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kdsflyfree/r/askTRP05/01/20 10:27 PM
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This is absolute bullshit. Whether you live under capitalism, communism, or most western systems (corrupt crony capitalism), the game is the same: you have to provide value. Matt Stafford is highly paid because that’s the value he brings. You need to turn your mindset around. If you “suck at making money” it’s not the vagaries of fickle fate or the man is keeping you down. It’s because you are not providing enough value to an employer or clients to get paid well for it. You need to think long an…
/r/seduction06/03/22 05:29 PM
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That’s not casual, that’s the homeless look.
/r/askTRP14/06/21 01:11 AM
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Stop overthinking
/r/askTRP13/06/21 05:32 PM
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I just don’t get guys who post, get two dozen answers, and then delete the post. What’s the point? Are you embarrassed that you asked the question? You can’t man up and stand by it? SMDH
/r/askTRP13/06/21 05:17 PM
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“I usually get my way when I get pissed.” This is the favored technique of two-year-olds.
/r/askTRP13/06/21 05:13 PM
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Haha, that’s not what I wrote and you know it. Absolutely call it out when it starts to be a pattern but you don’t have to be a dick about it.
/r/askTRP13/06/21 05:11 PM
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😂😂😂
/r/askTRP13/06/21 05:06 PM
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Too late. Dread would have been the fix when it started but he’s let it go way too long.
/r/askTRP13/06/21 04:58 PM
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Why not take it further and beat her up if she denies sex? The point of being cool about it is to maintain frame. If he’s let it go this long it’s probably unsalvageable and she’s seeing someone else. Going nuclear at this point is absurd.
/r/askTRP13/06/21 04:57 PM
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Nothing wrong with you. That’s why they’re called plates. They eventually fall off and break. If they want more commitment than you can give they will select themselves out.
/r/askTRP13/06/21 04:48 PM
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Demo of an alternate response that’s not so direct.
/r/askTRP13/06/21 04:45 PM
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Get off online dating
/r/askTRP13/06/21 03:54 PM
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Yes. Maybe she hasn’t been impressed with the sex and the text had nothing to do with it.
/r/askTRP13/06/21 03:46 PM
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“I could show you the others but I don’t know you well enough yet. We should fix that.”
/r/askTRP13/06/21 03:43 PM
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If you are looking to sustain high-energy there are no substitutes for good sleep and clean nutrition.
/r/askTRP13/06/21 03:20 PM
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Yes. It’s not necessarily an IOI, but if she doesn’t find you potentially attractive, she won’t bother. That’s why you should welcome shit tests from a hot girl. Bring it on!
/r/askTRP10/06/21 01:10 AM
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The objective is to control the frame. Totally situational. Sometimes people need to get a good tongue lashing but those times are few and far between. Must be done strategically.
/r/askTRP09/06/21 02:12 AM
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Yeah, love is possible. But it’s temporary and conditional on your attractiveness. If/when she loses attraction, you’ll get the “I love you, I’m just not IN love with you” speech, and she’ll already be gone. Enjoy your turn and don’t get financially entangled or lose your objectivity.
/r/askTRP08/06/21 08:47 PM
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I would add that if the disparity in SMV is too great often a girl will think she doesn’t have a chance with you. You still need to approach. Women will not directly approach you.
/r/askTRP08/06/21 02:42 PM
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DARE. This is basic stuff. It’s in the sidebar.
/r/askTRP08/06/21 02:32 PM
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Who cares? Don’t be like him. Be Skittles Man instead
/r/askTRP07/06/21 06:50 PM
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Forgiveness is for you, not her. Holding a grudge just grinds you and lets them live rent-free in your head. However, if your mother has not acknowledged her bad behavior and is unrepentant, then you should continue to keep your distance. She must earn back your trust with changed behavior and it sounds she hasn’t even apologized yet. Keep toxic people out of your life.
/r/askTRP07/06/21 03:11 PM
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You hit the jackpot. Enjoy it while it lasts. But don’t get married.
/r/askTRP07/06/21 03:06 PM
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This is the correct response, except don’t shit where you eat
/r/askTRP07/06/21 03:03 PM
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This.
/r/askTRP07/06/21 12:13 AM
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Why are you trying to LTR a hoe?
/r/askTRP07/06/21 12:10 AM
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“According to her it was her first time.” I seriously doubt it. You weren’t able to smoothly overcome her ASD, so she wasn’t impressed. Solution: increase your SMV, learn to overcome LMR.
/r/askTRP07/06/21 12:07 AM
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I suspect you weren’t in abundance when you dumped her, i.e. smashing other girls. True or False? The secret to getting over a girl is more quality girls.
/r/askTRP07/06/21 12:03 AM
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Ok, well, you asked our opinion and we gave it to you. YMMV
/r/askTRP06/06/21 11:55 PM
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Sell all your stuff, give the money to the poor, and live on the streets for a while. That’ll get your head straight pretty quickly. Seriously, you have just discovered that materialism is empty and not fulfilling. You need to start feeding your spirit. Volunteer to be a Big Bro, or at food distribution or a soup kitchen. Or join an outward bound type group and challenge yourself physically. Get outside of your head and do things that are not related to acquiring MORE.
/r/askTRP06/06/21 08:35 PM
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Yeah the key tell is, ”..she’s dreading me hard by keeping her options open.”
/r/askTRP06/06/21 06:06 PM
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This is an 18 month LTR, not some plate. This is not a “work problem,” it’s a major change to your financial situation. She’ll be pissed off if she finds out from someone else and you’ll look weak or deceptive for not telling her.
/r/askTRP06/06/21 12:56 PM
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Bullshit. Why are you twisting yourself in knots to figure out a story? Answer: you’re too invested in her to think rationally. You’re afraid of losing her. Well, my man, put it to the test. “My job was eliminated,” is all you have to say. Then you’ll find out what type of girl she is for sure. But I think you already know and that’s why you’re afraid to tell her the truth.
/r/askTRP06/06/21 02:11 AM
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Find out what he wants (a raise, better hours, keep his job, whatever) and make it conditional on him toeing the line. But recognize that this is not the Army and people don’t do stuff just because other people tell them to. It’s your job to figure out how to motivate your employees to do the work required or get rid of them.
/r/askTRP06/06/21 02:00 AM
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Who cares what it’s “considered?” Do what you want. But do you really want more toxic people in your life?
/r/askTRP06/06/21 01:53 AM
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The right balance is being authentic
/r/askTRP05/06/21 09:46 PM
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Not one size fits all. Depends on the girl. Depends on her mood. Depends on your style. You need to gauge the situation. Confident, strong, unflappable works in just about every situation. Just riff off of that. If she’s flirty, flirt with her. If she’s chatty, say few words, but make them count.
/r/askTRP05/06/21 08:09 PM
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Women are attracted to men who are confident and dominant and take responsibility. Your behavior is defective and is giving off beta vibes. That and you need to approach. Approaching is a man’s superpower.
/r/askTRP05/06/21 07:59 PM
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Abundance. Meet as many chicks as you have energy for
/r/askTRP05/06/21 07:56 PM
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Stop worrying about it. Meet lots of women. Get offline and into the real world. Love may hit you when you least expect it. Just make sure when it does you vet, vet, vet, and vet again.
/r/askTRP05/06/21 07:52 PM
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You appear to be quite focused on women (no surprise, you’re 22). But I can’t help but think that is holding you back. You have to improve yourself first if you want the chicks, but you say it’s overwhelming. You don’t mention exercise or diet, and yet you’re taking pharmaceuticals to fix health as the first resort instead of the last? See a trend here? If it’s overwhelming, start with baby steps. First, get your ass to the gym every day. Set a regular time and stick with it—no excuses. Reward y…
/r/askTRP05/06/21 07:45 PM
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“I don’t like girls who make rules” is butthurt. Silence is fine but she can interpret that as, “As I suspected, he just wants to use me” and you’re not done with this one just yet. You are master of the frame. I’d reply, “Cool. I’m really busy this week. Catch up later.”
/r/askTRP05/06/21 11:36 AM
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This looks like ASD to me. Some girls who are really into you will hold off on easy sex because they seek more commitment than an ONS. That doesn’t necessarily make you a betabux, but it could indicate that your SMV isn’t high enough for them to throw caution to the wind. These types of women may see you as potential bf material and don’t want to be a pump and dump. Your invitation was another direct invitation to sex, and she declined, just as she said “no” twice previously. It may be because s…
/r/askTRP05/06/21 11:17 AM
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No, you really don’t. The lack of abundance mindset is holding you back and it will be harder to achieve everything else. There are even homeless dudes who pick up hot women.
/r/askTRP04/06/21 01:32 PM
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Dump the girl now, don’t wait.
/r/askTRP03/06/21 01:44 PM
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Confidence, status, looks, in that order. Money is an indicator of status, but except for a few gold-diggers, it doesn’t make you attractive in itself.
/r/askTRP02/06/21 02:03 PM
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Glad it’s working for you but I personally wouldn’t mutilate myself for any woman.
/r/askTRP02/06/21 05:49 AM
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Haha, can’t you tell sarcasm? Read the rest of my post.
/r/askTRP02/06/21 05:46 AM
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Dude, this is chick talk for, “I’m DTF and looking for that, not a boyfriend.”
/r/askTRP31/05/21 02:07 PM
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Pierce and tat everything. Seriously, keep reading Pook. He says the essential characteristic of physical sexual attractiveness is extreme masculinity. In practice, this means lift (strong body), grooming (nothing wrong with lots of hair, including body hair, just be well groomed), teeth well cared for, dress well. Hygiene is important to most women. One note is that women will be attracted to more a masculine appearance (and behavior) when they are ovulating than when they are not.
/r/askTRP31/05/21 02:01 PM
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I’d rather have the car fairy give me a free Lambo but that’s not gonna happen.
/r/askTRP31/05/21 01:42 PM
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Why is she saying this? Are you verbally asking for sex? If so, stop. ASD and lack of plausible deniability leads to her saying this. Plus you’re in her frame. She should be dragging you into her bedroom, not you begging for sex. Be more non-verbal. Kino and escalate. Push and pull. If she still comes out with this, the response is the same as to any shit test: Agree and amplify. “Me too. I need to know a girl for at least 10 years first.”
/r/askTRP31/05/21 01:35 PM
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It appears that you haven’t actually acted on her IOIs when you are together and she is ready for you to advance. This is why she is pissed off. You are all talk and no action.
/r/askTRP31/05/21 01:24 PM
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Tru dat. A shittest is NOT, “I’m meeting with my ex tonight, don’t leave the light on for me.”
/r/askTRP29/05/21 02:07 AM
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When we are smitten we want to bond (oxytocin does this) because we feel so good being ministered to by this feminine presence. We think she will love us like our mother or sister (unconditionally) but alas we are mistaken.
/r/askTRP29/05/21 01:55 AM
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Why do you care?
/r/askTRP26/05/21 12:55 PM
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Stop all negative self-talk and stop combing through the garbage. You can’t change the past—you can only change the future, starting now.
/r/askTRP26/05/21 12:50 PM
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It’s the free testosterone, mostly. Off the charts in many 20 olds. Don’t know how to respond to strong emotions and anger is the most familiar and a habit.
/r/askTRP25/05/21 01:57 AM
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Autism strikes! 😂😂😂
/r/askTRP25/05/21 01:53 AM
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Well this is obviously a hot button for you where for most people it wouldn’t affect them as much. Sounds like this wound goes deep. You realize that your reaction to this is making it more of a problem? I would guess that half the people you’re reading this behavior into aren’t even thinking about you. You’re going to have to deal with your upbringing. Find a good counselor, mentor, and/or trusted friend who can steer you in the right direction to get some help.
/r/askTRP25/05/21 01:51 AM
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Yeah the cockiness would normally be ok but it just led to a stronger test
/r/askTRP25/05/21 01:43 AM
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You’re explaining yourself to her. You are totally in her frame. Oh no darling I’m wonderful. A good shittest response questions her very right to shittest you. Understand?
/r/askTRP25/05/21 01:42 AM
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Own it. “Absolutely.” Stop GAF. Or make a joke: “Wait, you’re already thinking about sex? We hardly know each other. Damn, girl, you’re fast.” Either way offer is on the table. I
/r/askTRP25/05/21 01:33 AM
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I think she likes you
/r/askTRP25/05/21 01:30 AM
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Agree and amplify. When the cunty one objects you say, “No way, this is gonna be everywhere, and you, girl, will be more famous than the Kardashians. Stand over there so I can snap another.”
/r/askTRP25/05/21 01:26 AM
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Yeah, you don’t have to be a dick about it, but kind and firm. Like you’re talking to a six year old.
/r/askTRP25/05/21 01:21 AM
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Shittest. DARE. You already DEER-ed. Sidebar.
/r/askTRP25/05/21 01:19 AM
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Dude
/r/askTRP25/05/21 01:16 AM
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Bumble is weak. Why would you say you have to online date like every other chump? Make your intentions known from the start: Tinder or Hinge. Or, just tell them to take photo of you for your mates (use that word) back home. Social proof. If your SMV is high enough, tell them you have a couple of female friends who don’t believe you’re here. That will get the competitive juices stirring.
/r/askTRP25/05/21 12:29 AM
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Read Athol Kay. You have to be gaming her constantly. It’s not easy and few women are worth it.
/r/askTRP24/05/21 01:21 AM
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This
/r/askTRP24/05/21 01:18 AM
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Typical shittest. Nothing unusual.
/r/askTRP24/05/21 01:14 AM
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The internet.
/r/askTRP24/05/21 01:09 AM
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Haha all the autists who took this literally downvoted me. I shall wear it as a badge of honor 😂
/r/askTRP23/05/21 06:47 PM
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You clearly don’t understand sarcasm and its power to reframe a question, especially one as idiotic as “Is 28 too late to start over?”
/r/askTRP23/05/21 03:43 AM
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So, you’re living with the gf and don’t have your own place? You need a mommy, not a gf.
/r/askTRP23/05/21 02:38 AM
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Yes, it’s time to move on. You need strangers to tell you this?
/r/askTRP23/05/21 02:35 AM
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You try stuff that you think you might be interested in. Then you get to learn what works for you and what doesn’t. But you have to take action in some direction to see. Get a skill that pays a decent wage. Pick one: auto mechanic, computer security, med tech. That leads you to better paths . But you have to take action.
/r/askTRP23/05/21 02:33 AM
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“Put her on the spot”?? WTF? Just an excuse for chickening out, IMHO.
/r/askTRP23/05/21 02:29 AM
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Waaah
/r/askTRP23/05/21 02:26 AM
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Dread game is correct response. But she doesn’t sound worth it. Get more abundance. Also, can’t deal with landlady, can’t cook for yourself? Work on yourself first.
/r/askTRP23/05/21 01:56 AM
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Yes, at 28 your life is over. Absolutely, give it up, old man, and spend the rest of your meager lifespan wallowing in your betaness.
/r/askTRP23/05/21 01:49 AM
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Withdraw attention. But it sounds like you lost your frame getting upset over a pineapple. She doesn’t respect you and is acting out. Why are you in an LTR with this woman?
/r/askTRP23/05/21 01:47 AM
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Are you kidding?
/r/askTRP23/05/21 01:43 AM
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Men look for different qualities in women depending on their personal tastes. For me it’s always been high femininity (girly girls). Other men like athletic chicks, still others dig artistic types. You have to decide what’s important to you. You’ll still need to do a red flag/green flag analysis when vetting. Edited
/r/askTRP20/05/21 03:42 PM
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This is so true. You can’t change the past, but you can change your future, starting now.
/r/askTRP18/05/21 08:46 PM
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Stop viewing things in absolutes. Get information from a wide variety of sources, with opposing viewpoints, not just what the machine feeds you in order to get clicks and likes. Constantly be challenging your assumptions. Eventually you’ll develop a personal set of beliefs and values that are uniquely your own.
/r/askTRP18/05/21 04:21 PM
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At some point in your life you may want children to enrich your life and send your genetic legacy into the future. Only women can bring you those.
/r/askTRP18/05/21 04:17 PM
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The message here is don’t be such a cynic that you never let yourself love someone deeply because you’re constantly thinking about “the long ride home” (possible bad endings).
/r/askTRP17/05/21 04:55 AM
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You’re looking for permission here to simp out. You’re not going to get it.
/r/askTRP17/05/21 04:45 AM
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Go back in time and be the class clown.
/r/askTRP16/05/21 09:36 PM
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Stop being dull. Lots of books and internet videos to fix this.
/r/askTRP16/05/21 09:35 PM
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So long as you plausibly look 32. Women smell incoherence right away. If you’re 36 and look like you’re 46 they may not even stay for the date
/r/askTRP16/05/21 09:34 PM
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Lol
/r/askTRP16/05/21 09:31 PM
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Master frame and you are 80% there.
/r/askTRP12/05/21 09:20 PM
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😂
/r/askTRP12/05/21 09:19 PM
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Good job man but just because somebody said you were BPD or ADD or whatever doesn’t make it so. Stop labeling yourself and just fucking live your life
/r/seduction12/05/21 03:04 AM
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Dude can you even hear yourself? “When she got her 2nd vaccine I saw it coming...” You were COVID buddies, that’s it. I’m sorry, but it’s not your turn any more.
/r/askTRP12/05/21 03:02 AM
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“Do not let her beauty deceive you into thinking that she is a woman of good character.”
/r/askTRP12/05/21 02:57 AM
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It’s their superpower. Just accept it and realize you’ll feel bad when they break. But oh my god the red flags, right?
/r/askTRP12/05/21 02:55 AM
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repetition.
/r/askTRP12/05/21 02:52 AM
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“Men love women like women love children, like children love dogs, like dogs love men.” Pay attention; these are real nuggets here!
/r/askTRP12/05/21 02:51 AM
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Lol, “Elle” haha, look she lost attraction for me and for women, that’s the death of a relationship.
/r/askTRP12/05/21 02:49 AM
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Susan Anderson, https://www.amazon.com/Journey-Abandonment-Healing-Surviving-Recovering/dp/0425273539
/r/askTRP12/05/21 02:46 AM
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Read the sidebar on LTRs. LTRs are RP on hard mode. Marriage is RP on impossible mode.
/r/askTRP12/05/21 02:40 AM
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...which she turned me into
/r/askTRP12/05/21 02:38 AM
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Cause I was a pathetic beta simp
/r/askTRP12/05/21 02:38 AM
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“I’m trying to win her over.” Dude, this is your problem. She is TEN YEARS older than you. She should be trying to win YOU, not the other way around. And I guarantee she is. Get out of your own way and let this happen. Criminy
/r/askTRP12/05/21 02:36 AM
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Yes.
/r/askTRP12/05/21 02:32 AM
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Hmm that sounds ok. Apparently she wasn’t impressed. Maybe just an impromptu meet up next time. “I’m at x—join me!”
/r/askTRP12/05/21 02:27 AM
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You have eliminated the woman from the equation. Women are emotion. You strike when the iron is hot (a blacksmithing phrase).
/r/askTRP12/05/21 02:21 AM
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Yes. Wife of almost 30 years left. I was shattered. Drinking too much, crying and depressed constantly. Pulled out by surrounding myself with people who care about me, moved close to family and got a roommate so I wasn’t alone. Found 2 great books, one on how abandonment physically strikes at your most primitive physical functioning and exercises to overcome the depression. Another one on narcissists and co-dependency. But it was really RP that explained what happened to me. But that’s how I pro…
/r/askTRP12/05/21 12:23 AM
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Ah we may have a language problem. I don’t mean literally YOU are a simp. I was giving an example.
/r/askTRP12/05/21 12:13 AM
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We’re all here to help. But you’ve got to want to be helped.
/r/askTRP12/05/21 12:10 AM
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You don’t kiss after the date—that’s retarded. You kiss when she’s feeling it. You have to be building attraction. You say there was a lot of touching but who was doing most of it? Do you know pull-push? You tease her like you’re going to kiss her, then withdraw. Man there are whole books on this subject. If only there were a place where all this knowledge is collected? 🤔——————————————————->
/r/askTRP12/05/21 12:07 AM
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Your first date must have been plan-less or she probably wouldn’t have made that comment.
/r/askTRP12/05/21 12:02 AM
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Haha you worry about labeling stuff alpha and beta. You need to go back to RP school because you are like a cm deep into it.
/r/askTRP11/05/21 11:54 PM
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“Being wealthy increases SMV.” Wrong. Status increases SMV. Wealth MAY be an indicator of status, or it may indicate you are a little trust fund baby mama’s boy simp. Flashing wealth is a beta provider play. You seem to want us to give you the answer you want to hear. Ever wonder why daddy’s girl wants to hang with the boy from the wrong side of the tracks? Go back to the sidebar and read about how women are attracted to men.
/r/askTRP11/05/21 11:52 PM
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Go where the types of women you want to meet are. For example, if you like nerdy girls, go to the library or science museum. If you like athletic girls, take a yoga class or join a volleyball club. Don’t overthink it.
/r/askTRP11/05/21 11:48 PM
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Sorry to hear that. Glad you’re better.
/r/askTRP11/05/21 11:45 PM
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Ok I’ve calmed down. Which is what you should do. You’re dealing in hypotheticals. IF you have an LTR, IF your dad cuts you out, IF IF. First thing, don’t let this guy get to you. Maintain a rock solid frame. If something comes up with your family, get them in private and calmly say (for example), Dad, you know that can’t be true. Why are you letting this stranger influence you?” Around him (if you can’t avoid going to a family event) be pleasant but stoic. It’s ok if he thinks you’re buying his…
/r/askTRP11/05/21 11:41 PM
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“My reputation is ruined.” You sound like a little girl. Fuck your reputation. A man lets his actions speak for themselves. Didn’t read the rest I was so pissed off.
/r/askTRP11/05/21 11:30 PM
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Re-read your post. An alternative explanation is that she is DTF but you’re just too autistic to catch the signals. Her being “coy” about her sex life is not strange, it’s typical female behavior. She wants to spin YOU as a plate, but you haven’t made a move so she’s mostly given up. I don’t give this scenario a high probability but you never know.
/r/askTRP11/05/21 11:20 PM
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Honestly the best thing you could do is get busy with other girls. No explanation needed. She’ll get the picture. If she won’t have sex with you plenty of other girls will. Work on self-improvement (hit the gym more!) spin plates, and let her chase you for a while. Edited for typo
/r/askTRP11/05/21 10:19 PM
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She sounds strong-willed. Right?
/r/askTRP11/05/21 10:13 PM
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She hasn’t given up on it in her mind. She’s just dropped it for now.
/r/askTRP11/05/21 10:13 PM
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Withdrawing attention is one approach. Ideally you’d back off for a while and raise your SMV before reengaging and making your sexual intent crystal clear. But that’s putting a lot of effort into one woman and reeks of scarcity. But that would be one strategy where you could end up with a great FWB. Creating absence and increasing your desirability is key here, and it’s a long project, not an overnight fix.
/r/askTRP11/05/21 10:11 PM
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Any girl who wants to travel “solo” is looking to break out. She feels controlled by you and is pushing back. You might be her first, maybe is, but she wants life on her own terms now and she’s willing to risk the relationship.
/r/askTRP11/05/21 10:02 PM
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She’s not that into you. Find other girls.
/r/askTRP11/05/21 09:45 PM
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Friendzone doesn’t necessarily mean loser. Could be she thinks of you as a brother. FZ just means a woman doesn’t look at you as a sexual option. Usually men friendzone themselves by not showing their sexual energy and hiding their genuine intentions in the hope of getting close to a girl without risking rejection. It rarely if ever works. Also a woman wouldn’t share information on her sexual partners with a brother. Pook has a good explanation of the FZ and how to avoid it. edited
/r/askTRP11/05/21 09:41 PM
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That was written in the corner of a sign hung out of a sorority window before the Rolling Stone UVA rape scandal that turned out to be a hoax (the rape, not Megan).
/r/askTRP09/05/21 11:00 PM
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😂
/r/askTRP09/05/21 10:23 PM
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Megan does butt stuff.
/r/askTRP09/05/21 10:22 PM
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He copies and pastes a couple of verses and it’s “Amazing knowledge,” lol. Where did I say poor people are superior?
/r/RPChristians09/05/21 05:08 AM
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Take the plank out of your eye, then you can correct me.
/r/RPChristians09/05/21 05:06 AM
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So you want me to quote Jesus and the camel back at you? Verses without context can be misinterpreted. No, it’s not wrong to pursue wealth per se, but there are all kinds of warnings about greed and coveting. Thanks for white-knighting, Cool, but I think OP can take or leave my advice on its own merit. This sub is called RPChristians. My advice is from a true RP perspective: don’t focus so much on the girl; rather focus on being the man that attracts the type you want. Edited for clarity
/r/RPChristians08/05/21 11:08 PM
1

It’s the hormones talking, son. Be honest, you don’t even know her, right?
/r/askTRP08/05/21 11:00 PM
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Why? Because men let them. Mothers who feel powerless in other aspects of their lives nag their sons. Girlfriends who are testing for compliance nag. Like any unwanted behavior, it must be corrected firmly and immediately or it will continue.
/r/askTRP08/05/21 10:52 PM
1

Do you even sidebar, bro?
/r/askTRP08/05/21 08:29 PM
4

Put the shoe on the other foot: “He seems like he’s a godly man but he’s in sales and wants to make a lot of money.” Are you going to be able to attract the type of woman that you want? Work on being the man that the woman you desire is attracted to.
/r/RPChristians08/05/21 08:23 PM
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Men love women like women love children like children love dogs like dogs love men. Women will not love you like your mother loves you, i.e. unconditionally. Their love is conditional. They get bored easily and if they lose attraction for you they will not love you any more. See hypergamy. And it doesn’t matter how much they loved you in the past or what you did for her (see Briffault’s Law). Sidebar———————///—————->
/r/askTRP08/05/21 05:10 AM
6

10 point penalty for overthinking. Be a damn human being.
/r/askTRP07/05/21 10:32 PM
1

If you respond with butthurt to every nobody who disrespects you, you have already lost the frame. Agree and amplify is all about refusing to acknowledge her right to shittest you to begin with. You’re treating her like the little girl that she is. Likewise, responding to every instance of “disrespect” hands the disrespector the initiative. It’s like the person who is offended by everything. Offense happens in your mind, not necessarily in what someone else says or does. By all means, don’t tole…
/r/askTRP07/05/21 03:41 PM
1

Frame, dude. You gotta keep it or you’ll never be able to stand the ridicule from hot chicks.
/r/askTRP07/05/21 01:03 AM
3

DR means “Didn’t Read.”
/r/askTRP07/05/21 01:01 AM
3

Butt hurt 😂😂😂
/r/askTRP07/05/21 01:01 AM
3

A woman will break her promises. A man keeps his. If you explicitly drew a line that she shouldn’t cross and she crossed it, that’s a next. Whether you should have drawn it in the first place is a separate question. Alternatively, you waved the bait and she took it, and is shit testing you. So a soft next is appropriate to prove that you mean what you say, which is why she tested you—to see if that’s true.
/r/askTRP07/05/21 12:59 AM
1

Wall of text. DR. Have you ever heard of a fucking paragraph or line break?
/r/askTRP07/05/21 12:46 AM
6

“You can’t negotiate desire.”
/r/askTRP07/05/21 12:43 AM
2

You need to find purpose. Men without purpose are adrift. That’s why unemployment, even from menial labor, sucks the life out of men. Take an inventory of your talents and strengths and determine something that’s worthwhile that would benefit from your action. It could be starting a business or it could be something as simple as volunteering at a Boys Club to hang out with kids who have no dad. But it has to be outside of yourself. If you lose yourself, you will find yourself.
/r/askTRP07/05/21 12:40 AM
1

You have a basic misunderstanding of Shit Tests. Men don’t shit test you. They just give you shit. A woman who is interested in you will Shit Test you reflexively, even unconsciously. Her prehistoric brain is trying to determine if you’re man enough to defend weak lil’ her. Or she may compliance-test you to see if she can boss you around. It’s about your fitness and SMV. Alternatively, if she already sees you as a potential beta orbiter who can be useful she may consciously compliance test you. …
/r/askTRP07/05/21 12:34 AM
1

A shit test is typically a test for fitness or compliance. Read. The. Sidebar.
/r/askTRP07/05/21 12:22 AM
4

You messed up and you know what you did wrong. So why do you need advice? Learn from it and go forth and slay.
/r/askTRP06/05/21 07:41 PM
2

This
/r/askTRP05/05/21 09:51 PM
1

Everyone is a little different but a high protein low starch diet supplemented by power smoothies loaded with fruits and veg works well for me. I eat a lot of salads with fish or meat in them. Try to stay away from processed foods, sugar and alcohol/caffeine.
/r/askTRP05/05/21 06:24 AM
8

The job is only 11 hours out of 24. Gym 2 hours, sleep 8 max. That gives you 3 per workday for yourself. The real issue is your energy level. If you seriously want the job and are not just making excuses in anticipation of quitting, focus on nutrition and good sleep. That will give you the pep you need to accomplish what you want instead of collapsing in front of a screen.
/r/askTRP04/05/21 03:26 PM
1

My guess is you’re coming across as an “old guy” (suit pics) and the early 20s hotties are more interested in a wilder ride. Get some tattoos and piercings for a more dangerous online vibe. Seriously, age is unfortunately a discriminator on apps, unless you are able to attract that subset of chicks who dig older men (see Uncle Vasya’s post on the topic in the sidebar). Which you seem not to be able to do. Your best play if you want the young hotties is to work on yourself and your day game. Appr…
/r/askTRP04/05/21 03:18 PM
1

Assuming you banged her well.
/r/askTRP04/05/21 03:09 PM
2

“just another shit test.” True dat
/r/askTRP04/05/21 03:09 PM
2

In RP, if you want women you focus first on self-improvement. Then you work on your game, which is another word for providing value to women so they chase you. Likewise, in money matters, focus on self-improvement (Dave Ramsey, Napoleon Hill etc), then work on your financial “game.” You don’t chase money, just like you don’t chase women. Rather, focus on creating value and the money will chase you. If it’s a job, find the intersection of what you are interested in, what you are good at (or can b…
/r/askTRP04/05/21 02:54 PM
1

If a “badass” reputation is so important to you, become an expert at giving women head/hands and you will be renowned in your friend circle as a cunning linguist.
/r/askTRP28/04/21 11:25 PM
1

What MatingAdvice and Alzatorus said
/r/askTRP28/04/21 11:22 PM
3

Get new “friends.”
/r/askTRP28/04/21 11:20 PM
1

😂😂😂
/r/askTRP28/04/21 11:20 PM
1

😂
/r/askTRP28/04/21 10:08 PM
1

Yeah the frame is weak, that’s why she’s getting to you. Why you are with a fat slob is another question entirely.
/r/askTRP26/04/21 10:25 PM
1

What the hell is this? A man doesn’t give two fucks if it looks like he just finished a workout or if he looks tired. Sure you dress and groom to look your best but that’s for you. Good God get over yourself, you vain woman.
/r/askTRP25/04/21 11:38 PM
1

I love it when a woman says, “I don’t have sex on the first date.” That’s my opportunity to tease her and say, “Whoa, slow down girl, we hardly know each other and already you’re talking about sex!”
/r/askTRP21/04/21 12:52 AM
1

This, of course, is why Chippendales and the Thunder Down Under show in Vegas consistently lose money.
/r/askTRP06/04/21 06:48 AM
2

You need to learn to recognize the indicators of the subset of women who dig older men. Uncle Vasya has some tips on the sidebar.
/r/askTRP06/04/21 06:36 AM
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That should work. Jeezus.
/r/askTRP06/04/21 06:34 AM
1

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_Qr3gmUf0k0
/r/askTRP04/04/21 06:00 AM
1

Any tips/ suggestions advice to become a desirable man ? Yes, just repeat over and over again to yourself, "I'm too sexy for my shirt, too sexy for my hat, too sexy." Seriously, if you want to be desired you must turn yourself into someone who is desirable. Lift more. You said you read the sidebar. Did you miss "How to Get Laid Like a Warlord?" Also, Book of Pook talks about polarization. Focus on that.
/r/askTRP04/04/21 05:55 AM
2

😂 😂 😂
/r/askTRP04/04/21 05:51 AM
1

So, what did y'all do when you realized that your personality was part of the problem? I changed my personality.
/r/askTRP04/04/21 04:55 AM
8

A 25-yo man thinking of himself as a 'young person" instead of a man is 90% of his problem.
/r/askTRP04/04/21 04:46 AM
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"be an outcast." How insecure can you be?
/r/askTRP04/04/21 04:33 AM
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Sad but probably true. But you have quite a bit of control over your attractiveness—much more so than women.
/r/askTRP02/04/21 06:32 AM
3

The Prize
/r/askTRP31/03/21 08:02 PM
0

Wall of text, TLDR. Jeezus, dude don’t you know what a fucking paragraph is?
/r/askTRP31/03/21 03:00 PM
1

Yeah, he starts right off with bullshit. Go back and read the sidebar again.
/r/askTRP31/03/21 05:14 AM
1

You need to get your mindset right.
/r/askTRP31/03/21 03:36 AM
1

What has she done to deserve food?
/r/askTRP31/03/21 03:35 AM
1

A change of venue could be a walk in the street or through a park, or grabbing an ice cream. Look, you’re already creating imaginary obstacles with negative thinking. Good grief
/r/askTRP31/03/21 03:29 AM
1

Google classroom behavioral management. Spend the first week on training them how to behave (how to sit, how to dress (clean and neat), how to raise their hand to ask a question, how to get excused, yes even that basic. Pay attention to seating and put your underachievers up front and spaced between better behavers. Isolate the unruly ones when they act up by sending them to another teacher’s classroom (you form a game plan with the other teachers beforehand). Make your expectations clear before…
/r/askTRP31/03/21 03:25 AM
1

Chateaux Hartiste is the bomb
/r/askTRP31/03/21 03:14 AM
1

Good God, Man
/r/askTRP31/03/21 03:11 AM
2

You’re not there to impress her. She is there to impress you. Doesn’t matter if her SMV is same or higher. You’re putting too much thought into this, which is a sign of neediness. Work on your DGAF. Pick someplace cheap or free nearby. Ideally it will be fun. That way if she flakes, nothing is lost. She is just there to join you anyway. If you vibe together, change venues several times and escalate.
/r/askTRP31/03/21 02:53 AM
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“Am I missing out...?” No.
/r/askTRP31/03/21 02:46 AM
0

I never really have an answer to these, “How do I control my emotions?” kinds of questions. It’s like answering, “How do you get up every day at 4:30 to go to the gym?” Answer: You set your alarm for 4:30 and get up and go the gym. Men who can’t control their emotions lack overall self-discipline.
/r/askTRP29/03/21 01:35 PM
1

Top 20% is a precondition. Then it’s up to you. I didn’t say top 20 WILL pull a 9 or 10.
/r/askTRP27/03/21 12:51 PM
0

I don’t think that’s correct. I’d say guys that have all their shit together are probably 40-50%. Any one of them could pull an 8 under the right circumstances, and depending on the girl’s particular leanings. But to pull 9s and 10s consistently you have to be top 20%.
/r/askTRP27/03/21 05:40 AM
1

A degree won’t get you a job that makes six figures. YOU have to show 100k worth of value. A degree is just part of a bigger picture. That said, anything in STEM is a good start.
/r/askTRP27/03/21 05:19 AM
1

If you actually used to be “good friends” and not just superficial acquaintances that were nice to each other, I’d be upfront. Have I done something to offend you? If he’s not upfront back, then just drop and forget.
/r/askTRP27/03/21 05:13 AM
1

Up.
/r/askTRP27/03/21 05:06 AM
1

If you don’t like the hand you’ve been dealt, change the game. Go to college in another country. Or don’t go to college at all. Fuck college. It’s way overrated.
/r/askTRP27/03/21 05:05 AM
2

Yes. But you have plenty of high value years ahead. Focus on those.
/r/askTRP27/03/21 04:54 AM
2

Internet strangers have no skin in the game, no risk. They get to be “virtuous” without any cost to themselves.
/r/askTRP27/03/21 04:52 AM
1

Lol
/r/askTRP27/03/21 04:50 AM
1

If you feel like it’s a “struggle,” you are struggling too much. Raise your DGAF level and then let the bitches sort themselves out. They should be chasing you, but you are chasing them. That’s why you think only submissives are worth your time—you’re trying too hard with the others.
/r/askTRP27/03/21 04:47 AM
1

Skilled trades pay very well and will set you up if you want to try a business later. Apprentice to a plumber, electrician, or stone mason.
/r/askTRP27/03/21 04:39 AM
1

You have a very immature view of the SMP. You are generalizing women, too, where as younger women will usually go for sexier Chad while older women nearing the wall will be more inclined to provider Jack. The other variable is the fact that different women value different things in a man. Party girl may want a buff guy while career girl may get turned on by high status—or vice versa. Your problem setup is simplistic.
/r/askTRP27/03/21 04:36 AM
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You need to put a lampshade on your head. You’re sure to be the life of the party then. Seriously, you are way too into yourself. Stop analyzing yourself and just talk to people. Listen 2/3 of the time. Drill down and find out what makes them tick—what are their worries? What do they really want and need? Get out of your story and into theirs.
/r/askTRP27/03/21 04:23 AM
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Not sure you can assume her others are betas/providers. Not enough info.
/r/askTRP27/03/21 04:16 AM
1

In what universe is a compliment “weird?”
/r/askTRP27/03/21 04:12 AM
1

Your problem is that you are totally absorbed in yourself. Men must have goals outside themself to feel like they have purpose. Get out of yourself and volunteer for something that helps other people, like food distribution or Big Brothers. After a series of these you will find what you like and what you don’t, and you will have bigger ideas of what to do with yourself.
/r/askTRP23/03/21 09:17 PM
2

Shit test? What exactly was the “shit” she was giving you? Sounds like a compliment to me and you put her down for it. She was saying, “Your photo didn’t do you justice.” You care about some random thing this chick says waaaay too much. This tells me you have no frame. Honestly, can you be any more fucking autistic?
/r/askTRP23/03/21 09:08 PM
1

Exactly. Take up a hobby where you are dealing with others who are much more skilled than you.
/r/askTRP16/03/21 02:44 AM
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All women are liars. You'll have to go MGTOW if you "can't stand liars."
/r/askTRP14/03/21 03:16 PM
1

"examplify"😂 Is that a word now? Kids these days...
/r/askTRP14/03/21 03:06 PM
1

You sound thirsty even though you deny it. Would James Bond interrupt a conversation of coworkers to "shoot the shit?" Just stop it. You have some growing up to do. Talk less and listen more.
/r/askTRP14/03/21 03:04 PM
2

WTF?
/r/askTRP14/03/21 02:58 PM
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Start with enough sleep and good nutrition to get your energy back. Do it now, don't procrastinate. Cut down on alcohol and caffeine. Rest--->Nutrition---->Energy-----> Motivation.
/r/askTRP14/03/21 02:55 PM
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Anything you subsidize, you get more of. That’s one of the reasons that subsidizing poverty doesn’t work either.
/r/askTRP14/03/21 02:54 AM
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Sounds like you aren’t qualifying these bitches. They they need to be clear from the start that YOU don’t want to waste YOUR time. You are waasaay in their frame dude. They’are plates and plates will break. Go find other plates instead of putting up with their bullshit. If you’re such a chick magnet, then kick the bitches to the curb and find more that don’t care about commitment. Your reliance on lying that you will give commitment is a crutch and shortcut to getting laid. Now you come here and…
/r/askTRP14/03/21 02:49 AM
1

Do you think she cares before she has sex with them if Chad or Tyrone are going to stick around? Sure she’d prefer it, but that’s not gonna stop her
/r/askTRP14/03/21 02:41 AM
1

Well, if that’s your strategy, yes. This is why cold-calling is hard. A few really good salesmen can pull it off but most can’t.
/r/askTRP14/03/21 02:38 AM
1

That would be good but that’s not the only kind. TRP aren’t a set of quick fixes, i.e., “if she does A you do B.”You have a lot of work to do 1) improving your online persona and 2) understanding the female mind. You are trying to learn how to fish by asking, “hey should I use a blue lure or a green lure?” TRP doesn’t work like that. You need to put in the work.
/r/askTRP14/03/21 02:34 AM
1

Yes, exactly. If you’re complying with demands from someone you don’t even know you’re already in their frame. Again, you qualify them, not the other way around. If you are not consistently able to do this, your perceived SMV is not high enough and you still have self-improvement work to do.
/r/askTRP14/03/21 02:28 AM
1

Unless your body looks like Chad (which can illicit tingles and moistness) many women want social proof to make up their mind about you. This is why selfies are a turn-off—it hints that you are a hopeless basement-dweller who can’t get anyone to take your photo. Shot of you doing a fun athletic activity taken by someone else or in a group setting having fun (wedding shots can be good because the men look sharp) are the best photos for online.
/r/askTRP14/03/21 02:21 AM
1

“Why is female nature the way it is? Oh why oh why?”
/r/askTRP14/03/21 02:12 AM
1

“Most women aren’t as open to one night stands.” See, your mindset is all wrong. YOU decide if you want to see her again. She needs to qualify herself to you to get promoted. To the sidebar you go, youngster ——->
/r/askTRP14/03/21 02:08 AM
2

A plate is a ONS until the second time you have sex.
/r/askTRP14/03/21 02:03 AM
1

One Night Stand
/r/askTRP13/03/21 10:28 PM
1

Haha that was stupid, all game is situational lol
/r/askTRP13/03/21 09:35 PM
1

Read Chateaux Hartiste's old posts. Lots of field reports and situational game.
/r/askTRP13/03/21 09:34 PM
1

Your first 5 words were superfluous--already knew from the headline.
/r/askTRP13/03/21 09:00 PM
4

Penalty for arguing with the ref
/r/askTRP13/03/21 08:51 PM
1

This
/r/askTRP13/03/21 08:48 PM
5

What, your fuck buddy was busy? Dude, only fwb are "potential LTRs." You're putting the cart before the horse. A girl you've never gone out with is not a 'potential LTR." Your mindset is all wrong. Here's the progression. You promote based on good behavior ONS Plate FWB LTR Financé (don't do this) Wife (don't do this) Ex-wife (SHE demotes YOU)
/r/askTRP13/03/21 08:42 PM
4

Authenticity builds attraction. Women say they want a man who is "vulnerable" and can "show his emotions." What they are actually attracted to is a man who owns his emotions. If you didn't cry at your father's funeral, they might get turned off because that comes across as inauthentic. In other situations, YMMV
/r/askTRP13/03/21 08:35 PM
1

This. You need to work on yourself before you're even ready for a threeway
/r/askTRP13/03/21 08:30 PM
1

This
/r/askTRP13/03/21 08:27 PM
3

Why are you letting a mere woman get you emotional (anger)? If you react to this mild shit test (hell, she probably doesn't even realize she is doing it), you are losing frame. Pretty women tend to be narcissistic, so you are hearing a lot of this. Why do you care? It's just woman-blather, doesn't mean shit. More importantly, here is the key tell: probably just because I treat them well. Yeah, you're overdoing it.
/r/askTRP13/03/21 08:27 PM
1

If you don't want to lie, become a man that women want to have sex with. And it has little to do with looks, Leonardo.
/r/askTRP13/03/21 08:17 PM
1

You have to lie because you've already given up your frame to them. They sniff out your weak ass and find you are a pussy. So they want provision commitment before they open the gates.
/r/askTRP13/03/21 08:14 PM
1

WTF? Cut you? Vet them better.
/r/askTRP13/03/21 08:11 PM
0

COVID.
/r/askTRP13/03/21 08:10 PM
4

Depends on the girl. Some girls get off on actually being abused/controlled/manipulated. Other girls just like the promise of excitement and danger--the emotional thrill.
/r/askTRP13/03/21 08:09 PM
4

Most girls can't come from just penetration; that's not unusual. However, vaginal intercourse causing pain is not normal. She was either lying to avoid sex or needed to see a doctor. Or you were sticking it in her ass and she didn't dig it. It's unclear if she left you or you left her. If you left her, forget it and move on. If she left you, she found something better, forget it and move on.
/r/askTRP13/03/21 08:02 PM
7

interview these bitches like you're hiring them for a Full time w/benefits position. And by "interview," that means with the ones that have potential you have to spend time getting to really know them. "Don't listen to what she says, watch what she does."
/r/askTRP13/03/21 07:41 PM
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Date as many women and spin as many plates as possible. Promote only those deserving Vet like your life depends on it--it does If one keeps getting promoted, consider having children with her. See number 3. Don't get married.
/r/askTRP13/03/21 07:38 PM
1

Fuck what up?
/r/askTRP13/03/21 07:29 PM
2

😂 😂 😂
/r/askTRP12/03/21 04:05 AM
1

Fuck college, get a hard skill where you can make some money. A satisfying career is at the intersection of three things: 1. What you are good at (or can become good at). 2. What you are interested in. 3. What is in demand in your area (or other location you would like to live). The world changes quickly now. Be prepared to change careers several times.
/r/askTRP12/03/21 02:05 AM
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Don't worry about what's "beta" or "alpha." A real man does what he wants with intention. That said, the internet is forever.
/r/askTRP12/03/21 02:01 AM
2

Seriously, you want a quick fix. There isn't one. It starts with improving all aspects of yourself.
/r/askTRP12/03/21 01:53 AM
2

Read the sidebar 😂
/r/askTRP12/03/21 01:51 AM
4

You normally can't save a relationship once the woman sees you as beta, but you can give it a shot. But why? Soft next her and go find some more, better women. And this time don't lose frame. If you don't understand this advice, read the sidebar. Then come back and ask questions.
/r/askTRP12/03/21 01:41 AM
2

I can't believe I'm taking time to respond to this. You're equating two different populations of women, one much larger than the other. If a woman gets pregnant she's stuck with caring for a kid, which is truly a pain in the ass for even the most nurturing mother, especially if the man doesn't stick around to provide and help. Ot they get an abortion which is a hassle for her and can have long term impact on her fertility. This is why MOST women use birth control and MOST single women don't want…
/r/askTRP12/03/21 01:30 AM
2

As a male if you say you want a child quickly without vetting the female then you're by default a low value male This
/r/askTRP12/03/21 01:18 AM
2

That's great and I'm happy for you. But you posted for a reason--maybe just your gut is telling you. You don't want to leave her dissatisfied with the marriage. She may secretly feel she "missed out" by getting married early. You definitely don't want to let this issue fester.
/r/askTRP12/03/21 01:14 AM
1

Look, have at it if you want, but realize you are conditioning yourself and it will impact your game negatively. It's like practicing walk-away game instead of number-close or f-close game.
/r/askTRP11/03/21 10:39 PM
1

This is beta orbiter behavior. Just stop.
/r/askTRP11/03/21 10:36 PM
1

Same reason he's seeking validation from random chicks: needy
/r/askTRP11/03/21 10:35 PM
3

You are on the right track. You NEED to improve yourself to save your marriage, or she WILL act on her feelings, if she hasn't already. But don't make her or the marriage your mission.
/r/askTRP11/03/21 10:28 PM
2

BTW, you wrote: Yes I know TRP generally doesn't encourage marriage but I would like to have the traditional nuclear family experience, anyway that's not the point of this post. So you are basically saying, "I want all the benefits that TRP has to offer but I want to pick and choose which principles I like and don't like and everything will be fine." No, it won't. The world doesn't work like that. These are not just some made-up rules, this is how men and women function. You can't just violate t…
/r/askTRP11/03/21 10:21 PM
10

Here's what's going on: you basically put the fear of God into her and she doesn't know how to handle the dread. She now feels replaceable. Your MMV just went sky high and she's waiting for the other shoe to drop (you calling the engagement off). In her mind, why would you hang with her? She doesn't know how she is going to compete. SMV and MMV are two different things but because she's your fiance the imbalance in your MMV directly attacked her self-esteem.
/r/askTRP11/03/21 10:14 PM
3

Yes. It's really hard initially to wrap your head around the fact that your "princess" has been hiding her whoring from you. I know--been there, done that, have the T-shirt. Go easy on yourself--these whores are masters of deception. After you have some time to take a breath, go back and analyze how you were so deceived, but right now, deal with the immediate problem of where to live, etc. EVERYONE ELSE: This is the reason trp tells you not to cohabitate.
/r/askTRP11/03/21 08:45 PM
3

Dude, he's your friend but he gets paid for finding "problems." Who actually wants to work themselves out of a job? You're going to have to fly on your own at some point. Sounds like you are doing a fine job. Sooner rather than later. Good luck.
/r/askTRP11/03/21 04:39 PM
0

This. Create a young entrepreneurs meetup on Zoom, and then meet IRL.
/r/askTRP11/03/21 03:59 PM
16

Three types of feminists: Fat and/or ugly, no hope of landing a man. And/or lesbian, hate men anyway. Domineering. Can’t find a mate because she wants an Alpha, but only Betas are going to put up with her Hot, but want to virtue-signal to the world that they are not just a dumb, pretty face/body. All three types put down men for validation.
/r/askTRP11/03/21 03:54 PM
3

Lol
/r/askTRP11/03/21 03:12 PM
1

Whatever you do, it should not be uncompensated. The compensation can either be in money or favors owed. You're already getting compensated in your job, so if your boss is asking, that's a no-brainer. But in "matrixed" organizations (which I hate) you might have several bosses asking, or more likely, their subordinates needing your help. Hard to avoid--it's part of your job to help them. If it's someone in your industry, take your compensation in a favor owed (don't let the balance get too one-s…
/r/askTRP11/03/21 03:08 PM
1

This girl is a bit wild, and she told me about so pretty crazy stuff she had gotten up to in her past. Hot/Crazy Matrix TM. The hotter they are, the nuttier. She asked my about any wild stuff I've gotten up to in my past...we'd just finished up. Yeah, this is a sexual context. She was probably qualifying you to see if you could be kinkier. What was the sex like? Maybe she likes you but thought the sex was a little tame. Sounds like she's very experienced. See the other posts for responses. The p…
/r/askTRP11/03/21 03:00 PM
1

A job interview is all about chemistry, more so if women are interviewing you. They already know that you're qualified or they wouldn't call you in. If they have any specific areas of concern, they'll probe them. The interview is to check if you drool, if you're too "old" or "young" for the position, if your voice is abrasive and irritating, if you can get along with co-workers--all of the soft skills and intangibles. They want to see you fitting into the company and its culture. Couple of ways …
/r/askTRP11/03/21 02:47 PM
1

This
/r/askTRP11/03/21 02:36 PM
1

Women say all kinds of random stuff. "Watch what they do, not what they say." If she keeps trying to stir things up, she's bored and wants to create more emotion. To maintain the LTR, change it up on her now and then to keep it interesting. Take her somewhere that will stimulate strong emotion (think of a roller coaster pre-COVID), either a physical activity or something mental like a good horror flick.
/r/askTRP11/03/21 02:34 PM
1

"You can't change your past, but you can change your future." I didn't wise up to trp until my wife left me at 60 (yeah, I'm a slow learner). But my life now is better than ever. Be grateful for the hard-fought wisdom that you have acquired (many men never get there), and resolve to keep growing and getting better.
/r/askTRP11/03/21 02:23 PM
2

Knew a guy with one eye that kind of wandered away from center. Never seemed to hold him back. You can try eye exercises to strengthen the ocular muscles, but otherwise I agree with the comments above—ignore and carry yourself confidently.
/r/askTRP11/03/21 01:48 PM
2

"...to start building upon your hypergamy..." WTF are you talking about?
/r/askTRP11/03/21 03:32 AM
2

"There's this one girl..." -------------------->
/r/askTRP11/03/21 03:28 AM
1

You are always going to be trading time for money. Who do you want to work for, the boss or yourself?
/r/askTRP11/03/21 03:25 AM
1

Shit test. This is so basic you should be embarrassed. Go look at the side bar ---->
/r/askTRP11/03/21 03:21 AM
1

Bond. James Bond. You think he worries about what to say? Sure, he's witty when he wants to be, but most of the time he's a man of few words but unmistakable intention. Use that to your advantage. Women want an emotional rollercoaster. Many ways to do that besides banter.
/r/askTRP11/03/21 03:18 AM
0

"I know every girl I meet sees me as a provider." This, here, is your problem. You have no game and no frame. They see you as non-sexual. It has nothing to do with whether or not you are sensitive.
/r/askTRP11/03/21 03:12 AM
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Your friends are people who are there for you IRL. There are no "friends" on social media, unless you have a RL relationship. Social media presents the illusion of friends.
/r/askTRP11/03/21 03:08 AM
2

Not everything is 9th dimensional chess. In fact most things aren't.
/r/askTRP01/03/21 10:31 PM
2

You sound like you are waaaaayyy overthinking this. Did you ever even ask her out?
/r/askTRP01/03/21 10:30 PM
1

Of course it's the easy part. Our cave-dwelling ancestors figured it out--so can you.
/r/askTRP01/03/21 09:26 PM
2

And why would you need a car in DT Seattle?
/r/askTRP01/03/21 09:23 PM
6

It sounds like you don't have a lot of resources--I would look for a two bed two bath apt so you can split expenses. But I suspect that your location is not your main obstacle to meeting women. The are lots of lonely women in the burbs. Maybe you need to focus on making yourself more high-value.
/r/askTRP01/03/21 09:22 PM
3

Who are your other plates?
/r/askTRP01/03/21 09:16 PM
1

There is plenty of advice out there on good kissing and good sex. That's the easy part, and you'll get better quickly with experience and desire to improve. You've got to get to that point first. That's why being comfortable approaching women who interest you and then getting a number close or a same day date is crucial.
/r/askTRP01/03/21 09:05 PM
2

You don't need to be a jerk with most women. You need to be confident, masculine, dominant, and take her on an emotional ride. Women go with jerks because if it comes down to a jerk with these qualities vs. a "nice guy" who is none of these, the woman will be attracted to the jerk.
/r/askTRP01/03/21 09:01 PM
2

DARE, not DEER. If you don't know what this means, you need to read the sidebar.
/r/askTRP01/03/21 08:57 PM
3

Yeah, you really need to work on your DGAF. Women are smelling the inauthenticity. The more you hang out with beautiful young women, the more this will go away. You are putting them on a pedestal. If you weren't, you wouldn't be changing your behavior like you say. If it helps, visualize every hot woman you meet as a bratty little 8-yo girl. Because basically that's what they are.
/r/askTRP01/03/21 08:54 PM
1

MattyAnon, you are way more kind than I would ever be.
/r/askTRP01/03/21 08:45 PM
1

Literally cannot imagine a girl actually wanting me because I have never seen it for myself. Yes. Success in anything starts with visualizing, feeling, and believing the outcome. You've already decided you have the capability to get a doctorate, so you are taking action to make that happen. If you want success with women, you must first believe you can have it. TRP shows you how. ALL of us here know it works.
/r/askTRP01/03/21 08:39 PM
3

"Well, but harumpf harumpf harumpf!" Yeah, you definitely need to work on your game dude and stop trying to buy your way into their hearts.
/r/askTRP01/03/21 04:49 PM
5

Uhh yes, isn't that the whole AF/BB dichotomy? That girls are looking for an alpha to fuck them raw and a beta to provide for them? No. Except for a few gold-diggers, "girls" typically are not "looking for a beta to provide for them," although they are happy to get freebies and gifts. Women LOOK for providers when they are pregnant or hit the wall. Girls just wanna have fu-un.
/r/askTRP01/03/21 04:45 PM
1

This is OP's idea of texting only for logistics? Lmao
/r/askTRP01/03/21 04:25 PM
2

What the fuck am I doing wrong apart from the obvious? Using dating apps exclusively. Get out IRL. Day game.
/r/askTRP01/03/21 03:58 PM
2

I think you should obsess about this all day. That'll make it better.
/r/askTRP01/03/21 03:56 PM
1

True dat. The sidebar should be easy for OP but he obviously has more important stuff to read.
/r/askTRP01/03/21 03:51 PM
2

That's right, blame COVID. Are you kidding??? So many women are DTF--they are going stir-crazy. Stop making excuses and start self-improving. And you'll never get a PhD with an attitude like that.
/r/askTRP01/03/21 03:48 PM
1

Then MGTOW is your only option, dude.
/r/askTRP01/03/21 03:45 PM
2

lol
/r/askTRP01/03/21 03:44 PM
1

THIS THIS THIS. Y'all are listening to what she said instead of seeing what she did. As soon as OP went for the kiss she comes up with a lame excuse. She hadn't made up her mind/wasn't attracted enough yet--this is undoubtedly a shit test and OP failed by taking it seriously. "Medical massage"--could she have been any clearer that she could be DTF? my God you people are retarded--to the sidebar with you and a pox on your houses.
/r/askTRP01/03/21 03:41 PM
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This. Also, your post appears to emphasize provision vs. attraction. Are you thinking that because you are well-off compared to these girls that they should automatically be attracted to you? Sounds like you need to work on your game.
/r/askTRP01/03/21 03:29 PM
4

Taking a subordinates' livelihood is a dick move. This said, ask yourself if he is a better closer than you. If so, he's doing you a favor. If not, he should be splitting commission on a team sale. Is he taking your clients because he's a better closer or because he doesn't have prospects of his own? If the latter, here's how I'd handle it: You need options. Fortunately, there are plenty available for successful salespeople. Prospect some other sales jobs that have equal or better compensation s…
/r/askTRP01/03/21 03:08 PM
1

No problem. Google DiCarlo's Kino Escalation Ladder -- or it may be here on the sidebar as well.
/r/askTRP01/03/21 02:43 PM
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Find a better school. If your teachers are as useless as you say, you're wasting your time there.
/r/askTRP28/02/21 04:47 AM
4

Look, this doesn't mean you have to be a stoic asshole 24/7. Most quality women are attracted to authenticity in a man. But just be aware that an LTR is RedPill on Hard mode. You will need to actively work to keep her attraction. Women get bored quickly. Esther Perel (Mating in Captivity) has some great stuff on the conflict between a woman's need for security and emotional need for excitement. Athol Kay has some great advice on how to keep a relationship fresh and your woman attracted to you.
/r/askTRP28/02/21 03:52 AM
1

"...quit her job..." That's nothing to most women. She can get other work. You're her job. "...leave her family..." That's a bigger deal. Some women are more attached to their families than others. Some long to travel and have adventures in new places. Which type is your girl? If you think it's a show-stopper for her, be prepared for the break-up. But don't change important plans for a woman, even an LTR.
/r/askTRP28/02/21 03:21 AM
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The internet is forever. It's possible she came across old photos. But more likely is she is just trying to stir the pot.
/r/askTRP28/02/21 03:17 AM
1

Women change their minds all the time. Figure out how much risk you can tolerate and whether it's worth it before making this decision.
/r/askTRP28/02/21 03:13 AM
2

Look, I'm not your generation but IMHO if you want to take a girl home you need to take some initiative. You're showing great DGAF attitude, but you will have to lead her to get her to follow. It seems that the girls are initially interested in you, but you're not following through to build attraction and get her to go home with you. This could take the form of flirting/teasing her verbally a bit, but you strike me as the silent type. So it could be isolating and escalating ("Come sit with me so…
/r/askTRP28/02/21 03:07 AM
1

I didn’t apologize, just briefly explained my view but probably she wants me to excuse like a good little boy Explaining is weak. DARE, don't DEER. If you don't know what that means, read the sidebar on shittests.
/r/askTRP27/02/21 11:26 PM
1

"...the pandemic has made hiring new women impossible..." Please reassure me that you don't shit where you eat.
/r/askTRP27/02/21 11:17 PM
1

I was fortunate to raise them with their mom until they were out of the house.
/r/askTRP27/02/21 11:04 PM
1

This. If she is a plate why do you care who she is fucking? What about your other plates? Are there any others?
/r/askTRP27/02/21 11:02 PM
0

Diversify into hard assets. Examples: Home that could be converted into rental real estate if you had to move. Gold and Silver. Crypto. Land that produces food or oil. Guns and ammo. Anything that will hold value during hyperinflation.
/r/askTRP27/02/21 10:56 PM
2

Take a lot of cold showers. Seriously, what do you want us to say? You're in a draught, and the way you've described it, you have little opportunity for meeting women unless you travel further afield. Unless there are yoga studios or teacher's colleges in your small town, or other venues where you can approach. Make the best of your situation and go monk mode.
/r/askTRP27/02/21 10:46 PM
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You were trying too hard and she sensed this: "...5 sentences all in different categories (tease,question...) with no luck." You should be qualifying her instead. There are no magic "lines." But there is day game. You should read up on it.
/r/askTRP27/02/21 10:41 PM
1

Is it the antelope's fault if the lion kills it? It's just the lion's nature, isn't it? Or did the antelope not do enough to avoid it? We all have agency, but everything is not all about us.
/r/askTRP27/02/21 10:35 PM
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Withdraw some attention. See what happens.
/r/askTRP27/02/21 10:29 PM
5

Men love women like women love children, like children love dogs, like dogs love men. In general, women don't love men like men want to be loved by a woman. The only woman who will love you like this is your mother.
/r/askTRP27/02/21 10:27 PM
1

This is harsh but fair. The point is that you need to fix yourself first if you want better women. The good news is that 46 is actually pretty young, and you say you are in good shape. Depending on your SMV you could be pulling 25-year-olds. I'd start with frame. You are way too emotional and invested. Begin with non-reactiveness.
/r/askTRP27/02/21 10:23 PM
2

"You can't negotiate desire" comes to mind here.
/r/askTRP27/02/21 10:10 PM
1

No, I've been on TRP for 2 fucking years and haven't glanced at the sidebar. WTF. Of course he's "allowed" to. We all have choices. Women change their minds. Men keep their promises. But you do you.
/r/askTRP27/02/21 09:37 PM
1

Nope
/r/askTRP27/02/21 09:30 PM
1

Lots to unwrap here, but let me take a shot, having succeeded and failed in various sales positions. Success in sales is fundamentally about problem solving. You have to simultaneously solve two of the prospective customer's problems-- a) the material need for the solution that your product/services offers, and b) the emotional need of being able to trust they are making the right decision by buying from you. You haven't really said that you are successful at closing sales, but you say you are b…
/r/askTRP27/02/21 05:03 PM
1

This is absolutely true. Show a weak frame and they are like sharks smelling blood in the water
/r/askTRP26/02/21 10:34 PM
1

And you must banish negative self-talk. Absolutely forbid it. You wouldn’t talk to a friend that way. Don’t allow yourself to talk that way to YOU.
/r/askTRP26/02/21 10:22 PM
1

That’s a great start. You need to believe in yourself, that you are valuable, that you matter, and don’t let success be defined by your past mistakes or how women treat you. First find victories in other areas of your life and then women will be attracted to you.
/r/askTRP26/02/21 10:20 PM
0

Because we are men and sometimes we have to do the right thing. Not the right thing that society says (“Marry the girl!”) but the RIGHT right thing. Example: You are a fireman and your chief tells you to run into that burning building and rescue the person inside. You don’t say at that point, “I quit” because it’s in your self-interest. You made a promise, you took the training and the paycheck. Whether you should have signed up in the first place is a different question. Other people are totall…
/r/askTRP26/02/21 10:11 PM
3

Wish I had a job to offer but I don’t. You’re looking for a quick fix. World runs by the law of the farm, my friend (plow, sow, cultivate, harvest). Not the law of the school (cram all night for the final, pass the course). Good luck. Lifting you and your mom in prayer.
/r/askTRP26/02/21 06:57 PM
2

Not gonna lie to you that being “deformed” is not going to hold you back. But you need to find something of high value in yourself. If you don’t a hold yourself in high esteem, no woman ever will. Surely you are higher value than most female “5”s. I know a guy who is short and butt ugly but even he has a woman and kids.
/r/askTRP26/02/21 06:51 PM
1

Woman calling you ugly is a shit test. Do you know what that is?
/r/askTRP26/02/21 06:47 PM
1

Ok so you have or have not read material on day game, i.e. approaching?
/r/askTRP26/02/21 06:46 PM
1

Plus who is going to take care of me in my old age after all my women have left me for Chad?
/r/askTRP26/02/21 06:43 PM
4

My children are a blessing and my legacy. They are a natural part and consequence of life. I can’t imagine having lived a full life without the experience of raising them and loving them.
/r/askTRP26/02/21 06:42 PM
2

Haha, no. Get offline and start approaching. You’ll have much better success. But read about day game first. Good luck.
/r/askTRP26/02/21 06:38 PM
2

You haven’t said anything about her other than you want a divorce. Is she still attracted to you, and you to her? Is there a chance of saving the marriage? Divorce is traumatic on children. Her son is the innocent bystander in all this but your infant daughter will also live with the ramifications of divorce. You fucked up by wifing up a single mom. But now there are children involved. You sound kind of like a selfish prick to me (the whole post has a “how do I get out of this?” vibe to it). Sou…
/r/askTRP26/02/21 06:32 PM
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You’re looking for permission. You’re not going to get it here. Nothing good ever comes from sex in the workplace. Having said that, she doesn’t work in your company. No HR authority. Have at it It does however betray a lack of abundance mentality (“Yeah but there’s one girl who’s an exception...”)
/r/askTRP26/02/21 06:13 PM
1

No, not with an attitude like that (didn’t even bother to read the post).
/r/askTRP26/02/21 06:10 PM
1

I would not say that they are a facade. The fact the some people treat them like a facade does not mean that there aren’t good reasons for having them. Societies that are less corrupt are generally more functional and provide more opportunities for people than those that are more corrupt. So it’s up to the majority to enforce the rational rules legally and socially, or society breaks down. You see this in the legacy corporate media. You can’t trust anything they write because they have been so c…
/r/askTRP26/02/21 06:04 PM
1

Oh God no. Jesus.
/r/askTRP26/02/21 02:04 PM
3

First of all, learn to spell “corruption” correctly. Second, many of not most people will take advantage in a system that doesn’t enforce rules against breaches of integrity. Don’t expect systems to protect you. Rather, figure out your relationship with people with power in those systems to protect yourself. Read The 48 Laws of Power.
/r/askTRP26/02/21 01:59 PM
14

Yes, this, and don’t take yourself so seriously. 99% of your fuck-ups will never be cared about or remembered by anyone.
/r/askTRP01/02/21 03:18 AM
3

Quickly is not important.
/r/askTRP01/02/21 03:16 AM
6

Tell her you’re out of weed and trying to cut down anyway. She’ll eventually lose interest entirely.
/r/askTRP31/01/21 12:29 AM
1

Google Tom Torero day game and start approaching women during the day. No excuses—get out there!
/r/askTRP30/01/21 03:33 PM
4

It’s not you. They’re tired of lockdowns and no events and bored out of their minds.
/r/askTRP30/01/21 12:10 PM
4

They love the emotional rollercoaster. She’s bored and trying to stir the pot
/r/askTRP30/01/21 12:09 PM
5

And your bro doesn’t hate you. He hates himself, and for good reason. You’re just a convenient target for that hate
/r/askTRP30/01/21 12:04 PM
5

He owes you a game controller and a sincere apology. 25 and sponging off his parents? Your parents are the problem. I doubt they will change if they’ve let it go this far. YOU need to move out and find other roommates.
/r/askTRP30/01/21 12:03 PM
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Dude you are putting the cart way before the horse. You just met this girl, she makes excuses why she can’t see you and you’re already spinning fantasies about making her your fb? Seriously? Read the sidebar, don’t shit where you eat and go meet some other women to rid yourself of scarcity mentality. Jesus.
/r/askTRP30/01/21 11:52 AM
5

Not everything is about you
/r/askTRP30/01/21 11:47 AM
7

Will people...? Mostly both, if you’re in corporate America. Should you bother? Yes, but choose your friends wisely after getting evidence of their character. “Ruin your life.” This is overly dramatic. You are the the most likely person to ruin your life, by making poor decisions.
/r/askTRP30/01/21 11:43 AM
10

Grab her ear and yank her head down to your lap.
/r/askTRP30/01/21 11:37 AM
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This is ideal. The fact that you are potentially pursued by one attractive woman is social proof to the other that you are higher value than you would be otherwise. Women instinctively compete with each other for high value men. This is seen in the other woman’s behavior, I.e. asking a lot of questions. Women take longer to become attracted and she’s trying to figure out your status and value in this new context. What to do: If she asks just tell her “we’ve dated” and let the mystery mess with h…
/r/askTRP30/01/21 11:23 AM
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Edited
/r/askTRP29/01/21 12:07 AM
7

There is a whole literature about responding to shit tests on the side bar. DARE Deflect: “You’re signing up for a motorcycle ride. Let’s see how it goes from there.” Absurdly Amplify: “We’re jumping the Grand Canyon. My Dad was Evel Knievel.” Repeat: “What else ARE we doing besides motorcycle riding?” Exit: (silence)
/r/askTRP29/01/21 12:00 AM
1

Ok. Here’s what’s happening. She’s bored and falling or fallen out of love with you. If she was still into you she’d be falling all over herself to cook and clean for you. Why: 1. She’s banging someone else 2. She’s feeling neglected in the marriage. 3. Both 1 & 2 Solution: Negative reinforcement is not going to work here. She’s lost that lovin’ feeling. Marriage is TRP on impossible level. But, if you want to give it a shot, get a copy of Athol Kay’s Sex Life Guide. You’ll have to romance her b…
/r/askTRP13/01/21 06:57 PM
2

BTW, I took the military pilot route. You need a bachelor’s unless you can get into one of the academies, but I’ve never regretted the decision. It changed my life in all kinds of positive ways.
/r/askTRP07/01/21 03:56 PM
2

Don’t go into debt! Apprentice to a trade (masonry, electrician, tile setting, plumbing) to get a good paying job to finance your dreams. A lot of shoe repair guys are retiring or dying off—it’s an open field for young guys. You can charge a lot to people (mostly women) who have high quality footwear.
/r/askTRP07/01/21 03:52 PM
2

^ This. Don’t you thing there are other other girls, younger and more suited to motherhood, and better matched to your desire for a lower n count? Go find them, then reflect. Get your head out of scarcity and oneitis.
/r/askTRP06/01/21 12:54 AM
1

Just don't forget the plausible deniability part.
/r/askTRP12/10/20 04:26 AM
1

Grocery markets. Yoga class.
/r/askTRP12/10/20 04:18 AM
1

Good Lord <facepalm>
/r/askTRP12/10/20 04:02 AM
2

yeah, don't ask, tell.
/r/askTRP12/10/20 03:28 AM
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You ignored the red flags and LTR'd a player. Yes, ghost her ass, walk away with a nice trip, and go find 3 girls 15 years younger than you. And stop trying to make a housewife out of a hoe.
/r/askTRP12/10/20 03:18 AM
2

37 is not old. If your SMV is high enough women will chase you regardless of age.
/r/askTRP26/09/20 07:22 PM
1

barading?
/r/askTRP06/09/20 10:08 PM
1

This totally. Also, buy with cash, not credit. If you can't save up for it, you can't afford it. Use credit judiciously to increase income (like getting a mortgage on a rental that will positive cash flow). 5 levels of wealth: 1. You can make enough to cover necessities 2. You make enough to save and invest 3. You make enough to supplement income from investments 4. You make enough to quit your job and live off investment income 5. You make enough to live off investments AND save and invest in n…
/r/askTRP08/07/20 07:07 PM
11

"He's so hot, he argues about trivial shit that I really don't care about," said no woman ever. Don't argue, don't be drawn into arguments. Be cool and collected. Make an interesting observation or if you see an inconsistency, ask a smart question that turns the argument on its head. No one will perceive you as "chickening out." Sounds like you're way too ego invested. Man of few words. If pressed, "Frankly, I really don't care." Remember, you have off-the-charts DGAF. Everyone will respect you …
/r/askTRP28/06/20 01:25 AM
1

For your friend, Roissy has some good stuff on dealing with men trying to horn in on your girl. Sorry, I don't have a link, but you can check his archive.
/r/askTRP28/06/20 12:38 AM
1

Read the sidebar. "Fitness and self-improvement," and "Guide to social circle game."
/r/askTRP28/06/20 12:31 AM
3

It wasn't leaving her on open, it was talking for an hour that was a mistake. You should have made a date. Wait for while before you contact her again (better if you let her contact you first). She bored you, so you left. In the meantime, meet other women.
/r/askTRP28/06/20 12:26 AM
1

When out approaching women, focus on how they are dressed.
/r/askTRP28/06/20 12:20 AM
2

She's a girl--her best friends will know all the details of your relationship that she is comfortable sharing. But if this girl is blabbing everything to casual acquaintances, as well as telling you all THEIR problems too, she is a hopeless gossip. If said GF won't respect your boundaries (and the way you've described her character, it sounds like she won't), then it's time to next her. And for next time, you shouldn't be getting all butthurt when setting boundaries. It should be calm and matter…
/r/askTRP28/06/20 12:10 AM
4

You are in her frame. She should be chasing you. It feels like she is using you for validation, or is looking for commitment first. Screw that. You didn't close the deal on the second try. Soft next and see if she's still interested.
/r/askTRP21/06/20 04:22 AM
2

Some good stuff to frame the issue is in Are we exclusive? Handling "The Talk" in the sidebar.
/r/askTRP21/06/20 04:00 AM
1

The best thing you can do for him now is be a strong male role model, since his step dad is weak.
/r/askTRP21/06/20 03:55 AM
7

This is a shit test. Your reaction is way more important than your size, dude.
/r/askTRP21/06/20 03:41 AM
3

Tomassi Iron Rule #7
/r/askTRP20/06/20 07:17 PM
1

Action is a good antidote to overthinking as well. Work on being decisive.
/r/askTRP20/06/20 07:16 PM
1

Couple of articles on the impact of chemicals on hormones: https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2009/01/090118200636.htm https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0160412016304494
/r/askTRP20/06/20 07:14 PM
2

Couple of things in addition to lift, eat clean, avoid pesticides. Focus on exercising large muscle groups (e.g. thighs) to get the biggest testosterone boost from lifting. Play competitive sports to get that courage/competition rush going. Use natural products for bathing & grooming (shampoo, toothpaste, deodorant); the skin absorbs a lot of chemicals in grooming products. Eat meat with animal fat and shellfish. Cholesterol is the building material for testosterone. If you're worried about gett…
/r/askTRP20/06/20 04:25 PM
1

Sounds like she's a big girl. She can invest her time the way she sees fit--not your problem to worry about whether she's wasting it on you. You know what you want. What's keeping you? I reminded her I don’t plan for marriage or even think I can just sleep with one girl -Her response simply was if I do, just ‘tell me before you do’. You don't need to explain yourself. If you start using a condom with her and you haven't before, that will tell her, but you shouldn't be afraid to be more explicit.…
/r/askTRP20/06/20 04:01 PM
5

This. Also, yeah use condoms with everyone, even with her. Protect you both.
/r/askTRP20/06/20 03:55 PM
1

Ordinarily, yeah, but maybe dangerous if she's hit the wall.
/r/askTRP20/06/20 03:43 PM
3

"Drinks at Joe's at 8. Bring the laptop."
/r/askTRP19/06/20 11:31 PM
1

Always expect LMR and be prepared to deal with it.
/r/askTRP19/06/20 11:16 PM
1

Who cares? Stop wasting your time.
/r/askTRP19/06/20 11:13 PM
2

This. And by the way, Don Draper is an amazing storyteller when he wants to be. But he holds all that power in reserve. He's not shooting his mouth off every five seconds looking for approval, or to entertain. So when he says something, people pay attention. When he flirts with women, he says only enough words to pique their interest.
/r/askTRP12/06/20 05:11 PM
2

This. And focus on what's unique about them. People love to talk about themselves. Then take something and twist it around with a smile and flirt. "I love people." "Really? How many people a day do you love?"
/r/askTRP12/06/20 04:45 PM
3

Read "Looking Out for #1" by Robert Ringer.
/r/askTRP12/06/20 04:39 PM
0

Don't know your country but this is what I'd do in the U.S. I'd recommend NOT going to college until you have it figured out. Very big investment, the ROI is not there unless you're in a STEM field. Most colleges suck at actually preparing you for a career. Rather, sign up for a vocational course and get a practical trade that's in demand. For example, plumbers make a lot without college (but you don't seem like the plumber type). Maybe masonry would appeal to your artistic sense. Database admin…
/r/askTRP12/06/20 04:36 PM
12

This. She needs to chase him. He was chasing her after getting her number.
/r/askTRP12/06/20 04:27 PM
3

I'll try one more time, then I'm done. You take constructive criticism as a personal attack. Don't Give A Fuck. Also, you seem to think that being a man is about pussy, money, and "dick swinging." It's actually about integrity, courage, generosity, compassion...you know, some personality attributes that might attract people to you. Good luck.
/r/askTRP06/06/20 09:21 PM
1

👍
/r/askTRP06/06/20 08:27 PM
6

The fact that you felt compelled to defend yourself so wordily tells everyone about your level of maturity (zero). You need to DGAF. Being a man isn't defined by how much pussy you get or don't get. No one can help you if you won't listen. "Toxic masculinity" is a term made up by man-haters and their allies to shame masculine men. OK, so you've made some improvements in yourself, and this is an area of your life you need help with. My read is that you are still a spoiled little boy. I could be w…
/r/askTRP06/06/20 08:19 PM
3

SMV = Sexual Market Value. "Waste your semen?" Lol. Sidebar is over there--->
/r/askTRP06/06/20 08:05 PM
5

You're immature. It reeks from your post. I have no social capital, bc of my looks (ginger) This is stupid. Social capital doesn't come from looks. It comes from attracting interesting people or just dominating a room. Thousands of ugly men have social capital. Basically making friends is impossible to me. You want people to like you so much, you're coming off desperate and needy, because you are. People can smell the desperation a mile way. First, raise your DGAF factor. sometimes when I’m up I…
/r/askTRP06/06/20 07:54 PM
1

"escalate, etc." means you're smashing them? Not clear. Maybe your sex is boring. Get better in bed.
/r/askTRP06/06/20 06:40 PM
1

Be brief and to the point. Then stop talking.
/r/askTRP06/06/20 06:34 PM
1

Life fucked me over bad. Utter bullshit. Nothing will change until you get over this mindset.
/r/askTRP06/06/20 06:32 PM
3

I usually mock and ridicule giant text walls, but you sound sincere. I found faith, I don't fully believe yet but its a work in progress... Read Strobel's The Case for Christ or get the movie. It's an intellectual defense of Christian faith by a former investigative crime reporter at the Chicago Tribune. It'll strengthen your faith and help you develop a solid sense of self-worth. Keep getting help for your mental health issues. Be persistent and stick with it.
/r/askTRP06/06/20 06:28 PM
3

This^^^
/r/askTRP06/06/20 06:14 PM
6

she doesn't bang on first date That's what she says Yes. She would have if OP's game and SMV had been high enough. OP should continue to improve for better results.
/r/askTRP06/06/20 06:08 PM
7

The point I got was that SHE didn't give a shit about something that women always SAY they care about. But it's only important when it's HER birthday.
/r/askTRP19/05/20 03:50 PM
1

Wall of text. Didn't finish middle school?
/r/askTRP19/05/20 02:56 PM
2

Also, if an LTR is RP on hard mode, marriage is RP on impossible level.
/r/askTRP19/05/20 02:27 PM
1

The real point is you can't get married and live in a no-fault state. There, you have unlimited liability if she walks. And there is no incentive to stay in the marriage if she becomes unhappy. She'll dig around for divorce info and realize she can walk away with the kids, cash, and prizes and too bad for you.
/r/askTRP19/05/20 02:26 PM
1

Good God man, what a hoe
/r/askTRP18/05/20 10:26 PM
1

We don't need the government printing trillions (truly an incomprehensible amount) and becoming the next Zimbabwe or Weimar Republic. What we do need is simple liability waiver--everyone operates at his own risk wrt COVID.
/r/askTRP18/05/20 10:20 PM
2

You're overthinking this. You are obviously booksmart and approach life in an analytical manner. You say nothing about your physical attributes or (more importantly) your game. Your SMV is increasing, but you don't give us an idea of where you are on the scale. Honestly, if you're 4/10, you might want to stick to interest groups. Otherwise, if you've read and internalized the sidebar, you already know the answer: Improve yourself and approach approach approach (you don't seem to have a problem w…
/r/askTRP18/05/20 04:09 PM
1

Invest some green in a Dave Ramsey course like FPU. This will answer your question.
/r/askTRP18/05/20 03:53 PM
22

Sex with most women is 90% mental. Learn to build anticipation. Spend some time on the /seduction subredit. Read some bodice-rippers and get inside the mind of a chick. Remember, her entire body is an erogenous zone. Back of the neck drives many wild. When you get to the main event, tease her G-spot with your finger(s). Push-Pull. Be dominant.
/r/askTRP18/05/20 08:10 AM
2

So basically if she's doing what the other guy says she's already shown she's not LTR-worthy.
/r/askTRP28/03/20 08:57 PM
2

The context that OP gave was not pass the ketchup.
/r/askTRP28/03/20 08:33 PM
2

🐟
/r/askTRP21/03/20 07:17 PM
2

I'd tell myself to stop writing book-length posts when you already know the answer.
/r/askTRP19/03/20 03:08 PM
1

👍
/r/askTRP19/03/20 12:57 PM
1

haha, once more with feeling: http://heartistelives.com/2015/10/06/an-eye-contact-crib-shit/ Or google An Eye Contact Crib Sheet Chateaux Heartiste
/r/askTRP19/03/20 05:06 AM
1

You're not hearing.
/r/askTRP19/03/20 04:14 AM
1

See if the edit fixed it
/r/askTRP19/03/20 04:13 AM
1

you are looking for any justification to continue your oneitis. Not going to get that validation here, bro.
/r/askTRP19/03/20 04:02 AM
1

Cash on delivery. She was a shopaholic.
/r/askTRP19/03/20 04:00 AM
1

Wait, aren't you the one asking for advice here?
/r/askTRP19/03/20 03:59 AM
1

there was this loner guy in a band, ugly but tall, tryina talk to girls but you could tell hes awkward Man you have literally described the late Ric Ocasek, who snagged the no-kidding hottest woman of his era, Paulina Porizkova. You might want to google them both. Fix yourself first and your women won't stray.
/r/askTRP19/03/20 03:53 AM
1

^^^This.
/r/askTRP19/03/20 03:47 AM
1

Funny, Heartiste had a post on this very subject: archive.li/3fuIA
/r/askTRP19/03/20 03:37 AM
2

Cross-fit, yoga, or Orange method. Some fitness thing with a lot of women. Post Corona, of course.
/r/askTRP19/03/20 03:35 AM
1

We're actually thankful that we spat out the blue pill before we even die Damn right
/r/askTRP19/03/20 03:33 AM
1

If you're letting this bother you, you have no frame.
/r/askTRP19/03/20 03:32 AM
1

This is bullshit. Dump the 40-yo. Forget about your colleague and find other young ones as hot or hotter. You're 28--your value is only increasing.
/r/askTRP19/03/20 03:31 AM
5

Go backpacking with a buddy in the Cascades. Summer is coming and it will be glorious. Great fun and confidence building.
/r/askTRP19/03/20 03:23 AM
1

Dude, this is snark. Don't really do this or HR will be all over your ass.
/r/askTRP19/03/20 02:45 AM
1

If for some reason they don't look at the results of your first interview and you get to interview again, this time kino the psychologist.
/r/askTRP19/03/20 02:44 AM
2

😂
/r/askTRP19/03/20 02:43 AM
0

If she liked the sex, she'll contact you. If not, she won't.
/r/askTRP19/03/20 02:42 AM
0

Fuck texting, talk to her IRL. Ignore the rest.
/r/askTRP19/03/20 02:40 AM
23

Dude, you've been a boyfriend to this girl for six years. If you've truly been "practicing the sidebar" she is probably more attracted to you now than she's ever been, unless she's gotten tired of you as well (which it doesn't sound like). There will be no pain-free way (for her) to end it. But you don't need to be unnecessarily cruel if she's done nothing wrong--it sounds like she's stood by your blue-pilled ass for six frickin years. Man up, take responsibility, and just give her a reason why …
/r/askTRP19/03/20 02:32 AM
3

😂😂
/r/askTRP19/03/20 02:15 AM
1

Dear TRP, why do so many commenters overthink the most trivial stuff?
/r/askTRP19/03/20 01:04 AM
1

There's a difference between teasing and insulting. Learn the difference.
/r/askTRP18/03/20 02:34 AM
1

Look at it this way: there are some guys who will cheat on their wives no matter how hot they are. And guys tend to be raised with values like honor and loyalty. Chicks not so much. So multiply that by a factor of AWALT when it's the other way around. Some women will cheat on him no matter how alpha ("hot") he is.
/r/askTRP14/03/20 03:41 AM
1

Stop eating so much and lose some weight. Oh, how? Cut our processed/junk food. ZERO sugar (or as close to it as you can get). Eat the best, protein- and fat-rich food you can afford. Dense calories. Get rid of simple carbs. Eat as much complex carbs (veg, potato skins, greens, fruits) as you want. You'll have to gut it out for a couple of weeks, but after that your energy will be through the roof and you won't be hungry all the time. You crave shit because you eat that addictive shit.
/r/askTRP14/03/20 03:28 AM
5

Newton invented the calculus when Cambridge sent everyone home for the black plague.
/r/askTRP14/03/20 03:21 AM
1

This is some serious hamstering. You the girl, or is she?
/r/askTRP14/03/20 03:10 AM
1

Do the Heartiste over-the-shoulder-barely-interested maneuver: "Hey, you seem interesting but I don't want to lose my place in line. Come here."
/r/askTRP14/03/20 03:07 AM
1

Go get tested for the WuFlu.
/r/askTRP14/03/20 03:03 AM
13

No, you need to develop a personality and really start to appreciate women. In spite of their numerous flaws.
/r/askTRP14/03/20 03:01 AM
1

People ask me, "How do you get up at 4-fucking-30 every morning to go to the gym?" I tell them, "I set my alarm and get up at 4:30 and go to the gym."
/r/askTRP14/03/20 02:56 AM
3

You are looking for a silver bullet. There isn't one, except this: improve yourself.
/r/askTRP14/03/20 02:53 AM
3

Is there a question here? This is "ask" trp. Otherwise, GTFO
/r/askTRP14/03/20 02:51 AM
1

Wait, will it hurt? Do I have to pee in a cup?
/r/askTRP10/03/20 06:06 AM
0

Buy low, sell high. Seriously, diversification (above and beyond traditional mix of stock and bond funds) and low management fees are the foundations of long investing game. Rental properties have been very good to me but you need to screen for a steady supply of reliable tenants--I like areas near military bases--servicemen have a steady paycheck. International investments, precious metals, maybe even crypto round out the picture. The most lucrative investment probably is to build a profitable …
/r/askTRP10/03/20 05:53 AM
1

Lighten up
/r/askTRP09/03/20 04:44 AM
1

Sounds to me like you need to heal. While there are lots of cases where the body needs help from specific drugs in recovering, you might try a natural detox regimen followed by changes to diet (clean eating) and lots of rest. It sounds like sleep is what you need the most. I'd try meditation (headspace is a great phone app for this) and melatonin for deep sleep. Then cut out pharmaceuticals, processed foods and junk in your diet. I wouldn't cut out animal fats, though--you need for cholesterol, …
/r/askTRP09/03/20 01:49 AM
3

Could be a lot of things. Women judge you before you even open your mouth. Your body language might give away lack of confidence. There is help here on that. Are you doing better when you're in a group? Then you may be giving off a negative vibe when you're alone. Agree that you should focus on creating a fun environment around yourself, and that usually means bring a group. Also a group provides some social proof, so girls know you're not some solo stalker dude.
/r/askTRP09/03/20 01:33 AM
0

Fencing or Kendo. Will add to your classy vibe for a man in his mid-30s. Just make sure your opponent attacks you with a sword.
/r/askTRP09/03/20 01:22 AM
1

There is an entire literature on shit tests, what they are, and how to respond to them. Hint: DARE instead of DEER. It's over there--------->
/r/askTRP09/03/20 01:04 AM
1

You are so concerned with "getting a reputation." You are all wrapped up in yourself and think people notice you. I've got news for you, they don't. Get over yourself. No one gives a fuck. You're bleeding self-consciousness all over this board. Go monk mode. Then you are assured of not getting a reputation. Or you could just try to make friends and be human instead of twisted up in your bullshit excuses.
/r/askTRP09/03/20 01:00 AM
0

You escalate during the date, matching your escalation to her signals and level of enthusiasm (is she responding positively? Is she touching you back?) Take your time, don't rush it. Generally you want to push forward a little more than her, but pull back occasionally and get her to chase you ("two steps forward, one step back"). You are the prize--she must win you. You qualify her, not the other way around. If you don't make an emotional connection during the date, she will resist further escal…
/r/askTRP09/03/20 12:45 AM
1

Could be she's not interested in round two because you didn't close the first time (when she was probably drunk and had plausible deniability, and/or might have been ovulating).
/r/askTRP09/03/20 12:33 AM
2

Read more about social proof on the sidebar.
/r/askTRP09/03/20 12:21 AM
1

Yes. If your ex treats you well and your date asks about her, be vague and mysterious or drop some bitchnip ("we've dated on and off.") Change the subject. She'll think you two are still seeing each other (preselection, competitive juices get riled up). If your ex treats you like a dick it could backfire. Or it could help--"She's angry because I left her [because she got too clingy"] [when she cheated on me."], etc. YMMV.
/r/askTRP08/03/20 03:23 PM
1

Go about your day. Have another goal in mind, like you need to go shopping for something or you want to take photos in a park. As you're going about your day, don't "hit on" people, meet people. Girls are an adjunct to your life, not the point of it. You'll be known as that friendly "Indian" guy who it's easy to make friends with.
/r/askTRP08/03/20 02:57 PM
2

Yesterday, I decided it was time to make things physical. This is typical LMR but you did it to yourself by hanging with her for so long (2 months!) without sex. She's not your GF, you're just an orbiter. Promising a chick you've known for two months you're going to marry her? Srsly? The question is, what are you doing right? You sound young. However old you are, you need to dig into RP basics. ------->
/r/askTRP07/03/20 07:36 AM
1

For most girls, no. But good sex will usually compensate for mediocre looks and personality.
/r/askTRP07/03/20 07:26 AM
18

😂😂
/r/askTRP05/03/20 11:14 PM
17

This is not a shit test. An actual shit test is when her lizard brain is trying to determine if you are man enough for her to spend time with you. The test is whether your value is high enough for her to put herself in your hands. (Her cavewoman brain is saying, "if he folds from getting shit from me, a mere woman, he's not man enough for me to trust"). This is just a safety thing. She is not willing to meet a random guy that she just met online IRL without the safety of her friends. You have be…
/r/askTRP05/03/20 05:13 PM
1

Are you fapping? If so, lay off. You need three things for a boner--blood flow, testosterone, and desire/stimulation. Try working more on your large muscle groups like thighs when you work out to increase T.
/r/askTRP05/03/20 05:26 AM
1

If you can go to the bar without being tempted, grab a non-alcoholic beer or drink soda on ice in a rocks glass. If someone gives you shit own it and make it your brand ("This is my thing"). Best pilot I knew lifted but never drank--no one gave him shit about it.
/r/askTRP04/03/20 04:04 AM
1

She might have felt safe to give you her number because she knew you could never meet. Women try to avoid turning a man down directly because it can lead to negative consequences with a stranger. You'll never know unless you give her good advance notice and say, "I've got tickets to [event] in [her city] on [day she's off and you can get off]. Come join me." But what would be the point? Find girls closer. Start approaching more nearby. Get more numbers.
/r/askTRP04/03/20 03:43 AM
2

Best thing I liked about her was how she was quick to critic me when I messed up. You can get any bitch to do that for you.
/r/askTRP04/03/20 03:34 AM
1

The social proof may actually help, if your ex is friendly to you, and you play it right. Don't talk about her and screw it up.
/r/askTRP04/03/20 03:27 AM
2

You don't need a yacht. You don't even need to have a dollar in your pocket. You need to be a HV man. (High value doesn't necessarily mean money--often it doesn't). This is like saying, "I want to be rich and famous" without having a single talent. Being rich or famous is the result of achieving something, not an end. "I want girls flocking around me like Dan Bilzerian." That's not a plan, that's just a daydream. First you have to be someone worth flocking around. To the sidebar with you.
/r/askTRP04/03/20 03:18 AM
1

I need to be extremely handsome online That helps but the opener is more important. Something that makes her feel emotion, displays your confidence, captures her interest. Everyone says, "Hey." Don't be everyone. A great opener references something about her that you picked up on that most people wouldn't notice. It might make her laugh or it might be enigmatic, mysterious. Use just a few words. Make her want to chase you. Then, even with your best, it's still a numbers game.
/r/askTRP04/03/20 03:04 AM
1

And you care because.....?
/r/askTRP04/03/20 02:40 AM
0

I think you are looking for someone here to give you a "get out of jail free" card. Sorry, I think your going to have to do that yourself..
/r/askTRP04/03/20 02:39 AM
3

You are not as interesting as a birthday party. Improve yourself.
/r/askTRP04/03/20 02:24 AM
11

Stop lowkey freaking out. Men don't do that. Except maybe when their 100 mil worth of stock is tanking. Then they take a deep breath and get over it and make a plan.
/r/askTRP04/03/20 02:23 AM
1

Is that an IOI? Or are people just weird these days with no personality. This makes zero fucking sense. These two things are not even related. Are you saying "is their mocking me by speaking like I do an IOI?" I would answer, "probably." OR Are people weird...with no personality?" Are you saying when they act like you they are weird and have no personality? So you are weird and you have no personality? Suggest you stop smoking so much, it makes you sound stupid.
/r/askTRP04/03/20 02:20 AM
1

It’s a shit test. She’s not that into you. This is a contradiction. Shit testing normally indicates she's interested. She then tests you because she wants to find out more. It's a chick's cave-days lizard brain saying, "if this dude rolls over from getting shit from me, a mere woman, how can I depend on him to protect/fuck me well?" You typically won't get shit-tests from women who aren't interested. And shit tests are active, not passive like "I think I'll ignore him." That doesn't tell the liz…
/r/askTRP04/03/20 01:18 AM
4

Case 1: If it's a close friendship and you value him, then don't let some chick come between you. You'll need to wise him up if he didn't. "Dude, didn't you notice Heather flirting with me? She's not very trustworthy." Case 2: If not, then all's fair.
/r/askTRP04/03/20 01:06 AM
1

This^ I get the impression from his post that OP is way too ego-invested in these outcomes. Maybe he is actually being a dickhead. she will give shit tests to which I will try and overcome You typically don't "try and overcome" shit tests; They are usually easily handled with with amused mastery, but if she throws more shit you can step it up, depending on how much of a bitch she is being. "The best shit test response dismisses her authority to test you in the first place." Never explain. That's…
/r/askTRP04/03/20 12:51 AM
4

One tip: get off pharmaceuticals and processed food and start eating clean for more energy and better mental fitness. It really, really sucks that your parents abused you. No child deserves to go through that. I can't even imagine growing up like that. That's their fault, not yours. Start now determined to remake yourself into the man your creator intended you to be before your parents hijacked your development. One thing you can do to help yourself is to eat clean. You ache and have no appetite…
/r/askTRP04/03/20 12:36 AM
2

Oh, and if you're so alpha, tell your "homies" to find the damn booze.
/r/askTRP03/03/20 04:00 AM
6

She's probably tired of supporting your sorry ass and that's why she's ignoring you. TRP ain't fucking magic. Start improving yourself instead of leeching off women, **** *edited 3-3-20: deleted ad hominem--against the rules
/r/askTRP03/03/20 03:55 AM
3

This ^
/r/askTRP03/03/20 03:53 AM
-1

You are messed up. Why do you GAF about what other people think? Sure it's a source of pride when people see you with arm candy but what's wrong with parading a hot body even if she has a "butterface?" You need some serious DGAF therapy.
/r/askTRP03/03/20 03:51 AM
0

But it seems like the redpill is actually about the same as the one in the matrix. "This redpill: what do it do?" Sidebar is over there------>
/r/askTRP03/03/20 03:46 AM
1

I feel like my frame is weak when i always have to ask her out (she never reject me but play h2g a little) If your "asking" is really begging her to go out with you, then yes, it's weak. Tell her what you are doing and invite her along. If she declines, "Cool." Then find someone else to go with or go alone.
/r/askTRP03/03/20 03:39 AM
1

😂
/r/askTRP01/03/20 07:08 AM
2

Somebody else said this: "A good answer to a shit test isn't so much an answer...it just dismisses her authority to test you in the first place."
/r/askTRP01/03/20 06:56 AM
39

If you want to make money (as you said) you should look for the intersection of three things: What you are interested in. What you are good at (or can become good at). What is in demand in the employment marketplace (where you live or want to live).
/r/askTRP01/03/20 04:24 AM
1

Stop worrying about your colleagues and focus on improving yourself. And stop being an asshat.
/r/askTRP29/02/20 07:20 AM
1

Hmm, ask yourself why she is paying attention to you. Mysterious, isn't it? Main thing is not to get rattled, especially when dropping a nuke in response to an especially heinous violation. A&A will usually suffice, or a flip or neg. Hot girls especially pull that shit. And DGAF about your "bad characteristics"--you've entered her frame then.
/r/askTRP29/02/20 07:09 AM
1

You might have a gambling addiction. Or you might just have a trader personality and will become a crypto titan. Worth exploring which one.
/r/askTRP29/02/20 06:53 AM
1

otherwise you will get in a bunch of arguments and conflicts This is your problem. You are losing (or have lost) your "amused mastery," if you ever had it. Why are you getting sucked into pointless arguments? You don't argue with bitches, you treat them like adorable little children who sometimes act out. Don't take her seriously, master A&A, and for God's sake, don't argue.
/r/askTRP29/02/20 06:43 AM
1

You probably have great circulation, so you might emphasize more large muscle group lifting to boost testosterone. 3 things you need for a boner: blood, T, and desire.
/r/askTRP29/02/20 06:35 AM
1

Classic!
/r/askTRP29/02/20 06:30 AM
4

- Can also be a good looking girl who is emotionally broken or damaged (many in this category), desperately seeking validation. - Chick just trying to be cool.
/r/askTRP29/02/20 06:08 AM
2

If it's that important to you, move to the non-urban south or mountain west. The left/right divide in America is mostly an urban/rural divide. A place like Reno has tons of conservative women. Get off dating apps and meet women IRL at places you might find a right wing chick. You don't like Bernie rallies? Go to a Trump rally or CPAC. Don't like PP? Join a pro-life meetup. You're not going to find a woman without a sexual history anywhere but you might find likeminded women, and one of them migh…
/r/askTRP29/02/20 06:01 AM
2

She's not his, like his fridge. It's just his turn. Also, never explain. WTF?
/r/askTRP25/02/20 11:29 PM
1

Big man
/r/askTRP25/02/20 11:25 PM
3

Bring some lube
/r/askTRP25/02/20 11:12 PM
5

Real men don't GAF about these. You're using this as an excuse. Have you ever seen Brian Schul's (former SR-71 pilot) videos? He's got burn scars all over his face from when he was shot down in Vietnam. Never had any problem picking up women. Be the best you can and get on with it.
/r/askTRP25/02/20 06:06 PM
1

this is a place I would likely spend another 25 years at till I retire. WTF? Why do you want to slave away to build another man's dream?
/r/askTRP25/02/20 04:49 PM
9

Depends on the girl. OP and Final_Pantasy didn't mention the age but acting beta is less effective to breaking up the closer to the wall the woman is. Also how much the relationship is provision vs. attraction.
/r/askTRP24/02/20 08:38 PM
1

Seriously, I'd rethink college. Take a tech course like ultrasound, auto mechanic, or database admin. Earn some money. College is wasted on you. Or just go play video games and live in mom's basement.
/r/askTRP22/02/20 09:23 PM
4

You can't handle Calculus 1 and you think you can be an accountant? Or a CS major? WTF? Well there's always Feminist Studies.
/r/askTRP22/02/20 09:21 PM
1

Then craft some that you believe. The point is to answer her objections credibly. BTW, you're welcome.
/r/askTRP22/02/20 08:23 PM
3

Dude. you're taking her WAY too seriously. I suspect that you've already been losing frame in the relationship for a while
/r/askTRP21/02/20 11:27 PM
1

You are WAY too focused on yourself. Start volunteering at soup kitchens or boys clubs or shit like that to 1) see how lucky you are and 2) get you out of your intense self-focus. Start seeing if you can contribute something to the world instead of hanging around smoking dope or whatever else is sapping your motivation. Engineering major? Shit, 80% of people your age can't do basic arithmetic. You'll be making bank once you get out of school. The solution is to move your focus to other people. S…
/r/askTRP21/02/20 11:15 PM
11

Getting hired is a sales job--you are selling yourself. It's your job to figure out the buyer's concerns and eliminate them. Why is Mother Hen hesitant? Is it your "very spotty career history?" Then you need to have a story that reassures her ("I had a sick relative to care for so I worked on and off, but she has since passed.") Is it because the last alpha 30-something fucked all the girls who then created drama? Tell her you have a boyfriend. She's worried that because you're older you're too …
/r/askTRP21/02/20 07:03 AM
3

Make a list of all your positive qualities--you do have some--right now. Focus on those to gain strength and confidence built on truth, not on some imaginary cockiness that you know in the back of your mind is fake. For example, "I've got the will and guts to improve myself. Lots of losers are happy where they are." That's one. Think of others. Repeat the list to yourself several times a day. The goal is to change negative self-talk to reorient your frame. Your confidence will spring from realit…
/r/askTRP20/02/20 12:50 AM
1

Posting a response photo is not "completely ignoring it," it's reactive and looks weak.
/r/askTRP17/02/20 02:32 AM
3

I suspect from your questions that you are overly focused on verbal game. Our ancient ancestors attracted women without any words at all. Reread the sidebar material on body language and kino. Yes, a little flirting and a little teasing can build attraction. But less is more, especially words.
/r/askTRP17/02/20 02:00 AM
1

Because your SMV isn't as high as guys older than you or more mentally mature than you. Raise your SMV.
/r/askTRP17/02/20 01:55 AM
1

Then stop being direct.
/r/askTRP17/02/20 01:30 AM
1

Digital immigrant, not native.
/r/askTRP16/02/20 04:43 AM
2

Thanks, Uncle Vasya. You always have good stuff.
/r/askTRP16/02/20 01:11 AM
1

Daily visualizing the end goal often helps. Surround yourself with your dreams--make a "dream board" of inspirational truths that really rock you, photos of sports cars, ripped torsos, piles of cash--whatever your personal goals are--and hang it on a wall where you'll see it multiple times a day. Revisit it often. Make it part of your mental imagery, then set small daily goals with those mental images of personal success in mind.
/r/askTRP16/02/20 01:09 AM
1

Good Lord, what are you, a girl? If it's only a handful why do you GAF?
/r/askTRP16/02/20 01:01 AM
2

Two words: Roger Sterling (from Mad Men)
/r/askTRP16/02/20 12:58 AM
2

Some Most people are still pretty immature in college and haven't had proper guidance in social skills. That said, even mature people sometimes cross lines that they aren't aware of. If you value them for other reasons, it's worth being up front and letting them know that they crossed a line. But one doesn't have to be an asshole about it. Also, what others have said--don't trust random acquaintances with personal info.
/r/askTRP16/02/20 12:56 AM
1

I'm not a snapchat guy. Can people actually respond to the boxes or is that just in a static image?
/r/askTRP16/02/20 12:39 AM
1

Shit test = "Are you good enough for me?" or "Are you just going to pump-and-dump?" Comfort test = "Am I good enough for you?" or "Are you going to leave me for someone hotter?"
/r/askTRP16/02/20 12:28 AM
3

Why are you overthinking this? They'll either offer you the internship or not. I think your answer was fine. It's an internship for Pete's sake--it's not like they're risking a lot by bringing you on. "Oh please, please, can I work for you for nothing?" That sounds beta as shit. You didn't come across like this at all--your answer was great if you really don't have a preference. A job interview is a dance. It's all about the chemistry. You already have the qualifications or they wouldn't have in…
/r/askTRP15/02/20 06:38 AM
1

Agree you need to back off apps for a while and start meeting women IRL. I suspect (but don't know) that your idea of having a "good conversation" is not her's. Are you emotionally connecting? Are you too wordy/windy? I suspect you are boring them. Use few words. They should be chasing you, not the other way around. If they're talking to you, assume they are interested and just need reassurance that you are real. Move quickly to set a meeting then get off the app ASAP. Read the sidebar material …
/r/askTRP15/02/20 06:26 AM
1

Somebody here might have said this: "To succeed you must be willing to fail again and again. To be willing to fail again and again, give less fucks."
/r/askTRP13/02/20 04:48 AM
1

For reference I’m approaching groups of girls dancing at clubs and they’re all 7/10+. Solo? Where's your social proof? I’m turned down by 6s who l’m leagues above. If you're so Chad why are you approaching 6s? Sounds like you're an asshole. Who would want to give you the time of day with an attitude like that?
/r/askTRP13/02/20 04:39 AM
3

It doesn't matter (weekday or weekend) as long as you target a goal and stick to it. If you want to have enough digital experience by X date, mark it on the calendar and work back from there. 10% is planning, but 90% is action. Take action. Today. Don't make excuses (should I do it this way or that way? Who cares?) One thing to think about is how to translate self-education into marketable credentials on a resume. Microsoft certifications is one way. Regardless, you'll need some proof in the for…
/r/askTRP13/02/20 04:29 AM
8

Your sex wasn't good enough for her to want to see you again. Learn to fuck better.
/r/askTRP12/02/20 05:32 AM
1

And lose the gut. Can't do anything about old but you can start eating clean.
/r/askTRP10/02/20 10:53 PM
3

btrpb is correct: "She was down but you dried her up by not being assertive and she flipped the blame back on to you." As Chateaux Heartiste says (or something like this), "Game required to bed a woman over 35: 'Hi.'" In her warped female mind (AWALT), someone must be blamed for her not getting a payoff--guess who? I'm an older gent myself. She was flirting with you all week. Your fame "in two fields" gave her the initial tingles. She went out with you. She was ok with you kissing her. What you …
/r/askTRP10/02/20 10:39 PM
2

TL;DR: It could not hurt to point your Dad to some first readings that might really help him like TRP helped me. I was an odd mix of alpha and beta in a 25-year marriage. I was ambitious, driven, and successful (I have a very macho profession) but did not understand women at all due to limited experience. I struggled after my 6-year younger wife left the marriage. My natural inclination is confidence and dominance but I had no clue about shit tests and was constantly regressing to beta behavior …
/r/askTRP10/02/20 04:58 PM
1

True, but you can improve. I'm a boomer. My daughter turned me on to healthy eating about 5 years ago and the beer gut is a faint memory. Not shredded but I'm fit and my BMI is still heading south from 25. Swim for aerobics and lift to keep T up-- the effect is noticeable. Take vitamin D3 and fish oil. Started balding years ago and keep it clipped very short and it looks good. Dress well. I honestly would say I'm very attractive for my age and easily date quality women 20 years younger.
/r/askTRP10/02/20 04:45 PM
1

I'm confused from your vague description. Did she tell you "first off" during the first date that she had a migraine and will be busy? Or was that after the date? If the former, it was a shit test. If the latter, she wasn't impressed with you and doesn't want to go out with you again.
/r/askTRP19/01/20 05:00 AM
4

"Sure, why don't you bring our whole group along, and your Mom, too? We'll sell tickets"
/r/askTRP14/01/20 02:08 AM
1

That's the way
/r/askTRP11/01/20 05:33 AM
2

But then again I think her bad behavior is a result of me not giving enough commitment. No. Her bad behavior is continuing because you lied and said "I need more time." That's weak. You set the boundaries. At that point she would have bailed or given ultimatums and you would have soft-nexted and waited for her to come crawling back. She is a plate. If she didn't deserve to be promoted, you build more attraction. If that's not enough, they break. Find someone else.
/r/askTRP11/01/20 12:18 AM
1

Friends don't let friends do LTRs
/r/askTRP11/01/20 12:11 AM
5

This. Don't be an asshole if someone sincerely gives you a gift. It's not their fucking problem to have intimate knowledge your personal habits.
/r/askTRP10/01/20 06:36 AM
1

Yes
/r/askTRP10/01/20 06:34 AM
2

Dude, you are starting over at 33, do you know how lucky you are? Some of us didn't have an opportunity to learn about RP until we were already old farts.
/r/askTRP10/01/20 06:33 AM
2

Good God, just fucking STOP and read the damn sidebar. Are you retarded?
/r/askTRP10/01/20 06:27 AM
2

What do you mean nexting? You are wasting everyone's time.
/r/askTRP31/12/19 04:00 AM
2

Appropriate per self-improvement, IMHO. Lots of health problems, including acne, can be mitigated or sometimes even solved with eating right (non-processed healthy foods, avoiding inflammatories) and exercise (swimming is OK for the skin if you shower and use body wash containing ascorbic acid to neutralize the chlorine). Occasional fasting and gut cleansing can help as well, to clean out toxins. Natural skin care products. Saunas and steam. Would try a holistic approach that includes all of the…
/r/askTRP31/12/19 03:44 AM
1

This
/r/askTRP30/12/19 07:58 AM
1

Dave Ramsey has some great advice on how to budget and stick with a savings plan. Figure out where it goes every week/month. Put a category on every dollar. Stay out of debt except for debt that produces income/appreciating assets (such as buying a property that you can rent at a profit). Save for big ticket items, don't put them on a credit card or take out a loan--you'll be different than 90% of everyone else.
/r/askTRP30/12/19 07:44 AM
48

This
/r/askTRP30/12/19 06:10 AM
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Whatever you do, don't get married. I assume your daughter's mother is worthless or she'd have custody. Any other trusted relatives in the picture who could take care of your daughter temporarily while you sort things out with your living situation? If "affection from her is slim," then she is probably as tentative about the marriage as you are. You should be direct with her--"We lost the passion since we got engaged--this is a super red flag--it's dumb to get married when we feel this lukewarm …
/r/askTRP30/12/19 06:07 AM
1

This is why a lot of it is utterly pathetic because the entire reasoning is to obtain pussy, not internalise the mentality to become a more mature and wise man. Dude.
/r/askTRP27/12/19 05:53 AM
2

Where status, lifestyle, and wealth all combine, the man is going to be very attractive but womens intentions might become less clear. This is very insightful.
/r/askTRP20/12/19 02:53 AM
2

Surprised that no one brought up the dual nature of women's sexual strategy. I think status activates either the alpha-gives-tingles side or the beta-gives-provision side, or both, depending on context. If it's Christian Grey, she's excited by the power and masculinity. She likes the wealth, too, and she considers less masculine men with wealth "good husband material" (it's a resourcing/provisioning quality) but she would not necessarily be sexually attracted to the guy because of wealth alone. …
/r/askTRP20/12/19 02:29 AM
1

Lol
/r/askTRP20/12/19 02:04 AM
0

Look, whether that nature is evolved or created is the disagreement, but you don't have to be an atheist to accept that, for example, women are hypergamous. And fuck you, yourself, "deep thinker."
/r/askTRP19/12/19 02:18 AM
1

I don't agree. The fact that human nature is unchangeable is a hard truth for both groups. The two views are completely in sync. People are savages. The difference is that people of faith would argue that God gave us rules to protect us from our own worst nature (e.g., do not murder, do not covet). Under the old social rules, marriage and monogamy were workable solutions to control hypergamy and prevent children from becoming fatherless and fathers from raising some other guy's bastards. In the …
/r/askTRP19/12/19 01:51 AM
1

lol
/r/askTRP04/12/19 09:51 PM
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