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| 6 | A cautionary tale on why you shouldn't settle for less. Break up at the first sign.Her asking for a piece of cake after she's been paying more than half of his bills for months (she didn't even consider a present) doesn't sound like pouting. She wanted the bare minimum, and he asked her to split the bill & used his daughter against her when she was disappointed. She moved into his house and she is paying over half of his bills. I get the impression he will still be there if she leaves, but he can't afford a slice of cake on 1 day? It sounds fishy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/22 09:47 AM |
| 293 | A cautionary tale on why you shouldn't settle for less. Break up at the first sign.Yeah I understand why people would say that she was TA here, even if it was extremely tacky of him to ask her to pay half rather then coming up with something novel. If you want something nice for your birthday and the other person can't afford it, then you can't manifest it into their bank account (or their desire to buy it, whichever is the real issue). On the other hand, this sounds more like a "last straw" type of post than a one-off complaint. Chances are there more than one aspect of their… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 08:41 PM |
| 136 | Guy is sexist and racist, shocked that makes him an assholeRead this in a whiny, nasal tone that gets more confused & petulant every sentence. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 05:36 AM |
| 21 | I can't get over my ex-LVM dating someone 15 years younger than him. Also, thank god for this sub.Please don't reach out to this woman or hope that she finds you. It is only going to give him more leverage over her. You will be doing her a disservice by reaching out or engaging with her in any way. Plenty of women are in these situations. Of the millions of women that are being taken advantage, the chances of this woman benefiting from your advice is the lowest of all of those women. You are probably focusing on her in particular because of your preoccupation with your ex and his wrongs agai… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 09:43 PM |
| 60 | Check your male relatives; they might not support you in your time of needHer brothers certainly do not and I'm pretty sure that the majority of men are too self-entitled to grasp the concept. There are some men that get it though. Most of the men in my family have stuck firmly on the side of my cousin and all of the other people in the family that needed people to side with them (even in questionable situations). Unfortunately 'family first' mentality and being a massive LVM are not mutually exclusive, because a lot of men that stick with their family will still scre… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 04:32 PM |
| 184 | Just another year end reminder to NEVER EVER build a man. Focus on yourself and only yourself.What an incredibly kind, generous, and put together woman she is. I hope that therapy goes well for her and that she is able to find the internal validation that she needs. I am amazed that she handled that situation so well and did not have an interest in seeing the aftermath. Handing over the files that the ex stole was very smart, and I would have kept the phone to hear him complain about coming home to being homeless, unemployed, and having to move in with his likely now unemployed side piec… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 04:23 PM |
| 287 | Check your male relatives; they might not support you in your time of needMy cousin was physically abused by her now-ex husband to the point that she ended up in the hospital and 2 of the "men" in my family said the same thing: we don't know his side of the story. I realized exactly what you said; I could not rely on them in a time of need. I was disgusted and told them what I thought. They stuck to it and I cut them out of my life. It was eight years ago and I still don't regret it. LVM drag everyone down. Your brothers should be absolutely ashamed of themselves. Fam… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 03:44 PM |
| 136 | How does FDS apply to lesbian relationships?I don't think that there are any hard-and-fast rules. The difference here is that you are dating someone that has faced the same societal challenges and expectations that you have as a woman. Fds rules still apply in terms of taking care of yourself, ensuring that the relationship brings value to you, and looking out for general red flags, but in terms of courting in a lesbian relationship it is probably better to ask if you are comfortable doing so. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/21 12:33 AM |
| 22 | Reflecting today… The greatest gift I’ve ever given myself was dumping the age gap, emotionally abusive scrote who couldn’t even keep his side of the bathroom clean.Ummm what is all over the mirror and faucet. I didn't think the picture was that bad on my phone display until I zoomed in, how absolutely filthy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/21 12:25 AM |
| 109 | The “ Crazy Ex-Girlfriend “Even if he can reason out how she acts "crazy," him saying so is a 🚩🚩 You don't want to be with someone that hasn't coped with their last relationship or was disrespectful to his partner, and calling her "crazy" it one of those two. If she had a diagnosed mental disorder, then he should not be calling her crazy. If she had symptoms of an undiagnosed mental disorder, then making those observations and then deciding that the relationship would not work because of those should be a straightforward … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 06:55 PM |
| 14 | How to deal with passive men?You aren't being angry and unreasonable to someone that is being nice. In fact, I would not call him "passive" in the least, he's just learned that he does not have to do any mental labor around you. What you are describing is exhaustion and frustration over owning the vast majority of the mental labor that goes into managing every situation in which you are with this person. It sounds like you have been feeling drained by this person for a long time. You have a wealth of examples in everything … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 05:05 PM |
| 16 | People keep telling me to give a chance to men I’m not interested inMost of the suggestions that you are describing sound like aging, left over generational discourse and empty-headed good intentions. From as early as women can remember, we are taught to give men a chance a la "The Princess and the Frog" in the hopes that putting our time and effort into a man and trying to build attraction to him will result in a manifestation of some hidden value on his side. Our friends are pressured to further encourage us to overlook our own feelings and even major red flag… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 04:40 PM |
| 148 | Love hearing about women leaving when they had enough! Saying no to couples counseling because she recognizes that there's nothing else she can possibly cOmMunIcaTe to himNow it's your turn guys! Let's spitball some more ideas for things I won't do! Really, the audacity 😂😂 I hope someone dropped the bomb on him that there's nothing short of severe, assisted-care level physical disability that makes it impossible to do the bare minimum of cleaning the house, cooking, and watching kids. Especially for someone that is high functioning enough to work and then "loaf around" all evening. He doesn't do it because he simply won't, and the best she can expect if he stays … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 05:22 AM |
| 4 | Relationship status = singleWell yes, at that point your stomach would have the right name, be in a parasitic relationship with you where you took care of the vast majority of everyday functions, and would whine occasionally in front of other people. If you could get your stomach a couple of temporary jobs, a bit of credit card debt, and made sure to acknowledge him as the Man of the House then I think you could pull this off! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/21 04:03 PM |
| 124 | Was I supposed to be impressed?Not the first time he thought 4 was a lot no doubt. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/21 06:11 AM |
| 31 | I really hope this is a generational thing, but imagine only "expressing an interest in learning how to cook" after your wife dies and relying on your children for meals...Props for your father, it is extremely hard for anyone with that level of mobility to get around and cook for themselves. He's also lucky to have a family that is caring enough to make sure that he has an accessible kitchen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 09:58 PM |
| 28 | 12 hours into a new conversation this happensSo he obviously knows what he's doing. What a sicko. You can probably still report him even if you don't have evidence. He's probably done this to quite a few people, and if multiple people end up reporting that he has admitted to a particular crime then there's a chance that law enforcement can have enough of a case to at least investigate him. There are many instances of men talking about committing a violent crime over voice chat that have been successfully intercepted. I hope that you are fe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 09:48 PM |
| 43 | Relationship status = singleNo one with fewer brain cells than the number of emojis that they can squeeze into 4 poorly formed sentences can be deadass serious. Deadass delusional, deadass stupid, but deadass serious implies the existence of someone that has ever taken him seriously. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 09:42 PM |
| 23 | I really hope this is a generational thing, but imagine only "expressing an interest in learning how to cook" after your wife dies and relying on your children for meals...His kid(s) probably spent their entire life watching him act like an infant, so I don't think she's out of line for wanting to help. Men that take initiative actively take part in daily maintenance of a home and family because they feel guilty otherwise. I also tried not to come off as overly critical. If he was so uninvolved that he didn't pick up anything in the decades that he spent with his wife cooking for him, then he was either competently working long hours every single day of their live… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 09:34 PM |
| 136 | Say no to community dick.Most of these men are brain rotted porn addicts as well. Either way if they change for the better in terms of promiscuity, they end up with the personalities of a wet cardboard box and a minimally functional internal reward center. So you end up with community dick attached to a lazy, slobby, unmotivated, dad bod. No thanks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 09:18 PM |
| 340 | Woman in Denial About being in an Abusive, "open" Marriage.Ladies if you want to save your time just skip to 3:30 where he talks about being a big genetic alpha man in front of his action figure collection as they pan to his toy bulldozers on the other side of the room. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 07:43 PM |
| 6 | How to remain a HVW when you run into your former flames?That is very understandable, and honestly it being awkward or emotionally reminiscent on either side is not the worst thing in the world. Often we give advice for women to "fake it until they make it" and flat-out ignore exes to avoid the emotionally exploitive tactics of LVM. You did the right thing by blocking contact and not trying to maintain be less than romantic relationship, so you are in a great position here. You seem to be very level-headed with regards to the end of the relationship, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 07:32 PM |
| 203 | Relationship status = single"Serve your man first" troll alert 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 06:10 PM |
| 114 | 12 hours into a new conversation this happensI'm glad you blocked and deleted after he exposed himself. That must have been terrifying. If you can, get screenshots of things that he has said. Make solutely sure that any of your mutual acquaintances from the Discord do not know your information. If they do it is extremely important that you warn them so that he doesn't ferret out additional information on you. If he has admitted to sexual assault and in particular sexually assaulting a minor, then you should absolutely make law enforcement … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 05:53 PM |
| 212 | I really hope this is a generational thing, but imagine only "expressing an interest in learning how to cook" after your wife dies and relying on your children for meals...I'm not saying this to be cruel, but if he cannot perform the simple task a picking up a cookbook or watching a YouTube video with explicit instructions on assembling a simple meal, then he needs an occupational therapist more than a meal service. This is the sad effect of placing mental and physical labor and accountability for everyday tasks on women. Women die earlier than they should, and their (mostly female) children have to look after the men that can't won't take care of themselves. I've… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 05:38 PM |
| 18 | How to remain a HVW when you run into your former flames?Does she complain to management and have him 86'd from the premises entirely for permanent, worry free enjoyment? If only, sister. Every case is different and so it's hard to give you advice on how to act. If you are trying to act a certain way around him then chances are he will sense that something is off which may lead to awkwardness. I have to be around a couple of my exes for the same reasons as yours, and the most successful strategy that I've implemented is working on myself and desensiti… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 05:28 PM |
| 17 | This is narcissistic abuse.I'm so glad that you are okay and that you saw him trying to give you the drug the first time. are you afraid I'm going to wait until you pass out and do something to you? This type of telling on themselves is so common. You would think that the last thing he would want to talk about is spiking your drink and raping you if that was his intention. The reason my friend started suspecting that her husband was poisoning her was that he stopped letting her pour him drinks and had a paranoid meltdown … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 02:25 PM |
| 194 | This is narcissistic abuse.I really hope she's okay in the long term. There are varying types abuse and he does sound like a narcissist, but the things that have happened in this post are highly indicative of a relationship that leads to physical violence. I have a friend that could have sent the exact same thing to me 4 years ago. What she sent was over clothing expenses for him, and that she was not contributing enough given that she made more money than him. It was almost the exact same situation, except they were on t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 11:47 PM |
| 143 | Relationships are supposed to make life better and easier!Spot-on. Unfortunately it's very easy to rationalize things early in the relationship which is why taking it slow is so incredibly important. Women often get into relationships that start out by benefiting them, but then slowly get loaded down with emotional labor in the form of communication, relationship dynamics, undo accountability, and actual physical labor (housework, cooking, raising kids, etc). Even a good relationship over time is highly likely to shift against you later due to societal… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 11:39 PM |
| 266 | is there a way to "win" ?Yes, as long as winning is having a happy, fulfilling life and it isn't defined as winning against men. The only way to win is to avoid putting mental energy towards men, what they think, how they act, and what they want in a relationship. Focus on bettering yourself and putting your energy towards you and the people that uplift you. If thinking about getting into a relationship is troubling, then don't date and instead cultivate you friendships and support network. If you date men while thinkin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/21 09:04 PM |
| 158 | “How to Cure a Feminist...pretend to share her beliefs”, published in the Maxim magazine. Beware Ladies, vet the men claiming to be advocates.Reason # 76535 to avoid LVM: their aggressively brain-dead sense of humor. The authors of these pieces should be given awards for their work in red flag standardization. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/21 06:13 PM |
| 15 | This weird type of poor communication that I dealt with after talking to a guy for a few monthsDon't wrestle with a pig, you will both come out dirty and the pig will enjoy it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/21 09:27 PM |
| 3 | Good hygiene is the sexiest trait in a manIt sounds like you are working through a lot from your past. Congratulations on breaking your addiction and thank you for speaking out against lazy/abusive behavior from men. I think if you would reread the post, it was more about someone a man who was exceptional in a few areas. Always wearing cologne, keeping an impeccable house, and being in great shape are high value, but she wasn't using these traits to justify LV or abusive traits. Given the fact that he is an ex, it's not like the post wa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 09:07 PM |
| 3 | Good hygiene is the sexiest trait in a manThank you for sharing your story. In spite of some people insisting that your post is "bare minimum," many newcomers to FDS assume that if you find an HVM you stick with him forever. High value is actually the bare minimum: thinking otherwise and assuming that once you find an HVM you stay together is probably the hardest pick me behavior to eliminate. A man being HV across the board is supposed to be the bare minimum, and it does not mean that the time is right, that you two have complimentary … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 08:50 PM |
| 19 | Can age gap relationships stunt the mental development of the younger person?Not for dumb, boring old scrotes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 08:26 PM |
| 70 | Don’t be a forever fiancée. This scrote leaves his family high and dry with bad choice after bad choice.It is always sad when someone passes away. It's too bad that so many men tarnish their families memory of them with LV behavior. In other news, can you imagine if a morbidly obese woman with a body shape of a bowling ball proudly took on the name Big Kate? Men find a way to glorify extremely unhealthy behavior at the expensive of their lives and their family. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 08:24 PM |
| 3 | If you ask for more you're a gold-digger. If you ask for nothing you're a whore. Don't be shamed into accommodation and keep the bar extra high.Solution: ask for and accept nothing less than the most. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 04:27 PM |
| 59 | Don't give a guy a chance after he offers a coffee date, even if he offers a nice dinner date after you say no to coffee.I have been surprised at the number of "success stories" where a woman said no to a coffee date (or worse, spelled out a decent dinner date for him) and he came back with a better suggestion. News flash: If your Barb the Builder efforts have to start on the very first romantic interaction between you and him, then it isn't going to get any better from there. Best case he is dumb and doesn't know any better, but I guarantee GUARANTEE YOU that he isn't "an HVM otherwise." This is your inner pick m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 03:59 PM |
| 108 | Beware of shady matchmakers, ladies.These matchmakers make a lot of money off of women even in the event that women don't pay for the "service" (which they should not). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 03:42 PM |
| 53 | God the pickmes are REALLY TRYING to hand out p*ssy to their LVM friendsHigh value friends: "The lab manager in the other department asked me out." "He has a... decent personality, I guess." "Yeah..." "So, you um.. he's kind of..." "No." "Good." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 03:33 PM |
| 15 | Divorce papers officially signedYou are about to experience true freedom and peace, sister 😊 congratulations! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/21 02:33 AM |
| 89 | Nobody actually *needs* men 😎 🤷🏻♀️This really speaks to how much men have to bring to the table in order to make a relationship worth it. There is a lot of risk that is specific to men and so that reward needs to be significant, tangible, and upfront to balance out the ratio. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/21 01:34 AM |
| 24 | On-Screen Violence Towards Women is Not "Realism"We are taught that a slightly overweight middle class man baby that can't keep a house, isn't emotionally regulated, and/or fails in aspects of self hygiene is the best we can ever hope for so long as he has a job and isn't physically abusive. The fact that even our fantasies can barely scrape over the low bar of one of the scrotes also having superpowers or being generously wealthy says more about men than women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 11:07 PM |
| 168 | A Woman's Touch"She probably won't even get her own lawn chair" 😂😂😂😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 10:55 PM |
| 2 | 💩Scrote sits on a literal toliet to talk about being green and poop at his booth, a woman stops briefly, he makes a public post to hunt her down and spam her DMs... then he plays the victim. 💩It sounds like he went from being the shit to being shit. He better grow more flowers for that butthurt. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 09:22 PM |
| 72 | Women always knowWomen have to be able to read men better as a self protection measure. It is a sad aspect of our society, and for most women it starts in childhood or as a young adult. We are warned about strange/suspicious men as children, and almost every woman you know has some sort of experience that backs that up. We do ourselves a disservice by acting like it is some sort of mystical "intuition," when the reality is that it is driven by experience. The only problem that I have with the "women always know"… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 12:12 PM |
| 53 | Saw this on Twitter — horrifyingThat's what I'm thinking. Who cares about whether he escalates or not? The story isn't about him, it's about the child that ran away fearing for her life. She'll write about it, tell people about it, and walk through streets terrified it will happen again into adulthood because some bitter psychopath (because that's what he is by his own writing) wanted to scare someone to ease his self-hatred. And if he fantasized all of this in his grimy underwear on his couch, then this psycho (it's still wha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 05:10 AM |
| 13 | Anthony Spade. LVM. Avoid this type of man and all men in the comments.I get the feeling that he isn't on a winning streak in DA BAWDLE OB DA MINES. Imagine being related to this guy and having to keep a straight face at family get togethers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 06:18 PM |
| 1 | This is an infuriating but good reminder as why we dress to impress ourselves NOT LVM!!This is probably a troll post, but it is hilariously accurate of so many LVM. This guy has the emotional quotient of a hamburger. If she hasn't reached out after his bizarre tantrum then someone might have to break the news about his ability to "salvage" the relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 10:17 PM |
| 104 | I’vE cHaSeD a LoT oF tAiL 🤮🤮🤮I'm assuming they are both hunters. So a response of "I've seen some fine sausages & laid down some tall, muscular bucks in my time, but ur the best 2 l.uv u" Would be just fine. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 07:12 PM |
| 44 | My husband of 3 weeks now, said he wished he married his x instead of me.An annulment is absolutely not extreme in this instance. This behavior is about putting you down, it's not about his ex. You will regret staying, and the divorce will be much harder than the annulment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 05:59 AM |
| 47 | Men and spittingOne of my friends invited a man she was dating to a get together I was hosting and he started spitting in the corners of the rooms in my house. He had these little pew-pew micro spits where he would chipmunk-face something to the front of his teeth and then launch invisible particles onto the floor. ... As politely as I could, I asked him to spit outside. He did not allow my friend to talk to me for 2 years until she finally left him (I was "uppity"). The bar for men has been melted into the mol… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 10:51 PM |
| 56 | Never tell a man about your mental or physical disability until after he’s vetted for a loooong ass time. You should see the texts that caused me to block him and ended up in him emailing this."Junk" at least it had the appropriate marking. Low income LVM are always wallowing in their lower/middle class tax breaks and complaining about their money paying for welfare. Your money can't even afford the civil infrastructure needed to support you, Todd, sit down before you hurt yourself. You have no gold, and no one is digging. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 09:05 PM |
| 7 | He needs to subvocalize. All this hollering will come to naught.O no! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 08:57 PM |
| 43 | Advice from a father to his daughter. Thoughts?I think it feels weird to read because it is mostly about the other man. Men are obsessed with men, and they put men first. Even if it involves holding another man to their standards, it is putting men first. "If you decide to get into a relationship, find someone who contributes positively to your life. You want someone who supports your social circle, enables you to do the things that make you happy, and doesn't burden you with physical or emotional labor." That is empowering. It gives her a c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 08:54 PM |
| 3 | Having difficulties breaking up a friendship with a male gamerYes, this relationship seems toxic and/or codependent. The supply of potential male gamer friends heavily outweighs the demand; why keep a rape apologist around? Of course female friends would be better, but this situation is like trying to figure out what to do with rotten produce. Yeah, having a garden would be great. But there's plenty of edible produce at the grocery store, and wasting space on rotten produce isn't going to end well for you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 08:25 PM |
| 16 | One of the creepiest posts ever submitted on 2XC. My response in second. No, we don’t like it when a male stranger compliments our body in line at the grocery store. ffs.And then everyone started clapping. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 07:14 PM |
| 137 | “I don’t fuck women with pubic hair even though my beard literally looks like I glued my pubes to my face”"If she can't even take care of her leg hair, how is she ever going to clean up this mess for us?" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 06:38 PM |
| 63 | DONT TELL MEN ABOUT PAST PARTNERS, ESP WITH OTHER WOMEN BECAUSE THEY CANT HANDLE IT.He doesn't even care that this woman was naked with "his bully" (not that he should since it was 15 years ago), but that his bully's peepee might have gotten something something out of interacting with her that his peepee didn't. Talk about objectification. Sicko. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 07:48 PM |
| 4 | Ladies, what are your thoughts on marriage in 2020? Will it ever be equal/worth it?You should check out the FDS handbook. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 04:50 PM |
| 34 | DONT TELL MEN ABOUT PAST PARTNERS, ESP WITH OTHER WOMEN BECAUSE THEY CANT HANDLE IT.I got hung up on that too. What an incredibly bizarre way to word that. "My bully" - what in the world...? Did him and this guy have an exclusive bullying relationship or something? Is this the only person he's gotten bullied by in his life? I bet "his bully" doesn't even remember him. Oh yeah, um, Gary? Or was it George?... he was a little weird I guess. It sounds like he has some kind of neurotic fixation on this dude from highschool and that he's living out his inferiority complex through thi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 04:43 PM |
| 6 | Ladies, what are your thoughts on marriage in 2020? Will it ever be equal/worth it?Comparing sex on the third date to sex at 6 months is creating a false dilemma. If he is put off by investing 2-3 months of time into occasionally going on dates with a person just to find out that they aren't comfortable with a very particular sex act, then he's probably not a HVM. I don't think it's coincidence that you used a male's preference as an example. If one particular sex act is the hill that he's going to die on in the incredibly difficult course of finding a connection so profound t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 04:30 PM |
| 4 | I've been dating a man for 2 months nowYour first paragraph is where it's at. Two months is a short game for an LVM, and you can absolutely have high value interactions with an LVM. I also like the way that you framed the competition: it is you as a single woman. You are making it clear that you are not going to be appeased by validation whether it be from him or anyone else, but that he needs to work to make sure that the relationship is making your life better. I'm a little put off by his questioning you; as a lot of people have po… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 12:49 AM |
| 8 | You don't even have to try to weed them out on OLD, you just breathe at them and they melt into incels mid-conversationHave we met? Have we... met? Have we met on the winding cobblestone of Paris? The turquoise bay of Doha? The palm lined promenades of Beirut? If not there, then I think not. No, no. But I know of those places. I've seen life and death, lifetimes of the darkest pain and the most glorious of sunrises. The money. The skylines. The sewers. But who are you to understand me. Women don't. Perhaps you do, but surely you are yet another who does not understand my mystery, my allure. My infinite enigma. G… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 04:57 PM |
| 70 | Poor man. Can‘t get that girl on the street that is so pretty is hurts. He‘ll never be good enough for 11/10 supermodel.You "love" it so much that you objectify it and treat it as a disposable commodity, of course! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 09:58 PM |
| 1 | The few times I heard about crazy ex bfs stories, the victims were brutally assaulted after they got stalked, their faces were burnt with acid or they were just murdered and their bodies left to rot in a ditch. But scrotes don't ever raise voices against such violence, they think she wanted it.https://youtu.be/ioSI3KsE2_k | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 07:59 PM |
| 9 | How do you let go of anger for men who wronged you?It really depends - is that anger fueling productivity or more extensive vetting? Is it helping you empower other women? Or is it bringing you down and holding you back? Mine was the last, and I simply stopped caring. It took a while, but I basically let the anger happen, didn't focus on it, and let it drift away. The anger wasn't part of me, and I didn't even associate it with the past event: it was a separate entity, and I didn't even care about not caring about it. I just experienced the feel… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 09:08 PM |
| 47 | I'm speechlessI'm speechless too. It's a typical narc triangulating off of "just friends" when he has a problem with his SO. Not much to say. GL on that LV marriage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 08:36 PM |
| 26 | What would you think of a guy who likes the fact that you’re “pure”?Why would I ever talk to a man that asked for or had an opinion on how many people I've slept with? The handbook has some good resources on this issue. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 12:19 AM |
| 19 | Why, why, WHY would she call THIS a boyfriend?? 🤮If by "normal" you mean something that should be expected by default, then no, it is not normal. It's common, but plenty of people (women and men) don't engage in oral sex. It's just something that some people are into, like any other extra-intercourse sex act - role playing, food play, erotic talk, etc etc. Like any of those, it's supporters are just very vocal unless they are otherwise preoccupied. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 12:00 AM |
| 13 | Men asking for money?I've never had someone straight up ask for money but I remember one time some guy insisted that I needed a $150 impact driver and asked if we can go halfsies on it. "But I already have one... Do you need to borrow it?" "This one is better and it is cordless!" Yeah nah, I'm good. It was so unattractive. I can't imagine having so little self-respect that I would ask so when I'm dating to go in half on something I wanted. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 10:20 PM |
| 89 | Stop calling Jason Momoa a HVM. He's lowest of the LVMS.I do not understand the appeal. Yes, he looks good in the movies/pictures he's paid to make, but the rest of the time he looks and acts like every other "do we have to invite her husband too...?" aging, raggety alchoholic. This dude acts like a child and is 10 years out from looking like that guy that's always hanging out around the gas station but never buying anything. He's already wearing weird hats and harassing the well-dressed people that look like they should be there, it is just a matter… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 06:28 AM |
| 43 | HVM Don't Lower their Standards or Need Someone to Change their Mind... He's Talking Casual? He Doesn't Know Yet if he Wants a Relationship? Easy Block and Delete ✅Exactly - and the ripped dudes with slightly lower paying (still-middle-class) jobs aren't insecure and stingy like the men that are sitting around being petty about not being a CEO. Even if women did want situationships (we don't), the mediocre, self-entitled tech cogs that want to play the field have 0 to offer anyone. They act like they're hot, driven, independently wealthy entrepreneurs that just happened to come upon... wait... 🧐 $3,000? Really Sean? All that talk, and all you have is $3,00… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 12:40 AM |
| 86 | Queen of the Pickmeishas will help you hide your toxicity for free! (Re-uploaded to censor face)I'mma just tell you all that one of my friends ex-husbands does this as a "business venture." He's a fat, balding, middle aged narcissist that hides behind a young woman's profile and takes venmo payments to flirt with these men & write their profiles. He calls it "social media marketing" on his linked in. It's hilarious. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 12:18 AM |
| 128 | No God sent me, and fixing is for therapists!Wow, the complete existential dependency package! "God sent me to deal with your emotional baggage." We have to save these poor women 😟 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/20 06:43 PM |
| 8 | Stepmom does emotional work for useless biological father. It isn't even her child. She defends him in comments."I imagine that he's maxed out, what with him working full time and then doing all of the work for the kids and the house 24/7. All the cleaning and the cooking... it doesn't seem like a lot to you, but it can be quite the emotional burden being a parent, even when there's a step parent in the picture to help every once in awhile! Maybe you can take a night out of the week to cook for him and the kiddo, and you can even help clean up afterwards." Oh.... Oh did I not hit the mark there? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/20 01:51 AM |
| 1 | I’m out of words. She is going to be applauded in the black community for doing this. It just goes to show how we raise black girls to be providers, and boys to be receivers. Imagine paying for 6 grown men on your birthday... Well, as long as you’re happy sis. 🤷🏾♀️Her intentions seem kind of clear now: I'm going to spend my special day degrading and publicaly humiliating myself by seeking validation through the celebration of these men's masculinity. After using my pathetic woman-resources buying them clothes and ensuring that they are well dressed and fed, I will then present my drunk female friends to them as tribute. Also, white men, a little extra special validation for you: you were right, all lives DO matter, so here's a white guy standing over me w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 07:46 PM |
| 31 | I’m out of words. She is going to be applauded in the black community for doing this. It just goes to show how we raise black girls to be providers, and boys to be receivers. Imagine paying for 6 grown men on your birthday... Well, as long as you’re happy sis. 🤷🏾♀️I am so incredibly confused, what is going on here? She is buying these men suits and dinner for her birthday? And take them on the party bus with her friends because all lives matter.. what in the hell am I reading 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 06:55 AM |
| 30 | Yea...I got your joke Ijust didn't like itI missed the joke and the point too apparently. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 03:13 AM |
| 6 | Share your ridiculous OLD storiesYes... The whole backstory is pretty sick tbh. He worked as a youth leader in a church where she was one of the youths. Her parents found out about the relationship, his parents found out about the relationship, but nobody ever thought to question that a man over 30 years old impregnated a 17-year-old. It seems like her parents were mad at her, and he did at one point later tell me that she had tricked him into it and convinced him to sleep with her without a condom (it's hard to even type out).… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 02:06 AM |
| 5 | "National men make dinner day?"We may never know. I think it's any excuse to perform the bare minimum. On my dad's side I never saw my grandmother cook. Ever. My grandfather cooked every single day breakfast and dinner. Mom's side, grandmother always cooked, it was expected and that was her "role as a wife." My grandfather occasionally complained about the food, and my grandmother catered to this complaining. Somehow this resulted in a dad that never really learned how to cook and a mom that could, but had the expectation tha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 12:31 AM |
| 58 | My mom is a QUEEN & HVWYes go mom 👏👏👏 Everyone here needs to find a reason to walk out of something at least once. You will feel amazing for weeks, it will change your life! I've referred to this a couple of times, but I walked out on my dentist once. The hygienists were all making quiet comments to each other about him being in a mood that day, and I waited a good 20 minutes for him to get his unprofessional ass in there. He was one of those middle aged male professionals that think everything is below them and it wa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 09:37 PM |
| 31 | The majority of the comments used her mental illness against her and barely anyone told her to be careful. They jumped straight to making excuses for hin. If its a joke, it's not funny at all. There are better ways to spend your time. Yeah...I'm scared of men.Holy shit nah that's nothing to worry about at all RUN AWAY 😟 Run away! What the hell does your personality disorder have to do with this, tell it to run away too! Read a 2000 page book about running away effectively while you are running away if you have to. It's one thing to be obsessed with the morbid or have a dark sense of humor, but if he is actively saying that he could do better at murdering an SO in spite of knowing damn well that would scare anyone on Earth, then he is not only empathi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 07:00 PM |
| 2 | Share your ridiculous OLD storiesNo, definitely not a high value anything 😂 I changed the words to avoid any confusion. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 02:03 PM |
| 60 | Perfect response!A little advice from the subway: don't take advice from men on a SUBWAY, tf you doing sis get some fresh air 😟 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 02:11 AM |
| 28 | Is this romantic or cheap?I think that's the reason that this is an established relationship date. You can only learn from a picnic with a guy you've already dated. If he has put in grade A, HVM effort on previous dates but then shows up to a picnic with a doritos bag and grocery store chicken, then you know what home life will look like if you stay with him 5 years and a restaurant isn't planning your special occasions. If he's been on the fence then the picnic date is the ultimate litmus test. If he's been lazy in the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 02:06 AM |
| 27 | Share your ridiculous OLD storiesI've been on some bad, boring dates with with not so great men, and honestly I'd rather repeat this one then have to sit through someone who's barely scratching mediocre or walk out on someone that thinks negging is flirting (and I'll do it, I'll walk straight out of a dentist chair if they are rude, do it on a date and I will butter up a slice of that appetizer bread for my walk out). It was hilarious at the time and I still get a chuckle out of it every once in awhile. Just the bold, enthusias… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 09:05 PM |
| 127 | Share your ridiculous OLD storiesI didn't block right away. He got upset and followed me out into the driveway when I was leaving. Honestly I wasn't even remotely mad, I was just kind of amused at how enthusiastic he was. I was trying to shush him as I was leaving and I said we could talk about it later, but it was just because I didn't want him to spill the trashy beans in front of his neighbors like I had anything to do with it 😂 Anyway long story short I wanted to hold up my end and talk to him about it since I said I would.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 07:48 PM |
| 12 | “Cooking a nice dinner isn’t a sign of being a grown up. Cleaning your kitchen after that dinner and before you go to bed is being an adult.”I worked in restaurants half my life Username checks out! 🔪 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 07:25 PM |
| 247 | Share your ridiculous OLD storiesOooh I've just been waiting to tell you gals about this one. It's a tldr, but I really want to bring you ladies through this ride with my younger self. TLDR @ bottom. Many years ago I went on a few dates with a guy that seemed great. Both in our 30s. He pulled out all the stops for dates (even brought me flowers), he was texting a lot, he was passionate about his work, and he had been charismatic & kind so far. He seemed very close to his family, and he talked fondly of women (his role model was… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 06:08 PM |
| 26 | If you don’t meet him half way he really does go all the way.Fantastic! People spend too much time thinking they need to justify why FDS works before they give it a go. All this stuff about biology and reproduction and evolution - it's good for deep thoughts -type discussion, but it's not really necessary. It works, and it makes sense. Men are conditioned by society since birth to go after what they want and let their effort do the talking is that any opportunity to chase is worth doing poorly. Men therefore find that women have more romantic opportunitie… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 05:33 PM |
| 24 | Dude wants to watch porn ON HIS WORK LAPTOPI've been in management for 20 years dealing with these people & their shit. I can tell you this with certainty: If this guy is worried about (3) his work being able to see what is on a personal computer on the same network (that could be anyone's) when his work laptop is also on the network, basic technical plausibility aside, he is 100% looking at something that he either knows or suspects to be illegal. I hope people tell him to proudly upload that stuff to his work computer. He would be doin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 05:02 PM |
| 32 | “Cooking a nice dinner isn’t a sign of being a grown up. Cleaning your kitchen after that dinner and before you go to bed is being an adult.”This has changed my view on cooking. I used to love to cook big, fancy meals from the age of 12 up, but it took a LONG time to learn to clean as I go and manage the time & mess. My family didn't pat me on the head and blindly say how proud they were of my cooking when I was growing up, they appreciated the effort but they weren't hesitant to express the dread of the clean up (rightly so). And you are right - I liked the cooking part because it was fun, and I learned the cleaning part because it … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 04:53 PM |
| 140 | “Cooking a nice dinner isn’t a sign of being a grown up. Cleaning your kitchen after that dinner and before you go to bed is being an adult.”Yuck. This is one of the reasons I stopped being a fan of potlucks. People are just nasty with their gross kitchens and pets, and single men tend to be the worst. Make sure the guy doesn't just do the dishes with you, make sure that he does them alone and unprompted. So many people have dishwashers now, more than ever there is no reason to have days old dirty dishes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 03:12 PM |
| 5 | Do men think women find this sexy?If you are going to love bomb, make sure you scorch the earth! 💣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 08:33 PM |
| 3 | I feel like this guy raised a red flag by sending me a video of him hurting/annoying a dogI'm so confused. What exactly did he expect back from you? "Lol you poked that dog!" The dog is probably fine, but this guy sounds like a tool. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 04:47 AM |
| 70 | Excessive 'buttlicking' is a red flag.I'm curious to know of any other red flags that you noticed. A lot of HVMs come off as "too nice," but turn off women that are conditioned to think that they aren't good enough ("he must want something", "it's too good to be true" etc). But the same behavior is common among LVMs that DO have ulterior motives and are too good to be true. Red flags I've seen are them bragging about their behavior and talking about how great they are (narc stuff), the kindness not ever seeming personal, controlling… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 02:14 AM |
| 44 | A pick me at my university replying to someone saying they're not comfortable with their partner watching pornChances are he isn’t imagining himself having sex with the girl in the video, he’s probably wanking and thinking of your sexual encounters that screams that he's more into her than you The cognitive dissonance of the Pick Me on full display! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/20 08:09 PM |
| 5 | "You'll Never Get a Date Like THAT:" Male Sympathy is Inversely Correlated with the Effectiveness of Any Movement, Wide-ranging (RadFem) or Personal (FDS), that Benefits WomenBro if your support is conditional on us catering to your flimsy ego, you were never going to be a real ally. We haven't lost anything of value. Very good point, and I think this is what we all need to remember. If he wanted to understand it then he would look it up rather than have a woman explain it. If he wanted to be represented then his voice would be critical towards the injustice rather than the cause itself. If he wanted to join, then he would walk with us rather than asking women to car… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/20 06:52 PM |
| 8 | Pick-Me mother belittles her daughters and women in order to justify coddling her son. "Girls are just too much"I was going to say... The guy can't even succeed as a criminal, that is some true failureship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/20 06:38 AM |
| 55 | paultrick over here is full of red flags 🚩🚩Whew, scrolled down to make sure someone had this covered. Peter is such a boar. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/20 05:47 AM |
| 60 | Disclosure of trauma and other negative life experiencesYes, and I'll take it a step further: you don't even have to share when you are married. My husband doesn't know every detail of my past, and I don't know every detail of his. We know what's important to us: debt, personal history of cheating, drug use, criminal records, etc. But we really only covered major life turning points up until we were married. The rest just comes up as interesting facts from time to time, and I suspect that there are many, many things we don't really want to mention ei… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/20 05:43 AM |
| 5 | Don’t EVER go in any form of debt for a man!We're both settled & career workaholics, so neither of us are breaking the bank or getting into debt over the occasional luxury item. I wouldn't mind less expensive but he likes to impress me (as HVMs do!) and I like to oblige. He met my exact specifications though - I would have been way too cheap to buy that name brand hair dryer until I realized how much time and hair product it's been saving me 🙂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/20 03:50 AM |
| 4 | Don’t EVER go in any form of debt for a man!https://www.dyson.com/hair-care/dyson-supersonic/dyson-supersonic-shop-all Five minutes! Sometimes 6-7 if I've just hopped out of the shower. And my hair is thick. It also stopped my (admittedly bleached) ends from burning. It's a joy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/20 01:09 AM |
| 23 | "You'll Never Get a Date Like THAT:" Male Sympathy is Inversely Correlated with the Effectiveness of Any Movement, Wide-ranging (RadFem) or Personal (FDS), that Benefits WomenThe vocal ones that whine about us not including them sure don't. And when they are given co-authorship of women's movements, they end up promoting something like the porn industry. No sympathy, no empathy. That glass couldn't have anything written on it because these LVMs are absolutely transparent. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/20 12:13 AM |
| 24 | "You'll Never Get a Date Like THAT:" Male Sympathy is Inversely Correlated with the Effectiveness of Any Movement, Wide-ranging (RadFem) or Personal (FDS), that Benefits WomenBlock & delete 🔨 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/20 11:50 PM |
| 47 | Because a wife should be subservient to her husbandIn case anyone needed an obvious demonstration of how men in society use our own initiatives to try to degrade our rights: Liberal, pro-feminism, women's empowerment! (As long as sex positivity means that you sleep with more men, support my depraved/abusive kinks, support the porn industry, and either stay silent or encourage other women to do the same, prude) metoo! (As long as you immediately admit to your abuse publicly and with "proof") Women in the workplace! (As long as they are still mana… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/20 06:58 PM |
| 121 | “I feel bad for whoever tries to date you”Exactly, LVMs will systematically try to lower your standards, even if it means astounding you with their shit treatment of women when they neg you and even if they don't want to date you. They are all working for each other. Better to surround yourself with women in your living space (if possible, of course). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/20 06:28 PM |
| 39 | Don’t EVER go in any form of debt for a man!I'm not even going to address my exes here and their shitty, one sided holidays. I spent too much but I would never consider more than $100 for a boyfriend. $2000 is craziness unless she's independently wealthy. I bought my husband an accessory for his car & a couple other things. I researched it to find just the right thing (I'm more of the 'car person,' so not too hard but I wanted to get it just right). He loved it, success! My husband asked me what I'd like and I said a hairdryer, maybe a br… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/20 06:19 PM |
| 6 | I'm internally screamingPeople are going to be spending your entire life telling you why your problems aren't that bad. It will go from "you're young!" to "you have your health" to "at least your prognosis is good" to (being all but forgotten) to "at least she lived a good life." You would think it's belittling and counterproductive, but a lot of people do it and they usually think they have good intentions so there's not much you can do about it. What you are going through is some of the most challenging stuff that yo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/20 01:56 PM |
| 16 | Ugh, a few articles that empower me to stay single somedaysI was very sad when I read the "should have known better" and "you were privileged, enjoy your memories with him" feedback by men in the comment section. Even the article's answer itself was incredibly condescending. She was a widow, and may have been married for most of her life to the same person. A lot of women are extremely sheltered and are trained through their culture/church to see men as honorable with small exception. That society enforces this by making it a faux pas to even mention a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/20 05:28 PM |
| 29 | Scientists discover how to turn women's bone marrow into spermOne of my friends basically lived the dream through a sperm bank with a good reputation and verified donors. She got sick of dating, had kids on her own, & moved up the corporate ladder. Her son is 6'2", super good looking, & has a full scholarship in biochemical engineering so the genetics couldn't have been too bad. Edit: the angry DM block&delete fodder never cease to amaze this far down a thread chain. Scrotes get mad that some woman they don't even know might be their boss 5 levels up inste… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/20 05:57 AM |
| 22 | FDS led to the demise of my relationshipSounds like an FDS Success to me! I can't imagine being with somebody with a drug problem, especially one that is stoned all the time. He's probably not going to grow out of it (he was probably hiding opiates if he had ER level constipation) and you would have ended up exhausted and miserable. You deserve so much better. Late 20s is very young and you still have so much time if you choose to pursue a relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/20 05:31 AM |
| 19 | The Bar is LowI don't even want to know. I take it that all men start shitting themselves at around 40 (reason #7446 "the wall" is projection), and I have heard on here of younger men not wiping properly. I was hoping it was lack of common sense rather than homophobia. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/20 05:27 AM |
| 205 | The Bar is LowI actually had one guy tell me that he showered before our date when he would normally not do so because "I made him want to be a better person." This man was 30 with a fully realized engineering job and his mom had to call him to remind him to shower. No thanks 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/20 10:47 PM |
| 5 | Dating as a DemisexualThis may be unpopular but I'm going to say it: demisexual is just a made-up category to normalize sex with no emotional attachment. Wanting to have a monogamous, emotionally close, long-term relationship before sex is the norm. Even sexual freedom movements of the past have not attempted to put undue pressure on women to have sex early with no emotional attachment. It sounds like you are just finding the wrong men. You didn't mention how old you were, but it could be an age range issue as well. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/20 09:31 PM |
| 21 | Sounds like my exIt's just not science though. There is no sound evidence to compare humans to any known species, even the species that are closest to us have wildly differing mating behaviors. We haven't had common ancestors with them for millions of years. The closest this comes to science is likening it to a Rorschach test. People can read about "biology" and give their opinions on what our natural behavior is, but all that provides is a reflection of their views on relationships. The fact is that some of us … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/20 05:00 PM |
| 2 | "You are too choosey. Aren't you afraid of being single forever?"... (How would FDS reply to this?)It started out with criticism, block and delete ;) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/20 05:28 AM |
| 1 | One Real Marriage: A Case StudyI've thought about posting something similar. I love my husband and he has major HV, but no one is perfect. We're older and looks wise it shows more on him from lack of attention (and the fact that men just tend to age fast). The man can be downright petty sometimes during arguments, but overall he is kind, caring, has a good career and takes care of majority of the housework. There's no such thing as some pure HVM - they were all raised in a toxic culture. But there's nothing wrong with expecti… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/20 05:25 AM |
| 31 | Manchild who can’t handle 5 hours A WEEK alone with his child thinks discussing who does what is “silly” (as he asserts it’s “unreasonable” that his wife expects him to care for his own child while she’s in class). There are no words (besides don’t have children with LVM).Simple explanation: "Your daughter is scared that her basic needs are not going to be taken care of during her time with you. She is a human who is scared that the only person who supports her knowing that she is young and unable to care for herself will not be there in the event that she needs to be taken care of. Your child is scared of being left alone with you because she is vulnerable and you are not acting like an adult that she can trust." This is what LVM need to be told. Children are no… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/20 11:18 PM |
| 47 | Why is sexual harassment so common/tolerated in the restaurant industry?The restaurant industry is filled with low income and at risk women. Anytime there is an situation that invloves low income and high risk people, you will inevitably find misogyny, rape, and predatory behavior. This is how inequality manifests: look at the low income & disadvantaged, and you will find that the subset of the population that faces equality issues suffers first. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/20 11:07 PM |
| 6 | Would have entertained this clown a few months ago. Thank you FDSProud of you for the progress! You know you deserve better than giving these individuals the time of day much less your presence. Looking forward to the "lol k" then ghost after his first message. You don't need to explain anything to these scrotes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/20 10:59 PM |
| 297 | But if I say "respect me and don't watch porn" my standards are too high 🙄🙄I completely approve of men being encouraged to post this giant, red, everybody-need-not-apply warning label publicly! He should put this on a shirt and wear it to every date, job interview, and social gathering that he attends! 👍 You do you Blake, and make sure that everybody knows the real you that you are doing! Because you are going to be the only one doing you for a looooong time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/20 05:59 PM |
| 11 | When told she should devote herself to prayer and not debating or writing, Sor Juana Inés de la Cruz responded: "God would not have given women intellect if He did not want them to use it" 👑👸💅Yes!!! I'm going to publicly disagree with a room full of males today so I needed this inspiration, thank you for posting! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/20 04:47 PM |
| 12 | The next step to taking away our rights and freedoms as women has been taken. That's why we need FDS more than ever.It's not so much that we are on a high horse, but that a lot of us fear a contagious mental health crisis on our part. I don't know anyone here that is both fearful of reversion to the middle ages and runs under the assumption that the world will follow us blindly due to our accomplishments. As a whole we have people that think both, but individually the two seem to be mutually exclusive. So telling Americans to get off their high horse will inevitably result in you being told that there's nothi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/20 04:36 PM |
| 104 | Look at this incel bullshit, they've put "sex" under basic physiological needs. Normalizing rape logic as "education" 🙄🤮I think the most disturbing thing is that they put sex as a "need" and then put "sexual intimacy" higher up. That IS rape culture. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/20 02:45 AM |
| 49 | This is absolutely amazing, and a great way to deal with such.I had a frequented page in the early days of social media and I used to do the same thing. I'd also warn mom, however, that I planned on outing their sons and notifying authorities. Unfortunately moms' reactions changed 180 degrees when I actually reported/outed the offender. I had a mom actually file a lawsuit for her college aged, rape-threat sending son. It was really telling. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/20 02:37 AM |
| 2 | Ladies: the day you stop looking for "closure" is the day that you will be free. **You** are the only closure you need. Acknowledge your pain, forgive yourself, and forget the one that hurt you. Then go and use your experience to help one of your sisters. **That** is your closure.I completely agree. From experience even when you get a true apology (my ex-husband apologized to me, my family, and his family and it seemed very sincere) it doesn't give you anything back. The regret was still there, and I still wanted to know why it happened for 'closure.' His eventual apology was appreciated, but I only got over my regret when I forgave myself and moved on. And that's when I no longer needed closure. I think the real problem with Disney movies isn't that people do you wrong … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 11:57 PM |
| 6 | Women still not loving themselves out there...LOL they haven't even been dating for a year and she isn't important enough to keep a date with. Men are so entitled to women's time and attention that the mere thought of a woman pulling back unreturned effort is "deplorable" if the guy "needs" it for a personal issue that doesn't involve her. I guess I'd be the queen asshole over there, but like, I myself have cancer, and I would be understandably pissed if my husband left me, my mom disowned me, or my best friend stopped talking to me. But th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 10:12 PM |
| 11 | Ladies: the day you stop looking for "closure" is the day that you will be free. **You** are the only closure you need. Acknowledge your pain, forgive yourself, and forget the one that hurt you. Then go and use your experience to help one of your sisters. **That** is your closure.Thank you so much for saying that. I needed the reminder too, and knowing that it helped someone else is absolutely the best therapy and closure that exists ♥️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 08:33 PM |
| 40 | Ladies: the day you stop looking for "closure" is the day that you will be free. **You** are the only closure you need. Acknowledge your pain, forgive yourself, and forget the one that hurt you. Then go and use your experience to help one of your sisters. **That** is your closure.Ding ding ding! YES. "Don't continue to dance with the devil and wonder why you are still in hell." It reminds me of an odd behavior that they found in birds: birds would go back to the scene where another bird died even though they would sometimes get killed by that very same thing. Our minds tell us that we have to figure out what happened at the perceived source, because it is evolutionarily beneficial for us as a species to learn and to teach others what to avoid. Combine that with our empat… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 08:29 PM |
| 16 | "All my exes were crazy" - A common tactic used by abusers when their victims get subjected to reactive abuse. Please don't ever think that you're crazy and have mood swings in the relationship. It's your body literally giving you signs to leave the relationship.The constant switching of topics is so incredibly common in men. They do it at work, they do it at home, and even HVMs do it. I've taken to letting them get one clause into the next subject (don't wait for a full sentence to end, these scrotes argue like the book of mormon) before I act like the subject change is a misunderstanding: "oh no I was talking about _____". Then on the next clause, inevitably a subject change, I act like it did not happen and keep talking about the original subject. Fo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 08:10 PM |
| 133 | How do men see women in pornography if they can dehumanize and objectify women who are just wearing a bikini?And the men who scored higher as "hostile sexists"—those who view women as controlling and invaders of male space—didn't show brain activity that indicates they saw the women in bikinis as humans with thoughts and intentions. Men need to start acknowledging that all of them have the potential to be evil, and they need to stop overlooking their sexist friends. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 06:50 PM |
| 13 | NO, NO AND NO. Women NEVER liked serving men.What man doesn't like a good piece of historical fiction? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 06:16 PM |
| 19 | Part of the reason why I’m not religious and don’t go to church anymore. Too many pedos having their crimes covered up. Pastor creates fake nudes of teenaged girl in order to blackmail herIt's so disappointing to see this happening over and over. There's so much infidelity, rampant misogyny, and sick predatory behavior in religious groups. And to top it off, other churches respond by promoting forgiveness, watered down acknowledgement, and preaching "not all churches." It is so incredibly transparent, self-serving, and 100% complicit. No. I'll think about going back when they stop preaching hell fire and brimstone over abortion and start preaching hellfire and brimstone over the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 06:13 PM |
| 2 | No, unicorn, you’re a douche and please correct your age and put your own photo, thanks.What kind of decrepit, balding, STI-diseased unicorn is this? Andrew is the most basic of LVM acting like there aren't herds of them on the street that we aren't actively trying to avoid 😂 I swear these guys have 0 self-awareness. Just because you and your LVM buddies sit around fantasizing about being able to cheat as much as you want does not mean that women would want the same thing. If a woman wanted to "explore her sexuality" then why ever would she want your creepy middle-aged ass tagging … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 03:48 PM |
| 44 | Even if he says he wants a relationship, plans trips with you, puts in a ton of effort. He will still change his mind in a heartbeat.This is chilling - it is exactly something my narc (dx'd) ex would say. Think about what it would take a same human being to drive someone out of their comfort zone on a trip, come up with some is our relationship deal breaker, and without thinking tell them about it and then indicate that they not only know the exact reason but that they don't want to tell you. When I didn't get upset enough he would escalate by acting all neurotic and anxious about it. This is not someone who is having normal … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 02:40 PM |
| 23 | This is just sadLet's not even get into when he SHOWERS 🤯 💞 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 02:04 PM |
| 180 | A man wanting to have sex with you does not mean he likes about you. Male sexual attention is abundant and low value. Also, the same men who are going bareback with women are also the same ones who will complain the woman “trapped them” if she gets pregnant and decided to keep it. 🤡I dated a guy for 3-4 months when I was 19. He was 23 and very sweet; he took me out, treated me well (his mom expected nothing but the utmost chivalry towards women he was dating, he said), and he seemed genuinely caring. His place was gross so I did not like being there, but we met up one day to chat. He got an IRC message from a girl asking if he wanted to hang out and he said no and that he wished she wouldn't ask anymore. I asked him about it and he seemed very frustrated that she was conti… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/20 03:21 PM |
| 58 | What hard lessons did you learn over the years through dating?Most men in military/law enforcement are awful in romantic relationships. Military especially though - it's a misogynistic echo chamber that promotes infidelity/porn/drinking and holds family in very low regard. I can't say they are 100% all bad, but the numbers are staggering. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/20 05:05 AM |
| 10 | Woman is grateful that her amazing hook-up doesn't want her to die and informed her of a possible breast lump. How low is the bar exactly?"I found a guy that didn't NOT want to tell me over text message that I could have a deadly disease, but only after he got his orgasm(s), he made sure I was a out of his house, and I sent him a text first. Hooray!" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/20 02:25 AM |
| 5 | What’s a pick me man called??He (had a friend that) read a book in it once though... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/20 01:08 AM |
| 1 | Check on a Pick Me Friend TodaySadly this post was based on a true story on an acquaintance's social media (friend from high school). I don't understand it either. When I was young I would get hung up on men, but I've certainly never wanted one back after they left. This woman has taken this guy back again and again (he proposed after she found out he cheated 6 years in) and 3 years later she's back on social media with the toxic relationship posts. It's so sad what society tries to condition us to put up with. The day that I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/20 10:13 PM |
| 50 | Onesies all dayHe's wearing cargo shorts, but don't ask or he'll take them off for the photo he sends you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/20 06:51 PM |
| 7 | Ladies, I got asked if I do travel and accommodation at work. I'm an ENGINEER.I live for this brand of malicious compliance. Tell me to smile and I will laugh in your face. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/20 05:10 PM |
| 84 | What’s a pick me man called??I'll take "narcissist personality disorder" for 200, Alex. This guy is his next exhausting relationship away from ghosting a woman and then telling her she'll never find anyone like him, over & over, for the next 15 years. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 10:56 PM |
| 45 | Please don't shrink yourself to make (men) comfortable.YES and start getting those adjectives RIGHT when you are talking about the female coworker that you might not even like, your daughters, your nieces, and your granddaughters! Unified front, ladies! What lifts one woman lifts us all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 10:48 PM |
| 29 | “Womanly” activities are cooking, cleaning, caretaking & appearances 🤢Yeah but he will talk about protecting you in the 0.0001% chance that someone breaks into your house. He will leave the kids to you & use your support to move up while he decides how he wants to spend his money, all the while attempting flings with sexe independent women. He will write fake internet posts fantasizing about womenlywomens being his man-servants. Oops no no no belete! He will change a lightbulb after putting it off for a month while he gets fat, goes bald, and rots in his middle ag… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 10:33 PM |
| 1 | She says that Successful women have a harder time getting successful men. She says that those men are rare first of all and they don’t want to date you because of your achievements. They want you to be HOT as fuck and pure joy to be around . Thoughts ?I completely agree, and I have nothing but respect for PsyDs, clinical psychologists, social workers, etc. I always encourage friends who are looking for help to check the credentials of the people they look for. There are some flaky "counselors" out there however, and they don't seem to be able to self-distinguish. Then there are con artists, with seemingly no regulatory oversight to keep them from presenting as professional "life coaches." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 07:46 PM |
| 7 | Blaming women for their own sexual exploitation and somehow making it about how oppressed men are... just what?How dare the ring of females exploit their female sexual energies, those very same energies who would naturally care deeply about the opinions of male strangers if they weren't being paid for by men! Free the sexual energies from the female ring leaders, sexual energies for free(dom)! Wut 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 07:10 PM |
| 5 | She says that Successful women have a harder time getting successful men. She says that those men are rare first of all and they don’t want to date you because of your achievements. They want you to be HOT as fuck and pure joy to be around . Thoughts ?She is a master Abundant Life Coach and founder of the Abundant Life Coach Certification program. I, too, am a master in shit that I made up; perhaps I should create a certification program. I always say I'm the queen of my castle but I didn't know I could use this title to amass subjects! It's really not that hard to get a therapy license, and there are some real whack jobs for therapists. I haven't seen anything that suggested that she even went that far though. It looks like she just made up … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 06:58 PM |
| 6 | Check on a Pick Me Friend TodayI don't think there's anything wrong with living with someone and helping with their mortgage, especially if you have a lease. You seem to have a problem with living with a stranger and him coming in anytime he wants to (understandable), but I struggle to understand how sleeping with him, dating him, and potentially not even having your own room resolves the spirit of that concern. You don't trust strange men, so you are willing to sacrifice your independence, personal space, dating options, and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 06:28 PM |
| 3 | Apparently I wasn't actually having fun because I didn't drink.Oh God, how embarrassing 😟 this is someone's sibling out there, the guy no one wants at the family get together. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 05:44 PM |
| 9 | She says that Successful women have a harder time getting successful men. She says that those men are rare first of all and they don’t want to date you because of your achievements. They want you to be HOT as fuck and pure joy to be around . Thoughts ?Wait wait wait found it. From her website: She is a master Abundant Life Coach who specializes in helping people to heal and experience life-changing breakthrough and enlightenment. Rebecca is best known for relationship coaching, spiritual healing, confidence coaching, business coaching, and leadership development. Rebecca is an anointed Healer and Intuitive who believes that ministry has moved from within the four walls of the church into the marketplace. Her clients, mentees, and members arou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 05:29 PM |
| 16 | She says that Successful women have a harder time getting successful men. She says that those men are rare first of all and they don’t want to date you because of your achievements. They want you to be HOT as fuck and pure joy to be around . Thoughts ?Successful men who actually care about being successful and building wealth typically want to be around women who care about the same. This is my experience anyway, but this was dating in my late twenties and early thirties. I'm successful and career focused, and I never had trouble finding the same, so what's the issue here..? I don't know why people watch these things, there is clearly nothing but speculation and sexist assumptions on both sides. Who cares what these people think? Making a vid… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 05:15 PM |
| 85 | Ladies, I got asked if I do travel and accommodation at work. I'm an ENGINEER.I'm in a high-level role in a large organization, and my background is an engineering. I had a male ask about what I do, and I walked through a day with him. He kept asking what various things meant, and how they applied to the corporation. These were very basic questions, and it was pretty clear that he was in a mid-entry level type technical role. He seemed smart, but he didn't have an engineering degree or much industry experience. Ladies, he went to his boss the next day and basically said h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 05:12 PM |
| 83 | Girl (16) gets free from creep boyfriend(20) in a close call situation.Yes, are we in the twilight zone? Why ever did her parents think this is appropriate or acceptable? When it's apparent that things are going downhill after they let someone groom and manipulate their daughter, why are they not supporting her? He called her mom and said that she's not emotionally stable; he's manipulating, stalking, and harassing her. She could be in real danger. What's going on, Mom..? How did the school let an adult man on their grounds to continue to manipulate and stalk a chi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 04:58 PM |
| 22 | On the ground outside...Unlike the other men who simply wanted to take her to a field, Robert had the home-field advantage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 07:36 AM |
| 29 | Ran into a guy I’ve been seeing while he was on a date with another girlThis is so true, and one of the many ways that men trying to use equality to their advantage. Even if the man in question is only truly dating and not looking for sex, it does not change the fact that women are in a disadvantaged position in relationships. The chances of a woman being led on for sex, assaulted, stalked, or losing social status due to dating are incredibly higher than for men. In addition, there are many, many more men of varying quality that throw themselves at women and are not… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 07:10 AM |
| 21 | Check on a Pick Me Friend TodayI wouldn't put my name on anything with a guy that I'm not legally protected from (i.e. married). I don't think I've ever known anyone to charge their girlfriend rent, how incredibly embarrassing. These scrotes are on some hard drugs 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 01:17 AM |
| 42 | Check on a Pick Me Friend TodayIt's a common excuse used to justify moving in with a male and helping pay his mortgage. A HVM isn't going to ask you to help pay off his house. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 10:10 PM |
| 95 | Check on a Pick Me Friend TodayHe will give you 16-day-old leftovers for the rest of his life if it gets him a little validation. One time I responded "lol k" six times to a narc ex over the course of a month before he escalated and then shut up. It's sad. It's like watching an alcoholic press a button 6000 times in a rehab center for their 0.1% alcohol shot. But remember: the only sadder thing than that is giving an alcoholic real shots and letting them ruin your day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 09:43 PM |
| 41 | Stop being a good girl. Take some time to reflect on what you were praised for as a child. Was it being quiet? Obedient? Having no boundaries? Self denial? People pleasing? Having a "perfect body"? The very concept of "goodness" in how we raise girls is so damaging.Older women usually save younger women. That's why society is nasty with them. Wow 🤯 I'm so sorry for your loss. It's something most of us experience, but it is one of life's greatest tragedies and has such a profound effect on women. It's hard to cope when those moms were supportive and caring: you lose your mom, a beloved friend, and in some sense your only true advocate other than yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 08:45 PM |
| 4 | "I Can Get Sex Anytime"I don't see this as a problem. I would rather be able to weed out men that don't want a relationship rather than have to play red flag hide-and-seek to determine whether they are just pursuing a relationship where sex is the end game. Unfortunately men's "I can get sex anytime" rants and weird, online cults like the "going their own way-ers" often end up more like a small child threatening to run away than any actual attempt to actively avoid a relationship. Pick Mes wouldn't necessarily a bad t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 08:14 PM |
| 4 | Answers to: What are you looking for?Any time! When I was dating (especially OLD) this was a constant question. I found I could get a whole basket of red flags just by being direct and tuning into their responses. NVMs and narcissists will mirror, but they will do so whether you tell them what you want or not. Being general but direct makes them fill in the blanks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 06:59 PM |
| 31 | Answers to: What are you looking for?"Let's see how it goes" sounds like code for casual. Personally I dislike this question because it's generic and lazy, but it's so ingrained in culture that even HVMs ask. I'm in favor of telling men what I want, because it puts me in a position of power. These are a couple of ways to go about it without giving him something that he can mirror: Ask him to be more specific. "Can you be more specific?" "Are you referring to what I'm looking for in terms of a relationship, or what I'm looking for i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 06:44 PM |
| 81 | What is with Snapchat?There is a particular brand of LVM that does not necessarily want nudes (or he knows he can't get them), but rather an easy way to communicate and get validation from women without having to resort to words. This is similar to the forever-text man, except that he doesn't even want to put the effort in to text. It's just pure laziness. There's also a chance that he is the NVM that wants nudes or attractive pictures. It would be like him having his own personal instagram model; a SFW camgirl is be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 05:50 PM |
| 2 | Good reminder this week: DON’T settle!This is Nah, Sis nonsense for me. It's like someone who needs help at work and tells ME to find time on their schedule for a meeting. I'm not your secretary, you can either coordinate a day verbally or you can find a time on MY schedule. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 04:56 PM |
| 28 | Please beware of men who treat us like experimental projects... this is so extremeNothing wrong with guys asking him to write a book, the dude is a proven fiction author. This gig may finally get him out of his mama's guest bedroom. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 05:03 AM |
| 8 | REMINDER: No, You Don't Have "Resting Bitch Face"You have a face, and you may come off as unapproachable; everyone is different! But the fact that you've been evaluated on your expression to the extent that you now immediately identify with "Bitch Face" when you are relaxed and minding your own business is exactly the spirit of the post. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 04:28 AM |
| 37 | REMINDER: No, You Don't Have "Resting Bitch Face"If the name was originally "Resting Confident Face" then and wasn't used to criticize women then the post would be moot. But the original concept was a misogynistic stereotype to label anyone that didn't smile or demure a bitch. Any derivation of the term, thing or not, is built on the foundation of misogyny. I'm all about taking back terminology (ala "Why Men Love Bitches"), but the continued thinking that women in particular are somehow at fault for not making a face to please someone else is … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 07:31 PM |
| 47 | If one were to enter a LVM's brain this is what they would find (alongside porn):You don't need to look inside their brain; that's not much different than how they talk. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 04:26 PM |
| 42 | "The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don't have any."That and women look, as a whole, objectively better than men past 35. Remember people usually hate the perceived flaws in others that they see in themselves. Imagine entering a new level of self-aware adulthood and suddenly your female counterparts no longer put up with the petty behavior you've been taught your whole life AND they look better doing it. Something about aging insecure men imagining and obsessing over walls 🙂 You have to feel bad for them just a little. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 04:22 PM |
| 8 | Own your sorrowMen do not react well to this type of writing because it speaks the truth on what they have created, and they flock to put down a woman that they see as vulnerable. Most of them are severely emotionally stunted from being bullied by other men and in turn bullying others, and they can't fathom accepting that they are disappointed with something and simply expressing it. One of the reasons I love being here are to hear the thoughts and experiences of other women with text that is free of the under… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 02:23 PM |
| 1 | Are they actually trying to date, or is this just trolling?He's just trolling, obviously. There's no way an lvm would be this self aware. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 02:06 PM |
| 26 | How does a HVW deal with catcalling?Right on - any angry, aggressive, or even passive aggressive reaction gives them validation. They are only acting out to scare people or make them mad. I grew up frequenting the city and in certain parts of town it's hard to go a day without getting cat called. The best thing you can do is just keep walking and don't even look in their direction. You know you have been successful when they escalate or call you a name in a desperate attempt to be validated as something more than unnoticed trash d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 05:31 AM |
| 17 | Matchmaking servicesI assuming you mean professional matchmaking. I don't have any direct experience but I have known a few men who have used matchmaking services (mid sized city US) and all of them had "eccentric" personalities and had not been able to find anyone on OLD. One had some serious serial killer vibes. I'm sure this varies from regional region but I would have been livid if I had paid to get matched up with any of them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 05:20 AM |
| 181 | Maturely handling accusations of "not being able to find a man.""K." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 05:05 AM |
| 19 | Uh, sure guy. Men are victims more than women 🙄🙄That's a little misleading. Women perpetrate slighlty more reported domestic violence against men, which makes sense because of the number of straight couples living together. The other cases are homosexual men and men that are living together. If you look at all cases of domestic violence, the large majority is perpetrated by males (obviously). Domestic violence that ends in severe injury or murder is even more represented by male perpetrators. There's not really any debate over this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/20 11:22 PM |
| 57 | Uh, sure guy. Men are victims more than women 🙄🙄Ok, so we agree: the perpetrators are men. And the mere fact that this SOB he's talking about being a victim without anyone asking how he contributed tells me that he is not sufficiently protecting himself. Was he alone with men at the time? Did he have the audacity to talk back when someone offended him? Or did he passively ignore and extricate himself from the situation? Was he not in a group of violence-opposed men at the time? He certainly wasn't ALONE, was he? Was he in a bar, a high crime … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/20 07:23 PM |
| 29 | Imagine, your country found your gender so worthless when you were born, your peers were left in ditches to die. Now there's a surge in single lonely men in China & it's your fault for not settling. Oh and a red pill moron is making an example out of you. 😡Oh no! Better make sure that you have completely equal rights so that you can benefit from this single woman workforce. Unless your men are of such low value that the only "consequence" to not having one is government-imposed, and I'm sure that's not the case 😏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/20 04:57 PM |
| 85 | Is this supposed to be funny? He can't spare 10 minutes to feed a baby? Game is more important.This is why we don't date chronic gamers, it kills their brain cells. After a while they are basically the walking dead. You aren't a long term care facility, and that's all you become when you adopt these scrotes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/20 04:48 PM |
| 3 | If it's good for the goose... Imagine only having to work full time (like we all do anyway) and having someone else manage the housework every day for the rest of your lives 😍Sounds like he wasn't taking care of the housework to me! You are going to be thrilled when you get out of there, and your children will be better off for it. I was in a similar situation with my ex-husband and I was so relieved when I had my house back to myself. I could mow the lawn 25 times a week with the energy that I was losing by putting up with his LVM misery. I could have lived in a castle that needed new light bulbs twice a day and kept that place lit af. That's why I liked this though… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/20 04:00 PM |
| 2 | I'm so thankful I found this sub!I am so impressed at how self aware and mature you write for your age! You sound more put together than I was when I was 25. I'm glad you found this place; I wish I had when I was your age. It really is important as women that we learn to look out for ourselves, because the world won't. Your age is when so many girls fall for predatory societal traps. Glad to have you here! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/20 05:52 AM |
| 15 | There's this new Tiktok trend of singing this song to your girlfriend 'Why Beer is better than Women' and watching her reaction, and it's not just the kids doing it. Disgusting, once you hear the lyrics..Right o' buddy. She only looked shocked because she knows that even your cheap can of beer doesn't want to settle for your raggety ass 1 bedroom "estate" 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/20 05:32 AM |
| 7 | WTF is a SIGMA male? A guy I blocked had his friend telling me that he was a “sigma male”... I looked it up out of boredom. Sounds like a Beta with some undiagnosed clinical self delusion 🥴It's a social "norm" now to dehumanize women..? This is what happens when you learn human psychology on YouTube & Quora. None of this is real 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/20 12:06 AM |
| 18 | WTF is a SIGMA male? A guy I blocked had his friend telling me that he was a “sigma male”... I looked it up out of boredom. Sounds like a Beta with some undiagnosed clinical self delusion 🥴I'm not studying the basement dweller chart of men. All of the levels here and the ones to the side are just undiagnosed mental health issues. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/20 12:01 AM |
| 78 | Men on Reddit are MAD at these tweets yet fail to understand that these girls are trolling and are repeating excuses and lies men tell women when they cheat 🤣Just talk with her! You can work this out, at least she doesn't beat you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 07:40 PM |
| 40 | If it's good for the goose... Imagine only having to work full time (like we all do anyway) and having someone else manage the housework every day for the rest of your lives 😍Can you ever imagine! Doing the bare minimum of a couple diaper changes and feedings a day and him being over the damned moon but (gasp) worried over whether I'm still attracted to him. "You look amazing baby and you still clean the place, 10/10 🔥 superdad, are there EVEN other men out there 'cause I've looked and I've never seen one!" 😍 Me showing the bare minimum of compassion and love and having all of the other men swoon about how amazing I am! Him singing my praises on the internet because … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 07:08 PM |
| 7 | Setting you up to prove yourselfhttps://youtu.be/m9We2XsVZfc | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 06:50 PM |
| 143 | Men on Reddit are MAD at these tweets yet fail to understand that these girls are trolling and are repeating excuses and lies men tell women when they cheat 🤣Yeah but she came home to YOU at the end of the weekend. 💪 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 06:40 PM |
| 21 | After lurking on asktrp, I found that men there both wanna casually f as many women as possible , and disrespect the women they had casual sex with. So:Exactly! I just don't understand why this is even a consideration. This is like trying to explain to someone why they shouldn't shovel shit off the interstate for free in the hopes that they'll find a quarter on the ground. Yeah I get it, Disney or whatever, but Cinderella the Shit Shoveler didn't sleep with him & she dated a prince. Kyle's mama doesn't even like him, he is not a prince. Even the Bare Minimum Belle the Shit Shoveler's abusive love interest owned a castle! Brad doesn't even fully… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 04:46 PM |
| 29 | Women in their early 20s are dating LVM/NVM because they think that all men our age are like this.^ This really is the sweet spot, oddly specific or not. Every once in a while a half decent 19-24 will come along, but most of the fish in the 32 and up sea are either dead or diseased. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 04:42 PM |
| 52 | After lurking on asktrp, I found that men there both wanna casually f as many women as possible , and disrespect the women they had casual sex with. So:I just can't fathom the allure of having casual sex with a guy. Who would ever want to wake up next to (or have to kick out) some casual, entitled, arrogant scrote who might DM you until they die of old age? The rare grand prize in the scenario is an orgasm, which is a two-minute guaranteed deal without him 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 04:34 PM |
| 9 | Alright ladies! How many of you have been in a fight like this?! (The Break Up)10/10 adult woman marries 2/10, lazy, dumpy, disrespectful, overweight, entitled, balding, childish middle aged man. Just stop letting men write movies already 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 03:08 PM |
| 14 | Do men respect a women who is not a people pleaser?This may show my age, but I would recommend reading 'How to win Friends and influence People'. I had to read it during my first go around as a manager, and I will still read a section from time to time. Small things like taking a genuine interest in what other people are saying, learning and speaking on their terms, remembering their name, asking small questions about what they say, and smiling when they initiate contact made a huge difference for me. It's not anything that I put an incredible a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 01:05 AM |
| 103 | Wow, I just realized that all of my 20's went to being a pickmeisha and needing validation from men. Don't be the old me...Don't be too hard on yourself. You are out there with millions of women that have not had the experience or the knowledge to see the light yet. I have the same thoughts and regrets sometimes, but it's better to be enlightened at 30/40/50 than to not be enlightened at all. And unlike 20s you, you now have a full-up support group! 💪 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 12:51 AM |
| 11 | Gas me up to drop this manI am so sorry for what you have been through. It takes a lot to open up about trauma, and once you do it comes with an emotional commitment on your part to the person that you have told. That is the hook for an abuser; they get closer, they push, they overwhelm (the BDSM, "oh my God he would not shut up about his exes"), and then they get what they need: the information about you that makes you vulnerable. Once they have that, they know that you are committed to continuing dialogue. It's exactly… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 12:21 AM |
| 17 | What do men even do to attract us?To attract us they should be learning, developing useful skills, career building, amassing wealth, focusing on physical and mental health, working out, etc. Dressing nicely, grooming, and smelling good are a given, and anyone who says otherwise is low on the value scale. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 10:58 PM |
| 26 | Do men respect a women who is not a people pleaser?There's a difference between being a "people pleaser" and being likeable. People pleasing is associated with taking on an additional burden for the sole benefit of pleasing others, while your likeability is about how you present yourself and includes what benefits that bestows onto you. Never people please, but if you think that you would benefit from adopting behaviors that are likeable, then do it as a self help exercise. Do not do it for men. Being likeable will make you more successful at wo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 10:22 PM |
| 38 | My friends hvm bf never let her payYep. A LVM that changed when/after they meet a woman is still a LVM. Males can change personally and can cross the LVM/HVM line, but if they were "fuck boy"-level LVM long term then they probably won't be HVM ever. If they changed after they met a woman, they chance of long term change is near zero. Men can fool themselves and play the long game over the course of SEVERAL years if they find a woman that is out of their league or supports them financially, but as soon as life stress wears on them… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 08:16 PM |
| 10 | FDS changed my life. Thank YOU"You caused me to cheat but if you just let me back in I will fix it." Wow. I'm so glad you made it out of that, and I hope that you are able to develop a co-parenting relationship that works for you because in spite of what he is probably going to assume based on his communication, making it work for him is not your responsibility 🙂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 07:54 PM |
| 144 | Ladies, let’s talk about money! Whether you're single, dating, or married, all women need to be financially literate. Here are my tips to help protect yourself and to increase your financial security at all stages of your life.Married ladies: always have YOUR OWN copies of your tax records, and always review said records. I don't care if he does them, you do them, or a CPA does them. I don't care if you are married filing separately. You should always have a copy of your tax records AND your spouses tax records. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 05:55 PM |
| 47 | ‼️🚩 If a guy says “Don't post pics of us online. I don't like PDA” dump him immediately. 🚩‼️Yes, and don't fall for the "I'm just a private person." Even if he shows privacy concerns in other areas, he should not be controlling what YOU add to social media. Who he is married to is public domain. Who he lives with is public domain. If he has a social media at all, then wanting to keep out who he is dating is akin to climbing to the top of a 100 ft tree and clipping off a leaf. His entire social network and family is big data / public domain. Who he is dating early on is of no value to h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 05:48 PM |
| 6 | The Scariest Encounters Women Have on the Appalachian Trail Are With Men — “this report pissed me off, we can’t even enjoy nature w/o harassment from scrotes!”Guns can be very effective for home defense situations. But in that situation you have a time advantage (they would need to gain entry and find you), and you have the knowledge that the other party has already committed a crime. They are less effective in ambiguous social situations (like ours) or during a physical assault when the assailant is at close range. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 11:19 AM |
| 110 | Every time some incel sends us a message "wAhMeN r ObSoLeTe bCuZ pOrN aNd sEx DoLLz" I think about this picture and laugh. Remember ladies, YOU are the beautiful landscape! Image courtesy of r/nofapTrue story: those mountains could not know or care less that he exists. Make us obsolete, please. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 02:36 AM |
| 81 | The Scariest Encounters Women Have on the Appalachian Trail Are With Men — “this report pissed me off, we can’t even enjoy nature w/o harassment from scrotes!”I went on a morning hunting trip with a female friend and two men approached us as we were packing gear for the trail. Sometimes you just know that something is wrong with the way a man is communicating, and I haven't been able to accurately describe what it is: it's a deadness in their expression, where their eyes move, and some calculated indifference in their conversation. I know that I might not have been able to recognize it in my 20s, but I saw it and it made me cautious. When they left, f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 01:12 AM |
| 62 | I will never prepare a man for his forever home that isn't with me.Yep, the vast majority of HVMs got schooled somewhere for free! And men will gladly take all of the credit and hardship for it. This is why we don't tolerate LVM whining/complaining about their ex girlfriends and ex wives. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 05:00 PM |
| 90 | Just sayin'I thought the same thing after I got divorced the first time. And it is still 100% true even though I am married again: the fact that they have a major social advantage over you in almost every way cannot be stated enough. This is one of the reasons I am a fan of FDS; the betterment, empowerment, and protection of women absolutely has to be the number one priority if we are to enter into contracts where we are socially disadvantaged. This can be seen as trite, but it is essential that you have y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 04:12 PM |
| 7 | Don't fall for a Fauxpology or a Self-made Victim: "I'm Sorry it Came Off That Way," "I guess I'm the Bad Guy Once Again"I was with one of those too. He started out prime HVM without a red flag I can remember, and then descended into some sort of crisis. He broke several bones over the course of months punching holes in walls and when I broke up with him, he cut himself, left a purposefully bloodstained note, and was trying desperately to triangulate off of the nurse that stitched him up & gave him her number. This was happening while I was gathering my things from his place (with a police escort - I was taking no… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 03:06 PM |
| 5 | Don't fall for a Fauxpology or a Self-made Victim: "I'm Sorry it Came Off That Way," "I guess I'm the Bad Guy Once Again"Excusing manipulative, petty behavior from men as 'the way guys communicate' is yet another societally enforced means of keeping women down. It is socially acceptable for men to lie, manipulate, gaslight, and stand over someone who is crying while they argue in an angry manner ("I'm really just hurt, but I don't express emotion like you do"). Then as the icing on the cake, women get accused of being the nagging, manipulative, petty person in the relationship. The perception of men that is taught… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 02:51 PM |
| 8 | Of course there are people in the comments saying things like “why shouldn’t a woman propose to a man?“I was ready for the cringe after those first two sentences; I almost didn't want to read further. This works so well for your situation though, and the way that you went about it (including the 2 cents) is spot on. Thank you for sharing. It's always interesting to hear an exception for what I thought was a hard rule. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 06:01 AM |
| 1 | And men wonder why they can’t get any dates. Had a well put together bio and second question he asked was about my job, hate when they do that, but answered, proceeded to tell me he’s been furloughed and then goes on to the a Negative Nancy about people never going on dates. Fair to say I unmatched.Wow. Mr Furlough is a busy guy, and he doesn't have time to be texting you like some pen pal if you aren't going to drink with him soon. He sounds super pleasant 😕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 05:48 AM |
| 11 | Don't fall for a Fauxpology or a Self-made Victim: "I'm Sorry it Came Off That Way," "I guess I'm the Bad Guy Once Again"100% solid advice - I love it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 12:37 AM |
| 19 | How to Vet STEM MenIf it was a strictly classist stereotype that wasn't meant to degrade women, then it would not have a female target. The 'elite' population degrades women just like those of us that had to pay our way, and downing those women for seeking an education doesn't make us better. A receding tide lowers all boats. No one is "not like the other girls" because they had to pay for college. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 12:11 AM |
| 24 | How to Vet STEM MenSometimes you just meet somebody who could be your soul sister 😊 I founded a tech company as well. I worked side jobs to keep myself and my vendors paid until I started netting enough profit to consider it my full-time job just to avoid shitty LVM investors, and I ran myself ragged dealing with LVM employees until the company sold. I used to joke that I had fired too many tech guys to ever have to break up with one, and the "cold hard logic" guys were the absolute worst. No you're not logical, y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 12:06 AM |
| 3 | If it comes to “policing porn” he’s already gone, but “mind control”? The scrotedacity is at an all time highThis is why it's important to leave early on if you know that someone is watching porn. ASK, listen to their answer, and leave if it is a yes whether it's a "maybe" "not when I'm in a relationship" or "sometimes" yes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 09:22 PM |
| 20 | How to Vet STEM MenThese are some top notch red flags! And thank you for the reminder to distance yourself; associating with LVM will absolutely hurt your career and bring you down. Rise to the top of the pot, but make sure you aren't rising with the scum. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 08:39 PM |
| 38 | How to Vet STEM MenIt does get slightly better over time. As long as you keep your head up and don't coolgirl down to their level, you & the other women will eventually start to be surrounded by more successful, higher value male coworkers. FDS works for work as well. You'll still have to deal with blatant misogyny and having to work twice as hard, but at least you don't have to deal with the mouth breathers and hear them talk shit about the women they supposedly love all day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 08:35 PM |
| 2 | This is a reality for so many women 😭Reality: guy is trash and she needs FDS. Level up, support your sister, and out this LVM so you can ping pong him into the dumpster. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 08:14 PM |
| 71 | How to Vet STEM MenDouble check on software. I try not to dig specifically on software engineers, but it either attracts or ferments the worst of LVMs. Props for making it through that gauntlet of walking personality disorders. I agree on not dating someone in the same field - I always tried to avoid dating electrical engineers or even males that are into similar hobbies. They aren't doing anything to help me grow as a person, and even HVMs can get on a inferiority complex streak and try to one up the nearest pers… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 07:50 PM |
| 75 | How to Vet STEM MenYes, especially number three. Anyone that says "M.R.S. degree" as though women are paying thousands of dollars or have earned thousands of dollars in scholarships or even those whose parents are paying to study FOR MEN is immediately a NVM to me. I'm sorry you've gone through this, I can relate to every one of these unfortunately. I thought things were getting better until the software engineers came along and proved me wrong 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 07:31 PM |
| 75 | Good men hold other men accountable. End of story.And good men hold themselves accountable. They aren't monsters among you, they are you. The holocaust won't happen when everyone realizes that they themselves could have been hitler, and men won't stop abusing women until men realize they they could have been (or perhaps have been) abusers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 07:01 PM |
| 19 | Hear! Hear!I actually hear this when I post about cancer. I talk specifically about women because I am usually talking about gynecological cancer, and men&pickmes get on there like "but prostate cancer, men get cancer too!" 🥴 Of course they go "men matter too" on basic respect - they are digging slightly over the bar that is lodged in hell. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 06:57 PM |
| 5 | “How many of you have ever felt personally victimized by a man” 🙋♀️🙋♀️🙋♀️🙋♀️🙋♀️They generalize women's presence here to the people that are trying to cope with trauma, and it's offensive on so many levels. I was lucky enough to escape trauma in my youth, but I'm still having to live in a society that excuses filth-for-men and places an excessive burden on women and excuses men's abuse. Even if I didn't have to deal with that, I'd know that the vast majority of my female friends experienced some level of abuse at a young age at the hands of men. That alone is enough to crea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 06:10 PM |
| 63 | On Disclosure: Your Past is None of His BusinessWomen are conditioned to act like we are finding golden nuggets when we learn something new about men years into a relationship, but we are told that not spilling absolutely everything about ourselves (particularly with past relationships) is borderline betrayal. Society treats a woman's past like a carfax report, but we are not objects and this isn't a transfer of ownership. My husband knows the basics about me, and I don't feel any need to dig around and fill up a pitcher of fears, traumas, or… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 08:18 PM |
| 149 | Please stop posting screenshot of you going back and forth with a LVM on OLD, text message, or on social mediaYes! Stop roadmapping for these LVMs. LVM: "field tomorrow?" Sis: "I'm not going to a field with a stranger." LVM: "k netflix & chill?" Sis: "I only do dates!" LVM: "... coffee?" Sis: "REAL dates." Etc. Just stop. He should have been blocked after either his or your FIRST message. You (or his next victim) are just going to be on here in 6 months crying that your super HVM degraded seemingly out of nowhere. If he wanted to, then he would without you asking. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 06:09 PM |
| 31 | My boyfriend destroyed my 7 year old Bonsai treeExactly. And it's certainly ok to be angry for as long as it takes to reach inner peace. "Give me a chance, let's get back together." "No." "Why??" "Because you were abusive when you did x, y, z and I won't be with an abuser." "You said you forgave me!!!" That is not forgiveness; women can forgive and don't have to let toxic people into their life. I wrote more but it's probably its own post, "faux-giveness" is one of my pet peeves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 08:04 PM |
| 50 | My boyfriend destroyed my 7 year old Bonsai treeForgiving something does not mean that you do not hold them accountable and then accepting them back into your life. It means that you recognize this abuse, be thankful that it happened early before his "pranks" escalate, completely remove him from your life, and then work on letting go of your rage and regret as you find someone else that appreciates you and cherishes what brings you happiness. Forgiving is a personal improvement; saying otherwise is a classic LVM abuse/gaslighting tactic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 05:12 PM |
| 132 | My boyfriend destroyed my 7 year old Bonsai treeYES. Even if this was accidental, putting someone's personal property in jeopardy "as a joke lol" is abuse. "I left your computer out in the yard aS a jOKe, I didn't know it was going to rain." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 05:07 PM |
| 35 | My boyfriend destroyed my 7 year old Bonsai treeYou should absolutely in no way feel as though you have to continue a relationship with this male. As someone who has bonsai plants (and, like everyone, has something that they have invested years into creating), you are absolutely right to be enraged. This is not 'dumb guy' behavior, please don't think of yourself so lowly to excuse it as such. Does he have anything that he takes pride in? Would he be happy if someone killed his car as a joke and said "LoL it's not like you built the thing.' Th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 05:04 PM |
| 16 | The "perfect" relationship 🤮They call all their friends sthupid, dey haf amazing secthfff 🤡 What kind of petty life nightmare is this? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 03:01 PM |
| 12 | LibFem Twitter is at it again. WTF is “Sexual Mutual Aid”? Notice how quickly the Incels jumped into the fray to spin this idea into a way to punish women who won’t have sex with them🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️I'm not sure what she is doing on twitter when she could be polishing up on a robust resume of her donations. I'm sure she's not using ALL of her free time trying to sell human trafficking of poor people to the general populace. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 05:27 AM |
| 98 | Men love gold diggersLVM love to call women gold diggers because it lets them roleplay having anything golden to offer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 05:52 PM |
| 27 | That is pathetic...manchild🐸🥴 The smile on his face makes it all worth it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 05:33 PM |
| 2 | Male lurker responds to my men love gold digger post. LolA wild male opinion has appeared! 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 05:01 PM |
| 30 | “Isn’t a date all about communication” —> proceeds to take you to a field 🤡This date is at best a guaranteed relationship interview where you show up, 100% prop up any semblance of conversation, list out what you can do for him (better be laundry!) and pay for your coffee. If you succeed he might lukewarm his 🔎 to mebe-relationship until he sleeps with you. If you are super hot pick me bang maid he might even 🔎 sorta-relationship until he cheats! These types are so dull it's almost subhuman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 04:59 PM |
| 80 | “Isn’t a date all about communication” —> proceeds to take you to a field 🤡There he is again, the never-elusive 🏋️ "sometimes", 🔎 doesn't know / casual, 🍼 one day (4 legacy). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 04:50 PM |
| 7 | Found a discarded notebook at the thrift with this inside, sis is a queen.This was so baked into language in the 80s/90s that I have to remind myself to think of it as a taboo expression, and I think this note is the first time for me that it soured someone's message without a reminder. It seems obvious now that it should have always been unacceptable (a testament to the power of cultural change rather than rulemaking), but something in the back of my mind echos "yeah kid, wicked retah-ded." I'm glad things are changing for the better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 04:43 PM |
| 5 | Someone send FDS link to those poor women who now carry this condomless scrote’s offspring...Gets on OLD, admits after 3 months he has children "from the past," gets mad when being "judged" over honest addiction. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 06:48 PM |
| 29 | Young woman is uncomfortable with her boyfriend being close to past sex partners and of course /relationships shames her for it."Woman from massively male dominated culture questions herself over completely reasonable concerns over boyfriend's disgusting, unhealthy behavior" could be the morning news. ... if "morning" happened every 7 seconds 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 06:40 PM |
| 60 | Don’t hire LVM/NVMsIronically enough I just posted a comment on a different thread about a nightmare LVM employee. TLDR chronic white collar porn watcher gets flagged for not working, pictures to management that manager doesn't compliment him enough, ruins her reputation, and finally gets busted for not working / porn 2 years after her report. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 06:35 PM |
| 55 | Glad to be married to a HVM, but this reminded me of some men who wants a parade for taking out the trash.In the year 2003 a friend had to fire a guy that wasn't working. He just sat there, day after day, staring at documents and producing nothing. She went to his manager to improve things and guy argued "I get to work nicely dressed on time everyday, and I get no positive feedback from her!" They let him stay and he went around bragging that he had actually gone out with her once as friends and the whole incident was revenge for him rejecting her advances. He had the audacity to write this in an em… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 06:27 PM |
| 5 | Boyfriend's "RULES"The only rules that she needs to be working out with this loser are child support (if they are his) and no contact. I fully believe that men write these so that they can gaslight their partner into following their own unreasonable demands. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 05:47 PM |
| 3 | Nature always give warning when with LVmI will spin this a different way: perhaps you recognize nature as a warning when you know deep down that things aren't right. Women are societally pressured into suppressing our recognition of red flags and dangerous behavior. Sometimes we know that things are off, but it takes our subconscious saying "Girl seriously..? Maybe it was the snow storm 🙄 can we stop already?" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 05:43 PM |
| 40 | Found this gem in my suggested posts. It’s actually crazy how delusional MGTOW are. Do they really think they need this much protection?😂 I have some women lawyers I could recommend to him to for consultation $$. You have to be pretty sleazy to start preparing for your criminal litigation & child support negotiation up front. "Society doesn't support rapists & deadbeat dads, boohoo." The violin is as tiny as your self respect, scrote. Go your own way already. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 05:27 PM |
| 1 | FDS Babes, I need some guidance here!I saw some big red flags here including the 50/50. You've only been together for 2 months at most and you have already been pretty close to an exclusive couple from what it sounds. How often are your interactions outside of work? This is very early to be seeing him everyday or "hanging out." I took from the fact that you are camping that you are already acting like an exclusive couple, but I may be mistaken depending on where you live. Remember that most men are able to very easily hide who they… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 04:24 PM |
| 0 | The Coffee Date SidestepI would stick to a short video call if anything at all, but only after he has proposed, planned, and detailed the time and place for the first date. If you find yourself wasting a lot of time (a) texting back and forth before the first date or (b) going on a lot of lazy dates with low effort or slobby men, then I would start a root cause analysis: is the problem really that you are having issues scheduling high effort first dates with potential HVM, or are you missing red flags earlier in the pr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 03:33 PM |
| 5 | It happened, ladies - someone saw a thread of mine and assumed they knew me for posting on FDS...They wouldn't be so obsessed if there wasn't so much truth here 👑 Men's unsolicited opinions are the cheapest and most abundant of what they offer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 04:28 AM |
| 35 | Possible red flag: if he justifies his past shitty actions with other women instead of taking accountability.WOW. It's not normal to get a high off of seeing others hurting; that surpasses LVM behavior. I'd be concerned too if she were my friend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 04:18 AM |
| 6 | I HAVE NO WORDS.Gut reaction indeed 💩 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 02:25 AM |
| 72 | I HAVE NO WORDS."..this has blown up more than anticipated" Girl I can't 😂 not today, satan! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 07:47 PM |
| 51 | Grateful for my dad ❤The tears 😭 I love your post. As a parent FDSer, these are prime parenting goals. I'm so happy that you are safe and loved, because you ARE God's gift! 👑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 06:50 PM |
| 6 | He was a “simple” girl who isn’t “overly complex” or “overly ambitious” and isn’t concerned with things like social status and wealth. He’s basically describing a farm animal.🥴 gREat QuesTIon! Just simple, pure love: a woman freed from the shackles of standards and self-respect. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 06:33 PM |
| 11 | Kicked him out...Hooray! I'm so happy for you, trash day success! You are going to feel so much peace soon. What are you planning to do to fill the previously no-value time? New hobby? Go on a few dates? Read a book? Take a few nice, peaceful naps under a warm blanket? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 06:30 PM |
| 21 | Boy bye.Walk away from the buttons, ma'am! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 06:24 PM |
| 17 | Big Cringe: If She isn't Worth Washing Your Dishes for, Make Sure Your Paper Plates are as Deep as Your LVM BSIt's one of the reasons I love him so 😂 There was a couple next to us when we were first dating and their check stayed in the middle of the table for about 15 minutes (we noticed when the waiter came back twice to check). Husband side eyes and said "uh oh... dudes got the alligator arms" and made this plaintive, mocking little forearm stretch towards the center of the table. I was trying not to laugh so much it hurt. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 06:15 PM |
| 14 | Big Cringe: If She isn't Worth Washing Your Dishes for, Make Sure Your Paper Plates are as Deep as Your LVM BSSeriously! People saying that FDS are gold diggers looking for rich men, and all that we are asking for are some functioning members of society that can buy nice $4 thrift store plates if they are really trying to save money. If you can afford a dog and a laptop (or the occasional beverage) then you can afford plates. Don't come at me with the 'bUT i don'T hAVe tO CleAN thESe' like you figured out the secrets of the universe: get your lazy ass to the store and learn to scrub, you scrub 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 05:51 PM |
| 66 | Some humourExcellent insight. I got called a "natural beauty" and "super cool" 🤮 over and over in early highschool before I started wearing much makeup (a little lip balm & concealer). I never dated any of the guys that asked me out, but I assumed that energy would continue once the male population had, uh, grown up a little. Male interest high, my interest zero. When I started a new job I started wearing makeup every day, no exception, because I wanted to take pride in looking professional and well put to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 05:26 PM |
| 76 | What? Should I ask him if he can take me on his bike to a field he knows? The low effort I swear, this was his SECOND message to me!I wouldn't get on a motorcycle with any guy even under long term circumstances. Say what you want about equality, but either their culturally endowed bad decision making or that unmitigated testosterone really gets in the way of their driving ability. Men are bad drivers, and this fact is statistically proven: they cause >70% more accidents than women in the US. Die on your bike alone, buddy. I'm down for a steamboat ride if I know you though. At least if you screw that up I can swim away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 04:04 PM |
| 30 | Yep women not getting spanked anymore has it so much worse than women being forced to stay pregnant 😢. I am so much worse than a person wanting to force women go through something that traumatize, changes her whole life and possibly can kill her.I'd love to tell you all the things you misunderstand or have been misinformed about Whew, she or he started out HOT with the narcissism. That is some professional hair stylist -level grooming energy. This is either an amateur predator or long-term victim of abuse (or both). Creepy. The bar is in the serial killer level of hell, apparently. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 03:56 PM |
| 31 | Beware of men who use idioms like "when I want to learn to fish I ask the fisherman, not the trout"Bold of you to assume he wouldn't mate with the fish too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 03:36 PM |
| 12 | When guys post shit like this on their feed I just laugh. I just find it so cringey😆 Am I the only one who notices this influx of men comparing themselves to animals?"I chew with my mouth open and view plasticware as formal." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 01:50 PM |
| 173 | Some humourPower imbalance and control are what LVMs are looking for. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 12:44 PM |
| 302 | How on earth do you let it get this farShe's a chill woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 02:48 AM |
| 32 | Anyone else not finding a home first date with Mac and cheese fish crackers that cute or HV?Guaranteed there's no roux in here this is overcooked box mac n' canned parmesan. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 02:12 AM |
| 66 | Thankfully I’m doing splendid on my ownPlenty of fish in the sea, jellyfish, sea snakes, flesh eating bacteria, and satellite-visible islands of trash 🗑️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 12:39 AM |
| 35 | Y’ALL. I can’t tell if this is a legit profile or we’re getting trolled???On the field - sports In the field of... - profession In a field - trespassing scrote among ragweed | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 09:13 PM |
| 25 | She said the main reason is due to caregiving/kids care. If she is the breadwinner, why dont the man stay at home and let her strive as entrepreneur?Reminds me of some misogynist discourse I've seen in years past that gleefully anticipates how women would have to rely on men in the event of a crisis. I have a few male acquaintances that are eyeballs deep in alt-right, bug-a-boo 1776 (or maybe 1492) culture talking about using Costco's and Amazon delivery centers as strongholds during the apocalyptic civil war. "Women will sure be sorry and falling over themselves for our protection THEN!" Bitch I can't walk in a park without being worried ab… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 06:22 PM |
| 49 | She said the main reason is due to caregiving/kids care. If she is the breadwinner, why dont the man stay at home and let her strive as entrepreneur?Why don't the men get a job that supports child care just like women are expected to do and then use their extra time to run the house? Single women manage to hold full-time jobs AND run the house all of the time, what's wrong with a guy doing so to support their family owning their own future? Men are just as capable as women (some MRA scrote told me so once), so I just can't fathom what the problem is here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 04:42 PM |
| 6 | Explaining your standards to men?Glad to hear you unmatched him. The last thing you want is an insecure guy negging you constantly because he's unhappy with his own height. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 04:12 PM |
| 52 | The men's rights movement is growing and it's terrifyingWhat you said, but IDK how 'terrifying' it is. I would prefer MRAs to be vocal so I can avoid them. If it becomes popular enough that it's unavoidable then "Oh no! So anyway..." I'll just be single 😂 Being 'single' with my amazing friends, family, career, hobbies, and resources I put the effort into building/accumulating over the years is just so scary, what will I ever do? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 04:03 PM |
| 5 | THISSSS. And it applies to everyone, men and women alike.Earlier this year I went to a 5k with a couple friends who are trying to lose weight. I have a LTD so I'm kind of spindly & not nearly to their level of fitness, but they stayed back with me when I couldn't keep up. We got to the end and they started getting all of these "you go girls" and "so brave, keep it up" fitness supporters. I guess they assumed that I was the runner and that my girlfriends were having a hard time keeping up because of their weight. Like... one of these women does triathl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 03:55 PM |
| 2 | Can We Talk About FDS Use of "Wife Privileges"?YES, here it is! Dating is a process in which we decide who will add value to our lives, not advertising benefits to him. We're the prize here, we will add value to his life by default and he knows it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 02:16 PM |
| 4 | Pre-order your copy!Oh I love a good historical fiction! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 04:35 AM |
| 9 | Male shouldn't be the *standard* of successful careers.Something that gets them places and makes them look good but that they don't feel the need to appreciate or love past being an object they think they deserved? Of course those are shes 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 04:34 AM |
| 36 | female MRA and supporter of MGTOW. ultimate pickmesha or? whats psychology behind this?The irony 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 08:36 PM |
| 23 | Can We Talk About FDS Use of "Wife Privileges"?Smart fiancee advice, but I completely disagree with the wife portion of that. In a society where women have been taken advantage of and socially oppressed under the guise of a "healthy relationship," giving yourself & then seeking 50/50 fair is in itself going to be yet another emotional and mental burden. It was put in place by men, and it can only be taken out by men. There are no wife privileges that aren't spouse privileges, including making sure that you are getting the privileges in retur… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 08:30 PM |
| 93 | Can We Talk About FDS Use of "Wife Privileges"?Exactly. Taking me out for coffee if we're busy can be a wife privilege if he wants one. Asking me to go on a walk can be a wife privilege, sure why not, I like walking. Supporting me in my career, hobbies, and interests and having a best friend to talk to... fine, wife privilege I guess. Getting compliments, having his back, getting him gifts for his birthday - all nice spouse privileges that we better be sharing. Assuming that I will do all of the dishes and clean the house if he is in a coma … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 08:22 PM |
| 8 | What men have done to women and girlsI was going to say something similar. Ladies, if your "male friends" haven't met the above criteria, it's time to get to work on on LVM trash day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 07:03 PM |
| 30 | Male shouldn't be the *standard* of successful careers.Gain respect for her * 😉 Keep it up sis, and don't let these entitled, petty STEM scrotes get you down. See you in the corporate world! 👠 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 06:51 PM |
| 4 | Should I leave him or can we work it out?My gosh you are amazing! You are driven, academically and professionally ahead of your peers, and you are making the kind of sound financial decisions that some people don't learn until their forties. You are emotionally intelligent, and extremely insightful; I could go on, but I'm hoping that you have friends and family (and perhaps even a you, yourself) that recognize and praise your worth. Why are such professionally successful, intelligent, interesting, emotionally connected, and responsible… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 06:48 PM |
| 18 | He’s moved out and I’m moving on!!!Congratulations on the peace you are about to experience 🙌🙌 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 06:13 PM |
| 112 | This is so gross!! How is bad hygiene not a dealbreaker? All this shows me is a man who can’t take of himself 🤮🤮The more important thing is that he disrespects you enough to have you see his filthy space in this state. He's done your vetting for you, thank the universe for this gift and then throw the whole man out. For all you "I'm messy too" ladies: my house was also cluttered, especially when I was career building in my twenties and early thirties. My friends who have kids can border on dirty sometimes. But we sure as hell know how to clean when we have guests that we respect over. If he's not willing … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 06:03 PM |
| 3 | Not even his girlfriend."Losing it" indeed; all he's losing is respect. These LVMs don't have the capacity for appreciation, little sis. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 05:35 PM |
| 140 | Male shouldn't be the *standard* of successful careers.I use "she or he" or sometimes just "she" when referring to engineering positions that need to be filled on programs at work. I see some men get disgruntled about it or roll their eyes, which is completely fine - I, too, get irritated when my boss says something I don't like and I can't.say.shit. 😶 🙌 💅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 05:29 PM |
| 40 | WATCH Carefully How he Talks About and Treats Other People - If Everyone is the Problem, Then He is the ProblemThat is an incredibly insightful & eloquent way to describe that line of thinking; thank you, saving for later! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 03:53 AM |
| 4 | Never let yourself go!This perpetuates the myth that women "let themselves go" physically just because they are married and that they need to keep up their appearance so that they can hop into another relationship if this one fails. No thanks. I'll continue to keep up my appearance because it's easy right now and I feel like it, not because my world revolves around men and whether or not I have one in my life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 01:23 AM |
| 23 | How to go about dating as an avoidant type?It depends on what you mean by avoidant. Most women who consider themselves "avoidant" have absolutely nothing wrong with them and would rate in the 95th percentile of emotional closeness if they were a man. Additionally, most women feel avoidant because men have not respected their boundaries. Does this keep you from having friends? Performing at work? Don't ask whether you are avoidant first, but what people have done that have made you uncomfortable. You don't have to hug, touch or certainly … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 10:12 PM |
| 21 | Is it worth letting a man who does good, know how to be better?It's completely fine to say something. A lot of people get wound up about making sure a restaurant is something you want because you have had preferences in the past. They are correct to have this concern, but the root cause is not that you have preferences. The root cause is generally that they have not planned in advance and are now asking at around the time you've already thought about dinner. My husband is very good at dates, but he's also very considerate in asking my preferences. He got in… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 09:34 PM |
| 195 | Say it louder for those LVMs in the backThe one I hear the most is the complaining about makeup - men will go on and on about how women wear too much or too little, and they are positive women do this for male approval. The conversations are a waste of time, but sometimes it will make them shut up for a while... "Why do you think they do that?" "To look more attractive bu-" "OK. Attractive to whom?" "Men!! But no guy wants to wake up next to someone they don't recog-" "Doesn't your grandma go to church?" "What, uh yeah bu-" "She wears… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 09:06 PM |
| 12 | The Worst Disorder of Them All 🙏I added this for the addition of worst disorder, but CBT techniques actually can help with intrusive thoughts about an ex. Cast him out, sis! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 07:01 PM |
| 496 | Say it louder for those LVMs in the backI swear, the entitlement of these men posting "cool but not for me" on videos of women doing self care & makeup tutorials is astounding. No one's visiting your boring, crusty ass Twitch livestream saying "what's the point of this, you aren't going to find a wife this way..?" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 06:36 PM |
| 89 | The delusion is real🥬🍺 frequently 🏋️ "lol sometimes" 🍼 someday 4 "legacy" 🧍♀️LF casual Ah yes, the NVM advertising starter pack. What you want to bet he sits on his ass half the day playing [video] games "loud" for the irony? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 04:35 PM |
| 1 | Next time they talk about women "hItTiNg ThE WaLl" direct them to exhibit A: Gerard "Ridden Hard and Put Away Wet" Butler. Like an old ass Billy Christenson35% drop?? I wandered on there in my thirties and rarely went a day without at least 1 message and several matches. I wonder how many of the ones you get in your twenties are 50m LF 18-45f types. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 02:13 PM |
| 4 | I laughed out loud. How ludicrous men can be!!In case scrotes are trying to fool anyone: The vast majority of states are 30-90 days from filing, and cool off periods are rare. Filing is a very mentally/emotionally taxing process, and I can't imagine someone looking for a relationship in that time period. There are only 1-2 states with year-long cool off or finalization periods, and those are with minor children in the house. Virginia and LA come to mind. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 02:01 PM |
| 5 | Ladies what's your beauty routine like?You see a big difference in just 2-3 days if you start before the creases are deep. It keeps the muscles from forming the creases, so the sooner you catch the creases the more it works. I have a strong RBF and so I started on my scowl line at around 28 years old. Worst case if you don't like it it wears off in a few months. It's stopped my tension headaches and really helped with migraine frequency, so I will continue until old age. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 12:21 AM |
| 22 | Never stop vetting.Me too. I was going through a divorce at the same time and I remember the day she found him with the other woman. It was heartbreaking; imagine being with someone over a decade and then finding out they had a whole other life. He was making gross, unreasonable demands while they were separated and saying he really wanted to come back if she would just x, y, z - but sleeping with a bunch of other women at the same time 🤮 The one bright side was that he made pretty stupid, irrational decisions in … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 07:27 PM |
| 9 | Ladies what's your beauty routine like?Botox, botox botox 😁 no wrinkles and it keeps that C-suite level poker face. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 06:48 PM |
| 54 | I laughed out loud. How ludicrous men can be!!But it can take months to get divorced! Crazy ex is drawing it out on purpose! (Checks script) She's trying to fleece me through child support um.. good Dad, staying together for the kids! 🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 06:04 PM |
| 73 | I laughed out loud. How ludicrous men can be!!"It shouldn't have been important" was my personal favorite for not mentioning kids. Right up there with "I don't talk to them anyway." If you're going to be scum, be obvious scum. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 05:59 PM |
| 5 | I'm shallow because I don't want to teach a grown man how to wash his own clothes. Unmatch ✔️Well yeah... that kind of audacity in a wallet could cause serious back problems. Wouldn't want him to hurt his lazy ass, after all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 05:47 PM |
| 4 | I'm shallow because I don't want to teach a grown man how to wash his own clothes. Unmatch ✔️Yeah you "kind" all right, "kinda worthless." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 05:42 PM |
| 59 | Never stop vetting.Yes, this applies to all of them at one time or another; it is how men are raised. And remember that a lot of them rely on women to maintain their image: a lot of them have "close" female friends, doting moms, or even a wife or a girlfriend that they have manipulated into maintaining their facade. Even if they don't have those things, how many of them are saying things like "you are so much better than other women" or bragging about being creepily protective of daughters to make themselves look … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 05:26 PM |
| 70 | Never stop vetting.My friend's EX husband that she dated from highschool had everyone fooled for 12 years before his narcissistic lies unravelled. He had been cheating on her and manipulating her for years and she didn't find out until they separated and he was still trying to get back together (she showed up to see him and found him with the gf). He had this "kinda dumb but typical lazy dad" image that he used her to help maintain, but in reality he had put them tens of thousands of dollars in debt, had a long-te… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 05:20 PM |
| 244 | Recently got banned from r/unpopularopinion because “misandry is just as bad as misogyny”You said something so unpopular that you were banned from unpopular opinion? It seems like you should get some sort of award for that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 05:00 PM |
| 13 | How to stop craving male attention so bad?The most important thing is that you are recognizing yourself level up! This is hard work, and you should be proud. First of all, as obvious as It seems, you should address your insecurity over your looks. The best way I have found to do this is to spend time doing the things that make me proud of my appearance. Sometimes we have to use a little psychology to trick ourselves out of a major insecurity, and putting more time and effort into something utilizes "effort heuristic" or "effort justific… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 07:11 PM |
| 11 | "you seem really sweet"First: totally agree in case when I say puts that in question. This is a staple of LVM communication. This is a hard one since it is usually a manipulation tactic, but it is used so often then it becomes commonplace. These kinds of things are ingrained in men's communication with women, and it can trip us up when we hear it from otherwise genuine people. I will usually give them a one pass if they are showing other VERY high value traits consistently and over a period of time, but you have to se… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 06:53 PM |
| 25 | Being poly is just another excuse for men to cheatIf I could physically share the feeling of peace and acceptance that I experienced after I divorced and set strong, impersonal, successful boundaries with my ex-husband (co-parent), then I absolutely would in a minute with this woman and all of the ladies here. A person will never feel as safe as when they protect themselves, and divorce is one of the most powerful forms of legal self-protection that exists 🙌 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 05:42 PM |
| 27 | Being poly is just another excuse for men to cheatExactly. If she got caught drinking and driving, she would be upset but I doubt that would keep her from also seeking legal advice almost immediately. OF COURSE she is upset about her husband cheating, lying, and having outlandish and fundamentally disgusting expectations for them moving forward. The next logical step, however, is protecting herself and her part of their joint assets immediately. Why would she not be going to the next logical step?? She should be seeking answers: Kick the best f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 05:01 PM |
| 133 | Being poly is just another excuse for men to cheatShe would not still have to pay for her useless husband after the divorce is final. The fact that she is even concerned about continuing to bankroll this troll is going to make this FDS Mission: Impossible. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 02:50 PM |
| 19 | I wish I had taken a screenshot of my initial statement, but I'd like an opinion on a recent interaction that pissed me off. Situation in comments.I won't comment on the casual sex since you only asked about the guy's actions. He said he was trying to make a connection and an 'us' thing when you clearly stated that you don't have a desire for a relationship and 'us' things. I also find the pretext extremely hard to believe: he knew you like a book, made the bizarrely specific decision to find a quote from it, and then found the exact quote you have tattooed on you in the spark notes? I feel like we've all thought about this too much, and t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 02:00 PM |
| 43 | My first FDS block. It feels right.You go sister! Living FDS and inspiring others: I love it! On that note: I don't think the "it was nice to meet you" was controversial or out of line if you blocked him immediately afterwards. You can be courteous without being generous, and it is clear that you were not doing that for validation or to lessen the blow for him. There's nothing wrong with being confidently polite while asserting yourself and setting proper boundaries (even when that boundary is a wall with a moat). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 10:53 PM |
| 19 | Spiritual or otherwise, we don't want patients!"No Patience for Patients" ✔️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 07:59 PM |
| 91 | when the wife & husband are both shallow 😄 (23F/31M)How sad that he doesn't want to stay fit and attractive for her, especially considering their age difference. It can also be a potential medical problem if he can't lose weight, perhaps he should be seeking a physician rather than Reddit validation. I don't think she should be labeled as "shallow" just because she has preferences, and he shouldn't have been listening in on her conversations with her friends in the first place. I'm sure men are just flocking to chastise this guy the way they woul… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 07:56 PM |
| 7 | And they want you to fix it too 🤡😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 06:15 PM |
| 9 | And they want you to fix it too 🤡But imagine how amazing this table would be if you fixed it, polished it, put it in your house, spend time cooking to put food on it, and then cleaned it up every single day for the rest of your life! Behind every proud (yet low functioning and objectively undesirable) table is a table that is expected to do all of the work and carry all the burden, after all! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 06:14 PM |
| 1 | Men tell us to have zero expectations, yet they expect sex from us...and usually right off the bat. Story below.You misspelled "men." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 06:08 PM |
| 13 | Siri show me a perfect example of narcissistic gaslightingCue David Attenborough: The narcissist is clumsy and fails to gain its footing this soon after dropping from the womb, but by the tender age of 40 will have what it needs to avoid the predators of self respect and healthy skepticism. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 06:03 PM |
| 21 | That's how LVM treat women for hookups"But teh things I need to live 🥴" Mommy will house him and probably cook and clean for his lazy, entitled ass, but WHAT ABOUT his gaming console, cell phone, and only fans subscriptions?? Have you no heart..? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 05:45 PM |
| 44 | That's how LVM treat women for hookupsIf you feel unchained from the shackles of cultural taboo and basic decency "on a walk" or in a field, then just imagine how sexually liberated you will feel next to a garage dumpster in a back alley! This is what happens when men co-opt things that were made to benefit women. This is one of the reasons I love FDS so much. No male voices, opinions, or misguided pretentions of "protecting" our interests in their eternal quest for self-gratification 🙌 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 05:39 PM |
| 60 | These fly out stories never end well and these women never learn....It might have actually BEEN a human trafficking scenario. Guy you never met has you flying yourself over (trying to drain you of resources), promises you a bunch of necessities for the trip and a flight back (basically everything you would need to escape), and then in spite of a bunch of effort early on suddenly ghosts? This is typical of a trafficker that has scoped someone at the airport and then decided against an attempt. It could be a simple as looking too assertive/confident, having brough… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 11:54 PM |
| 13 | Men are Only "Not Perceptive" When You are Invisible to ThemYep! Thank you, I will give it a try! I tried mousse/foam products, but I didn't like the stickiness and they always went flat from weight. I didn't even think of a styling powder, but that sounds like just the thing I need. Side note this is about the third great style/fashion/beauty advice I've gotten from reading FDS in the last week. Fds needs a beauty sub; I trust the ladies in here more than any other forum 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 09:23 PM |
| 4 | Has anyone else ever tried to warn their ex’s new partner?The best you can do is to block all form of information, contact, and communication with him. It was right of you to warn her, and though she may not have utilized that warning in this relationship, she may learn later that a casual, non-committal warning from another woman is a red flag. Any further communication or knowledge on your part can give him leverage to write you off as a crazy ex. It's frustrating to watch these people find victims, but unfortunately they will have an endless supply.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 05:08 AM |
| 55 | Red Flag: Abuse starts off with control and devaluing the abused partner’s dreams & achievement’s. Throw the whole man out sis!Insecure + realized control = abuse You can be insecure and not be abusive (inferiority complex). You can want to control and not be abusive (codependent). But when you realize / carry out control (by degrading someone, in this instance) because of your insecurity, you are abusive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 09:29 PM |
| 27 | Weird guys keep trying to “copy” me as a form of negging??I agree - "fluent in sarcasm" types are at best obnoxious and at worst abusive. I never found a good way to screen out awkwardness before the first date, even outside of OLD. I've had some odd ones that would "pester" on the first few dates like kids - stupid shit like pulling on a sleeve or telling me to look for something on my shirt for a nose boop. Grown men, in their 30s/40s, it was horrid. I'd usually just look at them and say in the most demeaning way possible "what are you doing...?" the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 04:54 AM |
| 20 | Weird guys keep trying to “copy” me as a form of negging??This had me laughing - the nerve! How incredibly awkward. I would lean towards you winning the weirdo lottery. Hopefully it's not a continued bad luck streak! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 04:23 AM |
| 35 | Ad for a pickme of his very own! Don’t worry 18+ only 🤢I guess "Aging narcissist seeking barely legal codependent 4 abuse" didn't fly too well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 01:47 AM |
| 16 | This is literally LVM logic. They blame their lack of charisma on us instead of introspecting and becoming a better person to be around.There's a simple solution to this problem for men: be explicitly clear up front that your intention is to find a sex partner with the potential for a relationship. This will solve the problem: women who are looking for a sex partner with a secondary relationship if applicable will be much less focused on costly, non-sex time with you, and you will attract fewer women who's intentions are not aligned. "But I won't get any dates!!" And then we can all move on to the real root cause: no one wants y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 01:39 AM |
| 56 | Why don't LVM/NVM just choose pickmes and leave us tf alone?It's because pickmes don't want them either in the end. You ever witness the distain in people that discover something is cheap and abundant after they spent years being told that they should value it? Sis, that ex wasn't crazy. LVM seek validation from people with standards because they're mad when people with low standards don't want them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 11:51 PM |
| 19 | If he negs other women...Or the guy intentionally exploits women with insecurities and desperate empathy. These men don't find "crazy women" to save, they find women to paint crazy so that they can confirm their own victim bias. Show me ONE WOMAN that was ever openly and happily saved by someone with a "savior complex" and that sustained no emotional baggage after the fact. I find it hard to believe that someone has a savior complex when they have never saved a soul in their life. That is a superiority complex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 10:59 PM |
| 4 | Im so tired of this shit, it’s like these girls have no purpose outside of sexually gratifying their partner, being the “cool gf” is their personality. It’s so pathetic, what’s worse is the number of likes and the comment section full of Pick Ames agreeing???I'm so sorry that you are going through this and having to grow up in this culture. I am positive that the boys that I went to school with would have been the same way, but having to grow up in a place that I even had to consider (much less discuss openly) whether sending nudes should be an option is an awful place to be. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 10:45 PM |
| 1 | Lessons from my momI read your initial post and then this... You are not in the wrong here. It doesn't matter if she was flirty or not; talking to exes while in a relationship (outside of co-parenting with strict boundaries) is a completely normal and understandable deal breaker. It doesn't have anything to do with "emotional maturity" other than some emotionally immature 20-somethings telling people that this is normal. If you want a stable, healthy, long term relationship then find someone that holds these value… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 12:26 AM |
| 12 | YESSSSYES - I went into the first 10 years of dating assuming that high maintenance implied that I needed to be maintained somehow. I owned my own living space, had a job that quickly increased into six figures, drove my own car, I was emotionally/physically/mentally high functioning and took care of myself. I was completely self-sufficient, and you can't get much lower maintenance than that, right? Here we are, and that apparently is not what that means. I'm actually still not sure what high maintena… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 10:58 PM |
| 20 | 👏 👏 thanks for seeing yourself outSo your saying he probably has a small dingey? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 04:59 AM |
| 9 | conditioning the pickmes to set their bar undergroundAre they on a bench in an intersection? Eating right over the birdshit stain below her wrapper? What are we doing here 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 04:55 AM |
| 4 | My relationship with my misogynistic and narcissistic father has caused me to be completely out of touch with myself/a pickmeishaI'm so sorry that you have to cope with his behavior and its effect on your development into a healthy adult. I got really good advice on dealing with a narcissist (not family but we still have to communicate): You can coexist with your dad without tolerating his behavior, and you can set the terms on which you two communicate and coexist. If you want to retrain yourself, the I would suggest calmly saying (or even texting) something to your father that is as simple as "I will not continue to spe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 11:53 PM |
| 17 | Never offer a guy your number! If he’s interested, he will offer his (which you don’t accept) and ask for yoursThis is a rare instance where I would forgive a reference to a walk on first # exchange contact. They were already walking together, and so a light reference to doing so in the future in order to acquire contact info is understandable. Now if he started talking about walk upon walk after texting then that is a different story. But for a number exchange this is acceptable with reservation. But it sounds like OP's strategy game is tuned well to make that assessment - props for being so conscious o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 10:49 PM |
| 174 | Notice how he’s always gaming. Let’s pray for her.If "wife privileges" involves laboring for and serving this guy dinner while he plays video games, then just keep the ring. No one wants it - run away 🏃♀️🏃♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 08:11 PM |
| 20 | For those of you still on OLD, set up a fake profile along with your real one to weed out scammers, etc.I wish I'd thought of this when I was single - such a great idea! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 07:16 PM |
| 1 | "I Cook a Little.... I Grill!" 🚩 = You'll Be Doing all the Work in the Future AND be Expected to Thank me for NothingThe emotional labor, the actual physical labor, and the additional labor tax when you have to fix what they screw up. Boy don't you say you 'cook too.' When I say I cook, I mean I COOK: if you want to grill something it better be the final sear on a low&slow reverse seared ribeye while you plate up the sides & pour our wine. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 07:09 PM |
| 9 | How long should I date him before moving on?There you go sister! And for the love, don't keep this sad old scrote around and fall for the "I realized how stupid I was, let's be exclusive" when he suspects that you have other options. Drift away 🎈🎈 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 07:01 PM |
| 324 | Notice how he’s always gaming. Let’s pray for her.Sis what you doin 😕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 06:44 PM |
| 7 | Get out of the shackles. You’ve got this!Being your best self is the best part of the strategy 👑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 05:23 AM |
| 2 | I’m sick of all these LVM.I was a teen in the '90s and I guarantee you that things have not changed all that much. Most of us have been divorced once or twice for a reason 😂 It is really, really important that you block him for your own sake & take your mind off of him by engaging in your own activities or dating other people (it helps!). He still sounds like a truck full of red flags, but even if he was A+ perfect to her he was still not good to you. He could have just not been interested; people are complex and sometim… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 05:22 AM |
| 4 | Yeah, it’s a no💖 from me. I’m not a rebound. No exceptions.Just as long as you remember that when you actually reply, a simple "no" is the best answer. Manipulators want your rationale to turn against you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 09:11 PM |
| 65 | Get out of the shackles. You’ve got this!Also reminder to apply this only to yourself in your healing process. Do not go Theresa the Therapist and start applying this to your romantic partner. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 09:09 PM |
| 1 | How to control myself when I'm meeting a new attractive man? I haven't met anyone like this since following the FDS principles, but I'm aware I had this problem in the past and I want to avoid doing this in the future.Wow, this is excellent advice. It takes years of failures to get over this behavior for a lot of us, but it still follows the path of realization -> self awareness -> mindfulness -> adjustment. OP is (impressively) already far ahead on the path to self awareness, so practicing mindfulness as a generic practice is a perfect next step. There's a lot more helpful self-help material on practicing mindfulness than there is in dealing with attractive men in male-controlled culture (with FDS being a di… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 09:05 PM |
| 9 | I’m sick of all these LVM.The first thing that I would suggest is an attitude shift: that "HVM" that the other woman "got to be with" is a whole dumpster of red flags. I would be deeply concerned if my husband was showing off and signalling on social media when he bought me gifts. Why do you think he encourages this? It's certainly not for his male acquaintances, who would just call him whipped. Add to that his posting gifts that I buy him? No, sister, no, no, no this is not a HVM. I would also be extremely concerned if … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 06:52 PM |
| 52 | What low value men post on their social media.Most men have to be reminded to wash their sheets and not pee on the floor 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 05:32 AM |
| 2 | What are YOU into?You don't have to have a huge tank, it just makes it so much easier to maintain. Parameters fluctuate faster in smaller tanks and things can go bad quickly. Smaller tanks with saltwater also reduces your stocking options - freshwater has more smaller fish than saltwater does. My sister used to make really amazing jewelry. She had some Czech glass fire polished beads that looked amazing if you can find some and want to further expand your bead hoard. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 05:25 AM |
| 6 | Just a rant about comments on makeupYES, this has future controlling/abusive red flags all over it. There's an almost negligible chance that he's just rude and socially inept, but that is exactly what a controlling/abusive man will tell you if you set firm boundaries... Right before they find the next one to test. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 06:59 PM |
| 3 | Just a rant about comments on makeup"Well your MOM is WRONG." Ohhhhhhh This guy needs to grow up. He sounds like an immature, controlling mama's manbaby; run away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 06:53 PM |
| 1 | What are YOU into?I was trying to get my head around sewing to expand a wardrobe, the profession and degree makes sense! I watched one of my friends painstakingly take 10 cm of stitches out of a quilt one time and I think I mentally burned a Brother factory 😂 That is so good that they caught your cancer early; I've heard that cervical cancer procedures can be painful. I have primary ovarian cancer (stage 3a), and I'm always reminding people to keep up with their annual exams. Even though pap smears only cover cer… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 07:45 AM |
| 73 | 'Why don't women just tell us "no"? They complicate it all so much' (found on twitter)Imagine this man glitching & becoming self-aware. He might die from the trauma. Interesting. Interesting. It's almost like you're not... in-in-int.. no, she interested, I male! Drinks on Sunday? City on Wednesday? Ramen on Tuesday? Brunch on Monday? Still mad? Still lunch? Sex Thursday? Brunch on ma-a-ad..? [static] | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 07:23 PM |
| 4 | I don’t care, I don’t care, ✨I don’t care✨🧏🏻♀️✨Love these just for all of the men telling on them(wack)selves in the comments 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 07:07 PM |
| 1 | What are YOU into?Hey, a fellow mechanic! Motorcycles were always a little intimidating for me (you go lady!), but I got into drag racing and then rallycross for a while. Learning the basics of auto mechanics has paid off dividends for car maintenance. Love your art hobbies - I tried sowing right before stained glass and I could never make anything that didn't look like a failed tent setup 😅 the two are actually very similar in the amount of spatial planning and fitting that you have to do, I bet if you dove into… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 07:03 PM |
| 1 | What are YOU into?What a great variety - those are challenging hobbies, too! It's inspiring to see so many authors on here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 06:58 PM |
| 1 | What are YOU into?Heck yes that's a hobby; and one that can bring joy AND physical health! Fellow STEM here, and though I got my degree decades ago it has been a continuous and non-stop learning experience. That is one of the absolute best and most rewarding hobbies to have in my humble opinion 🙂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 06:56 PM |
| 1 | What are YOU into?These are very unique, with two business opportunities as well! Very cool 👍 I always look at aquascaper tanks with such envy, I have not developed the eye for it yet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 06:52 PM |
| 3 | What are YOU into?Oh gosh, I couldn't imagine trying to learn to roller skate right now. Falling hurts so much more than it did 20 years ago 😂 That is an amazing hobby though for fitness, coordination, and meeting people; my aunt learned in her 30s and and taught roller skating classes into her eighties! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 06:49 PM |
| 1 | What are YOU into?That's a great hobby considering the pandemic; this seems to be a popular one! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 06:45 PM |
| 2 | What are YOU into?I love the complimentary hobbies! I had a friend that was in two backpacking and photography and she always got the most unique and off the path nature shots. Hobbies that that rely on hands-on learning and specific venues really took a hit from Covid. Some of our local "outdoor hobby" clubs (kayaking, rock climbing, etc) are starting to open up - hopefully yours will as well! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 06:42 PM |
| 1 | What are YOU into?A dozen years! That is fantastic, and I hope to be able to say the same down the road. I was already an aquarium enthusiast, I have a few freshwater, brackish, and fowlr tanks at home but I had never had a reef - it's a whole new world of complication! I'm a regular on Reef to Reef, but I have not gone to the local club. I have a BUNCH of male dominated hobbies, and almost every local club I have been to has been supportive and not awkward. Unfortunately one of the members of the local reef club… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 06:36 PM |
| 5 | What are YOU into?What a great set of hobbies and diverse interests! I've never heard of custom gaming controllers, but I do know that sewing is HARD. I haven't managed to produce anything that doesn't look like an accident. Congratulations on cancer freedom!! I'm working on it myself right now and it's always inspiring to hear of other women that have beat it ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 12:08 AM |
| 6 | How many Aspies/Autustic women are on here? I’m struggling with relationships due to my condition.Older aspy here, and I SO understand your struggle. I wasn't diagnosed until I spent 20 years failing and developing the social skills I needed to navigate relationships property and level up at the same time. I excelled at work (technical management field), but gosh anything out of that was exceptionally difficult. Women that I talk to about this are usually astounded if I tell them about this issue (so I assume I'm doing better), but it is a lifelong learning process. Don't be too hard on your… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/20 07:39 PM |
| 209 | Terminal uniqueness and proud non-conformity are red flagsOMG 😂 As a woman in this general age group I can tell you that yes, this is half of my divorced male friends on social media with the full-on sick, bitter narcissism that comes with middle-aged male culture. Dude you are still a disposable resource in retail, you've been playing the guitar for one month stop posing with that thing like you are Carlos Santana, and if you keep drinking and eating like that you aren't going to make it to 50. You couldn't chase down a meatball if it rolled off your … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/20 06:48 PM |
| 10 | May the fires left by Michael’s errors light your path. 🤣😂🤣😂Exactly, well put. These ladies laboring in the kitchen while these manchildren played games and occasionally went out of their way to disrespect the people doing the work (and laughed about it later) is not as edgy as this guy seems to think. This is a common male tactic of giving women a carefully constructed, completely submissive, male-approved means of being "equal." 'My wife was doing my laundry & cooking dinner as usual, and my slobby ass friend who I invited over to drink with asked her … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 08:28 PM |
| 32 | May the fires left by Michael’s errors light your path. 🤣😂🤣😂So let me get this sorted. She is cooking for this guy and all of his gaming friends. One of said friends gets up, butts into a conversation with her & her family, and then sits down and says something racist. OP doesn't do anything, waits for her to serve them dinner, and makes a joke about his friend getting hot dogs on the internet? Not a HVM in sight, what a sad story. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 06:56 AM |
| 69 | but where is the lie?????Just erase "the patriarchy" and put "other men." No one invented the patriarchy, it's some ambiguous mindset held by the population that no one can relate to. Men bully other men, then teach each other that women are supposed to fix it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 06:16 AM |
| 51 | Women having standards make them SO mad! The level of reach in this post is comical. We want men to level up, not ‘go die in war’ 🙄He must have REALLY wanted that sammich. https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/iswswz/go_build_me_a_table/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 05:38 PM |
| 9 | Does this excuse grown men staring at young teenage girls too?TIL I am only safe in the street (most of the time) because a lot of men have self-control and are able to restrain their desire to physically accost me and only leer instead. What a guy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 06:57 AM |
| 12 | Wannabe tradwives aren’t respected by the men they worshipWell, I mean... while we are here with the unreasonable and completely unrelated requests, if you don't commit to immolating yourself in the event that you are found unacceptable during the mating process, are you really worth my time in the first place? Some male spiders die after sex, it's just biology 🧐 Just kidding, you don't actually have to die in the fire, obviously. I just wanted to point out how ridiculous you're being here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 06:24 AM |
| 9 | Covid-19 is showing me that my HVM really is just a pig in a Prada scarfe.I, like others, am more concerned that you are "giving him a talking to." Is this a regular occurrence? Has he stopped bothering and showing interest in other areas? Or is this a new occurrence with specific issues as they relate to being able to leave the house? At the risk of sounding like a pickme, maybe he is just used to a certain set of special things outside of the house; people get in their ways and all of these changes can send someone for a spin. You should not have to ask for flowers … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 06:09 AM |
| 3 | Cracked me upNothölmen It's still trash ® | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 05:25 AM |
| 6 | Just letting y’all know that they finally added the emoji to respond with to unsolicited pictures of body parts 🤏🤏🤏🔍😕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 05:16 AM |
| 43 | Go build me a table!I'm all about traditional roles. My greatest gen grandfather cooked every meal, cleaned, & did his part taking care of the kids in addition to working when my grandma had to work full time. Grandfather moved up at work until they could afford for Grandma to stay at home, but only if she had a house cleaning service. Both of my grandparents lived until I was in my 30s & I never saw my grandma cook, clean anything other than the occasional load of laundry, or stress about anything. Wasn't about to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 05:02 AM |
| 7 | FrOm ThE pAsT...best father of the yearGirl YES maybe I spent my childhood dabbling in too much sci-fi but time machine was the first thing I thought when I read this 😂 who else says something like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 04:38 AM |
| 56 | FrOm ThE pAsT...best father of the yearGiven that he didn't even want to answer the basics of what he does for most of his week like every other functioning adult, I doubt his intentions are to start any type of relationship. "Manament" is not a job regardless of its spelling. 100% this guy "manages" the fry station somewhere and doesn't pay child support. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 11:23 PM |
| 2 | Where are we heading?? What's wrong with society? This shouldn't happen or be acceptable. What sort of pickme would accept this? This shouldn't be normalized.I feel bad for the poor SOB that's going to end up with this crusty, entitled (likely imaginary) overbedded Brian in his middle age. Gross 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 05:18 PM |
| 12 | Don’t do it sis.Bet he complains that she nags and that he has to share a car with her. 🤡🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 03:16 PM |
| 67 | Not sure if the flair firs, correct me if I'm wrong.Women's fantasy: the occasional orgasm. Or if you are REALLY kinky maybe a basic emotional connection 🤪 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 11:47 PM |
| 20 | Woman spends her own money on a comfortable work chair, BF shows weird controlling behaviour and gaslights her in the process. Red flags everywhere 🚩More supportive chair: $150 More supportive boyfriend: priceless Was the square footage a typo? Surely she left off a 0 at the end. Imagine being stuck in a teeny little apartment with this controlling, passive aggressive tool all day. Run away, sis. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 06:56 PM |
| 25 | Reddit in a NutshellThis comment is 100% spot on. No one is obligated to deal with the inferiority complex and anger that is almost guaranteed with men that don't have traits that are preferred by other men. Men are bullied incessantly by their narcissistic, insecure, "alpha" peers and then expect women to spend their lives as the targets of their resentment. Nah, don't want any of you guys. Seek therapy, and in the meantime I'll consider the 2% that made it through without brain damage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 06:05 PM |
| 17 | When a LVM tries to drop this hot line to reel you in thinking you are a pickme, but you decide to play stupid to give him a taste of his own medicine before you block & delete for good as an enlightened QueenYES the audacity! Everything about this is disgusting you little toad, no one's all for this but worried about whether she can afford the shoes 😂 how did his mind even make it that far. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 05:02 AM |
| 150 | When a LVM tries to drop this hot line to reel you in thinking you are a pickme, but you decide to play stupid to give him a taste of his own medicine before you block & delete for good as an enlightened QueenI got a screen cap from a female friend of a guy that hit her up OLD profile. It was 2 paragraphs of flowery "sure can be hard to find someone with everything going on in adult life, and especially during these times" hurk-a-durk and generic compliments on her profile. I was like "aw, he sounds pretty nice so far, wonder if the grimace emoji she sent me was because he looks like a rat in a wife beater." Fast forward to the last paragraph: "How about we start with a random interesting fact about … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 09:46 PM |
| 57 | Never put yourself down for your past choice in menSelf-doubt and blame are the cornerstones of a system that keeps women in bad relationships. How often do you see society punishing a male for wrongdoing versus scolding a women for not seeing red flags or "knowing better"? If I picture myself as an extension of that system when I put myself down, and it makes it a lot easier to turn around. It's humbling seeing all the women here in their 20s already living the ideals that some of us took well into our 30s, 40s, 50s to figure out. But the risin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 05:39 PM |
| 25 | Deleted all my dating apps after this. This guy sent me a picture of a plate of pasta that he cooked and had some weird purple lights in the background. I asked him why I told him I had some like that but for my plants. He had to steer the conversation and make it sexual 😖Is he high? He has to be high. This reads like a failed Turing Test. You came armed with the absolute basics of conscious human conversation and Fred the Furbie responded with some canned robot response because he/it figured out "I'm tired" and then glitched down some alternate path because its AI was trained on the internet & it found porn sites too soon. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 05:16 PM |
| 7 | any advice for a teen trying to get over an ex turned fwb?You are right, this is gross and incredibly demeaning. He is actively demeaning and using you and you seem to recognize it. Why would you allow anyone into your life that would do this to another person? Surely you can think of a young woman that you would try to protect from this type of person. Stop sleeping with him. Stop talking to him. DO NOT GIVE HIM AN EXCUSE OR REASON. Please. Ask for help if you need to from a friend or a woman that you look up to. Once you are out of that, step back an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 06:58 AM |
| 16 | Guy (43m) says I (37f) talk too much. Played it off like he was teasing me and I was being sensitive by getting insulted. Is this a neg or playful teasing or a flat-out insult? What does he possibly hope to gain by being so rude?Whatever the intent he's blatantly trying to make you insecure. The doubled down pressure he puts on you to doubt yourself is proof positive. Maybe he's insecure and gets his kicks on putting you down. Maybe he's full of himself and likes to see you squirm and put a lot of thought into him and his intent; he'd probably be giddy knowing that you took the time to type this out. Maybe he just doesn't like women. Maybe he's an abject failure in many facets of his life because in middle-age he still … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 06:47 AM |
| 2 | Advice needed about letting go of angerThank you so much for sharing your story; you are incredibly resilient, conscientious, and driven. Unfortunately society puts us in a position where we are vulnerable to abusers, and when we can finally get out and start building again the abuse from the past makes us vulnerable to leeching narcissists. It's not a reflection of you or a personal weakness, and it's so incredibly common. You'll see it a lot on this and other womens' relationship forums - a woman who was in an abusive relationship … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 06:03 AM |
| 24 | 50/50?!I really want to get you the shoes you like for your birthday, and I really am banking on you getting me that gaming console for xmas want you to have something you like, but times are tough & you think maybe we could go 50/50... Like I buy one shoe & you buy the other cause uh it's just like us we're the perfect pair heh..? I know you aren't like those shallow 2-shoe-hoes, but I wanted to ask because I uh respect you, k? And maybe decide quick so I can pick them up on my way to the suit sizing … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 07:57 AM |
| 9 | 48M Seeking 28-34FI mean 58M seeking 'parental consent' to 25 F. Men telling the truth about their age is about as unlikely as their "legacy" being anything other than slightly detrimental to the human race. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 11:53 PM |
| 7 | I'm constantly seeing red flags...Yep, you nailed it. Most men are trained-from-birth misogyny product manufacturers parading as geniuses and we are culturally manufactured consumers. Try to save your engineering analysis for the people that deserve it; I'd be exhausted too if I were trying to design a hydroelectric dam in shit creek 😉 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 05:09 PM |
| 15 | I'm constantly seeing red flags...The amount of time that you have spent analyzing these turds he's floated downstream without a second thought should be the biggest red flag of all. Sis, this guy isn't super intelligent, he's just patronizing and emotionally wearing. You seem like an extremely analytical, self aware, intelligent person, and your biggest mistake is that you are superimposing your own strengths onto him and assuming that he is better because he's acting as an authority figure on the topics that you discuss. He ac… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 04:17 PM |
| 82 | Ladies with HVM: How Did You "Level Up"?Oddly enough my biggest level up was deciding that I was no longer interested in being in a relationship and coming to grips with the fact that men & relationships with men always age like warm milk. I was well up the corporate ladder, no debt except the mortgage, and I had a lot of hobbies as well as a good social life, and so chances were a relationship would only be a set back. I would date occasionally, but I'd learned as a hard rule that men only get worse from the outset (even with a HVM) … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 12:59 AM |
| 48 | Leveling up is the best revenge.It's incredible to see the wisdom and emotional maturity that millennials & gen y have brought to the table. Gen x here and you women remind me of my 2 greatest gen grandmothers - hard working, pragmatic, self aware. Proud of you sisters! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 07:16 PM |
| 5 | Why the hell do guys stare at your chest as they talk to you like you can't see them doing it?I like when they mention "the male brain" as though they are acknowledging their brain damage / biological inferiority. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 04:52 PM |
| 4 | Some will say it’s just because of « biOLoGy », I think it also has to do with misogynyThe survey probably did not include the option of selecting underage girls. It starts getting into dicey legal territory when you perform a survey that includes criminal offenses as a selectable preference. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 04:46 PM |
| 28 | McDonald's commercial, what a joke. Hate how widespread struggle love & 50/50 mentality is"Pick me" porn, what a joke. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/20 11:29 PM |
| 9 | Should I reach out to him eventually?You'll hear a lot of open-and-shut leave him responses here. This isn't because dating is simple and the rules here are strict, but because this is a classic case of an unhealthy relationship with a person that is causing you toxicity and self doubt. Read your post, and try to imagine a young woman that you care about saying those things. This man is expressing doubt over his desire to be with you and is debating on whether being with you is best for HIM. Meanwhile, every question that you have … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/20 08:26 PM |
| 4 | "child free" Men are manchildsYES, 100% accurate and so well put. Most child-free men are to parenting what MGTOW is to dating. Men under the guise of making a personal lifestyle choice who are actually overly-obsessed, bitter, and hateful about OTHER people and their personal decisions. I've met many, many child-free men and two of them are not despicably hateful towards children or their mothers. Kids acting like kids? Shitty, hateful man-child makes everyone miserable. Mom trying to calm a crying toddle? "She shouldn't ha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 05:47 PM |
| 21 | Try not to take low value behaviour personally. They’ve treated women badly before you and it’s very likely they will treat women badly after you. THEY are the problem.Completely agree. It implies that there is one standard of beauty, it objectifies women based on race, and the history of the word and it's application to women throughout history (the portrayal of "uncivilized," "exotic" women as sub human conquests) is incredibly toxic. Check out Nell Vera Lowe Williams reply - she'd obviously encountered the term a few too many times & had the perfect comeback 🙂👑 https://www.pri.org/stories/2017-07-20/what-say-when-you-re-asian-american-and-someone-calls-you-… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 04:02 PM |
| 12 | Try not to take low value behaviour personally. They’ve treated women badly before you and it’s very likely they will treat women badly after you. THEY are the problem.Amazing outlook, and great advice for all! The less you see any LVM's behavior (in any aspect of your life, not just romantic relationships) as something impersonal, the more power you have. LVMs are like venomous snakes: toxic, lacking in self awareness, and always willing to lash out. They can be hard to spot, but once you do the best thing that you can do is just walk away. It's not personal, it's just their nature. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 03:46 PM |
| 5 | How to rise above LVM?Glad to help, sister. Divorces can hard, and society puts women in a defensive, self-questioning, emotional position where we are fighting for the least we can get. But the reality is that after the relationship ends, the divorce is just the impersonal tying up of an unfortunate legal/business transaction. The more you rationalize it like that, and the more you think of your narcissistic, unhygienic ex as a sad product of his environment that acts as he does because he isn't capable of higher th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 03:30 PM |
| 32 | (TW) Men have no empathy. And there are a lot of comments siding with the boyfriend.Imagine watching actual video of your partner being raped as a child and wondering why she wasn't "doing those things for you." Men really set the bar low for each other. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 12:50 PM |
| 25 | (TW) Men have no empathy. And there are a lot of comments siding with the boyfriend.'.. he's seen more and is truly disgusted by the person I am, and that he couldn't believe what I would do for "other men, but not him".' 'I'm really not going to jump on the "dump him, he's an asshole" band wagon.' This whole post is so sick, and so sad. He saw a child being raped and the first thing he thought of was those sexual acts being performed on him and how it was unfair that they weren't. I mean, really, let that simmer for a while. Absolutely disgusting. I hope that this at LEAST enc… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 12:47 PM |
| 39 | (TW) Men have no empathy. And there are a lot of comments siding with the boyfriend.The existence of straight women is undeniable proof that sexual preference is not a choice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 12:32 PM |
| 17 | Got to talk about dating standards with my 16 year old daughter, but I’m not sure if I got through to her.Future queen indeed! Your daughter sounds amazing, and you are a fantastic mom for recognizing and helping her navigate the toxic advice that she is getting. Send a booty picture? What the hell? I think you covered it well with the "he would" portion; I took some notes for future discussions with my own. The only thing I would hesitate on is implying that he might be gay, because if he is not gay and just disinterested then it could cause issues for her. Too often women are pushed by society to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 12:09 PM |
| 9 | “spiritual guys”are trash tooYou got him back pedalling good with the lower case gross, love it! What a creep. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 11:09 AM |
| 11 | Priding myself on being low maintenance as a pickmeNo doubt. There was no notification on that platform and he still managed to formulate all of that within hours of the delete. Dude are you really going to let it slip that you are checking up on my profile that often..? It was kind of disturbing at the time, but I learned a good lesson about accepting friend requests from men that I dated. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 11:01 AM |
| 16 | How to rise above LVM?Been there, and divorce is never easy. I divorced a LVM and now share about as successful a co-parenting relationship as can be expect. During my the divorce, LVM was lying, manipulative, and hateful. I did the same thing I'd been used to - call him out and fight back thinking I was defending myself. He wanted thousands of dollars to pay off his debt and start on a clean slate, and he wanted to sell the house, and split the proceeds. He came into the relationship with debt, and I came in with a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 06:54 AM |
| 57 | Priding myself on being low maintenance as a pickmeYears ago I dated a "looking for a chill woman" guy for a couple of weeks. He seemed to mean laid back rather than low standards chill so I gave him a chance. I guess I ended up being too chill - he said I was a little too aloof/unemotional for him and that he wanted to stop dating. Fair enough. I was already thinking of breaking it off since our career ambitions were very different and he seemed to have way too much time on his hands, so I agreed. It was completely civil, but in hindsight this … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 05:39 AM |
| 3 | Political alignment aside, there’s merit to this.Yes, doctors don't generally do this as there are a lot of long term side effects. I had to have the full set out because I had cancer, so I can't take HRT. It's not for everyone, but I wouldn't take it back. With a hysterectomy one can avoid the side effects and have no more periods, so it's a fair middle ground. It's a challenge to find a doctor to do it though since society places a lot more control on women than men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/20 02:45 PM |
| 15 | Political alignment aside, there’s merit to this.You jest, but I had mine a few years after your age, ovaries & all. The hormonal aspect of post-menopausal life is pretty great. It's like being sober in a room full of drunks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/20 06:16 AM |
| 16 | Even a man corrected a Pickme.I'm just now getting used to Reddit and so I understand not knowing the terms. I'm a long time lurker & I still see a term I don't recognize from time to time. The mods here set up a comprehensive "About" section with everything you need including a glossary of terms! https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/wiki/glossaryofterms | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/20 06:54 PM |
| 3 | Need advice on breaking up...and a hugYIKES. I truly hate to be a downer, but.. This relationship sounds exhausting, MAJOR hugs for dealing with this substandard human. This isn't IKEA, and you shouldn't have to build this guy before he's suitable for a relationship. Having to say that a person is "not being violent or abusive" is a HUGE red flag for a relationship that is neglectful at BEST in other ways. This guy does not treat you in a way that shows that he values you (on a day-to-day OR on special occasions). He also sounds ext… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/20 05:27 PM |
| 5 | Why are males always hotter than the sun yet shame and belittle women for feeling cold?I'm sure if you just hadn't done things that "you should know press his buttons" then none of that would have happened, and that he was a great guy on the inside that just needed love and encouragement 🙄 Been there, and LVs are all the same. Always hot 'cause they are built-to-print out of cheap ass plastic in the same sweat shop. Imagine being so fragile and weak that the ambient air makes you damage your own living space. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 07:59 PM |
| 50 | Why are males always hotter than the sun yet shame and belittle women for feeling cold?"males can’t accept that their alcohol withdrawals and giant midsections are to blame" This was a full laugh, how true. I'm glad that you got out of the abusive relationship you were in. Thank you for reminding us to keep making sure the trash gets to the curb! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 06:49 PM |
| 7 | HVM gifts me a free bed and sets it up for meTeam skepticism here. This made the cut for decent human, but treating young women (you know, the ones that are not his wife.. ) with kindness is not necessarily HV. I'm not sure that his wife would qualify him going to some young woman's home and the two of them setting up a bed as HV. This isn't a reflection of this particular male and his intent, but instead a reflection of male culture and the skepticism of young women that is necessitated by it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 06:37 PM |
| 9 | Keep on evaluating a man — regardless of how long the two of you have been together.You make a great point about the need to unlearn. There is self-work that needs to happen to build confidence and self respect, but that alone won't protect a woman. We have to put in the time and effort and burden of developing skepticism to the point that it is a passive, instinctual trait, because men have been trained that way from birth. There are entire books written about how to be appealing to men, and a common theme is that displaying "child like" innocence, trust, and naivety. We are t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 06:05 PM |
| 2 | Have the men you've dated had longterm healthy friendships with other men?My current SO has a best friend from childhood. I was amazed the first time I saw them together. They hugged, were legitimately happy to see each other, and they were emotional and vulnerable around each other. It's continued through the years, and I've never heard SO say a bad word about his friend (ot even to his face, because this is the standard for men). They don't throw little jabs at each other or encourage each other's bad or unhealthy behavior, and I've never heard either one of them cr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 03:36 AM |
| 8 | Found an old cringey pickmeisha conversation of mine. Long but worth it."Be clear with communication please" "Be very careful about what you are going to say" "You need to read this" It's almost disturbing to read the way that narcissists systematically break down a person's self respect. They'll violate boundaries, test the water, and shift from "teaching mode" to drowning you in negativity (all the while accusing you of being negative) on a dime based on how they read you. Even over text! Don't let it get you down. The most brilliant, strong willed people get lure… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 03:12 AM |
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