STOP 👏🏻PROCREATING 👏🏻 WITH 👏🏻 SHIT 👏🏻 MEN

ivarteefies · 2021-04-01T04:56:54+00:00

This is something that could cause serious, lifelong injury or disability to her child, and her pressing thought is to approach it in a way so as not to attack the husband? Because the first four times communicating didn't work to not harm their infant?

Douse that bridge in gasoline, light a match, and never look back.

hakunnamatatamfs · 2021-04-01T05:32:38+00:00

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Technical_Moth248 · 2021-04-01T06:57:47+00:00

JFC he’s dropped their child 5 times and she’s still worried about approaching it nicely so he doesn’t get his poor little feelings hurt? Knowing dudes like this he’s probably doing it on purpose to get out of looking after her, but she could die and I doubt he’s so incompetent he doesn’t know that.

This stuff makes me so mad. I love kids and I hate how many of them get stuck with garbage, negligent parents.

hopewings · 2021-04-01T05:30:49+00:00

Five times? He's dropped the baby five times?

Either he is horribly negligent, or he is abusing the baby and dropping her on purpose. Either way, the mother is complicit in this abuse if she stays with him and continues to allow him to be alone with the baby.

The baby needs to receive medical care to check for signs of concussion. Medical personnel are mandated reporters, and she can ask for help in safely leaving. If he is abusing the baby on purpose, neither the mother nor the baby is safe living with him.

Given the history of him being constantly on his phone, there's a high possibility of infidelity and affair. There have been enough stories of women who have been murdered along with their children, all because the man has found a new shiny object. See American Murder: The Family Next Door. She needs to get out of there.

coldfoot23 · 2021-04-01T06:37:43+00:00

He’s doing this on purpose, divorce.

FDSfollower1 · 2021-04-01T05:02:53+00:00

I'm not convinced that these falls were accidents. In that situation, she needs to brace herself and never leave her baby alone with her husband for minute, even if she has to just pretend that he doesn't exist other than for running errands until she can figure out a way to get out of there and keep her baby, herself, and her pets safe. Anecdotal, but possibly a good idea -- some people put their mattresses on the floor, shoved up against the wall, when their babies are little, just to make sure the baby doesn't fall off the bed when changing them or sleeping with them.

heroic_nincompoop · 2021-04-01T05:14:58+00:00

This is absolutely terrifying. I hope she divorces him as soon as possible. This shit makes me sick to my stomach.

Ill_Entrepreneur_704 · 2021-04-01T05:45:19+00:00

I was so horrified by this post. One commenter suggested buying him a flip phone because the smart phone is obviously the problem.

RecordingImportant94 · 2021-04-01T09:45:24+00:00

I used to frequent a parenting forum when I’d first had my child and you would occasionally get mothers posting tearing themselves apart because they were so sleep deprived that they let their babies fall off a bed or a sofa or banged their heads on a table corner when learning to walk. They would be utterly distraught, blaming themselves and questioning whether they were a good enough parent. Men don’t give a shit, and would never blame themselves or question their adequacy. Nor do these men have the excuse of sleep deprivation or exhaustion because you can bet they aren’t even doing 10% of the grunt work of parenting. They’ll claim they don’t know how to do parenting, or didn’t realise the baby could roll yet so it wasn’t their fault.

WittyImprovement · 2021-04-01T06:10:52+00:00

She should get proof and take legal action against him. This is so fucked up and he's causing literal harm to the baby.

cakepancakepancake · 2021-04-01T08:24:30+00:00

We were on a vacation, lounging around a pool and my mother was looking after me (I was very young back then) and she had asked the fucking idiot of a man (my father) to look after my sister. Next thing you know my sister is drowning in the pool and my mother has to jump in and save her. He "hadn't noticed her"... yeah, right. Bullshit. And my sister used to be his favorite kid, that didn't seem to matter though in that situation, clearly...

_laufaeson · 2021-04-01T09:49:18+00:00

Calling CPS on your own husband should be normalized.

K0rla · 2021-04-01T07:57:19+00:00

If you let your baby drop five times you should definitely be attacked. That is negligence.

Jerryriggedusername · 2021-04-01T07:17:35+00:00

At that point it’s safer to be a single parent because he’s a neglectful scum

thrway01010 · 2021-04-01T10:55:57+00:00

Another possibility, this reminds me of the "pro tip" some scrote shared: do a shit job whenever your SO asks you to do something so eventually they stop asking. They were talking about house chores but maybe this disgusting monster has applied the same logic. He won't look after his own fucking daughter and keep her safe in hopes of the mother just giving up on him and not asking him to look after that poor child, so he can be on his phone? Whatever it is, she needs to take that kid far away from him.

AnastasiaRomani · 2021-04-01T06:10:30+00:00

This is so upsetting I cannot even comment beyond emoting and I have to walk away.

2ndMrsDeWinter · 2021-04-01T05:31:52+00:00

This is definitely not an accident after once (and that once better be a radical outlier like baby was somehow covered in olive oil and wiggly). Oh my god, how. How. How. I fucking love babies and kids and have put off having one for YEARS because they deserve me at my best and this schmucks just hanging out dropping his daughter like Meghan Thee Stallion drops hits?! Nah fuck that. Someone get them outta there before I kick the door down.

Lionessoftheflesh · 2021-04-01T06:23:56+00:00

You should drop his ass and quick

intergalacticanon44 · 2021-04-01T09:14:06+00:00

Wtf why is she asking strangers what she should do? Isn’t that her baby as well? She should’ve said something the moment she heard him drop her.

Muffcakelord · 2021-04-01T11:02:06+00:00

It's on purpose because he's cheating and god forbid if men ever do the emotional labour of breaking up

Fatt3stAveng3r · 2021-04-01T11:08:21+00:00

"How do I talk to him about him dropping our child without it seeming like I'm attacking him?"

You don't. He needs to be attacked for that.

NurseBubbleGum · 2021-04-01T06:33:09+00:00

Want him to stop? Report him for child abuse.

thenyashoulda · 2021-04-01T05:38:50+00:00

just posted something about this on another thread.

Breed & see the vast labor differential within your relationship . However, your commitment to infant labor derives from love whereas his commitment to the lack of infant labor derives from apathy and laziness.

It is not within scrotes to adequately care for children.

At some point you realize you bred with a scrote.

I try to prepare my child for the future and prevent unnecessary harm. Unfortunately, she has learned already there is a difference between a father and a daddy. When she was younger, she thought I kept him from seeing her. I never want my daughter to see hurt and confusion in her child’s eyes when they discover he just doesn’t come by.

I am raising an awesome kid, ensuring her future is not one of scrotehood.

CandidKick · 2021-04-01T09:51:41+00:00

If I was her I would take my child and run.

If she needs to legally cut tail and run she should secretly record him watching her to catch his negligence. Usually, I would be against letting this ever happen again, but if she goes to court without enough evidence and he gets even partial custody, their child could be in even bigger danger.

AyemHerself · 2021-04-01T11:18:31+00:00

He's going to give that baby brain damage because his phone is more important.

oddcharm · 2021-04-01T11:31:32+00:00

What the FUCK? Is this another example of feigned incompetence so that he doesn’t have to watch his own child?

But FDS is soOoOoO crazy right?

WorkaholicParty · 2021-04-01T12:47:27+00:00

Why isn't she cOmMunIcAtIng that she wants her child not to be dropped and injured??

Anyway, in the animal world - something I have heard many men say whenever they are about to justify misogynistic practices - the female of the species does attack anything that threatens her children's well-being. This woman has to grow up and put her baby daughter FIRST and protect her from all enemies - foreign and domestic - instead of nursing her hubby's feelings. There is no excuse for this behavior, he's sc-m of the lowest kind and salvaging her relationship with him shouldn't even be on her radar at this point. Sorry if it sounds like I put the onus on the mom, it's unfair but we're talking about a completely innocent baby girl being in danger, nobody is putting her first and she has to be saved. This could plague her for her entire life (talking of the baby).

RojavaLover · 2021-04-01T08:58:42+00:00

"How do I talk to him about dropping our child without it seeming like I'm attacking him"?

What an absolute clown of a woman. Still thinking about a man-child's feelings and trying to protect his ego when he cares more about being on a phone than being a man and taking care of his baby. Fuck his feelings! He needs to know you are attacking him and that you would attack him for real if it happened again because 5 times for a 9-month-old baby sounds deliberate to me.

KiwiTigerLoon · 2021-04-01T13:25:55+00:00

The lady asked a question: “How do I talk to him?” Like this:

“If you drop my child again, I will pick her up and drive her to my mother’s house. I will then return with a fully loaded shotgun. You can either leave before I get back or not. Either way, my daughter will never meet her father and I have peace with that.”

QueenCrownn · 2021-04-01T11:31:39+00:00

5 times? 5 times and she wants to know how she can talk to him without seeming like she's attacking him?! Woosah! She's worried about hurting his fucking feelings instead of worrying about her child. I wonder if she even took the child to get checked out! Wow just wow

rawwwrrrgghh · 2021-04-01T07:18:43+00:00

I hope someone calls the authorities. It doesn’t matter why he drops the child and it doesn’t matter why she still let him look after her, but I fear for this kid.

I can understand that it’s extremely hard for her not being able to just go to the bathroom without taking the child with her, but why would you let your child with Someone it won’t be safe with? This woman really needs to take a step back. Her child’s life is in danger. You don’t let your child stay in a dangerous situation.

CandidKick · 2021-04-01T09:49:22+00:00

What. The. Fuck.

LucysFakeTits · 2021-04-01T13:28:22+00:00

Quit coddling him and tell him to get off the fucking phone and act like a parent?

Yellowsunflowerlover · 2021-04-01T13:40:15+00:00

After the first time, I wouldn't trust him. They sell bouncers and playpens. She could put the baby there. But if you have to go to that extreme, then that's worrisome. Idk I wouldn't stay with him either. If you're incapable of taking care of your own child, dude I don't want to be with you. What benefits does she get from staying with this scrote? I hope it's not sex, cus I can suggest items that could give her the same or even better outcomes.

esoldelulu · 2021-04-01T16:26:07+00:00

There’s something very wrong going on here, because her mothering instincts are there but suppressed by her fear of upsetting this man.

I suspect she’s being abused in some way, maybe he’s the only one working and she has to avoid upsetting him so that she doesn’t lose a roof over her head.

There’s just no way a mom’s concern for her baby’s safety could take a backseat to her spouse’s comfort if she felt comfortable and safe to assert this very common sense boundary. Since that’s not present, she’s walking on eggshells.

I feel so sorry for her.

2021-04-01T13:49:33+00:00

H-he dropped your infant 5 times while probably watching porn on his phone and you're worried about coming across as mean? Has the Karen meme really fried women's brains just like I predicted?

randowordgenerator · 2021-04-01T08:06:57+00:00

~~Some~~ ~~Many~~ Most people just shouldn't reproduce. Too late here.

euridicee · 2021-04-01T09:02:38+00:00

How on earth do you drop.. A baby.. Of all things. Makes me incredibly sad

bootyinspector9000 · 2021-04-01T09:12:18+00:00

Girl....attack him

localgirlcult · 2021-04-01T14:01:43+00:00

How do I talk to him about the fact that he could have killed our baby or caused her a life long disability without it seeming like I'm attacking him. These women write short horror stories and aren't even aware of that fact. More than half of them are very prolific writers in the genre.

_RustInPiece_ · 2021-04-01T14:44:52+00:00

This is child abuse, lady. Report him.

thowawaywookie · 2021-04-01T11:57:58+00:00

OMG he's a fucking waste of oxygen and she's an idiot for repeatedly leaving the baby where it can fall. She should take him to the jackass rescue and drop him off.

Buy a playpen. Set it up properly. Put the baby in there when you have to go to the bathroom.

Baby will be safe from idiot scrote.

AudacityofToads · 2021-04-01T13:05:53+00:00

5 times??? I would have completely lost my shit the first time. This happening 5 times doesn't sound like an accident to me.

Gerltofen · 2021-04-01T14:00:52+00:00

Five times? On accident? I don't believe this, he needs to be reported.

MadamLeFay · 2021-04-01T13:03:25+00:00

She cares more about his feelings than her child's life!

jeniiiiiblue · 2021-04-02T03:00:37+00:00

Okay I never like to attack women but this lady is a coward Avd shouldn’t have a baby , like someone take this baby. 5 times!! And she only 9 months ! Avd she keeps letting him watch her .And she is concerned about how to approach him! What world we live in . When it comes to kids u need to step the fuck up . What Bs.

wolf_town · 2021-04-01T13:53:35+00:00

that man is an idiot, and that is abuse. neglecting a child to play games on a phone 😤

sweet_birthday_babyy · 2021-04-01T14:04:54+00:00

“Drop” his phone off a bridge. Better yet, drop the man.

2021-04-01T14:26:46+00:00

This is another 'if he wanted to, he would' moment. If he gave a flying fuck about his child he would do something. Since he doesn't care, and probably because its female (can you imagine him letting this happen to his HEIR and SON??) he's just 'meh'.

This woman needs to leave before her child ends up dead at negligence. I hope she brought her to a doctor to see if she's suffering internally because five times!??

Imaginary-Driver-767 · 2021-04-01T15:26:14+00:00

Yikes! Head injury in children is no small matter. This person needs to take charge of her kid’s care. She also needs to evaluate if it’s worth being with someone who doesn’t have basic instinct to care for his offspring

ApprehensiveGiftBox · 2021-04-01T15:58:58+00:00

I would have smashed the phone and kicked him in the head.

7Cuervos · 2021-04-01T19:49:53+00:00

Bet you she thought "he is gonna change once we have children"

No, they wont.

Magnolia_Mirage · 2021-04-01T23:07:38+00:00

The dangers of a pickme. Poor child.

HOPEFULLY, she actually gets her shit together and leaves him and actually takes care of her child.

Edit: also is he cheating because nothing on my phone would be so interesting to drop a child 5 times.

rosecolored_glasses · 2021-04-02T01:48:18+00:00

The baby needs to be taken away from both of them. How can someone be such a hardcore pickme that they allow their child to be neglected and injured by her own father. Disgusting. They’re both trash.

Watzoo · 2021-04-01T16:10:48+00:00

So she’s furious. That’s good anger. That’s holy anger. You hold that fury, sis.

Here’s the thing I always see, tho:

Comments / opinions that put the onus on her to control his behavior.

that’s what she’s trying to do when she asks tor ways to reach him
it’s a failed mission, because if she could control his behavior, THE BABY WOULD NEVER HAVE DROPPED IN THE FIRST PLACE. When women can control men, we “control” them into being good fathers and supportive faithful husbands.
if rage worked to change his behavior, she wouldn’t be asking for ways to stay calm
we can’t shift blame for the man’s poor choices to the woman who failed to control him.

Comments demanding she leave his LVAss

in the US, he WILL get visitation.
it may be every other weekend or it may be 50% of the time
that’s time that he continues to father the way he does now and she IS NOT there to monitor, protect or comfort the child when he fails
her divorcing him puts her child at more risk of negligent parenting by him (or the strangers he introduces to the child’s life) than her staying
again, the blame for his behavior should not be converted in blame for the mother for choosing what keeps her child safest (which in the US, is staying until the child is verbal and can self-care to some extent).

If she were enough of a woman (like I am, as the implied message goes), she’d shut this down and make him behave.

-she wants him to behave differently

she’s asking what she can try because her natural instincts (which she admits are rage) do not work
her desire to protect her child is greater than her desire to punish him, a quality that makes her a good mother

As someone whose seen this before, my guess is that his choices aren’t accidental and are intended to dissuade her from having him do any childcare. He will succeed because- as stated - she loves her child more than she wants to punish him, so she will choose to do all the childcare. (She will do this while surrounded by women sassing about how they would never put up with that from their husbands and how she should let him have it. She will receive negligible support from any women he hasn’t isolated her from for this reason.)

He’s likely already done something similar (or will) with housework. She will be scrambling from Dawn to dusk to do all childcare and all housework and the sleep deprivation will make thinking tough, which will endanger her employment.

When the child is old enough for her to stomach the idea, she will file for divorce and the requisite “overnights at daddy’s house” and try to walk the tight rope between keeping her child physically and emotionally healthy and not “alienating” the father ... while also re-entering the workforce or reviving a lagging career that she’s struggled to keep afloat through all this. Her colleagues’ biases about “single mothers” will present another challenge to her career progression.

She’s in a tough spot. I hope she stays mad - it will steer her right and fuel her through the impossible, like it has so many warriors before her.

ciciplum · 2021-04-01T16:17:42+00:00

Un-fucking-believable

mynameisrominka · 2021-04-01T21:15:14+00:00

Why is she so concerned with him not feeling attacked????

lvoncreek · 2021-04-02T08:02:45+00:00

Who the fuck cares about his feelings tho?

midwesternwinds · 2021-04-01T14:54:15+00:00

No, he deserves a verbal attack tbh. He literally doesn't care about his own helpless baby.

Ashitaga · 2021-04-01T18:36:17+00:00

Procreating that way ain't a pro.

woodbine1031 · 2021-04-01T20:28:33+00:00

“How do I talk to him?”

...... DIVORCE HIM YOU IDIOT

Donttellmehow2feel · 2021-04-02T04:32:01+00:00

Wouldn't surprise me if she is also asking if she's the A$$hole here.

Velvettcum · 2021-04-02T11:23:50+00:00

Why is she more worried about "attacking" him than the possibility of permanent damage to her child? Is he abusing her? Parents are supposed to care about their children's well being so I don't know why he would be mad about her concern for their child.

larvikite_ · 2021-04-01T14:40:15+00:00

I don't like the title of this. Kindof shifts the blame off the man who drops baby to the woman because she had a baby with him. Just something to think about.

ETA: this woman may have made a mistake 18 months ago, and possibly has leveled up since. I think it's pretty clear she's starting to hate him as she rightfully should because of his negligence. But the damage is done so I don't see a reason to shame her for procreating with an LVM. No disrespect OP, I just think we should lift each other up and help each other out when we've realised we've made a mistake. We're all on the same team here. X

Suspicious-Leg-1407 · 2021-04-01T14:39:31+00:00

She pickme'd her way to this problem.

Summerisle7 · 2021-04-01T18:28:48+00:00

Gee however should she talk to him about this

BLUEDIRT93 · 2021-04-01T16:47:48+00:00

The fact that this man is more enamored by whatever is on his phone than having a brand new child in his hands speaks volumes. And the woman being more concerned about his feelings than her babies HEAD also speaks volumes. WTF!!!

HlGHFIVE · 2021-04-01T20:26:00+00:00

How the fuck is she still with him!? She's just as much of a clown as he is.

n3rdgir7 · 2021-04-01T20:29:40+00:00

If anyone, ever, dropped my fucking baby, I would absolutely drop them off a building. That's one strike and you're out. I don't wanna victim-blame here, but she should've thrown the whole man out 4 drops ago.

FlockAroundtheClock · 2021-04-01T22:27:37+00:00

JFC, for real?!

2021-04-02T10:21:14+00:00

Im mad at the mother too. Your husband is fucking garbage and now your daughter got hurt because of him. Shes fucking disgusting to tolerate this shit

szarcat · 2021-04-02T11:54:07+00:00

They still won’t leave their men though, the first time would’ve been the last straw for me but hey

Title	STOP 👏🏻PROCREATING 👏🏻 WITH 👏🏻 SHIT 👏🏻 MEN
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Date	April 1, 2021 4:49 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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