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Fellow woman INTJ also. I don't understand why anyone would want to be iNTJ except that we're rare. I actually an ultra intelligent mastermind tho.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 11:57 PM
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Even with protection you can pick up something. Herpes, HPV and syphilis can all be spread WITH protection. Your chances are lower if you use protection, but not zero like it is with some other STDs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/22 03:26 AM
32

That stuff is expensive, wtf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 12:20 AM
14

As someone who has a lot of trauma and has been working on it, identifying what I'm actually feeling is a great difficulty. Turns out when you grow up with an abusive parent you detach from your own feelings and attempt to project what you think people around you want to see. Its very difficult to try to get in touch with your own emotions later in life. If she ended up with a POS like this its not unlikely that she had a super bad upbringing and just doens't actually know what she is feeling at…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 04:10 AM
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There are attorneys that advertise on the basis of causing the woman as much misery as possible. I've literally seen adverts for "Brutal Divorce! Make her PAY" etc. Its a whole thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 12:53 AM
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Pretty much every woman I know that has gone on and on about how perfect her relationship/life was and how great everything was going was either in complete denial or actively covering up something. Like a coworker who had a 'great' relationship with her husband except she was basically only allowed to go to and from work, couldn't do anything spontaneous, etc. But she was a strong independent woman who didn't take any crap from anyone!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 12:35 AM
88

The thing about work is that they're supposed to pay you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 02:11 AM
6

People seemed to think that if you don't have a husband and kids like what do you have to go home for and I'm like so I can chill at a home???? Like wtf why can't I just hang at home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 12:51 AM
7

It sucks that you're being mobbed like that. I have also been targeted for being "different" at work and its really difficult to deal with. I'm also an introvert and tend to just get my work done and bail, and I was at a company where pretty much the entire company went out after work for drinks/dinner and I didn't have the money for that and just wanted to go home. For this I was labeled "not a team player" and harassed. I don't really get it, I just wanted to go home (and to the gym).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 11:33 PM
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No, I 100% believe that they are trying to punish the woman who provided them with their nut by placeing a chargeback. For some guys is about the ego boost, not only did they get theirs from a sex worker they scammed them in the process. They think of sex workers as scammers making them pay for something that they think is theirs by birthright, so they make a habit of trying to scam them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 03:05 AM
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I know that this is a thing because i used to lurk redpill forums and incel forums but the whole logic breakdown sort of floors me. 1) go to sex worker (I suppose because they won't refuse) 2) obtain some sort of sex work from said sex worker 3) refuse to pay (or get butthurt about paying) because of Reasons. Like, you knew what the deal was before you started this whole process.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 03:04 AM
12

That was still in the mail. Around where I live amazon prime is same day or next day which means he ordered it either valentine's day or the day before.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 12:22 PM
36

Valentine's day is literally the easiest farking holiday, you just have to plan a _little bit_ because its the same day for everyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 12:12 PM
65

Its literally all projection. Women are in demand pretty much their entire life for one thing or another but dudes age like milk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 07:39 AM
27

I stopped giving any shits about what Jordan Peterson says about anything when I found out he was a benzo addict who tried to go to rehab in Europe on the sly and ended up getting covid and having to have the whole thing blow up publicly. I tried to read one of his books once, its unreadable. Its such bad writing that I don't know how it got published. Any of my composition teachers would have thrown it back at me and told me to do it again. Its like when I found out that Ruch Limbaugh was a pil…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 07:37 AM
22

My understanding is that most porn is made under the fee for service model where the performers are paid a certain amount and don't get anything else, even if the movie is the most popular porn movie of all time they don't make any more money than they got paid at the time it was made. So even a big porn star may make comparatively little money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 05:34 AM
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I used to work for a horrible gaslighting boss and I would write down everything she told me so that I could refer to it later when she yelled at me for doing the things she had told me to do earlier. I never told her about my notebook, I just would look at it to make sure I hadn't lost my mind. If you're in a situation where you are constantly being invalidated keeping a notebook is a great idea.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 03:00 AM
20

I've thought this about incels since I first became aware of them. Just come out of the closet already.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 10:09 PM
58

I, too, got called fat when I was underweight and its such a weird thing. I was like ????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 11:18 PM
20

Seems hella fake to me but you never know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 11:56 PM
25

I thought it meant someone without a profession, as in someone who lived by their investments or wealth alone, didn't need a job.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 10:43 PM
386

For crying out loud the super bowl happens every fucking year.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 06:03 AM
3

Naturally hairless below the eyebrows? I don't know of any women that are like that, time to get with a blow up doll dude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 02:08 AM
13

Or kidnapped! WTF this is so not ok.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 10:51 PM
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The worst story I've heard it a women whose husband never came to get her after mastectomy surgery and she never saw him again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 11:01 AM
9

Someone really needs to make a LVM and/or pickme bingo card.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 12:40 AM
7

Yeah that part was so weird, like I would pay for the gas too like WTF. Such a leech this guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 10:08 AM
148

If someone was going to come pick me up from work in the snow I wouldn't be petty and weird about the clothes they wore. WTF.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 10:07 AM
111

Ferrets stink..I used to live with a guy who had ferrets and he never bathed them or cleaned their cage and boy howdy did they smell. I know, not all ferret owners, but even ferrets that are cared for properly have a..musk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 01:29 AM
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One thing I've realized as I get older is that men are huge drama queens. They will literally start shit because they are bored. I've only met a few women who were routinely as drama-y as, like, most men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 01:15 AM
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And they just off themselves and let their family pay it off for them. I dunno where you are but here in the US family members are NEVER responsible for a dead person's debts. Debt collectors will use all sorts of shady crap to get family members to agree to pay, but you don't have to. NEVER pay a single dollar on someone else's debt (even if they are deceased) or you might have to pay off ALL their debt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 12:39 AM
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Its mostly the older cohort. I forget the exact age but somewhere in the 45-50 age range the demos flip from being more males to more females, by the time you hit the mid 70s age range there are something like 2 women for every man. If you are under 45 there are definitely more males than females. eta - if you are in the 18-25 age range literally every single man of every age is targeting this age range so there are probably 3-5x more guys trying to find a woman this age than single women of thi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 04:10 AM
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And yet you meet up with guys in their 30s who are still hung up on their high school sweetheart that they treated like crap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 10:15 AM
5

The answer is yes, and she should divorce immediately. The longer she stays the worse its going to get. He is already taking money from joint accounts, she is going to find herself missing items or wondering where the car went eventually.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 05:06 AM
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I once knew a girl who was super short (like maybe 4'11") who was only into super tall dudes - like 6'3" or higher. She would know immediately that this dude was lying tho. If this chick is really 5'3" it would be immediately obvious that he wasn't 6'. eta - I forgot to say, I think this story is fake. GF would know he was shorter, there is no way she'd know him for 2 years and not know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 04:47 AM
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Their eyes for seeing mess suddenly get much better when there is someone else responsible for cleaning it up. Its such BS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 04:44 AM
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Its a comic book about the Holocaust. Its essentially the story of the authors dad in Auschwitz. The nazis are depicted as cats, the jews as mice. I've read it, its very well done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 02:16 AM
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He says he was fooled by his GF but mentioned nothing about how his GF thought he was rich and he was apparently not aware of that fact. I'm sure he led her on and is only giving half the story. Or maybe he thought he would get more out of the divorce, hilarious. His ex-wife's parents definitely did her a solid by setting things up this way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 03:57 AM
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Thats awesome. In my friends case she did the paperwork herself and just had to pay court fees and the service agency, all in all she got it done for less than $600 which is probably the cheapest I've ever heard for a divorce.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 04:03 AM
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A friend of mine dealt with this. She had to pay like $250 for some ninja style server but she got him served and got her divorce.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 06:47 AM
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Having dated one of these guys they just don't GAF.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 12:17 AM
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I was also in an open relationship with a bi man which ended when I found out he was seeing male prostitutes and not using any protection. WTF is up with these dudes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 12:16 AM
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Yes, I have a brother. He was off doing his own stuff, of course. I'm not doing crap for my father when he is incapacitated. He's going into a home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 09:03 AM
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I can only recall two female mass shooters - a professor who was going to be denied tenure who shot up her department, and a trans-man who shot up his school and I don't know the reason for that one because it dropped out of the media like a stone. I don't think either of them were fem-cels but I think they both had pre-existing mental health problems. The thing is I can only think of two female shooters in my entire existence (I'm in my late 40s) but having male mass shooters is so routine it b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 03:02 AM
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Thats completely inappropriate, I hope you go to HR and get his ass fired.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 02:52 AM
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She wasn't in a concentration camp, she was in the Netherlands which was systematically starved by the Nazis due to not cooperating with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 02:50 AM
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As someone with smaller boobs, I've been body shamed for having small boobs (and they weren't that small, either, its just that I have a large ribcage and wider hips, so they look proportionately smaller) and its such horseshit. If you wanted a gf with larger boobs go find one. Its just to tear you down, like you said.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 02:48 AM
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This was my experience asa well. I moved home after college to help take care of my mom who was dying of cancer. As soon as she was incapacitated my dad expected me to take care of everything - shopping, cooking, cleaning, everything. It was nuts. And after she died too, he was like "I just lost my wife I can't even" and I was like I just lost my mom????? Why do I have to do everything??? I moved out pretty quickly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 02:10 AM
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There are so many nerves in that area, imagine getting nerve pain from that procedure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 03:20 AM
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It sounds off to me too. Its true that veterinarians have a high suicide rate but I can't see a vet school student dropping out to sell nudes, either the bio (vet student) is fake or its a dude who stole someone elses photos and made up the bio.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 01:56 AM
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I guess the thought hasn't crossed his mind that the reason women with him only starfish and don't put in any effort is maybe because he isn't worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 02:19 AM
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Funny how the "I'm not into the holidays" and I'm not into gift giving only works one way, you have to get gifts for THEM or they throw a fit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 04:35 PM
7

I like bourbon, but I can't imagine spending so much money on it, like its alcohol. Yes the higher priced stuff is nicer but damn. You don't need THAT much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 12:30 PM
21

It seems silly to say that its an ineffective way to dose someone when you can kill someone with a tiny speck of fentanyl that is so small you can barely see it. There are drugs out there that you only need a tiny amount to seriously injure someone. I hope the girl in the story gets her liver enzymes checked because she might have gotten something super harmful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/21 09:59 PM
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If she is dependent and has no income the judge can force her lousy POS exhusband to pay for her counsel. A friend of mine ended up having to pay for her POS ex's counsel because he was unemployed and had no assets when they split. (This was in CA, IDK if other states have this law). Its worth a shot, anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 02:46 PM
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I don't think so. I used to read Dan Savage and occasionally people would write asking how to fix their dick that they broke from masturbating so much. For some people its so desensitized that abstaining (which is what he recommends) doesn't work, like, at all. I can't imagine being older, trying to have a relationship and being like, uh, I can't come at all from intercourse, I need to beat it super hard to get off. I would go running for the hills if someone said that to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 12:02 AM
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Same reason that fast food is bad for peoples health but they keep eating it. Its easy, its convienent, it satisfies and urge and its addictive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 11:58 PM
33

Its also pretty clear that he is obsessed with Beyonce and Taylor Swift. He can't have them so he thinks being with Kim K is settling. The audacity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 10:09 AM
20

If I walked outside and saw that I'd be panicking too. Tornadoes are no joke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 10:03 AM
36

I was once at a job and there was someone bragging about how early they were in that day and someone else said, "Have you ever noticed that people that get up early and come in early, thats like the only thing they ever accomplish?". I've noticed that too, early risers aren't particularly efficient in how they work. Also on occasion I came in early because I had something to do in the afternoon, and the early risers are all just hanging out getting coffee and chatting. They're not working super …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 10:39 PM
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How do dudes sleep with a damn erection all farking night long tho? My ex was like this, I hated it because *I* would wake up with his dick in my back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 10:36 PM
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Please don't send lewds or nudes to anyone, ESPECIALLY any that show your face. Its just not worth it. Definitely facetime or meet up in person early on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 10:55 AM
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How tf does he expect her to accommodate 6 extra people with zero notice? Like op says she’s not a restaurant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 06:23 AM
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Its funny how guys will try to sterotype you and get you to do the things they want. I once dated a guy who would always say these odd things and after I stopped dating him it dawned on me that he wanted me to behave a certain way and since I wasn't that way I just...ignored him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 12:30 AM
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100% projection, I've never known any woman to reject a man to feed their ego.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 02:57 PM
16

Yah...my dad is a narc and is a obsessive tailgater and treats stop signs as suggestions. Well I should say was, he has bad eyesight now and doesn't drive. Thankfully.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 01:28 AM
20

Right? They don't seem to realize how badly this reflects on them. Do they really think a *nice* girl is going to be interested in a f-boi whose spread himself around like this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 11:31 PM
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Oh they know. They just don't care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 11:23 PM
62

Vasectomies are not reversible. It is possible in some circumstances to reverse them but no one should get a vasectomy on the idea that it would be easy to reverse later, because its not. Also its a much more complicated operation to reverse than to get it in the first place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 12:21 AM
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If someone was that strange about going over to his house I would have dumped him a long time ago. He was obviously hiding something. His whole family knew she didn't know and played along? Thats so strange.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/21 11:01 PM
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Christina was on some Disney show (as was Britney actually, Britney was a Mouseketeer) and had a very squeaky clean image while she was with Disney. When she broke from Disney thats when the whole Dirrrty thing happened.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 11:47 PM
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I'm currently working at a shitty job, losting $400 would mean I couldn't pay my rent or bills. WTF.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 12:46 AM
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Its almost always used on middle aged to older women, the demo that is hated the most. I hate the whole Karen thing, its just used to control peoples behavior. Now every time I have a problem with the way I'm treated in a store I wonder if I'm being a "Karen". Its ridiculous. Plus I've seen a few videos where someone has pretty obviously deliberately baited an older women into losing it, then filming it for clicks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 12:32 AM
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I used to read MRA/PUA forums. The reasoning goes like this - people treat pretty women so well, shower them with compliments and give them gifts that they get big egos and need to be taken down a peg. Since most guys just compliment hot women nonstop (according to MRAs) a person who is nice to them but "cocky n funny" and gives mild insults or weak compliments will stick in her mind since he wasn't a doormat. In reality it self selects for insecure women who will second guess themselves. I've y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 02:45 AM
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I think it depended a lot on the state. Wyoming is famous for giving women the right to vote before it was federal, other states may have mandated banks give accounts to women. But it wasn't universal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 06:03 AM
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I think almost every guy I've dated has had this to some degree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 01:50 AM
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He's the one that applied for a job on the other side of the country while his wife was pregnant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 10:03 PM
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I think he probably paid for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 11:58 AM
33

Yeah that was my thought. I mean, if I was male and someone disclosed this history I wouldn't be "why can't I hit it raw" I'd be like "so what did you catch" and would wrap it without hesitation. This dude is just straight up stupid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 10:32 PM
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He is straight up jealous of his brother. Instead of realizing that his brother has what it takes to have good relationship he's saying hes p-whipped and romance scammed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 09:15 PM
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The minivan is what puts this over the top, like WTF.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 06:03 AM
-8

Please don't do this, dogs don't belong on hiking trails.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 01:57 AM
70

He 100% wants access to that money. I would put money down that they have a joint bank account that he dips into more than she does.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 04:19 AM
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suddenly anti-porn I like your optimism. The problem can't possibly be the porn, it has to be those uppity women who are actually living their lives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 04:57 AM
1

Thats incredible. It sounds like you have a plan, I hope everything works out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 08:14 PM
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THe audacity. 80k in loans? On you to pay off? oMG.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 01:59 AM
13

Sounds like she has two children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 09:31 PM
22

NTA. Block, block block. Block the whole fam.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 05:38 AM
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I drive uber/lyft. Always check the license plate! So few people do this and it solves so many problems. If you're not sure if you have the correct driver ask the driver to show you your profile on their phone. Also, as someone who drives uber, if you use a neighbors address please remember that you did this. The number of times I have shown up and gotten yelled at for being at an address a few doors down is staggering. If you want to be picked up at your door, use your own freaking address for …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 01:29 AM
13

As soon as they start dating someone who is remotely attractive and successful they start imaging themselves with someone else. They're miserable aholes who are never happy with themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 09:49 PM
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The police will arrest you if a beat up a stranger in the street Well, kind of. If its a man beating on a woman the police will assume its DV, even if they don't know each other.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 12:37 AM
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That is all normal stuff to do, your mom and your partner are being weirdos. If the smell is a problem tell your mom to get a special trash can with a lid just for you and you can take the trash out when you are done with your period. Men pee all over the f-in bathroom, they can stand to see a little blood in the toilet once a month.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 08:46 PM
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If he's acting this entitled over her purchasing a car he is not worth the trouble. Dump immediatly. His daughter is his responsibility, not hers. He was 100% going to leave her with child care while he went out to do whatever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 05:20 AM
30

I'd rather stay with my cats and houseplants.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 05:14 AM
22

The period of time when I was on both anti-depressants and hormonal birth control I had zero libido. Like nada. I went off of both and I was like I have a sex drive?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 10:14 PM
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*cough* If you like his look go to youtube and search for male hula dance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 10:41 AM
29

Jesus you dodged a bullet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 06:50 PM
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The woman who voices LeeLa is the same actor that played the wife on Married with Children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 11:19 PM
48

I guess I'm glad I swim super slow, the worst I've experienced in public pools is horrible halitosis that you could smell halfway across the pool. Honestly while I prefer the long course having short course with everyone in their own lane is sometimes better. A lot of people just don't seem to understand how lanes work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 11:25 PM
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I mean if he makes 6 figures and the 2k per month he has to give to her is cramping his style I wonder where his money is actually going. Thats a lot of money to just go poof.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 12:04 AM
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If he truly thinks the money is wasted then he can move TF out. They wouldn't be the first married couple to have separate residences.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 12:03 AM
26

This is one of my rules, the dude must actually ask me out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 08:03 PM
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That whole story was a wild ride.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 01:07 AM
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Just so you know I agree with you. Its easy to be about body positivity or against beauty culture when you're already conventionally beautiful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 06:40 AM
2

No idea. I would hope so because the syphilis sore can be easy to miss.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 06:34 AM
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Dudes don't wash their hands or their beards, I'm guessing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 11:11 PM
38

Just as an FYI there are three STDs that can be spread with a condom - herpes, hpv and syphilis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 01:30 AM
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I can only play video games for a couple of hours at a time. Its too much. I can't imagine 12+ hours.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 12:37 AM
15

You are really uninformed, HPV can give you cervical cancer and yes it is sexually transmitted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 09:21 PM
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I had a female OB/GYN do a breast exam and she kept on pulling/twisting my nipple, which there is really no need for. I was 16 and it was my first exam.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 09:20 PM
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I think the analogy holds up because if someone says give me $10 or I'll punch you in the face thats assault and aggravated robbery. If you get your wallet stolen and report it to the police you don't have to go through a litany of questions or assumptions about how you just gave your wallet away, the police just make a report. We treat sex crimes completely differently than literally any other type of crime.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 10:00 PM
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I miss the men of the wall sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 08:37 PM
15

That sounds so ridic to me. Never had any kids, but seriously, labor lasts for hours you can step out for a sandwich or take a nap ffs. eta - the thought just occurred to me that they're complaining because the wife is supposed to facilitate those things but she's otherwise occupied wtf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 06:12 PM
4

On getting paid. Its full of dudes and is about something else but the principles hold. Has NSFW language. ​ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jVkLVRt6c1U
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 11:49 PM
18

Or trading material. He probably took them to trade with other guys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 08:51 PM
2

A friend of mine has a basically normal kid but she had him assessed and diagnosed with something so he could get an IEP. She said she did it so he would get more attention from the teacher. The whole thing got a giant WTF from me. Nowdays every kid apparently has some kind of learning disability and an IEP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 12:30 AM
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I'm going to have to disagree, my friend the teacher did everything in her power to help him but she had a whole class of other students that she had to teach. She is not a SPED teacher, he needed to be in a place where teachers are trained to deal with this and has the resources to deal with kids who can't be in a regular school. The school didn't fail him, his parents failed him by mainstreaming him and refusing to acknowledge his developmental and mental issues.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 12:27 AM
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I had a friend of mine that was an elementary school teacher, who taught at a private school which was very expensive but they would take students that other schools didn't take. One year she had a student who I think had some kind of development issue that would have a huge meltdown every single day. Like crying for hours type meltdown. I think it took the school something like 2 years of him doing this every day and learning nothing before they told the parents to take him elsewhere. ETA proba…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 05:01 AM
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I find the whole boys can't sit still and what not to be so silly. A generation ago or so they sat TF still or they got in trouble. They don't get punished for anything anymore so of course they don't learn to sit still or concentrate on anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 04:58 AM
9

Mostly I agree with her but as a biologist have say something aboat sexual selection - I'm not sure in what sense she is using it here but it is definitely a thing. Males of most species that have flamboyant colors or flashy anything is that way due to sexual selection (ie, mate choice by females). Like peacocks tails and so forth. As an example -some researchers did an experiment with chickens and gave a rooster a much larger comb and tail (sexual markers in chickens) and this rooster was mobbe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 10:57 PM
2

I'm not familiar with 12 step programs but I can see how asking for forgiveness as one of the steps might get twisted around to mean the victim has to forgive the person who did wrong or they can't do their "steps" or something. Meaning that the person who is in the program can start using again and blame the victim of course. (can you tell I'm the child of an alcoholic?)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 11:10 PM
11

What bugs me to no end about these types is that forgiveness in the Christian tradition (at least the Catholic tradition, which is what I'm familiar with) is not a given (at least supposed to be). The person who did the wrong has to a) ask for forgiveness and b) make amends before forgiveness should even be on the table. However the notion of forgiveness has been twisted around as something the victim owes the person who did the wrong. The culture around forgiveness is so f-ed up and bizarre, li…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 09:36 AM
23

Honestly if he's on section 8 and making a living through door dash I wouldn't care so much if he went to a soup kitchen. But seriously, $500 a month on takeout? Thats $17/day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 10:17 PM
100

More or less what is in the text of the post. Give non-committal, non-explanatory answers, never take any bait, never volunteer information. If they ask you a direct question ask a question about something boring in response (how about that sports team or the weather is doing the thing again).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 03:47 AM
9

There are treatments but I'm not sure it 100% can be fixed. EDMR to me seems the most promising, but I haven't done EDMR so I don't know. I 100% have this problem, my brain is fried from a variety of things but long term abuse was one of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 11:07 PM
14

I once had a friend that was super weird that acted this way. I later found out she was like this with everyone - she would dream up scenarios before any social interaction and if it didn't go according to plan she would flip out. I mean I think everyone has expectations of how a night or event will go but she was really extreme. I don't understand how people like this function. Its was super uncomfortable essentially being cast against my will in a play I didn't want to be in and was constantly…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 10:54 PM
11

Its tiny, so not really. Yeah I definitely clean more than that guy. That looks like months to years of no cleaning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 10:04 PM
30

Its mold/mildew. My shower grows this stuff but I clean it. My bathroom has zero ventilation, no windows, there is a fan in the ceiling but a maintenence person told there is no vent to the outside, meaning its useless. Even with leaving the door open all the time it still grows mold.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 09:36 PM
5

I doubt anyone would read that profile and not have alarm bells going off. I would put money down that he is a convicted felon or has warrants or something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 11:17 PM
3

What do you mean by FIRE? I am assuming it doesn't mean Finance Insurance Real Estate which is the only meaning of FIRE that I know of.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 11:15 PM
25

GF is going to end up in the hospital.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 08:55 PM
4

A friend of mine had to do the solo divorce thing. Her hustband more or less just bailed one day and refused to talk to her or sign any paperwork. It sucked to have to pay all the $$$ to file the paperwork and get him served but in the end she was free. So congrats on your newly single life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 11:00 PM
13

Probably because of the serial killer sterotype - a few have been sons of prostitutes who worked out their rage at mom by...killing prostitutes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 05:07 AM
20

I mean pretty much thats where I'm at. I'd rather be celibate than have a shitty sex and relationship to match.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 04:24 AM
41

Thats such a bizarre thing to do. Why do guys do this? Its like they know they're getting ghosted after.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 06:47 AM
24

I agree with her that shipping animals in the belly of a plane is cruel. When my family moved overseas when I was a teenager we shipped our dog and cat that way. They both arrived covered in fleas and terrified. Nowdays there are pet airlines that will ship pets in a more relaxing environment, they don't have to be shipped cargo in passenger airlines.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 12:14 AM
39

I forget where I read it - probably chumplady - but somewhere there is a post that essentially spells out that online dating and p much single people post early 20s is full of people that don't make good partners because the ones that do make good partners don't stay single for long. So you have to search pretty long and hard to find a good partner that is single at the same time you are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 10:06 AM
105

Its funny people always come up with weird edge cases to protest the sex offender registry like someone peeing in the alley, except its the judges discretion as to whether an offender goes on it. I mean for people complaining about it go to the website and look up offenders in your neighborhood. See what they've been convicted of and whether that fits into the dude peeing in an alley description. Chances are every offender has a long list of offences and probably quite a few of them involving ch…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 08:15 PM
6

It doesn't matter how they implement this it will end up a shitshow. Men are already abusing the complaint system to drive women who wouldn't sleep with them off the site, there is no way this won't be used by hateful aholes to punish women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 03:21 AM
9

Yeah so much cringe on my part. Oh well, live and learn, at least I didn't get pregnant ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 01:31 PM
23

My mind is boggling at ordering in and not ordering her any food. WTF. He doesn't even want her to eat actual food... I once dated two separate guys that thought a hot date was staying at home to watch a movie on tv and bachelor spaghetti. I wish I had dumped them right there and then, things did not turn out well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 11:08 AM
9

most traumatic thing about it was probably the shame from it being so frowned upon in society This is literally pedo logic - like you'll find in pedo manifestos where they argue that their sexual preferences are totes ok and npd at all. Its the trauma of everyone's reactions! Except when I told there was no reaction at all - nothing at all happened. And yes I was tramatized!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 11:36 PM
13

Lmao at "optional" 50/50. Like WTF.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 10:52 PM
15

I'm single and cf and it was this year when I realized that I my so called friends really did nothing for me and I was better off alone. It was very freeing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 10:48 PM
7

He's incredibly misogynistic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 03:15 AM
14

Honestly, I blame Dan Savage for this BS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 10:45 PM
-24

I find that funny because he totally overplayed his hand. He should have gotten your address first before pulling out the "I got kicked out" card.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 10:12 AM
5

Given the traffic this sub has (and the tone of the article) I'd be surprised if she ever actually read much of it. I think she probably searched a hate sub for problematic things and wrote about that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 01:00 AM
3

Thats how Sodini was. He was obsessed with his neighbor who he thought had a 20 y/o gf, turned out it was his daughter who was staying with him while going to university. He was obsessed with young women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 03:18 AM
14

That sounds like a great idea. You could start with Tolstoy's wife who had 12 children over her lifetime and edited all of Tolstoy's books, as well as Anna Kareina possibly being her work (mostly). Also Einsteins's first wife was a math whiz that apparently contributed greatly to his work. ETA Tolstoy was broke af most of his life, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 11:36 PM
3

I kind of disagree, some people love to watch people lose it. My mom was one of these, she set up situations where all of us would be at each others throats and just sit back and watch the fur fly. Some people are just sociopaths that take delight in other peoples misery. I mean look at the subs devoted to videos of people losing their shit in public, its everywhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 10:12 PM
19

Yeah that was my thought too. Ceo of her own Rodan Fields BS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 08:14 PM
19

This sounds like pua tactics. You dodged a bullet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 01:31 PM
5

I don't get people who don't brush their teeth. I can't stand the feeling of having food in my teeth and not brushing. I brush after every meal. Brushing my teeth is the first thing I do every morning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 02:39 AM
15

There is no reason to give people access to you if they don't have good intentions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 12:16 AM
33

Yeah he's just going to blow his jaw off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 06:07 AM
11

Sounds like a bizarre power play. I once dated a guy like this, you would think they wouldn't stoop so low but they doooooo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 09:58 AM
10

I'm pretty sure he never left his mom's basement. He has never had a real job as far as I know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 10:47 PM
83

A friend of mine had a problem with her foot that required surgery and also being on crutches for ~ 2 months afterward. Her BF left her IN THE RECOVERY ROOM. I mean its been years and I still can't get over that. Less than 2 months of helping your GF literally get back on her feet and he couldn't do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 03:48 AM
5

I got my ms in an institution that had a lot of cardiologists on staff. The ms students who weren't doing theirs with a cardiologist had a lot of jokes about the cardiologists. I'm not going to say they are stupid but they are very I guess simple minded - they don't do complexity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 01:35 AM
1

According to the gossip sites Elon has been getting into drugs in a major way and grimes was his dealer. I'm sure the baby was an oops.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 12:23 PM
4

This is why I joined a gym. No wierdos yelling shit at me. There are gym wierdos too, but they in my experience much less in number. When I was still jogging outdoors I would get crap on a literally daily basis. Maybe I would get approached once a month in the gym and it wasn't cat calling bullshit. Right now the gym is closed because of covid so I can only walk for exercise and even when I walk outdoors I still get the occasional yell from a car window.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 12:59 AM
236

When I was living in the Bay area I was renting an apartment in a victorian house that had been converted into apartments. A few doors down was a group of single moms (3 total, with maybe 4 kids between them?) that had banded together and bought a house. One of them was basically sahm and the other 2 worked, seemed to work out great for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 11:30 PM
11

Good way to get a bum with shitty political views. Enjoy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 10:33 AM
5

On the capitol is federal jurisdiction, so its the federal system. DC is odd, there a dozen different police agencies and half of it is federal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 10:32 AM
12

borrow a couple grand on our third date I laughed out loud at this. WTF. Who TF does this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 10:17 AM
121

My friend did this. She paid for everything, house, groceries, everything for the kid. Her husband paid nothing. His money was his money. She supported him when he was in grad school and then a few years later they split up. Oh and she got an inheritance from her dad when they were married and he spent most of it. She would call me all the time to complain and after a while I was like I can't hear any more of this, either you get divorced or stop complaining, and that was basically the end of th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 11:41 PM
9

I can't find the article but there was an article about a woman who did freeze her eggs but when the time came to actually use them she didn't end up with a baby. I forget how many she froze but most of them weren't viable in the end. Its a brutal process and you may not end up with anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 11:13 AM
6

Jesus that sucks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 09:29 AM
13

You know what I've gotten tons of people telling me its great that they got a woman driver and then they never tip.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 01:05 AM
75

I drive uber and I do this for people I've never met before. Who just drives off?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 10:01 PM
17

I'm kind of curious what "life" is being put on hold for his wife. Wife 2.0? Auditions for wife 2.0? Wife appliance broken, throw away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 12:02 AM
23

That makes me laugh because males lions are pretty useless. Literally all they do is protect the pride from other male lions and father cubs. They don't hunt or take care of cubs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 12:08 PM
5

If you believe the gossip sites he really spreads himself around. I can admire his physical form but 100% would not touch with a 10 foot pole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 06:59 AM
21

Always use a passcode on your devices (not blaming you) but every device I own has a passcode. If he can't open your phone he can't text himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 12:11 AM
10

I mean it just happens. Look at pics of Jude Law from when he was in his 20s and look at him now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 12:06 AM
5

Good point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 05:46 AM
5

Big yikes. Glad you got the termination.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 03:45 AM
19

To be fair the music industry is saturated with talentless buffoons who are making millions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 10:15 PM
13

Christ thats horrifying. I was in so much pain after my wisdom teeth came out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 09:44 PM
4

You can do so much better than this clown.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 09:31 PM
3

Yeah I'd divorce him. WTF, why are guy so disgusting. Its not hard to not pee in a hot tub, you literally just have to act like actual human being, not a GD animal. Guy deserves to spend the rest of his life surrounded by paper plates and pee jars.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 11:53 PM
25

Its ridiculous that she spent all the time cooking dinner basically just for him to eat and he couldn't even put the leftovers away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 03:50 AM
8

I had a fly crawl up my nose while I was asleep - woke up sneezing, had no idea why, went to blow my nose and the fly came out. It just felt like a tickle in my nose.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 02:03 AM
9

That he didn't have a livejournal. I joined livejournal as basically my first social media experience mostly because all my friends had one. This guy kind of flipped out when I mentioned livejournal, talked endlessly about what horrible people are on livejournal, called in livedrama, was such an idiot about it that I basically didn't ever mention it to him because of the ensuing tidal wave of bullshit about it from him. Then at some point I was looking at the comments on some post and there was …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 11:44 PM
12

I eat plenty of ground turkey because I can't eat red meat and I was a grad student for ages and its cheap. They're lots of stuff you can make with it but you have to season it, like I made shepherd's pie a few days ago and it was good. It doesn't even take that long to put together. There is a thai dish that is ground meat with some veggies that goes over rice and its yum. This crap is seriously low effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 12:47 AM
10

Just as an FYI you can get 3 different stds WITH a condom - syphilis, HPV and herpes. Stay safe!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 02:08 AM
11

Its so common most STD tests don't cover it. If you've had sex with 3 different people chances are you've been exposed. Your pap smear will find abnormal cells due to the cancer causing strains of HPV, but there is no test for the genital warts kind. The HPV vaccine covers most strains of cancer causing HPV and will also provides protection against most warts (90%).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 02:05 AM
8

That actually sounds like otc drug tests you can buy, bet he had experience with those!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 02:01 AM
2

Having known several narcissists I'm pretty sure they don't have object permanence. They only know what is in front of their nose at the current time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 05:50 AM
8

I agree. What gave it away was the teenage friend who was totally interested in him! For reals! Women's looks don't suddenly self destruct at 45, the whole idea of the wall is ridiculous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 09:41 PM
3

Women can retain fetal cells from pregnancies which is what I think this guy is referring to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 11:03 PM
3

But what woman would want to do that? I mean he doesn't seem to understand that dating (or even random hookups) is a two way street. Both partners have to be getting something out of the interaction. Low quality sex with an asshole is not exactly going to bring them in droves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 09:58 PM
13

These guys never seem to read their ad with the idea of looking through the eyes of a potential date. There is no upside to dating this guy and he seems oblivious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 04:40 AM
3

I agree, they're encouraged to be narcissists and not taught to rein in their destructive impulses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 05:48 AM
17

What he's doing is not that much different from consuming child porn. He will eventually get tired of his cope and want the real thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 12:11 AM
25

The guys that dish it out are never the guys that can take it. Of course he's old and probably looks like the bottom of a boot too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 08:21 PM
44

I had a realization like that when my ex offered to pick me up from the airport and I was really tired and not really wanted to deal with the hassle of having him over. Its like when even the nice stuff they want to do for you is too much hassle to deal with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 05:42 AM
20

I once got a ride on one of those airport shuttles from a guy that said he worked 3 jobs to support his family and basically never slept. I was a little wierded out because I was his passenger but weev, I made it home ok. He was supporting his wife, some kids, and his grandparents. Like 8 people total. In Socal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 05:22 AM
6

I know right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 10:26 PM
19

I've never seen an actual woman use the term "us ladies".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 11:25 PM
12

I still find it hilarious that she made her previous boyfriend buy her a castle and still dumped him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 06:19 AM
43

I know if at least one person that hunts..for animal welfare reasons. Hunted meat lives wild up until the point at which is dies, is not subjected to factory farm methods and does not pay into the industrial agribusiness model. Just sayin.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 12:04 AM
8

Your radial artery? I'm glad you're still alive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 08:34 AM
8

The entire time I lived in the bay area I was making <50K. The first year I lived there I was making <30K. It sucked (I moved there in 98, so not the hugely inflated rents that is going on now, but still). Nowdays 65k won't get you jack.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 03:31 AM
57

Yes, this. I thought dad bods were people who were muscle-y but a little on the chunkier side, not ripped. Not someone who looks 7 months pregnant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 11:15 PM
44

I'm willing to be he has NO idea what 65k in the city means. He'll be living in a studio in a bad part of town. He probably thinks that money just arrives, and he'll be living exactly the same afterwards. He's in for a rude awakening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 11:08 PM
4

Ugh so disgusting. I went down a rabbit hole of "transformation" porn and there is literally no bottom to the degenerate behavior, its so gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 02:12 PM
8

I remember reading an account by a actress who basically got bullied by her husband into getting implants, she had a bad reaction and had to have them removed, the whole saga sounded horrible and not something I would wish on anyone. It amazes me how men do not seem to realize that porn is a product, that they are being sold a product and its basically brainwashing them and not only do they not care they get mad when people point it out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 01:54 PM
11

I didn't have a complex about my boobs until this incident, he was such a dick. I would never get implants, I would probably get an immune reaction to them. I've never been able to project confidence or feel sexy, oh well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 01:15 PM
37

Christ what an asshole. The first guy I ever slept with teased me relentlessly about having small boobs (they were B cups). There was nothing wrong with my boobs, obviously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 10:34 AM
16

LMaooooooooooooooooooo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 01:11 AM
9

Sounds oddly specific. Got a story?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 12:25 AM
9

At the very least he should buy her mom's violin back. What a complete and utter turd of a human being.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 05:02 AM
12

Honestly I think law and order protects men more than women. Men have to sleep sometime.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 11:27 PM
13

Also who brings up moving in together in a cab? Seems like a strange thing to do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 11:12 PM
5

I don't really get it bc we have a lot to offer. If you're not interested that says more about you than it does about me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 05:13 AM
14

He's pulling this crap to cause drama for no reason. He has one foot out of the relationship already, just call a lawyer already.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 09:00 AM
3

Seems fake to me. A woman who has a career but didn't want to have children early now can't because of cancer? Seems like MRA propaganda.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 10:12 PM
5

Fortunately ovarian has a high degree of being cured with surgery alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 10:08 PM
7

What is sad is that I think we are thinking of two separate instances because I'm sure the instance I'm thinking about was $8k.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 03:58 AM
1

I think it was $8k, and in the meantime he had bought a new computer but she didn't know if he spent all of it on the computer or had just absconded with the rest. I don't know from gaming computers, I've never spent more than $1500 on a computer so I don't know how $8k is possible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 01:32 AM
6

FDS is really living rent free in these dudes minds isn't it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 05:31 PM
2

A man that isn't upfront about their desires and just sorts of nags you into it is such a drag. I dated someone like this who would occasionally ascribe dominant type motivations and thoughts to me and it was weird and offputting, he couldn't just ask for what he wanted he had to hint at it and be weird about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 04:14 AM
14

I don't know why people tread so lightly on other people's feelings. Maybe this is why I don't have many friends. I'f this happened to me I'd be like, "No you're fucking FAT, thats why the pants don't fit!". Then again I doubt I would end up with someone this delusional about themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 11:54 PM
3

This explains so much of my life, holy crap. I'm not much of a talker but not particularly insecure either, I've been targeted by bullies and narcissists my whole life but had no idea why.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 10:00 PM
13

Hates his job but refuses to get a better one because he doesn't want to sell out to the man. Call you a capitalist and asks for money in the next breath.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 09:04 AM
12

I had a roommate in college like this. Trying to talk to her was like trying to talk to a brick wall. She was a night owl and would be up at all ours of the night doing random stuff, and listening to her music at pretty loud volume. Every suggestion I had didn't work for her. Turn it down? No, she wanted her music LOUD. Wear headphones? No, her headphone cord was too short she needed to move around. Do stuff that required her to move around at another time and read or study quietly while I tried…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 08:13 AM
9

No, none of that made any sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 08:07 AM
9

There is no Dave. I recommend staying home "sick" randomly one day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 12:50 AM
17

I'm incredibly frumpy and got told constantly to dress and act more feminine (even from other women sometimes). Men like to drag on women's hobbies because they're women's hobbies. If you played video games they would say the video games you play aren't good games to play or you're playing them the _wrong_ way or something. They just like to criticise and are debbie downers. Imagine if women criticised men's hobbies and activities the way men do to women, we'd be ~manhating~.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 12:47 AM
3

Yeah I don't think she is much of a feminist either. All of her FORMATION crap seemed so empty and hollow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 12:30 AM
39

Having a doctorate is no guarantee against dumbassery. I have a PhD and know several complete tools who have one (not myself obvy).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 06:09 AM
18

Elon's ex wife wrote a whole book about what a tool he is. I haven't read it, just seen excerpts online. He isn't an engineer either, he purchased Tesla from the people who founded it and made them sign an agreement that he would be referred to as the founder from then on. His entire life is BS (except for him having money, which he got from his Dad).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 09:31 PM
18

It makes sense to me - He doesn't like this woman, doesn't see a future with her to together but he likes her new apartment and apparently she helped him get a better job (?) so he wants to stay in her nice apartment and keep his nice job while living with her. From this I'm not entirely sure what exactly he wants but he doesn't want to give up the perks of pretending to be in the relationship with her but he definitely wants to date other people. He wants to keep on using her financially but al…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 09:28 PM
4

Weird Al is pretty talented tho.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 08:14 AM
5

"Passion for cooking" you mean bachelor spaghetti and a movie in another language downloaded from the internet (an actual date I went on...and I kept dating him for another couple of months).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 09:56 PM
22

I'm an INTJ and can't stand most male NTs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 10:58 AM
12

I don't know the name for this general phenomenon but it seems to happen a lot. Like activists in general don't seem to focus on the biggest issues, but on sideline issues that are easier targets. As an example environmentalists ignoring big polluters to focus attention on high effort - low impact activities like living waste free (a noble goal but doesn't even touch the pollution of high polluting industries). Or perhaps animal rights activists attacking women wearing fur while ignoring men wea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 12:27 AM
3

Yes! I also always have my water bottle with me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 01:38 AM
3

Also, given that the drive was supposed to take 3 hours long, I usually never leave the house on a trip of that length without snacks and water. Round trip is 6 hours, sounds like incredibly poor planning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 01:30 AM
1

Its too bad men of the wall got banned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 04:19 AM
30

Wasband is an idiot. He couldn't find a gas station and get some beef jerky, chips and redbull? I have driven farther on less.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 04:17 AM
9

I don't think that was actually your fault.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 12:41 AM
8

As an athiest I find it bizarre how much weirdo crap that is in the bible that people either handwave away or just make excuses about. I don't understand "progressive" Christians, like can you read.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 04:15 AM
8

Not op, I googled the first line of the text and came up with this: ​ https://www.gty.org/library/sermons-library/90-243/the-curse-on-the-woman-part-1 Looks like bible study.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 03:08 AM
28

I've noticed this with some people in general, they act like asking you to do them a favor is a great gift they are giving you. Like um no, I'll pass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 08:55 AM
31

I used to live in SF and knew quite a few people who moved there from somewhere else. Without exception couples that moved together broke up within a year of moving to the bay area.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 04:52 AM
60

IDK what it is with guys and showering. My mom used to bribe my brother to take a shower when he was a teenager. I was like where's my money, I bathe every day. No luck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 07:08 PM
9

I almost feel like it was some kind of revenge thing, you made me move to Atlanta so I'm going to make you move to LA.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 06:37 AM
44

WTF was he expecting? Men are crazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 08:51 PM
3

Thats nice that Stacy said that, I read an article about her at one point where she seemed like an interesting person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 07:40 PM
34

Not currently but there was a makeover show called What Not to Wear, but IDK if it is on streaming. I honestly didn't like the makeovers a lot on that show, frequently they directed people to wear more tv friendly apparel and ignored the persons own sense of style (tho not always).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 09:20 PM
24

Thats almost as impressive as the guy who took his date to Starbucks, bought two cakepops and ate them both himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 12:27 AM
5

Thats so f'ed up I can't imagine making fake social media just to f with someone like wtf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 04:54 AM
5

I would listen to the "I don't want to see him feeling". If hanging out with him is trying your patience, why would you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 03:59 AM
8

Not a bad idea but the therapists I know are all overwhelmed with people seeking therapy during quarantine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 10:40 PM
22

Every time I've attempted to gaslight myself and force myself into a situation that feels off or weird I regret it. I have never regretted noping out of a situation. Trust your instincts!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 11:16 PM
7

Thats so gross. Its not that hard to treat and get rid of fleas.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 10:07 AM
19

This to me says some kind of traditional family structure/highly religious family. I'd bet actual $$$ that nothing happens to bro-in-law.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 04:16 AM
64

This reminds of my ex who would sneak into my apartment during the day (I used to leave my back door open at the time because I was horrible about locking myself out) and eat my food. I eventually caught him when I stayed home sick one day and he came waltzing in. After that I locked my doors. And by ex I mean we were ex already, I had broken up with him weeks before.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 11:59 PM
17

I think this is an everyone sucks here deal. He was upfront from the beginning about wanting to date someone without tattoos, which is a stance I think is stupid, but whatever. He shouldn't have been like "I FORBID IT" which is dumb, all you can do is say its a dealbreaker and I'm out if you do that. She went and did it, which I don't blame her for, its her body, so he can either deal or break up. No adults here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 09:52 PM
31

Narcissists are so predictable. Its *always* projection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 12:12 AM
10

I mean what he is doing isn't immoral, as long as he's honest. Immoral would be leading her on and making her think she's his one and only and that he is open to a relationship. But guys usually aren't honest about stuff like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 03:54 AM
1

Everyone sucks here. Her friend for asking for embryos (seriously, I would never), her friends husband for stringing her along, and OP and her husband for not sticking to their orginal plan and having another child just to use up the embryos (wtf).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 03:41 AM
16

This is more or less how narcissists operate. They seek out what they don't have - empathy, competence, caring.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 12:00 AM
16

Yeah this was going to be my response. I'm not beholden to testosterone poisoning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 06:50 AM
168

I think the purplepilldebate sub is where all the 1nc3ls went after their subs were closed down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 01:11 AM
21

I dated a guy like this. His idea of a hot date was bachelor spaghetti and a movie in another language he downloaded from the internet (as in, popular movie dubbed in another language with english subtitles). That didn't last long.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 10:31 PM
47

He says he doesn't care about what you put in the bio but a blank bio is a red flag? oookay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 11:15 PM
9

I have a feeling there's going to be a lot of coronavirus breakups.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 12:06 PM
31

Be careful, a friend of mine tried to do it herself and severely burned herself (her arm, not her hoo ha thankfully). YOu have to wait for it to cool! Sugar can get SUPER HOT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 01:48 AM
68

OH right like his subamarine which wouldn't even fit in the cave was going to totally save those children! If he was serious he would have shut his factory and started making ventilators 2 months ago when it was apparent to anyone paying attention that we would have a shortage. But this only appeared in his conciousness 2 days ago when fox news started talking about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 08:17 PM
14

He actually sounds super cheap, like I think probably own more stock than he does. Like some dude who'se grown up skint who thinks 20k is a lot of money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 05:32 AM
1

Go for it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 09:02 PM
11

Lmao my friend fell for that bullshart. He rushed through a quickie wedding late in the year. Then he financially abused her by getting her to pay off his debt. He's basically a hoarder with a spending problem. They are now separated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 04:34 AM
15

There is!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 03:00 AM
16

Yeah I googled too and didn't come up with anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 10:08 PM
6

Its an TRP term - basically acting like you are about to bounce out of the relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 03:22 PM
80

So I used to live there and had a super hard time. But that was 10 years ago now and who knows times have changed. My experience is that the bay area is full of people who want some sort of alternative arrangements - poly, kinky, what have you. Like, I just wanted a normal relationship and it seemed like I was the only person I knew who wanted that. Maybe I just ran with the wrong crowd, who knows. Although I have heard that this is still the thing. Like if you aren't into swinging, sex parties …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 05:17 AM
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He's delusional if he thinks he's going to find the woman of his dreams in the bay area.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 04:29 AM
1

Why post this? Its not in english and doesn't have english subtitles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 04:27 AM
34

It was the common law thing that made me think it was fake. Almost all states have laws on the books regarding this type of situation. If she is accustomed to living there she can't be just kicked out either. She has rights, even if she doesn't know about them and apparently neither does he.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 10:55 PM
16

P R O J E C T I O N Women do most of the work worldwide and own less than 10% of the wealth. Conclusion? MEN ARE OPPRESSED OBVY. What a jackass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 06:38 AM
11

Honestly most people who talk about mary-sue's think every female character is a mary-sue. The mary-sue thing comes from fanfiction and is typically an auther self-insert character, virtually perfect in every way. While I agree that most female protagonists have their issues I haven't seen any *real* mary-sue's in major films. Because it would be completely implausible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 09:19 PM
24

Of course when he does get divorced he'll be one of those "it came out of the blue and I got financial raped" dudes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 04:25 AM
10

Yeah I agree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 03:46 AM
30

Thats what gets me. He's fucking over the mother of his child and his wife for $26,400 a year. Is it worth it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 03:37 AM
33

I know right? He's so convinced her that she has to basically pay to be in his presence when she should be having an easy life, its so messed up. ETA - she would have an easier life if she got divorced, alimony + child support and he has the kids on the weekends? Whats the downside? I had a friend who was basically a sugar mama to some dude, she paid for everything, house, food, paid for the kid 100%, her husband didn't contribute *anything* (oh and he made more $$$), I was like get divorced he'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 03:32 AM
36

The whole financial situation seems ridic to me, why would two people who make vastly different sums of money split bills 50/50, when he insisted on a more expensive apartment anyway. The commenters in the thread are correct, he's financially abusing her, not the other way around (which he claims).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 01:42 AM
124

I wonder what would happen if she just..quit paying rent. Like I would bet money that her name isn't on the lease. So just...stop paying for this asshole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 12:43 AM
16

I think thats basically it, they think if they promise oral they'll get laid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 12:03 AM
29

Most dudes who talk about how much they love giving oral are lying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 11:55 PM
5

Sounds to me like he was telling you what he thought you wanted to hear in order to have sex with you. When he found out you meant it when you said you were waiting until marriage he bailed. Sorry, he sounds like a fuckboy to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 12:21 AM
16

I feel like I could have written this also. I'm 45 and have never had a serious relationship. I have had a few..not relationships with guys that never really went anywhere and weren't that enjoyable. I too have had a really cruddy childhood and have had trouble dating. I've made peace with the idea that I might never have a relationships. I'd rather be single with my cats than in a crappy relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 07:24 AM
5

What he is looking for is a high class escort, for free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 03:11 AM
7

It amazes me how guys will just...out themselves as garbage people on online dating apps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 03:11 AM
23

wow thats serial killer behavior. RUN AWAY.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 12:08 AM
16

Ugh in the comments she said they bought a house together. Never buy a house with someone unless you're married (legally!).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 03:54 AM
5

I'm allergic to all kinds of metal except for gold, platinum, silver and niobium. No way would that work with me. My finger would be red and blistered in about 2 minutes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 03:47 AM
3

Oh I see what you're saying. Yes, they tend to soften the language. Polanski pled guilty if I remember too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 05:20 AM
4

It kind of is. Rape is a crime and they could be sued for not putting that "alleged" in there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 05:21 AM
22

Women only date up. Imo the reverse is true mostly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 11:31 PM
8

look up "malignant narcissist". Its the "if I can' t have them no one can mindset".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 02:17 AM
6

At the very least get a camera set up that looks at your door so you can see if he is coming into your apartment. I would bet money that he is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 02:48 AM
6

Everyone sucks here. They deserve each other. If a guy constantly talks about what he finds attractive and his current gf isn't that, thats rude as hell. She should have dumped him instead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 11:14 PM
5

Always trips me out how the nazi leaders weren't very aryan themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 10:34 AM
6

Its true with the reverse as well - people overwhelmingly want egg doners that are tall with blond hair and blue eyes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 10:29 PM
37

Can't do anything but laugh at this dude. He ditched his fiance, paid off her debt and she just dumps him like yesterdays news.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 11:55 PM
15

I think for a lot of these guys they don't love you, they love what they think you'll bring into their life. They're like parasites. They think their desire for a lifestyle is love for a person but they truly don't want whats best for you, they want whats best for them even if it brings you down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 08:55 PM
2

Who are these dudes that are so insecure they can't deal with their gf using...a phone. The bar is so low.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 01:41 AM
9

Gross. I would not show up to that "coffee date". Cheapskate guys aren't worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 07:08 AM
3

Why would you hint that. Just straight up tell him you don't do coffee dates. If he doesn't get the message or asks what you want to do just ghost him. He doesn't sound worth the effort honestly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 12:24 AM
2

That was my question. Everything he posted is a huge turnoff. Completely delusional.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 09:36 AM
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