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What do you mean by "girls being needy"? And please, we don't manipulate anything.
/r/seduction08/06/16 11:21 PM
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You don't chase what you know you can have. That is actually a kind of "abundance" mindset. You don't get needy about getting a certain women if you know you can get another one whenever you want.
/r/seduction08/06/16 11:01 PM
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1) if your personality is not congruent with that, why you say such thing? 2) a handshake is not a sign of desinterest by itself. Some people don't like to be touched right in the beginning or proximity. I datęd a girl that could not even get comfortable enough in the beginning to walk grabbing my arm. And one month later we were dating and she could not get her hands off. Each person is different. 3) Talking about what you are gonna do next, like visiting your friends, is not a sign of desinter…
/r/seduction07/06/16 06:39 PM
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Look for iamalphaman on YT. He's got cool tips on stylish clothes on summer and how to wear them.
/r/seduction07/06/16 06:26 PM
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Take your żonę. I'll explain this with another similar situation. You know the typical language exam? Well, at least in English that i know So far, one of the exams you have to pass is the speaking test. And that test is based on 4 little tasks. One of them is an active conversation with a partner, where BOTH of you have to describe a set of 6-7 photographs in about 3 minutes, while also answering 2 key questions. If you let your partner do the whole work/speak nonstop, the examiner will put and…
/r/seduction07/06/16 06:19 PM
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I really doubt the quality of that "objectivity" when someone is talking about itself.
/r/seduction07/06/16 03:28 PM
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Yeah. So what? I mean, you can say whatever you want if you are cool about it. Those guys who are hypersexual while they speak and say things like "i want to make you cum", are not usually rejected at that exact moment because they say it with confidence. They like themselves and they are comfortables with how dirty their minds are. "Be yourself " is not so bullshit. You must be yourself, meaning that you shouldn't be ashamed of what you are, of what you think and feel. You must accept and love …
/r/seduction07/06/16 03:27 PM
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Imagine you spend your whole life being told you are handsome and tall. Same way pretty girls are being told that their whole life. As a consequence, their confidence and ego boost up. It is True that looks can help, but without confidence, it doesn't work.
/r/seduction07/06/16 03:24 PM
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This is a community, not a warfield.
/r/seduction07/06/16 03:22 PM
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It is not the look and height, but the confidence he gets from those qualities.
/r/seduction07/06/16 01:05 PM
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It is not really "shameless" of what you think, but being confident about it. It doesn't matter if you say something stupid or something serious if you doubt about it.
/r/seduction07/06/16 01:03 PM
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This is the kind of criticism that is useful but people downvote because of reasons. He is not trying to offend the guy or be a jerk, /u/TheXXL is just trying to point out something. An attractive and confident person doesn't need to tell anyone he is an attractive and confident person.
/r/seduction07/06/16 01:00 PM
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She is there, not other girl. She is the special one. She is not the one who has to believe that. But you. Change your mindset and treat her like the person you want to be with in that moment. Feel it. Also, for shit tests, answer playfully and cool. Like "Nah, the last 500 times went horrible i dont do that anymore" or "Me? Neeeeeeeever. Only after watching you doing it".
/r/seduction05/06/16 11:57 PM
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Feel it. Do things that amuse yourself.
/r/seduction05/06/16 11:48 PM
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Why do you like me?
/r/seduction01/06/16 10:14 PM
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Your brain gets used to the pressure and stress you feel doing things when you do them a lot. For example: you get nervous doing exams, having time constraints etc? Practice doing exams in the same condiciones at home. You get anxious talking to girls? Talk to girls. With baby steps at first. Then keep going up. You get anxious doing kino stuff? Do kino stuff with WHOEVER YOU FIND. I practiced kino with my family when i was starting.
/r/seduction01/06/16 10:05 PM
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Emotions and attraction are fluctuant states. You don't love someone the same way the whole time. You don't feel attracted to everybody the same way all the time. Same with this. The girl is not giving you IOIs? She has a bad day. You have a bad day. She is nervous. You are nervous. The sky is Blue (not really). The Sun is yellow (not really either). You have bad game. Her father died. Your dog pooped. WHATEVER REASON. IoIs are a sign of work well done. But they don't mean the lack of work to do…
/r/seduction01/06/16 09:51 PM
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Where: where they happen to be sitting /standing /laying. How: you move your lips towards theirs, you kiss. Kiss kiss many times. How (seriously): have game. Improve your skills. Create attraction an sexual tension. Make a move.
/r/seduction01/06/16 09:47 PM
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1) ALWAYS HAVE STANDARDS 2) Seriously, standards are important. 3) Don't fuck whoever you are not attracted to. If you are straight, would you fuck a dude just because he has a "hole"? No. You don't. 4) If she tries to make a move and you don't want to, please don't be afraid of telling her even if you think you will hurt her. People with low attractiveness usually throw themselves to whatever they may find due to low self steem. Don't be a jerk but tell her. You will do her a favour.
/r/seduction01/06/16 09:44 PM
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I would love to participate on such kind of idea. It is True however, as /u/ThrowawayPUA mentions, that not many redditors with enough level to provide quality materiał while also doing it for free. There will be some of them, nevertheless. Like myself. I don't consider myself "high level" or anything like that but I know I have things to offer. It will be a pleasure to participate. I have also written many post about suggestions or challenges to improve so I look forward to see this kind of wee…
/r/seduction01/06/16 09:37 PM
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1) Please dude. Idk why if It's because of the condition you have that you described in another post, but please, format. Your post is difficult to read. 2) When they ask you things like "how old are you?", bounce the question back at them. You could either say "Take a guess" with a playful smile or "I bet im too Young/old (depends on the girl) for you" in a playful tonality. If you ask before than her, and she tells you her age, you can answer back by saying the same ("im too old/Young for you"…
/r/seduction01/06/16 04:21 PM
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Would be useful to know what particular things you are not able to do. That way you can get a better answer. Also, if you have noticed strong points you have while flirting, mention those as well, that way we can point you towards what you should improve. I mean, people with that condition have symptoms that may be different from one to another.
/r/seduction01/06/16 03:54 PM
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"Yeah, every time I get sleepy"
/r/seduction01/06/16 12:39 PM
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Exactly. That was just the "extreme" example. As long as you are happy great.
/r/seduction31/05/16 12:56 PM
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Tag me in, i want to read it.
/r/seduction30/05/16 10:28 PM
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I'm by no means an expert so It's perfectly possible that i am wrong. Could you expandir your definition please?
/r/seduction30/05/16 07:26 PM
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Yeah. It helped me to realise there is nothing wrong with how I am, except those things I can improve if I work on them.
/r/seduction30/05/16 05:50 PM
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No. Well. I have been told thag I may have similar issues but never something significant. I was just curious and lurked around a little bit. I actually went there through your post history.
/r/seduction30/05/16 05:48 PM
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Not blinking is creepy. Very creepy. Unless you are playing a no blinking game which results in make out.
/r/seduction30/05/16 05:46 PM
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Good way of explanation. Perhaps I adopt that metaphor myself.
/r/seduction30/05/16 05:46 PM
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No. I could not even if he wouldn't have been there, due to logistics. We were on a coffee /tea place and later on she had to go and i have to go. I used that time to plan the seed, show value and have a good time. I was not in a rush, neither i need the same-day-lay. So, i kept it cool. I, though, escalated kino till touching the inner part of her legs.
/r/seduction30/05/16 05:45 PM
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An extrovert may feel comfortable in a crowded place like a festival or talking to girls in a club, but may feel fear when he is about to approach a cute girl in the middle of the street in daytime.
/r/seduction30/05/16 05:42 PM
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Glad to hear that.
/r/seduction30/05/16 05:39 PM
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What do you mean by lay her? Have sex?
/r/seduction30/05/16 02:54 PM
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You remind me to Barney Stinson from How I met your mother. More than 200 girls, he always wanted and thought about the one who is hotter than the previous one. Yet he was not happy. Till he find that girl who clicked emotionally wise. Sometimes we miss or lack something and It's not sex but emotional parts.
/r/seduction30/05/16 12:00 PM
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Write down of your last interactions, as detailed as possible, here on seddit. Tag it as Field report ([FR]) and be open to critics and opinions. We cannot know what your mistakes are if we don't know what you do.
/r/seduction30/05/16 11:57 AM
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Conflict is not always "1 vs 1", where only one of both can win. Keep that in mind. Sometimes an argument is a Conflict but when is solved, both people can win.
/r/seduction30/05/16 11:55 AM
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A pleasure! I am an extrovert myself and I spent years thinking things were wrong with me just because I didn't like bars or anything. I know where you are. Keep going!
/r/seduction30/05/16 11:54 AM
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"straight face"?? You don't" become " natural. Natural is what feels natural to you. Without being creepy. Smile. You don't know how powerful is smile. Also, try to change between eyes, look at her lips or neck, and also look beyond her (behind her, not through her) like someone is doing something interesting sometimes. Looking away is not bad. Looking away in a nervous matter and too much is bad. Natural is when you feel it.
/r/seduction30/05/16 11:52 AM
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Tell her to bring her friend. Play cool and be social with the guy. It's possible that you may encounter something like this in the future so you can practice. Show value letting her know you don't care. It's like when you are with a girl in a bar and you let her talk with other guys without chasing her. That shows confidence as fuck and makes you look like a cool social guy. I had a datę yesterday and she was doing a school job before with a classmate so when we met, they were together. I invit…
/r/seduction30/05/16 11:49 AM
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What we understand by "extroverts" and "introverts" is not necesarily what those words mean actually. An introvert person is one who knows and enjoy how to be on itself. A person normally independt emotionally wise who doesn't need others to have fun, without being unable to enjoy and have actually fun with people. An introvert may find himself comfortable inside a group, with some friends, even at a bar or a disco in some cases, but would probably feel uncomfortable in a huge music festival or …
/r/seduction30/05/16 11:38 AM
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Why do care about what a show off tells you? That's envy. Also, even if It's a show off, he didn't get all that just by chance. Athletic scholarship = he trained, worked out and put effort. Going for a phd = kicked his own ass studying Become rich from smart trades = unless he cheated somehow, you get the experience to win trades by previously losing them. No one was born knowing how to do business. Wife and kids = you are not interested in long term relationships. That should not even bother yo…
/r/seduction28/05/16 07:40 PM
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I don't think he is gonna "learn game" with the friend. Based on how he speaks and what he has told us, I think he has some pretty natural set of skills. He won't get alienate if he doesn't mess it up or make a big deal of it.
/r/seduction28/05/16 03:02 AM
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Wait 2 days. No response? (don't initiate convo during those 2 days) Text her something like "hey, How's your week going? blabla you? its going great. Yesterday blabla Hey, you free this X day? Yes why? / No, because blabla why (A* if she reschedule on the lines of" but im free on Z)? Because you owe me a dinner yet, im gonna start thinking you are not trustworthy (little cheesy joke, add emoji, laughs, whatever). What about Y day (Quick reschedule. Try to extract info about what she has said pr…
/r/seduction28/05/16 03:01 AM
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Go to a park, lay down on the grass. Be playful, do kino stuff, roll and kiss. Or just be more intense with subtle things (you could practice this) like body language, tonality, pauses, chosen words, subtle kino (a soft hand caressing on the middle /low back during the day is really sensual and significant because at night It's very common for girls to be touched that way).
/r/seduction28/05/16 02:50 AM
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A way to do it on a bar: Each time someone asks for a drink, you have to kiss me. (~she will say something on the lines of~) What??? That's nonsense!! You said you wanted to play a game (look at her and smile In a playful way. Now turn to the bar). BOSS! A DRINK HERE! Kiss.
/r/seduction28/05/16 02:43 AM
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I was not able to make friends either. I destroid any kind of relationship i built. And i understand that if you have different aptitudes it may take more time but i think you still can do it. People with discapabilities of any kind or lack of skills of any kind may take longer, and more effort to achieve what others can have in a couple of months. But they still can. If you are willing to make a sacrifice big enough. (Can't quote because of reasons) "It's possible the best I could do would be t…
/r/seduction27/05/16 09:36 AM
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A pleasure.
/r/seduction26/05/16 11:05 PM
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One of my friends has a deformity on one of his arms. Basically, he has only got one hand. Really, he doesn't have a left hand at all. And trust me he is a killer with girls. Girls don't freak out ir you really don't make a huge deal of it.
/r/seduction26/05/16 11:05 PM
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I know i know. Honesty is a important skill to have.
/r/seduction26/05/16 09:53 PM
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The "tactis" are not meant to be something you HAVE TO USE. I like to think about them as a guide to develop your own set of skills, your confidence and your own game. Like a hand guiding you while you are learning to walk. Now, what you experienced that day is called in social psychology as "the spectator effect" (dunno if the translation is correct), and is pretty common in our society. If you are interested check it. Also, saying "women hate me" is what we call in psychology as "external atri…
/r/seduction26/05/16 06:40 PM
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Yes i do it. But with simpler ones. Yours are... A little bit too complicated imo. You even had to explain one to us. Your tests are good, i dont deny that. But they are more logical wise than anything. And girls are mainly emotional. Also, she may not be superficial but trying to please you because she is attracted to you. Also, i dont know how men react to those tests but if you tell me you are a wine snob i would ask you about wine. Or tell you that if you care about your fancy stuff you shou…
/r/seduction26/05/16 06:26 PM
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Lips are one of the erogen żonęs of your body. Kissing someone is turning on that person (if you do it right and that person wants it). Also, if you cant escalate till sex on the first datę, i would rise and Spike emotions at its best, kiss her and leave her wanting more for a second datę. Not in that order.
/r/seduction26/05/16 06:16 PM
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Read the sidebar.
/r/seduction26/05/16 06:13 PM
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I would also say that is not about who is better than the other, more like being equal.
/r/seduction26/05/16 06:12 PM
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Fine? Yes. Efficient? That depends. If you don't know her, you don't even try to create rapport or anything. It may work, of course, but the success ratę would be Lower than by doing it right.
/r/seduction26/05/16 06:11 PM
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Having criteria. I don't hit on aby girl, only on those i am attracted to. However, i am social with anyone. Because i enjoy people and be social with them. And if by any chance i hit on more than one girl at the same place, i dont make a huge deal of it. People stop caring if you dont care.
/r/seduction26/05/16 06:09 PM
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Define masculine. Because if you are thinking about a caveman that is not cool.
/r/seduction26/05/16 06:05 PM
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First of all: Stop thinking about the V-Card as a burden. Change your mindset. Because right now for you losing the V-Card is a need. And we don't want to be needy, do we? Secondly: I have never ever been drunk in my life. I drunk, sometimes a lot, but never got drunk. I have only been at one party and it was not that fun at all. I know you would have liked to go, and i know you still think you missed lots of good stuff. Trust me, i thought the same for years. It was really dissapointing. Now, y…
/r/seduction26/05/16 05:56 PM
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That's nonsense. 1) You don't have to be "high status", thats a misconception. 2) It's not about the status its about the value. And the value you give (not the one you have) is build up by working on your self. 3) Women are not and should not be the ultimate goal. You, as a better version of yourself is the main goal. Women are a consequence that will happen eventually. 4) Even without a perfect shape, lots of money, and huge awesome life, thousands of people get a couple. Just go outside and w…
/r/seduction26/05/16 10:56 AM
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Thank you very much for this. Also, good science based approaching point. Depression is such a horrible condition... And yet there are people who think It's just not hanging out with your friends this weekend or feeling bad that one. People whose answer to overcome depression is "get over it". Thank you /u/Woujo
/r/seduction25/05/16 08:04 AM
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Okay that one is good. Gonna do it! Tell us how that went btw!
/r/seduction24/05/16 09:14 PM
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I am not a person who uses to feel ashamed or anything. I look for challenges because It's difficult for me to have a comfort zone. Looking forward to that update!
/r/seduction24/05/16 03:57 PM
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Haha that's great! I would like to see the outfit btw. I would do the challenge as well. Maybe dressed with a custome or anything lol.
/r/seduction24/05/16 01:43 PM
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If you don't like direct you could always use the excuse of getting up for a bathroom visit and in your way there start the interaction. Just a side note: one of the barista, different from the one i may rock climb with, introduced me to one of his female friends yesterday. And the one who suggested the rock climbing was me. That guy has told me about his fight for his daughter's custody. He may become a friend.
/r/seduction24/05/16 11:36 AM
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._ . . . .. sighs I try to hang around there from time to time but still.
/r/seduction23/05/16 10:52 AM
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Like?
/r/seduction23/05/16 08:35 AM
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You remind me to myself when I want to get an answer.
/r/seduction23/05/16 02:25 AM
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I love going out solo. My best advice? The night /game starts once you put one foot at the street. Not At the club/bar. Be social with anyone, ANYONE you find. I usually talk to the first person I see. Give a compliment, little chat, whatever. You have to get into social state. Also, regarding approaching, just say "Hi i am X, do you know any cool place to go tonight?" and keep the convo going. If they ask you "are you on your own?", be sincere, "yes". If they ask why, if they think is weird, or…
/r/seduction23/05/16 02:20 AM
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See this. https://youtu.be/TkQetrsShhg So far the best text guideline i have seen.
/r/seduction23/05/16 02:19 AM
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I love going out solo. My best advice? The night /game starts once you put one foot at the street. Not At the club/bar. Be social with anyone, ANYONE you find. I usually talk to the first person I see. Give a compliment, little chat, whatever. You have to get into social state. Also, regarding approaching, just say "Hi i am X, do you know any cool place to go tonight?" and keep the convo going. If they ask you "are you on your own?", be sincere, "yes". If they ask why, if they think is weird, or…
/r/seduction23/05/16 02:14 AM
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I would say he means "focus on what you have to do". Get your shit done. Grades, social circle, health, etc. Work on yourself.
/r/seduction23/05/16 02:10 AM
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Because one of the first rules/tips/advices you will be given is "don't be needy", and your mindset is "i need sex". No dude, you don't need sex. Sex is something to enjoy. You don't enjoy something once you need it.
/r/seduction23/05/16 02:09 AM
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The best advice i can give you to improve in your game is invest in yourself. Work on yourself, your confidence will go up and your game will. And also practice, a lot. You don't have sexual needs. You have sexual urges. A need is something vital. Something you really need. Control yourself and don't be needy. If there are guys who lost their V-card at their 30s and are alive, you will be fine. Stop caring about "status". You develop status by not caring about it. Also, "is better for a guy to n…
/r/seduction23/05/16 02:06 AM
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I go to one certain Starbucks pretty often to study, read, relax whatever. I know all the baristas. I have met with one of them to do some climbing next month (social proof). I did it just by asking "How's your day going" one day at the Line. Baristas don't give a Fuck about why you are there as long as you pay for your coffee. They can help you with the girl if you make them your friends even. To approach a girl, approach. 4 days ago i was working on my shit, cute girl walks in, I stand up and …
/r/seduction23/05/16 01:53 AM
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So sad people still tell you to not listen to girls on dating advice. You know your shit girl. Thank you for the insight point of view.
/r/seduction23/05/16 01:44 AM
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Check Daniel Blake on YouTube. Some of the best Same Day Lays i have seen.
/r/seduction23/05/16 01:39 AM
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"Hi, I'm Justin_Rosenthal. Who are you?" wave hand, eye contact, smile. Simple.
/r/seduction23/05/16 01:37 AM
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1) Read the sidebar. 2) Ask concrete questions. 3) Ask on /r/askseddit
/r/seduction23/05/16 01:35 AM
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Right now watching some of the Channel videos and I must say it is a pretty good materiał and Channel. You have quality. I like it. Suscribed.
/r/seduction23/05/16 12:08 AM
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Okay.
/r/seduction22/05/16 11:11 PM
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I repeat, what normally is considered "conscious" is not what really conscious (in a cognitive way) is. But if you don't believe me, go out there and research. I just tell you what I know. I have an exam about it on Tuesday.
/r/seduction22/05/16 10:59 PM
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A conscious or cognitive action /thought is faster than what you seem to think. Source: Studying a grade on Psychology right now. It's not something you think and act In a matter of seconds. We define cognitive and conscious behaviour in terms of miliseconds.
/r/seduction22/05/16 10:29 PM
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Attraction is always a guesswork, that's why you should assume it. Because by taking the risk you have done more than staying still. Also, check if the lips thing happens with Boys too. And look if it happens with people who are not looking at you. When I Relax my own mouth, my lips separate each other a little bit and when I get conscious about it i close them. Like an instinct.
/r/seduction22/05/16 09:54 PM
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It's difficult to "evaluate" your glance just with words. Closing /opening lips could mean you catch some interest, like there's something curious about you, and doesn't have to mean attractiveness.
/r/seduction22/05/16 09:31 PM
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Break eye contact could mean, most of the times, 3 main things: A) Feeling uncomfortable B) Attraction/Summision C) Not looking "at you", just happens to be looking in your direction and gets distracted. I would like to know how is your eye contact. Do you rise your turn down your head? Do you close (even if its just a tiny bit, pay attention at the mirror) your eyes? Do you just focus on one eye? All these are bad moves.
/r/seduction22/05/16 09:08 PM
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I think you over think the "not taking it personally" and thus, taking it personally. I am 5'5 - ish and I assure you your physical appearance is a factor but as huge as you may think.
/r/seduction22/05/16 02:34 PM
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For me, it was not stop giving a fuck about what girls think, but anyone. I sing when I want, I dance, I talk to whoever I want, etc. I pushed myself to do excentric things (like breaking the comfort zone challenges) to an extreme level so now It's not about pushing, It's about reducing the level.
/r/seduction22/05/16 02:20 PM
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First and mord important rule of body language: 1 gesture doesn't mean anything. At all. Like words, they need a context. Lots of people say crossing arms means "defensive", but if the person is making strong eye contact, smiling, his/her feet points towards you, is in a comfortable position, is investing in the conversation...? It can me just a more comfortable way of sitting or just that is cold. Most people think they are masters of reading body language just based on some shit they saw on a …
/r/seduction22/05/16 02:10 PM
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Hope it helps!
/r/seduction22/05/16 12:11 PM
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Wtf? This, as well as any other subreddit or Internet forum, is a community. It's a place to share and improve together. Copyright... Nonsense.
/r/seduction22/05/16 11:26 AM
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Of course you can.
/r/seduction22/05/16 11:22 AM
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Life. I myself have a "not giving a Fuck attitude" in moments of subconcious stress.
/r/seduction22/05/16 04:40 AM
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First, Thanks for the FR, I was the first one to ask you for it. Second, solid and well written. You and I round up the same height and have the same taste in women. I want to visit that hotel, sounds pretty cool. San Francisco sounds pretty cool in general. You have solid game. Cheers!
/r/seduction22/05/16 03:23 AM
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Make a concrete question. What part you don't understand understand from her behaviour?
/r/seduction22/05/16 03:14 AM
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The "not giving a Fuck attitude" could be a way of dealing with stress or anxiety. Do you have problems?
/r/seduction22/05/16 03:07 AM
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Okay. Here we go 1) The first part of the interaction /datę, she should hold the 80% of the conversation, but once you have built some rapport, it must be 50% - 50% You have to talk too! Not only do jokes or some comments from time to time. You have to show you have your own personality. . 2) In my opinion, passions and hobbies are already light-hearted if you don't talk about them yourself with actual passion in your words. If you want to make her feel something, you have to feel it too. 3) Goo…
/r/seduction22/05/16 03:05 AM
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By being happy alone they (I think) mean having some kind of stability. If you get into a relationship having several issues it can and will definitely affect the well being of the relationship in the future. A support structure is needed to have that stability. Imagine that you are on one part of a balance and any "structure" is on the other side, being a counter weight for your "issues". For some people it can be things like a girlfriend, family, etc, and for others it can be things like a job…
/r/seduction19/05/16 12:21 AM
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6 am? So? A happy energetic mood is something you have during the whole day. Edit: I don't mean that you have to be jumping over the walls the whole time. I mean... You look like you are uncomfortable. You can look comfortable without being shouting and jumping.
/r/seduction17/05/16 07:48 AM
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You are studying my dreamt specialty and you are thinking about lying? Girls don't get turned off because of studying Psychiatry. They do because of the way you tell it. It's like you are ashamed. I am studying Psychology and It's my passion and every time I mention something about it i know girls get emotionally connected to me.
/r/seduction16/05/16 02:22 PM
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Dunno about your aesthetics but I am gonna talk about your body language. You look tense. Not comfortable. You look like you are not having fun at all, the exact opposite of the two girls on the photo. I can tell all this by your eyes. A true smile is made with eyes. And your eyes tell something like "Yey... Fun... So. Cool." You remind me to those people who are dragged by their friends to a club or a festival which they hate, and spend the whole night feeling shit because that is not their thi…
/r/seduction16/05/16 05:00 AM
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This is the perfect mix between respect and assertiveness. You lead the whole date without being a jerk, you were playful and fun without being disrespectful, and you showed a non-needy mentality some people would be jealous of without bragging off. Also, the FR is short, helpful and provides good information and insight points of view. Good Job OP.
/r/seduction15/05/16 11:38 PM
2

I don't watch porn.
/r/seduction13/05/16 09:30 PM
3

But I feel the lack of practice affects the quality of my game.
/r/seduction13/05/16 03:58 PM
3

Remember that is always a matter of how you say things, more than what you say. A) "Hey are you busy tonight? " B) "Hey, I want to see you tonight. (no questions about if she is busy)." I will explain why A) is bad and being needy by explaining why B) is better even though is "vulnerable". Let's analise both sentences, shall we? In B, you are declaring, expressing and showing your interest and wishes. Think about a kiss. You want to kiss that girl, but you are afraid of rejection, of her reactio…
/r/seduction13/05/16 03:55 PM
1

That's what I said.
/r/seduction13/05/16 05:29 AM
6

Okay that was fun
/r/seduction12/05/16 09:51 PM
23

Read Models, How to influence people and make friends, and travel.
/r/seduction12/05/16 05:16 PM
8

That is really a great idea. One that everyone imo should follow sometime. But remember to add some kind of filter, just for avoiding situations like "oh, good tits".
/r/seduction12/05/16 04:42 PM
1

Psychology student here. It can be also caused by steriotypes. Subconciously, we believe Latin people are, as you have said "lovers" and therefore we may see them as such. I'm not saying it's the answer you look for but it's a thing we study in social psychology. Also, I think (please correct me if I am wrong) their cultures are more based on colectivism which implies being comfortable (more than European people, which are orientated to individualism) with intimacy, being close, etc.
/r/seduction12/05/16 04:37 PM
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1) Go to the sidebar. Read all the "guides" section. 2) Practice. Everything. During your life. With everybody (that is suitable for it).
/r/seduction12/05/16 04:32 PM
1

It is. When they read it and I have previously suggested one tea from that list, they look at me like I am the devil (sexy devil). I just look at them with the "You know what I mean. And you like it" look.
/r/seduction09/05/16 10:18 PM
2

That shit is amazing. It spikes things sexually just by her reading the menu where it's written.
/r/seduction09/05/16 09:49 PM
1

Yes. It's really a good place. I'm really into body language and psychology (right now is what I am studying) So I also like to go there and just put on some music on my headphones, enjoy a tea, and watch other people behave with others. It's funny to see other couples, or groups, and when you find out that guy who's trying to game that girl and you notice his mistakes and you realise you do the same thing, is really great.
/r/seduction09/05/16 09:48 PM
1

Oh. My mistake.
/r/seduction09/05/16 06:40 PM
1

Oh. In this place i mention there are those with tobacco and those without. It's really a cool place, with a park nearby. There's another one of the same kind just 5 minutes away from a huge street with places to dance, drink and have fun so it's a great great place to go.
/r/seduction09/05/16 05:50 PM
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Any information about the environment or the situation? Anything about for how long you looked at her? Your characteristics (good looking etc), pre selection, confidence etc? I know it was just looking at her and she gave it to you. I know. With field report i mean the technical /emotional stuff.
/r/seduction09/05/16 05:49 PM
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FR or it didn't happen.
/r/seduction09/05/16 12:30 PM
1

What do you mean?
/r/seduction09/05/16 06:04 AM
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I like to go to a typical Arabic place. They have hooka, and loooots of delicious types of Arabic tea (some of them even aphrodisiacs), besides normal drinks. What I like most about the place is: Even if it's crowded, the light is not so bright so each group of people is in its own "bubble". Really, it's great for not being distracted by almost anything, and gives intimacy. The music is usually just loud enough to have to talk close to each other. As the Arabic place that is, the sofas are in th…
/r/seduction08/05/16 09:56 PM
2

"indicator of interest".
/r/seduction08/05/16 06:17 PM
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Talk about what you feel passionate about. If you put passion in what you speak, they notice. And trust me it can be anything. I once kept a conversation with a girl about types of coffee and their origins for like 20 minutes. If you enjoy the conversation, she will. You just need to find what moves you. And if by any chance she doesn't enjoy what you are talking about, well, why would you want to talk with a girl you can't even talk about something you like? Also, it's not a matter of "keeping …
/r/seduction08/05/16 05:07 PM
2

Mmm I was thinking more towards having all those "hey heres my blog with my stuff check it out" in one place, one day, so seddit doesn't get full of those posts.
/r/seduction08/05/16 02:17 AM
2

This question should be asked on /r/askseddit But what you are describing she is not interested. I would not focus more on her for a while.
/r/seduction07/05/16 01:01 AM
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1) Height doesn't matter. I am shorter than you and it's not a problem. Confidence is always the key. 2) Yes you should. But don't be too direct. She sounds like she is interested but it's shy/introvert. Learn that she won't be as spontaneous as other girls. Some girls love to go to Clubs for example, others hate it. But they will love a sweet delicious cup of warm macciato coffee with caramel syroup. 3) Just wanted to add: "Unfortunately I had other plans". No. Not Unfortunately. It's how thing…
/r/seduction07/05/16 12:55 AM
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That awkwardness you are explaining sounds to me like Basic insecurity (psychology speaking). For example trying to cover up a silence. Ive been there. Trust me you will get over it if you improve yourself. That means: your mind, your body, and your spirit. Work out, have a healthy diet and fill your life with activities you like (not those you use to hide from anything else, in my case was reading. I now read a lot but before i was like obssesed and I was conscious i did that to hide myself fro…
/r/seduction07/05/16 12:48 AM
1

Build social circle and rapport with day game, use that to nightgame.
/r/seduction07/05/16 12:42 AM
1

Think about food. You are hungry, and you eat. Let's say, plain chicken breast. Good, healthy and okay-flavour chicken breast. You eat 3 of them. Are you satisfied? Yes. Could you eat (not recommended of course) only chicken breast for the rest of your life to be satisfied every time you get hungry? Sure. But wouldn't be better to have a tasteful risotto with homemade cheesecake as dessert one day, and the next day the best pizza you have ever tasted and So on? Hell Yeah. Life is about constant …
/r/seduction07/05/16 12:29 AM
2

Written it is.
/r/seduction07/05/16 12:12 AM
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1) there are tons of good apps for Reddit on the play store / iTunes where you can Edit your post (and the experience surfing on reddit is great on them). 2) NEVER interrupt a work out. Not a set, a work out. Get your shit done (important to show value. You are there to do your business, not pick up girls) and wear dehodorant (as friend of mine told me once: "If we can smell you from the other side of the gym, better not approach"). 3) Make eye contact and smile if you/she walk/s by. 4) Good mom…
/r/seduction06/05/16 11:59 PM
1

I think also that one of the things that could be useful to avoid having the sub full of links-to-newpuablog would be having, like in /r/fitness, or other subs, is a "self promotion weekly post". That way we would not see the same stuff repeated again and again and with the improvements about the /r/askseddit stuff, /r/seddit could be fuller with field reports and actual discussions
/r/seduction06/05/16 11:26 PM
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There's a guy on YouTube, Valentino Koen is called, he likes to say: Good game is that which you can even do with your mother by your side, because it's so invisible not even her could notice.
/r/seduction05/05/16 09:51 PM
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Well that is actually a good advice. The problem is what we understand by it. Be yourself - > we must be ourselves, the best version of ourselves. Your strongest points, work on them. Your weak ones, work on thems too. But they are your points. You must use whatever is fun to you, to share fun. You must do what you enjoy, and not whatever pleases others just to make them like you. "love will find you when you stop looking" - > don't be needy. Being on your own, having your own value, is the best…
/r/seduction05/05/16 09:46 PM
1

Dude, I want to hi 5 you. I like your mindset, part because I think the same, part because it's what I have felt doing it. You have, imo, a mature and well rounded opinion about what social skills and seduction mean.
/r/seduction05/05/16 08:41 PM
1

What you mean by "day game is beast"?
/r/seduction05/05/16 05:47 PM
1

Cats. Or any cute funny animal really. Also fruits. Or nihilism. I just talk about whatever is fun to me, in a cheesy, playful way, so I get aroused, fun and value, which I then share with others.
/r/seduction05/05/16 05:09 PM
1

I guess you have already heard about this book, but there goes another recommendation just in case: Quiet, the power of introverts in a world that doesn't stop talking. Amazing reading.
/r/seduction22/04/16 02:24 AM
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Carry her with you to your daily stuff. Not only builds comfort but also shows value (you let her get into your life, not the opposite). One thing I love is getting her to go with me to buy something I need. You don't even need to buy anything. Could be an excuse. Last time I only bought a postal card. 10 cents. We laughed a lot. When I said "now I have to get this back to my place" she came with me.
/r/seduction19/04/16 01:16 AM
1

Exactly.
/r/seduction12/04/16 03:20 PM
1

By feeling you. If you are really having fun, people notice and feed from that fun. Emotions are contagious. If you are not having a conversation not even you would enjoy, why would the other person enjoy it? People are attracted to emotional fluctuations. Wanna know why some women are attracted to those bad guys and are full of drama because of how bad they treat everyone? Because they make them feel. Emotional spikes. Either bad or good (a good combination of both is the win win). If you combi…
/r/seduction12/04/16 07:40 AM
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For making someone interested on you, you must make them feel. Emotions are the key. Plain cold convos are horrible. Awkward. Even more through text. Be passionate. Be honest. When you make another person to feel, whether hate or love, sexual tension or sadness, they will remember you forever. If you want them to feel sexual tension, joy, fun, and get romantic /sexual interest on you, then talk to them like you were talking to yourself. If you have a joke that you would find funny, tell them tha…
/r/seduction12/04/16 02:11 AM
2

In one word? Enjoy. Long story? Don't change yourself just because you are in a relationship. She likes you because of how you are. You like her because of how she is. Make sure you enjoy with her, and she will enjoy with you. Dont change to please her, keep going what you were. And learn to be assertive, to make sacrifices when they are worth, be supportive and dont be a selfish asshole.
/r/seduction12/04/16 02:02 AM
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Love the finał sentence. Without expectations you can't have neediness. Without neediness all you have is fun, and by having fun you offer fun. By offering fun, you just win.
/r/seduction12/04/16 01:58 AM
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I think that, first, you are too impatient. Wait till tomorrow at least. Maybe she wasn't in the mood for answering. Maybe she was in a Secret spy mission. You don't know. Second, you have to show a little bit of power. A push pull. If by tomorrow she has not answered, then text her something on the lines of "im a little bit busy this week. I'm free on Thursday night. Text me if you want to meet up then. Have a nice week!". You have your own life, you let her in. You dont ask for her letting you…
/r/seduction12/04/16 01:55 AM
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It's never bad to compliment something truthfully. Like, when you meet, telling her "hello! Wow you look beautiful today". Girls spend so much time getting ready and they have many insecurities about themselves. Show her that you notice and respect that. They make that because they feel better and they want to. But you can still notice it and make her day just by telling her. The key is to not be too needy. Like "hello! Wow you are really pretty. I think your outfit suits you perfectly! And you …
/r/seduction02/04/16 01:33 AM
1

People (not only women) deal with too much on their lives each day. Maybe something happened. Maybe she is dealing with something. Maybe she just lost interest. You don't know. You will never know. Don't make a big deal of it and maybe this girl won't be your gf /whatever, but the next one will.
/r/seduction20/03/16 10:25 PM
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A note about approaching at the gym: During your workout (and hers), never interrupt. Just eye contact and smile if you have the chance. Don't stare if she is doing squats. Get your business done. Keep your shit going till you are finish because then you would be showing you drop everything for a pretty girl (and you don't want that). Never, EVER, interrupt a girl (or a guy) while doing a set. It's disrespectful as fuck at the gym. If you finish your workout before her (and you have already stre…
/r/seduction20/03/16 10:23 PM
2

The sad part of the story is that those insecurities are caused by our own society. And not only women suffer from them.
/r/seduction20/03/16 10:11 PM
2

"Let's meet on Wednesday at whatever o'clock. In front of whatever! My house is just around the corner." (press enter to send) "and don't lose your text books on the way here :) " (optional, ;) winky face ) (playful joke) Keep it simple. Don't make a big deal of anything and it won't be creepy.
/r/seduction20/03/16 10:08 PM
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This. THIS! This is super important. If you are funny in your interactions, why aren't you on texts? If you don't know how to be funny on texts, don't try to be. Just be you. Use texts only for meeting. Short conversations. A couple of jokes or cocky (but friendly) commentaries and that's all. Thank you mate for point this out.
/r/seduction20/03/16 10:03 PM
2

I would send her something like "hey X, good day! Me and my friends are hanging out on Saturday night to this cool place blablabla. You should come it's gonna be amazing!" in a couple of days. If she doesn't go, don't answer, or flake, don't answer. Just ignore it. Maintain your frame. You have your own life, you don't care if she comes or not. You show value and confidence by letting others get into your life, not being depending on what others do. There, with friends, you will show more social…
/r/seduction20/03/16 10:00 PM
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You are over reactive. Your text after hers made me think "chill out dude". Remember that on text convos, she can't hear your playful tone of voice. And then, you apologised. Never apologised if you haven't been disrespectful. Ever.
/r/seduction20/03/16 09:34 PM
1

You should ask on /r/askpsychology with proper detail if you want the "psychology" behind it.
/r/seduction15/03/16 04:31 PM
3

If would have a piano bar in my city I assure you would be there with or without a girl most of my days off. Anyway, great post. Detailed but not too long. I like it a lot :)
/r/seduction05/03/16 02:03 AM
2

Great post. I find amazing how we let ourself rely so much in others and then we called ourselves "independent". I've gone out alone before going out with friends or "wingmen". And it's the best I could have ever done. Now it's easy as hell to chill out or to have fun with myself. It's one of the best confidence boosters I've found. To know how to deal with yourself.
/r/seduction02/03/16 10:05 PM
2

Doing the kiss part in the end of the date is not very effective. You will show much more value if you do it in the middle of the date and whatever the outcome is, you show you don't make a big deal of it.
/r/seduction01/03/16 02:13 PM
2

Well I really like to bite their bottom lift softly or lick almost unnoticeably her upper lip right before finishing the kiss. And not always. Every person kisses differently.
/r/seduction01/03/16 01:18 AM
2

Tbh I'm pretty noob regarding getting relationships in general. Only had long distance relationships before so this is also new to me. The whole part of "let's become something more serious". I know she has other options and she knows I have them as well. In fact she told me yesterday "you are so bad with me (playfully). You make me want sex and I just can't" because she is not sure about her options yet. That was at the beginning of the afternoon. I played it cool, keep chilling and behave like…
/r/seduction01/03/16 01:07 AM
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If you are really into her, I'd say don't give up. That said, DO NOT pursue her. Ever. At all. Don't be needy. Give her space. Live your own life. Talk with her from time to time. And when you both hang out (because you will. Having your own life and giving value, showing confidence etc, instead of being needy will make her wanting to hang out with her) just enjoy her company and show it. Hug her / kiss her if you feel it. Be on your own. Laugh. Enjoy. Don't make a big deal of anything. And I te…
/r/seduction01/03/16 12:37 AM
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I would have said something like "Best things are worth waiting" or not make a big deal of it. Next date, if everything goes so well, just do it. Even if it's on the cheek. By my experience, if you feel the impulse of kissing her, and you have done lots of kino and everything is going "smoothly", just pull her (or her head by the chin) softly and do it. It's always worth trying. Remember, if you try, there's the chance of success within the risk. If you don't even try, you will always fail. Rega…
/r/seduction29/02/16 06:47 PM
2

True. In any case this things are better to be discussed in advance.
/r/seduction28/02/16 10:20 PM
1

Oh. I don't just smile to girls. I walk smiling, thinking about good memories that makes me smile or feel better.
/r/seduction28/02/16 05:40 PM
1

True. I just like to use the coffee to do some subtle kino (knee touching knee for example) and get to know each other a little bit to build rapport.
/r/seduction28/02/16 04:50 PM
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Try to be social since you step out of you place. I try to talk with the first person I see right after getting out. No matter who is. The game starts when you walk in the streets. Not in the club. Also, a good healthy dinner, and a little bit of exercise helps too. If I'm cold or low energy, I approach a wall and start to do handstand push ups. Also, smile. Since you walk out. Have a big smile and your brain will believe you are "happy".
/r/seduction28/02/16 03:43 PM
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Bounce. Bounce to as many "different" experience as you can. We feel more connected and comfortable with those who have shared different experiences with us. 20 minutes drinking coffee, 10 minutes walking, 10 minutes doing thumb wars, eye contact wars (or whatever) on a bench (spikes tension), 10 minutes on that shop full of randome stuff (I don't know person who doesn't love a thrift shop even if the don't buy anything, also this will be fun and create some rapport which, after spiking sexual t…
/r/seduction28/02/16 03:30 PM
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"let me introduce you to my friend" / "this is my friend". Simple. Don't make a big deal of it.
/r/seduction28/02/16 03:08 PM
1

The video is really interesting. Thanks for sharing! Although I don't get why you think I should watch it.
/r/seduction27/02/16 04:30 AM
1

The only way an insecurity can be something someone could use against you, is by hiding them and not embracing them. Your insecurities are your weak points. We all have, and if you trust only in your good skills, you are relying on your comfort zone. There are lots of "brave" people who would approach to any girl they want, but it's hard to find a guy able to acknowledge his fears and insecurities in front of anyone without being trembling of fear. I don't tell you to tell anyone you meet your f…
/r/seduction26/02/16 08:57 PM
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Be in the mood. First of all focus on having fun yourself. Once "you are the party" get near of that girl you like and instead of dancing around in a creepy way, just turn them around, or tap their shoulders, or whatever thing (polite way, don't be too rude) that makes them turn to you. Remember, to go direct for what you want shows confidence. Once you get that, spin her, pull her softly, make her dance with you a little bit (kino). Now you get to ask "who are you?" or something silly like "I m…
/r/seduction26/02/16 07:35 PM
2

And also because picking her up, as romantic as it sounds, to me it's kinda "making her the center of your life", like you don't have anything to do so you can use even more of your time to go sooner and pick her up, and you should not make anyone (besides love of course) the center of your life, imo.
/r/seduction15/02/16 07:14 PM
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Meet her there, walking /driving her home.
/r/seduction15/02/16 02:38 PM
1

Yes of course! Just don't expect an answer in 2 hours or so. But I'll answer asap.
/r/seduction30/01/16 05:05 PM
1

A pleasure. Feel free to message me whenever you want!
/r/seduction30/01/16 12:56 PM
2

As long as you are polite, I think you can approach anywhere. Basic human behaviour is around the whole word. Depending on the country you must adapt yourself of course, but you can approach everywhere. And also, if there are well educated people there, take your chance and meet them! Getting surrounded by people better and more intelligent than you is a fantastic wonderful opportunity to learn new things and improve. And never forget to hang out with people "worse" than you. No one is perfect a…
/r/seduction29/01/16 07:04 PM
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I know what you feel. I've been there. Trust me you can get the hell out of there. Next time you find yourself in a situation like that, try to talk to the nearest person you find. Say whatever. Doesn't matter if it's an old man, a young girl, a politician or whatever. The idea is to talk. And you can say whatever you want. What time is it, nice shirt, isn't this a lovely day? Whatever. A baby step to break that social anxiety while that cute girl is around. Then work on getting closer and close…
/r/seduction29/01/16 02:05 PM
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To overcome the "what she will think about me" you need to apply that to anyone and don't give a fuck. No one's opinion should matter. As long as you respect everybody who cares what they say? Now, some practical exercises for dealing with this could be setting yourself some challenges: Talk about your feelings. If you are talking with a girl and you start thinking and worrying about "what she will think about me", tell her. Exactly that. "Hey, right now I'm really nervous and I am worrying cons…
/r/seduction29/01/16 02:17 AM
1

I'm sure it won't get buried among the rest but I will post a FR tomorrow, hope you give your feedback once it's posted. I would like to hear from an old sedditor (been here only some months).
/r/seduction21/01/16 08:01 PM
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[Challenge] Dance on the street without music in a very dramatic and enthusiastic way for about 30 seconds. Then ask the nearest person what it's his/her opinion and how he would improve the performance. [Challenge] light talk with your barista at your coffee shop / mall / jewellery shop / whatever you use to visit if there's not a huge line. [Challenge] Compliment 5 random strangers AND hi 5 with them. [Challenge] Get out and approach the first person you see, no matter how is dressed or what k…
/r/seduction21/01/16 07:59 PM
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I will not deny what you have said. Of course you can kino whenever you want if you are confident enough to do it. It's really powerful. I will add just a little piece of information. Kino, gives subconscious information to the other person. It express dominance, confidence, sensuality, etc. The thing is this subconscious information lose its strength if you don't distract the conscious mind first. See pickpocket for example. Best pickpocketers never stop talking or distracting. Something like j…
/r/seduction09/01/16 04:00 AM
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Don't eat less, but have your meals more separated through the day. The ideal thing is to eat 5-6 times per day in normal quantities so your body doesn't have time to be lacking of food. If you are feeling hunger you are doing it wrong. For example, your breakfast, three hours later a sandwich, other three hours and then your meal, three hours later a fruit and some nuts or cheese (not too much), and then later your dinner. This way your body will be always in a semi working mode so it will catc…
/r/seduction09/01/16 03:49 AM
1

Say something simple like "hey, let's have lunch together tomorrow (if you are in the same class or high school or smth sounds pretty normal to me)" or "hey let's meet in person so we know each other" :)
/r/seduction31/12/15 07:26 PM
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Hey you did great! You dealt with you AA and you managed to make her smile. That's great. You just need to practice. And (I have read your replies to other sedditors) if you find weird to just go out to places that are not bar/clubs, a simple way to practice is exactly what you have done: whoever you think seems interesting in the street, or whatever catches your attention, go there and say it. Smile and be polite and you can make sure you will meet amazing people. That strange guy who plays on …
/r/seduction29/12/15 02:56 PM
1

Thanks :_
/r/seduction25/12/15 11:55 AM
2

By my experience, teen girls are not so direct. I mean, a "more casual" approach or opener is usually better than a direct intentional approach. To a girl on her 20s, to tell her "hey I think you are cute so I came here to say hi" could work perfectly. To a 15/17 years old girl, that could... Scare her. Not always of course.
/r/seduction24/12/15 04:02 PM
3

I can relate to your situation a lot. I have spent years being that "good friend to talk with" and I never ever got laid. Now, things change. My only advice to you is you can keep that good talking vibe on, but you have to escalate as much as you talk. I am still told "I wish you were gay/a girl" but now instead of "so you don't fall in love with me/ friendzone bullshit", I get "so there isn't this sexual tension that is so confusing". The key is to stay clear your intentions, by kino and by wor…
/r/seduction24/12/15 03:59 PM
1

Try to learn something about assertiveness. It's really helpful to learn and I think it will help you to reduce that "aggressive mode".
/r/seduction22/12/15 07:48 PM
1

Mate, I'm shorter than you (5'5"), I work out but I don't have a fitness model body type at all, I have a rounded belly and I wear glasses. Oh and my hair is a mess everyday. And fancy clothes... A sweater is the most fancy thing I have. And I'm having dinner in half an hour with a model student two heads taller than me tonight. And you know what? It doesn't matter. Why? Because I went there and talked with her. Complain about a problem doesn't solve the problem.
/r/seduction19/12/15 09:40 PM
1

Yeeeeey! That's great man. But remember, you are gonna go to watch a movie, escalation during the movie only happens on movies or if you already have something. Try to hang out before and/or after the movie for a drink or something.
/r/seduction18/12/15 11:06 AM
1

I think I'm gonna not going out this weekend's nights, get some good rest, remove Shit from my diet and get back to drink my 3 litres of water per day and I'm gonna do my calisthenics workouts to motivate me. Thanks man!
/r/seduction18/12/15 11:05 AM
1

Yes! That's great. Keep it simple and be natural, don't force things and everything will be as okay as it can. But remember to make your intentions clear.
/r/seduction18/12/15 04:08 AM
2

What I do in my colleague is just go straight to the girl and ask in a friendly way what they are studying, how's their day going, or being honest as Fuck and say "I'm bored and you seem interesting. I came here to check it".
/r/seduction17/12/15 06:45 PM
1

Yeah, that could work. But I'd make sure to hang out half an hour at least before the movie so you develop a connection with her, that would help to make her stay after the movie and you could hang out more.
/r/seduction17/12/15 05:11 PM
1

Whenever I wonder if I should try to approach in certain circumstances, I ask myself two questions: Why not? Why do those motives matter?
/r/seduction17/12/15 02:37 PM
1

Knock his door and say hi and do a genuine smile. Be honest with yourself and with her (nothing shows more confidence than someone who is able to speak the truth). I (and I shall repeat myself, "I", what I would do, I'm not telling you what to do step by step) would say something like "Hey neighbor, I was thinking that it would be really nice to know better my next door neighbour so I came here to tell you if you'd like to hang out together tonight at... 8 more or less (setting up an actual time…
/r/seduction17/12/15 02:25 PM
1

If you write the field reports about most of them telling us the differences you notice between each several approaches, would be really nice. Also, try if you can, to approach a girl within a maximum of ten seconds after you last interaction. See how if your game changes. Don't do it always but at least twice per day. I'm looking forward to read your reports dude.
/r/seduction17/12/15 02:10 PM
1

Try calisthenics. I combine it with lifting and crossfit and I'm in love with it.
/r/seduction07/12/15 03:22 PM
1

You cannot create love in half of a day. Imo at least. But you at least had the balls to try, that's great.
/r/seduction17/09/15 11:31 PM
1

Of course! I meant to not lose the opportunity of a new friend. But don't stick to just her of course.
/r/seduction10/09/15 09:23 PM
1

I have not accepted friend requests from people I have chatted with, but I'd love to chat with them again. That depends on the person. If you meet her again in person, talk with her again. But do not mention the non-accepted friend request.
/r/seduction10/09/15 06:10 PM
5

Just send her a simple text with something like "Next time instead of introducing ourselves, we should have lunch together"
/r/seduction08/09/15 10:42 PM
1

Exactly. It's time to practice!
/r/seduction08/09/15 05:07 AM
1

Exactly. I usually choose the option that is going to give me more fun, to me and to the other person.
/r/seduction07/09/15 11:19 PM
1

Exactly. I usually choose the option that is going to give me more fun, to me and to the other person.
/r/seduction07/09/15 10:58 PM
1

Exactly. I usually choose the option that is going to give me more fun, to me and to the other person.
/r/seduction07/09/15 10:57 PM
1

I'd like to know your thoughts. Mind sharing them?
/r/seduction07/09/15 10:57 PM
3

I've met girls with experience that still kiss really bad. And I've met girls with almost no experience who kiss good as Fuck. So, good luck?
/r/seduction07/09/15 10:44 PM
1

What do you mean with "can kiss"?
/r/seduction07/09/15 09:29 PM
4

When I see guys acting like they are sharks or mailboxes trying to eat the whole mouth of the other person... It's like seeing a building falling down.
/r/seduction07/09/15 09:10 PM
1

To act like nothing happened would be my answer.
/r/seduction07/09/15 08:20 PM
24

Remember to build rapport in advance, remember to not go for it if there has not been some kino before (more forward than just a hug or shakehands) and try to increase the tension as it goes. For the kiss: I would say to be the first in breaking the contact (shows that you don't happen to be soooo much interested on her, that you don't make a big deal of it and can manage pretty okay) m. Don't be too much aggressive, please DO NOT OPEN YOUR MOUTH LIKE A MAILBOX and remember to respect and be gen…
/r/seduction07/09/15 08:03 PM
1

I think you managed it pretty well. Now, if on weekends is not possible, and if I happen to be near of her job/place/whatever by any chance, I would tell her "hey, I'm around your X for some dangerous mission. I need to be saved and the only solution is a drink at Y hour with a good company" (I write it too long, I know, try to short it). But remember, that is if you happen to be around there. Do not center your life around one girl. You did pretty well at the party, keep it that way.
/r/seduction07/09/15 07:56 PM
1

Usually more direct. Yesterday morning for example, I approached a 18y/o girl at the street and I managed to isolate her at a bench. In a matter of 10 minutes, lots of kino (hand even in his tight for a moment) and k-close. And when we said goodbye, I caressed her butt softly, to which she smiled. You know, hormones are strong and powerful. Half a month ago, I approached this cute awesome (it's a great friend now) Polish girl at the street. From the beginning I was very direct, but not too much.…
/r/seduction07/09/15 07:48 PM
2

Based on my experience, I use the same game, but their reactions are really different. With younger girls is usually easier. They even laugh more. But girls in mids 20s or even 30s, may be more difficult, but also I enjoy more. They know how to play so they are really playful and tease me as much as I tease there.
/r/seduction07/09/15 07:37 PM
1

The rule is to escalate until she says no. But remember, "no" is "no". Don't push more than that point for a while. Keep the good vibe. Something that helps sometimes: If she laughs, keep going, keep escalating.
/r/seduction07/09/15 02:29 PM
2

Exactly. Adding someone on Facebook doesn't mean you have to chat for hours. Just keep it simple
/r/seduction07/09/15 02:26 PM
2

That's a great idea :) I suffered from that too, to be too attached and speak and chat a lot through social media / whatsapp. Now my rule is "only use those forms of communication to create rapport and set the date" and if you end up having a new good friend, then for sure talk through the net. But only after that.
/r/seduction07/09/15 11:28 AM
1

Something wrong?
/r/seduction06/09/15 10:38 PM
1

Always make it natural. There's a huge difference from touching the arm while you are talking to talk and then touch. When we touch in a subtle way and we are distracting the other's mind, the touch estimule goes to the subconscious part of the mind, and it has greater effect. If you touch and the only estimule the person receives is that, it's awkward.
/r/seduction06/09/15 10:24 PM
2

If I were you, I would add her on Facebook and I would say something like "Hey, I'm Quanginni. I enjoyed our conversation the other night :) Hope to repeat it!" It's not creepy, it's simple and polite. Dunno how is Facebook there but I think the part of "people you may know" is helpful when you didn't ask for the Facebook of that interesting person you talked with. Go for it. Don't suffer from "oneitis" but hey, it's not so easy to find a person to have a good conversation with. Remember, the 10…
/r/seduction06/09/15 10:13 PM
1

Maybe I have not said correctly because I have translated literally from Spanish. To be honest it usually works for me. So I think it has a different connotation in English.
/r/seduction06/09/15 09:42 PM
1

I know. I have tried before to pick up with my family by my side. But it didn't go so well. That's why now I try to avoid it. And as family I mean grandfather and mother. I have done it with my cousins and my uncle and it was good.
/r/seduction06/09/15 06:23 PM
2

From the south of Spain :)
/r/seduction06/09/15 06:21 PM
1

I think about that from time to time. For example if I'm studying at the library, sometimes I would like to stop studying and go for picking up. But I remind myself to focus on the priorities. I want to improve my life and myself for getting a better life, and pick up is just one part of many others of that better life.
/r/seduction06/09/15 12:40 PM
1

Agree. Completely agree.
/r/seduction26/08/15 03:05 PM
1

I'm in a long distance relationship too, and I know it's difficult. But if you really love each other is just a matter of sacrifice. I mean, here it's 3:23 am because tomorrow morning my girlfriend is coming to my home and it's been 6 months till the last time we saw each other and I'm fucking nervous. And yes it's been tough and there have been problems but we managed to deal with them. If you want, you can.
/r/seduction25/08/15 01:25 AM
1

Wise words.
/r/seduction24/08/15 03:34 PM
1

Of course. I don't see women as "conquests". And I understand the use of "techniques" to gain confidence or security, but the objective is always to develop your own natural way.
/r/seduction24/08/15 03:34 PM
1

Good first steps! Maybe getting high didn't help you but hey, you met a new person that seems open minded an interesting. Also, you have forced yourself out of the comfort zone and that's great. And you know where is that hot brunette working. You can still go there and talk to her. Just remember to smile! Keep going mate!
/r/seduction24/08/15 11:16 AM
2

I know there are some PUA's who do some stuff that could be creepy, and I don't like them, tbh. But yeah, I think people overuse the word creepy (among others) nowadays.
/r/seduction24/08/15 08:35 AM
1

Most of them are around 20, but I've talked about this with older people too. And exactly, that's what I think.
/r/seduction24/08/15 08:33 AM
2

That's right! We are improving, screw them.
/r/seduction24/08/15 08:31 AM
1

I know. That's why I consider the "respect part" important.
/r/seduction24/08/15 08:31 AM
2

Have fun. If you enjoy with that person and you make sure she enjoys with you, in a natural way, she is yours (because you are hers). Have fun, don't force things (besides yourself). If one day you are not in the mood for making out for hours, let her know (and also let her know it's not her fault). And respect her. And I mean... Be fair. If she says "please stop" then stop. If you, for example, make a fun game saying "if you bite your lip I will kiss you hard, but only kiss" and she does it, th…
/r/seduction24/08/15 01:03 AM
1

Even after showing my intentions?
/r/seduction20/08/15 08:45 AM
1

You are right. There part of zero consequences is something I needed to be reminded.
/r/seduction20/08/15 02:56 AM
1

Okay. I'll see how it goes.
/r/seduction20/08/15 02:48 AM
1

I know. I would have tried to k-close if my compliment about her mouth wouldn't have changed her mood so much.
/r/seduction20/08/15 02:00 AM
1

Thank you. I'll work on it. My biggest problem is being a nice guy. That sentence "to get a view from behind" is something I could not have said today, idk. I would consider it too rude I think. But I'll try to force myself to it.
/r/seduction20/08/15 01:59 AM
2

Good for you from investing on your self improvement. That's great. Now, you want to build attraction? Go out and approach. Get over your AA. Use that confidence you have got to walk to a girl and say "Hello, you are cute, what's your name?"
/r/seduction19/08/15 11:59 PM
4

Hope to read your story soon :)
/r/seduction19/08/15 11:56 PM
4

1- Streets with cloth shops, 2 - crowded streets that connects streets/places with interesting stuff to see/visit/go on them, 3 - Green parks/Grass zones where to lay down and chill out 4 - Libraries /Malls/places to buy stuff 5 - The best route of running nearby your place. Think about the hour when you go to one of these places. People usually like to go for reading and chill out at a park at the morning, and for shopping at the afternoon /midday. For running, really early in the morning/ when…
/r/seduction19/08/15 11:33 PM
1

One thing I've observed, at my city at least, it's that, besides bar and clubs, women older than 30 usually hang out around the same places younger girls hang out, just at different hour. And those places happen to be shops. Find the most crowded part of your city, the place with more cloth shops and ask some women of the age you are into which is the best hour to hang out around there for them. Also, supermarkets, parks (usually with kids) or hairdressers.
/r/seduction19/08/15 11:27 PM
2

I've tried that. And she or her friends ask "for what"
/r/seduction19/08/15 09:53 AM
1

What do you think would be good?
/r/seduction19/08/15 01:36 AM
1

Besides what our mate /u/Undidlridium has said (good stuff on there), remember the kino and if you have problems with managing the conversation, just make statements and ask questions where both of you could invest.
/r/seduction18/08/15 07:52 PM
2

Polite smile. "Not yet/so fast". Don't make a big deal of it.
/r/seduction18/08/15 07:32 PM
2

do you want to remain with the group while you throw lines at the girl...? Yes. It's one of the things I'd like to be skilled at. Having no pressure throwing lines to the girl while we are still at the group. What I have already achieved is saying things like "I like your eyes/vibe/gaze". ALSO, I want to be good at isolating. Because I can't manage to do it. I am usually blocked or the girl usually refuses to go with me. I make sure to make them laugh and I create a good conversation before (at …
/r/seduction18/08/15 06:41 PM
1

Yeah. If she was angry then I'd just taken her hand softly and then smiled peacefully and looked at the landscape.
/r/seduction18/08/15 06:33 PM
2

To her question, I would have said: "Well, I could add some marshmallows to it" with a playful smile. It's a stupid response, but it removes the tension and makes you appear like you are not doing a pretty big deal with that.
/r/seduction18/08/15 04:43 PM
2

I have tried something similar but asking for it. Maybe that's the problem. I'll try that. Thanks! Any advice to deal with blocks of the girl's friends if they say something?
/r/seduction18/08/15 04:38 PM
2

I have no problem in the matter of opening. It's after that when I fail.
/r/seduction18/08/15 04:37 PM
1

What I usually do is getting the whole group into the conversation. I ask one of them, in a serious way "could you describe your friends with 3 words? And remember, good and bad things included" or "hey, who do you think (pointing to the friends) it's the most loyal?" or I even make an experiment with them about the body language.
/r/seduction18/08/15 11:23 AM
10

Yes. I often talk about what I have learnt about SOCIAL DYNAMICS, body language and so on. And they react pretty well. The key is how you explain it. If you say "yeah I've been learning how to pick up girls for 2 years so far" that sounds like a douchbag who only wants to get laid. But talking about how the society works, the signs of the body and how to read them (you'll seem like a good observer)... Well, that has been always good for me. And before anyone says I'm lying: No. I'm not lying. Se…
/r/seduction17/08/15 08:18 AM
1

Good point. I thought about that the day after. I don't usually show so much vulnerabilities but it came so natural I didn't even notice till it was too late.
/r/seduction17/08/15 07:56 AM
2

Trying new things is how you become an expert. Keep it up!
/r/seduction17/08/15 07:53 AM
3

The thing is I wrote it as a Spanish laugh, but I was making the English sound of J in my mind. So it's a weird laugh.
/r/seduction16/08/15 10:35 PM
1

Thanks!
/r/seduction16/08/15 10:32 PM
2

Exactly. It's just a matter of confidence. One of the (or THE) greatest thing about the game, is teaching you to not give a Shit. That helps you with everything in your life and it's amazing. How was the date btw?
/r/seduction16/08/15 10:31 PM
3

Why?
/r/seduction16/08/15 10:29 PM
1

Invest and make her to invest. Talk about your passions. Ask her about her passions. I love psychology and social dynamics so I usually talk and show some techniques I've learnt. I talk about what I want to do in life (help people) and I ask her about hers. Don't talk for too much, tho. I talk intensively and everything, but I don't do a monologue.
/r/seduction16/08/15 07:56 PM
2

Could you describe how are your interactions? Tbh (if you are referring to a #-close) is just going for it. Like "hey, you seem funny, give me your number and let's hang out sometime" or (I love ice-cream) "Hey, you like ice cream? - Yeah - Ufff, lucky for me. Okay, then give me your number. Let's have an ice cream. (low voice here) Hope you don't like chewing gum ice cream. That's not for humans (they usually laughs here). And important, AFTER you get the number, unless you are or she is in a r…
/r/seduction16/08/15 07:47 PM
1

The tip /u/KB-ILL has given to you is pretty good. I've done that. Other recommendation I would give you (I had the same problem) is to count your breaths. Try to speak 2 or 3 sentences per each breath. Practice at first in front of the mirror, seeing yourself and look at your mouth. Practice reading a book out loud or (my favourite) while you are watching a show, a film or something, pause it and then repeat the last sentence or couple of sentences you have heard. People at the TV speak in a wa…
/r/seduction14/08/15 05:53 PM
2

I'm glad you have such an amazing level of reading body language. Now you should try on the rest part of the game. Put in practice what you have read, experiment, try to find your own way of game.
/r/seduction13/08/15 10:21 PM
1

Maybe. I'm into calisthenic right now and some crossfit but I remember the feeling when I was hitting the bench. I get energy and motivation from both activities so, I don't usually mind which one to do.
/r/seduction12/08/15 09:27 PM
1

Approaching girls out of clubs /bars in daylight. Street, malls, groceries, shops, anywhere-where-you-could-find-a-person-during-the-day.
/r/seduction12/08/15 05:31 PM
1

Rollerblading. At least in my city the amount of people having that hobby is insane and is getting bigger. It's fun, makes you feel free (I love it), lots of girls practice it and it helps to lose some weight if you practice it regularly. Also, it will make your legs get stronger. You can do Rollerblading almost everywhere. In my city, there is a meeting to do rollerblading everyday from Monday to Friday so it's also pretty social.
/r/seduction12/08/15 04:07 PM
-1

I'd say (if you are in the same class) eye contact, smile, and also a polite "good morning" with a smile. This will create rapport and will do less awkward the approach. Between classes, just a light conversation and then say (asking would be okay but, you know, dominance it's better) "You seem pretty fun. let's hang out X day. I know the perfect place to share that fun". If not, 3 seconds rule, walk to her, a natural big smile and just say (if you know the girl from before) "hi, have you heard …
/r/seduction12/08/15 03:55 PM
0

Remember that any interaction, even if you don't end up getting a relationship or a f/k-close (or whatever) is worth. Maybe you could be friends, she could share with you amazing things and she would introduce you to her girl friends. Expand your social circle, it's always good.
/r/seduction12/08/15 02:45 PM
1

I never leave just right after getting the number if I'm not in a rush. Never. I always try to build that connection. I think my problem could be that I don't create so much attraction. And also, I've tried to set up the date before leaving, but that never works.
/r/seduction12/08/15 09:14 AM
1

I'm 20y old, my target age range is from 18-23 mostly, but I'm horrible guessing the age of the people so I have ended up approaching girls from 14 to 35 years old. I do daygame at the main streets of my city, sometimes a mall, did it in a supermarket too and a bus station near to my home. I try to practice everyday even if I'm not approaching anyone. Let me explain: If that day I've not approached anyone, I usually sing while I'm walking to the gym or coming back home or whatever. It's a way of…
/r/seduction12/08/15 09:11 AM
1

Imo to join everything, if that includes stuff you don't like (or you hate, or even scare you) it's lack of own personality. It's not natural. I agree on the part of joining in social stuff and everything but, if the person you are into is gonna jump of a bridge or is gonna do parachuting and you are afraid of heights, don't do it. If you feel uncomfortable being in the middle of a huge amount of people (like a concert), don't do it. You want to get the person, and of course, joining more stuff …
/r/seduction12/08/15 12:12 AM
1

What are they?
/r/seduction01/08/15 11:11 PM
1

It helped me. Maybe it can't help you. But I think there may be someone else that can be helped by this.
/r/seduction01/08/15 10:52 PM
1

Why?
/r/seduction01/08/15 10:44 PM
2

I really don't understand why people get ashamed when they see OTHER people do whatever they are doing (regarding anything that doesn't bother or disrespect). Why do you care about what others do if, most probably, you are not gonna see them again?
/r/seduction31/07/15 03:25 PM
2

Thank you! I really appreciate when someone who disagrees still respect others point of view.
/r/seduction31/07/15 03:22 PM
2

I don't have certain period of time to do it, and I don't do it everyday. You know when you are cleaning your house and you like to listening to music meanwhile and you start to sing because you are in the mood? That's how I work. I don't push myself too much, and I don't do this the whole fucking day. I like to do it for example when I'm coming back home from somewhere or when I lay down on the grass getting relaxed after a tough day. And no, no one has ever complained. In fact, I use to drag m…
/r/seduction31/07/15 03:20 PM
1

Okay, no problems :)
/r/seduction31/07/15 12:05 PM
1

Exposing directly the hook up intention seems to have scared her. You know when you are trying to get a f-close and you hardly ever mention you are going to fuck? This is quite similar. Besides the fact that she has told you: she doesn't want to feel used. That seems to me that she has had a rough life, at least in matters of sex. I would not like if someone would want to see me only for my body, as a piece of meat. She already know you are gonna have sex, but if you mention it directly, it's...…
/r/seduction31/07/15 11:17 AM
2

That guy seems to me pretty stupid, tbh. Not only because of how much disrespectful is to do that in front of clients, but because you are working and that's no place for being in your own world. I have had two jobs, one of them as a seller, and on none of them I act like that. Being said that, if I'm doing reports or doing something on my own, I use to hum or sing in a normal voice volume. And, btw, I hate when people talk about you behind your back. It's coward. Yeah, it's what society does, a…
/r/seduction31/07/15 10:58 AM
1

Exactly. If you are having fun, people can absorb that fun. We are sponges of emotions. Keep it up boy!
/r/seduction31/07/15 10:52 AM
3

I'm happy with my dick-size, I am in an open relationship, 1 year and going on, and I have a very healthy and good social circle and I don't have problems dealing with people :)
/r/seduction31/07/15 10:51 AM
1

What do you mean with poor social skills.
/r/seduction31/07/15 10:48 AM
2

As I said, I don't walk away singing and screaming out loud. I sing for myself. And yeah, sometimes I sing out loud, but when there's nobody around. I am not stupid and I know I can bother.
/r/seduction31/07/15 10:47 AM
5

I don't care about appearances. I'm not saying I do this in front of the person I'm gonna approach. This is something I do in my daily life, just to have confidence up everyday. Also, not the whole time. You know simple pickup, right? Think about their God mode. This is my way to be in a light God mode. But adapted to my enjoyment.
/r/seduction31/07/15 02:23 AM
1

Of course mate. I suck at it but, yeah.
/r/seduction31/07/15 02:11 AM
4

I don't like that song. But more than once people has joined me singing Disney, Pokemon or Digimon. The stuff that we enjoyed when we were kids and we were not worried about whatever others may think are the best.
/r/seduction31/07/15 02:10 AM
6

Oh, I know I'm insecure. As Fuck. This is not me saying "hey, look how secure and confident I am". No, this is me saying "look how I manage to handle that insecurity and use it for getting over it".
/r/seduction31/07/15 02:09 AM
2

Thanks!
/r/seduction31/07/15 02:07 AM
1

5 years in a row doing it. Never been told that. Let me clarify something: I don't mean do that the whole day and nothing more. I use my common sense. Society tells you it's not normal to dance at the street without loud music? Well, fuck society. You are bothering no one. Daygame is usually considered awkward or weird as well and we go against that.
/r/seduction31/07/15 12:15 AM
0

Why don't you dance? You don't need music to dance. It's a good way to attract attention. Walk to them, cough or do something to attract attention and then make a dance move. That would help you to get away with the anxiety and also will catch their attention.
/r/seduction30/07/15 10:18 AM
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