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Absolutely possible and worth it. You also stay clear headed all night and don't run out of energy like you do when you drink.
/r/seduction10/05/26 10:20 AM
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"You'll have time later" is just a comfort statement that parents tell their son who sucks with women. You have time even in college absolutely.
/r/seduction10/05/26 10:19 AM
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You mean mistaking peace for boredom?
/r/seduction01/02/25 05:39 AM
1

i think some extended eye contact if you’re nervous to go up, will get more guys to come up to you if you can get yourself to go up, just keep it simple with “hi, i’m ______” or “i wanted to meet you”. Approach can be extremely basic. Important thing is to do something, anything
/r/seduction09/10/22 12:04 AM
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i don’t know what this means
/r/seduction08/10/22 05:51 PM
1

Yeah makes sense I suppose, you could keep it in mind. It doesn’t mean nothing. I don’t even ask the girl her count, but I guess sometimes you can kindof guess lol.
/r/seduction08/10/22 05:50 PM
1

Girls love attention. However, guys also love attention. If you don't want to waste time, as you're implying, escalate far faster. As a step, I don't think you should be having extended text conversations before going on a first date.
/r/seduction02/10/22 05:14 PM
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It sounds like an inefficient way to do daygame. If your best option is the grocery store, you should probably consider moving to a huge city. In the USA, consider New York, Vegas, Austin, Miami. However, your idea is still far better than doing nothing. So go for it if that's the best you got now. And definitely yes, I have gone out countless times with the sole intention of approaching. That is how you improve. It has certainly worked out. Probably most of the times I've ever gotten laid was f…
/r/seduction02/10/22 05:12 PM
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Twice out of 150 sounds great to me. Anyway, we can't tell you nuanced problems in your approach without ever seeing you. Go out with a wing and ask them. Record yourself on your phone with the voice recorder app during approaches, and listen to it later. Ask others to listen to it and give feedback. You can even have others video you if you're willing to go that far. I've done it a few times having a buddy film, then I record with my phone in pocket, and edit the sound and video together later.
/r/seduction02/10/22 05:10 PM
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Do both. Daygame could maybe be easier because the girls are alone often. Try them both out, see which you like better, focus on that one, but I'd say still keep doing both. You'll learn more holistically that way.
/r/seduction02/10/22 05:07 PM
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Depending on how long you're out, you actually could approach 100 in a night. But even if you keep it to 30, you can still hit the 10 that gave you an IOI, and then 20 more.
/r/seduction02/10/22 05:06 PM
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Fuck no. Don't wait for an IOI to approach. I think that out of the girls I have had sex with (some 20+ number), it may have been 1 or 2 or a handful that gave me an IOI first. What if she hasn't seen you yet? You want to wait around until she looks at you to approach? And if you don't read an IOI that means there's no chance? Hell no. Just go in.
/r/seduction02/10/22 05:05 PM
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If you can find some other guys to go out with that want to do the same, that's always helped me alot. As long as they actually want to focus on talking to chicks, and not just sit around all night.
/r/seduction02/10/22 05:03 PM
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I'd say probably don't worry about it too much if you're just getting started. Just focus on talking to lots of girls. Doesn't matter how you do it. Eventually you can start modifying how you communicate as a point of focus, if you feel like you need to. But still, it's not critical. You can get laid without being "alpha". And I feel that having thoughts in your head that "I need to be alpha", and then trying to force it, actually throw you off, and fuck up your confidence, ironically making you…
/r/seduction02/10/22 05:02 PM
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All women are not sluts. Probably bad to follow guys with toxic ideas like that. However short guys can definitely trump tall guys with better mental frame. I'm 6'2" and I've had shorter guy at least once actually steal the girl from me. Was out in New Orleans, meeting a girl for the second night actually out with friends. I was making out with her, holding hands, hanging out, and guy 8 inches shorter than me ends up grabbing her to dance, making out with her, and threw me off completely. I know…
/r/seduction02/10/22 04:59 PM
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You can also just talk about what's going on in your own life. Then at the end of a statement, formulate what you just said about yourself into a question directed at her. "I just started a new job and I'm loving it. I do programming all day long. Do you enjoy your job or is it boring?"
/r/seduction02/10/22 04:54 PM
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You should go out and approach other girls if you can force yourself to. For me this has made regret fade. Go out with some wings if possible to make it easier. I still face regret for failure to act. Nothing to do but move to another girl. And push it out of your mind if it's bothering you. Think of the positive reactions for those times you did approach.
/r/seduction02/10/22 04:53 PM
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It's amazing how much just showing up and saying anything to the girl matters. I feel like the #1 thing that's held me back in game is self-judgement at the approach. Feeling like it's not good enough just to tell her she's cute, or to compliment her outfit. So I say nothing instead. Despite the fact that I have slept with several girls off such first contact. Shoot your shot indeed.
/r/seduction02/10/22 04:50 PM
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Thanks for your thoughts. I feel like you may be overthinking it. I agree with you that girls that sleep around more probably tend to be more towards a certain personality type. But I'm saying that it's probably irrelevant to judge them based only on that. You hang out with them and get a grip of their personality within a couple dates. If you don't like what you find, it's easy to move on. But to say no to them for just having slept with lots of guys I think is silly. Probably girls in general …
/r/seduction02/10/22 04:47 PM
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What the fuck
/r/seduction13/09/22 11:09 PM
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Totally beside the point, but plenty girls will date shorter guys, and probably there are plenty of shorter girls
/r/seduction13/09/22 10:57 PM
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No i mean have the girl get a test before you fuck her without a condom. And just use a condom if not. Your risk of contraction will be extremely low.
/r/seduction13/09/22 10:25 PM
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I think STDs are actually pretty uncommon. But even so if you get a test that problem goes away.
/r/seduction13/09/22 10:22 PM
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I want my woman to be a freak too. Men are so uptight about body count. It’s weak. Can’t handle the thought of a woman having sex for some reason, but they don’t see any problem with themselves fucking random chick after another. What?
/r/seduction13/09/22 10:22 PM
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It’s pathetic that men think women lose their value from having sex, while they go and fuck as many chicks as they want. Only men hurting themselves with such an opinion.
/r/seduction13/09/22 10:20 PM
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If it’s for a good reason, maybe. OP just sounds like he has problem with negativity
/r/seduction13/09/22 10:19 PM
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You have a negative outlook and this is the problem.
/r/seduction13/09/22 10:18 PM
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Everyone can get bored of their partner. Doesn’t even necessarily mean that the gardener was a game beast. People just like sexual variety. A man being super attractive in every way doesn’t make him the only attractive man in her world. In the same way that if you’re banging a girl who you’re insanely attracted to, this doesn’t mean you won’t be attracted to other chicks too. Even if you think they’re less hot than your girl.
/r/seduction31/07/22 10:08 AM
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You can trim your beard with a $35 electric buzzer + attachment clips from Amazon.
/r/seduction27/06/22 10:44 PM
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Yeah, talking to guys is something that I should have gotten better at a long time ago. It's especially important for going out solo. And you meet some awesome dudes. And it's fun. Those cities are expensive. Do a cheaper major city if you need to, but even someone making minimum wage can survive in those cities if they do things correctly.
/r/seduction27/06/22 10:39 PM
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My default is to walk over and tell her I thought she was cute. Then I usually make some kind of comment about her outfit, which I think is a fun and unique way to start off. "I like how you're matching your white shirt with those white converse. Converse is my favorite shoe, but I don't buy them anymore." Other example: - Hi I'm Omar. I had to come over and meet you. I'd regret it if I didn't say hi. - Hi. I saw you from over there and thought you were attractive. (Start talking about the envir…
/r/seduction27/06/22 10:36 PM
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I feel like if you're going to do this at all it's fine to just do it with no precursor. Maybe 1 or 2 message exchanges first. But also, not a high likelihood of success method. To meet girls you mainly should be going out alot and working on meeting them in public places.
/r/seduction26/06/22 10:09 PM
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Of course keep trying. What other option is there? You need to get ghosted a shitton before things start working, and even then it happens constantly. You'll learn to not trip about it eventually. Perhaps try reading books that help with confidence and self improvement so you don't feel so bad about it.
/r/seduction26/06/22 10:07 PM
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It's not really wrong, but I doubt she would give you the referral, or even reply. However, if you're doing this as a subterfuge method to try and date her more, then yes, that's wrong. She doesn't like you.
/r/seduction26/06/22 10:06 PM
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You're slouching in your first pic, and the pose is awkward. Really all of these pics need work. I read this guide by Kill Your Inner Loser that started getting me results on Tinder (still not amazing results, but put me above 0). https://killyourinnerloser.com/ Spend an evening or two reading through his "How to get laid on Tinder" guide. Buy a $20 or $30 phone tripod on amazon with a remote clicker and take better pics of yourself: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B092HF2T5M/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_s…
/r/seduction26/06/22 10:00 PM
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You don't need to learn techniques to talk to women. You just talk to them, and show your interest in them through strong eye contact and flirting/escalation (you don't need techniques for flirting, you can do it your own way if you can think something up). Yes, some girls you meet at your job will be interested in you. But I wouldn't try and date girls met through work, especially not as my primary/only method. Main method should be going out and meeting them out.
/r/seduction26/06/22 09:55 PM
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Yes, it's obvious. As long as you've been being physical and/or flirting and not completely friend-to-friend. Invite her over and kiss her at your place. If she's not into it, the worst thing that can happen is she just leaves. No big deal. You can even pay for her Uber.
/r/seduction26/06/22 09:54 PM
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You don't need to drink. I go out alone all the time. Didn't have enough wings in this city to have friends with me, and often wings I did have didn't want to approach, so I would even prefer to go alone. Males go out alone much more often than women, but still not that much. I'd say go with wings if you can, but if not, definitely go out alone.
/r/seduction26/06/22 09:52 PM
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Yes absolutely. I don't want to be reliant on wings. Though I do want to be out with wings for the most part. Moved to New Orleans a year ago, and there is no community here. Took a long time to find wings, and even then they were not enough for how I wanted to go out. I went out alone for months and months. Often just walking around not talking to anyone all night. Eventually things loosened up and it got a little easier. But even in that time I got laid several times going out alone. If you ca…
/r/seduction26/06/22 09:50 PM
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I feel like I never had that much of a problem with getting rejected. Once I went up, I was just happy I did something. Tyler said that she can't reject you because she doesn't know you yet. She just rejected your approach, and that's a skill you're working on. If self esteem is being hit from this, try working on hobbies and passions that remind you that you're badass. Gym was good idea.
/r/seduction26/06/22 09:48 PM
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You did succeed. This is the first step. Keep working up. You will change your life.
/r/seduction26/06/22 09:46 PM
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I'm assuming you're wondering if the girl liked you? Yes, she liked you. You could have told her you'd be down to hang out. As long as it's not going to get you fired (which there always is some possibility of when doing things like this from work).
/r/seduction26/06/22 09:46 PM
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You're getting girls over to your place and they're not wanting to have sex? Maybe try to chill out a little but still go for it while you two are hanging out. Other than that, escalate by asking her on instant date, bounce somewhere else, hold hand, kiss, or get number if nothing else. EDIT: If the problem is that you're not kissing them or trying to take their pants off (as long as they want it), then you need to start doing that. If you're too shy to kiss her, start by holding her hand. If to…
/r/seduction26/06/22 09:42 PM
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Start off by going out and approaching guys. Just compliment their shirt or something. It's about getting into social mood. One thing I learned from doing sales is that it's not a fear of women, it's just discomfort of approaching in general.
/r/seduction26/06/22 09:40 PM
1

Try to arrange a meetup 2 or max 3. If she's not meeting up to you then, just delete her number and forget about her. You need to be having many many phone numbers that you're running through, and you get this by going out alot, and trying to get the number as often as possible.
/r/seduction26/06/22 09:36 PM
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Make a commitment to go out to bars and clubs at least 1 night every week, but do it as often as you can. When you go out, make a commitment to talk to someone new every 15 minutes, even if it's a man (but aim to do this with girls). This way you can go out for 2 1/2 hours and talk to 10 new people. Do this consistently and eventually you will slowly improve. If you have to, move to a major city where there's more people. New York, Austin, Vegas, and Miami I've heard are best.
/r/seduction26/06/22 09:34 PM
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As another note, I feel like if you're getting women on dates with you that think it's about friendship, you're doing something wrong from the beginning. The woman should know you are attracted to her and that this isn't a friendship, when you first meet. This even applies to online dating. You should be saying things that confirm to her you're looking for a romantic thing.
/r/seduction26/06/22 09:32 PM
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For me, I believe all of the dates I've ever been on, girl wanted to kiss on first date. If she doesn't I've never seen that girl again. I probably have tried to still see her again, but they weren't interested.
/r/seduction26/06/22 09:29 PM
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I would say sorry, or "my bad", then try again in 15 or 30 minutes. Or try some different escalation than you did. If she's wanting to be just friends, she will say she wants to be just friends when you do this.
/r/seduction26/06/22 09:27 PM
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She's into you. Especially since she came up twice. I don't believe girls will grind on a guy that they aren't at least attracted to. You wouldn't want to go up and grind on a girl that you weren't attracted to either.
/r/seduction26/06/22 09:24 PM
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It's ok if it is personal. You must get rejected by many to find a girl who fits you. You need to take the step and be man enough to take that rejection, and you can do it. It may be painful, but that's how you're going to meet the girl who you're searching for. (And she is waiting for you too. She's waiting there all alone, for you to go through all of those rejections, so you can meet her.)
/r/seduction24/06/22 02:58 AM
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You barely have to respond to a comment like that at all. Humor isn't even necessary. Could be fun, but if you're not witty enough, you can just answer "I don't know". And keep talking about other stuff.
/r/seduction24/06/22 02:56 AM
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When I go on a date with a woman, I hold her hand either immediately after we meet (if we're going to walk somewhere), or pretty soon after meeting (5-15 minutes). I also go for a kiss within the first 30 minutes almost always. Even if she doesn't want to kiss right then, she knows what this is about (and would probably make it clear at that point if she wasn't feeling that way).
/r/seduction24/06/22 02:54 AM
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Just going and buying some cheap clothes at the thrift store, and a few cool rings and cheap necklaces on Amazon will make lots of people look waay cooler. Even before the nutrition/workout is fixed. This is an easy one to start with because it's immediate. You hit em with the WINS. Word.
/r/seduction24/06/22 02:53 AM
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You can do the same exact thing. Go out during day/night. Have a coffee/water. You don't need to drink when you go to the bar. Get a water or a seltzer water. Or cranberry juice. Or sprite. Going out at night doesn't require drinking.
/r/seduction24/06/22 02:50 AM
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You can open with a short story about something you did today, or lately, to get a conversation started. Talk for a minute or two and then set up a date. I think ideally, you set up a date right when you get the number. This way you can call/text just to confirm (but still have some fun conversation on the phone).
/r/seduction24/06/22 02:49 AM
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Try not to text or call too much before meeting (or before sex, i’ve heard - and agree with), but women flake all the time for any reason.
/r/seduction22/01/22 10:27 PM
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I think that advice is bullshit. Women hardly ever come up to you, and if they do it’s not the ones you want. You’re only asking because you’re uncomfortable going up to women, I am guessing. Learn to get over your anxiety and go up to them. It’s a fucking bitch, but it’s the right thing to do. Why should the woman be the one who has to approach? Youre the man. Take the lead and learn to do the approach.
/r/seduction21/01/22 02:18 AM
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Touching her, kissing her, holding her hand. Not necessarily in that order. Check out the Kino escalation ladder kino escalation ladder- different steps up of physical escalation. Also just lots of strong eye contact, and some verbal flirting / teasing if you can (i’m not too good with this off the top of my head). Eye contact is the biggest one though.
/r/seduction20/01/22 11:25 PM
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I think you’re overthinking this. All she did was bring up her ex a little. I don’t think that’s a big deal at all. I sometimes talk about my exes to girls i’ve met only a couple times. It doesn’t mean that I want to go back to my ex (but as a side note i believe talking about your ex is generally a bad idea, because girls will start having thoughts like you’re having now) At a fundamental level, i think a good mindset to come from is to not worry about the girl leaving you. If she wants to go t…
/r/seduction20/01/22 11:18 PM
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Check out Leo How to Get Laid https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=6DEGfopquio&t=7466s That’s basically all the foundations. Also dm me for some rsd vids Also what other guy said - go out and approach a lot, don’t spend too much time reading or with vids. It can get confusing and actually make you more insecure.
/r/seduction20/01/22 09:44 AM
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it’s been said that texting too much isn’t a good idea, which i agree with. Just text to set up a date until you’ve had sex. While in person, set the sexual frame.
/r/seduction20/01/22 09:42 AM
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You could explicitly tell her that you want to go on a romantic date. But usually you will have set a sexual frame from the beginning with strong eye contact, touching her, flirting (sexual jokes, telling her you think she’s hot, etc). When on the date, take her hand at the beginning and hold it and walk with her to where you’re going. Strong eye contact. Go in for a kiss at some point.
/r/seduction20/01/22 09:40 AM
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Just find another girl to attract. That will be a lot easier and more fun in the long run.
/r/seduction19/01/22 08:02 AM
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I would definitely go for it if they’re engaged late at night. I’ve gone for it, but it hasn’t ever worked for me. Since it has actually worked for you, you have even more reason that I do to go for it lol. The girls know you want to have sex with them. And i believe that if you’re setting a sexual frame on OLD that’s not a bad thing. I didn’t start getting dates on Tinder at all until i got better pics and started setting a sexual frame (but i still hardly get dates just fyi)
/r/seduction19/01/22 08:01 AM
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No it’s not creepy. I’ll be in my 30s in a few years, and i’ll be right there with you going out alone. Take advantage of finally having your life together and go get the girls you want. Some girls will always get creeped out by you no matter if you’re in your 20s or 40s or whatever. Just keep going.
/r/seduction19/01/22 07:58 AM
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I think there’s a spectrum of “not attracted to” / “attracted to”. I’ve gone on a tinder date with a girl that looked ok. She turned out to be a lot heavier than she looked and i was like nah, but later i ended up being horny and taking her back to my place. We saw each other like twice and then that was it. As far as longer term dating - i haven’t dated chicks that i was not attracted to at all, but i have dated chicks that i was kindof attracted to but i knew it wasn’t going to go anywhere. I …
/r/seduction19/01/22 07:56 AM
3

Dude just learn to approach the girls. Women don’t make the first move almost ever. Waiting for that is a losing game.
/r/seduction19/01/22 07:52 AM
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Yeah I also feel weird because it feels somewhat dishonest. Like your idea. Would like to think of something that is even easier to just say and walk away than “ hey how’s it going “
/r/seduction19/01/22 12:16 AM
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I still tell her shes' cute. You could tell her that "the top 1/3 of your face is cute" lol
/r/seduction15/01/22 01:46 AM
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I think it depends on the situation. If you’re trying to get better with chicks for example; then i would not only restrict approaching to girls who are a “fuck yes”, because you’re losing momentum and practice
/r/seduction14/01/22 09:57 PM
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Sounds like there’s some disinterest if you guys stopped talking for two weeks. As is the general answer for posts like these, the solution is usually to go out and learn to meet more girls.
/r/seduction12/01/22 08:52 PM
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Stop drinking that much. I stay sober totally or have like one or two glass of wine. If you’re flirting with a girl and drinking together, try touching her, holding hands, kissing. Receptiveness to this will show you there’s a path to sex. Just keep watching her face to make sure she’s enjoying everything. But yeah I would just try to escalate physically. You often don’t know the situation just from appearance and you want to see if she likes you putting your hands on her to move forward. Going …
/r/seduction12/01/22 08:50 PM
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If you did go on dates, probably depends on how the dates went. Maybe she wanted to be kissed and you didn’t escalate? Or maybe she wanted to be fucked and you didn’t try?
/r/seduction12/01/22 08:47 PM
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The problem with guys getting ahead of themselves is they are not interacting with nearly enough women. You gotta go out a lot and get chances with lots of women, then you’ll stop being so needy for the one.
/r/seduction12/01/22 08:45 PM
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Personally i would say don’t mess around with coworkers. Learn to go out and meet girls instead. You could start with Leo’s series on how to get laid https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=6DEGfopquio&t=7025s
/r/seduction12/01/22 08:44 PM
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Yeah i think it depends on the situation. I believe as a man it’s ok to cry in front of your partner, but if you’re overly emotional and have depression or something and are crying a lot, that’s an indicator of a different problem. So occasional crying is fine, but if you got lots of crying happening it might be a sign of something else in life you need to address.
/r/seduction12/01/22 08:42 PM
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I’ve heard the best cities are Austin, Vegas, Miami, and New York. Austin might be the easiest transition for you.
/r/seduction12/01/22 08:41 PM
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Great dude you got this. Next step is to just keep approaching girls as much as possible. Leo Gura has a good Youtube series on the fundamentals of game see first of 3 vids here.
/r/seduction12/01/22 02:29 PM
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This is the first day of the rest of your life my friend. Go out there and win the ladies.
/r/seduction12/01/22 02:03 PM
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You know I never thought of it like that, but when you say it I see that that is true. It’s rare gold to be a person who focuses on self improvement. ✨
/r/seduction10/01/22 11:53 PM
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You could comment on the situation, surroundings, your life, what you did today. What you’re doing. What you liked about her. Check out Leo’s How to Get Laid 2 for some fundamentals of approaching https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=XBtCxHuYp8M&t=284s
/r/seduction10/01/22 12:52 AM
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Ah yes. Yeah not sure. Hard to say. Could be lots of things. Could be something out of your hands. I would have tried to get her over to my place though. Especially if you were getting a “fuck me” vibe. I believe that if she wants it, and you want it, and you don’t go for it, she’ll think you fucked up.
/r/seduction10/01/22 12:49 AM
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You took her home - did you fuck her? Or at least try? If not then that’s where you fucked up.
/r/seduction10/01/22 12:47 AM
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Yeah i think most of us have a lot of value that we don’t acknowledge. Especially us out here working on ourselves and shit
/r/seduction09/01/22 09:10 PM
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50 50 absolutely
/r/seduction09/01/22 08:18 PM
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“i’m not going to buy you a drink”
/r/seduction09/01/22 08:16 PM
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I think if you make a commitment to go out a fuck ton you’ll start getting success, and slowly you’ll build up the mentality, both from the increase in confidence you’ll get, + the results that will come slowly
/r/seduction09/01/22 08:14 PM
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Lol well if you’re going to get ignored from a single or double what’s the difference? You’re still ignored. I would wait a day or two if it’s a new girl. If you’ve been seeing her I would give her a few days. Kindof depends on the situation though. The other day i messaged a girl on FB, she had replied right away to first message, then i was setting up a date and she ghosted for a few days. In this case I didn’t see benefit to try and set up again. However if your text is just like “hey what’s …
/r/seduction09/01/22 08:10 PM
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I think this is normal in many areas of self development, e.g. career. I try and just take that feeling and keep reminding myself that i’m badass, and that i am valuable
/r/seduction09/01/22 07:46 PM
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Short guys take notice - review this post before you make another post complaining about how short guys can’t get laid
/r/seduction09/01/22 07:45 PM
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What about kissing her on the mouth during the first date? this is usually what i go for
/r/seduction09/01/22 07:44 PM
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Yeah I love that one. Been studying game online for years and never came across a free foundations series like that. You can watch it on double speed to get through it faster. Part 2 is where he gets into the details and mechanics.
/r/seduction09/01/22 06:35 PM
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Not a book, but game fundamentals are explained in Leo’s 3 part Youtube series, How to Get Laid https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=6DEGfopquio&t=1057s
/r/seduction09/01/22 06:11 PM
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You’re wrong and there’s tons of evidence that you’re wrong. Stop being negative and you can go out and meet girls.
/r/seduction09/01/22 02:11 AM
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Dude go get some therapy to stop being negative. Or read some books. That’s probably #1 for you
/r/seduction09/01/22 02:10 AM
2

Yeah you are making everything harder with these bullshit mindsets. You need to fucking get rid of these
/r/seduction09/01/22 01:59 AM
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Dude, eventually you’ll want to get to a point where you raise your standards to have requirements for a girl who is not a loser and is not only hot. Also; women fuck guys who have shit social status and are just cool and fun, all the fucking time; so no, they are not more superficial. If anything we are more superficial because well fuck any hot girl.
/r/seduction09/01/22 01:58 AM
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Dude you need to learn to calm the fuck down about this. It is what it is and it doesn’t matter. Just go learn to socialize and talk to tons of girls and be happy that you’re not an ugly girl, who can do a lot less to improve herself. It’s a good thing that you actually can improve a lot by learning. Looking at people who have it easier and getting angry at it is massively fucking you up. It’s making you negative and it’s making everything much harder. Especially when it’s to the point that you …
/r/seduction09/01/22 01:55 AM
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You don't need to ask advice for every small thing. Just say whatever back to her, it doesn't matter too much. "I'll be wearing a cowboy costume to our first date so we'll be an odd couple."
/r/seduction08/01/22 11:43 PM
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Try and go home with the girl that night. Don’t go for the number first. Ask if she wants to come over to your place. Try and counter all the objections she gives you. If the logistics are bad to go to your place, ask her if you can come with her to her place. If she absolutely doesn’t want to come over (not just playfully saying no), then get the number and, as you said, set up the date right then and there at the bar. If you can’t set up date right then and there, text or call next day. You ca…
/r/seduction08/01/22 10:57 PM
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I think Tinder is a good supplement to cold. Check out Andy’s tinder guide, good stuff there: https://killyourinnerloser.com/tinder-guide/
/r/seduction08/01/22 08:30 PM
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I’m guessing they are a bit more charismatic and confident, so the girls attention goes to them. You can work on this, just keep opening and gaming and eventually you’ll be better. Also if your friends are hooking up with girls you’re opening they’re kindof shitty friends, consider new ones
/r/seduction08/01/22 08:02 PM
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Make a plan for yourself to do things one small step per day. You need to make small progress one at a time. Start out by doing what you can to move out of your parents. Move to a new state or something where it’s cheaper. Living with parents isn’t helping your mental health. You can live with roommates even on minimum wage. Then, go out every day and talk to girls and learn pickup. I would check out some of Jordan Petersons vids about improving your life, and Leo’s vids in how to get laid: http…
/r/seduction08/01/22 07:58 PM
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Dude fuck no. I’m finally done with school, work remote now. I’m putting 100% focus on dating. Covid is not going to stop that for me; and if you go out you’ll see that it’s not stopping the chicks either Unless you have some extremely important higher purpose besides getting good with girls that you’re spending all of your time on, fucking definitely keep going at it. But no matter what, I think getting good w chicks is one of pillars of life, and if it’s missing nothing else can be really enjo…
/r/seduction08/01/22 07:55 PM
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You can open with the same if you want. You can still see she’s pretty even with masks on. If she comments on that just joke about it or something. “the top half of your face is pretty”
/r/seduction08/01/22 07:52 PM
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You’re going to have feel awkward and forced to some extent. You gotta just take her hand at this point. No need to try and build up to that. You can also touch her shoulders, poke her, google “Kino escalation ladder”. You can get close to her. At some point just look in her eyes and don’t say anything, lean in to kiss. Personally i would definitely not wait until the third date to escalate at all. Escalate by at least touching her in some way (even just touching shoulders or hugging), within th…
/r/seduction08/01/22 07:42 PM
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Had 2 awful girlfriends, with a gap of 2 years in between of no sex or romantic contact whatsoever. Decided after that, never again. I started learning pickup and social skills and flirting online, went out day and night approaching girls. Found some wings online to go do this with. Changed my life more than anything else. If you want to get started somewhere i’d recommend Leo How to Get Laid https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=6DEGfopquio&t=531s
/r/seduction08/01/22 06:18 AM
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Hey i’m not saying no to the hooker, whichever one seems best go for it lol
/r/seduction08/01/22 04:44 AM
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Well then if you don’t believe you can improve at all i guess you can just give up, and spend the rest of your life crying on here instead of working to make yourself better in the many ways that a man can (not just apprearance & money)
/r/seduction07/01/22 07:17 PM
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Heard that if you put a drop of lube inside before sex it feels more natural
/r/seduction07/01/22 05:46 PM
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Yeah i mean that’s annoying. Just the thing to keep in mind is that if you’re ugly or short, coming on here and crying about it is not going to help with girls. If your looks suck; there’s a lot of things that can be done to improve despite.
/r/seduction07/01/22 05:37 PM
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Lol the hooker doesn’t like you for you though 😉
/r/seduction07/01/22 05:35 PM
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Lol i was considering paying $80 to take an uber for an hour last night to see a girl that i didn’t even think was that attractive. I say go for it!
/r/seduction07/01/22 12:20 PM
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I mean fundamentally all Tyler says is: * improve your looks as best you can * go out and talk to women There’s no black magic here. You’d be better off going and doing that than hating on the forum.
/r/seduction07/01/22 12:11 PM
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Hehe yeah bro. If you went out and did the things that Tyler said you’d know it’s not a scam.
/r/seduction07/01/22 12:07 PM
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Yeah OP I agree - constant shit posting about how the world sucks because I'm ugly and short - when there is so much that can be improved.
/r/seduction07/01/22 12:06 PM
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There are things that are much more important to women than looks. Being a strong, confident, masculine man. Having solid inner beliefs. This is more important.
/r/seduction07/01/22 12:05 PM
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RSD Tyler is that guy
/r/seduction07/01/22 12:03 PM
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OP is probably posting to keep all these fuckers to stop complaining and feeling hopeless. Agreed that looks can be improved (just look how much women improve their looks). Improving looks is crucial, but going out and doing game is equally or more important. & It's not incorrect that you want to be able to be yourself. Point of being unstifled and part of having good game is to be able to relax and express your personality around women. That plus some mechanics and flirting and other inner game…
/r/seduction07/01/22 12:02 PM
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Haha cool, I like your edit. I wasn't thinking you were saying that all pickup is bad. But just felt to give that reminder for those who are looking for evidence that pickup doesn't work.
/r/seduction07/01/22 11:54 AM
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Lol yeah agreed that’s one of the things I was alluding to when I said “other reasons”. i Like how you bolded neediness. That definitely was what happened with me in my first relationships. It was some kind of sexless, twisted hell
/r/seduction07/01/22 08:17 AM
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I like to call. I’m not sure it matters. I think it’s more likely they reply if you text. I think chicks can get nervous on the phone. But not totally sure. I do enjoy talking to the girl and hearing her voice, and i think it’s good practice. Edit: I actually mostly text these days
/r/seduction07/01/22 03:57 AM
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Yeah fucking for real. Girls aren’t going to start approaching you just because you’re working on yourself (and you still don’t have social skills with women)
/r/seduction07/01/22 03:56 AM
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Glad this wasn’t another post asking how to get out of the friend zone
/r/seduction07/01/22 03:55 AM
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I try and do “Hi my name is Omar”, then comment on the situation, comment on the music, talk about my week, my plans, how the night been going. Whatever comes to mind, if anything. If nothing comes to mind, i try and slog through. Saying anything. Just try to say something. Tell her you’re nervous, and you suck your own dick if you can’t think of anything else.
/r/seduction07/01/22 03:54 AM
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Good job son, keep up the good work
/r/seduction07/01/22 03:52 AM
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There are some dangers to pickup. But also don’t forget that danger of not doing pickup is not having any relationship at all. And then when you get one you fuck it up for other reasons. Be cautious about the negative fields that do exist within pickup (i.e. being a fucking asshole, talking about women like they’re trash), but don’t miss all of the value that it brings as well.
/r/seduction07/01/22 03:52 AM
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I wouldn’t. I feel that you wouldn’t even consider this if you were out meeting more chicks. Go out and work on meet more chicks instead.
/r/seduction07/01/22 03:49 AM
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I don’t wait anymore for anticipation. Read some advice that this was kindof like unnecessary game playing. If you got an active life as you should then there will be gaps automatically
/r/seduction07/01/22 02:38 AM
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You need to go out and talk to shit tons of women and learn game. Forget about online girls that you’re never going to meet. Learn pickup. Start w Leo how to get laid https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=6DEGfopquio&t=528s
/r/seduction06/01/22 10:30 AM
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She thinks you’re mad because you were acting cold for the rest of the date. If she rejects the kiss, just be cool, step down to the next lowest kino that she was enjoying, and try for the kiss again in like 10 minutes, 30 mins, 5 mins, or whatever. You’re not fucking it up by going for the kiss. You would have been fucking it up had you not gone for the kiss. You can tell her that you got a vibe that she wasnt into you because she didn’t want to kiss; but after you went home you realized that y…
/r/seduction06/01/22 10:26 AM
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Learn pickup. Go out and talk to a fuckload of girls. Start with Leo how to get laid: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=6DEGfopquio&t=528s
/r/seduction06/01/22 10:20 AM
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Lol yes, Tyler from RSD. There is nothing wrong with approaching women. There's nothing wrong with finding them attractive and wanting them. That's men's natural desire, and you know it. Tyler, RSD, and other pickup coaches are fundamentally just going up to women, and talking to them to attract them. What they teach obviously works for tons of guys. Some girls are going to be creeped out when you approach because you're going to be nervous, you're going to say some dumb ass thing, or you're jus…
/r/seduction06/01/22 09:25 AM
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Dude, you can do what you like, but I've been down the same road. When I try to not focus on girls, I get no girls in my life. I have gotten the idea in the past that I can just 'be myself' and 'be cool' and 'dont worry about it', and it never gets me fucking anywhere. When I go out alot, talk to alot of girls, and hit game hard, that's when I get results. I know it feels creepy. It's not unusual that it feels creepy. The truth is that you will creep out alot of girls in this process, but it is …
/r/seduction06/01/22 05:45 AM
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I would take mens advice with a grain of salt, because we’ve never been a woman who attracted a guy - but I would say work on making your life really awesome. Have awesome hobbies, work on being super positive, work on your health and get really hot, work on your style and look really hot when you go out all the time. Work on your makeup too to make yourself look awesome. Then spend shit tons of time around where lots of guys hang out. Probably clubs where high status people go to are your best …
/r/seduction06/01/22 03:32 AM
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It’s been said that you want to text basically only to organize the meet up, until you’ve had sex. Then text a bit more for fun, but I would still keep it down to a low number. i think You want to get to a point where you’re not feeling compulsion to text her or receive her texts. See Andy’s Tinder guide section about messaging girls: https://killyourinnerloser.com/tinder-guide-3/ Edit: Also as other dude said, you don’t need to text to keep her interest. In fact i believe it will risk do the op…
/r/seduction05/01/22 11:08 PM
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For the couple girls I am seeing, I told them after the second sex that I still wanted to see other girls, but wanted to see them still, and wasn’t trying to replace them. Andy of Kill Your inner loser has a nice article about retention: https://killyourinnerloser.com/tinder-guide-5/ Also . It’s normal to have feelings for girls you fuck. Not really a simp for that.
/r/seduction05/01/22 08:01 PM
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SEND IT. Has become much easier for me to approach if I warm up with 5 easy interactions first: Ask 5 girls for the time, ask 5 girls for directions, etc
/r/seduction05/01/22 08:35 AM
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Yeah for real. This post answers like half of the questions asked in r/seduction
/r/seduction05/01/22 07:04 AM
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Thanks. Yeah i mean no girls are coming in expecting a boyfriend right away. But us guys think that often, because we keep hearing talking heads saying that girls want a relationship and not sex. Even if a girl is going for a relationship it’s going to take a while, and most girls will have sex before becoming your girlfriend
/r/seduction05/01/22 04:10 AM
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I want jeffys vids too
/r/seduction05/01/22 02:13 AM
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Yeah, but apparently certain dudes didn't like my comment lol
/r/seduction05/01/22 01:20 AM
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Just make some indirect comment to him about his workout or his outfit or his anything or anything at all not even to do with him. Just get some kind of conversation started. If you can’t then at least give him some eye contact that is going to give him an idea. If he doesn’t do anything then forget about him. Go out to the club where guys come and talk to you more.
/r/seduction04/01/22 10:18 AM
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Yes. It works. Have had dates and sex from cold approach. There a fucking shitton of evidence that cold approach works. There’s a fucking million guys on the net and this reddit talking about how it works. There’s a million youtube vids of infield footage. You think this is all made up? This should not even be a question. Go find an online pickup community in your city, get someone to meet up with you to wing with, and talk to other guys in pickup. You’ll see that this obviously works. Go out an…
/r/seduction04/01/22 10:14 AM
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What the fuck dude. Calm the fuck down. You didn’t do anything wrong. You’re overthinking all this shit. It was right to invite her over. If she don’t like you anymore then forget about her and move on to someone else.
/r/seduction04/01/22 10:10 AM
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I don’t really like any of those. But maybe they speak of the frame you’re coming from. I would just tell her “next time well make up for it”. But if I had to pick one it would be B. P.S. I hope you’re actually kissing this girl in the mouth and vagina as well, and not doing a million dates with only cheek kisses.
/r/seduction04/01/22 10:08 AM
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None is too much. Every approach is a win. You need to work on changing your frame to seeing this as a positive. Make very slow progress over time. If you’re getting insulted and called a creep now; try to find out where you’re fucking up and maybe get called a creep a little less next month. Keep making incremental improvements and realize that this is about you recreating yourself. It’s going to take a shitload of work. This process is a fucking bitch for all of us, but if you’re out doing it …
/r/seduction04/01/22 10:04 AM
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How much time are you spending on hobbies? I would cut it down to like a couple hours a week, and go full blast on pickup (that’s what i’m doing now). My plan is go out every fucking day and weekend for the next like 3 years until this problem is fucking solved. I started game like 7 years ago, but always felt too busy with college to take it really seriously. Finally got a good job and going full blast meow. Don’t want to wake up in another 7 years and still suck ass.
/r/seduction04/01/22 09:57 AM
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You’re going to get ignored a fuck ton on Tinder. And lots of convos die. Girls have a billion convos going on. Just keep it short. 3 back and forths and then go for the meet up. Check out KYILs tinder guide: https://killyourinnerloser.com/tinder-guide/ His template is basically: “Hi, you’re sexy. I’m Omar. What you up to?” [respond to what she says]. What do you like to do for fun? I like _____. [respond]. What part of town are you from? I’m from ___. [respond]. You seem cool. We should meet up…
/r/seduction04/01/22 09:53 AM
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Doesn’t sound like you’re ending the relationship if you’re wondering how to flip this lol. I would say get the fuck out and don’t look back. Go find a not toxic chick. Go make it a goal to fuck 10 other girls and see if you still care about her.
/r/seduction04/01/22 09:45 AM
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Women just want a confident strong man. That’s normal. It’s hard for us because easy culture is making us progressively softer, weaker, and more passive.
/r/seduction04/01/22 09:43 AM
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It’s normal to get rejected a shit ton.
/r/seduction04/01/22 09:22 AM
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Like others said, I think it’s a dangerous game to be involved with a girl that will withhold sex for that long. Makes me scared she will do it in the future. Over and over.
/r/seduction04/01/22 09:21 AM
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I think Leo from Actualized has a great video on this foundational stuff. Basically strong eye contact and your desire for her (if you're not shitting your pants) should make the conversation emotional by default. Getting close to her. Escalating physically (google Kino escalation ladder). If you like her, and you're both talking, and you keep staring into her eyes and being close to her, squaring up, having strong voice, it's going to be emotional. Just keep looking at her face, and if she look…
/r/seduction04/01/22 07:11 AM
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This is totally fine and normal and it's the mindset that I think most women will be coming to the date with. You don't know if you want to become her girlfriend after a couple dates. I would be open from the start. After having sex once or twice explicitly tell her that I like seeing her, but I want to keep seeing other girls. "Not because I'm trying to replace you or anything, but because I enjoy dating around." It's advice I heard from Andy of KillYourInnerLoser's Tinder Guide.
/r/seduction04/01/22 07:07 AM
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Invited you. The boys created a subreddit for this too: r/DesiSeduction
/r/seduction03/01/22 05:01 AM
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It's been said that alot of your flirting depends on your vibe and your state. I think that's probably true. I'm no expert, but I would think that in most situations, something like: I like looking into your eyes You smell good I like the way you feel Possibly more risque you turn me on you're making me feel weird in the dick (shout out to RSD Jeffy) you have really nice tits. Can I squeeze them? Leo from Actualized.org has a great segment on physical escalation in his How to Get Laid Part 2 vid…
/r/seduction03/01/22 12:51 AM
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Try not to go too deep in the beggining if its' not working. Just comment on the environment, make observational guesses about her ("you look like you're a stewardess"). Make observations about the environment. Think of some life stories to tell about yourself (you can have some stories about you in mind before you go out). Talk about what you did today, last week, last year. Talk about what you plan to do. Talk about what you plan not to do. You can get deeper with the girl a little further int…
/r/seduction03/01/22 12:41 AM
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Probably minimizing porn is good. I think getting in your head about it will make it harder (no pun intended). First couple times I was with a super cutie I'm seeing, I couldn't get hard. For me I just had some nerves around her. I think it's not totally unnatural to not get hard around chicks the first time. And really, I dont think its a big deal for them really. Just be honest, and accept it. It's not something you need to be ashamed of. You can still finger the girl, eat her, and make that p…
/r/seduction03/01/22 12:36 AM
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Wow this is really funny. Props for a creative idea! Owen from RSD once gave an opinion on social proof, and he said that he thought people were pretty much in their own world at the club, and didn't notice others that much. I think having social proof is great and you stand out, but not having it is not a negative. It's hard to feel this way though, because it's a big mental barrier. 🧠 When I get in my head about this I'll start jumping around on the dance floor vigorously to amp up, and I will…
/r/seduction03/01/22 12:33 AM
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Proud-Gas6949 Added you
/r/seduction03/01/22 12:25 AM
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invited you
/r/seduction02/01/22 03:22 PM
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snoopdawg420 invited you
/r/seduction02/01/22 03:22 PM
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I'm not in India but can I join the group too?
/r/seduction02/01/22 01:12 PM
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Think of this shitty situation as a chance to get better at what they call AMOGing. The best thing I think to do is just go and try and start talking to the girl again. This is a bitch to do when she's now engaged with another dude, but I think this is a skill in itself. Eventually you will get more and more good and pulling the girl back from other dudes. However try and not let it happen from the start of course. But I would try not to be afraid that it's going to happen if you let the girl go…
/r/seduction02/01/22 12:33 AM
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Dude, there's obviously a shitton of evidence that proves game is real. If you went out with some guys who did pickup you would see quickly that ugly guys get laid. One of the reasons women don't like you specifically is probably because you're so negative, but mostly because you obviously haven't gone out and stuck at game for the time that was necessary. There's no reason to give up, because this will keep eating at you forever. And certainly there is no reason to come on here and discourage o…
/r/seduction01/01/22 02:30 AM
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I'm not really good with heights, but yeah I think I would. It would make you the same height or taller as all girls up to 1 inch taller. Sounds worth it. Hot women get to be the best just because they are hot. That's just the way it is. It would be great to just accept that and move on. I don't know what else to say. You're going back to "You have to be rich or tall". But we just went over the fact that you don't need to list your height in the bio. Why are you focusing on these things anyway? …
/r/seduction31/12/21 09:30 AM
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Yeah that's what I mean. Can also practice just socializing with guys, bouncers, everyone. Will help to talk to chicks.
/r/seduction31/12/21 05:10 AM
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The idea is not to compensate with money or status. You don't even have to put your height in your bio on Tinder (actually you might need to be a paid member to hide it, I'm not sure). If you're short, get some shoes with thick platforms, put some padding in them, and maybe add 1 or 2 inches that way. Other than that, the same rules apply. There's not much you can do about it. Just go hit up Tinder and go out and talk to lots of girls. What other option is there? You will get laid if you put you…
/r/seduction30/12/21 06:00 AM
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I guess it depends on where you're at. But if you're really trying to work your options (like I am sometimes), it can be worth the extra effort if there's a chance of success. Not so easy for me to go on a date with a hot girl on Tinder as it stands, so if I liked her I would push for it. Makes sense for a girl to not care too much from the start. She has never met you, you're "just a random guy". Some flakiness can be forgiven.
/r/seduction30/12/21 05:55 AM
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Okay dude, looks matter to some extent. Like I said, same rules apply. Just improve your looks as best you can (you can do a ton by having nice facial hair, style, managing your diet, and working out), and then go interact with women. Women are attracted by things other than looks. Tall, good looking guys can't get pussy if they never go out and their game sucks. You see this all the fucking time. You have to go and learn game if you want to get laid, even if you're good looking. Even if looks w…
/r/seduction30/12/21 05:49 AM
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Title doesn't suggest that she flaked twice. I would set up 3 meets anyway and then let it go. Probably doesn't matter too much either way. But my point is that you don't have anything to lose by being the one to reschedule, even multiple times.
/r/seduction28/12/21 08:11 PM
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Journaling is a great way to learn and improve.
/r/seduction28/12/21 08:05 PM
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It's cool bro. Cheer up and go cold approach or try and match with another in time for the event ;)
/r/seduction28/12/21 06:52 PM
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Dude you didn't need to unmatch her. Girls are often busy and won't make follow up plans. I would follow up with 2 new dates before letting the ball go to her court for 2 or 3 weeks, then maybe unmatch or forget about her. I've met up, had sex with, and am now seeing a hottie from Tinder because I did what I just said above. She was busy and I rescheduled even though she didn't. You have nothing to lose by rescheduling. She has no investment in you yet. She's got a ton of guys hitting her up. Do…
/r/seduction28/12/21 06:50 PM
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I'm not saying that you have to do Tinder, but I believe you can get results if you improve a bit. I saw your Hinge profile. Your face looks fine. And youre skinny, (rather than fat), which is great. I think if you improved your style a bit and took some more sexier pictures in addition to the cool outdoors ones you would do better. You look cool in the one where you're on the beach with sunglasses. Going to the gym and building some muscle would probably help a bit. If you have abs you could ta…
/r/seduction28/12/21 07:15 AM
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As far as hobbies etc., hiking and meditating are positive ways to stay active and peaceful. Spending time in nature. Going on long walks in nice places and listening to smart audiobooks on double speed. Riding my bike around town. DJing as a hobby at home. Learning coding and starting that as a career made a great difference for me. I can work remotely and live anywhere now. Also, IDK if this counts as an answer, but going out and doing alot of cold approach to get better with girls has made a …
/r/seduction28/12/21 05:42 AM
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You should probably see her a few times before making plans so far into the future. See her enough times to be somewhat sure that you'll keep seeing her for a month. (helps if you've slept together a couple times - ideally you'll do this asap - first or second date - imo). If she's newer, go for a shorter time. 2 weeks or 1 week. At least have gone on 2 dates I'd say before making plans 2 weeks in advance.
/r/seduction28/12/21 05:39 AM
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I'd say if you're even remotely attracted to them, then yes. This could be good to get the ball rolling. I've done this. Usually the way it's happened for me is that it's a girl that looks nice on the pictures, but she's alot heavier in person. But I go for it anyway in the end. I think it helps to get some momentum. Just wear protection. You also don't even have to fuck her. You could just do the date/pull/ have her suck your dick and finger her, if that's more comfortable. I've also done this.…
/r/seduction28/12/21 05:36 AM
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It helps me to start by talking to other people. Ask 5 guys for the time. Ask 5 girls for the time. Ask 5 girls for directions. Tell 5 girls you like their outfit, then run away. Minimize time between these. You'll build some momentum and should make it easier to do a direct cold approach. Sure does for me.
/r/seduction28/12/21 05:32 AM
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I don't know what to say bro. Just keep working on it. Read more about game and go out with other guys. Go out as many nights / days a week as possible. Try going on Tinder too. I followed Kill Your Inner Loser's Tinder Guide and started getting results. Focus on small successes over the long term. If you're going out consistently and focusing on one sticking point of Game at a time, it's impossible to not make progress. And if you can make progress, eventually you can get laid. Even if it takes…
/r/seduction28/12/21 05:31 AM
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I was going to school. My mom is from there so I'm a swedish citizen. Never graduated though. Came back to America and became a Web developer from studying online lol. https://omarshishani.com
/r/seduction28/12/21 04:04 AM
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Thanks bro. I'm still improving it. I match with some hot girls, most flake, but have been going on like 1 date a month on average with a girl I actually like.
/r/seduction28/12/21 04:03 AM
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I don't think you even need to be polite if she's asking for money. You could: not respond at all. In this case that would be acceptable. "Sorry but I don't lend out money even to my close friends" "Sorry but I don't lend out money to people I don't know well" "Sorry, but I'm not going to lend you money" P.S. Ditch that girl
/r/seduction27/12/21 11:31 AM
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Incels are a mentally disturbed toxic negative group, who exist to complain. I would stay away from them. If you're a masculine man you will find yourself a Western woman who wants to be your feminine kitten.
/r/seduction27/12/21 11:29 AM
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Don't leave the ball in a girl's court ever. It's your job as a man to be proactive. You could have suggested a reschedule as your reply immediately. "Sure, no worries. I'm free [time and place] if that works." Girls are passive and shy. They are often not going to be proactive about reaching out. What are you gaining from not reaching out to her? Not looking needy? It's not needy to be trying to set up a date with her, even if you need to reschedule.
/r/seduction27/12/21 11:26 AM
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Be physical from the start. Hold her hand from the beginning. Touch her. Poke her. Put your hands on her shoulders. Rub her hips. Touch her nose with your nose. Get close to her. Space these things out and read her face to see if she likes it. If she's hesitant, back off and try again in a bit. Here's a video from Leo of Actualized.org in his How to Get Laid Series. The link starts at the time of the video where he dives into physical escalation for a couple minutes. I recommend watching that. A…
/r/seduction27/12/21 11:20 AM
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Go out alot and talk to shit tons of girls. Learn to cold approach and attract them and take them home. Check out Leo's series of How to Get Laid for Game foundations. Also do fun hobbies that are social and make friends. Invite friends to hang out and be proactive about building a social circle. Bring girls into this circle, and other friends can bring girls too.
/r/seduction27/12/21 11:13 AM
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New Orleans, Louisiana. Much smaller city than I expected, but night game is big. I live really close to Bourbon Street and it's a party. I lived in Stockholm, Sweden for 3 years. Day and Night game was great there. Shit tons of hot girls all over the place. If your city is a 6/10, I'd say move to a 8/10 - 10/10 city for game. If girls are a priority then it's worth it. I'm moving to Miami next.
/r/seduction27/12/21 11:11 AM
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I'm using Tinder Platinum but it costs like $120/year. Also I pay for boosts once a weekend on Saturday night around midnight. Also heard that paying for Hinge is runner up to Tinder, or possibly even better. I would definitely recommend paying for the apps. At least for a month or two to see the difference. Paying levels up your profile. Source: Kill Your Inner Loser's Tinder Guide My Tinder Profile (I'm not getting elite matches or anything - so my profile still kindof sucks. But it's improvin…
/r/seduction27/12/21 11:09 AM
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She's not invested much in you because she's in a relationship I'm guessing. Better to stay away from girls in relationships. Sounds like the advice you really need rather than advice with this girl is to go out / go online and meet alot more chicks, and stop focusing on this one. Focus on increasing your options. Also you work with her, which is another big minus (unless she was a customer or client).
/r/seduction27/12/21 11:02 AM
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If girls are tending to ghost rather than flaking, I would be suspicious that it may be something that you're doing or saying, rather than a failure to attract in the first place. Maybe try posting some examples of conversations you have and getting some feedback? Or at least discuss what you're saying to her. But a certain # of girls will ghost reliably, especially if the number is fresh and you don't have a deeper connection with her. Ghosts and flakes are both inevitable. It's no big deal, ju…
/r/seduction27/12/21 10:58 AM
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Check out Leo's YouTube series on the foundations of game. He covers all the foundations really well. Basically what you said. Approach shit tons of girls, learn to attract them, learn to take them home, and repeat. Go out during the day as well. Also go on Tinder and hit up shit tons of girls there. I followed KYIL's Tinder Guide and I actually started getting results from Tinder (though I did have to start paying for Tinder). Here's an example of my profile right now. I'm still kindof sucking,…
/r/seduction27/12/21 10:54 AM
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Being assertive and needy are two totally different things. Also it depends on the situation. Need more context. Being assertive is a good thing if she's behaving badly.
/r/seduction27/12/21 10:51 AM
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I'm confused as to how you could be getting 30 matches a day and not meeting up with any girls. 30 a day is a shit ton. I followed Andy's Tinder Guide from KYIL, and I just followed his template with some small talk in between. For me, out of maybe 50 matches (which takes me like 3 weeks) I will meet up with one. Here is my tinder profile. If you do the same I think it's impossible for you to not meet up with the girls. I don't know what kind of templates you are using that are having such a hig…
/r/seduction27/12/21 10:45 AM
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I tried Tinder on and off for years with 0 result. After improving my profile and following KYIL's Tinder Guide I started to get laid. Looks are more important on online dating, but just improve your looks, lose weight, take great pics, go out and do cold approach as well, and then shut the hell up. Feeling sorry for yourself for being unattractive is actively making it harder for you to get laid or get a girlfriend.
/r/seduction27/12/21 10:40 AM
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You definitely do not need to wait for eye contact, and this will rarely happen. Especially eye contact + smile. You can go up and talk to the girls without either.
/r/seduction27/12/21 10:35 AM
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This was not about physical attractiveness. If the girl didn't find you attractive in some way to start she wouldn't have been with you at all. Physical is a small factor. There are other areas you can improve.
/r/seduction27/12/21 10:32 AM
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Check out Leo's series on How to Get Laid, it's a great cover of the foundations of Game. If you want you can watch it on double speed.
/r/seduction27/12/21 10:29 AM
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Check out Leo's series on How to Get Laid
/r/seduction27/12/21 10:28 AM
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Well dude these long distance girls shouldn't be your only options. If this is all you have going then definitely work on going out more, approaching more, going on Tinder, etc. I'm watching this 3-part series about game fundamentals r n, you can check it out here: Leo Gura - How to Get Laid. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6DEGfopquio&ab\_channel=Actualized.org
/r/seduction26/12/21 05:30 AM
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It's not that it really objectively is 100% your fault, but it's more of a way of looking at it. If the weather sucks where you live, you can say it's your fault for not moving. Having a mentality that things are your fault is not to make everything a burden on you, but rather to shift the mentality. From "This is my fault, which means that I can do something to change it" rather than "This is someone else's fault, so I can't do anything to improve it".
/r/seduction25/12/21 10:49 PM
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Sorry I forgot that the girls were mostly far away. Yeah I suppose just texting infrequently to keep them interested sounds like the only way. Possibly a phone call every once in a while. You don't have to ask girls for sex on the first date. I guess that you're right, it depends on the girl. When I date a girl I like to go for sex on the first date. That's advice I learned from the game community, and has worked for me multiple times. It is situational though - it doesn't need to be done that w…
/r/seduction25/12/21 10:47 PM
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You are overthinking the minutia of the conversation. If she's sighing when you bring up a topic, switch to something else.
/r/seduction25/12/21 09:02 PM
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Improve your looks as best you can and then go out and approach a lot. Fix your career as best you can, but still go out and talk to girls. Don't sit around and ruminate about a false idea that you need to be handsome and rich to get laid. Go out in the field and you see tons of examples of this not being true.
/r/seduction25/12/21 09:00 PM
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That's awesome dude. Let us know how it goes :)
/r/seduction25/12/21 08:54 PM
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If you get a hair transplant it should look less like you're balding. Find some photos online of guys who look like what you're talking about, and post them online to get opinions and you'll get an idea.
/r/seduction25/12/21 06:28 PM
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LDR is a poor idea. What country are you in? Are you in a big city? If you're in a large metropolitan area it's way better to go out and learn game and meet some girls in your city. You thinking that your culture is messed might just be some kind of personal limiting belief.
/r/seduction25/12/21 06:26 PM
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If you find yourself rejecting yourself first, try to improve it one small chunk at a time. If you are about to bail out, tell yourself you'll stay in for just 30 seconds more. Then keep building on it slowly. You can improve by adding one step at a time. If you don't stay in set for longer than 2 minutes, try and go for 2 minutes 30 seconds. Set an alarm on your phone. Pickup material can be good. "Negging" is a sortof weird word for "teasing the girl", which is a playful, flirty thing to do. B…
/r/seduction25/12/21 06:24 PM
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That commenter is right in a way - except he is being somewhat negative. Fix your appearance as best you can. Learn success in your career because that is helpful for yourself (not because you need to have money to get laid- that's totally false). But above all go out and talk to lots of girls, learn to game, find other guys to go out with, and you can get there. It doesn't matter if you're "ugly". That is no excuse to give up and not go after girls. Girls respond more to a masculine strong man …
/r/seduction25/12/21 06:12 PM
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If your goal is to just be able to approach and socialize, then it's fine to not worry about being sexualizing. However if the girl is interested then go ahead and try to sexualize if you can push yourself to. I go out and work on just opening, but when I gain momentum I take it as far as I can. It's a good idea not to overload yourself. So taking it one step at a time (e.g. just socializing) I think is a smart move. I'm working on just going out and focusing on one thing per night. Make one thi…
/r/seduction25/12/21 06:05 PM
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Men need to take the lead and take responsibility for basically everything in the relationship, from start to end. Be a leader. If something is going wrong - it's your fault. Figure out how to fix it. Be a strong man and girls will love you. The beauty of the challenge with success with women is that it forces you to become a greater man.
/r/seduction25/12/21 05:59 PM
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Dude listen. First of all you do want sex. That's part of being together. This is not a bad thing. (Also, by the way girls want sex too.). Doesn't matter if you're going for long-term or short-term. You saying "I don't want sex" is just another way of saying "I want to do what's acceptable so this girl will like me. Even if that means no sex". You're so alone that you need affection from a girl even if that means no sex. The problem is that girls WANT SEX, they want to get turned on, and they wa…
/r/seduction25/12/21 05:54 PM
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It doesn't matter, the answer is the same. You still need to meet lots of women and build attraction from the start to go long-term. And either way there is definitely no chance with this current girl.
/r/seduction25/12/21 05:29 PM
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I think I get the idea. I think it's a good idea to work on showing the girl you're into her just with good eye contact and body language. Also an easier way to get started than a direct approach in a busy cafe line. I'll keep this in mind and go test in the field, thank you!
/r/seduction25/12/21 05:26 PM
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Why would you be doing this at such a slow pace? I would never move so slowly. Try to meet up with the girls ASAP. If you've got a date with the one girl, yes, try to escalate and "make a move" (whatever that means to you - from what it sounds like you're probably talking about holding her hand or kissing her. I would say if you're going on a date with her try and take her home as well). Girls want sex too. Girls want you to make a move. Girls will lose attraction if you wait days and days or mo…
/r/seduction25/12/21 05:22 PM
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Here's one guy named Kenny I've read a bit before: https://kennyspuathoughts.wordpress.com/tag/pua-field-reports/ I'm starting a blog / FR archive, but it's in the noob stage r n, not solid pua action: https://goodwithchicks.com/
/r/seduction25/12/21 05:18 PM
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I don't know what's wrong, but something must be wrong. Either the girls you're about to meet up with are really unattractive to you, or your mind is maybe shutting off the possibility for failure by some sort of subconscious self-sabotage. Either way, go out on the dates anyway. You're not going to get better by skipping the dates, especially when you're new.
/r/seduction25/12/21 05:15 PM
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My default answer from what it sounds like in your question is NO. The only situation where this would make sense I think is if you've had threesomes together before. Otherwise sounds like potential for drama and losing one or two FWBs. Why would you want to invite them both?
/r/seduction25/12/21 05:11 PM
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Always nice to have a broad topic summed up into 3 points. Helps the brain to not get overloaded 🧠
/r/seduction25/12/21 04:58 PM
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I think there should be a different word than manipulation, and I guess there is: persuasion, sales, seduction, convincing. But yes, if we want to say manipulation, then go ahead and manipulate the woman into thinking you're awesome and wanting to fuck you. That's a good thing.
/r/seduction25/12/21 04:55 PM
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Don't wait any length of time arbitrarily. Text back and forth 3 times, then ask her out. Waiting to ask her out doesn't make any sense. On tinder I've been following Kill Your Inner Loser's Tinder Guide, and the template looks like this: "Hey, [Anita], you're sexy. I'm Omar. What you up to?" [what she says] "Cool. I'm [what youre up to]. What do you like to do for fun? I like [things you like]." [what she says]. "Nice. [comment on what she said]. What part of town are you from? I'm [your part o…
/r/seduction25/12/21 08:46 AM
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Go out every night and every day and learn game. Talk to a million girls. Talk to guys on the forums. Write field reports. Talk to a milllion girls. Try to get girls home with you. Learn to escalate physically. Don't spend any money on them. Here's a video series I just discovered and I like alot and covers foundations: Leo Gura from Actualized.org : How to Get Laid
/r/seduction25/12/21 08:42 AM
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There's no reason to be butthurt about this (not sure if you are or not). This is a very minor thing / non-issue. Just say whatever and move on: "Oh yeah interesting. I usually avoid hitting on girls at the gym." "Oh that's too bad, maybe the next guy will be less weird" "Oh cool, you must be working out right if guys are hitting on you."
/r/seduction25/12/21 08:40 AM
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Not a great idea to date girls at work. Try to find girls elsewhere, and talk to alot of them. But text her asap if you're going to. Just set up a date. You shouldn't text alot, except to plan the date: "Hey its [your name]. If you're free let's grab a coffee /drink at [time and place]" Check out this resource for more info: Leo Gura's series on How to Get Laid
/r/seduction25/12/21 08:37 AM
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You don't need to take her ice skating to hold her hand. When I meet girls for dates now, I usually give them a hug and take their hand immediately (or within the first 5 minutes). But ice skating does sound like a fun date. Probably a bit expensive for my taste for a first date.
/r/seduction25/12/21 08:28 AM
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It sounds like it won't work as well, but if you're curious go out and field test it. Write in a journal how many of the girls you got their number you went on dates with, and how many when you gave yours.
/r/seduction25/12/21 08:26 AM
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I haven't been REALLY successful, but I just found a great series by Leo Gura of Actualized.org: How to Get Laid
/r/seduction25/12/21 08:24 AM
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Tyler from RSD commented once that he would go up to a group of random hot girls, ask them "Do you guys need to get in?" (implying he worked at the club), and then go to the bouncer and say "It's just us" (making the bouncer think he was a cool dude with lots of hot girls), and then he would get let in along with the girls.
/r/seduction25/12/21 08:23 AM
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If you really can't bring yourself to do it, try doing things that show your romantic intention. Tell girls they're cute, you like their style, etc. You should be saying things that make the girl know that you're into her. She should know that you're going to ask her out. It shouldn't come as a surprise to her when you ask her out. If it feels like she might think you're just a friend, she probably does. Read about PUA and Game in other places online. You can start with Leo Gura's How to Get Lai…
/r/seduction25/12/21 08:14 AM
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You know that's a funny thing to open with. However, it is written that you can open with anything, as long as you believe in what you're saying. Just work through more girls. Make sure you're having strong eye contact and speaking man-to-woman. Might want to try out Leo Gura's How to Get Laid series on YouTube. If they're too long for you, watch them on double speed.
/r/seduction25/12/21 08:06 AM
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No use to try again. Move through new girls. The feelings you have for that girl you'll be able to transfer to a girl that actually likes you. You need to talk to lots of girls. Like hundreds. You're only 15 though, don't sweat it too much. Try to meet girls through your social circle since going out for you is kindof limited.
/r/seduction25/12/21 08:03 AM
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Start slow. I usually take the girls hand right at the outset. Pay attention to her body language and face to see if she is enjoying the escalation. Continue with poking, rubbing shoulders, kiss, squeezing hips. Always reading her face to see if shes smiling etc. If she likes it, keep going. Also don't worry about fucking it up. Just keep working through more girls. If you're asking about how to escalate physically it probably means you haven't had much experience dating yet. You need to work al…
/r/seduction25/12/21 08:00 AM
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I think it's over with this one. Best you could do would be maybe wait a month and try her one more time. Don't get hung up on a girl after one date. Figure out how to work a higher volume, and Keep moving through them until you find one that actually likes you.
/r/seduction25/12/21 07:58 AM
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Change your attitude. Don't hate girls. And don't get hung up on one girl that you're not even romantically involved in, especially if she's your teacher.
/r/seduction25/12/21 07:56 AM
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Don't talk to a girl for 19 days without meeting up with her, that's ridiculous. Set up a meeting with her asap. If she says no then stop Snapping her and move on.
/r/seduction25/12/21 06:21 AM
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Dude it's definitely over with this girl. Forget about her and move on. Stop bothering her with texts, that is not okay. 2 or 3 texts max with no reply (which you are well past) and then never again. Try to keep the conversation fun and ask her questions in a fun way. You can try making guesses / inferences about her ("You seem like you'd be the oldest of all your siblings" would be a more fun way to "ask" "do you have siblings"). I would also focus on physical escalation on dates. Holding her h…
/r/seduction25/12/21 05:08 AM
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All of the game community and instructors are basically unanimous that girls are not out digging for gold really. Girls want to see a successful man, but it's not because they want money spent on them necessarily. A successful man indicates status, power, ability to provide, to take care of the girl, etc. I think making money is a great idea. It's great to have money. But not having money is not an excuse for not approaching girls, and you can certainly fuck girls and have a girlfriend without m…
/r/seduction25/12/21 04:51 AM
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I don't think there's a "right" or "wrong" approach. Studying game, it always seems like one guy's method contradicts another's. Something they say in game is that anything can work. Alot of it is based on if it's congruent with you, and the mood you bring. I think saying "Let's hang out" might be a bit strong in the opener. You don't have to make the girl feel like you're not going to leave if they want you to. Maybe just delete that part. Field testing is the ultimate test. If people are recep…
/r/seduction25/12/21 04:47 AM
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I've been getting started with solo night game. I've found what helps me at this point is just talking to everyone. Breaking the social barrier by talking to any person. Asking for the time from a random dude, commenting on people's clothes, etc. This helps me to start actually approaching girls and opening with "Hi, I'm Omar." I feel really awkward out at nightgame as well, but I think taking lots of action seems to be the only way to solve it. The more I approach and get blown out, the more go…
/r/seduction25/12/21 04:41 AM
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Godspeed.
/r/seduction25/12/21 04:20 AM
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I'm following Kill Your Inner Loser's Tinder guide. It helped me go from 0 dates to getting lots of matches and a few dates. It's extremely long but super condensed as: lose fat take awesome pics use the provided template to message date for 1.5 hour then ask her to come over Maybe Tinder changed the algorithm to make it more heavily biased towards paid members since you left. Could consider buying boosts on the weekend (KYIL recommends Saturday night around midnight to activate boosts). That wo…
/r/seduction25/12/21 04:20 AM
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What do you mean? Turn the small talk into a cold approach? That's a fine idea as well. I've been lately just getting in and out quickly in sets so I don't freak out (also one of Tyler's six steps is short early, burn it later). But I will try this out. Start w/ small talk & build it into a man-to-woman approach.
/r/seduction25/12/21 04:12 AM
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Think of it like you're getting to know each other. Mostly for the girl to feel comfortable with you. Was just watching Leo Gura's Actualized.org How to Get Laid series. He and others recommend just saying whatever thoughts you are thinking at the moment. If you dont know what to say, tell her you don't know what to say. Comment on the environment. Make guesses about the girl based on her appearance or what she says. (E.g. you're very logical, are you a lawyer?) Guessing is more fun and allows t…
/r/seduction25/12/21 04:01 AM
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I think this is good advice. When I go out I've found it to be difficult to start cold approaching right away. Starting off with small talk, asking for the time, asking guys for directions, etc, has hugely helped me to build some social momentum, which makes cold approaching far easier.
/r/seduction25/12/21 03:58 AM
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Approach every person and girl until you’re less nervous to go up. Then you’ll be more fun and socially free. Don’t try to micromanage which girl “wants to be approached” or not by just the way they look or by your perception. Just approach the girl, and if you think she is creeped out, then you can leave if you want. But that way at least you had a chance, and you got some social momentum and experience.
/r/seduction18/12/21 04:23 PM
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What does that matter (if that’s even true)? You can do both. If you see a hot girl during the day it doesn’t make sense not to approach because you believe there’s a lower “success rate”. Gaming during the day is awesome.
/r/seduction18/12/21 09:03 AM
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Dude approaching women in the street is fine too.
/r/seduction18/12/21 08:47 AM
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don’t forget to ask them if they’re still coming around an hour before lol
/r/seduction29/10/21 05:13 PM
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I don’t think calling girls makes you a weirdo. I call girls often and they like it. Also, I don’t believe that responding fast is necessarily bad. I have heard and believe from experience that girls like to see that you’re interested. I don’t really think it’s needy to reply fast. I often reply immediately
/r/seduction29/10/21 05:12 PM
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A lot of guys say that texting should be used almost exclusively for setting up logistics, until you’ve already slept with the girl a couple times. I agree with this. So I would say don’t text too much. And even after seeing her a bit I would keep it brief (it’s better to have things going on in your life - hobbbies, whatever - so you don’t have too much time for texting)
/r/seduction29/10/21 04:17 PM
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they must be somewhere. i can’t believe they’re all off!
/r/seduction04/08/21 05:46 AM
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Haha that sucks. I say good on you for telling her that you thought it was a date though. I feel theres chance i would have been one of the guys who would have just went along and taken them to the fuckin store x) We get better one step at a time. If you improve your assertion a bit each time it will get you there. Use pain of failure as moivation to take more appropriate actions next time
/r/seduction11/04/18 03:17 PM
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Why the fuck did the girls roommates leave the girl alone with some dude? I'm guessing they didn't want to deal with her drunk ass so they pawned her off on this lonely dude so they could keep partying and expected everything to be fucking cool? What a bunch of morons.
/r/TheRedPill02/12/16 02:07 AM
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Semi-correct. Looking down can be a habit formed by a confident or non-confident person. Also this is more of that useless "be more confident" advice. We can't just "change our attitude" or snap our fingers and "ta da! we're confident now." Confidence is built from overcoming your fears. One way of overcoming your fears can be looking up at the gym, or holding people's eye contact until THEY look away.
/r/TheRedPill30/11/16 11:37 PM
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This advice is useless. Obviously anyone who doesn't have pussy on call can't just "be that man." That's the whole fucking reason they're trying to get pussy in the first place. If they had pussy, they wouldn't need to hear this. If the don't have pussy, this advice is equally meaningless because it's not a simple conscious choice to "be the man" that has a rotation of women. For a beginner you must claw your way out of the pits before it becomes easy.
/r/TheRedPill30/11/16 11:26 PM
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Even if you don't have options, if your emotions are able to be coralled. You don't actually need a woman in your life (nonetheless if you don't have you should fucking do your best to get some)
/r/TheRedPill30/11/16 11:12 PM
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