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| 10 | tw: rape. the comment section is *full* of angry scrotes blaming her, telling her she didn’t get raped, not to ruin the guy’s life because it’s her fault she was drunk.I am so sorry this happened to you. It was not your fault. Don't talk to any, and I do mean ANY man about this (yes that includes your ex), only supportive women. Sadly it's primarily only women who can understand and help you process the horror of what happened. When you tell men, unfortunately you risk the man seeing you as an easy target and preying on you. Please contact https://www.rainn.org/ there is a chat, phone number 1-800-656-4673, and resources. Take care. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/22 05:27 PM |
| 40 | OP upset that a Tinder match cut it off after a “public place” date following chatting and a virtual date. FDS working in the wild. 👑Nah sis. This guy is a fuckboi through and through, doesn't wear condoms, said "I had a close call with syphilis a couple months ago and that's one of the milder STDs," and has zero regard for women. If you read his comment history, he hasn't learned anything except how to put on his mask a little better next time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 09:00 PM |
| 503 | OP upset that a Tinder match cut it off after a “public place” date following chatting and a virtual date. FDS working in the wild. 👑The woman dodged a MASSIVE bullet with this one! This dude's comment history is absolute proof that FDS works to vet out horrible men. It includes gems like telling people he had been banned from Tinder "inexplicably" and "using Google Voice to bypass Tinder bans." AND HE WON'T USE CONDOMS OMG GROSS. Straight from this dude's post history a month ago: Hey everyone, I'm a male in his early 20s. To get straight to the point, I have unprotected sex a lot and I think it's only a matter of time befor… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 07:04 PM |
| 117 | OP upset that a Tinder match cut it off after a “public place” date following chatting and a virtual date. FDS working in the wild. 👑Oh the real reason came out that he didn't spend any money on her: I should know that the reason why I was particularly hesitant to spend money at this time is I had less than $30 in my bank account; I was getting paid this weekend. She was the one who actually had chosen the day and it just happened to be before I got paid. I decided to be flexible with her and try to make a no-cost date work. It just didn't work out. And in his subsequent posts, he's still trying to trash talk her and how he w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 06:53 PM |
| 92 | OP upset that a Tinder match cut it off after a “public place” date following chatting and a virtual date. FDS working in the wild. 👑My husband took me out to dinner and a movie for our first date, and he paid for everything. Before covid we still had date nights frequently, with my wonderful in-laws babysitting. The difference is that women stopped demanding more, so men don't have to step up to the plate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 06:21 PM |
| 5 | Broke up with my bfGo to https://www.reddit.com/settings/messaging -> Set "who can send you chat requests" to NOBODY, and who can send you private messages to NOBODY. You can add approved users manually if you want someone specific to message you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 05:18 PM |
| 317 | OP upset that a Tinder match cut it off after a “public place” date following chatting and a virtual date. FDS working in the wild. 👑The N/LVM show themselves very early. All of the HVM I've known are extremely respectful towards women, treat women well as a whole, don't only focus on looks (notice this guy said nothing about her personality or intelligence except she had interests in common with him), and they have high EQ with a lot of empathy. They know, and they follow up with actions based on knowledge. One male boss I know of (not mine) did longer interviews with good prospective candidates (both men and women) by buyin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 04:30 PM |
| 37 | Grooming a child at 24 and using guns and other weapons to act out his violent.urges on her but "it was just a fear play fetish."This isn't even new. Children and vulnerable women have always been preyed upon. It's just men are attempting to normalize it now using anonymity online and with bots, trolls, brigading, and pretending to be women. I came across many men role-playing as women in my time. Don't believe everything you read online. Stay skeptical. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 04:16 PM |
| 19 | Broke up with my bfTurn off your private messages because tons of men and pickme women will try to gaslight you on here when you post. Only vetted FDS minded women can respond to your post publicly. Go to your reddit user settings, turn off messages and chats. Take care. <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 03:53 PM |
| 40 | A few safety tipsThe other tip I read the other day from FDS was to carry an Aztec death whistle, which makes a horrifying screaming sound like a woman's dying wails. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I9QuO09z-SI | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 01:13 AM |
| 50 | The bar is in hell ladies 🤦🏻♀️That 6 year age gap is the first and biggest red flag. There's also the fact that they met on Tinder. The rest are just window dressing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 01:02 AM |
| 98 | IMPORTANT SAFETY NOTICE: The Plymouth Shooter has complained about FDS. DO NOT DISCUSS FDS WITH MEN. These are males with murderous intentions who desire revenge on women.I also recommend blocking the "reddit cares" bot that tells you "someone is concerned about you." It's always some scrote using that when your DMs and chats are closed to still try to get under your skin. The bot name is /u/RedditCareResources. Block this user, and you'll never have to see the spam again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 12:59 AM |
| 54 | Story Time: The importance of looking someone up on social mediaThis is why it's not safe to meet men "organically" these days either. So many creepy crazy messed up weirdos and creepoids around, and they are the more brazen ones. HVM generally vet women first via longer observation and social groups just like HVW do. So do the math on who are left... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 05:35 AM |
| 54 | 🤡: “But what if she is just trying to use me for a free dinner?”These low EQ dudes really think women are "users." This is because they are likely projecting. Or their egos refuse to let them believe that they were rejected. "Of course" the woman only used him for the free dinner! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 01:31 AM |
| 142 | Female pick up artists? Pfffft don’t flatter yourself men. Women have been vetting, weeding out men and voicing their concerns since forever! Don’t act brand new.Female "drop it" strategists! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 10:22 PM |
| 156 | “Not all men” brigaders…smhYep, men know, they just think they can yell louder and drown our women's voices. But my question is, why are you wasting your time talking to your ex? Gray rock if you have to keep in contact with him because of a child. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 09:47 PM |
| 109 | Someone I've known since middle school just got proposed to with a Ring Pop.It's too late. That child will bind them together far more than any marriage contract. Never have kids with a man who isn't willing to marry you. It will inevitably lead to horror shows like this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 07:38 PM |
| 51 | Leveled up, but feeling alone: everyone I meet seems to be a LVM or LVWI have come to terms with my lack of close friends with time and research. Most people only have 3-5 close friends, and it's possible to have fewer than that number and still live happily! https://www.abc.net.au/everyday/how-many-friends-do-we-need-to-be-happy/12589694 It's absolutely normal and actually a good thing to choose quality over quantity -- more about the depth of the connection than how many people you know. These days I chat with a group of lovely FDS ladies in a very small discord … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 03:26 PM |
| 48 | How a scrote just replied to me on a discussion re: sexual harassment & objectificationKnow what they do to animals who attack and maim humans? For example, wild bears that become aggressive to humans get put down. Even pet dogs get put down after they attack a human. If men are no better than animals, then... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 03:08 PM |
| 13 | Honest question: have you ever met a man who has fully examined his relationship to patriarchy?My husband is a white man just like this, and my husband's mom was instrumental in his views, too. He treats women as women, and he has been an amazing partner on my FDS journey. Just now we were talking about how religions systematically subjugate women. I mentioned the line "conservatives view women as private property," and he finished it for me with "lIberals see women as public property," agreeing with me. He walks the walk, too, not just talks the talk. I don't want to go into too much det… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 05:53 AM |
| 130 | Targeted advice from FDS “older sisters” needed for “younger sisters” (adolescent and early 20’s) 👩👧The truth is that the best advice for that age group (teens and early 20s) is to not date. That's it. That's the advice. Go to /r/femalelevelupstrategy and discuss school, career, etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 06:11 AM |
| 10 | Scrotacity again?The woman in the first comment was so close yet so far. It's almost like she thinks tall men with good jobs can't also have good personalities. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 03:13 AM |
| 57 | This girl gets it. Dinner dates ensure a man thinks you’re worth the effort no matter how you look or feel about yourself.Asian men are similar in this regard. They will say that the Asian women who get with white guys are the ugly ones that Asian men don't want. Pure sour grapes. I have darker skin tone than is considered traditionally unattractive in East Asia, but men of all non-Asian stripes have shown interest in me, including some Native American men who thought I was native. It's primarily been Asian men who negged my looks overtly. I am happily married to a white man who treats me like a queen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 10:15 PM |
| 32 | DISRESPECT NEVER GETS BETTERThe more self-respect you exercise, the less disrespect you will allow. I am still learning this when it comes to non-romantic situations. But it's getting easier and easier to slam the door on those situations, too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 04:11 PM |
| 53 | DISRESPECT NEVER GETS BETTERI stayed for 8 years, was being groomed since I was 15, started at 17 and got out when I was 25. He was 7 years older, so it was easier to forgive myself because he was an abusive predator. I have read your story on here a few times, and I think in a way we are both dealing with what happened to us by warning others against it. We are fighting back with ideas, which are very powerful. You are strong for what you have endured, and you are strong for getting out. Don't feel embarrassed for someone… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 04:06 PM |
| 191 | DISRESPECT NEVER GETS BETTERYes! Don't be afraid to lose people. Be afraid of losing yourself. Fundamentally the FDS mindset is being ok with being alone. I came to this the hard way, after a long abusive relationship where I felt "I'd rather be alone than stay with a shitty man." And I still feel that way today. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 02:16 PM |
| 12 | Attempting to “heal” my trauma set me up for more abuse.Awful therapists like that just perpetuate the manipulation and gaslighting of the patriarchy and abusive men. Block and delete applies to them, too. Don't argue with them, don't try to educate them, just walk away and vote with your money. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 02:01 PM |
| 193 | AITA, boys shouts at girlfriend, girl moves out the next daySomebody even called out the 5 year age gap. FDS concepts are spreading like fire! 🔥 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 08:15 PM |
| 79 | STOP THE VANILLA SHAMING!Play the same game back at them. How about "jewelry play," "spa day play," "vacation play" then? Oh don't kink shame, her kink is just wanting to be treated like a queen. 👑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 10:35 PM |
| 3 | Scrotes Rushing into every thread about r/MGTOW being banned to bring up Female Dating StrategyThere are cats who use the toilet! And even flush! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V0vBE3U0r1g | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 09:40 PM |
| 125 | Dealing with LVM is a threat to women's healthThis is the endgame of hiking dates. This is why FDS is against women being walked like dogs on dates. This is why we don't go chasing men across the country. They make the effort to meet you. They spend money on you. They take care of you. Otherwise, block and delete. Your life depends on it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 05:37 PM |
| 15 | The Hook-up That Ended All Hook-upsThey don't call it "small dick energy" for nothing 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 10:49 PM |
| 40 | Share your badass breakup stories!That is amazing queen shit! The way to get rid of the bad juju stored in those pieces of furniture with swift decisiveness! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 09:59 PM |
| 115 | 97% of modern birds do not have penises because of female bird choice!Ducks are among the 3% of female birds that are less fortunate. Forced copulations are “pervasively common in many species of ducks.” These are socially organized “gang rapes” that are “violent, ugly, dangerous and even deadly” and even sometimes end in the death of the female. Female ducks are evolving to get their choice back though. "Some vaginas had spiral channels that would impede sex by twisting in the opposite direction to that of the male phallus. Others had as many as eight cul-de-sac … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 07:50 PM |
| 12 | PSA: For rohypnol you have 12-25 hours for a blood test, 60 hours to 28 days for a urine sample and 90 days for hair strand analysis.More people should know this, too: Alcoholic beverages are classified by the International Agency for Research on Cancer (IARC) as a Group 1 carcinogen (carcinogenic to humans). IARC classifies alcoholic beverage consumption as a cause of female breast, colorectal, larynx, liver, esophagus, oral cavity, and pharynx cancers; and as a probable cause of pancreatic cancer. Even light and moderate alcohol consumption increases cancer risk in individuals. The alcohol industry has tried to actively mis… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 04:38 PM |
| 35 | He at least cleaned his shit stainsBut she has a man! /s Women sign up for a ton of unpaid labor when they get with a man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 04:31 PM |
| 29 | This article also advises blocking & deleting after breaking up with a Narcissist 🙅♀️This part rubbed me the wrong way. For example, my husband dated a girl before me for over four years. They were pretty serious, and he was close to her family. Their breakup was a circumstantial, respectful one, brought about when they realized they wanted to live on different continents and had different aims in life. Two decades on, they remain peripherally in each other’s lives — to the level of swapping birthday and Christmas greetings and asking mutual friends to pass on good wishes where … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 11:38 PM |
| 150 | Liberal feminism will be the death of womenAgreed. Dump anyone who thinks the victim in this situation is in any way "equal" in culpability. Honestly this is why I don't even have a friend group. Most people are horrifying when you dig into their beliefs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 06:50 PM |
| 61 | Beware of shady matchmakers, ladies.She's an evil supporter of the patriarchy. Makes me mad on your friend's behalf just reading about it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 04:47 PM |
| 189 | God the pickmes are REALLY TRYING to hand out p*ssy to their LVM friendsI would be like, "if you like him so much, you should date him." But I guess pickmes are never really single and have already barnacled themselves to a LVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 04:41 PM |
| 57 | One of the BEST feelings in the world is another human being anticipating your needs. I would even argue that someone else’s desire and ability to anticipate your needs is a hallmark of someone who deeply cares about you. And no, it is not the same as “mindreading”.Yikes. It really is all about the man's intentions, isn't it? The same act/words/behavior could be well-intentioned or have the most awful, manipulative, and dark intentions behind them. It's the reason why women have to trust instincts and gut feelings, not just go with what seems good on the surface. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 10:40 PM |
| 84 | Good hygiene is the sexiest trait in a man1000% My husband of over 12 years did all the research himself and bought me the vibrator, which is waterproof and rechargeable. We've had many amazing simultaneous orgasms because of his lack of ego about this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 03:58 PM |
| 90 | "You look like my ex...""you look like my ex. And I can't unsee it now." After FDS: "You look like a scrote. And I can't unsee it now." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 03:51 PM |
| 78 | Don't accept shitty behaviour just because "every man does it"!!!Would you mind meaning her and sending her to FDS? She needs some real advice, not that kind of bullshit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 02:18 PM |
| 28 | is it just me or is it weird if a guy that isn't your boyfriend texts you too many winky facesDon't second guess yourself and your standards. If you don't like it, block and delete! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 02:54 AM |
| 67 | Why we don't date downI graduated with honors from a top university while the abusive ex never graduated from high school. He was horrific and publicly threatened to k*ll me online after I escaped, moved away and changed my numbers. Even the men he complained about me to were like "wtf just move on dude" to him. Lesson learned. Never date down. Not worth the threat to your life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 02:51 AM |
| 3 | LVM wanting to be coddled when doing simple housework is so widespread they even pitched it on Shark Tank as a businessThis reminds me of an instagram account called awards for good boys. https://www.instagram.com/awardsforgoodboys/ The sarcasm is dripping off the awards like "Isn't a Nazi, good boy!" "Only interrupts you to make it clear he's still listening" and "Vaguely knows where the clit is." Hilariously, this guy is completely unaware that his "medals" are the stuff of postmodern irony. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 09:58 PM |
| 27 | Ladies, I want to thank you.As evidenced by the fact that he "briefly dated" the OP's friend! Like she's engaged now, and he's still around? Ugh. True friendship is a high bar, and most men can never hope to reach it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 09:42 PM |
| 34 | An Example Of How "50/50" Does NOT Work (Career Woman Marries LVM)Early feminism called it the "second shift," where women come home from work and work the second job of taking care of the household, cooking, cleaning, managing the home, and childcare, each of which is its own job entirely. Men just think this is totally normal. They couldn't handle it if they had to do it. It's why men are in such a hurry to get a mommy replacement when they get shared custody of kids. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 09:32 PM |
| 28 | I know this is a buzzfeed article, but when it crossed my feed today I clicked out of pure disbelief. Since when is not wanting your children's father to potentially die in a space crash "hormonal" and "selfish"?Speaking of Demi Moore, her roast of Bruce Willis was hilarious! And a throwaway line to Ashton in there, too. https://youtu.be/VOhDoqJ1Ca4?t=24 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 09:26 PM |
| 43 | Ladies, I want to thank you.Don't be "friends" with a guy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 09:20 PM |
| 39 | An Example Of How "50/50" Does NOT Work (Career Woman Marries LVM)You are right though. There is no true 50/50. In practice, women are doing way more than 50%. I looked up the woman you mentioned in this article. She's a CEO of a law firm and a lawyer. I remember the days of having a young baby, and it is definitely awful. But it's not mentioned what the husband does or why they can't share their tasks more equitably. There is definitely a vibe of her saying "look how strong I am to take care of everything." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 08:36 PM |
| 32 | 💡Don’t have penetrative sex with a man unless he can bring you to orgasm with his hands and/or mouth first.💡I agree with you. I can count on my hands the number of men I've even held hands with romantically. For me (and I suspect most women), base 1 is definitely not kissing. It's talking, getting to know each other, being seen, felt, understood, and connected. Without those basic prereqs (which form extremely rarely), there will be nothing physical, not handholding, not hugging, not kissing, etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 08:20 PM |
| 6 | My thoughts on guy friendsHold up. So you haven't even had a guy friendship magically turn into a lifelong happy relationship, and you're recommending this as a viable dating strategy? Your history suggests you are still quite sexually inexperienced (nothing wrong with that), so I must tell you as an older married woman that what you are suggesting is terrible. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 04:26 PM |
| 10 | My thoughts on guy friendsIf a guy doesn't make a romantic move within a few days or weeks of knowing you, he's not going to be good relationship material. I did the "guy friends" thing when I was younger. It's bullshit LIES that good relationships can somehow grow out of "long friendships." In every relationship I've seen that happen with, the woman ends up doing more of the work, more of the chasing, takes on more load in the relationship, and there isn't that much chemistry. The man strings her along for years before … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 04:22 PM |
| 38 | Don’t confuse “jealousy” for boundary pushing.Nah waste of time. As soon as they show their true colors, dump, block and delete. Time wasted is time we can't get back in this life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 04:05 PM |
| 37 | Don’t confuse “jealousy” for boundary pushing.Yep. And it's time to leave when you see the deliberate triangulation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 04:04 PM |
| 48 | You ever get genuinely upset at the amount of effort guys put into themselves?If it's fragile, let it break. That's how I feel about all bad relationships, friendships included. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 05:17 AM |
| 112 | Does anyone remember the video of the wife asking her husband to delete instamodels, which he refused and he ended up getting smacked by his bad? They got divorced 😂🤡🤡I remember watching this and cringing. Does she know about FDS? Someone with a tiktok account should tell her! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 02:19 AM |
| 69 | I learned quickly that if I have to chase you, I don’t want you anymore.This is why women as a whole are getting out of shitty relationships and staying single instead. Men are not the prize. Even in relationships women have to do most of the work, emotional labor, and keeping things together. We're all geting real tired of it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 01:58 PM |
| 3 | Can't Tell If New Partner Is HVM After Having Been With Too Many LVMPeople know that you should not blindly trust. Anyone who expects you to blindly trust them, or guilts you for not automatically trusting them, is trying to gaslight you. Trust is a process that cannot be rushed. People who are trustworthy live in a way that ensures that what they do brings you a feeling of safety. They understand that trust comes from consistent and thoughtful effort that happens over time. A safe man loves you correctly. No sneaky stuff. No half love. No extra women. No insta/… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 01:29 AM |
| 6 | This is what happens when you marry a Scrote and do the 50/50 thingI'm glad you were warned. I didn't have any way to contact those women, especially because I was working on moving, changed my numbers and left the state. There are so much liars and cheaters out there, and they're the garden variety men. There are even worse predators and abusers who cause more harm. Vet and keep vetting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 05:11 PM |
| 31 | This is what happens when you marry a Scrote and do the 50/50 thingAfter finding out about Chris Watts and what he did to his pregnant wife and kids, I realized that going after child support might be a bad idea with some of these psychos. Your ex was a deadbeat, and I'm sorry about your experience. You are very strong to have gone through that. However, large age gaps often lead to murder as the woman is leaving. This and other such circumstances can be deadly for women. I didn't understand why some women took the baby and ran/went into hiding, but I do now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 05:01 PM |
| 8 | This is what happens when you marry a Scrote and do the 50/50 thingThank you, and yes I am doing better. The ex lied so much and found another target very quickly, had kids with her, or maybe more than just her... Not my problem anymore. I only focused on my own escape and didn't have the mental bandwidth to try to warn another woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 04:59 PM |
| 61 | This is what happens when you marry a Scrote and do the 50/50 thingIt's possible that this woman also didn't want to pursue child support because it would continue to tie her to the abusive ex. If he was that abusive financially with that age gap, he could do something to harm the baby if she goes after child support. She probably loves that baby to the end of earth even if it shares genetic material with a horrible sperm donor. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 04:46 PM |
| 28 | This is what happens when you marry a Scrote and do the 50/50 thingThe thing is, when you get pregnant, your primal instincts take over as a woman. I was on the same path as this woman, age gap, married to an older predatory man who wanted me to have his kids. I got pregnant, and I didn't really want the baby, but I couldn't bring myself to have an abortion. I had an ultrasound, there was a heartbeat, and everything seemed normal. The universe intervened, and I miscarried at around 3 months, nearly second trimester. I bled for weeks, maybe months. I didn't go s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 04:44 PM |
| 66 | Being a Cool Girl is a trapBefore I found FDS I was always a bit sad that I didn't have a "close friend group." Afterwards I'm really glad. They are nothing but drama and bullshit, which I learned when I did have one. I just idealized it since grass seemed greener. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 03:16 PM |
| 5 | Men Condition Women To Accept Poor Results in EVERYTHINGIt's plain laziness enabled by women. And it starts young. When I realized this, I stopped doing simple things for my elementary school aged sons. They can get up to get their own water bottles filled. They can clean up the mess of crumbs they made off the dinner table. They can vacuum the floor just like the adults can. They can put away the laundry, fold it, and pick out their own clothes for the next day. They can wash the dishes, put it away, and get their own plates and utensils when they e… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 05:19 AM |
| 10 | Date ideas that don't revolve around food but where he still pays something?Thing is, it used to be "dinner and movie" as early dates. That way you have dinner first to get to know each other, sit face-to-face, and if the dinner goes well you go to a movie afterward and potentially get closer. Then after the date, you have the movie to talk about, then you part ways. It works in theory, but in practice, so many men fuck it up so badly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 04:25 AM |
| 110 | woman calmly dumps and kicks out cheating bf (as she should)This is the exact energy I got from watching this! I do have small sons who act like this, too. But they have the excuse of their ages being in the single digit lol 😂 old scrotes can GTFO with their childish acts 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 02:48 AM |
| 20 | The clearest display of “if he wanted to, he would” that I’ve ever experiencedI agree that physical attraction plays a role, but it's a lot less than you would think. I used to read redpill bullshit when I was younger, but I outgrew those ideas long ago. You need to take care of yourself and be healthy, but no need to invest in typical feminine trappings like makeup, jewelry, high heels, expensive fashion, etc. None of those things really matter to good men looking for relationships. Work on nutrition, physical health, and mental health. Most men are not "high value." I a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/21 03:59 PM |
| 45 | What tell-tale signs or How to vet for a guy that won't cheat after x amount of years?This post, all of this. I've been married for 12 years. Never has been any cheating, no insta girls, no social media idiocy, no triangulation, no negging, and no shady business. He still treats me with wonderful kindness, respect, care and love. He has very high emotional intelligence and a strong moral code. When there is a problem, we address it like adults and talk about it to solve it together. My standards are through the roof for what a good relationship looks like now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 09:55 PM |
| 191 | LVM’s idea of a first date is going to her residence, expect a home cooked meal and most likely sex.How dumb is this guy to not be able to plug the address into a maps app and figure out what it is? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 09:47 PM |
| 35 | Ohio man charged in 'Incel' plot to kill women in OSU campus mass shooting. (Funny that this sub is often labeled misandrist, yet when has a woman ever decided to wipe out 3,000 men because she was unhappy with her sex life?)I believe it. They've been trying to legislate wombs since forever. Guns? Oh that's natural born liberty and rights. Access to contraceptives, healthcare and safe abortions? No that's god punishing you for being a slut. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 06:32 PM |
| 29 | “She’s stressing me out”He gives off more immature energy than my 7-year-old son. Do human males age in reverse or something? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 06:26 PM |
| 17 | A common DM I get from scrotes - “you’ll be forever alone”. Let’s discuss this..Attachment theory itself is also bullshit. https://www.yahoo.com/now/attachment-theory-wrong-science-really-010535747.html Despite its shallow suppositions, the theory took root in a post–World War II America, in part because it appealed to fears about wives going to work. The notion that what a mother does during the first few years of life psychologically makes or breaks a child caught on because it told people what they wanted to hear. “In retrospect, his suggestion that what happens in the f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 03:16 AM |
| 41 | A common DM I get from scrotes - “you’ll be forever alone”. Let’s discuss this..it is generally agreed that psychopathy is chiefly a genetic or inherited condition, notably related to the underdevelopment of parts of the brain responsible for emotional regulation and impulse control. https://www.britannica.com/story/whats-the-difference-between-a-psychopath-and-a-sociopath-and-how-do-both-differ-from-narcissists I wouldn't blame mothers for born psychopaths. That's just the kind of "blame the woman" narrative that patriarchy likes to spout. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 12:11 AM |
| 385 | A common DM I get from scrotes - “you’ll be forever alone”. Let’s discuss this..I recommend turning off the ability to be messaged entirely on reddit. Also I think the reason why men think it's a "threat" that women will end up alone is because back in the old days, being alone was actually a threat to women's lives. It's not the case anymore, and we can confidently be alone for the rest of our lives. But there was definitely a long time that was not the case, when women couldn't even open their own bank accounts. It's the same level of malice as threatening to a black pers… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 10:49 PM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-I’mYou can block the bot that sends you those messages. I have done so and have not gotten the message again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 10:37 PM |
| 158 | "My well off husband is "guarded with money" because of pAsT eXpErIeNcEs and sits by as I flounder. How do I convince him I'm not a gold digger and ask him to please help me so that I can stop crying myself to sleep?"Also notice the 5 year age gap where she was 22 and he was 27 when they got together. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 10:17 PM |
| 4 | Oh no, baby. What is you doing??A few guesses. Maybe he decided that he was too old to find a replacement younger bangmaid who would go "50/50" and essentially subsidize his lifestyle while working herself to death. He's getting a great deal, why not seal it with a prenup and no financial risks, while making out like a bandit? Most guys would take the deal he's getting with no regrets. He has nothing to lose and plenty of $$$ and free pussy on the regular to gain. Men know what fairness is. They just treat women they don't dee… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 08:55 PM |
| 10 | Oh no, baby. What is you doing??Same reason why it took them 7 years before marrying. If he wanted to, he would have. But he didn't, so he didn't. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 08:46 PM |
| 25 | Porn teaches men to derive pleasure from causing women pain. This blatant misogyny is in full view and being promoted by lvm and libfems with internalized misogynyMy NVX lied like crazy about so many things, and as a result when I met my husband, I was at first skeptical of everything he said. The ex lied and said he played the guitar, so when my husband said he played, I was like "oh really?" My husband proved that he played it well, and he was not offended at all that I didn't believe him. At this point, having been surrounded for so long by people who love me, support me, and value me, I just don't have any patience for lesser treatment. If someone doe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 08:11 PM |
| 120 | Looking for a Conservative Co-Host for our upcoming podcast, Female Political Strategy!Or racist af. (Yes I'm bitter since I'm a racial minority in a place full of trumpers, and I'm worried about my mixed race children). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 08:00 PM |
| 34 | Porn teaches men to derive pleasure from causing women pain. This blatant misogyny is in full view and being promoted by lvm and libfems with internalized misogynyHV men are not going to hold your vetting against you. They respect women as human beings who have their own agency. You can say that you are "cool" with it in that you aren't going to lobby to make porn illegal, but it's not something you want in your own life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 07:54 PM |
| 2 | I had some scrotes ask why women ghost on dates and rather than listen to the why I was told I shouldn’t date.When men think women are going for assholes, the asshole he had in mind was the good looking popular guys in school who didn't fawn all over him just because he talked to the dude once. Yea, men are like that with other men, too. The difference is that they're too chicken shit to treat those other men the way they tear down women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 07:31 PM |
| 78 | Porn teaches men to derive pleasure from causing women pain. This blatant misogyny is in full view and being promoted by lvm and libfems with internalized misogynyYou ask in the "dumb fox" way, playing as if you are a "cool girl" who's okay with whatever. When men have their guards down they'll tell you everything you need to know. And when they reveal their nastiness, block and delete with zero indication as to why. Don't train them to hide their depravity better for the next woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 07:06 PM |
| 20 | This need to be sharedOr shoves the woman to the back with violence. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 04:45 PM |
| 11 | No more friends in abusive relationshipsPut on your own oxygen mask first, and then help others with theirs. But if they refuse to put on the mask properly, that's on them. You cannot control someone else. Only exception is maybe one's own children. I'd put on my own mask and make my kids keep their masks on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 04:15 PM |
| 44 | Women don't have it better at any ageNever have a child with a man you aren't married to. If he's willing to have a baby with you, he needs to be willing to marry you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 03:31 PM |
| 32 | 18 year old man from Maine looking for a wife in 1865. Better than most OLD profiles.Andrew Johnson was a Democrat who ran with Lincoln on the National Union ticket, coming to office as the Civil War concluded. He favored quick restoration of the seceded states to the Union without protection for the former slaves. This led to conflict with the Republican-dominated Congress, culminating in his impeachment by the House of Representatives in 1868. He was acquitted in the Senate by one vote. Johnson implemented his own form of Presidential Reconstruction, a series of proclamations … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 03:25 PM |
| 86 | If you can't see him being a good potential father/good around kids he isn't the one. Swipe for a reminder to not get too invested too soonMy family is proof this kind of love exists (for now; never stop vetting). The other day, my younger son said something like, "Daddy will give that to mommy first, because mommy is his sweetie." My husband will give me random hugs constantly, and the kids model the behavior. They will often come up to give us big family hugs when we're hugging each other, too. When they disrespect me, my husband will tell them to treat mommy right. Incidentally his mother and step-father were like that when he w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/21 11:11 PM |
| 9 | This entire Twitter thread had me shookAnd of course the men are like "these are fake stories." They know. They all fucking know. This is why for so long fathers would hide their own daughters away in protection. They know what men are really like. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/21 08:12 PM |
| 7 | Emotional Memory Management: Positive Control Over Your MemoryIn the present moment, in a re-telling of the story. This is why we only tell our trauma to safe, loving and caring people and/or well-trained professional therapists. Otherwise, we risk re-trauma by adding more pain to an already painful memory, if we are invalidated, victim-blamed, or dismissed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/21 07:02 PM |
| 16 | A police man text me today after a very non serious incident that I wasn’t really even involved inThere is not a single country on planet earth where women are truly safe. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/21 05:23 PM |
| 23 | This is what we mean by all men. When they’re left alone, they allow misogyny to thrive.I used to try stuff like that with the shitty LVM/NVM in my life. All it resulted in was a few laughs and right back to the same old bullshit. "Respect" from those types means nothing. Currently I take online classes for my graduate degree so I don't have to deal with any LVM/NVM. I am also self-taught with my STEM knowledge. I don't wrestle with pigs anymore. I get muddy, which I loathe, and the pigs like it. I just leave all of them. Block + delete. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/21 03:26 PM |
| 45 | Schrodinger’s Scrote: Is Jon Snow LV or HV?The writers are the real LVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/21 12:01 AM |
| 15 | Wild Take I received while vetting:Nah sis. Block and delete after 7 seconds. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 09:49 PM |
| 36 | LVM chase the women they want and let/make the women they want to use, chase them.Doing great with no abusive shitty LVM/NVM in my life! And yes the men that chased me in the beginning would start taking me granted within 6 months to 2 years anyway. Selfish and shitty men can't keep up the effort. Being married to such men is really being trapped and used. Vet hard and don't be afraid to divorce when they drop their mask. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 03:04 PM |
| 5 | Survey: Single Men Change Their Bed Sheets How Often?!Yikes. I also have a sensitive nose, but not as sensitive as yours! I wash my sheets weekly and the kids' sheets every two weeks, my towels twice a week and the kids' towels once a week. It astounds me the gross habits I find out about people when I read these threads. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 02:58 PM |
| 21 | What do you ladies think about gaming? (Video gaming, phone gaming, computer gaming, etc)This. I work full time, study for my MBA class, take care of two young kids (thankfully no longer babies), do my part of cooking, washing, and cleaning, keep the house running, do my exercise routines daily, keep up with my female friends, and play ~6 hours of video games a week. So many toxic gamers out there in that culture. My husband isn't toxic, but he definitely can be a bit low value when it comes to just sitting around playing video games or watching shows/movies. I just do my own thing … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 02:46 PM |
| 35 | LVM chase the women they want and let/make the women they want to use, chase them.Lol yes. The abusive older predator ex told me "nobody else will ever love you like I do," and when I was younger it did scare me. But then I woke up in my mid-20s and was like I don't want your kind of love anymore. It's suffocating and gross. I got to the point where I would rather be alone for the rest of my life than stay with him for another second. He couldn't stand it of course and started threatening to k* ll me even as he was sleeping with his next woman. All this is to say, men chasing… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 02:31 PM |
| 185 | Never open up about your traumas until you know he's a HVM. Even then, be careful.Meanwhile men out there be hiding entire wives, children, and criminal histories because "hE dEsErVeS a ChAnCe!" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 02:23 PM |
| 8 | In this thread: Hundreds of LVM and Pickmeishas squealing to the high heavens that an elite 23 y/o woman at a top tier university will NEVER find a high paying, traveling job post graduation, and should shut up and be a compliant wife and mother to boring old scrote who trapped her in her youth. 🥴🤮You are a queen! Your life sounds amazing, and kudos to you for achieving your goals and dreams! As an aside, my university professor told me her path to becoming a professor was hard because she had a baby when she was a teenager. But she made her dream come true, too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 01:20 AM |
| 3 | Never go on any date that’s not as cool as one you would plan for your girlfriends.Ohhh vegan cheese tasting. I honestly love all of the vegan gourmet goings on lately! Wish I could learn more but my DMs are all turned off. Still, I'm here for your queen energy! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 12:30 AM |
| 148 | Disgusting scrote sought out SA survivor to fulfill his “kink.” Reason #485949 to NEVER reveal your trauma to a man when you first start dating. ALWAYS vet for this behavior! I hope she leaves his ass for good!He is a predator, flat out. Lying predator, too, because he waited until he had her trapped before dropping his mask. He knew that if he had gone in straight with the kink she would have blocked him immediately. He played the long con. This is why we never stop vetting. Always be vetting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 12:27 AM |
| 31 | The new generation of 'Men'My husband yeeted his entire university friend circle of many years (friends since they were in high school) because of their casual misogyny and awful character. When I met him, he didn't have a friend circle at all, had never had a girlfriend, and was pursuing a PhD and levelling up personally. I think high value people are willing to go their own way even if it is not popular or convenient. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 02:12 PM |
| 13 | Sucking the labour of women for 40 years!!!!Truth is stranger than fiction when it comes to men. "How do you eat? Oh also I gained 100 pounds." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 10:31 PM |
| 16 | I'm going to have a nude sculpture of you in the living room even if you don't like it.Queen energy right here! Modern art. You wouldn't understand, scrotes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 03:05 PM |
| 3 | Two men casually threatened to kill meI'm so sorry that happened. Good on you for getting out. My abusive predatory older ex also threatened to kill me after I left. We both dodged major bullets. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 02:50 PM |
| 2 | If he calls you a golddigger he's letting you know you'll have to dig to get gold from him. Find yourself a man who will give it to you freely.I took my loyalty to its logical conclusion, figured what my future with him would look like, and decided it was not it. Not what I wanted. In fact it was very far from what I wanted. That's how I woke myself up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 01:34 AM |
| 12 | If he calls you a golddigger he's letting you know you'll have to dig to get gold from him. Find yourself a man who will give it to you freely.It's just as bad even if such a man doesn't call you a gold digger, but you stay with them because of "loyalty." I was also so young and naive. I have forgiven myself and learned from those experiences. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 02:18 PM |
| 19 | A list of famous, hot and rich HVM to give the ladies hope and freak out the LVM lurkersI agree. I would say Keanu Reeves seems high quality based on his public image and what the fans say about their interactions him, but no one can really know what goes on behind closed doors. At least having good role models is good. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 05:31 PM |
| 21 | The importance of sharing information with your support network, and other anti-abuse strategiesI don't trust therapists. So much brainwashing that happens on a societal level that only open-eyed awareness can counter. I find FDS to be better than any counseling in this regard. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 05:18 PM |
| 176 | There's a comedian's bit where he says "if someone is paying you minimum wage, what they're saying is 'this is the lowest I can get away with, but I'd pay you less if I could'". I think grown men who say they are into 18 year olds are the same way and I want to screamMy mother didn't teach me anything to protect myself from older men when I was a teenager. I was preyed on by men in their early 20s, mid 20s, early 30s, and older... when I was 14, 15, 16 years old. I was "flattered" by their attention at the time. Looking back all I can do cringe. Sadly one of those older predatory men managed to hook me with the cycle of abuse, and it took me until I was in my 20s to gain the strength to leave. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 03:07 PM |
| 316 | Potent.I loved my grandfather, but he had two families. Literally two whole different families, two different women, and they even knew each other and I met some of them on holidays when I was little. I had no idea what it was about because I was too young. Now looking back I'm just like holy shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 12:57 AM |
| 93 | The Gift Of Fear and Taking Things SlowlyThey count on your compliance because you're a woman. I have watched my husband say no confidently to store clerks ask him for phone number, email, etc. He's just like no. End of that, they don't ask again. That was when I realized tall white men who have that confident aura get treated way differently. Literally one "no," and everybody backs down. Offering an excuse seems to just give them something to latch onto. When he just said "no" it was like oh. No comebacks to that. Interestingly my lit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 10:18 PM |
| 64 | How do you ladies feel about friends that prioritize their boyfriends?What... Just what? She's way beyond pickme. She doesn't have a personhood without her boyfriend at this point. She won't get a new restaurant with you because she's "saving" going to it with her boyfriend? I've tried out so many cool restaurants without my husband, and I am so thankful to my female friends for introducing me to those new places. Also the other behaviors you mentioned are just rude, like being late or changing plans last minute. You deserve a better friend. Period. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 10:00 PM |
| 167 | Reminder 👑Trust your instincts!That second slide, so true. The much older predator ex who was 7 years older than me when I was 15 years old, bragged to me about how he would never lay a hand on a woman. But he would break things, punch walls, prevent me from leaving the room, scream at me in my face, hurl all manners of insults at me, and tell me nobody else would ever love me like he did. Good thing. I escaped after years of abuse and found a man who doesn't do any of it, is actually kind, loving, treats me well, and is my s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 04:55 PM |
| 49 | I love her TikTok’s, she’s very insightful. Any thoughts on her stance regarding dating multiple men at once?I think a woman should be talking to multiple men and hooking up with 0 men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 01:23 AM |
| 29 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common argument (Part. 5)Amazing post and series! Thank you. I have definitely been guilty of too much giving in the past. I am taking a step back and enjoying being in the grateful receiver role, and it's been lovely. Everything you have written applies to life in general, not just dating. People are actually suspicious of those who give too much, who are too selfless and martyr-like, because they don't respect it nor understand it. As soon as I switched away from that mode, a few things happened. I became more confide… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/21 09:22 PM |
| 60 | Is the transitioning stage always this hard?Amazing comment. They see us as a means to an end, not fully fledged human beings. After getting rid of all such people in my life, it's quite peaceful and great. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/21 06:26 PM |
| 66 | "Are you sure you don't want to...." and other things they expect us to respond positively to.This. Dump his ass. He doesn't respect you at all OP. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 04:43 PM |
| 9 | South Korean Feminists Are Joining No Dating, No Intercourse, No Marriage, No Kids MovementI am east Asian myself, and I honestly worry for you if you are engaged to an Asian man born and raised in Asia. They can put on quite a show before marriage and become extremely abusive after. How do I know... My father. I don't want to rain on your parade, but please be careful and always have your eyes wide open. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 04:37 PM |
| 30 | Anna Bey speaking FDS truths yet againI agree with you as an anonymous poster with no name or money in the game. But in my professional life, I have to be flexible and formless like water, otherwise I'd be seen as an inflexible bitch. This is the unfortunate reality of being a woman. Personally I enjoy the dumb fox credo. Play dumb like a lamb, but be smart as a fox underneath. Know the FDS principles, stick to them personally, but don't verbalize them. Don't lay all your cards out on the table. I suspect she's doing some of that sa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 08:14 PM |
| 3 | People are finally waking upYeah that's horrifying to be honest. He was playing a push-pull game. That's how pick-up artists get women. It's important to be aware of their tactics, lest they make you think they're "good" guys. :/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 05:28 PM |
| 29 | Anna Bey speaking FDS truths yet againShe's offering monetized services, so it makes sense that she doesn't want to alienate the bulk of her audience, who are probably women dating losers. She probably got so much backlash from women in her comments that she had to be like "yeah keeping dating those losers if you really want, no skin off my back." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 04:58 PM |
| 8 | Your standards are never low enough for a LVMNo they're just low/negative value. A high value man knows how to save and give generosity to a woman even if he doesn't make high income. I know this from firsthand experience. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/21 02:20 PM |
| 35 | "He never seemed to mention that he could only live those dreams because his wife was at home with the kids." I don't think many men even consider the perspective of their wives giving up their own life for them. ('Humans of New York' if you want to read the rest)All of this. Amazingly stated. Covid made it so much worse. I was really struggling to homeschool and work from home. And of course it all fell on me, because my husband is farther along in his career and is busier during the day with constant meetings. My work is more flexible by design, because I was already the one who stayed home with them when they were sick. We do make good money though, so that helped, and I put the kids in private school that were holding in-person classes with tiny clas… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/21 12:51 AM |
| 15 | What do you do when you thought you found a HVM, and you find out he follows HUNDREDS of girls/women in Tik Tok who post revealing content?High value men aren't going out of their way to seek out, follow and subscribe to hundreds of thirst trap accounts, spending hours of their day doing it. The fact that the tiktok women are all so young is especially problematic. He's likely a predator who has learned how to hide it well at his age. Huge red flag. OP there is no coming back from this. Any respect or love you had for him has been flushed out by what you've seen. Block and delete. Thank your lucky stars you found this now instead o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/21 03:39 PM |
| 31 | LVM like to say we shame them for being men….Joke's on those men, because when women truly believe that "all men are shitty and will cheat and leave you for a younger hotter woman" she will stay single instead of chaining herself to a man for life. When I left the abusive awful ex in my mid-20s, and I was reading those red pill forums that were spewing that toxic shit, I said to myself, "I would rather be alone for the rest of my life than stay in a bad relationship." That is still the attitude I carry with me today, after being happily ma… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/21 03:33 PM |
| 17 | The emotional labor of being hurtIt's not helpful in cases where children are involved either, because then the mother teaches the kids that she will put up with the father's bullshit. Better that the children see the mother has a strong backbone, will leave a mediocre man and be single rather than put up with disrespect and mistreatment. In abusive cases, couples therapy just teaches the abusive man more ways to gaslight and twist the situation around more so the woman stays. In every case, leaving is the solution, not couples… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 03:34 PM |
| 27 | The emotional labor of being hurtHonestly, if you need to do couples therapy with a man, it's already not the right relationship. I know that's a controversial take, but these days anyone can Google and watch videos/read about how to have a better relationship. If a man can't fix his behavior on his own, a therapist won't improve him either. I've been in abusive relationships, and I've also been in just plain mediocre relationships. Those men don't change anyway. It's much better to leave than to go to therapy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 02:54 PM |
| 29 | How do you end a date early?Never tell a man why you're leaving. It just makes them put on their masks straighter for the next woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 11:40 PM |
| 36 | Sharing my story: "jUsT cOmMuNiCatE bEtTeR" can be the gateway to abuseYes, look at behavior. My husband has been my ally in my recovery from previous relationship abuse, and he also puts his money where his mouth is. He encourages us to donate thousands of dollars to the National Domestic Violence Coalition, the local domestic violence chapters, Love is Respect, and The Hotline. Ask these fake woke bros to name some charitable organizations that they donate to, and watch them squirm. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 11:37 PM |
| 83 | I'm devastated. TW Caroline's murderer was her husband.White male Asian female. I'm an Asian female, and yea. It's terrifying. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/21 11:51 PM |
| 84 | FDS isn't about giving the benefit of the doubt. It's about being smart women who don't get played.My husband actually had clinically diagnosed anxiety and depression, and when I met him he was on SSRIs. When the dosing seemed off, he went to the doctor by himself (omg bar is on the floor, I don't have to make his doctor appointments for him), and adjusted the dosing. Most recently it turns out he no longer needed the medication. He's off all medications now. He has always been emotionally present, supportive, loving, and caring. Depression was never an excuse. That's the minimum. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/21 05:23 PM |
| 83 | When friends and relatives start listing things I need to change in order to be "successful" on a dating marketI used to do the same, and then I started doing my own thing and stopped giving a shit what is popular or cool or in style. I'm doing things for me, and it's so liberating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/21 05:16 PM |
| 16 | Women remember marrying/ having kids with LVM haunts your kids for life.I'm actually glad I never really lived with my father. He was such a NVM that he was never around, which looking back was a blessing in disguise. Absent father did cause me abandonment issues along with having low standards, but I was able to forge a great life without him in my life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 06:37 PM |
| 188 | Pickmeisha mothers picked apart brilliantly by tiktoker on how mummys boys are created by patriarchy I. E husbands not fulfilling their duty of care to their partners. The cycle is vicious and ongoingOh snap. What's insidious is that society actually guilt-trips a woman who has a healthy emotional intimacy with her high value husband, and venerates a mother who throws everything else in her life away (including herself and her bond to her husband) to be a "good mommy." No wonder this dynamic is so frighteningly common. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 06:20 PM |
| 55 | Has anyone else had this pop up on their Instagram feed being promoted by influencers? I don't even really know what to say. It appears to be a new dating app with a "bedroom feature" where you select your preferences.A woman who has suffered a nonfatal strangulation incident with her intimate partner is 750% more likely to be killed by the same perpetrator with a gun. Source: https://www.strangulationtraininginstitute.com/all-abusers-are-not-equal-new-ipv-research-reveals-an-indicator-of-deadly-abuse/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 10:37 PM |
| 53 | Nearly spit out my coffee reading this 😂Also no one is surprised this is another age gap story. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 07:30 PM |
| 41 | This is absolutely domestic abuse and he should be in fucking jail. I'm outragedMy guess is an upbringing that groomed her for this kind of abuse, too. This is likely generational abuse where she feels like she would be ruined if she wasn't a virgin bride or got a divorce. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 11:39 PM |
| 153 | Husband eats all of the food in the house leaving his wife and children hungry. Gets mad at wife for not giving him more food when she replaces what he ate that night.This is why we have to vet the men we procreate with very, very carefully. A horrible father will give the children long-lasting physical and mental damage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 11:31 PM |
| 115 | Dead bedroom? It's just biology at work, sweatyI have personal experience with the ick, but it was just beginning. This was all before FDS so I truly had no idea what was even happening. I just knew I didn't feel as attracted to him anymore. Every time I saw trash laying around I was like "I don't know if the children did this or my husband." And yes that dried me up like the sahara. One day I told my husband straight up, "I am losing attraction to you because you remind me of our children." It was a wake-up call for him, and he shaped up an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 08:17 PM |
| 102 | Remember, abuse starts slowly and grows.What follows the word "but" is the real thing you should pay attention to, and disregard anything before the "but." Example: "I love you but I'm not in love with you." It just means "I'm not in love with you." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 06:09 PM |
| 9 | nOt aLlmEnI was so depressed the other day to learn of the story of the 6-year-old kid that was shot and killed in a "road rage incident," undoubtedly by the male passenger of the vehicle given the trajectory of the bullet. The murderers are still not caught. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/21 03:42 PM |
| 2 | Red pill /abuse tactics I’ve seen on the field over the last few yearsI read their bullshit when I was younger. I'm glad I did because I knew their game and was able to avoid them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/21 02:43 PM |
| 8 | Most men have bad taste. Don't lose yourself or your uniqueness trying to conform to it Chances are, the male gaze is not your aesthetic.Music is such a huge tell! My husband of 11 years listens to my playlists, loves music I introduce him to, and plays them constantly. We have songs from our early days that we listened to together and both love, too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/21 03:22 PM |
| 242 | The “iM an AlpHa mALe” is already a turn off for me but then on top of that, these dudes never actually want to play that role all the way. They just like the part where they get to boss the woman around.An actual alpha male wolf, according to the latest wolf research, is a father who raises young with the mother. https://www.twincities.com/2018/10/10/wolf-expert-dispels-alpha-male-idea-and-other-common-myths/amp/ "I found that a pack is really a family (in the wild). They’re about as monogamous as people. The parents are dominant to the offspring. But they didn’t get there by fighting their way to the top like they did in that behavioral study (of captive wolves in a zoo). So, rather than the a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 03:28 PM |
| 103 | Reproductive control is the cornerstone of male violence. From one generation to the next.It has been speculated that when humans started farming, that was when patriarchy started. Farmers realized that you only need a handful of the healthiest most virile male animals around, as the female cattle are the most useful, produce milk, and give birth/raise the next generation. Men were like "shit we don't want this to happen to us" so they subjugated women like crazy. Back in the old days, like Sparta, deformed male babies who couldn't make good soldiers were killed off. Today, young men… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 02:49 AM |
| 15 | If you're *really* married, how come you're on FDS?Same here, though I cut toxic my parents out of my life years ago. I love my husband's parents, who raised a wonderful son and are wonderful to me and our kids. But they aren't raising the kids. We have two sons, and FDS has helped open my eyes to the dangers of modern "lax" parenting. This is such an important place for discussion, and I can't thank FDS enough for helping me safeguard my boys against pornography. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 02:43 AM |
| 20 | Dealing with community shaming after rapey behavior from LMVIt is not safe to do outdoor stuff with men. I repeat, it is NOT SAFE. I have an awful story that I would prefer not to share more details. I know a woman who died as a result of a risky outdoor activity with men who pushed her too far. I was just mourning her yesterday. Please leave the whole group, and never hang out with any of those men in any context again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 09:00 PM |
| 29 | “You deserve it.”Intentions matter so much when it comes to language and communication. Someone can say sweet words to you that are dripped with venom. Or they can say something like "You deserve it" in good faith. That's why many men fail when it comes to "pick up lines." They often lack emotional intelligence to read the room or context. Green flag for the man in the original story. In this case, it's absolutely said in a supportive, loving, and kind way. We love to see it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 08:07 PM |
| 24 | Men and Pickmes are confused because they think men are necessary, rather than optionalThe cognitive dissonance mental gymnastics became too much. I was in that place once upon a time. Knowledge will eventually prevail though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/21 07:37 PM |
| 6 | Bullet Dodging Chronicles: Where Are They Now?When you hit your late 20s you will look back and realize what a huuuge bullet you dodged! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 09:53 PM |
| 2 | This is why I’m okay with not getting married or having children. I’d much rather be out experiencing life and enjoying myself than have to deal with thisHere is a good article about it: https://www.verywellfamily.com/types-of-parenting-styles-1095045 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 02:50 PM |
| 47 | FDS is anti-redpill. We protect women from abusive men, including redpillers. Saying that FDS is "redpill for women" is literally victim blaming.When a narcissist can no longer control you, they will try to control how others perceive you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 04:10 AM |
| 26 | This is why I’m okay with not getting married or having children. I’d much rather be out experiencing life and enjoying myself than have to deal with thisThat makes total sense. I didn't grow up close to my own mother because she has severe mental illness, and I had a lot of damage to undo from my own childhood. So "attachment parenting" seemed appealing. When I did a bit more research on this subject, I came across articles about the 4 parenting styles: authoritarian, authoritative, permissive, and uninvolved. The research shows that permissive is even worse than authoritarian in terms of outcomes, and the authoritative approach has generally th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 06:07 PM |
| 29 | I am losing faith in humanity, and by that I mean the “man” part of it.I call my husband "daddy" when I'm talking to our kids, as in, "you need to ask daddy" or "daddy will be home soon." I would never call him "daddy" outside of that context. Just ewww. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 04:36 PM |
| 9 | Daily reminder that men don’t consider women’s backbreaking unpaid labour as real ‘work’My father was a sexist asshole, and so was my husband's father. We both decided to rebel against that toxicity before we met. Some patterns perpetuate, but some patterns can be broken. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 04:32 PM |
| 84 | This is why I’m okay with not getting married or having children. I’d much rather be out experiencing life and enjoying myself than have to deal with thisYes, I was a major softie when my older son was born. I was way too lenient with him, and I bought into the whole "gentle parenting" thing, like never yell at them or call them out on their bullshit. Society brainwashes women to cater to everybody else, to be selflessly giving martyrs. The message to mothers is to be the children's servants, playmates and "best friends." I let myself be brainwashed by bad online parenting advice for a long time. When I was a young mom, I got up every two hours o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 04:24 PM |
| 135 | Daily reminder that men don’t consider women’s backbreaking unpaid labour as real ‘work’There is only one solution to this: don't have kids. Actually many women have already caught on and stopped procreating with sexist assholes. This should be the real sexual revolution. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 02:02 PM |
| 14 | Does Anyone Else Get A Feeling of Dream When They See Older (50+) Men In Public?This so much this. The old nasty generation of men are still the worst offenders at cheating, because that era of "sexual revolution" made the men believe they could behave like animals. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 01:25 PM |
| 25 | Ooops, it's my biological imperative to be attracted to fit, atheletic, good dick game menI believe women has always been the moralizing force in society. We need to get back to this role and shame + reject immoral men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 01:19 PM |
| 70 | Label Bad Behavior and Put That Shit on Them, Rather Than Internalizing and Blaming SelfYes! I always thought that in a long term relationship, the passion would just "die." But it's because the man usually stops putting in effort! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 01:14 PM |
| 31 | Consumption of porn makes me lose attractionI looked my husband in the eye when he said without a sense of irony, "It's socially acceptable! A lot of men look at porn," and I responded, "Well it's socially acceptable for women to have a bunch of guy friends orbiting them and use them for attention, and I'm not doing that. Would you like for me to start?" I could see the gears start turning in his head, and he realized that I could do what I just said, and it would be extremely disrespectful, just like porn. He dropped the subject and told… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 03:04 PM |
| 47 | Sex Work Twitter makes me feel LESS compassion towards voluntary sex workers 🙄The Handmaid's Tale portrays this dynamic very well. Selfishness and malevolent energy are everywhere because that is how this world is. It can be easy to slip into it if one is not careful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 02:15 PM |
| 35 | This is why FDS says we shouldn’t act like wives until we’re married. Scrote asks for pre-nup after his live-in bangmaid mommy bankrolls his life and “builds” with him for nearly a decade.Yes, I could have written something very similar myself, because I was the primary breadwinner while he was in school, and sacrificed some of my career progress as a working mother. I met him pre-FDS, so I was a clown like the woman in the OP with cleaning, food prep, emotional support, and most of the financial support. The difference is that my husband proposed and married me within a year, no prenup. He still treats me incredibly well after over a decade, two kids, and his career taking off. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 09:06 PM |
| 170 | This is why FDS says we shouldn’t act like wives until we’re married. Scrote asks for pre-nup after his live-in bangmaid mommy bankrolls his life and “builds” with him for nearly a decade.Stop looking for men's approval. You can't put that shit on your resume🤡 This sentence is lit! 🔥🔥🔥 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 08:18 PM |
| 2 | Done acquiescing to my LVX's wants and requests.Make sure to take your name off all bills at the old place, too! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 03:27 AM |
| 70 | One day you wake up and realize that you really did just concoct a man out of thin air. A complete fabrication and fantasy, wholly removed from the person that was before you. Rather than this loving, trustworthy, supportive partner, I had someone who would deliberately ignore me as"punishment" I created someone that wasn't even there. I did this before, and I am not doing it anymore. No more putting men up on pedestals, creating a fantasy story about who they are. Reality is here and now, what I see in front of me. On day 40282, it's still got to be a space that serves love. You deserve that. Agreed! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 08:41 PM |
| 99 | Remember that ladiesCan we add countries? It's ridiculously difficult to move countries, and sadly there is no country where women and children are safe, but can we get a country that's actually safe for women and children? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 07:18 PM |
| 248 | It’s 2021- no more getting scammed for straight women.🌺 Reject casual sex and normalize sex as an extension of a loving relationship for our youth.There is no such thing as "casual sex." The phrase is a lie. Every sex act is fucking serious. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 07:16 PM |
| 31 | Father and female University of Oxford student call for porn sites to require proof of ageI have two sons, ages 8 and 6. We talk to them about age appropriate things. We have strict parental controls set up on the devices they are allowed to access. We sent them to a private school with a class size of under 10 (less than 10 kids in the whole grade). The school is strict on no personal devices for the entire school including high school. It's a secular school, and it emphasizes good conduct along with no profanity, but I don't see how even this can help keep them innocent until the "… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/21 03:09 PM |
| 8 | Educating my daughter on what men will say when she is confident and strong in her opinions, what are we missing?"Don't be so judgmental!" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 09:40 PM |
| 78 | More food for thought <333Same here, always hated makeup, and I just don't wear it. For special events I just go with some tinted lip balm and call it a day. I suppose I can more easily get away with minimal makeup, because I'm a person of color with dark eyes and eyebrows. Women should know the risks of using cosmetics, too. One of the reasons I continue to not wear makeup after getting a career is because in the U.S., the industry is not regulated. https://www.ewg.org/the-toxic-twelve-chemicals-and-contaminants-in-cosm… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 03:11 PM |
| 54 | More food for thought <333Some men genuinely prefer no makeup, but it's really hard to distinguish those from men who are idiots and point to a woman with a full face of makeup as "not wearing makeup." Also, some of the men who truly prefer no makeup are pedophiles, so there's that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 03:06 PM |
| 89 | When I talk about FDS concepts with other women, I don't even acknowledge that what I am saying is controversial at all. I just act like it's normal.It's all interconnected. America's education system sucks. Many women feel like the alternatives are working for a shitty employer that exploits your labor for shit pay and no benefits. Under this exploitative system where class mobility is limited, and without strong cultural norms that push young women into studying hard and becoming doctors and lawyers, this is the result. I got a fancy useless sociology degree at a top 10 ranked US university, but I saw where the wind was blowing and got int… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 12:11 AM |
| 100 | We need more kink shamingMen get it pretty quickly when the shoe is on the other foot, and the woman is actively fantasizing about and getting wet to the thought of another man. Then it's no longer "just a fantasy" but *gasp* emotional infidelity. The double standards are all over the place. Just change the gender pronouns around and watch them squirm. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 10:41 PM |
| 121 | Women Experience More RejectionThis is why it's so important to accept yourself, to give yourself love, acceptance, and validation. I'm a POC and immigrant, and l experienced a lot of ostracism growing up. I learned how to be comfortable being alone and being myself, because I experienced a ton of rejection. My attitude was always: "if they don't like me, then I don't like them." Women are better at being rejected because we are emotionally stronger, tougher, and smarter. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 07:06 PM |
| 55 | What exactly do MRAs think would happen if men started getting custody all the time?There was a reddit post about just this! The guy got 100% custody, the woman pays child support (even more than court-mandated), and he was soooo upset and trying to cry on reddit about it. He got ripped to shreds though. Sometimes reddit can have a little bit of sanity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 03:31 PM |
| 131 | Scrote wants pity for getting dumped after stringing ex along for 10 years.10 years with no proposal, that's a whole ass bullet she just dodged. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 10:24 PM |
| 9 | I have never had a man treat me with kindness or respect after I did these things.This is the case with children, too. Don't ever let them think they're the center of your universe. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 08:38 PM |
| 75 | Yes ladies. It's OUR fault.Being alone is way better than being in a shitty relationship. Honestly, even a good relationship is still fundamentally misogynistic towards women, because society is built from the ground up to benefit men over women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 01:45 PM |
| 39 | The Vetting Process: A List of Minimum QualificationsI agree with this. I prefer a man who knows his limits than the "I will do it all" and hardcore DIY types, too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 05:58 PM |
| 9 | Any experiences with red flags in dating women?use NVM/LVM/HVM as gender neutral terms Good idea! A High Value Mister/Miss is the goal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 05:51 PM |
| 31 | ⚠️The audacity of these men...I’m beyond TIRED. I had to block him. I just can’t understand why they think this is okay...⚠️His card: 🃏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 05:00 PM |
| 36 | This is why we must be extremely careful about the kind of men we procreate with, lest this happens. She's still trying to hang on instead of divorce. Meanwhile some pickme in the comments is saying they could "bOtH bEnEfIt fRoM cOuNseLinG." OP has suggested it, but surprise, he never went.I did message the woman a bunch of links as well as talked about FDS. I don't like to post directly to other subs after some loser decided to respond to my comment in another sub. This is what I wrote: I think you should see these links: https://www.gottman.com/blog/emotionally-intelligent-husbands-key-lasting-marriage/ https://www.loveisrespect.org/quiz/is-your-relationship-healthy/?%3E https://mustbethistalltoride.com/2016/01/14/she-divorced-me-because-i-left-dishes-by-the-sink/ https://www.go… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 09:18 PM |
| 46 | This is why we must be extremely careful about the kind of men we procreate with, lest this happens. She's still trying to hang on instead of divorce. Meanwhile some pickme in the comments is saying they could "bOtH bEnEfIt fRoM cOuNseLinG." OP has suggested it, but surprise, he never went.I did not post this to mock her. I was not calling the OP a pickme or trying to ostracize her. I was saying the woman who told her to go therapy was the pickme. This woman has taken so much shit and is just "venting" instead of taking action -- she should have kicked his ass to the curb as soon as he told her that he doesn't "like" her. But it's unfortunately because of societal level gaslighting and brainwashing of women, collectively. We're told that we are worthless if we don't have a man. I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 09:04 PM |
| 44 | Helping other women out - stranger editionThank you so much for what you are doing for this woman. I had a woman do this for me when I was leaving my abusive NVX, leaving her bed, desk and a few pieces of furniture behind, and I will forever be thankful. You are amazing, and may the good karma come back to you. 💖💖💖👑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 05:26 AM |
| 55 | Stop worrying about 🍆, invest in yourself and the sisterhood. The Queendom will follow, sis 👸🏻A few depressing links: https://www.forbes.com/sites/pragyaagarwaleurope/2018/10/23/not-very-likeable-here-is-how-bias-is-affecting-women-leaders/?sh=15bb383295fd https://www.forbes.com/sites/andiekramer/2020/01/22/why-asian-american-women-arent-advancing-into-senior-leadership-positions/?sh=2933494f73d2 https://www.bbc.com/worklife/article/20200807-the-docility-myth-flattening-asian-womens-careers https://www.insidehighered.com/admissions/article/2019/03/04/research-suggests-bias-against-asian-… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/21 05:52 PM |
| 64 | How to tell if it’s genuine or if it’s lovebombing?Some signs: He's moving too fast, wants to get into your personal past too quickly but it feels unequal. He's acting needy and makes lots of demands on your time. He loves everything you love, creates an entirely different personality for you. Have you observed him in a group context to see how he acts around other people? He's not consistent in his attitude, behavior or beliefs, especially when interacting with others. He gets upset when you set boundaries instead of respecting your boundaries.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/21 05:41 PM |
| 7 | 💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥READ THIS FOR A CHANCE TO APPEAR ON THE FDS PODCAST! 💥💥💥💥💥💥💥I'm vegan, but I went vegetarian then vegan after I got with my husband. He went vegetarian and then vegan along with me. Just a little bit of research turned me off of the meat/dairy industry forever, and likewise for my husband. In addition to the ethical aspect, there is also the environmental impact. It is also not a "lip service" kind of change. A vegan really has to put their money where their mouth is. It's getting a lot of traction lately though, almost borderline trendy, so I would stil… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/21 06:01 PM |
| 52 | Hard factsPretty much all the shows I watched as a young teen were trash. Buffy the Vampire Slayer, despite it having a bunch of female lead characters, was also incredibly problematic. The show basically spawned Twilight as fanfiction, and I also thought that age gap relationships were "romantic" because of Buffy/Angel. Of course it has come out recently that Joss Whedon is disgusting. Not even surprised. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 10:59 PM |
| 48 | Forgive the shitpost, but this is a mood: When FDS describes what most men are really likeExactly this. The abusive, 7 years older NVX who started grooming me the day I turned 15, told me that I was too judgmental about his past, making a joke about how I was "wearing a judge's robe with a gavel passing judgments on him." I was 17 when I got with him and when he told me that. I look back and wish I had listened to my own judgments of him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 10:43 PM |
| 33 | Saw this on FB, immediately thought it was an interesting topic for here. Have attitudes changed at all, or are they just more subverted and hidden these days?The underlying misogynistic attitudes have not changed at all. People just use different words now. Same shit, different century. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 08:27 PM |
| 98 | Just another Saturday morning on reddit. Yet more evidence that men are everything-diggers.I wake up and first thing I see is this, appearing in a humor-related sub, because this is just hilarious, and deserving of so many awards. Just another day on reddit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 05:35 PM |
| 16 | Ladies, can I please hear your success stories on divorcing abusive partners?This. OP, you need to call the domestic violence hotline in your locality. They will help you make a safe exit plan, and they help you get a place to stay. Leaving is the most dangerous time, and it's when the abuse escalates the most. Stay safe please. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 04:08 PM |
| 15 | Quitting sex workThank you for this link. This is such an important subject. Sex trafficking and sex work are modern day slavery. There's a whole culture around preserving sexual slavery for the patriarchy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 04:04 PM |
| 24 | Any other shattered women finding FDS “late” in life?It is not late for you! I am also in my late 30s with two kids in elementary school, and 2020 sucked. But this age is also amazing. We're wiser, we're talking care of ourselves, we're hitting our stride in our careers, and we still have so much life in us! You will get through this. FDS will change your mentality to the point where you will feel strong, powerful, and full of self-love Take care. 💖 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 03:48 PM |
| 127 | Don’t feed the trolls.Very much this. Experience has taught me that when in conflict with men, there is no way to come out on top except to not engage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 12:31 AM |
| 8 | No Neck Ed is a great example on how LVM use playing stupid and pity to get away with sh!tLast I read she is dating a fellow Filipina. I also follow her YouTube channel, and I just love her energy! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCsdmWXO6bmlo5neNJu1r-cw | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 10:15 PM |
| 45 | He's 48, she's 19. They met when he was her tennis coach at 13 YEARS OLD. I'm disgusted and outraged for her and at him.It's not odd. It's his pedophilia! He wants her to act like a child. Men don't even view women their same age as equals. How the fuck do women think that a much older man respects and loves them? He loves that he can act out his daddy/daughter pedo nasty thing with her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 03:19 PM |
| 29 | How do you learn how to control/manage your emotions?Emotions are signals. Don't suppress them. Listen to your gut instincts. Your emotions are "messed up" because HE IS MESSING YOU UP. Believe in yourself. Remove yourself from this situation with him. Reassess your emotions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 06:50 PM |
| 36 | This OLD bio made me puke in my mouth 🤡, men are getting delusional.Men who want "trad wives" never actually marry early. Those red pillers are all a bunch of anti-marriage liars who will lie forever to keep the woman around. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 02:53 PM |
| 11 | Poverty rate in the U.S. by age and gender in 2019 - Debunking lies about men being worse off than women "these days." In every age group, women are poorer than men. Women, always have your own money, and save it where other people can't touch it.The brain is not fully mature until the 30s and 40s. Age gap relationships with older men remains a bad idea even when the woman is older than 25. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 11:27 PM |
| 6 | Attachment TheoryIn my case it was guilt. I felt guilty for years, because I was a "good, dutiful daughter." I was brought up in an Asian culture that worships elderly parents as if they could do absolutely no wrong. Rebelling against that made me a pariah among my whole family, with my grandfather and uncle calling me trying to get me to reconcile with my mother. I had to lose my entire blood family to get away from her. In my reading I came across articles that state attachment theory is wrong and not backed b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 10:25 PM |
| 23 | Poverty rate in the U.S. by age and gender in 2019 - Debunking lies about men being worse off than women "these days." In every age group, women are poorer than men. Women, always have your own money, and save it where other people can't touch it.My guess is that awful men are more likely to leave a woman who has daughters than sons who could "carry on his legacy" aka patriarchal practice of only sons can pass on their last names. So boys/sons are slightly less in poverty. But not enough to make a big difference, just a small one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 08:06 PM |
| 56 | Some nonsense, and people calling it out lmaoIt's always a woman's fault, of course. His mother didn't clean his place for him. His ex didn't clean his place for him. But this generous martyr extremely not-like-other-women pickme, she cleans his place for him! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 08:02 PM |
| 28 | Poverty rate in the U.S. by age and gender in 2019 - Debunking lies about men being worse off than women "these days." In every age group, women are poorer than men. Women, always have your own money, and save it where other people can't touch it.Agreed. I would say savings and investments are fairly interchangeable if you do normal investment accounts in addition to retirement accounts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 06:09 PM |
| 93 | The phrase "SWERF" is corporate propaganda. The porn industry is attempting to shield itself from scrutiny by hiding behind the very laborers that they exploit. Sex workers are a class of oppressed, marginalized, exploited workers, not human meat shields for protecting industrial interests.Yes, well-stated. Also the sex work industry wouldn't be nearly as successful in luring women into it if there wasn't a pre-existing financial gap between men and women. See: https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/mvlc0d/poverty_rate_in_the_us_by_age_and_gender_in_2019/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 05:56 PM |
| 82 | That explains all the "Nice Guys™" out there"Nice" guys are wolves in sheep's clothing. By the way, the origin of the phrase came from a quote about baseball. "The nice guys are all over there, in seventh place." (6 July 1946),[18][20] about the 1946 New York Giants – seventh place was actually second-to-last place in the National League. Durocher's remark was specific to the context of baseball, and indeed to the context of that set of players, rather than intended as generally applicable to male/female relationship dynamics or in any ot… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 05:35 PM |
| 15 | It kind of makes me upset that I only discovered this place after I already started a family. After I had already gone through decades of abusive relationships beforehand.what if I didn't find him? We met by chance one day in the park. If I had gone to the park even 10 minutes after I did, I never would have met him. I would have spent even more of my life miserable, still dealing with shitty men. Change your mindset. You would have been fine if you didn't find him. Because you have yourself. Like you, I had terrible relationships when I was younger. What got me out of those situations was coming to the conclusion on my own that I would be fine being alone for th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 04:37 PM |
| 65 | Attachment TheoryUnpopular opinion, but I overcame awful parents without therapy. A lot of therapists will tell people to keep in contact with their toxic parents because of societal pressures. Even well-meaning and loving people close to me told me to keep my parents in my life. Instead, I cut my parents out of my life completely. Zero contact. I healed in their absence. I struggled in bad relationships in my youth, but I'm a voracious reader on subjects related to mental and physical health, self-improvement, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 04:21 PM |
| 8 | Gaslighters typically begins gradually, with a snide comment or critical remark disguised as a joke. They may then deny having said or done something, tell blatant lies and eventually wear down your sanity. The more aware you are of their techniques, the better you can protect yourself.Hey, actually I have pretty terrible long term memory, too. In particular, I gave birth to three babies in the span of three years, and postpartum hormones made me extremely forgetful. What I do is write down all important things, along with things that may not seem important but that I want to remember. It's a way for me to stay organized. I write notes to myself about everything, and I also take lots of photos. Then if it's something that I still don't remember, I will say something like "remi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 03:33 AM |
| 6 | Gaslighters typically begins gradually, with a snide comment or critical remark disguised as a joke. They may then deny having said or done something, tell blatant lies and eventually wear down your sanity. The more aware you are of their techniques, the better you can protect yourself.Hi Elaine! Love your insights about this subject. Hard won insights, but we are growing.💖 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 03:27 AM |
| 45 | Gaslighters typically begins gradually, with a snide comment or critical remark disguised as a joke. They may then deny having said or done something, tell blatant lies and eventually wear down your sanity. The more aware you are of their techniques, the better you can protect yourself.It's usually said after he said or did something to upset her, and instead of apologizing, says it's her responsibility to not stay upset. Here's the blog article from the artist who created the graphic: https://www.hazelmead.com/post/gaslighting-a-personal-tale | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 06:32 PM |
| 114 | Gaslighters typically begins gradually, with a snide comment or critical remark disguised as a joke. They may then deny having said or done something, tell blatant lies and eventually wear down your sanity. The more aware you are of their techniques, the better you can protect yourself.More information here: 11 Warning Signs of Gaslighting They tell blatant lies. They deny they ever said something, even though you have proof. They use what is near and dear to you as ammunition. They wear you down over time. Their actions do not match their words. They throw in positive reinforcement to confuse you. They know confusion weakens people. They project. They try to align people against you. They tell you or others that you are crazy. They tell you everyone else is a liar. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 05:20 PM |
| 5 | I need support. I need to be reminded this is the right choice.Love also cannot exist without respect. Love *is* respect. I encourage everyone to take this quiz, and take it frequently throughout the course of your relationship: https://www.loveisrespect.org/quiz/is-your-relationship-healthy/ For the record, my score is 0 and has been 0 the whole time I've been with my husband. This is the standard. It has to be. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 10:33 PM |
| 91 | Thank you.Oh it's because they know. They know the shit that actual male incels do, and they want to paint FDS with that same brush hoping to smear some of that smelly shit on women by calling FDSers "female incels." They know the hypocritical double speak they use, and they will keep doing it because unthinking people are susceptible to it. Plus it's so easy to demonize women. It's been happening since biblical times. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 04:33 PM |
| 16 | Something my coworker said that git me thinking ( upset)You should be having the mindset that anyone who puts your looks above your health and wellness doesn't actually love you, and should be dropped. I know it's easier said than done, but love yourself first and foremost. That is the key. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 04:25 PM |
| 215 | Thank you.Any woman who is celibate is a volcel (voluntarily celibate), and that bothers the shit out of men who are involuntarily celibate. Women are and will forever be the choosier choosers. Anyone who uses the phrase "female incel" is just not thinking. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 04:20 PM |
| 21 | Why BDSM is the worst idea, personal experienceYes. My husband is the spiritual one who introduced me to the Law of One and new age spirituality concepts. I was skeptical until he made me feel such amazing, loving energies along with sending me into a meditative state afterwards. Here are some esoteric passages on sexual energy transfer, channeled by a woman by the way: https://www.lawofone.info/c/Sexual%20Energy%20Transfer What your experienced sounds like green ray heart chakra exchange. The passages also talk about the master/slave BDSM d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 02:58 PM |
| 51 | Ladies, don't suppress your anger!it's been said that depression is anger turned inwards. Thank you for this! This explains why I experienced such heavy depression after Trump's election. I felt such anger and helplessness, and it was turned inwards. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 11:24 PM |
| 78 | Why it’s block AND deleteHere are some examples of orange flags on my husband that turned out to be not that big of a deal. We've been together for a decade, and he is still kind, caring, loving, and respectful towards me. In the beginning, I was definitely wary of these and took note of them. Never having been in a long term relationship. My husband was in his mid 20s, and I was his first girlfriend. It could mean he's picky about who he dates, or it could mean he's a player. My husband was the former. But in my opinio… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 11:11 PM |
| 47 | The increasing number of men such as him scare meI read this when I saw some European FDS ladies chatting -- European men are usually not circumcised like American men, so it DOES hurt them when it's dry. But American men are often circumcised and have lost a lot of sensation in their penis. That combined with death grip and porn, and you have the perfect storm of early-onset erectile dysfunction. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 07:58 PM |
| 40 | Context: the boyfriend has sex with other women for OnlyFans and promotes it on TikTok. The girlfriend says she is “happy”. Comments are saying “y’all mad you get cheated on for free while they’re in a healthy relationship with boundaries, trust, and more money than you” 🤦♀️If this is what they consider "healthy" I don't want to know what they consider sick. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 02:44 PM |
| 30 | Always, ALWAYS trust your intuition... It could save your lifeDon't beat yourself up too much. It took me many years to learn to trust my intuition, too. My intuition was always right on, and I don't second guess myself anymore. There was a creepy guy when I was in college who hit me up in the lunch line and "befriended" me. I knew he had less than savory intentions towards me, but I let him be a "friend" anyway, though always kept him at an arm's length. Later he dropped out of college due to depression, and I was checking up on him via chat. He told me t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 03:42 AM |
| 61 | Do men that dont watch/dislike porn even exist?I stopped long before FDS because something about porn just felt off to me. After FDS I confronted my husband, who occasionally saw non-hardcore stuff, and who tried to justify it. I drew a hard line, started sharing what I know about the trafficking and the detrimental effects. He agreed to stop. Just like us both going vegan, he's not as hardline about it, but he recognizes the value and the ethics/morality behind it. After a while, he started to be actively repulsed by his former habits. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 12:39 AM |
| 10 | When pickmes and newbies talk about their "HVM"The answer is to have the attitude "I'd rather be alone for the rest of my life than be in a shitty relationship." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/21 09:42 PM |
| 196 | 19 year old college student, Kristin Smart, was walking home from a party with Paul Flores, who was also 19 at the time. He murdered her, but the police botched the investigation, and he was free until he was arrested 25 years later at age 44. Four other women have said he sexually assaulted them.The story of the murder investigation made me so angry. Flores had cuts on his knees and a black eye when prosecutors interviewed him. He claimed he got the shiner during a basketball game on the day after Kristin vanished, but his friends told authorities that he already had the injury when he showed up to play. In another interview, Flores admitted he lied about the black eye, saying he’d actually bumped his eye on his truck’s steering wheel while doing repairs. While being interviewed by inve… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/21 07:14 PM |
| 42 | This woman has clearly been manipulated by a LVM who convinced her that his porn habits are to be blamed on her.This is known in psychology as cognitive dissonance: Cognitive dissonance occurs when a person holds contradictory beliefs, ideas, or values, and is typically experienced as psychological stress when they participate in an action that goes against one or more of them. Coping with the nuances of contradictory ideas or experiences is mentally stressful... some people would inevitably resolve dissonance by blindly believing whatever they wanted to believe. Cognitive dissonance occurs to a person wh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/21 07:09 PM |
| 69 | LVM Gift AlertIt's not even hidden. It IS abusive language. My abusive NV ex said that to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/21 04:15 PM |
| 40 | Women rate themselves as less confident than men until their mid-40s -- but women realize they become more effective leaders later in their careers, surpassing men by late 50s!Source: https://hbr.org/2019/06/research-women-score-higher-than-men-in-most-leadership-skills When we compare confidence ratings for men and women, we see a large difference in those under 25. It’s highly probable that those women are far more competent than they think they are, while the male leaders are overconfident and assuming they are more competent than they are. At age 40, the confidence ratings merge. This data is from a study that includes 40,184 men and 22,600 women and measures the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/21 03:48 PM |
| 10 | I dumped my HVM.I've done it the hard way, no FDS. I didn't see any problem with age gap relationships until I hit the age that the older man was when I got with him, and I realized just how easy it would be to manipulate someone so much younger. I know you said you dated men your age before, and they didn't work out either, but that has less to do with the age than with the men. I met a man who is a few months younger than me, pre-FDS, and he stood out to me because he was so much more mature than other guys o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 10:09 PM |
| 18 | I dumped my HVM.I left home early, too, and I was also in a few of those problematic age gap relationships when I was way too young and naive. The most healthy and equitable relationships I have been in were ones where we were the same age. You can't evaluate what you don't know, so it's much harder to vet an older man. The dynamic you described with this ex, where he tried to control you, I recognized it immediately from my age gap relationships. He thinks he can control you because you are younger and make le… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 08:46 PM |
| – | I dumped my HVM.I understand why you don't think it's not really a problematic age gap to you right now, but when you are 5 years older than you are now and look back, you will understand more deeply why it matters. My personal opinion is that any age gap larger than 2 years should be viewed as at least an orange flag. Think about the way you would perceive a man who is 5 years younger than yourself. Would you respect him as an equal? No? Why do you think men, who already are predisposed to treating women as le… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 08:27 PM |
| 10 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-InI've done the 7 year age gap. It's bullshit. Don't believe those lies. An emotionally healthy 30 year old is in a totally different life stage and level of mental development from any 23 year old. The most healthy relationships I have had were under 1 year in age gap. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 08:07 PM |
| 31 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-InNever give someone the chance to devalue or disrespect you twice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 08:03 PM |
| 33 | Left my husband due to his porn addiction. Feeling relieved, but also ashamed and pissed offDon't blame yourself. Society gaslights women into giving undeserving men so many chances. It's not your fault. At least you got out before you had kids! I am constantly grateful for the abusive ex never trapping me with him via having kids. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 07:57 PM |
| – | I dumped my HVM.You did well getting out as soon as he started taking off his fake cloth and revealed the red flags underneath! Just out of curiosity, was there an age gap between you? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 07:44 PM |
| 31 | There needs to be more birth control options for men.Here are a few links that you may or may not know already. I think you may want to read and think about why you stay in what sounds like a toxic marriage: https://www.gottman.com/blog/emotionally-intelligent-husbands-key-lasting-marriage/ https://www.loveisrespect.org/quiz/is-your-relationship-healthy/?%3E https://www.goodreads.com/work/quotes/53923472-signs-of-emotional-abuse-how-to-recognize-the-patterns-of-narcissism-m https://www.goodreads.com/work/quotes/706540-codependent-no-more-how-to-st… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 05:09 PM |
| 23 | There needs to be more birth control options for men.Wow. Are you okay with what your husband said? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 04:59 PM |
| 23 | Women’s bodies are not put on this Earth to be bought and sold under an artificially created capitalist systemI remember years ago, when I was in middle school, seeing other girls start to wear makeup. I also wanted to wear makeup, but whenever I tried to, it always felt incredibly uncomfortable and stifling on my skin. Plus it would run or smear, or make my face break out in more acne, and I just hated it. There was also an ex who always wanted me to wear nail polish and high heels because he had a fetish about hands and feet. He was 7 years older and groomed me from the time that I was a teenager, and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 03:44 PM |
| 24 | All the emotional labor, organizing and managing being pushed on the woman, who would have known? This is why multiple partners are not beneficial for women, instead of one man baby, she now has two of them.Funny thing is she recognizes that they're manchildren, she complains that they're manchildren, but she wants to keep them that way? Reading these, I always make sure that whenever possible, my sons solve their own problems, clean up their own messes, and suffer the natural consequences of their own mistakes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 03:15 PM |
| 5 | Set some boundaries and 💥BOOM💥 His head exploded.Consider a platonic relationship progression: stranger -> acquaintance -> distant friend -> friend -> close friend -> best friend. If at any point this jumps over to romantic in tone, your friendship is effectively over. Then it's on the romantic relationship progression: stranger -> acquaintance -> dating -> seeing each other regularly -> committed relationship -> engaged -> married. You dated this guy. You can't un-ring that bell. You can see this in the way he tried to flirt with you and obvi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 11:27 PM |
| – | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-InI think a man who pays for a woman actually become more attracted to her, because putting in effort creates a feedback in his brain where doing something for her -> makes him feel good -> makes him feel closer to her. It puts men in a position of less power, which is why red pill types hate it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 07:48 PM |
| 4 | Have you ever rejected a man because of his sexual history?Ddlg Wow I had to look this one up. So depraved. 🤢 I didn't realize this has become common enough to have its own acronym! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 05:00 PM |
| 4 | ✩ FDS FOR TEENS ✩ PART 2: AGE GAP RELATIONSHIPS, OR A TALE OF SCROTENESSthe FACT they're going for much younger is a RED FLAG by itself This needs to be shouted from every rooftop. I wish I knew this when I was a teenager before I got into some horrific age gap situations. Thankfully I woke up in my mid-20s before the abusive older guy shackled me with a baby. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 03:51 PM |
| 17 | I really hate LVM's in fictional entertainment, and them ending up getting the girl. See Ron Weasley for example.Not only that, but it teaches young kids to cling onto their high school romances, which is the opposite of healthy! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 03:44 PM |
| 134 | Online dating programs you to settleThe sad thing is that the shitty men would just sign up pretending to be women and leave negative reviews on every man's profile to fuck with the competition, because that's "just how men are." 💩🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 03:38 PM |
| 14 | He cheated on her and she's still with him. She now finds out he spends money on porn.The findings say that couples married for decades state respect as the most important relationship factor Respect really is the most important factor. Without it, there can be no healthy relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 03:32 PM |
| 36 | Proof FDS Works and LVMs Never ChangeEvolutionarily speaking, this is part of why human women go through menopause while females of other mammalian species do not (and they can reproduce throughout their lives). Because young humans are so mentally unstable, older women had to step in to help rear the babies that the dumb teenagers produced. The older women who didn't do this, who were off making their own babies, were actually less successful at passing on their genes, to the point where today women go through menopause so that gr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 03:11 PM |
| 21 | As of October 2020, 55% of men say they are satisfied with household labor division, compared with 38% of women. 74% of mothers say they do more to manage their children’s schedules and activities than their spouse or partner; only 3% say their husband does more of this.China specifically did away with organized religion, and they had women working in the highest levels of government even 50 years ago under Maoism. So there is no tradition holding women back from positions of power. China is now home to most of the world's female billionaires. https://www.barrons.com/articles/the-world-now-has-100-self-made-female-billionaires-01584390323 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 11:31 PM |
| 36 | As of October 2020, 55% of men say they are satisfied with household labor division, compared with 38% of women. 74% of mothers say they do more to manage their children’s schedules and activities than their spouse or partner; only 3% say their husband does more of this.https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2021/01/25/for-american-couples-gender-gaps-in-sharing-household-responsibilities-persist-amid-pandemic/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 07:15 PM |
| 8 | Abort Mission if a Man Sees You This WayThis energy right here! 👏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 06:19 PM |
| 13 | Pornsick men stalk women health subreddits and it's predatoryTurn off your direct messages and chats. I did that. Everything is so peaceful. 😊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 02:02 AM |
| 2 | How you like them apples? 🍎🍏My favorite right now are kanzi apples. I need to try out the envy apples! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 04:12 AM |
| 12 | According to the comments, she’s the problem for being overly jealous...Phenomenal advice! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 02:22 AM |
| 63 | Justin Bieber has smacked Hailey (his wife) on camera HOW IS HE NOT CANCELLED??This is also why we need to believe other women and heed other women's warnings about a man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 07:05 PM |
| 5 | The famous "slug post" from the FDS podcast episode 5. Man makes girlfriend sick by grinding up slugs in her shakes. "aM i OvErReAcTiNg?”So-called "pretty privilege" is the pretty woman being allowed to be viewed and treated as a human being. Still a lesser being than a man, but at least human. :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 02:22 PM |
| 16 | It do be that wayHere are a few links that you may or may not know already, but perhaps they will be helpful: https://www.gottman.com/blog/emotionally-intelligent-husbands-key-lasting-marriage/ https://www.loveisrespect.org/quiz/is-your-relationship-healthy/?%3E https://www.goodreads.com/work/quotes/53923472-signs-of-emotional-abuse-how-to-recognize-the-patterns-of-narcissism-m https://www.goodreads.com/work/quotes/706540-codependent-no-more-how-to-stop-controlling-others-and-start-caring-for http://www.drjoecar… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 02:20 PM |
| 11 | Marquis de Sade and BDSM (more in comments)Joyce Maynard Stunning. I love her writing style, hate what happened to her. I'm glad society's finally starting to talk about generations of men's disgusting grooming. https://www.vanityfair.com/style/2021/04/joyce-maynard-on-chilling-parallels-woody-allen-and-jd-salinger | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 04:54 PM |
| 43 | I've been seeing a lot of posts lately about scrotes calling vetting "eugenics". Here's my theory to counter this.Evolution doesn't give a shit about your feelings. This goes for both men and women. Women are just better at adapting thanks to our higher emotional intelligence. /chefskiss | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 03:53 PM |
| 233 | The famous "slug post" from the FDS podcast episode 5. Man makes girlfriend sick by grinding up slugs in her shakes. "aM i OvErReAcTiNg?”ANY parasite can cause serious illness. Slugs are host to a variety of them. I've toured a diagnostic medical lab that had all manners of tapeworms and parasites preserved as teaching tools. They can grow to be extremely long and large. I found the woman's account. She did dump the guy, but I think I figured out why he was doing it -- it's possible that he wanted her to get intestinal worms to "lose weight." This is what she wrote: I recently left a weird relationship where my partner was contam… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 03:20 PM |
| 132 | Stalked, verbally assaulted and threatened by a man. Guess who is being interviewed under caution by police as a suspect? Me.I predict that misogyny will not become a hate crime but that there will be a 'gender-neutral' equivalent. And that men will abuse this in the same way that they've abused 'domestic violence' laws to claim they are the victims. Fuck, you're right. That's a depressing thought. I'm sorry this happened to you. Next time, record every interaction: document and back up to the cloud, with date, location, time, incident, audio/video evidence, text/email exchanges, anything you have. Shine bright lights… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 03:10 PM |
| 36 | The secret strategy they don't want you to know about - aka do as I say not as I do. Ever wonder why women are so encouraged to find their 'one true love' and 'soulmate' while men are constantly watching porn and looking for the next branch to swing to? But we're supposed to put our blinders on."Monogamy for thee (woman) but not for me (man)." Nah. True monogamy for both or not at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 04:38 AM |
| 30 | Marquis de Sade and BDSM (more in comments)You should definitely get started on Salinger. I also hated most of the navel-gazing junk written by men that I was forced to read in school. Luckily I had an awesome English teacher, this lovely lady, who let us watch a lot of movies to get the plot points. She was the one who told us about how depraved old men in their 60s would marry girls as young as 12 because it was "legal." 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 12:53 AM |
| 33 | Just a teenage girl’s thoughts on liberal feminism and the acceptance of men’s violent and disgusting fantasies."Sexual liberation for me (man), but not for thee (woman)." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/21 10:46 PM |
| 24 | The lower status, poorer performing men treat women with "hostility." Higher value, higher skilled men treat women better. Once you see this truth, you will begin to see this everywhere.Here's the study: Insights into Sexism: Male Status and Performance Moderates Female-Directed Hostile and Amicable Behaviour https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4503401/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/21 09:10 PM |
| 278 | Bye b*tchWTF an old scrote with a daughter, went into a relationship with a woman 20 years younger, wrote a long passive aggressive letter, defended Harvey Weinstein... I'm honestly frightened for the daughter. Ugh. :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/21 04:25 PM |
| 6 | BEAUTY - Do you think it is worth it for women to pursue it?I think of all the things I would advise my boys to do for themselves as they get older and into the world, and I would not do much more than that. So I am all for self-care like skincare, sunscreen, lip balm, moisturizer, well-groomed hair, taking care of teeth, healthy diet, regular cardio/weight exercises, dressing well/professionally, and plenty of water and rest. Doing the aforementioned already means that I spend a lot of time, energy, effort and money on looking good. Personally I don't w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/21 01:28 AM |
| 32 | Scientific evidence: Neurochemical reasons why a woman should not sleep with a man until after he has fallen in love with herSemen contains cortisol, estrone, oxytocin, thyrotropin-releasing hormone, prolactin, melatonin and serotonin. Some hormones cannot survive digestion, but some hormones like estrogen do survive, which is why women can take the contraceptive pill. There are some small studies that suggest swallowing sperm allows the woman's immune system to get more used to the sperm, therefore increasing the chances she gets pregnant by the partner. While on this subject, women should know that human papilloma v… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/21 01:01 AM |
| 187 | Guys who say "FDS helped me understand and respect my wife" okay but why didn't you listen to your wife before you found FDS?Why are you only paying attention now, after ignoring our pleas for so long? Because we're waking up. The knowledge is spreading. They can't hold back the tide of women empowering ourselves with information, so they have to adapt or be dumped. The FDS mindset of being okay to be alone, single, for the rest of our lives if we don't find a HVM... that actually scares these men. It was the mindset I had when I met my husband over twelve years ago. He is a phenomenal human being, but he also knew I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 11:33 PM |
| 312 | “It is hard to respect yourself when you are being forced to pick up the garbage of another human being. An adult.”This is why I have taught my sons clean up after themselves. They're in elementary school, and they both do dishes, vacuum, clean up the dinner table, straighten up their play areas, put away their own laundry, fold their own clothes, put their beds back together, and yes, wipe their butts and wash their hands. FDS is an amazing resource for raising boys. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 10:53 PM |
| 43 | Scientific evidence: Neurochemical reasons why a woman should not sleep with a man until after he has fallen in love with herOxytocin is one of the few hormones that exhibit positive feedback loops. So the release of oxytocin leads to actions that stimulate even more of a release of oxytocin. Women are flooded by oxytocin because it is necessary for childbirth. When oxytocin is released, it stimulates uterine contractions, and these uterine contractions cause more oxytocin to be released. This is what causes the increase in both the intensity and frequency of contractions and enables a mother to carry out vaginal deli… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 08:06 PM |
| 42 | Scientific evidence: Neurochemical reasons why a woman should not sleep with a man until after he has fallen in love with herWhy would you want to have sex with a man who has no or low feelings toward you? The studies are clear: men do not develop more feelings after sex, while women do develop more feelings. It's right here in the post: "In women, oxytocin tends to continue to be released after sex, whereas the same is not true of men. Therefore, unless his feelings were already strong and powerful before sex, they will not grow after sex, whereas her feelings will grow each time after sex." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 07:35 PM |
| 56 | Scientific evidence: Neurochemical reasons why a woman should not sleep with a man until after he has fallen in love with herYes, there's another study that shows that oxytocin levels increase during both good and bad times. This is likely among the reasons why the cycle of abuse is so difficult to break free from. Another important finding: "the partners who were more invested in a relationship released more oxytocin when they thought about their relationship than the less invested partner did." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 05:57 PM |
| 3 | How to not catch feelings for men and protect your heart100 hours of quality time together. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 02:34 PM |
| 11 | How to not catch feelings for men and protect your heartHow long have you been together? How old are you both? Sometimes a relationship just runs its course. Like a plane taking off, if you don't have a good plane or good pilots (high value people), enough fuel (love), or the plane didn't go on a long enough runway (time), the plane won't lift off high enough to soar into the sky. Sometimes, even if the plane takes off, there are malfunctions or storms that you have to weather, and when the crash happens it can be worse. That's why the woman needs he… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 02:29 AM |
| 20 | Men claim you have stronger feelings towards them to manipulate youThey project their feelings often. They’re poor at really gaining insights into how a woman may see things or feel Ah, L/NVM. Always projecting harder than an IMAX theater. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 01:40 AM |
| 19 | How to not catch feelings for men and protect your heartToss him into the trash bin. 🗑️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 11:31 PM |
| 39 | How to not catch feelings for men and protect your heartThe brain is the biggest sex organ, and the best foreplay is mental and emotional. You should be able to talk about sex openly long before being in bed together. What you like, what you dislike, how recently you've both been tested, etc. Unless he has a micropenis, you can use other FDS tips to vet out a dysfunctional penis or pornsick kinks due to porn. Personally I don't feel sexual attraction until I trust a man and have developed an emotional connection to him, which takes a long time. I act… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 08:18 PM |
| 79 | How to not catch feelings for men and protect your heartYep. No point in trying to be liked by everybody. You don't even like everybody. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 06:13 PM |
| 208 | How to not catch feelings for men and protect your heartYes, this is very important, which is why I edited the post to link to signs of love bombing. Also, research shows "it takes between 40 and 60 hours to form a casual friendship, 80-100 hours to transition to being a friend and more than 200 hours together to become good friends." So I would say 100 hours minimum before his proclamations of love are to be taken semi-seriously. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 05:08 PM |
| 20 | The "Jokesters"I'm sorry that happened to you. Those weren't jokes he made. They were put-downs and negs that he claimed were jokes. Definition of a joke according to the dictionary: noun. a thing that someone says to cause amusement or laughter, especially a story with a funny punchline. If it's not funny, and nobody laughs, it's just pathetic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 03:30 PM |
| 91 | Men aren’t more “chill” than women. They manipulate the women in their lives into doing the hard work.Also, men inherit their intelligence from their mothers: https://www.independent.co.uk/news/science/children-intelligence-iq-mother-inherit-inheritance-genetics-genes-a7345596.html | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 02:06 PM |
| 8 | Is anyone familiar with the Radium Girls?I believe that in a number of years we'll figure out the same thing about the toxicity of ingredients in women's beauty products being used today. The alarm is already being sounded now by scientists who are researching the subject, but many women do not know the dangers because it's not widely publicized, and the cosmetic companies are making money and see no need to stop using those toxic ingredients. https://www.byrdie.com/toxic-beauty-ingredients-4782646 https://www.ewg.org/the-toxic-twelve-… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 08:31 PM |
| 28 | Can "workaholics" be HVM? ...an anecdotal inquiryYou haven't been dating long, and the beginning is a delicate time that needs a lot more passion to really cement your bond. So don't second-guess your need for more of those demonstrations of love. On the other hand, I think you should read more about the FDS mindset, because if you need that much reassurance from him throughout the day, that definitely comes from a place of neediness and lower self-esteem. No shade, because I have been there plenty of times myself. But ultimately, you have to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 05:40 PM |
| 39 | The fact that people think that this is a "hate" subreddit just has me in tears.they’re not used to women just saying that and not catering and deferring to not hurt feelings. Exactly. Men can talk all day about their preferences in women, boob size, ass size, hair color, eye color, skin color, ethnicity, dress size, clothing... you name it, they discuss it. Nobody blinks twice. Women talk about a few preferences like how they want men to treat them with respect, love, care, and take them on real dates? And gasp, pay for the dates? All hell breaks loose. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 05:29 PM |
| 497 | Update: I dumped him!They probably have way worse. They know their fetishes are fucked up, so they spend their energy defending all fetishes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 05:05 PM |
| 201 | People who say "redpillers and pickup artists are only a tiny percentage of the population, most men aren't like that"Exactly. Red pill ideas are very popular. They are so commonplace that people have stopped seeing red pill ideas as fringe. Rather, the opposite is the case: any time a man treats a woman kindly, lovingly, with respect, and goes even a little bit above and beyond for a woman, he's called a "simp." The red pill/PUA/misogynistic schpiel about alpha/beta, negging, SMV, women hitting the wall at 25, etc. are all designed to instill fear and make women settle. They try to gaslight women out of wantin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 07:34 PM |
| 59 | Men understand consent only when it’s about themNext time you encounter this, ask him, "How would you like to be groped, catcalled, be sent nude pics, and woken up for sex...by men?" Straight men understand consent when they go to a gay bar. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 04:40 PM |
| 12 | Prostitution and Common Misconceptions - CONCRETE DATAI hate the reddit popular page. It's such a cesspool. Prostitution begets sexual trafficking begets modern-day slavery. Somebody upstream always profits, and not the woman providing the "service," because she's the person lowest on the totem pole. How many billionaire prostitutes are out there? Yeah. Check it. China now has 4 times more billionaire women than the U.S., and those women? Mostly CEOs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 02:49 AM |
| 120 | Pregnancy and Its DiscontentsI overheard two ladies at a dentist office: "The first 40 years of parenting are the hardest." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 01:37 AM |
| 67 | 15 years of dating, 2 kids... and she’s worried about holding *him* up?She is lucky that she never married him. She would have to pay him if they had been married 10+ years, and he's been uselessly jobless the whole time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 05:31 PM |
| 307 | STOP 👏🏻PROCREATING 👏🏻 WITH 👏🏻 SHIT 👏🏻 MENFive times? He's dropped the baby five times? Either he is horribly negligent, or he is abusing the baby and dropping her on purpose. Either way, the mother is complicit in this abuse if she stays with him and continues to allow him to be alone with the baby. The baby needs to receive medical care to check for signs of concussion. Medical personnel are mandated reporters, and she can ask for help in safely leaving. If he is abusing the baby on purpose, neither the mother nor the baby is safe liv… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 05:30 AM |
| 154 | Jealous of a cat “woke up to him smiling at me smugly from atop my gfs tits”Luckily in this case, the trash took itself out already! "Here's where I might be TA: I gave her a list of my top countries, all of which would require the cat to go under the plane. I told her that I wanted a future with her, but that I thought she needed to get serious help for her obsession with her cat, and to let me know when/if she decided to get that help so we could move forward with our lives. The ball's in her court, I’ve been staying with a buddy, but it's been about a week and she ha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 11:43 PM |
| 182 | Just because he makes 10x more doesn't mean he's HVThey got together when she was 21 and he was 32. He's a predator. And he knows exactly what he's doing. She's too young and naive right now to see it. When she's in her 30s she will look back and facepalm. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 07:20 PM |
| 13 | Yes, women can be pornsick too.I don't know about anyone else, but I don't watch or read pornographic content. Even the "softcore" stuff in mainstream shows/movies make me uncomfortable, so I generally don't even watch shows or movies unless it's extremely well-reviewed and don't contain a lot of explicit material. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 07:08 PM |
| 20 | Saying that FDS is an echo chamber is like saying that group therapy is an echo chamber.Yes! FDS is a detox center from a world full of toxicity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 01:40 AM |
| 28 | *Spits out tea*Lightbulb moment. My husband says he's kind of an asshole, but he's actually one of the sweetest and most compassionate men I've known. Like, he donated $2000 to the food bank on his birthday because it made him feel good. But he would never brag about it, because he thinks that's just basic decency. Of course, he treats me and our kids with kindness and generosity, too. But again, would never brag, and in fact he is nervous he's not a good husband or father. It's because he focuses on people be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 11:59 PM |
| 31 | How Low Self-Esteem Stems Into "Poor Taste""I was basically a pickme, but for all humanity, not just men." This resonates so hard. Growing up, I always had a soft heart for the whole world, especially the downtrodden, the depressed, the outcasts, and the hurt people. I wanted to take away everyone's pain, not caring it was often at the expense of my own well-being. My journey to self-love and self-care is ongoing. Yours is a wonderful reminder. Thank you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 06:29 PM |
| 31 | If things were flipped, and sex ended when women came, most men would throw temper tantrums.I did that comparison thing with my husband... well it's fine because he's a good man, but yeah I definitely compared. In his case, it made him want to do better. On the original topic: There was a time recently when I came first, and he was getting tired, so I was like we can stop, I got mine. He said "Not fair!" and went for a while longer to finish. It made me realize just how men KNOW it's not fair that women don't get to orgasm most of the time. They just don't care. My husband at least doe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 05:14 PM |
| 85 | One of the top posts today on this hellsite... a man chasing his wife around with a lobster (repeated every year). This is male humor! Why do men love/take such pleasure in scaring and physically menacing women?They're doing it for the validation and ego boost from other men. Making fun of women is the easiest, fastest way to get that from other men, as in, "Look at how I can treat a woman like shit, and she'll put up with it! HAHAHA! I am such an alpha!" It's absolutely disgusting. But very, very predictable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 11:57 PM |
| 11 | How can I know if a guy who is chasing me does not see me as a consolation prize?You can never really get inside someone's head. But you can see if someone's words align with their actions. How I personally vetted for a man who would not leave me for some random "hotter" woman that came along? I observed him. He wasn't ambivalent. He sees me as the love of his life, and he shows it in his words, in his actions, and in his treatment of me. I never had to negotiate my way in his heart. I got real, concrete proof that he is who he said he is, reinforced through time and repetit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 12:47 AM |
| 29 | The Example For a Gender Based Hate Crime on Justice.Gov Angers MeAll governments suffer a recurring problem: Power attracts pathological personalities. It is not that power corrupts but that it is magnetic to the corruptible. No government in history has been known to evade this pattern. And as the aristocracy develops, government tends more and more to act exclusively in the interests of the ruling class — whether that class be hereditary royalty, oligarchs of financial empires, or entrenched bureaucracy. And let me add: patriarchy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 10:06 PM |
| 25 | How can I know if a guy who is chasing me does not see me as a consolation prize?Ego. They feel "better" than the less attractive woman. There was a PUA blog written by a man who bragged about how "hot" he was and how he normally can land "hot" women, but that the less attractive women he slept with "tried harder" and had multiple "squirting orgasms" with him. Sounds like fiction, but it's probably how these scrotes think. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 06:50 PM |
| 19 | How can I know if a guy who is chasing me does not see me as a consolation prize?If he literally calls you the most amazing woman he's ever met, passes all your other vetting, proposes to you quickly, marries you, cares about you, treats you like a walking goddess, and displays ALL of the qualities of a HVM by FDS standards, and he takes the secret to his grave that maybe you aren't the most beautiful woman he's ever laid eyes on, then I don't see a problem. Being married doesn't mean someone is blind and immune to being attracted to other people. However, if a high value pe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 06:44 PM |
| 30 | Scrote on the street told me he wanted to r*pe meRecord them and publish the videos. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 06:33 PM |
| 68 | What the actual fuckLiberalism and conservatism are just two sides of the same disgusting, misogynistic, patriarchal coin. They sandwich women so that we're between a rock and hard place, nowhere to go. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 06:29 PM |
| 28 | How can I know if a guy who is chasing me does not see me as a consolation prize?Then that's not really a HVM is it? A true HVM wouldn't string a woman along until his "10" becomes "attainable in the future." What you're talking about is just a LVM pretending to be HVM. In that regard, I would look carefully at a man who has a long relationship history and who can't seem to be alone. I'd rather be with a man who stays single and works on himself, and who is choosy about who he allows into his life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 06:03 PM |
| 38 | How can I know if a guy who is chasing me does not see me as a consolation prize?Vetting is never perfect. That's why FDS advocates to always look out for yourself, always have an exit plan, and keep your career and money, so that if he does, you're fine and not screwed. Also, trust your gut feelings. Women ignore our intuition too often, and then in hindsight we often say "I knew it!" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 05:35 PM |
| – | How can I know if a guy who is chasing me does not see me as a consolation prize?Read the handbook. It has a lot of strategies to vet. Those men will put in some effort at the beginning, but when they're predatory wolves pretending to be good men, sooner or later their whiskers will pop out. https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/iy1e23/how_to_avoid_getting_pavloved_via_technology/ https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/e017h7/the_dumb_fox_credo/ https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/jhkeca/if_he_doesnt_make_you_cum_he_doesnt_… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 03:20 PM |
| 212 | How to spot a pedophile?A few things come to mind: Ask him about his thoughts on pubic hair. Ask him about his thoughts on large age-gap relationships. Pretend you have something you need to ask of the younger folks, and ask if he has young friends. See if he likes to talk to children frequently, has "young" interests, knows what the "youngins" are up to, and seems really into youth culture. See if he makes lots of such "innocent" contacts with children, such as playing with them in a physical way, hugging, tickling, f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 12:29 AM |
| 9 | The "bed nest" post that was mentioned in the podcastI'll be honest, this isn't even the worst story I've heard. (Don't read the following if you don't want to read something disgusting.) Back when I played a lot of online games, there was a couple (yes a woman went along with this) who would let their dog pee and poop in the corner of their room, because they were too lazy to take the dog out for walks. In my morbid curiosity I asked if they had carpet. They said yes. 💩💀😵🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 06:50 PM |
| 32 | The "bed nest" post that was mentioned in the podcastNo need to insult birds. Some male birds put in a lot more effort! 😂 In many species the male bird's skill at nest building is a sign of his suitability as a mate; he invests huge effort in the task. Males of the European house wren build up to 12 nests to attract females. They will continue to build new nests until a female is happy with the construction. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 06:42 PM |
| 53 | Something shook me today and in light of everything going on with reddit you were the only people I felt comfortable talking about it with.Sounds like sociopathic PUA energy. I feel bad for the poor woman. I'm sorry that happened to you, too. Are you doing okay? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 04:05 PM |
| 93 | Human penises are shrinking because of pollution, warns scientist. Dr Swan believes that the rapidly decreasing fertility rate means that most men will be unable to produce viable sperm by 2045. These chemicals have long been known to cause infertility in women (PCOS), but men affected makes news.I did a ton of research on this subject when I was pregnant, as the whole world smelled horribly of chemicals to my sensitive pregnant nose. The toxic stuff is literally everywhere: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Endocrine_disruptor https://www.ewg.org/research/dirty-dozen-list-endocrine-disruptors | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 04:03 AM |
| – | Reddit's Trying Really Hard Right Now to Pretend They Didn't Knowingly Hire A Known Pedophile Apologist and Use Them to Destroy Those Pesky Feminist Subreddits Who've Been IDing all the Rape PornYeah, like they expect us to believe they didn't google her name ever? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/21 11:24 PM |
| 223 | Scrote husband forgets her birthday, and tries to gaslight and guilt her when even their 4 years old daughter cares. The comments are roasting him, hopefully she realizes how little he actually cares about her.Holy deny, attack, reverse victim and offender! Notice how by the end, he is "pretty upset" with her for a few hours, she is talking about wanting to be "communicating" to him without "invalidating his feelings." On her birthday. That he forgot. I got nothing. Take the whole man out to the trash. This is not acceptable behavior. The mom needs to role model a better relationship pattern for her daughter. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 03:39 PM |
| 302 | I went on a walk today and a man spit in my faceThis. Document the time, location, rough description of the person, direction of travel, and it's horribly gross, but keep the saliva evidence because it contains DNA. Go to the police station physically and file a report. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 01:32 AM |
| 136 | A lot of men need to hear this. They wonder why they have dead bedrooms but dont even tryIt really is. And it's not just about dishes and laundry. It's about so many things, big and small. Somebody who is a go-getter, who just gets stuff done, who takes care of the tasks required for day-to-day life, that's what you need in a life partner. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 06:59 PM |
| 104 | Reproductive StrategyI would add to this and not mention explicitly whether you want kids, but maybe say something like "I never wanted to have kids with the ex." If he asks why, respond with something vague, "just something like a gut feeling." This will make him realize that he can't just count on having kids with you, that you are not as baby crazy as other women and easily manipulated, and that you have standards and will stick to them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 02:34 AM |
| 56 | Why do people think women are being tricked/manipulated into casual sex?My 6 year old boy knows how to friend better than these grown ass men. He happily tells me about his friend who is a girl in his class who also likes dinosaurs. Then again I suppose the testosterone hasn't kicked in yet. I may eat these words in a decade. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 04:59 AM |
| 28 | Baby was a little dark skinned so Dad loses all sense and empathy. Slanders and bullies mom... Just wowFrom the comments: For anyone who's wondering, the original poster on Reddit updated and said she didnt want to but the husband convinced her to go to couple's therapy. He confessed to cheating on her while they were still in the dating phase, and he projected all his internalized guilt onto her because of it. She refused to move back in throughout it all and decided not to get back with him after all Who's surprised? Nobody. But we love to see a queen say bye! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 07:36 PM |
| 129 | And they say marriage is bad for men. Who tf think washing dishes is a suprise??My 6-year-old and 8-year-old sons both wash dishes. :D | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 06:30 PM |
| 27 | Details of the elusive HVM in practiceI didn't actually think I would get married for a while, because I had gotten out of the abusive relationship with the ex not long before meeting my husband. I knew that what I had with my husband was special, that we were very compatible and had a high likelihood of being happy together for the long term, but I didn't really expect it when he proposed to me 6 months after meeting me. It was perhaps too soon from an FDS perspective, but I also felt like it was right. We had a small courthouse we… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 06:09 PM |
| 44 | Details of the elusive HVM in practiceThis is a great list. I would say first of all that HVM are not offended by a woman vetting! I was very skeptical in the beginning phases of vetting my husband, because I had been lied to before by an abusive ex. My husband told me he did Peace Corps in Africa, so I was like ok cool, do you have pictures? He had a ton of them, him being in the village, dressed in traditional African clothing, the school where he taught, etc. He told me he played the guitar, and I was like okay prove it. He proce… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 05:50 PM |
| 12 | "Men are nice when they pursue, and women are nice when they reject"- Gift of fear by Gavin de BeckerLook up grey rock method. Be boring. Play dumb and be as uninteresting as possible. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 04:14 PM |
| 24 | "Men are nice when they pursue, and women are nice when they reject"- Gift of fear by Gavin de BeckerBlock and delete. Those types of men cast a huge net and move on to easier targets. The more you say to them, even if it's to reject them, the more time and attention you give them. Say nothing to those who are unworthy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 04:10 PM |
| 44 | Happy wife, happy lifeMy husband also has this philosophy of "happy wife, happy life," and at first I was like "you're joking right?" He wasn't. When I did some reading on this topic, it is actually one of the reasons we're still really happy together. https://www.latimes.com/archives/la-xpm-1998-feb-21-mn-21412-story.html "the newest advice from psychologists is quite simple: Be willing to do what your wife says." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 04:05 PM |
| 38 | Is there actually any good reason to get married if you don't want kids?Get a good prenup, and assets you bring into the marriage should remain separate. But yea if you don't have children, the main reasons to get married are stuff like social security, healthcare benefits, and legal protection / citizenship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 02:52 PM |
| 25 | From HV to NV, a short story.I just want to say you are an amazing friend. Thank you for being there for her. You provided such a contrast to her awful ex and a great support system that she was able to recognize his awfulness so quickly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 03:38 PM |
| 28 | Things men do we should start copying (alternative title: What hanging out with boys taught me)Unfortunately, it isn't that simple. Being a woman means that being "confident" has to look a different way. From https://www.forbes.com/sites/pragyaagarwaleurope/2018/10/23/not-very-likeable-here-is-how-bias-is-affecting-women-leaders/ Psychology research has shown that there are two primary kinds of gender bias that affect women, called the descriptive and prescriptive bias. Descriptive bias is the labels we attach and associate with certain social groups and communities, and prescriptive bias… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 04:15 PM |
| 107 | What kind of twisted thinking is this? „If Sex Work wouldn‘t exist, men would be even more violent to women“ I‘m so tired of this BS that libfems spread to justify exploitation of women to „prevent“ more violenceSame argument "for" exploitative slavery -- if slaves didn't exist, the powerful slave owners would just violently exploit YOU! It seems far-fetched to compare it to slavery? Sadly sexual trafficking is just modern-day slavery. They groom kids from a young age and keep them locked up, terrified and threaten them with violence and blackmail. And who profits? Doesn't take much imagination to figure that out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 03:33 PM |
| 73 | This Particular Brand of Male Selfishness Drives Me Up a WallThis is exactly why men hate on the genuinely high value good men who treat women with respect, care and love. They set the bar higher, and that's unacceptable to low value men. Before anyone reading tries to draw a parallel between the HVM and the pickme, HVM aren't out there treating other men like shit the way pickmes denigrate other women. HVM are busy leveling up and making their relationships great in their own lives. I will also state here that part of the reason HVM can be magnanimous is… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 09:10 PM |
| 92 | Trigger Warning ⚠️ This @$$wipe tried to slide into my DMs after giving me one of the worst sexual experiences of my life. Zero foreplay, shoved it in (I got flashbacks of my r@pe). After I took a pi$$, I saw some blood in the toilet........ he wants to be friends on Instagram now 😤There is virtue to telling them not to contact you elsewhere. It means that if they do, they can't just chalk it up to a "misunderstanding." They are knowingly crossing a boundary. In some jurisdictions this means you can get a restraining order on them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 03:43 PM |
| 59 | Pornography is not the problem.That's horrifying. I cannot understand how anyone derives pleasure from another living being's pain. I can't stand to see animals or humans in pain, even terrible humans. Sadism used to be seen as a sociopathic trait. How has society come to the point where sociopathic traits are celebrated and seen as not shameful? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/21 08:31 PM |
| 11 | What is the opposite of the Cool Girl?I think of her as the woman's woman. Whereas the "cool girl" goes after male validation, the woman's woman is an ally to other women, and teams up with her awesome team of friends to kick ass and take names. She is part of the sisterhood and knows women are kind, compassionate, and awesome. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 02:41 AM |
| 37 | Video: China's Leftover Men, Desperately Seeking WivesI was born in China during the one-child policy, too. I am not sure how I wasn't killed or abandoned at birth. My horrible father cheated on my mother, abused her so badly she landed in the hospital bleeding from a head wound, divorced her for having a girl (me), refused to pay child support, married the affair woman, had two more daughters with her, then divorced her because in his own words to me (adult daughter at that point), he was "bored." He has not and will never meet my kids. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 06:29 PM |
| 366 | If he walks faster than you in public, DUMP HIMI'm 9 inches shorter than my husband, and the first time we went on a date was dinner and movies that he absolutely insisted on paying for. After the movie, we walked holding hands out of the theater, and we noticed that we were walking perfectly in sync together, our footsteps somehow naturally matching despite our big height difference. It was night time, and on impulse we both started running hand-in-hand down the sidewalk, and it was such a magical moment that I still remember almost 12 year… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 04:24 AM |
| 27 | How to avoid interacting with men who are far right/hate womenUgh the pepe thing makes me mad. I thought the frog was kind of cute, so I used it a few times, not realizing the awful roots behind it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 01:01 AM |
| 60 | I tried matchmaking services within my Muslim community and it backfiredGood for you. Don't accept disrespect from anyone. If the person or situation isn't bringing value, leave them. That includes this "matchmaker." Totally agree with you that you should just not talk about any of this stuff with your family members. They do not live your life. You do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/21 07:03 PM |
| 38 | This musician used the power of neuroscience to help her fall out of love. Takeaway lesson: Stop indulging in thinking and feeling for the ex, and eventually the love will die out. Aim for a sense of calm indifference.According to scientists, when you start thinking about someone you want to forget, you can redirect your brain. In her research, Helen Fisher observed that when subjects in the fMRI machine shifted their focus to an unrelated task, the hypothalamus calmed down and stopped producing the dopamine that was making them feel lovestruck. The key is to train your brain to something else that requires your concentration, something that takes a lot of brainpower. Also, remove photos, voicemails, anything… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 10:34 PM |
| 42 | FDS Show Recommendations?The one that I can always whole-heartedly recommend is The Good Place. The show's main character is female, and it shows her growth and personal development as well as empowerment. The romance is sweet and takes a long time to develop, although the on-screen romantic chemistry is not the best. The friendships feel genuine and not forced. The show also has great philosophical/spiritual concepts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 05:07 PM |
| 54 | FKA twigs is exactly right – why do we still ask abuse victims why they didn't leave? | FKA twigsYou know, this conversation made me realize just now that my husband never asked me why I didn't leave the abusive ex sooner. He knew I was trapped. He was actually the one who pointed the hostage situation I was in to me when I was still in denial. He helped me get out of the situation safely. It's been over a decade since I got away, and my husband and I donate to the National Domestic Hotline yearly. He is the only reason I still believe in the existence of HVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/21 07:00 AM |
| 401 | NoT aLL MeNSome quick facts about violence against women: Homicide is a leading cause of death for women younger than 44 years old, and nearly half of female homicide victims are killed by a current or former partner. 1 in 3 women in the world will be raped or beaten in her lifetime. Women visit emergency rooms for injuries caused by their husbands or boyfriends more often than for injuries from car accidents, robberies and rapes combined. Blocking the doorway, hiding keys or physically preventing someone … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 11:47 PM |
| 45 | This is a REAL MGTOW scrote video giving advice on how to verbally abuse and manipulate women!! So many trash males out there. Ladies, watch out for this scum!🤮It’s easier to neg than to improve oneself. People who are insecure in a toxic way can’t help but put down other people. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 10:33 PM |
| 736 | I want to share an eye opening conversation i had with a guy friendJust curious, was it Jamie Fraser being tortured in Outlander? Because that scene was totally an analogy for what happens to women all. the. damn. time. Good on you for calling him out. Dump him as a friend. He doesn't meet the basic decency requirement. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 04:50 PM |
| 17 | The truth about the BDSM community "I believed I could erase the first abuse with more abuse" "I believed violence was a language I understood"https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Cycle_of_Abuse.png | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 01:46 AM |
| 42 | New concept- womb disciplineThat is amazing your mother fought for you, and that you also fought and survived! My father was also abusive and deadbeat. He cheated on my mother and divorced her in China so he didn't have to pay alimony or child support, married the Chinese woman he was cheating with, then had two more daughters. Of course, he divorced the other woman, too. I have not been in contact with him for the past decade. I think perhaps because of my background and upbringing, I have always been highly skeptical of … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 10:42 PM |
| 107 | New concept- womb disciplineI was born in China during the era of the one-child policy. I have zero doubt that if my mother had had an ultrasound that determined me to be a girl, I never would have been born. Patriarchy is behind the sex selection and preference for boys. The mother was often coerced into having those abortions. She was threatened, along with her life and the baby's life. She was replaceable, as there would be another woman willing to do what she could not. The man could have divorced her and left her, and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 08:59 PM |
| 1 | Sending strength, love and support to all of my sisters here. You've played a integral part in teaching me how to love myself properly and every single one of you deserves a crown. Celebrate yourselves on Valentine's Day-you are worthy.Yes! Even just scrolling this place gives me happiness! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/21 03:49 AM |
| 15 | “Nanny 766/week... that’s just for him not including kids”The reality of pregnancy is horrible. I have many friends who commiserated with me as I was going through it, so at least it was a bit of a bonding experience. Morning sickness was a lie for me. It was all-day nausea. It didn't go away after the first trimester either. Everything smelled horrible. I didn't want to eat anything, but I was starving. My own cooking, which was great before I got pregnant, looked and tasted awful to me. It's crazy uncomfortable the whole time, but especially towards … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 09:15 PM |
| 29 | “Nanny 766/week... that’s just for him not including kids”In my opinion it's not enough money for how many health risks there are, and what the woman's body goes through. The maternal death rate in the US is the highest among developed nations by double. I've given birth 3 times. The first time I gave birth, my baby passed away inside of me at 9 months of pregnancy. You can't pay me any amount of money to go through that feeling of empty arms again. Surrogates are so strong to be able to give that baby up afterwards. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 08:54 PM |
| 85 | Why overt and extreme misogyny is a problem even for misogynists: It results in women being armed with knowledge misogynists never intended them to have (that they are openly hated, and they will be hated no matter what they do), and this activates women’s “jezebel” side.PUA use plausible deniability to their advantage. https://www.goodreads.com/work/quotes/26117-the-mystery-method-how-to-get-beautiful-women-into-bed “A woman will rarely do anything during a pickup that makes her feel responsible for what may happen between the two of you. To whatever degree she feels responsible, her anti-slut defense will be activated. Thus she has a need for plausible deniability. For example, if you were to say to her, "Hey, let's go back to my place and have sex," she would… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 10:36 PM |
| 12 | contrary to belief deadbeat dads are very proud of being deadbeatsMany traditional women know how to support other women. When I had my baby, my Mormon coworker (who sadly quit her job after having kids) brought me a huge homemade meal that would last for weeks, froze and reheated well, and I still remember and appreciate it to this day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 09:49 PM |
| 8 | Anyone else planning IVF or AI?If you are seriously considering IVF or sperm donors, please read these: https://slate.com/human-interest/2010/06/new-study-shows-sperm-donor-kids-suffer.html https://www.latimes.com/opinion/op-ed/la-oe-mckinney-anonymous-sperm-donor-offspring-20180318-story.html https://www.chicagotribune.com/lifestyles/health/ct-children-of-sperm-donors-20180913-story.html | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 07:43 PM |
| 185 | Why overt and extreme misogyny is a problem even for misogynists: It results in women being armed with knowledge misogynists never intended them to have (that they are openly hated, and they will be hated no matter what they do), and this activates women’s “jezebel” side."Did they think we couldn't read?" I love it! I used to read a lot of PUA/red pill/game theory, and it was super eye opening. Their shtick hasn't actually changed in a decade. The thing that has changed is dating apps and the new dynamic of texting. They are mass texting a bunch of different women who meet their "minimum attractiveness threshold," and sending them the "booty call" text. Here's a sample: https://puamore.com/wiki/fuck-buddy/ One of the major differences between a Fuck Buddy and ge… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 07:29 PM |
| 93 | I/we need your helpAccording to the Wikipedia page on Bilibili, it is traded on the NASDAQ under the code BILI. You can also try the NASDAQ Investigations and Enforcement Team: https://listingcenter.nasdaq.com/Show_Doc.aspx?File=market_regulation.html If you have a tip or complaint about conduct occurring on one or more of our markets that may violate our rules or the federal securities laws, please contact us at +1 301 978 8310 or [[email protected]](mailto:[email protected]). Here's their FAQ on non-US… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 06:36 PM |
| 26 | "it's just biology" is psuedoscience that LVM gravitate to. In the past it was used to justify slavery and racism. And now it's used to justify mistreatment of women.This is Handbook material! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 06:28 PM |
| 2 | Decided against a ring in lieu of something more utilitarianDSLRs are old tech nowadays though. I wouldn't get a Rebel, as the old lenses don't fit on new mirrorless bodies, for Canon, Nikon or Sony DSLRs. I personally went mirrorless about 9 years ago and never looked back. My brand selection is Sony because they were an earlier innovator in the mirrorless space, and there are more cheap third-party lenses for Sony E/FE mount cameras. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 04:16 PM |
| 13 | What is a HVM?My mother had this opinion. She was horribly damaged by my father who cheated on her, emotionally abused her, and physically abused her to the point where she went to the emergency room with a gaping bleeding wound on her head. He divorced her in a foreign country (while 5 year old me was also in a foreign country) to prevent her from getting any alimony or child support in the U.S. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/21 09:15 PM |
| 202 | What is a HVM?A HVM is kind, generous, compassionate, genuine, faithful, gives attention and affection, treats the waiter well (not just being nice to you), and has integrity when nobody is checking. These are all top things FDS women talk about as being essential. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/21 07:24 PM |
| 34 | Even before FDS I believed in blocking and cutting tiesIt's to the benefit of men to "stay friends with ex's," because they can use you as social proof and triangulation with new women. Glad to see more and more women are no longer falling for it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 04:37 AM |
| 10 | Online DatingWithout women it'll be a ghost town. Hence the fake profiles and bots! AI bots nowadays are really sophisticated and can mimic real human interactions. ID verification and user reports Here's the thing about user-reports though. Some men will go through all sorts of lengths to report other men, if user reports are a reliable way to get male competition off the sites. I can imagine the unscrupulous men using a friend's ID to create female profiles and start mass reporting other guys just so their… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 11:32 PM |
| 52 | Online DatingThose stories are the "reward" part of intermittent reinforcement. Intermittent reinforcement is unpredictable random rewards in response to repeated behavior, and it is considered the most powerful motivator on the planet. Those stories of women meeting husbands or boyfriends are like the casinos ringing bells and making a big show of a customer winning big, to motivate other people in the casino to keep playing. It's not that they don't happen or aren't real, it's that it's random and luck-bas… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 08:50 PM |
| 63 | Online DatingBackground checks will never weed out sexually transmitted diseases, scammers who lie to get money/gifts which is not illegal, or fuckbois. Given the ratios of men to women on the dating platforms, any man who stays on them is hardened and/or has gotten to prey on women successfully. Dating services will never kick any man off their platforms, because men are the biggest paying userbase. In fact, they will bend over backwards for men who use their services a shit ton. Read this: One day while de… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 08:35 PM |
| 73 | Online DatingWhat would make online dating better? If every woman in the world stopped participating in it. Did you know that these dating sites themselves make spam fake profiles with hot photos? Also, most dating sites and apps are owned by one company, The Match Group, which has a near monopoly on all online dating. In psychology there is the concept of intermittent reinforcement. The power of intermittent reinforcement lies in the power of uncertainty. It's how abuse works. It's also how online dating dr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 07:55 PM |
| 177 | The REAL reason men are on dating sites often isn't to find a date.Yes! Time is a precious resource. Guard it fiercely. This is why I no longer waste time on unworthy people. They will neither change nor understand. I vet every single thing I spend my time on now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 04:11 PM |
| 20 | Nothing but factsI used to read that redpill trash. So many women are doing mental gymnastics (I know because I did a lot of this) in order to justify the awfulness of staying with a shitty LVM who makes them miserable. Cognitive dissonance is a helluva drug. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 01:48 AM |
| 33 | Realizing that I’m lean towards having an avoidant attachment style after being hurt so bad by past relationships....how should I attempt to date if I’m too scared of being hurt?No, fortunately! Don't let society manipulate you into being naively trusting of other people. Most people are not worth trusting. You should avoid intimacy until you've vetted. You should remove yourself from conflict because that's healthy. You should not rely on others exclusively. All of these are behaviors of a high value person who has a positive self-image. I see myself in all of these squares at different times, in different situations, and with different people. I don't care. I am a hum… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 01:39 AM |
| 71 | From another thread. And the scrotes are butthurt 😂. I don’t support playing games but when SO many men flat out LIE about what there looking for on OLD, this is what women are resorting to... smhThe problem is, some men will absolutely lie, and it can be hard to vet them out by only waiting. I have a former coworker who told me the story of her ex-husband. The guy was in his 40s and would tell younger, more naive women in their 20s "I love you" to sleep with them. He was patient and manipulative. He slept around a lot by doing this, probably very convincingly because he did love their youth/looks/sex. Of course the biggest red flag here is the age gap. Older men have had longer to refin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/21 10:40 PM |
| 8 | The Exploitation of the Maiden - this 3-part playlist is really eye-opening and confirms a lot of what we already know and preachThis is a great series. Thank you for sharing! "We do not exist because of the man." This woman is such a powerful and persuasive speaker. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/21 08:23 PM |
| 2 | Pickmeisha friend is helping me weed out all the NVM/LVM in my lifeIt's also about his desire for control and power. If you had stayed with him, he would have controlled more and more aspects of your life. See these warning signs of abusive relationships given what you described: Showing extreme jealousy of your friends or time spent away from them. Preventing or discouraging you from spending time with friends, family members, or peers. Preventing you from making your own decisions, including about working or attending school. Even the way he asked how you cou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 10:58 PM |
| 31 | Why are there never any discussions about women’s mental health and loneliness?Men are usually the cause of women's decline in mental health This needs to be said again and again. Men rape, steal, murder, commit most of the crimes, and cause most of the mayhem and destruction. In response, women have had to support each other, look out for each other, and travel in groups to stay safe. It's survival. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 06:15 PM |
| 78 | Why are there never any discussions about women’s mental health and loneliness?Women are stronger because we have to be. Yesterday I read a sad story about a woman who had a miscarriage and said she was fine afterwards, but she was on reddit asking how to better support her boyfriend who was depressed about it. People like "oh just show him that you are strong and fine." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 04:57 PM |
| 59 | Ever get angry that FDS works?When you find a true HV relationship, you don't have to apply FDS because you can break all the rules and still get a positive result. FDS is very effective at weeding out the crap, but you won't believe how awesome it is to not have to even think about sending paragraphs because they'll just treat you well and make you feel so secure and loved. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 06:16 AM |
| 20 | Don't be an empath QueensThat's me. I pick up on other people's energies and moods unfailingly. It's why I'm such an introvert and don't like social hangouts. I was able to identify several narcissists and sociopaths with malicious intentions before other people could. But my detector isn't perfect, and I've failed to weed out garden variety LVM in the past. These days I'm cold and aloof to most, and it's helped me deal with this strange condition. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/21 03:36 PM |
| 13 | Male gaze vs female gaze in cinema... chef’s kiss 😚 👌🏻I'm like you in terms of demisexuality and needing a personal connection before I can actually be sexual with someone. I don't find celebrities sexually interesting. They are good-looking in the way that a beautiful landscape is lovely to look at, but I'd never get sexually aroused just looking at them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 08:38 PM |
| 8 | Being called a lesbian is just another way guys get us to try and conform to their incredibly unrealistic beauty standardsI went to high school with a sweet girl who wore light lilac-colored sweaters sometimes. She was called lesbian for that. I remember being honestly baffled at the time, like "Why would this even be something you make fun of someone for?" It wasn't until later that I heard about lavender being associated with homosexuality, but even still, I loathe the way teenagers treat each with such homophobic aggression. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 04:20 PM |
| 89 | She really needs our helpFemale Dating (Yourself) Strategy | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 04:06 PM |
| 5 | I am to be punishedYour gut instincts were right. You were in an unhealthy relationship. If you need more confirmation, take this quiz: https://www.loveisrespect.org/quiz/is-your-relationship-healthy/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 05:00 PM |
| 15 | I'm a completely different woman thanks to this subreddit. Thank you all from the bottom of my heart.I am also an east Asian woman. For 8+ years I was in an abusive and toxic relationship with a man who started grooming me when he was 21 and I had just turned 15. Thankfully I woke up on my own pre-FDS, and I have been happily married to a great man for the past 10+ years. There is a special kind of cultural misogyny for us because we're simultaneously seen as "lesser" and "exotic." I read various extremely disturbing things about Asian woman + Caucasian man pairings, including how often the man… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 04:44 PM |
| 30 | Genetic counseling before having childrenThank you for this important message. You are very strong for sharing your story, and for all that you do for your child. There is blood testing available now that is a blood draw on the woman in her first trimester (first 12 weeks of pregnancy), that will accurately detect genetic anomalies in the fetus. It is called Non-Invasive Prenatal Testing (NIPT), or cell-free DNA screens. It is covered by insurance for high-risk and some regular pregnancies. I have worked in the medical diagnostics indu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 08:08 PM |
| 93 | Dear male lurkers: FDS is coming for your girlfriends.Married woman here, celebrating 11th wedding anniversary in a couple of months. HVM have nothing to worry about because after finding FDS, I'm like "I have a treasure" and continue to treat him like the HVM he is. It's all the LVM that have to be scared. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 12:32 AM |
| 39 | Poor ring is so teeny tiny, it’s almost invisible. But I guess she has to love it or be rendered a scheming gold-digger, amirite?!?! 🤪💍I'm not even a jewelry person, but I do have an aesthetic sense. The ring is just straight up bad looking. With gemstones that small in size, you need multiples to make it look balanced and proportioned. The red flag is that this guy looked at this ugly ring and thought it'd be appropriate as an engagement ring. It's an insult. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 04:02 PM |
| 26 | "Men as provider" argument.Never rely on someone else exclusively for your livelihood. Women before us fought hard to give us opportunities to achieve higher education and have a career. Nowadays dual-income families are doing better than one-income families and have lower divorce rates. Because the woman has equal power and status, and she can walk away, she is often happier and doesn't actually have to leave. I am in a good marriage where the dynamic is mostly equal, even though he makes more money. I hire cleaners and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 10:45 PM |
| 58 | Confronted my (27F) husband (34M) about his porn use today... This is how it went.How old were you both when you first met and started dating? It could be that you did not see the red flags because he was older and could manipulate you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 07:21 PM |
| 11 | Ladies in relationship with HVM, where did you guys meet?We met through a mutual hobby where he was doing a lot of leading, teaching and coaching. He was patient, funny and treated people well. He reached out to me when I was complaining about my personal life. We started talking and quickly fell for each other. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 12:53 AM |
| 43 | This is what indian women deal with. Then these guys wonder why the world thinks so low of them.The powerful at the top use divide and conquer to make the people in the middle and bottom fight with each other for scraps. Race, sex, socioeconomic status, religion, sexual orientation, health and intangibles like "attractiveness" are all differences that the powerful use to divide people. Women in higher classes outsource the jobs they don't want to do to other women who are in lower socioeconomic classes. The terrible wages are then used by men to justify their devaluation of "women's work."… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 01:37 AM |
| 17 | "A Super Strange True Love Story: My Disappearing Fiancé." She gives him everything, he disappears with another woman. Tale as old as time.Geez, there's a sequel to this, too. It's even sadder, especially the ending author's note, because he raped her, and she still got married to him, 7 months pregnant with his kid! https://narratively.com/a-second-super-strange-true-love-story-i-was-the-other-woman/ Author’s Note: My estranged husband has vehemently denied any acts of neglect, abuse or violence towards me and towards our son. As of last Friday, his various charges against me were dismissed and I’ve been granted full custody of ou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 10:30 PM |
| 28 | What my 6 years LVM boyfriend thinks about 50/50 before I moved in vs. when I moved in.I've been married for 10 years to a man that I still genuinely love. We've both grown a lot over the years. The first thing you have to do is realize that you can't control anyone else. You can only control yourself and your own actions. Increase your self-esteem, and you won't need external validation. Don't beg for his attention. If he doesn't give it to you, find the attention elsewhere. Be hard-to-get not because it works, but because you should be. Being too giving makes people lose respect… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 06:52 PM |
| 53 | What my 6 years LVM boyfriend thinks about 50/50 before I moved in vs. when I moved in.Don't feel stupid for doing what you did out of love. A truly loving man would have appreciated your efforts and treated you better. Be glad you saw his true colors and got out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 04:53 PM |
| 46 | What my 6 years LVM boyfriend thinks about 50/50 before I moved in vs. when I moved in.I don't know about the FDS stance, but in the eyes of the law, in the absence of a prenup, everything earned, given, received, etc. becomes split 50-50 during divorce. In my decade-long marriage, where neither of us is planning on divorce, this is how it works: He makes $140k/year, I make $70k/year, before bonuses. In the beginning it was he made $25k/year, I made $55k/year. We each max our retirement accounts. Both of our employers offer healthcare benefits, so we can choose. We are on his heal… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 04:35 PM |
| 90 | What my 6 years LVM boyfriend thinks about 50/50 before I moved in vs. when I moved in.Men start taking women for granted once they have her. They think "she committed to me, so I can relax." They stop putting in effort to romance her. She starts looking less hot because he's seen her naked already, and the "mystery" is gone. Women are much more romantic than men when it comes to effort and doing acts of service for men they love. Men conflate sex with romance, and think that date night = sex night. Through the years women get worn down by the lack of reciprocation from men, and m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 03:59 PM |
| 33 | The partisan gender gap is larger among Millenials than any other generationPolitics and religion are not topics to avoid. You should know these about him early on, because incompatibilities here are absolutely valid dealbreakers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 09:25 PM |
| 17 | Remember: In a relationship, respect is a very important key element. Know what it looks like and know what red flags to look out for.Also integrity: having upright moral character, having strong moral principles, doing what they said they were going to do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 09:24 PM |
| 15 | Am I weird for this?Instead of thinking older, think about those who are younger than you. How do you perceive those who are 6-7 years younger than yourself? The 21, 22 year olds? They are also adults, many of them out of college, working, but they have less life experience than you. Would you think of them and treat them as your true equals? You don't know what you don't know. Give yourself time to grow. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 06:05 PM |
| 24 | Poor woman, awful husbandI wouldn't want to be known as anything "tits" to a social group. The fact that her husband is in this group and invites friends of girlfriends, but the wife isn't in the group, is already a huge red flag. If ST stood for sugar tits instead of sausage tits, it would just mean his disrespect is sexualized "complimentary" instead of sexualized degrading. Fuck that noise. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 05:04 PM |
| 38 | Am I weird for this?Even if they're not balding, any man in their mid-30s who is open to dating a woman 5+ years younger is suspect. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 04:41 PM |
| 76 | Ending my relationship because of what I have learned from this subAn abusive ex told me that nobody else was going to love me. For years I believed it. Finally I came to the point where I was like, fine then, I'd rather be alone for the rest of my life than put up with another minute with this. Guess what, I'm so loved now, and the love is way better than the trash that I put up with for so many years. To the OP, you are now free. Here's to a bright, awesome future! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 04:35 PM |
| 19 | Has anyone thought they were an obsessive overthinker and extremely anxious (not to undermine those with anxiety) but it was just because you were in a relationship with a LVM10000% this. Every test I take online now says I'm securely attached. Why? I got rid of all the LV people in my life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 04:20 PM |
| 39 | Poor woman, awful husbandMen's humor is all about negging, denigrating, and putting down other people. They love this kind of humiliating their partner bullshit. My husband and I have been in various social groups over the years where they would try to pit us against each other, prod us to make fun of each other, and ask us to neg each other. For their entertainment, obviously. Neither of us would ever bite. We'd always have each other's back, and I could tell people would always be low key annoyed like "yall are disgus… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 04:09 PM |
| 7 | Looks like Warner Bros has asked JD to resign.Karma is a woman. :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/20 02:51 PM |
| 23 | Pedophile incel mansplains pedophilia in my DMs after my last post.This. When I was in my mid-20s, 17-year-olds literally looked, acted and sounded like children to me. That was when I woke the fuck up and got out of a multi-year relationship with a guy who preyed on me when I was a teenager. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 10:25 PM |
| 86 | Scrote on r/divorce is surprised his wife left him when she caught him watching porn. He refers to women as "random sluts" and thinks his wife should be fine with his porn use since she's hot.There is another lesson here. I tell my kids to not get married before 25 and not have kids before at least 27. The people in this story were married 6 years and had three kids by the time the wife is 28, so before she really fully formed as an adult and realized how her life could have turned out differently. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 03:26 PM |
| 33 | How much of the general public was this douche able to convince to join in his "crusade"?When they met in 2009, she was 23 and he was 46! They moved in together the year after. She wasted her 20s on this disgusting old scrote. "Heard alleged that Depp had been physically and verbally abusive towards her through most of their relationship." It's not surprising when he is that much fking older going after such a young woman. Depp has experienced alcoholism and addiction for much of his life. Depp has stated that he began smoking at age 12 and began using alcohol and drugs shortly ther… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 07:56 PM |
| 26 | Proof that money doesn’t make someone high valueIn the longer version, the guy freaks out and makes a mess of displays nearby after she manages to get away. https://youtu.be/uErIT8YJEuA | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 06:50 PM |
| 3 | Life after finding FDS. (Art by @violetclair on Insta, makes FDS friendly art)I use prescription strength tretinoin that this wonderful lady dermatologist prescribed me. If you don't have good insurance, you can also get it cheaply online from pharmacies outside the US. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/20 04:16 AM |
| 22 | Life after finding FDS. (Art by @violetclair on Insta, makes FDS friendly art)Yes! /r/tretinoin has lots of before and after pictures. My skin didn't have that dramatic of a transformation, but it absolutely helped me with my adult hormonal acne. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/20 10:11 PM |
| 81 | Life after finding FDS. (Art by @violetclair on Insta, makes FDS friendly art)I totally started tretinoin in my 30s and and gained so much more wisdom, partially thanks to FDS! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/20 09:21 PM |
| 7 | Ava Max sings it!Such a coincidence! I was just looking up this song today and watched the video. Love the queen energy! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/20 01:34 AM |
| 6 | ... Huh?The real logic would be for virgins to lose their virginity to each other and gain experience by exploration. That's the healthiest dynamic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/20 04:49 PM |
| 65 | Sante | Relationship Coach on Instagram: “Most men are deeply frustrated by women. They don’t understand how to love these “illogical”, “irrational” beings. Women don’t stay true to…”So many of these "relationship coaches" are not even married and don't have a clue how to have a real, lasting, and healthy relationship. It's like the blind leading the blind. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/20 06:50 PM |
| 29 | People who enable toxic abusers are just as toxic and should also be removed from your lifeI told every guy that I only got with guys that were truly in love with me, and it became a self-fulfilling prophecy. Don't tell any man about any kind of sexual trauma, assault or rape in your life. Tell men you've only ever had the ground you walk on be worshipped. Even if there are things that happened to me that I could look back on and think "that was problematic," I've always been like "whatever." You can't bring a powerful woman down with a measly penis. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/20 05:57 PM |
| 34 | People who enable toxic abusers are just as toxic and should also be removed from your lifeMany people believe in the idea of a "just world" and believe that victims deserve their suffering. In the first of these experiments conducted at the University of Kansas, 72 female participants watched what appeared to be a confederate receiving electrical shocks under a variety of conditions. Initially, these observing participants were upset by the victim's apparent suffering. But as the suffering continued and observers remained unable to intervene, the observers began to reject and devalue… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/20 05:37 PM |
| 83 | People who enable toxic abusers are just as toxic and should also be removed from your lifeThis includes people who "downplay" the abuse, say to you "it wasn't that bad," talk about how you're too "sensitive," or try to get you to "forgive" your abuser and "move on" so they can go back to the status quo. Get rid of all of them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/20 04:54 PM |
| 10 | Love your body moreI'm sorry that happened to you. I can tell you the other side of that coin. I'm also a thin Asian woman, and I grew up in Asia with my relatives telling me I was "chubby," because my older cousin was thinner, lighter-skinned and conformed more to the ideal of beauty there. When I immigrated to the US, my mother, who also grew up in Asia, kept telling me I had a torso "like a bucket" and made me feel fat. I likely had body dysmorphia because I felt fat growing up at around 19 BMI. It took me unti… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/20 03:12 PM |
| 62 | Love your body moreLike you I am east Asian, but I was born in Asia, so I grew up with a totally different societal set of what was considered "beautiful." Then when I immigrated to the west, I realized that there is no way to reconcile the different beauty standards. You can see this in action: https://www.cosmopolitan.com/uk/body/news/a37960/woman-photoshopped-different-countries/ https://www.huffpost.com/entry/photoshop-around-the-world_n_5534062 My personal response was to not wear makeup, not buy lots of clot… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/20 02:53 PM |
| 78 | Reminder: Never EVER build a man up. He will throw it all back in your faceThe husband often loses respect for the stay-at-home wife because she doesn't have the status and power that he feels like his "partner" should have. He can't show her off because she is too exhausted to keep up her wardrobe, her looks, and her resume. I have my two eyes open. There is no such thing as "unconditional love" in this world, except maybe for one's own children. Women have to look out for themselves. "Ride or die" just means you're a doormat, and what happens to doormats? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/20 02:34 PM |
| 11 | The next step to taking away our rights and freedoms as women has been taken. That's why we need FDS more than ever.I'm looking into immigrating to other countries. America might be my home for now, but I refuse to be slow-boiled. “Nothing changes instantaneously: in a gradually heating bathtub you'd be boiled to death before you knew it.” ― Margaret Atwood, The Handmaid's Tale | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/20 02:30 PM |
| 107 | Reminder: Never EVER build a man up. He will throw it all back in your faceDon't ever, ever, ever give up your career for a man. Always have the ability to support yourself, your own retirement account, your own source of money. I kept working through having babies. My career is enough to support the whole family, with full benefits and future growth. Power and money are corrupting influences. Never stop vetting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/20 02:24 PM |
| 60 | Little Mermaid is a pick-meisha who needs FDS and needs to heal her self-esteem.Today I learned! Thank you for the note... made me dig deeper. Rictor Norton, in My Dear Boy: Gay Love Letters through the Centuries, theorizes that The Little Mermaid was written as a love letter by Hans Christian Andersen to Edvard Collin. This is based on a letter Andersen wrote to Collin, upon hearing of Collin's engagement to a young woman, around the same time that the Little Mermaid was written. Andersen wrote "I languish for you as for a pretty Calabrian wench... my sentiments for you ar… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 11:04 PM |
| 223 | Little Mermaid is a pick-meisha who needs FDS and needs to heal her self-esteem.I read that version as a little girl before I saw the Disney version. A lot of these older fairy tales were told as cautionary tales of what *not* to do. The message of the original was: don't change everything about yourself for someone else, and don't accept inconsiderate treatment in the name of love. Also, just because you love him doesn't mean he will marry you. He will marry the girl he really loves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 10:49 PM |
| 12 | What are according to you the top 3 things that make a man addicted to you ?Also you really don't want a man to be "addicted" to you. Only toxic, unhinged men will get "addicted," and it will result in stalking and possibly worse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 08:27 PM |
| 316 | Men are the weakest link. She liked all the comments about breaking up with him, but haven't done anything about itYou can tell a lot about a person just from the way they talk. Pay attention to this guy's voice. If you hear that kind of tone, just run. Run and don't look back. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 02:43 PM |
| 12 | Why you should avoid significantly older men at all costs: 9 ReasonsThe statutory rape guy ended up doing jail time because the parents pressed charges. I just remembered another incident in which my husband (who was then my boyfriend) helped me navigate an awful situation. I was doing some freelance website work for a man who sent me all these images of really young looking girls naked, supposedly "artistic" decorations for the web page. I made the website, and after it went live my husband reported the site so it got taken down. I kind of repressed that memory… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 01:51 AM |
| 90 | Why you should avoid significantly older men at all costs: 9 ReasonsThe younger woman doesn't know what she doesn't know. I was groomed by an older man when I was a teenager, and I thought that toxic and unbalanced relationships were just normal. I got out at 25 because I looked back and realized that 18 year olds seemed so young to me then, and 18 was around the time I moved in with the ex. I was still a kid, and I lost so many years of my youth. Now I'm happily married to a man who is actually a few months younger than me. He had never and would never prey on … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 04:06 PM |
| 26 | You don't owe anyone a chance. You can end an interaction/relationship WITHOUT having to justify your decision.Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better. We all can laugh at our childhood selves for the silly things we said or did because we didn't know any better. Instead of beating yourself up over your former mistakes, realize that you've grown and learned more lessons. Be kind to yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 01:34 AM |
| 6 | My life is like the movie ‘Something Borrowed’ except in the end, I don’t get the guy because life is not a movie.You are living YOUR life, not anyone else's life. Don't compare your life to another's. That is the fastest way to be unhappy with yourself. Your message is correct though. Life is not like the movies. It is way better than the movies. I've never seen a "romantic" movie that comes close to capturing the complexity and depth of a real life connection. I'm not going to tell you that life will become magically fair. But we all create some of our own luck. If what you're doing is not producing the r… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 11:43 PM |
| 90 | You don't owe anyone a chance. You can end an interaction/relationship WITHOUT having to justify your decision.It's always better to leave silently and with your dignity than to write paragraphs about why you are leaving. If they cared, you would not have had to write anything, because they'd have treated you better. So that means they don't care, in which case your words mean nothing and only make you look overly dramatic and needy. Just block and delete, ghost and doorslam, and move on with your head held high! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 09:09 PM |
| 10 | Marriage is an institution based on the alliance between two unequal partners, which requires one partner, the husband, to be dominant and the wife to be subservient in order to function. The premise of the' perfect 'traditional marriage is rooted in the man having all economic control of the familyThe well-educated, upper class families are generally marrying each other and sending their kids to private schools, and they would never have their daughters sell their bodies online -- only prestigious internships or non-profit volunteer work if not paid work. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/20 08:11 PM |
| 22 | Marriage is an institution based on the alliance between two unequal partners, which requires one partner, the husband, to be dominant and the wife to be subservient in order to function. The premise of the' perfect 'traditional marriage is rooted in the man having all economic control of the familyRemember MacKenzie Scott? She helped start Amazon (even helped coin the name), doing bookkeeping and accounting. When Jeff Bezo started having his midlife crisis and an affair, MacKenzie left and got her share of the billions in the divorce. That's what marriage offers as protection. Imagine if she was a forever girlfriend? Their kids are grown, so there would have been little to no child support. This way, she's free and got her share. She's also giving away a ton of her wealth to charity, some… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/20 07:58 PM |
| 54 | BrilliantWomen get worse treatment for doing the same thing that a man does. See this infographic about the double standard for women in leadership: https://www.catalyst.org/research/infographic-the-double-bind-dilemma-for-women-in-leadership/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/20 07:43 PM |
| 62 | Marriage is an institution based on the alliance between two unequal partners, which requires one partner, the husband, to be dominant and the wife to be subservient in order to function. The premise of the' perfect 'traditional marriage is rooted in the man having all economic control of the familyI do understand the sentiment behind the article. However, this is among the modern feminist messaging that makes women willing to be "forever girlfriends" to men. The main issue with modern marriages is that the women picked the wrong men to marry, just like they picked the wrong men to get in relationships with in the first place. Our man-pickers have been collectively broken by socialization and cultural messaging. The truth is, marriage has tons of legal implications that protect both partne… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/20 05:30 PM |
| 20 | What If Friendship, Not Marriage, Was at the Centre of Life?Thank you for posting this article. I don't keep in touch with my bio parents, so the phrase "chosen family" struck a deep chord with me. I've never been jealous of other people's romantic relationships. But I've always been envious of women that have a woman as their best friend for life. I had to move countries as a child and always felt like a bit of an outsider, and I lost my one close girl friend when we attended different colleges. It's harder to make friends when older, as most people hav… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/20 05:09 PM |
| 411 | BrilliantI have way more fun and laughs with women around than with a group of all men. Women are amazingly funny. Most jokes have a bit of mean-spiritedness in them. Historically it has also been dangerous for women to make fun of men, but those are some of the best jokes. Unfortunately, research shows that women may actually be harmed by using humor at work. We can't win, so might as well have some laughs in our own space. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/20 04:34 PM |
| 35 | Ariana Grande’s New Song “positions” 😬Once you realize how much harmful messaging is in pop culture, you see it (and hear it) literally everywhere. If you want an ear cleanse, this is my energy jam these days: F..k That by Bastard! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/20 04:18 PM |
| 34 | Saw this on AITA today. Lady has issues with videogame induced rage yet defends the guy in comments. (Swipe to see)He was 35 and she was 26 when they got together, a red flag right there. He is nearly a decade stunted, and she didn't know it because how could she know what a self-actualized 35-year-old is like when she hasn't been there? She did well by kicking him out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/20 04:04 PM |
| 10 | Saw this on AITA today. Lady has issues with videogame induced rage yet defends the guy in comments. (Swipe to see)They are living in a different reality from the rest of the "real" world. These people have decided that video game accomplishments are more important than working on themselves, their education or career, or keeping up relationships with partners, family and friends. Their brains are rewired to require constant dopamine hits that these games provide. They have their own social "hierarchy" where they elevate people who spend a ton of time in the game world, and those people in turn feel validate… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/20 04:00 PM |
| 11 | Ugh, this is so not funny.Very much this. I considered staying with the awful ex just because he never (to my knowledge) physically cheated on me. But that is the bare minimum. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/20 03:53 PM |
| 59 | All it takes is that one.The way I heard it was: "You can make the most amazing meal ever, and put a little bit of shit into it. Would you still eat it?" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/20 01:27 AM |
| 189 | I'm not sure if this belongs here. This is so disgusting!See this for what it is: triangulation with Caucasian women and Asian women. It has been done to pit women against each other, sowing distrust and division between Caucasian women and African American women, Caucasian women and Native American women, East Asian women and Southeast Asian women, women of different social classes, education standing, weight, looks, even hair colors. Divided we are weaker. Remember the roots of women's unity is international. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 07:47 PM |
| 19 | She says that Successful women have a harder time getting successful men. She says that those men are rare first of all and they don’t want to date you because of your achievements. They want you to be HOT as fuck and pure joy to be around . Thoughts ?There are different types of "high status" as well. It's not all about luxury/club status signaling. The old money people generally would never date or marry new money like you mentioned, the models, actors, soccer players, pro athletes, etc. I know this via the social circles I come into contact with through work/my husband's work: directors, VPs and officers of large companies. They generally have similarly accomplished spouses with graduate degrees, who work in highly technical fields, and ar… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 05:43 PM |
| 17 | "I Can Get Sex Anytime"Men need women much more than women need men. Take away all female attention and interactions from a straight man, including from family and acquaintances, and you often have a psychologically unhinged individual. Take away all male interactions from a woman, and she is often happier and more content. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 08:12 PM |
| 16 | Why it's never 'just a joke', based on science.As fun as it can be to play that game, if I see low value behavior, I just stop engaging. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 07:48 PM |
| 38 | HVW Hitting Some Roadblocks, help me keep leveling up!Instead of the "why not me?" mindset, shift to the "I am me" mindset. You are living your life, not someone else's life. When I was younger, I was envious of other people's lives, and I wanted to have what other people had instead of focusing on my own strength and my own power. I went to school with some extremely talented and brilliant people who went to prestigious universities and got graduate degrees. I went to a top 10 ranked US university, but it wasn't an "Ivy League." Looking back, that… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 03:49 PM |
| 53 | There is way too much wrong in this post. Why do young women allow themselves to be used like this???The age difference is so awful. He's 42 and she's 22. I hope she gets the help she needs. At least she recognizes on some level that what she's doing is unhealthy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 04:53 PM |
| 4 | Con men do.That is so impressive and awesome! You go! <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 02:42 PM |
| 169 | Classic example of scrote stringing his forever girlfriend along. I hope she dumps himAlso never buy a house with a man you aren't married to, as this woman has both a house and a kid with the man. I hope she at least has her name on the house or that their state has some legal protections for the woman in this situation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 02:32 PM |
| 32 | Imagine, your country found your gender so worthless when you were born, your peers were left in ditches to die. Now there's a surge in single lonely men in China & it's your fault for not settling. Oh and a red pill moron is making an example out of you. 😡In China, many kids are raised by their grandparents. I was raised by my maternal grandmother and grandfather until I was 10. Then my mother set up my immigration to the US because I was old enough then to stay home by myself, so she didn't have to pay for childcare. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/20 11:57 PM |
| 145 | If you can’t keep your word, it’s a “no” from meDoing what they said they were going to do is a sign of integrity, a very important character trait. It's also a sign of awareness, ability to plan and follow through, considerate thoughtfulness, discipline, and good future-time-orientation. All of these are high value traits that correlate with success in life, work and relationships. So vet for this, and vet thoroughly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/20 10:51 PM |
| 22 | Imagine, your country found your gender so worthless when you were born, your peers were left in ditches to die. Now there's a surge in single lonely men in China & it's your fault for not settling. Oh and a red pill moron is making an example out of you. 😡Facts! If you have ever watched The Handmaid's Tale, they never blame the man for being sterile, and the word was outlawed. The woman bears all the blame. It's a fictional universe, but what it describes is terrifyingly close to real. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/20 10:45 PM |
| 52 | Imagine, your country found your gender so worthless when you were born, your peers were left in ditches to die. Now there's a surge in single lonely men in China & it's your fault for not settling. Oh and a red pill moron is making an example out of you. 😡Where is the shaming of men who refuse to get educated, more emotionally responsive and level up to be worthy of these highly intelligent and accomplished women? They are the actually leftover men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/20 08:53 PM |
| 85 | Imagine, your country found your gender so worthless when you were born, your peers were left in ditches to die. Now there's a surge in single lonely men in China & it's your fault for not settling. Oh and a red pill moron is making an example out of you. 😡I was allowed to be born only because there was no widespread gender-revealing ultrasounds in China in the 80s. I grew up without a mother or father since I was not a boy. I grew up with this toxic message of how men are better than women. I never dated a man from my culture. I dated African American, Caucasian American, Brazillian, Native American heritage, but not Chinese men, who can take their femicidal ways and shove it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/20 08:52 PM |
| 14 | Choose love not toxic love no matter what!I hate that phrase, too. But these days I think of it as "It's better to have learned a lesson from a shitty relationship and leave it, than to be naive the next time." My eyes are open, and I'm wide awake. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/20 07:00 PM |
| 13 | I'm so thankful I found this sub!So much this! I was groomed by a 21 year old drugged up high school dropout when I was a sophomore in high school, and I didn't manage to escape him until my mid 20s. A decade of my life. My life is awesome now though. There's a Chinese proverb that says: “The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now.” I encourage all the ladies here to plant the seed of self-love as soon as you can! <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 09:34 PM |
| 6 | Male depravity knows NO boundariesThis is why you never stop vetting and prepare yourself mentally and physically to be able to walk away any time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 04:34 PM |
| 31 | Do you trust him to take care of things?Thank you! We met online 11 years ago through a mutual hobby. He was not on any dating sites at the time, and we got to know each other by chatting and phone calls. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 08:12 PM |
| 114 | I never heard women complaining about 18 yo men bodies. Why do they keep doing this?The truly awful thing is that we're at the point where no woman feels good about their bodies, no matter what their body looks like. I was shamed for being "chubby" when I was in China because their standard for thin is much thinner than western standards. Then in the west I was shamed for having a skinny "boy's" body with no boobs or ass. It's about controlling and degrading women. Only when I saw through multiple cultures' lenses of what is considered "attractive" did I realize that it's all s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 09:53 PM |
| 19 | Birth control?It's your body. If you want to get on birth control, that is up to you. But you should also keep using condoms. No one method of birth control is 100% effective. Also, I don't know if you know this, but semen when mixed with vaginal fluid can make you smell like old stinky fish down there. I will also give you the same advice I give to my young kids whose ages are not yet in double digits: Do not get married until you are at least 25. Do not have a baby until you are at least 26. There are biolo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 07:04 PM |
| 84 | An interesting read! Haven’t read the whole book but it certainly sounds intriguing, and will be next on my audible wish list!Words are absolutely powerful. People need to remember that how we talk about things matters. For example, "I'm sorry I did this and hurt you" vs. "I'm sorry you feel hurt." Which one is an actual apology, and which one is a non-apology? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 07:54 PM |
| 22 | Neurochemical reasons why a woman should not sleep with a man until after he has fallen in love with her, and how to train your brain to fall out of love (hint: block and delete scientifically works!)Thank you! I am taking online classes for my graduate degree, so it's a habit when I write. The first time I tried to submit this, reddit removed it as spam, probably because of all the links! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 04:52 AM |
| 72 | Neurochemical reasons why a woman should not sleep with a man until after he has fallen in love with her, and how to train your brain to fall out of love (hint: block and delete scientifically works!)I have a story about this. I was the first love of my first boyfriend from high school. He was always a high quality guy, never crossed any boundaries, was always very sweet and kind, and spent forever on trying to please me and make me happy. We were each other's firsts, and actually it was partially because of him that I didn't even so much as hold hands with someone who didn't genuinely love me. I understand why other women fell for him, since he's tall, attractive, intelligent, well-educated… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 02:36 AM |
| 14 | Neurochemical reasons why a woman should not sleep with a man until after he has fallen in love with her, and how to train your brain to fall out of love (hint: block and delete scientifically works!)Does he say he is in love with you? Do you feel in your gut that he is in love with you? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 02:18 AM |
| 33 | Contrast from most “men” discussed in this sub.One of the commonalities of these really sweet stories is that the woman is the man's first true love, the first woman (aside from his mother) that he truly gave his heart to fully. He should be the one to fall in love first. In women, oxytocin tends to continue to be released after sex, whereas the same is not true of men. Therefore, unless his feelings were already strong and powerful before sex, they will not grow after sex, whereas her feelings will grow each time after sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 11:09 PM |
| 332 | My boyfriend destroyed my 7 year old Bonsai treeIt is not borderline abuse. Damaging or destroying the partner's personal property is absolutely abuse. https://mainweb-v.musc.edu/vawprevention/research/defining.shtml | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 04:47 PM |
| 30 | Another reason to ditch OLD: Tinder refuses to remove literal rapists from their app, high percentage of female users sexually assaultedThere are no real protections anywhere online. You are the only one that can protect yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 09:26 PM |
| 10 | Women are restricted in self expression. Wdyt?If you can't be yourself around friends, then they're not close friends. Nothing wrong with having acquaintances, I have lots of them. You should look to form close, genuine friendships. Data from a brand new study (Degges-White, in review) of adults from their thirties to their seventies makes it clear that the number of close friends we need to feel that we have enough is somewhere between three and five. Not only that, but adults with four or five friends enjoy the highest levels of life sati… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 05:46 AM |
| 21 | Needing support: I was sexual harassed on at a Ayahuasca spiritual event by a narcissistic sociopath and I fought back!/Virtual hugs. I am sorry you went through that awful experience. With people like that, you have to not react, not engage, be ice cold and ignore them. I developed this attitude when I was a college student in a major city. There would be all kinds of homeless people, creeps and crazy people wandering the streets, and sometimes they would try to follow me. I learned that the best thing to do is to not even turn your head, walk faster into more people, and let them go mess with someone else. Don… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 09:55 PM |
| 48 | Mugshots of 8 of the right wing terrorists who plotted to kidnap the governor of Michigan, Gretchen Whitmer, who is a woman. Nobody is talking about this, but would they have tried to kidnap a male governor? I think we women know the likely answer.I didn't even know who the governor of Michigan was, but when I saw the headline I just had this feeling the governor is a woman. Of course. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 06:47 PM |
| 114 | Mugshots of 8 of the right wing terrorists who plotted to kidnap the governor of Michigan, Gretchen Whitmer, who is a woman. Nobody is talking about this, but would they have tried to kidnap a male governor? I think we women know the likely answer.I originally made the post NSFW because I didn't want to look at their faces longer than a few seconds. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 06:12 PM |
| 11 | FDS, crushes, and redirecting your resourcesI've worked in offices for 15+ years. People notice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 03:19 PM |
| 1 | What else should be in the FDS Handbook?Here are some awesome posts! https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/izylyt/protect_your_womb_like_its_the_last_thing_you_do/ https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/imkv32/fds_is_so_judgemental_yes_and_we_are_proud_of_it/ https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/fgmqcm/women_have_the_trump_card_and_men_know_it/ https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/iwfi5z/the_myth_of_the_modern_housewife/ https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 02:54 PM |
| 15 | FDS, crushes, and redirecting your resourcesIt messes up your work and career. People will notice when you flirt, and it is unprofessional. Even if you switch jobs, you might get bad references if you didn't act professionally while you were there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 02:45 PM |
| 59 | Sis, just leave during the dateToilet Rolls on Parade *But really The Red Pill | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 02:07 PM |
| 11 | Grateful for my dad ❤Hey, I just want to tell you that you are so strong and amazing. Here are a few things you may want to do: Change all passwords and manually log out of all accounts (clear all history and cookies on your browser). Browse with incognito mode if you are looking up resources, lawyers, etc. Collect all of your documents (birth certificate, bills, etc.), and pack a bug out bag with all of your essentials in case things escalate. Forward all mail to your new address if you are moving. Change all your … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 10:11 PM |
| 8 | Ladies married with a HVM, could you please let us know how this positively impacted your life?Thank you. <3 I still can't watch shows that have any kind of baby loss in it without breaking down. The beginning sequence of Up just shredded me. The movie was released a few months after I had the stillbirth, and we watched it in the theaters. I was not prepared. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 09:25 PM |
| 28 | Ladies married with a HVM, could you please let us know how this positively impacted your life?When I was younger I was a very self-conscious pickme. I told my husband (then just a man I was talking to) that I liked the man being the powerful and dominant one. What he said in return, word-for-word: you also have great power and should not be "subordinate" to me.. only "co-ordinate" :D He believed in me more than I believed in myself, until I healed enough to feel whole on my own. He saw how brilliantly my light could shine, helped me put back together my self-esteem, and supported my leve… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 06:30 PM |
| 25 | Beware of men who use idioms like "when I want to learn to fish I ask the fisherman, not the trout"Touché, and yes benevolent sexism can be even worse because on the surface it is "nice." I suspect that's why a lot of women don't want to be "provided for" but go too far in the other direction of insisting on 50/50. It's a difficult thing to navigate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 03:36 PM |
| 51 | Beware of men who use idioms like "when I want to learn to fish I ask the fisherman, not the trout"On the flip side (and maybe I shouldn't say this too loudly in case there are lurkers who will use this to pretend), one potential green flag is a man who uses protective language towards others who aren't as strong as him. This is what will describe a true HVM: "Be strong, but not rude; be kind, but not weak; be bold, but not a bully; be thoughtful, but not lazy; be humble, but not timid; be confident, but not arrogant; have humor, but without folly." I have known very few men who even aspire t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 03:09 PM |
| 11 | My dad's dating adviceAlso how you know "sex work is empowering" is a load of bullshit for women: There is no father in the world who loves her daughter that would want her to go into sex work. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 02:55 PM |
| 10 | please take the time to watch this 1 minute video on reactive abuse.Experience has taught me that when in conflict with men, there is no way for me to come out on top except to not engage. That experience involved way too many years with a horrible man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 02:45 PM |
| 2 | I need some advice"he can only come in during the night to sneak in" Um you're probably the side chick... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 11:20 PM |
| 22 | FDS Strategy today vs courting beforeI would be careful constructing arguments based on the past, because the counter-arguments are along the lines of "where is my young virgin?" and "where is my dowry?" Absolutely ask for a certain standard in courtship, but do it based on "this is how to vet men" not based on "this is how it was done in the past." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 10:19 PM |
| 103 | FDS Strategy today vs courting beforeIt might sound good based on fictional books and movies, but I would caution you to not glorify the past. Better to read real history than idealized versions of history. Behind the courtship process was families pulling strings, dowry, and bride price all tied with the idea of female purity and virginity. The woman also had essentially no power and was practically cattle sold off to the man's family. Divorce initiated by women was impossible, and there was no law against rape or abuse in a marri… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 09:26 PM |
| 14 | Sick of people comparing romantic love to the kind you have for your family or friendsThat is awesome! It takes a long time to deprogram yourself after leaving a bad situation. It took me many years after moving out from my mother's house to have the courage to cut her out of my life completely. I had nightmares for years after leaving the abusive ex. You can't just straighten yourself out overnight, but every step you take, every decision you take, can lead you towards a better, healthier life. Right now what people say can send you into a panic, but some day you will look back … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 09:09 PM |
| 27 | Sick of people comparing romantic love to the kind you have for your family or friendsDid you know that in ancient Greece, rich and powerful men all had sex with young, teenage boys? And that was considered natural and healthy? Who cares "what men want"? What do you want? Stop focusing on pleasing others and straighten that spine out. You are the one living your life, not anyone else. You don't have to stay in the religion you were raised with. I was raised in east Asia, and I don't care about that culture because of the female infanticide and rampant misogyny. I don't stay in co… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 09:02 PM |
| 45 | The men's rights movement is growing and it's terrifyingI remember being scared about redpill/pua/mgtow stuff when I first found it online years ago. Their schpiel about alpha/beta, negging, SMV, women hitting the wall at 25, etc. are all designed to instill fear and make women settle. For a time I thought I'd better stay with the horrible abusive ex even though I wasn't in love with him. Then I woke up and got out of there, because I realized I would rather be alone for the rest of my life than live in misery with an awful guy. How old was I? 25. Wi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 05:08 PM |
| 3 | Why Online Dating is Awful and Makes People Feel AwfulHave you watched The Good Place? It's such a good and light-hearted take on moral ethics. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 03:55 PM |
| 29 | When they can no longer control you, they will trash talk you to the world. Keep on keeping on and ignore the toxic people.This applies to the whole FDS sub, too. I have never found a group of more uplifting, positive and confident ladies, and I believe that the truths expressed here will be seen and understood more and more. <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 03:48 PM |
| 127 | Found on fbThis is actually a good way to find out whether he's emotionally intelligent. If you find yourself laughing at his jokes frequently, he knows how to read a room and can make you feel good with his humor, that means he is likely to have high emotional intelligence. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 02:59 PM |
| 14 | An advanced Pickme spotted in the wild, commenting unironically:Even in a committed relationship, you can put in more effort when getting out in nature. My husband takes me on *real* field dates. Thousands of dollars for us to take vacations to beautiful places and stay in hotels close to state and national parks, because he knows I hate camping/slumming it in RVs. Back before covid, expensive dinners in restaurants with gorgeous views of mountains, lakes and canyons. Thousands of dollars in camera equipment for both of us because he knows I enjoy photograph… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 02:41 PM |
| 32 | Why Online Dating is Awful and Makes People Feel AwfulYeah, it's really tough right now. The couple I know that is getting married met because they both work at the same place that employs a few thousand people, and they were in different departments. They met at the beginning of the year before the pandemic hit, and they quarantined together. Some suggestions I've seen for meeting people (but that aren't super doable during the pandemic): Volunteering Community races Amateur sports team Running clubs Dance/gym classes Art/language classes Continui… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 08:51 PM |
| 95 | Why Online Dating is Awful and Makes People Feel AwfulSome further thoughts regarding online dating: Paradox of Choice: The more choices we have, the more difficult choosing can be. When people are presented too many options, they ultimately choose nothing. Then, even when people do choose, they're always looking out for better options (fear of missing out/FOMO). I suspect men who don't participate in online dating at all are much less likely to cheat, because they've never even had the experience of swiping on a bunch of women in an app. Hatfishin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 06:21 PM |
| 21 | "Going with the flow" is bsI'm proud of being a prude. I knew that casual sex was a losing game. The very few guys I've allowed to even hold hands with me have demonstrated real feelings for me and were in love with me. You do you, because nobody else is living your life. You are. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 03:31 PM |
| 234 | Imagine being pregnant and not allowed to use a chair. Just when you think you've seen it all. And most people are voting NTA which makes it even worse, most YTA are getting downvoted!? Poor girl.Not wife. "Girlfriend." Women really need to stop having their boy friends' babies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 12:41 AM |
| 22 | How to go about dating as an avoidant type?People often forget that the theory of attachment was a theory first used to describe children's attachment to caregivers. It was also used to shame and guilt working mothers, as the theory primarily focuses on mothers as the usual attachment figure. I always thought I was doomed to be insecurely attached until I met someone who is honest, kind and emotionally responsive. Now every "test" I take says I'm securely attached. Being treated well helped transform me into a confident, secure person, w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 12:03 AM |
| 215 | Imagine being pregnant and not allowed to use a chair. Just when you think you've seen it all. And most people are voting NTA which makes it even worse, most YTA are getting downvoted!? Poor girl.6 months pregnant "girlfriend." Carries a gaming chair outside to sit on it because no furniture. Gamer chair guy "mentally exhausted" and goes to reddit to assure himself he's totally in the right to not spend anything on girlfriend. Ladies, read this cautionary tale. This is how they think of you when you have his babies without the legal protection of marriage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 11:57 PM |
| 77 | How to go about dating as an avoidant type?Being vulnerable is foolish for women. When people tell women to be vulnerable, it's telling her to make herself easy prey for a predator. The reason you are avoidant and have a hard time opening up is because you haven't found the right person, and your gut instinct knows it. Your intuition is a gift. Listen to it. I've felt exactly what you felt regarding people opening up to me and feeling turned off. They were awful people waving their red flags at me because I made them feel like I was so k… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 06:26 PM |
| 23 | Beware of the “meet cute” guys.Most "romantic" movies are not cute or romantic. The way those movies portray everything related to romance, from the meeting, the chase, the fights, the resolution... it's usually awful and rife with problems. These movies often portray love as something that "just happens," and that relationships require no effort because you're "so in love." What happens once that burning passion at the beginning is gone? Rom-coms also sends the message to women that self-fulfillment and self-worth can only b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 03:02 PM |
| 21 | Why you should never date gamersThere is a neuroscience research paper that looked at the brains of both men and women who have been diagnosed with Internet Gaming Disorder, so even women who are playing too much. The study showed lower brain activity in the superior frontal gyrus, an area of the brain’s prefrontal lobe that is important to impulse control. The women with Internet Gaming Disorder did not exhibit any of these brain alterations. https://www.medscape.com/viewarticle/905890 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 04:14 PM |
| 1 | The biggest danger to a woman's life is a manHow terrifying. I'm sorry to hear that. I am fairly close to a woman, who told me a story about a guy who stalked her in high school by literally going to her window at her house. Years later, after she's been with her partner for over 25 years and has grown children, this guy just showed up to her son's football game and told her that he still thinks she's special because they grew up on the same street and share the same birthdate. She does not talk to him, but he still tries to contact her an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 05:52 PM |
| 11 | Random dating advice on the Prepping sub? They know what's up and majority of comments tell the girl to dump her boyfriend!You were definitely smart to stock up beforehand. I should have been paying more attention, but luckily I'm with a man who had it covered. My husband was influenced by his parents to prep. We never ran out of supplies during the peak of the covid shutdown, especially when everybody was worried about toilet paper. He also keeps us with a supply of drinking water, long-term food storage, and other supplies. There are ways to take it a bit farther, which my in-laws do. They live completely off-the-… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 03:23 PM |
| 23 | This is what I’m saying next time a LVM interrupts meI changed my mind about Biden's speech patterns when I found out that he was born with a stutter, and sometimes he repeats words or says weird things to get over the stuttering. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 02:52 PM |
| 61 | Nahh, she went on a second date with this guy 🤢I don't even clean my kids' shoes. When my husband gets tired of their dirty shoes, he takes them into the yard and hoses them off. I taught the kids to clean up after themselves, wash their hands frequently, clean up the dinner table, wash the dishes, and vacuum the floor. My sons are both single digit in age! Women need to stop enabling grown men when it comes to basic cleanliness. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 02:36 AM |
| 22 | HVM Noam Chomsky 👌🏻I personally don't like the rule, especially for younger ages. But my opinion is that usually after the woman has reached mid-30s to 40 it's okay. Not surprisingly, this is also around the age that people say women hit the "wall." Of course, she's wiser in the ways of the world and would not pass for a child, so pedos don't want her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 07:04 PM |
| 34 | Good morning FDS"The problem with the world is that the intelligent people are full of doubt, while the stupid people are full of confidence." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 06:59 PM |
| 25 | Lady posts HER side of the story, reveals that BF made a reddit post where he lied about her cheating, leaving out the parts where HE cheated first... She reveals what we already know: Women who cheat on their S/O typically do so because the S/O cheated first. Why be faithful to a cheater?It's so important for us to see the woman's side of the story. People need to know that when women cheat, it's typically because the man cheated first. I've also seen instances of someone saying their GF/Wife cheated, when what she ACTUALLY did was dump him/divorce him and move on with someone else. They recount THAT as "cheating" and conveniently leave out the part where she was single/divorced and free to date anyone. Preach it! My ex did exactly this 11 years ago when I moved out and started … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 05:08 PM |
| 17 | Don't ever move for a manPast behavior is the best predictor of future behavior. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 04:14 PM |
| 10 | Roll call! HVWs partnered with HVMs: what does your relationship look like?Early on, I did feel strongly that he was amazing, but I didn't think he was "the one." I had just gotten out of a terrible long-term relationship, so my mindset was "I'd rather be alone than with the wrong person." I did not put up with bad behavior, and I was vigilant about any potential red flags. I think he fell in love with me earlier than I fell for him. I kept myself in check because I was wary and didn't want to jump in and make mistakes, especially not before meeting him in person and s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 03:52 PM |
| 2 | FDS Approved Must-Have Products??I've been doing lots of research about sunscreens, and so far these are the ones I've considered but didn't buy: Supergoop Unseen Sunscreen Australian Gold Botanical Sunscreen EltaMD UV Elements Tinted Face Moisturizer Etude House Sunprise Mild Airy Finish Sun Milk Purito Comfy Water Sun Block SPF50 I am currently using Purito Centella Green Level Unscented Sun SPF50. It is cosmetically elegant, but some people say it doesn't provide enough sun protection. I haven't decided what I will try next … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 03:38 PM |
| 146 | Roll call! HVWs partnered with HVMs: what does your relationship look like?I have been married to my husband for 10 and half years, and we met 11 and half years ago. Yes, we got married quickly. He proposed to me 6 months after we met, and we got married a little over a year after we met. I was kind of broken with a lot of issues, but I got exceptionally lucky. When I first met him, we were online and several states apart. He had just returned from being in Peace Corps in Ghana, Africa, where he taught math to kids in a remote village. After that, he was doing AmeriCor… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 12:28 AM |
| 6 | FDS Approved Must-Have Products??Sorry to be the bearer of bad news. :/ I did a lot of research on this subject a few years back, and I got rid of all products with fragrances. I use unscented shampoo, conditioner, lotion, facewash, laundry detergent, and I threw out all the perfume I had bought. I also don't wear any makeup, don't dye my hair and don't wear nail polish. https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2019/may/23/fragrance-perfume-personal-cleaning-products-health-issues More than 1,200 fragrance chemicals currently in use… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 10:42 PM |
| 8 | FDS Approved Must-Have Products??The Biore Watery Essence has methylparaben as an ingredient, and the sunscreen filter is octinoxate, which has been known to be absorbed into the bloodstream and act as an endocrine disruptor. http://www.cosdna.com/eng/cosmetic_6252529702.html http://www.safecosmetics.org/get-the-facts/chemicals-of-concern/octinoxate/ http://news.berkeley.edu/2015/10/27/lotion-ingredient-paraben-may-be-more-potent-carcinogen-than-thought/ My opinion is that it is best to avoid endocrine disruptors if possible. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 09:40 PM |
| 0 | FDS Approved Must-Have Products??Unfortunately it has parabens. :/ http://www.cosdna.com/eng/cosmetic_58ba465780.html I go through ingredients for every product I use to avoid endocrine disruptors. http://news.berkeley.edu/2015/10/27/lotion-ingredient-paraben-may-be-more-potent-carcinogen-than-thought/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 09:35 PM |
| 23 | Dr Karin discusses the question, 'What if I never find my person?'I asked myself that when I was young and left the ex of many years. I finally came to a frame of mind that I would rather be alone for the rest of my life than be stuck in a horrible relationship. The mantra that got me through that time was the Bene Gesserit Litany Against Fear: I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner ey… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 03:47 PM |
| 9 | Why couples counseling doesn't work with an abuserWhen I was leaving the horrible ex who preyed on me (he met me when I had just turned 15), he asked for couples counseling and tried to make me feel guilty for leaving without "giving it a chance." Society tells people to "fight" to save their relationships, but most are not relationships worth saving! A normal adult backs out and doesn't pursue any kind of relationship with an underage child when they have been informed by the child that they are underage. I woke up when I got older and realize… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 09:50 PM |
| 137 | Male delusion is realThe only man I've heard say something good in the wolf/sheep analogy is my husband of over 10 years. He would compare himself to a sheepdog. The way he put it, sheepdogs are loyal, guard the flock, are protective but not helpless. They can fend off the wolves. He was wearing a mask during the covid pandemic before the mask mandate here. Meanwhile, our presumably right-wing male neighbor texted him a meme about how mask wearers are sheep. 🤦 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 02:43 PM |
| 8 | I “ built a man up” and now I know why a lot of women refuse to do so anymore.I'm sorry to hear that. I would have been devastated if that happened to my husband, whom I consider my true friend and soulmate. In the past few years, he got several promotions and became a boss/director along with a coworker who was also on his same level. My husband feels kind of conflicted about his large increases in salary, fights for his employees to get better raises, and even gave up some of his bonus to give his team members bigger bonuses. While my husband kept his ethical character,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 06:28 PM |
| 32 | I’m (19f) pregnant due to my lvm bf (20m) his reaction to finding out was so upsettingI've had several abortions, though none of them were what people traditionally think of as "elective abortion." It sucks, they are painful, but the earlier you do it, the more it's like a period. We women are stronger than society makes us believe we are. Do not be scared of the word abortion. I had an ectopic pregnancy that had to be terminated. I had have to have procedures even though I was already miscarrying. Pregnancies that are not viable ending in miscarriage are called spontaneous abort… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 03:42 PM |
| 9 | Men hating astrology and tarot, ect.On the inverse of that, men who are into that stuff can be faking it, or using spirituality to manipulate. Be careful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 08:44 PM |
| 13 | My sister taught me that every woman cannot be saved, and I have to accept it we all should.I am sorry to hear that. I do think there is no point in rescuing those who do not want it. The analogy would be trying to pull someone up -- if the person wants to keep going down, there's nothing you can really do to pull them up, and they might even pull you down with them. Only those who are actively trying to get up can be helped up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 07:40 PM |
| 48 | My experience as a 33 old woman on Tinder - The wall is a lieYes. I was one of those vulnerable young women. On my 15th birthday, a guy who was 7 years older than me started grooming me online, and I was with him physically from when I was 17 until 25. Any time I see someone saying that older women are just "jealous" or "catty" towards younger women for "getting" that older man, I see it for exactly what it is. Those abusive predators are going for naivete, and having been one of those literal children that was abused, I want to warn and protect those you… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 05:17 PM |
| 112 | My experience as a 33 old woman on Tinder - The wall is a lieWhen I was 25, I read that was the age when the Red Pill misogynists said the "wall" was for women, because men prefer women aged 24 and younger. I read all of their awful spewing and said to myself, so what if I'm going to be alone for the rest of my life, I'd rather be alone than with the shitty guy I was with (long story there) or any of these types of guys who subscribe to these horrible ideas. I will always be thankful for that moment when I woke up and gained clarity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 04:46 PM |
| 110 | BlowjobsI'll mention a few green flags from my husband of over ten years. When we first started having conversations about sex, before we did anything physically, he said he was not really into blowjobs. I asked why. He responded, "I usually don't like being sucked because I don't want my partner to feel 'subservient.' I'm very cautious about it, if that makes sense?" I said sort of. He clarified, " I don't want the girl to be doing something she doesn't enjoy just to pleasure me." When I said I liked g… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 03:16 PM |
| 53 | If you feel the need to start playing games to get his attention, it’s time to cut him off.One of my favorite things to say to my two young sons: "Play stupid games, win stupid prizes." I started saying this when they were hitting each other and getting hurt, but it applies to so many other areas of life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 09:23 PM |
| 82 | My LV ex crept back in to my life to suggest we sign an agreement, with actual terms, to be friends with benefits...I never watched the show, but the show's very premise made me gag. I was attracted to intelligent men, but they needed to have high EQ to have a chance with me. The glorification of low EQ men in popular media is such a turn-off. A tangent to your tangent, as a teenager I watched Buffy, which was sold as a very empowering show for young women. It wasn't until I got older that I realized how that show warped my perception of older man / young high school girl dynamics. I stopped watching TV after… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 07:52 PM |
| 15 | 'THIS IS PARIS' Paris Hilton documentary on YouTube...shows how she was manipulated and pressured into filming sex by an older man at 18It’s not our fault that a woman’s social standing goes down after we have sex, while a man's goes up. We're subjected to this indoctrination that permeates all levels of society. Good on Paris for turning what must have been a horrible experience into something that empowered her public brand. She leaned into her fame and made a fuckton of money. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 06:18 PM |
| 12 | “I heard that in Asia, if women can’t cook well they can’t get married. Is that true?” he said. And then this conversation. He is overseas born Asian. What a huge turn off.I am also a naturalized Asian American, born in Asia and immigrated when I was young. I grew up in a very sexist time, and my sperm donor father checked out the moment I was born, because I was not a boy. This was just before widespread ultrasounds and rampant abortion of female fetuses. It took me many years to undo the psychological damage of my mother telling me that if I had been a boy, my father wouldn't have divorced her (at a time when divorce was a huge taboo). One of the reasons I love … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 10:55 PM |
| 8 | Queen-to-Queen check-in: how does your gut feel around him?Good on you for listening to your gut! I wish I had done that with an ex of many years, but I was literally a child when I met him (the night of my 15th birthday), and he was a grown man (21 years old) and a predator. He did the disappearing act a lot and constantly gave me anxiety. My instincts were screaming at me even when I was 17 to get out, but like a slow-boiled frog I stayed. I stayed when he yelled at me, I stayed when he cheated on me, I stayed when he guilted me, and I stayed when he … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 10:38 PM |
| 36 | FDS is definitely in support of women getting free or discounted things from men. Let him serve you while you accept graciously.The most high value men I have met in my life were those who performed acts of service without any expectation of return. When I met my husband of over 10 years, he had just returned from being in Peace Corps in Ghana, Africa, where he taught math to kids in a remote village. After that, he was doing AmeriCorps and managing a local non-profit to provide computers to underprivileged kids before starting graduate school. He didn't do these things to get into grad school (didn't have to) or to look… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 04:12 PM |
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