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The wisdom and experience you ladies impart on us 20-somethings is really life changing. It’s life changing and sound advice rooted in lived experiences. I wish someone had given me this advice when I was making these major life decisions. From the age of 20-27 I was tied down with my, now, stbx husband. I gave into familial pressure (stereotypical south asian upbringing) of marrying young to my highschool/college BF. We were together for 7 years before I hit the brakes, triggered by his financi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 03:18 AM
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I hope you train rigorously and achieve ultimate levels of fitness for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 12:02 AM
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Definitely the pickme mom and sister are worse because it doesn’t and shouldn’t surprise us that the scrotey men are in solidarity with each other. This toxicity is perpetuated as well by the pickme’s and they actually tend to gaslight the other women more, especially because we tend to trust them more. This is why pickme’s should not be let off the hook and are such a dangerous breed of woman. It’s like the ultimate betrayal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 11:58 PM
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I know we don’t want to go there but they should be shamed. SHAMED and made to feel disgusting and that no woman would want to touch them with a 10-foot-pole for these types of behaviors, that most definitely perpetuated the current pandemic we are in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 11:53 PM
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So they are essentially vectors of disease. My ex did something similar with toothpaste. Instead of replacing the toothpaste tube with a fresh one when there was barely any left he’d literally cut it in half and scrape out the inside of the tube (when he did brush his teeth which would be like once daily ). How fucking lazy can a person be
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 04:51 PM
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I bet if you didn’t live there there wouldn’t even be soap and a soap dispenser on the counter
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/21 10:46 PM
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💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 10:09 PM
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Vile being
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 06:42 PM
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But they have such a fucking EGO about it!!! Like they don’t do these things as a gesture of good will or without some ulterior motive. And they would never shut the fuck up about it either! “Oh remember that time I drilled a hole in the wall for you! I did that so you should forgive me for cheating on you!! Since I did that one thing that one time for you!!!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 01:58 AM
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Same thing happened to me but I wasn’t on vacation, my mom was rushed to hospital and died. I couldn’t believe that bumbling bastard did nothing to take care of our household responsibilities while I was planning a fucking funeral for my mom’s untimely death. He called his Mommy to come run our household for a week! Bills didn’t get paid since he used weaponized incompetence to get out of finances. Damn, Lilith, Reaux and Savannah were right. Eldest sisters FTW!!! Haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 01:55 AM
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I also did this in retaliation and as a social experiment when I caught my soon to be ex husband engaging in same. Yeah he fucking lost his shit and actually became physically fucking abusive over it. Totally demented. What a piece of shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 01:47 AM
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Hence why they coined the term “food porn” among other “insert word here” porn. Sick bastards will fetishize anything up to and including inanimate objects. Honestly who are we kidding, most men that are like this don’t even respect themselves, let alone can fathom respecting women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 01:43 AM
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Can attest to this as a 28 year old divorcee.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 02:29 AM
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Your pictures say 1000 words, love it !!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 12:47 AM
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I came here to affirm and wholeheartedly agree with this. Fuck texting, so low effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 04:45 AM
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All of this rings true - and is a good reminder going forward to ruthlessly vet not only men, but women we confide in so not to get stabbed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 04:26 AM
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You're bad-ass. Yes, she does. She really does speak like that - and I'm often more perplexed than I am mad, just because of the sheer idiocy of it all. I think I'm accepting that a rational conversation with her is not possible going forward. On the balance of probabilities, if this conversation took place, you know, before my path to enlightenment via therapy, self-help and medication - you probably could have placed a winning bet on your outcome.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 04:17 AM
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We would have to coordinate it privately because of the predatory scrotes who lurk the sub, but I would love to connect with like-minded women in my major Canadian city, especially during the holidays when I am actively avoiding and distancing myself from the low value people (such as the friend that inspired my original post).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 04:03 AM
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Truer words have never been spoken. You are a Queen for vetting anyone and everyone ruthlessly no matter what stage or "level" they have "unlocked" in gaining access to your life. I live for it. Thank you <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 03:37 AM
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I'm so sorry it's been hard for you to find a good therapist. Unfortunately, even once you find yourself in the chair across from one, you might hear them say things that totally invalidate or illegitimize how you feel. It was a long and hard road, to find my current Psychologist who lives in a different province than me, and who I chat with over video. She changed my life and is a true feminist who empowers me. I agree, it's important to be there for your friends and support them - a lot of my …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 03:32 AM
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Ha, good thing you don't owe him anything. Not proof of your accomplishments or even acknowledging his existence. Block and delete, sis. He doesn't give a fuck and neither should you, you're too good for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 03:18 AM
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I felt so stoic reading this. Like your response made me feel so at peace and at ease that we are sharing a similar journey to enlightenment. Key take-aways for me: your virtue, your self discipline, and also combatting this notion of righteousness. Being virtuous and self-disciplined always gets misconstrued as self-righteousness by insecure people. I feel a lot of my values don't align with those around me because they perceive being virtuous as "pretentious" and self-disciplined as "boring." …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 03:17 AM
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Congratulations on your 2 years sobriety! I am so proud of you. Believe it or not, but the trauma of being married to an alcoholic drove me to drink more than I was capable of handling at times. Substances are way easier to access than a licensed psychologist or therapists, so we default to that as the imperfect beings that we can be at times. It takes true willpower and grit to dig deep and seek the help and resources you need to free yourself from any type of "demon" or "vice" and hold your ow…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 03:07 AM
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The stigma is horrible. There is so much time, money, effort and dedication that goes into seeking therapy and mental health resources. It's the much easier option to be lazy and wonder helplessly, "wHy mE?!" than take charge of your own life. Especially in Canada, where the Canadian government will pay you to stay home and do this, LOL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 03:02 AM
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Thank you for the friendly reminder to be more private and guarded. I think most of us women do give other women the benefit of the doubt, because we want to believe they are just like us. But these PickMe women are just as bad as the scrotes. A wolf in sheep's clothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 02:59 AM
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I never thought about the double betrayal until you put it this way. You're right. The saying, misery loves company is so true. Miserable people just get off on seeing others in misery. I'm just starting to feel sad that I ended a marriage and now good friendships over this very concept. Even my scrotey Dad hated to see me achieve what I set out to. Every time I strive to do better and/or accomplish more, without fail they just try to sabotage you or trip you up and get in your way. Worst of all…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 02:57 AM
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The flat-earther comparison rings so true. I don't care who you are, anyone can benefit from therapy. So why act all holier-than-thou and kick your friends down in an argument, when you could clearly use some of that help yourself?! Especially when you're out here in emotional turmoil over a shitty scrote! Belitting someone who is determined to manage their mental health and thrive, is no different than ridiculing someone who goes and exercises at the gym regularly to take care of their physical…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 02:47 AM
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Thank you so much for kind and empathetic words. You know, I really don't try to come off as self-righteous to my friends, but I do have lived experiences and I only use those experiences to try to empower other women, not tear them down. As a first step, finding a good psychologist, you are compatible with, alone is a huge hurdle in and of itself! Since covid most put you on waiting lists where I live. It took me 2 freaking years!! Never mind all the time and money I've spent. I guess I see why…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 02:39 AM
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Thank you so much for reading, responding and acknowledging this. The PickMe's who perpetuate this toxicity are our community's Achilles heel. They are not in solidarity with women and are wolves in sheep's clothing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 02:33 AM
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Thank you. I will admit I was depressed after the divorce, it didn't help that my mother also died the same year - it was not an easy road to getting my mind right with 0 support system. Imagine people you thought you were close with, belitting you for getting professional help. I also come from a culture where depression and mental illness is treated by witchcraft or just invalidated all together. Furthermore, my depression is hereditary, my mom was severely depressed and I inherited it. My sup…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 02:30 AM
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Sadly, most women I encounter these days would rather suffer with a scrote, rather than choose to level up. In some ways, choosing to take charge of your life and choices, IS harder than suffering with a scrote. Rather than do the hard work, they wear their "sacrifices" like a fucking badge of honor. Look at how much "wE'vE bEeN tHrOuGh ToGeThEr." Nah, sis - he broke up with you to fuck other women then came crawling back. At least speak to a mental health professional who can guide you to the o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 02:19 AM
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He’s not even a good actor. It’s all just CLOUT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 01:58 AM
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They definitely hide their boring behind it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 01:25 AM
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This is gospel. Not at all sociopathic - we should be doing it out of self preservation. It should be considered purely instinctual to defaulting to not letting someone close to you as a safety mechanism. Fuck giving men the benefit of the doubt. This is the type of advice that protects women from abuse, by not allowing themselves to get close to men they don’t even trust enough yet to be alone with. Thank you 🙏🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 02:42 AM
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I’m sorry you fell for it too. It was all a lie, a manipulation tactic and I wasted several years believing it. It was one of the most painful lies I had to reconcile in my young adult life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 02:39 AM
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Soulmates. This myth that there is one person out there who is your “match made in heaven”. That there is no one else you could possibly have this connection with. It really distorts a woman’s perspective and puts pressure on her to stick it out even if she is unhappy. It also forces her to have this scarcity mindset - again, as if there is only one person that could love her in that capacity. I call fraud and I call scam. I married a man for all the wrong reasons because I thought he was my “so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 02:04 AM
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I don’t know how “men” like this look at themselves in the mirror with any vindication. Actually this guy sounds so low effort, he’s probably unkempt and doesn’t even look at himself in the mirror. What a LOSER.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 12:33 AM
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This man’s existence is a pointless and irrelevant waste of space. He’s an utterly useless hobosexual. Using the word man to describe him is overzealous. He contributes less than the child in this situation. What trash!! 🚮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 02:20 AM
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It gets worse and even more depressing. In the comments she says she’s “not sure since she still does the cooking/cleaning/washing after she gets home but he says that’s her part of chores so she shouldn’t complain.” I mean WHAT. THE. FUCK. We need to FDS rescue mission her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 02:11 AM
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Proud of my crocodilian, crusted-over scales, perfect for repelling scrotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 02:06 AM
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Hopefully it’s not named “the G spot” or else those scrotes will never find it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 03:21 AM
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The bar is lower than the amount of money they are willing to spend on a date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 02:40 AM
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You ladies are so witty I am living for this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 02:31 AM
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😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 02:29 AM
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BAHAHAHAHAHAHA! GET A BED FRAME YOU SCROTES!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 02:21 AM
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The bar is so low, satan used it to catapult to earth and shape-shift as the scrotes that brought most of us to this sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 01:45 AM
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Lmao. This is a good one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 01:23 AM
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The bar is so low, it’s in Tartarus?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 01:22 AM
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The bar is so low, satan stepped over it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 01:11 AM
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The bar is so low, it made the dead sea depressed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 01:08 AM
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LMAOO thank you for blessing us with this truth. Might I add the “wears sunglasses in EVERY pic” guy on dating apps. Sketchy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 12:46 AM
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I wish I could upvote this more than once!!! 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 12:40 AM
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Attention span of a fly. No offense to flies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 12:37 AM
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Very true. “Extroverted” men can also use this description of themselves as an excuse to be belligerent, abrupt and rude. Thank you for sharing your experience 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 12:36 AM
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I edited my comment! Thank you for this teachable moment!! 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 12:34 AM
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What an idiot. These men just tell on themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 12:32 AM
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I edited my comment! Thank you for your insight!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 12:31 AM
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Start charging ladies!! Therapists go for 250 bucks an hour these days!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 12:25 AM
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What’s ent?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 12:26 PM
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Lmaoooo. Comedic gold.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 06:13 PM
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Oh, we have a name for that here. That we call willful incompetence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 01:54 AM
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So eloquently put!! This is everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 01:36 AM
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I appreciate you and your point of view! Letting conversations die is soo hard for me to do. I wholeheartedly value meaningful conversations with others! I learned from my mistakes when I married someone on the premise of filling silences and giving ideas. Turned out he was dumb AND boring. At least I got out before procreating with him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 01:30 AM
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Ughh!! This!! Exactly what happens when trying to have a conversation with a scrote, the topics bounce right off his thick skull no matter how easy you make it for him! These men are just used to monologuing and mansplaining at each other, they have no idea how to hold a meaningful or entertaining conversation with a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 12:59 AM
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In person is just as much a dealbreaker, but in chat it’s like come on, how much easier can you make it for them?! Personally I don’t have a whole night to throw away to getting sucked into texting conversations. If a man doesn’t answer a phone call or initiate one, huge red flag IMO.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 12:44 AM
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I am so happy against all odds you found this person!!! Now I WAS married to a man who used me as a live-in therapist. NEVER AGAIN. Divorcing his ass currently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 12:40 AM
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They do have a connection. With other males aka their bros. I have the opposite conundrum in that I’m extroverted. I am so tired of being the only one asking questions or keeping the conversation going. After so long it’s straight up exhausting and boring. Edit: removed the part where I say most guys I meet are introverted and that’s why our conversations don’t flow. There are tons of amazing people I know who are introverted and can keep a conversation flowing. The word introverted shouldn’t be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 12:38 AM
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Yes! An FDS rescue mission where we put them in intense therapy and rehabilitation. These women are addicts, love addicts and seemingly addicted to being treated like shit?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 02:22 PM
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The last man I was dating informed me of his son, but not his daughter. I found out on my own after conducting some reconnaissance (as Reaux from the FDS podcast would put it), ie. Facebook that he had a 2 year old daughter as well. Even the son he didn’t tell me about until 1-2 months once we were both already emotionally invested. “I can forgive a confession, but I can’t forgive what I found out on my own.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 09:53 AM
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I love this!! Cheers to you!! Congrats!! This that Queen shit!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 04:14 PM
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You made the right call to walk. It is inherently LV of a woman with no kids to date a man with kids. You are always by default going to be doing abundantly more emotional labour in the relationship than he is, because you are being forced (by virtue of dating him) to like or at least interact with his offspring and worst of all having to deal with the ex/bm. I’m divorced with no kids and still run from single dads. At least I never have to look at my ex again. The audacity of some of these male…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 10:12 PM
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I am so tired for being villainized for asserting my boundaries. The last man I broke things off with called me stubborn, competitive (in a negative context) and grumpy. I’m not fake laughing at anyone’s jokes anymore. I’m not letting anyone waste my time. I’m not putting a man I’m only dating, before my work, my friends, and my family. I will gladly nope tf out everytime a man perceives me living according to my standards as difficult, stubborn, competitive or “grumpy.” Boy, bye. 👋🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 01:46 AM
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I try so hard not to make it personal. But the people I love need to know their place in this. I will not be a hypocrite by condoning the choices they make that are to the detriment of society and our healthcare systems due to their selfishness. If we were all as selfish as they are, no one would work in hospital’s caring for people. Thank you for your uplifting words. ❤️‍🩹
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 02:09 AM
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Thank you so much for all you have done to contribute to the solution, and not the problem. I am coming to the sad but true realization that the literal masks are coming off the LV individuals in my life. While sad, it’s necessary to keep vetting and upholding my standards of what a true friend or husband entails. The pandemic has showed me who the real ones are. Thank you for being a real one ❤️‍🩹
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 02:04 AM
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Thank you for all you have done, and the sacrifices you have made. You speak so much truth here, and I had to LOL at the shit-stain alert comment, as well as the flamboyantly LV comment too. So on point. All of the behaviors you mentioned are such a slap in the face to healthcare workers. I don’t expect accolades for what we’ve done, but this flagrant disregard for the deaths, overwhelmed hospitals and desperate begging from health professionals to comply is so disheartening. I can’t help but ta…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 01:54 AM
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Your comment resonated with me so much. Thank you for reading and replying. I am so exhausted, burnt out and at this point, feeling so disrespected by the way those once close to me, choose to double down on their rhetoric when it is willful ignorance at this point. Healthcare workers have been isolating since day one. Even when there is a glimmer of hope (vaccine) for the general public, we are still held to the highest standards of compliance due to the vulnerability of our patients. There is …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 12:26 AM
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Or how about the same effort into a relationship with themselves?! 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 12:14 AM
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Please assign me a flair ☺️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 09:43 PM
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This is amazing!! I am divorcing my stbx husband because I resented him so much I realized there is noo way I want to procreate with him! Thank goodness for contraception!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 11:33 AM
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All of the work the mods are doing is making this such a safe space for women. Thank you so much 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 11:36 PM
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