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katiedarling37/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/19 02:58 PM
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STRATEGYkatiedarling37/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 01:43 PM
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I switched from super-mega-pushup-death monsters to simply lacy bralettes from Walmart and I will absolutely never EVER go back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 10:52 PM
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(I suck at Reddit, this landed in the wrong place on the thread) One of my questions when talking to a guy is about their opinions on thrift shops and furniture. I thrift. It’s where I start looking when I need something and have been that way all my life. How he answers will color my view of everything else he says. There are 5 types. I don’t buy other people’s trash. I love going in, you never know what you can find. I have to shop there because of something that has happened ( and I want you …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 08:07 PM
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This show lacked in HVM....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 09:06 PM
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If I never get married again, that’s fine. I’m ok. But it doesn’t disqualify me from giving valid advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 12:53 AM
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I love when they ask if I’m married. Like it is the only qualification for knowing whether or not I’m worthy of giving them advice on how to stand up for themselves. And not be treated like trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 05:34 PM
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As an America who dreams about healthcare for all, this statement is just amazing to me. Your government medical system knows enough about you to be able to warn you of something might hurt you, and can tell you in an efficient way. Not only that, but you have no reason not to trust them. I don’t know how we’re still struggling with this over here...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 01:43 PM
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Also, I buy PLANTS for everyone. I’m on a budget and I think plants add to nearly every environment. I also use the plants’ future as a way to get an idea about a person - are they thoughtful, can they remember simple tasks (watering instructions) are they trustworthy or gigantic assholes? I’ve rarely been wrong about this, and even found that some people are great one on one, their plants thrived and they just sucked at dealing with certain people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 10:45 PM
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If he is into PLANTS - has a massive indoor garden or is in his yard as his main hobby and you want to surprise him with the gift of a plant he doesn’t have. Or he’s been looking for a new hobby and plants and gardening have been discussed, this is a level of thoughtful that is just perfect. Either his birthday or a promotion at work and you’ve cracked the ‘hard to buy for’ code. You see an awesome PLANT in the grocery store or order an expensive tree online. Not a bouquet of flowers unless he’s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 10:26 PM
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‘If you can’t say something nice, say something cruel’ - Pilof
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 04:23 PM
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The volunteers are around, I’ve met them, but they are usually very busy and will try to make you feel guilty for wanting to be a priority, or they assume no one wants them because they think we won’t see past the surface of ‘oh, lives at home’
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 05:45 PM
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Ok, so you know IQ tests are all made up, classist and racist right? I mean be a snob if you want, but do some research behind where you get your standards from. https://youtu.be/W3oUqKUx2o0
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 07:56 PM
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I’m having to remember to reign it in a little with this guy I’m seeing. It’s hard - because being treated well is like... there’s nothing like it. It’s so validating and comforting... but anyone can do that the first month. But he’s a mechanic. He’s fixed my car and a whole bunch of stuff around my house (installing a new fan, repotting a plant I couldn’t move, changing lightbulbs in my vaulted ceilings, securing a wire that I was constantly tripping over.... it just keeps going) all of this in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 05:01 PM
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The worst part of Duck Dynasty was that the gross men who looked and acted like that were clean shaven ‘good old boys’ before they got the show. That nastiness that has been copied was a lie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 08:02 PM
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I was curious about what has been said on the ‘talking politics’ note and did search before asking a question. The verdict is ‘bring it up - all of it’ I want to know his politics, his religion, his social outlook, and then I want to know his family’s. Who made him the way he is? What will he fall back on when he’s older (very common to revert to older beliefs as someone ages) and under less social pressure to be a certain way? And then I had the biggest epiphany on my way to work! Have you ever…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 07:55 PM
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I bring up religion and politics almost immediately. I have to know I can talk to them about anything. It doesn’t mean a perfect relationship is in the cards, but it does mean communication isn’t going to be our problem. My ex husband and I were a perfect match on paper. Politically, religious, and the less important music and movies... we had that stuff IN COMMON. He would even tell you he was a feminist. But when it came down to it, he was a wife beating shit head and there was no amount of co…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 07:22 PM
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Growing up with a manic depressive father coming in and out of my life, I can see it. It’s in the way they tilt their head a certain way, or the very very subtle way they mask what they mean to get you on their side. That’s the biggest part of the whole thing that drives me crazy. They all think they are the newest and most original and clever, like the majority of women I know weren’t fathered by absolute shit bags.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 04:44 PM
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Yep. And I’ve made sure to trust that feeling. I have gotten to the point where I can ‘see’ a lot about someone in their profile picture and if there is a doubt, it’s usually confirmed when I start talking to them. The few who I let pass usually have been lying and are extremely good at twisting the truth. A ‘published author’ who turned out to be a freelance website content provider was my favorite. I would have been fine with the real job - but why lie about that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 02:19 PM
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I learned who I was through the women who raised me. My grandma, mom, Girl Scout leaders, teachers, church family 🤷🏻‍♀️ it was the women who surrounded me that taught me how to be who I would become. Fuck anyone who tears down anyone from my gender. None of the women in my life were dainty or fussy - they were makers, leaders, nurses, counselors, doctors, musicians, teachers and ministers. If I’m not like them, what am I?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 04:10 PM
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Some cats are ridiculously cuddly and needy - like mine. He demands constant attention and prefers to be held and carried. He wants all of my food. All of it and will bring me his toys for playtime.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 06:57 PM
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I’m Dollar Tree first and work my way up. I’ve lived in severe poverty and don’t want to ever be there again. My income is way above what I spend. That’s how it should be. I have dumped a guy for criticizing me for shopping at Aldi.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 07:06 PM
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Bragging about how smart they are - I need situational proof, and I can decide for myself how smart you are Claiming ‘sarcasm’ as a personality trait - it’s not a good one, and a sign of immaturity Nitpicking Over use of pet names Trying to charm me. A charm is a trick - meaning you’re hiding something about yourself. I don’t want ‘Prince Charming’ Charms wear off quickly and I require substance. Doesn’t read. I don’t care if you’ve kept up with every issue of ‘Plumbers Monthly,’ I want to know …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 06:50 PM
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I’m at the point (I’m 38....) that age matters a little less than all of the other factors, but will still be the thing that tips the scale. Like.... if he’s got his shit together, but has a weird past, how old he is makes the difference. Or some other variation....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/19 05:19 PM
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Not all of these men are created equal - military men are rough, but you’re going to find a diamond or two. I met some wonderful guys that all ended up with great careers and beautiful families - I’m still in touch with a good number of them and tbh, I’m a little jealous. They can be old fashioned, but I only know of one divorce in the group and it was not really anything that gets talked about here (raising a special needs child will tear up a marriage....) Don’t date anyone under an E-5, try a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/19 04:05 AM
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I’m a Vet and I can vouch for this one. Not only are they abusive, but the military backs up the behavior and protects them against their spouses. Best thing you can do if you get involved and end up with children is set up child support and gtfo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/19 03:53 AM
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For the life of me, I will never understand this 1-10 rating system. It is not designed as a rubric for you to follow for success, but a way to allow others to downgrade you with caustic arbitration. There is no book and nothing out there besides superficial standards to measure with. Men are trash. For them to decide you are a 6/10 or for you to agree to it? What power or authority do they actually have? You’re a 10 because men are trash and any effort you put out for yourself will be more than…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/19 12:17 PM
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Also a sewing machine - having a nice, well maintained wardrobe that you can repair yourself means your clothes will last longer. You can find a used one (go for vintage if you can) for a decent price and the right machine will last forever. Mine was a gift from an aunt who had gotten it from her dad. It’s a 1950’s Kenmore and it still runs like new. It’s my personal choice to not shop fast fashion, but I feel better in clothes with a more timeless look anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/19 11:16 AM
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Mechanic - If you don’t want to learn to change a tire or the oil in your car (nail care is expensive) find a good mechanic that you can trust - preferably female. Home maintenance- you can likely do most of the things around your home/apartment yourself. But it’s fine if you’d rather not. If the management company is crap and doesn’t respond in a timely manner, a handyman/person will help keep your home in repair.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/19 11:10 AM
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Mental health care should be as regular as the dentist. I have been seeing a counselor most of my adult life because I grew up in an abusive environment and my mental health took a serious beating early on. It doesn’t mean that I’m crazy or sad or weird, it means I know what I need to become the best version of myself Considering this group is here, I want to assume most of us have been through enough crap to need someone to talk to on a regular basis. If anything, it protects your boundaries wi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/19 11:05 AM
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I honestly didn’t know there was an opposite to red flags until a few days ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/19 02:07 PM
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I have had an idea in my head about open platonic female relationships for a while now. Find a friend with equal or similar goals Get legally married to gain the benefits of being legally married. Have what ever relationships you want with who ever you want, keeping the core financial goals in mind Make a decision about how kids will fit in, should you want them. Since men don’t want to actually be in a marriage in the first place, we have to realize, we don’t need them anymore for marriage 🤷🏻‍♀…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/19 04:56 PM
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I’d have to go back and look, something about why men date bitches and another one. I don’t know enough about this. But it was so good to stay quiet, listen and to know myself enough to not be enamored from literally no information.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/19 06:20 PM
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We’ve all done it. Even with my grandma in my head telling me only single girls pay for a man. 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/19 04:20 PM
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My family raised me to never go out without enough money to cover your meal/cab/ticket. But just yours. They are not your responsibility and if they throw a fit about you getting the check, pay for your half and get an Uber. Leave them sitting there mad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/19 04:10 PM
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The issue is not your weight. A good man loves you as you are. And honestly you’re not that big if I assume you’re average height. You know they make plus sized wedding dresses right? Which means fat women get married all the time. Something else has happened to you, though, that has you in this position. I hope you can get to a better place soon, because life is long. It’s going to feel even longer with you in this condition.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/19 03:48 PM
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Nothing to offer and mad about it hahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/19 03:18 PM
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5, 5, 5, 4, 3....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/19 07:58 AM
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About rule 3 and 4.... this reminds me of a nasty experience.... There were some red flags about a guy I was seeing. I’m usually fairly secure in dating - I don’t know why, because everything else, I’m a mess. But I can handle this part. But from the beginning I was off. We met on tinder, I usually don’t even have a profile, but I was up for seeing what I could find. The conversations went well enough for him to ask me out on a date. It was well timed (a few days before) but he said didn’t know …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/19 07:35 AM
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This actually happened. Some bitch I worked with started bringing in lunch the guy I was casually seeing. Why would I want her as a friend and why did I need a grown ass man so dependent? Gone!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/19 07:49 PM
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I’ve been telling people I was 42 (it’s a nerd joke) since I was 25. My husband died and I had a daughter. It was obvious that I wasn’t 42. I have a young look that I can’t get rid of even if I dress a little older. But it said something. It meant - I already reject your attempt to assert your crappy value shenanigans on me. I’m not listening. I can gain 10lbs, lose 10lbs, I can decide what trends work for me or come up with my own plan for how I look. It said that I’m decking out of this game b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/19 06:25 PM
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I cancelled Tinder. I dated online for a couple of years and HATED IT. I’ve had some rough relationships, but nothing has been worse than online dating. I love Facebook and Instagram, though. I have real life friends on there that I can’t keep up with otherwise. HOWEVER, If I don’t know you in real life, I’m not following you and the likelihood of me cleaning out my friends list is high. I’ve not met the right person. I may not 🤷🏻‍♀️ but I’m not settling any time soon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/19 08:24 AM
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