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| 264 | My next door neighbour just got arrested - trigger warning | MALE DEPRAVITY | kapuchen | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 10:13 AM |
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| 2 | What do we think? https://www.elle.com/life-love/a35398184/alienation-of-affection-lawsuits/Just have a section in your prenup that has a punitive amount for infidelity | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 11:57 AM |
| 10 | Rereading my old journal and seeing how male identified I was 😅Remembering when I paid a classmate a case of O’Henry bars (Dad had a connect) to ask the guy I liked out for me. He said no. hahahaha o my | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 01:55 AM |
| 20 | Prenup StrategyA girl I know has a prenup that states that if her husband cheats she gets a million dollars. That is goals. There is absolutely no amount of money that could ever compensate labour devoted to child bearing, rearing, etc etc but you have to start somewhere. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 11:05 AM |
| 87 | Jasper Bloom was the ultimate NVMI cringed so hard when she got him that lovely gift in the beginning. Just so relatable as a former pickme to do the MOST for people who do not deserve it. Her character really shows a beautiful arch from pickme me to self-fulfilled. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 01:49 AM |
| 30 | Jasper Bloom was the ultimate NVMThe Holiday | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 01:47 AM |
| 34 | Things I realized as someone who used to be a PickMe years agoSometimes I think back to how scared I was of being gross to guys in middle and high school. It is disturbing. It literally consumed my life in fear. The things they did to girls was insane. Here is a few examples: 1. Grade 8: a new girl came to school because she was bullied at her previous school. Day 1 a guy pulls down her skirt in gym. She gets called Muffy from here on out. They even carved that shit in her locker. NO disciplinary action for the guy. 2. Grade 9: There was a rumour that a gi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 08:56 PM |
| 126 | "Not all humans; get over it" -said no one ever to an abused cat/dog/petGood point. My cat Penny is a pickme though. She loves me, but the moment any male is in the house she is all over them and forgets I even exist. Only when my partner is gone do I get any cuddles, and I raised her from a kitten!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 08:49 PM |
| 14 | The "phone thing"I had a friend who shared her laptop with her partner. He installed a key logger on her laptop to get her banking passwords and stole a lot of money. Once she accessed the key logger she saw he was searching c-p on her computer and all kinds of depraved stuff. It can be really dangerous. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 11:41 PM |
| 17 | 'My daughter had an abortion. Her bf did some decent things: he is a true HERO now. And if she ever might break up with him, I won't hold a grudge to her about it.' Imagine this as your mother 🤮 Poor girlAnd my Father as well. He had all the same information. They were good parents all n all. I don’t want to say they weren’t. They did a lot more than most would when faced with a pregnant teenager. They took me to my appointment, my Dad sat in the car and waited for us even though it was against their religion. But, because of a generational gap maybe, they failed to see the signs when a 21 year old started dating their daughter. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 02:24 PM |
| 47 | 'My daughter had an abortion. Her bf did some decent things: he is a true HERO now. And if she ever might break up with him, I won't hold a grudge to her about it.' Imagine this as your mother 🤮 Poor girlI do too. Something I struggle with. My parents were older when they had me and by the time I was a teenager they were taking month-long vacations with their friends and leaving me to my own devices. My Mother holds a lot of resentment to my girlfriends at the time who dropped me because I was pregnant (and engaging in reckless behaviour as I was unsupervised). She recently brought up again how she disliked them so, and I retorted that we were all children in the scenario, I can’t blame them for… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 02:19 PM |
| 105 | 'My daughter had an abortion. Her bf did some decent things: he is a true HERO now. And if she ever might break up with him, I won't hold a grudge to her about it.' Imagine this as your mother 🤮 Poor girlWhen I was 16 the same thing happened to me. My bf(21) told me if I got an abortion he would break up with me to the point that my mom and my sister hatched a plan to fake a miscarriage. Eventually, he came around and accompanied me to the appointment along with my Mother. She absolutely martyred him. Totally forgot how he had been so abusive literally days before. I recently confronted my Mother about letting that behaviour stand, letting me move out with this guy, and never having a conversati… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 12:55 PM |
| 49 | Why do old men think young women and girls dress up for them?My moms ultimate dating advice is: gotta stay mean to keep em keen. Whatta queen | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 08:35 PM |
| 105 | Why do old men think young women and girls dress up for them?My mom always says, the last thing to die in a man is his dick. Explains why pervyness prevails when other competencies melt away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 05:22 PM |
| 8 | Post all the high-value stuff you have ever experienced from any manWhen I was in high school, my male best friend was dating this girl. They broke up for a while and she dated someone else and got pregnant. The girl and the babies’ biological father broke up. My friend supported her through the whole pregnancy, was present at the birth and helped out financially until he sadly passed away a few years later. All this from a teenager. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 11:16 PM |
| 9 | Post all the high-value stuff you have ever experienced from any manMy Husband just started a new high-stress job in the last few months. We also live in a house that runs on wood-stove only heat so there is a lot of wood to deal with. I had a lapse between jobs but everyday he would get up and make me coffee, work 9-5, chop and carry wood until the sun went down, and 2-3X a week make dinner and clean up. I mean, this is bare minimum stuff, but he does it all with a smile and a good attitude and I never feel like he takes my labour for granted. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 10:49 PM |
| 16 | Post all the high-value stuff you have ever experienced from any manI didn’t make friends easily growing up. My Dad took me on a secret adventure every Friday night. Whether it was skating, a science centre, or just to Blockbuster to pick a movie. He came to every single one of my practices for gymnastics, swimming, and karate. When I got into video games he would print the walkthroughs and watch me play. If I ever got really stuck he would give me hints. Every morning from primary to high school my Dad would knock on my door before I got up and ask me what I wo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 10:44 PM |
| 1 | Outing an abuser?There was a man a good friend of mine used to date. He was awful: stole money, cheated, installed key loggers on her computer (to steal her banking information). He had the same M.O with every woman. He hid it very well. When they finally split she sort of became a sage for his next victims. The first woman he dated after her, she reached out to. Now, once he has pulled his scam they usually end up on her doorstep. It really wore on her after a time. I think it is important to arm people with th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 02:42 AM |
| 35 | Invisibility Hopes DashedThis reminds me. When I lived in a bigger city and would walk to work everyday I would wear really ratty clothes on the way to work and then change once I got there. Don’t get me wrong, creepy men would still approach me in my sweats but the difference was enough that I would pack a change of clothes everyday to avoid as much harassment as I could. How sad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/20 11:36 AM |
| 9 | Ladies, how has FDS affected or improved your family dynamics?I was actually going to post and get some advice about this. Since joining FDS I am hyper aware of misogynistic behaviour. My sister-in-laws husband is constantly making jokes about how he loathes being married. He does so in a “joking” manner and people usually laugh. I find it extremely uncomfortable that he is always negging her in front of her family. She usually laughs or rolls her eyes but I know I would divorce someone who broadcast how much they disliked being married. Should I say somet… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 06:12 PM |
| 20 | When a HVM messes upHonestly, such a revelation. I’ve been with my partner for 4 years. With exes in the past, it never felt like an argument was resolved. I would tell them why something bothered me and they would argue with me about why it shouldn’t bother me because “they love me so much”. With my current partner, I would bring up something expecting to have to hold my ground and argue. NO way, sisters. Every time it ends in “ it won’t happen again “ with true action backing it up, thus never leading to that - w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 10:33 AM |
| 19 | Notice how he’s always gaming. Let’s pray for her.That food looks spectacular! What a waste. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 08:07 PM |
| 3 | 4+ years and I JUST walked the door with a small bag and without even a glance let alone a goodbye!Congratulations!!!! Only gonna go UP from here, all the best to you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 06:00 PM |
| 1 | My next door neighbour just got arrested - trigger warningCan’t even express how disappointed I was in that comment. It is as if people think that is an enlightened point of view. Again, in a perfect world we wouldn’t be brought up in a misogynist and patriarchal society where violence against women is the norm or we would have a punitive system where recidivism declines through the prison system. I wanted to yell, but, I ended up just feeling sorry for her. A teenager gets raped and everyone jumps on how we failed the poor man who did it. WTF | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 11:38 AM |
| 1 | My next door neighbour just got arrested - trigger warningAlso, it is not in the US for anyone interested. I’m not trying to make a case against bail reform. I have a negative opinion of the prison and justice system in general, but, I think in cases of violent offenders, especially for sex crimes, the sentencing is far too light. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 10:52 AM |
| 1 | My next door neighbour just got arrested - trigger warningI can dm you the article. I don’t think he was released “early” I think that was the sentence he received for the crime. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 10:46 AM |
| 2 | My next door neighbour just got arrested - trigger warningThank you. I think I will try and get in contact with a reporter to hopefully, at least, educate fellow women on escalation and the resources (or lack there of) that are available to them when (not if) it happens again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 10:29 AM |
| 1 | My next door neighbour just got arrested - trigger warningI think he served something like two months for attacking two women on walking trails. I’m interested to see what the sentencing looks like for this crime. Anything less than 10 years (hard to quantify a punishment for such a crime) and I am going to lose it. A cop was recently acquitted because the judge didn’t educate the jury properly on consent - legally, a person can not consent to a cop. A young woman approached a cop because she was very drunk and couldn’t find a cab home. He didn’t repor… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 10:22 AM |
| 13 | My next door neighbour just got arrested - trigger warningUpdate: just had a dinner party with some of my closest friends and found out his victim was 17 years old. As I was telling the story, their reaction ( a woman ) was “ poor guy “. I want to scream. Why do we hate women so much that this our reaction to this. Yes, sure, he needs help. I’m not saying he doesn’t. But SERIOUSLY | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 10:46 PM |
| 15 | My next door neighbour just got arrested - trigger warningInteresting read, thank you! In a totally unrelated topic which may warrant its own post one day: An ex LVM sold weed. Not like huge amounts but enough around to his friends. This guy knew about it and approached me and told me a gang was looking for me in relation to that. (By the way, I am a law abiding citizen who has never been in trouble with the law) But wait! He can protect me. But wait! He’s always wanted to sleep with me. Really scary experience and a total mind play by a narcissist. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 08:28 PM |
| 5 | My next door neighbour just got arrested - trigger warningThank you, I had a lot of resources and support. I couldn’t help thinking the whole time about what would happen if I had no options: no place to go, no family to lean on and no money to move. How much financial hardship is placed on women unnecessarily when they are just trying to keep themselves safe? Thanks for reading and for taking the time to comment! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 08:23 PM |
| 10 | My next door neighbour just got arrested - trigger warningYeah it really was a poor decision on my part to live there. Never a good idea to mix home and work like that if you can avoid it. Great tip about security cameras and alarm systems as well. Thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 06:16 PM |
| 9 | My next door neighbour just got arrested - trigger warningThis is a great tip, thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 06:12 PM |
| 10 | My next door neighbour just got arrested - trigger warningNow that the story is more mainstream I may see if I can get my story out there. I do, but he noticed the camera soon after and walked off. The cops said it wasn’t “obvious” enough what he was doing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 05:53 PM |
| 10 | My next door neighbour just got arrested - trigger warningThank you. Actively working on not having to rely on anyone, especially men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 05:27 PM |
| 16 | My next door neighbour just got arrested - trigger warningThe post was very cathartic. Thank you for taking the time to read it. I have a pretty negative opinion on the prison system but one thing I struggle with is violent offenders. Especially sex offenders like in this case. Where I’m from, you get more time for poaching then you do for sex crimes, even if they are against minors. When the police themselves are raping women, I’m not even sure where to start. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 05:26 PM |
| 13 | My next door neighbour just got arrested - trigger warningThis is so true. I’m a true crime fan myself and during this period I became interested in the “Ken and Barbie killers”. Some of the most prolific serial killers from Canada. The man in that duo, Paul Bernardo, started out as a peeping tom. Little did I know he was probably watching me watch documentaries about the very thing he was doing outside my window. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 05:23 PM |
| 19 | My next door neighbour just got arrested - trigger warningYeah, the book “The Gift of Fear” was a useful tool in unlearning a lot of the people pleasing behaviours I developed. It is still really hard for me to be firm with strangers who make me uncomfortable. Before I realized the cinder blocks I tried to be friendly with my neighbour on occasion. It is really sad how on-guard we have to be to try and keep ourselves safe. Trusting your intuition is one thing but learning to act, and be rude, loud and obnoxious if someone is making us uncomfortable is … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 05:21 PM |
| 18 | My next door neighbour just got arrested - trigger warningWhat post is that? I’d be interested to read it. Now that this has come out in the news my former coworker heard him bragging about how when this was happening he “installed cameras and motion lights for my protection” and she promptly corrected him and told him I did all that myself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 05:16 PM |
| 25 | My next door neighbour just got arrested - trigger warningThanks for your thoughtful reply. I knew this was a safe space to share this story. You wouldn’t believe how many people didn’t take a “peeping tom” seriously, not taking into account how those types of abusers most often escalate to violent crimes. Paul Bernardo started out as “peeper”. Even now when this story is getting shared around social media people are like “wow this guy needs help”. Well duh, but you know who really needs help? HIS VICTIMS. Also, can’t praise women run work environments… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 03:58 PM |
| 6 | Every woman - friend / roommate / acquaintance I’ve ever known who‘s looked through a man’s phone(s) or device has always had their suspicions confirmed. Trust your gut and don’t let anyone shame you for doing so.When me and my partner first got together I looked through his phone and didn’t find anything, but he caught me doing so. I was really embarrassed but he told me he understood and that I was welcome to look through his phone at anytime. BIG green flag. I felt so seen and understood. So many exes had made me feel like a crazy snooper - I know I have some trust issues, but in the past I had ALWAYS found something. But this opened up an important conversation and allowed me to work through some of … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 10:04 AM |
| 10 | This community changed the course of my lifeSame here. Not even in my dating life per se. I’ve discovered a confidence in myself I never had before. I’m pursuing education and career goals as well as taking better care of myself. Thanks all! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 09:51 PM |
| 3 | Never let an angry man in your house!My abusive ex came and knocked on my door repeatedly the night he committed suicide. I am so thankful I never answered that door. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 10:08 AM |
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