring the ones that are (as pointed out in the screenshot, she is aiming too high while ignoring guys on her level). Lovebombing see…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen27/10/21 02:30 AM
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At first I was puzzled at this submission, then it hit me. She is doing the exact thing so many women do with a back burner plan: involving herself with men she knows full well she will never marry while putting no effort in finding the type of man she claims to want in her future for marriage. There is no excuse that she "has no time" to find a marriageable man, as she has time for this man here. She may not outright say it, but with her actions, she shows that the man for marriage is not the m…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen23/10/21 03:39 AM
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The reason why a man would ask "how much do you weigh" when asked how tall he is serves the purpose of making a woman confront her own superficial standards. Yes, she put it in her profile that she does not want that question. But that only shows that she is well aware of the circumstances but simply does not care. Besides, she has far less room to be picky when she is pregnant with another man's child. I do not care how tall she is, she is in a worse position by being pregnant. Unlike height, w…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen20/10/21 04:45 PM
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Many women face this fork in the road of choosing what to do in their epiphany phase. The stable guy who has many good qualities that does not give her the tingles, or the guy who gives her the tingles but no commitnent? Prior to the epiphany phase, many women opt to choose to give attention to the guys that give her the tingles while ignoring the stable guys. Whether these women are choosing to "have their fun" before deciding to choose a more stable guy later on (a bad deal for the man she mak…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen16/10/21 09:04 PM
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If she were to do that, it would mean that she would have to restrain herself and not indulge in all the casual sex she wanted to do. Making sure you are in a committed relationship first (dare I say even waiting until marriage) is just boring. That boring stuff is for when it is already too late and you have to search for a provider by necessity. But wouldn't you know it? A lot less guys are on board with committing to a woman pregnant with another man's child. Sense and reason are becoming mor…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen15/10/21 11:59 PM
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If I am reading this right, she has only started being on dating apps 3 months ago. Given that she has mentioned little else about her approach to seeking a relationship, I can only draw from this that she only started looking seriously then. At 37. That is not when you want to start looking, that is when you already should have a relationship and family established if you were ever serious about that sort of thing. What was she doing with her time before? Work should only take so much of your t…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/10/21 02:13 AM
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If I am reading this right, she has only started being on dating apps 3 months ago. Given that she has mentioned little else about her approach to seeking a relationship, I can only draw from this that she only started looking seriously then. At 37. That is not when you want to start looking, that is when you already should have a relationship and family established if you were ever serious about that sort of thing. What was she doing with her time before? Work should only take so much of your t…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/10/21 02:12 AM
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It makes perfect sense why her profile is so bare and generic. She never had to put in effort to attract men before, so she is simply continuing the pattern that worked for her before. But now she is a single mom, and she is going to find that a lot of men are going to avoid her as a result. Either she will have to put in real effort for the first time in her life, or she is going to wonder why so many men appear to have lost interest.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/10/21 01:48 AM
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I do not know what your personal situation is, but I advise you to be careful. A woman can indeed be feminine and a good woman, but you should know that many men have found out that marrying a woman from a southeast Asian country and bringing her to his country to live there has had some bad results. I emphasize the "and" in that sentence because if you expose a woman to feminist ideology, there is a real risk of her becoming just like the women you were trying to avoid. For men wanting to marry…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/10/21 02:23 AM
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You want financial support and investment in your endeavors? Take that to some venture capitalists. They will see if your "endeavors" are worth any financial support. My guess is that they will offer you 0 dollars, as you really just want a rich guy to mooch off of while you have little to nothing to offer such a man.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen24/09/21 04:57 PM
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Rule 1.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen23/09/21 04:40 AM
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Locking commenting here. It would be most appreciated to comment in the forums.red page.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen22/09/21 04:46 AM
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Where did I say anything about whether or not prostitution should be legal or illegal? I am only talking about how men being well within their rights to reject that sort of woman for relationships, and nothing else. Regardless of legality, those women are poor prospects for commitment. As for legality, I will not oppose measures to make it legal, but I have little desire to put any effort to make that happen. Maybe that is not good enough for the legalization crowd, but I just have little desire…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen19/09/21 02:33 PM
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When it comes to sexual relationships, there is an important distinction that is supposed to set them apart from any other relationship. That being the principle of exclusiveness. Traditionally, this would come with marriage where all sexual aspects of the relationship are to be solely in the domain of the married couple. While the principle of waiting for marriage to have sex has been heavily abandoned, there is still an understanding among most people that sexuality is supposed to only be expr…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen18/09/21 04:50 AM
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It is all a part of the root problem that women only want certain men to actually hit on them. That is, guys they are attracted to. For those men it really does not matter where they hit on women or take initiative, it matters how she feels about the encounter. Is the guy attractive? Then it is okay. Is the guy unattractive? Then it is not okay. Blanket statements about not hitting on women in a particular location are just a cover for women so they do not have to admit their actual problem is t…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen15/09/21 05:49 PM
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I think the key here is repentance for the sin itself. At least with everything I know with Christianity, it teaches that everyone is guilty of sin and will likely be repeat offenders. With this in mind, it is necessary to be truly sorry for one's sins, which does mean an honest effort to stop sinning. So I would agree with the spirit of what you are saying, but with a bit more clarification. One thing about repentance is that you are supposed to doing that not only towards those you have wronge…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen15/09/21 05:31 PM
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Commitment is hard and boring, being casual is much more fun! This is exactly the mindset I expect from someone who does not take their faith seriously. Commitment is supposed to be the very thing you look most forward to, not avoid until the last possible moment. Perhaps women will not say the quoted text specifically, but if you see with their actions that they avoid the husband material men in favor of the more "fun" and "casual" men they know are not husband material, you know this is how th…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen15/09/21 03:32 AM
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Message: Casual dating is not good. Reality: Casual dating to get to know someone is good—and necessary—if you’re ever going to, you know, move past your mom. The fear is that casual dating means casual sex, casual deep intimacy or casual love—which are all by nature not casual. But if we assume that a good man and a good woman understand those boundaries, why would getting coffee and learning more about the other person not be healthy, enjoyable and within any reasonable scope of OK? This is av…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen15/09/21 03:19 AM
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While this serves as an ad hominem, it is also meant to be a personal insult. They believe that the implication that you are unable to get a woman willing to sleep with you is a major insult. Are they merely projecting due to how much they value sex? Perhaps. Either way, it is intellectually lazy and an often impotent personal attack, as they have no idea who you are or what you are about. They believe they can tell who you are as a person entirely by what you type and by their own confirmation …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen12/09/21 08:59 PM
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Unlike the unmarried single mother or the divorcee, the widow did not make a destructive choice in have a child with a man that was not father material or destroy a marriage that is meant to be a lifetime promise. The widow is a like someone who lost their house to a tornado, where they did not do anything themselves to cause their house to be lost, versus the compulsive gambler that lost their home due to spending all their money that should have.been used to pay for their home. Deserving vs un…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen11/09/21 04:32 PM
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In order not to be used for only sex, women need to consistently not jump into bed right away with any man. Women who wait for commitment before sex (especially marriage), do not find themselves being used for sex. And I do mean it when I say they need to be consistent. That means no one night stands, no FWBs, no breaking the rules "just this once." The problems that many women have with abiding by these rules is that they want things both ways. They want to be able to sleep with the guy that gi…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/09/21 08:06 PM
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It is not guaranteed, but the risks are most certainly higher. High enough that it makes the prospect unwise when compared to having children younger. Perhaps it is a bit different when a woman had children previously when younger (as the fertility window is pushed back as a result), but the risk is still there.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/09/21 02:51 AM
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"But I know this one woman who had a baby at 42, so that means it is totally reasonable for me to expect that to be the case with me!" Even discounting the probability of a woman her age being able to get pregnant and said pregnancy being a high risk for factors like Down syndrome, having a baby at that late of a point in life is also a greater struggle, as you will not be nearly as energetic as you would be over a decade ago. Which makes having children an even greater struggle, as you will be …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/09/21 10:47 PM
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Rule 1.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/09/21 04:22 AM
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Remember rule 1.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/09/21 04:21 AM
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And that's rule 1.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/09/21 04:17 AM
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Often it is a cope, but it also is often a bizarre substitute for children by those who insist they do not want them. While single women should not be having children anyways (a child needs a mother and a father), there are cases where the woman is married and could have children but at least she is unwilling to have children. Then the adoption of dogs becomes strange, as dogs are also a large time commitment. The way I see it, no pet is the equivalent to a child. In 2 decades, a child is well i…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/09/21 12:46 AM
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Side note: many in the alt-right hate Jordan Peterson, so it is quite amusing whenever I see them lumped in as being in the same camp. Also, how exactly is a guy supposed to stop being an incel if he is going to be rejected and therefore prevented from doing the very thing that would get him out of that category? This is the very same conundrum that people complain about with getting a job that "requires experience" when getting said job would give said experience. It is just preselection at wor…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen05/09/21 08:19 PM
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Rule 1. No shaming men for any reason.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/09/21 03:41 AM
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It would have to be a short distance for it to be "cheap," but even that is not going to be less than 100 dollars (I don't know for sure but I know it is a big cost for a trip to meet someone you have barely communicated with). Not to mention it would be an even bigger time commitment. You are right, men who would get women to fly to meet them are indeed exceptional. Also, the sad thing is that the women will be angry at the actions of that small portion of guys but take their anger out on a lar…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/09/21 03:39 AM
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I did use the term broadly, as much of the content is not technically "sex" but certainly explicit. The flavor of the content matters little when drawing the line, as no category is going to make men feel like committing to such a woman is an acceptable idea. I cannot speak for many men, but /u/_Shinjitsu_ is correct. A woman saying a guy's name may feel like intimacy, but it nowhere near the real thing.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/09/21 03:29 AM
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News flash: it turns out guys do not want to commit to women who flaunt their nude/nearly nude bodies online. Women are usually aware of this, which is why they hide these details. They are just hoping that he will either never find out or in the event he does, he will have a sunken cost mindset with the relationship. The push for normalizing of women doing sex work is already on us. It is in the early stages, but we already see the shaming being done to men if they state a woman's "profession" …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/09/21 05:45 PM
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I NEVER talk first... mainly idiotic women do that Get off Bumble and cease your slander of women who are fine talking first. Bumble was specifically made for women to be the one's to start the conversation. Maybe you are just lazy and copy-pasted your profile, or maybe you failed to do any research. Either way, you are the idiot you claim that other women are.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen31/08/21 04:21 AM
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Being fat is NOT a choice, it's all genetics, you bigot! And you can get super dangerous and damaging leg lengthening surgery overseas to get taller, so being short is a choice! Checkmate! Indeed it is a more valid preference. It is not just the appearance that is a problem with women like this who are overweight. Numerous health problems as a result of the weight, less physically capable of doing regular exercise activities, more expensive food budget, and fertility issues are among the factors…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen31/08/21 04:17 AM
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People who are tall can also have that same desire, except I just can't disguise my height. The best you can do is lie about your height on a dating profile. Though that lie will only last until a woman were to meet you. Not originally my realization, but I tend to agree: how many women would be upset with a man lying about his height if he claimed to be shorter than he actually was? Would they refuse to have a second date because of this deceit, just like they often do if a man claims to be tal…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen31/08/21 04:12 AM
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If I was in the market for dating, I would not be disappointed in the slightest by the fact that I would be filtered out by her standards. Who are she to say what a "real man" is? If you did not win the genetic lottery of being above the arbitrary height women like this have selected as the golden standard, I guess the woman who is easily the weight of two healthy women seems to think that she can define this. I bring up her weight because unlike height, there is far more control over that chara…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen31/08/21 04:06 AM
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A status symbol due to a superficial standard.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen30/08/21 01:44 PM
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'I was at a stage where I was ready to settle down, get married and start a family,' she said. 'I was a career woman, I was 36 … I was ready to embark on the next chapter of my life.' As a doctor, shouldn't she be aware of the fertility issues that come with a woman being above 35 trying to have children? The type of man who wants to get married and have a family is going to be either thinking about this factor or otherwise having his instincts tell him that this is not a good prospect. Men her …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen30/08/21 02:34 AM
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Most reasons women give for wanting a tall man are just a deflection from the fact that they have a superficial standard. But admitting to that would paint women in an unflattering light, as they claim to be deeper than the men they accuse of being superficial. To some extent both men and women are superficial, though men's range of acceptance is actually more forgiving than women (see: OKCupid statistics where women rate 80% of men as "below average"). This reason is just as stupid as most othe…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen30/08/21 02:21 AM
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TALL 5'10" & THICK(shorter? Swipe left) First, she is another abuser of the word "thick." Pretty sure that was not meant for women who are simply fat. Second, at her weight, being even more picky is going to limit her options even further, even if she was childless (which she is not). So she is requesting the same narrow selection of men that many other women desire, but she is in far worse of a position than many other women. Yes, many taller women want guys who are also tall, but they are not …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen29/08/21 02:07 AM
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While you cannot tell everything about someone's personality before meeting them, you can still get quite a bit on the occasion when they do something like sending a picture with their private parts. That should have been enough to tell her that he was not going to be the type of guy you would want to introduce to your parents.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen26/08/21 02:11 AM
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If I did not address this before, I will now: you should figure out if someone is a habitual liar or not well before any kids are a factor. Any relationship that results in children being created is one that should be very serious. If you have not had time to figure out how honest someone is before children come in, you either did not take the proper effort to look for it when you had ample time or you were reckless with sex. Neither of these should happen if you want to have a successful relati…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen23/08/21 01:46 AM
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Okay, if that is your outlook on honesty, then you must consider what lies are acceptable and what lies are not. Maybe you are okay with "white lies," and perhaps those are not going to be deal breakers (e.g. saying you like a band that you really don't like probably will not have lasting consequences). My take on lies is that they should not be necessary in a relationship at all. My wife is always brutally honest with me, and I appreciate that. I do not need even white lies, as sparing my feeli…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen23/08/21 01:36 AM
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He is on the right track of thinking when he asks the question, "What else could she have told me is actually a lie?" If someone is willing to lie about one thing, it shows that lying is not objectionable to that person. His girlfriend is one of those people, and the gears are clearly turning in his head. Perhaps he might have accepted her giving him an honest number that was indeed a high partner count, but we do not know that for sure. What we do know is that she did not like the idea of givin…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen22/08/21 03:59 AM
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By asking this question, she is already revealing that she indeed wants to have other "experiences." She is looking for permission and justification for that decision. She does have the awareness that she has a commitment she would want to keep, but she is trying to figure out how she can have it both ways. Ultimately, it shows a lack of appreciation for her current boyfriend, as if she truly appreciated him, she would not even consider such a decision. Perhaps she has not acted as a slut, but s…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen20/08/21 10:53 PM
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A couple of things with that. First, she is not even "having kids" at 39 yet. She still has a large number of steps to get to that point, which takes at least a year if you do everything perfectly. And there are no guarantees of being able to do that. Second, having children later in life is a lot harder when you have had no children previously. A woman who has already had children before will have a much easier time having children later in life than a woman who has had no children ever. That s…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen20/08/21 03:44 PM
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I thought we had to have comprehensive sex ed and tax payer funding for abortion providers do that this shit didn't happen..... If the internet has proved anything, it has shown that lack of access to information is not the reason that people are making poor choices and not having proper knowledge. Also, remember rule 1. That last comment is pushing it.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen14/08/21 09:49 PM
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Words and labels are cheap. Anyone can use them, but not everyone can abide by them. This woman is does not demonstrate that she can abide by them. About the only thing "conservative" about her is that she is not aborting the baby, so she is at least that conservative. But that certainly does not outweigh the out of wedlock pregnancy, and not having an abortion does not mean you really are a conservative. Most likely she is looking for the type of man who can fulfill a provider role, as conserva…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen14/08/21 04:10 AM
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I have friends who are bachelors who have stated that they have no desire to ever get married. Do you know how many times I have heard them mention the term MGTOW? Zero times. They are essentially doing the same thing without the label. Banning a sub with the label name is meaningless. Men are going to respond to the environment with their own judgment. Men still do not want a bad deal by marrying a woman who could ruin his life the moment she decides "till death do us part" is just a suggestion…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen09/08/21 04:04 PM
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Going to have to remove this one. No names or sub information are censored, which means it violates Rule 7. Also, even though this is the weekend where the content rules are more relaxed, this really does not fit the theme of our sub. This is just showing the behavior of women towards each other and no indication that these women are seeking commitments (some may be looking for that but we cannot determine that when they are talking about having a "night out").
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/08/21 03:26 AM
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Not that I buy much into the "soul mate" theory, but indeed women will ignore, overlook, and outright reject men who have the makings for being a quality husband and father. The problem is that women who want to have things both ways by delaying marriage to "find herself" but still expect to be able to settle down once she has "had her fun" find out that those men are choosing less and less to wait for such women to start getting serious. Many of those men would much prefer to meet his wife and …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/08/21 11:45 PM
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I have often thought of a single mother in the dating market with a race metaphor, where she shoots herself in the foot with a shotgun before the race starts. This gif perfectly demonstrates the metaphor with a real example, which is far better than my metaphor.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/08/21 04:45 PM
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Yes, she probably STILL can have children at age 40, but a YOUNGER woman offers better odds and the type of man she desires: "college educated" and earning a good living, is someone who will have choices of his own. I find agreement with these points. When selecting any candidate for a role, you would much rather have someone who has straight As then someone who is barely passing. She is most certainly in the barely passing camp. Also the college degree factor screws her over because not only is…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/08/21 01:42 AM
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Thanks for your post /u/dasanman69, but this post should be saved for the weekend (as that is when we allow for meme/joke posts). This is most certainly weekend content. I will be removing this post, but feel free to post it again when the weekend comes.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/08/21 01:23 AM
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I didn't realize I'd have trouble dating in my 30s if I chased my dreams in my 20s. I have though. As an entrepreneur, I've had more opportunities to grow as a businesswoman than I have had opportunities to fall in love. Shock of all shocks, you cannot have it all. Being an entrepreneur takes a lot of time and dedication, more than the typical 40 hour work week. If she indeed pursued this to the fullest extent, she left herself with little time to seek a man who was husband material, as that als…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/08/21 08:49 PM
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why do y'all ghost women that y'all chased first??? There can be a number of reasons why this might happen, but the baseline cause is usually this: you cannot know that much about a woman if you have not spent any time with her. Maybe he found out that she was vapid and boring. Maybe he found out that she is too promiscuous for him to want any commitment. Maybe he sensed some red flags that indicated that she was not emotionally stable. Maybe he found out that there were some major values disson…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/08/21 11:52 PM
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Men are interested in women because they want to have sex with them. This gives women a bonus in social situations with men, and many women who do not realize this will assume that the extra attention is due to them being interesting. It is not that a woman cannot be interesting outside of her looks, but many women cultivate nothing further with their personalities. Often because they do not have to or they do not want to. This leads to the problem many women have with their relationships. They …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/08/21 11:39 PM
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Maybe I did! Well his posts did give me that idea to do that. Helps people be more aware of the alternative websites.
/r/WhereAllTheGoodMenAre02/08/21 03:10 AM
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Would her husband still have married her had she admitted that she was in a porn video in her past? The answer is most likely no, which is the answer she believed to be true given that she kept this a secret. She can claim all she wants that this did not mean anything significant, but she would not have kept that a secret had that been true. She never thought this would catch up to her, but now she is finding out that it did. Honesty is critical for a marriage to work. Without that, there can be…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/08/21 03:04 AM
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As the author of that post, thanks for your input. The purpose of the other forum is that it will be a place where we will still exist even if we are no longer on here for some reason. So as long as you are aware of that, there is no problem.
/r/WhereAllTheGoodMenAre02/08/21 02:30 AM
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I have purposefully placed this post as a link to the alternate forum in order to encourage users to have the discussion there instead of here. I will leave commenting open here too, though later posts might in the future have commenting locked.
/r/WhereAllTheGoodMenAre31/07/21 06:19 PM
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Just what kind of men is she going for? It is important to know the answer to that question because if she is going for the same men the majority of women are chasing, those are the very men who are going to have options. Even if she is as attractive as she says, she is still competing for the same high status men that most women want if she has set her standards to narrowly. And not only that, competing with younger women who have the advantage of youth on their side. "Narrowly" better describe…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen31/07/21 06:01 PM
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While many women with more than one child has you wondering how many fathers there are, she just resolves any mystery by letting you know that yes, it is the maximum number of fathers. That is 5 different "mistakes" being made. While many single mothers will claim that they could not have known that the father would not be dependable and reliable (debatable at best as there were many points where an unintended pregnancy could have been avoided), this claim becomes extremely weak when she keeps r…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen29/07/21 01:54 PM
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The post does not really work with the theme of our sub at all, so the label is not the issue. Yes, the women at FDS are generally guilty of being unreasonable in their search for a man to have a relationship with, but this is not discussing her dating life at all. While she doing a disservice to her sons with her bad advice, that is not what our sub is about. If you have an example of a woman who is looking for a committed relationship and being unreasonable and entitled, we would be glad to se…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen29/07/21 01:45 AM
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Thank you for your post /u/TheEvilMelvin, but this post does not fit our theme of a woman seeking commitment and having unreasonable demands. This post lacks that rule 5 element. Women from FDS may be potential for this sub, but here she is not talking about her own relationship experience and demands. Therefore I will be removing this post.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen29/07/21 12:24 AM
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You get more of what you reward, and less of what you punish. Yes, when a man is looking for a relationship, the friendzone by comparison is punishment, even if it is not intended to be so. This does not imply that a man is entitled to a relationship, but he will come to an understanding of what the outcomes of his actions and the way he presents himself are. If women did not like the men who are toxic, they would not reward them with sex. By giving such men sexual access, their message is that …
/r/WhereAllTheGoodMenAre28/07/21 03:11 PM
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My wife started preparing to be a wife to a man who earns what I earn at age 12 Not focusing on the exact age, but this overall statement is key. A woman who wants to get married needs to prepare herself for marriage long before she actually gets married. A woman who waits until 25-30 to actually prepare for marriage shows that marriage is not really a priority to her. So many women do not understand this, and are therefore baffled when they struggle to find the good man they desire when they on…
/r/WhereAllTheGoodMenAre28/07/21 03:04 PM
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People that claim wall has been demolished confuse a 45 yr old woman getting easy dick because she has a vagina with a 45 yr old woman’s prospect for something valuable significantly diminished compared to when she was 25. Yes, I have stated this before, and will again: the Wall is about how easily a woman can get commitment from men, not whether or not she can get sex. As women get older, men are less willing to provide the same level of commitment to a woman than when she was younger. This doe…
/r/WhereAllTheGoodMenAre28/07/21 02:34 PM
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Demanding, passive aggressive, and mentions nothing about herself. What a catch! Who is man enough to put yourself up to be graced by her presence and be judged if you are worthy enough for this ray of sunshine?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen27/07/21 07:12 PM
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She is 30 years too late to be talking about looking for "friendship that might develop into a relationship." Not that it is good when a woman dangles the possibility of a relationship with her saying "let's be friends first and see what happens" at any age, but an older woman is not going to get the results a much younger woman would with the same statement. Can a relationship happen as a result of being friends first? Yes, but that is not a good idea for any man to take a woman's word that she…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen25/07/21 02:38 PM
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Warning for any man who would think that because she said "I am not looking for a co-parent" that taking her up on her offer would be a good idea. That is exactly how you end up with an additional monthly payment for almost two decades. It does not matter if she promises not to sue for child support, she can change her mind later and just like that you are on the hook. Rather than one night of free fun, you will find out that it is the most expensive sex you could ever have. So do not even think…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen25/07/21 03:29 AM
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I am not really describing a plan for a MGTOW, as those types of men are the ones who opt out of the idea of marriage altogether. My statement was meant for those who still want marriage and a family but are uncertain if it would be a good idea. Under our current system I cannot in good faith tell men that they absolutely should get married. They need to evaluate the risks for themselves and determine if it makes sense for them to try it. Also, for men, what I am advocating for is not really a b…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen24/07/21 03:20 PM
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Not sure if that first picture uses the MySpace angle, is an old picture, is overly filtered, or a combination of those factors, but it makes no sense to use such an obviously misleading photo when she advertises herself as fat anyways. But it is not as if we should expect logic from this type of woman, as she is quite the combination of problems that could only come from having poor judgment. So logic is certainly not her strong suit. Being a fat, emotionally unstable, single mom with a "hugely…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen24/07/21 02:57 PM
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Also /u/ringseller, you do not need to mention that in the title. Just pick what you think works best and it can be changed later.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen24/07/21 02:43 PM
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Not that it is the only problem, but the normalization of premarital sex does have it's consequences. Simply having sexual partners to compare with creates openings for issues where a woman can judge your "performance" or in this case something well out of his control, his penis size. It is not his fault that he has the genetics he does, but he knows for a fact that she judges him for it. She might not say it, but she clearly wants more than he can offer. Otherwise she would not have brought it …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen23/07/21 08:13 PM
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"But Chad told me that he was not interested in a relationship, as I was just Girl #4 that week! Please don't break up with me for this! What we have is stronger... we have love! You know I still love you, baby!" Yeah, I would break up too if I were somehow in this guy's situation.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen23/07/21 08:02 PM
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She will say she is the table. That sort of statement can only be made when you have no understanding of what the metaphor means. The "table" is not the reason why two parties are meeting to make a deal. They are just using that for the period of time when the deal is being discussed. The table itself has very little value for the bargain, it is just happens to be used at that moment. Now if she means that she has very little value to offer for a deal to be made and is merely being used temporar…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen23/07/21 04:20 PM
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That comment made her upset because it was true. Men are not looking for women who are just a defective version of men, but women who actually want to be the complement of men. That is, wives and mothers. She can think that a career fulfills a woman and that it is what makes her a catch, but it will do nothing to attract men.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen23/07/21 02:30 PM
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tell me your best pickup line, dont like borring peopl Entertain me! I want you to be a performing monkey that keeps me from having to confront that I am a boring person myself. At least that is how I see women with these profiles that make requests for you not to be "boring." She does not know how to truly stimulate herself, so she expects you the man to do it for her. I suspect has never needed interpersonal traits previously to get men interested in her, so she never really developed any inte…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen23/07/21 02:25 PM
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What would make it even worse for her is if he ends up being a star player on the team that actually lets him play. No guarantees, but if another woman is happy to be married to him it shows that he at least has demonstrated that he was indeed wanted, and him being unavailable to her gives her a sense of uncertainty.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen23/07/21 02:48 AM
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If I don't want him, then no one else should either! I just had an additional thought. Perhaps she would never really want him, but the thought that he now has a woman that actually accepted him as a sexual being bothers her because it gives her a sense that time is running out for her. That is, if the guy she friendzones is no longer an option, it shows that she is losing stock in the sexual marketplace, and she understands that time is not on her side. If even these guys are unavailable, she h…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen23/07/21 02:44 AM
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Rule 7, no direct links to other subs. And nothing ever happens online. All just satire I guess.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen22/07/21 02:15 AM
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She really thinks of herself as a "black sheep" with her profile on Tinder? Please, she is no different than most women on that app or most other dating apps. Just like other women she requires you to be tall, handsome, not bald, to be looking for more than just hookups. She wants the same type of man the majority of women want, but is at the age where this type of man would either be choosing a younger woman or just not bothering at all. Besides, Tinder is not the place to be looking for someth…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen20/07/21 10:35 PM
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Pretty sure “Not low” is (of course) “not short” Yep, that's exactly what she means. I remember that particular description being used for short people when I had a couple of years of Spanish in high school. Anyways, certainly not a surprise that she has that requirement, as so many women do. Also wants a man who is handsome and has a full head of hair, which are two other traits most men cannot control.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen20/07/21 10:26 PM
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So she wants to make sure you, the guy, has a photo in your profile, but uses a photo that not only is out of date but also heavily manipulated? What is the point of making that a standard when she is lying with her own profile? I am sure she justifies that in her mind that she is only telling a little white lie, because she deserves a man who would be less likely to pick her if she used an accurate and up to date photo of herself. Water finds its level.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen20/07/21 10:22 PM
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Like anything, the effort needs to be worth the outcome. For many men, they are not going to find dating to get them a worthwhile woman because they are much harder to find due to the lack of supply. The good news for men is that you can find meaning without getting married and having a family, but I understand completely that there are some men who still want that. My advice for them is to become a fully well rounded man so that they can live a fulfilling life even if they cannot get that but w…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen20/07/21 10:11 PM
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Look pretty and be the queen he needs Beyond parody. Looks do not last forever, and given her age that will come sooner rather than later (if that has not happened already). What does it exactly mean to "be the queen" anyways? What man needs a woman who is going to not only do nothing to contribute, but most likely nag and boss him around? That is how I see what being a "queen" would mean. She wants to be cherished for merely existing in the relationship. Not only is she not going to contribute …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen20/07/21 10:04 PM
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Am I the only one who every time he reads "I have X number of kids" always wonders: "From how many men?" You are not. It is a question that applies to quite a many posts found here. Often I find myself using terms like father(s) with the parenthesis being purposefully ambiguous as my way of saying "I have no idea if it is just one father or more than one." With 7 kids, your guess is probably on the money!
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen20/07/21 03:30 AM
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checkbooks Intended to type checkboxes. Damn autocorrect. Stop "correcting" things that are not spelling errors!
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen18/07/21 12:09 AM
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I love how in the article it talks about tinder and that both men and women "Can find something better around the corner" Yes, the 10% of guys can do that. Yes, the 85% of women can do that. Well, those women are only looking at those top 10 percent of men in the first place, so they would not think about how a men not in that top 10 percent would fare. Let's see how confident, funny, and charming these women are. I am sure you already know that answer, but I will leapfrog off this point to disc…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen17/07/21 11:18 PM
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Some majors require a master's degree just to get an entry level job (e.g. psychology). That tells you that the field is flooded with people and/or the field of study is way too easy. And you are right that education is not everything. One example I can think of is a man who was about a semester away from completing his degree but was already finding work before he graduated, so he just did not bother. He could have easily graduated, but chose not to go through the motions. On paper these women …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen17/07/21 10:50 PM
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Now that is just strange. Most companies would jump at the chance to get a woman like that, given that it fulfills their diversity checkboxes. Not saying that guarantees she could do the job, but the foot in the door part should be covered with her being a woman in computer science. That just makes me question how much does she really know about computer science, how little does she prepare for interviews, and how much effort is she putting into the job search?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen17/07/21 10:42 PM
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This is exactly result of simultaneously pushing for equality by having women go to college (often at the direct expense of men being able to go) and having women's hypergamy unchecked with a lack of patriarchal enforcement. That, and the perception that a college degree being a status symbol. All of this results in women being unable to find a man with their faulty selection criteria. First off, college is not what it used to be. Many degrees are not worth the time and money invested in them, a…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen17/07/21 09:28 PM
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My thoughts exactly. I say the reason for her misery has more to do with her than with anyone else.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen17/07/21 03:45 AM
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Got officially separated not to long ago! Still living with my ex but in good terms! Been miserable for many years and ready to live Something does not add up here. If she can still be on good terms enough with her ex to live with him at least temporarily, what exactly is making her miserable? That just tells me that she is the cause of her own misery and no new man is going to fix that. Sure, she may think butterfly feelings will solve that, but those do not last. Also, if you are not the main …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen17/07/21 03:44 AM
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Plenty of 30 something men (or even younger) want to settle down, but ironically it's because they want to do something women did in their 20's: "take it slow". Women complain about men pushing women into sex and she fails to realize that men don't like being pushed into massive financial commitment. You bring up a very good point about women pushing men into financial commitment. The funny thing about this is that with the traditional model, sex and financial commitments would be bundled as one…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen16/07/21 03:19 AM
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I would encourage everyone who is interested to create an account on trp.red. We are here now, but that may not always be the case. Better to have a backup ready before you need it rather than be lost trying to find it in the future. I see some comments there already, which is great. The more the merrier!
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen16/07/21 01:48 AM
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A woman who has a large amount of sexual partners is a poorer prospect for marriage because they're more likely to cheat. Correct. I would also argue that even if she does not cheat, she is more likely to end the relationship based on the fact that she is not used to staying in a long term relationship. No man wants to marry a woman who is more likely to initiate a divorce and hinder him financially. That is but another problem with women who are serial daters/have high sexual partner counts.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen15/07/21 06:15 PM
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And women are brainwashed to believe that all guys are whoring themselves around and sleeping with loads of women all the time. So if you aren’t then you are abnormal Yep, the Apex Fallacy sure is a strong one. And if women had a problem with a man having multiple partners, they would refuse any commitment or association with him. But as you stated, it is often the opposite with pre-selection at work, so women will often see such a man as more desirable. She is upset that men and women have diff…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen15/07/21 03:43 PM
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Even if she is correct about "faithfulness" in a relationship despite having numerous sexual partners in the past, having such a high partner count can lead to a mindset where there is no concern for remaining committed. A lot of men are not going to feel better about the idea of a woman who will be more likely to pull the plug on the marriage because of her lack of capability of remaining in a committed relationship, so long term commitments are going to be out of the question for that reason a…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen15/07/21 03:37 PM
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"Well, that should not matter! Nobody asks men that question!" Just because women are not asking that question to men does not mean that it does not matter to men how many sexual partners a woman has had. Men and women have different standards for each other, and men have every right to refuse commitment to a woman who slept around in her past. Women could have this same standard, but they choose not to.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen15/07/21 04:10 AM
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This woman does not like hearing that men prefer women in their 20s due to "shallow and superficial" traits, as well as the fact that men want women with less sexual partners and baggage. Yes, men do prefer women who are younger because of their youth and beauty being the greatest at that age along with the other two reasons. Even though she "calls BS," she really cannot rebut what her friend said, so she is left talking about how women older than 30 are more mature and know what they want, as s…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen15/07/21 02:13 AM
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But I did the removal!
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen15/07/21 01:10 AM
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First off, this does not really fit our theme as it lacks the Rule 5 elements we would look for in post. Debating feminists on their outlook on men is not really what we are about, so I will not be keeping this post up here. Also, when you do have a post that fits our theme better, work on the title names for your posts.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen14/07/21 08:55 PM
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Right you are. Now that "nerdy" interests are trendy, so many women like this appropriate the label for their enjoyment of mainstream interests. No, you are not a nerd for enjoying the exact same things that the masses enjoy. In fact that usually makes you quite the opposite of a nerd. A large part of being a nerd is that you take interest in things that not only may not be that popular, but also be interests that you enjoy even if it means that you must sacrifice being popular in order to conti…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen13/07/21 07:39 PM
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I don't care how old you are, the kind of man she is asking for is rare even for a 20 year old woman to find. That kind of man is probably not going to be looking for women on a dating site anyways. Though the age of the woman makes it all the more ridiculous.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen13/07/21 04:59 PM
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I doubt either her grasp on reality or her math are very strong given her abhorrent spelling and grammar.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen13/07/21 01:15 PM
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The only way a woman gets used for sex is if she allows that to happen. She has to choose to sleep with a man, and if she keep not only having a poor selection criteria of men but repeats that pattern, it is her fault for continuing to have those outcomes. This is precisely why there is advocacy by those like me to practice restraint when it comes to sex and relationships. You do not see women who have decided that they should save themselves for marriage (rare as that is these days) complaining…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen13/07/21 01:13 PM
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"Fascist" has just become a buzzword with no meaning with its overuse and incorrect application. Both major parties could be classified as "big tent" parties, where many different groups and interests are lumped into one faction. This is where contradictions appear to happen, but often it is just different interests with various voters. Some voters just want their taxes lowered and the government to do less overall, others want the government to ban things like drugs and immoral content. The lat…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen11/07/21 09:09 PM
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“I’m really open-minded and cool about gender stuff on dates, but I always feel like I’m walking on eggshells,” Mark told me. “If I pay for dinner, it signals I don’t value my date as my equal so I’m super casual about it all. If she wants to pay or split it or whatever, that’s fine with me.” Oh Mark, you clearly do not understand that women do not want equality, they want benefits. They still want you to pay for the date because it benefits them, and they want every part of "equality" that bene…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen11/07/21 06:16 PM
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No matter what people think, biology makes a huge difference in how we view relationships. So it makes sense that the daughter would want her biological father to be walking her down the aisle as she would naturally seek his love and approval. The thing is, when her biological dad chose not to be there for the wedding day, her step father did nothing wrong when he made the offer to her. It is not as if he had no awareness of the situation or did not care about the daughter he accepted as his own…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen11/07/21 03:30 AM
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If we have less time, it means that setting preferences is now more important than before That is like saying that studying for the final exam is more important now that you have to take it the next day when you previously procrastinated studying for the semester. Sure, you are correct in a sense, but the best opportunities to do things most optimally are past you, and you are far more likely not to get the most desirable results. Women would do better for themselves to make sure they prioritize…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen10/07/21 12:40 AM
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Hookup culture exposes who truly wants traditional relationships and who just wants whatever pleases them in the moment. Those that complain about hookup culture are almost always the ones that participated in it in the first place. This woman all but outright admits that, but now that she is looking to go to the long term relationship phase, she discovers that the transition is not as easy as flipping a switch. She is upset that those men are not there when she demands that they be, expecting t…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen09/07/21 09:47 PM
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And the fact that so many women cannot meet that list of standards tells you the state of modern dating. Women 100 years ago by and large could pass this set of standards easily. Perhaps there was a lot more social enforcement against women being like that, but that just shows what happens when such enforcement goes away.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen08/07/21 10:35 PM
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To encourage use of the other forum, my comment on this post is only over there.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen08/07/21 10:13 PM
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Being a "love coach" who has no long term relationship to show for is like being an obese personal trainer. Sure, it us possible to get correct information and advice from this person, but you have to ask why are they not able to make use of their own expertise to get themselves what they claim they can get you? I would much rather take advice from a married couple who has proven that they have done what you are looking to do than a single "dating coach." Maybe their advice will not work for you…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/07/21 03:11 AM
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Marriage is not just having a wedding ceremony and living in the same home and raising children; there should be a wholistic perspective that demonstrates a love that is giving and self-sacrificial. This mindset is completely foreign to what feminism teaches, as it tells women that being giving to her husband or sacrificing something for her husband is to be shunned and condemned. "The idea that you should save your virginity for your husband? That is oppressive and patriarchal! Who are you to t…
/r/WhereAllTheGoodMenAre07/07/21 02:59 AM
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When a woman only wants a husband material man at the last possible moment she believes she can get away with, she is not showing that she loves and appreciates such a man. If she did love and appreciate him, she would not delay seeking such a man and would make herself available to him as soon as she could. This pattern has become very common with women today, as they show that they are not really marriage minded by attempting to delay that until the last minute. When something is a priority, y…
/r/WhereAllTheGoodMenAre07/07/21 02:44 AM
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Red Pill types would tell me that I probably didn’t “hold my frame”. My answer to that is: fuck off with that schoolboy shit. The concept is most definitely true, but in any real sense it is impossible to do every day for one’s entire life. The thing with this concept is that it relies on a very critical detail: the willingness to walk away. This works well for men in relationships that are not marriages, because the consequences of a break up are fairly minimal when compared to a divorce. When …
/r/WhereAllTheGoodMenAre07/07/21 02:16 AM
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They just hate the "mean" parts of the government, not realizing that those parts of the government are the only reason any taxes get collected to fund all the things they want.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/07/21 10:46 PM
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You must think other men are stupid if you feel the need to point out that the baby is "not yours." Trust me, we know. And I am sure you are now looking for a relationship as a result of a hookup. Funny how that works these days. In fact it is downright insulting to the men you are seeking to be in a relationship only happens right after you are pregnant and not a moment before.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/07/21 10:45 PM
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I completely understand the concept of being a "born agaim virgin," where the premise is that a woman who previously had premarital sex now wants to no longer continue that sin and instead behave in a manner where she reserves sex to be only for marriage. A woman is free to do this and seek forgiveness from God. The problem comes in when these women expect men to just ignore any of her past actions and pursue them for relationships as if they had no past sexual activity. Many of these women misu…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/07/21 01:09 AM
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I am ambitious Got to quote Inigo Montoya here: "You keep using that word. I don't think it means what you think it means." Because a single mom with no job living with her parents does not signal any ambition whatsoever. You would not be a single mom if that were the case. A woman can have her ambition be that she wants to be a stay at home mom raising her children (with a husband of course). That might be an abnormal use of the term, but I could see it justified if the woman were to demonstrat…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/07/21 11:27 PM
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We have to take precautions to keep this place preserved.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/07/21 11:13 PM
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Even worse, if she is unwilling to even let you have your own save file as well. Not that I advocate for dating or marrying single moms, but a man has even less incentive to date a single mother if she is not even going to give him a child that has his genes.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/07/21 11:11 PM
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No one imagines they could be the cold hearted, totally ambivalent bastard strolling off while leaving one of their own to possible doom Then again, when I think about my insufferable, know-it-all (in theory but not in practice) acquaintances, I certainly wouldn't risk getting imprisoned, or hate crimed, or stabbed on their account. Incentives matter, whether or not people want to admit that. "Doing the right thing" stops being a good argument when the very people who expect you to do so on thei…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/07/21 02:56 AM
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That advice, what can I say? She does not deserve good advice given her decisions leading her to this point, so I am not sorry the advice is just to tell her that she should continue to be a terrible woman but also embrace it with polyamory. If she had any real sense of shame or guilt, she would know what she should do without writing this question in the first place. And if trying to go full polyamory blows up in her face, she frankly deserves that.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/07/21 09:45 PM
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Here is my proposal for her: choose the guy who is good in bed and dump the other guy. Now I know what you are thinking, why make that suggestion? That is not like you, HouseofTolstoy, being the advocate for only relationships that are stable and well founded? The answer is that this woman is already a lost cause when she is asking who to choose from and is an adulterer. She should not string along the first guy whose only crime is not being perfect in bed. Frankly, if things go south with the s…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/07/21 09:38 PM
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I will have to watch this video at a more opportune time, but I will share some thoughts. As far as I know, isn't Sweden one of the most pro feminist countries in the world? Men seeking women from other countries is just a consequence of feminism tainting women's attitudes and behaviors, along with the fact that the very same women also pushed for the policies that make relationships a worse deal for men. So the men respond by seeking women who were not a part of the problem and not indoctrinate…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/07/21 09:08 PM
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A man who cooks, cleans and makes 6 figures does not need a single mother who probably is not willing to do either of the first two. And if she was a catch, she would be having no trouble finding the type of man she desires. If you were indeed as smart as you say, why did you choose to become a single mother? That's because like everything else you stated, you merely insist that it is true. Except for the "well educated" part, as that just means you went through the schooling systems for enough …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/07/21 04:42 PM
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This is what happens when you do not learn how to appreciate what you have but rather get greedy for a desire to have something else. FOMO at it's finest. She may have said that she loved her boyfriend, but her actions showed she did not mean it. She should not contact him again, as she has nothing good for him since she destroyed the relationship so she could slut it up. There is no other reason, as you can do everything else in life while still in a relationship. I hope the guy found someone e…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/07/21 03:12 PM
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More important than exercise with weight loss is a proper diet. Which also costs a lot less than being obese, since you should be eating less naturally when losing weight. Exercise is great to help you along, but exercise cannot solve the larger problem of overconsumption.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen01/07/21 03:32 PM
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Just what is she going to do with a peloton bike? I don't for a moment believe she is going to put in a genuine effort to exercise, being "thicc/bbw." Given how expensive a peloton bike is (and the subscription), she wants the status symbol of being able to have one rather than make good use of it. You can tell what her experience was before with the man who knocked her up by what she is asking for now. Do you want to guess if the previous man/men she was with were respectful and gentlemen-like?…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen01/07/21 03:29 PM
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I am glad you can tell others here that revenge was not worth it. We can all think that it will be great and fulfilling, but anyone who still holds on to that idea has shown they have not moved on from their past. I do see that you were still living your life fine without her, and your account shows that it was more of the spontaneous opportunity rather than a pre-planned event, so you were not seeking revenge. You simply capitalized on the opportunity. I state all of this about revenge because …
/r/WhereAllTheGoodMenAre01/07/21 01:25 PM
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When it comes to delaying sex in a relationship, it should be done for the right reasons. Those being mainly because you are saving it for marriage. Clearly, this woman was not doing that as not only was she fine having sex with men before A, she also still has a man she is sleeping with on the side. More like, I am not interested in an open relationship for him, as she seems to think that her cheating is somehow okay at the same time. I do not know what reasons she is telling A, but they have n…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen29/06/21 05:38 PM
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That camera angle is no accident. And the chocolate cake comment is another red flag.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen27/06/21 09:46 PM
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Rule 1.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen27/06/21 09:39 PM
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I believe there is a strong correlation with women who choose the "exciting" guys and a lack of long term thinking. That is probably why they do not appreciate the nice and stable guys, as they cannot comprehend his mindset of thinking more than an hour in the future. So these guys seem "boring" because they see all the risk taking thrills as really stupid ideas, and rightly so. It is pretty clear this woman has difficulty with pattern recognition, as she probably has way too many iterations of …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen27/06/21 02:50 AM
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Women who think that men are just willing to be a provider with any circumstances fail to understand or care to understand men. Men want to provide for a family of their own, and even if a man is willing to do so with a single mother and her kids, it is not going to be his first choice. The expenses of having a family are far more bearable of a sacrifice when he knows the kids are biologically his. A single mother has the same expenses but with less to offer for a man.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen27/06/21 02:34 AM
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What kind of man would want to do all the hard work of knocking up a woman when you can have the hard work done for you in advance? Having a ready made family (just add father figure) is way better than starting from scratch with a woman without children! What I said above makes as much sense as anything a single mother could say why she is better than a woman without another man's children. Any claim is just going to look silly when trying to turn her wrong choices into positives in the dating …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen27/06/21 02:27 AM
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If a man wants to be a father figure, he should just become a father for his own children. Being a father figure to a child and woman you have not had any time to know is just asking for trouble. No matter how noble the man is, he is going to have less natural desire to invest in a child he knows is not his. In fact many men already avoid single mothers due to that instinct. And besides, asking another man to make up for the shortcomings of a woman who got knocked up by a man who was clearly not…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen26/06/21 01:35 PM
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my profile is very sexual but it is misleading to who I am as a person Either that is bs, or she should really change her profile. Wonder why only "assholes" are the only ones she finds? Besides the likely possibility that she is choosing them, she is also likely repelling good men away who see a woman who presents herself in a way that does not demonstrate her being good relationship material. A sexual profile signals short term thinking, which is not what a man who wants a long term relationsh…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen25/06/21 08:45 PM
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As a married man, I know I would not have been married had I not found a woman who indeed wanted to be a wife. And by be a wife, I mean authentically, not just someone who wanted the benefits of marriage without upholding her end of the bargain. How many women are actually willing to do that? That means many more things than so many women understand or want to acknowledge. That means abstaining from sex until marriage. That means having some skills to make a home a home. That means knowing how t…
/r/WhereAllTheGoodMenAre24/06/21 08:46 PM
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I would say that a baby will be more expensive, but given the tax dollars she can potentially collect directly and indirectly from having a baby, that is not necessarily the case. And we get more single mothers precisely because we subsidize these choices.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen23/06/21 10:43 PM
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Always looking for a good man after getting pregnant and never before. Seen too many of these cases to be shocked, but why are so many women unable to get the order correct? It is not as if it is a hard concept, get married to a good man, then have children. I do not for a moment believe that women are unaware of this concept, but rather they just do not care that they are being irresponsible with their own lives and do not care that they are being disrespectful to the very men they claim to wan…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen23/06/21 02:11 PM
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If you are a single mother, you are not the type that should be going to college regardless given the fact that if you were smart enough to do well in college, you would not be a single mother. But given that college these days is a joke due to the lowering of standards, I am sure they would take her anyways. Also, this is asking a lot more than simply dating her as a single mother. Whether she wants a man to "provide" financially and/or taking care of the children, that is a huge request for so…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen22/06/21 11:28 PM
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First, God does not just give you "what you want" automatically. Part of being a Christian is understanding and accepting that you will not get things granted to you simply because you want them. Second, she had a very poor approach with dating when she dated guys she said herself that she did not want and continued to be with the very type of men that she claims were bad for her. A lack of pattern recognition is quite telling. Third, for being a woman that claims to have asked God for a husband…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen22/06/21 01:29 PM
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Just what is so unique and fascinating about her profile that she gets upset about whether or not you "read it?" Nothing I can see so special. Many women ask for some opening comment to impress her like you need to put on a performance for her, so nothing special about that. The rest is just talking about the social media she uses, which is nothing special either. The demands for a performance sets men up with a no win situation. Ignore her demands, you get snippy responses. Try and meet her dem…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen21/06/21 01:30 AM
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Based on the odds, she was the one who initiated the divorce. If that is indeed the case, how "old-fashioned" is she really? Or is it like with so many other women who want the man to provide old fashioned treatment without her being genuinely old fashioned? That is quite likely. Her naivete on entering the dating market as a divorcee with kids is telling of her previous struggles in life. That is, she basically had no struggles, as she coasted on her youth and beauty before, and now she is find…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen20/06/21 01:48 AM
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The premise that marriage should be avoided in favor of other pursuits such as a career is just plain absurd, as is the idea that a woman who is legally an adult is seen as "too young" if she were to marry at any point in her 20s. I see it as a ploy for many agendas, including an antinatalyst one (less likely to be as many kids when starting later) as well as an attempt for women to be "like men" while at best only managing to do a poor imitation of one. As for casual sex, you are absolutely cor…
/r/WhereAllTheGoodMenAre18/06/21 02:53 AM
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Thanks for posting this story. It serves as a perfect example of how holding out for too long and expecting too much can backfire horribly for women who do not capitalize on their youthful years. I specify women as men do not have the same situation when it comes to their window of opportunity. I mentioned in the previous comment to this story, but I will emphasize again that I could never see myself proposing to a woman I was not already in a relationship with. I have heard of that happening, b…
/r/WhereAllTheGoodMenAre18/06/21 02:37 AM
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A reasonable standard to have. Are you religious? Most women who are virgins are going to be religious. Unless you are not planning to marry at all, which is also reasonable with current conditions. Just curious, no need to elaborate if you are not interested.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen17/06/21 08:47 PM
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A story like this could work well in our other sub, WhereAllTheGoodMenAre. Consider posting it there. This certainly works as a cautionary tale for women who price themselves out of the market. She really only has herself to blame if she indeed had no trouble getting men offering her the ultimate commitment. I would never be able to propose to a woman off the bat like that, but I have heard of men doing that sort of thing with some women. It is not that it would have been the correct choice to s…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen17/06/21 07:52 PM
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What a mess she is. A cautionary tale not only for women to avoid having tons of sexual partners, but also for men to avoid the kind of woman that has a promiscuous past. She cannot appreciate her current boyfriend because she has placed sex as being so critically important that she is devastated that she is without it with her current boyfriend. One point of rebuttal for her claiming that dating is not easier for a woman. She does not account for the very first step, which is getting your foot …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen17/06/21 12:29 AM
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"Partner" should only be used when it is addressing universal cases, where partner can apply to any given husband, wife, boyfriend, girlfriend, or fiance. It should not be used to describe someone you are going to be in a relationship with, especially if you are married. Just say husband or wife, depending on context. So you are quite correct in your assessment.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen16/06/21 11:48 PM
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What kind of nonsense is this, "You cannot take alone time from yourself." Perhaps it is a poor way to convey the idea that she hates being alone, but the purpose of alone time is to catch up on things you otherwise don't do with your partner or to have some solitude to think and relax. It is pointless to care about that when you already can do that always when you are single. She simply does not like the fact that she is single when others around her have shown that it is possible to find relat…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen16/06/21 11:10 PM
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Rule 1.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen11/06/21 07:14 PM
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Do more attractive women have an edge when it comes to a dating pool? Absolutely. Does that mean that if you are not in that top percentage of attractive women that you are doomed to have no man want you? Absolutely not. There are plenty of women who are not "hot" that still manage to find long term commitments. You can see this with random couples when you are out and about, women who are as she describes (and even those who are even less attractive) can still get relationships. Just what infor…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen11/06/21 12:54 AM
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It most certainly is a troll post, as it comes from [redacted], which is a satire sub. We should not be having content that is clearly fake and trolling. So I think we should not even have this sort of post.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen09/06/21 04:00 PM
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Also a good point. I do think that there are many men who are hesitant to have a family of their own for that very reason. Though some men still will proceed with having a family even knowing the risks. But for the man who does not want children, he does not have that factor that would create the incentive that would make him more partial to the idea of marriage. It just seems kind of pointless to go through the steps if the marriage is the last destination. Especially considering how fragile th…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen08/06/21 01:46 AM
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She says she wants to be married but does not want children? That does limit her choices significantly. Sure there are men who are all fine not having children, but with the state of marriage as it is and attitudes towards casual sex, there are going to be far less men wanting to get married and not have children these days. Many men who have no desire to have children are going to see no point in marriage, as not only can they get sex without marriage, but also that there is a lot of purpose lo…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/06/21 10:25 PM
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Aaron Clarey has a video that touches on this topic perfectly, where women want to date Voltron (basically every best attribute of individual men combined in one as seen here). This is just another example of women who do not live with a realistic and reasonable mindset. Few men can be perfect in every category like listed above (not even including the obvious contradictions with the categories). Many of these requirements are not even critical for a successful relationship, so it leaves many wo…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/06/21 06:25 PM
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Too many people vote against the "self-regulate" phase from ever happening, either because they think it they are doing good by having more programs and welfare policies or they are directly making use of those things. For the former group, they never understand that the very system they want to keep in place because they see it as a moral good just causes more overall suffering. If we did not subsidize bad behavior, we would get less of it. I have tried to reason this sort of thing out with som…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen05/06/21 02:50 PM
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This woman is a real winner. I count what looks like at least 3 different fathers in the picture (more likely to be 4), and to show that she is such a terrible mother two of the children has primary custody with the father. In our family court system, that does not happen unless the mother is really unfit. That is no surprise as she mentions she is "weedblooded." Who wants to bet she is not going to be stopping at 4 kids?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/06/21 10:39 PM
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Women who want men to fight some other guy who is "trying to steal her away" misunderstand some critical details regarding why many men are not wanting to fight the other man. First, almost every situation where there is an opportunity for this to happen are because she allowed it to happen, often even taking great initiative. Even if she is just "meeting with her ex" and he is the one to make a move, she did not have to meet uo with him in the first place and she did not need to accept his adva…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/06/21 10:32 PM
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Is it any wonder why so many women are unhappy? When you have inconsistency in your own desires, there is no way you can be pleased. It comes down to her not having a realistic view of what is possible to attain, and no guy can fulfill what she claims to want. While this one is more obvious, other women also have unrealistic desires that will most certainly not be fulfilled. So many women require a man be rich, tall, athletic, good looking, and talented in many different ways. This sort of man i…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/06/21 10:21 PM
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People who want children don't say that children restrict their single life. In contrast, they say that their single life is empty without children. Similarly, people who want to get married don't say that they're sacrificing their own happiness to do it. They're saying their happiness right now is limited, and will grow when they're in a good marriage with the right person. Absolutely true. That is an excellent way to put it. Those that think about those things as limitations should not be gett…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/06/21 03:46 AM
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Another mod came up with the flair, and I approved of it. Yes, I am. He has a great body of work, and his observations always hit home with me regarding how feminism has ruined relationships as well as how it has corrupted many churches.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/06/21 03:38 AM
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As I read this I see a real lackadaisical mindset throughout her most critical years for her to have children. She just had "casual things" and the children she wanted her whole life "hasn't happened" yet for her. Her actions do not match her claimed desire to have children, as she wasted the best opportunity she had to have a family on frittering her time away not taking the idea of forming a family seriously. If you want to have a family, you need to have every step of the way to get there ser…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/06/21 07:28 PM
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I wonder what would happen if he asked her if she was a virgin still. After all, if she is old fashioned, she should be saving herself for marriage. Given the high rate of women who claim to be old fashioned when they only want old fashioned treatment from men without being old fashioned themselves, I would not be shocked if she were to be upset about being held to that standard.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/06/21 01:36 PM
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A lot of the response is putting what I had in mind in a recent Where All The Good Men Are post, but better stated and to the point than mine was. Most good men are not going to put on a show regarding how they present themselves, and that is often not understood by many women. Women that do understand this and are not only looking at the surface level flashiness are far more likely not to be asking where the good men are because she has more likely than not already found one. Frankly, if a woma…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen01/06/21 03:52 PM
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Knowledge is one of the best tools you can have at your disposal. That is most certainly true when it comes to relationships with women, as the wrong move could have decades long consequences. I may have not been as aware of certain manipulation tactics from women due to personal limitations with social skills (asperger's syndrome). In a way it gave me immunity from many manipulation tactics due to me not even reading them. But it also meant a lot of women wanted little to do with me due to that…
/r/WhereAllTheGoodMenAre31/05/21 11:24 PM
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Your point is a good one to consider. Perhaps the label is not always fitting, but nonetheless they will be labeled as such whether or not it should apply. I did say that these women "talk about how the guys... are jerks," where I am simply showing that this is what women say, not what is verified truth. Either way, getting knocked up by a guy where there is no guaranteed commitment (e.g. marriage) is a very bad idea, as there is a very real possibility that the man who is the biological father …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen31/05/21 02:59 AM
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Can be a baby trap, or can be just plain not even trying to avoid pregnancy. Either way, not a good idea for them to get pregnant from such men.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen31/05/21 02:47 AM
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First off, college education is not what it used to be, including Master's degrees. You can indeed be challenged in higher education, but you need a field of study that is actually rigorous (usually that means it is very math heavy). But there are so many degrees that are by no means challenging, and having a Master's degree in that same fluff field is only putting more fluff on top of the fluff. In some cases, a Master's degree has become the requirement to get an entry level job because the fi…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen31/05/21 02:26 AM
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Thanks
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen30/05/21 05:43 PM
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Frankly the original post is just an absurd strawman, but the comment below is something that occurs repeatedly. The fact that we have so many women who talk about the how the guys who knocked them up are jerks tells me that those women have poor judgement. It is not as if it would be impossible to see that those types of men would be terrible candidates to be fathers, as it is most certainly obvious to most outsiders (especially the vast majority of men). It seems that places like r-niceguys wo…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen30/05/21 05:43 PM
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Rule 7, no direct links please. Change it to not be a direct link and I will reapprove this comment (example: r-niceguys instead of the direct link, or something like that).
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen30/05/21 05:28 PM
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Rule 7, no direct links please. Change it to not be a direct link and I will reapprove this comment (example: r-FemaleDatingStrategy instead of the direct link, or something like that).
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen30/05/21 05:27 PM
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You hit many nails right on the head. The admission that women have superficial standards for men is something that many people do not want to acknowledge, as it not only shatters the mythos that women are paragons of virtue and infallible judges of character, it also demonstrates that sometimes doing everything correct will still result in failure (just world fallacy as you stated). I am sure they believed you were some NiceGuy who secretly hates women and feels entitled to their bodies. It jus…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen30/05/21 03:51 AM
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No direct links to other subs. Edit this and I am fine reapproving it.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen28/05/21 09:06 PM
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It is a rather sad testament to how poor the current dating market is when a woman can be one of the first desired picks for men by simply not becoming a single mother and not being overweight. These traits were common and expected generations prior, but now they are becoming far less common. Given the high influx of single mothers in the dating market, these women now feel no sense of shame for the fact that they have proven themselves to be terrible candidates for long term dating. Even worse,…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen28/05/21 08:34 PM
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A valid theory. No idea what is exactly true, though I am guessing that if the guys are still interested in sex with her and nothing else, she is at least physically attractive enough on a pass/fail criteria.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen27/05/21 10:30 PM
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Honesty is a package deal. She may want only some parts of the package, but that is not how it works. Picking and choosing which parts of honesty she gets only fails to get her real honesty.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen27/05/21 02:14 PM
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She claims that she wants a "nice guy" to date long term and not just sex. But does she even appreciate that kind of guy? If she is indeed able to get 20 individual dates, it is not as if she has problems with her physical attractiveness. So the problem appears to be her selection criteria. If every guy just wants something casual, why is she even meeting with them in the first place? I am assuming that most profile she sees should provide that preference, so is she just fooling herself every ti…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen26/05/21 11:04 PM
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The thing about honesty is that it is not always pleasant. Often, it is uncomfortable and inconvenient. While she claims to want someone that is honest, is she ready for hearing what she might not like to hear? And for someone who wants honesty from a man (supposedly), she sure does not live up to that standard with those filters. The games and players were things she enjoyed, until it was no longer sustainable (see: being a "mum"). If she did not want those things, she had all the power in her …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen26/05/21 10:47 PM
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Well the answer to the title's question is that it would take both foresight and true appreciation for the type of man she now seeks. This woman would not be a single mother if she had both of these traits. Foresight could save her from becoming a single mother in the first place regardless of any other factors. Appreciating a man who is responsible and good father material would mean that she would have to not ever choose the kind of man that knocked her up.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen25/05/21 11:11 PM
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No doubt the previous man/men who impregnated her are exactly the type of man she states not to want, fit men who did not care much about being understanding or empathetic. Those guys are the ones that get her in her prime and before she is done having children. But for the understanding and empathic man? No children for you! A woman shows the kind of man she wants the most by whom she chooses when she has the greatest power to make choices. That is, when she is in her peak years of youth and be…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen23/05/21 06:21 PM
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If they were indeed outraged, what grounds do they have to be? That he was a liar? Well, that should be considered baked into the cake, as the very implication that he was cheating on his wife shows that he would be a dishonest man (lying goes hand in hand with cheating). Since the wife did not exist, the lie was simply placed on the women willing to sleep with a married man. Also, it shows a real lack of ethics on the women's part if they are knowingly sleeping with a married man. So I see no s…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen23/05/21 01:51 AM
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A sign of wisdom is recognizing that certain decisions are mistakes before you make them. You do not have to make the mistakes yourself. Often you can observe others making poor choices and determining that it would be unwise to do the same. Well, women like this certainly do not fall in that category. Instead, the go headfirst into the mistakes, enjoying the instant gratification and impulsive decisions even when the consequences are obviously bad. Even after that, many women will still not lea…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen22/05/21 02:46 AM
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Same here. Her asking a man to jump through hoops shows she sees herself as above the men she is targeting despite her now being a single mom. Making demands like this is not going to help her case one bit when she has less to offer.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen22/05/21 02:37 AM
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I am at an income bracket now where dropping a few hundred on a meal isnt a consideration. I cannot fathom paying that much for a dinner date as a first date. I live in an area where I will never pay that much for having a meal for two for the vast majority of restaurants, so this problem was not something I really had to encounter. But I understand that 3 digit costs for dinner dates is a very real possibility for many men, so I completely understand why other men would see dinner dates as a fa…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen21/05/21 04:27 PM
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I would classify that as the "ignore" category.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen21/05/21 03:04 PM
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You touch on a very good point with the "there's just no spark." That being the plausible deniability that women have in going on dinner dates with guys they never intended to even give a real chance. Indeed a woman who is genuine might find that she does not have further interest in a guy. But women who are just chameleoning are merely going through the motions can do the same thing withour the sincerity. Given there is no way to figure out if a woman was lying to you from the start with just o…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen21/05/21 01:40 AM
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Done.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen21/05/21 01:33 AM
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Women like this either fail to understand or outright ignore the reasons why men would suggest dates like coffee or a walk. There are plenty of women out there who are glad to use men to get free meals by claiming they are interested in getting to know a man (pair this with the man being expected to pay for the meal). At the initial phase, there is no way to determine if a particular woman is sincere or just looking to scam a man for a free meal by pretending she has interest in him. Men have st…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen20/05/21 05:37 PM
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You will get no "fun" from her, as she already used that up for the previous guys. Now that she can no longer afford to have "fun" so easily (hence why she needs a babysitter), she is looking at you to take responsibility for her choices. What, are you not man enough to sacrifice yourself for so little? A real man would just cater to the needs of this woman and allow her no struggle for having another man's children. What's that, you would rather find another woman who does not already have chil…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen18/05/21 08:43 PM
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The best time to look for someone that will "stick around" is before you have a child. A young woman who has no children has a huge advantage over so many women in the dating market. As far as "drama and bullshit," all of that was preventable. A woman in her 20s can easily choose men who will not do what she claims not to want. It is far more likely that she indulged in the fun parts of "drama and bullshit" and now only does not like the outcome of the acts she was engaging in. She would do it a…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen17/05/21 02:29 PM
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Would have done the same myself, but I have had a busy weekend. So thanks for getting that taken care of!
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen17/05/21 02:26 AM
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What that person described is emotional extortion for sex. It's practical rape. The more you abuse the word "rape," the less meaning it has. She could have chosen at any time not to have sex with those men. Her being upset about the outcome of the sex and relationship does not make it rape. I do not condone using anyone for only sex, but since we live in a world where we are told we must tolerate casual sex as a norm, we need to understand that there will be consequences. Perhaps she should not …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen16/05/21 03:35 AM
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Women show who they sexually value the most by whom they choose to have sex with, as well as whom they refuse to have sex with. This is why when a woman saves sex for marriage, she is showing that she loves her husband much more than a woman who gave it out easily to other men she was not married to.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen16/05/21 03:24 AM
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The halo effect is most certainly real, no matter how much women wish to deny it. Labeling the unattractive as morally bad is a means to deflect from the fact that a woman is demonizing a man for something largely out of his control while using the same standard in reverse for the attractive man. For a woman to acknowledge that she is using superficial standards is to go against the premise that women are intrinsically virtuous and more moral than men. This premise is just not true. Women also h…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen16/05/21 03:18 AM
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This is what happens when sex is used as the only real foundation for a relationship. Sure, this woman wants more than that, but she thinks nothing of the idea of jumping in bed with a guy fairly early in a relationship. She only gets mad after the fact that sex was the only thing that the guy was after, and this should have been clear had she practiced better observation skills. And given this is a common occurrence, I have a hard time believing every guy she has this happen with is a master ma…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen16/05/21 03:04 AM
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Thanks for your submission /u/asdf333aza, but I am going to have to remove this submission since it does not really fit the theme (Rule 5). She is not complaining about jerks or not finding a good man (her mention of "no ring" is sort of hinting there, but that is not really strong enough as an example). This is a fringe post at best, and it really does not qualify for what we are looking for here.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen13/05/21 01:14 PM
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You are not wrong, though for some men they already crossed that bridge. I do not know if divorce is even the best option for many men with fhe laws as they are, so I cannot say what the best move would be if a man were in such a marriage.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen13/05/21 03:01 AM
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If you only have sex to offer, you will only get guys who are looking solely for sex. You need to provide more than that to get the type of man who wants a committed relationship. For this woman, she lost a large portion of the very type of man she not only wants but needs by having another man's child.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen13/05/21 02:36 AM
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They just assume that they have become wiser as they have become older, but that is never a guarantee. Some people just get older. And these women are nothing more than bitter that they have become older and want to claim that they are more mature and wise, as they know that they no longer can compete with younger women. After all, if they had more to offer, they would not be bitter, single, and mad about older men wanting youthful women. Which not so coincidentally, every man wants.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen13/05/21 01:10 AM
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Whatever the views you may have on race, the way I see this situation is does not ultimately change no matter the father's race. The fact is she chose to have sex with a man without any concern with whether or not she would get pregnant or whether or not he would be a responsible father. Her having a child that clearly has a father from a different race just makes dating more limited for her, as any man who would date her would have everyone on the outside be immediately aware that he is not the…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen10/05/21 04:31 PM
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Straight and to the point, I see. She has another man's kid and you better have a job (i.e. money), because who is going to pay for her poor decisions? That's right, she us looking for you to pick up the tab. Doesn't that sound like good time? It appears she became a single mother quite young, as if we are to take the age as accurate, she would have become pregnant during high school given how old the kid looks (2 at youngest?). That is what I would call a false start at adulthood, as she messed…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen10/05/21 03:07 AM
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She is upset that reality does not cater to her desires. She recognizes that she has a harder time getting men to commit as she gets older, but having a term that describes her situation and many other women's is to acknowledge the unpleasant truth. Also, I suspect having a classification that describes her status shows that she is following a trend, which is a reminder that she failed to have the foresight despite other men already making her well aware of the fact that her experience was highl…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen09/05/21 12:07 AM
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There are women willing to tell them this, their family members (mothers, aunts, other extended family). But all the same, they will reject these warnings because the root of the issue is that these women wish to live in rebellion. Whether they are rebelling from God, from nature, or from family, they do not want to be told what to do or how they should live their lives to become happy. It is women lying to them, as /u/TheApricotCavalier states, though it is other women doing so. Their friends, …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen08/05/21 11:59 PM
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At 40, you are going to be doing a buzzer beater at best if you want to be a mother. Yes, time is not on your side as a woman, but you rejected any warning signs given to you by those who were older and wiser because you preferred to scorn traditional values or thought those people were just tightwads. Every time a family member asked you 'When are you going to get married?" that was a warning not to waste your time. Every time someone asked you whether or not you wanted to have children, that w…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen08/05/21 11:48 PM
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She is not looking for a relationship, she is looking for someone to put on the appearance that she has a relationship because seeing a relationship form when she is not in one would be a blow to her ego. "See, I have a relationship too!" is the message that she wishes to imply for her immediate family. There is no real crisis being single at a given moment, especially at 22. The problem I am seeing with her is that she finds the idea of saying to her family and strangers that she is single so u…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen08/05/21 02:09 PM
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I'm not saying "wait until you're married to have sex", because that's - largely - unrealistic. Many may see it as unrealistic because of the current culture says that sex should be sought as often as possible, but resisting it can be done. Not to say that marriage is in the cards for many people, but if you are going to want marriage, you have to do it right. That does mean waiting until marriage, at least with my prescription. I get that my prescription is not well received by everyone, but th…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/05/21 12:38 AM
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Been wanting to settle down for a long ass time now and everyone is on some bs Well it does not help that you are a single mother, which filters out a lot of guys who do want a serious relationship. That type does not want a woman who has demonstrated that she has poor judgement as well as kids from another man/men. Other men who are "on some bs" probably see you as an easy mark to get sex, and they are probably right. The time to be serious about relationships is as soon as possible. That means…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/05/21 10:42 PM
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That is a good point. Quality can be faked, which is where the value of finding the truth needs to be present. Certainly a woman would be more upset about a guy claiming to have more wealth than he actually does versus him understating his wealth. In this case the deception is not the full reason for the anger if/when the woman finds out much later, but rather that she was wanting a higher quality that she thought was present. As for women deceiving more than men, I have no disagreements. The na…
/r/WhereAllTheGoodMenAre05/05/21 08:37 PM
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Yep, many women want a man who is superior to them financially (as seen with her) but she wants to be able to not take direction or accepting of him having any authority in the relationship. That probably explains how the marriage ended.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen05/05/21 03:42 PM
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He did not say that as /u/lurkerhasarisen pointed out, but he certainly stated that you should not let emphasis on material wealth be too important, especially not if it places you further from God.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen05/05/21 03:32 PM
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As she has gotten older and divorced, her demands for a guy's finances have become all the more strict. Hypergamy floats, and it sure does not make all the other demands seem more reasonable in comparison. They just add up. Would a man near her age who fits her requirements even want such a woman, or would he want one that he can get that has more to offer? That answer should be obvious. She seems like a lot of sunshine and rainbows too, given her profile picture and her attitude. Any takers?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen05/05/21 02:45 PM
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Modern women be like 'my kid come first' - this is yet another deception game that would appeal to the traditionalist fundamentals of some men. It actually is 'i prioritized my tingles over my kid's well being - had I put the kid first, I would have made an effort to work the relationship with the father'. Well said. One thing I notice about the discussion of single mothers is that media portrayals of them are always helpless victims who have done nothing wrong, as well as being "heroes." Except…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/05/21 09:25 PM
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So "what you want" just so happens to conform to the exact desires of a woman who seeks to use you as a utility. How convenient!
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/05/21 09:13 PM
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In a way it is quite insulting for a woman like this to only consider a guy a viable option after she has had another man's child. Being seen as a safety net to cover for her own bad judgement is not a flattering gesture, all while she most often takes no ownership for her bad decisions.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/05/21 09:04 PM
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Hypocrisy is not just a word. It is either an act of arrogance or a feat in lacking self awareness. The jury is out which one fits this woman. It would only be fair for her to consider men who also have children. But she is not concerned with being fair. She wants to get showered with attention and provisions, and another man's child(ren) would just get in the way of her getting what she wants. Only she can put you last, but you better put her first!
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/05/21 02:19 AM
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First off, you should never put a picture of you with someone of the opposite sex on your dating profile. It opens the door to all sorts of questions that do not have good answers regardless of the explanation. Just don't. For all we know the guy could be gay or otherwise totally not interested in her. But we know jack squat about the truth when we only have pictures like this. Your word means nothing when we do not even know you, and I would argue it is better to just seek a relationship elsewh…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/05/21 06:23 PM
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While it might burn others out, I thrive on the effort in these sort of things. It sharpens my mind. Maybe I should stop doing it to encourage less of it.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/05/21 04:32 PM
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No one is claiming there is any entitlement but you. Men here saying they would not date a woman who a decade earlier would have outright rejected them is just them stating their own standards. Many men are just fine being single rather than being with a woman who did not really want him but rather sees him as a safety net. If a man will only commit to and marry a woman who is chaste/virginal and submissive it his his right, as marriage has become a worse deal for men thanks to the current divor…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/05/21 03:08 AM
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A good way to put it. Those hoops are only worth jumping through if they are consistent, where every man before you has also had to to that. That is, if she should not be charging more for what she previously gave away for less. Whether or not you think those hoops are really worth it, the deal is worse for any future man.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/05/21 02:53 AM
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The term "freedom" is often misused, this case included. Women want "freedom" to act as they want to but do not want to accept the responsibility that comes with that freedom. What those women really want is gratification, which includes not ever feeling bad about their decisions. So if you dare tell a woman you would not marry her if she slept around, you are violating her "freedom." A perfect Dostoevsky quote for this.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/05/21 02:41 AM
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Regarding forgiveness, I would argue that it requires genuine repentance to be present for the one seeking forgiveness. When I hear the description of a woman like this, I do not see a woman who is remorseful for how she previously treated the type of man she is now targeting, but rather just dislikes the consequences of her actions without any regret. Also, forgiving someone does not mean you have further obligations to cater to their future desires. If I had a friend who owed me 1000 dollars b…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/05/21 02:37 AM
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That title is the exact reason why so many men are not convinced to accept such a woman when she is now has less to offer a man. The fact is, she could have not only had the same sort of man she now will accept when younger, but he would in turn be willing to appreciate her for decades to come. Yes, the wall will be there for all women but a good man who was appreciated when you were both in your 20s will show more appreciation in return for years to come (the marriage must have solid foundation…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/05/21 02:28 AM
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6 figures and 6 feet, two out of the three 6's so many women require. That kind of guy might be fine with a woman who is 29, but somehow I don't think that actually applies to you, despite what it says on your profile.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen30/04/21 02:05 AM
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Stole the words right out of me.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen30/04/21 02:03 AM
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Not sure what is going on with her eyebrows either, and that may be an indication of an attitude issue. More importantly, I could not classify her as marriageable due to her lack of foresight and lack of judgement that caused her to become a single mother at 18. It also does not help that she appears to be overweight, too.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen29/04/21 02:49 AM
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If you want a dad for your baby, there is a far better way to do that. First, you find a marriageable man. You must do this before you ever get pregnant. Especially not with some other man who is not marriageable. Now with the marriageable man, you marry him then have children, and you will have a father for your children. This will require you to be a marriageable woman, so you best be one if you want this plan to work.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen29/04/21 12:44 AM
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News flash: those men only want sex from you and nothing more. You need to look at your selection criteria and determine if you are choosing the right kind of men. Is what I am asking fair? Maybe. Men are told to be on the lookout for gold diggers, and women need to be on the lookout for the guys who are only interested in sex. If you expect fairness in life, you are going to be disappointed. Also, being 35 and looking for committed relationships means that you are going to have to compete with …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen28/04/21 04:06 PM
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Not that women like that are capable of long-term planning. Hence why they are single mothers in the first place.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen27/04/21 10:52 PM
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Likely combination of child support and tax dollars. So if you are a net taxpayer, congratulations on your non-voluntary contribution to her stay at home mom fund.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen27/04/21 10:51 PM
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Just how does she manage to be a stay at home mom while being single? Who is paying for her to be able to afford that? The answer can be in part found by looking in the mirror if you are a marginally successful male. If she does enjoy cooking, she should really look into some low calorie recipes. Would do her some good. While she states that she does not have the body of a model, most men do not have that requirement. But most are certainly not into morbidly obese women, which is in itself a dea…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen27/04/21 10:47 PM
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I had a similar thought seeing the profile.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen27/04/21 10:42 PM
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Just another freebie they are looking for? Same old story of a woman asking for provisions before there is even a relationship, and that is the only part of her profile that is "about her" besides that she is a single mom and a nurse. Would it kill her to have something more to say than demands up front?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen27/04/21 10:39 PM
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fantasy fairytale of marriage Weddings are where the fairytale fantasies take place. The type of woman that sees a wedding as "her day" is wanting to have attention and adoration, but that does not make her want to be married. A marriage is not just one day, it is a lifetime (or it is supposed to be). How many women want a wedding but do not genuinely want to be married? Quite a lot of them. And many men do not want any part of that deal when the end of the marriage means him getting raked over …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen26/04/21 08:29 PM
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Late to the party, but I agree with the others here. I like to see more definitive examples of our core theme rather than ones that are fringe at best or require far too many blank fillings where it is reaching to say that it fits the theme. This one does not work so well by those standards.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen26/04/21 04:25 PM
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The problem with the truth is that it is often unpleasant, discomforting, and inconvenient. Those factors repel most women from ever listening and accepting the truth in general, much less what we say here.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen26/04/21 04:02 PM
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I will answer your question with a question: Are you an old fashioned woman yourself? And I don't mean did you recently adopt the label now that you want to get married and have children. I mean have you lived your life in a way that prepares yourself to be married? Most specifically, have you had sex before marriage? Yes, I will be a stickler with the one drop rule, because if you are going to describe yourself as old fashioned, that means you better be the real deal. Any woman can make claims;…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen26/04/21 01:50 PM
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Looks is only but one factor in being "wife-material" and as for owning your own home, car, and having a job, those are not bad things but they also do not make you wife material. Depending on whether or not you "own" your car through expensive monthly payments or outright own it, you might have a liability rather than an asset. As for this: I'm really tired of just being looked at as a piece of ass That's the giveaway for the problem. Her sleeping with men early on is what keeps her from being …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen26/04/21 01:42 PM
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Something tells me that her race has far less to do with her being single than her being fat. Blame the algorithms all you want, most men are not attracted to fat women.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen26/04/21 01:41 AM
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Someone told men of higher value absofuckinglutely won't date a bigger girl. Yep, that is the case. A man who has options is going to prefer a woman who is not overweight. Pretty simple. Losing weight is not easy, but if you want to be healthier and more attractive to the opposite sex, you are going to need to put in that effort. In a way being overweight sends a message to your partner that they are not worth the effort needed to be attractive to them. Also, being fat is not just a cosmetic dif…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen25/04/21 02:43 AM
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The promiscuity of many women is a large part of the equation with what I addressed, as it has become standard for many relationships or "relationship" to have sex quite early on. Any potential falsehoods to be found would not be discovered until sex had already happened. For men who were only in it for that, they got everything they wanted while the woman was hoping for an actual relationship. Even when the man wants a relationship, one built on false pretenses is doomed to failure, as neither …
/r/WhereAllTheGoodMenAre25/04/21 01:52 AM
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Would have helped if I put in some real time to edit this one, as I did very little this time. That's what I get for that.
/r/WhereAllTheGoodMenAre25/04/21 01:38 AM
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The truth is that most women just suck at dating. So it's no wonder how they complain about the lack of good men, when in reality they are doing that to themselves. I would have to agree with that assessment, as women who pursue a particular result in the dating market but fail to achieve it due to their own incompetence would indeed suck at dating. For many of them it is not a lack of opportunities but choosing the wrong ones every time. And repeating the same mistakes shows a lack of learning …
/r/WhereAllTheGoodMenAre25/04/21 01:36 AM
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But men like me do care, but not because we are happy to hear that, but because it allows them to know that this type of woman should be avoided.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen24/04/21 01:56 AM
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Now that she is done having fun, she wants a guy like you that will provide for her and will be reliable. What's that? She turned her nose up at guys like you in her 20s because she thought you were boring and now you want nothing to do with her? How dare you turn down a woman who turned down guys like you before! You are supposed to man up and be her safe landing after she spent years doing the opposite of preparing for a long term relationship!
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen24/04/21 01:50 AM
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This one is a long one. Hope I did not ramble on too much. In short, women show if they value honesty if they are willing to determine if a man is truthful before she places investment in either a relationship or sex, and she needs to value reality if she is going to assess what she should be able to expect a man to actually be able to provide as well as whether or not she can get the type of man she is aiming for. A woman who does not value these shows this by her actions, and she can prevent h…
/r/WhereAllTheGoodMenAre23/04/21 09:19 PM
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This is what happens when you chase men because he has looks, height, money, status, but not bother looking into other traits. Especially the moral character traits. When you completely fail to even account for those traits, you set yourself for failure. Thus, we get women like this complaining about jerks whom they should have been able to identify as such had they not only filtered for superficial traits.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen21/04/21 10:29 PM
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The term "emotional labor" always seems to come up from women who want to make it seem like they are struggling when in actuality it is just making a big deal out of ordinary things. Having to meet with a man for a coffee date is labor? Maybe you should not be dating, because you clearly cannot handle social interactions without complaining about how hard it is. The problem is not really with the supposed labor, but with the woman's own psychological state. Women who are not mentally healthy com…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen21/04/21 08:41 PM
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Any time a woman wants the traditional treatment of having a meal date where the man pays, the question that needs to be asked is this: is she a truly traditional woman? The answer is often no, especially true with the FDS types. They want men to uphold traditional treatment while not providing it in return. For example, how many women are willing to be virgins before marriage? How many of them are willing to make meals for their man? How many of them would actually uphold their marriage vows (u…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen21/04/21 08:10 PM
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Boy do I choose winners. Yep, you sure did choose him. There were plenty of warnings and signs, but you ignored them. There were other men you could have chosen, but you overlooked them. Another single mother to add to the already way too high numbers.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen20/04/21 10:44 PM
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When it comes to looks, you are going to need to compromise if you are aiming too high. Men are told this all the time, regardless of whether or not they are doing it. Women, however, have been shown to rate most men below average (80 percent or something like that). So we know that there are many women who do have an unrealistic outlook on men, and that is not going to help their situation one bit. When I say compromise, it does not mean anyone has to date anyone they find downright ugly or are…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen19/04/21 08:16 PM
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First, drinking alcohol to deal with your problems is a sure way to not only not solve your problems, but make everything worse including your health. I really do hope she does stop drinking for her sake. Regarding her self assessment, if it is true that she is good looking and has a good personality, why is she struggling so much? Perhaps she is not as great as she thinks she is. Perhaps she has poor choice selection for men (e.g. choosing men for their looks/height and just ignoring all other …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen19/04/21 07:50 PM
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My thoughts exactly. There are her words, and there are her actions. Guess which one is a better indicator of who she is? You show what is most important by what you prioritize, especially when you have the greatest opportunity to choose.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen18/04/21 10:29 PM
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She claims that she wanted to get married in her 20s, but I call BS on that. She could have easily made that a bigger priority and had the marriage she wanted. There are less men who want to be serious in their 20s, but they exist. The funny thing about actually sticking to principles in dating is that you filter out the type of people who are not compatible. But rather than do that, she dated that kind of guy anyways. Why? Probably because she was not as serious about getting married as she cla…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen18/04/21 09:33 PM
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Seen to just fancy the arseholes...someone prove me wrong? Bored of the players now If every guy she has dated is an asshole, she needs to figure out how her selection criteria should be adjusted. There is also the possibility that she just calls any guy who does not choose to put up with her assholes, which means that the problem is deeper than just her selection strategy. Must appreciate a curvy figure, food is way more important than being skinny "Curvey" = fat, as so many overweight women ha…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen18/04/21 02:18 AM
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Also, you must be willing to believe that “she’s always liked you, even back in high school” but that she only refused to come near you “because she was immature” Funny how things like that happen. The guy that she supposedly liked all along? He can wait for her to be done with other guys that she supposedly does not like very much. Because when you really want someone, you make sure to avoid any possibility of dating him at all costs right? Of course the story is not all that believable. Often …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen17/04/21 03:03 AM
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"Been there done that" does not tell me that she has grown as a person but rather that she squandered time with men with whom she should have had full awareness of who they were. I do not see the understanding of who someone is as all that difficult to do if you are willing to put in the effort and forego "living in the moment" type of thinking. When a young woman is with a man during her 20s, that is the type of man she prefers to be with, as she has the greatest amount of power in choosing the…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen16/04/21 10:28 PM
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Agreed. It is not a popular message these days as the common culture is that sex happens whenever you want it to happen. Why wait for marriage when you can have it sooner? That is how many people see saving sex for marriage, and we are seeing many major negative consequences as a result. Marriage is less valued when you introduce sex outside of it or do a "test marriage" by moving in with each other before the marriage. If the couple who is living together was not having sex before, they are set…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen12/04/21 02:31 AM
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Perfect example of play stupid games, win stupid prizes. How funny that the moment the open marriage idea that she not only demanded but threatened divorce over became inconvenient to her she decides that she wants to close the marriage again. My sympathy level cannot go lower, as I will emphasize that she threatened to divorce him if he did not accept her demands. Something very unsurprising about her request for an open marriage is that she already has a guy in mind to have sex with well befor…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen12/04/21 02:17 AM
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I think you'll concede my point. You got me. I agree that traditional values could have prevented much of what she is experiencing. Being someone who actually values marriage and the idea that sex should wait until marriage, I know that it can absolutely work if done properly. I just see many people straying far from that path, and I just work with what is happening. So while she does not control the actions of other men, she could indeed have a far different process with how she approaches rela…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen12/04/21 12:10 AM
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She is not at fault for unknowingly being the other woman in an affair or being cheated on. This does indicate one thing though: the type of guys she is into are the type that can have many other women interested in them. Along with that, she has a poor track record of character judgement. There are men who are both available and willing to be faithful, but she has to also be willing to be with that type of man. I can only speculate, but have to wonder if she is turning down the type of man who …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen11/04/21 03:56 PM
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I have a burning desire for a bigger purpose and a pampered lifestyle Just a roundabout way of saying she is a gold digger. And that "bigger purpose" is just going to be spending your money. An alternative way of that happening is her looking to start some sort of business, which just so happens to need your money on a regular basis to stay afloat. If she was so successful herself, she would already have what she wants without requesting that she get that out of a relationship. And "currently ce…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen10/04/21 04:01 PM
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Someone that is "family oriented" should be married to the father of her children (being in the same home goes without saying). That assumes there is only one father, which we cannot assume.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen09/04/21 11:15 PM
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Lots of words are not a problem, so long as you have a reason to use that many of them. I see nothing wrong with the length of this comment. I sometimes feel like I am long winded in my writing too.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen09/04/21 11:14 PM
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4 to 5 years is too much of an age gap? Please. That is by no means a significant difference in age. This is reaching as a complaint. As for cultures with arranged marriages, I will give them credit that they have a functioning system for them. This woman clearly will just be a thorn in the side of the integrity of such a system, so I would agree that she should not get an arranged marriage. Bad examples influence others to be bad examples, so she would do more harm than good to her people by de…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen09/04/21 10:42 PM
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Your world is much different when you are young. A young male who has never had a girlfriend is going to place higher value in getting a girlfriend than a guy who has an easy time getting girlfriends, whether near his age or older. There is a strong sense of missing out if you are a young guy who sees guys his age get girlfriends easily while he struggles. Yeah in the grand scheme of things it is not a huge deal and things get better for men, but young men have yet to reach the age and experienc…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen08/04/21 01:25 AM
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I did meet my wife with online dating (got very lucky there given how bad much of online dating is), and I can tell you it did not take days to get any messages from her. It was certainly no more than a day, and we planned a date as soon as we could. She definitely showed interest with her responsiveness, and I did as well. Knowing the difference between a woman who is truly interested and someone who is not is something that every man should understand. A lot of men have no idea what it means f…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/04/21 10:57 PM
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I need a you who isn't you If that is not a signal to end this "friendship" immediately, then nothing is. No man should keep himself in a situation where he perpetuatally suffers by being around a woman he is clearly attracted to and is not in a relationship with her. She has no obligation to date him, he has no obligation to continue being friends. He should look for what he really wants with another girl instead.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/04/21 10:45 PM
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“[I didn’t write a bio because] I wanted to test out online dating a different way. She just wanted to be lazy and justify her laziness as a "different way." No bios should be viewed as suspicious, because that often means a fake account. Anyone can create an account with pics ripped online and fill out all the minimum required questions or other fields. I had this one man who said he loved all my pictures and…I only had one picture, so I knew he was copying and pasting the same messaging. She p…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/04/21 01:55 AM
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A futile attempt to claim that they have reformed and now want one of those good men that they previously overlooked. It also sets the stage for disappointment for any man who is unlucky enough to be tricked into being in a relationship.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/04/21 11:01 PM
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She hits all the right notes: -Is over with "fuck boys." -My kids are my world -not here to play games Perfect example of a woman who made all the wrong decisions and now looks for a good man to bail her out. All while demanding that the kind of man that impregnated her to filter themselves out. Very nice find OP.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/04/21 10:58 PM
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The only reason I can think of for her mentioning circumcision is if she was s part of a religion such as Judaism. Seeing that she wants a guy that is not religious, I am left to wonder why she mentions it. I think it is highly disturbing that she brings it up at all.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/04/21 02:16 AM
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Calling a man you showed the least preference to "Alpha males" is just empty words, as the actions of such women show that the man they are choosing last is not because they are saving the best for him, but rather that they see him as the last resort for getting their financial needs met. Frankly I find that sort of strategy insulting to every man who worked hard to make something of himself he was ignored by the same women in favor of a hedonistic lifestyle. Men who want a family do not want wo…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen05/04/21 05:23 PM
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My take is this is an effort to have women be not "damsels in distress" by movie writers/directors/producers. The "solution" they have contrived to have women be "empowered" by being completely rude and bitchy, which either is because of writer incompetence or a desire to buck gender norms by trying to masculinize women. Not that they are succeeding at masculinizing women, but that is probably intentional as well. As much as woke politics hates it, a good portion of women if not most of them are…
/r/WhereAllTheGoodMenAre05/04/21 04:53 PM
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"Teach men not to rape" is a valid strategy. The problem is not that principle, but the fact that feminists who make that statement imply that the reason there are rapists is due to a lack of education. Even with that lesson ingrained in men, there are still men who rape. Those men already know it is wrong; they just do not care. We teach that murder is wrong, but there are still murderers. A more direct comparison though is teaching drivers the rules of the road and pedestrians safety. Yes, the…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen05/04/21 12:15 PM
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If you reward a behavior, you get more of it. If you punish a behavior, you get less of it. Not a difficult concept. But she would rather havd the "F boys" act like a gentleman while she does not act like a lady. And shock of shocks, she does not get what she wants.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen05/04/21 12:01 PM
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The message suggests, at a high level: “Women, here’s how to change your reaction to shit men do, so that you can deal with it better.” As opposed to: “Men, stop doing shit that women have to deal with.” The advice for women is as such because when you are an individual, you have full control over your actions and how you respond to what happens to you. You do not, however have control over how half of the population acts as a whole. You are going to deal with bad people, and there is no way to …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen05/04/21 11:49 AM
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If she wants to claim the traditional and religious route after already demonstrating that she strayed far from that route previously, fine. She can try to find a man that will accept her conditions. She just should not be surprised if she does not find a godly man who will agree to such conditions, as such men still prefer women who were traditional from the start. As in not having children from another man out of wedlock. Being forgiven by God does not mean that you will not have to deal with …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/04/21 12:57 AM
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It comes down to extremes in many cases. A woman using just a small amount of makeup is generally not going to be opposed by most men. It is when a woman puts so much on that she does not look like the same woman before and after that it becomes a problem. If I cannot recognize a woman as the same woman based on whether she has makeup on or not, it is a problem If it comes down to the choice of makeup free or caked on layers of makeup, the makeup free one will win out. But a minimal amount that …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/04/21 12:45 AM
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That would require she do some exercise, and that is hard work. Applying make-up and getting her hair done, instant results. She is a victim of her own laziness.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/04/21 02:42 PM
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It is other women that care about the make-up and hair. They full well know that is the case, as it is their form of competition. But if they admitted that they spend so much time and money on competing with other women, they would have no means to blame men for these costs. Of course they still will be mad at men, because reasons.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/04/21 02:41 PM
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More likely the poor nutrition is actually more costly than the proper nutrition anyways. Compare the costs of going out to eat or even getting a fast food meal to the grocery costs of the same food. Buying and preparing it yourself is going to be much cheaper than eating it from someone else, along with not being as healthy when someone else is adding who knows how much salt, fat and sugar to the food and beverages they prepare. So the costs are even more on top of the extra products they buy t…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/04/21 02:38 PM
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Women who go through as much money as this woman to "maintain their appearance" have no one but themselves to blame for spending so much money. Men do not ask them to do all this, as most of this spending does not deal with the most fundamental aspects of a woman's appearance that men care about. Those being a healthy body weight and basic hygienic care, the latter not being something that requires thousands of to do. Men do not look at things like a woman's manicure or have much concern with th…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/04/21 02:34 PM
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Agreed. Too many lowest common denominator decisions made without the full brunt of the consequences being felt are allowing such behaviors to not only continue, but thrive. If there was no welfare state or child support laws, women like this one would not have the ability to make such poor choices without major consequences. Sometimes consequences are the only thing keeps certain people from making bad choices, because they are not going to be reasoned into making better choices. To anyone who …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/04/21 01:40 PM
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400K is literally the top 2% of all earners (almost 1% but that is splitting hairs when it comes to the crux of the issue). His question of what she brings to the table gets right to the meat of the issue. She is asking for a lot from a man who she can not provide what he would want in return. Being 190 is not the worst weight to be at (just shows the sorry state of our society), but that is still overweight at her height, and she wants this hypothetical man to be willing to be a step dad. Any m…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/04/21 01:24 PM
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OnLine Dating
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen01/04/21 05:46 PM
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Going to have to remove this for violating rule 1.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen01/04/21 05:44 PM
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Given the fact that there are women who do use men for free meals with no intentions of providing anything in return (as in she 100% does not want to even "see where things go" she just wants food), men have adopted the strategy of proposing dates that cost them little to no money. This is used to filter out women who only want free meals. Are women who legitimately want a real relationship affected by this? Yes. Women want to be treated to dinner and see a man's willingness to provide a meal ou…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen01/04/21 05:43 PM
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That is a valid point as well. And I see no possible swing back until the welfare state collapses. That will not be good times, but it will stop a lot if the nonsense along with the coming hardships.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen01/04/21 01:16 AM
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While getting little to no sympathy may seem like a burden, there is a positive that comes from it. Men are forced to actually have to figure things out if they want to get anywhere in life, so they become stronger when they have to pick themselves up. It may not pleasant to hear, but it is how we as men have to operate, or else we will just get nowhere. Otherwise we could end up like this woman getting all sorts of support and praise for her "woe is me" articles, but it really will not benefit …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen31/03/21 10:44 PM
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For those women, their value is declared to be high because they insist it to be the case. They fail to realize that while women can have a high value in the dating market without much effort, it can easily be lost with poor decisions. And that does take effort to avoid those pitfalls, as well as make sure to have proper habits and decision making skills. A woman can be higher value with effort, though many women make the mistake of putting those efforts towards things that do not make them more…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen30/03/21 10:48 PM
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"Value" to these women is just whether or not she benefits from the relationship, regardless of how much effort she puts in on her end. The father is only "LVM" after she got pregnant from him. No doubt she was absolutely fine with him because of her tingles. But now she wants the tingles and money. All of this could have been better for her had she not become a single mom. But that will not stop her from doubling down and demanding more from other men while having little to offer still.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen30/03/21 10:39 PM
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She uses her detriment as a justification for having higher standards for a guy. Not only that but weight can ve controlled, height cannot. She just "happens to be attracted to" taller and skinny guys, so different from other girls. I am sure that she sees no issue with hypocrisy of refusing to date a guy who is also overweight.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen29/03/21 11:49 PM
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One other factor that older women like this have in not finding a man is this: many men in their later years are either interested in younger women or have no interest at all in having a relationship. Regarding the latter, men who are disinterested in relationships ask themselves, just what am I getting out of a relationship? So many of them have found out that they are quite content by themselves. So why complicate things? This should be an example for women to understand that they cannot just …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen29/03/21 02:10 AM
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Hey, if she wants to be upfront about the "relationship" being merely transactional, so be it. She just should not be surprised when many men are not eager to jump on that deal. "Buy me stuff" is just not an attractive prospect to start any relationship.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen29/03/21 01:54 AM
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Odds of getting pregnant at 41, not very high. Just remember for most cases when women have become pregnant in their 40s, they have already had kids earlier, as their fertility window got pushed back from not dropping eggs during the previous pregnancies. Getting pregnant for the first time past 40 is a much different story. That whole "in time you want to get married and have kids" is going to be far more rushed than she implies.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen28/03/21 02:33 AM
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Assuming all men are exactly like the ones you choose to sleep with and get knocked up by is an indication of poor judgement. My theory is that women who make such claims about all men being just like the ones that they sleep with allows them to deflect from their own poor decision making and poor character judgement. Because if all men are exactly like the one(s) that knocked her up, then it would not technically matter which one she chose, right? Well, it turns out that her choice in men did m…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen26/03/21 01:49 PM
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Ladies if you want to understand what men are saying then stop putting words in our mouth. Ain't that the truth. Women often assume that men have hidden meanings in their words, because that is how women talk with each other. So when a man says something that is straightforward, he is assumed to have a hidden message that is not there by women like this.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen24/03/21 09:56 PM
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The truth is misogyny, apparently. She does not want the truth, but rather words confirming everything she wants to be true. He is not wrong that she is highly limited with the chances of finding the type of man she wants. Every parameter that you set limits your options. It is that you need to determine if those standards are worth it.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen24/03/21 09:50 PM
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No, men are not attacking you because they think you are "powerful." If they are indeed doing so (nothing can be certain here), it is for mockery only. I do not condone attacking someone like this if it is indeed happening to her (also would need to see if they are actual attacks or not). I am against real, genuine attacks. But if it is as u/lurkerhasarisen suspects that they were just giving out harsh truths, that is not a concern from me. It is probably useless, but not a true attack. Back to …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen23/03/21 04:14 AM
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She just found out what it is like to be a man in the dating world. Men get these sort of responses all the time from women, so there will not be much sympathy from men like me. Men are told to suck it up when this happens to them. She also better get used to it, because it will happen more often for her.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen23/03/21 01:08 AM
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Any guy that fits all her requirements can find a far better woman anyways.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen20/03/21 02:50 AM
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She is asking for the very type of man that would not only stay the hell away from her but also be able to pick a far better and less entitled woman. This type of man is very, very rare, and her other requirements (such as 5 year age gap) makes this type of man even more rare. She will deservedly by single. Also, what is up with requirement number 1? The man's transgression was that he got his Master's degree less than a year ago. He might not know it, but the bullet he needed to dodge but did n…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen20/03/21 02:48 AM
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The hard pill this woman is going to need to swallow is that she really missed her best opportunity to have the relationship she not only wants, but needs. Who knows how many fathers there are in all of this, but again we see that she did not learn anything after being pregnant with a 4th child. She can say all the words she wants about wanting something real, but she had shown that she allowed the type of "relationships" she now detests. At least, she claims such. Every time I see a woman with …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen19/03/21 12:04 AM
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She would not date Christian men before she became a single mother. Now she is looking for a mark. Had she not become a single mother, she would still be pursuing the kind of men who do not have Christian values.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen16/03/21 10:47 PM
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It is not that it is impossible for a single mom to be Christian. Rather, it is highly suspect whether or not she is genuine or just going through the motions in the hope that she will trick some guy into providing for her. More often than not, these women claim to be Christian out of necessity rather than them being true believers. Forgiveness can be granted to anyone by God. But that does not mean someone else is responsible for fixing your mistakes. Sometimes you just need to live with the co…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen16/03/21 10:44 PM
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To some people, "capitalism" is just a broad label for anything they don't like that involves some economic exchange. You are right that peoplr still had to work. That is true regardless of the system. Until we have full automation for all levels of production, we are still going to have to work. Some women might be able to get away with not working if they find a man willing to provide for them. In that sort of case, they should be grateful. But often those women still are unhappy.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen16/03/21 10:38 PM
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Agreed and well said with the whole comment. Since they are so inept at actually judging the character of a man they have to rely heavily on pre-selection. This explains so many issues with women and their lack of ability to find a quality man. Judging on character takes work and forethought, and when women are looking for the exciting highs and tingles, character judging gets thrown out in favor of the short term strategies.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen15/03/21 11:58 PM
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Long story short, the genuine nice guy is not putting up a false front about who he is. Rather, he is exactly as he presents himself. However, women having unrealistic expectations for what they want in a guy means that a guy whose demeanor is not like the fantasy they think is possible means that they will overlook such a man. Set aside the fantasy and you can find better results. While this article tries to do that, I doubt women who really need this advice will actually take it to heart.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen15/03/21 11:48 PM
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Asking for an open relationship is most certainly grounds for ending any relationship. It just shows disrespect and a lack of love, as it is overtly telling the man that she does not really want him. This man is fortunate that he found this out before putting a ring on it, as it would be a nightmare had he done it after. You would think that a single mother who is getting entirely provided for by this man would be more grateful, but no. She has to tell him that she wants to have sex with other m…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen15/03/21 01:36 AM
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I don't care if that man is your literal brother or "just a friend" or whatever reason you have for including a picture of yourself with a shirtless man, there is not an explanation I would accept for the inclusion of this photo on your profile. It tells me much about your thinking (or lack thereof) and your attempt to signal that you can get interest from other guys is not something men want to see.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen14/03/21 01:19 AM
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Men who can provide the stability she now requests do not want a woman who will only be receptive to them the moment it becomes absolutely necessary for her. She needs this kind of man, but does not want him. If she really wanted such a man, she would have went for him right away and avoided the type of man knocked her up. Remember, when you have the greatest power of choice, you show what you really want the most by what choices you prioritize.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen13/03/21 12:06 AM
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For anyone who is under the illusion that women are just intrinsically different in countries outside of their western nations, this is an example of how that is not the case. Traditional women only exist in a context where there is social enforcement of maintaining those standards, which starts at birth amd extends to adulthood. I cannot say what the exact social dynamics are like in Russia regarding sexual relationships, but the idea of getting a Russian mail order bride or any other one is a …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen12/03/21 09:51 PM
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This woman asks the question because she does not know how to identify such a man. She is used to leading any "relationship" with sex, which provides no window of time to determine the intrinsic qualities of a man. Along with that, she has no idea how to appreciate such a man, as she has lost the ability to build a proper relationship. Most likely she would turn down that type of man, assuming he would even approach her in the first place. By revealing what kind of woman she is, she will also re…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen12/03/21 08:01 PM
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60K a year is nothing to sneeze at. While it is not living the life of luxury, it makes for a comfortable living with a proper budget. Perhaps it might not get you very far in large and expensive cities, but that is a different topic altogether (as well as 6 figures not getting as much bang for your buck in those same areas). It was not as if it was her business anyways how much he makes. There was no real winning move to the question "how much do you make" when you are just meeting a woman. You…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen09/03/21 04:18 PM
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Contrary to what feminism tries to insist, women have a natural desire to have babies. A very, very strong desire. This means that when a woman does not have children of her own, she starts to become stressed because her instincts are screaming at her to have children. For a select few women, there will not be a looming sense of doom if they do not have children. These women can have the careers and other lifestyle choices that are not conducive to having children and be happy. But this is not m…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen09/03/21 12:14 AM
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A woman being girlfriend/marriage material is something thay is lived out, not something you falsely signal yourself to be. I doubt women do not realize this, but rather that they are too far gone to course correct or do not have any desire to take any action other than put up appearances of being "not that kind of girl." They know exactly what commitment minded men want, but are not willing or able to do more than pretend to be that kind of woman.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/03/21 03:38 AM
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To their credit, posts like this will give him advice to not have anything to do with this woman, which is the best course of action for him. Though it is not as if that is really all that hard to determine, so the credit I grant is providing the no brainer answer that anyone could give.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/03/21 03:32 AM
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He may not realize it now, but he was given a gift of finding out exactly what type of woman she was before he was too deep into the relationship. She clearly does not see sex as special for relationships, as she is fine with sleeping with a guy she just met at a party. So anything she says about "taking it slow" is just her display of disrespect towards him. When sex is not being saved for marriage, it just comes down to the negotiation of the price for how long the wait must be. If she has mor…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/03/21 03:28 AM
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If this woman or other women are not willing or capable of thinking ahead, that just brings a stronger case for arranged marriages. Or at the very least approval from the family for whom they date.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/03/21 02:19 AM
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Thank you for your submission u/Natriumzyanid. Unfortunately this post does not fit the theme of women's poor decisions having negative consequences in trying to find a committed relationship. While we are more lenient on posts regarding fitting the theme on the weekend, this submission still does not come close enough to qualify. This is certainly a grave injustice done to this man, but this sub is not the place where we have this type of content. There is no mention of the consequences for the…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/03/21 02:16 AM
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If her biggest fear was becoming a single mother, she should have made absolutely sure that she did not end up pregnant from a guy who would not be around for the child. Given that he was available for the first picture, this was not simply not the result of a one night stand. This means she would have had more time to make sure that he was someone who she would want around for the long run and/or would be the type of guy to stick around. That is, assuming she did not just sleep with him after f…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen05/03/21 07:33 PM
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"Now that the consequences of casual sex caught up to me, I will now advertise that I am not into games anymore. You can see for yourself if I would actually uphold that standard, or you can be my bailout." Ironic that when it is too late for her to avoid getting pregnant she signals cutting off the idea of casual sex. The best time to "get serious" is not just after you are pregnant from some random man, but rather before you even do the act that causes pregnancy. There are literal lives at sta…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen05/03/21 01:04 AM
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3) "by choice"?! Ultimately, ALL single moms are so by choice. So many women do not contemplate the idea that agency is possible. But that requires them to accept responsibility. Why do that when you when there is no enforcement for holding them responsible? The government will bail them out, so being a single mom is no longer a personal detriment. But it is for the rest of us, of course.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/03/21 12:01 AM
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Not only is the success rate low, many women freeze their eggs when they are in their 30s, where their egg quality is inferior to that of the eggs in their 20s. Not saying it would be much better, but that does not help either.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/03/21 11:58 PM
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The medical field considers pregnancies after 35 to be geriatric pregnancies. Meaning they are higher risk in for the health of the child and mother. This woman is at square 1 of her goal to have a family, and she is still way too picky. She really wants those "butterflies," but she is going to have to get realistic here. While it is not technically too late, she is cramming a semester's worth of studying in a week before the final exam. Even worse, she is considering just getting pregnant befor…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/03/21 11:56 PM
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Not looking for hookups but here are my scantily clad/nude photos. What can I say but "Nope!"
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/03/21 12:04 AM
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Projection. Women see men with a Master's degree as intelligent and accomplished, and think that them having one should mean men should see them as a catch. But women who do this fail to understand what men want. There is also a desire from women to be valued the same as men, so their projection leads them to try and accomplish the things that they would value in men. Whether or not these accomplishments are objectively praiseworthy or not does not matter in the context of attraction and relatio…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/03/21 05:39 PM
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The types of exes her age tells me that she is selecting the type of men who are more about getting those tingles rather than a guy who wants a long term, serious relationship. There are fewer guys that are serious in their 20s, but they are not nonexistent. But they are far less likely to generate the same tingles that the "exciting" guys do. Along with that, the type of guy who gives her the tingles gives many other women the same feelings, and he therefore can afford to not commit and still g…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/03/21 05:21 PM
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Here's my problem with the discussion on whether or not to wait to have sex and dor how long: once you have a minimum threshold of time to wait, it is too late to go back on that aspect of yourself. Women like this who would later reconsider whether or not to sleep with a guy on the first date do not make themselves more of a prize by making a guy wait longer when she is already fine with sex on the first date. She is now just trying to renegotiate her standing in the dating world and she would …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/03/21 12:42 PM
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Spot on. So many people are genuinely boring and hollow, as they rely heavily on alcohol and other drugs to make themselves seem as if they are exciting people. The very people that make drugs their personality are ones I really want to avoid. It certainly does not help women like her who only know how to get guys interest through promiscuity, as it leaves them not only unhappy in the long run, but it makes them completely unprepared to find anyone for a long term relationship. Not only as you s…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen01/03/21 03:03 AM
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This is one of those posts that I think has to be a parody, but nothing ever surprises me. This is just downright vile. If she really loved him, she would not only stop being so withholding of her boyfriend, but she also would not be cheating on him with another guy whom she is admittedly far more giving in sex. I would be beyond pissed if I was in the boyfriend's shoes.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen27/02/21 02:38 AM
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I would not say that is true for all of the sub, but there are some definite child-haters that are there.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen27/02/21 02:29 AM
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It does depend on the individual users, as I saw nothing objectionable in this particular post. I have seen some of them get mad about seeing a young child in public being bratty to some extent (news flash young children are going to have tantrums), as if they themselves were perfect angels as children. I get not wanting to have children, but outright hating them? That rubs me the wrong way.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen26/02/21 09:47 PM
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This man is not doing anything wrong for not wanting to have children. He very much should not have them if he does not want them. The single mother women who get upset at him have no grounds to stand on, as he was very upfront with his standard and they are not entitled to his time or commitment. They really do think that they should be entitled to a relationship with him, because these women "know their worth" and that men should just "step up" to provide for them. For the latter part, these w…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen26/02/21 09:38 PM
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She could have done everything in reverse and be much happier as a result. Had her marriage and children in her 20s and started her working life a decade or two later. Instead, women who subscribe to feminism think they should follow the exact same path as men in life, because equality or something like that. If you have to resort to the very expensive and low guaranteed success of in vitro fertilization, that should be a sign that you are not supposed to have any babies. Her having a heart cond…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen24/02/21 04:03 PM
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Nobody who actually has themselves together ever uses the phrase "self care" or the equivalent of it. Taking proper care of yourself should be a given, not something you have to emphasize. Come to think of it, I only see women use the term "self care." Must be that men either just take care of things without mentioning it or they do not care enough about something to do it (while also making no mention of it).
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen24/02/21 03:23 PM
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She states that she wants a family, so that would imply her wanting kids.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen24/02/21 03:12 PM
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you really don't know what the person you are marrying did before you met. If you have any doubts or uncertainty about someone's past, you should not marry them. There is no way to know for sure, certainly, so I do not advocate for anyone who cannot figure out how to vet someone properly to get married. I get that there are some people who did not sleep around who can still get STDs from someone they thought they could trust. I am looking to prevent those situations from happening as well. Not b…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen24/02/21 03:06 PM
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Aaron Clarey has great videos on all the excuses young women have for ghosting/flaking. One of the best ones I recall: "My friend had a really bad breakup and she needs help getting over it." If a woman wants you, she will make damn sure she finds time to meet you. The first excuse should be an alarm bell that she does not really want you.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen23/02/21 11:45 PM
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Only 1-3 percent of guys are attractive enough for her, huh. No sympathy will be found with me that she does not have a relationship. Also, Tinder should not be used for finding relationships. I know I'm still young but I do want a family. Whatever definition she wants to use for "young," she still does not realize that time is not on her side. Yes she can still have children, but that window is getting smaller and smaller, and she is at square one in having any family of her own. She does not c…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen23/02/21 11:39 PM
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You and many other men (yours truly included) also subscribe to that theory. While that is not the only reason to avoid relationships with high N count women, it sure is a valid one by itself.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen23/02/21 11:24 PM
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At 30+, she does not have the luxury to be as picky and dismissive as she could in her 20s. Time is a wasting. Butterfly feelings are not a bad thing in itself, but it is a problem when she has gone this far in life and is not only still single but also still chasing that high when it comes to relationships. Her filtering is too focused on that aspect of relationships, which does not last that long and is therefore not worth focusing on so much that she uses it as a dealbreaker. Especially since…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen23/02/21 11:21 PM
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As if there were not enough strikes on her profile.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen23/02/21 07:56 PM
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Not that there is any time that proposing an open relationship is acceptable, but it is something else to suggest the idea before there is a relationship to be had. I will not believe in her wanting a serious relationship with her still wanting the option to sleep with other guys. Not surprising that she had "a decade of international debauchery," but the debauchery has by no means ended for her.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen23/02/21 07:35 PM
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A woman having a career does not really matter that much to men. How much she earns is not nearly as important as her income to debt and spending ratios. A woman who makes 6 figures but constantly spends beyond her means and/or has a large burden of debt that she can hardly manage is a far worse prospect than a woman at any income level that lives within her means/carries little to no debt. The problem with many women's careers is that they are far more likely to have their careers by following …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen23/02/21 07:16 PM
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Women do not want equals, they want those who are better than them. For this reason, true equality will never happen. And if it does, there will simply be a lot of upset women at the top. If being a broke college student herself does not humble her to be content with meeting a guy in a similar standing, nothing will. She will only get more demanding over time.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen22/02/21 05:48 PM
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If you have any uncertainty with whom the father of your child is, you might be most certainly are a slut. "It was a one time thing" does not show that you are not a slut, but rather that you simply have not done as much as other sluts. A thief who only steals once is still a thief.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen21/02/21 07:38 PM
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Are those numbers for all cases of paternity, or when paternity is in question? Either way, the number is not insignificant, but I know that if paternity is in doubt, there will be a higher likelihood of finding paternity fraud.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen21/02/21 07:34 PM
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Perfectly describes what I call the Back Burner Plan. You are right that they know exactly what kind of man is marriage material. It is just a sign of disrespect from these women who think that their future husband should just be ready for them when they find it most convenient.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen20/02/21 12:33 AM
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I am sure she is looking for nerdy guys for their personalities and not their ability to make money. That talk about good jobs has nothing to do with him making a fat paycheck, I am sure. At 24 years old, she is in the optimal age range to get what she wants, and we do not know if there are other factors about her for sure. Here is what I and other guys know about online dating: it sucks. It is not the place you want to be, as the goal of using the service is to stop using it (assuming you want …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen20/02/21 12:15 AM
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While there is some variance for which audience dating services cater to (Tinder being the more casual market and eHarmony supposedly being for those who are more serious), you are not going to suddenly get a better experience by going to a different dating app if you are not someone who is worth the commitment. So can think all they want that they are just on the wrong site, but they must also consider whether or not they are a quality woman when they want a quality man. Also, you are right abo…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen18/02/21 02:24 AM
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A couple of points that I need to address: 1) Hookup Culture Makes It Difficult To Date Thanks to dating apps, casual dating has become the new standard for modern dating. Gone are the days when you had to actually go through dating to get laid. Dating apps taught men that they can easily skip to dessert with just one swipe, so why bother going through the entire dinner? If men are able to get sex without having to provide commitment, whose fault is that? When it comes to complaints about hookup…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen17/02/21 01:38 AM
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My take on the complaints on hookup culture is that those that complain about it have engaged in it to some extent. Even if it is just a little but rather than full indulgence, being willing to participate in it still perpetuates it. Those that outright refuse to engage in hookup culture are far less likely to complain. Rather, it is those who decided to play with fire that are the ones who are upset that they got burned. Sure, not participating in hookup culture will mean a smaller dating pool,…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen17/02/21 01:15 AM
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Just because you call the "belief" "archaic" does not make it false. Being overweight is not healthy. I doubt her "loving the gym" is because she is going to seriously working on losing weight, but rather her just doing the bare minimum on an elliptical to claim that she is "exercising" and therefore healthy. Genuine exercise is great, but the more important part of the equation to losing weight is how much and what you eat. Fork putdowns are the more impactful than any motion done at the gym. I…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen16/02/21 10:16 AM
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37 wants to "build family and get babies" Unless she is speaking about adoption, she is trying to do a semester's worth of studying in one night just before the final exam. It is not impossible to have children at her age, but she is pushing her luck in both the probability of conception and in health outcomes for the baby. This all assumes that she finds a man right away and they have children as soon as possible. I certainly will not assume that she will attain this scenario, because if she ha…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen16/02/21 10:04 AM
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If you went to high school or college with her and she wouldn't date you then, but now that you're a few years out of school with a job and she's working a shit job with a bastard in tow and NOW she comes around you with "oh, I always liked you" and "how come WE never dated??" and "I love guys like you", DO NOT DATE HER. Save for having a child from another man, this hits all the beats of many movies where the unpopular guy rises and gets the girl at the end (though that happens while they are s…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen16/02/21 12:54 AM
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Height and strength are strongly correlated, as taller men have a greater potential for more absolute strength (the type of men who can deadlift around 1000 lbs are tall as well as muscular). So there is a primal desire to look for height. But primal desires should not be the only driver when it comes to decision making, as there would be a lot more poor decision making than there already is. Our primal desires also make us want sex without concern for the consequences, but forward thinking save…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen15/02/21 11:52 PM
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I am sure his height did not bother you when you have been getting every ounce of favor and support (including financial support). But now that he expresses the desire for something more, you see the need to pull the plug. She does not have an obligation to marry this man. The problem is that her relationship with him is that she needed him but did not truly want him. It is just unfair to him that he is in such a relationship where he is not truly wanted. Had he known this before, he would not h…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen15/02/21 05:40 PM
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How wonderful, her about me section is just a list of demands. I mean it is an accurate description of who she is, as any "relationship" (not sure how far "nothing serious" goes) will just be her demanding more and more things.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen14/02/21 11:25 PM
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First and foremost there must be attraction to even start a relationship. A woman's attraction to a man can be due to physical features, wealth, or status. Whatever the exact factor that is does it, it has to be there. This first filter is not based on morals, but rather amoral. For some women, there are no filters past that first, and that's where the issue lies. Women who actually have filters past that first obligatory one could then evaluate a man for other traits beyond the initial tingles.…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen13/02/21 02:13 AM
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Technically, she can call herself a professional because she is getting paid. As far as competence and demonstration of useful skills, her "profession" is certainly lacking in those aspects.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen12/02/21 12:35 AM
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I like tall guys and im 5'4". That's right I said it A woman proclaiming her desire for a tall guy? Stop the presses. Nothing special about her preferences, as so many other women are just like her with a height requirement. And like so many other women, she is also a single mother. It is strange to see no mention of it, but that will not help her case that much. As soon as any guy finds out that she already has a child from another man, he will immediately reevaluate the entire prospect of a re…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen12/02/21 12:30 AM
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This dilemma could all be avoided by just having the man who is the good father be the real father.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen08/02/21 06:12 PM
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When it comes to morals and values, there is no region in the world where those aspects of culture are anything but a product of constant horizontal reinforcement of said values. Women do not avoid becoming single mothers in East Asian and Middle Eastern countries because the women there are different, but rather that the overall culture is out so strong against the practice. In absence of a full society with a culture that enforces their values, family is all the more important. It is not a mys…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/02/21 10:52 PM
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She wants to be both the type of woman who claims that sex should be special but also wants to have casual sex on a whim while still claiming to be true to the first principle. Because apparently when you are dating you can flip the switch to being someone who suddenly sees sex as special again after you have had your "sexual healing" in the form of casual sex. It is little wonder more men check out of the dating market altogether.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/02/21 03:13 AM
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I don't blame you. As far as I'm concerned it's just another made up word.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/02/21 03:09 AM
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Not that there is any age where being obese is healthy, but at an age where you are supposed to be in the prime years of your health? Not a good sign for her future for that alone. Having a daughter from who knows what kind of man, so of course she tells men that she does not want sex after she deals with the most significant consequence of sex. Would be a real change of pace for a woman to have this mindset before (assuming she would have her actions match her words, which is something we do no…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/02/21 02:59 AM
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That sucks, but we are not going to deviate from the rules. Too much of a risk for very little benefit. Do not ask again.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/02/21 02:52 AM
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No. Rule 4.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/02/21 02:48 AM
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I have heard of that scenario, though it usually is not advertised in a profile but rather just something she says in conversation right before the possibility of sex. I am less inclined to believe it is as likely that this profile is trying to do that same thing, but you may be correct. Either way, men should not just take a woman's word that she cannot get pregnant, because you may find out later that she had a "miracle" pregnancy.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/02/21 02:52 AM
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I have come to despise the term "adulting," as we apparently have too many incapable adults who find basic responsibility a big enough deal that they have to use a new term.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/02/21 02:48 AM
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Just the phrase "I'm ready to settle down" tells me that I would want nothing to do with her. The heavy implication that she was having a "phase" before declaring that she wants to flip a switch and have the traditional lifestyle that comes with marriage is very offputting to men like me. I would never want a woman who thinks that I should be fine with "waiting my turn" for her to be done with her party days. Not only that, we have clear evidence of her previous behavior being anything but tradi…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/02/21 02:45 AM
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Everyone needs to get used to the idea of decentralization with discussions and content. Do not expect any platform to always be there for you, because the rug might be pulled out from you at any time. I would not be saddened if I were to be banned from Reddit, but I certainly do not want things to end here. Just do not be shocked if we get purged from the site.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen05/02/21 01:17 AM
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I am willing to give a little bit of leeway for those who would still be in the healthy weight range at 4'11" at around 100-110 lbs, where she is not quite double that amount of weight. But yes, you are right that her weight makes up two people's worth of weight.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/02/21 03:17 PM
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4'11" and 190 lbs Not that I am in the market anymore, but I sure as heck would not find any desire to be involved with a woman who weighs more than me and is shorter than me. She weighs almost enough for two people of her height, so she is most certainly unhealthy. If she is not feeling the crunch to get herself to the gym rather than wait for a man to motivate her, she is not going to get anything out of any "help" from a man. Another pro tip: what and how much you eat is far more important th…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/02/21 11:46 PM
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That is certainly a good point. Better to have people reveal who they truly are than find out later. The problem I do see is not that these people exist (they always have), but that they feel so comfortable and unashamed about being like this in the first place. It is indicative of how far off the edge the culture of tolerance has pushed discourse, all while ironically shaming anyone who would call out these types for what they are.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/02/21 11:51 PM
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Accountability. It's not for everyone. Especially not single mothers.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/02/21 11:38 PM
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I'm going to have a baby in August yes boys that means I'm pregnant so continue to swipe for those that just peed a little a got scared She completely misunderstands most men's reactions to this. They are not scared, but rather repulsed by the idea of a woman who is seeking her "future husband" while showing no forethought about getting pregnant from a man she says is a deadbeat. Men do not want to wife up a woman who has such a lack of shame in getting knocked up while thinking she can be so de…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/02/21 11:35 PM
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I date to marry One of two possibilities. Either she did not date to marry before having her 3 kids, or she was married to the man she had kids with, but is now divorced. The first possibility shows that she is looking for marriage more out of necessity rather than true desire (as in the previous crop of guys who do not want to commit do not want her anymore/cannot provide the finances she needs). The second possibility indicates that she does not marry with the idea of staying married. Marriage…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen30/01/21 10:11 PM
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It only takes a few minutes, and certainly does not require a relationship.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen29/01/21 04:52 AM
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She really demonstrates a lack of reciprocation when it comes to her demands: -She has kids (including one on the way), but don't you dare have any of your own -She is fine with an open relationship, but only for her. You better be fine sharing. No doubt this pattern would be repeated in other ways, such as your money is our money, but her money is her money. If by "King" she is signaling that she wants a black man, I hope for their sakes that they steer quite clear from this kind of woman. She …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen29/01/21 04:50 AM
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The obvious reason is that private schools can't put people in jail for not giving us money, but that point is lost on people who are still too dense to realize that public education is a scam for students and a make-work program for "teachers" who have no useful job skills. We have so many examples where people are willing to shop around to get the highest quality goods and services, including where we eat, what vehicles we buy, the service for those vehicles, contractor work. But apparently we…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen29/01/21 04:36 AM
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Looks matter to women. This is not news. They can insist all they want that they do not have superficial preferences and in many cases have them as their only standards (case and point this woman "pushing through" because he was hot), but their actions demonstrate where their values are. This woman gets no sympathy from me with the guy in point 3 because it was obvious even to her that he was not long term commitment material. Her claims to want a "life partner" are just crap when she knowingly …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen27/01/21 08:38 PM
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The whole "I learned something" is just a rationalization for making choices they know were bad because somehow stepping on a landmine is fine as long as you learn that stepping on landmines is a bad idea. Alternatively, you can choose better decisions when you are already aware of the consequences of the poor decisions.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen27/01/21 08:33 PM
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Nicely written. Quite the long read there, but that is not a problem. It is often unavoidable when discussing a topic in depth. Unless you are wealthy enough to never have to work (either by investing enough time in your life to build wealth or having inherited it), you are going to have to deal with some level of struggle when it comes to survival (inheritance also does not guarantee sustaining wealth as many people who simply inherited their wealth will find it soon gone due to having no under…
/r/WhereAllTheGoodMenAre27/01/21 07:26 PM
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If you punch above your weight, there should be no surprise that you get rejected most of the time. Men are constantly told that they should be more realistic with their physical standards by both men and women, so this concept should not be foreign to women. More likely, women like this simply do not expect this principle to apply to them. This woman is in a better position than so many men, because she at least has men who are interested in her. There are plenty of men who do not even have any…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen26/01/21 05:39 PM
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Yet in spite of all the warning signs you either chose to ignore or chose not to look for, you chose those very men you deride. Men who do bad actions are indeed culpable for their choices. That also applies to women. Choosing someone who is a bad choice for a boyfriend/husband is also a poor decision, which is on those women for choosing. If you are unable to figure out if a man is good or bad, you should not be making those decisions. Either abstain, or get someone who knows how to discern the…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen25/01/21 08:23 PM
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Being a gatekeeper does not mean that you are automatically fulfilling your role of gatekeeping properly. Men are considered the gatekeepers of commitment, but there are plenty of men who will give away commitment to a woman for very cheap. Gatekeepers do not have the only say, but rather they are the ones that are most responsible for restricting who they allow to "pass" through the gates.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen23/01/21 02:32 PM
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No matter what your circumstances are, no matter how much is not in your direct control, you should do all that you can to keep yourself covered from any danger or bad situations. While I would not fall victim to the scenario where I would be accused of rape after a one night stand, men can still become victims of false accusations even when there was not even sex that the woman retroactively withdraws consent. While this case was not "rape," the man was falsely accused of sexual assault when he…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen23/01/21 02:28 PM
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And yet The PatriarchyTM will still be blamed for these women being so unhappy, because even though men never demanded women go to college and have a career for them to be interested, they still insist on pursuing that path. Even if it leads them to their own unhappiness.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen22/01/21 11:30 PM
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I have a fantastic career No amount of money, no amount of career success would ever make me happy Another case of a woman who spends her most optimal years where she could have had what she claims were what she dreamt of, but spent those years on the career path. While it is possible for woman to work and still find a man who would be good husband material, she clearly did not accomplish that. The fact that she even brings up her career tells me that she place priority into that over finding a …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen22/01/21 11:20 PM
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Women who were all fine with engaging in hookups think that they can just go straight to "serious relationship" mode like flicking a light switch. By the time these women decide to "get serious," so many men who are genuinely relationshio minded are not going to be keen on waiting for a woman to stop sleeping around. So is it really any surprise that the kind of men who are willing to date her are not going to wine and dine her?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen21/01/21 02:58 AM
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She can be picky all she wants and hold out for the top 10 percentage man. I can try and sell a car at the original sticker price after it has been through a demolition derby. Neither of us are going to get success in our goals, though she will not see the problem with having such requirements. I do wonder if the blue/green eyes requirement is just a workaround for her wanting a white guy, given that few non white people have blue or green eyes. Not that I care about anyone's racial preferences,…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen20/01/21 03:14 AM
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This man is fortunate to have her reveal herself before there was any possibility of marriage. Marriage would not make her more loyal one bit, despite women claiming that marriage would somehow magically change that. Given how often women initiate divorce, we know they collectively do not see any sanctity in marriage. That is no different when it comes to cheating, as saying "I do" does not make you a better person.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen17/01/21 02:22 PM
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While I do not engage in any sort of pickup strategies or "game," I see them as a mixed bag in terms validity and the ability to bring success. Men certainly can see more success adopting strategies such as these, though there are examples of pickup artists who are selling snake oil. I see complaints against PUA as being more against men not conforming to the feminist imperative of catering to women's demands while being told that expecting any results is wrong. I do not argue that men should be…
/r/WhereAllTheGoodMenAre16/01/21 04:47 PM
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I can see laws coming into place to counteract businesses from being able to refuse to hire such women on the basis of having something like an OnlyFans account. This does not mean that they will be hired, but businesses cannot state that as the reason for not hiring them.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen15/01/21 08:43 PM
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I guarantee if there is not already a law that is against this, there will eventually be a law that makes it illegal to not hire a woman because she has had an OnlyFans account or other equivalent platforms out there. This does not mean that these women would get hired, but employers simply cannot state that as the reason for not hiring them. Either way, we will see the laws reflect the will of women not wanting to have negative consequences for their poor choices.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen15/01/21 08:26 PM
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Unlike this limited edition of Barbie, we have yet to see the limits of this type of woman in our current society.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen15/01/21 08:00 PM
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This is a perfect example of how the waiting game for sex in relationships has disincentivized men from wanting to commit to a relationship. For most men, they are not asking whether or not a woman is a virgin, because most likely she is not one. Rather, he is wondering whether or not a woman is worth the time and effort it takes to get sex, and whether or not he should come back once he knows how much it takes to get said sex. I may be the exception to many men these days, as I wanted a woman w…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen13/01/21 01:51 AM
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Ha ha, nice. Was not expecting a satire post. Certainly not the typical comparison I have seen before, so nice work making something unique.
/r/WhereAllTheGoodMenAre12/01/21 03:05 AM
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If she indeed slept around and is feeling the consequences, I will give her props for actually warning others rather than just do the crabs in a bucket routine. She will not be exempt from the consequences with this action, but if she can save others that will be far better than just saying that promiscuity is fine and anyone who disapproves is being too judgmental.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen11/01/21 06:54 PM
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That will not stop her from trying.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen11/01/21 12:11 AM
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I would say removing shame and demanding others respect her "line of work," but that has already been happening. So you have me wondering too.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen11/01/21 12:09 AM
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Men are told not to have unrealistic standards for attractiveness, and are shamed and mocked if they only hold out for the top 10 percent of attractive women. So women like this get no sympathy from me if they are unwilling to be more realistic and pragmatic when it comes to these sort of requirements.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen09/01/21 07:16 PM
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She either needs to lower her expectations or make herself worth being with the type of man she currently wants. She exercises and keeps herself at a healthy body weight, so that is a positive for her. But guess what, men who do that too are not guaranteed anything when it comes to attracting the opposite sex, and that is not any different for women. Also, she jumps right to stating how she does not want to be with an "obese loser," as if her only options are a top 10 percent man or someone she …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen09/01/21 07:13 PM
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because I know about male insecurities and fragile egos Always the shaming language when it comes to men having the desire not to be with a woman with a high partner count. He is not allowed to choose to end the relationship or refuse to be in one because her past, he just needs to accept it no matter what! Well, she can think that all she wants, but deal breakers are deal breakers. He has the full right to not be in a relationship just like she has the right to have had a high partner count. De…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/01/21 10:56 PM
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"Luck" is only half of the equation. Sure you can find fortune in circumstances where they go your way, but often there is a lot of preparation necessary for that chance to arrive. For example, you might get a stroke of "luck" in getting a once in a lifetime opportunity to have an interview for a great job, but it will not become an actual job if you did not prepare yourself to have the skills or knowledge to prove that you are capable for the job. For dating, you can get lucky by finding the ri…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/01/21 10:49 PM
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This is why it is important to define our terms. How exactly should we define a woman's "sexual peak?" a) The period of time in which a woman has the greatest ability to bear children, which correlates with her youth and beauty. b) A period of time past the range in which a woman can most easily have children, where the woman will insist that sex for her and with her will be the best on the premise that she "knows what she wants" when it comes to sex and relationships, as well as "experience." O…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen05/01/21 05:23 PM
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Makes perfect sense to me. One odd thing about the desire to seek the truth, no matter how ugly, is that it appears to be counterproductive to finding enjoyment. At least it appears that way to someone looking from the outside. I would argue that once you are already aware of ugly truths, it is too late to go back and ignore the reality for what it is. Rather, it is better to seek the full truth, as the ignorance will wear on the one who desires the truth. One who seeks the truth does not always…
/r/WhereAllTheGoodMenAre05/01/21 03:13 AM
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Do not mistake my words for saying they are good at filtering for the proper type of man. It being important =/= them being good at it. Seeing the fallout when they do it wrong shows why it is so important to do it right. The price of failure is no longer as great as it once was when it comes to a woman's mate selection. I also discuss why so many women do a bad job in the next paragraph, as they no longer need to worry about provisions thanks to the government giving them the provisions they no…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/01/21 02:57 PM
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Once more, how does this picture demonstrate guys who are faking "niceness" and feeling entitled to a woman? Too much of the content on their sub has lost the plot with their original intentions. Now it is just "men bad" and "men exposing the truth about sexual dynamics and women bad." I appreciate the founder of the sub /u/kevin32 for putting in the effort to make sure this sub is consistent with its original purpose. It could have easily lost that a long time ago without that consistent vision…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/01/21 11:49 PM
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Hypergamy has women demanding more, even if the standard prices them out of the market. Of course many women who are below 5'4" will say that a man of average height is short even when is a good deal taller than her.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/01/21 11:22 PM
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It is not wrong to have physical standards. It just shows tjat if a woman rejects a man over something he cannot control, she does indeed have superficial standards. It is a meme, but any woman who will claim that she is rejecting a man due to his height when she claims she has prayed to God to have a good man shows that her prayers are not to find a man who has good character traits, but one who meets her physical standards.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/01/21 11:20 PM
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No matter how cute your kid is, it is a result of your poor judgement. That certainly will make men like me do the opposite of being eager to wife you.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/01/21 05:54 PM
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When men and society at large do not enforce any consequences for their actions, it is no wonder so many women start to think that they will not have to face any consequences. For much of their lives, they have not had to deal with negative consequences. It becomes quite the shock when a man actually puts his foot down and states that he wants nothing to do with a woman who has a past as a prostitute and/or who is promiscuous. It is not that women are unaware of men not wanting women who have a …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/01/21 04:37 PM
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Exactly the type of scenario that I had in mind. Or she could just lie about having it with the idea of getting free food and service. Either way, not a good idea.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen01/01/21 10:33 PM
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There is no proof required that she got Covid19 from the hookup, just if it happens within 1 month of contact. So the deal is not only bad even under the premise that she contracted Covid19 because of the hookup, any guy could be liable even if he has no fault in her getting that virus. So much squeeze needed for so little juice. Become an indentured servant for 1 month for one encounter, whar a great deal! Not that I would be ever be close to falling under such circumstances, but even if I was …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen01/01/21 07:09 PM
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Dalrock speaks about this same topic perfectly with this post: https://dalrock.wordpress.com/2016/02/02/how-to-tell-if-you-are-a-godly-man/
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen31/12/20 08:43 PM
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This is common knowledge in Hollywood. Every year Hollywood receives more mail requesting that they quit making sequels and/or remakes than any other type of mail from fans. But every year sequels and remakes make the most money from those fans. People love to complain that there is way too many sequels out there, then go and spend $12 to watch Fast and Furious part 9. I do not know if that is the best example, as those who would be motivated to request different movies are less likely to be in …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen31/12/20 08:39 PM
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Perhaps I have been misunderstanding what is meant by "emotionally unavailable" men. From what I am reading here it just means that a man is not willing to provide the commitment that women want in men that they are sexually involved with. I thought it was more about sharing feelings and that sort of thing, but now I see it is more like another way to say that Chad will not commit. If women did not like these kinds of men, they would not sleep with them in the first place. Clearly they do, but t…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen31/12/20 08:13 PM
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If you are disgusted by OF girls you can go ahead and swipe left And here is the next phase of what women insist should be considered acceptable in the context of a relationship. Before single moms became normalized, most men would not get in a relationship with a woman who had children out of wedlock with another man. Before that men would not get in a relationship if he knew she had a numerous sex partners. We are now being told that we should not object to having a relationship with a woman w…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen31/12/20 03:33 PM
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The politically correct term is BBW, bigot. Do we need to send you back to the camp to reeducate you?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen31/12/20 03:28 PM
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Divorce laws have to drastically change and women's purity has to change. It sadly is doubtful for these to happen, as women do not care about changing divorce laws (and often goes further than not caring but instead to complete agreement with divorce laws), and unless a woman is committed to the idea of abstinence before marriage, there is no hope for them to care about purity. So many women just demand that men still "man up" and marry them in spite of the divorce laws, not realizing or acknow…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen30/12/20 03:32 AM
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I have always wanted a family with traditional values. Who wants to bet whether or not she herself practiced any traditional values in her approach to life and dating? I would bet she did not. The complaints about guys playing games just leads me to suspect she was sleeping with these guys fairly early on, which is not the traditional thing to do. Most guys who are only looking for sex but choose to lie about their intentions tend to not stick around if they are not getting sex. In fact that ser…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen30/12/20 03:16 AM
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Dear Not my future wife, I have no interest in dating you, much less marrying you given that you have already demonstrated a lack of qualities I would look for in a wife. That mainly being your lack of judgement and foresight. Kids are in my future, but they are to be my kids, not some other man's. Getting pregnant from another man makes me want to stay far, far away from you or any. I do not wonder whether or not you would look for a man like me had you not become pregnant and suddenly realized…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen28/12/20 08:24 PM
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Honesty is not much of a virtue for women like this do not feel shame or any sense that there will be a sacrifice to be made for honesty. Honesty is only a moral virtue if the act of honesty means losing out on personal gain, and so many women do not believe that they should have any consequences for their actions.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen27/12/20 10:25 PM
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A pet is a luxury, not a need. If you are indeed struggling to support your children that you are resorting to begging for donations (even worse looking for committed men to risk his relationship to pay for your stripper "job"), you have no right to get a dog and incur more expense and responsibility in your already dysfunctional home. It goes without saying that it is not surprising she sees no issue with getting a puppy in her situation, as her poor decision making led her to this point in the…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen27/12/20 10:21 PM
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My guess is that they take umbrage at the use of the term "female," as they believe it is somehow not seeing women as people. Never mind that using the term "male" is used equivalently, and there do not appear to be complaints that men are not seen as people. There is no guilt in trying to date anyone in a different county. R-niceguys can get so worked up over such nontroversies. I would just hope he does not expect too much success, as cultural differences can be quite a lot to overcome. Also, …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen26/12/20 02:02 AM
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Not only that, but women who want to marry up but have no man that they can "marry up" to will also be unhappy. Men may or may not be happy with not being married, but I would argue men fare better with accepting that they will not be married than women. So really this would be objectively worse for women than men, as men have found out that marriage has become objectively worse for them.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen25/12/20 02:09 AM
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The commitment is only a prize if it is exclusively his and his alone. Guess what happens to that exclusivity if she spends years sleeping around? The prize is no longer there.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen24/12/20 09:42 PM
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if you take away all of the sexist assumptions and patronising findings The sexist assumptions being: Many young men today have little to bring to the marriage bargain, especially as young women's educational levels on average now exceed their male suitors. So it is sexist to point out the fact that women are hypergamous, where education level is one facet of that hypergamy. I guess reality is sexist them, because we can clearly observe women demanding men be higher earners and equivalent or hig…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen24/12/20 03:42 PM
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What are you talking about? She will have lots of time if you just take her kids with you on all the 'dates'. Just don't be surprised when they consist of going to Chuck E Cheese instead of the typical restaurants.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen22/12/20 09:28 PM
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It really truly never occurs to women to consider what the man wants. This sub and the ultimate question would not exist if they did consider and provided what men want. Of course whenever we tell them what we want, they do not want to hear it.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen22/12/20 07:27 PM
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I wish there was some kind of PSA for Tinder suggesting single moms message first. That basically sums up the intent of Bumble, but for women as a whole since the app literally only allows for the woman to message first. I have not used it, but I do not think it is the solution to dating woes for those on the market. That being said, women would be surprised at how much success they could have by not relegating themselves to the role where they must wait for the man to initiate. It makes a big d…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen22/12/20 07:24 PM
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I am well aware of all that you are stating is understood to be true, and I am sure others here are too. We are certainly in for some hard times, unless some major turn of events rights the course of the ship. We are all going to need to stay strong, as that is the least that we should do.
/r/WhereAllTheGoodMenAre22/12/20 03:17 PM
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This reminds me of a Jubilee video where feminists and men's rights activists were having a discussion where one of the men asks the women if there are any feminist organizations that challenge family court bias (https://youtu.be/hOUGNGWmN0k?t=973). One of the women confidently insists that yes, that is the case, the man tells her that there are none. She gets uptight when she is confronted to even name one feminist organization because it turns out that she cannot back up her assertion with any…
/r/WhereAllTheGoodMenAre22/12/20 03:12 PM
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Did you see the official UN tweet on International Men's Day (19 Nov)? Even when there is a day meant explicitly for men, they still have to make it about women. We have an International Women's Day already, but I guess that is not enough for them.
/r/WhereAllTheGoodMenAre22/12/20 02:55 PM
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Nothing is stopping her for going for any of the guys that would want her bathwater. It's just that she does not want any of them. Just what good does it do to give attention to an attention addict when you see how she treats those who do give her that attention? Notice how he is still her boyfriend even when she posts this. Just another cry for more attention.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen20/12/20 07:02 PM
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I wonder why so many men are "emotionally unavailable" to women these days. Maybe it is reactions like this! Punishing men for actions women claim to want just makes men not only choose to do the opposite (i.e. what works), it also makes them no longer trust women. But not all women do that! - some women protest. Perhaps that is the case, but how are we to know who is sincere and who is not among women? For many men, the answer is becoming "who cares?" Ultimately opening up emotionally to a woma…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen19/12/20 08:09 PM
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Jokes still have a basis in reality, or at there is an attempt to base it on that. I know that she does not see her dissertation as her literal baby, but I do know she wants recognition for her accomplishment. It is no accident that she had the picture like this, as this the exact type of photo mothers have with their babies. It was intentionally set up that way to provoke the sentiment that her accomplishment is just as significant as being a mother, even if done jokingly. I would not doubt tha…
/r/WhereAllTheGoodMenAre19/12/20 02:22 PM
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I am not sure what circles you were frequenting, but I would expect the kind of man that would reject a woman for not having a Master's degree would be quite rare and the exception. Also, those men do not appear to be marriage minded, as you stated that you wanting marriage and kids was also a dealbreaker. So my point stands that most men who are seeking a wife and children are not going to be putting a Master's degree as a requirement.
/r/WhereAllTheGoodMenAre19/12/20 01:53 PM
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It looks like I have yet to see all that our clown world offers. Whether or not women are truly happy to spend most of their fertile years pursuing even more years of "education" is one thing. We can also debate whether or not the time and money invested has any real benefits. While I argue that the outcomes are not worth the costs for the vast majority of these women, there is a glaring issue with women like this. That being her desire to be seen in the equivalent light of a mother. Mothers are…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen18/12/20 03:32 AM
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But why is an asshole phase even necessary? Women like this want to claim that it was "necessary" to cover for their fault in choices of men. Saying that they had to go through it in order to figure out what they really wanted makes it so that questioning them is considered "rude" or "inappropriate." Of course there is the argument that they really do want the kind of guy that is considered an "asshole," but are unable to get that sort of guy to actually commit to them. Well it sure is not a mys…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen18/12/20 02:29 AM
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It is just an attempt to claim she is of higher value because she will only take men who want a serious relationship. Of course that does not work when she gave it away for less when she had more to offer. It is like a car salesman trying to sell a used car for more than a brand new car. A higher sticker price does not mean it will magically become more valuable.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen15/12/20 11:59 PM
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No woman is good looking enough to offset the poor character and bad decisions (and their consequences) for a commitment with her to be worth it. Some men may fall prey to thinking that a woman being attractive makes up for the misery, but they are quite mistaken.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen15/12/20 11:41 PM
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Not interested in FUN or time wasters so swipe left Another example of a futile effort to get guys to do the filtering for her. Figuring out if someone has good character takes work, and she is not willing to do this work. It is no wonder she is a single mom at 35 wondering why she cannot find a good man. She spent over a decade not caring about that when she had the best opportunity to get that kind of man. What man would want a woman who only would go for him after she has spent her peak years…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen15/12/20 11:38 PM
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If the government really wanted to get the birth rate up, a certain monkey on the internet knows the exact solution. Hint: it is not bribing women to have kids or giving them more rights. In fact it is quite the opposite.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen15/12/20 11:21 PM
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And if that solution does not cater to their ideology, then they will just reject it. Accountability is like a garlic to a vampire.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen15/12/20 11:19 PM
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The lane they always choose is "whatever is beneficial to women, even at the expense of others and no negative consequences for women's decisions."
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen13/12/20 06:16 PM
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If a woman in her 20s is so easy to manipulate, would that not make the case that such women are not full functioning adults? We fully accept that teenagers are inexperienced and can make stupid decisions, but not with those that are legally considered adults. I do not believe that women are incapable of determining proper decisions in regards to relationships in their 20s, but rather that many of them simply refuse to expend any energy practicing proper judgement. So many women believe they can…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen13/12/20 02:48 PM
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How many men are willing to commit to you? That is the essence of the Wall. It is not your self perception of how attractive you are, or even whether you are still objectively attractive. This woman makes many declarations of how great her life is, but if men are not willing to commit to her as much as they would have 10-20 years ago, she has indeed hit the Wall. We do not talk about the Wall in context with careers, friendships, or self proclaimed maturity, as they are not relevant to the fact …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen13/12/20 02:38 PM
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