This is narcissistic abuse.

bleda_princezna · 2021-12-20T22:59:42+00:00

The lengths scrotes go to humiliate and put down their partner... This guy is pathetic. Couldn't come up with an actual issue, so he complains about her not spending enough on his booze? What a joke.

DiosaCordilia · 2021-12-20T23:33:46+00:00

'I recently saved up 500$ for him to spend on bourbon' He has the audacity to state she can't drink from it because she hasn't contribute on it, whilest she did. I find her reaction really disturbing and I get high abuse vibes. She agrees to say she did not contribute it and that she's not going to drink it but he keeps pushing her to the edge.

That scrote is a total narc. Poor woman 😣 I hope she leaves.

kettleodumplins · 2021-12-20T23:47:18+00:00

I really hope she's okay in the long term. There are varying types abuse and he does sound like a narcissist, but the things that have happened in this post are highly indicative of a relationship that leads to physical violence.

I have a friend that could have sent the exact same thing to me 4 years ago. What she sent was over clothing expenses for him, and that she was not contributing enough given that she made more money than him. It was almost the exact same situation, except they were on the way to a store and she was not isolated on vacation. She divorced him a year later after she found out that he had been putting household cleaner in her drinks. The woman that posted this needs to get out.

aquietsword · 2021-12-21T00:02:13+00:00

Sounds like this happened before and on the way to their vacation? In any case, for some reason, it seems that scrotes love to ruin trips for women. Going on a trip together is a way to vet, but ALWAYS have an escape plan for yourself. If you get stranded mid road trip, on a layover, or in a new country you need to have a full plan in place. Men are vile, women aren't to blame, but it's best to be prepared.

iggypiggyfiggy · 2021-12-21T00:38:34+00:00

This is abuse. My ex did similar to me when he would get mad. He lost his house key for a while so we were only sharing my set. He was working from home and I was going to school. It was maybe -25C in January and we got into a fight while I was in class. Constantly texting me “fuck you” and whatever else. I left class to go home because I wasn’t paying attention anyway and was crying. When I got to my house, he would not open the door. I thought he just didn’t hear me so I tried calling him and my number was blocked or his phone was off. His car was still in the driveway so I knew he was home. I banged on the door for close to an hour before he said that he just woke up from a nap and let me in the house. I was crying so hard I could barely get a full breath and shivering to the point that I thought I had frostbite on my fingers and toes because my tiny gloves did nothing and I wasn’t wearing good boots. He yelled at me that I was causing a scene and he just was asleep and didn’t hear me. I was banging for an hour. I know he was awake and I know that he heard me. He was just punishing me. I considered kicking in the window to get in the house but figured it would piss him off more. When I got into the house I went to the shower to try to warm up and he fought with me about how stupid I was and how I was supposed to be at school and it was my fault I was irresponsible and got locked out. I fucking hate him so much. Fuck these abusers I hope they burn in hell.

Skittleschild02 · 2021-12-21T00:06:56+00:00

If you have to record his reaction to an argument, it’s time to fucking go. His reaction to this situation was not okay.

No_Fig2938 · 2021-12-20T23:14:42+00:00

Omg she sound terrified of the guy to want to record for evidence, the problem to her is more than just about "bourbon", the guy is definitely abusive Nvm, she needs to run 🏃🏻‍♀️🏃🏻‍♀️

Platipus6 · 2021-12-21T02:27:01+00:00

I'm constantly stunned how women are rational, articulate and coherent while being abused and confused for years, and men are irrational, unhinged lunatics while being the problem.

PinkBlair99 · 2021-12-20T22:46:59+00:00

Oof, think she’s dating my ex. Literally this same thing happened to me fifteen years ago. Shudder.

EndMassive3398 · 2021-12-21T01:36:27+00:00

He said he hated her. She needs to believe him and leave

engineergorl · 2021-12-21T00:47:53+00:00

Wow, this is the definition of cutting off your nose to spite your face. She’s clearly thoughtful and generous, and this situation could have been resolved in five minutes tops. Instead, this guy decides to torpedo his relationship. I hope she dumps him.

thatkitschybitch · 2021-12-20T22:50:51+00:00

Do they all read the same handbook or something?! My ex-fiance used to do the same thing whenever I would bring up my feelings. He would just go straight into attack mode and nothing would ever get resolved. When I think about what I put up with from him, I want to puke.

revengeofgivingtree · 2021-12-21T00:50:59+00:00

Title is completely correct. Fighting to fight is their supply

Unlikely-Marzipan · 2021-12-21T02:07:06+00:00

Holy shit, this terrified me. He is a possible narc/ sociopath and she is in a full blown abusive relationship. You can FEEL the contempt he has for her in her words. This is dangerous and I feel he doesnt care if she lives or dies. He just wants full control. She needs to speak to a DV agency quick smart and devise a safety plan to get out as safely and quickly as possible.

The_Cat_Empress · 2021-12-21T01:28:53+00:00

JFC that’s so terrifying!!! He immediately called her derogatory names and said he hated her?! I am wondering if this has happened before….the abuse only gets worse and this poor woman has had red flags far before this post I bet.

Jenn54 · 2021-12-21T01:01:48+00:00

Bet you he has a guilty mind

Go through his phone to find the source for his guilty mind that he is taking out on his wife

eatchickpeas · 2021-12-21T02:16:53+00:00

this really isnt about bourbon because if it was then he would have checked to see the $500 was there, agreed that he was wrong, chose to make up for it by organising a cute date night or something. it just sounds like an excuse for him to use to vent his anger onto her for no good reason. and even then theres no excuse for what he did. its childish and abusive. he would never behave like this to another man. the greyrocking technique works well in these situations because when you dont take the bait they spiral into a rage but they dont have that 'excuse' to rage at you so they just have a tantrum and storm off

Patsy_Stone_darling · 2021-12-20T23:58:27+00:00

He starts a day/s long fight/hissy fit the night before they leave for vacation over irrational bullshit. Because of course he did.

It's disgusting how these narcissists all operate out of the same pathetic playbook.

millennialpink2000 · 2021-12-20T23:45:42+00:00

This is scary, he's abusive. Screaming at her and calling her a cunt is never ok, I don't care how angry you are. Please tell me the comments are telling her to run as fast as her legs will carry her

ShieldMaidenLagertha · 2021-12-21T02:33:14+00:00

Holy shit! Brian Laundrie vibes! He sounds like he could kill her. Imagine picking a fight over fucking booze. It’s just so unchivalrous and cheap to keep score like that. Very unsexy. And he’ll be shocked when he finds himself in a dead bedroom… 🙄

hiphopanonymous98 · 2021-12-21T02:21:28+00:00

This sounds just like my brother who I have gone no contact with for obvious reasons. Very sad. She needs to leave ASAP- men like this don’t change.

frustratedmarxistfem · 2021-12-21T03:00:17+00:00

This is a borderline personality trait. With my abuser I was convinced it was the weed. "Oh I don't know what to do, normally he's lovely but if he runs out of weed he's a monster" he'd get into these moods and always find something to criticize me for, no matter how ridiculous. Once it started over macaroni and cheese. Another time it was the wrong brand of hot dogs. Anything to give him something to start, and then it would turn into beratement. I blamed it on his weed addiction.

In reality he was just a monster. The constant criticism was always a lead up to emotional abuse and then eventually physical abuse. It was an excuse. He was justifying what he already wanted to do to himself.

ccro7 · 2021-12-21T06:47:25+00:00

Calls her disgusting names? Nope. Blatant disrespect is the death knell of a relationship.

Show me a guy who calls me a 'fucking c###' - I'll show you a guy who doesn't exist anymore. He'd be ignored, blocked and deleted out of existence. If he tried to speak to me in the street, I wouldn't even break my stride.

Emergency-Feed8216 · 2021-12-21T04:26:19+00:00

He's not physically ab.usive because he drinks. He drinks so he can be physically ab.usive.

nandowlorian · 2021-12-21T01:51:39+00:00

She’s in DANGER. This isn’t about bourbon anymore, it never was! I hope she divorces him and gets out! He was in a rage when he argued by himself, insulted/degraded her and got physically violent. I was nervous that he would leave her stranded somewhere…

scorchedsouI · 2021-12-21T04:09:58+00:00

The reason she felt afraid is because this man is violent and a threat to her. "Resolving" the booze argument can't possibly be her priority, right?

thisissomeshitman · 2021-12-21T05:36:45+00:00

This was insanely triggering, and brought back so many instances that i recorded because i was terrified for my life

excusemeILY · 2021-12-21T08:37:44+00:00

When a bottle of liquid is more important than your significant other

bananabananabanana99 · 2021-12-20T22:58:49+00:00

I’m getting Gabby Petito vibes. I hate to say it, but I feel like he’s not too far from getting physically aggressive.

ifhewantedtohewould · 2021-12-21T00:20:25+00:00

Thank god she took the dog! What a monster he is

xfelugirlx · 2021-12-21T05:22:29+00:00

Wtf he is a narcissist and abusive af, leave him fast. He is making you his victim and i hope it doesn’t escalate no physical:(

Healingirl · 2021-12-21T08:34:44+00:00

This is my ex to a T, a narcissist ...

t3ddi · 2021-12-21T17:03:48+00:00

Narcs love ruining holidays. Its in their pathetic, predictable patterning.

PaunchyPilates · 2021-12-22T16:41:15+00:00

In all states in America, taking someone's phone away while abusing them increases the domestic violence charges.

Optical_Optimus · 2021-12-21T11:25:44+00:00

leave him report for domestic abuse don't agree to Therapy

Title	This is narcissistic abuse.
Author	GabbaG0ul
Upvotes	527
Comments	72
Date	December 20, 2021 10:40 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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