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Hugs sweetie. At least we had some HVM role models in childhood who taught us not to stand for abuse and to give as good as we get.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 02:08 AM
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My dad did the same just as I went into kindergarten. "What do you do if someone hits you?" "Tell the teacher??" "No, you CLEAN THEIR CLOCK" ​ And I did lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 11:25 PM
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Projection. They are shit, feel like shit, and hate that they don't have the drive to be better or work towards it. ​ I have a standard of fitness that means I love my body. Bless this body, for many years to come. No dad bods need apply. ​ I have standards for my work. I excel at what I put my mind to, and I work to correct what needs more effort. ​ Your haters just can't find it within themselves to meet your standards and mean to make you hate yourself just as much as they hate themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 03:09 AM
180

Obviously you'd ghost him because communication is not his strong suit. What on earth is this word salad? Why waste the time in deciphering fuccboi speak?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 01:40 PM
96

Gossip is a form of social currency, helping in building and maintaining relationships with girlfriends. Controlling gossip = preventing women from gaining and helping friends. It's an abusive tactic meant to keep women without a social safety net.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 03:40 PM
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Not a sick child story, but in high school I had a retail job. One lady co-worker had to wear bleach ruined black pants with her uniform. She was married to an accountant. Only had one pair. He wouldn't let her buy another because it wasn't in the budget.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 12:23 PM
36

I learned about reproduction and menstruating from the encyclopedia at age 8. A talk at school at age 10, again in health class in grade 9. I bought my own tampons when I got my period. Never bothered to tell my mom. She was checked out from parenting so I took care of myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 09:13 PM
147

Advice from 20 years ago to eat a donut off his dick. Like fuck off with that, why ruin a good dessert? From recent social media I think it's been recycled many, many times since I read it as a young woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 12:39 AM
36

Lol, Steph was the first thing that came to mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 05:32 PM
10

Well shit that made my night lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 02:41 AM
87

Proud of you sis! When I turned down one gross guy who tried to come crawling back during the start of lockdowns, he tried to insult my education, my job and hobbies upon rejection. Except my hobbies made me a lot of money back in the day and helped put me through school debt free. And my career is not "pretend" like he said it was. Poor guy wanted to be in politics but never even made it beyond entry level anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 11:46 PM
45

Not 40 yet but I deal with the same. After 35 every single man has hit the wall, has multiple kids and financial woes, and the men expressing interest are either young enough to me my sons (maybe if I had been a teen mom, close enough) or old enough to be my dad. I chose to be childfree and am not up to taking on 3 kids from former relationships along with the dumpster fire of a man who has shit finances. It makes no sense to engage in casual or long term relationships at this stage in my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 06:55 PM
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Second the MAY - it could be erectile dysfunction, non porn induced. Worst experience of my life was with a baby carrot dick. Second worst was the man who wanted sex all day because after a few minutes he would wilt. Then the inevitable hand job / blow job to get it hard again. Then wilt again. He could not climax period. It's ED. ED is not a woman's fault and bad, hours long sex to dance around the issue that maybe someone needs a blue pill is not our job to make up for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 07:01 PM
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This is something that could cause serious, lifelong injury or disability to her child, and her pressing thought is to approach it in a way so as not to attack the husband? Because the first four times communicating didn't work to not harm their infant? Douse that bridge in gasoline, light a match, and never look back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 04:56 AM
125

Hopefully he continues to pay the price by being taken to the cleaners in a divorce. What an absolute shit thing to do to your wife and family. he never considered their wellbeing in acting unprofessionally to satisfy his pp.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 12:51 PM
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My only regret is that I can't get my microblading done for at least 6 months : ) I'm sure you'll push through and you will absolutely love your results. 45 days is nothing to endure for a beautiful, determined woman!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 02:23 AM
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I'm sorry you go through this. I always get a mild case of low mood in the spring because of this reason. I miss the winter when I can run or take my dog out at anytime and few people are out and about. Spring = gearing up for harassment, being followed, not wearing the shorts or leggings I want in the heat because some perv is going to comment on it. An entire 2 seasons of every year where my choices and freedoms are curtailed by degenerate men is too damned much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 12:08 AM
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It is a miracle. The only issue I had on my course was chapped lips as I reached cumulative dose. Some people complain of pain, aches, joint problems, dry eyes, and the liver and cholesterol issues. I still ran up to 18k, did my weight routines, not one problem besides loving my perfect skin and deciding to go makeup free after years of hiding the mild hormonal acne I suffered from.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 07:55 PM
11

Still better than Roosh, lol, no matter her nationality
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 03:20 AM
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And to think Roosh V. ever thought Scandi women would want to sleep with his rank ass. Hail to the future queen of Denmark.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 12:08 AM
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I'm a sci fi fan and I'll totally buy your bomb. Please post when it's ready for purchase! ​ Edit - I think we should think about having an FDS marketplace. I want to support women, and all of the endevours that ladies are undertaking here with my cold hard cash. I want books. Trinkets. Home decorations. Music. All produced by the women of FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 10:25 PM
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I'm blushing. Hugs to you, sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 01:58 PM
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Because male bias permeates everything, including interpretation of the past and the archaeological record. It's only been relatively recently that misgendered remains of warrior women have been reidentified correctly. The same is true in including gender, sexuality, the notion of childhood in archaeology and historical subjects. We were erased as women because of the men who had hard ons for the "man the hunter" myth. ​ Edit - Look into the Vix Princess/Vix Woman. The largest, richest burial of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 01:37 PM
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Men who are fit recognize and respect the hard work and dedication that goes into being fit. They see goals that a person meets and exceeds. Fat assed men will drag you down into the bucket of crabs, because they see you have drive and intelligence that they don't, all while telling you to "relax" about your personal standards for yourself. Can't have a woman confident in her bodily capabilities. Edit - even if being fit is about personal vanity for a man, he still has to put in the work to fulf…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 12:13 PM
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Don't they have enlargement surgeries now?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 09:42 PM
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Sis, you are absolutely indomitable. Never stop rising above, never stop working on yourself, never look back. You should be SO FUCKING PROUD of all you have done so far and all that awaits in a much better future, one that you direct and create for yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 02:00 PM
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About the facial ageing, I've lost some of the youthful fat in my face and have defined cheekbones in my late 30's. No contour needed. I fucking love how my face looks. Older, wiser, sharper.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 12:08 PM
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I want to be just like her when I grow up (get to crone/grandma stage in life). Grannies take no shit and tell it like it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 11:59 PM
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I wasn't on tinder but in my OLD days I looked internationally just to see what I was missing, and the Nordic men were leagues above what you'd find in North America. Kind, respectful, qualities that I can't really put my finger on but not the degrading shit we're used to here. This is really surprising.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 12:37 PM
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The doctor used a local numbing agent when I had my IUD inserted so the manhandling of the cervix wouldn't be the painful part. Nothing to numb the uterus though and the 8-9/10 cramps felt like I was in labour for the next three weeks. NEVER AGAIN to any birth control for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 02:06 PM
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This is like what you'd give a little girl on her first communion or something. Not for a lifetime commitment. If a woman wants small, there are so many handcrafted, unique bands that are classy, timeless, and affordable (not the 99 cents type affordable).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 02:07 AM
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YES, it's Peter Pan syndrome and an absolute disregard towards having any sort of responsibility in life. I've had younger men back when I was on OLD try the "I've lost hope in women my age, I need a mature woman". Meanwhile their bio lists living, working and sometimes doing "missionary work" in at least 15 countries before 30. They have no stability, and when women in their age group rightly reject them for having nothing - no social circle, no home, no decent job, no savings or plan for the f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 06:52 PM
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Same as it ever was - I know the type because they tried to pull their crap on me in my uni days, lol!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 08:01 PM
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If there isn't cash in addition to the material gifts, then they're not sugar daddies period. They're expecting free escort services like any other LVM with the advantage of slightly better ambiance on a vacation that they chose with little to no input from the woman. Mr. Broke Broke on whatever site doesn't get to redefine what a sugar daddy is, no matter how much he tries to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 07:47 PM
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I thought sugaring WAS getting the cash. A vacation with a LVM "SD" is just being an unpaid escort in a place that's not your home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 06:36 PM
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I loved this woman the first time I saw her, from her advice to the cute gingham skirt/pink cardi combo she has going on. Long live Dorothy. I wish she lived near me so I could bring my pup to visit her and her friends in assisted living.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 05:30 PM
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Changed my phone number this year! And when they can't pester through text or calling, they pop up on pinterest of all places (that I haven't actively used for like 5 years) with multiple accounts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 06:51 PM
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I honestly just want to cry reading these holiday FDS horror stories. That poor woman having nothing to celebrate, having spent an entire marriage with a dumpster fire of a husband, and all she got out of it was a Star Wars mug. I had a great holiday in spite of not being allowed to visit anyone due to restrictions. Treat yourself better than any man ever will and never go without a self-given gift again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 04:20 AM
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There is nothing wrong with just cleaning and doing errands on the weekend. Add in a nice coffee/tea, recharge time and a walk - that is a full, healthy life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 10:46 PM
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I have chills just reading this, and how little separated you from Keyes. All I've got is some friend of the LVM ex, that my dog literally chased into the street and wouldn't let near the house, putting a woman in the hospital because he beat her badly. But yeah, I think someone needs to be questioned and monitored for the "whaddya think your last memory will be". That is just bone chilling and indicative of so much that is wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 09:57 PM
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Holy schnikies. What did she think her last thought would be? There's Chris Watts, Israel Keyes, and then there is this dude who needs to be in hauled in to the station STAT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 09:15 PM
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Men love to crush the pure, unbridled joy that creativity and creation brings to a woman. I taught art part time after hours (I had a good day job) and my LVM LTR absolutely hated it. The fuckwad that tried to get FWB out of me after that breakup used it to humiliate me when I turned him down. Like I was a loser and less than because I dared to partake (and make money at) in something that they could never hope to do. If any of these OP were to put the poetry and art into print, I'd buy it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 06:37 PM
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For real, you never know what can happen. I'm childfree but a friend of mine had her first child without complications. Her second pregnancy caused a mysterious near shutdown of her liver, and no reason was found for it. She had a hysterectomy after her second child was born because it was deemed far too dangerous to ever carry a child to term again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 09:47 PM
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Similar, "I'm a classy guy" - says the scrote trying to get a free prostitute, aka FWB. Dude wouldn't even offer to get me a coffee. It was just harassment until I changed my phone number earlier this year.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 04:46 PM
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Oooooh, I hereby give you my award for burn of the year : )
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 04:28 PM
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With a pandemic and lockdowns, and in some areas celebrations aren't being allowed outside of immediate households, isn't it still a wonderful Christmas? We aren't dealing with trash and disappointments for the holidays. We're gifting ourselves what we want without taking someone's thoughtless leftovers and dealing with LVM behaviour. Merry Christmas to us! And to many more like it in the future, just without the Covid part.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 06:47 PM
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Look at the good women can bring to the world and creatures around them when the weight of a LVM is removed from their life. OP, I'm so proud of you and tearing up because you have a good heart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 05:37 AM
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To all the ladies here, Merry Christmas! It's lockdown, no celebrations outside of immediate household allowed, so I made a good meal, a cheesecake, and put on 16k today. It's been a good holiday for my single person household.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 03:31 AM
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WOW... worth the read. "avoided challenges in their lives" = FDS don't date potential. They simply will never live up to levelling up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 11:22 PM
56

Ivar was my last pup. He liked to smile and show his teeth. The name is a memorial for him : )
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 08:30 PM
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Just toss him out in the back yard so he can scoot and scrape his ass off like a dog. Then turn to hose on him, if one is that committed to dating an animal. They are literally worse than livestock. I can't even anymore. Edit - no disrespect to dogs or barnyard animals. I love my pup and his butt never smells.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 08:12 PM
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Not just a fantasy, but a fantasy highlighting PTSD and being at rope's end dealing with true calamity. They are sick, mind body and soul.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 02:57 AM
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I'm dead at the rock part. But, think of the pretties and rarities that rocks offer. Shiny spinel. Trapiche stars. Fossil corals. I'd choose rocks over what's available in man land too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 02:26 AM
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Financial domination - the woman gets cash/ expensive items and humiliates the man's teeny wallet. Different from sugar relationships as in it's transactional with no sex involved. I use it strategically to ward off sex pests.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 02:29 AM
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Just respond that the only kink you're into is FinDom when degenerates bring up their sex pest fantasies. He'll skedaddle like dusties do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 01:26 AM
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About denigrating your job - welcome to FDS, where realizing patriarchal bullshit is part and parcel with our learning and leveling up. You work with children. You enjoy what you do. Your job is so fundamentally ESSENTIAL to the continuation of society that you should be earning as much as a CEO. The world of men was built on the backs of unpaid or underpaid women. The LVM in your family wouldn't be shit without the work of women like you. Realize it, start charging your worth and more to every …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 12:58 AM
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Baldy sounds like he has something HVM going on too, to land a smoking hot rich babe. Double jealousy from one who doesn't measure up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 11:18 PM
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Aw, thank you to the person who gave me a cute cuddle face on my post, I <3 you, even if I was just describing a shitty situation growing up! My mom should have done a lot of things, but didn't. Religion can fuck a pickmeisha up real bad. At least I had people on my side who could help me and the other family with actual resources and intervention. Point being, it's a lot of BS for women to be vilified for walking away from kids that aren't even theirs. I got it as a teenager for people who were…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 09:21 PM
85

I rolled my eyes so hard at that I saw my brain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 08:39 PM
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Lol, it's HER on the lease and I'm not paying for shit, so I guess it's not fair to ask HER to be the one to move. What a fucking wanker.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 07:11 PM
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Good lord, do they not know that we generally operate on more than two porn addled brain cells at a time as women?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 06:37 PM
113

When my mom forced me to babysit for a family (dad worked overseas, never home, mom drank, did drugs, slept around, I looked after three behaviourally challenged hellspawn for days on end) as a teenager, just say what I did - not my kids. My mom, bless her narc heart, was crying about those kids when I refused to return, went to the school counsellor, and got a lot of people involved. Didn't I care? I said no, but if I wanted to care I could always be a teenage mom and have my own kid. The husba…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 02:30 AM
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Well, he is trying to argue about porn so we know exactly what kind of degenerate he is, and into god knows what in this day and age. Crusty, Dusty and Musty need to fade away and scream into the void where no attention is returned to them. As ghosts of pickmeisha past, they don't need to haunt us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 11:30 PM
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You probably fulfilled his humiliation fetish and didn't even get paid for it. No more free for any man, ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 09:10 PM
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Projection. Poor scrote probably gained 100 lbs and didn't get a whiff of fresh air or bite of healthy food during lockdown. Guess he has until next fall to reverse that to resume fuccboi life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 07:26 PM
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Yup. When I still had an OLD profile I was inundated with much younger scrotes saying they had lost faith in women their age and were looking for a "mature" woman. Boy, if I wanted to raise something up, I would have had children. I'm just like younger women, even more demanding now, lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 04:28 PM
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When he tells you what he'd do, listen, because he will do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 03:58 AM
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It's the language of self love and empowerment, drawn from the melting pot of queens on the internet. Equating it to culture specific vernacular english (nothing wrong with that, though) is an attempt to devalue based on racism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 12:53 AM
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They're cheap AF, that's why. These dusties will lecture women on their hair care, personal care and makeup and all that money spent that should have been on them and their PS5.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 03:36 AM
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Lol at number 3, of course I want something in return for any kind of sexual contact with a man. Being a respectful, loving, caring, mature person doesn't cost anything within the bounds of a relationship but when that's not on offer, better make it sprinkle sprinkle with the material things I want. Women aren't a charity providing free sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 07:50 PM
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So a long time ago, the movie "Exit to Eden" with Rosie O'donnell was banned by the province of Saskatchewan on the grounds of being obscene, which was illegal at the time for content for public consumption. My high school law teacher used that example to explain obscenity laws - technically, either sexual content or violent content alone was not obscene, but sexual violence was, hence banning the movie from being shown in the province. Where the fuck did these laws go? What passes for "porn" to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 07:27 PM
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If it to be achieved, start doing what you can now. Women doctors only for your needs. Give women salespeople the commission. Use women realtors. Cab drivers. Make a fuss and demand a woman. There is no reason that any trade or profession can not fill your request to work with women. For every condescending male idiot in a trade, watch what they do when in your home so you can do your own plumbing, repairs, anything an ignorant man has ever overcharged you for and made you feel like an idiot in …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 06:53 AM
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Have a high sex drive and please come to my house. Please. The pandemic is killing us fuccbois. Promise it's not rape with the amount of alcohol I'd shove down your throat :..(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 12:06 AM
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Only on the level of Henry Cavill and Elon Musk do men get to pick the youngest and prettiest and they have to expend a lot in order to get it. Which my guess is he's not on that level, sending salty messages on Reddit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 09:14 PM
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Imagine being dumb enough to put it into writing to provide the proof against yourself. He obviously thinks there are no consequences for harassment and threats.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 08:45 PM
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Have more than one - you're not taken until you're married. Start looking and not committing until the right man comes into your life, lol! You might have received a business education of sorts but he isn't funding your business for you. He takes you for meals. I bet he takes business contacts to nice meals too. This action does not entirely reflect your desires in a relationship. If he were the right one for you, he'd have no issues with taking an interest in and at times giving you the gift of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 08:24 PM
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Not necessarily the books, but any lower middle class man who constantly reads books by highly successful entrepreneurs. They aren't going to put the effort into actually creating a "disruptive product" and start a viable business, but they damn sure will act like an entitled toddler who has just temporarily misplaced their billions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 03:52 PM
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HOLY CRAP I forgot about bodybuilding dot com. I was on the site for a minute or two for workout/nutrition info but even the women's specific forums were a mess of men. The men's forum was a dump as to be expected. Wonder if any of them finally got to be able to "smash" after wiping off the inane bert stare expression off their face.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 12:13 AM
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You described it perfectly, a woman can't be attracted to someone they have to take care of. I lost interest because all of my income went to keeping him afloat. I lost interest when he expected me to finance his private life with my credit cards while he "tried" to start a business. I lost interest because I spent my loyalty points on household stuff (soap, cleaner, etc) and he sat screaming on the toilet about how he needed special buttwipes for his hemorrhoids and that I should have gotten th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 06:20 PM
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"Well, plans change, heehee..." My derm when I said I wasn't seeing anyone, had no plans to, and wouldn't be having sex periodt. Like, woman to woman, have you seen what's out there in man land? How would my plans change? I don't get it either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 07:45 PM
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Claiming infertility never worked to shut down these conversations, for me at least. The asker would just press harder about why I wasn't pursuing IVF or other treatments. Being indifferent is a better way to go - grey rocking totally inappropriate people and their inappropriate prying into your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 02:53 PM
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This has to be a joke. All of it. That this man who can't feed himself would try to date, likely attempt to get sex in exchange for a free soup kitchen meal, and potentially bring another life into the world that he absolutely can not support. I hope Ms. Bougie walked her fine ass out of there and gave a donation on the way out for the people who truly need a meal, not just some scrote fishing for sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 07:50 PM
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LVM ex: My mom used to clean every day. It doesn't take that long to clean up after my disgusting, scrote ass. My mom used to make me (insert all day prep and cooking) meal twice a week. My mom said she'd work four jobs so I could go to school (obviously loan free, paying cash for all of it). My friend went to cadets as a kid and had to iron his uniforms to spec. He irons like my mom did, better than you do. Guess who eventually had to do his own cooking, laundry, ironing and never had my undyin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 07:35 PM
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Besides non-consensual sex, I have no clue how humans ever reproduced. What woman wants THAT?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 02:55 AM
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Yup, LVM ex got all pissy whenever I bought a plushie from the dollar store for my dog to play with. They'll throw little boy tantrums at any attention you give a pet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 03:02 PM
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The absolute audacity of thinking you can fuck a woman around, treat her like shit, insult her, and then go on to use her to make $$$. Like you'll just roll over, hand him a mega sale, and suck his dick after. Girl, I'm mad for you. Use your influence to keep this man in the poor house, from your company at least. Edited for atrocious typos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 06:52 PM
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It's such a mixed bag, isn't it? I've done my share of therapy too and the one that did the most for me was a rad fem. I won't say that your therapist meant to give bad advice, but a decent (I hope) man perhaps doesn't have the same perspective as someone trolling for an ego boost, one who has treated you ill in the past. Keep your own interests in mind and take the good from therapy, and trust your gut on the iffy situations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 04:49 AM
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I have mixed feelings on therapy and those who dispense it to women. There IS harm in reconnecting and in allowing men to treat you like shit. There IS harm in being "nice" to some scrote from the past. I think this is like the ultimate conditioning towards accepting subservient roles and poor treatment from men - a therapist thinking that there isn't an issue because they assume that the other party (the man) has any inkling as to how to behave in a healthy, non-exploitative way. Therapists can…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 04:03 AM
17

Second Etsy. So many one of a kind pieces, and many Etsy storefronts are operated by craftsladies. You can't go wrong in supporting women's power and business!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 10:36 PM
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Canadian girl, what is it about Canadian LVM, labourers, who think they "deserve" EI for the entire winter? When I lived with my LVM ex his brother moved in. Didn't pay rent. I finally stopped paying the excess bills that I had nothing to do with like cable and high speed internet for gaming cause fuck that, I didn't use those things. I had to scream at him to finally buy groceries once a month for everyone, which ended up being pop tarts and trail mix for three people. Anyways, he freeloaded ti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 07:19 PM
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I know! I'm dead, I'm crying so hard laughing. We women are so damn funny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 07:14 PM
31

Maybe blue balls actually does exist as a condition and he did it to himself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 07:11 PM
47

I... don't think this man has the choice of making a choice as to whether or not he is a lifelong celibate. Women aren't going to get with this Kaczynski looking dude and get axe murdered in his shed, so yay porn I guess for his sake?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 11:42 PM
71

IKR, who the fuck would pay for lodging AND to be the sex slave for this Mason Verger-Buffalo Bill.... thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 03:09 AM
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I saw it described perfectly here on FDS. The ICK - being so disgusted by a LVM partner that a woman ceases desiring sex. I've contracted the Ick from ugly, low effort scrotes, to the point it's rare that I feel anything sexual. Contrary to the belief that there is something wrong with me medically and that I need treatment, men need to up their game and become desirable human beings again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 08:27 PM
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There was a big thread that made it to the top of popular like, yesterday about this. Go to a therapist. It's not a woman's job to provide a man with therapy for free. It's not the job of any woman to nurture the emotional health of men who can't perform to the standard of normal, non sex pests who are genuine in exchanges and will reciprocate the emotional labour. It was pointed out that certain sex workers charge a daily rate for a man to have the "girlfriend experience" (aka dump his heavy em…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 07:17 PM
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Literal man babies. No wonder she caught the "ick" and hasn't had sex for six months. If a woman wants to raise a boy up, she should just go to the sperm bank and have a child and bypass... whatever the fuck this is that tries to pass as an adult human male.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 06:57 PM
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Androgen blockers (like spiro, that my derm had me on for a short while) will make your boobs develop. Like, really grow. I had to get all new bras 2 cups larger for the five months I took it. Do they not think these things through? Are they going to maintain a few wisps of hair and brand new boy decolletage by being on drugs for life?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 10:01 PM
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Have you ever heard of ________ (insert fetish or porn sick fantasy)? *Why don't you take me shopping and you can tell me all about it. ​ Best strategy outside of block and delete is to straight up demand some sort of payment for scrote behaviour. They never bother you again when they know you won't perform to their porn sickness for free and you're asking for something involving money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 07:22 PM
10

Lorena Bobitt vibes for life....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 07:31 PM
5

DIM supplement helped mine and where both ovulation and PMS induced something like borderline PMDD for me no matter the type of pill, jab or IUD, I am finally at an equilibrium mood wise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 03:37 AM
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Or blowing a gasket because you have wanting a relationship listed and they have casual / hang out as their dating goal. I tried to be polite and say no thanks, we both want different things, and they always jump down your throat. Most memorable scrote with three kids, no photos, casual dating only: HEY No response from me. Scrote: Offers pictures No thanks, we're looking for different things. All the best though! Scrote: Well explain to me how you know what I want when you don't even know me li…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 11:37 PM
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All I have to say is I hope each and every woman in this story robs this pathetic shell of a human for all he is worth. No gratefulness at all for a wife tending to a paralyzed husband (yes, emotional labour is just as valid as invalid care). 29 year relationship and all a crippled man who shits in diapers can think about is getting his dick wet. Good thing he's as rich as he thinks he is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 08:36 PM
11

Hell, my best friends and family know my wishes of what to do with my remains and where they're to end up. As well as what amount of money they get as a group so they can have a good party (funeral is forbidden) in the event of my passing. It's just common sense to do these things and to have a will. No one knows when they'll pass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 06:20 PM
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But their feelings... we need to do an infomercial with "Arms of and Angel" playing in the background. With free pussy and tiddy pictures, just one a day, you too can save these hobo scrotes from a lifetime of surfing Pornhub and give them some semblance of human contact that they neither earned nor deserve.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 09:36 PM
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It's so sad when men cry, when they actually have to pay for something instead of getting it for free. Poor oppressed things. Why won't anyone give them free sex in exchange for their bad behaviour?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 07:00 PM
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It was patronizing in the worst way. FDS = turning love into a game. Just no. LVM and their shit is NOT love. No more normalizing the awful behaviour of the nuclear waste cesspool that is the state of men today. WE are the norm. Gaslighting, abusive, manipulative treatment by men is not. The dating coach must have went to school at the same Clown U as the journalist. See the "most women who gravitate to FDS had a bad dating experience, teehee, if you put fun sweet energy into dating that is what…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 10:54 PM
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FDS isn't a game. None of it is a game. It's sound strategy to avoid abuse, situations with men that do nothing to uplift or better you, to select and enforce healthy boundaries in all aspects of life. It is telling that a dating coach terms a group of women committed to being better and demanding better treatment as playing "games". Not wanting to be tied to a deadbeat for life (or worse, battered or dead) is not a fucking game.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 05:26 AM
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All I have to say is that if you feel uncomfortable, something was really wrong with the situation. Why I didn't report the doctor I saw is because it was "light" harassment if it wasn't just about making fees. There are two doctors in my city that can't see female patients without the patient having a chaperone. The list of sexual assaults reported against one was from a few women, describing exactly what you have. The fuckers have warnings from the health authority but still aren't fired.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 05:29 AM
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I'd recommend a women's clinic or health centre if at all possible! I don't need to worry about insurance but that is the only place I'll go for anything needing feminine treatment now. Even better is that I don't think a single man works at the centre I visit. I'm sorry some gross scrote though that he needed to do an unnecessary pap on you too. Good on you for not getting unnecessary procedures done, no matter who is insisting on it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 12:08 AM
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Exactly why I will never let a male do any kind of gyno exam. Had a strange experience when I went in for a cold turned bronchitis a few years ago. The male doctor didn't do anything to treat my complaint but wouldn't stop insisting that he was going to do a pap smear. I wasn't due for one. I don't care if it was an easy way to rack up billing (live in Canada, so I have no doubt that $$ was a factor in pushing for an unnecessary exam to make numbers), but damn, I wasn't going to let him do it. A…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 07:01 PM
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Exactly. And it's so... low value. Like Mormon missionaries trying to rake your leaves to then capitalize on the "debt" of service to get you to convert. Acts of service are things that need to be done in a functioning household anyways. Like he'll love you any better because he'll actually take the trash out instead of a man who wants to wine and dine you in ADDITION TO taking the trash out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 08:43 PM
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WTF is an "act of service"? I don't need a man to shovel my walk and then act like I'm obligated to drown him in my pussy for it. I already do most of my home repairs and yard work. The only service I need is for a man to be HV and provide. End of story. Let the other London men show up whatever shitty acts of service he thought was so valuable to offer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 08:12 PM
34

Damn, someone needs a bissell and an industrial drum of bleach. Or a match to burn it all down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 04:00 AM
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Looking for rocks and fossils while hiking and climbing. It's fun for me, apparently the ex thought no one else would want to share the activity with me, hence the "good luck".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 03:58 AM
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I keep on walking, spread my arms open like I'm parting the red sea, and say "BEEP BEEP". They move.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 02:19 AM
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Neighborhoods are no barrier for any rapist and sex pest. Like an imaginary delination created by the city to lump houses and businesses in certain groups will magically stop the behaviour of a deranged y chromosome.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 03:16 PM
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My ex (live in relationship that was hell on earth) told me good luck finding someone who would do one of my most enjoyable past times with me - hiking in remote places and rockhounding. Because he always made it so fun yelling at me, being a man baby, stopping to smoke dope in the middle of nowhere, sitting on cactus. The next guy I dated was a professor of geology. ​ You'll always find better, sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 07:28 PM
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Seasonale = increased chance of certain types of cancer. Know of one person undergoing treatment for the second time for liver cancer, attributed to long term use of that specific BC. I was on it for a time. The IUD was miserable. Pills are miserable. Depo the most miserable. Never again will I go on any BC.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 12:31 AM
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Samesies, lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 09:28 PM
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Oh man, I knew I was in heaven after a live in situation that left me destitute every month (how the fuck any woman should subsidize a man's lifestyle and choices when she typically makes less is is beyond me) when I got shoes. I'd only get one pair of cheap runners from discount places and because I walk and run and spend a lot of time outdoors, they'd be done in about six months. Of course he bitched every time I had to replace my worn out shoes. Bitched when I got discount glasses online, bec…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 12:59 AM
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Just remove everything you know and do as a woman and you'll end up as that man. That's how lol!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 06:23 AM
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So I was dating a guy in finance. Made six figures. His freaking bed was made up with a poly sleeping bag unzipped as a duvet, and an ancient, pilled panda blanket. There might be hope, but even income and the taming influence of a woman on scrotey man caves can only go so far.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 05:50 AM
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The one and only religious man I ever dated (Pakistani, proud muslim) was nexted when he brought up that he had a porn problem, and described snake porn that he was watching as an example. Men are men regardless of religion, culture, ethnicity. Throw him all away at the first whiff of depravity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 02:18 AM
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They tend to look absolutely horrific in their 20's too. IDK if every recessive ageing gene is being expressed in the latest generations of men, but the ugly is so prevalent it hurts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 11:42 PM
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It happens to the best of us (more like, especially to the best of us women, until we start being ruthless with FDS) so no blaming yourself! I had a similar thing happen when I was much younger. Choose your PhD, laugh at the audacity, and find yourself in a much better place with a secure future.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 06:22 PM
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LVM are a learning experience that none of us want but the lessons are invaluable. Lesson here - never let a man influence your decisions and how you spend your resources, especially when it makes it easier for him to treat you like crap. Unless he's footing your living expenses and supporting your tuition, he has zero say in what you do or where you live. And to suggest you give up your education to rent a room (to make it easier to manipulate you into a low effort situationship) - this is taki…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 03:53 PM
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She should do what my mom did when my dad wouldn't stop bitching that she made spaghetti. Dump an entire plate of it on his head. Eight year old me couldn't stop laughing, and the queen lesson has remained to this day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 02:29 PM
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We all watched as she was publicly sex trafficked. Underage. What happened to her is horrific.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 03:19 PM
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Girl, for the jammies, grab a cheap (or used to be cheap before covid) used sewing machine off of local online ads. Mine was $40 when I got mine. Get some easy sewing patterns, some fleecy flannel fabric, and voila, you have durable, cozy pyjamas. Then move onto making a nice, big bathrobe. And then another one out of silk as your skills grow. It might be a bit of a learning process, but so worth it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 03:14 PM
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No more hormonal birth control, no side effects, it's lovely to be "natural" in that sense. There is no way any of that is worth some disappointing dick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 12:06 AM
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I too have *preferences*. Like preferring that LVM never contact me again after they show their ugly sides. He straight up didn't have the courage to see you in person for something so important. How surprising. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 09:12 PM
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Hey birthday twin! Mine is this weekend too! It's shitty when they put zero effort into special occasions. It won't change. Dump this manchild and make yourself happy. When I left a LTR I was ecstatic on my first solo birthday. I actually got to do what I wanted and had a great day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 05:42 PM
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Just wait until he gets his hands on buddhism and thinks he is on a level higher than buddha himself. Happened with an abusive ex of mine. I just couldn't comprehend attachment and that HE was never the problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 02:00 AM
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Says scrotes who have no hair past 22 and are salty about the sunspots on their scalp / wrinkly moobs giving away their age. The number of ugly assed topless men I've seen this summer is too damned high.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 03:01 AM
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Archery. So much for "man the hunter". They were fuming but it's not my fault they suck at doing man stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 09:45 PM
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If he suggests you split the bill or pay, then act aghast that you didn't know you were going out AS FRIENDS. Keep on mentioning being "only friends". He'll either backtrack and pay to correct you, or if he is insistent on splitting, you know not to continue wasting time and you have your out from the situationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 09:51 PM
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I had enough of this last year and got my covid dog (I didn't plan to get my pup during a pandemic as lockdowns dropped, I brought him home the day before the news came out - just in the nick of time). I live in an area where it gets super cold in the winter and that was my only time I felt safe, because no one else is ever out and about in snow and sub zero temperatures. I got depressed as spring started to come because I knew that the sex pests and rapists would be out in nicer weather. Hence,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 07:36 PM
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I totally agree with that! Not being a pickmeisha about a man's employment at all, he should be reaching for more. A janitor can take on cleaning contracts, form their own company, while a cashier and solid employee can try for management.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 02:52 AM
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The only thing I'd be wary of is knocking a McDonald's worker. Apparently where I am, if one becomes a manager or regional manager, they do better money wise and get more perks than some white collar jobs. Someone I know who is a "manager" in gov regrets the degree - debt - mediocre paying job - building seniority - pathway to management in public service at a salary that still won't pay for a shitty condo- and is seriously looking into McDonald's. However, this woman and her expectations are la…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 09:23 PM
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They're (almost) all like that. The longer you live and more you experience, the more LVM/NVM you will come across and boy is it eye opening. It's nothing you're doing, keep on being a cute HVW and chuck the trash where it belongs. It's their shame, not yours.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 03:07 AM
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That isn't even enough for a black coffee at a chain coffee shop. Ladies, when you can find more loose change on the ground going for a walk around the mall, you KNOW he isn't worth your time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 08:14 PM
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DON'T THIN YOUR HAIR! If you have hair even slightly prone to waving or frizz, all hair thinning will do is pronounce that, on a million short hairs that will stick out and give you a frizz halo. Men WISH they knew hair but all they know is charge they phone, Irish Spring 15-in-1, balding, sunspots on they scalp and lie : )
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 06:26 PM
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I like your attitude, that is some queen shit! And good on you for telling the mommies perpetuating misogyny straight up that their sons are garbage. They all have to hear it, might as well be from you, served straight with no sugar : )
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 06:08 PM
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He missed one very, very important point. According to this RP dude, men want or are driven less by sex less their 30's and 40's because women age and loose their looks, and that loss of incentive makes a relationship and dealing with women undesirable. Projection - can't get it up, ageing means less testosterone and a man's dwindling sex drive due to flogging it to hardcore porn has nothing to do with how women look. But no woman wants the pillsbury doughboy, balding, devoid of a personality be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 12:15 AM
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Life lessons learned - I commented on that thread, sad for the woman, because I though it was awesome to reuse jars and drink summer foo foo drinks out of them. Can confirm that I am now using huge jars to drink my summer iced tea.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 09:44 PM
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I saw the post, and felt so ick that someone wouldn't "upgrade" an experience for a date even though the cost was the same. Lazy is as lazy does. Maybe real cooking would upset the taco bell specific biome roiling in his guts. Literally, I'd love to eat dollar store ice cream wafer cookies, each with a sweet little note attached, dunked in tea as some HVM watches for meteor showers in the park with me. That's cheap as it gets. A dollar for a pack of cookies and maybe five cents for a teabag. Cre…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 07:51 PM
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Nah, there are lots of sweet things a man can do besides fast food if they are broke. Like, make paper chains and a paper boquet out of newspaper to eat a nice (cheap) home made dinner. A little picnic, making tea or hot chocolate for a midnight sit in the park to watch stars. It's human garbage that expect their low value efforts to be rewarded with sex and servanthood.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 07:36 PM
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When a man TELLS you what he is going to do, believe him. He'll end up killing her because that's apparently a mood that is totally normal and acceptable to have, just like one can be in the mood for popcorn for dinner or in the mood to go for a walk instead of a run. Just a mood, y'all, nothing to see here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 04:36 PM
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Hey, I sleep with my pup from time to time and he's clean enough not to stain my bedding AND he doesn't have fleas : ) More than some men can say apparently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 04:54 AM
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Is it really going to be professional gain though? Advice can be attained from mentors who aren't open about their private life. Why is someone supposedly helping in a professional capacity but talking about their open relationship and sex life? That isn't appropriate knowledge or conversation in any professional setting. Beware any man if scorned, they can fuck your shit up and blow up your reputation, what you've built in your business or career life, your friend and professional circle, all b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 10:36 PM
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Damn. Pickmeshias certainly secure the bag - a body bag, that is. I hope this woman starts by leaving her possible future killer and starts leveling up, starting with self love and seeing that no man is worth being beaten for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 07:22 PM
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Be greedy. Undo your conditioning that you have to be unassuming, selfless, invisible, a source of good for others and you get nothing back in return. You give a lot in any relationship. Your looks, your love, your time, your skills. You are valuable for what you bring. Tell him you like ______, show him whatever you're into and wish for. If he doesn't even want to talk about it, dust that dusty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 05:07 PM
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Tired of taking care of everyone's financial wellbeing. Welp, the only thing a married man has to offer to someone with morals low enough to get with them IS money. Being a secret? Bwahahaha. FUCKING PAY UP FOR THE SHIT YOU WANT, FUCCBOIS. Not that I advocate gold digging but god damn why do they expect women to be free?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 11:53 PM
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Training? LMAO. I don't think so. You'd get more return and love out of training a dog than a man. Let the man babies starve and walk around in threadbare, rumpled, dirty clothing missing buttons because they can't thread a needle to mend the most minor thing. Let them get salmonella from eating off of dirty crusty dishes they couldn't be arsed to wash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 06:53 PM
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Ugh. It is half HER business. Why isn't she getting a wage AND a salary? Creative time, design, marketing isn't cheap. Servers get tips and their base pay. Finances - bookkeeping for small business without major accounting needs is $95 an hour plus in my area. Dump this loser and freelance these skills and pocket the money for some queen goals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 06:33 PM
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My herding breed would herd the ex away from me. Love dogs taking care of their mamas <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 12:31 AM
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And here I had hope that maybe after 8 years some fuccboi from the past would finally stop trying to contact me. 25 YEARS?!? Holy shit they really are LVM bloodsuckers for life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 07:02 PM
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Beyond the repercussions of being too nice to men, aka being a doormat, it's not ANY WOMAN'S JOB TO BE NICE, PERIOD. We might be conditioned this way from birth. We get comments all the time to smile more. If we're not a doormat we're bitches and nasty women. Fuck being nice because that's all society told you that you could be. Be direct. Be succinct. Be assertive. Say what you want to say and mean it. It's not like men give a fuck about your feelings or go out of their way to be nice to you un…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 07:03 PM
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A LVM that I had the misfortune of working with in the past at least had the brains to hide the fact that he had a baby on the way when he replied to a work email I sent that his "nuts banging off my chin would be great". Daddy-to-be is not exactly an attractive trait. I was shocked when his daughter was born and I had to sign a card about five months after that incident.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 09:53 PM
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Courtesy of my aunt, modified by me: 1/2c mayo - 1/2c sour cream - 1/2c milk - 2 tsp onion flakes - 1 tbsp lemon pepper - 1 tbsp dried dill (or fresh, I grow my own and freeze so I have good herbs in the winter to use) - 1 tbsp chives - 1 tbsp parsley - squeeze of lemon. Mix, add lemon, refrigerate for up to 5 days. I like savory coleslaw so this dressing, along with green onions and a bit of feta along with coleslaw base is amazing! Greekish dressing (I drown this salad with feta, olives and pu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 04:33 PM
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At least women get some nutrition in their salads with ranch dressing unlike the low value meals I've seen men cook. Salad isn't strictly a health food, although vegetables of all kinds are divine, whether prepared in healthy ways or not. I make my own dressings and they are bitchin', including ranch. But how dare I not eat to please random LVM?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 07:24 PM
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Someone skipped leg day.... Imagine this upside down triangle with the strangest fucking muscle development I've ever seen getting any. Just try to imagine it. You'll laugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 06:09 PM
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Gotta love some of the guilting phrases they use. Whaaat? You're not happy? I'd be happy living with you in a cardboard box. EQUALS I'm too lazy to ever try to improve my circumstances but better believe you're going to be turning tricks to carry us and coming home to tidy up our homeless camp when you're done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 06:31 PM
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Wut? Like, a fully adult woman couldn't handle living alone? WTF kind of therapy was this? I am fully serious that women should only see women therapists. Only shit advice comes from men and their expectations regarding us shouldering poor behaviour and every other burden men lay on us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 01:59 AM
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Of course he wants to abandon his child. Men suck at man stuff and refuse to do women's stuff. LVM truly have nothing to offer. Not even to their own blood.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 06:31 PM
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I've said it before and I'll say it again. When periods and the women who have them are so icky and gross to LVM, they need to start having sex with men instead so their fragile sensibilities aren't offended.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 06:09 PM
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BuT tHe SpAcE yunno! A place to shove more dusty man crap is NOT more pleasing than simple, happy jars.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 03:46 AM
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You don't need to think you're low value. Your home and car might not be top of the line in terms of cost, but look at what you DO. You have four little ones. You are a caring mother. You might battle depression but that doesn't change the fact that you are a great person for all you do and all of your connections that you likely nurture well. Your job might be on the lower end of pay but you have the fortitude to get up and do it, which is more humility and work ethic than many LVM have. Women …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 03:28 AM
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But Lawd help us women if we dare to touch the 50 mismatched holey socks or graveyard of junk electronics collecting dust. That shit's really important, dontcha know. Jars are actually a good idea. I'll have to mix up my own special iced teas in a big ass jar to enjoy this summer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 03:07 AM
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I hope she fulfills the happily ever after trope and leaves for someone who isn't a complete dickbag, and lives a life of thunderous sex with a man who respects her in a beautiful home far far away from the OP LVM. But seriously, go her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 07:35 PM
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The comments gave me a brain bleed. No one needs to be a sexmaid, period. Just imagine this poor soul having a mental breakdown scrubbing the toilet for the fifth time that day because how dare a woman have any free time whatsoever and not use it to clean up after a man when he isn't carrying the entire financial burden of the household.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 07:30 PM
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Mel Gibson (bless his LVM heart) shared a story of his mother silently losing her shit on him and his father. ​ Took all the laundry outside. Piled it up. Doused it in lighter fluid. Lit match. They didn't bother her again for a while. ​ I'd advise exactly the same for this poor soul. Light that lazy nasty fucker's offal up in the firepit and peace out with new roommates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 07:00 PM
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Also once at that point, him cooking is a good screening tool. Can he actually cook? Or is he serving unspiced soggy chicken and overboiled carrots with no spices, expecting you to fall over with praise for what amounts to starvation cooking?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 10:12 PM
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You wear that wonderful shirt with pride! Better to have thrift store finds than value village men that can't be upcycled.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 04:55 AM
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WHERE DID YOU GET THIS? I love it! Mostly because it's so freakin' true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 04:33 AM
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I used to work weekend relief in a shelter. I've seen things... and I agree with you. You weren't rude at all!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 03:42 PM
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Oh no, not my intent to treat any dog like an attack dog. I've had an Aussie before (he passed from cancer) and I am very active in rescue work. Dogs are more a deterrent to people who behave badly in public rather than an object of defence. I've been looking for the right dog in need of rehoming for about a year now. Not rude, but caring, so thank you for your comment as a reminder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 03:16 PM
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That's... sweet. Kudos to them, and for all who are able to comment to help out the next generation of girls.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 03:54 AM
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If it's you and what YOU want (instead of what's simply available), go for it! Morganite is about 7.5 on the mohrs scale, so decently hard, but prone to fracture if bumped. It can loose colour over the years through exposure to UV. That is the caveat of choosing some stones for a ring that is worn daily over decades. It might not last for a number of reasons. Moonstone is orthoclase feldspar, and depending on exact chemical composition, tends to be softer (6 - 6.5). Scratching is very likely wit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 11:37 PM
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I'm looking for a dog before summer hits for this reason : ) We have shitty experiences in areas and countries where there is a veneer of civility that kind of grants us some immunity to depraved violence. For the women who have to experience the brutal reality of unconstrained male behaviour without any outside checks, the most insulting thing is to pull the not all men card and minimize the reality that could so easily be ours as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 11:08 PM
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It's sad to be a woman anywhere, really. I live in a good area, and I'm a bit depressed that it's spring. I like to go running along very public paths but warm weather means men (usually on bikes) are going to accost me, block my way, invite themselves to walk me home, and get angry that I'm calling the cops when they won't leave me the fuck alone. Only in the winter when no one else is around do I feel truly safe for something as basic as getting a bit of outdoor exercise. I can see why women i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 07:10 PM
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Next up - "he got me sexy handcuffs that I can't take off without his key".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 06:52 PM
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Pick me! Right up to being murdered like the women of mexico are protesting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 06:10 PM
30

Not to mention that carat per carat, coloured gemstones of actual quality (sapphire, ruby, emerald) should cost as much as diamond. Padpardasha is my holy grail for rings. Morganite isn't a long wearing stone. Opal isn't. Aquamarine isn't. All available in chips for under $500 on Etsy though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 05:03 AM
17

I spat tea on my screen, you goddess of words you : )
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 04:48 AM
5

I wouldn't take it as a joke - that is an idyllic dream to have! Go get your farm and flock, and maybe start a little fibre business out of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 06:01 AM
6

I'm sorry. I feel for your position and how you were treated when you did reach out. I hope things pick up for you and you find things that open up new friendships, horizons, successes - you have so much to offer, regardless of where you are in life. You know this to be true because you KNOW you're better than predatory men. You got this! Edit - a word.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 04:06 AM
29

Kick back, grab a wine, pet the kitkat on your lap and enjoy the shitshow I guess. This is what the manosphere has brought us after about 200,000 years of patriarchal rule. Sex with kid's toys. How endearing of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 03:46 AM
91

It's wrong but I laughed. Not at this poor woman, her life in shambles, with a child with a fetishist that now connects her for life to his low value behaviour. But at an adult man humping a stuffed toy. They really will fuck anything. Just try to picture it and not die laughing from the absurdity, a toy hanging off a LVM's dick. God it's like the end times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 02:10 AM
4

Also, depending on your income, in Canada you can see if you qualify for legal aid if anything comes up. The cut off is abysmal (like $11000 income or so in my area) but it is per YEAR and the year is only three months in. I've had co-workers before have to go for legal aid for assistance with custody, separation and divorce. No harm in seeing if you qualify if it comes to it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 04:13 AM
13

Ok, with this info, get your ducks in a row (lease, anything that might legally tie him to you) and have friends with you at all times he is around during the move out even if he doesn't make a move to be violent. Witnesses might put him on his best behaviour. Law enforcement can be present if necessary. Record EVERYTHING his batshit family does. Another poster commented that text message might be better to break the news. Def go public or the electronic route and don't put yourself in harm's wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 04:02 AM
37

Shared psychosis? Angry because they don't get sex maids and babies (that they up front admit they can't support). Angry that they have zero positive impact in their communities. No groups, no working at the food bank or doing drives for shelters, no volunteering. They can die angry because they contributed nothing but their waste of space at work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 03:32 AM
3

That's true. Just that there is safety in being in public, though I would worry about what happens afterwards when other people aren't around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 03:02 AM
18

Get your ducks in a row - finances, new place. Break the news in a public place. If there is one whiff of violence or the threat of it, let law enforcement be present when you move out. The most dangerous time for a woman is when she is actively leaving an abusive man. Protect yourself in all ways. *sorry, I misread that he would be the one to leave. Regardless, be careful because he has a violent streak that he has expressed in the past.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 01:48 AM
33

I recall from uni days a similar discussion, where we, as younger women, took on masculine activities and attributes not to gain the respect of men but to "blend in" with them and so shed the blatent disrespect and sexism women are shown. Examples ranged from dressing in baggy clothing and speaking in a deeper voice, to pursuing sports like wrestling and boxing (then more male dominated). The aim was to suppress femininity to then suppress ill treatment. If one becomes more invisible as a female…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 01:10 AM
35

Actually, a machine can figure your pussy out in 3 minutes 😁 Sometimes in much less than 3 minutes 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 08:05 PM
40

Thanks to you two ladies! I'm no stranger to LTR but so many of us have experienced abuse, ill treatment, disrespect, and have given so much of ourselves to men. Add in all of the "empowering" degradation that libfem has brought us, and there is no wonder FDS exists. People might terms FDS femcels but the major difference is we help each other to build ourselves up in positive ways and none of us have shot up a public space or ran over innocent pedestrians. We are naming the problem (LVM toxicit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 08:00 PM
31

How much baggage does a man collect in 40 years of being a fuccboi? It might account for his delusional view of his physical condition. Shit's a lot to carry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 09:52 PM
1

I can upvote your comment. I think it's sad that comfort and colour is expected to be bled from our lives to satisfy men. It's not solely about being a HVW and taking pride in creating your surroundings (I do quite well with quality secondhand furniture and antiques - my table set was $12 so I am not coming from a point of needlessly burning through money). Even our most tactile comforts aren't up for consideration to make us happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 12:41 AM
1

Now one of my life mottos!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 12:26 AM
3

It's really hard to tell, isn't it? Pets aren't everyone's thing, but depending on the division of finances and expectations, it could be something to watch and consider. I didn't mean to impose my view on your partner either, he may be unaware of the totality care requires and might not know how to approach it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 09:03 PM
18

Yes! Red flag - "compromising" on your home and decor to cater to man cave shit. If he doesn't want high thread count flowery sheets, he can fuck right off back to his neckbeard nest with sheets that stand straight from filth. I give a HOME, and that reflects my comfort and beauty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 08:52 PM
22

It could be a red flag. "Not his pet" means that he will likely pull the "not my job" if he ever has children in a partnership. Good luck ever sleeping in or having you time if you have children with a man like that. The more concerning red flag to look out for is whether or not he gets jealous over you paying attention to your pets. I had one LVM get all bent out of shape when I had my dog. Not just jealousy over the time I spent with my pup or the training we did (we did agility and advanced r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 08:15 PM
48

He should be having sex with men because periods, and the women who have them, are soooo freaky and gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 10:04 PM
54

That's straight up abuse - I don't know this poor woman but being prepared is not fucking crazy. People can be worried and plan for worst case scenarios and that is a smart thing to do. It's not like she's spent the family fortune on outfitting a complete bunker in the wilderness. I'm terrified for this woman and my heart breaks for her. At least most mental health professionals would see through the LVM theatrics and give whatever help available to this woman if this abusive shit stain ever tri…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 07:47 PM
28

Don't force yourself. Don't cheapen YOUR experience. Sex is intimate. One of the most intimate things you can share with a man - you're being penetrated, sharing body fluids (even with condoms there's spit, vaginal lubrication, etc), releasing hormones during and after the act. You don't need to offer yourself up as a fleshlight as appeasement. Nor should you be in the mood and want to be intimate when you're treated like crap. Communication with a willing HVM should resolve lack of intimacy and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 05:16 AM
47

It's the colour of their toxic hearts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 12:53 AM
64

Really fucked up view as to what sex is, "like a massage". A massage that can give you STD's, pregnancy, death if the LVM is into abuse, bondage, choking, whatever depraved flavour of porn is floating around these days. Jesus, not everything needs to be trivialized and degraded.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 11:34 PM
2

Pretending to be happy single, like what, as opposed to taking the endless demeaning shit that being with a LVM entails? Because the magic dick of some slob is the the key to make me complete, or change me in a fundamental way? ​ Fuck they smoking, I need some of that audacity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 10:10 PM
54

Not just to blame men's loneliness, but also their outright lack of empathy and (I don't know how best to phrase it) willingness to do anything that doesn't directly serve them. Even if I'm old and my last gal friends have died, I can always reach out in my community and help in some way. Teach a girl to knit and sew. Help at risk teens. Foster animals. Help in a community garden. I might be "alone" but I'm never lonely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 07:24 PM
83

I have to laugh because this is totally me. Eldest, female, and well damn done with childrearing after being in charge of siblings and being forced to babysit for every kid in the neighborhood. F that noise forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 03:47 AM
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