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hystericalbonding/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/17 06:20 PM
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Ignore/STFU waves a big red flag of social ineptitude in this situation, but it's better than saying something stupid. Better responses depend on your objectives. If she's a good girl, then reframe her shitty behavior, giving her a golden bridge to retreat across. "It's understandable to be upset about (insert friend's name here), but it's spilling over into your interaction with me and with the kids." Either send her away to decompress, or provide her with a potent distraction to help her blow …
/r/askMRP22/11/19 07:00 PM
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OP is Clark Griswold. This kind of thing might be a big deal for social misfits who can't lead a conversation. It's like Toastmasters for family Thanksgiving dinner.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/19 10:27 PM
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Get sleep hygiene in order. Cut out caffeine after the morning. Avoid alcohol. Start weaning off the drugs. www.cbtforinsomnia.com
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/19 01:11 AM
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Why just a progress report with no plan? I get up early with the boys so the wife can sleep a little extra, and also usually stay up the latest to get them to bed and stuff is taken care of for the night. How many hours do you sleep?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/19 07:26 PM
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Dick measuring is gay. 6'4 206. Up from 6'4" 176 That puts FFMI around 22 at BF 15%. Still skinny by Western womens' standards, but approaching the minimum build where you can focus on other aspects of your game.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/19 05:32 PM
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I'm not being passive aggressive I love this line. BF 23% starfish sex You're fat and have no game. What were you expecting?
/r/askMRP19/11/19 04:22 PM
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Crab bucket mentality. 15% is easy. Do squats, deadlifts, and fork put-downs. 10% and below is hard, especially natty. Have you tried it?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/19 04:05 PM
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Your testosterone is quite high for a woman. You are a woman, right? I also do not want to be a dick or continue to hurt her. Then why be so passive aggressive? Skip to the punchline and submit divorce papers instead of being lazy and trying to make her do it. The entire post sounds like gender reversal in every case where the flaired guys say, "She wants you to kill the puppy." The difference is that you're more intent on resenting and punishing her for your own failings. Is this how all your b…
/r/askMRP19/11/19 03:47 PM
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Since most here don't tell their wives about RP Although many of our wives have read our RP posts, I wouldn't model yourself after anyone here. Or anywhere, really. The key is to figure out what you want - what helps you to feel fulfilled. It's often something completely different from what you thought when you first came here, especially when the focus shifts to you instead of wanting something in particular from your wife. Is this along the lines of not having to dodge bullets? Way too much ta…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/19 10:49 PM
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And by stop being codependent, do you mean dependant on my wife for validation or what are you meaning by that? Partly. The need to engage. Obsessing over the correct response. Feeling the need to hide things. Here's a starting point.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/19 12:24 AM
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The wife told me if I lie to her about drugs again she is out. I told her if she gives me an ultimatum again I'll be gone before she gets home. You responded to a weak ultimatum with a weak ultimatum of your own. Her frame. I had a much longer response about authenticity, the correct response to her emotions, and a bunch of other crap that you're not ready to hear. You're not there yet. Right now you're still searching for scripts and explicit advice, but what you need is to stop being codepende…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/19 10:19 PM
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What's the story with alcohol and you two? Any drugs? Other addictions? Saw body weight, but I must have missed your body fat percentage. What's happening with grooming and style? What's the cheating history for each of you during the marriage? I always laugh when a guy comes in saying his 40-year-old wife is an 8. Her behavior is influenced by her unconscious perception of your SMV relative to hers. Your behavior is influenced by your perception. You have her on a pedestal. This nonsense about …
/r/askMRP09/11/19 11:12 PM
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This is just another example of you allowing her pussy to control you. You're just reacting. It's her frame. Outcome independence isn't just for when she rejects you. an idea of shit I should be on the lookout for? Giving too many fucks about the whims of a woman. How many of these hot women did you approach? Any IOI? Real progress happens when you have real options. Right now you don't, and your wife knows it. I'm not saying to turn her down or anything, just stop being such a thirsty beta. "Ma…
/r/askMRP09/11/19 10:40 PM
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We've been down this road before. Read my response to OP more carefully. 6-12 weeks of having everything in order, not 6-12 weeks from the first test. Most would argue that 6-12 weeks isn't long enough, but I recognize TRP's desperation for quick fixes. You can't rely on a single test result. Even for life-threatening blood results, it's almost always correct to confirm. You'd be amazed how many results are spurious. Low testosterone at his age cannot be assumed to be age-related gonadal failure…
/r/askMRP07/11/19 12:22 PM
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It's easy to confuse your own experience with some sort of universal law. Going on TRT after a single test would be stupid for the vast majority. There's a reasonable chance that it will still be low in 6-12 weeks, but maybe not. I'm certain that mine drops when I cut, but it's right back up when I start eating more. Think 6-12 weeks will make that big a difference in this guy's life?
/r/askMRP07/11/19 01:02 AM
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Low-T for a young guy is often a state rather than a trait. It goes down when you are fat, but also goes down during a cut or with high physical or psychological stress. Eat at maintenance for 6-12 weeks and re-test along with all the other relevant hormone levels before jumping on TRT. Eat lots of veggies and nutrient-dense foods, especially those with magnesium or zinc. Get lots of good quality sleep.
/r/askMRP06/11/19 06:00 PM
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I have to make her understand No, you don't.
/r/askMRP06/11/19 04:40 PM
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Do what's right for you. She'll either get on board or she won't. Get yourself mentally and physically healthy. you guys will give me some logical advice Which you'll take? From strangers on the internet? The solution comes from within, especially when it comes to things that are so specific. We can give prescriptive advice in general terms, but we can't give you scripts. We can teach you about the physical attributes that are attractive to women, but we can't tell you how many reps you should d…
/r/askMRP06/11/19 04:31 PM
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OK, let's start with a question. Why did you feel a need to make this post?
/r/askMRP06/11/19 03:59 PM
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If you can't stop overthinking it, or you are going to injure yourself, then you need a trainer to tell you what to do. If you can chill out and enjoy gradual and consistent progress, then keep progressing. The only reason to rush any of this is if you compete. Even then, if it's amateur, rushing it is probably a stupid thing to do in the long term.
/r/askMRP06/11/19 03:40 PM
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You don't get it. This is the dilemma I have, hiding shit out of fear vs telling people shit that has to do with me You only see those two options, because your mindset is fucked. If you read NMMNG or WISNIFG, you didn't understand them.
/r/askMRP06/11/19 03:32 PM
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Why do you feel a need to explain your behavior to anyone? You are your own judge. Read WISNIFG.
/r/askMRP06/11/19 03:09 PM
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If you're continuing to make gains, then keep going. If gains hit a plateau, then find your way past a sticking point. If that doesn't work, or you regress, then periodize differently or switch programs. Volume depends on individual genetics, cutting vs bulking, sleep, NEAT, etc. Autoregulation becomes important when you're out of the beginner phase. My current weight of 200 is 20lbs heavier but that only equates to 4lbs of gain a year. Not very good Maybe not good for the first year, but pretty…
/r/askMRP06/11/19 02:58 PM
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Interesting - TIL
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/19 09:23 PM
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I haven't read any of his stuff after TSAONGAF. My first thought is an image change/marketing tool to increase his female audience, but that may just be a projection of what I would do. He made it to the higher profile spots on bookstore shelves, but his audience is still mostly men. Women buy more books. Or maybe his balls have aged and he needs TRT.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/19 09:19 PM
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Is that what you got from the article? Or just the first few paragraphs? The article doesn't touch on the benefits of masculinity because that's not the point of the article, which is about masculinity in the context of people like the Escobar brothers. The content is ultimately about the perils of using external metrics, societal expectations, or other people's opinions to judge ourselves as men. It's wrapped up in a PC-friendly wrapper, but is ultimately something plucked right from the subtle…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/19 08:55 PM
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Women also initiate differently than men. Porn shows women initiating like men, because it wouldn't be very exciting to watch a video where the chick touches his chest a certain way, gets a little closer than usual, displays herself to him, wears that particular set of underwear that makes herself feel sexy. The line between IOI and initiation is very blurry, leaving lots of room to save face on both ends of the madonna whore spectrum.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/19 03:48 PM
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I also say I want to have sexual w someone that actually wants to have sex with me and if that’s not her that’s fine I didn't know TRT made people talk too much.
/r/askMRP02/11/19 03:00 PM
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Building your frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/19 02:06 PM
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Entertainment for the mods. There could also be value in a discussion about asexual women. However, this post was long but still didn't flesh out any ideas. It was more like a diary entry. Undoubtedly there are women out there who for physical, social, or psychological reasons, all of which have some physical/biological underpinnings, are not and will never be interested in sex. There are plenty of options between accepting the status quo and getting a divorce. I'm sure asexual women can be usef…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/19 01:05 PM
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After some thinking, I messaged the mods, told them the situation and decided to post. Also insecure. It would make him feel better to label his wife as asexual. People love their labels. It allows them to accept the status quo. This is the wrong place to get validation of that particular label. Change your life and wait for her to see if you changed He has ridden his covert contract as far as it will go. then move on He's not there. He could also reassess his frame and game, tell her what to do…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/19 09:59 PM
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Seems more like askMRP material to me. Let's set aside the issue of spontaneous vs responsive desire, and how you're only seeing part of the picture when viewing other couples. Let's focus on your wife. Is she asexual? The vast majority of the time, here, the problem is an unattractive husband, both in reality, and in terms of the strategies that can improve the situation. I don't care about your wife. She's not the one asking for help. I also don't care about the behavior of women who don't kno…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/19 09:01 PM
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Edit: never mind, looked at his previous post. She doesnt care about me, it's just a business arrangement, so why should I care about her. Plan to cheat and tell her. Perma-ban. Temp or permanent? I have some morbid curiosity about this one. I always assumed that people with social anxiety would feel more confident in an anonymous online forum, but apparently I was wrong. Maybe he'll pop some propranolol one day so he can flesh out a plan in OYS instead of giving a one-sentence field report of f…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/19 07:15 PM
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MB: INFJ, Enneagram: Type 4 (The Individualist) A wild sigma appears. What's your astrological sign? Any other excuses for being a social misfit? Or just deafness? At its best, Myers-Briggs is about states rather than traits. At its worst, it's about your deeply flawed beliefs about who you are. There are plenty of posts here from former introverts and other miscellaneous losers. Read the top posts. As a navel-gazer, I'm sure you are well aware of the issues of self-esteem, loneliness, and depre…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/19 04:33 PM
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You also half-assed this post. Well done. Practice approaches with old people - much easier to open someone whose starvation for attention comes from neglect rather than narcissism. Read Bang and Day Bang for an easy intro.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/19 03:07 PM
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One year, still trying to fake it until you make it. Your plan is to stop acting like a thirsty beta orbiter. You need to stop thinking like one. It starts with self-esteem, self-respect, and truly not giving a fuck what other people think. You know the words, reciting Deida and /u/weakandsensitive, but the mindset hasn't changed. I get maybe 6-6.5 hours of sleep each night, and yet I’m falling behind in many arenas – or it feels that way anyhow. Maybe I want too much too fast? Maybe I’m expecti…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/19 09:04 PM
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There isn't one. This is an old conversation about dumb fucks who take online politics way too seriously. I've said it a hundred times - red pill advice is mainstream advice. Blue pill is guys who are too sheltered or stupid to understand how the world works. Purple isn't a thing. This nonsense about purple pill vs hardcore red, and other crab bucket tribalism drives away useful contributors. We're left with bitches and whiners. If I had the patience to be a mod, I would have temp banned several…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/19 07:18 PM
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Dance, monkey
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/19 03:43 AM
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Deadandsushi Enjoyed picking on weak spots, literally. Got under the skin of the formerly skinny fat, including experienced guys like Cad. Also provided a good example of how a woman can become completely immersed in the life of her man, and how a good girl can look like a bitch to a guy with no frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/19 06:38 PM
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Holy fuck, that's an actual link! I knew you'd figure out a way to monetize your writing hobby eventually. It's much less work than the man gym idea anyway. Now we need a post on combining CBD with the glow sticks and black lights. Ramp up the humor! There's too much seriousness and bitchiness in the manosphere.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/19 05:46 PM
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Interesting response to a post about when to ignore other people's labels and expectations. High muscle mass is peacocking. It works, but it's only one tool. It's useful, but not sufficient. Deadsandsushi 2.0 indeed. No, the resemblance is there in the tone and overemphasis on powerlift maxes, but deadsandsushi had more to say about frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/19 05:29 PM
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Added transcript to my comment. I had forgotten how long the video was. Watched it between sets in the gym a long time ago.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/19 03:07 PM
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put off by his scare-mongering monetization of impressionable dudes I admire it. Marketing psychology is beautiful in action. How many women in North America get married without a diamond engagement ring? It's like anti-vaxxers - aggravating, but amazing to watch. We're all suckers for something. recently revealed character issues LOL - gotta filter the useful content from the source. Most of Rollo's content isn't my thing, either, but it's useful.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/19 02:04 PM
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+1 I don't agree 100% therefore he's an idiot? No, he's a smart guy, writes persuasively for the right audience, and year 1 is still required reading. After that and NMMNG, guys need to start thinking for themselves. It's like the Manipulated Man. Absolutely required, fun, but much of it is BS. I'd also recommend that everyone watch Esther Vilar's interview for an example of frame. She toyed with Alice Schwarzer for 42 minutes straight. That's how you handle a main event. Transcript here for guy…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/19 01:56 PM
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JXH is irreplaceable, but somewhat theoretical. Jack, Stoney, and weakandsensitive all give the same advice in different ways - basic mindset, frame, and prescriptive advice with an understanding of PUA applied to LTR. The differences are about politics, presentation, and the question of whether those who can't find a starting point should be shown a path or left behind.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/19 01:44 PM
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She said she wanted to jump off a bridge. It's hard to live with uncertainty and insecurity. Was she hoping for a reprieve after the good news? The new norm is months away, at the earliest. if Rollo weren't a washed-up, shit-talking asshole with poor writing skills who keeps reiterating dreck Very useful for new guys, though. Beyond that it's just a recipe for paranoia and the anger phase. Better to develop your own frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/19 01:35 PM
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Testing for babesiosis would make sense. The chance of sexual transmission would be very low but not zero. I wouldn't bother getting yourself tested for toxo unless you've got HIV or something.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/19 11:51 AM
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Babesiosis is a cousin of malaria, and fits the bill if she's immune suppressed. If the picture of parasites was in her blood, then it's probably legit. I'd still cautious though - there are plenty of quacks out there who misunderstand serology and want to tell everyone they've got chronic Lyme, chronic toxo, or some other BS. The clue is usually when they tell you that the medication only partly worked, and you need to buy herbals. I'm going to get tested for those parasites as well. My immune …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/19 10:02 PM
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blood parasites If it's not malaria, then you're probably dealing with a quack.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/19 04:13 PM
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I agree about the importance of sleep. I think you misread my post. I was sleeping 4-5h/night at the worst point, when I first came to MRP. It's been 7-8h for a few years now.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/19 10:44 AM
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She's bipolar. Should be fun when it swings a different direction. No real tests of frame until then. Or maybe his wife will discover MRP and read all his posts. Maybe all will be well and he'll be a slightly more fucked up version of The Family Alpha. Either way, it's coming, probably a few months from now. OP needs to keep practicing and building his track record.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/19 10:57 PM
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As to the rest of the 1%: being heavily invested in identifying as the hard-working, entrepreneurial, "little engine that could" is probably what devalues their company to me. I am trying to get past that as it's just being homesick for the barrel myself. I like this. Nice insight. I'm lucky in this way - the crab bucket mentality was foreign to me until I started hanging out with lots of girls in high school. Many of them do it even though they hate it. I'll never understand it. My parents also…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/19 11:37 AM
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At least for me, spending 30-45 mins on MRP reading and absorbing and answering has 100% accelerated my progress. That's good! It's a toolbox. Do what works. The vast majority of my progress was from lifting, reading and implementing the sidebar content, top posts from MRP and TRP, and some key interactions with flaired guys. I wasted way too much time in the first two years helping people who didn't earn it, didn't understand it, and couldn't apply it, especially askMRP. It's better in the OYS …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 09:41 PM
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Body composition Reached target weight with similar body composition, and have been maintaining new weight for past 3 months. I will forever feel small, but I find that motivating, and will remain natty unless my hormones become an issue. Weight training Switched back to DUP this week. I had forgotten how good it feels after speed day. Over the past 4-5 years, DUP and 5/3/1 have been the programs that have me feeling my best outside the gym and helped to avoid injury. Perhaps it's my age, but I …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 05:50 PM
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On days when you can't get to the gym, do a 2 minute warm up then two AMRAP sets (keeping 1-2 reps in the tank) of push ups, pull-ups with a door frame or properly mounted pull-up bar, and one or two 60 second sprints on either flat ground, stairs, or bike. Two minute walk to cool down. Total time 10-15 minutes. If you have only 5 minutes, then just do either the one minute sprint or one set each of push up and pull up. It is extremely important to work the muscles while cutting to maintain or g…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 02:52 PM
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that's when I found out I don't get drunk That's not a thing.
/r/askMRP10/06/19 12:33 PM
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In order for things to get as ugly as they did, you were escalating every step of the way. /thread
/r/askMRP09/06/19 01:25 PM
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Shit post with moralizing responses. You add no value to the subreddit, and likely no value to your wife. Why would she try to look attractive for you? What have you done to earn women wanting to do that for you?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/19 04:38 PM
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Nice post. A new starting point. You now have the potential to establish your frame. You've taken the practical steps to determine your options, and it sounds like you're willing to follow through. RPeed is shitting on you, missing the relevance of the religious stuff to rule zero. This is the red pill - your reality, your sexual strategy. There has been a fundamental shift in your reality, which opens up countless options in sexual strategy. She may try all kinds of crazy shit to subvert your i…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/19 04:57 PM
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my back has been sore the last few days Record and review your squat, deadlift, and row from the side. Be patient with increasing weight on the bar. It's a marathon, not a sprint. Meditations of Marcus Aurelius It's a good start. I'd be interested to hear your reflections on anxiety and hypochondriasis in about 6 months. I know this might not be too special for most, but this is the first time we've had multiple sessions in 1 night since before we were married You're probably going to do well wi…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/19 07:49 PM
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Weights moved to second bedroom. Baby at home. Does the baby sleep in the squat rack?
/r/askMRP05/06/19 07:29 PM
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Now what is a successful response to this? Not feeling a need to respond. Fog, negative assertion, redirect, AM/joke, label her feelings, ignore. Doesn't matter - you are your own judge. YOU are probably the one who got her dad in time to the hospital in the first place. Atta boy, you're not completely useless, and maybe faster than an Uber.
/r/askMRP05/06/19 04:30 PM
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Try again with content from the stickied "cut the shit" post. Based on your limited post history, lay off the alcohol for a better assessment of your game and level of dread, and read jacktenofhearts post about dread.
/r/askMRP05/06/19 04:22 PM
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an altercation with my brother can make me pissed off the entire day Men with no frame, and the things they do.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/19 05:55 PM
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Anger phase. It's tantalizing to believe that you have special knowledge, but most of TRP is common sense, and people don't feel a need to wear it on their sleeves. Give fewer fucks about what other people are thinking and doing - those things are rarely important, except to inform your approach when you want something from them.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/19 03:26 PM
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I'm still trying to figure out how to define frame so I really understand it. Search MRP posts - it's there. It's like the idea of framing from social science. It's your worldview, your judgment of yourself and your situation. Some guys are too easily influenced, from extreme conspiracy theories and codependent behavior all the way down to subtly allowing other people's moods and whims to alter their mood. After SGM, read When I Say No I Feel Guilty, and then maybe How to Win Friends and Influen…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/19 03:19 PM
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+1. TRP loves keto. I suggested ~4 week PSMF. But if his wife loses some weight along the way with keto, that's a win for him! I wonder which of them will stick to it longer. No caffeine after noon Yep. He increased caffeine and feels more tired. No coincidence there. Zinc Magnesium Divalent metal supplements should be taken at different times of day from each other - zinc, magnesium, calcium, iron, and copper are competitive. Magnesium supplement type matters for absorption as well. You can onl…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/19 07:34 PM
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Techno Johnny Apocalypse, while on chemo, still banging 9's and 10's.
/r/askMRP24/05/19 08:54 PM
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/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/19 01:24 AM
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Glad you decided not to handcuff yourself for misguided religious principles. Don't let people manipulate you into changing your mind. WISNIFG will help. After WISNIFG, The Manipulated Man should be an entertaining one for you. Then I'd move on to Pook and the PUA world before considering the possibility of another LTR. Your wife's infidelity buys you a religious exemption. Fuck 10 women - single, married, doesn't matter. Get a feel for AWALT. Keep owning your shit. The questions at the bottom o…
/r/askMRP22/05/19 05:27 PM
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Do you really think another read through of WISNIFG will help? I thought I got the techniques (broken record, fogging, negative assertion/inquiry) down the first time around. You want to go to the gym. She says no, you should be home working on the relationship. You cave. Nice guy, no boundaries, lack of assertiveness. If you don't apply WISNIFG, then re-reading it won't work. Do you think you need to go further back, to NMMNG? You are destroying yourself at her request. You will resent her for …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/19 08:08 PM
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Good plan. I'm not blind to the horrific stress of what happened to your child, or the self-discipline that it will take to overcome your understandable but counterproductive impulses. This is the burden of performance. Read, lift, and decide to be happy.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/19 07:22 PM
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This kind of response is like porn for /u/weakandsensitive
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/19 05:53 PM
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Mehdi from SL5x5 recommends working out while sick Reduce training volume when stressed or mildly sick, but don't skip workouts. One or two sets of 5 reps is better than zero. Diet You are incapable of calorie counting. Why do you keep making the same mistake over and over? Do you have a learning disability, or are you just stubborn? You are the ideal target audience for intermittent fasting, keto, PSMF, or other elimination diets. Pick one and do it for 4-6 weeks. It doesn't matter which one. D…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/19 05:40 PM
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You're still codependent. Kids are an excuse right now. You need to allow yourself the option to leave her. Even if you eventually decide to stay, you need a clear and actionable exit plan. Is she still drinking? Are you?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/19 05:24 PM
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When you're done those, move on to When I Say No I Feel Guilty, and then stuff more relevant to pickup, like Pook, Bang, Mystery, RSD, Models
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/19 03:43 PM
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Two years ago, one of my twin daughters was diagnosed with a brain tumour. This was definitely the most stressful time of my life, and although she finished treatment a year ago and is doing great, I have developed anxiety and also think I've turned into a hypochondriac. You're taking the opposite path from /u/johneyapocalypse. Read his recent post. Read about stoicism. Does your post sound like the family alpha? Elevating yourself and everyone around you? Your anxiety isn't helping you, your ch…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/19 11:24 AM
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Initiate when you want sex. Not because you think you should have sex more. Not because some anonymous idiot said you should initiate every day. Only when you want it.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/19 11:17 AM
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Does anyone else feel like, as a result of reading about RP, they shouldn’t have to answer to women, knowing their true behaviours. And feel indignation (the ego being bruised?) when decisions are questioned? No. Quite the opposite. Apply WISNIFG.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/19 11:11 AM
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gainit FAQ Nobody wants to hear you whine and complain. Owning your shit goes beyond acknowledging the problems. What are you doing right now to solve those problems? Day game? Approaches? Sidebar books?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/19 11:07 AM
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Nice post. Like The Family Alpha but with the voice of more experience. Some people go the opposite way on fear after a life-threatening event. If your mission is life, maybe you want to live it to the fullest, or maybe you want to protect it and become fearful. The latter is totally understandable, but utterly unfuckable. You made a good choice.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/19 05:17 PM
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+1. Wife knows exactly how to push my buttons.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/19 09:31 PM
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LOL - a pretty obvious exception Some people get euphoric, some get dysphoric or psychotic, and most can't sleep. It's bad stuff - a sometimes necessary evil. The comment about it being under your control wasn't for your benefit, but for all the guys who make excuses for their pathetic behavior.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/19 09:05 PM
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Outrage porn is for women and MGTOWs
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/19 10:50 PM
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I'm convinced that mastering your mood is the key to mastering your frame. It's one of the keys, for sure. I'd argue that it is very much under your control. Faking until you make it can work well, because emotions are both self-perpetuating and contagious. For example, the physical act of smiling improves mood, and hearing a person's voice who is smiling as they speak stimulates the muscles that you use to smile. Confident body language improves confidence, and sounding confident influences the…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/19 03:45 PM
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Many (most?) of the 1RM's you see in the OYS threads are calculated from the last 5RM. In fact, many OYS posts only talk about their working weights. Strength gives some indication that they have put the time and effort into the gym, but if it were all about 1RM, we'd probably all do Sheiko or other powerlifting programs. Size matters to women. You can work hard without getting bigger, but you can't get really strong without getting bigger. From 3 years ago. Notice they're mostly beginner progra…
/r/askMRP14/05/19 08:06 PM
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DEER is from No More Mr Nice Guy. It's an easy start. You picked an alcoholic wife for a reason. JADE is from alanon. Tends to be mostly women attending. They supposedly have resources for families who may be entering into court proceedings with their alcoholic family member, and they also have stuff for kids.
/r/askMRP14/05/19 06:27 PM
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You answered your own question here. Document everything. As far as the shit tests go, the counselor tells you to do something, you do it, and the wife gets mad. This means: these niceties don't address the underlying problem with a codependent husband and alcoholic wife even if you genuinely want to do these things, she believes it's because the counselor told you to do them she's an alcoholic you can't fix her. You need to own your shit, but you can't own hers. Forget couples counseling. You c…
/r/askMRP14/05/19 05:51 PM
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flipping through channels Sounds like a complete waste of time.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/19 11:55 PM
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It's pretty funny in this context, with CH being white supremacist.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/19 01:27 PM
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I just recently watched a paternity court show Why?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/19 01:14 PM
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I don't see tits.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/19 08:43 PM
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Then you're an imbecile. Do you at least have nice tits?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/19 08:34 PM
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. I have a lot of respect for him and unconditional love Unconditional love? Blue pill, red pill - either way that would be unhealthy. Luckily, we both know it's not true.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/19 06:39 PM
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She cares because they're her social network. He cares right now because he's insecure. A better reason to care, in terms of sexual strategy, is that they will talk to his girlfriend about how great he is, and how they wish their boyfriends were like that. The hive mind can be your friend or your enemy. But it should be only a superficial care, since people are fickle, and you are your own judge. It's also good to demonstrate that you are a sociable guy who flirts. You are flirting with women, p…
/r/askMRP11/05/19 05:33 PM
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Stop trying to impress. Let them talk about themselves. Search for reasons to be interested in them. Fuck with them if it suits you. They don't care about you, but for the way you make them feel. There's no right thing to say or do - AKA don't be a dancing monkey.
/r/askMRP11/05/19 05:24 PM
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Yep. And remember, betas mate guard, alphas disregard.
/r/askMRP11/05/19 05:16 PM
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Get your emotional needs met elsewhere. If you are complete when alone, then there can be a mutual value add from a relationship.
/r/askMRP11/05/19 01:48 PM
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Obviously light weights You can do a lot with light weights when sets are taken close to failure. If you can't do barbells because of injury, then use dumbbells and machines. Compound movements are key. Adequate sleep is critical. 7+ hours. Body fat? Don't know. I need to get this checked out Navy calculator is a good start. MRA's Your earlier comment about fluoride, joking or not, made me wonder how far you've gone down this path. It fits with the anxiety, and it's common enough in RP. Some of …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/19 03:37 AM
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What scares me the most is that my wife recently said while I was gaming her, “Look where we have come. We’ve never been more in-love.” The word “WRONG!” almost slipped out of my mouth You resent her. You've trained yourself not to like her. You choose to game her not for the fun of it, but.. Why? You're like the guy who grudgingly goes to the party and acts like a bitch the whole time. If you choose to do something, be committed and fully present in the moment. Choose to enjoy it. terrified tha…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/19 09:19 PM
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Maybe she should post. You used the term resentment. I expect that you have a shitty track record, but the post is about her instead of yourself. Nobody can help you with only a thought fragment to go on, beyond telling you to OYS and read the sidebar books.
/r/askMRP08/05/19 06:08 PM
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This has helped me on some new goals for next week’s OYS. Taking action - I like it. You're setting a good example here. It's not a race, but keep moving forward and you'll be surprised at the progress you can make over the course of months.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/19 03:43 PM
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Should I continue with pushups while doing SL5x5? If the lifts feel easy, then go ahead with a few sets a few times per week. If there's any hint of pain with push-ups or bench, then reevaluate. If I were to add something to Stronglifts, it might be pull-up/chin-ups, dips, some ab work, or starting heavier than just the bar if technique can be maintained, but probably not push-ups. Should I buy proper fitting clothes now? Yes, but you don't have to change your entire wardrobe today. Cheap stuff …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/19 06:53 PM
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Predictability is a mood killer. It's hard when kids are young, noticing and acting upon opportunities to isolate and escalate with your wife, but it's necessary. If you must initiate after the kids are in bed, then how or if you initiate should vary. If you blur the lines between sexual and not-overtly-sexual, then it becomes easier for her drop her defenses, and easier for you to handle it when sex doesn't flow from the experience of gaming her and being intimate. Push and pull. Enjoy the ebb …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/19 05:33 PM
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Be patient, trust the process, and keep moving forward. Respond to rejection with OI and get out. For the non-autistic approach, read the threads Verbal Intercourse is Optional, especially jacktenofhearts response, and What We Talk About When We Talk About Dread. Gaming the wife isn't restricted to when the kids are absent.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/19 11:03 AM
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it is in her nature to leave hers on 24/7 You need to question your assumptions. Expect better.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/19 04:34 AM
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Tear it down on your end. See how things evolve. I never had to talk about it. She was scorekeeping because I was - her behavior is a reflection of mine. It came up in discussion some time later that there was another person in her life who had always kept score, and we agreed that we are relieved that we don't do that anymore. YMMV.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/19 04:32 AM
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Nice post. Good progress. The power dynamic is inverted. Next step is to eliminate the scoreboard. Addendum For the newer guys, there's a difference being the one with more power in aspects of a relationship because of your innate or developed tendency toward decisiveness vs deference, compared with feeling the need to be the one with the power all the time. Getting oral or anal as some kind of win over your wife is better than where you started, but there comes a time to stop thinking about it …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/19 04:16 PM
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Because he's mostly trolling and completely full of shit. Example 1 Example 2 Example 3
/r/askMRP04/05/19 05:40 PM
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I would argue if a DNA test was not performed, how did they validate those statistics. Because they did do DNA testing, nitwit. Know any kidney transplant or bone marrow transplant docs? Ask them how often the paternity is mistaken. In North America, it's under 5%, and even lower among the more educated and affluent. It's under 1% where I live. It's not zero. Test if you want. It's worth something because you paid for it. For the guys who are more secure, if the kid looks like yours, it's yours.…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/19 11:31 PM
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If in doubt, then test. Agreed. But we should dispense with the tinfoil hats. Studies have shown that anywhere from 10% to 30% of alleged fathers of children are not their biological fathers That only applies to paternity disputes. It's a gross overestimate for the general population. Wikipedia summarized it well enough: Studies ranging in date from 1991 to 1999 quote the following incidence rates: 11.8% (Mexico), 4.0% (Canada), 2.8% (France), 1.4% and 1.6% (UK), and 0.8% (Switzerland).[5] These…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/19 07:42 PM
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I followed none of the advice of MRP And you still haven't, even by posting here. There's no plan, just a wish list. If you're too lazy to create a MAP, then use the 12 stages of dread. Start back at stage 1. Focus on one stage per month. Identify opportunities and barriers to lifting, and come up with a plan. The rest of your wish list will flow from those two actions.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/19 12:39 PM
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A married incel. That's even worse than /r/deadbedrooms!
/r/askMRP03/05/19 12:15 AM
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Pook should reset your expectations about appropriate body weight for sexual strategy. 125lbs at 5'4" is too skinny for an end goal. If you want to cut to body fat of 12% or so before bulking, that's fine, but don't go for the cancer look. What's your body fat now?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/19 05:27 PM
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What is the difference between "I want my meat" and "Where's my meat" to you? "I" statements are a basic assertiveness technique. "Where's my meat" happens when you've been in a cold swimming pool. It also puts the other person on the defensive.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 05:14 PM
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LOL, I completely forgot about them. RPW, PPD, TBP - it all seems so long ago.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 03:53 PM
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Did she buy a gift for someone else instead? If not, then ditch the covert contracts and quit your bitching.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 03:04 PM
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Interesting that you categorize red, blue, and purple in a post about the perils of container words. It's probably necessary in a post directed to guys who are early in their journey, but it's funny nonetheless. I’ve spent way too much time arguing with middle aged soccer moms online during my learning phase of The Red Pill Euphemism for red pill newbs? They're a group whose lack of frame is easily exposed with container words and labels.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 01:53 PM
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How have you guys been able to retain what you read/listen too in a way that you can use it positively in your life without forgetting big chunks of it? Apply it.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 01:42 PM
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The marriage sounds like a religious or minority ethnic thing. Those often lead to the dancing monkey attraction program. I got the skin fold caliper and realized it needs another person to use it..so went with Navy method. No kinesiology grads at your hospital? Physiotherapists? Bodybuilder docs? I realize now, this whole exercise is about breaking free of my wife’s control. And she has control issues. I hope it diminishes as I maintain consistency over time. Am I to become a dogmatic hardass w…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 01:39 PM
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I’m going to try to be 100% authentic despite knowing I’m going to get a huge blowback here from everyone. Whatever, fuck you guys too. Nobody cares. OYS is for you. It was our anniversary week. She did nothing for me. I got her flowers and a simple card. Made plans and took ½ day off from work to go out. She made an excuse she didn’t have time to get anything. Just like my birthday. I cried like a bitch in private. Guess she isn’t attracted to me. I guess your love language is gifts - LOL. Noth…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 01:24 PM
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189 lbs., BF 18.4% 85g protein/day Should be 130g. Aiming for 1860 calories and 85g protein/day, tracking in MFP. This should put me at a 500 calorie deficit, but I have not seen any loss. My weight has been steady. You're fat enough to recomp. If still no weight loss in a month but lifts still progressing easily, then cut calories by 250/day. I have a doctor's appointment scheduled for 5/24 Always reasonable, if it's a reasonable doctor, but I wouldn't overreact to any of it. Your blood work wi…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 01:12 PM
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At least you've read WISNIFG
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/19 07:31 PM
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I didn't want to get shit for not lifting or have to justify my medical situation to fuckwads on the internet I guarantee it's a bullshit excuse. If people with critical illness can engage in resistance training, then so can you. Lifting doesn't have to mean powerlifting. I have an addiction to carbs and sugar. It's not heroin. Put down the fork or fuck off.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/19 06:37 PM
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Sex has been mediocre since marriage, but was great before marriage and I understand this is natural when you're with a long term partner. Bluepill bullshit. Always lift while cutting weight, or you'll lose muscle. Get to 15% body fat and then tell me that mediocre sex is normal. Beyond the physical, sex is mediocre because you make it that way. Sex God Method is a good intro to sex for retards. Read it after NMMNG and MMSLP.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/19 06:30 PM
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Some might be, but not you... Not if you need to ask a question like this. Monk mode as a teen while reading RP - you mean incel. Now you want a girl with low n count so you won't feel so insecure. Spin plates. Wear condoms. Come back here when you've fucked 10 women.
/r/askMRP26/04/19 12:18 AM
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I don't like the word faggot Gay/straight is a spectrum. Fantasizing about tag teaming your wife with a guy who has a bigger dick is somewhere in the middle. There's nothing wrong with that if you accept that you are at least a tiny bit gay. Bringing it up to your wife has her hamster going. That bell can't be un-rung.
/r/askMRP25/04/19 12:52 PM
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It's a good start. Feel free to lay out your plan in the weekly Own Your Shit thread when things come into focus.
/r/askMRP25/04/19 02:40 AM
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Are you drunk or high? Stop that, and it will be easier to regain your composure. It will also be easier to write a coherent post. Read No More Mr Nice Guy, and When I Say No I Feel Guilty .
/r/askMRP25/04/19 01:17 AM
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to listen to MRP the only value she has that I can't provide for myself is sex Many of the mods and flared guys would disagree, but rule zero makes it seem that way.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/19 01:17 AM
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So there's currently a financial advantage to staying married, some sunk cost fallacy about the marriage, fear of the unknown, and fantasizing about how things might be in two years rather than focusing on the moment. The potential for distant future success and happiness isn't enough for many women. She obviously doesn't trust your vision. That's not something you can control. She knows she'd have more spending money in a divorce. Accepting the budgetary restraints may mean that she's not immed…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 06:54 PM
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Fitness You probably have good enough conditioning for n-Suns beginner program in the /r/fitness wiki. There are occasional women who like skinny dudes, more who try to convince themselves that they like skinny dudes, but the majority like muscles, whether they admit it or not. Read Pook. Quick question – how do you respond to the whole ‘broken record’ type of Shit Test? Read and apply When I Say No I Feel Guilty. Verbal intercourse is optional. Read the whole thread.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 04:02 PM
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Screen for depression. Work on self esteem.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 03:54 PM
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What does your lawyer say about your likely financial situation after the divorce is formalized? Will your wife be entitled to significantly more that her current budget? A common refrain is to think about what you would do in this situation if you were single or divorced, and consider doing that instead.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 03:41 PM
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This question is asked at least every 6 months.
/r/askMRP21/04/19 04:58 PM
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Start acting like the kind of guy you want her to date
/r/askMRP19/04/19 11:35 PM
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stop drinking start lifting more than 45 pounds engage your daughter - Do things together, without your wife. Listen to her. Figure out how much of it is driven by the immediacy and addiction of screens or other crutches. Lead by example, not with words. Kids low self esteem is usually heavily influenced by parents, plural. In other words, stop blaming your wife and making value judgments of her or the kid. WISNIFG - you are your own judge. Teach your daughter to be her own judge. There are book…
/r/askMRP19/04/19 09:23 PM
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Read no more mr nice guy Defend, explain, excuse, rationalize or JADE from AA - Justify, Argue, Defend, Explain
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/19 01:27 PM
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Question belongs in askMRP.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/19 11:34 AM
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Read about JADE from AA. Then read When I Say No I Feel Guilty. I expect you'll want to delete your post after that. You overestimate the average man and underestimate the average woman. That's fine if all you want is pickup and spinning plates, but it places limits on what you can achieve. There are entire books about the myth of rationality.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/19 11:33 AM
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OK, then keep score of calories instead of chores. Makes more sense to focus on things that are under your control. I still think you're incapable of logging right now, and might be better served by an elimination diet or intermittent fasting, but it's your decision.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/19 07:41 PM
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TL;DR Validation whore with fetish for status marries woman with money. Wonders why a being a small-town surgeon with real estate purchases doesn't impress her. Believes that a long-distance relationship is a thing. Wants to be more than a paycheck to kids, but his wife is the gatekeeper. Tries to play her games instead of rising above. Is on the fence about moving to the city, which might help, or may simply be another example of a woman expressing displeasure with the dishwasher being loaded i…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/19 06:53 PM
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It's not the hitting, but the fact that you argue in the first place. It's a lack of frame. You are reading WISNIFG - it's time to apply it, not as a tool to win an argument, but as a means to maintain self-respect when you decide not to argue.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/19 05:57 PM
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Another victim. Poor you.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/19 05:30 PM
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You talk too much. Starting point is in the sidebar. Don't use logic to manipulate (WISNIFG.) Nobody wins an argument (HTWFAIP.) I have no leverage Your tools are your time and attention. The first is currently dedicated to work and status. The latter doesn't add value to her life. You have nothing but a car that will rust and potential future income that she doesn't need. Long-distance relationships don't exist. Ever wonder why there are so many doctors and members of the military here? Jackten…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/19 05:20 PM
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overeating is not just about counting calories Calorie balance is exactly what overeating is about. Regardless of your estimates, logs, and calculations, if you're not losing weight, then take fewer calories. It is that simple. Nobody gives a fuck about why you eat more than you should. Willpower? Salt? Sugar? Insulin? Marketing? Social pressure? Fuck it all. Man up.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/19 04:36 PM
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I have deep, deep issues involving food The victim mentality has no place here. You settled on PSMF and then chickened out. Now you're back to another failed attempt at logging. You are incapable of logging right now, so pick another strategy. Either do intermittent fasting or replace 1-2 meals per day with a bariatric shake. Pick one. Do it for a month. I realize now I had a covert contract that if I told my wife I had a lot of work to do that she would just take care of everything around the h…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/19 04:29 PM
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Do you get a sense of fulfillment from the things you do? Or just a quick dopamine fix that leaves you feeling hollow afterwards? You're the only person who can figure it out. OYS is for you, not for us. If your job includes navigating the attention economy, then master it, switch jobs, or accept a compromise that suits you for now, as you plot your course moving forward. As for ego death, it doesn't mean what you think it means. The same mods and flaired guys who preach the importance of ego de…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/19 03:59 PM
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I'm 6-1, weigh 250 pounds, and it is only by the grace of lucky genes that I don't look incredibly obese. I'd like to weigh closer to 220 or 225. What's your body fat percentage? How many pounds of pure fat would you have to lose to get to 15%? Target weight loss 1lbs per week. Pause for a couple of weeks when you have lost 10% of your body mass, reevaluate body fat percentage, then cut 0.5-1 lbs/week. You have already proven that you can't stick to "mindful eating." Calculate TDEE, start at 500…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/19 03:38 PM
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Post history. I could give a woman all she needs in <4 minutes He's not talking about running. I've added 40 lbs in past 2 months. Up to benching 1 plate now Less than 3 weeks ago. 5lbs a week would be 150lbs, but he says 190lbs 5x5. OP is so desperate for validation that he needs to lie about novice lifts in an anonymous forum full of weak men. He's a /r/deadbedrooms retard who someone to validate his feelings, so he concocted a persona that he felt would give him what he craves. He's lonely, h…
/r/askMRP06/04/19 01:29 PM
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hanging added 2 inches Wait what? That works? Adds flaccid length. Doesn't affect erect length. OP apparently adds 5lbs a week to his bench. Totally legit. I'm sure he has proof of his lifts and his huge dick. The only thing I believe is that he can't last longer than 4 minutes in bed, and his entire MRP persona is overcompensating for feeling generally inadequate.
/r/askMRP06/04/19 11:42 AM
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I’m new to RP so I want to be looked at as the leader Just like that, eh? Read one book, and your long track record will be erased so you can lead her. Own your shit. Clean the house the way you want, or hire a cleaner to do it. We're not here to modify her behavior. She'll get on board or she won't. There's no trick or alpha move right now. Are you even at dread stage 1?
/r/askMRP05/04/19 09:44 PM
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If my wife left glasses on my bedside, I'd throw them across the room so they'd smash against the wall. That would make her stop. Weird response. Decent opener, then each line became progressively more retarded. Hard to tell if it's a joke.
/r/askMRP05/04/19 09:34 PM
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Reminds me of that Jim Jeffries routine where he realizes he's autistic. Read jacktenofhearts explanation of dread (what we talk about when we talk about dread.) Then read the OP and top response in this thread.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/19 10:19 PM
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Its 65 degrees here in the morning, with a high mid 70s so a sweatshirt isn't even needed. Wife makes an issue out of everyone having a sweatshirt and being warm. I wouldn't even think twice if daughter didn't put it on. I figure if she is cold today, she might remember to put it on tomorrow. Then it's your wife's problem, not yours. Own your shit, including what you delegate. You are not a tool for her to wield when enforcing her will. How often do you make other people's problems your own? A b…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/19 06:26 PM
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PSMF An easy approach is to look up the macros and fiber content for bariatric shakes, and get as close as you can to that. For most people, that means close to 1g of protein per pound of body weight, all carbs from high-fiber sources, and just enough fat to keep hormones in check. I wouldn't suggest going longer than 4 weeks. Make sure your bathroom fan is in working order. Unfortunately this doesn't solve the need for you to take responsibility for what goes in your mouth. If you missed it, /u…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/19 05:00 PM
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Last weekend she was bummed because our date night was cancelled Every night is date night. i have such a self righteous attitude Sounds like you talk too much. Assertive rights work both ways. You are your own judge. Other people are their own judges. This would all make more sense if you'd get off your lazy ass and read NMMNG and WISNIFG instead of LARPing MRP.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/19 04:24 PM
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I really want to go to BJJ tonight Competitive or recreational? Are you trying to peak right now? Or looking to continue BJJ long-term? Is your fragile ego worth a permanent injury? Rotator cuff is something that physiotherapists handle very well, often with something as simple as band work and waiting for swelling to subside. During the drive, my older daughter mentions that she put on the sweatshirt that was hanging on the chair Sounds the 2nd grader can be responsible for dressing herself. Is…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/19 04:17 PM
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Decide what boundaries are yours and what situations you are trying to fix on behalf of others. Read and apply WISNIFG to establish and maintain your own boundaries. The tools to enforce these boundaries are your time and attention.
/r/askMRP31/03/19 12:22 PM
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12 steps, no faster than one per month. STFU about the relationship.
/r/askMRP31/03/19 12:18 PM
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“tight” all over. My hips especially have limited mobility. In addition to OP's suggestions: Figure out if the hip mobility is related to joint structure or muscle/tendon length or tightness (eg. FAI versus tight hamstrings and glutes). Yoga is useful to stretch the muscles you know about and the ones you hadn't noticed before. Add movements with loaded stretch, such as RDL, calf raises with full stretch at the bottom, cable work or light dumbbell movements for upper body, bands as mentioned by …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/19 05:44 AM
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The group eating processed food also ate 500 kcal/day more. Same goes for studies of keto and intermittent fasting. These are strategies that cause people to take fewer calories. The thermogenic effect of different diets and differences in efficiency of energy production are negligible.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/19 09:48 PM
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Apparently I'm made of straw. Can I eat pizza now?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/19 05:45 PM
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Easiest way to increase NEAT is to lower room temperature or wear lighter clothing. Zero effort. I'd also suggest that guys who are new to the gym shouldn't cycle calories. That's fine tuning for more advanced individuals, and even then it doesn't work for everyone.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/19 04:25 PM
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You are adept at completely missing the forest for the trees.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/19 04:17 PM
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Less talking and thinking, more doing. Go.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/19 04:10 PM
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Which sidebar prerequisite books have you read, and what was your takeaway from them?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/19 09:18 PM
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Agreed 100%. I do a combination of those and squats with band around knees for extra sessions, light days, or deloads, especially if I have been feeling hip shift on back squats. I can lift more weight with low bar, but I get more volume and less fatigue with high bar and front squats.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/19 08:23 PM
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Squat x10 - 270 lbs (with a machine that you load plates on) Body fixed in place with legs pushing a plate = leg press Feet fixed in place and pushing weights up an incline = hack squat Despite MRP's penchant for barbells, it's a fine way to start. You're too weak for it to make a difference right now. Get someone to teach you to squat, or watch instructional videos if you're coordinated enough to learn that way. Keep deadlifting and doing the other lifts. The important thing is to develop the d…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/19 06:44 PM
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It’s early days and the sting isn’t as bad this morning as others have been, so I hold out hope that I will bounce back soon. For now, I’m just letting the grieving process happen Quit being so passive. She had to download a dating app for you to make a move, and your response to that feedback is to wait until the feelings pass? If your shoulder is that bad, then hit the leg press and do some hamstring work. Force feed yourself the protein if you have to. If you can't, then take several protein …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/19 06:46 PM
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Never trust an actor.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/19 05:56 PM
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The solution is workplace orgies for team-building.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/19 04:47 PM
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But it wasn't just pussy was it? It was 3 days of solid work, packed in with all the other details that that entails. It was a personal connection, a peer connection, a desire to see another person succeed - the individual investment. I watched a debate between a sex columnist and a musician about sex and love. The columnist tried to push the idea that sex and love are completely separate. The musician said, "When you have sex with someone, you never see that person the same way again." It's tru…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/19 04:17 PM
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I think you lost direction when you started the new job and met new people - your focus is very much there. However, guys in MRP sometimes become directionless after a while because they're immersed in other people's lives. Some of the happiest progress posts have been from guys who took some time away from MRP - a few weeks, maybe longer for guys whose minds are less clear.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/19 02:51 PM
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"You don't want us answering that" was a well-timed post. You've been trying to rationalize it for months. For example, reimagining following impulses as an alpha move. Lack of impulse control is a weakness. Successfully coming up with a rationalization for it doesn't mean shit. My response wouldn't be why, but why should it be now. Pussy is everywhere. But pussy can mess with your mind. Time to take a step back. It sounds like you're doing that, for now.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/19 02:10 PM
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I'll probably get well deserved shit for this. That statement is about your own feelings - cognitive dissonance would be a trendy term for it. Nobody gives a fuck. Pussy seems to be more important to you than it is to me, and context is lacking. Do what you want, not necessarily just what you can get away with, like some lame PUA.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/19 01:32 PM
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She was on the feelz rollercoaster, and you ruined her buzz. Shit happens. Give fewer fucks. Rapport breaks are necessary. If you do it intentionally to game her on a regular basis, then it will be easier to handle the outcome when rapport is broken by mistake.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/19 01:20 PM
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they were overcompensating before or they nurtured their way into it The funniest part in RP context is that Matt Kroc referred to himself as the "ultimate alpha male." It puts chest-beating RP posts in context. Every trans person I've ever met was clearly not like other people from the start. Ask your trans friends if they have any childhood photos.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/19 01:08 PM
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Put less food on your plate. It's one of the only "difficult" tasks in life that demands less of you than what you're doing now. Eat what you would normally eat, but 20% less of it. No magic diet will make it easy, except keto for some folks.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/19 07:57 PM
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It's the dancing monkey attraction program. Which sidebar books have you read?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/19 07:54 PM
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"I'm worried you're going to cheat on me." I promised her I would never (was this the right answer?), but in my head I was thinking, "JACKPOT!" This worked really well because I was congruent - I actually felt all this and was not afraid to let her know. "If I wanted to go outside the marriage, I would tell you." Always and never are rarely used in my vocabulary, especially when it comes to marriage. It really wasn't our crowd and my wife and I are both pretty introverted so we mostly stuck to o…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/19 07:53 PM
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Then my friend, a dance instructor comes over and tries to sell us on lessons, after we kind of pass by her, my other friend comes by and tries to convince us to stay and dance. Knowing my wife I'm sure she will make an excuse. She gives me this big smile, grabs my hand and says we can have a few dances. So we dance, she is enamored and talks about the fun she had all the whole way home. But get this.. I'm pissed... You were pissed because the others got her on board. You wanted her to be all in…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/19 07:44 PM
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Great answer, unfortunately wasted on a guy who is just looking for validation. It's not anger phase; he's just a weak man. Perhaps a lurker with more potential will learn something from it. Contrast OP with this post by weakandsensitive. OP will leave or get banned soon enough.
/r/askMRP26/03/19 04:39 PM
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When people say my daughter is so cute and pretty, I always retort "what about hard working and intelligent?" LOL - W&S, fighting the effects of patriarchy. It's amazing how a daughter can change your perspective. Patriarchy, feminism, liberal, conservative - I'll use many tools to get what I want, and my daughter should do the same.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/19 08:45 PM
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That last part wasn't for you. If anything, I exaggerated it because I know and share your distaste for that kind of manipulative behavior. The only part relevant to you in particular is about enjoyment/satisfaction in the gym. You're doing a boring program for boring reasons. It's not surprising that it's a low priority. You may see it as having cause and effect backward, but it's a feedback loop. It's fine to be that way, but it's not consistent with your mindset in other domains. I don't care…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/19 02:39 PM
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Disclaimer: I'm one of the newest guys here. Don’t qualify yourself like that. That kind of pussy behavior will get you banned. Your response is one of the most important ones here. We can be happy for OP, but he's still hanging on to the notion that he's a special snowflake, like so many survivors, like so many in the blue pill world. We can be happy for him - I am - but he's not off the hook when it comes to the realities of life.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/19 10:42 AM
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It's a pretty common sentiment in this situation. It will take a while before you can think straight. Congratulations. Hope you will make a good life.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/19 01:22 AM
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A follow up to Sepean's when to next your wife?
/r/askMRP21/03/19 09:37 PM
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Mindset uber alles Agreed. I know some happy invalids. But strength and fitness aren't just for sexual strategy and life fulfillment in the short term, although it is fun to look good and to be stronger than you were yesterday. I'm slack as shit about it Have you every had a workout or portion of a workout that was particularly fun? One that you particularly enjoyed or gave you a little high? A personal best? Or a fun movement? A particular sport? If you want specific numbers, let me know. I don…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/19 09:26 PM
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If you want body recomposition or fat loss, cardio + lifting is better than cardio alone. That's supported by both brio-science and real science. If you're at the gym 5 days per week, then lift 3 of the days and do cardio for 2. If you need to skip one, then skip a cardio day. Programs are in the /r/fitness sidebar.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/19 09:00 PM
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The only thing I'd want is kid number 2, but that's a sticking point of my own making and I've accepted living with the consequence of my choices. Having a second child drastically changed my perspective. It was freeing to recognize how much of their behavior was innate, so that we didn't worry so much about doing what is optimal. They are who they are. At what point does it just become maintenance mode and slight course corrections? Between projects and decision nodes. One of the easy tests of …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/19 05:10 PM
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This post is mostly about her. We don't give a shit about her. All I got from your post is that you have a gym membership and you fail to recognize that female sexual desire is more responsive and less spontaneous than men's. Gym - what equipment? What program will you be doing? Diet plan? How are you tracking your calories? Have you read any of the sidebar prerequisite books yet? NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG? Which one are you reading now? I’m barely passionate about anything else Nobody wants to fuck…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/19 05:01 PM
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I've always enjoyed your overviews as one of the supportive big brothers of MRP. It's a different angle than Steel's guide to MRP. You spend more time on the purpose.
/r/askMRP21/03/19 04:34 PM
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Tits or GTFO
/r/askMRP20/03/19 11:38 PM
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+1 He's rearranging the deck chairs on the Titanic. On the other hand, he's getting good practice. A mentally stable woman will be easy.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/19 12:37 AM
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By definition, bipolar fluctuates. Being good for a few months is meaningless in the long run. If there isn't something in the background to take the edge off the manic/hypomanic episodes, the sword of Damocles permanently hangs overhead. You will be forever chasing your tail. Frame is for you; it will not fix her bipolar. 4 meds is also a sign of chasing one's tail. There may be a happy medium, for now. That may be what you want, and I'm not here to judge. You may be fine with yearly adjustment…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/19 03:05 PM
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They put her back on a low dosage of her bipolar medication only and she has been taking it. I am opposed to long term usage of medication When did you graduate from med school?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/19 12:11 PM
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says how much it turns her on As your SMV rises, more things will turn her on. Enjoy it! Is giving oral to a woman submissive? Get out of your own head. Immersion isn't just for her. If you like doing it and want to in the moment, then go for it. If not, then don't. Sometimes while we are fucking, she will force my head down. Do the same to her, when the mood strikes. If she is pushing your head down when you're in the mood for something else, then put her where you want her. Pin her down and ta…
/r/askMRP09/03/19 08:00 PM
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Mystery method taught game but that's old and not on sidebar. It is on the /r/marriedredpill sidebar, both as recommended/advanced reading and in summarized form. There's plenty of material on game, body language, etc. Visit old.reddit.com if you can't see it. which sidebar book actually teachers us game? Many of them. Learning game is an iterative process, mostly learned and reinforced through experience. You don't just read a PUA book and assume that you'll be proficient.
/r/askMRP08/03/19 11:18 PM
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Nice response. Comments about SGM similar to equinoxshadows She comes first is fine. No surprises. Women like getting oral sex, and new techniques are often fun. Luckily I like being on the giving end. After coming to the red pill, though, my wife usually just wants to get right down to fucking. 48 laws is entertainment and history. It's also a reminder that the world won't explode just because you're sometimes a bit evil. It might be more valuable for a self-proclaimed Christian dude like yours…
/r/askMRP08/03/19 01:16 AM
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Agree about SGM. It's like Bang, a nice summary of other people's ideas, but clearly not derived from personal experience.
/r/askMRP08/03/19 01:11 AM
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Looking for TL;DR that you didn't get yesterday? From books that other people have summarized in TRP and elsewhere?
/r/askMRP07/03/19 11:37 PM
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She then said that she would have fucked me after hanging out a bit longer, but I fucked it up That's the narrative she has used to rationalize it. It's probably not true, but it doesn't matter. Watch what she does, not what she says. Read Pook. 1) she doesn’t get out of bed until I bring coffee and breakfast up to her desk and wake her up 2) she always asks for me to bring her food/drink while she is studying so she doesn’t have to get up 3) I always bring her dirty dishes back to the kitchen 4…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/19 11:26 PM
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did a bf test late last year and truthfully forgot what it said Head injury? (glances at post history, sees /r/INTJ) Yep, head injury. Kill the ego. If you can't rationally examine your situation and recognize how much is under your control, then you will never make progress. Inch along with soft intros like The Family Alpha if you want, but you'll be in the same place next year, with your wife unilaterally dictating the terms of your life. I've got nothing against TFA, but it's obvious why you …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/19 11:10 PM
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Dick is abundant, but quality dick is rare.... Must become the producer, not consumer Don't be the consumer of dick. I don't know if the message is intentional, but it's the funniest thing I've read on MRP in a while.
/r/askMRP07/03/19 10:43 PM
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LOL Totally agree that you guys were talking past each other. Your strategies are great advice, even if the "why" is out of date. Internet arguments are gay. Taking creatine to eke out an extra rep seemed important in my 20s. Now it's hard to remember why I bothered. Train. Eat healthy food with protein. Get sleep. Have fun!
/r/askMRP06/03/19 11:10 PM
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+1 on all your comments here. Less DOMS with pre-workout caffeine as well. Nobody has looked at whether anything is gained by combining citrulline malate and creatine. The malic acid probably helps through more efficient ATP production. Citrulline without malic acid inhibits performance in the gym. Compression garments reduce DOMS and speed up recovery, but they may also inhibit muscle hypertrophy from a single session, since they help to clear metabolites faster, doing the opposite of what you …
/r/askMRP06/03/19 04:45 PM
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It's an impressive dress. A fine piece of art. One would need to have a weak skin to be bothered by it. I think Rollo is above that. If anything, his marketing psychology background may help him to appreciate it more.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/19 02:04 AM
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For guys 40+, what have you guys done that helps you with these types of transitions in workouts? Start below the sets, reps, or weight that I did with those movements last time. When in doubt, start lower. Ramp up intensity and volume from there. Jim Wendler's stuff influenced me. For example, I reintroduced incline dumbbell bench press last month. I am stronger than I was when I did that movement last, but I started below my previous volume and intensity. I did 2x10 at a lower weight than my p…
/r/askMRP05/03/19 04:57 PM
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Not buying it. Someone who never gets angry doesn't suddenly take to yelling and shaking a kid. I think you're either full of shit or blissfully unaware of your own behavior, but you do you.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/19 04:32 PM
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During the last rep or two of each barbell row set I get shooting pains up my forearms, which while they haven't stopped me from completing the sets, are pretty concerning. Start with this intro to underhand vs overhand. Also remember that there are plenty of excellent substitutes for barbell row. The goal is to train the muscles and mind, not to perform a limited set of movements based on other people's standards. Unless you compete in weightlifting, crossfit, or powerlifting, no single lift is…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/19 04:26 PM
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Game changing: 5mg Tafadil / Cialis daily Effects of nitric oxide drugs gradually diminish over several months. Some blame it on substrates gradually diminishing. If that's the case, then adding some L-citrulline should help. Citrulline malate can also help in the gym.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/19 03:54 PM
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I tried raising my voice, he escalated, next thing I know I am roaring and shaking him. I am not trying to distance myself from my actions He was always a "screamer" You have led by example. Model the behavior you expect. Kids have an innate need to imitate and follow. I literally felt disconnected AKA "I wasn't myself." Bullshit. you are always yourself. This thread is literally called own your shit. People have no instincts for child-rearing - our brains are too big. It's a learned skill. You …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/19 03:49 PM
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If I had it to do over, I'd skip the power rack. I'd buy a bench, a set of bumper plates, and a good barbell Exactly what I did. My squat stands have spotter arms and can be raised high enough for pull-ups. It would be nice to have a rack for the option of using bands, but I like the extra floor space, especially when the wife and kids join me in the gym. Fringe Sport Fringe Sport's equipment looked good, but shipping to my country was too expensive and slow. I ended up with Chinese-made bumpers…
/r/askMRP01/03/19 04:22 PM
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when all of a sudden, for no reason I can pinpoint, the feeling of anxiety just went away You can do this intentionally through mindfulness, becoming an observer of your emotions instead of trying to change them or becoming a slave to them.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/19 08:48 PM
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still don't lift because I'm still a faggot have cholesterol issues and sleep apnea and cardio/diet will fix that faster than weights Combination will fix it faster than either alone. That's supported by studies that included older and sicker people than you. No more excuses. haven't done it in two days so I'm posting to OMS That's not owning your shit. Owning your shit is laying out your plan to make sure it doesn't happen again. I walk 30-40 minutes a day 5 days a week That's not even cardio. …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/19 08:30 PM
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Have you read/watched any of Ashley Jones' stuff on EliteFTS or elsewhere? His content is right up your alley.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/19 08:13 PM
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He moved on, mirroring Pook's tenure in the manosphere. My read is that he had consolidated his own thinking on his first marriage, PUA period, current marriage, and RP in general. There was a crossroads where he was going to either invest time in a coherent guide or move on. Adulation got old, he was helping his sister get a business off the ground, was investing too much time in overly dramatic strangers, and maybe ran out of Adderall. Investing more time would be of no benefit to him. He devo…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/19 07:57 PM
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He enjoyed the admiration, but constant adulation gets old. It was funny to see the same relationship dynamics that newbs have with their wives played out in the relationship between MRP and Jack.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/19 05:47 PM
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Don't DEER. You got in over your head on the genetics stuff, and have a blind spot about a fragile ego and victim mentality. Shit happens. If you didn't have potential, your post would have just been removed without a response. Learn from it and move on.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/19 12:05 AM
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His ego protection in this thread speaks volumes. I would have also picked apart Briffault and his notion that women shape society more than men, but this kind of mental masturbation is a complete waste of time. /u/weakandsensitive is giving him a chance to learn and improve, but I doubt it will happen.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 10:27 PM
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LOL. You'd be much happier back in PPD.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 10:18 PM
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When it comes to upvotes in TRP, size matters. That's Stoney's theory about Jack's popularity. I don't miss PPD at all.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 10:14 PM
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Is a future post going to turn this into something practical? The basic genetic blueprint can have many manifestations based on expression of those genes. Which genes are expressed can be modified through experience, sometimes in a permanent or semi-permanent epigenetic way. In other words, you can modify your instincts.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 09:54 PM
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Your frame has improved. Start having fun again. Invite her along. Play.
/r/askMRP26/02/19 04:35 AM
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Nicely put. Could become a post someday if you're so inclined.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/19 10:24 PM
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Foster self-efficacy. Don't do things that lead to learned helplessness.
/r/askMRP14/02/19 01:58 AM
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The Family Alpha posted on this a couple of years ago. It leads to the rabbit hole of /r/preppers, /r/bugout, and other paranoia.
/r/askMRP14/02/19 01:02 AM
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If that's true, then why DEER to a stranger on the internet? You can see how your statement in bold makes it hard to believe anything you say afterwards. It's much harder with your wife, who had endured your behaviour for years. Tests of congruence will go on until she intuitively develops her own understanding of the new reality. Even then, they will return at times of stress. We all test each other in similar ways, when we need to understand how our world fits together. there is still somethin…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/19 06:03 PM
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I realized then that I have a new mission: To be a man that other men look up to. I was with you until this line.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/19 02:59 PM
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This thread is a good start. Walking on eggshells makes it worse. She needs someone to be the calm center of her universe. You decide if and when that calm center should be you. Your state of mind must stop depending on hers.
/r/askMRP11/02/19 03:46 PM
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It's not a test. She's tradcon. That doesn't go well for anxious men with no frame.
/r/askMRP11/02/19 12:35 PM
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What do you think is the intent of couples counseling? For the counselors to work out their own dysfunction. Some are skilled and helpful, but the majority are a complete waste of time and money.
/r/askMRP10/02/19 04:05 AM
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I had been looking for that old post by WMP for a while now - thanks! Fortunately, guys like SKredpill and his clone, financial_metal, don't last in MRP. They usually get frustrated that we don't agree with them and, like proper Nice Guys, go ape shit and run back to TRP or MGTOW. The mods and flair continue to do a good job maintaining the signal:noise ratio.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/19 03:58 AM
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It's a typo. Hanlon's razor. Grice and Occam are also very useful when it comes to frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/19 03:51 AM
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I gained 4 lbs this week so far Water weight, glycogen, etc. Ignore. Your total volume has gone up with drop sets, I assume. self talk Lots of resources out there. Here, it might start with Pook and the subtle art of not giving a fuck.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/19 05:01 PM
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Regarding your higher rep routine and scoliosis, read up on Lamar Gant. He did high volume year round and got extremely strong. Most people do strength phases for a couple of months before going back to hypertrophy, but your lifts are solid and you are capable of recognizing when your progress stalls. IMHO the focus in TRP should be hypertrophy and aesthetic appearance. You will look more symmetrical with more muscle. What do you do for lats and upper back? Do you have hardware in your spine?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/19 04:49 PM
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The numbers and presentation are fine. Metric is fine. A 10 year plateau is not fine. You must have some idea of the programs you have used and reasons you usually stall. Eg. too many sets with 0-1 RIR, resulting in getting burnt out, sick, or injured. That's more important than your Wilks score. It's OYS, not a powerlifting competition.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/19 11:53 PM
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His lifts are in kilos. Working weight, not max.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/19 10:45 PM
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logic Keep going through WISNIFG. Logic and truth are overrated in social interactions. Words barely matter at all. Feelings, intentions, and body language matter. Actions matter, and the subtext that drives them. stoic The philosophy? Like Meditations? I have a hard time seeing shit tests and comfort tests. And especially the difference in the moment. It's probably not a comfort test. Whether you choose assertiveness, stoicism, amused mastery, agree and amplify, or STFU, it's all about frame. Y…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/19 10:40 PM
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Added in air-fucks Bret Contreras is a creepy dude, but he is the glute expert with peer-reviewed articles, solid lifts, and a track record in coaching. He's got lots of videos with different techniques for the hip thrust, frog hip thrust, and variations. It's probably wise to rotate through a different technique or variation every 4-8 weeks. There's a lot of muscle mass involved.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/19 10:26 PM
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Patriarchy - our friend and enemy. The Bond bathing suit is fine if you have Daniel Craig's body. My wife gasped during that scene in the theater. The shorts are out of style. If you're a competitive runner, then wear whatever you need to get an advantage. If it's just training, then wear something functional but stylish. Thong on a guy is a turn off for many women. I favor breathable athletic boxer briefs in black. CK stopped making air-fx, but that's a good example. The completely unnecessary …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/19 07:11 PM
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She's not a bad girl - he made her do it. She went along to please him, because that's important to her. Again, foreplay is on a hangup. Smaller-but-still-strong vibrators like the We-vibe Wish are great for this, since they can reach her clit while you're in the act, and they're cute enough that she won't find them gross or intimidating. It's not foreplay, it's core play. Even if she doesn't have an orgasm, pull out the toy in the middle of it all because it's fun. Teasing, pulling out, making …
/r/askMRP30/01/19 05:45 PM
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So I am looking for input on how to positively lead her towards what I want Performance evaluations like this take the fun out of an experience. You'll never be happy if that's how you view her or yourself. The goal isn't some end point of sexual frequency or checklist of porn moves. The process is the goal. You are continuing to make progress. That is success. If you want a list of tips, keep reading the sidebar books, PUA, maybe a book or some blogs about topping, and enjoy the process more. Y…
/r/askMRP30/01/19 05:32 PM
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she only cums from oral Toys? Lots of hangups here Sometimes gets better with dominance - she is absolved of responsibility for getting off on dirty stuff when you're in control.
/r/askMRP30/01/19 05:10 PM
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Wife is improving Only area not improving at the same pace is the bedroom I'm willing to be patient Are you? Continued progress. That's what matters. suck at withdrawing my time/attention since most "no's" are at bedtime. Were you hoping to step backwards and become an autistic fuck who walks out every time he's rejected? Re-read Jack's post on dread. It's not simple stimulus-response in the moment, but an overarching theme of dedicating your time and attention to things that are fulfilling. As …
/r/askMRP30/01/19 04:34 PM
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Permanent demotion to plate. Treat her accordingly. If you insist on serial monogamy, then hard next. You need some basic skills from the main sub's sidebar. Start with the bitch management hierarchy.
/r/askMRP30/01/19 04:09 PM
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just my insane insecurity speaking
/r/askMRP30/01/19 04:03 PM
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HB, hot babe, 1-10 scale. Apply it without wife goggles. HSP in PUA is highly sensitive person. Not a scale.
/r/askMRP30/01/19 04:00 PM
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she denied things I knew to be true Everybody lies. They lie more often when they know that the reaction to the truth will be severe. You obviously have a track record that contributed to her reluctance to tell the truth at that time. From the sound of it, those habits of yours have not changed. Everyone will lie to you, until you become someone who can handle the truth.
/r/askMRP29/01/19 10:05 PM
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Shitty comfort tests. Read the whole thread, all the responses, several times. The Book of Pook would also be good.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/19 05:51 PM
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Frame, dude. You were doing better for a while.
/r/askMRP28/01/19 07:49 PM
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Figure out what to do so that any decision you make is top down. Agree. Work out specifics of divorce with lawyer so he has a better understanding of his options. Get STI and paternity tests. Don't get her pregnant. Start from high level goals and strategies rather than knee-jerk idiocy. Then go ahead and do what ever you want Frame should be easy at this point. She lost all her privileges. The fact that she even told her sister about it is fucked up. OP needs to be doing lots of fogging until h…
/r/askMRP24/01/19 09:48 PM
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SQUAT 243, BENCH PRESS 176, DEADLIFT 265 Go ahead and use metric. Nobody gives a fuck. The numbers aren't to compare with us, but to measure your own progress. 10-12% BF and cutting How did you calculate body fat? Your lifting numbers are pretty low. If you're really at 10-12% BF, then I'd suggest a slow bulk. If your estimate is based of pictures or an impedance device, then you should pick a better method. a fight Recreational? No other option? Or stupid? If you want more details or whatever, …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/19 04:27 AM
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Lifting and jiu-jitsu: Assuming adequate technique in a given sport, strength training is the most effective means to improve power development. Power is critically important in grappling sports. Mike Israetel has some good stuff on combining lifting and jiu-jitsu. Lifting and SMV: Women rate guys who have more muscle and guys that are stronger as being more attractive.
/r/askMRP21/01/19 06:20 PM
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I also work, and managed to clear the snow from my driveway without needing to be prompted by mommy. Getting through your failure with self-esteem intact is simple. The answer is assertiveness. Be your own judge. Be willing to acknowledge your shortcomings to yourself so you can improve. The tools are in WISNIFG, or any other book on assertiveness. Fogging and "I" statements (self-disclosure) would be a good start.
/r/askMRP21/01/19 05:25 PM
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Trying not to think is futile. Instead, place all your focus on only one thing. This is the essence of meditation, self-hypnosis, runner's high, or being "in the zone" while playing sports. Extraneous thoughts will enter and exit. Don't try to fight them off - just notice the natural ebb and flow of your thoughts as you shift your focus back where you want it. Focus on breathing as you describe is an intermediate technique. As silly as it sounds, many beginners need to start with something even …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/19 05:13 PM
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I am not doing anything to impress her. Then why does your stamina in those positions matter so much to you?
/r/askMRP19/01/19 03:59 PM
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You could do high rep Zercher squats. Or you could stop trying to impress her like a dancing monkey. Self consciousness in bed is a turn off for men and women.
/r/askMRP18/01/19 04:36 PM
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I'll be more blunt. Sexual frequency isn't the reason you're unhappy. Tracking it maintains your focus in the wrong place, and it reinforces your anger and resentment.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/19 12:22 PM
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gender war is real That's the sort of mindset that leads to fleeting success. Move beyond basic PUA. Read Pook. Follow the flaired guys here.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/19 02:42 PM
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How many times per year do you need to stick your dick in her pussy to feel fulfilled? Bench press is the same issue. Why does bench press need to be in your program? Let's say you manage to bench 315lbs. Happy now?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/19 02:38 PM
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Should be top comment. /thread.
/r/askMRP10/01/19 12:45 AM
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You are her beta orbiter. No, it's worse than that. You are a satellite network enveloping her, focused on her, oblivious to the universe of possibility to which you have turned your back. Good selection of dumbbells /r/fitness sidebar, dumbbell routines I've been following MRP for 6 months now MMSLP and WISNIFG are queued up next. 6 months and you've read 1 of the 3 prerequisite books. At this point you don't have the basic knowledge to understand how you're fucking up, and you have provided go…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/19 04:49 PM
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So many synonyms.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/18 01:46 PM
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This was very entertaining. Edit: Apparently many in this thread are unfamiliar with ego death, the elimination or change of one's subjective self-identity that takes place before one can make significant and lasting changes.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/18 09:41 PM
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Are all your frames based on what you feel like then (like women) or do you guys follow a code of conduct. Nobody cares about your morals or values. This place is for strategy. Your frame is your reality. If your reality shifts based on your mood, then you're mentally ill. she tells me that it's "all I want to do lately" She's bored with it. Bored with you. Be more interesting. I have oldschool morals and values but they get you nowhere with women because none of them abide by any kind of moral …
/r/askMRP13/12/18 03:39 AM
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Let's test my theory. /u/MediocreComplaint0, look at the sidebar books in old.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill and theredpill main sub. List the ones you have read.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/18 05:33 PM
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Shit post belongs in /r/askMRP. Older guys,what's the upper limit to brilliant, career oriented women ? Chancellor of Germany Although I know all the redpill theory, I have never actually implemented it This makes no sense. You don't know shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/18 05:20 PM
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You're describing 5x5 well. Initial weight selection is described nicely in Starting Strength. It shouldn't be to failure in your first weeks. The good news is that you're feeling it in your legs and not your back. If your legs haven't recovered enough to do the same or better weight at 5x5 for your next workout, then you might want to do 3-4 sets of squats per session for a couple of weeks and work your way up to 5x5.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/18 05:04 PM
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Turn that wish into a concrete plan.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/18 02:18 PM
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Squat 120 lbs 5x5. Bench Press 90 lbs 5x5. Barbell row 80lbs 5x5 I tried the first set with 150lbs and it was very hard. I went down a few pounds and completed it. My legs feel like jello. I’m strong and fairly ripped No.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/18 01:48 PM
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I still get a little surprised at how quickly my own anger/irritation is mirrored back at me with more intensity. Even more reason to be careful with what I show. Anger is not easy to hide, unless your wife is autistic. More importantly, hiding it from her is out of fear/avoidance of her reaction. That's Nice Guy behavior. A better approach is to deconstruct how you became angry or irritated. There are plenty of techniques in mindfulness, the philosophy of stoicism, becoming an observer of your …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/18 01:43 PM
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Were you doing the salsa classes to meet fit women or because you wanted to? Active dread before passive dread comes off as creepy and weird. Even that is a charitable interpretation. If he signed up without telling her to prove something to her, then it's back to square one with NMMNG.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/18 01:56 PM
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At bed time she initiated and we fucked. Did she feel guilty about earlier? Probably. She wanted a break from your butthurt behavior. It's a continuation of this: Then she said FINE let’s do it. Every unhappy wife is a rape victim.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/18 01:55 PM
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Except his post history. His (supposed) wife has a nice pussy. I'm baffled by the cuckold fetish guys who troll around here.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/18 07:06 PM
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Text-only media can be confusing. old.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill
/r/askMRP07/12/18 02:05 AM
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Everyone wants to be alpha, but nobody wants to read the sidebar... If you can't be fussed to read When I Say No I Feel Guilty, then MRP is not for you. Might as well go back to jerking off so much that it hurts when you pee.
/r/askMRP06/12/18 10:07 PM
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Where the fuck do I even start? Cut the shit and take an honest look at your own unattractive behavior. Read the sidebar books. Lift weights. 4 months ago I find her journal, and I know something had been off You knew something was up. How? What led to it? And why didn't she feel she could share her newfound thoughts and feelings about this other dude? My guess is your own behavior and mindset. The sidebar prerequisite books are right there - NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP. Bisexual often means hypersexu…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/18 10:02 PM
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It's more of a general comment about n-Suns programs. Lots of guys in MRP are afraid of volume. They stick to 3x5 or 5x5 with minimal accessories for way too long.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/18 05:02 PM
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That's the voice of obvious experience. 20/10s x8 of pure front squats would be way harder than what I'm doing, and I'd probably have DOMS for at least a week. To be honest, I don't think I could rack, rest, and set up the next set of barbell front squats in 10 seconds - you're a better man than me. I've been using goblet squats instead. The end result of what I'm doing is a simple 4/2 minute HIIT, but with much higher VO2 than I'd be able to sustain at a constant work rate. The Tabata part righ…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/18 07:28 PM
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Social One lapse at a party. It had been going very well, but nearing the end of the night, I was ready to go, while my wife was still the center of attention. Rather than slowly take over to shift attention away and provide an opportunity to go out on top, I just got quiet and let her keep holding court. For an hour. By then I was having a hard time shaking thoughts of what the next day would bring. I failed to remain fully present. I probably wasn't a buzz-kill, but at that point I might as we…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/18 06:19 PM
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Drop calorie intake to 2150 on rest days Stop calorie cycling. NEAT drops after exercise, so the net calorie expenditure on workout versus rest days is the same for the vast majority of people. Disciplined athletes can be an exception. You're not a disciplined athlete, just a fat guy who needs to eat fewer calories.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/18 05:26 PM
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Also, while eating at a deficit and resistance training it is advised that you up the protein to 1.2- 1.4g per LBS of body weight Some would say that even those numbers are too low, especially with older guys.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/18 05:13 PM
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should probably just stop reading it and stop giving a fuck. Yes. You care way too much about the FSM. It's there - she has to live in it - but it's not your problem. Find a way to get away from the wife to do my own thing for a while. Give her an opportunity to miss me. No. Do your own thing to recharge. Do your own thing to make yourself better. If you are doing your own thing at her, then it's for her, not for you. Newborns suck. Breastfeeding sucks. In this context, a woman loses agency, the…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/18 03:58 PM
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N-Suns is a great example of a high volume 5/3/1-based program for old guys. Unilateral hip pain in the squat is often from hip shift or other asymmetry in form. People aren't symmetrical, but some are worse than others. It may be partly structural, but usually there's a strength imbalance. Occasional goblet squats, pause squats (especially pause during descent) helped me, as did squats with a band around my knees, forcing my knees out. These work well for warm-up sets. I think Quinn Henoch has …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/18 03:31 PM
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Financially, it would be better for her to kill herself before divorce, assuming you are the beneficiary of the insurance policy. If she kills herself after, then you will have borne the cost of divorce without being entitled to the insurance money, if she changes the beneficiary. However, since it's just passive thoughts of death, you're probably better off telling her now that you are getting a divorce. It will be a shock initially, but it's the thing that is most likely to enhance her mood in…
/r/askMRP03/12/18 07:49 PM
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Does her life insurance plan cover suicide? Or just return of premiums?
/r/askMRP03/12/18 06:05 PM
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Am interested in thoughts about my thinking, questions about the situation, or any new ideas I haven't thought about. "I'm planning to divorce her. This poorly kept secret and the fact that I'm not her oak is stressing my wife out. But I won't tell her because reasons. I refuse to share any relevant details on this sub. Advice please!" I am considering making a couples appointment and breaking the news in the session Advice? Stop being a spineless sack of shit.
/r/askMRP03/12/18 05:32 PM
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OI is an important first hurdle. Glad it's coming along. You've also provided a good lesson that you shouldn't be afraid to piss off your wife. it's their own way of showing you that their SMV is higher than yours and being cruel boost/reinforce her ego. Her issues. Her problem. When your SMV is higher and game is stronger it won't matter. Decoding women's behavior will be unnecessary, and only for your amusement. since I want to fuck about 2 to 3 times a week and by initiating 8 to 9 I am getti…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/18 05:21 PM
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Abundance mentality is bigger than that. It's not just about there being another girl. It's the idea that good things will come around. Try some negative visualization - what happens if you let off the gas because of a bad week, bad month, or bad year? It will happen. She'll either add value, be neutral, or add harm. Will you be able to handle those outcomes? Coming even sooner is the end of the honeymoon. Are you prepared for how it will feel when you are off each other's pedestals? “what else …
/r/askMRP30/11/18 03:14 PM
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I know she and most all women never experienced this. (Including me) Will there come a time now where this will become expected of me to a point where I almost can’t do any more to “up the ante” and I’ll be continuing busting my ass and almost get burnt out? It’s Almost like “what else can I do” if I’m already doing everything I should be? A touch of oneitis. She's the best you've ever had, because you're the best you've ever been. Abundance, my friend.
/r/askMRP30/11/18 01:46 PM
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This belongs in /r/askMRP, you lazy fuck. There's a massive list of books in the sidebar. Some of the authors are/were married. If you can't see the sidebar, then use old.reddit.com.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/18 10:43 PM
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It's that bit of doubt and uncertainty. It's not her frame, I agree, but it's a weakness in his own. He's rationalizing his emerging feelings because they don't fit his frame. He'll probably come out on the right side of it. He probably won't end up in an LTR with her, but he's telling us that he hasn't closed that door completely.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/18 01:52 AM
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I also don’t think I would want to LTR a cheater, but that is kind of hypocritical as I am a cheater as well I suppose…there is that hamster…. We'll see how this part plays out. That there is any thought of LTR is a problem unless he's prepared for her to fuck other men in the future.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/18 10:02 PM
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Women do indeed have emotional affairs with no prospect of physical. Online is a good example. The outcome is the same whether there's a prospect of sex or not - she builds a narrative based on being a victim of her husband in some way.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/18 09:08 PM
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Qualifying yourself to internet strangers... I can't imagine how much you must do that with women. OYS is for people who own their shit. You could be a mature teen or 90 years old - nobody gives a fuck.
/r/askMRP28/11/18 08:43 PM
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We are giving us cute nicknames and telling us how much we love each other and stuff. I cringe on the inside but I cant stop doing it. I missed the part of the sidebar where it said to stop having fun. Read Pook. Play with her. If you're not having fun, then next her. The key to LTR is that you'll get treated like a bitch if you act like a bitch.
/r/askMRP28/11/18 03:18 PM
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I will think this over and come up with recognize my own My favorite time for this kind of mental masturbation was during my post-workout snack. I don't miss the anger phase. I don't miss the fear. I don't miss trying to insulate my wife from the worst parts of me. These kinds of conversations can't be rehearsed or scripted, unless she will decide to wilfully accept obvious bullshit. Know yourself. Be clear to yourself and to her about your future actions - not some bullshit about what you want,…
/r/askMRP28/11/18 03:12 PM
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12% BF No. With your numbers I'd expect >15%. Get a bodpod or DEXA if you want proof. Navy and calipers underestimate BF%. Jelq 3x / wk Only affects flaccid length, and can damage venous valves. Websites that promote it are almost universally poorly disguised attempts to sell penis pumps and cock rings. Continuous traction devices might work, but episodic stretching by any method doesn't influence erect length or girth. Women can spot penis insecurity a mile away.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/18 04:36 PM
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Time to take the blue pill.
/r/askMRP24/11/18 04:01 AM
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So you allow your wife to twist your arm with her snatch? Yep, she does lots of kegels. Hurts worse than an armbar.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/18 03:56 AM
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Exchanging sexual favors for other favors directly is a power play which poisons sex Considering any part of sex to be a favor is stupid.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/18 06:58 PM
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Do you care to elaborate on your last comment? Example at 6:10 in this video. In short, you can't talk the kid into being the kind of person you want them to be. There's a hierarchy of communication. Words are at the bottom. Next is tone, followed by body language. At the top are attitude and the subtext of your actions. Be the kind of person you want your child to become. The rest is patience and a rudimentary understanding of child development and psychology. Elevate everyone around you by bei…
/r/askMRP21/11/18 03:45 AM
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/r/thathappened
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/18 10:30 PM
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You'll never be prepared. Read the sidebar prerequisite books at /r/marriedredpill Don't be a pussy Don’t assume any of it is going to come naturally. Learn about kids. Learn about effective discipline concepts and how they relate to child development. Recognize that the specific words you use mean very little to a child, even when they're older.
/r/askMRP18/11/18 12:27 PM
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If anyone has any coping mechanisms please let me know Defuse in the moment with tools from WISNIFG. AA/AM, tease, provoke like a matador, have fun with it. Surf the waves of her emotions for entertainment, or just ignore them. Never placate. Find something better to do. Her anger isn't your problem. It's not your job to fix it. You can intentionally make it worse for your own entertainment. She's a woman - smaller and weaker. Her anger is a manifestation of that weakness. As long as her name is…
/r/askMRP17/11/18 05:09 PM
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A+ for persistence. I was hoping he was going to code that tool to filter a user's OYS posts, but you guys banned him.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/18 02:14 AM
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Some people respond well to keto, and some don't. Low carb is neither a scientific or moral argument. Carbs aren't good or evil. Low carb diet impairs performance for athletes in many domains, but you're not an athlete - you're just fat. The rules are high protein, varied vegetable intake, plenty of fiber, avoid liquid calories (other than protein,) and keep calories below TDEE. For this purpose, assume that exercise doesn't burn calories. You don't need calorie cycling. You just need fewer calo…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/18 08:51 PM
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You've nicely summarized how people become unhappy when using social media, focusing on the distilled highlight reels of people's lives. None of that shit matters. I really should lighten up and do more fun things by myself and with others. This is a related problem. As /u/weakandsensitive said, it's not an issue of needing to do more, but an issue of finding joy in life as you live it. You are undoubtedly familiar with these concepts from your meditation retreats. These ideas are as old as time…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/18 04:51 PM
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A night with you should not be boring. Every night is date night. These are achievable goals, but not if you are both continually getting easy dopamine fixes, like your sexual relationship with a screen. This is part of the burden of performance, as a man. Internet is down - it's on you to find something engaging to do. You need to be a better option than staring at a screen. The loss of internet entertainment should be a welcome change of pace, but you have to make it that way. Or, keep having …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/18 04:36 PM
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After saying I wanted to separate myself from those internet comfort hoes, I broke ties with all but one. I guess this is more shit I need to own. I don't really want to break things off with my favorite one. So I'm not. Omega behavior, reinforcing to yourself and everyone else that you are unfuckable. Why not just buy yourself a sex doll? If you want to get validation from women, then at least do it in real life. Give up on this and fuck someone else who isn't shitty. More fantasizing, escapism…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/18 10:28 PM
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Since the birth of our son, the rare sex between us have been painful for her. She finally went to the doc this week who told her there was nothing wrong. Physical exam? MRI? Ultrasound? Vaginismus or deeper pain? There are specialists in chronic pelvic pain. Often the issue is referred pain from muscles, joints, and ligaments. Yoga can be useful. wife spontaneously started dieting and exercising pretty strictly which I think is great. Now four or so weeks in she’s “taking time off” which is an …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/18 10:04 PM
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The outcomes may not be predictable but there is a pattern Women are usually happier when their husbands are attractive and own their shit, but AWALT does not mean all women are the same. Anxiety and depression affect how someone interprets things. Both can be worsened if the feeling of security in a relationship is threatened. This seems obvious. Why ask the question here?
/r/askMRP14/11/18 10:06 PM
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Does depression have a detrimental effect on the effectiveness of dread? You're dead in the water. Dread is a byproduct of being attractive and having options, not an implement to be wielded with predictable outcome. It's not something you do to her. It's not for her or about her. Things will change. Whether that makes the marriage better, worse, or the same is had to predict.
/r/askMRP14/11/18 03:06 PM
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Conditioning and health: Peak VO2/kg fell to normal range this year because I had prioritized other things. Limitation was muscular endurance, and to a lesser extent cardio. Time constraints will come and go, so I quit making excuses and re-introduced full-body all-out intervals 3x/week, 20s on, 10s rest, started with 8 sets, gradually increasing sets. Will probably either switch to or add HIIT on treadmill in December. Will re-test VO2max in March. Increasing VO2/kg will be challenging while in…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/18 09:31 PM
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Are you a parent? There ain’t no manual for it. If only someone would write a book on the subject...
/r/askMRP09/11/18 01:50 AM
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So shooting from the hip wasn't ideal with as simple a task as moving, but it will work with parenting?
/r/askMRP08/11/18 11:50 PM
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We've moved a couple of times. I planned the layouts of the rooms and where everything would go. It's my house - why would I leave those decisions to anyone else? As for your "shooting from the hip" with parenting, and her grudgingly being a homemaker, ultimately the problem is that you need her, because you suck at basic adult skills. You are almost celebrating your ineptitude. This feeds into her feeling that she's "doing it all," no matter how much you are doing in the background. Working on …
/r/askMRP08/11/18 11:20 PM
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Deloaded on squats and DL due to injuries Reasonable, provided that form is the problem. There are lots of variations and alternatives if it's an issue of leverages or injuries. At some point you'll need to decide what your goals are with lifting, other than weight on the bar. reaching adequate macros. What concrete plan are you implementing for this?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/18 10:17 PM
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It took a long time for me to be able to tell people no and not feel guilty. Reading. Completed NMMNG, Rational Male, MMSLP, SGM, BoP, 90% of sidebar You missed WISNIFG.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/18 09:49 PM
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Dropping the excess body fat will help your testosterone and blood pressure. Eat less food. Get enough protein and enough sleep. Do keto if you like keto, or just eat less if you can't stick to keto.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/18 06:55 PM
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If I "DEER"ed it was because there isn't enough time to type the nuance LOL
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/18 06:48 PM
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Nice application of WISNIFG. What you do in the garage can be a source of things that demonstrate your value, usually in the provider (beta) role, but occasionally in the alpha role. If it's your mission, she can join in, on your terms.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/18 06:08 PM
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That's some valiant DEERing. Think about organizational characteristics that promote a culture of safety, and how authority gradients cause problems. Now think about the inconsistencies in what you have said in this thread. This is an on going problem with her making shit up about what I mean and not what I say... You can't expect people to apply Grice's razor when they're upset, or with someone who's socially clueless and has a shitty track record. Couching the discussion as "what I missed" was…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/18 06:00 PM
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You allow your wife in the garage??? No man caves. Keeping girls out of the tree fort is for prepubescent boys who think girls are icky, or for men without frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/18 04:22 PM
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SL is taking a really long time now (2.5 hours / workout) More than double what it should be.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/18 04:05 PM
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I wanted to find out if there was anything I missed Bullshit, and she knows it. Stop being a passive aggressive faggot and say what you mean.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/18 03:48 PM
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I didn't check the bag so they forgot the tater tots. She lost it. Saying I'm an asshole that I don't even apologize. I told her I owned my mistake for not checking. It wasn't about the tater tots. She's about to be on shark week so that's likely it. Same rules apply.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/18 03:35 PM
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I can't stand the victim mentality. In addition to impulse control, you need to develop an internal locus of control and build self esteem. The problem is that you'll add low self esteem to the list of excuses. Fundamentally, you can only control yourself and your reactions. Your focus must be there.
/r/askMRP05/11/18 05:03 PM
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Stop giving a fuck if you pass or fail. Embrace the process, not the outcome.
/r/askMRP05/11/18 03:41 PM
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Not really gaming the wife Im getting really hard No's LOL. Why initiate with someone you aren't willing to game? If you don't want her enough to game her, then you don't really want her, and are just looking for validation and a dopamine fix. I was expecting an apology Why? Why do you give a fuck if she apologizes? Words are meaningless without action, and her actions are not consistent with respect or remorse. Why would you dedicate any mental effort to someone who doesn't respect you? To win …
/r/askMRP05/11/18 03:35 PM
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So which specific sex act would have been the right one to keep you in the marriage?
/r/askMRP02/11/18 11:42 AM
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expanding boundaries The novelty, thrill, and cultural expectations (eg. porn, the red pill) can make it tough to figure out if these are things that you actually want. It's an easier question to ask in hindsight. Anal is a good example.
/r/askMRP31/10/18 05:19 PM
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it seems to be the definition of negotiating desire so why is it even included FMOFY is carryover from dead bedrooms. For most guys, MRP starts as an elaborate covert contract to get more sex from their wives. valuing her husband Sounds like the nice guy trope about deserving sex. Using my wife to masturbate wouldn't interest me for long.
/r/askMRP31/10/18 04:39 PM
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Sometimes I say something and it sounds like whining Agree.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/18 03:31 PM
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It's the ultimate negotiation for sex. Almost never worthwhile.
/r/askMRP31/10/18 03:03 PM
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Wow .. just wow I forbid calling her like that LOL. Save your wife the trouble and just cut your dick right off. She can keep it in her purse and slap it any time she chooses. so that I can help her finding her frame Read NMMNG. Read about codependency and enabling. Then, next time she wants to slap your dick, you pin her down and give her a turkey slap. Until you've read the sidebar prerequisite books (NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP,) you need to STFU.
/r/askMRP31/10/18 02:02 PM
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Yep. Dating various girls in my 20s I chalked it up to jealousy, competition, or the excitement of feeling like they were with a guy with high value. In marriage, it's a different beast - more complex and intense. It's exhilarating alternating with sad, immersive alternating with distracting, intimate alternating with distant. Great sex isn't always satisfying. I understand how easy it would be to get distracted by it all and lose sight of your vision for the marriage. Rambo isn't just for noobs…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/18 12:43 PM
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Always better to come from a woman shit testing. From guys it makes me wonder if they're projecting.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/18 09:13 PM
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LOL - good to be a universal genius, even if you're a bit gay.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/18 09:03 PM
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difference between offering legit help and being a crutch Nuance - you could spin it either way depending on how you feel at that moment. It probably varies from day to day, even with superficially similar interactions. Codependency literature has lots of advice on identifying dysfunctional helping. As for doing things the hard way or the easy way, it only matters to you, especially here. Take all the drugs - nobody here gives a fuck - but recognize how it influences other aspects of your life. …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/18 08:30 PM
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I've never seen this blue pill world where unattractive guys should have faithful wives and get laid regularly. The vast majority of red pill ideas are re-branded conventional observations and advice. Ultra-left-wing is an extreme, not the norm, not reality. I still have no idea what purple pill is supposed to mean, though I appreciate your attempt to define it. You recognize reality or you don't. You shift your perception when you acquire new information, or you don't. You seek fulfillment on y…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/18 08:14 PM
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Her own shitty habits make it worse though. Her behavior is a reflection of yours. You want naloxone to do the work for you because it's easier than willpower and you've done it before. She wants you to be her alarm clock because it's easier than willpower and it worked before.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/18 06:03 PM
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Sex has been incredible. Wife is all for everything since I revealed that I've had 7 ONS in the last year. Hysterical bonding is interesting. It can feel like easy mode. Guys get complacent because the sex is easy and intense, or sometimes they try to re-capture it when it fades. Those guys end up divorced. This is the tipping point where things get better or come completely unglued. You need rock solid frame from this day forward.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/18 03:32 PM
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The girl is a runner. The guy does nothing but pull-ups and chin-ups, but he does lots of them. He looks surprisingly good with pull-ups alone, but he has been asking about my training. I'd offer to trade my extra set of squat stands for his Putin coffee mug, but he'd never go for it. I should read that Chris Voss book and find a way to make it happen.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/18 10:56 PM
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You always remind me of a couple of Russian Jewish doctors I know - hard work, no excuses.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/18 10:17 PM
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The source of this comment makes it so much funnier
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/18 09:58 PM
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Weight is 185lbs with about 17% body fat (via Navy method), working 5/3/1 program (for about 2 months) 1rm Squats=145lbs, Bench 140lbs, OHP 140lbs, Deadlift 165lbs. Polio? Last Monday I joked about some anonymous girl, nothing new Read jacktenofhearts post about dread. You're doing it wrong, dumbass. This shit belongs in /r/askMRP.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/18 09:38 PM
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OP: I'm lazy FixYourselfFirst: I'll spoon-feed you what to do next Codependent enabler.
/r/askMRP22/10/18 09:31 PM
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Read the stickied "cut the shit post". Use it to build your first post in the weekly Own Your Shit thread in /r/marriedredpill. Next weekly thread is tomorrow. Get to work.
/r/askMRP22/10/18 09:25 PM
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if MRP is to be fully embraced How do you fully embrace a communal toolbox? MRP isn't a procedure or an ideology.
/r/askMRP22/10/18 02:35 AM
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I put effort into people who earn it. All I see from you is a victim mentality and lack of effort. Edit: Also, if you want to reply to someone, click/select the word "reply" rather than posting a new comment. You just replied to yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/18 10:41 PM
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This belongs in /r/askMRP No. Not even there. Read the marriedredpill sidebar or fuck off.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/18 10:01 PM
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I think they push GSLP so much because they miss Phrakture - previously active mod in /r/fitness and contributor to fitnesscirclejerk. There are many alternatives. n-Suns programs are very good 5/3/1-based programs for guys with more time. Stronger by Science has a bunch of free programs for guys at all levels Most successful coaches seem to employ something like AMRAP, RPE, or reps in reserve in their programs for drug-free lifters.
/r/askMRP18/10/18 04:18 PM
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AMRAP It depends on ability to learn form, and ability to feel when form is starting to break down. People who are new in the gym are mostly there to learn form. That requires submaximal reps. Novices are also frequently poor judges of how many reps they are from technical failure. Once they've learned the lifts and have the ability to feel the difference between form breakdown and just working hard, then AMRAP is great. That may take a few weeks, or someone may forever push themselves beyond te…
/r/askMRP18/10/18 11:09 AM
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You remind me of a less sarcastic /u/sexyshoulderdevil
/r/askMRP17/10/18 07:40 PM
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If she has a list of "absolutely won't do" no matter how attracted she is, that list isn't gonna vaporize Not overnight, but it takes more than game and physical attraction. It helps to be patient, non-judgmental, willing to try new things yourself, and for both parties to laugh off the times that experiments didn't work out. It's amazing how short the "never" list becomes when both partners give fewer fucks about perception and outcome.
/r/askMRP17/10/18 02:39 PM
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It's funny, the guys who are going to ask the "How" are the same guys who haven't asked "Why?" +1 How to: understand why impulse control practice
/r/askMRP15/10/18 03:10 PM
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It’s just a face to face boundary 2" from the face from a guy who lifts is not "just a boundary." It reads like the DV hamster in action, or more likely sfplus trying to sound like a badass. Idiots will take it literally. It’s not intimidation by repeatedly bullying Who said anything about doing it more than once? I married quality Mine wasn't quite as bad as OP, but now she's fantastic. She's reading a third parenting book right now. Keeps her cool when the kids have tantrums. Creative with the…
/r/askMRP13/10/18 06:39 AM
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I prefer employing basic psychology and leading by example. Both better long-term strategies than losing my cool and resorting to intimidation.
/r/askMRP13/10/18 01:22 AM
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You man enough to get 2” from your wives face and let her know who the fucking man is? I like a lot of your posts, but this is fucking retarded.
/r/askMRP12/10/18 05:54 PM
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From /u/2ndal: tracking cycles Read the comments. From [deleted]: The old trope is that women want more comfort during PMS. That's bullshit. They need you to be a rock. More alpha. If she has PMDD, then she needs sleep, exercise, and possibly meds. Both of you need to model the behavior you want from the kids, both to them and in front of them. Just telling your kids what to do is short-sighted. Enforcing your perspective with superior strength or stronger emotion can sometimes achieve a short-t…
/r/askMRP12/10/18 05:53 PM
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Going against the grain here. Assuming natty. If you're stalling and struggling, then eat at maintenance for 4-6 weeks while increasing strength. Cut again after that, using whichever diet strategy you prefer. It's a psychological break, and it may help to lessen the stress response. Losing 10% of body mass is a threshold for some people where things start to go awry in terms of testosterone, cortisol, gut symptoms, and fatigue. Drop 10%, maintain for a month or so, drop another 10%, rinse and r…
/r/askMRP12/10/18 11:23 AM
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You asked me to chime in. Here it is: /u/Persaeus and /u/weakandsensitive are right. You're building a self-fulfilling prophecy. Stop mate guarding. I calmly stated that she would have trouble finding someone else more supportive than me. Idiotic. I started getting agitated about this and asking pointed questions about the conversations she has with him Philosophy of stoicism, particularly negative visualization, and read The Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck. Speaking of reading, you haven't gott…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/18 12:08 AM
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Making weight causes all kinds of fluid and electrolyte issues that would mess up the blood work. For example, elevated creatinine would raise your insurance rates significantly.
/r/askMRP11/10/18 04:41 PM
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For guys who haven't committed yet, you'll get a better rate if you cut from 30 to 29, or 25 to 24. Some have additional tiers for 35, 40, etc. The importance of BMI also varies between companies, so independent brokers can be helpful to provide multiple estimates.
/r/askMRP10/10/18 08:52 PM
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Own your shitpost. If you don't already have life insurance, be aware that insurance companies use BMI, and they don't care if it's muscle. Guaranteed insurability benefit riders are helpful for healthy guys who are planning to take BMI over 25 in the future.
/r/askMRP10/10/18 07:56 PM
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Your new short-term plan for dealing with your wife: Re-read WISNIFG, then give it to her. Then read How to Win Friends and Influence People. Then lead, establish boundaries, and maintain boundaries.
/r/askMRP10/10/18 07:37 PM
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I would go 40/30/30 and see what happens. You're likely getting too many carbs, which affects your insulin sensitivity, which causes your body to store more calories in fat cells <25% fat always made me feel like shit, regardless of the protein and carb components. Insulin sensitivity is determined more by a person's fat mass, testosterone levels, and exercise than by dietary carb:fat ratio.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/18 05:11 PM
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Maybe they were British.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/18 01:44 PM
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You're looking to help your wife build self-efficacy. You can't rush it by handing your own challenges over to her. You have to take opportunities as they come.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/18 11:27 AM
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Your issues with body fat, strength, and immunity all boil down to inadequate sleep. Read about sleep hygiene and fix it. If that's not enough, then look in to self-administered CBT for sleep, or see a sleep specialist. Aim for 8+ hours. Sacrifice time-wasters to make it happen.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/18 11:23 AM
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Deferring decisions to others is often done in an attempt at courtesy. Your friends, your wife, your kids - none of them want to make that decision. In Canada we have the endless spiral of politeness. Somebody has to make a fucking decision. Deciding on dinner plans is of no more consequence than choosing to walk on the left or the right when someone walking the opposite direction lands directly in your path. Nobody cares which side you're on, but everyone's relieved when someone picks a side.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/18 11:02 AM
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She cheated on him before marriage. He cheated on her during marriage. Who should leave?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/18 01:44 AM
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Divorce would be advantageous for the fact I would be able to pursue other women Over two years since you came here, and you have never noticed all the guys spinning plates on the side? This is not a shit post Because you asked a question? What value does your post add to the community?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/18 01:25 AM
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This belongs in /r/askMRP. No specific questions out there for you guys, just looking for any words of wisdom or advice out there? Any older guys out there have regrets for leaving a "good" marriage to chase younger women? Wife tolerates your infidelity. You want to bang other women. What's the issue here? Is divorce somehow advantageous for you? Have you planned for it? Or are you just wasting everyone's time with a shit post?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/18 01:00 AM
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Add the red pill glossary.
/r/askMRP07/10/18 04:25 PM
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I’ll get over it when I’M FUCKING GOOD AND READY I'm not sure what it means to "get over" something. The past never disappears. It becomes a part of you, finding its place, ideally in a way that helps you find fulfillment rather than keeping you from it. How are things with the kids? Any grandkids yet? Rollo Tomassi He's got a good grasp of basic psychology, including the understanding that negative emotions drive page views. MRP is an odd place for men with cheating wives. Some of the most cele…
/r/askMRP07/10/18 02:40 PM
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"it's fine, I can get it elsewhere." I'm not going to divorce you or fuck other girls, full stop This whole thread is like your interactions with your wife. It's no wonder why her anxiety is magnified. There's a middle ground. In this case it could be, "If I were going to cheat, I would let you know first." Are you doing anything else to make things worse? Drinking perhaps? Xanax ain't cutting it for your wife. Something else is needed.
/r/askMRP05/10/18 10:10 PM
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OK Mr. Throwaway, I'll call you Brad. It reads like someone who either talked about fight club or used implied or overt threats of divorce or infidelity. Passive dread doesn't do this. You can think about it in terms of shitty comfort tests. Or you can recognize that the problem on your end is lack of frame. You're reacting to her instead of being the oak - the stoic at the center of her tumultuous inner world. Mayor game. Read the whole thread. Look at the big picture of what you are to her, an…
/r/askMRP05/10/18 09:02 PM
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Yep, I like when she sticks her horn in my ass. She lifts me up so I can feel really tall.
/r/askMRP05/10/18 04:11 PM
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She doesn't want to know how the sausage is made. She wants a guy who just gets it. A big part of seduction is the dance between intimacy and mystery. Push and pull. Building and breaking rapport. Most guys who come here are all pull, so the beginning of the journey is learning how to use distance. You will feel more distant at times. Some guys find it easier to maintain or increase that distance, and others draw their wives back in, but on their own terms. You need to build more relationships w…
/r/askMRP05/10/18 04:07 PM
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Self-fulfilling prophecies amuse me. We should keep you. I shall call you squishy, and you will be my squishy.
/r/askMRP05/10/18 03:58 PM
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It's hard to imagine why your ex cheated on you.
/r/askMRP05/10/18 03:22 PM
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It comes in waves, like the times TFA's stuff triggered RPS and GayLubeOil. But the current batch is especially dumb - they haven't figured out how to use a browser to view a quarantined subreddit.
/r/askMRP05/10/18 03:19 PM
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Shrooms and LSD for bereavement. /u/weakandsensitive, this dude needs some creative flair. I'm enjoying the influx of asktrp guys.
/r/askMRP05/10/18 03:12 PM
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I'll start lifting in November Until you get access to weights, /r/bodyweightfitness. Consider HIIT running, bike, or burpees. Take it out on the weights. Stress can drive physical and mental performance or hinder it - you decide which. Make sure protein intake is high, and aim for 8+ hours of sleep. Recovery is going to be a bitch.
/r/askMRP05/10/18 01:33 PM
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The Manipulated Man.
/r/askMRP04/10/18 03:19 PM
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I’ve lost almost 40lbs in the last year, by accident The best diet is the one you can maintain, and you can't maintain one that is based on being too busy and stressed to eat. What's next? Don't fall into the trap of worrying about muscle loss if your lifts drop during a cut. Lots of guys here stay fat because they get preoccupied with 1RM. She’s a bikini fitness competitor They're hit and miss. Some know a lot about training, and understand issues like joint integrity, gender differences in wor…
/r/askMRP04/10/18 03:15 PM
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If she's pissed that you loaded the dishwasher wrong, it's not about the dishwasher.
/r/askMRP04/10/18 02:41 PM
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Yep, lost interest in OP already. I saw your early posts, but missed updates on your progress, other than the divorce. It would be cool if there were a simple way in a user's profile to sort by "Own Your Shit" posts only. I suspect that OP's Own Your Shit history will remain permanently blank. Edit: didn't pikadildo come up with a tool that tallied OYS posts? Is it possible to filter a user's history to see only OYS threads? Maybe someone like /u/wekacuck would know how.
/r/askMRP04/10/18 10:57 AM
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What happened with the weight loss?
/r/askMRP04/10/18 01:01 AM
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LOL, I wondered if you'd show up on this one. I like how you customize the end of your motivational posts.
/r/askMRP03/10/18 09:41 PM
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You are not a special snowflake. Nothing you said here is unique. Apply NMMNG. Read and apply WISNIFG. Read the classic post on maintaining boundaries during your transition. Scrap the victim mentality.
/r/askMRP03/10/18 09:08 PM
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Read the Manipulated Man and The Book of Pook. You're skinny and feminine. She wanted to marry a man. Even if this marriage fails, you need skills for the next girl.
/r/askMRP03/10/18 12:04 AM
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my anger came from my unstated concern about how my friends/guests viewed me And projecting your own codependency issues on your wife. She should be ashamed of herself, right? Because the guests might judge her. You might judge her. As an aside, all the Deida rambling about Shiva, and /u/thefamilyalpha stuff about unlocking your slut includes the idea that being judgmental is not a good sexual strategy. I'm still confused, though on this point: it doesn't make me a nice guy just because I didn't…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/18 05:21 PM
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I heard her make a dig about me Why was this the last straw? What did she say that bothered you? Why fix the drama instead of having fun with it? Seems like more codependent/nice guy behavior, white knighting your guests. I woke my wife up, told her that she needed to "get out of bed and clean up her mess" Not a great strategy if you're looking for enthusiastic buy-in. Your leadership skills need work. Authoritarian approaches use coercion, manipulation, commands to force the desired behavior. A…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/18 02:35 PM
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You're a less wordy version of /u/2gunsgetsome. Read his early posts. He's happily divorced now. The right n-count when you don't care about your n-count anymore.
/r/askMRP02/10/18 01:39 AM
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Going Rambo on someone else's behalf is a new one. Stop telling him what to do. Give him tools. Keto might help a little bit with bipolar. It might help rats with acute brain injury. It is unlikely to help with someone who has chronic depression and insufficient energy to get through 5x5. /u/taipanshimshon is uniquely qualified to answer on all fronts, except the Jesus stuff.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/18 11:41 PM
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Browser
/r/askMRP01/10/18 11:28 PM
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We have to marry to be together (I'm from the US and she's from Canada). The universe is trying to tell you something. Are you going to listen? Or are you going to hang on to your mentality of scarcity?
/r/askMRP30/09/18 06:02 PM
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It's hard to know what to do when you don't know what you want.
/r/askMRP29/09/18 11:06 AM
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Doesn't matter. The central issue is OP's lack of effort. He's looking for shortcuts, thinking testosterone is the solution to all his problems, and I refuse to be an enabler. The fact that I responded at all was an act of charity. He's waving a giant red flag that says, "Don't waste your time on me, because I won't put in the effort!"
/r/askMRP28/09/18 09:35 PM
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5/3/1. Either the beginners version, or go straight to BBB. Why not Kripteia, building the monolith, n-Suns, or any of the other 5/3/1 programs that are better than BBB? I'd suggest reading Beyond 5/3/1. Crap: 338 ng/dL Setting aside the fact that bioavailable testosterone matters more than total, the important lesson is that you can't blame your hormones for acting like a bitch. no meditation, eating crap, watching porn, biting nails again. Lifting regimen is laughable at about 3 sessions a mon…
/r/askMRP28/09/18 06:09 PM
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It's about titties. Or it should be.
/r/askMRP28/09/18 06:03 PM
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If someone is so put off by a quarantine that they can't click through a landing page or use a browser instead of an app, then they're in the wrong place. I enjoyed the fact that the landing page links people to a program on men in feminism from the 80th-best university in the USA. Fringe groups shitting on other fringe groups - the ultimate crab bucket. It's hard to imagine how people take this shit so seriously. This is the reason we tell guys to make male friends IRL. I thought about what cou…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/18 01:35 PM
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Great response. Could be its own post.
/r/askMRP26/09/18 07:58 PM
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Based on your numbers, unless you're a climber or do loads of pull-ups, you're cheating on rows. Drop the weight and be strict with form. WISNIFG: Fogging is a better approach than STFU, AA and AM need a ton of practice Can you point me to the chapter where he talks about AA and AM? I must have missed that. Get your testosterone levels checked and write them down. GP has no interest in checking my levels as I currently have no symptoms. Kits can be bought online. DL2 and you're skipping to ultim…
/r/askMRP26/09/18 07:40 PM
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how best to keep the white race from dying out I skipped ahead to your response. Next time someone mentions "fourteen words," I'll tell them to fuck a Mormon. The frame composition was a distance second choice It worked - definitely drew more attention than the others. It also helped that you used fewer words and didn't try to be dramatic. Composition of the profile pic would have been a useful addition to Omlala's guide to online dating. Small details can make a big difference.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/18 02:56 PM
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/u/Rian_Stone applying the rule of thirds. You retained something from all those art classes.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/18 02:07 PM
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Perhaps I need to give her the proof. Perhaps you need to read the sidebar.
/r/askMRP23/09/18 12:05 PM
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Get therapy
/r/askMRP23/09/18 11:51 AM
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say something cool and slightly sexual Forget about trying to find the right words. This is a big issue for introverts. Read The Book of Pook and then devour as much PUA material as you can handle. Your internal game needs work.
/r/askMRP23/09/18 12:47 AM
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She is looking for the same kind of feedback. It's a hint that she'll respond well to it. Look for opportunities to reward desired behavior. Think of it like mirroring in PUA, but on a much larger scale. That being said, rapport breaks are still very important.
/r/askMRP22/09/18 07:14 PM
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Instead of shit tests and comfort tests, it may be helpful to think about them as fitness tests, or congruence tests. You know the truth. Whether she chooses to believe it or not is her problem. She's entitled to her feelings. They belong to her, which makes them her problem. Make your statement once. If she asks, questions, or challenges, you don't need to DEER/JADE. You are your own judge. Everyone who knows your background is going to have that lingering doubt in their minds. That's their pro…
/r/askMRP21/09/18 09:21 PM
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Start with The Red Pill main sub's sidebar, then this one. my wife being away and fucking some Chad from her work. (Still don't know if she did or not but that's not why I'm writing now) What's Cad's new username? OP needs to follow him while he's getting started.
/r/askMRP21/09/18 12:00 PM
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Strategy 1: Basic shit test Where were you? Food. Gym. Where did you go to eat? Food place. It doesn't exist. Then I'd better eat again. Strategy 2: Assertiveness Now she want to know where. I tell her where...Fuck I’m now in her frame. Answering that question wasn't the loss of frame. You had no frame to begin with. Feeling a need to avoid her question was proof. Read WISNIFG. The first two lessons are: 1. You are your own judge. 2. Broken record Strategy 3: Understand subtext She assumed you w…
/r/askMRP21/09/18 02:26 AM
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One that works well is the "responsible teenager". One of many strategies for handling shit tests from good women and daily life with shitty women. Not a good permanent arrangement if you value more than sex and servitude from your wife. I prefer a woman who is self-sufficient.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/18 10:06 PM
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harder to build the value add cycle +1 It's mutually beneficial, not a zero sum game.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/18 10:02 PM
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With twins, I haven't had a night of uninterrupted sleep in 18 months Why? Just one kid waking up, or both? How and why do they wake? How are these episodes managed? Are the toddlers on one nap or two? What's the end of the bedtime routine? Sleep needs to be part of your MAP. Your MAP needs to be specific. I'm the disciplinarian and she respects me more than mom b/c of that. This is your failure. Set expectations with kids and wife to fix this. Expectations are set with attitude and behavior, mu…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/18 09:28 PM
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If you're deplorableray on twitter as well, then you've got the same dopamine issues as every other addict. Makes it difficult to be attracted to your wife.
/r/askMRP20/09/18 03:31 AM
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Sleep? Parenting? Game?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/18 12:42 AM
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That's not what it says. I suggest reading the whole book.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/18 11:01 AM
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Then your best bet is to STFU and not throw text game into your manic behavior.
/r/askMRP19/09/18 02:37 AM
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comfort test It's not a comfort test. Chill out and read Pook before you blow shit up. She has gone from womanese to blunt speech in a week. That's a last resort for women - a sign that you're being a retard. Don't act like a thirsty beta during your trip. Read Bang.
/r/askMRP19/09/18 02:34 AM
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No exercise for 2 weeks Do range of motion stuff daily until you've healed from the surgery. It's also an opportunity to try meditation, visualizations, sleep, or other activities for your mind and body. no sex for 2 weeks Tease her. Command her to get herself off for your amusement. Use your hands or mouth if you want. Talk dirty. Take control. -It's kind of humbling to have half your dick hair shaved by an orderly in front of your wife and then wonder what to do with the other half when you ge…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/18 03:28 PM
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frame is still weak. I always think of things to say 15 minutes after Frame isn't about winning at an interaction. That mindset is faking it before you make it. It's been a year. The next step may be something like the philosophy of stoicism, or taking some improv classes. Regarding turning the asshole behavior off and on, there's an underlying problem with congruence. Authenticity is important. A re-read of Pook might be a good start. The Family Alpha's stuff resonates with some people.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/18 12:39 AM
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Nice field report I reset daily, although its a struggle Why is it a struggle? And what are you doing to modify that?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/18 11:26 PM
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But OP is as dumb as a rock. I linked to Sepean's post on "when to next your wife," but I'm deleting it. OP's an askhole.
/r/askMRP17/09/18 10:44 PM
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Agree and amplify. Read the TRP sidebar.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/18 04:11 PM
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Hard to tell who's lazy and who's just fucking with you. Rambo.
/r/askMRP15/09/18 02:26 AM
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You give too many fucks about why women do things. "Emotional affairs." Emotional, not logical. Most women want unicorns - all the alpha and beta they need. Sometimes it's novelty, a random stimulus, a random thought. Sometimes it's because you're needy and have her under a microscope.
/r/askMRP14/09/18 02:41 PM
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The anger phase is pushing you toward the wrong meaning of the word, "dread." She shouldn't dread interacting with you - she should dread the thought of losing you to other women, death, or your other interests. This undoubtedly applies to your interactions with other people as well. Mayor game is one way to avoid becoming enervating. /u/2ndal alluded to body language. Facial expression and body language influence your attitude, and your attitude influences body language. You can attack it from …
/r/askMRP14/09/18 02:27 PM
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Outstanding post. I don't wear cologne, but I read the whole thing because it is so well done.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/18 10:01 PM
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True leaders rarely if ever get feel challenged like this. Paul McCartney and Metallica That's a weird combination. Hetfield's parents really fucked him up...
/r/askMRP12/09/18 01:52 PM
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So it makes me out numbered. That's the way women operate - looking for consensus. Give fewer fucks.
/r/askMRP12/09/18 01:40 PM
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Gay. Make friends in the real world. Talk strategy in OYS.
/r/askMRP12/09/18 01:38 PM
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It depends on attractiveness and track record. Sometimes it makes things worse, and it's best to take a break while learning to become more attractive.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 07:28 PM
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Especially on day 1. It also helps to cultivate abundance mentality, recognize that AWALT doesn't mean AWATS, leads to new experiences and social circles, and is fun! Many other benefits in my life when I realized I could walk up to the pretty girl. I probably wouldn't have ended up with my wife if I didn't have that experience with women beforehand. When a guy starts to recognize IOI's, he can learn how he generates them and make it instinctive. Naturals become that way through experience. So m…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 07:21 PM
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He has been doing exactly what you propose, and failing. We usually suggest that guys practice game on other women. /u/weakandsensitive alluded to it here. Why are you suggesting the opposite? This is a guy with oneitis and covert contracts. Abundance mentality is key. Then once she rejects you go spar some more with the hottest women you can find. How to live in your wife's frame. Did you every read taipanshimshon's old post about how betas cheat? It might have been scurvemuch, probably a year …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 07:06 PM
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What do you mean by this? If I were to accept the flawed notion that muscle hypertrophy looks different with "functional" training or strength-focused work compared with hypertrophy-focused work, and it's not just an issue of unrelated goals that alter the efficiency of achieving the same result in the abs, do you think women want this, or this? If you just meant that you should be strong in addition to physically attractive, I happen to agree for my own purposes, but it's not necessary for sexu…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 05:03 PM
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pelvic tilt Just means you were built to sprint. It's a structural variant with a big performance advantage. Don't believe the hype on posture. You might look prettier without APT, but you'll be slower.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 04:54 PM
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It's odd to see that the fundamental problems are weak frame and lack of game, but your post doesn't outline what you're doing to fix those problems. This is a victim puke, not an OYS post. A recurring theme is that you're boring and predictable. Are you good with that? For your own self-worth and sense of fulfilment, are you happy with your boring and predictable life? Are you happy with the external metrics of success dictated to you by society, your wife, and MRP? That new house sure does sou…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 03:38 PM
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Edited my response to include some stuff about reps in reserve. 5x5 can make sense for strength, but it doesn't maximize volume. Hard work in a suboptimal program will get you farther than half-assing a perfect program. And given the variability between individuals and within individuals over time, you won't be able to pick a perfect program. Pick a program with higher volume, do it for a few months, and see if you're making progress.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 02:27 PM
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Researching bulking routines that don’t take 2 hour gym sessions to complete My thinking here is in line with people like Mike Israetel, in that cutting and bulking routines are both higher volume, using higher reps per set (8-20 depending on the exercise.) Higher reps per set will get you higher volume in less time. None of these take 2 hours per session if you use supersets and shorter rest periods. For example, do sets of pull-ups or rows between sets of your bench variation, like Wendler rec…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 01:59 PM
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Abs are overrated. Agreed. Body attractiveness of men, in studies of women: #1: Face For facial appearance, body fat, hair, skin, teeth, facial expression, body language are all under a man's control. In studies of facial attractiveness, body fat ~12% is the sweet spot. Some guys don't have visible abs at that level. #2: V-taper Some fun studies looked at rating attractiveness of silhouettes. Lower body fat helps, and squeeze those lats! #3: Depends on the woman. Chest and arms for some. Abs for…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 01:42 PM
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went to AA, and quit drinking all together for about 6 months. Then drank in moderation with good behavior Rationalizations of an alcoholic. Quit drinking. If you're incapable of that, then the red pill isn't for you.
/r/askMRP08/09/18 03:47 PM
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Is it over? Any advice? Yep, she seems like a good red pill role model. She drew a boundary, you crossed it. Now lets see if she enforces it.
/r/askMRP08/09/18 02:15 PM
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It's obvious that you haven't read WISNIFG. Read the sidebar prerequisites. My wife told me that it wouldn’t have happened if I watched where I was going. Shit test. Cocky, funny, AA, AM, etc. Squat - 180 Bench - 90 Row - 110 OP - 60 DL - 90 After 5 months of Stronglifts. No, not Stronglifts, but your own modification of it based on your obvious expertise in the weight room. How do you even set up for a 90lbs deadlift? Just pulling your back flat and lats tight would lift the weight off the floo…
/r/askMRP07/09/18 06:14 PM
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I think collectivism applies only when advocating beyond the [extended] family unit I used the family unit as an example, but there are many more non-feminist examples of collectivism. Familial collectivism relates only to the family, but collectivism is a much broader term. Modern feminists talk about how collectivism might benefit women, but the idea of collectivism itself doesn't favor women or feminism. Feminists also favor individualism when it suits them. Some feminist goals are individual…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/18 12:56 PM
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The satanic bible definitely has parallels to the red pill and its most prominent members, at least in terms of the the common discussions. I imagine that RPchristians is a bit different. It comes back to the old argument between TBP and TRP - is the red pill a philosophy or a praxeology? I used to say that it was the latter, at least to me. However, endorsing the praxeology requires a compatible philosophy, so the red pill includes elements of both. There is only point where I disagree with thi…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/18 11:52 AM
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Body 5'11, 178lbs after 5lbs mini-cut, 16" neck, 31" waist, 32" at navel. Eating at maintenance for past few weeks. Next bulk is on the horizon. Didn't do much conditioning this summer. It was a conscious decision due to limited time and focus on getting more sleep. Will test VO2max in September and resume conditioning after that. Work Very busy few months - could have gotten out of control in the same way that led me to MRP in the first place. I reminded myself of my priorities and handled it. …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/18 04:43 PM
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It's a good gig if you want lots of anonymous sex. Several of my friends were bouncers and bartenders. They all got laid like crazy, but especially the bouncers. One was a fat fuck (but impressive martial artist) who repeatedly banged this group of 3 girls every time they came to the club. His anxiety around dating vanished. He eventually moved up the ladder of quality in girlfriends.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/18 01:00 PM
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(taking suggestions on best diet method for skinny-fat) Protein 1 gram/pound of body weight. Keto, IIFYM, vegetarian, doesn't matter. The best diet is the one you can stick with. Start by making healthy choices with high quality protein. Get a source of lean protein at bedtime. Body recomposition is easiest with adequate sleep and when your hormones are in check. Have you had bioavailable testosterone checked? Thyroid? Any meds on board? eating out Prep a bunch of lunches on Sundays.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/18 10:44 PM
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Why are you fucking other women? It doesn't sound like you're having fun or finding it satisfying or fulfilling. It comes across as fucking them for validation.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/18 07:51 PM
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Scarcity mentality and sunk cost fallacy. His OYS had started so well...
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/18 07:34 PM
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Small talk initiated: 11 (incl. 5 hot girls). 1 rejection. I’m a bit surprised, because my early goal was to fail 50 times Briefly imagine how many opportunities you've missed to meet people, engage with the world, and fuck different women. Much of PUA is the willingness to approach. Experience with failure and backup plans are helpful when learning not to give a fuck about the outcome of interactions. It's easier for most people to do this when they're in a strange place with people they'll nev…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/18 07:31 PM
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From the glossary: Beta – Traits of provision: either providing resources or validation to others, women (and perhaps men). Beta traits display low value to women if they are are put on too strong or too early in meeting- giving without equity. Beta can be used to describe individual behaviors, as well as people who have an overwhelming amount of beta properties (opposed to alpha). be attractive don't be unattractive Lacking beta traits can be unattractive, particularly in LTR.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/18 02:13 PM
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That list is mostly building a better beta. Only a couple of items contribute to getting laid. Buy and install a bidet. They can be super inexpensive and you get that freshly showered feeling every single time you drop a post-Chipotle deuce. This is how Pikadildo prepped his purple pill penis for penetration. He also frequently talked about jerking it to porn when rejected, so maybe not the best role model. keeping your wife in check. Most items on the list could be failure of this piece of advi…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/18 01:42 PM
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I don't want to get too much bigger Accidental Arnold. I hate it when that happens. IRL you're just a fat fuck. Plug your numbers into the Navy body fat calculator. You should be at 12%. I need to work on fleshing out my boundaries and stating them clearly You need to work on shutting the fuck up. I wonder now if she has unwittingly destroyed her own plans for a stay at home beta Women want unicorns, not betas. Should you be alpha or provide comfort? The answer is both, in the correct context. t…
/r/askMRP05/08/18 08:25 PM
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It depends - are you planning to go full incel? If so, it would be easier to castrate yourself. The baldness would stop, and the lowered libido would make your dead bedroom more palatable. So what is it, the fapping? The finasteride? You want Reddit to tell you what to do instead of your wife. So, stop all of it, get fitness and sleep in order, get off /r/braincels, and start reading the sidebar books.
/r/askMRP05/08/18 05:30 PM
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What a wondrous time to be a mouse.
/r/askMRP05/08/18 05:23 PM
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YMMV. It can cause ED, but usually doesn't. I've been taking it for 18 years with no problems. if anyone else is coping with this Probably half the sub. and how you handle it Sidebar. Top posts. Style it until you need to shave it. Be hot enough to look good bald.
/r/askMRP05/08/18 12:01 PM
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Cutting my old social circle off completely Why cutting off? Why not expand? If you control the narrative of your own life, then other people can fit in the way that suits you. She broke off with me 1 month ago but still keeps me around You may not understand /u/weakandsensitive's reference. Don't root through garbage. You stick around because a cordial relationship between the parents is good for the kid, whether you're together or not. Stop framing it as her allowing you to do anything. This i…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/18 12:00 PM
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adrenal weakness - Have you seen a doctor about this? Scienticians know all about it. Can't trust doctors. Never trust someone who doesn't sell their own supplements.
/r/askMRP03/08/18 02:06 PM
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What's up with the low deadlift and barbell row?
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/18 01:31 PM
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Scarcity mentality, neediness... oneitis.
/r/askMRP29/07/18 01:23 PM
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Not sure on BF Navy calculator. Weight loss is a bit fast. If it's not water weight (eg low carb) then you probably need to slow down a bit.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/18 11:22 PM
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Hindsight
/r/askMRP25/07/18 11:13 PM
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She hit you. You went to a hotel. It sucks, but it's a reasonable response for someone who lacks the track record to establish and maintain boundaries in a more direct manner. WISNIFG is the beginning. Where are the other two kids? They should be in the hotel with you, enjoying the pool and a bit of individual attention.
/r/askMRP21/07/18 12:17 PM
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+1 2-3 storeys with a 3 year old. Kid probably weighs less than 40lbs. Carry kid in one arm, hold railing or keep balance with the other. My youngest started complaining that he’s afraid and he didn’t want to go, so I told him to wait for us downstairs. Let's assume that OP offered to carry the toddler, but the toddler was still afraid to make the climb. It still came across as being manipulative toward the toddler who wouldn't comply with the stair climb. Other two boys could have taken turns. …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/18 01:33 PM
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TL;DR I'm weaning off SSRI I'm contemplating adding 15 hours per week to my work life. I want more money I want more sex and fewer boundaries in the bedroom I'm doing. I'm indecisive. I want. I want. Have you gotten beyond NMMNG? MAP - there's a whole book on it.
/r/askMRP20/07/18 01:12 PM
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without respect you have nothing How much does the average American respect and trust Donald Trump? Keep letting other people define your worth - it's working great so far.
/r/askMRP17/07/18 04:11 PM
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I've also worked hard all my life to gain respect Why?
/r/askMRP17/07/18 04:03 PM
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Codependency, fear of loss, and feeling compelled to respond to random internet strangers. No frame. Maybe you need alanon or something. When I was 14, I was in gym class with a bunch of guys who were older and much bigger. The bigger kids were better at several sports. But after I dominated them in my favorite sport, one of them started making vague threats and insulting me. The specific insult was, "Look at him - no hair on his legs. Shaved leg faggot." I said something about having more hair …
/r/askMRP17/07/18 03:54 PM
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Agreed. Would be interested to read his OYS in a couple of months, if he posts.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/18 03:31 PM
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Plenty of guys with no frame have posted photos. A few guys with frame have done the same. Which one are you?
/r/askMRP17/07/18 03:23 PM
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Reddit's mobile interface is annoying. Read and reflect on those first three books. Don't go Rambo. This isn't about your wife or anything you think she did to you. You did this to yourself. Lift, read, think, and STFU until you have your head on straight.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/18 02:33 PM
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Obvious connection to internet arguments, and with guys arguing with their wives. You overcame the burden of Asian stereotypes in the PUA world, at least with respect to inner game. Do you think his K-pop affectations prompted a less amiable response from you? Or was it just some bullshit conversation about Trump?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/18 02:25 PM
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Can anyone recommend the top 3 books I should read immediately? "Course Prerequisites" in the sidebar. On mobile, select "About this community." Post low quality shit questions like this in /r/askMRP.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/18 02:14 PM
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Honestly you're reading a bit too much into my random weak+sensitive reference. Before I got to that line, "I'm not going to talk about politics." Then you proceeded to talk about politics. It's a continuation of the same conversation. There's nothing wrong with having and continuing an entertaining conversation. The problem lies in feeling the need to debate, to wave the flag of your beliefs and principles. It can be socially and sexually counterproductive. It's hard for you to stop caring abou…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/18 11:47 AM
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Quit overthinking it and get your ass into the gym. SL 5x5 is fine. SS is fine. Beginner 5/3/1/ is fine. Beginner programs from strongerbyscience are fine. The /r/fitness sidebar is fine. Pick something and go.
/r/askMRP27/06/18 02:36 AM
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she acted disgusted whenever I touched her I don’t understand how the second link applies Really?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/18 02:35 AM
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Read the Book of Pook and some PUA stuff next. Push and pull with attractive women, including your girlfriend. Keep your girlfriend on her toes. she seems to be relying more on me for emotional comfort but still seems to be appalled by intimacy (this sentence probably proves I'm fucking something up but I don't know what it is) Every unhappy wife is a rape victim.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/18 01:44 AM
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It's the same as JADE Justify Argue Defend Explain From al-anon, another group of codependent people.
/r/askMRP27/06/18 01:35 AM
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this delivery was pretty bad She needs lots of protein, probably zinc supplements (around 25mg/day), and foods that are high in vitamin E. the discipline is what's getting me. I'm making myself grind, possibly too much, Discipline doesn't mean pedal to the metal. It often means patience as long as there's continued progress. Pacing and patience have always been some of your biggest problems. That's too much alliteration, even for me...
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/18 03:02 PM
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The good: pushed yourself into a social situation. The bad: everything else. Read NMMNG now. Right now. You're trying to continue that conversation with /u/weakandsensitive. Why? He's just some random asshole on the internet. Who gives a fuck if you two agree on politics, the environment, soccer, or anything else? Why do you feel a need to validate your perspective? Or to convince people of things? Why must anyone agree with you? You have no frame. Until you have frame, start with these two stra…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/18 02:51 PM
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Bloodwork shows her T and Estradiol in non-detectable quantities. Prolactin + physical trauma. Pretty shitty at the moment. 2-3x a week, drip feed, no enthusiasm (or completely faked enthusiasm to get me off quicker). She's pushing herself to please you. Mindset and game are there. Keep it up. Reward good behavior. I'm down to low 170s from 180+ but I feel like this cut is taking an eternity. Usually, I just do my thing and lose a pound a week. Newborn at home, changes in sleep, diminishing retu…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/18 02:34 PM
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actually taking credit for what I do at the moment Not deserved unless you can also take responsibility. All I see from you is the rationalizations of an addict. Stop drinking, stop jerking to porn, stop blaming your problems on your kids, your wife, or your schedule. This is all on you. Come back when you're done.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/18 02:21 PM
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Guy with no credibility is upset that people don't listen to him. everyone who doubted me will beg for forgiveness He's desperate for people to judge him favourably. OP's just another histrionic faggot who hasn't read the sidebar. This all applies whether he's a troll or not.
/r/askMRP04/06/18 12:57 PM
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Outstanding links and post. One of my favorites is the application of zones of personal distance. It's fun to watch a woman approach and stop at that invisible border between your social space and personal space, fidgeting and making herself look small. She's knocking at your door - your body language determines whether she enters or not.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/18 03:50 PM
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Fuck her more and better. She's probably in /r/deadbedrooms right now, lamenting that her husband spends too much time on Reddit and not enough time fulfilling her fantasies. Not that it's possible for any one man to fulfil her fantasies, but maybe it'll be enough that she won't cheat as often. Be prepared for divorce, if needed. Make it clear that divorce is on the table at all times. Get paternity tests for any kids that you have.
/r/askMRP30/04/18 12:41 PM
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If you are unwilling to walk You need to be willing to walk away - the principle of least interest - but that point only needs to be made once. If you're the sort of person who follows through, and she values you, she won't test it.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/18 01:28 PM
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Maybe time for a re-read of WISNIFG. What you're advocating in your post works if your presence is valued, but leadership works even better.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/18 12:12 PM
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This isn't the main sub, kiddo. But wait until she starts throwing shit & banging her head against a wall. Then a time out is needed. When your kid has a tantrum, you put yourself in time out?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/18 12:04 PM
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You're describing role reversal. The post talks about women trying to manipulate using the strength of their emotions, and then advocate a walkout in response. If your teenaged girl has a tantrum, do you walk out? Or do you ignore the exaggerated response and rise above it to reassert control of yourself and the situation?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/18 12:00 PM
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Just walk out for 3 hours and come back and dont discuss it. This point seems like advice to noobs. Why walk out? Hold frame until she either gets on board or goes for a walk herself.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/18 08:25 PM
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Push/pull is part of game. Thirsty betas are all pull. Read the sidebar - no shortcuts.
/r/askMRP27/04/18 11:12 PM
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LOL I like jokes with layers
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/18 02:22 PM
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Give the audience what they want! That dude's GIF was fantastic. I'd love to see one from you that shows progress. Dude, you've got the simplest MAP. Stop being fat. edit: I think one of the features of the bodpod is direct measurement of resting metabolic rate? Rough estimate based on body composition. VO2 is what you want for RMR and assessment of physical fitness.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/18 02:09 PM
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A fat anarchist feminist. I could only skim it. It's one of the worst things I've read in months. I was disappointed that your accountabillibuddy gave up. I was hoping to see your monthly Fit3D scans along with his and see a bit of competition. /u/redwall92, get to 10-15%, maintain that for at least a month, then watch your game and frame magically improve.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/18 02:04 PM
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30 and 28 A true unicorn, his wife is getting younger.
/r/askMRP27/04/18 01:20 PM
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Read the post and top response from Jack10.
/r/askMRP23/04/18 04:03 PM
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Everybody wants to be alpha, but nobody wants to read the sidebar... When she insisted on the idea of daycare, I said that as long as she paid for it, then she could do it Is that how you framed it? How about, "The income will need to be at least enough to cover daycare, your taxes, transportation, and incidental costs associated with the job. Do you have something lined up?" It's a simple pressure flip. I do not believe her maternal instincts have really kicked in as much as I would have liked.…
/r/askMRP15/04/18 08:29 PM
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There's opportunities I can help her out on her projects as an outside expert. Becoming known as an outside expert for hire can be an opening to a totally different lifestyle. The rip cord on the snowblower ripped. An electric starter would change your life. Does your daughter have a small shovel of her own? My kids' shovels are some of the cheapest/best purchases we've ever made. It's hilarious and gratifying to watch a little one happily trying to help.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/18 05:08 PM
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I had a pile of 2nd place awards for one sport, and never choked in the other sports that I played. The difference, as you said, was focusing on the outcome. It's funny how thought processes vary with context. This idea can be the catalyst to help someone to be less introverted and to reduce approach anxiety. It's all over the PUA literature for that reason.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/18 07:21 PM
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you can't live your life according to someone else's emotional state, no matter what's causing it On that, we agree. Having a strong emotion doesn't give a person the right to command.
/r/askMRP12/04/18 12:35 AM
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all women are a bit depressed, dude ?
/r/askMRP11/04/18 10:41 PM
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Briefly set ego aside, identified blind spot. That's good. Epiphanies are fun. /u/SorcererKing's comment wasn't a summary of your wall of text, but a way forward.
/r/askMRP11/04/18 10:06 PM
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Dear MRP, I'm codependent. I'm reading a book on the subject, but I'm afraid to implement the advice because I'm worried that my codependent relationship may end. Fuck off.
/r/askMRP11/04/18 07:44 PM
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As a grandchild of a tailor, the fact that he couldn't figure it out surprises me a bit, but I can forgive the ironing thing. If he never learned as a kid, and wasn't military, how would he know?
/r/askMRP11/04/18 03:39 PM
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No.... Let's set aside the fact that you obviously have no fucking idea how the implant works. Why are you investing time into her? Take the focus off of her. Your actions can't be dictated to this extent by her mental or hormonal state. Your posts are a trash fire. Post your specific plans in OYS or fuck off. Not "lift with bodybuilding routine," but what program. Not "skinny fat," but BF%. Not "this is my work schedule," but what is the career trajectory that will enable you to reduce work hou…
/r/askMRP11/04/18 02:13 PM
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You're weak, fat, and have covert contracts. However I’m tempted to have a talk with her about the reality of what our divorce will involve and how, if she does not find a rich papa, it is possibly going to compromise the future of our son You can't negotiate genuine desire. That doesn't just apply to sex. You need distance from your wife. I’d be so much happier alone That's her problem. She knows where to find the door. cavalier about the future of our son The future of your son is a bit fucked…
/r/askMRP09/04/18 08:44 PM
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Blue pill troll or buried lede.
/r/askMRP05/04/18 10:04 PM
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Not a comfort test /r/askmrp until you've read the sidebar books.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/18 10:53 AM
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Yep, my wife rationalized all the bad things I've done for me. I didn't need to DEER.
/r/askMRP04/04/18 11:19 PM
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Fitness: strengtheory, juggernaut, supertraining, Sheiko, Tom Purvis, any textbook except Wasserman, and journal articles. Pickup: RSD and Mystery (when I started here) Psych and sexuality texts... many. Some of the more accessible and relevant ones from my formative years would be My Secret Garden, For Yourself, For Each Other, Masters & Johnson, Male Sexuality (1978 edition is the one I read. I haven't read The New Male Sexuality.) Joy of Sex was more about entertainment than information, but …
/r/askMRP04/04/18 07:26 PM
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Question - how would one know whether it is a shit test Stop giving a fuck about what's a test and what isn't. escaping sex due to body agenda Ovulation is when the /r/DeadBedrooms crowd gets laid. Outside of that, she is totally normal and horny. This isn't body agenda. This is you being unable to keep up with her. Grow a thicker skin, stop taking her shit so seriously, and don't act like a thirsty beta.
/r/askMRP04/04/18 05:28 PM
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it is primarily driven by fear. So the first step is to name those fears. That is a breath of fresh air. So then you deal with it by applying the 4 Cs - Commitment, Courage, Competence and Confidence When fear is the issue, I agree with your post. There are some exceptions. Lack of commitment isn't necessarily based on fear. Consider the common attribution of "fear of commitment" leveled against men who don't want to marry or those who like to change jobs frequently. Fear may be the issue for so…
/r/askMRP04/04/18 04:10 PM
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Why can't you tell him what he wants to do?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/18 11:28 AM
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BF +/- 19-22%... SMV 8 Nope I don’t care much for clothes, grooming, etc... SMV 8 Nope. You're accumulating lots of fatigue with SL in addition to Krav Maga and yoga. You would need lots of sleep to recover from that without drugs. BJJ obviously isn't the same, but look up Mike Israetel's stuff on combining lifting and bjj
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/18 12:35 AM
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Have your pity party somewhere else.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/18 06:23 PM
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at risk for a hernia Transversus abdominis is the priority. Options are stomach vacuum, suck abs in during planks, brace for squat and deadlift with smaller but sharper breath in (watch/read Boris Sheiko's beginner advice), keep pelvic floor contracted during reps, consider high rep RDL instead of deadlifts from floor, consider high bar squat instead of low bar, focus on hypertrophy, work sets between 60-85% and not higher, leave 1-2 reps in tank, and remember that technical breakdown in a compo…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/18 02:37 PM
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Front delts did get sore, but I found it too easy to cheat the movement without the arms extended. I also did the same exercise with hands behind my back for a different angle. Could also rest proximal forearm on something to keep shoulders/biceps/triceps out of it. Of course, /r/griptraining has a plethora of exercises that would probably be better.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/18 12:47 AM
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Torture yourself on the donkey block After noticing the amount of dick swing or bulge in your pants... My dick swing or the donkey's?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/18 12:57 PM
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constant conflict in their marriage Sidebar books, maybe, but I wouldn't meddle. Don't talk about fight club.
/r/askMRP01/04/18 11:23 AM
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/r/forearmporn Ancient Chinese secret TL;DR - Take a dowel wide enough for both hands and some space between. Place a screw or hook in the middle, between where your hands will hold the dowel. Attach a strong length of twine to the dowel, and tie the other end to a 2.5 lbs plate. Extend arms straight in front of you, palms down on the dowel. Roll the plate up to the dowel and back down to the floor. Rest and repeat. When that's too easy, increase weight or add a set.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/18 11:21 AM
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English from England.
/r/askMRP31/03/18 03:24 PM
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WTF do I do now? Live it instead of talking and asking. Actions, not words. “women are fucking evil to do that to a guy” No, guys are just too stupid to understand subtext, so women are forced to escalate. If you're weak and don't own your shit, should they nag and insult you? Or should they poke and prod you indirectly so you can save face? If they are developing contempt for your behavior, they do the former. If you've demonstrated a fragile ego, then they do the latter. If you have a solid fr…
/r/askMRP31/03/18 03:14 PM
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+1 Switch between hypertrophy and strength blocks. Hypertrophy blocks progress in terms of number of challenging sets. Strength blocks progress in terms of weight on the bar. When I try to do both simultaneously, it doesn't go as well - noob gains are over.
/r/askMRP30/03/18 01:44 PM
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Preselection facilitates social conformity. The competition doesn't need to be right in front of her. It can be from years of seeing girls choose a certain type of guy, in real life or in other media. Immediate competition generates extra tingles, like the last TV at Target on Black Friday. It's not laziness. We all make unconscious determinations of value based on whether we are prompted to conform or be unique from the herd, which in turn depends on our feelings about the herd and ourselves at…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/18 10:52 AM
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I don't base my confidence and self-efficacy on a belief that I'm superior to others. I base it on myself. Embrace that mindset and you can do no wrong. And that it's your right to do wrong, when called for, or even by accident.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/18 10:41 AM
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Nice post. Their personal politics and elephants in the room aren't your problem. You can use psychology and tact to ensure that you get what you want, but at some point somebody needs to point out the obvious. This issue is easier with plates - don't promote ACA's up the bitch management hierarchy. The fat patient reminded me of a local ICU doc, whom I've witnessed saying on multiple occasions, to multiple patients after extubation, "The problem is, you're too fucking fat." Patient response, "I…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/18 10:36 AM
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I feel bad for the guy. I came from a very religious family, so I see where he's coming from.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/18 12:03 AM
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Is divorce even on the table?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/18 11:28 PM
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I avoid stormtrooper. His willingness to tolerate shitty behavior is rooted in religious beliefs. He's willing to accept contradictions and bullshit from her in a way that cannot be fixed. /u/stormtrooper10933, there is no MRP program. It's a toolbox. Some are optional, and some aren't. Fitness is better - that's good. You're improving some aspects of your life. But you're still negotiating for sex, initiating sex verbally, initiating without gaming her, withdrawing attention like an autistic in…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/18 10:39 PM
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From the sidebar Practice is important. Mindset is even more important, or you'll end up like Mystery.
/r/askMRP28/03/18 09:22 PM
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On this subject, most cardiologists focus on stroke, survival, and outcomes from large randomized controlled trials, not exercise capacity, medication side effects, or quality of life. Electrophysiologists are on a completely different level in terms of knowledge and focus. They're usually much smarter, and they tend to address people as individuals instead of as members of a population. If there's no cost to you, then a consultation may be worthwhile. Chad doesn't stroke, you stroke Chad.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/18 07:11 PM
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atrial fibrillation If I were to develop atrial fibrillation, I'd see an electrophysiology specialist to see if I was a candidate for ablation or mini-maze. No survival benefit, but big changes in quality of life. Take that as you will. As an aside, the stroke risk score is called CHADS....
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/18 12:53 PM
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My experience is the opposite of most people on the meds It's typical IRL. Deadbedrooms isn't typical.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/18 12:47 PM
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I'm with you on that.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/18 10:53 AM
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Good plan. Slight refinement - abundance mentality isn't only about finding the next girl, it's knowing that you'll be okay afterward, that good things will come around.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/18 04:51 PM
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6 weeks at most since I started MRP I smell a covert contract with your wife in your MRP'ing, but in all other respects, I would have thought you were at least 3-6 months in. You've experienced a good counselor. You know what that looks like. If you've got the frame for it, then couples counseling is fine. If you don't, then sending her to individual counseling might be a reasonable next move, before more resentment seeps in.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/18 04:35 PM
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Hand her a copy of WISNIFG. If you want to stay married, consider counseling as an ultimatum, either individual for her +/- you, couples, or both, provided that you can find a good counselor and agree to terminate counseling if either isn't happy with it. If you think she's depressed (eg. Beck depression inventory) then talk to her doctor and set up an appointment. She can get with the program or GTFO. Don't contemplate separation or divorce without at least an initial discussion with a lawyer. …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/18 04:03 PM
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Stoicism (the philosophy and practices, like negative visualization), abundance mentality, and sidebar. Take that pussy off the pedestal.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/18 03:40 PM
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~12-15% BF (I have no idea how to tell this, I have a visible 6 pack while flexed), Navy calculator is quickest. Underwater weighing, bod pod, ultrasound, DEXA, and calipers by an experienced clinician are more accurate. BIA is useless. Pictures let people delude themselves. power play Superficial read - it's not a power play. Your skills are beyond STFU, and STFU is not usually the best answer to a comfort test. Her hamster is lost in the maze. She needs to understand her place in your vision. …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/18 03:36 PM
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I always maintain frame and act as the dominate. Always keep her submissive. Never let her win the frame. Frame isn't "winning" at interactions, arguments, or convincing anyone of anything. Feeling the need to do those things is often a sign that a person has no frame.
/r/askMRP27/03/18 02:52 PM
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how do you know when your frame is getting stronger? /u/weakandsensitive gave some good examples of tells for men with no frame on reddit. If you do that shit, you have no frame. Some other ways to tell that your frame is getting stronger: Hindsight You don't think about holding frame, because it comes naturally. Conflict doesn't bother you, and may even amuse you. You may notice other people get less riled up when you openly disagree with them, because you've handled your end of the conflict be…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/18 02:35 PM
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Great answer.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/18 10:44 AM
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Maybe you'll eventually read the MRP sidebar and get past it.
/r/askMRP26/03/18 09:11 PM
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Being easily triggered and having people walk on eggshells can frequently get results. People are exhausted or don't know how to handle it, so they reinforce the dysfunctional behavior. It is a viable strategy. You'll often get what you want at the time, although it often leads to both sides being frustrated, people mocking you behind your back, and people patiently waiting for you to go away. I'd rather have enthusiastic buy-in than be placated. This is an area where Rollo does very well. You c…
/r/askMRP26/03/18 03:02 PM
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seriously you have been stalking my PMs? I returned to Reddit at around the time when you were the bloopers' flavor of the month. I was curious to see who the players were after half a year or so. New names, same shit. They moved on fast - probably assumed you were a troll.
/r/askMRP26/03/18 01:02 PM
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You if you do not think these authors are betas, google their images online Rollo Alpha is mindset, not a demographic I understand. I'd hate to get lifting advice from a guy who looks like this when superior men like GLO are out there.
/r/askMRP26/03/18 12:59 PM
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if you do not think these authors are betas, google their images online So you haven't read rational male either. You sound like an incel. I haven’t read it, or any of the... sidebar Must be why you were PM'ing bloopers to convince them you're not a Nazi a few months ago. Ignorance as a badge of honor... Is that in the main sub's sidebar somewhere?
/r/askMRP26/03/18 11:18 AM
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assertive I can see that you have strong feelings about assertiveness.
/r/askMRP25/03/18 06:19 PM
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Women can't see your vasectomy My sack is extra wrinkly now
/r/askMRP25/03/18 09:07 AM
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Here, and here, and all over the main sub. My wife wants a 4th child. I don't. You don't want more kids with her, or at all? If you don't want more kids, then get a vasectomy. She might divorce you, but it's better than having an unwanted child, which would lead to an even worse divorce. You're solidly in her frame. This post is fear and insecurity masquerading as a theoretical discussion. she'd have sex, but only if I didn't wear a condom I'd be out the fucking door if my wife tried to manipula…
/r/askMRP24/03/18 07:37 PM
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It's applied more to trainees. Something weird happens after the third try, where it becomes nearly impossible for that person to successfully do the procedure, no matter how good they usually are at doing it. The next person waltzes in an succeeds on the first try. In your case, who knows... Difficult marrow usually means fat person, oddly shaped pelvis, or thick bone (probably your issue.) Good luck with whatever it is that's going on. Embrace the gallows humor. Your wife has the right idea. S…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/18 04:38 PM
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six times in a row She broke one of the cardinal rules of medical procedures - 3 strikes and you're out. Two tries, bring backup into the room. Third try, someone else needs to do it. death It's not the apocalypse, Johnny, not yet, but sometimes it's good to fuck like it's your last day. Hysterical bonding can be fun. Keep mixing it up. Keep celebrating life.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/18 04:07 PM
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You may have misunderstood my meaning. Essentially I'm agreeing that if sexual frequency is the goal, then LTR + plates is often optimal, which is why it's so often the advice in MRP. We give that advice so often, in fact, that an outsider would think that's the entire thrust of our strategy.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/18 01:51 PM
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Statisics show that married men and women with outside relationship(s) have more sex than everyone That's why the bloopers call MRP "cheater school"
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/18 12:20 PM
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You've started from conceptually enshrining yourself into her LTR paradigm. This premise is faulty. That's one of the fundamental flaws in your reasoning. It's why RPS's arguments were torn to bits when he wandered in here a year or two ago. If all you care about in life is the number of women you've fucked, then maybe your point is valid (although we have several n>100 guys here, and every one of us was able to get laid before finding TRP.) If what you care about is how often you have good sex …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/18 11:19 AM
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MRP and TRP are not coherent ideologies. They are not internally consistent. The toolbox metaphor makes more sense, and they are very similar toolsets. Blue pill isn't a thing. It's not even the absence of the toolbox, since most of the tools advocated by the general public are the same, but branded in a more palatable fashion.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/18 11:14 PM
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What can I do? Own it or not. The frame is there or it's not. Stop texting. Stop acting dumb. Both of those make it worse. My approach was the equivalent of the apocalypse opener - clear, simple, unapologetic, consistent, and honest.
/r/askMRP23/03/18 08:25 PM
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Nice FR Wife still tired all the time? I never got a sense of whether you like her or not.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/18 03:33 PM
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Rambo
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/18 03:29 PM
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I'm surprised he's not posting about his bidet I miss pikadildo.
/r/askMRP23/03/18 01:28 PM
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The Kellogg diet is part of the red pill praxeology. Our poop is odorless. This is how I picture you at your father in law's bathroom door.
/r/askMRP23/03/18 01:27 PM
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It's not the first askMRP post with this question.
/r/askMRP23/03/18 01:22 PM
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Literally LOL. I'm stealing this idea.
/r/askMRP23/03/18 01:20 PM
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Damn right
/r/askMRP23/03/18 01:20 PM
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"Enter at your own risk, honey." "The king sits upon his throne." "Who's there?" "You broke my concentration. Now I have to start again..." Sing this. If I'm taking a shit (like I am right this minute) Phone shits take longer than shits without phones. When I want a phone shit when other people are rushing, I either move their needed items out so they can get them, or use a different toilet. Share with her your vision for the timing and shared use of the bathroom. The king can lead before sittin…
/r/askMRP23/03/18 12:45 PM
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With respect to avoiding back work as a means to correct posture, I think you've gotten bad advice. Well-meaning but uninformed gym rats and under qualified therapists get cause and effect backward. "Overdeveloped traps" causing headache is downright stupid. It comes from the same idiots who recommend Botox for headaches. Most of the time, the problem returns worse than it was before. The problem isn't over development of one muscle, but structure, and muscle activation or habit. In extreme case…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/18 07:55 AM
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Read /u/2gunsgetsome's post history to see what happens when virgins get married, only to realize later that they're capable of becoming attractive. Fuck more until you stop caring how many you've fucked. That's enough. For some, that number is 0-1. For others, it's infinite.
/r/askMRP22/03/18 08:39 PM
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Fitness Is that your whole regimen? Mirror muscles, no back work, no legs? It's no wonder why you've got headaches. You used to jerk off 3 times a day - what have you done with that extra time? Replace jerking off each time with a set of upper back work: pull-ups, rows, band pull-aparts, rotator cuff work, whatever. Pook Pook gets better later on. Models by Mark Manson is alright. PUA in general is useful. Stop being predictable. Initiate when it's not bedtime. I'm just not a very fun person to …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/18 07:23 PM
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You're too young to get married. It's a serious legal and financial arrangement with high risk, and you clearly don't have those issues sorted.
/r/askMRP22/03/18 12:52 AM
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I have also let go of the hate and resentment I believe it now. Sometimes you've got to fuck a bunch of women to make that happen. Or, at the very least, learn to be your own judge.
/r/askMRP22/03/18 12:50 AM
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congruent I forgot that you're new here. It's a reference to behavior, frame, and why shit tests are easy, not writing style. Read the sidebar books I mentioned, lurk more, and you can post in OYS when you're ready for it.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/18 12:25 AM
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My comments were as much about post history as this post. He's an over-eager newbie with a fragile ego, ie. like the vast majority of askMRP. He'll settle down, move to the main sub, or crash and burn like alpha_as_wolf. The only certainty is that he'll do it with an air of irrational confidence. It's a start. He'd be better off figuring out how to calibrate all of this in OYS, but his ego is too fragile for that right now. What's got you so hot and bothered? Not so much "hot and bothered." I sa…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/18 11:42 PM
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/u/stacysmomlovesme gets called into these discussions for obvious reasons. Doesn't matter if she actually cheated or not, he's doing what he wants to do either way. Maybe you need more contact with the kids than custody would allow in order to protect them from your wife's shitty parenting. Maybe you don't want to waste money on a lawyer. Maybe you just like fucking other women. None of that matters, as long as it's in your frame. If you're cheating because she cheated, that's in her frame. Per…
/r/askMRP21/03/18 10:29 PM
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Frame. I have no problem with dark triad when it's congruent. You're full of shit. It's constructive criticism, not a value judgment. It's in your power to stop being full of shit. Congruence is more important than PUA tricks and shoehorning dark triad behaviors where they don't belong. Regarding your defensiveness here, I'd suggest reading NMMNG and WISNIFG, and maybe some stoicism while you're at it.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/18 10:17 PM
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There's a big difference between guys like vengefully_yours and OP. The former doesn't give a shit about the label or the status, only rule zero... and his hatred of the VA. We'll see how things turn out when OP's newbie enthusiasm settles down. I'm guessing he'll be sounding a lot like 88will88 in about 2 months.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/18 07:43 PM
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Could have been worthwhile if it wasn't /r/iamverybadass. Practice writing skills. Stop trying to boast and impress - it's weak, betrays your insecurity, and wastes the reader's time. When you remove your own ego, it allows you to be succinct, and it enables the reader to connect to the story you're trying to tell. Narcissistic behavior often has an anxiety component. It's something to watch for when you're displaying this kind of desperation to fit in.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/18 06:22 PM
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Second half of cycle meaning luteal phase, the part after ovulation. Lubrication on the pill depends on which pill is being used. Could be dripping wet with some, dry and painful with others.
/r/askMRP21/03/18 05:40 PM
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When my wife went off the pill: "in the second half of my cycle, I don't feel as wet." She spent less time thinking about sex. The only difference to me is that instead of being her frequently initiating and being ready to go in an instant, it takes a little kino and physical/psychological stimulation to get her going. Sex isn't on her mind until I put it there.
/r/askMRP21/03/18 01:49 PM
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You're really choosing this hill to die on... It's amazing. I'm now convinced that you're not a troll.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/18 07:25 PM
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silverback gorilla Gorilla body fat approximately 39% Lion approximately 13% Ever read articles on typical diet of competitive bodybuilders? Troll or retard?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/18 06:18 PM
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The most muscular animals eat only plants Troll or retard - do not feed.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/18 05:53 PM
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Don't be an asshole You can't be afraid of being perceived as an asshole. Regardless of how well you follow a moral code, if you're accomplishing anything in life, someone will be pissed off at you.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/18 11:09 AM
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She never initiates Does she sit when she pees? Does she have tits and a vagina? What you have there is a woman. It blew up two days ago when I said I was tired of being turned down and she never initiated You can't negotiate genuine desire. Read more OYS posts. Read the sidebar prerequisite books, then the rest of the sidebar. Here's a canned MAP. Your fucked up mindset isn't going to get you laid regularly in the long term.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/18 11:04 AM
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Wrong sub. /r/mrpw or /r/redpillwives Don't have kids with someone who is hesitant to have kids.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/18 01:42 PM
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her colon was removed years ago Second, did she have an intestinal biopsy? Pathologists examine organs after they're removed. /u/needtopound, you will always be unattractive as long as you have a victim mentality. Develop and internal locus of control.
/r/askMRP15/03/18 06:05 PM
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/r/mrpw, /r/redpillwives You want someone who comes close to being the total package, then be the total package. Be genuine. Don't fuck around.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/18 04:12 PM
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I think you have more faith in people than I do, especially the people who need the red pill to get laid.
/r/askMRP09/03/18 09:40 PM
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Losing or forgoing something is often an effective way to understand its role in your life.
/r/askMRP09/03/18 07:57 PM
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Seriously OP, why the fuck did you stop fapping if you're not getting enough sex? You know that just makes you needier/angrier right? Especially if it's part of a covert contract. Tantra and various religious groups that are reputed for being exceptionally calm have a no orgasm policy. Sex is a need, like food, right? The record for zero calorie intake is longer than a year. If no orgasm for a few weeks is enough to tip a guy over the edge, he's either lazy or it's a fucked up coping mechanism. …
/r/askMRP09/03/18 07:42 PM
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Comments are more likely to help readers who are doing the work than the people you directly respond to. Edit: a step further The notion that you're commenting to help that one random internet stranger, and the common need that guys have to convince people to adopt their point of view, are symptoms of the problems that led them here. These are Nice Guy behaviors - dysfunctional. If these are the reasons that you post, then you're LARPing alpha.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/18 01:50 PM
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during sex thinks about how her ex is better than me in bed How would you know this without being an insecure bitch who feels compelled to ask the question? if I talk to her she will just deny everything Because you're not actually a mind reader. You're either a paranoid guy with under-medicated mental illness, or you're a troll. fakes an orgasm State a boundary. checks if my penis is bigger than her ex's Women have no concept of penis size. They only notice the extreme cases, and they overestim…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/18 01:46 PM
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I have read the whole sidebar Bullshit. You either didn't read or didn't understand NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, Pook, Rational Male Year One, Bang, or the 16 Commandments of Poon. If that's how you initiate, then you should stop now and go monk mode. Keep going with kino, but don't do any of the things you did in your post. Then she says "scratch my legs." while browsing Facebook on her phone No. My wife sees my "need" and puts my daughter to the side of the bed, so we can have "face to face", starfi…
/r/askMRP09/03/18 01:45 AM
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Frame, your reality ie, taking the red pill.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/18 11:16 PM
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I realize I'm rambling Then divide it into parts with headings, like jacktenofhearts, or separate posts. You started with a useful technique for emotionally challenging situations - learning to become an observer of your own reactions and behavior. Several schools of philosophy and psychology provide similar techniques. It's a powerful method for overcoming impulses, bad habits, and personal demons. You went on with Yoda's, "Try not. Do, or do not. There is no try." It's a step beyond faking it …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/18 10:58 PM
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Guy with good life thinks lifting is stupid. Puts dedication into lifting and changes his life. Guys don't know their own blind spots. That's why they're called blind spots. Check your ego at the door.
/r/askMRP08/03/18 09:42 PM
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And I'm thinking that this is showing weakness to the wife My sister used to do the injections for some of the guys on steroids back in high school. From her point of view, it was an awkward angle to self-inject, and another guy doing it would be kinda gay.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 11:23 PM
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Would you aspirate for a subq injection? I used to say no, until I saw a couple of people who had subcutaneous injections go IV. I definitely wouldn't want my wife to do it Why? My doc wanted me to go IM into the glutes, but with the twisting, being new to injecting, and my history of passing out You're not new to it anymore, and people almost never pass out from self-injection.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 10:03 PM
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bruising Where are you injecting? I'm old school and aspirate for half a second before delivering an IM injection, regardless of the site. Even if you avoid the big vessels, you sometimes hit the smaller ones. Slower injection of the drug can help. I use a straight needle path when giving injections, but a Z-shaped needle insertion path supposedly reduces local discomfort. You could also get your wife to do the injections. It may just be an unfavorable angle to self-inject.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 09:21 PM
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Instigate, isolate, escalate. Isolation is mental as much as physical. Separate career mode from physical relationship mode. It's no different than a mom who is preoccupied with the kids all day. Read Jack's answer and the first response from the deleted user. or if I can lead her back to her more feminine mindset without it coming off as "fuck your career" What's wrong with "fuck your career?" At least in its current form? Have you read How to Win Friends and Influence People? I literally just …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 09:03 PM
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I need to figure out how to game my wife The Book of Pook is a good start. Keep it in mind when you read PUA material afterwards.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 08:32 PM
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I just happened to marry a person that matches on all levels but the sexual one Beyond sex, from the interactions in your field reports, it seems that you have very low standards when it comes to relationships. I presume that your role models (parents or other caregivers) were equally dysfunctional and your self-esteem is poor. That's what therapy is for. Sex isn't the problem; if it were, then you would have reacted differently when it was off the table. If you're reluctant to go back to therap…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 08:16 PM
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So you don't need sex from her, just validation. Are you transitioning to getting validation from MRP? Or do you plan to develop a more healthy mindset? Have you tried individual therapy?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 06:48 PM
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except the sex Would you care so much about sexual frequency if there were a medical reason she couldn't have sex?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 05:45 PM
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I state that there are three options: 1. We have a fulfilling sex life together 2. Open relation one-sided 3. Divorce "So it's divorce then" is her final statement before she goes off to work. You tried to negotiate for sex. She said no. You're too focused on her. Your time in MRP is a covert contract for sex and respect. You can't fake your way through this part. So bets are on, will wife still be here a week from now, a month from now, or a year from now? Abundance mentality here is the unders…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 04:37 PM
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Empathy at the moment, then carry on as usual. Don't let a transient rant affect the rest of the evening.
/r/askMRP22/02/18 12:01 PM
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Use archive.is for those
/r/askMRP21/02/18 12:52 AM
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Good bot
/r/askMRP18/02/18 05:06 PM
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Have already considered mooted links between vasectomy and nuero degenerative disease in men The solution here is easy - take the tinfoil hat off your head and put it on your dick. It works 100% to avoid pregnancy.
/r/askMRP18/02/18 11:27 AM
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Philosophically: i’ll Pick power over pleasure. One will lead to the other but not the other way round. Do you think the possibility of unintended pregnancy makes you more powerful or less? I’m the same as you expect in this regard I would be even more risk adverse (I wouldn’t take a 1% chance). Then I'm not the right person to give you advice.
/r/askMRP18/02/18 11:26 AM
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Yes
/r/askMRP17/02/18 06:56 PM
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I am anecdotally aware of the benefits of the woman getting T of a man's load Not enough to be meaningful. All the stuff about closer relationships and lower rates of depression is association, not causation. Couples that have PIV without condoms aren't the same as couples who use them. Immune benefits probably exist, but she'd probably get more of that from giving you blowjobs. Hormonal contraceptives can make libido go up or down, YMMV. I hate condoms, and am glad that I will probably never us…
/r/askMRP16/02/18 08:24 PM
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My pleasure. Much more worthwhile than calling noobs "faggot." Your frame seems to have come a long way.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/18 05:17 PM
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wife was gaslighting me emotional affair i would accept reeking of entitlement and delusions of grandeur; but resentment? wtf? Seems pretty clear to me, but you do you.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/18 04:41 PM
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GZF about others judgement and doing exactly what I want contrary to others feeling about it That's how codependents overcompensate. The bloopers like to fantasize that the red pill is full of sociopaths, but the reality is very different. Some delude themselves into believing that they're rational masterminds, but the rational human is a myth. We're all driven by emotion and instinct; some just have better impulse control than others. You waited years after your wife's emotional affair before b…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/18 01:25 PM
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Nice FR. TFA would be proud.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/18 01:51 AM
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He handled the superficial things well - standing your ground doesn't prevent you from getting laid. It would be worthy of a field report from a noob, but he's not a noob. "Married man gets laid after Valentines day even though his wife is worried about the purchase of a kayak." This non-event stuck in his mind enough that he wanted to post. Like all good FRs, the subtext is more important than the superficial details of the interaction. I was going to link the responses he posted in TheBluePill…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 05:55 PM
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Why do you want validation from us? Worried what people will think of you? Read NMMNG.
/r/askMRP15/02/18 04:28 PM
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"I need the kayak to keep up with our son in the pool." You reek of resentment. In flow = happy wife, out flow = sad wife. Whatever, not my problem. Depends on your financial situation. Have you posted about it in OYS before? being told how I am going to spend money is a boundary You were bothered enough to post. My wife sometimes gets wound up when she sees too many zeroes on a purchase. Our financial situation is solid, so why would her anxiety make me angry? You see it as her judging and disa…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 04:06 PM
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She surprised me with Super Nibs and a funny card, since neither of us like Skittles.
/r/askMRP15/02/18 11:49 AM
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Sounds like a sensible woman - low drama. Your value to her at this point isn't high enough for her to overlook your baggage. There's no trick to it. Being in the midst of divorce is DLV. Be the prize in other respects. Be okay with her walking away.
/r/askMRP14/02/18 03:43 PM
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I think of myself as a brand (not my idea, maybe Gorilla Mindset?) It was scurvemuch.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/18 11:29 PM
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I have to actually listen to the other person in order to get what I want? Can't I just have a tantrum and make demands like a toddler? For the advanced, much of cognitive therapy followed on the principles laid out in HTWFAIP.
/r/askMRP13/02/18 07:18 PM
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Read and apply the books I mentioned. They'll give you the basic tools to stop living in everyone else's frame. Take a break from worrying about what's a shit test and what's not until you have your head straight.
/r/askMRP13/02/18 06:21 PM
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Shit tests are foreplay - your MIL was DTF. How do I control the rage of wanting to smash shit when I'm disrespected? By being your own judge. Grice's razor can also help idiots who don't understand banter. Do you even sidebar, bro? Pook, NMMNG, WISNIFG - get to work.
/r/askMRP13/02/18 05:50 PM
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/u/weakandsensitive talks about learning to cultivate passion for the things you do. That's your mission. If you define yourself with one or a handful of things, like marriage, fatherhood, work, or hobby, then you are setting yourself up for crises. Your business may fail. Your wife may cheat. Your child may die. Instead, choose to be passionate about the things you do. Stoicism, motherfuckers! In case of aspie, read disclaimer: I know that passion means something different in stoicism. It's a j…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/18 03:56 PM
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Don't give medical advice. Do you expect OP to know how to rule out all the causes of low testosterone? Examples include type 2 diabetes; cancer; HIV; cirrhosis of the liver; renal failure; hyperthyroidism or hypothyroidism; Cushing syndrome; protein-calorie malnutrition (and anorexia nervosa); morbid obesity; hemochromatosis or sickle-cell anemia; psychiatric disorders, including depressive disorders. The guy could easily be an alcoholic or on medication. Jumping on test without looking into wh…
/r/askMRP11/02/18 07:55 AM
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Low testosterone is sometimes caused by other health issues. See a competent doctor first. GP vs specialist doesn't always indicate the level of competence, but specialists in urology or endocrinology usually know more than GPs. Decide what to do after that.
/r/askMRP11/02/18 07:45 AM
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She's pregnant. I'm the baby's father.
/r/askMRP10/02/18 11:26 PM
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TL;DR: Will likes to feel understood, and weakandsensitive likes to poke people's weak spots. It's really not that interesting.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/18 11:57 AM
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DEER is a derivative of JADE. Make your statement once. Don't justify, argue, defend, or explain. I think it started with al-anon, which makes sense for MRP since codependency is such a huge theme. It's popular for families of people with personality disorders as well. Some guys have to go to extremes, never DEERing for a while until the habit is broken. Then they can learn when it's okay to do those things. In the bedroom, probably never.
/r/askMRP10/02/18 01:53 AM
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Quoting myself here, since you apparently missed it. If you establish credibility and communicate assertively, then you can state your expectations, as long as you're willing to follow through on appropriate consequences. Do you have the credibility and skill to establish and maintain a boundary about hitting? If you don't have those skills, then read NMMNG, WISNIFG, and don't DEER/JADE. This needs to happen whether you divorce her or not. He’s 4. You have any kids? They are wild Especially when…
/r/askMRP09/02/18 09:19 PM
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but her ‘parenting’ she’s trying to do is screaming at the kid If she wants advice on taking ownership of her situation, then she can make a post. You have control over only one person - yourself. You can lead by example. You can set the tone. If you establish credibility and communicate assertively, then you can state your expectations, as long as you're willing to follow through on appropriate consequences. ‘I got it I’ll handle bedtime’ The verbal communication was fine. It's the non-verbal c…
/r/askMRP09/02/18 07:47 PM
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You failed to support her assertion about bedtime, disrespecting her in front of the kid, undermining her ability to parent. It was passive aggressive and stupid parenting. You also supported mistreatment of the cat, sending a passive aggressive message about your disapproval of the pet. You were passive aggressive. She responded with physical aggression. She's the man. You're the woman. I like her already. Fuck off with the passive aggressive victim bullshit. You set the tone. She's just follow…
/r/askMRP09/02/18 05:14 PM
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That's a new definition of toxic masculinity.
/r/askMRP09/02/18 01:40 AM
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Tren sweats?
/r/askMRP09/02/18 12:13 AM
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Do you want the vacation because of your relationship? Or because you want to travel to a specific place? Fuck it - I'm not helping you until you've at least read No More Mr Nice Guy. There's no point having a discussion until you understand what a covert contract is. Read the sidebar books.
/r/askMRP08/02/18 09:57 PM
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Wait.. What? I thought /u/Rian_Stone was kidding!
/r/askMRP08/02/18 09:53 PM
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Why is she sleeping with the kids? If you want to book a vacation, then book a vacation. Arrange for the child care yourself. She can join you or not. But don't book it if it's just a covert contract.
/r/askMRP08/02/18 09:20 PM
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I get caught up not remembering it's a bluff. If it's not a bluff, and she'd be willing to divorce you over having a female trainer, then the financial losses of divorce will be worth it. Give fewer fucks.
/r/askMRP07/02/18 02:12 AM
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Good plan.
/r/askMRP06/02/18 11:50 PM
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She’s gotten asked on more then one occasion if she feels safe at home. That may have more to do with social interactions and body language than your size. Several of my close friends are your size or bigger, but those kinds of questions don't get asked. Are you cold, distant, and introverted? Or are you the mayor?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/18 10:42 PM
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"I am happy with current trainer, but my wife wants me to stop going because it makes her uncomfortable. What do I say?" You say, "no," retard. When I Say No I Feel Guilty Apply it or fuck off. Whether you should be happy with a trainer that has you at only bodyweight for bench and less than 2x for deadlift is another matter.
/r/askMRP06/02/18 10:30 PM
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It's amazing what a productive physical outlet can do for a person's mental state. For you, it's lifting. For her, it's the derby. Does she have a backup plan if she doesn't make the team? "Jesus, if you get really ripped you will be a fucking monster" I just looked at her and smirked. That's fine, but there's another way to play it. Next time, take hold of her, kiss her, flirt with her, do something. She's talking about how you make her feel - like she's with someone who has the potential to be…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/18 09:35 PM
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Any veterans with similar experiences? Yes. Most of my exes were high-IQ, very high-performing individuals who could carry on detailed conversations. There's always someone smarter, prettier, etc. My wife is smarter than average, and that works for me. She has more common sense and a far more stable personality than my exes, and I get along better with her than any other person I've met. I know that there are probably many women out there with whom I would also be compatible, much like there are…
/r/askMRP06/02/18 08:42 PM
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Next her, if not immediately, then as you work your way up the levels of dread, but next her regardless. AWALT, but not all are shitty about it and sneaking around like she is. Don't bother confronting her, just wear a condom and use her for practice. Read NMMNG and WISNIFG so your next relationships won't have so many covert contracts, and so you can learn to establish and maintain healthy boundaries.
/r/askMRP06/02/18 08:32 PM
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Who cares how many of us love their pregnant wives and how many were turned off? What difference does that make to how you feel and how you will proceed? Answer: You're a validation whore who hasn't read the sidebar prerequisites. Pregnancy is temporary. Take the focus off her and use this opportunity to get your shit together. Read the sidebar. Post in the weekly Own Your Shit thread. Are you ready right now for the kid to appear in your midst?
/r/askMRP06/02/18 07:13 PM
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Good practice, I guess. The anti-medicine thing is a bigger red flag than PMDD, and is part of the reason you should next her. How's it going to go when she develops significant illnesses as she gets older? Is she going to be able to advocate for you if you get sick and need her to make medical decisions on your behalf? Tell me you're not going to have kids with this woman.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/18 05:17 PM
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Why wait?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/18 04:32 PM
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Premenstrual dysphoric disorder affects 5% of women. There are drugs for that. Beware that SSRI's and related drugs can make it harder for her to orgasm, and drospirenone-containing oral contraceptives have a very small but non-zero risk of lowering libido and increasing the risk of blood clots. It might be worth it.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/18 03:44 PM
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It's in the readings, but not explicitly. He's gone all day. Their first interaction upon his return is a combination of how she felt about her day and about his track record. OP is erroneously thinking it's about him in that moment. Treating it like a shit test is fine to get through that moment, even though it's the bigger picture that matters. They key for OP is to not get butthurt or angry at the whims of a mom with cabin fever. These kinds of interactions usually become less frequent for an…
/r/askMRP02/02/18 01:41 PM
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If her cycle is consistent, tracking is useful for planning vacations. As you've seen, the old trope of women needing more comfort during PMS is bullshit. Most need the security and comfort of a confident partner with a solid frame. If it's PMDD then get her to see a doctor. I don't vary my approach in the bedroom based on her cycle. Her preferences for hard/soft fast/slow mutual/selfish aren't connected to her cycle. Even if they did, immersion is probably more important, and I wouldn't want to…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/18 10:34 PM
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I agree. Facebook is my wife's job.
/r/askMRP01/02/18 07:31 PM
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You found someone who tolerates your paranoia and fears your anger. It seems to suit your desires. I don't see a problem for you there, other than your inexplicable desire to know what goes on in Facebook. As far as I'm concerned, Facebook is good for certain businesses and people who live remotely from close contacts. Most people don't benefit from using it.
/r/askMRP01/02/18 04:42 PM
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EVERYBODY shits Hoping to fix that, soon. I'm aiming for 100% efficiency.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/18 07:25 PM
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Edited, thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/18 05:53 PM
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I also shit with the door closed. Must be fear.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/18 05:40 PM
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Respect for family. My wife read all my old posts. She doesn't care if I am involved going forward as long as I follow the framework that we discussed. My kids should have no connection to this. The vast majority of what is posted on reddit is horseshit. I don't want to be connected to tinfoil hat MRA crap or some of the ridiculous stuff posted by newbies. Guilt by association is more than enough in the age of #metoo. On a related note, I continue to grow less inclined to participate in most thr…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/18 03:41 PM
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he's also set expectations before he enforces this boundary Or at least he has advocated setting a boundary. EDIT: Very glad that I am upsetting fagets who want to watch their whore wives get railed by gangbangers. Please share your stories on this sub afterwards Reminds me of the wife who berates her husband because he picked the wrong restaurant or loaded the dishwasher wrong. He can do better. He has done better. Enough gossip - I can do better as well. There are some decent OYS this week.
/r/askMRP31/01/18 03:07 PM
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He's craving attention today. Needs a hug and a hit of outrage.
/r/askMRP31/01/18 01:16 PM
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HIIT running same day as lifting is fine. Lift first. Ratio is usually 2:1 or 5:2 work:active recovery. For example, one workout could be 5 minutes run, 2 minutes walk, repeat. Another day could be 30 seconds run, 15 seconds rest, repeat. HIIT is good for non-alcoholic fatty liver. Vitamin D makes a huge difference. Take your runs outside, if possible. Don't obsess about one-off testosterone levels. Reevaluate in a few months, when you're not a fat fuck.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/18 09:22 PM
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The subtle art of not giving a fuck. There's a whole book on it. currently 5' 8", 164 lbs., ~15.7% BF (calipers) Working weights are SQT: 130 lbs., Bench: 90 lbs., Deadlift: 165 lbs., OH Press: 85 lbs., Row: 110 lbs Eat at maintenance for a bit. Keep going on your linear progression program. Re-evaluate when you approach a plateau in squat and/or deadlift. However, it seems she is infertile and cannot carry. Or maybe you are. Have you had your sperm count checked? I don't want another kid At all…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/18 09:01 PM
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Your wife obviously has anxiety and other issues that you can't control. This thread is the overview of the direction you may be headed. She may turn around and come for the ride, or the marriage may end. Abundance mentality in this situation is the belief that something good will come around either way. When you've got your shit together, you'll be okay either way.
/r/askMRP30/01/18 11:23 AM
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I remember you. Is your wife still hitting you?
/r/askMRP29/01/18 11:39 PM
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Breaking old habits is a reasonable thing, especially the covert contracts. Don't be such a thirsty beta that you obsess about every missed opportunity. Sex is plentiful for attractive men. Read the Book of Pook along with WISNIFG. Move on to some PUA material so you don't have to rely only on verbal cues that women are interested. I didn't hear anything about your lifting routine and what kind of health issues and meds might be messing with both of you. Use the Navy calculator to get a rough id…
/r/askMRP29/01/18 08:02 PM
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Maybe I'm answering my own question as you probe me, but I probably just need to increase at a slower rate If your form is good, consider adding sets and/or reps. Caffeine before weight training can reduce DOMS. Whey protein immediately after exercise can attenuate the stress response. You'll need lots of protein. I wouldn't recommend keto. I'm a big fan of daily undulating periodization. If you're training 2-3x per week, you could arrange your rep ranges and intensities so they won't interfere …
/r/askMRP29/01/18 07:14 PM
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In-season weight training is typically 2-3x per week, full body. Building mass involves eating more and sleeping more. If you're gaining muscle mass, your weight class will go up. Specific programs depend on your training history, skill level, hormones and supplements, etc. Do you have previous experience with weight training?
/r/askMRP29/01/18 05:26 PM
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This response would be as effective as if anyone replied to him in mandarin or Cantonese... Pretty sure OP is ESL. Maybe Mandarin isn't such a bad idea. OP, read the sidebar prerequisite books. Lift weights. Come back with more questions when you've done that.
/r/askMRP29/01/18 04:54 PM
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I had to send her a video of the office as a proof Missed opportunity for agree and amplify. Wish you were here. Track record and dread level are the subtext. Don't be an autistic fuck by DEERing to this kind of shit. Ignore the nonsense at the time, but reflect later on how you created the interaction.
/r/askMRP29/01/18 04:11 PM
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At least you've read WISNIFG... I grew up in a religious household, so your post reminded me of the judgment of Solomon. I'm surprised that /u/BluepillProfessor didn't crack a joke about it. Now that you have some basic skills in verbally establishing boundaries, it's time to start advocating for yourself in an assertive manner. It doesn't have to be explained to her in detail. Simple statements will do, because women are generally better than men at understanding subtext. My wife’s neck suppose…
/r/askMRP29/01/18 02:23 PM
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I'm not a red piller That's clear from the amount of DEERing and counterattacking. "Avoiding clubs is a sign of insecurity" "I'm not a coward - you are!" There's no other purpose of anonymity. You lack imagination.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/18 01:45 AM
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It's all rewording of basic psychology mixed with whining and unwarranted boasting, usually related to insecurity. Interesting that you've been lurking these kinds of forums for 30 years and you still have a problem with a guy taking his girl to a club.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/18 11:48 PM
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Posted on red pill forums online since 1987 or so Prescient of them to have red pill forums over a decade before The Matrix came out. That, by the way, is how one draws a line in the sand. No, a line in the sand involves consequence for crossing it.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/18 11:17 PM
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Wow, you're a delicate flower. You should probably stick to MGTOW.
/r/askMRP27/01/18 08:27 PM
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I did not argue or engage So that wasn't a rough transcript of your argument with her? Edit: there are many ways to defuse a situation like this in front of the kids. Some examples: Her: You didn’t bother asking your sick wife if she wanted anything? Me: They ran out of chicken soup. Her: (backing away, hands raised aggressively) Oh no! It’s too late for that buddy! And (starts with loud fast something that I can’t remember, kids about six feet away) Me: Please moderate your tone or I am not hav…
/r/askMRP27/01/18 05:07 PM
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I fixed the tap from dripping but refrained from telling her till she notices Why do you give a fuck if she notices? Is fixing the taps her job?
/r/askMRP27/01/18 03:39 PM
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I need to be more like him You want to be more like a person who inspires such mixed feelings? That's fucked up. If you want to find your place, then you need to challenge your assumptions of what an alpha can look like. Go from the extreme positivity of Jack's mayor game to perpetually angry dark triad guys like vengefully_yours. Experiment to find your place. As long as you restrict yourself to such a narrow definition, you'll always be living someone else's life.
/r/askMRP27/01/18 03:22 PM
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It wasn't about the coffee, it was about your shitty track record. My wife likes Starbucks, and we have the surplus cash for it. If I happen to be near there, I'll offer to pick something up. A good captain looks for opportunities to reward the crew, not every time, but where appropriate. I thought I avoided the larger emotional argument well No. The larger argument is the point. If you don't have the frame to handle the underlying argument, then you shouldn't engage in the superficial one. In f…
/r/askMRP27/01/18 03:08 PM
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WISNIFG - it's a sidebar prerequisite. Separate issue - AA is part of cocky-funny. You're missing the funny part, which is much more important when she's hormonal.
/r/askMRP26/01/18 10:32 PM
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I was watching the E! show WWE Diva's with my wife What a colossal waste of time.
/r/askMRP26/01/18 06:54 PM
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Take control of meals, if not in terms of cooking, then at least in terms of what's on the menu Help in the kitchen by doling out the portions for your wife and yourself Identify the situations where she over-eats, and modify the environment appropriately Or maybe grow a pair and talk to her about it.
/r/askMRP26/01/18 06:52 PM
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Preselection isn't just for sexual desire. Hysterical bonding is a thing, and it's temporary. Dread can be continuous. All related, sometimes occur together, but not the same.
/r/askMRP26/01/18 12:26 AM
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Are you trying to become your father? Trying to avoid it? Or moving past it and becoming your own man?
/r/askMRP25/01/18 04:17 PM
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Thanks, Rippetoe. We'll all GOMAD now.
/r/askMRP25/01/18 11:52 AM
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I think HIIT is at best marginally effective Maybe an option for certain already fit people Most of the research is in sedentary adults. 10% increase in VO2max over 6-12 weeks - better than LISS, probably because of mitochondrial adaptations. Improved metabolic measurements at rest, such as insulin sensitivity, inflammatory markers, cardiac function, etc Several studies show similar fat loss but increased lean mass with HIIT compared to continuous training Animal studies show lower oxidative str…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/18 07:24 PM
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My wife doesn’t like my mother Not your problem. Quit getting caught up in other people's drama like a gay best friend. Their interactions are only relevant if they affect the kids. You should be emotionally unaffected.
/r/askMRP24/01/18 06:22 PM
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Similar to /u/Reach180, I think -500 kcal/day is a bit much. I'd suggest staying at TDEE or up to 250 kcal deficit while cleaning up your diet. Lift and get more sleep. Switch to HIIT now. LISS is good for your heart and other metabolic benefits, but body recomposition is easier with HIIT. I'm not a fan of IF if you're trying to get stronger, YMMV. Heavily in debt with loans, credit cards and to my in-laws. Earning more is good, but your plan here needs to be more comprehensive if you want usefu…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/18 06:16 PM
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Dr maltz even says it in his book about this was the greatest discovery but he never went mainstream with it because of the out cry other doctors would have Marketing ploy. That doesn't discount the value in the content, but it's useful to recognize when you're being played.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/18 02:02 AM
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You're right, maybe it doesn't belong in this sub. This post and the recent one from /u/Alpha_Engineer99 can be easily applied in sexual strategy. They are simple changes in mindset that can be immediately applied in a concrete way to a MAP. I see the connection. You see the connection. The key is to make the connection for the reader. One example would do. A guy who's in the throes of the anger phase, just got rejected for the 10th time in a row, and is worrying about whether the kids heard his…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/18 12:41 AM
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Because you're already an old fart, laughing at the new guys.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/18 12:28 AM
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A comment that you're going to comment - obviously a reminder to yourself to respond when you have time, but funny nonetheless. Which link? The one on ego death? Are you gonna drop acid first?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/18 10:04 PM
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Which concept do you believe has been converted to "STFU and listen to the flaired guys," "kill your ego" I'd rephrase as frequently misinterpreted rather than converted, since it's often used in response to a newbie who starts arguing. Or just avoid having it evolve into a self-help-group-for-anything-other-than-sex? Not a mod, but /u/bogeyd6, /u/weakandsensitive, and /u/Rian_Stone remove half the stuff posted in marriedredpill for being off topic or shitty. I like some of the off-topic posts. …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/18 09:51 PM
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Ego death Not sure how noobs converted the concept into "STFU and listen to the flaired guys." That's not what it means, although the flaired guys may be identifying something that can help you to kill the false impression you carry of your own attractiveness. Alpha engineer got subtle hints from Bogey and I on his recent post that you need to keep posts relevant to rule zero. It wouldn't be hard to work in some stuff about the worthlessness of self-reported SMV's like this guy. You could even w…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/18 07:49 PM
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That's your one victim puke. Get to the weekly Own Your Shit thread. Post your plans there.
/r/askMRP23/01/18 04:31 PM
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Not really interested in what the majority do, more interested in the guys who have their shit together, like weakandsensitive, jacktenofhearts, thefamilyalpha, etc.
/r/askMRP22/01/18 09:38 PM
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But I dare you to find anyone on this sub who would argue otherwise - that one can have better sex under the constraints of marriage. Right here, and it has nothing to do with the legal contract. The novelty of spinning plates wore off after a few years. Sex with my wife was better, and keeps getting better after almost 2 decades.
/r/askMRP22/01/18 05:37 PM
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Spinning Plates Will Always Give You Greater Pleasure Than Monogamy Not for me. It's not monogamy itself, but all the enhancements of sex and relationships with someone who knows what makes you tick. For me, LTR sex is the best sex. To each his own.
/r/askMRP22/01/18 04:53 PM
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"MRP, what do I want?" Fuck off.
/r/askMRP22/01/18 04:32 PM
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If you're such a success, and so attractive by society's publicly accepted standards, then why so insecure? This question applies whether you're a troll or if you're legit and just buried the lede.
/r/askMRP22/01/18 02:43 PM
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Yeah, MRP strategies suck when there are covert contracts and you're not executing your own vision.
/r/askMRP22/01/18 02:18 PM
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+1 Sends the appropriate message without discouraging her honesty.
/r/askMRP22/01/18 02:17 PM
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I needed to get in between her legs It's good that she tolerates your autism. This is a wife who probably just needs a more attractive partner. It's definitely the kind of woman with whom you make changes slowly. Your line could work if whispered in her ear at a party or other situation where you want to remind her how much she likes having sex with you, but it only works if she likes having sex with you and doesn't have anxiety about it. Being more attractive is key. It could also work as you'r…
/r/askMRP22/01/18 01:17 PM
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It's like being asked to hold your wife's purse. If you are in position to be asked to hold her purse, you've failed. I like this.
/r/askMRP21/01/18 06:32 AM
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Women over time wear down their husbands Get rid of that victim bullshit.
/r/askMRP19/01/18 08:31 PM
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I can't remember if we eventually ate the peas or if we threw out the bag. I hope it was the latter...
/r/askMRP19/01/18 08:25 PM
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Add that little bit of kino during the day Talk to one more person Add one rep in the gym All easy things A nice and simple post.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/18 05:37 PM
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Don't tell her. Aside from how unrealistic it would be for her to not notice the bruising, this advice is anti-red pill. When I Say No I Feel Guilty is a prerequisite. I suggest that you read it before posting any more of your bullshit.
/r/askMRP19/01/18 04:46 PM
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I'd look at suitability as a co-parent separately from suitability for marriage. Some women would be good at one and not the other. Same goes for men.
/r/askMRP19/01/18 04:27 PM
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So back to the question, is it possible to have a long, happy marriage if you keep frame and choose a suitable partner? It's possible, but not probable, especially for someone who needs to ask that question. For the vast majority of men, marriage would be stupid. It's a financial and legal arrangement with substantial risk. In my case, I've enjoyed at least $50,000 tax savings in addition to smaller savings on insurance and other costs. There have also been social benefits and simplified paperwo…
/r/askMRP19/01/18 04:19 PM
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5 sets of 5 reps is the way it's programmed. If it feels like low volume (not enough sets and reps), you can do something like one of n-suns LP programs /r/nSuns, or a beginner Sheiko routine if you have access to a coach who can point out your weak spots. /r/weightroom, /r/powerlifting, and the /r/fitness sidebar would be better resources than TRP or MRP. my deadlift weight is higher than my squat weight. Is this a expected and/or just indicative of my physiology It's normal. Read the "how to" …
/r/askMRP19/01/18 12:06 PM
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Your post is bad, and you should feel bad. Become an emotionally safe person for her. Be her rock Pook, surfing the waves of her emotions. That's fine. Provide as little emotional intimacy in the course of everyday life as possible Contradicting yourself a bit, probably to emphasize that you're totally red pill. "Hey babe, I've been so busy lately, we really need to catch up together." No. Acta non verba. Women know when you're fully present. Almost your entire post could be replaced by that con…
/r/askMRP18/01/18 10:38 PM
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if after 3 months smoke free I still have issues, I will force the T-Test or as other suggested get it done when I am in the US for work. The blood work is covered in your province.
/r/askMRP18/01/18 10:12 PM
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MRP is not as restrictive as TRP on this. You can link to subreddits and websites. But for websites, archives are usually preferred.
/r/askMRP18/01/18 05:29 PM
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Love that socialist medicine eh? No, either his doctor didn't read the Canadian guidelines, or /u/CasperTFG_808 was being an ineffectual pussy and asked for permission instead of assertively stating that he wanted the test. Asked my MD about a Testosterone test and MD was against it WISNIFG - "I want my meat!" (to work again, with the assistance of testosterone)
/r/askMRP18/01/18 05:07 PM
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Good examples from /u/rocknrollchuck Moving forward: /r/gainit Re-read Pook. Get your bioavailable testosterone checked. Any health issues or meds for either of you? Experience with therapy? What's the standard by which you're judging your sex life as unacceptable? Other than frequency, what are the issues? Are you otherwise happy with the relationship? Are you willing to walk away if it doesn't meet your needs?
/r/askMRP17/01/18 11:52 PM
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It's like any other form of escapism. I'm not really anti-masturbation, in general. I just have better things to do with my time, and would rather share my sexuality with my wife instead of my hand.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/18 09:01 PM
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Ego protection. Dude got triggered hard enough that this was his first post. If anyone needs a hiatus from porn, it's someone like that.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/18 07:41 PM
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Username checks out.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/18 06:51 PM
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This post is good for the guys who jerk it to porn by themselves. It's mentally lazy. It's pathetic escapism. It's something that keeps your life the same, rather than making it better. If you need porn to jerk off, then you don't need to jerk off. It has addictive properties and is a lame habit, but it's not the bogeyman. Occasionally looking at porn isn't a big deal for many, especially if it's an open thing with sexual partners. There was even a study that showed lifting performance improved …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/18 06:50 PM
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the ladder Do you want to move up? Why? Or does your job suit your purposes? I quit a national leadership position in my field last year, and I couldn't be happier with that decision. It could have been a springboard to bigger things, but it wasn't my vision. /u/Rollo-Tomassi and others in the manosphere talk about the sheep who follow the paradigm of dating with serial monogamy, marriage, and children because that's what's expected. That's one of society's visions of a complete life. "You're fi…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/18 05:48 PM
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I’m building and looking forward to achieving a true OI frame It's possible, but not if the entire MAP is a covert contract for sex with your wife. I am not deploying Dread That's a nice illustration of the "one simple trick" comment I made before. Dread, as a long-term strategy in LTR, is a byproduct of being an attractive man with options, not a trick to get more sex. It's not something you do to her in order to achieve an outcome. SL session yesterday (1/15/18) was Squat 185, Bench 135, Row 9…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/18 04:57 PM
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It's a bot, perhaps a plot by sinister mods in here. Your game is lame, you have no frame, if all you do is DEER. /u/weakandsensitive, that bot's a keeper. OP, why do you give a fuck what strangers on the internet think? If your frame is that weak, then how will you withstand the whims of your wife? Especially with alcohol involved?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/18 03:34 PM
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Nose is one potential area for surgery It's one of those weird contradictions in medicine. If your nose is clear and you apply nose clips, you'll have sleep apnea that night. But if you have sleep apnea and a plugged nose, clearing your nose probably won't fix it. Pain started when I went to 120 pushups a day. I don't do more than 60-70 in a session partly for the same reason. They're also too easy, and a cop-out for when I should have been doing incline and dumbbell work.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/18 06:39 PM
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Why so intent to interpret it as a personal attack rather than self-disclosure that she was aware of the problem yet took no action? Have you read NMMNG?
/r/askMRP16/01/18 05:03 PM
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Stop taking her feelz so personally. It's not a correction, but the random musings of a procrastinator who didn't prioritize those minor issues. It's worthy of AM, AA, but not butthurt. If she seriously gave a fuck about the lightbulb, she could have changed it herself. Same goes for the expired food.
/r/askMRP16/01/18 05:01 PM
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surgical options have a 50% success rate or less 50% is best case from clinical trials. Real world is even worse. Uvulopalatopharyngoplasty also makes food go up your nose when you swallow. No didgeridoo? How about singing? Obviously no sedatives or alcohol, drop body fat, keep your nose clear. Beyond that, you're right that there's not much available right now other than CPAP. elbows Lots of hammer curls, more row than bench. I'd suggest that some of your rowing should be with dumbbells. You ma…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/18 03:40 PM
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My Secret Garden Enjoyed it in my early teens. It's an easy read. It's not a group of suggestions - more about helping people to realize that some women fantasize in a vivid, male-like fashion. It's not a surprise these days, with PornHub's search stats reaching mainstream news every year. Your toy suggestion is a good one. Or maybe his wife would like some MMF or tentacle porn... what she’s really saying is she wants to fuck somebody else Unfortunately, OP's losing it.
/r/askMRP16/01/18 03:27 AM
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you could be hitting all these descriptors (by these definitions I'm at 5) Ego protection, much like your need to post those photos. The sidebar books for DL1 address covert contracts. If you haven't mastered that basic issue, then you're still at DL1.
/r/askMRP15/01/18 08:59 PM
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I lost my OI last night. Took the fam out for a nice dinner, wife was fun and flirty, everything was coming up aces. I get the kids into bed early Then she decides to stay up and finger fuck her phone. Falls asleep on the couch. I go to bed, butt hurt. She comes in an hour later asking what's wrong, and true to form, I can't escape the conversation cuz I'm in bed. I go mini-Rambo and end up having to discuss our shitty sex life and her feelings for two hours. I did my best to fog and deflect, bu…
/r/askMRP15/01/18 02:54 PM
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about ready to walk here, and be every other weekend dad You're already an every other weekend dad. With your work hours, you're nothing but a paycheck. MRP is full of military, doctors, traveling salesman, and workaholics for this reason. WISNIFG has tools for setting limits at work as well as at home. When you are at home, you need to be 100% present. I don't understand her income situation. Has something changed from 2 years ago when jacktenofhearts gave you advice about it?
/r/askMRP15/01/18 02:15 PM
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doesn’t that mean that by pushing me to rediscover my own frame, that I am submitting to her? No.
/r/askMRP15/01/18 02:06 PM
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Floppylobster He sent me a couple of PM's for advice - said he was planning to lift, read, and STFU going forward. He probably should have started with that. Time will tell if he gets his shit together, though I suspect he would come back with a new username.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/18 12:18 PM
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RemindMe! 4 days "Is sirenigmagiraffe looking for one easy trick for rock hard abs, or does he truly want to get his shit together?"
/r/askMRP13/01/18 10:28 PM
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stop giving a fuck about what some idiot said yesterday Did you just call yourself an idiot? That's my job!
/r/askMRP13/01/18 09:23 PM
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I’ll say my SMV is a 7 With those lifts, I doubt it, but maybe you have a pretty face. If you're a 7, then you must get lots of IOI's from random women, not just those two affectionate ones. I’m going to lose 20 lbs in the next 6 months 7/10 but you plan to lose 20 lbs? That does not compute. What's your body fat percentage with the Navy calculator, calipers, or DEXA? More importantly, what's your plan to lose weight? Sinclair Method Why? If you just happen to enjoy socializing with a beer, then…
/r/askMRP13/01/18 09:21 PM
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With a dick that most women would call average. OP spends way too much time masturbating, mentally and physically. He's a delusional fuck who has shown no sign of reading the sidebar books.
/r/askMRP13/01/18 08:45 PM
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Finish NMMNG, then move on to WISNIFG and Pook. You need a solid foundation. Everything else flows from your mindset.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/18 08:35 PM
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Have some hormone and adrenal gland issues that are being attended to Diagnosed by a naturopath or an MD? Reevaluate that stuff after 90 days without booze and pot. Now that I look back, I may not have vetted as well as I should Too much focus on her. Alpha Widow Too much focus on the ex. now reading NMMNG WISNIFG and Pook will be next.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/18 04:32 PM
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Insecurity. If you can't handle that she notices attractive guys, then either gouge her eyes out or find a woman with low sex drive.
/r/askMRP12/01/18 09:55 PM
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You're right. As Mr. Garrison said, "There are no stupid questions, just stupid people."
/r/askMRP11/01/18 07:46 PM
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I thought about starting a weekly "stupid questions" thread for shitposts and giggles, but most askMRP posts are already stupid questions.
/r/askMRP11/01/18 07:25 PM
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Only if she's into pegging.
/r/askMRP11/01/18 07:22 PM
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That depends - what's her love language? Be sure to talk to ask far in advance what chores you can do in exchange for the BJ.
/r/askMRP11/01/18 07:10 PM
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I've tilted at that windmill before. I'm not a fan of SL myself, but most of the guys here had never touched a barbell and won't read SS. The good part of SS in my amateur opinion is the instruction on reasonable technique, not necessarily the programming or nutrition. 45 minutes 3x/week with no thought required has gotten many guys here into the gym. After a few weeks of learning to enjoy lifting and developing the habit, many of them start to learn more. The average middle-aged skinny fat dude…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/18 06:32 PM
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good parenting books. Everything I find is filled up with utter shit or unusable principles like "the day I stopped saying 'hurry up' to my kid". Yeah right, you didn't work, lived 500km from the nearest city and could tutor at home. That frame sucks. "How do I get my kid to do what I want, when I want?" No parenting book will tell you to be a short-sighted authoritarian. How about "How do I facilitate or lead my child to navigate this situation in a better way?" You're supposed to be raising th…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/18 06:11 PM
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Even more relevant when she's actually a rape victim, or has sexual shame from religion or other crap, like in this OP. Plus, doing a bunch a random shit out of the blue isn't going to sit well with most women unless it's framed the right way.
/r/askMRP10/01/18 06:02 PM
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"Everyday would be a nice start" You blew it with that last line. Stop negotiating for blowjobs.You turned an opportunity to get her excited about improving her skills into a negative experience. Your affair partner didn't intuit her bedroom moves - she learned incrementally from feedback received from all the guys she fucked and sucked before you. Learn to communicate what you want during sex, verbally and especially non-verbally. Kids What books are you reading on parenting?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/18 04:19 PM
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I'm tempted to gild this post. I would have if it had more details on your plan to address these issues, like content from WISNIFG, the philosophy of stoicism, or mindfulness. Those can be done in parallel with therapy, and they don't depend on the quality of the therapist.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/18 12:28 PM
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From the glossary: Beta – Traits of provision: either providing resources or validation to others, women (and perhaps men). Beta traits display low value to women if they are are put on too strong or too early in meeting- giving without equity. Beta can be used to describe individual behaviors, as well as people who have an overwhelming amount of beta properties (opposed to alpha).
/r/askMRP09/01/18 12:21 PM
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and I fucking love snatch Well done
/r/askMRP08/01/18 09:54 PM
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This post isn't for day 1 of MRP, but after a few months of lifting, leading, and owning your shit. Most of the guys who come here are the source of their own dissatisfaction. That's one of the purposes of the OYS threads. For most, it's only after a few months that he'll calm down and figure out if it's time to next his wife.
/r/askMRP08/01/18 04:56 PM
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If my kids want to eat something different, they have to help to prepare it. I sympathize with his wife. Having toddlers is tough.
/r/askMRP08/01/18 04:17 PM
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I'm feeling it's more my ego that wants to be a macho man and confront him Yep. There will always be another guy showing interest. He's not the problem. Your wife will be as shitty as you allow her to be. Are you going to follow through with your stated consequence if she doesn't respect the boundary? For some women, straight talk is a last resort. Your wife doesn't work that way - openly talking to this guy is her ultimatum to you. Man up. If you don't, the next woman will do the same thing.
/r/askMRP08/01/18 03:06 AM
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Thanks for that, but I didn't need more proof to support my statements.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/18 09:12 PM
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I believe that if a woman hits a man, she should expect to be hit back What about a child? A cripple? What about someone who was provoked by things that you obviously have omitted from your OP? I call people retards on here, usually to test their frame, but you might actually be retarded, and you have no frame. You're an impulsive imbecile. I'm sure you came from an abusive family, and there are all sorts of reasons for your behavior, but it doesn't really matter. In the end, you need to calm do…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/18 05:25 PM
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Glanced at post history. He asked a similar question 4 months ago, probably about a different girl. No sign of reading sidebar books. I'd guess he's in his teens, and LTR is measured in weeks and months. OP, read The Book of Pook, When I Say No I Feel Guilty, and No More Mr Nice Guy. If that's too much work for you, then go back to askTRP and keep making the same mistakes until you've fucked about 10 more girls.
/r/askMRP07/01/18 01:05 PM
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The other angle is to make her feel that she inspired that lust.
/r/askMRP07/01/18 12:06 AM
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The Coolidge effect is a shorter refractory period when presented with a new partner. It's not all the other stuff. A successful marriage (with children) is always touted as the end-game Nope. Rule zero. does the Coolidge Effect get in the way When my wife is ready for round two before I am, yes. If I cared, I might take cabergoline. If I want to fuck in the first few minutes after orgasm, before my body is ready, I work on her pleasure until I'm ready to go.
/r/askMRP06/01/18 09:35 PM
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If someone pointing that out makes you insecure then you need to work on yourself. What are you on about? Top 1% isn’t particularly hard to achieve within a year of hard work. Depends on your starting point. I've got similar BF% and FFMI to you, and I consider myself to be small. I don't think I'm in the top 1%, but our social circles are likely different. how I could have come out of this situation on top while checking her Easy - stop being a defensive retard living in everyone's frame but you…
/r/askMRP06/01/18 06:58 PM
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Apparently your SO is less impressed with your body than you are. She probably likes bigger guys. We see this with newbies all the time. It's her impression of SMV that determines her behavior. Nobody gives a fuck how hot you think you are. She followed your lead with the disrespect. Model the behavior you want to see from the people around you. In other words, lead by example. Want me to send you dick pics too? Fuck off retard. Please do, in this thread, with your username written on it with a …
/r/askMRP06/01/18 04:17 PM
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If you shoot a load unshielded, guess what’s in the goo There isn't enough testosterone in semen or saliva to have an impact, despite what Athol Kay might have said.
/r/askMRP04/01/18 02:29 PM
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The increase in sex is likely due to the overall changes having normal T levels gives men. Yep, behavioral and physical. Female attraction to high-T is the reason testosterone is such a huge topic in the red pill. There are decades of research on this in the psychology literature. Maybe if /u/thowaway69283 uses testosterone long enough, he'll stop being a faggot with a throwaway account.
/r/askMRP04/01/18 02:28 PM
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Dinner dates aren't worth the babysitting for her. Action dates are better. A decent litmus test is how the story of the date will affect her position in the female social matrix. "So how was your night out with foxshit?" "We ate dinner." It needs to be something more compelling than that. Alternatively, if it must just be dinner, then you need to be more attractive both physically and mentally. As a more general point, date night sucks. Every night is date night when your partner is interesting…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/18 12:40 PM
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Salary is better (but ultimately a wash) Doesn't matter, beyond a certain threshold. Sounds like you made a good decision and could make further lateral moves because of the relationships you've forged. daycare Social interactions are learned through experience. Daycare is great in this regard. The fact that you haven't screened for only the best-behaved playmates is the most important part of it. Kids who have been to daycare have a much easier adjustment to school later on. They also get some …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/18 03:59 PM
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If you have to ask this question, then the answer is no.
/r/askMRP02/01/18 03:41 PM
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Because dinner should be at 5:30 goddammit!
/r/askMRP31/12/17 09:49 PM
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I always really like a few beers and to listen to music before I get on the wine On a cut? You can't out-lift a bad diet. I also vape Competitively and for social reasons? Or because you are a faggot? I think this is all about frame And a touch of OCD. She on the other hand had very clearly asked me what time I wanted to eat and reminded me of this Now she is crying and calling me a cunt. You failed to be assertive. You are a cunt. You answered your own question in the post. Read WISNIFG and pra…
/r/askMRP31/12/17 09:06 PM
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Enough with the porn. Consuming is already a time waster, but responding to porn posts is the worst example of Omega escapism I have ever seen in this sub. Have you posted in the OYS threads yet? Have you read the sidebar yet? Are you lifting? Or just walking the dog and jerking off slightly faster? Every time you would normally engage in escapist bullshit, do a set of push-ups or pull-ups. The door frame pull-up bars are cheap. Get to work.
/r/askMRP31/12/17 02:20 AM
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Why are you afraid of reading a book? Why not read it, form your own opinions on it, and leach everything useful from it?
/r/askMRP30/12/17 01:52 PM
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Impressive. Why so inspired by such a mess of an OP? Been reading jacktenofhearts stuff lately?
/r/askMRP30/12/17 11:48 AM
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I've tried logically explaining how it a not feasible to move back as there are no jobs in my field that pay enough Framed yourself as a victim. She'll see it as a tragedy instead of an opportunity. not to mention I have zero desire to ever come back The reason that matters.
/r/askMRP29/12/17 04:25 AM
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You responded to the wrong guy. I haven’t looked at the pic Then why did you feel compelled to chime in? Glancing at your post history, it seems like you've been lifting for a while, and clearly natty. Reading the post by /u/Nec_sorte_Nec_fato and the response by /u/Reach180, your experience would probably be more useful on the discussion of recomp strategies, since he seems to be aiming for increased muscle mass right now. I'm partial to mini bulk and cut of no more than 4-12 weeks at a time. W…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/17 03:24 PM
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LOL - made the mistake of looking at his post history I'm convinced that with a lot of physical activity plus correct stretchings you can increase your height from 3 to 5 cm He does "bodybuilding," but doesn't squat. Probably thinks it will make him shorter.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/17 02:51 PM
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The kids learned disrespect by the example set by you and your wife. When you read WISNIFG, think about the example interactions from both perspectives, not just the protagonists of each scenario. You need this whether you divorce or stay married. You think divorce will fuck up your kids, but you're fucking up your kids right now.
/r/askMRP28/12/17 02:08 PM
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The cheating... maybe she was just trying different organ donors.. looking for a match. That's some weird satire.
/r/askMRP27/12/17 01:28 PM
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+1 If she associates kino with always initiating sex, then kino without escalation or with lots of push/pull can be very useful to get her guard down. Women like the idea that sex "just happened." Being blunt, predictable, and unattractive is a turn-off, and can even be upsetting for women. Kino, flirt, walk away. If she escalates, then continue push/pull. If she overtly initiates, and you're up for it, don't reject her. Let her have sex with you if she wants it. If nothing happens, then back of…
/r/askMRP26/12/17 10:02 PM
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Admin is unavoidable when you are in charge of something. I cut out a bunch of titled roles and leadership positions over the past three years - much happier managing a handful of areas that I care about.
/r/askMRP26/12/17 06:27 PM
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I don't know how you do so much admin. I'd go nuts having to work with guys like OP.
/r/askMRP26/12/17 06:17 PM
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Seriously you sound like a woman It could very well be a woman trolling the sub.
/r/askMRP26/12/17 02:55 PM
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What value does he bring, other than a paycheck?
/r/askMRP26/12/17 01:46 PM
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Top .1% of income so my family never wanted for anything. I did feel that this entitled me to sex and respect. I do not care that she wasn't attracted to me I thought most MD's knew the difference between prostitutes and wives. And most MBA's would recognize that prostitutes are cheaper in your income bracket. If you would have told me I would have a six pack in my 50's I'd have been floored Pics or didn't happen. It's at the point where the joy of seeing her disappointed of being denied sex is …
/r/askMRP26/12/17 12:41 PM
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TL;DR: I think my wife's an idiot and can't see through me. Edit: You're absent a lot. Have you noticed the disproportionate number of active duty military, doctors, guys who travel for work, and other absent husbands here? One of /u/bogeyd6's catchphrases used to be that the grass is greener where you water it.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/12/17 05:56 PM
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Too much of your focus is on her. You have become needy - an emotional vampire. Can you become a person who gives her energy? If you're not ready to be that guy today, then get back to level 1, and work your way up no faster than a month per level. It sounds like your relationship was different before. I wonder what happened.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/12/17 11:50 AM
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Took a while of wondering where my comments had disappeared to before I realized how often this happens. The combination of bogey, stoney, and weakandsensitive means that you don't even see half of what gets posted in MRP. They do a good job maintaining the quality.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/17 05:27 PM
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My SMV is higher than hers to begin with Irrational self-confidence is sometimes useful, but it's her estimation of SMV that matters. If you split today, which of you would have more admirers ready to fuck by the end of the week? I had a second glass of B+B, were talking .04 blood alcohol tops, and she told me not to drink it. I was firm, said no, I want this. She brought it up again a few minutes later in front of 8 family members and my Mom chimed in, too. Shitty track record omitted. There's …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/17 04:34 PM
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LOL Hopefully he'll be sensible and keep them submaximal
/r/askMRP23/12/17 11:00 PM
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you should master the diamond pushup before going into the dip /r/bodyweightfitness does a lot of /r/gatekeeping "cheating" on the dips and using that machine That's not cheating - it's appropriate loading.
/r/askMRP23/12/17 07:18 PM
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Planking side planks can help with thoracic spine scoliosis, even in adults. 3x9 push-ups Push-ups apply compressive forces to the spine. Dips don't. I'm not saying not to do push-ups at all, but dips are a great chest and arm workout. I think bench with a good setup is easier on the spine than push-ups, but that's just me. Gant was doing very high volume, submaximal work. Getting deadlift to 10+ sets of 5 per session would take a while. He did it to help his back.
/r/askMRP23/12/17 05:35 PM
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My doctor AND PT both specifically forbid me to lift weights. I have 3 separate medical conditions on my back (scoliosis, Lordosis and Kyphosis) and lifting weights is dangerous for me GP, neurologist, and chiropractor all said the same to me. Today is front squats, conventional deadlift, bench, and pull-ups. I keep upper back volume 1.5-2x chest volume and do lots of submaximal deadlifts. It's the only thing that keeps me pain-free. Lamar Gant was one of the greatest powerlifters of all time. I…
/r/askMRP23/12/17 04:10 PM
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Sounds like mindfulness. Those techniques went from deliberate effort as a kid to the occasional few seconds of mental redirection as an adult. These days I'd probably do something like build a shelf or go to the park with the kids. Whatever works. Nice timing with the new job, creating a true Christmas break with your daughter.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/17 02:58 PM
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Let's say she gets sick tomorrow and is physically incapable of having sex for a few months. She's still home, otherwise the same person, but the equipment just isn't working. Are you still going to be this angry? Probably not. So what is it that you are depending on her for? Validation? Sleep more. Work through the anger phase. Counting sex sessions isn't going to help with that - you'll end up initiating and feeling rejected for the wrong reasons. It's a marathon, not a sprint. Take the focus …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/17 02:07 PM
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This post is a good example of abundance mentality. getting a third party to rent it versus doing it yourself Friends and family in both USA and Canada who used third parties gave up and either sold the property or started renting it out themselves after a few years. Most of the ones who started by doing it themselves stuck with it. It's always going to be case by case. Obviously the big players who live remotely will hire people to maintain and rent out the properties, but it sounds like you're…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/17 01:58 PM
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One knee or both? Achy? Or is it, "Oh fuck, I've done something terribly wrong!" Any swelling or history of knee injury? Locking? It's probably not a flexibility issue. If it's an ache the next day, it's less likely to be a major knee problem. Simple things like hip shift or other form issues are common. Try the basic stuff. If that doesn't improve it, then get seen by someone who knows how to assess a knee.
/r/askMRP23/12/17 12:23 PM
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I can't top that. You win.
/r/askMRP22/12/17 08:28 PM
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Same answer to your last post. Stop being a lazy fuck. Read the sidebar.
/r/askMRP22/12/17 08:24 PM
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raid the kids toybox for some temporary tattoos I like this. I'm doing it tonight.
/r/askMRP22/12/17 08:20 PM
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Maybe your wife just wants to fuck the archetypal "guy who has tattoos" Vegan food blogger?
/r/askMRP22/12/17 08:19 PM
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It's amazing, bloopers and MGTOW's are indistinguishable. I don't mean the real MGTOWs with high n-counts who got tired of the game, I mean the keyboard warriors. Your trolling keeps you miserable. That little dopamine high just drives more trolling, never leaving you satisfied. "The whites" and the women aren't your problem. Get some therapy, kid.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/17 11:47 AM
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Newbies don't get comfort tests. I'll be charitable and say that maybe it was a shitty comfort test. This thread explains the ideas behind it.
/r/askMRP22/12/17 11:41 AM
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Examples are redirection, withdrawal from the interaction, containment, or mitigation of the offending behavior. There are things that you chose not to allow in your life. Whether the other person is rewarded, punished, or neutral about it doesn't matter unless you're trying to modify their behavior or achieve something other than maintaining the boundary. An extreme example is a crazy person threatening you on the street. We've all been there. How did you maintain an appropriate boundary that t…
/r/askMRP21/12/17 10:55 PM
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Troll or not, you're a passive aggressive retard. The solution is lifting. Find your bench 1RM. Practice unracking and re-racking your 1RM with a spotter. From that weight, add 30 lbs to the bar, and do a set of bench press without a spotter. Your son will then have enough money to buy a new car if your wife steals the old one.
/r/askMRP21/12/17 10:01 PM
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Boundaries need consequences, but that doesn't necessarily mean punishment. Boundaries are to protect you, not to change others. The newbs are getting caught up in the idea that withdrawal of attention and other consequences have to be meaningful to the wife. They don't. The consequences only need to be effective at maintaining the boundary.
/r/askMRP21/12/17 08:49 PM
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It's a good reminder. The meat is near the bottom of the thread. Things really fall into place when you stop worrying about power dynamics and passing tests.
/r/askMRP21/12/17 01:16 PM
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Seems kind of trivial compared to what I'm used to from you This is an improvement in terms of ego and frame, but still tit for tat. Reread the entire linked thread, especially the stuff about phases 1-3. Keep practicing skills from WISNIFG. Incorporate the philosophy and practices of stoicism.
/r/askMRP21/12/17 11:27 AM
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And that's why you're here.
/r/askMRP21/12/17 04:03 AM
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in the heat of the moment There is no "heat of the moment" unless you allow yourself to get sucked into it.
/r/askMRP21/12/17 02:00 AM
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Sometimes picking up the screaming wife is the right thing to do, especially when she's acting up in front of the kid.
/r/askMRP20/12/17 09:48 PM
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Read the whole thread. NMMNG, WISNIFG, and the philosophy of stoicism are a start. Placating enables shitty behavior. Establish boundary. If she crosses it, then withdraw attention. If she continues, then withdraw commitment. She can't act like that toward you with the kid present. Demonstrate the behavior you want from her, leading by example. If she can't follow, then you need more time alone with the kid and less time with the three of you together. That may mean divorce.
/r/askMRP20/12/17 09:35 PM
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I've got nothing useful for analysis paralysis - it's too foreign. Reading about it seems to be largely fruitless, since most of the advice includes more analysis. Your plea for irrational self-confidence makes sense for guys with this issue.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/17 08:09 PM
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Those trap bars look funny, but there are definitely some advantages. Accepting the fear of the unknown on the other side once the wife is gone? Abundance mentality isn't the same as plenty of fish in the sea when a relationship is ending. That idea is only a small part of it. Abundance mentality is the mindset that good things will come around.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/17 07:25 PM
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A real sense of self, an honest one, doesn't evolve over night by reading a bunch of books and following mantras. It requires safety, trust and understanding. This is where I disagree with Mrp Lurk more.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/17 06:09 PM
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LOL - that's going to go over the heads of most posters here. You claim to be ESL, but your reading comprehension is better than most. You'd probably enjoy going through the post histories of /u/jacktenofhearts (everything) and /u/weakandsensitive (sort results by Top instead of Recent or Hot). The Family Alpha's blog suits your tone, and is worth checking out. He's a smart kid, but motivational speeches aren't everyone's cup of tea, so you can decide for yourself. The weekly Own Your Shit post …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/17 04:46 PM
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Mobile keyboards are no different in this respect. Hit Enter twice to divide into paragraphs.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/17 12:32 PM
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I suspect you're gonna get ripped up a little It's the opening. If he had just linked your post on the problems with defaulting to a negative view of women, he could have expected a better reception. People are going to ignore the rest. TFA's subreddit ended and /r/RealAlpha was garbage, so he's homeless. I'm not sure if leaving this post was an act of charity or cruelty.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/17 04:15 AM
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Well, she might be much smarter than I have thought when it comes to relations TFW you realize that you were the problem from day 1.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/17 03:00 PM
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I still don't know, what the hell is DEERing? My google-fu is also weak apparently. It's JADE from al-anon. Most of the stuff you read about it reeks of the victim mentality, so I think MRP is better off with the elusive DEER.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/17 02:57 PM
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MRP tools help you to avoid getting sucked in to pointless or counterproductive arguments, not to avoid disagreements or always have consensus.
/r/askMRP19/12/17 12:17 PM
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6 months is still the honeymoon phase, and the fact that it was an affair is what made it so compelling for you. Your next OYS post needs to be about your habit of escapism, and how you are working on being present.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/17 12:51 PM
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You're right, Masters and Johnson referred to it as the squeeze technique. After a few decades, I remembered the gist but not the wording. I blame Seinfeld and senility.
/r/askMRP17/12/17 02:08 PM
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you are here looking for tips to improve her pleasure If it's not to the exclusion of his own pleasure, then it's in keeping with rule zero.
/r/askMRP17/12/17 12:25 PM
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Daniel Rose released some videos along with SGM - those tips were in there. There's nothing much in them beyond what you've said. There are better tips buried in MRP threads.
/r/askMRP17/12/17 12:22 PM
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Essentially I set the expectation / boundary that my wife will keep her promises That's not establishing a boundary. That's negotiating for sub-par sex and trying to get out of gaming your wife each time. Gaming your wife is supposed to be fun. If you can't be bothered, then delete your red pill account and jerk off to porn every day. Promises of sex are bullshit. They are for entertainment purposes, or to take stock of what had gotten her thinking about sex in the first place. They have absolut…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/17 06:39 PM
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Easiest start is to let out the moaning and other noises, and to share the stream of consciousness. It has to be congruent with your thoughts and emotions. Some of the lamer stuff in SGM would sound weird if you said it. But when she does that thing you like, then you tell her how fucking hot she is when she does that thing. Make her feel good about making you feel good. Make her feel good about the passion that she inspires in that moment. It's the positive feedback she needs to make sex better…
/r/askMRP14/12/17 09:38 PM
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He has become so attractive that she can't bear the thought of fucking him. Fat girls being too intimidated to approach hot guys in bars means that the fat girl will reject the hot guy, even if he clearly wants her. All those girls I plated with lower SMV - the ones who so enthusiastically accepted all my bullshit - they were the exceptions to the rule.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/17 09:26 PM
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Don't track Scorekeeping in relationships is the key to happiness. Narcissists do it all the time, and look how happy they are. I counted every diaper that I changed when the kids were born, and will be asking them to compensate me for my efforts. I want what's owed to me.
/r/askMRP14/12/17 08:58 PM
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Thanks. You seem like a Nice Guy!
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/17 10:21 PM
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My wife read all my red pill submissions and PMs from my old account one day when I was at work. It let to some productive conversations. If you're not prepared for that, then your frame needs work.
/r/askMRP13/12/17 09:08 PM
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Reducing ambient temperature or wearing lighter clothes can help with cutting and take zero effort. How's sleep quality and quantity? Any sleep apnea? Free testosterone level?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/17 09:00 PM
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Weight is still plateaued. I am tracking everything in MFP and if everything is correct I am averaging between a 5-600 calorie deficit daily. Then either MFP's numbers are wrong (tends to overestimate calories burned) or your calorie intake is higher than you think (more likely). Stop relying on shitty tools and pay attention to what's actually happening. I am going to start adding 30-45 min of moderate cardio on my off days just to burn some extra calories HIIT is going to better suit that goal…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/17 04:37 PM
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Still struggling with DEER and STFU Enough with the easy books. It's time for WISNIFG. 260lb, 5-10, one of those muscular fat guys, powerlifting, but still fat If you're fat, you're probably not 5/10. What are you doing about the weight this week?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/17 04:24 PM
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You've gone from moralizing to full-blown retard. Read NMMNG, MMSLP, and WISNIFG. Lurk in the weekly Own Your Shit threads in /r/marriedredpill for a few weeks before posting low-value trash like this. STFU with your wife until you have your head on straight.
/r/askMRP13/12/17 12:54 AM
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Why did this get downvotes His choking comment is little more than virtue signaling. From the OP I’m in the BJJ gym a minimum of twice a week. I’m working on adding a third session. My body broke the last time I did. Weight training is the solution to that problem. More strength, stronger tendons and ligaments, stronger core and posterior chain, more stable shoulders. Decent coaches in grappling sports always recommend weight training.
/r/askMRP12/12/17 05:23 PM
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That's the opposite of the red pill advice for this scenario. Finish the divorce. The choices beyond that are a hard next, fuck her without commitment, or fuck off. Nobody here is going to endorse your romcom vision of reconciliation.
/r/askMRP12/12/17 04:52 PM
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Are you openly demoting her to plate? If so, then make sure birth control is in order. Sounds like too much drama and effort for a plate, to me, but do what you like.
/r/askMRP12/12/17 03:32 PM
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"You know, you could cuddle me..". I tought to myself: if you didn't ask I would have done it, but now I don't want to You're living in her frame. That's some weak shit. So I STFU and got up, feeling kinda happy that she would act so childish for something like that Her behavior was a reflection of yours. Lead by example. I don't always have to do what she asks Of course not, you're the oldest teenager in the house. Your post has the right words in the wrong places. Do you recognize the differen…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/17 02:21 PM
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How does this OP have more upvotes than the financial hustle post?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/17 11:36 PM
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Yes. I hate the deadbedrooms victim crap. So does your wife. NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP, Rational Male Year One, and the Book of Pook. Go.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/17 08:25 PM
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Every time you post, I wonder why your marriage is still limping along. It's been over a year, and the resentment hasn't changed at all. Just end it. As for the passive aggression, fighting the neighbors, and other childish shit, read the Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck by Mark Manson, or get therapy.
/r/askMRP11/12/17 04:25 PM
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You have oneitis for the affair partner. You can't lead her effectively when you're not present. Presence is both physical and mental. Your wife needs to eat less. She needs to take 1/3 off of every portion. You can find tools in WISNIFG and How to Win Friends and Influence People. If that doesn't work, and you don't want to be financially and legally tied to a sickly, obese person, then get divorced.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/17 01:23 PM
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Get his testosterone checked Post your question on /r/mrpw /r/DeadBedrooms will only reinforce the notion that you're a helpless victim. It's an unattractive mindset, regardless of gender.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/17 06:38 PM
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A shit load of money has already been spent on the wedding and I don't think I'm in a position to call this off as this would affect a lot of people. Sunk cost fallacy You're asking a group of guys who are almost all anti-marriage if you should marry your first LTR after only a year. Unless you have absolutely outstanding financial and legal reasons to do so, the answer is no.
/r/askMRP10/12/17 03:46 PM
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We live separately That should be permanent. Thinking of going no contact You're so deep in her frame, that the only viable path for you is zero contact.
/r/askMRP10/12/17 03:40 PM
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I ran into an old hockey teammate last month. In the 20 years since I last saw him, he went from flipping houses on the side, to renting properties like you, and now to lending and mortgages to people who were turned down by the banks. The latest was teaching friends the mortgage and lending game while taking a percentage from them. He phased out the day job a few years ago. He was a dumb fuck who barely passed mid-level math courses in high school, and now he's a millionaire.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/17 05:41 PM
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This is not a comfort test Newbies don't get comfort tests.
/r/askMRP06/12/17 09:24 PM
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Reconciling killing your ego with irrational self-confidence is a tough one, and you won't get universal agreement from the EC's on which end of the scale you're on in an interaction. My most concise explanation is that you ain't shit, and you're not entitled to shit, but neither is anyone else, so do what you do with 100% confidence.
/r/askMRP06/12/17 03:06 PM
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BF: ~22% | Target: <20% Weight: 145 lbs | Target: 155 lbs (add 10 lbs muscle) No progress in 2 months? What's happening with your numbers in the gym, consistency, and dietary changes? Are you trying to gain weight on keto or something?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/17 10:01 PM
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I'm hardly initiating at all (since she will when she really wants it). Lesbian bed death - great sex but rarely happens, each waiting for the other to initiate, neither does, until sex doesn't happen at all. is there a common strategy for dealing with a wife who enjoys sex during the fertile part of the cycle, but is indifferent (but not outright negative) otherwise? SGM, lifting, the sidebar, and don't expect every session to be pornstar sex. Have you read the Book of Pook yet? Get outside her…
/r/askMRP05/12/17 05:41 PM
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Anxiety and avoidance are your main issues, yet they don't appear in your list of priorities for the week. Consistency can be good, but not like this. What I won't do : Porn or masturbation. That's weak. A better statement would be "instead of porn or masturbation, I am going to complete task X in 7 minute increments each day over the next 5 days."
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/17 11:35 AM
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Concern trolling yourself, that's a first. 99% sure this was written by a woman.
/r/askMRP05/12/17 11:27 AM
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Hysterical bonding gets her wet, makes her cum, but doesn't make her happy. It pushes buttons for sex, but often isn't conducive to a stable or fulfilling relationship for either person. It's also temporary, as you've discovered.
/r/askMRP05/12/17 12:12 AM
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Do I keep initiating sex with her and decline the starfish when I see she is not into it Yes. Either that, or do a better job with the EVI of DEVI. Why did you root through the garbage?
/r/askMRP04/12/17 10:27 PM
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Ask yourself, is this the kind of question you'd be asking if you looked like Chris Hemsworth? If you need to threaten or negotiate, then you're not attractive. That's both physical and mental.
/r/askMRP04/12/17 04:44 PM
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You're sounding more like weakandsensitive over time.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/17 10:22 PM
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If the purpose of existence is propagation of our own genes, then the priority is not only the immediate concerns of reproduction, but survival of subsequent generations. We protect to ensure that our genes continue to propagate. This is the drive behind our protective instincts. The notion that men are disposable and interchangeable is the modern, constructed, female- and child-centric ideal. Fuck the feminist idea that men are disposable, I'm going to make sure that my children and grandchildr…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/17 05:39 PM
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These men who move towards the fire, they are not committing suicide nor are they primarily seeking to protect their family. These men are seeking to extinguish what they will not allow in their world. +1. It's the same motivation as most firefighters, police officers, etc.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/17 04:13 PM
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From the award winning director of Captain Save a Ho, and Captain Save A Ho 2, we proudly present: Captain Save A Ho 3: Scarcity Watch as our hero endures the failing health of his girlfriend in their emotionally draining and sexless relationship. See him blindly apply dread to an already anxious woman, battling her insecurities, living under the shadow of her sensitive nipples. Fuck, I couldn't even make it through the trailer. Next.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/17 11:28 PM
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They start talking about leading before they can figure out how to get shit done themselves Yep. That's one of the reasons I dislike the misquote of Patton in the OP.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/17 06:58 PM
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I'm confused. Is that a conversation between two chicks? Which one was you? The answers to the rest of your post are in NMMNG and WISNIFG.
/r/askMRP01/12/17 04:13 AM
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Nice backhanded complement Since when is agreeing with someone a compliment? Do you think Justin Trudeau would have the adoration of so many women on both sides of the border if he were still a teacher? Developing leadership skills fits with rule zero. If it didn't, the mods would remove posts on leadership.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/17 11:36 PM
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Agreed, even if it sounds like the rationalizations of someone who doesn't have many leadership roles.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/17 10:33 PM
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I’m not sure how leadership suddenly became the new shiny to chase on the path to reclaiming masculinity. Social proof. Leadership is not the only means, but it's an effective one.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/17 09:27 PM
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What was your reasoning for this switch? I am doing a boat load of research on the front squat very recently. A bunch of reasons that won't apply to everyone. I can get more volume in with shorter rest periods than low bar, it doesn't interfere as much with deadlift multiple times per week, and it's a bit more quad-focused. I also work out at home, and don't have a leg press machine or knee extension equipment. Finally, it's fun to learn new stuff! I hadn't done front squats for almost 20 years,…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/17 06:38 PM
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Unlikely - /r/TheBluePill and /r/latestagecapitalism have a lot of crossover.
/r/askMRP29/11/17 08:44 PM
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No way - don't tolerate starfish sex.
/r/askMRP29/11/17 08:23 PM
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withhold nausea and pain meds That's fucking retarded. Load her up on the nausea meds so she won't puke when you shove your cock down her semi-conscious throat. Keep the nausea meds going, but stop the chemo so she can die in peace. Make sure she's lying flat from a few hours, so her body will be nice and straight when rigor mortis sets in. Then lift the corpse, 5x5. It's the original deadlift.
/r/askMRP29/11/17 07:54 PM
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One of the few who gets the point that I so hazily put out there Misdirected anger. Dust off, move on.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/17 05:05 PM
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More DEERing
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/17 05:04 PM
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Frame, dude. Don't DEER.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/17 05:02 PM
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The misquote is related to irrational self-confidence from PUA. It's great for pickup. It's fine in LTR if you're semi-competent and likely right. But it's stupid in LTR if you're incompetent and/or have a bad track record. Good luck finding a newbie who knows which category he's in. A related saying is that perfect/better is the enemy of good. It's less likely to be misquoted by guys who are trying to rationalize poor decision-making.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/17 04:53 PM
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When you have stupid ideas, say stupid shit, and fail to lead, she will let you know If you're lucky. My wife is baffled by her friends whose marriages are crumbling, unbeknownst to their husbands. "Why is she telling me? She should be talking to her husband!" Some of that comes from the husband's fragile ego, anger, or poor track record with feedback. Some of it is that many women aren't assertive. Cultivating useful feedback is a leadership skill.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/17 04:46 PM
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Feel free to suggest alternatives Why should I bother? You're going to pick and choose the appealing bits of MRP, trying to sprinkle some alpha on your situation instead of truly owning your shit, and you'll DEER just like this when challenged. You're so desperate to justify your behavior that you fail to come up with alternatives like stopping alcohol during a 4-6 week cut, sticking to social events only, or that a person could stop drinking and still maintain the better parts of their personal…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/17 08:37 PM
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This fucking plateau of weight still eludes me and honestly is starting to get frustrating. There is no way I need to eat less then 2000 cal. My maintenance calories are showing at 2850 cal per day. I am staying around 2100. Are you weighing everything? If not, then your calorie counting is bullshit.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/17 07:55 PM
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12%BF Psychology literature places optimal male facial and body attractiveness to women at BF =12%. Some like it lower, some higher, but the peak is 12%. If you're aiming outside that range, it's for reasons other than casting a wide net and optimizing attractiveness to women. Maybe it's a specific woman (usually a bad reason.) Maybe it's a personal challenge, competition, or other reasons within your own frame (good reason.) Think about it before going lower. I'm assuming you're natty.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/17 07:51 PM
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As for the beer, I'm shooting for extreme moderation. I feel like abstinence is sort of a tacit admission that I cant control myself, plus is a serious impediment to a "normal" social life. Max 2 a day is my new rule, and so far its sticking. That's quite the hamster you have there.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/17 07:40 PM
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Definitely not the sidebar. Spelling things out in excruciating detail in response to posts can definitely work, but it's too often a waste of time. I triage much better now than I used to - more time in OYS, less on retards.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/17 07:27 PM
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It's not too bad, except when it is. It's far worse doing deadlifts. After each heavy deadlift, I have to go to hands and knees until it passes. I bear down too hard when I'm tired, especially if my grip is failing. I occasionally use straps for my top set on deadlifts, which helps to get the volume in without feeling awful. I've also changed most of my squat volume to front squat. But again, different proportions and priorities. I'm curious to see how you'll feel in 6 weeks.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/17 07:22 PM
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Starting Strength book. I always thought it was about his program, but there's tons in there on technique. My deadlift and squat have already improved. That's good news! You may like Juggernaut's recent YouTube videos on squat technique. Focusing on keeping my knees forward on the ascent worked better for me than most of the cues in Starting Strength, but body proportions probably have something to do with it. Are you getting lightheaded after squats? Unfortunately, I also have a tendency to "go…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/17 05:44 PM
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LOL I just can't believe he is taking her back. He fell for the cheater's script. /u/oak_water, AWALT in this situation means that she'll either be unhappy or seek comfort elsewhere, not that she'll cheat. A non-shitty response from her would have been a discussion, ultimatum, or divorce, not to cheat. What she did was shitty and selfish. AWALT doesn't mean that all women are the same. Edited - there's hope for OP.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/17 01:54 AM
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Nowhere on the sidebar does it say to do any of this. Sidebar, no, but there are many users here who believe that. 88will88 and Sepean come to mind. Even Stoney says it - look at the top comment. The "don't eat paint" meme is from a disagreement between Stoney and Jack on this issue. I happen to agree with Jack10 that most guys who find themselves here are socially inept and borderline retarded, so I spell things out. Stoney takes the position that those guys won't make it anyway. They've both b…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/17 01:50 AM
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You asked your wife "why" she cheated on you. She then assigned the blame to you. It's a standard part of the cheater's script. She's rationalizing it in a way that makes her feel better about herself.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/17 01:44 AM
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Sounds like emotional affair that became physical. It's common enough when guys fail all the comfort tests. AWALT. I've been the beta branch and the alpha branch.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/17 01:32 AM
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This whole conversation with my daughter began after I saw someone had visited a few "pro anorexia" Tumblr blogs on the main computer If you're real, then do family therapy by someone experienced with eating disorders, preferably affiliated with a multidisciplinary program. Work on your codependency issues and develop assertiveness - NMMNG and WISNIFG are in the sidebar. If you're a troll, then fuck off.
/r/askMRP27/11/17 07:06 PM
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I just want to take my car fishing in the morning. If you are going to leave me then I’m ok with that We often make the teenager reference with women behaving badly, but you've been dealing with toddler shit. I’m so glad I stood up to her shit. Cool and collected, in your frame, no fighting. Well done.
/r/askMRP27/11/17 02:47 AM
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She does not believe in doctors or medication. We are more holistic focused family Seems to be working great so far.
/r/askMRP26/11/17 10:41 PM
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You suck the life out of her. Post your main text in the "text" box. Use paragraphs (hit enter twice). Lift and read the sidebar prerequisites.
/r/askMRP26/11/17 05:14 PM
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In TRP the definition of alpha and beta is pretty clear It is. From the glossary: Beta – Traits of provision: either providing resources or validation to others, women (and perhaps men). Beta traits display low value to women if they are are put on too strong or too early in meeting- giving without equity. Beta can be used to describe individual behaviors, as well as people who have an overwhelming amount of beta properties (opposed to alpha). This is closer to MRP's use of the term than the sab…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/17 02:34 PM
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In MRP, "mixing in beta" means the comfort that you are describing. You're criticizing a definition that doesn't match the one used here. It's a straw man.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/17 12:47 PM
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It comes more easily to some.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/17 12:17 PM
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Whisper write a post stating that you do have to be a full blown asshole? Think of it as a breaking free activity, like in NMMNG. You can't be afraid of being perceived as an asshole, and sometimes the best thing in a situation is to truly be an asshole. Maybe the slogan should be, "What would Putin do?" Read the book of Pook from start to finish, and you'll see how it fits together.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/17 11:59 AM
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On the subject of newbies, from CH. The link calls to mind the evolution of Pook, from PUA tricks to solid inner game. Comfort is a natural part of any sexual and intimate relationship. So many definitions. "Whatever I do is alpha, and anything else is beta" isn't one of mine. There are many comfort-building activities that don't increase sexual attraction. They're unrelated to sexual attraction, because sexual attractiveness and virtue are orthogonal - unrelated. But if they don't increase attr…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/17 11:26 AM
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I want to flip this on her and tell her that 8 days of passive aggressive b.s. it what is really disrespectful. But in a way that demonstrates NGAF Yep. STFU about sex until you give fewer fucks about it. You're getting close to the turning point where you'll recognize that some of your MRP-related efforts are a big covert contract with your wife.
/r/askMRP25/11/17 04:37 PM
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She can only wield sex as a weapon if you allow it. Why do you want to have sex with this woman so much that you'll sacrifice your own self-respect? Pussy is pussy. Stop thinking of the tools in WISNIFG as a means to get other people to do things. They are tools that you can use to maintain your self-respect. Stop trying to control her behavior. Better yet, stop giving a fuck about her behavior. Look after yourself. Your next book should be the subtle art of not giving a fuck.
/r/askMRP25/11/17 03:41 PM
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Haven't been doing deadlifts Do a few light sets of deadlifts twice per week to learn the lift - maybe 95 or 135lbs to start. If you're paranoid, then start with technique plates. Find a local powerlifting gym and see if there are any workshops to get pointers. Higher volume submaximal work is the way to go if you've had pain with the lift in the past. If you're scared of deadlifts, then the experience will be immersive enough to take your mind off shit that doesn't matter, like your ex-wife. Sh…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/17 09:33 PM
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Here's a picture of me, for proof.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/17 07:39 PM
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Answers are in NMMNG and WISNIFG. If you absolutely must sell someone on a concept after that, then read How to Win Friends and Influence People.
/r/askMRP24/11/17 03:40 AM
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everyone loves the drunk me Bullshit rationalization. Here's your MAP: Quit drinking. Everything else in your life is phase 2.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/17 09:33 PM
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So I take it you are a believer in SS over 531? Starting Strength can be useful to get people under the bar and establish reasonable technique, but I prefer programs with periodization, varied rep ranges, higher frequencies, and more variety. The first three of those factors are well-supported by evidence. I like 5/3/1, and did it for at least a year and a half. The sheer number of templates can be daunting for a beginner, but there are some great ones. My schedule is a bit erratic, so I've been…
/r/askMRP22/11/17 11:53 AM
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They're motivated enough to follow Greg Nuckols, so there will be a disproportionate number of people who are athletic and put in the effort. It's the difference between the starting strength crowd and the 5/3/1 spinal tap crowd - MEV vs MAV/MRV. If there's any place where the soft bigotry of low expectations should be shunned, it's the red pill. "You can't pick up the hot chick because you're not the hot jock. It's bad genes. Bad upbringing." "You can't make faster progress with harder work bec…
/r/askMRP21/11/17 10:19 PM
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Fuck the low expectations in this thread. What do you have now? What kind of bar, plates, dumbbells, rack/stands, etc? Standard or olympic? Do you do any olympic lifts? Do you have room for a full-length olympic barbell? Appropriate flooring for deadlifts?
/r/askMRP21/11/17 07:15 PM
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/r/financialindependence /r/leanfire Your goals need to be specific and action-oriented. What sidebar books have you read?
/r/askMRP21/11/17 07:04 PM
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stop being lazy This is going to be the best response to anything OP posts for the next few months.
/r/askMRP21/11/17 04:35 PM
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STBX-Wife Bitches don't go up the hierarchy after being demoted. You lack abundance mentality. I squatted 80kg a month ago, but I am taking a break now to focus on work. Too busy and not too lazy... Right... This post and your last one reek of anxiety. Read The Book of Pook, Rational Male year 1, Bang, Day Bang, and approach daily. The rest of the sidebar should follow.
/r/askMRP21/11/17 03:42 PM
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Good leaders hold their people accountable and also give them a framework that allows failure. Micromanages try to stop failure and turn their people into things. This is a key point. Learned helplessness is often caused or worsened by poor leadership.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/17 03:24 PM
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I realize it's a joke, but passive aggression is a common problem for newbies here, so they might take this advice literally. Don't eat paint, kids.
/r/askMRP21/11/17 03:16 PM
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Double chin, facial hair, pimples, sex hungry. You married a dude. Is she on hormonal contraceptives? Has she seen a doctor for all this? Have you read the sidebar? If so, have you had a frank conversation with her about this stuff?
/r/askMRP21/11/17 01:48 AM
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When your self-worth is defined by other people's behavior, that kind of interaction is a crushing blow. She was telling you about her feelings at that moment - that's it. "I don't respect you right now." Why would she respect you when you don't respect yourself? Don't chase her or try to change her feelings. Change if/because you want to be more attractive, fit, and confident, not because you want her to change. Beneficial changes in the relationship are a side effect. Covert contracts only lea…
/r/askMRP20/11/17 08:46 PM
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Anxiety and shitty comfort tests. Read the whole thread. Stoicism doesn't mean what you think it means. At its core is the idea of turning lemons into lemonade. It doesn't mean silence or inaction. It's a philosophy. Better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to speak and to remove all doubt, but STFU in the red pill doesn't mean absolute silence. There are many good posts on this.
/r/askMRP18/11/17 05:33 PM
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Agreed. Right now he needs to stop trying to establish boundaries if he's not prepared to back them up with meaningful consequences.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/17 04:37 PM
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What the fuck is this shit? Seriously, read the sidebar prerequisites before posting again.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/17 11:53 PM
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Or he could get a pull-up bar and do a set every time he would have looked at porn.
/r/askMRP17/11/17 04:36 PM
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We've never had a fig newton-related crisis before. Congratulations on a first. I'm sure you realize how ridiculous it sounds that you should give enough fucks about fig newtons to bother asking the teacher. Your wife cares enough to ask, you don't. Own it. It's not like your kid is going to die of fig newton deficiency. She probably cares because she sees it as the school passing judgment on the nutritional choices made by her. That's her fucking problem.
/r/askMRP16/11/17 10:07 PM
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Martha?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/17 10:00 PM
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Didn't realize /u/taipanshimshon was him - thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/17 09:54 PM
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Saying neurologist told him pain meds were bad idea was not a solution No shit - and you weren't the least bit curious what he did instead of taking narcotics. I’ve seen doctors all over country at best hospitals That statement means almost nothing to me. Fuck it. I was writing a big thing about the hazards of focusing on symptoms, importance of a multidisciplinary, holistic approach, and a bunch of other stuff, but I deleted it. I'm sticking with my original assertion that you're a special snow…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/17 08:41 PM
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If my pain doesn’t get under control, I’ll be doing 3 week pain management clinic in a couple months. If it's a multidisciplinary program with a return to work focus, that's your best bet. If it's anything else, like a nerve block factory, then keep shopping for a decent clinic. If they don't tackle the gambling and other issues that you have undoubtedly omitted, then you're wasting your time. I'm not convinced that you want solutions, though. As /u/Rian_Stone said, you were offered a potential …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/17 07:49 PM
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Saying that she should be happy with her life because others have it worse is like when the feminists tell men to check their privilege. Just because others have it worse, it doesn't mean that you can't feel frustrated, unhappy, or worn out. Similarly, just because other people have it better, doesn't mean you aren't entitled to feel happy or fulfilled. Happiness and privilege are not the same. Become her escape. Engage her instead of letting her take over the interaction, and just fogging your …
/r/askMRP16/11/17 11:54 AM
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Cheating or not, she knew you'd be unhappy that she was communicating with him. She's got your number, which is one of the best and worst things about LTR. Get an idea of the extent of it before considering confrontation. I know she misses how he bought her shit and was a total pushover and easy to tell what to do. AF/BB and beta orbiters are pretty basic red pill. My guess is emotional affair, which may be one-sided or mutual, but you'll never know unless you investigate quietly and calmly. her…
/r/askMRP16/11/17 12:42 AM
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What would you do if she got hit by a bus tomorrow? What's the difference with an affair? Either way, she'd be dead to you. Why obsess about things you can't control? If you vetted well, own your shit, and are attractive, then she probably won't cheat. If you vetted poorly, then you should next her. If you are unattractive and don't own your shit, then fix those things.
/r/askMRP15/11/17 11:16 PM
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It's a solid plan. As a teen, there were several times that girls had to take there clothes off for me to clue in that they were DTF. I could see IOI's directed at others, but I was blind when they were directed at me. I'd blame alcohol, but really I was missing a key element of game. It can be learned. You won't be like this forever. Pook is free, and fun to read, both for PUA and general mindset. There are also free videos or Mystery and the RSD guys out there. Some guys love The Natural; I di…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/17 09:22 PM
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Fucked my wife twice this last week - both times initiated by her You're missing opportunities where she is DTF. You're probably also missing IOI's from other women. Next on your reading/watching list should be MMSLP, the Book of Pook, and then PUA resources like Bang, RSD, or Mystery Method.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/17 08:41 PM
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Pretty much every social outing ended up with me in a verbal or physical confrontation with someone because I felt (so much feelz) disrespected by any little thing. So you were even worse before? I think /u/weakandsensitive and /u/FireTempered will enjoy this thread almost as much as me. To your credit, I think you're right that WISNIFG will be a waste of time for you. That book requires some insight.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/17 07:54 PM
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You on the spectrum sparky? The counterattack of a codependent Nice Guy. Feel free to ignore me if you get triggered that hard over something so small. You mistake mockery for anger. Theory: Butthurt loser has no frame, wants to sprinkle a bit of alpha on it. Should be triggered easily by pointing out obvious flaw in his plan. Most people with anger management issues have an external locus of control and a victim mentality. I doubt you'll be an exception. If you get this triggered from pixels on…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/17 07:36 PM
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I also may completely skip WISNIFG If you're not willing to invest the effort, then don't expect any of the experienced guys to help you. I've been doing great with shit tests, mostly by STFU, and once, when I cracked, I quickly recovered and faked AM to get through the test Solution is in WISNIFG, retard. Just as an exercise, here are some of my low value failures from the last few weeks: yelling, throwing shit, cussing, complaining I didn't address family affairs like a confident captain, but …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/17 06:35 PM
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If you can't afford to take a few weeks off when the kid is born, then you shouldn't be having a kid.
/r/askMRP14/11/17 10:34 PM
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As a straw man, I have no brain, and cannot comprehend what you are saying. You sound very familiar. Is this an alt for bainbridge_island?
/r/askMRP14/11/17 09:49 PM
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I'm happily married, sex nearly every day. /r/thathappened You're not a very good troll. This must be your first time trying to troll this sub. You simulated the kind of person that we mock. Next time go for the long con - simulate a functional adult.
/r/askMRP14/11/17 09:19 PM
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It's no wonder why your wife would rather scroll social media than pay attention to you. You're displaying the same judgmental attitude here that you have about your wife. Have you clued in that the dead bedroom is your fault?
/r/askMRP14/11/17 08:54 PM
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classic engineer. Things are going well in general but.. how can I tweak another 10% out of this No, you've just got a fragile ego that you're trying desperately to pad. Tell us more about your idyllic relationship, and how it landed you here. You're still going around saying things like Oh and I know AWALT is bullshit as if it were a literal statement that all women are alike and behave the same. You're refuting the blue pill's straw man version of AWALT. This isn't PPD. "I did, you didnt do it…
/r/askMRP14/11/17 06:53 PM
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I want my meat That's from WISNIFG.
/r/askMRP14/11/17 05:18 PM
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How about taking paternity leave because you want to be with the kid.
/r/askMRP14/11/17 04:26 PM
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No, he's just a pussy who deletes his posts. Even deadbedrooms thinks he's a whiny, ineffectual loser. /u/Is_This_Over, stop obsessing about your wife's behavior. Read NMMNG, the Book of Pook, then the rest of the marriedredpill sidebar, including the rules about concern trolling and moralizing. We don't accept the victim mentality here.
/r/askMRP14/11/17 04:19 PM
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So I ask her. "Why the hell didnt you tell me that it was out?" "I did, you didnt do it" "So that is dangerous dont you think you should tell me this?" "I didnt want to bother you. I figured you would get to it" she said "thank you" with a smile. That was it. No. "About fucking time" no subtile slams like "Well that is great now I wont get in an accident" You don't know the difference between fitness tests and just being bitchy and disagreeable. ok long time poster former moderator for redpill s…
/r/askMRP14/11/17 03:44 PM
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WHY ARE WE YELLING?
/r/askMRP14/11/17 12:15 AM
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I'd suggest using them only on the last set. Same goes for deadlift if doing high volume or AMRAP. The /r/fitness circle jerk from guys who don't compete is that training should be done with powerlifting rules, even for guys whose goals have nothing to do with powerlifting. But successful powerlifters train with straps - it's as simple as that. Not every set, maybe not every session, but as an intelligent part of programming. I use straps for my last set of pullups or chinups probably once a wee…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/17 04:16 PM
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At 270 pounds, I can't do many chin-ups It's probably grip strength. Try doing your last set of chins and pullups with straps. A simple pair like this can cost less than $10.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/17 11:49 AM
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Comfort test or not, could pressure flip in non-autistic way: "Are you cheating?" "No. You?"
/r/askMRP10/11/17 05:49 PM
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Don't negotiate for sex.
/r/askMRP10/11/17 04:54 PM
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She's very close to speaking bluntly. That's a last resort for many women. Do you add value to her life, other than the paycheck? Are you the oak? Or just a separate entity, sharing a space? You set the tone here. The hamster is lost in the maze. Outline your vision, if you have one. If it's all just a covert contract for sex, then you've wasted your time here.
/r/askMRP10/11/17 01:01 PM
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LOL - I was going to suggest that you turn the response to that cuck dude into a post, but you already did!
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/17 09:21 PM
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Haircuts and rule zero: More IOI's from women you find attractive = good look. More of the sex you want = good look. Whatever your look, own it. I agree. But while "I like it" is fine for your frame, it isn't always the best strategy for getting laid.
/r/askMRP09/11/17 05:08 PM
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not in the mood at all Then don't. How should we (not specifically me in my rather unique? situation) react to a pity fuck? Give fewer fucks about her motivation. She can be happy, angry, curious, or confused - it doesn't matter. If she's feeling something, then there's an opening. If you want to fuck, and she's DTF, then do it. If there's something else you'd rather do, then do that instead. Physical intimacy can be an escape. The key is to do these things because you want to, not because they …
/r/askMRP09/11/17 04:57 PM
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I get your perspective on this - you weren't a husband, so she didn't act like a wife. Your turn was over. Now you have to decide if you want another turn. She's the kind of woman who may bail on you when you get sick. If you can get past that, plan accordingly, and you like being married to her, then do what you want. You have an opportunity to redefine the relationship as you see fit. Get her checked for STI's and unfuck yourself, then decide. I wouldn't have blamed my wife if she had cheated …
/r/askMRP08/11/17 06:20 PM
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You're going to burn yourself out wasting time with PPD dipshits like this.
/r/askMRP08/11/17 04:47 PM
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NMMNG WISNIFG OP and jacktenofhearts response in verbal intercourse is optional Dread The desire dynamic How To Win Friends and Influence People, particularly the assertion that nobody wins in an argument.
/r/askMRP08/11/17 12:01 PM
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Will just let her see how her post-wall, post-divorce ass does on her own Revenge fantasies are weak. She'll be banging a more attractive man in no time. What are you going to do?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/17 12:36 AM
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5'10" 150, BF: 12% I'm almost 30lbs heavier at 5'11, 12% BF, similar age, natty. I consider myself too skinny. You're a skeleton. I take meds that make me nauseated, so I understand the struggle to increase calorie intake. Some tips: change from LISS to HIIT: increases muscle mass, improves VO2 max where LISS doesn't, better effect on body composition get 30-40g protein at bedtime: good evidence that this improves muscle mass with weight training find ways to get protein with each meal or snack …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/17 04:19 PM
1

About a decade ago, I started crafting slides to highlight the important part rather than use the pointer. Sometimes it involves turning one slide into a base and a highlighted version, sometimes it's a single slide with some adjustments, and most often I try to pick an alternate image where the important part is as obvious as possible. It's a small adjustment that made a huge difference to my talks. I totally agree about slide advancement and walking around - being tied to the podium is a neces…
/r/askMRP07/11/17 03:54 PM
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Invest in a laser pointer that has a TIMER on it with a green laser, totally worth the money. I'm with you on everything except the laser pointer. They're good for unexpected questions about an image, but it's worth crafting your storytelling and images in a way that doesn't require you to pull out the pointer and distract the audience.
/r/askMRP07/11/17 03:44 PM
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WISNIFG has some stuff about handling questions and challenges from the crowd when lecturing. How To Win Friends and Influence People is useful if you want to make it compelling. Have your content ready way beforehand, so you can practice enough to get a feel for the strong and weak points. Practice, read tips and tricks, practice again, read more tips and tricks.
/r/askMRP07/11/17 11:20 AM
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I’m actually a physician If you didn't say that in every thread, I never would have known. How are you doing with those RCTs? Still willing to base your recommendations on assumptions? You must be a GP or a dermatologist.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/17 04:57 PM
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Dave Juurlink? Is that you? Let's not get into opioid hysteria in MRP, especially with a partial agonist like tramadol at doses of 25-50mg. Read the RCTs or go back to /r/thebluepill.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/17 04:42 PM
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I feel I am not OYS entirely here Establish clear expectations of her behavior and the potential consequences, then enforce the boundary.
/r/askMRP06/11/17 12:27 PM
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+1 /u/gtr304, I'd suggest reading When I Say No I Feel Guilty and Pook next rather than re-reading NMMNG right away. Reflect on recent interactions. Become an observer of your own emotional responses. Don't try to right every wrong on week 1. It's a time for introspection and lifting.
/r/askMRP05/11/17 05:21 AM
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Those are the type that like it rough. Dude... Lurk more. The "good" girls are every bit as depraved as the ditzy Stacies. Women, in general, are just as depraved as men, if not more. Who do you think reads books like 120 Days of Sodom? It's women more than men, and not ditzy Stacies.
/r/askMRP04/11/17 05:04 PM
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Do we accept that all women have different likes/dislikes when it comes to sex and not all like it rough? Nope. All women are exact carbon copies of one another, with no preferences or minds of their own. Dominance - give and take pleasure as you desire in the moment. That doesn't necessarily mean D/s unless that's your kink. Rough stuff out of thin air is also kinda weird. It makes more sense if things are intense, which requires EVI. Emotion is the reason normal people like sex more than mastu…
/r/askMRP04/11/17 10:37 AM
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big tent like the Rino Cucks I don't know what that means, but it leaves me with a funny mental image of fat guys lumbering around a circus tent in rhino costumes.
/r/TheRedPill03/11/17 09:09 PM
1

I've heard that cocaine works pretty well, too, topical or otherwise.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/17 08:41 PM
1

Here's a quote from the post where he said that he would do it again: Do I advise men to get married? Negative. Why? Because I have yet to meet a man in person who is willing to work as hard as I do to keep things running smoothly. He wasn't telling anyone to get married, or telling anyone not to. He was saying that it can be beneficial under the right circumstances, and those circumstances are rare. For WMP, it solved immigration issues. For me, there were/are financial and social benefits. For…
/r/TheRedPill03/11/17 08:34 PM
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When you find an appropriate subreddit for this, I suggest that you use paragraphs. Live for yourself. If he doesn't suit you, then you're better off alone.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/17 04:39 PM
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Things that speed you up: poor conditioning and core strength holding breath, valsalva maneuver in and out thrust versus grinding certain positions long time since last orgasm guys with erectile dysfunction who focus on maintaining erection Things that slow you down interruption of stimulation, especially if you have experience with edging and know when to stop, taking the opportunity to do stuff to her, get toys or supplies, whatever positions and varying type of stimulation BJ before PIV deep,…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/17 04:12 PM
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She had a 15 minute conversation with someone when he wasn't home. He's obsessed with the idea of her cheating. Maybe she is, maybe not. It doesn't matter. Plus, she's doing things that he doesn't like, and she isn't showing much gratitude for the improvements that he has made, which are clear violations of his covert contract with her. It's much easier to have someone deliver divorce papers than to state your expectations. Hell, even the divorce papers are a covert contract! I’ve read about wiv…
/r/askMRP02/11/17 09:12 PM
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I'm getting more and more fed up with all of this The charitable interpretation is that Cad and bogey were derailed by the catty footnotes that diluted a solid message. Most people in the pill subs have fixed beliefs. Write for your own entertainment or enjoyment, and maybe for the people who are capable of understanding what you're saying. Or be like /u/weakandsensitive and hang around for the dick jokes.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/17 07:39 PM
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There's some hyperbole, like: every man wants to destroy anyone who tries to harm children But what is the blue pill theory in that post that has been disproven? He's basically saying that women are pretty and he likes to fuck them, and that his wife in particular turns him on. He then goes on with standard red pill stuff.
/r/TheRedPill02/11/17 05:21 PM
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You have many more options than than those two. Most of them involve frame, assertiveness, and self-respect. Divorcing a cheater is totally reasonable, and it sounds like you've decided. It also sounds like you're still scared of her. That needs to stop, divorced or not.
/r/askMRP02/11/17 04:44 PM
1

He clings to ideas that are already proven incorrect. Care to elaborate? No sarcasm, genuinely curious about examples.
/r/TheRedPill02/11/17 04:26 PM
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Based on the nonsense in the past 24 hours, you could take that a couple of different ways. I agree either way. Comparing esthetic results from lifting between geared and natty, 6 day vs 3 day, busy life with kids vs gym rat, different genetics, age, background, and goals is stupid. If /u/GayLubeOil is as experienced a trainer as he claims, then he knows this, which puts a completely different spin on his post. Furthermore, I can't see his physique through a black T-shirt. I don't know what kind…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/17 03:26 PM
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There are plenty of options. You can learn the philosophy of stoicism, learn to be fully present, or maybe end the marriage so you can live the life you feel that you missed, like 2gunsgetsome and some of the other n=1 guys. The latter is not something to consider when angry. From someone whose n>1, pussy is pussy. If all you want is sex, they're all different, but they're all kinda the same. Forget about other people's standards, build a fulfilling life and attitude. It starts with the sidebar …
/r/askMRP02/11/17 12:58 AM
2

"car sex isnt fun at all" but shes done it a lot from what shes told me. She's right. Its one of my few unconquered goals Why? Just because she did it with someone else? Or because you genuinely would enjoy sex in a car? I guess the wife's sexual experimentation in youth is going to be one of the themes this week. My insecurity always came from the fact that I never had any girl besides her Nope. There are plenty of people who for religious or other reasons were virgins when married, and are fin…
/r/askMRP01/11/17 10:52 PM
2

Ha! I thought you were just a consumer of it. You're creating the content and making money off it? That's outstanding! So either you are the real deal or fraud Totally legit. Just send the $5000 that I need to access my Nigerian accounts, and I'll share the $5 million with you, 50:50. I will take you up on your challenge I respect that. If you're new to MRP, you can check out the sidebar in /r/marriedredpill. The Book of Pook and When I Say No I Feel Guilty are my favorites. The sidebar books ar…
/r/askMRP01/11/17 07:53 PM
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Log the hours spent on it. Every minute you would have spent on NSFW games, instead you will lift, do conditioning work, read, socialize, or do something creative. Post in the weekly Own Your Shit threads. You're in the kind of situation where huge gains can be made in a short time, if you replace the time wasters with things that can transform your life.
/r/askMRP01/11/17 07:14 PM
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Then why did you bother with a reply back? I like to watch the monkey dance. Maybe we can read it together Like your wife, I would rather eat fried chicken alone in front of the TV. Since I have had fried chicken less than 5 times ever, and will never eat it again, that gives an idea of how desirable that invitation is. How's your social life? Who's the first person you call when looking for a night out? Who's the sixth? How many times in the past month did you spend time with them? Alpha_As_Wol…
/r/askMRP01/11/17 06:22 PM
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Literally LOL - the counterattack of a codependent Nice Guy, so easily triggered. You mistake condescension for anger, and you project your anger onto me. When you're done re-reading WISNIFG, you can re-read NMMNG.
/r/askMRP01/11/17 05:54 PM
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Okay DEER.
/r/askMRP01/11/17 05:41 PM
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Your username makes your question all the more meaningful. Seriously, though, he's having a sexual relationship with his phone. It doesn't get more thirsty than that. Fapping to Android games is essentially fapping to the people who coded the software. It's fucking gay. It's also bowing to the superiority of other men, and reducing his opportunity to fuck real women.
/r/askMRP01/11/17 05:40 PM
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"Dear MRP, should I expose the extent of my insecurity to my wife?" No. You should lift. You should read Pook and SGM.
/r/askMRP01/11/17 05:14 PM
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Did what? Turning down two guys? Mocking one of them? If your wife isn't getting constant attention from orbiters, then you married a dog. OP needs game and SGM. Edit: Your post history is almost as good as the sex doll guy.
/r/askMRP01/11/17 05:04 PM
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You're a brooding, raging retard. she's not telling me anything she didn't tell me earlier Your resentment shines through. It's like when a woman yells at her husband about loading the dishwasher wrong. It's not about the dishwasher. You're enraged because she told a story that was more interesting to her than it was to you. This is all it takes to piss you off? Are you like this with everybody? You do this: As she's telling the story I'm disingaging So she inevitably responds with this: Until w…
/r/askMRP01/11/17 04:48 PM
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knowing what your wife did for boyfriends that she currently won't do for you I did stuff with ex-girlfriends that I'm not interested in doing with my wife. Sometimes it's attraction, and sometimes it's the process of learning what you like and what you don't, especially as it relates to porn moves that look cool but may not be as enjoyable as the fantasy. If you want it just because someone else got it, then you won't enjoy it when it happens, anyway. You didn't mention abstinence from porn, wh…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/17 02:36 PM
2

It shows. Your posts changed quite a bit when your daughter was born.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/17 05:34 PM
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What kind of grown up man says sexy time? It should be read in the voice of Borat.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/17 05:28 PM
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The one thing you've done is establish that she's going to have to lead the project. At best, you'll support. This is you in a good practical position. My buddies daughter is 4 months. The first time he did a diaper was this week because of the ground rules he's established. Plus, him helping is something the wife will appreciate because it isn't an obligation. That was clearly communicated beforehand. Good advice if that's what he wants. But if that's what he wants, then he should consider whet…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/17 05:24 PM
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Did you have any skills that you can use to work from home? Taking any courses or upgrading skills? Owning your shit? Focus on the things that you can control. You and /u/SteelToeShitKicker with the blackouts... Some syncope specialists are good, and some are flaky. Maybe /u/Scurvemuch can point you to a decent local center by PM if he knows which state you're in.
/r/askMRP28/10/17 01:04 AM
1

OP, every morning, after a month of NoFap
/r/askMRP27/10/17 04:04 PM
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started a 5/3/1 lifting program Which template?
/r/askMRP27/10/17 12:56 PM
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Nofap is pretty damn hard It's difficult if you obsess about it. It's worthless if you don't replace it with something productive. These ideas work together. In other words, replace fapping with things that improve your life, instead of things that keep it the same.
/r/askMRP27/10/17 12:55 PM
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Lifestyle creep, Facebook, etc. Guys are wrapped up in someone's else's mission. Maybe we should lure /u/enfier back to MRP to remind us how minimalism can improve our lives. Too bad pikadildo was such a spaz - he had some good ideas with respect to cutting out things that don't matter. Of course, Einstein beat him to it.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/17 08:33 PM
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Same story as usual - if all he provides is a paycheck, then expect an affair or divorce. Excessive self-sacrifice is unattractive and stressful to the people around you.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/17 04:56 PM
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/thread. His failure. I'm surprised nobody quoted John Mellencamp: A little ditty 'bout Jack & Diane Two American kids growing up in the heart land Jack - he's gonna be a football star Diane - debutante in the back seat of Jacky's car Then Jack got fat and stopped parenting.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/17 04:26 PM
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Legs Glute ham raise, hip thrusts, straight leg raise with ankle weight if pain-free during the movement. Hamstring curl if physiotherapist says OK. Leg extensions if physiotherapist says OK, but get opinion first - shear stress is important for certain knee problems. Upper body Lots of upper back work with rows, chins, pullups, face pulls, reverse fly, band pull apart. Pick a program with more bench volume than SL 5x5 here, or maybe one of the free programs at Stronger by Science. There are lot…
/r/askMRP26/10/17 04:12 PM
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Were you not able to see the difference in the mirror? Or feel the difference in the gym? I see how it could be motivating, or a way to ensure that you're not BSing yourself, but I'm curious as to why OP needs it.
/r/askMRP24/10/17 11:52 PM
2

Dexa scans every 3 months to make sure things are headed the right direction How is that helping you to progress beyond what you get from PR's, a mirror, and a scale?
/r/askMRP24/10/17 10:42 PM
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What has changed in the 4 days since you last asked this question?
/r/askMRP24/10/17 10:39 PM
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non breeding Getting married just because one wants children would be foolish. 40 year old provisioning seeking woman I like being married to a functional adult. He would know her motives and programming. What's that? Alpha fucks? Again, these issues have little bearing on the financial, tax, legal, and social implications of marriage. I know I would never get married again If I didn't want to be married, I wouldn't be.
/r/askMRP24/10/17 10:36 PM
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