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I'm glad things are working for you
/r/seduction12/02/21 09:11 PM
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I mean it as own your needs and desires in dating. A lot of dating advise tells people to act aloof and indifferent, or create emotional space between you and your prospects. I think if you like someone, tell them. If you want to date someone, ask them to date. If you want to text someone, text them. Own your desires. Don’t play games. That along with meeting a lot of people will empower you enough curb your neediness.
/r/seduction27/01/21 11:22 PM
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The Charisma Myth was my first self-help book. Love that book!!
/r/seduction27/01/21 03:43 PM
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There’s nothing wrong with cliche.
/r/seduction26/01/21 10:50 PM
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Meet a ton of women with the intention of finding an fwb. You’ll filter out women looking for something different.
/r/seduction26/01/21 10:46 PM
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Experience will help. You gotta take the good with the bad.
/r/seduction26/01/21 10:45 PM
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Lol that’s life. Don’t worry about what the girls are doing. You can’t control that. Worry about yourself. Worry about going for what you want.
/r/seduction26/01/21 10:44 PM
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Mark Manson also has blog and one of his posts is called If Discipline feels difficult, You’re doing it wrong. https://markmanson.net/self-discipline
/r/seduction26/01/21 10:43 PM
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I hate both. I’d say know what kind of relationship you’re looking for (short-term, long-term, fwb...) and know what kind of women you’re looking for (smart, pretty, affectionate...). Know your limits. Then try and meet as many of those people as possible, as authentically as possible. And push those limits. You’ll be bad when you start (there’s no way of getting around that). But after a while you’ll grow more and more confident.
/r/seduction25/01/21 07:13 PM
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This is a decent observation. Like does attract like. One thing to think about is what kind of women are you trying to attract and what kind of women are you attracting?
/r/seduction25/01/21 07:08 PM
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Keep your options open. As great as this girl is, you totally find someone who can fit your life as well.
/r/seduction25/01/21 07:04 PM
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I’d say to own your neediness. Owning your neediness will make you less needy. Also keep your dating options open until the person you’re dating is as invested as you are. Last find things in your life outside dating that make you genuinely happy.
/r/seduction20/01/21 01:40 AM
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Lol I live Florida. The state is open.
/r/seduction06/01/21 04:21 PM
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My personal mindset is to define success as something I can control entirely. In Mark's book Models, he defines success as maximizing happiness with the women you meet. So if you say hi to someone and they completely ignore you, you've maximized that encounter. But if you see a girl you wanna talk to but don't...you haven't maximized that encounter. I've been in a couple situations where having sex with someone would make me less happy...so I declined pursuing sex in these situations. Maximize h…
/r/seduction06/01/21 04:20 PM
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I think "just be yourself" means, be the version of yourself that's relaxed and easy going around friends and family.
/r/seduction06/01/21 04:13 PM
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That nervous shaky feeling is called anxiety...my personal solution this would be to date more people until you meet someone who likes you as much as you like them.
/r/seduction06/01/21 04:11 PM
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I would say be a little bit more patient than you'd normally be but....keep your option all the way open until you meet a girl that likes you as much as you like them.
/r/seduction06/01/21 04:08 PM
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I’m not dealing with that kind of behavior. There are plenty girls who won’t do that.
/r/seduction31/12/20 06:48 PM
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I think you're asking the wrong question, is the girl you're talking to in your league? What are you looking for in a partner? Looks? Intelligence? Wit? Affection? Will this person make you happier? What I'm trying to say is to have standards for yourself and create a league for yourself.
/r/seduction25/12/20 02:52 PM
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Be patient. December is a tough month to make plans in. But keep your options open.
/r/seduction18/12/20 01:22 PM
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There's an increase of "be an incredible man to attract women" post. and that is true. I just wanna say, you can be a pretty mediocre man and attract women. You don't have to be an expert level guitar player, make six figure or have an eight-pack abs to attract women....you really don't. If you put in the effort, learn the skills and have healthier viewpoints around sexuality/women...you'll be fine.
/r/seduction14/12/20 04:10 PM
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I'd say building a social circle will help you. You're still new to your city and social circle game could be an avenue to explore. Also I'd ask what kind of woman are you looking for? What three traits are looking for in a partner? Then investigate hobbies where people with those traits frequent. Lastly, if you can swing it, invest in coaching. Coaching, for me, levels me up quickly.
/r/seduction11/12/20 02:52 PM
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I don't quite agree with this. I agree with not pursuing a passion solely to attract women. But...I think you can start a hobby to meet/attract women and that can become your passion later on. For instance, four years ago I started swing dancing to meet women and now it's my passion. I'm a pretty good dancer now and that get some attention from women...that's fun but that's not the only reason I dance. I love moving my body to music, I love jazz and I love swing.... The point I'm making is it's …
/r/seduction11/12/20 02:40 AM
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If I were you I'd focus on the traits you ARE attracted to rather than the traits you aren't. For me, I like smart, fun and affectionate women. so I filter for only those women.
/r/seduction11/12/20 02:27 AM
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This is awesome advise and I give it too from time to time. But be aware of using these passions to avoid talking with women. An example is the person who has their life in order but makes excuses for not pursuing romance like: "I'm just so busy with work." and "I'll find a girlfriend after I get a black belt." Life is about balance.
/r/seduction10/12/20 09:29 PM
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Thanks for adding on. I think of cold approach as a “right of passage” for any man’s journey to love. You definitely can find dating options without cold approaching, but like you said the confidence and the skill set that you gain from cold approaching is something that can’t be replicated.
/r/seduction10/12/20 12:45 PM
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In my opinion, social circle game will give you the best results. Women would much rather date someone they’re familiar with. But cold approach will have you improving much faster and the growth from cold approach could be used in every single method of meeting women. Cold approach is more like a long-term investment that rewards you in many ways later on. Where as the other ones (online and social circle game) are more short term. I’d say don’t stick to one and invest some energy in finding you…
/r/seduction07/12/20 07:25 PM
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This is a shit post. Seduction is simpler than it's made out to be on this sub. If you wanna get better at talking to women, talk to women. Assuming you have your life in order (and you don't even need to do that)…all it takes is a few month of trail and error.
/r/seduction24/11/20 09:40 PM
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girls are not idiots. LOL some girls are idiots or at least completely oblivious. There's nothing wrong with making your intention known explicitly. Saying, "hey I like you, we should date." can be real damn attractive.
/r/seduction23/11/20 01:12 PM
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If you live in a medium to big city (pop. >250,000), go on all the apps and use them consistently for a month or two until you have a favorite. Take good pictures and have a fun bio. Be prepared for flakes and ghosting, and have fun. If you can pick up a social hobby and try to meet people in real life.
/r/seduction23/11/20 01:08 PM
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An easy way for a women to stand out to me is to be fun or funny. There are a ton of pretty girls so I generally look for ladies who are generally fun to be around. That's draws my attention more than a cute face and a nice butt. Also good conversation skills, one thing I've noticed (this could be just me) is that single girls have the worst conversational skills. Hope this helps I can go more in detail if you need.
/r/seduction23/11/20 01:04 PM
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Good luck guys!! i
/r/seduction20/11/20 11:43 PM
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Depends on what I'm looking for. If I want something long-term I go option B. Something more casual option A.
/r/seduction14/11/20 08:55 PM
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Can anyone transcribe the 5 points?
/r/seduction14/11/20 08:51 PM
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Just own your neediness. Owning your neediness will make you less needy.
/r/seduction11/11/20 11:38 PM
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Try again tomorrow
/r/seduction11/11/20 11:36 PM
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Everyone’s is saying to forget about her. Which is decent advice. If it were me I would give her a chance to explain herself. I’d text her something like, “Hey I thought we made plans. What happened? Hope everything’s ok.” If she doesn’t reply to that, she’s definitely not interested. If you want closure for yourself you can text, “Ok, I get it. You aren’t interested. I just wish you would’ve told me your feelings instead of ghosting. Best of luck.”
/r/seduction11/11/20 11:32 PM
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All this talk about "simp", "chad", alpha", ect... is pointless!! All this jargon does is fluff up the word count for RSD Whogivesafucks blog post and it doesn't serve anyone. Keep your eye on the prize. Because dating is simpler than it's presented here. If you wanna date women, TRY to date women.
/r/seduction16/10/20 01:52 PM
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"Work on yourself" is such vague advice that it's near trivial and it comes off as avoidant. Also putting effort toward dating/love is "working on yourself".
/r/seduction16/10/20 01:50 PM
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Ask them on a date. It's the simplest way to make a situation sexual.
/r/seduction16/10/20 01:38 PM
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I wouldn't do that. But you'll probably have a better success rate than tinder. I'm curious to see what happens.
/r/seduction15/10/20 10:04 PM
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It sounds like you already can talk to women so just ask them out. Just say, "hey you're cute...let's grab a coffee sometime"
/r/seduction15/10/20 10:03 PM
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You know what to do, you just gotta do it.
/r/seduction15/10/20 09:59 PM
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Ask her out if you want to...sounds like you do.
/r/seduction15/10/20 09:58 PM
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Dude, just have fun.
/r/seduction15/10/20 09:56 PM
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Porn disrupts sexual motivation. Why would you try an meet someone when you can just watch porn?
/r/seduction15/10/20 09:45 PM
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What are you talking about? Working harder doing what?
/r/seduction15/10/20 09:43 PM
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How do I approach on Snapchat? That's an oxymoron...you approach in real life not online.
/r/seduction15/10/20 09:42 PM
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Honestly less than you think. You can ask someone out after a five minute…probably even less...
/r/seduction15/10/20 09:39 PM
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Why don't you find out for us?
/r/seduction15/10/20 09:37 PM
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Looks matter but so does talking to women. How many women have you met in the last month? If the answer is less than 5, you need to meet more women.
/r/seduction14/10/20 11:18 PM
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The bad news is, you still have a ton of growing up to do... That's also the good news. You're 18, believe it or not you're still a kid. Have fun! You have your whole life to worry abort being a man. As for your mother and brother, I'd suggest seeing a counselor to help manage that situation.
/r/seduction14/10/20 03:11 AM
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I'm sure you're fine. Work out 3x a week and whatever your body Morphs to is ideal
/r/seduction14/10/20 02:51 AM
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I think you just attach quickly...there’s nothing wrong with that. I’m like that too. What helps me is empowering myself to pursue more options. So, until I meet a lady who adores me as much as adore her, I will continue to try and meet other dating options. Also, conventional dating advice doesn’t work well with people like us. There’s a book called Attached that explains this better than I would.
/r/seduction13/10/20 05:51 PM
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I think you're doing fine and it could be some bad luck. Women who like you will excuse all kinds of mistakes. You've just run into women who don't like you. One thing I'd say is have more fun!! Dating is supposed to be fun and if you're not having fun take a break for a week or so to gather your senses. Rejection is normal...I get rejected all the time...sometimes not in a nice way. Wipe the dirt off your shoulders and hold your head up high. Because dating for guys like us will teach us to be …
/r/seduction11/10/20 09:40 PM
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Think about which girl makes you the most happy and get with that one.
/r/seduction11/10/20 04:07 PM
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Be an expert at your job. It'll give you confidence. Be friendly and have energy. Make small talk when you can. That experience should carry you when you try to date people OUTSIDE of work.
/r/seduction11/10/20 02:37 AM
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Good post. But these "harsh" truths are overstated and don't really serve anyone.
/r/seduction11/10/20 02:34 AM
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I love in St. Petersburg!! I'm down for whatever.
/r/seduction11/10/20 02:25 AM
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This is my (unfounded) opinion, but I think cold approach gives men an advantage in dating and I think anything that gives men an advantage dating is frowned upon.
/r/seduction09/10/20 02:37 PM
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I've felt this way before, you may need to focus on processing your breakup because you're probably projecting the loneliness you feel (among other things) to other women.
/r/seduction07/10/20 02:43 AM
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You know nothing about women and attraction.
/r/seduction06/10/20 11:56 PM
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This is such a shit mindset. Women aren’t these brokers who are continually trading up from man to man trying to maximize their investment. They’re looking for love, companionship, company and sex just like we are. So chill because this mindset won’t get you anywhere but a ton of upvotes wherever the incels are subbed to.
/r/seduction06/10/20 06:29 PM
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Like attracts like. Start tying to date smart women.
/r/seduction03/10/20 01:37 PM
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https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCriMPQZ83Gv0SadJNYBlmUA
/r/seduction03/10/20 05:37 AM
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Bau Stevens is new but gives out bootcamp level advice.
/r/seduction02/10/20 06:29 PM
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This advice is shallow and simple that it's almost completely meaningless.
/r/seduction02/10/20 06:28 PM
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To summarize: have standards.
/r/seduction02/10/20 06:27 PM
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In Mark's book Models, he defines success as maximizing happiness with the women you meet. So if you say hi to someone and they completely ignore you, you've maximized that encounter. But if you see a girl you wanna talk to but don't...you haven't maximized that encounter. I've been in a couple situations where having sex with someone would make me less happy...so I declined pursuing sex in these situations. Go for happiness not sex.
/r/seduction02/10/20 06:23 PM
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Keep it going.
/r/seduction02/10/20 12:52 PM
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I think he’s fine. I started seduction before I had friends. I just made friends along the way. Life has a way of filling the gaps sometimes.
/r/seduction02/10/20 12:51 PM
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Meet new people. Grocery stores are open, Parks are open...find places that are open.
/r/seduction29/09/20 01:35 PM
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It's totally ok for you to be excited for someone. It's ok to reply quickly. You're not doing anything wrong.
/r/seduction29/09/20 01:33 PM
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Have respect for her but respect yourself more.
/r/seduction29/09/20 01:30 PM
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Yeah I just accept the feeling. What else can you do?
/r/seduction29/09/20 02:22 AM
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Yeah just that. Do it ASAP.
/r/seduction29/09/20 02:18 AM
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Just say, "Do you wanna be in a long-term relationship with me?"
/r/seduction28/09/20 07:18 PM
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It could be bad luck. Some things to think about, how much listening are you doing? How relaxed are you? how attracted are you to the women you're dating? are you dressed well? are you going for the kiss? are you having fun? Also this could be part of your growth in dating. It could be none of the things I listed above but maybe you need more experience...22 is young af. You're also allowed to ask the women why they didn't go on a second date with you...though take that with a grain of salt.
/r/seduction28/09/20 07:17 PM
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Friends important. Social media not.
/r/seduction28/09/20 07:12 PM
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All good to me. Do five more.
/r/seduction28/09/20 07:11 PM
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I didn't. I've only made a few hundred approaches and I've been anxious almost every time. I just approach despite being anxious. Take a deep breath and walk on over. Also practice makes perfect, it was much easier for me to approach today than say six years ago.
/r/seduction28/09/20 07:10 PM
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If I were you, I'd use your job to grow social skills and If you see anyone you want to talk to (that you're not delivering to) start a conversation.
/r/seduction28/09/20 07:06 PM
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This might be the best piece of advice. If you're unhappy with your dating life start meeting people.
/r/seduction25/09/20 07:52 PM
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I guess what I'm trying to say is neediness is inevitable and there's nothing wrong with it. But the negative behaviors associated with neediness should be minimized as much as possible.
/r/seduction18/09/20 08:31 PM
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im gud.
/r/seduction18/09/20 08:25 PM
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Not to be a hater but I don't think this post is helpful. Instead of telling me what not to do how about telling me what to do.
/r/seduction18/09/20 04:23 PM
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Yes.
/r/seduction18/09/20 04:20 PM
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That makes sense. If you're not happy with your dating life you have to empower yourself to make those changes in real life.
/r/seduction18/09/20 04:19 PM
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Politely say, “hey I’ve really been looking forward to this...do you mind getting of your phone so we could focus on each other?😀”
/r/seduction18/09/20 12:04 PM
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I’m going to play devils advocate, I don’t think neediness, thirst and attachment to outcome is all that bad. Especially considering that you’re not going to go from being needy to not being needy over night. That’s a process. So if you’re needy, might as well own it. Because owning your neediness is a form of non- neediness.
/r/seduction18/09/20 12:02 PM
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....good luck
/r/seduction16/09/20 03:01 PM
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I think if you're always getting negative reactions. Take a moment and look at yourself and what you can improve on. I think this link will help...https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/12rn3g/i_am_mark_manson_former_pua_coach_self/c6xrah9?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3
/r/seduction16/09/20 01:34 PM
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I think you’re missing the point I’m trying to make. Most women are incredibly sweet and will take the time to converse even if they aren’t interested.
/r/seduction16/09/20 11:14 AM
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To be honest I haven't had many bad experiences. I think the worst thing that happened to me was being completely ignored. Like she looked at me dead in the eye and then looked away...while I was talking to her. It stings but I always move on. I didn't do anything wrong and she's the one that was rude so on to the next one. Most women will give you a shot.
/r/seduction15/09/20 09:39 PM
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tldr
/r/seduction15/09/20 03:51 PM
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All this time I was just reading books and not living my life. THANK GOD I saw this post. Now I know...I know that I don't need books. I'm just going to live my life and experience it for myself. Matter of fact, I'm going to start a bonfire in my backyard and burn all the books I have. Every single one of them. Then I'm going to unlearn how to read. Learning how to read is easy enough...I'm sure unlearning is much easier...
/r/seduction15/09/20 03:50 PM
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This isn't a problem that I have. But I'd suggest maybe letting you intentions known. If you want a relationship, make that known.
/r/seduction15/09/20 03:35 PM
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Yeah. I told her so.
/r/seduction15/09/20 03:32 PM
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Social circle game is tough right now. I don't think people are focusing on growing social circles at the moment. It could still work though. I'd say start with a social hobby. I think there are dance lessons open or rock climbing or yoga... Become a regular and start inviting people from those places to events, hangouts and parties.
/r/seduction15/09/20 03:32 PM
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Take a couple days out of the week to cold approach. Go to stores, malls, parks...try it out.
/r/seduction15/09/20 03:29 PM
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I think seduction is find your most authentic style to having happier and more meaningful relationships with women. If the numbers game works for him, why knock it?
/r/seduction15/09/20 03:27 PM
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What's funny is I've had a tougher time dating bigger women. They have particular standards just like anyone else. Try breweries, zumba classes, jogging groups, crossfit gyms, coffee shops....
/r/seduction14/09/20 08:45 PM
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I think the average person is average. Probably content but happy with their dating prospects.
/r/seduction14/09/20 08:34 PM
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Happy hour drinks. I'd make backup plans if I were you.
/r/seduction14/09/20 08:27 PM
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I wouldn't. I date people you know in real life.
/r/seduction14/09/20 08:26 PM
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I'm actually working on this right now. I still get carried away. But what I'm doing is keeping my wants and needs in mind but..living in the moment. So I enjoy the time and moments I spend with the person I'm interested in and I keep perspective by realizing the nature of dating is sometimes being rejected. Also, chances you haven't really known this person for really long. They might have smelly feet or could be emotionally unhealthy. My best friend gave me this piece of advice while I was anx…
/r/seduction14/09/20 08:24 PM
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This thread sorta went crazy. My two cents, there's gonna be a point in which someone or both (or more) has to put themselves out there to get rejected. In the beginning it's traditionally men. Later on it's women. If you're not happy with your dating life for whatever reason. Put yourself out there...man or women or whoever. Note: This talk about high value men and high value women is such a waste of mental energy. If you think a guy is cute, talk to him. If you think a girl is cute, talk to he…
/r/seduction14/09/20 08:18 PM
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If that works for you, go for it. For me, when I'm upset it's not the easiest for me to be playful.
/r/seduction10/09/20 05:00 PM
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I thing that I've noticed with women is that there's a definite fear of male anger. (I could be wrong but this is my experience) I'd say be calm and be direct. I like to vent my feelings to my friends first and then I would tell her "when you did (thing that made you upset) it made me feel (upset feelings). I think in the future it'd better if you did (a different thing than the thing that made me upset)"
/r/seduction10/09/20 04:27 PM
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I’ll answer your question with a story. My first girlfriend dated me while being a division I athlete, during her senior year and while battling her newly diagnosed epilepsy. She literally had every excuse not to date me. But she did. She gave me all the time in the word. All this to say...when someone’s into you, you’ll never hear about how busy their schedule is.
/r/seduction04/09/20 01:24 PM
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It’s something I do. I don’t know what other guys do tbh.
/r/seduction04/09/20 01:18 PM
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So this may not answer you’re question but to me there’s nothing wrong with having platonic conversations. As long as you shoot your shot. Have a conversation about whatever but try to lock eyes, ask her out or go for the kiss.
/r/seduction04/09/20 01:17 PM
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Don't use people.
/r/seduction31/08/20 06:23 PM
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For me, I need to be around women and shoot my shot. Things seem to figure themselves out when I'm making moves.
/r/seduction27/08/20 01:31 PM
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You should find out for us.
/r/seduction27/08/20 01:26 PM
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If she says she has a boyfriend do you immediately stop trying to get with her? Umm...yeah
/r/seduction27/08/20 01:24 PM
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Start talking to girls...a lot.
/r/seduction21/08/20 12:21 AM
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I think game is being happy with your dating life. What ever that is?
/r/seduction21/08/20 12:19 AM
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I hear you....but this is reddit. It’s a bunch nobodies (no offense) giving not-so-good advice through their limited experience. Also this is dating sub, so any question you ask will be answered through the lens of dating. Blaming r/seduction isn’t going to solve your dating problem and it won’t solve your anxiety problem. I suggest you look up real online resources (perhaps an anxiety sub) or a professional to help manage your anxiety. I’m not trying to be insensitive and I’m not trying to mini…
/r/seduction21/08/20 12:09 AM
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...and drug dealers and deadbeats have no problems attracting women.
/r/seduction19/08/20 03:40 PM
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That's true. You still gotta be in front of women though. You still gotta shoot your shot.
/r/seduction19/08/20 02:45 PM
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I get that. I just wanted to make the point that you still gotta be meeting women if you're unhappy with your dating life.
/r/seduction19/08/20 01:23 PM
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That isn't good advice. I can fill my schedule with all kinds of things, friends, side-hussles, work, hobbies...it doesn't solve my women problem. It just makes me less available.
/r/seduction19/08/20 01:14 PM
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I don't think it's a sixth sense, it's just a ton of experience being hit on by men. You pick up on somethings
/r/seduction19/08/20 01:12 PM
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You're in a shitty place. I get it. I've been there. It sucks. Sometimes it feels like the games rigged and no matter what you do...you lose. You get hurt. You get your hopes up only for them to be shot down. You feel as though you need to be this perfect specimen. Have all the money and have a six pack and the perfect line plus have the emotional resilience to make 100,000 approached without batting an eye at the 99,998 rejection. Shits hard. It really is. Nothing wrong with taking a break righ…
/r/seduction13/08/20 07:11 PM
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Make friends first. Good friends will support you and lift you confidence. Have fun. That means find the things that make you happy/fulfilled and do them (video games and YouTube don’t count). Talk to girls when you see them. Start small and work you way up. Working out is important too but if you don’t like working out then you probably won’t stick to it. Also you’re young. No one has their shit figured out at 22. Give yourself a break.
/r/seduction13/08/20 01:11 PM
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You're fine. There are a ton of deadbeats (with none of the things you have) who have no issues getting with women. The (rhetorical) question I have is how comfortable are you communicating romantic interest with someone you like?
/r/seduction04/08/20 02:24 PM
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False equivalence.
/r/seduction29/07/20 03:41 PM
1

Yeah. Dating outside your race is tougher. Not impossible but tougher. I think you knew that.
/r/seduction29/07/20 01:56 PM
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I don’t have any issue with porn. To me it’s like alcohol. Use responsibility.
/r/seduction29/07/20 01:17 PM
4

My personal style is to just have a normal conversation with a twist. For instance, if the lady I’m talking to says something I like I’ll say “you’re cool we should date” just so she know that’s where my heads at. I tend to use innuendos and “that’s what she said jokes” but that’s my style. Flirting is expressing romantic interest. It can be as subtle as a passing glance or as overt as saying “let’s have sex”. It’s also incredibly nuanced. You can be flirting pretty overtly but those cues and si…
/r/seduction27/07/20 03:30 PM
3

I don't really care about his outcomes. He's taking action and as long as he does that..he'll figure it out. I do agree that 300 approaches with little success is something to be concerned about but it seems as though he's starting to hitting his stride and I'd bet on more success moving forward.
/r/seduction24/07/20 07:54 PM
5

You're killing it. I'm a fan.
/r/seduction24/07/20 02:01 PM
3

I wouldn't do it. The barrier to entry is too low. Meet in real life and talk to her then.
/r/seduction24/07/20 02:00 PM
2

I wouldn't try. I tend to talk to people who aren't on the clock.
/r/seduction21/07/20 06:34 PM
4

Chances are that you have plenty of charm and charisma. Maybe try mass approaching for a a couple months to build some skill.
/r/seduction11/07/20 02:34 PM
1

That’s encouraging!! I hope you find what you’re looking for.
/r/seduction11/07/20 04:21 AM
1

The best way to avoid flakes is to have a strong connection. You've got to have a strong connection before you go for the contact.
/r/seduction10/07/20 06:03 PM
1

To be honest, you're already doing your part. You could saying hi or starting a conversation.
/r/seduction10/07/20 06:00 PM
1

I'm a guy, so the times I've had random hookup have come from women with a fun flirty vibe. Be fun and flirty on the apps and be fun and flirty in person. If being fun and flirt doesn't come natural to you, I'd suggest listening to music that makes you feel fun and flirty.
/r/seduction10/07/20 05:53 PM
1

This is an illustration of a man who doesn't invest in themselves. It doesn't mean that you can't live with your parents but it does mean that if you do live with your parents, you need to be actively working to get out of that situation (feasibly).
/r/seduction10/07/20 05:46 PM
3

This is tough and I've been in the same boat as you. First off, be kind to yourself when you don't approach. Dating is hard as it is and you don't want to add more pressure by shaming yourself for not approaching. Second, you may need to socially warm up. Say "hi" to the first five people you see (whether it's a girl, guy or whatever) the next time you go out to approach. That should help burn away any anxiety you may have. Third (and last), if either of those two don't work look into systematic…
/r/seduction10/07/20 05:41 PM
1

I'm also 32 and looking to date people at about that same age range. If they look young, I don't approach. Probably not the best strategy but there's already a lot of pressure as it is. I piece of advice that I received is to just ask how old they are. They'll tell you.
/r/seduction10/07/20 05:32 PM
2

I love this.
/r/seduction09/07/20 07:31 PM
2

Invest more in yourself than any potential partners.
/r/seduction21/06/20 08:58 PM
1

Thx
/r/seduction16/06/20 07:02 PM
2

This is gold. Thanks!!
/r/seduction16/06/20 03:19 PM
1

TLDR
/r/seduction15/06/20 05:11 PM
2

Go out and talk to people and write your own book.
/r/seduction15/06/20 12:18 PM
1

Go to the club. Dance to the music. Shoot your shot. Eventually something will happen.
/r/seduction11/06/20 01:32 PM
1

Money helps. Dating skills helps. Fitness/fashion help. For me I was getting more attention from women when I was broke than I am now and this is the richest I’ve ever been. Think about what your weakness is. If you’re broke, invest time on your career. If you’re out of shape, spend time on fitness. If you can’t talk to girls, learn some social skill and go from there.
/r/seduction11/06/20 01:24 PM
2

Chat her up then asked out. That’s literally the only thing you can do.
/r/seduction07/06/20 08:42 PM
1

The first half of Models is literally about the problem you’re having.
/r/seduction04/06/20 10:00 PM
1

I started focusing on putting myself out there. I’d go out to approach 3 days a week and on the days I wasn’t approaching I was focused on advancing my career and fitness. I lost my virginity 2 months later and got my first girlfriend a few months after that. There really isn’t a shortcut. If you don’t have dating skills gaining them will go a long way.
/r/seduction04/06/20 09:46 PM
1

Is this in the sidebar? because this gets asked a lot.
/r/seduction03/06/20 02:18 PM
0

cool
/r/seduction02/06/20 06:39 PM
1

Lol don’t. It’s weird.
/r/seduction02/06/20 04:42 PM
0

TLDR
/r/seduction02/06/20 04:40 PM
1

You could hire a vocal coach.
/r/seduction02/06/20 04:40 PM
2

You might be better off have a close friend join you so they can tell you if your approach is off.
/r/seduction02/06/20 04:35 PM
1

You sound inexperienced. I’d say be direct because “playing hard to get” takes some dating nuances that I don’t think you have. Also develop some standards for yourself when it comes to romantic partners.
/r/seduction02/06/20 04:31 PM
1

This is true.
/r/seduction01/06/20 02:14 PM
1

If you approach ten hours a week versus one or two, you're way more likely to get results due to the numbers. Common sense right? Of course...but that's what we were debating. I was arguing that 3 hours a week is plenty of time for cold approaching. The only real learning I see in cold approach is when beginners are nervous and haven't approached before. It is more like a period of adjustment rather than learning. I could be wrong but I think approaching is more than just showing up and not bein…
/r/seduction29/05/20 04:35 PM
1

You could say that about anything!! Working out, learning a new language, learning music/dance, learning to code...it takes time and consistency to reap the benefits of any skill and if you give up you don’t get anything. We’re all the sum of our habits. Even if you cold approached for ten hours a week results can be slow to come by. Not as slowly as three but there’s still a learning curve and it will take consistency to gain competency.
/r/seduction29/05/20 04:22 AM
1

That's true but you're not taking into account the lessons learned, the resilience built, the confidence gained and the women who do say yes. Three hours a week is still plenty and it's hell of a lot more than what most other people are doing. I'd challenge anyone to do three hours a week for 2 months...something will happen. Even if results don't happen you're still gaining a skill and it's a skill less and less people have by the day.
/r/seduction28/05/20 06:07 PM
1

Do one then the other. Why do both at the same time? You can spend 6 months doing hobbies and building a social circle and then spend the next 6 months improving your dating. But chances are improving you social circle will improve your dating and vice versa even if the groups are disjoint.
/r/seduction28/05/20 01:25 PM
1

3 hours a week is plenty. Do that for a month and you’ll have options.
/r/seduction28/05/20 01:20 PM
1

I think 5 a day is a good number but seems a bit arbitrary. How many women have you approached in the 7 days?
/r/seduction28/05/20 01:02 PM
1

You don’t sound very experienced so I’d say keep it simple. Expressing yourself doesn’t mean being the life of the party or being James Bond. It means not being afraid of saying what’s in your head or do the things you want to do. With respect to dating, it looks like... If you want to talk to someone, go talk to them. If you like someone, tell them. If you want to take someone on a date, ask them out. Etc...
/r/seduction27/05/20 11:29 AM
2

You have no skills. How can you pass judgement? You'll get further saying hi to girls than anything you've done thus far. Period.
/r/seduction20/05/20 07:06 PM
1

Hi.
/r/seduction20/05/20 06:16 PM
2

Hi.
/r/seduction20/05/20 06:15 PM
34

I don’t think being fake is sustainable over a long period of time (1-2 months).
/r/seduction17/05/20 01:03 PM
3

You make anyone do anything. The other person has to want to do it.
/r/seduction14/05/20 03:06 AM
1

I know. What else is there really to say?
/r/seduction12/05/20 02:39 PM
1

Sure.
/r/seduction12/05/20 01:10 PM
-2

At the end of the date, kiss her. Simple.
/r/seduction12/05/20 12:57 PM
1

I meditate almost everyday for the last four years but it wasn’t I tool for my anxiety until recently. Now I can use ideas like finding my breath or feeling my toes to ground myself...pretty quickly.
/r/seduction09/05/20 01:29 AM
1

It’s a sleepover camp for guys where in the daytime there are classes on communicating and attracting women and at night we go out and try out everything we learned in the classes.
/r/seduction07/05/20 08:01 AM
1

I think that’s for you to figure out. There are a ton of resources online but you’ve been talking to people your whole life, I assume.
/r/seduction07/05/20 07:58 AM
1

Who’s them?
/r/seduction06/05/20 05:14 PM
1

I started talking to girls...like a lot of them...I also took a dating bootcamp which leveled me up but was really expensive.
/r/seduction06/05/20 05:09 PM
1

3-5 months
/r/seduction05/05/20 07:46 PM
0

TLDR
/r/seduction05/05/20 05:14 PM
1

Tldw
/r/seduction29/04/20 11:37 PM
8

Smile and say “are you flirting with me right now?”
/r/seduction29/04/20 09:56 PM
2

Flirting is different for different people and people respond differenly to different people. A more correct way (please excuse my sarcasm) of finding out if someone likes you is to ask. Particularly if you're new to dating or don't know how to flirt. Flirting is a more nuanced way of gauging interest and definitely takes more skill.
/r/seduction27/04/20 02:06 PM
2

This is true for most people. But these lines are different from person to person. which is why I don't like seeing hard line rules in dating...your "you must do A" is someone else's "well I didn't do A and I'm with the love of my life"
/r/seduction27/04/20 01:59 PM
1

Lol please...the point I’m trying to make is there a reason really any hard line rules to dating.
/r/seduction26/04/20 03:56 PM
2

Why can’t it be both?
/r/seduction26/04/20 03:22 PM
6

Lol by flirting.
/r/seduction26/04/20 03:22 PM
2

Anthony Jeselnik.
/r/seduction07/03/20 01:47 AM
1

This is actually a good question!!! I think a lot of guys have issues communicating sexuality without making people uncomfortable.
/r/seduction04/03/20 08:36 PM
1

The thing I do is..as "why am I doing this?" "what is my intention?"
/r/seduction04/03/20 08:15 PM
2

I agree with what you’re saying and I love the metaphor but like basketball you gotta learn to shoot before you know what shots you’re good at taking. I believe in volume if you’re inexperienced or need to build competency.
/r/seduction03/03/20 03:28 AM
1

the information in the OP is only partial in my opinion, It definitely is partial. There aren't many ideas that are universal...particularly when it comes to dating. But what is universal is struggle. Even attractive people struggle at some things likely to the same extent that we struggle with women. The market isn't fair Lol nothing is.
/r/seduction20/02/20 09:05 PM
4

...and thinking every bad outcome is your fault is a winners mindset?...even the richest, funniest and most attractive person on earth will get rejected....is that his fault?....did he "fuck" up? No.
/r/seduction20/02/20 08:35 PM
3

All this is true but the point I'm trying to make is that all of this disrespectful behavior is par for the course and should be expected...this is dating in 2020. One must overcome these in order to get what one wants.
/r/seduction20/02/20 07:40 PM
1

I disagree. There are plenty of things outside of your control that can determine whether or not you get rejected.
/r/seduction20/02/20 07:36 PM
2

To each their own.
/r/seduction20/02/20 07:32 PM
5

True....but I can't make anyone do anything they don't already want to do.
/r/seduction20/02/20 06:50 PM
4

This is a good question. The answer is practice. Treat like a workout for your brain and add it to your calendar 2-3 times a week. Also don’t expect to go from 0 to 100 right away. No body wants to say this but this takes time.
/r/seduction13/02/20 01:05 PM
2

This is a good question...it does feel like for me that after each breakup I have I need “start over” my seduction process and all the confidence I gained before the relationship is gone. My theory is that the skills and confidence are still there it’s just behind relationship baggage and being “out of the game” for a period. What I’ve been doing is investing in myself and focusing on going multiple times a week to sharpen my skills. Also I’ve taken extra time to make sure that I learned the les…
/r/seduction13/02/20 03:13 AM
5

Also it’s important to realize that this is a process, particularly if you have little to no experience. If you’re putting yourself out there consistently and continually, it gets easier. Give yourself 3 months of going out 3x a week then check your results.
/r/seduction13/02/20 03:04 AM
1

When I started committing to approaching girls. Things just figured themselves out.
/r/seduction12/02/20 01:35 PM
9

Yeah I go alone. If I go to a club I buy a drink and try to dance to the music. If I go to a mall/park/flea market I just wander around.
/r/seduction04/02/20 06:46 PM
1

You’re welcome!!
/r/seduction04/02/20 05:05 PM
1

Approaching gives you way more power in dating. Empower yourself. It isn’t easy but worth it.
/r/seduction30/01/20 09:38 PM
1

If I were you I’d start learning the nuances of approach outside of the gym before approaching in the gym.
/r/seduction30/01/20 09:37 PM
1

I think you're overthinking this a tad. I received the advice from a friend to just start a conversation (nothing more). You've got nothing to worry about if you're just talking. From there you can judge how people are responding to you and you can decide to move things forward. Just start the conversation...
/r/seduction29/01/20 03:05 PM
1

I'm actually gonna to do this today. My goal is to start small. Say hi to a few people and start conversations with people I find attractive. Keep it simple.
/r/seduction29/01/20 02:41 PM
3

Lol not really at all tbh. To me it's just a normal conversation except I ask her out in the end, if I like her
/r/seduction29/01/20 02:37 PM
1

There will be others. Pretty girls are not rare.
/r/seduction29/01/20 02:34 PM
2

If I were you I’d take a break for week or two and let things sink in a bit more. Maybe think about how needy you’re coming across.
/r/seduction16/01/20 05:42 AM
1

I understand your frustration but this mindset will lead you nowhere. You’re essentially the guy at work who complains about the coworker that gets paid more but works less hard. This isn’t going to solve your problem. Focus on your issues and what you can do to solve your problems. Not anybody else is dating. To answer your question, regardless of your neediness level you can find somebody. If you have a high level of neediness chances are you will date somebody with a high level of neediness a…
/r/seduction16/01/20 05:38 AM
3

This is true but there are more women with college degrees than men so something has to give.
/r/seduction16/01/20 05:22 AM
2

Yeah. That's what this sub is about. Have you tried talking with women?.... Like really? Committing multiple months to learning the skill. Rome wasn't built in a day. That's what I'm planning on working on.
/r/seduction15/01/20 09:33 PM
1

Lol I just realized I did that.
/r/seduction11/01/20 05:02 AM
2

Your friends are using you as an excuse for their shortcomings.
/r/seduction10/01/20 09:37 PM
1

It's not personal and it says more about the other person than it says about you. Don't let someone who doesn't even care about your existence control what you do
/r/seduction10/01/20 03:54 PM
51

By putting yourself on one...
/r/seduction08/01/20 02:34 PM
52

TLDR
/r/seduction02/01/20 05:47 AM
5

I’d like to pay off my car and define and reach my career goals. I want to also improve my dancing.
/r/seduction26/12/19 06:49 AM
1

Thanks!!
/r/seduction26/12/19 06:45 AM
2

Maybe....there's always gonna miscommunications but if he's interested in you romantically he'll make a move. Also having fun is an important part. Most networking conversation aren't particularly fun.
/r/seduction18/12/19 07:36 PM
8

Just give a guy any kind of attention and have some fun.
/r/seduction18/12/19 06:26 PM
3

Flirt back then move on.
/r/seduction18/12/19 06:26 PM
9

In my experience women tend to be extra picky on tinder. I’m not quite sure why (I’m a guy) but my guess is because the barrier to entry is so low and stigma around tinder.
/r/seduction13/12/19 01:09 PM
0

Just do it man.
/r/seduction12/12/19 04:25 PM
6

I don't really game. I have a normal conversation and at the end I ask the girl out if I like them. There'd be no difference between a conversation I have with my brother and a girl I wanna date but I ask her out in the end.
/r/seduction10/12/19 03:47 PM
1

That’s an alarming rate. If I were you I’d look and see what you’re doing that may be turning these women off. Maybe you’re overly invested and coming on too strong. Maybe your body language is off. Maybe your outfits aren’t fitting well. Or maybe you’re just unlucky. December a busy month for a lot of people and to can tough to make plans with people.
/r/seduction06/12/19 06:24 PM
3

It’s good to be a good listener but you’ve got to interrupt if she talks for too long or takes multiple tangents.
/r/seduction06/12/19 01:29 PM
2

Start with the conversation.
/r/seduction04/12/19 09:31 PM
1

Tldr
/r/seduction04/12/19 12:30 PM
1

I’m not going to answer your question. You shouldn’t make physical changes to your body to attractive women. Do them for yourself.
/r/seduction03/12/19 05:36 PM
2

You probably need to show that you actually value them as people. That’s easier to do with people you already know.
/r/seduction03/12/19 05:34 PM
1

It looks like what you're asking for is for women to make the first move. That doesn't happen normally. You've got to put yourself in a position to be rejected/accepted. You've go to approach women in these situations. It's the only way you won't be "dancing alone".
/r/seduction02/12/19 03:01 PM
5

You should find out for us lol.
/r/seduction27/11/19 05:25 PM
0

You don't have to follow any of those rules.
/r/seduction27/11/19 05:13 PM
2

Only talk to 9s and 10s and see what your feeling and why it’s holding back...
/r/seduction25/11/19 06:24 PM
1

Books are helpful but I’d suggest anyone who’s new to not read anything until you get at least 50 approaches.
/r/seduction25/11/19 06:21 PM
1

I'm assuming you're new-ish. And it takes time to build a skill. Rome wasn't built in a day.
/r/seduction25/11/19 02:37 PM
8

I think it's one of the most important idea in seduction. There aren't many things better than being able to express yourself freely and openly.
/r/seduction21/11/19 07:55 PM
2

I'd rather have ladies ghost me. I don't need any excuses as to why they won't date me and I'll just move on to someone else who's actually interested.
/r/seduction21/11/19 02:51 PM
2

Idk man. Search google. Women are literally everywhere. There are billions of them. That aside, if I were you I'd start a social hobby like dancing lesson, yoga, run club and meet the people at the hobby or go to public places and start chatting up strangers.
/r/seduction21/11/19 02:27 PM
1

You definitely need more experience approaching women but maybe ask yourself why is this a issue for you? Try to get to the heart of it and the feelings behind you anxiety.
/r/seduction21/11/19 01:22 AM
1

Ask her out. It’s literally the only way to know how she feels about you.
/r/seduction21/11/19 01:10 AM
3

Lol I know I’m right but are you going to do it?
/r/seduction21/11/19 01:08 AM
4

You’ve gotta prioritize this and start taking action. Even if it’s 1-2 days a week. If you want it you gotta go for it.
/r/seduction21/11/19 01:07 AM
3

Just do it. You literally have nothing to lose.
/r/seduction21/11/19 12:59 AM
3

I don’t have words that’ll motivate you. But I will say that dating is simple. If you take action you’ll meet girls, kiss girls and have sex with girls. If you don’t take action none of those things will happen.
/r/seduction12/11/19 04:52 AM
2

To be honest this isn't something I've given a ton of thought on.....but.....maybe in this case you could be overthinking this a bit. I have a feeling you're either young, inexperienced or both. If this is the case, I'd focus on action. Start doing the things instead of worrying about the things. Life has a way of figuring itself out.
/r/seduction11/11/19 06:59 PM
2

For me, I make it a goal to have fun first. For instance when I go out to try and meet people my number one goal is to have fun and my secondary goals are to meet/approach x number of people. I think of fun as the gas that fuels my approaches. Consider doing something that's already fun to you.
/r/seduction11/11/19 02:48 PM
1

I get what you’re saying but those two things aren’t the same.
/r/seduction07/11/19 11:10 PM
1

To me, that is sort of a narrow viewpoint on people and friendships and you’re essentially creating a dead-end for yourself. Be more open to opportunities with people who aren’t like you and reach out to people without trying to gain something...you might be surprised what happens.
/r/seduction07/11/19 07:52 PM
1

I think making friends is easy. If I were I’d join some club/groups around campus and start chatting people up. This ain’t rocket science.
/r/seduction07/11/19 07:45 PM
2

In my experience, cold showers help a bit with approach anxiety. The feeling before jumping into a cold shower is similar to approach anxiety. But I’ll say the only thing that beats approach anxiety is approaching. So you don’t have to take cold showers if you don’t want to.
/r/seduction07/11/19 03:14 PM
1

I don't have any real friends at all for that matter. There’s your problem. You need to make friends.
/r/seduction07/11/19 02:49 PM
1

It depends on what you want. If you want to sleep around then sleeping with women is the goal. If you want to date someone then finding someone to date is the goal. If you want to find a girlfriend then finding a girlfriend is the goal.
/r/seduction07/11/19 12:31 AM
5

No. Your lady is out there. You gotta find her.
/r/seduction06/11/19 12:42 PM
6

Nah man. Sometimes making a move means creeping someone out. Don’t try to creep someone out but sometimes that’s what happens. Even if you approach on a kind a respectful way you can still creep someone out.
/r/seduction05/11/19 10:36 PM
69

This is awesome advice. Dating isn’t about finding someone who’d never date you and convincing them to date you it’s about finding someone who was waiting for you the whole time.
/r/seduction05/11/19 09:10 PM
1

100 might be too much. Maybe do something a bit more obtainable. Nothing wrong with starting small and incrementally getting larger. Like if you’ve made 3-4 approaches in the last two weeks maybe try. A week to week challenge rather than a two month challenge.something that looks like this... Week one: make one approach. Week two: make two approaches Week three: make three approaches Week four: go for the phone number..... Something that looks like that and you can still put cash at stake as wel…
/r/seduction31/10/19 11:41 AM
1

How many approaches have made in the last two months?
/r/seduction31/10/19 07:23 AM
1

For me, if I see some common interests/values/humor then I ask her out. Shouldn’t take to long to see if there’s a connection.
/r/seduction30/10/19 08:48 PM
1

Do something more fun and engaging the next time you two are together...there’s a possibility that it could be a poor match.
/r/seduction26/10/19 09:35 PM
3

“That’s okay. We can always make other plans.”
/r/seduction26/10/19 09:33 PM
1

It depends on everything else besides the kiss.
/r/seduction26/10/19 09:27 PM
3

For me it’s the same making friends except at the end I make a move. Start small talk Try to connect on commonalities or humor Make a move. (Ask her out, grab her hand...)
/r/seduction26/10/19 09:15 PM
1

You can still lead any interaction you two are on and you can make romantic advances.
/r/seduction26/10/19 09:01 PM
1

Why not talk to her?
/r/seduction26/10/19 04:48 AM
18

I could be wrong but this looks like yet another excuse that people give themselves for not taking action. We all had to start from somewhere. We all weren’t born being man eating lions...
/r/seduction25/10/19 04:46 PM
1

I honestly thought girls were sorta scary. I thought I was answering this question through my point of view,
/r/seduction24/10/19 09:03 PM
1

There’s no right answer for this as both have their strengths and weaknesses. Social circle game is much easier than cold approach but your options are only as strong as your circle of friends and family. Cold approach game has endless options but if your game isn’t strong and you’re not consistent then you won’t have options.
/r/seduction24/10/19 06:39 PM
5

The long answer is you probably need more dating experience or have some self-esteem issues but the short answer is to treat it like it’s not a big deal because it isn’t. So try to relax and be chill.
/r/seduction24/10/19 06:28 PM
2

That they aren’t scary. Most of them are pretty friendly.
/r/seduction24/10/19 12:09 PM
2

Not really though. That 1 percent likely doesn’t include people way older and people way younger. People tend to be attracted to people in their age range.
/r/seduction23/10/19 05:09 PM
2

Lindy hop.
/r/seduction23/10/19 03:56 PM
9

Dancing helps a ton. I’ve been dancing for the last three years and I’ve literally had dating options for much of the time I’ve been dancing.
/r/seduction23/10/19 01:21 PM
1

As long as she’s moved on from her trauma.
/r/seduction23/10/19 01:16 PM
13

This is stupid! That’s like saying if you can’t go 90 days without eating bacon then you’re addicted to bacon.
/r/seduction23/10/19 12:04 PM
2

I honestly don’t think you should pursue her seriously. She’s basically already given you a reason for why any romantic possibility won’t work. Also if things do work between you, chances are that the relationship could be challenging. If I were you I’d pursue a friendship and maybe leave the door open for something more in the future but I’d also look for other options.
/r/seduction23/10/19 11:47 AM
-1

Tldr
/r/seduction16/10/19 10:45 PM
1

Sounds good to me. Good luck
/r/seduction16/10/19 05:59 PM
2

It's all hard work. Y'all are so quick to blame "looks" and not even put any effort into figuring this shit. You're playing yourself. It ain't hard.
/r/seduction16/10/19 05:50 PM
12

I don’t like this question. It’s sort of implies that women’s only function for men is sex. That’s a completely unhealthy way to view woman.
/r/seduction16/10/19 04:44 PM
2

Dating has always had its challenges. This generation has a different set of challenges than the previous generation. Those challenges are well documented…especially on Reddit. But I think the cream always rises to the top. High-quality men will never have trouble finding women in real life.
/r/seduction16/10/19 04:42 PM
3

You can do whatever you want as long as you not hurting anyone. There are no “rules”. I approached a lady at the gym on Sunday and it normal for me to approach cute ladies at the gym. Approach if you want to...don’t if you don’t. The gyms has way too many hotties for me to not say hi.
/r/seduction16/10/19 04:37 PM
3

Tbh I’d rather be intimidating to strangers than not so take this advice with a grain of salt...I’d smile more, crack more silly jokes and make eye contact.
/r/seduction16/10/19 03:52 PM
1

If I were you I’d ask a female coworker or and coworker for that matter. You could even try having a close friend meetup with you at work for lunch or something and asking them their thoughts. You could be intimidating. A lot of my female friends have told me that.
/r/seduction16/10/19 02:32 PM
1

Your chances are almost impossible online with a person you’ve never met. You gotta meet these people in real life.
/r/seduction16/10/19 02:04 PM
1

So for the most part these questions were for you to think about so I’m not really gonna speak to those answers right now. But you definitely need more dating experience. Your best teacher right now is experience. Spend less time on the apps and more time meeting women in real life. Get out of the house and find things to do and people to meet.
/r/seduction15/10/19 04:15 PM
2

Could you comment the texts as well?
/r/seduction15/10/19 02:13 PM
1

I don’t know tbh. There could be a hundred things or you could be running into the wrong women. A few things to consider... How comfortable do you feel expressing yourself sexually? ie. asking someone out or going for a kiss. What’s your intentions in talking to these women? How are you dressed/groomed? How old are you and how much dating experience to you have? Where are you meeting these women?
/r/seduction15/10/19 01:59 PM
2

You may have missed an opportunity. Maybe she’ll accept your request later on or maybe you’ll run into and when you do you should make a move.
/r/seduction15/10/19 01:48 PM
2

You sorta have to go for it. You want to be careful but what will make silly or annoying is trying to be careful. Be calm, be cool and go talk to her.
/r/seduction15/10/19 01:44 PM
1

I think you’re fine.
/r/seduction13/10/19 05:01 AM
6

From what I’m reading she was never super excited about any of your advances. It’s not about what people say it’s about what they do.
/r/seduction12/10/19 02:02 PM
7

She didn’t lead you on. You just couldn’t take a rejection.
/r/seduction12/10/19 01:25 PM
5

You’ve known her for ten years so you probably have a better idea as to how she’d want to receive that kind of info. If I were you I’d mention it super casually and cool like “hey, what do you think of us dating?” And she’s not interested move on and continue your friendship like you never asked. But also ask yourself this...is dating this person worth potentially losing a 10 year friendship? Also you mention a messy breakup...are you over that breakup? Because if you still have baggage from tha…
/r/seduction12/10/19 01:23 PM
1

Vulnerability is just expressing yourself without really caring about the consequences.
/r/seduction12/10/19 01:06 PM
1

You don’t really need to flirt. Just give him a bit of attention and chat him up. Take an interest on who he is.
/r/seduction12/10/19 12:59 PM
2

I have a weird name. I don’t have any issues getting with women at least wrt my name.
/r/seduction11/10/19 05:29 PM
2

Stop being afraid of being a creep and talk to the people you want to talk to.
/r/seduction10/10/19 01:52 PM
2

You can’t control what anyone does. Yes, she could be dating other people. But so can you. Like she doesn’t owe anything to you and you don’t owe anything to her. Also if you haven’t had the conversation and she has no responsibility towards you.
/r/seduction07/10/19 07:18 PM
1

No. You should be fine.
/r/seduction07/10/19 07:13 PM
-8

Tldr
/r/seduction06/10/19 10:34 PM
1

We don’t really need to. Some these dating hang ups clear up with age.
/r/seduction27/09/19 03:26 PM
5

Cute girls are a dime a dozen. You’ll have plenty of opportunities.
/r/seduction24/09/19 11:35 AM
1

I don’t know.
/r/seduction22/09/19 06:57 AM
1

Sure. Why not?
/r/seduction22/09/19 05:52 AM
1

Have fun Shoot your shot (make at least 5 approaches) Go for the kiss
/r/seduction21/09/19 03:42 PM
4

My advice is to find someone else. Cute girls are easier to find than jobs.
/r/seduction20/09/19 08:54 PM
3

If I saw "wife" potential or if I was quitting soon.
/r/seduction20/09/19 07:59 PM
1

Have fun then shoot your shot.
/r/seduction20/09/19 07:35 PM
1

After you graduate you could always directly gauge his interest and ask if he’d like to grab coffee sometime. I’d check your schools code of conduct first but as long as your not a student you should be ok.
/r/seduction20/09/19 07:31 PM
2

I wouldn’t but it your life.
/r/seduction20/09/19 07:26 PM
3

Have fun and shoot your shot.
/r/seduction20/09/19 06:24 AM
2

Thanks, kind stranger.
/r/seduction20/09/19 06:21 AM
3

Tldr
/r/seduction19/09/19 09:40 PM
3

I think you know the answer to this. You should go if you want to.
/r/seduction18/09/19 07:54 PM
1

When I was newer I didn’t really use touch until I felt comfortable doing it. You can get numbers, dates and even go for the kiss without touch.
/r/seduction18/09/19 01:08 PM
-1

You really don’t need to touch.
/r/seduction18/09/19 12:04 PM
13

I think abundance mentality is one of those buzzwords used in the dating and seduction community and it sorta doesn’t serve a purpose especially when it’s so vague and not clearly defined. You can’t attract people unless you have abundance and you can’t create abundance unless you attract people. Don’t make no sense. Things started to work in my favor when I started to live my life and do the things I wanted to do to be happy. Whether it be working out, doing my job, hanging out with my friends/…
/r/seduction17/09/19 12:18 PM
2

Lol I’m tired.
/r/seduction14/09/19 05:59 AM
1

Oneitis isn’t a real thing. Calling this oneitis gives this much more power and weight. Having a crush on someone is a perfectly natural and normal thing. As long as you let your intentions known and can accept rejection you’ll be fine.
/r/seduction13/09/19 04:27 PM
11

My answer still stands.
/r/seduction13/09/19 04:15 PM
19

You can always ask women on dates. That’s a scenario where you’ll be alone with a women.
/r/seduction13/09/19 03:43 PM
3

I’d say look up conversation starters on YouTube or google. My advice is to try and keep things light and fun and flirty. You’re in the right path. You’ve just got a sticking point once you get past that you’ll have a breakthrough.
/r/seduction13/09/19 12:17 PM
3

Oneitis is a mind disease just like cancer. This may be an exaggeration lol. I think crushing over one person is completely natural and it’s ok if you have “oneitis” as long as you make your intentions known and accept rejection if/when it happens. Even the word “oneitis” adds more power the word. Because it’s not a disease it’s something natural and normal.
/r/seduction12/09/19 04:37 PM
1

Tldw
/r/seduction12/09/19 01:05 AM
3

I think you’re going to be fine.
/r/seduction12/09/19 01:00 AM
1

But I did answer the question. I’m not looking for anything...but if something awesome comes along I’ll take it. She now knows that she’d be really special to me if I commit. If she wants a different answer and would stop talking to me because of this answer then it likely wouldn’t have worked anyways and that’s ok. I’ll find someone else.
/r/seduction12/09/19 12:42 AM
2

I’m really happy being single right now but if I met someone special I’d be happy to change that.
/r/seduction11/09/19 05:17 PM
3

You can’t. You are who you are at this point. Cramming ain’t going to help.
/r/seduction11/09/19 05:13 PM
1

Tldw
/r/seduction11/09/19 05:12 PM
3

This answer is easy. I respond honestly. What other answer is there? Also if one question can take away your "frame" you probably didn't have it to begin with.
/r/seduction11/09/19 02:01 PM
1

For me, the reasoning doesn’t matter unless it’s a trend. Most women won’t be interested in you for whatever reason. Sometimes the reasons are legit and sometimes they’re not. The point is to to just move on.
/r/seduction11/09/19 12:07 PM
2

I don’t think this is a loaded question at all. It seems pretty straightforward to me.
/r/seduction11/09/19 12:03 PM
2

Start being social.
/r/seduction11/09/19 11:54 AM
3

First off, start doing things on then weekend. Secondly there’s nothing wrong with saying you had a chill relaxing weekend at home.
/r/seduction11/09/19 11:53 AM
2

I would say start a social hobby, make some friends and work on your social skills. That’s gonna be a good foundation for you to start meeting new women.
/r/seduction10/09/19 04:15 AM
2

I don’t know man! Just ask her out and you’ll know for sure.
/r/seduction10/09/19 04:05 AM
2

Ask her out if you want to. Sounds like you do.
/r/seduction10/09/19 01:27 AM
2

I think you found what works for you and that’s awesome. Though what works for may not work for the next man.
/r/seduction09/09/19 10:59 PM
1

I think you’re making too big of a deal out of this. You’re fine.
/r/seduction09/09/19 10:44 PM
2

Looks like she’s not interested. I’d move on.
/r/seduction09/09/19 08:27 PM
55

I thought this was the seduction sub not “meme about how lonely I am” sub. Also stop making excuses and start trying to figure this shit out.
/r/seduction09/09/19 08:05 PM
3

I agree. Dating is simple but anxieties, baggage and bullshit beliefs hold people back.
/r/seduction09/09/19 04:11 PM
7

You don’t spark interest. She either has it or she doesn’t. It’s your job to find out.
/r/seduction07/09/19 01:03 AM
5

There’s nothing wrong with looking for sex. There’s something wrong when you’re only looking for sex.
/r/seduction06/09/19 09:10 PM
3

I think dating is simple...not easy but simple. Most women will reject you. It’s my job to find the women that won’t. I don’t think it matters whether the approach is direct, indirect or with magic tricks. What’s important is that however you’re approaching, you’re being true to who you are. That’s what women respond the most to in my experience.
/r/seduction06/09/19 08:44 PM
1

Fish where the fish are at. You need to join clubs with a lot of people at least a dozen. You gotta find them...I cant tell you where they are.
/r/seduction06/09/19 06:29 PM
6

I think there's nothing wrong with being boring but being timid and a "nice guy" won't get you anywhere with women.
/r/seduction06/09/19 06:25 PM
2

tldw
/r/seduction06/09/19 06:20 PM
1

From what I read it looks like she's giving you attention that she doesn't need to give.
/r/seduction06/09/19 06:18 PM
1

I don't like the "always assume attraction" advice. Mainly because the people who need that type of advice don't even know how it's like when a lady is attracted to them.
/r/seduction06/09/19 06:16 PM
2

I don't know man...but she seems interested in knowing you. You should ask her out.
/r/seduction06/09/19 02:52 PM
1

Read Models by Mark Manson. It gives you everything you need to start dating women.
/r/seduction05/09/19 08:13 PM
2

I wouldn’t do a movie. I’d do something like mini golf or bowling or something fun/silly. If she doesn’t open up a little from that then she is bland.
/r/seduction05/09/19 08:03 PM
2

I think you’re over thinking everything. I say just take a breather and start doing the things that make sense for you. I can’t tell you what any of that is...some of these choices are really up to you.
/r/seduction05/09/19 08:01 PM
3

I think it's a blessing in disguise. The goal is to find the person of your dreams and the person of your dreams would never ghost or flake.
/r/seduction05/09/19 03:02 PM
21

I think this is a rejection.
/r/seduction05/09/19 11:54 AM
9

You didn’t do anything wrong. That lady was being completely rude and irrational. Keep on keepin on
/r/seduction05/09/19 11:52 AM
1

🤷🏿‍♂️
/r/seduction05/09/19 11:34 AM
0

For me that happens when I’m watching too much porn. My first suggestion is to cut back in the porn and spend some time at the gym to increase your testosterone.
/r/seduction05/09/19 04:36 AM
4

This happens. Flakes and ghosts are a part of dating.
/r/seduction05/09/19 04:33 AM
1

I guess we’ll see.
/r/seduction30/08/19 08:24 PM
1

How many approaches have you done in the last month?
/r/seduction30/08/19 03:47 PM
1

Start a study group to get to know some of them.
/r/seduction30/08/19 11:12 AM
1

You can do that without touching them....especially early on. I like to build a rapport before touching....it’s worked for me.
/r/seduction29/08/19 09:22 PM
0

You don’t really need to touch anybody early on. So focus on other aspect of approach.
/r/seduction29/08/19 11:51 AM
1

I don’t know. Just wing it a few times and develop that skill.
/r/seduction29/08/19 11:46 AM
1

Coo.
/r/seduction26/08/19 09:59 PM
3

Tldr
/r/seduction26/08/19 11:48 AM
2

Nah
/r/seduction22/08/19 06:11 PM
1

Tldr
/r/seduction22/08/19 06:06 PM
8

TLDR
/r/seduction22/08/19 04:33 PM
1

Ask her out the next time you’re in her line. No need to overthink.
/r/seduction22/08/19 11:37 AM
1

To me "negging" isn't something you do regularly. Maybe just try to get to know her and see what happens.
/r/seduction15/08/19 06:49 PM
4

Chat her up but play the long game with her because she’s a coworker and there’s a lot to loose. Take your time and see if you like her as a person and she likes you back.
/r/seduction15/08/19 01:06 PM
2

Tldr
/r/seduction14/08/19 07:37 PM
1

Start chatting them up and see what happens...
/r/seduction14/08/19 06:40 PM
1

Say hi then wing it.
/r/seduction12/08/19 05:59 PM
5

One book solving all my problems seems pretty grandiose to me.
/r/seduction12/08/19 05:20 PM
5

It sounds like you're in college and you don't talk to a lot of women. I studied math in college and for most of college I was a pretty lonely dude. In my experience, intelligence, by itself, isn't really an attractive quality. The world is littered with smart guys. What makes you different from any of the hundreds of guys that study math or computer science or biology?... My first piece of advice is find a hobby, a club or an organization to join. Secondly get in better shape and dress better. …
/r/seduction12/08/19 01:25 PM
-1

Just go outside.
/r/seduction10/08/19 11:18 PM
1

Just get a hobbies. Volunteer...can you join and intramural sports...can you read...can you write?
/r/seduction10/08/19 10:37 PM
2

Make sure you lift with legs and not your back.
/r/seduction10/08/19 10:32 PM
1

tldr
/r/seduction08/08/19 01:54 PM
66

Chances are it'll be a ghost or a flake but...you're growing at a skillset and you're reaping the benefits. Keep at it.
/r/seduction03/08/19 05:10 PM
2

A lot. Rejection is part of dating and it'll be something you'll need to accept and looks don't matter as much as you think.
/r/seduction02/08/19 01:52 PM
1

tldr needed
/r/seduction01/08/19 12:53 PM
1

Shoot your shot dude and it’ll only be awkward afterwards if YOU make it awkward.
/r/seduction28/07/19 12:35 PM
1

Cool then.
/r/seduction26/07/19 11:21 PM
1

Tbh I don’t really like the term abundance mindset. That said I think of it as the “I’m good” feeling. An inner peace you have within yourself that no matter what happens with dating “I’m good.” As in, I’ll approach this lady because “I’m good” if she says no. I’ll go for the kiss because “I’m good” if she’s not quite ready for it. I’ll double text because “I’m good” if she doesn’t respond. I got that feeling by having cool friends, hobbies and activities to fall back on when dating wasn’t givin…
/r/seduction26/07/19 08:26 PM
1

I don’t get the point of doing these exercises. If you want to get better at talking to ladies then talk to ladies.
/r/seduction26/07/19 05:56 PM
1

Ask. Use you words.
/r/seduction26/07/19 04:57 AM
5

Wack.
/r/seduction25/07/19 06:26 PM
1

All I say is "Hi I thought you were cute and I wanted to introduce myself" and then I go with whatever flow there is.
/r/seduction24/07/19 09:00 PM
1

Just talk to everyone.
/r/seduction24/07/19 07:40 PM
1

Please share what your usual approach is. What do you say? How do you decide? Have you found that coming out with high energy or playing it super cool is best? These are literally things you can learn yourself. Me telling you how I approach probably won’t help you much to be honest. Your asking good questions...maybe take some effort, in real life, finding out the answers.
/r/seduction24/07/19 07:40 PM
1

Walk up and start a conversation. Be as confident as you can (even if you’re not it’s cool).
/r/seduction24/07/19 05:27 PM
2

Step one go to where girls are. Step two introduce yourself to said girls. That’s it.
/r/seduction24/07/19 04:49 PM
2

Real life experience.
/r/seduction23/07/19 01:50 PM
2

Probably the most complete book in dating that I’ve ever read.
/r/seduction22/07/19 11:41 AM
1

I made a post a few days back that if the apps limited the amount of matches men then women would have to deal with hundreds of matches and men would be more valued.
/r/seduction21/07/19 06:51 PM
1

Basically i want to waste as little time as possible on this and be efficient. I don’t think there are really any efficiencies in online dating (unless you hack the apps somehow). Dating is a process and it’s not over until it’s done Ie no shortcuts.
/r/seduction21/07/19 06:47 PM
1

Looks definitely but confidence matters more.
/r/seduction20/07/19 09:30 PM
3

tldr needed.
/r/seduction19/07/19 01:31 PM
1

Just because you don’t ask her out doesn’t make you friends.
/r/seduction18/07/19 11:35 PM
3

Go to the club and shoot your shot.
/r/seduction18/07/19 09:19 PM
1

Don't be her friend if you want to ask her out but also don't ask her out for the sake of it.
/r/seduction18/07/19 09:18 PM
1

I don't think Models says to ask a girl out fast.
/r/seduction18/07/19 09:17 PM
3

I’d say keep shooting your shot. At the club, on campus and everywhere else. Also take a look at your self esteem and your overall happiness without women. That’s probably holding you back as much as anything.
/r/seduction18/07/19 01:31 PM
2

If I was willing to take that risk, I would probably organize a happy hour and invite a bunch of coworkers including the crush then once I’m outside of work I’d pursue her like she’s not a coworker. My one question to you is, how are your dating options outside of work? Because if that’s your only dating option is at job that a problem...unless she’s also into you.
/r/seduction18/07/19 01:24 PM
1

You can double text if you want to. It's not a big deal and if she doesn't reply you know she for sure she's not interested.
/r/seduction18/07/19 01:16 PM
3

Use your legs not your back. You don't wanna hurt your back.
/r/seduction18/07/19 02:04 AM
1

I'd say try to connect on slightly deeper level. So that there's more investment from both sides. Also chances are that the women you're meeting aren't really interested in anything more than one night stand.
/r/seduction16/07/19 10:36 PM
5

I say you should what you're already doing with younger ladies, see what results you're getting and change your approach accordingly.
/r/seduction16/07/19 06:10 PM
4

Maybe approaching is too much for you rn. Maybe you can start slow by just saying hi and nothing and build yourself up to it.
/r/seduction08/07/19 07:52 PM
5

Maybe ask yourself why this is so hard for you. What’s holding you back?
/r/seduction08/07/19 07:28 PM
2

Kidnapping lol. The truth is you don’t. She decides to separate herself if she has a good enough reason to.
/r/seduction08/07/19 07:23 PM
0

She probably already knows.
/r/seduction08/07/19 07:19 PM
1

I don’t think god need social skills though.
/r/seduction03/07/19 10:59 AM
1

I would say yes and no. I’ve been studying pick for the better part of a decade and probably have been applying the stuff I know for about five years. The advice that I tend to hear doesn’t necessarily work for me and the ladies I end up dating. Also some of the advice is designed to sell coaching/workshops/books/videos and makes something as simple as talking to someone stretched to a 10,000 word dissertation and can really over complicate things especially for beginners. Most importantly I’ve …
/r/seduction02/07/19 04:12 PM
4

Try not freezing up before approaching lol. But seriously take a deep breath and walk over one step at a time. She’s a person and probably won’t hurt you.
/r/seduction01/07/19 06:17 PM
3

So you asked her out and she said yes?...go out with her!!! What’s there to think about?
/r/seduction28/06/19 05:05 PM
1

Talk to girls so you can improve your social skills.
/r/seduction28/06/19 02:06 AM
1

You should definitely ask her out.
/r/seduction27/06/19 02:28 PM
1

Go to the club and shoot your shot and keep shooting your shot. If you’re trying to get laid play the numbers game and go for sex.
/r/seduction27/06/19 02:25 PM
1

I can't do it alone. I think you’re gonna have to do it alone.
/r/seduction27/06/19 12:16 PM
1

Ok. So it looks like you have no dating options and it sounds like you don’t have much experience. If I were you I’d join either a meetup group or a cooking/dance class or any social hobby... That should help be more social and make new friends and hopefully that can give you the confidence to approach women when the time comes.
/r/seduction25/06/19 04:29 PM
1

If you’re so mentally burnt, there’s nothing wrong with taking a break from dating (maybe a week). It sounds like you’re putting a lot of pressure on yourself and maybe a break will help relieve some of that.
/r/seduction25/06/19 01:06 PM
1

That doesn’t change my previous reply. It looks like you just want the green light from someone here. I’m not you will get that since trying to date someone else’s lady is bad vibes and I personally wouldn’t do it.
/r/seduction24/06/19 06:57 PM
5

As a black guy, lemme know where these girls are lol.
/r/seduction24/06/19 06:38 PM
5

Don’t do it, it’s bad vibes. There are plenty of available women for you.
/r/seduction24/06/19 06:37 PM
1

Most definitely yes.
/r/seduction22/06/19 03:40 PM
1

I was in a similar position as in my 20s and what helped is loving yourself as you are. If you think of yourself as someone who deserves good things than you’ll receive them.
/r/seduction19/06/19 02:57 PM
10

You’re already different from the other 1000 guys. Just go talk to her and make move if you’re interested.
/r/seduction18/06/19 05:30 PM
3

I’m going by the two strikes you’re out rule.
/r/seduction17/06/19 08:26 PM
1

Lol the solution seems pretty simple to me. Maybe focus more on moving the interaction forward. Go for the number/date/kiss/sex.....
/r/seduction16/06/19 01:04 PM
2

When she declines your advances multiple times.
/r/seduction16/06/19 12:26 PM
1

It’s honestly not as big of deal as you’re making it to be.
/r/seduction16/06/19 12:19 PM
0

This can be tricky but I’ve found that if you move the interaction forward sexually you can find out pretty quickly what her true intentions are. There’s nothing wrong with innocent flirting (from both men and women) but if you’re confused make a move and try to advance the situation you won’t have to worry about women leading you on...or anyone for that matter.
/r/seduction16/06/19 12:10 PM
1

Yes but by going to the gym you ARE progressing. Progress is inevitable with consistency the difference will be what you measure your progress by. You can measure by what you control (which is easier to do at the gym because you control every aspect of your growth) or by things you can’t control (numbers, dates, sex). I’d say early on focus on the process until you’ve built some competency then focus on some outcomes.
/r/seduction13/06/19 08:25 PM
1

Focus on the process instead of the outcome and make the things you can control the wins. Instead of focusing on dates, numbers and sex which you can’t control focus on making approaches, asking for the number and making the move for sex...all things you can control.
/r/seduction13/06/19 08:09 PM
2

The positive reinforcements will have to come from yourself early on before you start reaping any benefits.
/r/seduction13/06/19 08:00 PM
1

Coo.
/r/seduction13/06/19 03:23 AM
9

How many ladies have you talked to? The only way to get laid is to talk to ladies.
/r/seduction12/06/19 09:12 PM
1

It’s not worth the effort.
/r/seduction11/06/19 09:50 PM
1

You can do whatever you want. You can be as direct as you want.
/r/seduction31/05/19 02:21 AM
1

If you two make plans for next week and she flakes again then she’s not interested enough and you should pursue other options.
/r/seduction18/04/19 11:33 AM
1

Then go date some women then.
/r/seduction10/04/19 01:20 PM
1

What do you want to do? I can’t make that choice for you but in either case you need to find a way to deal with your childhood trauma and major insecurities.
/r/seduction10/04/19 01:09 PM
1

It should work the same as daygame. Don’t overthink it.
/r/seduction10/04/19 01:04 PM
3

You could be coming off as needy. If I were you I wouldn’t “try” to get laid. I’d just start conversations and see where they go.
/r/seduction08/04/19 09:26 PM
1

I don’t know lol. Ummm...I found I got more dates and sex from night game but I focused on night game 70-80% of the time I’d talk to girls. I have a girlfriend now but if I didn’t I’d probably do a 50-50 split between day and night game for a month or so to see which I like better. But if you’re trying to maximize your success rate my advice to you is to not focus on that. You probably have a 5% influence on the women you’re trying to attract. So enjoy the process and roll with the punches (beca…
/r/seduction01/04/19 04:24 PM
5

To me it was about the same. Though my rejections through daygame still yielded super friendly and interesting conversations. Nightgame rejections aren’t as gentle for me.
/r/seduction01/04/19 01:04 PM
8

I didn’t lose my virginity until I was 27. I think what helped me the most was finding a social hobby and a group of friends. I realized that most guys aren’t really fucking that many ladies and the struggle I was going through isn’t rare at all. Also I didn’t beat myself up about it too hard and I used my struggle as motivation for me to at least work harder.
/r/seduction01/04/19 11:19 AM
2

You're not wrong. If your goal is to attract women, a lot of times cold approaches don't work. You're also right about the odds being against you, most women will write you off before you even open your mouth. The truth is you have to put yourself "out there' i.e. in a position to be rejected in order to find someone. Cold approaches are supposed to be uncomfortable. They're supposed to feel like awkward but (like anything) the more you do the better and more comfortable you'll be. To answer you…
/r/seduction28/03/19 05:57 PM
1

Happiness is hella attractive.
/r/seduction21/03/19 12:47 AM
2

Sounds like your dealing with the wrong women.
/r/seduction26/02/19 08:16 PM
2

No. ​
/r/seduction20/02/19 09:55 PM
3

Have fun.
/r/seduction14/02/19 12:20 PM
1

Be yourself. Talk to women like you would your best friend.
/r/seduction12/02/19 10:58 PM
3

I have and it's been really helpful for me. It turns out I had some baggage from my past that I need to get unpacked. Once I did that it was easier to love myself and attract women. I highly recommend it. I still see my counselor to this day.
/r/seduction12/02/19 09:31 PM
3

Yeah I’ve been there. So upset at my results that I wanna pull my hair out. Maybe take a break from seduction for a day or two and do something you enjoy doing.
/r/seduction12/02/19 05:56 PM
2

This is great advice.
/r/seduction10/02/19 03:07 AM
1

Of course it is. Why not?
/r/seduction28/01/19 06:06 PM
2

There's a difference between being honest and being rude. It's not difficult to have an amazingly fun conversation without lying or being rude.
/r/seduction28/01/19 04:33 PM
-1

"If you want to be nice and always morally correct, that's ok. But then you'll probably start getting laid in your late thirties." This is BS. You can be completely honest and attract women whenever you want. Just make your intentions known and have decent social skills.
/r/seduction28/01/19 04:00 PM
2

The difference between a female friend and lover is whether you carry out your intentions. You can have a fun friendly conversation with any lady but if don’t make a move then you’ll be much more likely to be seen as a friend. Making a move doesn’t need to be aggressive, it can be as simple as asking the girl for coffee.
/r/seduction28/01/19 02:59 PM
9

Normal.
/r/seduction27/01/19 07:34 PM
1

I wouldn’t if I were you. But if you must start a conversation on social media or text and see what happens.
/r/seduction27/01/19 02:28 PM
25

High school love is overrated.
/r/seduction13/01/19 07:56 PM
1

It sort of is though.
/r/seduction12/01/19 05:24 PM
2

I think the answer is within yourself and it’s up to you to find it. I’d say keep meeting new women and take note as to how things go. Also improve yourself.
/r/seduction09/01/19 02:53 PM
14

Tell your girlfriend now so she can take a plan b. Like now!
/r/seduction02/01/19 07:14 PM
1

I used to lift before going out at night and I found that I made better approaches after I lifted than if I hadn’t.
/r/seduction30/12/18 09:21 PM
1

My advice still stands. Start talking to other options in the meantime and build on your skill set. When she comes around again (and she probably will) you'll be ready.
/r/seduction24/12/18 06:18 PM
1

You can. If I were you I’d wait to do that in person.
/r/seduction24/12/18 05:31 PM
1

The goal is whatever you want it to be.
/r/seduction23/12/18 08:28 PM
1

No porn, imo. When you do masterbate think of real life people.
/r/seduction23/12/18 06:26 PM
2

Maybe...maybe not. Be optimistic. She is still responding to you. If she does flake find another girl.
/r/seduction23/12/18 08:35 AM
2

For me I started working out and cut back in porn for a couple weeks. Working out made me feel more confident without my clothes on and I tend to perform better when I’m not watching a ton of porn. Hope this helps.
/r/seduction23/12/18 08:28 AM
1

Lol I don’t have any problem reading books and I don’t go on reddit to read super long posts. It doesn’t make me lazy.
/r/seduction21/12/18 02:09 PM
22

It’s not you. Dating apps are always going to be tough since the barrier for entry is so low. If I were you I wouldn’t use apps as my main source for meeting women.
/r/seduction20/12/18 09:38 PM
19

This is a lot of words to explain one thing.
/r/seduction20/12/18 09:34 PM
7

Probably wasn’t because of your age. Maybe she wanted an out.
/r/seduction03/12/18 05:20 PM
16

For me what works is having a conversation and if you like them ask them out. If they don’t say yes, (it doesn’t matter if they’re in a relationship or not) take it as a no and move on. Also watch their behavior and see if they react positively to your advances or not. Some girls will say yes and have little to no intention of ever going out with you so watch behavior.
/r/seduction03/12/18 05:09 PM
0

Practice.
/r/seduction22/11/18 04:28 AM
1

Huh?
/r/seduction12/11/18 08:08 PM
6

This is good work. Keep it up. Consistently will make you strong.
/r/seduction10/11/18 07:33 PM
2

This doesn’t answer your question but you’ll learn more from experience than any book.
/r/seduction10/11/18 03:06 PM
1

You should find out.
/r/seduction09/11/18 01:15 AM
1

You could but chances are the info won’t help you much.
/r/seduction09/11/18 01:14 AM
1

That’s fine. Talk about yourself for a bit or if don’t like that opener think of whatever you need to to open the conversation.
/r/seduction08/11/18 04:12 PM
0

Just start a conversation with her. Say “Hi how are you?”
/r/seduction08/11/18 02:26 PM
1

I don’t know. Pick one of the options, commit to it and find out what works and what doesn’t.
/r/seduction07/11/18 03:44 AM
278

Meet up at Starbucks and read her cup.
/r/seduction06/11/18 04:42 PM
1

Or make yours own awesome plans and invite her.
/r/seduction03/11/18 02:01 AM
2

Make her a backup. Find someone new who appreciates you for who you are.
/r/seduction01/11/18 11:23 AM
1

Ask for it and she’ll give it to you if she wants to.
/r/seduction01/11/18 11:20 AM
2

I try to look for something observational but if can’t think of anything I say hi. Just start the conversation. It’s simple.
/r/seduction01/11/18 12:32 AM
1

The best way is to go talk to her. Just say hi my name is...
/r/seduction01/11/18 12:06 AM
2

Yeah. Definitely. In between classes was my favorite because there’d be so many people. Parks and malls work too.
/r/seduction01/11/18 12:04 AM
3

Talk to more girls. Like a lot more. Join a club on campus so you’ll be around people and generally put yourself in situations where we can meet new people on a regular basis.
/r/seduction31/10/18 11:57 PM
1

You’re really young. Start doing things that make you happy and start talking to people.
/r/seduction31/10/18 11:53 PM
1

Have you tried bookstores, maybe swing dancing or indie flea markets.
/r/seduction30/10/18 04:13 PM
8

I like em T H I C C
/r/seduction30/10/18 03:40 AM
4

If she did go around and show people the text conversation you two had, that’s really rude. Don’t deal with that shit. The best defense for rude behavior is complete indifference.
/r/seduction29/10/18 07:54 PM
2

Don’t people pay for stuff like that.
/r/seduction28/10/18 03:07 AM
1

Maybe it is because you’re stuck in interview mode. Take some time and work on you conversation skill and flirt. Keep at it. It’s awesome that you’re out there trying.
/r/seduction26/10/18 12:22 PM
2

I second that. You’ll learn way more with ten minutes of practice than three hours of YouTube.
/r/seduction25/10/18 10:00 PM
4

Nightgame will leave you open to rude behavior like that and honestly it sucks...it really does. I’ve had my fair share of girls being less than charming toward me. How I’ve learned to manage it is to lower my expectations from these girls.
/r/seduction20/10/18 05:31 PM
2

Ohhh... that makes sense.
/r/seduction20/10/18 04:48 PM
1

I find it hard to believe that social circles are scarce, everyone has friends and I never implied using coworkers as dating prospects merely people in your social circle.
/r/seduction20/10/18 10:19 AM
1

Call it what you want, it’s still offline. Also, the vast majority of the population doesn’t have a social circle? Really? No friends/family/classmates/coworkers?
/r/seduction20/10/18 09:52 AM
1

I don’t understand your plan. You’re gonna get better at talking to women by not talking to women?...
/r/seduction20/10/18 09:40 AM
6

Cold approaching isn’t the only way to meet women in person. There’s dance lessons, yoga, coed sports leagues, classmates... My point is your chances at seduction are better in real life then online (cold approach or not).
/r/seduction20/10/18 09:33 AM
2

Start by saying hello and only hello to five people a day for a week and then build from there. Also ask yourself, “why would a girl want to be with me?” If you can’t answer that question that’s a problem.
/r/seduction19/10/18 08:43 PM
5

I wouldn’t start here tbh (sorry guys). Start with yourself and the world around you. Start going where girls are and socialize with them. That’s where you start.
/r/seduction19/10/18 08:28 PM
1

I’d say just show up every meeting and be an active member of the club. Do things like make small talk and learn names. It looks like you could use practice on your social skills, use this club as practice.
/r/seduction19/10/18 08:19 PM
3

Go out alone.
/r/seduction19/10/18 08:07 PM
0

What rules?
/r/seduction19/10/18 04:39 PM
2

I'd say plan on having fun and don't plan on pissing her off. If you're pretty sure you're gonna piss her off, don't do paintball.
/r/seduction19/10/18 03:45 PM
104

Social media isn't the best way to meet people. You'll have a better experience meeting women in person.
/r/seduction19/10/18 03:41 PM
1

True dat. 👍🏿
/r/seduction12/10/18 02:59 AM
1

I disagree. I don't think differences in verbiage are going to change results in a dramatic way.
/r/seduction12/10/18 01:51 AM
2

I disagree. Call it what you want but if she's into you she'll say yes. There's nothing wrong with being direct.
/r/seduction12/10/18 12:42 AM
1

Yes. You gotta start looking.
/r/seduction11/10/18 09:57 PM
1

Why? I use the word date all the time.
/r/seduction11/10/18 09:53 PM
2

Tell her you want a date. ​
/r/seduction11/10/18 08:09 PM
4

I'm down for anything that gets all these beginner questions off this sub. I'm tires of seeing "how do I approach", "how do I get her number" questions. I'd really like to see more people take the time and energy to research their questions before posting them.
/r/seduction10/10/18 05:24 PM
2

I’ve got two questions. When’s the last time you approach a women? And what’s the most women you’ve approached in one day?
/r/seduction04/10/18 10:21 PM
1

"I do everything as per the books." Reading and implementing pickup material is fine but I've got two things. One, are you actually becoming better at pickup/life...are you noting your strengths and working to improve your weaknesses? Two, why would any woman want to be with you? If you can't quickly rattle off 5-10 reason a girl would want to be with you within 15 seconds then you don't anything to offer a woman and you need to work on yourself (not necessarily seduction). "I know, but I think …
/r/seduction04/10/18 10:01 PM
1

That could be the case but I’m not changing my statement.
/r/seduction04/10/18 05:22 PM
0

What the point of putting a tldr if there isn’t a tldr smh. Also I don’t understand what we’ve been doing wrong.
/r/seduction04/10/18 05:03 PM
3

I think there’s something off with your approach. 7 lays out of 1200 approaches isn’t the best ratio. Maybe go for quality over quantity. To answer your question, Game is one of those weird things. Either everything matters or nothing matters. But if you’re high-quality man you should be able to attract quality women in the long run.
/r/seduction04/10/18 04:58 PM
11

Probably not the advice you’re looking for but you just ended a five-year relationship, you should take some time heal from that and not jump into pickup.
/r/seduction04/10/18 01:22 PM
6

I disagree. There’s a reason they call it social “skills”. Skills can be improved.
/r/seduction03/10/18 11:32 PM
1

Do you talk to anyone about that? Like a family member or close friend...
/r/seduction01/10/18 09:30 PM
1

I’ve been there. Seduction will beat you down if you let it. What are you going to to do next?
/r/seduction01/10/18 09:17 PM
1

See professional counseling.
/r/seduction30/09/18 02:53 PM
2

Perfect👍🏿
/r/seduction29/09/18 07:24 PM
3

In some ways approaching groups is easier than approaching one person. I usually say hi to all of them and try to have a normal conversation. The funny things is there’s always at least one person with their guard all the way up and one person eager to meet you.
/r/seduction29/09/18 06:06 PM
4

Maybe you’ll see her again.
/r/seduction27/09/18 04:23 PM
16

Just remember that for next time. It’s not that big of a deal.
/r/seduction27/09/18 04:17 PM
2

This isn’t the answer you’re looking for but you could always put yourself in these situations and learn from experience.
/r/seduction25/09/18 11:39 PM
1

Search the questions on the internet and see what you get. As much as this sub is designed to help, you’ve gotta start doing the work to improve on your own.
/r/seduction25/09/18 11:32 PM
1

I think the truth is you’ll only got those kinds of responses from women who are super duper into you or older women because women tend to have more to lose with sex than men and younger women who have more value because they tend to be more physically attractive will keep their mouths shut about that.
/r/seduction25/09/18 06:17 PM
1

What app is this? I want to try.
/r/seduction25/09/18 06:14 PM
0

There plenty of resources on this sub and online that answer your question(s) and I think you’ll value the solutions more you find them.
/r/seduction25/09/18 04:18 PM
1

Yeah.
/r/seduction20/09/18 12:55 AM
2

You’ll never get what you want with attitude. You’re focused outcomes instead of living your best life and people (women) can sense that.
/r/seduction19/09/18 11:26 PM
2

Do it again and commit to it. Going in this direction will make you a healthy more balanced person. I strongly recommend it.
/r/seduction19/09/18 10:59 PM
2

I think the best thing for you is to seek professional counseling. A couple of years back I was in a place where I wasn’t happy with myself and I spoke to a counselor and it was one of the best decisions that I’ve ever made.
/r/seduction19/09/18 09:48 PM
9

Maybe. Maybe not. You’ll never know for sure unless you y’all with her.
/r/seduction19/09/18 03:02 PM
5

Then don’t. You’re spending time on a person who (for whatever reason) isn’t making an effort. We’re all busy and it’s not that difficult to plan a date. For me, what help in this type of situation is to investing my efforts into finding someone else who does likes you enough to want to spend time with you. Because when a girl likes you, she’ll go to great lengths to spend time with you. When a girl likes you, you’ll never hear about how busy her schedule is. When a girl likes you you’ll know fo…
/r/seduction16/09/18 12:32 AM
9

Agreed, keep her in the background and pursue other opportunities that way whether she comes around or not you’ll be ok.
/r/seduction16/09/18 12:09 AM
3

My advice remains unchanged.
/r/seduction14/09/18 11:06 PM
3

I would say do some soul searching of your own to find out where these emotions are coming from. If that’s doesn’t work therapy?....
/r/seduction14/09/18 10:58 PM
1

Ask her out.
/r/seduction13/09/18 10:34 PM
1

The chances aren’t 0% but it’s pretty damn close to it. I strongly suggest that you give up on this lady and pursue opportunities OFFLINE that give you a better chance. She’s already ignored your messages. She’s likely not interested.
/r/seduction13/09/18 03:30 PM
1

I think you’ll have a better chance with women you know and meet in real life. In general, women aren’t going to answer a stranger’s message on social media. If you do contact it’ll probably come off as creepy.
/r/seduction13/09/18 03:22 PM
1

Well said.
/r/seduction13/09/18 11:20 AM
2

Live a fun, happy and fulfilling existence. That has friends, activities and passions. That’s true abundance. Creating the mindset without any evidence is difficult for me.
/r/seduction13/09/18 11:16 AM
1

I don’t know. That’s a good question. What’s your definition of a thot? Regardless of the definition I’d say think of where they frequent and what kind of guys they tend to value but honestly I’d hit the club and shoot my shot with about 20-30 approaches and see if anything works for me.
/r/seduction12/09/18 06:06 PM
1

Absolutely i would but I personally don’t care to know a woman’s (particularly the women I’m interested in) sexual history. If she’s girlfriend material than she is regardless of sexual history.
/r/seduction12/09/18 04:19 PM
2

Just message her like you’d normally message a match. No need to overthink this.
/r/seduction12/09/18 02:49 AM
1

Maybe those types of girls aren’t interested. Maybe you attract a certain type.
/r/seduction12/09/18 01:21 AM
1

I'd suggest searching google on how to carry a conversation. I think the questions your asking are either really broad or can easily be answered with a yes or no. Be more creative with your questions. Also blaming the ladies isn't helping your cause. If they're answering your questions in a boring way they either don't wanna talk with you of you're asking boring questions. Good luck. I'm honestly working on this myself and it's challenging.
/r/seduction11/09/18 10:01 PM
31

Two reasons, because it’s valuable and because female attraction in general is more multidimensional than male attraction. Women stand to lose more with sex than guys do so they need to much more pickier when choosing a sexual partner. Since women in general don’t give sex away it’s more valuable. Your basically asking about the rules of the game lol. I’d suggest you read the first chapter of Models by Mark Manson. This basically answers your question much better than I did.
/r/seduction11/09/18 09:45 PM
5

I don’t think that advice won’t work for everyone but my key takeaway is self-improvement is the most important aspect of seduction.
/r/seduction09/09/18 02:02 AM
1

You should work on improving your self-esteem/confidence.
/r/seduction08/09/18 10:24 PM
4

Absolutely! Make your intentions crystal clear.
/r/seduction07/09/18 06:54 PM
3

Work on rebuilding yourself and wait a while before dating again. Reach out to people who are close to you when times get rough and slowly increase the investment you put on yourself as you get healthy. You’re in for some rough waters but for me most of my personal growth has come from the most painful experiences of my life.
/r/seduction06/09/18 04:41 PM
21

They all don’t have boyfriends.
/r/seduction06/09/18 01:36 PM
2

If you want to talk to them you should go talk to them and see what happens. No need making it more complicated than that.
/r/seduction05/09/18 03:53 PM
1

This happens to me. Don’t think of it as a problem. It’s a filter. If she doesn’t want to put in the effort, you don’t need to mess with her.
/r/seduction05/09/18 03:12 AM
6

Escalate!
/r/seduction05/09/18 03:10 AM
1

Work on your self esteem. Make friends, find a passion and learn to love yourself. Do those things then get back to game.
/r/seduction04/09/18 10:36 PM
1

I keep notebook where track what went well and what didn’t. Then I look up podcasts or post about the things I didn’t do well at.
/r/seduction04/09/18 01:17 PM
2

(Slow clap...)
/r/seduction04/09/18 03:24 AM
5

Yep. A bunch of strangers from the internet won’t be able to help as much as a trained professional. I’ve been seeing a counselor for the last two years. Best decision I’ve ever made.
/r/seduction03/09/18 02:32 AM
3

No. https://www.google.com/amp/s/markmanson.net/do-something/amp
/r/seduction02/09/18 11:43 PM
5

You stop asking people “how” and you “do” instead.
/r/seduction02/09/18 11:24 PM
3

Models
/r/seduction02/09/18 08:20 PM
1

I don’t know. You should find out!
/r/seduction02/09/18 02:49 PM
2

Get the most up to date version.
/r/seduction02/09/18 07:19 AM
1

There’s lots of advice on this on the internet. Use google.
/r/seduction02/09/18 06:51 AM
1

Your feelings are normal. You probably have some fear or anxiety over asking (inferring) someone of the opposite sex what you want. The more you do it he easier it gets.
/r/seduction02/09/18 01:28 AM
1

Same. I think it’s something that over complicates gaming.
/r/seduction02/09/18 01:25 AM
2

What’s your question exactly?
/r/seduction02/09/18 12:29 AM
1

I’m pretty sure if you search online you’ll be able to find something.
/r/seduction02/09/18 12:16 AM
110

My first question would be how long have you been taking action and what are you learning. My second question is do you have any self-esteem issues or hang ups. My advice to you would be to join a club/recreation group on campus to gain some confidence and friends being part of a group. As far as sex, go to bars and clubs and shoot your shot. Eventually someone will be interested.
/r/seduction01/09/18 02:02 AM
2

Yeah.
/r/seduction30/08/18 01:42 PM
2

A lot.
/r/seduction30/08/18 12:13 PM
1

Say sorry and move on.
/r/seduction29/08/18 04:19 PM
4

Yes
/r/seduction29/08/18 11:30 AM
5

No offense but some questions you need to answer for yourself. There are plenty of resources on this sub and online to answer this question. Good luck.
/r/seduction27/08/18 10:05 PM
3

There’s nothing to mess up. Have a conversation and get to know her. Have fun. Everything else will work out.
/r/seduction23/08/18 01:42 PM
3

What do you mean a nice way? Don’t over complicate this. If you want to asked out then do it.
/r/seduction22/08/18 11:45 AM
2

What do you want to do? Do that.
/r/seduction22/08/18 11:31 AM
2

Ask her out in a casual way. If she says no, you gotta be cool with that.
/r/seduction22/08/18 11:29 AM
1

I used to have a similar problem with my ex. How I solved it was by talking to her about it. She reassured me that everything’s fine and that helped. After that I started working out again and quit porn for a while. I never had that issue again. You have some form of performance anxiety. A lot of guys actually go through this. So ‘try’ not to beat yourself up about it. Also this is a seduction subreddit and it seems your gf has already been seduced. So this is probably the wrong place to look fo…
/r/seduction22/08/18 11:25 AM
2

You should ask her out.
/r/seduction22/08/18 11:13 AM
1

Just live your life and do what you want. Don’t even think about it.
/r/seduction22/08/18 02:36 AM
1

I cares. 😢
/r/seduction22/08/18 02:11 AM
1

Nah bra. I’m for real.
/r/seduction22/08/18 02:04 AM
1

The Bible.
/r/seduction21/08/18 10:25 PM
1

Go dolo
/r/seduction21/08/18 10:23 PM
2

Have you tried asking her?
/r/seduction21/08/18 10:18 PM
2

I’m not a fan of the title. “You need to read this”? Why?
/r/seduction21/08/18 10:17 PM
5

To answer your question. You’re not entitled to girlfriend. No one is. From what I’m getting from this post you’ve got a couple problems. One you really “need” a girl. That’s not good. Which leads me to the second problem which is you don’t know how to attract ladies. Figure those two problems out and you’ll be golden.
/r/seduction21/08/18 10:09 PM
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It doesn’t matter what you reply with just that you do reply. Just think of something funny/stupid...something to get the ball rolling. Also I will not tell you what to say because that’s what got you here in the first place. Use your brain, this isn’t rocket science.
/r/seduction21/08/18 09:59 PM
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My rule is approach when I want to. This means if I’m at the store and I see someone I want to talk to or at the club and I see someone I want to talk to. Approach if you want.
/r/seduction21/08/18 01:39 PM
3

College. Malls.
/r/seduction21/08/18 11:40 AM
1

Good video. The points could've been organised better though.
/r/seduction25/09/17 04:34 PM
2

I'd like to add on to this question. How long did it take for you to figure it out? What were your sticking points and how did you overcome them? What kept you motivated? What took you to the next level?
/r/seduction21/09/17 07:33 PM
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The last thing I need is MORE advice. I'm looking for some hope. A reason to keep going because it's going to be a lot more shitty moments before I figure this out. Right now it's not looking worth it.
/r/seduction20/09/17 03:24 PM
9

Dude I feel you. Sometimes I wonder when does this get easier? I get rejected so often I wonder how couples even happen? Like don't women want to be with guys? And I've given serious thought to just giving up. All this effort. The articles. The books. The approaches. The chicks that blow you out. The chicks that freeze you out. The chicks who give you their number but don't reply. The chicks that agree to a date then flake. The anticipation of something special only to find the inevitable disapp…
/r/seduction19/09/17 09:44 PM
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This is really great advice but it's incredibly wordy.
/r/seduction18/09/17 03:10 AM
2

Have fun!! Enjoy your time there enjoy the music. Learn a few dance moves and if you want to dance with girls ask.
/r/seduction17/09/17 01:42 PM
1

Work with her to put a date in the calendar. I've dealt with a similar situation. Just put something on the calendar and go from there.
/r/seduction14/09/17 11:23 AM
1

It's up to you to improve. What did you learn? What did you do well? What would you improve on? If you were in same situation again what would you do differently? Take note then remember for next time.
/r/seduction14/09/17 11:17 AM
5

I wouldn't. Wait until you're in a more serious relationship to buy flowers.
/r/seduction14/09/17 11:01 AM
2

Be fun. Be charming. Be a good listener. Then escalate.
/r/seduction13/09/17 08:50 AM
157

It seems like the everyone doesn't like peaches.
/r/seduction10/09/17 03:59 PM
11

You're 14. If I were you I'd focus on making a ton of friends. Play sport, join clubs and do extracurriculars. Once you do that it'll be easier to meet and attract girls.
/r/seduction01/09/17 06:35 PM
2

Smile, say hi and ask how she's doing.
/r/seduction28/08/17 07:51 PM
92

One door closes and another opens.
/r/seduction26/08/17 03:34 PM
1

I disagree with your comment because she's already said no. Why continue pursuing? It's as simple as that. He's already been rejected. There's no point in continuing to pursue her. There are PLENTY of available girls for him.
/r/seduction24/08/17 08:41 PM
97

You accept her decision and move on. If you can attract one girl, you can attract plenty more.
/r/seduction24/08/17 11:36 AM
1

Hey I thought you were cute and I wanted to say hi. I'm X.
/r/seduction14/07/17 05:09 PM
1

That doesn't have to be the case. You can talk to someone for the sake of talking to someone or to share thoughts, opinions, ideas and jokes. The point I'm trying to make is everything doesn't have to about game.
/r/seduction28/06/17 03:37 AM
2

Since you're in college, the first I'd do is join a club or two on campus. That way you're always meeting people. Second I'd start chatting up the people in my classes. Help burn away some of that anxiety. The goal is to be comfortable enough around people to talk to them easily. From there you can start approaching the girls you find the most attractive. Hope this helps.
/r/seduction27/06/17 10:21 PM
5

Everything that you do doesn't have to have the outcome of improving your game. Do things because they're fun or bring you fulfillment.
/r/seduction27/06/17 10:13 PM
2

Get a social hobby. Find a passion. Make friends. Create a more interesting life for yourself.
/r/seduction27/06/17 10:09 PM
1

For me, I make meeting people a priority. I go to meetups, start social hobbies and become a more social creature in general. I even go as far as scheduling time for day game approaches. Hope this helps.
/r/seduction26/06/17 12:08 PM
1

I challenge you to make your guide 300 word or less. A lot of the guides here are just entirely too long.
/r/seduction21/06/17 04:46 PM
1

This is your call but if I were in this situation I'd move on. She's giving herself plenty of excuses as to why she can't and won't hang out. There are plenty of girls out there who actually want to do things with you so don't spend much more time with someone who doesn't. Or....you can play her game and maybe it'll work out for you. In my experience it hasn't.
/r/seduction10/06/17 04:23 PM
5

I'll second that swing dancing is dope. Most dances that I go to are alcohol free.
/r/seduction17/04/17 11:44 AM
1

That sounds interesting.
/r/seduction08/04/17 04:44 PM
9

I'm not really a PUA but the worst rejections for me are the ones where the lady is completely indifferent or explicitly ignores me. I made an approach yesterday at a club and I said hey what's up and she looked at me dead in the eye and did a complete 180 with her head. That's always a gut punch. On the bright side that's as bad as it gets for me.
/r/seduction18/03/17 03:22 PM
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I could be wrong but I don't think she wants you. Because if she did she she wouldn't of mentioned all the other guys that wanted to hang out with her and couldn't. I think this is her way of putting you in the friend zone.
/r/seduction19/01/17 11:45 AM
1

I'm in a similar position. So if you want to chat about it feel free to message me.
/r/seduction11/01/17 05:27 PM
3

Read models by Mark Manson. It's a pretty good overview on dating and seduction in general.
/r/seduction11/01/17 05:24 PM
2

I want to try this too. I'll start tomorrow.
/r/seduction09/01/17 02:25 AM
8

Read models by mark manson. Start a hobby that's fulfilling. Love yourself.
/r/seduction25/11/16 10:45 AM
1

With your situation where you've made your move and there's still isn't a response, it seems like she's not interested. If she liked you, you'd know it.
/r/seduction07/08/16 02:20 PM
5

I make it absolutely clear that I'm interested in them romantically. I usually say something like "you're really cool. Gimme your number so I can take you out..." At that point it's on the girl. She'll either say yes or no. If it's no politely make your exit. If it's yes, you got some digits.
/r/seduction07/08/16 02:17 PM
1

This comment is getting down voted but it's true. You'll never question a girl that WANTS you.
/r/seduction07/08/16 04:56 AM
2

Smile when you see her. Be sure to touch and be a good listener.
/r/seduction07/08/16 04:53 AM
2

I 100% agree.
/r/seduction07/08/16 04:51 AM
1

Probably as a friend. My rule is if it's not "hell yeah" it's a no. If I were you I'd give it one more good try when you see her but keep your options open. There are plenty of women.
/r/seduction07/08/16 04:50 AM
2

Honestly I wouldn't use the job as a place to pickup women. I would use it to practice positive habits like good body language, posture, charm and wit. Then when you're on campus you can focus on pickup and you'd have a more developed skill set.
/r/seduction07/08/16 04:40 AM
11

I'm not exactly sure how to answer your question but I find that making my intentions known early on gives me positive responses even when there's no interest.
/r/seduction07/08/16 04:31 AM
0

I would start by being open and friendly with everyone you meet. That's guys, girls, teachers...everyone. Getting comfortable with social interaction will make a big difference when you do start looking for girls.
/r/seduction13/07/16 10:06 AM
2

Also you use the word "chase". Quick word of advice: if you chase anything it's going to run.
/r/seduction13/07/16 09:59 AM
1

It depends on your mindset. If you think masterbation doesn't help then it won't. I've experimented with no fap but it didn't really give me the results I was looking for.
/r/seduction13/07/16 09:58 AM
6

I'd move on but my strategy is to assume anything that's not an absolute yes to be a no. There's literally plenty of girls.
/r/seduction13/07/16 09:53 AM
1

If I want to text someone I text them. It's simpler that way.
/r/seduction11/01/15 08:21 PM
1

Keep a smile on your face and have fun.
/r/seduction11/01/15 08:06 PM
1

I'm 27. But I was a 26 year old virgin. First off being a virgin is only a big deal if you make it a big deal. It's really not a big deal. Second I put myself in situations where I was around girls. I committed to going out twice a week, I made more frequent trips to the grocery store, went to the gym. Third, I went all in on online dating. I sent 10 messages a day for about a week. Finally, this was the most important for me. You can give a fuck about what anyone thinks about you. Once I did al…
/r/seduction11/01/15 07:07 PM
1

You can try again but it's not looking good. Find someone else. Fill your phone with girls numbers. You'll find someone better. There's always someone better.
/r/seduction11/01/15 06:56 PM
1

Have fun first. Dating is supposed to be fun.
/r/seduction11/01/15 06:52 PM
1

For me once I started focusing on having a good time first then approaching. I started getting better results. 14 approaches in one night is amazing.
/r/seduction11/01/15 06:46 PM
10

Show that you're interested.
/r/seduction08/11/14 12:30 PM
1

There's too many word you're over complicating something that's really simple.
/r/seduction27/10/14 07:21 AM
1

It's not about the answer. Just keep a smile on your face. Stay positive. Stay grounded.
/r/seduction11/09/14 05:32 AM
1

I like where your heads at.
/r/seduction11/09/14 05:26 AM
1

Do whatever you want as long as your doing something. Opening girls is not that difficult.
/r/seduction11/09/14 05:26 AM
1

Just be yourself.
/r/seduction11/09/14 05:22 AM
2

It all about consistency. Also calling yourself a wimp doesn't help.
/r/seduction11/09/14 04:55 AM
1

You don't need any of that shit.
/r/seduction10/09/14 03:58 AM
1

Just go talk to them.
/r/seduction10/09/14 03:50 AM
2

If your going to spend money you might as well get coaching. It's way more expensive but it's the best. But if I were you I'd just commit to working this stuff out independently. It's wayyyy cheaper.
/r/seduction06/08/14 05:32 AM
0

No no no I'm not reading all that.
/r/seduction15/07/14 03:01 AM
1

Be sure to smile and say, "hi my name is (insert your name here)." It also depends on who the stranger is and what the goal is when you introduce yourself.
/r/seduction14/07/14 02:44 AM
0

Go to the places you like to go.
/r/seduction14/07/14 02:30 AM
3

I've done that. I go in with my drink and give everyone a cheers and then ask how their evenings going. It's really important to commit and to have a smile in your face.
/r/seduction03/07/14 06:36 AM
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