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| 12 | An Ode to Living AloneThis is my "Mine and mine only" list: - MY laundry. I don't have to wash a guy's things or worry about him throwing my clothes in the washer if I go out and leave things there to wash . - My wardrobe gets the dedicate closet and drawer space it deserves. The same goes for my bathroom. - I'm the only one eating my food :D - If my space is a mess, it is my mess, and I will clean it when I feel like it. - My own schedule. If I want to rent a movie or watch TV, I'll stay up as long as I want to. - M… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/22 07:09 PM |
| 2 | An Ode to Living AloneYessss to all of this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/22 06:46 PM |
| 25 | An Ode to Living AloneThe "on" is such a great way to describe it. The "appeal" of living with a guy has never appealed to me. I have only ever lived with my parents and the three of us all respected each other's time, belongings, and space. My parents have been the best example of how it works to live with a spouse, not this "playing house" charade. When my mom hasn't been feeling well, tired, or just not in the mood to entertain, my dad never "poked" at my mom. Aside from this space, I have heard from more than one… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/22 06:45 PM |
| 3 | From another sub. So the girls are working all day while their useless boyfriends just hang there?I will offer a different take based on my own experience. A previous co-worker - who was a new hire at the time - met this girl on Facebook. He was heavily reliant on her to pick him up from work and just in general (he had over $1,600.00 in tickets that he racked up and "it made more sense" that he didn't own a car). LV, I know. She, on the other hand, used Suboxone and Percocet on a regular basis to get high. Guess who was regularly giving him rides home? Me. I was trying to help him out, but … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/22 04:55 PM |
| 21 | Reminder: Men will keep you around for however long is convenient for them - even if they’re not that into you. Break up at the first sign of his disinterest because he will NOT do it for you. 3rd slide is a commenter.> However this is likely how the majority see their live-in gfs. As time goes on, more and more I have found that guys care more about the financial perk than the relationship. They sell it as, "The next step", but really, it's everything that FDS documents on here. Bangmaid, live-in, etc. None of this is a compliment to the woman. My parents talked about this: My dad never wanted to live with any of his girlfriends. He wanted his space. My mom never lived with any boyfriends, yet she had many f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/22 02:05 AM |
| 18 | Reminder: Men will keep you around for however long is convenient for them - even if they’re not that into you. Break up at the first sign of his disinterest because he will NOT do it for you. 3rd slide is a commenter.All he wants are the additional funds and company when he can't get his dick wet elsewhere. I had just met a guy who outwardly was very well groomed and had just settled into a great career (or so he portrayed). He acted interested, then asked me what I was looking for. Obviously I answered a relationship, then I batted the proverbial ball back to him. His answer? "A girl I can move into my house after month in and take care of me". I laughed in his face. I told him that good luck with finding a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/22 01:54 AM |
| 113 | What options are there for kicking out a LVM who refuses to leave?Is she in the US or another country? This question is a bit above this sub's paygrade. Since she owns this property, the most feasible option she could ever do is to consult a lawyer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/22 10:28 PM |
| 3 | Why you shouldn't have a FWB> Men who think this kind of behaviour is brag-worthy... I don't disagree, especially with questioning the validity. Your statement reminds me of my boyfriend's co-worker. This guy has bragged about having as many as eight women who he fucks, ditches, then replaces. Lather, rinse, repeat. I asked my boyfriend if he knew the longest amount of time his co-worker stayed with someone. He didn't have an answer, but it made me skeptical if his co-worker was drawing from different periods of time and p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/22 03:06 AM |
| 6 | Why you shouldn't have a FWBI had a similar scenario once, but I got a huge slap in the face with reality that I wasn't the "only one" when he texted me, "Tonight I went out with someone and had a lot of fun!" I wanted to cry because I really liked him. I remember saying to the effect of, "Well, I'll leave you to it" and left it at that. He came crawling back, but I never got that out of my head. I wanted more, but he wanted to know he could fall back on me. Also, who else was he screwing around with? I certainly didn't wa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/22 02:57 AM |
| 7 | Why you shouldn't have a FWB> pum pum BARF. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/22 02:48 AM |
| 24 | In defense of being a “square.” My take on “corny” Russell Wilson and CiaraHahaha, overgrown rapper. These podcasters crack me up. They think they are part of this boys' club where they try to pass off their cockiness and ideologies as "rules to live by". Nevermind character, oh no, don't judge someone on character. Honor them for how much money they have. That is the pedestal he is putting Future on because if he had Future's money, he is admitting that he would have done the same to Ciara or any woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/22 11:10 PM |
| 14 | In defense of being a “square.” My take on “corny” Russell Wilson and CiaraHahaha Once again, a glaring example of giving a man a free pass, or, a "penis pass". The archaic viewpoint of keeping a wife at home and a mistress in another place has not died. Oh, but if women adopted this practice, we are evil succubi. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/22 11:00 PM |
| 28 | Living With MenOof, I hope your friend sees the light. Her constant enabling of this guy will eventually bite her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/22 10:36 PM |
| 76 | Living With MenThis is also a direct quote from *Why Men Love Bitches* by Sherry Argov. My mom has always, always impressed on me the value of one's own space. It is much better for a relationship when you are dating that you don't live with the person. I tell her about FDS and she loves it. She always voices how these "marriage trial runs" existed in her friend group and how badly it turned out for the woman. One of the most memorable things that my mom told me is how in her era (60s-70s) that men openly used… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/22 10:34 PM |
| 15 | This example is pick-me nonsense. Stop faking it ladies. There is no such thing as “taking too long”. Men expect orgasms regularly, why can’t we? If you had fun, but didn’t get to climax - you can still tell him you didn’t finish, had a good time & would appreciate him doing more in figuring it out.Guys seem to think women are hard up for sex. In reality, it's the opposite. Guys will force your boundaries because they are so hot to get ass. If you stand firm, you're a prude. (rolls eyes). I can't orgasm more than once. One and I'm done and anything beyond that to "force" that by someone is uncomfortable and painful for me. Also, asking right out the gate if you are a squirter. The term makes me want to vomit and somehow I've encountered tons of (pornsick) guys who are like, "Do you squirt,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/22 06:20 PM |
| 19 | This example is pick-me nonsense. Stop faking it ladies. There is no such thing as “taking too long”. Men expect orgasms regularly, why can’t we? If you had fun, but didn’t get to climax - you can still tell him you didn’t finish, had a good time & would appreciate him doing more in figuring it out.Once I had a guy tell me that he wanted us to fuck for 8 hours straight. I was like, "I'm sorry to inform you that the idea of that doesn't turn me on." His response: "Well, I was this this girl 10 years ago and that's how long we did it for". I told him he killed my orgasms permanently. It was a bold-faced lie if there ever was one! In what realm did he think that was going to motivate me? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/22 06:05 PM |
| 34 | Why you should NEVER accept a 50/50 relationship: THIS. Imagine how life is if she just stay single and work on her business alone.This is why you don't say "yes" to men. Act that you are so enamored with them where you are literally bowing at his feet and he will use every opportunity to emotionally and financially cripple you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 03:34 AM |
| 9 | My morning tea- How can men be so oblivious?I share the same mindset especially where skincare is concerned. No guy is throwing me off of my routine, nor is he going to rub his face all over mine when I have gone through the trouble of applying my face and eye creams. ICK. Before FDS, being propositioned for sex at the third date mark set the intentions of the guy. If he pressed it after I said no, I didn't want to continue with him. However, most guys I dated respected me more because I wasn't eager to have sex with him. After we did sle… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 03:23 AM |
| 29 | How I sleep at night knowing no man is cheating on me, lying, hiding things, scheming for ways to undermine me / get my money, drooling over instapics of another woman, watching porn, dragging me to his buddies...!So much this! My entire space is my sanctuary. There is no worry about his garments mixed in with mine, stealing my charger, or just being an overall pain in the ass to me when all I want to do is sleep. Speaking of the pillows, I use the Silk brand pillowcases, and you know no man is going to invest in those! I would rather be in my clean sheets and laying on my mulberry silk pillowcases instead of his regular sheets that were washed God-knows-when. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 03:09 AM |
| 26 | How I sleep at night knowing no man is cheating on me, lying, hiding things, scheming for ways to undermine me / get my money, drooling over instapics of another woman, watching porn, dragging me to his buddies...!I can count on less than half a hand how many times I slept over a boyfriend's house. A vacation was the exception, but other than that, my personal preference is my own bed. The main reason I was never keen on "spending the night(s)" is because I relish my "me" time. See him for a block of time, then we both go home to our separate places. It's also why when the idea was presented to me of "Let's live together!" that it was totally polarizing and without fail I respond, "I don't live with peopl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 03:03 AM |
| 36 | "Moving the goalpost" at its finest. Nothing good comes of long-term relationship, especially ones with wife benefits and no future in sight. At this point, this guy is enjoying making his girlfriend BUST for a ring while he blows money on a boat. A BOAT.That part got me. Like the adage about being told to jump off a bridge and asking "how high?", he has had a ball with toying with her, yet she is the supposed headcase. Being abused by a narcissist has put her in this position. And no way is his ass helping her with the cost! A truly good doctor or therapist will help you get out safely. Her progress has been hindered by her staying in the toxic situation and defending this guy up and down, so does the doctor have any choice but to not prescribe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/22 05:07 PM |
| 34 | "Moving the goalpost" at its finest. Nothing good comes of long-term relationship, especially ones with wife benefits and no future in sight. At this point, this guy is enjoying making his girlfriend BUST for a ring while he blows money on a boat. A BOAT.Guys like this are problematic as a whole. They rebound and love bomb the next one to seem like this "amazing" guy who got away. If not shortly after locking down the new woman, these same behaviors will reemerge sooner rather than later. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/22 03:28 PM |
| 95 | "Moving the goalpost" at its finest. Nothing good comes of long-term relationship, especially ones with wife benefits and no future in sight. At this point, this guy is enjoying making his girlfriend BUST for a ring while he blows money on a boat. A BOAT.Begging for a future from a guy never ends well. Case in point with OP: She is with a guy who would rather spend money on a boat instead of an engagement ring. He makes fake promises for getting engaged, then when she gets upset because "it hasn't happened", he verbally abuses her. Don't let yourself get into this situation to the point where it costs you your own self-esteem and mental health. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/22 06:08 AM |
| 6 | Where do men go to find the audacity? What kind of good man is this? Is this the standard? Because if so, then sorry to this man. 33 and childish with his priorities out of order. What an embarrassment. Feel sorry for that baby.I totally agree with laughing in shock, too! I think we're all reeling from this nuke. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/22 04:11 AM |
| 334 | Man withholds a 12.5K bonus from his SAHM wife because she didnt share the 200$ she made on Etsy (the first time in 7 years she earned anything). Be careful not to marry miserly men who loathe you.This guy is also the sort of asshole who likes to proclaim, "I told you so!" because they secretly want their spouse's hobby to fail. He is so jealous that she turned a profit that he is clambering for control. Screw this penny pinching cheapskate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/22 03:58 AM |
| 183 | Man withholds a 12.5K bonus from his SAHM wife because she didnt share the 200$ she made on Etsy (the first time in 7 years she earned anything). Be careful not to marry miserly men who loathe you.Whoa, ho, ho, oh boy. Another one of these guys on his high horse and trying to act like a bachelor when he didn't have to worry about putting his money in places he didn't want it to be. Only now, he is trying to carry such a mindset over in the form of dictating his wife's "place" because "he is the breadwinner!", thus the only one who matters here. $200 in her Etsy earnings is a drop in the bucket compared to his salary, plus the $12,500 bonus. He did not indicate if the children are in child… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/22 03:50 AM |
| 306 | Man withholds a 12.5K bonus from his SAHM wife because she didnt share the 200$ she made on Etsy (the first time in 7 years she earned anything). Be careful not to marry miserly men who loathe you.My uncle was the same way in "throwing around his 'principles'" when it came to controlling my aunt. The lines that really stuck out to me was when the OP said that he is "very much a saver" and "she is very much a spender", and "I don't give her money - we share finances". What that is saying is that she is a "spender" because she basically has to make a phone call and ask for permission from him to buy household necessities. If he is good and ready to acquiesce, he will give her the equivalent… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/22 03:29 AM |
| 2 | Straight from the horse's mouth 🗣️Being strung along is such a mindfuck. I think that is why a lot of people - men and women alike - snap when it happens to them enough. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/22 03:15 AM |
| 9 | Where do men go to find the audacity? What kind of good man is this? Is this the standard? Because if so, then sorry to this man. 33 and childish with his priorities out of order. What an embarrassment. Feel sorry for that baby.I don't feel sorry for PickMe's who open themselves up and think they are earning some kind of place in heaven for swooping and "helping". Also, a woman justifying his actions that, "Oh, he wants a relationship with his child, he is really a good dad!, but he just doesn't want the relationship with the mom anymore!" is just as depraved as the guy. As much as I hate my Scrote uncle for a myriad of reasons, he left me with one nugget of truth a very long time ago: "You are who you hang out with". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/22 03:12 AM |
| 11 | Where do men go to find the audacity? What kind of good man is this? Is this the standard? Because if so, then sorry to this man. 33 and childish with his priorities out of order. What an embarrassment. Feel sorry for that baby.As hilarious as it is, there are actually people out there that would fall for this. Good gracious, help those women see the light that this guy just wants notches in his belt. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/22 03:08 AM |
| 14 | Where do men go to find the audacity? What kind of good man is this? Is this the standard? Because if so, then sorry to this man. 33 and childish with his priorities out of order. What an embarrassment. Feel sorry for that baby."I'm going to be with her up until the baby is born!" Support your local single dad today! 🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/22 03:06 AM |
| 12 | Where do men go to find the audacity? What kind of good man is this? Is this the standard? Because if so, then sorry to this man. 33 and childish with his priorities out of order. What an embarrassment. Feel sorry for that baby.Even if there was or was not a breakup (or it is impending on his end and she is none the wiser), the whole thing screams - plain and simple - that he has dipped out on the mother of his child. Guys like him are pathetic, disgusting, and most of all, cowards. All of a sudden she is not so tiny and pretty anymore and he will make a million excuses to keep up the ruse to her and be all "I love you so much!!" then turn around and say to other - or keep to himself - that they "lost attraction for he… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/22 03:05 AM |
| 11 | Where do men go to find the audacity? What kind of good man is this? Is this the standard? Because if so, then sorry to this man. 33 and childish with his priorities out of order. What an embarrassment. Feel sorry for that baby.Oh dear, oh my, this baby just hatched from this egg! What ever as a single person am I to do??? No wonder this BS artist chose a dating app trying to peddle his "logic" like he is God's gift to women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/22 02:55 AM |
| 4 | Stay. Away. From. These. Bum. Ass. “Estranged”. Single. Dads. (P.S - baby mama? Baby mama?….You mean the woman whom he impregnated and to whom he had two children? Girllll i-) the tomfooleryAnd even if they are not, they want so badly to rub it in the BM's face that "they have a new girl!" But these guys turn green with envy and HATE IT when their ex gets a boyfriend. He can't crush her feelings and have the satisfaction that she is by herself while he is "happily taken". LOL | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 04:29 AM |
| 1 | Stay. Away. From. These. Bum. Ass. “Estranged”. Single. Dads. (P.S - baby mama? Baby mama?….You mean the woman whom he impregnated and to whom he had two children? Girllll i-) the tomfoolerySingle dads will always try to play the "My kids are first!" card. Do you know what my favorite kind of single dad is? The ones who left while the mother of their child was pregnant, verbally/mentally/physically abused them while their flesh and blood was in utero, the ones who immediately jump to that "the child isn't mine!!!!" and are too afraid of paternity tests, so they smear the name of the mother of their child. After the child is born, they crusade for "their rights!!" and put on a huge … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 04:27 AM |
| 3 | Stay. Away. From. These. Bum. Ass. “Estranged”. Single. Dads. (P.S - baby mama? Baby mama?….You mean the woman whom he impregnated and to whom he had two children? Girllll i-) the tomfooleryThese zero value guys will make it seem like the mother of his child(ren) was the problem. In reality, it was all him. He wants so badly to dress up the truth that he will do anything to keep the act up and play the victim. Currently my best friend is in the process of divorcing her husband. He was an abusive POS to her while she was pregnant, then flip flopped his actions after she had the baby. One minute he was a doting husband, the next he was screaming and yelling at her for not answering h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 04:16 AM |
| 5 | Stay. Away. From. These. Bum. Ass. “Estranged”. Single. Dads. (P.S - baby mama? Baby mama?….You mean the woman whom he impregnated and to whom he had two children? Girllll i-) the tomfooleryThese idiots cruise on an ego trip of hooking a new woman solely for the purpose of leveraging their kid(s) and enlisting a substitute "Mommy" to make the mother of the children jealous. The PickMe's who fall for this crap are so blinded by BS because "the ex is so evil! I have to save my mannnnn!" that she can't even see the forest through the trees. He only needs her for a parenting relationship, complete with the perks of worshiping his used, failed dick. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 04:07 AM |
| 42 | Straight from the horse's mouth 🗣️This guy needs a woman to use him like he has done repeatedly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 03:49 AM |
| 11 | Straight from the horse's mouth 🗣️Remember in the early seasons of Jersey Shore when Pauly D proclaimed "certain" women he and the other guys would bring home as "GRENADES!" (and the application of the "Grenade whistle" - look it up when you get a chance-)? This moron sounds like he is applying the same concept to what he "brings home" from dating apps. (P.S. Pauly D is the embodiment of Scrote. On one of the season of Family Vacation, he coached Ronnie that "just because you get [a girl] pregnant doesn't mean you have to be wit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 03:47 AM |
| 71 | Straight from the horse's mouth 🗣️'Parasite' is the perfect word to describe this guy. Notice how he tries to use his increases in salary - which I DOUBT is even the truth - to justify his "evolution" to upping his "taste" in women. That next part where he talks about moving back in with his parents is where he shoots himself in the foot. He jumps back into the dating app cesspool and decides to feign interest for the first match (read: victim). He just wants to date someone for the sake of having a warm body. He sounds just lik… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 03:19 AM |
| 38 | I don’t even know what to say 🤦🏼♀️Posts like this practically shout out that they are living together at this point. I bet you dollars and donuts he is cheating on her. If he isn't, the whole, "I love you, but..." is an indicator that he's been considering an out for a while. As long as he can keep her on the hook with bills, sex, and the like, she'll do for now until the new and shiny girlfriend comes along. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 05:18 PM |
| 85 | I don’t even know what to say 🤦🏼♀️My last ex argued with me that his best friend's marriage proposal being rejected twice by his girlfriend of 12 years didn't mean that they loved each other any less. I looked at this guy like his hair just turned a different color. I told him, "She doesn't see a future with him. Why is he still with her?" He tried defending it, but when I asked the reasoning, he could not come up with why. He did, however, tell me that three years before she went on a date with another guy. When his friend foun… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 05:11 PM |
| 26 | sea-lioning, and how to push back hardThis guy's statement is on par with how guys regard dating single mothers. Ok, you are not wrong for having a preference, but to demean that type of person, then intentionally get into debates with others just to hear yourself talk makes you the person to steer clear from. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 04:53 PM |
| 40 | sea-lioning, and how to push back hardI have never heard of the term 'sea-lioning' but I like it and it is a great description. I will preface this by saying that I do not fault anyone with depression. However, been there, done that, it was draining, and I will never, ever put myself through that in this lifetime and beyond. People like this guy want to take authoritative positions on topics, yet where he knocked himself out was when he decided to attach an insult to his statement. There were many, many times that I questioned if my… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 04:45 PM |
| 8 | Just met a career pickmeShe may have her own success, but let's face it, the embarrassment of constantly having to cover for your dead weight man child is what overshadows her. I couldn't imagine how exhausting it is to constantly run interference and excuse away why your husband is such a loser. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 08:22 PM |
| 10 | Just met a career pickmeI love my brother-in-law dearly, but there was a chunk of time where he was Mr. Stay At Home Dad while my sister was the breadwinner (she still is even though he now has a job). He was offered part-time jobs - which would have caused zero conflict with my sister's work schedule - and refused those. Even my sister's own in-laws were none too pleased with their son that he was leading a country club lifestyle and letting the burden of the household fall on my sister. It's a pretty easygoing lifest… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 08:19 PM |
| 7 | Just met a career pickmeThese bumbling guys want to get away with riding on the coattails of the woman they are with. Then when he is expected to do something of minimal effort like microwaving food, NOPE, he can't do it!! What's more is when these guys get so defensive when questioned why their wife is the breadwinner and he's just...there. There is literally no excuse out there why a man can't do the legwork to find his own job or complete his own work-related project. The less a man is required to do, the more dead … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 08:03 PM |
| 23 | I love this hot take 😂👏🏼You know what gets me? When guys criticize women for what they spend their money on. I love how they think we eat, sleep, and breathe shopping: "Oh my God, she bought all of these [shoes/jewelry/expensive handbag]" THE HORROR! Then there is this hivemind that chimes in that equates said woman's choice in items dictates how awful she will be in a relationship. Well, nobody in that conversation will point out that men make up a good majority of unemployment rates. Women have historically come to r… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 07:51 PM |
| 12 | I love this hot take 😂👏🏼Broke Scrotes are always trying to make excuses for their lack of success. It is never their fault, it is "how women always expect ToO mUcH!" (Cries in poor) The stark, harsh reality is that men hate it when more successful women upstage them. They still want to date, yet will put the barest minimum forward and won't let you call them out on it because they "are trying!" This is the biggest farce of them all because he can afford to subscribe to OnlyFans, waste his money on gaming or gambling, -… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 07:37 PM |
| 21 | I love this hot take 😂👏🏼Ugh, this is a comparison that needs to be shut off because of how totally insulting it is. I once read a comment on here where the member was at a wedding. A guy at the table she was seated at addressed the entire table - in front of his girlfriend - that he and his girlfriend had just moved in together "because, YA KNOW, ya gotta try before you buy!" From what I recall, the girlfriend just sat there quietly. A man sitting across the table addressed the girlfriend, not the obnoxious boyfriend, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 07:25 PM |
| 17 | I love this hot take 😂👏🏼Your comment really resonated with me. I had an ex who I was in love with and he was constantly wanting to spend money on me, be it dates, planning excursions together, he wanted us to do it together. The reason we broke up is because he tried telling me that "You know, [friend's name] and his girlfriend split dates. We should do that because I just moved into my own apartment [friend's name who couldn't hold a job]". Then he would turn around and telling me how much food and alcohol he was buyi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 07:01 PM |
| -7 | Dear John lyrics by Taylor Swift (2010) are hitting different now that my age gap situationship has fully ended. I first met him when I was 18 and he was 33. We had stopped talking for some time until he decided to hurt me more from ages 20-22/23. Never again 💔❤️🩹Funny story about John Mayer: A high school 20 or so minutes away from me managed to reach out to his management team and book him to play at the school's senior prom. This was the time between his first and second album and "Your Body Is A Wonderland" was a huge hit. I was honestly so surprised when the rumor was confirmed true by the area's newspaper. There was enough going around about how he was a massive asshole. Now, I'm not going to say that everyone isn't entitled to have their bad days,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 06:05 PM |
| 6 | Can we talk about how hard it is not to internalize the message that it’s a woman’s responsibility to “keep her man interested”?That reminds me of an ex I had. He expected me to share his TV shows and music tastes, and not ask questions or criticize, yet when I shared mine, he would be like, "Oh God, how do you stand this?" So one day, I told him I was going to the gym and he asks if he can tag along. I tell him sure since my membership allowed for me to bring a guest. Usually I spend an hour to two hours working out and after 15 minutes he wanted to leave. I could put energy into myself and into our relationship, yet wh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 08:03 PM |
| 10 | Can we talk about how hard it is not to internalize the message that it’s a woman’s responsibility to “keep her man interested”?Men should be worried if a woman is still interested in him. My ex didn't want someone who was "boring", yet he would park himself on a bar stool and order all of these different beers to drink. He would sit there for hours and expected me to do the same. And the times I was with him. he would immediately take out his phone. start scrolling through Untappd, or texting whoever. His version of tuning me out was to tilt his head towards me so I would literally be having a conversation with the top … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 07:59 PM |
| 8 | Can we talk about how hard it is not to internalize the message that it’s a woman’s responsibility to “keep her man interested”?It's always the boyfriend or husband trying to make "motivational" statements like this: "So-and-so's [wife/girlfriend] does [this]". Anndddd your point is? These are the same purported "men" who leave a woman when she God forbid becomes disabled or diagnosed with cancer. All is nice and rosy when she is pleasurable to look at, pampers him (blehh), but when the going gets tough, men with this mentality get going. Guys really think it is so easy for a woman who is sick to just "pick herself up" a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 07:49 PM |
| 58 | Suspicious?Also received this message. Very suspicious and marked as "Ignored". Thank you for posting this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 05:22 PM |
| 8 | The OP gets her exes head above water and wonders why her new boyfriend is mad. Put yourself first, stop being "cool", and let a guy manage his own finances. It was never up to you to SAVE him in the first place!People like this are doormats. They will not listen to others who gently, yet firmly, intervene to snap them out of it. It sounds callous and cruel to say, but unless they get a dose of reality they will continue to compromise themselves to benefit others. My friend is like this. She is in the process of divorcing her abusive husband, yet she handed him $10,000 so he could "help with his towing business". Her family is furious with her because she can't meet her expenses, yet she can give this p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 04:53 PM |
| 11 | The OP gets her exes head above water and wonders why her new boyfriend is mad. Put yourself first, stop being "cool", and let a guy manage his own finances. It was never up to you to SAVE him in the first place!Some people keep their standards abysmally low for a reason. She claims that her job "pays well", yet anyone can become unemployed. Then where did that generosity get you? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 04:31 PM |
| 152 | how men really feel about women centering themWhen my sister was in college, she had a boyfriend whom she allowed to start rearranging her life. She has always had a lot of friends - even now - and made new ones easily. With him, she was choosing to exclusively hang out with him and his friends, thus her friend group began to barely hear from her. Even I wasn't seeing her! Her fitness routine was no more and she began packing on weight. I really commend one of my sister's friends for coming to her and saying, "I never see you anymore, it's … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 04:31 AM |
| 140 | The OP gets her exes head above water and wonders why her new boyfriend is mad. Put yourself first, stop being "cool", and let a guy manage his own finances. It was never up to you to SAVE him in the first place!That got me, too! $13,000 wasn't enough. I'll give him another $5,000 for good measure because my job pays well! The comments were also endorsing her "good deed". I would bet dollars and donuts that the "proof" of her ex's debt was a nice little adjustment he made courtesy of Photoshop. P.S. 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 03:51 AM |
| 156 | The OP gets her exes head above water and wonders why her new boyfriend is mad. Put yourself first, stop being "cool", and let a guy manage his own finances. It was never up to you to SAVE him in the first place!Exactly this. If another guy did this and told his buddies, "Hey, I just handed my ex almost $20,000!" they would ask him what he was thinking or bluntly ask he slept with her before giving her the money. I can't even begin to imagine being generous in any way, shape, or form with someone who is an ex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 03:42 AM |
| 130 | The OP gets her exes head above water and wonders why her new boyfriend is mad. Put yourself first, stop being "cool", and let a guy manage his own finances. It was never up to you to SAVE him in the first place!It's baffling. She could have used it towards a house, kept building her savings, and instead she decides to give it to an EX. She made that guy's year. 😬 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 03:35 AM |
| 122 | The OP gets her exes head above water and wonders why her new boyfriend is mad. Put yourself first, stop being "cool", and let a guy manage his own finances. It was never up to you to SAVE him in the first place!Strategy from the imgur link: Even if the breakup was mutual, NO MAN deserves, nor is entitled to your money. Here, I don't blame her new boyfriend. However, she is showing her current boyfriend that he can follow suit and she'll just give him a wad of cash. Don't set this precedent to be so easy breezy and "cool". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 02:52 AM |
| 3 | Reminder to also vet your female roommates!This reminded me of a story that happened in my city quite some time ago. This was my worst nightmare of having a roommate. The short version is that this woman was a student at a local university, posed that she came from a wealthy family, but in reality she was stealing from her roommate and friends alike. The guy who she ended up dating also helped her steal even more. Long story short, they were able to afford a lavish lifestyle from the money and identities they compromised from the people … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/22 06:13 PM |
| 39 | The fake proposal -- anyone else?At the time I never considered the instances I am going to share as a fake proposal, but certainly in the realm of future faking. I admit that I have a soft, sympathetic heart, although I certainly have taught myself to be extremely selective in what I perceive to be the truth vs. outright lying and time wasting. In my own experience, I have found that people who do this see you as a means to an end. The guy wants to capitalize off of your success, what you "have", and wants to keep you for as l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/22 06:10 PM |
| 13 | Men who hide their child???Unless the guy and his ex agreed that they wouldn't post pictures anymore, that I can understand. To answer your question: Yes, I have noticed this and have known single dads to do this. Men who abandon their wife or girlfriend pre and postpartum are a special type of despicable, cowardly, everything. You are totally right in your assessment that he "couldn't wait to get his dick wet again, etc.". In perspective, she was the incubator, served her purpose, and now he can just cut the mother of hi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/22 08:08 PM |
| 4 | Men who hide their child???Same here. People tend not to realize that privacy settings don't exactly keep kids safe. It's an open door for predators to find those images and go so far as to stalk those children. With what OP posted about, guys who are single fathers wants to live under the guise of being entirely "single", then when he hooks someone, he would say, "Oh, by the way, I have a child". Guys like him only want a woman to help him raise his child and should be avoided like the plague. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/22 07:42 PM |
| 4 | Woman tweets about her divorce and the comment section is….yikesOnce again, a man making the demise of a relationship - which was his doing - all about himself! That reads like what my friend is going through. Her husband financially drained her, physically and verbally abused her during and after her pregnancy, and when she took shelter with her parents, he had the nerve to accuse her of cheating and keeping their 1 year old from him. Well shit, dude, when you are abusive as a whole, then go so far as to fake her dad sending you a death threat, who really i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/22 07:26 PM |
| 39 | Woman tweets about her divorce and the comment section is….yikesThe guy talking about how Florida lets women cheat, get the money, and the kids is totally talking about himself. Men who cheat create this fantasy world that their kids - if there are any involved - are so forgiving. If reading the relationship and AITA threads are any indication, people whose parents divorced as a result of one's infidelity carry that around for the rest of their lives. Meanwhile, the parent who stepped out tries to make the other parent out to be the bad guy and be all, "But … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/22 10:19 PM |
| 12 | I was told by a female colleague that at first sight I’m totally unapproachableWhoa, first of all, I think your co-worker is out of line. Is she trying to tell you that you have a "Rest B**ch Face" without telling you that you have one? Really, men - and some women like your co-worker - tend to stereotype women who are too peppy. You either had too much caffeine or are labeled as a ditz, thus incompetent. Maintaining a sense of seriousness demonstrates your capability as a worker. Generally I am pleasant, although when I have work that needs my attention, I really don't ha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/22 06:46 PM |
| 1 | He was fine with 50/50 until she told him the cost of having a childEssentially she is asking for child support and he is balking at the idea. This guy is so high on his own bullshit about his magical union until it all came crashing down after talking about starting a family. She is not as entranced with him as he makes it out to be. I do NOT at all buy that she was in agreement of stopping her birth control, thus "letting things happen as they will". He can think that she did and she is still using it. It takes some time to organize a binder with 16 pages of d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/22 06:14 PM |
| 1 | He was fine with 50/50 until she told him the cost of having a childHe loves that her money helps to keep 50% of his own in his pocket. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/22 05:59 PM |
| 2 | You won't give your wife the assurance/insurance she needs to know that she will not financially suffer for having a child with you but you will still TaKe CaRe Of YoUr ChILd. The audacity. 🤡Your friend really shines here. Where some women may have just given up, she should be commended for all of the hard work that she put in to do better for herself. That's the lesson here: Women doing better for themselves. At the same time, woman who know they deserve the same success as male counterparts are constantly put into a category that she is going to lose time with her children - small or grown - should she take this path. Once again, women being guilted for wanting better so they don'… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/22 05:22 PM |
| 2 | Financially abusive Scrote strings along his 4.5 year live-in girlfriend, finally "gets engaged", yet cries when he finds out that he wasn't entitled to ALL of her money after all, etc. Next, he pitches it to the audience about whether he should take the money, then dump her any way.Hey! Don't lose faith. It's sad and depressing, although I would rather come across stories like this and see it shared within the community. The more we see evidence of these tactics, the better we can arm ourselves with our own strategies. Knowledge is power and your armor. Romantic relationships have always held this "fairy tale" quality. In most cases, that is more than far from the truth. If this story is any indication of anything, it's to not let someone erode your total sense of self or … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 04:24 AM |
| 11 | You won't give your wife the assurance/insurance she needs to know that she will not financially suffer for having a child with you but you will still TaKe CaRe Of YoUr ChILd. The audacity. 🤡Totally true. My uncle (Scrote is too kind of a word to describe him) did this to my aunt. Prior to their marriage, she was a stockbroker. She had intentions to return to work after having their son, but he was emphatic that she be a SAHM. When it came time to renew her credentials, she let them ride, hence lost her license. Little did she know that my uncle was cheating on her with every woman under the sun, doing drugs, had a gambling problem...Oh, but she was the bitch. The mother of his chil… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 04:03 AM |
| 3 | You won't give your wife the assurance/insurance she needs to know that she will not financially suffer for having a child with you but you will still TaKe CaRe Of YoUr ChILd. The audacity. 🤡Everything you said is 100% true. I wish I could find the post, although I recall it was sometime last year that a person on this sub posted how ruthless Thai women are. She didn't hold a high opinion of her father to begin with, so when he went to Thailand and brought home a Thai bride, he thought she would treat him like a king. Instead, when he disrespected her, she withdrew affection and substituted her homemade Thai cooking for "meals" like Chef Boyardee. To further drive the point home, sh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 03:54 AM |
| 11 | You won't give your wife the assurance/insurance she needs to know that she will not financially suffer for having a child with you but you will still TaKe CaRe Of YoUr ChILd. The audacity. 🤡They fetishize Asian women because of anime. Then they don't know how to act when their "fantasy" means that he has to understand, thus marry into the culture. It's like, "THAT WASN'T IN ANIME!" My personal feelings? The guy in the original post is a tool and totally disrespectful, as if he should be exempt from the dowry. He tries to come off so "good" and bumbling, like, "Oh, I such a good ol' boy, I would never leave her!" Oh SHUT UP! The reason family members - elders, parents who emigrated … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 03:38 AM |
| 8 | on being told (over and over) that I have "walls up"Fellow wall-er. I have been told I don't trust people (yes), am "m y s t e r i o u s", those are the main two. Why people expect every single man or woman to be an open book is beyond me. For example, I don't even discuss my relationships with my friends. I'm more focused on what is going on with my friends/family members' well-being than I am about their personal life. If they want to tell me, great, but I don't center conversations around that topic. Early on in my relationship with my previou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 03:07 AM |
| 22 | Financially abusive Scrote strings along his 4.5 year live-in girlfriend, finally "gets engaged", yet cries when he finds out that he wasn't entitled to ALL of her money after all, etc. Next, he pitches it to the audience about whether he should take the money, then dump her any way.Don't you find it funny when these threads about cohabitation always use the word "chores"? Think about it. Parents give their kids chores to do. Referring to household labor between adults as chores is quite insulting, especially when it refers to a woman who eventually assumes the bulk of the work. Like I'm supposed to slap a silly grin on my face while I'm mopping, doing his laundry, cleaning the bathroom, having dinner ready before he gets home, etc. ? But it's ok! I'm paying for my purpose … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/22 03:05 AM |
| 37 | Financially abusive Scrote strings along his 4.5 year live-in girlfriend, finally "gets engaged", yet cries when he finds out that he wasn't entitled to ALL of her money after all, etc. Next, he pitches it to the audience about whether he should take the money, then dump her any way.Women aren't supposed to have an iota of a brain cell because God forbid we come up with "dangerous" ideas that outshine our male counterparts! What ever are we capable of?? THE HORROR!! Anymore, a woman with any shred of a work ethic is looked down upon. A woman has to work much harder than a man to garner the same respect that he gets. We may speak up, but there is always at least one man wanting to drown us out. We make decisions for our future - whether that be with or without children - and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 10:00 PM |
| 27 | Financially abusive Scrote strings along his 4.5 year live-in girlfriend, finally "gets engaged", yet cries when he finds out that he wasn't entitled to ALL of her money after all, etc. Next, he pitches it to the audience about whether he should take the money, then dump her any way.The rules don't apply to him because he was financially abused and betrayed! SACK OF SH-T. Whenever I read these things on here, I am so glad it's on the Internet. I will count my lucky stars I never meet them or anyone like them ever. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 09:36 PM |
| 16 | Financially abusive Scrote strings along his 4.5 year live-in girlfriend, finally "gets engaged", yet cries when he finds out that he wasn't entitled to ALL of her money after all, etc. Next, he pitches it to the audience about whether he should take the money, then dump her any way.He was interviewed on Inside Edition the other night! He claimed he was being wrongfully accused of these dastardly actions! Meanwhile, his new girlfriend was on the interview and was pretty much like, "Oh, well that's a shame!" The two of them and their surroundings certainly didn't indicate neither were hurting for money. Sickening. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 09:32 PM |
| 25 | Financially abusive Scrote strings along his 4.5 year live-in girlfriend, finally "gets engaged", yet cries when he finds out that he wasn't entitled to ALL of her money after all, etc. Next, he pitches it to the audience about whether he should take the money, then dump her any way.Imagine how many things you can do or puts towards $22,000 with! Not only your example, but in the present tense, this is a prime example of how handing someone the reigns on your finances - who you have no legal ties to - will nickel and dime you right out of your own financial independence. From a business standpoint, this is no different than staging a buyout of a business partner's other half. In this case, her handing over a chunk of money is basically like buying him out of the relationshi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 09:27 PM |
| 25 | Financially abusive Scrote strings along his 4.5 year live-in girlfriend, finally "gets engaged", yet cries when he finds out that he wasn't entitled to ALL of her money after all, etc. Next, he pitches it to the audience about whether he should take the money, then dump her any way.There was more than one comment asking how much he saved. Before the thread was locked, there were some lower rated comments that pointed out she either had a rainy day fund, wasn't wrong to save the money, etc. Not a mention of her being "deceptive" in those! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 06:40 PM |
| 17 | Financially abusive Scrote strings along his 4.5 year live-in girlfriend, finally "gets engaged", yet cries when he finds out that he wasn't entitled to ALL of her money after all, etc. Next, he pitches it to the audience about whether he should take the money, then dump her any way.She gifted him the partial value of a car and he's using the hypothetical as "done at your partners [sic] expense". This is one of his comments: > I'm not arguing the fact that people need get out money. That is good to save not just for women. But if it's done on your partners expense it is shitty. If we had our finances separate and did 50/50 she would have saved anything that would be none of my business but **she chose to take advantage of the fact I trusted her** and never thought of mine a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 06:37 PM |
| 32 | Financially abusive Scrote strings along his 4.5 year live-in girlfriend, finally "gets engaged", yet cries when he finds out that he wasn't entitled to ALL of her money after all, etc. Next, he pitches it to the audience about whether he should take the money, then dump her any way.No, the comment section was doing every sort of guided thinking to OP that his girlfriend is a succubus. There was only one or two sentences in two different comments that made a shred of sense. Someone said that "she technically earned that money", which is true. The other comment mentioned that maybe she was saving up towards the wedding or honeymoon. Otherwise, everyone is telling him that she is going to do this again in the future, etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 06:12 PM |
| 152 | Financially abusive Scrote strings along his 4.5 year live-in girlfriend, finally "gets engaged", yet cries when he finds out that he wasn't entitled to ALL of her money after all, etc. Next, he pitches it to the audience about whether he should take the money, then dump her any way.He throws in words and phrases he doesn't quite understand the meanings of such as, "financial abuse", "subsidized" her, "financial betrayal", cites her "mooching"... > let me be entitled to you money, body, emotional and physical labor And whatever money she put into bringing things into the home (groceries, decor, any improvements). Hahaha, $1k ring. He's probably one of those Ring Pop proposal guys, oh, but here's the real one! (And it's not worth a damn). Oh, but look at what I treated mysel… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 06:09 PM |
| 132 | Financially abusive Scrote strings along his 4.5 year live-in girlfriend, finally "gets engaged", yet cries when he finds out that he wasn't entitled to ALL of her money after all, etc. Next, he pitches it to the audience about whether he should take the money, then dump her any way.That's the mind numbing part. She willingly - but how is the audience to know any better? - gave him that money. She wouldn't have a snowball's chance in hell for legal recourse. The people in those comments didn't see anything wrong with him taking her money and running. Her idiocy just got her stolen from. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 06:01 PM |
| 21 | Karmic Revenge on Cheaters (share your stories!)Burn, baby, burn! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 04:16 AM |
| 12 | This girl's boyfriend objectifies and body-shames her vagina and redditors tell her he's just a pussy guy and it's a compliment. This is why you never ask relationship subs for advice; they are teeming with disgusting LVM/NVMThe whole situation is downright stomach lurching. It reminds me of an article that I read - I can't for the life of me recall where I read it - but this guy was engaging in a form of pu**y play where he was literally having a full blown conversation with her genitals as if he was going to get a response. He was saying how pretty it was, etc. etc. Well shit, moron, why don't you ask how her vagina's day was while you're at it? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 04:55 AM |
| 94 | This girl's boyfriend objectifies and body-shames her vagina and redditors tell her he's just a pussy guy and it's a compliment. This is why you never ask relationship subs for advice; they are teeming with disgusting LVM/NVMPornsick couch creatures. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 04:46 AM |
| 13 | This girl's boyfriend objectifies and body-shames her vagina and redditors tell her he's just a pussy guy and it's a compliment. This is why you never ask relationship subs for advice; they are teeming with disgusting LVM/NVMThis showed up on my main page and the title made me want to vomit. The top comments were...not much better, especially when you consider the highest one - not verbatim - was about how some guys are ass or boobs, and she met one who was all about pu**y. Her gut is telling her the "praise" doesn't make her comfortable, yet she excuses it away as a form of endearment. As a woman, I feel offended reading his trash comments. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 04:45 AM |
| 9 | 21yo woman and her 30yo 🚩 homeless boyfriend 🚩 has moved in to her home 🚩within 2 months 🚩Not only is this guy a leech, he is on an ego trip because he landed a young girl who he can live vicariously through. It's been pointed out on this sub at different times, but guys like this clearly can't land anyone in their age category BECAUSE NO WOMAN WANTS TO DATE THEM. However, they can influence a less experienced woman in the screenshot's age category, thus systematically influence her to support him because "he's going through a rough time". RUN. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 04:37 AM |
| 7 | 21yo woman and her 30yo 🚩 homeless boyfriend 🚩 has moved in to her home 🚩within 2 months 🚩What is even going on now??? This aloofness is a terrible disservice to a daughter. I'm all for giving healthy guidance like my parents did, then there is copping out. The OP's mother is on an entirely different planet! My friend's sister - who is four years younger - has been in a LDR with her boyfriend (keyword: boyfriend) who lives in Florida. She plans to move there to be with him, but until then, she has been living with him for the last month "to see how she likes living with him". Their m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 04:31 AM |
| 37 | 21yo woman and her 30yo 🚩 homeless boyfriend 🚩 has moved in to her home 🚩within 2 months 🚩I know, right?? My mom and both of my living grandmothers would want to slap me silly. If that wasn't enough to snap me out of it, my deceased relatives would haunt me! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 04:21 AM |
| 32 | 21yo woman and her 30yo 🚩 homeless boyfriend 🚩 has moved in to her home 🚩within 2 months 🚩Cringe Her standards are already embarrassingly low if the words "splitting the rent" is enough to woo her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 04:18 AM |
| 17 | Scrote Takes Out His Girlfriend to McDonalds for Valentine's Day, "Rewards" Her A Year Later for Tolerating ItHe looks like the guy from PowerMan 5000 (deceased now). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 04:09 AM |
| 58 | Scrote Takes Out His Girlfriend to McDonalds for Valentine's Day, "Rewards" Her A Year Later for Tolerating ItI once read an article that the "I'm lovin' it" campaign is an anagram for "ailing vomit". Linking here is a little bit tricky at times, so if you have time, search for "Maddox Mcdonald's I'm lovin' it" and you'll find it. Personally I am not a fan of McDonald's, although I don't fault people who do enjoy it. Even (some) non-FDS followers can agree that the last place on Earth to take your date is McDonald's. Even kids in junior high wouldn't dream of going on their first date there! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 04:01 AM |
| 10 | Even girl friends can be energy vampiresOof, I hear this loud and clear. I go into detail below, but the best way to sum up the issue as a whole is that you should seriously consider limiting or going no contact with a so-called friend if its a common thread that when you talk to this person, they don't even bother to ask you how you are doing and just jumps into their drama. That's not to advise to eliminate people left and right. However, if they aren't willing to hear you out on why you can't continue carrying on this way, then you… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 03:55 AM |
| 34 | Pornsick Scrotes Want Their Money Back!It's a shame the scrote wasn't held accountable. Like, sorry, we can't reverse this charge. Meanwhile, they are none the wiser that someone like OP's friend can make notes on this account that this person is problematic. I mentioned in my initial comment about how I handle chargebacks at work. If the status on our merchant copy shows that the card was "Online", it means that the purchase was made in-person, thus the customer approved the purchase. We also do a decent amount of phone orders, yet … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 03:26 AM |
| 113 | Pornsick Scrotes Want Their Money Back!So the buyer's remorse sets in when the guy comes back to reality and realizes that "Oh crap, the electric is getting shut off and/or the car(s) are going to get repossessed!" Can't have wife/girlfriend finding out or he's cooked. Or this very possible scenario: Guy wants OnlyFans/whatever payable porn he can find and uses his significant other's credit/debit card. He figures he can weasel out of it and cry "Fraud!" before she realizes he compromised her money. SICKENING. Sort of in the same vei… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 03:10 AM |
| 2 | Valentine's Field ReportAww! No worries, the description sufficed. I am all about mousse and ganache; I'm glad you - and you only! - enjoyed it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 02:17 AM |
| 12 | Valentine's Field ReportYou go! Fancy dessert tax, please? Even when I wasn't in a relationship, I always made sure to buy myself something that I wanted for Valentine's Day. Why should I miss out on Valentine's-themed food, decor, etc. because I'm not in a relationship? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 11:45 PM |
| 45 | Valentine's Field ReportI have a good amount of French blood in me and receiving daisies is well-known to be what you bring to a funeral or a cemetery! Valentine's Day is when the low effort rears its ugly head. Some, not all, guys will take the time to do something special. Then there are the guys who throw something together at the last minute - such as carnation bouquets! - and it shows. God forbid you show that you're not happy with it, oh, he wants recognition that he used his gas and "thought" of you. "But can we… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 11:42 PM |
| 31 | Valentine's Field ReportGrocery store flowers aren't a terrible choice, although more often than not I have seen the flowers looking just plain abused (broken stems, wilted, mold on the bottom). With Valentine's Day, guys have enough time to put in an order with a florist. Please do not present me with a bouquet of carnations. Show some effort! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 11:36 PM |
| 2 | This story appeared on my local news and I wanted to share it here. As much as we talk about the myriad of reasons you should NOT live with a guy you are dating, we rarely discuss how deadly it is to be totally accessible to him in this capacity.Always! I thought my comment got deleted. I'm glad you could read it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 11:24 PM |
| 47 | Men who give you a number/large number of children they want before discussing commitment just want to use your body.Ooof, what a loon. Well, what an "understanding" partner he would have been! I had a similar occurrence with this one guy. He brought up the "kids" subject and I wasn't exactly eager to engage in the conversation, but I told him if I ever considered having children, one and done was the way I would go. He just stared at me, mouth agape, and was like, "But YOUR BODY has to do it more than once!" What on this green Earth?? I told him that, no, not necessarily, and he continued with how basically t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/22 08:03 PM |
| 26 | Men who give you a number/large number of children they want before discussing commitment just want to use your body.I commented about this above. It is way too intimate of a conversation to have so early on, nor does it make me feel comfortable to really go in-depth into something that has to do with my body. Also, it feels like a way of a guy making an excuse to see how "easy" we are or try to label us as "baby crazy". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/22 07:54 PM |
| 54 | Men who give you a number/large number of children they want before discussing commitment just want to use your body.It goes both ways as well. Consider it an honor that I am the one you chose and trust to carry your child(ren). Therefore, you will respect my whole being. Also, this is exactly why the concept of the "push present" is not unreasonable. Women's bodies go through literal and figurative Armageddon pre and post-pregnancy. Other than helping me care for the baby while I recover, I certainly deserve something material for myself. I forget what my brother-in-law bought my sister after she had my niece… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/22 07:52 PM |
| 13 | Men who give you a number/large number of children they want before discussing commitment just want to use your body.Typically I do not look to get into the conversation about kids with someone I'm dating so early on. Not that it isn't a useful vetting tool, but in the past when I have talked about it with someone I was seeing, the deeper the subject was delved into, the more I felt myself getting uncomfortable. It's not that the guy was being "well, I want 'x' amount, etc.!", but discussing something so intimate about my body's physical condition isn't something I want to spend a lot of time on! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/22 07:33 PM |
| 6 | This story appeared on my local news and I wanted to share it here. As much as we talk about the myriad of reasons you should NOT live with a guy you are dating, we rarely discuss how deadly it is to be totally accessible to him in this capacity.As ideal as this would be, how many more people would take advantage of this? My grandmother is a landlord who presents a lease for a year. She no longer rents to unmarried couples for the sole reason of being dragged into "We want to break the lease because we are breaking up!" They signed a lease acknowledging that they understand that they are entering a contract. She is not obligated to act as a referee in their drama or have two people who are trying to make her take sides. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/22 07:14 PM |
| 9 | This story appeared on my local news and I wanted to share it here. As much as we talk about the myriad of reasons you should NOT live with a guy you are dating, we rarely discuss how deadly it is to be totally accessible to him in this capacity.Yes, and ideally not moving in with a guy in the first place. And God forbid you assert yourself that you won't be treated as such, the guy turns it into holding his power over your head. There was an AITA thread - where what you talk about in your comment - happened. The OP was this jerk who yelled at his live-in girlfriend about how stupid she was because she "nearly burned down the house" (she burned a pot). She ended up leaving the house because she told him that they should both cool off, h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/22 07:06 PM |
| 5 | No.Same here! I am sorry to say that I even know people who start Valentine's Day this way. Ugh. This reminded me of the premise of "Steak and Blow Job Day" or "Another day invented to demean women". Why are we expected to slave away in the kitchen making this grand meal, then give a guy a blow job for dessert? PASS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/22 06:56 PM |
| 7 | No.I would rather wake up to a guy holding a tray of breakfast he just made rather than him trying to have sex with me or me waking up to blow him. If it's the latter, I'll just hit snooze for five more minutes! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/22 06:10 PM |
| 10 | No.Forever girlfriends. This reminds me of that passage in Why Men Love Bitches where Sherry Argov tells about a man she spoke to. He said something to the effect that he would marry a woman who woke him up with a blow job every day. I don't recall if it was in front of the woman he was seeing, but Argov said that this woman took it seriously and always complained about how much her jaw hurt. Ladies, don't run yourself ragged to give guys this "fantasy". This kind of lather, rinse, repeat (no puns … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/22 06:08 PM |
| 5 | No.OUCH! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/22 06:05 PM |
| 16 | Stay away from self-proclaimed “brutally honest” menI wonder about these "brutal" types. They're talking themselves up and this "valuable" trait so much , yet there seems to be this noticeable absence of success. Things that make you go "Hmmm..." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 04:13 AM |
| 6 | Stay away from self-proclaimed “brutally honest” menWhat on Earth did you do to this poor, poor boy?? HAHA | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 04:11 AM |
| 19 | Stay away from self-proclaimed “brutally honest” menThe best are the ones who wear the "Brutally Honest" badge of honor and insert their opinions on subjects they know little to nothing about. It doesn't matter if it is a man or a woman: God forbid you assert your knowledge in a polite manner, you are seen as the bad guy. It's not stooping to any level, it's a matter of letting someone know that they gave a factually incorrect statement and this is what is actually is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 04:10 AM |
| 23 | Stay away from self-proclaimed “brutally honest” menDon't jump on me, guys, but my boyfriend dropped the "I'm brutally honest" line on me...and I promptly shut him down. Before the end of 2021, my phone was breaking down. I had it for five years and had been phone shopping leading up to when my phone could barely keep a charge anymore. Once I had my new phone - case and all - I had dropped it. He remarked, "You're going to be needing a brand new phone before I do!" I simply pointed out that he could come talk to me once he put a phone case on his… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 04:05 AM |
| 27 | Stay away from self-proclaimed “brutally honest” men"I...am just brutally honest!" Translation: You have the personality of a wet blanket. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 03:57 AM |
| 12 | I know most men can't help being facially hideous at times but it is a waste of testosterone when they're fat or skinnyfat and can't even groom themselvesGood gracious, how many times I have read and overheard men knocking women on their looks. These guys are picking apart women on their phones (i.e. dating apps, bringing up her IG or Facebook) and the media. She is either a 10, fake, or ugly. Meanwhile the guys making all of these "assessments" are "HYYYNnnGG" (I don't know how else to spell that cringe sound when you see something so physically repulsive that this sound emerges from beneath). So, I see a myriad of men on a daily basis. The well… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 06:09 AM |
| 15 | ✨How I realised if he wanted to he would is true ✨This is a wonderful example! Your friend is going to think of you every time she looks at the bracelet. We talk about Queen Energy, but this type of kindness definitely embodies it. ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 05:45 AM |
| 24 | This is why you don't get an OnlyFans. Men that you know will happily buy the nudes to wank over you, and then go on right ahead to use that fact to stop you from getting a job. Male 'feminists' are evil, do NOT believe them when they say they are supportive of 'sex workers'.I'm the type of person who would be like, "And how would you know unless you subscribed?" How many years ago are we talking? Because guaranteed he tried to get with Ella, she rejected a bruise his fragile ego like a peach, but he found out she has an OnlyFans, so this means THIS GUY IS A STALKER. But he totally hates her enough to sabotage her work prospects. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 04:07 AM |
| 121 | This is why you don't get an OnlyFans. Men that you know will happily buy the nudes to wank over you, and then go on right ahead to use that fact to stop you from getting a job. Male 'feminists' are evil, do NOT believe them when they say they are supportive of 'sex workers'.I had a conversation with one of my guy friends if I would ever consider getting an OnlyFans. The answer was a resounding no, but the very telling part was my friend saying to me that if any of our friends had an account, he would subscribe out of support. Not that I don't trust my friend, although I DO NOT trust anyone to keep that a secret. Think about it: People who portray that you can trust them are pulling a power move on you. By giving you a reason to drop your guard, this person is allow… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 12:16 AM |
| 89 | This is why you don't get an OnlyFans. Men that you know will happily buy the nudes to wank over you, and then go on right ahead to use that fact to stop you from getting a job. Male 'feminists' are evil, do NOT believe them when they say they are supportive of 'sex workers'.Exactly! Being stalked was the catalyst for me to get rid of my Facebook. Even with it set to private that person was still trying to find me. Now when I tell people I don't use social media, I get the whole shocked Pikachu face and, "But how do you talk to people??" It's not hard to make a phone call, text, or *gasp!* see my friends and family in person! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 12:06 AM |
| 130 | This is why you don't get an OnlyFans. Men that you know will happily buy the nudes to wank over you, and then go on right ahead to use that fact to stop you from getting a job. Male 'feminists' are evil, do NOT believe them when they say they are supportive of 'sex workers'.That's what I'm thinking, too! This guy is threatened by Ella, not ashamed. And even if she didn't have any OnlyFans, guaranteed this guy would lie about all the ways she isn't suitable for a position in a male dominated field. It makes me sick. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 12:00 AM |
| 24 | Men say they don’t want whores for wives but in the same breath will say they expect sex in return for a $35 meal on the first date. I mean why else would she be going to this strange man’s house?She looked like she knew he was recording her. If the phone isn't sitting on the table and it's at eye level, you're being recorded or having your picture taken. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 07:37 PM |
| 5 | Men say they don’t want whores for wives but in the same breath will say they expect sex in return for a $35 meal on the first date. I mean why else would she be going to this strange man’s house?My best friend and I went to a Brazilian steakhouse and had our bills on these. We never knew a system like that existed, but we liked paying that way. I can see how a garbage bin of a person like the one in the video would use it to his advantage, though! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 07:36 PM |
| 33 | Men say they don’t want whores for wives but in the same breath will say they expect sex in return for a $35 meal on the first date. I mean why else would she be going to this strange man’s house?I hate that phrase with a passion. Like, you're going to stick me in my "corner", and bad girl me so I submit to you? Please, look in the mirror. Women are becoming wise to guys like the one in the video who uses a date as a return on investment. From the video, it doesn't look like she wore anything revealing to the date. Instead, he figures he's going to bait her and see if she is willing to put out. Aww, but he's such a "good guy" and doesn't understand why he's not getting dates? It's becaus… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 07:34 PM |
| 5 | Lurkers Stay Mad: Reported For Posting Violent ContentYour first sentence reminded me of when my mom told me how birth control was looked upon when she was growing up in the 60s and 70s. It was customary that once you had your period, you would have an appointment with a gynecologist, then the doctor would suggest birth control. If a woman had been taking it from teenage years, she was deemed "loose". I can't say this is true all around, although it was something frowned at in the social circle that my grandmother was part of. That didn't influence… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 07:16 PM |
| 7 | Lurkers Stay Mad: Reported For Posting Violent ContentNever took birth control and never will. I learned early on through my own friends - men and women alike - that the only reason to take birth control ended up being for one person's pleasure, and no, it is not the woman's. All I have seen of birth control is giving guys a free pass to have unprotected sex. It's like there is this weird disconnect between when they find out a woman is taking birth control, so therefore it means that they are somehow protected from contracting STIs/STDs. How many … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 07:07 PM |
| 7 | Lurkers Stay Mad: Reported For Posting Violent ContentOne of my friends gained a crazy amount of weight from taking birth control. The guy she was seeing was angry and embarrassed that now his girlfriend was fat, yet he didn't want her to stop taking it for obvious reasons. "But this is for our relationship!" She protested. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 06:53 PM |
| 27 | A very discouraging thread on Reddit about a woman's BF wanting her to starting wearing more slutty clothes because..."It's endearing! He is trying to tell you how attractive you are!" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 06:42 PM |
| 38 | A very discouraging thread on Reddit about a woman's BF wanting her to starting wearing more slutty clothes because...When a guy decides to begin "coaching" on changing anything ranging from your looks to your hobbies, it is a blatant sign of disrespect. By letting him do so, he has been proven successful in asserting dominance over you. OP will end up how I did if she does not end the relationship. He will continue to infringe on her personal boundaries, break her down, then continue to pull her back in. The ex I was with had this fixation (read: closet pedophile) with women who looked "young". It began when h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 06:33 PM |
| 1 | This poor woman thinks this is funny 😳I know what it means, although his usage of G.O.A.T., then using the actual animal on the top of the trophy is what makes it all around disgusting and insulting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 03:50 AM |
| 2 | Found on another sub. I was grossed out by how many people thought this was so cute and #couplegoals material 🤢The result of a dead bedroom is split between the man and the woman. He is getting her to wait on him hand and foot and he's happy being coddled, but is he really attracted to her? NOPE. Eventually it's like taking his mom to the bedroom. And even if he "wants" to have sex with her, it is simply for the reason that it is expected of her. On her end, she made herself way too available to begin with to "catch him". She allowed him to trample on her boundaries, thus there are no boundaries. However… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 08:47 PM |
| 11 | Found on another sub. I was grossed out by how many people thought this was so cute and #couplegoals material 🤢Wife appliance, I love it! I have to think of that scene from Rick and Morty about the butter robot. It hopefully asks, "What is my purpose?" and Rick responds, "You pass butter." The robot looks at its hands, slumps its shoulders, and realizes, "Oh my God". And this is what is expected of the Wife Appliance: Demonstrating your servitude to a man while paying in the forms of your money, youth, looks, and body. Little do women know that their "man" is complaining about them and simultaneously sho… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 08:23 PM |
| 6 | Found on another sub. I was grossed out by how many people thought this was so cute and #couplegoals material 🤢What's funny about that is the butt chugging trend that originated in university settings. Guys soaking tampons in alcohol and shoving them up their asses (aka an "alcohol enema") to get drunk faster. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 08:14 PM |
| 8 | Found on another sub. I was grossed out by how many people thought this was so cute and #couplegoals material 🤢He probably borrows her car, too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 08:07 PM |
| 2 | Found on another sub. I was grossed out by how many people thought this was so cute and #couplegoals material 🤢🤣 Well darn, honey, we ran out of roast beef, so I had to pack you a cheese sandwich! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 08:03 PM |
| 12 | Found on another sub. I was grossed out by how many people thought this was so cute and #couplegoals material 🤢> Packing my mans lunch I bet he pitches a tantrum when she uses a DC superhero lunchbox in lieu of his favorite Marvel one. > Called on her on his lunch break upset. You're doing pretty well in life if the most pressing thing you have to worry about is fruit snacks in your lunch. I am in total support of this guy getting roasted by his fellow co-workers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 07:58 PM |
| 2 | Found on another sub. I was grossed out by how many people thought this was so cute and #couplegoals material 🤢I want to know if it was Fruit Roll-ups, Fruit By the Foot, or the Gushers. Because when I was in elementary school, boys would always get so upset if either of those three were absent from their lunch. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 07:51 PM |
| 6 | Found on another sub. I was grossed out by how many people thought this was so cute and #couplegoals material 🤢Is he really her husband or is that her wishful thinking kicking in? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 07:49 PM |
| 21 | How heartbreaking, talk about long con on the husband’s part!Unless the spouse died prematurely, then ok, that was something absolutely tragic and out of one's control. Otherwise, this whole trope about "the one that got away!" might as well be like that other loser's excuse of a phrase "midlife crisis". Neither garner sympathy from me. So basically, you put your ex through the mill, and now you're having some kind of moment of clarity/karma catches up with you, and now it can't be too late? What I see OP's husband as doing is always keeping some way of h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 07:19 PM |
| 87 | How heartbreaking, talk about long con on the husband’s part!cp I knew of a situation exactly like this. Here is the backstory: When my sister was in her teens, she babysat for a family with two children, 12 and 5 respectively, where the father had a well-know, prominent dental practice. Their home was a showpiece with gorgeous motifs of cream rugs, maroon trim, an immaculate mantle, and an indoor pool. The mom was very gracious. She wanted to get to know my sister, so when she heard that I was her only sibling, the mom set up things where my sister could… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 06:52 PM |
| 9 | This poor woman thinks this is funny 😳Ha, I'd get one of those tiny honorable mention trophies and get "Consolation Prize" engraved on the plate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 09:09 PM |
| 53 | This poor woman thinks this is funny 😳*Barfs* And he's equating her to a farm animal...How endearing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 09:07 PM |
| 10 | He forgets about her bday and ignores her, but he (finally) surprises her! Is this a new rock bottom?I would hock the Xbox, dump all of his stuff, get the locks changed, and give myself the best gift of all: Solitude. Seriously, though. Why do some women subject themselves to this emotional labor? She shouldn't have to pack his crap like Mommy preparing him for preschool. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 08:36 PM |
| 66 | He forgets about her bday and ignores her, but he (finally) surprises her! Is this a new rock bottom?Forever girlfriend, they live together (from the context clues), he's unemployed, yet has the money to go to a concert with his friends (it sounds like he's cheating), and SIX PARAGRAPH text message. Good gracious, this is the PickMe equation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 08:30 PM |
| 282 | One thing these scrotes gonna do is drop their masks. Their real intentions show when they feel they have trapped their wives. Girl run!The top comment suggested abortion and is being echoed throughout that thread. I am happy to see the outpouring of support and resources for the OP because she needs it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 08:16 PM |
| 248 | One thing these scrotes gonna do is drop their masks. Their real intentions show when they feel they have trapped their wives. Girl run!Reading her text was numbing and heartbreaking. Whatever "Jake" said to his family was more than likely a very skewed story. That is the issue with people like him: They will say and do anything to win people to their side regardless of the truth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 08:12 PM |
| 27 | Men are crying out that no one cares about their mental healthAnd even the ones who do see a therapist still treat their girlfriend like their therapist. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 05:09 PM |
| 52 | If you wanna see a man's true character break up with himSpot on. My ex yelled at me when he broke up with me. Keep in mind that I was very injured from a car accident where he was the driver. So much for him being this "amazing" guy! 🗑️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 05:28 PM |
| 9 | [deleted by user]Guaranteed he went through her phone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 05:25 PM |
| 8 | A follow up to the post about the Air Tags being used to stalk women. Tamron Hall interviewed model Brooks Nader about her experience with this on January 25, 2022. Such an excellent episode that everyone should watch. Stay safe, everyone!Like the person below said, the Air Tag is still tracking after the phone dies. Let's just say that you have another device like an Apple watch. That would most certainly pick up the tracking where the phone left off. Another report I saw on Inside Edition shows all of the places that women have found Airtags planted on their cars. This one is also worth watching because if not on you, a creep watching you will go so far as to tape one underneath of your car. The most important features of the A… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 06:39 AM |
| 2 | Eve doesn't date single fathers, or: cultural misogyny in a nutshell, or: the audacityI absolutely love how you wrote that description. Joe Rogan types, genius. Granted, I understand there are women who do sacrifice their families for drugs, so the men who end up in the situation of acting as a father and a mother are exceptions to the rule. That instance in and of itself is mentally taxing on the person and the child(ren) who may or may not be old enough to understand what's going on. I bring this up because my own friend's sister has struggled for years with heroin addiction. H… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 06:24 AM |
| 25 | A follow up to the post about the Air Tags being used to stalk women. Tamron Hall interviewed model Brooks Nader about her experience with this on January 25, 2022. Such an excellent episode that everyone should watch. Stay safe, everyone!Original post The hour long episode should now be available on demand and through streaming services. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 05:28 AM |
| 5 | Eve doesn't date single fathers, or: cultural misogyny in a nutshell, or: the audacityYesss! I sipped my tea with the biggest grin on my face and saved this post. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 04:23 AM |
| 9 | Eve doesn't date single fathers, or: cultural misogyny in a nutshell, or: the audacityA resounding yes to everything that you wrote. Currently my best friend is going through a divorce, but in the meantime she "reconnected" with a guy - a single dad - who she dated for a few months six years ago. I never met the guy, but I was a bit curious. Well, this guy has a 13 year old daughter from a woman he was dating for seven years. Dude just got out of a four year relationship four months ago...See a pattern here? Single dads are the type of guys who have a major victim complex and twi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 04:22 AM |
| 1 | Someone in the comments said stories like this are why FDS exists 😂We are also hateful people, LOL. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 04:01 AM |
| 6 | Someone in the comments said stories like this are why FDS exists 😂Welcome! *hugs* | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 09:42 PM |
| 35 | Someone in the comments said stories like this are why FDS exists 😂[It was great!!!](https://imgur.com/a/lH4ijVD) I was sitting in my seat with the biggest grin on my face. I didn't grab it, but there was a commented a little below the last one where someone mentioned how all of the downvotes were probably coming from FDS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 09:34 PM |
| 40 | Cheating husband wants advice... My advice for his wife is "be less forgiving"Everything you described reminds me of my boyfriend's dad, Scott. His dad cheated on his mom, which ended their marriage. Leading up to COVID, he did the same thing to my boyfriend's stepmom (not the affair partner). Scott constantly needs someone to care for his diabetes because boyfriend's mom and stepmom did it before. Since he has always refused to manage his blood sugar on his own, hse lives with his almost 80 year old mother. Scott's version of "therapy" has been "finding Jesus" and gettin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 09:22 PM |
| 3 | Scrote is trying to take his date to a storage unit to make her clean it!It's something about these guys and their storage unit/caves that we're supposed to feel so motivated by compassionate to help them clean out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 08:48 PM |
| 22 | Scrote is trying to take his date to a storage unit to make her clean it!And the second season of You. Go right ahead and pull a Joe with a plexiglass cage inside of a storage unit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 05:44 PM |
| 25 | Scrote is trying to take his date to a storage unit to make her clean it!Oh myyyy goodnesss. This guy sounds like an ex who had a storage unit from when he and his best friend shared an apartment. (Small backstory: He moved out for two plausible reasons: The apartment complex was wrought with bed bug infestations more than once and his friend was a revolving door). The two of us went to his storage unit once because he was looking for what I recall was a vinyl record he wanted to rescue from possible mold. Not a problem with me. We stayed there for about two hours tr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 05:41 PM |
| 4 | Scrote is trying to take his date to a storage unit to make her clean it!Mindless drivel. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 05:29 PM |
| 21 | Scrote is trying to take his date to a storage unit to make her clean it!He clearly thinks nanny is a cuter way to pronounce maid. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 05:28 PM |
| 23 | Ladies, stop coddling your sons.You described my ex's mom. She coddled both him and his brother, but his half brother was particularly favored. There is a 15 year age difference between them (my ex is the youngest). His half brother was from his mom's first marriage where her husband beat her up and was just as bad, if not worse, to his brother. When my ex's mom married my ex's dad, his brother was 10 years old and needed a lot of psychological help. Throughout the marriage, his brother was a problem child. It put a strain on … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/22 11:59 PM |
| 2 | A few months ago told my friend dating a particular single dad is a mistake, she said I'm being prejudiced. Today sent me a long paragraph about how right I was.You and I both! It never occurred to me that these "complaints" were the truth about what he was doing to her. It may be just words, but in many situations the men who do this are deadly. This became glaringly clear in my own life with my uncle. He accused my aunt of being "controlling", described their marriage as constantly trying to keep her happy because of her refusal to get a job, among other things. In reality, my uncle was a total bastard. My aunt told my mom how he forbade her to go bac… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/22 11:10 PM |
| 10 | A few months ago told my friend dating a particular single dad is a mistake, she said I'm being prejudiced. Today sent me a long paragraph about how right I was.You made a lot of great points. What if a guy isn't badmouthing his ex, yet he basically leaves you in the dark about why they broke up? Is there just as much, if not more, concern in that scenario? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 10:05 PM |
| 34 | A few months ago told my friend dating a particular single dad is a mistake, she said I'm being prejudiced. Today sent me a long paragraph about how right I was.Never date a man who you know treated other women like trash. You are not special to him, he’s acting. I love this. It plays into why if you happen to talk to his ex, listen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 09:16 PM |
| 19 | A few months ago told my friend dating a particular single dad is a mistake, she said I'm being prejudiced. Today sent me a long paragraph about how right I was.First, let's call out the whole "mind your business" mindset that some people tend to take. There is absolutely nothing wrong with lending words of caution to a friend or loved one when they tell you a situation that you have the foresight to point out has glaring red flags. Ultimately they make their choice, but if you hadn't said anything to your friend, she would probably have come to you like she did and be like, "Why didn't you tell me??" The timing of this post is pretty spooky for me. My … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 09:14 PM |
| 74 | A few months ago told my friend dating a particular single dad is a mistake, she said I'm being prejudiced. Today sent me a long paragraph about how right I was.Last night I saw on the big dick problems subreddit some guy who was calling out how judgmental women are about penises, yet guys need to call out how vaginas are unkempt, smelly, etc. There were people who pointed out exactly this: Guy wants sex, but he's complaining about where it comes from. He needed to go back to the dumpster he came from! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 09:04 PM |
| 27 | Men tell on themselves the second you refuse to settleI think you offended a couch creature, but maybe that's being too nice. Aside from him expecting you to use your gas/resources/time to see him, he obviously didn't see anything wrong with disregarding your feelings of safety and security to invite you to his place. He may not consider himself a serial killer, but how are you supposed to know any differently? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/22 08:01 AM |
| 66 | Men tell on themselves the second you refuse to settleNot so long ago, I was curious about what Hinge was because I saw it pop up on some threads in this sub. I decided to look it up and I ended up having a hearty laugh at how they describe themselves as "the dating app meant to be deleted" (something to that effect). Supposedly they have some "accurate" algorithm (LOL), yet it still doesn't excuse that OLD in general is a pit of ZV/LV guys who either want a version of cheap porn or quick ass. Hard pass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/22 07:52 AM |
| 16 | Men tell on themselves the second you refuse to settleOr "woof" women into casual sex from these "romantic" walking dates. What a cheapskate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/22 07:42 AM |
| 11 | Men tell on themselves the second you refuse to settleI commented something similar to OP about walking dates being equivalent to walking a dog. Typing it out is just as insulting as the visual that goes along with it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/22 07:41 AM |
| 30 | Men tell on themselves the second you refuse to settleBait, meet switch. I have never done online dating, but the more I see on this sub about it convinces me that it is equivalent to a cesspool. And, the whole "walking date thing"? Of course the guy isn't serious if he's willing to take you on a walk like he would a dog! Good on you for sussing out the BS immediately. Strategy to live by! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/22 07:38 AM |
| 192 | Guy is sexist and racist, shocked that makes him an assholeAtrocious is the description to a 'T' for people like the OP. He's a wannabe CS guy who thinks he can coast through school by doing the bare minimum and still land a high paying job. (Please excuse me while I laugh uncontrollably). I took CS courses in college and I was the only girl in the class. No one treated me like OP, although there was this one guy who definitely took on the "I'm too smart for this class" attitude. Guess who threw a fit when the professor told us our grades at the end of … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 07:28 AM |
| 139 | Guy is sexist and racist, shocked that makes him an assholeHe wants it to seem like his major is superior to his girlfriend's and she is the one riding on his coattails. The best thing about college and/or university was showing the severe lack of motivation of guys like this. When it's time to be out in the working world, they can't survive in a workplace because they are lazy, plain and simple. Instead, they let themselves be voluntarily unemployed or take a minimum wage job and leach off of a woman who is willing to give him a free pass on his so-cal… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 07:12 AM |
| 106 | We are living in a clown world 🤡Is this guy even a parent? Parenting means not supporting a son/daughter's destructive decision making and being outspoken about it. My mom would want to slap me silly, not to mention both of my grandmothers. She would refer to this "playing along, whoop de doo" attitude as "acting like a Pollyanna". Like, "Oh, this is wonderful! Whatever makes you happy!" blissful ignorance. 'F' this. I'm on the mom's side. Enjoy Greece minus your daughter's idiocy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 06:48 AM |
| 197 | We are living in a clown world 🤡He reminds me of a professor I once had. The class had to voice their opinions about a short story we read about a married woman having an affair with her ex. When it was my turn, I mentioned that because it was written by a male, that it was meant to appeal to women who still held feelings for their ex, thus was pretty inaccurate to what a woman's true feelings would be in the situation. This professor turned around and said, "Ms. _______ , does this affect you because this has happened to you … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 05:54 AM |
| 150 | We are living in a clown world 🤡> A mother is concerned about her adult child's involvement with a polyamorous man. Right out the gate Phillip uses patronizing language - 'mother', 'adult child' - to put someone who wrote to him for advice in a bad light. Already he makes the mother sound like a person who hasn't moved past the helicopter parent stage. 'F' you, Phillip, nice that you threw in a glaring red flag of your own why people shouldn't rely on you for advice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 05:44 AM |
| 1 | Him making new numbers to text you after being blocked is harassment. My state says it's "not enough" to file a restraining order. I am not changing MY number bc a scrote won't listen to "no"It goes to show that people will twist a story every which way to garner sympathy. He saw reality how he wanted to, the people he dragged into it didn't know any better, and it was just plain moronic. The woman who partook in calling my sister on her ex's behalf is a pathetic excuse herself. With your situation, people who go out of their way to dredge up old drama need a hobby. It would not be surprising in the slightest if your friend who cut her off wasn't the only one done with her for simil… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/22 07:42 PM |
| 2 | A man rant from a main sub... he admits right at the beginning he moved her in ASAP as a nurse and a purse. His complaints about her are extremely mild and every comment is telling him to dump her 🤣Can I please commend you for that brilliant wordplay "nurse and purse"? He doesn't want to "rock the boat" because that means he will be saddled with all of the expenses. I'll bet you dollars and donuts this moron treats school like a "job" and thinks he can get away with her paying for everything. Oh, but "mY iSsUeS!" Dude needs to go to the doctor instead of thinking he can have free healthcare with his "nurse and purse". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/22 07:37 PM |
| 2 | A man rant from a main sub... he admits right at the beginning he moved her in ASAP as a nurse and a purse. His complaints about her are extremely mild and every comment is telling him to dump her 🤣The threads asking for people to solve problems like this person is why I love to hate that sub. It's like popcorn to read, but then I'm just angry because some, not all, don't read in between the lines that it's the person's fault who submitted. What happened when he lived with his parents? They should have kick his lazy butt out for eating their food! Now he's angry that she's...eating his food? Dude, what in the fresh hell did you expect when you moved in together? She's a nurse, his occupati… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/22 07:31 PM |
| 11 | This is one of those things that sounds "Cool" and "Empowering" when we are young with no responsibilities, but once you get saddled with a parasitic man that takes everything and gives you nothing, you will realize just how NOT cool or empowering this is.Your last two paragraphs really drive the point home. If anyone doesn't have a glaring example in their own lives or know someone who is playing House, it is worth it to either look to the AITA or relationship subreddits as case studies to see how men and women alike talk about now taking their dating relationship to living together. As soon as that preface reads "we've been living together for _________" it is normally followed by how long they have been together as a couple. And then it goes d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 06:39 PM |
| 7 | Him making new numbers to text you after being blocked is harassment. My state says it's "not enough" to file a restraining order. I am not changing MY number bc a scrote won't listen to "no"Wow, this is so unsettling. I think you legitimately dodged a serial killer. Your story reminded me of when I was in high school and my sister broke up with her abusive ex boyfriend. For the better portion of that year, he would call her, leave her voice messages, and when she didn't call back, he would call then hang up. At the suggestion of one of her friends, she filled up her voicemail. It seemed like that took care of the problem because he knew better than to try to come to my parents' hou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/22 04:10 AM |
| 13 | Count the red flags! What happens when you set boundaries with a narcissistIt got taken down, but from reading the comments on here, he sounds...ick. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/22 03:36 AM |
| 87 | What classifies as social media red flags?Oh my gosh I run the social media at work. We had a customer who complained that we closed 10 minutes after he arrived (yeah, we want to go home, too, buddy). He went so far as to send a direct message about this, complete with pictures of all of my co-worker's cars parked in the parking lot, license plates visible. I happened to go on his profile. What do I see? His FB is plastered with complaints about his "bitch of an ex", their kids, and all of these things. Yeah, buddy, your FB is a brag bo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 07:49 AM |
| 31 | What classifies as social media red flags?From when I did have social media, I was fine with them having the status set as "In a Relationship", although I really didn't want random people even seeing a very pared down version of my profile. I work in a publicized industry and wanted to keep some semblance of social media even though I didn't religiously update. Everyone has habits, although one boyfriend always flooded his page with his drinking achievements from the Untappd app. It made me feel like I was dating an alcoholic, which he … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 07:43 AM |
| 1 | Did any exes hit you up for New Years 2022.Yes! As if these "moments of clarity" and the apology is somehow a time machine to undo what they did. Oh, hey, Happy New Year, I want to apologize for how I treated you, but I am SUPER DRUNK right now. (I should have mentioned that he admitted he was drunk, not me surmising). You might find this entertaining: He mentioned more than once in this string of text messages that he "was hoping we could meet up so I could tell you all of this in person". Because it's a last ditch effort to try to slee… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 06:29 AM |
| 1 | Happy New year lasses, and REMEMBERMy boyfriend's dad did the opposite of the first one to my boyfriend's stepmom. His dad cheated on my boyfriend's mom, but he didn't stay with the affair partner. More than a year later, his dad met who would become my boyfriend's stepmom. Getting together with someone else so soon is what he considered his "post-divorce work". Oof. They were married for close to 16 years until 2016 when it was discovered that his dad had been cheating for the last two years. His dad took up with the affair part… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/22 06:47 PM |
| 1 | Happy New year lasses, and REMEMBERMany a time ago, one of my relatives was an affair partner. He swore up and down to her that his "wife is crazy/withholding the kids/we're separated/I'm going to make her sign divorce papers tomorrow!" All of this in a two year time period. He told my relative that he was having his "soon-to-be ex wife served with divorce papers so many times". That was, until, my relative asked for the actual proof before a weekend away that the two of them planned. He couldn't produce the proof and ended up te… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/22 06:37 PM |
| 3 | Happy New year lasses, and REMEMBER> Wife don't wanna sign divorce papers It's actually him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/22 06:32 PM |
| 19 | Did any exes hit you up for New Years 2022.This happened to my friend's family friend. Her son's father claims not to have time to hold a job, yet he had the time to drunk text their 13 year old son about how dad can't get any ass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/22 06:16 PM |
| 15 | Did any exes hit you up for New Years 2022.Not the most recent ex, but one from ten years ago. He texted me that he was "coming to visit this weekend" and asked if I was free. After the obvious no, he proceeds to tell me that he has always been a wreck about the way he treated me, "you were so good to me and didn't deserve what I did", etc. HE WAS DRUNK. When they are getting "deep" and "reflecting", they are three sheets to the wind. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/22 06:06 PM |
| 3 | Why you shouldn’t live together before marriage: 2 real-life examplesRight then and there is a definitive commitment. Still, both people should work out what kind of living situation they want (i.e. If one person has a lease, you/him should stay there until the lease runs out, then the two of you discuss getting a place together or moving into the other person's place. Another scenario like living with family, you get proposed to. Again, both of you should work out a timeline to look for somewhere to live if the other person doesn't live on their own. If the scen… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 07:52 AM |
| 9 | Why you shouldn’t live together before marriage: 2 real-life examplesNo, you should NOT have just moved in. You are hurt because you truly cared for him, but let's be straight here: That guy presented you with a relationship based on conditions. Your ex knows enough how badly you want out of living with your family. By revealing all that you have to him, he knows which buttons to press to get you to do what he wants. And that is what living together is: Being treated like a puppet. You get told to jump and respond: How high? I dated a guy who did this to me. He d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 07:31 AM |
| 14 | Why you shouldn’t live together before marriage: 2 real-life examplesExactly. This is something that I live by, and even when I have gone through times where I was sad about being single, there was always that reminder that I always kept my self and had my dignity intact. Most of all is the situations around me where the girlfriend and boyfriend call "taking the next step in our relationship" moving in together. I don't envy these people in the slightest. People never think of the breakup aspect, although it is a very, very real possibility. A lease? That sucks t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 07:13 AM |
| 11 | Why you shouldn’t live together before marriage: 2 real-life examples100% words to live by. DO NOT LIVE TOGETHER AS BOYFRIEND AND GIRLFRIEND! I have so many stories about this and it always comes down to the same thing: You are a convenience to him when you are paying half of the expenses. There was a guy I met at my friend's sister's graduation party. He had a girl living with him and was hitting on me, then they mysteriously "broke up". When I wouldn't fill the void (read: Rebound) he stops talking to me. He proceeds to find a girl on an online dating app, love… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 07:00 AM |
| 19 | Tell the world you abuse women without telling the world you abuse women 🤫🤭screen I laughed so hard at this. It's like he discovered some divine secret of life. Nah bruv, it's only the harsh reality that a screen is messing with your feeble mind. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 06:33 AM |
| 2 | How Are You Treating Yourself this Holiday Season?My birthday and Christmas are two weeks apart and I always make it a point to treat myself. This year I upgraded my phone! Granted, I had my previous phone, LG G5, for 5 years. As much as I enjoyed that phone, it was beginning to show signs of mechanical breakdown and Android didn't have it listed as one of the supported device for the Android 12 update. My eye was on the Samsung Galaxy S21 Ultra - and darn that chip shortage! - but I was determined to get that phone! I mentioned in another comm… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 06:57 AM |
| 5 | How Are You Treating Yourself this Holiday Season?I suggest a facial! I was going monthly until September when my grandmother fell at her home and fractured her pelvis. Time that I would have had to devote to self care has taken a backseat until two weeks ago. I love taking care of my skin, yet I have been neglecting it. Seeing how I looked after the facial reinforced how I can't put caring for myself behind me anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 06:45 AM |
| 49 | Why he buys jewelry at Walmart, Sam's Club, or CostcoThis is so well-thought out. In all seriousness, though, even in the absence of a side piece, the Notorious Cheapskate will spend on himself and buy anything "shiny" to pass off as expensive to appease his girl. She's not going to find out where it's from anyway! When my last ex and I began our relationship, his sister and her future husband were in the throes of planning their wedding that was nine months away (February to November). Along the way, there were always these rumblings I caught abo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 06:22 AM |
| 120 | Careful who you breed with. Man Repulsed by pregnant body. Will continue to be repulsed until it returns to “normal” This mentality is so common.This is an excellent point. Suddenly guys realize that the attention is no longer on him. Instead, it is on the woman carrying his child. I know very few guys who truly became men when their wife or girlfriend was carrying their child. They knew their duty was to be a shield for her, not regressing into this envious demon. The worst thing about the guys at the other end of the spectrum who turn on the mother of their unborn child is that they have the nerve to use "being scared/having anxiety" t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 04:58 AM |
| 4 | cringe Slate post on 50/50I commented to others how repulsed I was. You can read those responses about what happened afterward. It reinforced why I do not keep social media profiles. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 04:44 AM |
| 6 | cringe Slate post on 50/50I was so repulsed by him. What's more is how scared I felt that outside of the restaurant, I was going to be alone with him. Looking back, I should have ducked into the bathroom and called my parents or one of my friends to get me out of there. We leave together and I cut the night short. He tried salvaging things by saying he didn't mean what he said, etc., but the damage was done. I asked him why he did it and he told me that he felt like he needed to find out things about me because I didn't … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 04:40 AM |
| 6 | cringe Slate post on 50/50I truly thought he was joking until he turned his phone around and there was my parents' address. It was repulsive and made me feel numb. By no means am I anyone famous, but the fact that he would admit that he Internet stalked me ruined the whole night. It occurred to me that I was in the safety of a restaurant until we left. Then we were alone together. Was he going to do something to me? Was he going to try to coerce information out of me? He could tell that the whole mood changed and I decid… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 04:17 AM |
| 33 | “Merry Christmas from me and my family, whom I hate!”These are really unsettling with the duct tape and the being restrained with Christmas lights. Right, because sending out a Christmas card depicting your family - except for you - being bound and gagged is totally not a cause for concern for their safety. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 08:07 PM |
| 7 | “Merry Christmas from me and my family, whom I hate!”Ugh, seeing these picture makes me feel uncomfortable. The whole thing screams "last picture alive". Utterly tasteless. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 08:02 PM |
| 81 | cringe Slate post on 50/50Guys like him are a special kind of shitty. There are the ones who put on an act so they can ride her coattails, then there are the ones like him who deliberately dig for information and hold 50/50 over her head because "she can afford it!" Gold digging guys have an endgame and those are the ones who need to be sussed out immediately. The less you tell them, the more you can decided for yourself if you want to go further with him. I had a guy who I dated admit to me that as soon as I told him my… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 07:53 PM |
| 6 | Forever GF finally done after being forced to care for BF's stinky slobbering furbabyI commented above about this. The dick ain't that great that you would put up with being dragged through this muck for SIX YEARS. That isn't far off from a decade. All of this is indicative of how in the toilet her standards were to begin with. Did she play mommy and make crafts with the kids while just being absolutely clueless about the way he made her look? My uncle is as zero value as they come, yet the only nugget of truth that ever came from his mouth was, "You are who you keep your time w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 06:24 AM |
| 5 | Forever GF finally done after being forced to care for BF's stinky slobbering furbabyDid she think that she could fix him? Heal him? She can't. He sounds deplorable, but she is just as bad for immersing herself in the situation. When the writing is on the literal and figurative wall, zero sympathy for a woman. I'm sorry, I know this sub encourages women to support and guide each other, but there are things exactly like what is posted here that is the perfect example of ignorance. We have all made mistakes, BUT IT TOOK SIX YEARS TO SEE THE LIGHT?? My HVM father has a saying about… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 06:19 AM |
| 6 | The tea is hotEvery time my boyfriend comes to visit, without fail he is leaving the seat up. Funny, he doesn't do that at his apartment. I can't figure out how the absentmindedness only seems to descend upon him here. Is it bad that I am trying to come up with ways to get back at him or even prank him for continuing to do this? Taking suggestions! : ) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 06:02 AM |
| 28 | The tea is hotSome time ago there was an AITA thread where the OP (woman) had her boyfriend move in with her (first mistake). The guy was such a moron and left a train of piss on the toilet and drips all over the floor around the toilet every time used the bathroom. She cleaned the area with disinfecting wipes, yet it kept happening. Her solution came in the form of putting the extra pee pads from when she was trying to housebreak her puppy and cutting them to satisfy the shape of the area around the bottom o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 05:58 AM |
| 5 | The tea is hotHahaha, oh my goodness. This is why observing the way a guy lives by himself (i.e. cleanliness) yields very surprising results. The other week ago when I was visiting my boyfriend, I went to use the bathroom and discovered that once again he didn't flush. I decided to broach the subject very innocently and ask him if he was having an issue with his toilet. He told me no, asked why I thought that, and that is when I very bluntly told him that he didn't.FUCKING.FLUSH and I notice it every time I c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 05:44 AM |
| 2 | What does FDS think about the rise of the “stay at home girlfriend?”Stay at home girlfriend sounds like a friendlier version of our well-used term "Bangmaid". I don't understand this "trend" (maybe that is the wrong word to use). I love to work, I am not afraid to work, and I have an immense sense of pride when I see my efforts come to fruition as accomplishments. To give all of that up just to assume the role of a maid? It feels and sounds like a huge betrayal to the diplomas hanging up on my wall. Of course a guy would advertise that moving in with him adds so… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 08:42 AM |
| 1 | hot take: pickme women are worse than lvmAs much as my uncle is an awful person, the only statement I ever agreed with that came out of his mouth was: "You are who you hang out with". Like attracts like and PickMe women and NV/LV guys are like moths to flame. There are aspects of PickMe's and LV/NV males that are congruent. Both relish chasing, treat the person of the opposite sex like a conquest, and gloat. The personalities are pretty obnoxious and their standards are the bottom of the barrel for a reason. They are proud of how they … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 08:13 AM |
| 13 | This man really thought I was gonna pick him up in my carYour title made me laugh and reminded me of the time this happened to me. It still makes a great story at parties: I met this guy who was really funny, smart, and similar interests. We talked endlessly, all was going well, so he asks me out on a date to see a movie. He planned the date and we decided on what we were seeing. At one point during our conversation, he mentioned that he "might need a ride" and I'm not thinking much of that statement. The night of our date rolls around and I text him … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 07:43 AM |
| 9 | What Do You Guys Think About People Playing Matchmaker?After a breakup, my friend told me that I needed to get back out in the dating world immediately. She went so far as to suggest a guy who her husband worked with doing bail bondsman/serving warrants. "He's a really great guy!" I told her, "If you value our friendship, you will never set me up with anyone". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/21 09:55 PM |
| 2 | 50/50 (FDS art by me)Thank you for your kind words! I'm not going to lie, it has been a lot of emotional ups and downs. I was extremely hurt because he initiated the breakup while I was very injured. Now, though? Well, he has to look in the mirror every day and face family and friends who know what he did. By no means do I envy his girlfriend! Recently my grandmother's live-in aide from Jamaica Queens told me something that resonated: "Even good people do bad things, but there is that one bad thing that someone does… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 05:18 AM |
| 32 | 'Tis the Season for Max Scrotatiousness... Ho Ho Ho!Yes! I dated a guy like this. I asked him why he was always trying to feed me things like cakes that I ate in strict moderation. He told me that he enjoyed seeing me enjoy those things. Umm, okay, thanks (?) That Valentine's Day, he shows up to my house with a personal-sized cake. I asked him if he wanted some and he said, "No, that is strictly for you to eat". What really set off the alarms was when he asked me to eat it in front of him. I refused because it was just way too much. Oddly enough,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 03:54 AM |
| 23 | 50/50 (FDS art by me)I love your sketches! My ex moved his girlfriend into his house. She lets him borrow her car while his is on its last leg. Oh, and this is my ex whose driver's license was suspended as a result of the accident he injured me in. What is the incentive for him to buy a new car when he has another at his disposal? The thought crossed my mind to anonymously send to his house, but it's way too good to keep for myself :D | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 02:52 AM |
| 49 | Just broke up with a sweet, funny, kind and attentive guy, because he works a minimum wage jobA male co-worker of mine who was in his 70s had this statement: "Love makes the world go 'round and money puts the grease on the wheels". This was a man who came from poverty and wanted better for himself, especially later when he had a family. You best believe he did just that. He became the head electrician of a well-known national food company. Here he was, a man, encouraging me to vet men based on what kind of job they have because "struggling isn't comfortable". My co-worker stressed how be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 11:47 PM |
| 3 | red flag: "I can't cook"Hahaha, Mama Baiting. I love it : ) At one time, I loved cooking and baking for a boyfriend. Many appreciated it and others did not (lesson learned on the "did nots"), although there is a stark difference between announcing you are cooking, he wants to participate, and it becomes an activity together where you go to the store and buy the ingredients vs. me being Miss Suzy Homemaker and gleefully announcing, "I am cooking for YOU AND DOING ALL OF THE WORK". I changed my stance on cooking for a bo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/21 08:20 PM |
| 2 | red flag: "I can't cook"This is what I admire about my brother-in-law. He is an amazing cook and loves to grill. He is a Constable, so his hours can err on being unpredictable. Even then he still finds the time to go to the gym and make dinner if my sister doesn't already have something she started. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/21 07:41 PM |
| 6 | I have no wordsThat post made me so angry and further drives home why you never live with who you are dating. It doesn't even have to be skincare: Imagine anything you have of value - carefully organized, cared for - to be at the mercy of this person who sees it as a useless waste of space. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/21 07:37 PM |
| 3 | FDS Gift Guide?Whenever I have been early in a relationship (six months into my current one) I take him to his favorite restaurant and get him one thing that I bought on eBay. Say he had his eye on a shirt. I'll hunt for it on eBay or find something like it. That way, I didn't spend an exorbitant amount of money while I give them an impression that I did spend a lot. In reality, it's not like I'm not putting in the effort. I am simply engaging in creative accounting so that I don't kick myself later when/if he… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/21 07:24 PM |
| 48 | Why do men think that saying "enjoy being single forever" is supposed to insult us?They love seeing us bend over backwards for them, only for them to put us forward and screw us. All of that time, energy, and love...and we're not enough. It is insulting and get sick pleasure out of seeing a woman cry, oops, go crazy. "Actually, I really don't want anything serious/don't want the relationship anymore, but you're really a nice person, let's be friends!" Once upon a time, I had an ex tell me - in the same conversation - "You need to lower your standards" and "You really aren't ma… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 06:37 PM |
| 48 | Can’t wait to see the male commenters of DM collectively lose their tiny minds.Dost thou live deliciously? If we are witches, this is a Coven that they are clearly not part of for good reason. Please excuse me while I meet Black Philip in the forest! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 06:12 PM |
| 121 | Can’t wait to see the male commenters of DM collectively lose their tiny minds.> Men have myriads of porn devoted to their particular preferences (large breasts, small breasts, large butts, athletic, large bodies, ethnicities, ages, and so on. And they choose to blame the woman they are with for not fitting into any of that criteria ("She doesn't exercise/take care of herself/I'm not attracted to her/any excuse under the sun to take the heat off of themselves). I had an ex who did exactly this to me. All of the porn he had - live action and pictures - depicted very skinny … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 06:04 PM |
| 3 | Raise your hand if you’ve ever lowered your standards and NOT regretted it.Yup, after two years my expectations were suddenly "unrealistic". Go figure, lol. Isn't it funny how we are no longer fun when we remind them of our standards? I had my questions, too, because when it's that many, it's inexcusable. He was up there in rank with my jackal of an uncle whose girlfriend had NINE abortions by him. I remember when my ex told me about the last abortion and asked him if his friend was at all sad. He replied, "Um, I don't know, he's ok I guess, just don't let on when we s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 06:12 AM |
| 21 | I have no wordsEither an Aquis or Volo towel. I own towels from both brands and it makes a world of difference with drying and styling time, plus the texture of my hair. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 05:53 AM |
| 54 | I have no wordsBecause all of the time and money women spend on looking our best makes us look like painted jezebels. bE mOrE nAtUrAl!! Meanwhile these skanky guys can't even be bothered to wipe themselves, wash their faces, replace their toothbrush when the bristles become mangy, or continue to use dull blades on their razors, thus get ingrown hairs and razor burn. "I don't need that EXTRA stuff, that's g*Y!" At least gay men know how to dress and groom themselves. : ) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 05:50 AM |
| 159 | I have no wordsAnd they have been together two years. TWO YEARS. Towel Bandit reminds me of a guy who I dated. It baffled him that I had routines for my hair and skincare. "Why do you need SO MUCH??" He would feign. I answered the question once and that was the only time he would ever hear the why to the how. What did he do instead? Make fun of me, pick on what I was buying, and bitch about how much I spent of MY MONEY for my self-care. His routine? Diddly squat. The most effort he put into self-care was makin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 05:40 AM |
| 292 | I have no wordsIt would not surprise me in the slightest. "Hey, why did you guys break up?" "BeCauSe i HiD her sPeCiAl ToWeL". Dude would never live that one down. Please, Towel Thief, tell us all about how superior your grooming habits are to hers. BECAUSE THEY ARE PROBABLY IN THE TOILET. It begs the question of what else he rags on her for. Women are either not pristine enough for a man or so much that she is "high maintenance". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 05:13 AM |
| 1 | Holiday Dating Reminders & TipsAlways! : ) By all means continue to vet. Do you know this couple or are they friends of his? That is where I would be a bit wary, but hey, it's good you aren't entirely ignoring the feeling. Please keep us updated? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 05:08 AM |
| 3 | Raise your hand if you’ve ever lowered your standards and NOT regretted it.Damn, I never thought of it that way! That's a great point! Oh he was sooo "charming". He continued to try to sell me on how unrealistic men treating women were and he was living with the prime example. His buddy was on and off with a girlfriend who had five abortions with him. People literally are who they hang out with. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 05:05 AM |
| 63 | Raise your hand if you’ve ever lowered your standards and NOT regretted it.I had an ex who I was in love with. We were together for almost two years and he decided to move into an apartment with this friend who was a bottom of the barrel moocher. We went from having a great relationship to getting into more and more fights because he decided that our time together was no longer only the two of us and other times with our friends. Now it was solely comprised of spending time with his friends. I asked why everything changed and I will never forget his loser's excuse, "We… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 06:53 AM |
| 5 | Holiday Dating Reminders & TipsI am fueled by the wonderful advice I was given tonight and now I want to help! Ok, I could see if he was joking about shopping at the last minute or about people who do that. It strikes me as weird that he would have this pow-wow with his friend's girlfriend. Like, what? Maybe I am in the minority here, although I would take what he is saying with a grain of salt. Disorganized? That's fair. Grounds for dumping? Not until you receive said gift and it is so off-base from what you wanted. Again, y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 06:21 AM |
| 39 | Why do men “not want a relationship” because of a breakup ages ago, but women are still willing to seek real connections and love despite the amount of horror we’ve gone through?He was the cheater. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 04:38 AM |
| 68 | Why do men “not want a relationship” because of a breakup ages ago, but women are still willing to seek real connections and love despite the amount of horror we’ve gone through?> Boot any man who mentions his ex or speaks badly of them. It should be a HUGE red flag when he sidesteps a question from you about what happened which caused the breakup. A woman should at least have a general understanding of why the relationship ended. He is certainly complicit when he avoids the question. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 04:36 AM |
| 63 | Why do men “not want a relationship” because of a breakup ages ago, but women are still willing to seek real connections and love despite the amount of horror we’ve gone through?> "the one who got away" is usually the "spare tire". It's an ego boost when he has her at his beck and call because he knows how much she cares about him, then he dumps her. It's fun for him, yet he feigns "I'm sorry!" or ghosts completely until he comes crawling back at another point in time. And that is when she doesn't answer his call. His charms have worn off and now he is in dismay because now it's not just the "spare tire", it is all of these other women he has treated this way. This is t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 04:32 AM |
| 258 | Why do men “not want a relationship” because of a breakup ages ago, but women are still willing to seek real connections and love despite the amount of horror we’ve gone through?"[Insert leading comment about how great/pretty/nice/anything to compliment you to soften the incoming blow], but I'm not looking for anything serious." Whenever I have encountered this comment, it's because the guy already has another two or so girls that he is screwing around with and you are the backup. If you say this? Oh my God, the floodgates have opened, and you are the biggest sl** they have ever met. PLEASE. There was a relationship that I was in where my mom was scheduled to have major… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 04:22 AM |
| 8 | Think twice before you get into a long distance relationshipThere is only one long distance relationship that I know of that worked: My sister's best friend and her now husband. Her friend met her husband when she was home visiting on the east coast. Meanwhile, her friend worked on the west coast. They were long distance for five years. They were always in constant contact and took turns flying back and forth every other month. Finally it got to the point where her job gave her the leeway to stay on the west coast or come back here, and she chose him and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 04:02 AM |
| 3 | Holiday Dating Reminders & TipsDaisy gave me a lot to think about and I appreciate you chiming in! Feel free to read my reply to her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 03:45 AM |
| -2 | Holiday Dating Reminders & TipsYes, I have read the handbook. However, I do put a lot of weight on the previous experiences others post to gain insight. The conflicting feelings that I addressed (i.e. the "sounding harsh") is something that I wanted to write on here because I can't say that to someone else outside of this sub without being told I'm sounding ungrateful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 03:44 AM |
| 2 | Holiday Dating Reminders & TipsThank you for taking the time to respond! Ugh, I hear everything you are saying and it makes me sad because I honestly thought that he was putting his best foot forward (being respectful of my time, paid for dates from the beginning, always is making plans with me, etc.). There are some things that I should have been clearer on, too! Where the wedding comes in: I found out about it in the summer since that's when the save the date arrived. It wasn't until at least two months before the wedding w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 03:35 AM |
| 12 | Holiday Dating Reminders & TipsThank you so much for posting this! Your list is very well thought-out, insightful, and has inspired me to post this: I'm having some issues with my current boyfriend that you touched on here and I hope I can get some insight from everyone. He and I began dating at the end of this past May. He wanted to wait six months until I met his family, although he has met mine along the way. The only person I have ever met was his dad when they hired his landscaping company. Boyfriend wasn't happy about "… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/21 04:54 AM |
| 24 | If you won’t bother checking the FDS handbook before posting your question, at least ask yourself this…> I stopped comparing myself to others. Thank you for saying this! The first time I came across these words was in Why Men Love Bitches. I was reading that book at a time when I really needed a self-esteem boost and then some. The context that Sherry Argov put it in was comparing yourself to other women. She wrote (not verbatim) that the moment you begin comparing yourself to other women, you demean yourself. Also, a strategy that made me laugh was when Argov mentioned saying to a man that you w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 02:30 AM |
| 2 | Scrote’s own 16 yo daughter knows her dad is a creep. Call out the scrote no matter who it isI totally agree with you. Have you ever believed words or was shown solid proof and that made you believe it? Prior to the threesome, I was sent screenshots from another girl my ex was getting nude pictures from. Foolishly - and I still smack my forehead to this day - I refused to believe it. Even more than "taking with a grain of salt", words only go so far. It is proof in pictures, actual text messages, and then some that really drive the point home that the guy is doing you dirty. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 02:22 AM |
| 37 | Scrote’s own 16 yo daughter knows her dad is a creep. Call out the scrote no matter who it isI went through something similar in college. My so-called "devoted" boyfriend was having threesomes with these two girls in the storage room behind the stage area. So many people - his friends included - knew and were literally trying to send me smoke signals to clue me in. But nooo, I was too blinded by that people were trying to break us up like his ex did. The truth came out when he moved one of the girls into his house (!), I broke up with him, and I made it a point to apologize to the peopl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 08:37 AM |
| 36 | I mean… I can’t disagree.And the "batteries" being a euphemism for their lack of taking care of themselves. One of my exes had a horrendous diet of fried foods and throwing back beer after beer. We couldn't even have sex without him getting winded, then he wanted me to "get him going again". Another ex was always quite...early. He thought that counting out loud while we were having sex would ward off him finishing. Well, come to find out that his diet was going to hell. Oh, but his dick did, in fact, work when he watche… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/21 04:32 AM |
| 1 | Talk to your ex’s exShe and I had lunch yesterday. My current ex's girlfriend just moved in with him (LOL 🤡) and she expressed us "having a friendship". (P.S. Him and I never lived together). By the way, she "doesn't even know what will happen in their relationship or is sure about him", but *all of her stuff is all moved in. Hmm. Despite her repeated attempts at asking him what happened between us, she admitted to me that he won't tell her. However, "he has told me some things". Whether or not you check my post hi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 05:35 PM |
| 14 | The breakup level up cliche is totally true!Your comment resonated with me. My ex ended our relationship after he injured me in a car accident that he is at fault for. The past three years has seen me working through a very dark period of depression (even now having my moments). What has helped me is therapy and this subreddit, but most of all taking care of myself and surrounding myself with friends and family who fully support how far I have come. Him? He looks miserable now that he has moved his new girlfriend into his house (he and I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 07:19 AM |
| 19 | The breakup level up cliche is totally true!Karma indeed : ) My dad has a saying: Soar with the eagles, don't wallow in the swamp. He will contact you when they destroy each other and you will be on an entirely unreachable plane. Soar, Queen, soar! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 07:07 AM |
| 45 | Why they neg, straight from the horse’s mouth.He's so deep into the closet he's finding Christmas presents. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 05:46 AM |
| 39 | Why they neg, straight from the horse’s mouth.Meanwhile he thinks he is owed blowjobs when he has a smelly tumbleweed ensconcing everything down there. Vomits | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 05:45 AM |
| 6 | FDS is featured on JezebelDid she mean "slinging" and thought "slanging" sounded better? Not that I'm giving this person any shred of credit for writing such a small-minded article. The red line appeared under the word after I typed it, so it certainly did for her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 05:38 AM |
| 18 | FDS is featured on JezebelDeep down she knows that FDS is right, yet can't admit it, so she needs to bash the principles. Shout out to the part where she posts the Amazon link to her book. She couldn't do without shameless, self-promotion, could she? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 05:28 AM |
| 40 | FDS is featured on JezebelWhenever I read and/or hear knocks towards women for having perceived "high maintenance" beauty and fitness routines, it pisses me off, then it makes me laugh. The fact that others are so bothered about women taking the time to take care of themselves is asinine. I almost want to say, "Eww, you're one of those sickos obsessed with what women do in the bathroom." We're damned if we do care about our looks and we're damned when we don't put enough effort into it. We are damning ourselves to a life… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 05:22 AM |
| 12 | Woman wants to stay after finding out her boyfriend of four years is still married - to his best friend - because they never filed the paperworkBecause he "picked" me! Oof. This is one of the main reasons why she is defending her relationship to the death. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 09:02 PM |
| 25 | What happens when a forever girlfriend finally gets married.The guy sounds like trash. I wonder what else he's going to be doing on that surfing trip... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 09:09 PM |
| 64 | Apparently having an emergency savings fund as a woman and not explicitly saying so to your male partner is “financial infidelity.” 🤨🙄I had an ex who tried convincing me that "Playing House together would be fun!" and that "all couples need to know how much each other earns and what is in their bank accounts". He got pissed when I laughed in his face. There is zero benefit to a woman to tell a guy, especially one she is not married to, about how much money she has. Instead, he has everything to gain by convincing her why "we're in this together!" which is a total crock. Right, we're in this together until you find out your eve… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 07:25 AM |
| 33 | Apparently having an emergency savings fund as a woman and not explicitly saying so to your male partner is “financial infidelity.” 🤨🙄At the same time, this is why when we see articles like this we can dress it down for all of the BS. She lives with her boyfriend, so she is doing herself a disservice as a whole to begin with. Anyway. The person who wrote in put all of the right verbs in his sentences to victimize himself. Like, how could she do this to me???? His problem is that he found out - more than likely because he snooped - and doesn't like that she even has anything for herself. To him, what is hers should also be his,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 07:04 AM |
| 44 | Apparently having an emergency savings fund as a woman and not explicitly saying so to your male partner is “financial infidelity.” 🤨🙄Never mind how guys put on this "YoU cAn tRuSt mE bAbE, i WuLd neVer HuRt yOu" act to make you drop your guard so you will disclose what you have to them. Those are the guys who use it as ammunition in fights and financially abuse women. OH, but we are duplicitous vipers for creating the boundary that prying eyes have no business knowing how much money we have. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 06:53 AM |
| 35 | Apparently having an emergency savings fund as a woman and not explicitly saying so to your male partner is “financial infidelity.” 🤨🙄This is exactly what I was thinking. No doubt this guy was "accidentally on purpose" rummaging through his girlfriend's things and whoops! Look at all of that money! He also omitted the part where he probably interrogated his girlfriend. Living together (\shudder**) or not, no woman has to explain every single cent she owns to a guy. Nobody will call out the entitlement of the guy who is whining that her money is his, too. This is enabling at its finest because guys like the one who wrote to "Yo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 06:43 AM |
| 40 | Apparently having an emergency savings fund as a woman and not explicitly saying so to your male partner is “financial infidelity.” 🤨🙄> Your finance friend, Paco I want to kick this guy in the balls. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 06:31 AM |
| 14 | Does it ever just make you sad how much women will put up with?Damn, this is so accurate it is not even funny, but it is HILARIOUS. Anymore I do not have sympathy for women who let themselves be talked into - or come up with the idea - that the relationship you are in will be "strengthened" when the two of you decide to move in together without an engagement ring and a wedding date set. Honestly at that point the fault is their own and the damage that trickles down is self-inflicted. I'm coming from the perspective of a woman who has never, ever lived with … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/21 02:22 AM |
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