| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 24 | An important revelation I had when I was travelling | kezchez | /r/seduction | 21/10/15 12:43 AM | |
| 14 | Struggling to get my head around Alex's 'you are enough' concept | kezchez | /r/seduction | 01/08/15 01:14 AM | |
| 10 | How to stop seeking validation and attention? | kezchez | /r/seduction | 13/08/14 08:40 AM | |
| 9 | Physical escalation anxiety | kezchez | /r/seduction | 02/03/14 12:54 AM | |
| 5 | My oneitis has come back, don't think I'll ever get rid of it | kezchez | /r/seduction | 28/02/14 08:39 AM | |
| 4 | Daily grind making it hard to improve and stay focused | kezchez | /r/seduction | 30/08/14 03:01 AM | |
| 3 | Goals and motivation all over the place? | kezchez | /r/seduction | 30/10/14 03:18 PM | |
| 3 | Lacking experience with girls but ego stops me from getting anywhere | kezchez | /r/seduction | 24/01/15 04:15 PM | |
| 2 | I am an awful conversationalist, how do I improve? | kezchez | /r/seduction | 24/01/15 11:22 PM | |
| 1 | Gaining deep core value | kezchez | /r/seduction | 27/09/15 09:12 AM | |
| 0 | How should you interpret condescending remarks? | kezchez | /r/seduction | 27/05/14 04:23 AM |
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 1 | Whiten your teethGet Invisalign. I have it at the moment and people dont know I'm wearing it until I tell them. | /r/seduction | 16/08/16 12:50 AM |
| 1 | Do you know guys who are REALLY good with women? What makes them so good?No most guys who get tons of girls are usually just average in most departments but are just positive, social people who actually go out and make things work for themselves instead of moping and victimising. | /r/seduction | 10/06/16 02:27 AM |
| 1 | Do you know guys who are REALLY good with women? What makes them so good?All the guys I know who have been successful who aren't traditionally good looking have always been extremely positive, out going people. They are guys who never seem to let rejection or whatever bring them down and always seem to be really happy all the time. | /r/seduction | 10/06/16 02:23 AM |
| 2 | 30 years old, just got laid for the first time. There is hope after allWhat are the quality of these women? A lot of guys, even virgins still sometimes have standards. | /r/seduction | 20/04/16 03:25 AM |
| 1 | Im 21 with no friends, I've been asking myself a lot lately..Yeah I went through a period when I was 17-18 when I lost all my friends after I fell into a depression for about a year, was definitely the toughest thing I've been through and the crippling loneliness would often keep me awake nearly every night. 3 years later I have definitely pulled myself out of it, hardest thing is just trying to find a group to hang out with since your are pretty unadjusted being unsocial for quite a bit and you also tend to be pretty needy and insecure when you are despe… | /r/seduction | 17/04/16 06:43 AM |
| 3 | [Serious] how come woman never pay attention to me?Get rid of the entitled mindset where you feel like you should be getting attention, it's toxic. It sounds like you are trying so hard to look for validation because your insecure, let it go and start taking action without expecting something in return. | /r/seduction | 17/04/16 06:35 AM |
| 2 | Is sharing insecurities (in a non-needy way) with a girl a good idea?I think it's definitely fine to mutually share insecurities and be vulnerable and it can be a great way to develop a connection but the timing for it is important, I wouldn't be going around laying this on every girl you meet. | /r/seduction | 26/02/16 01:19 AM |
| 0 | Mark Manson's "Models" has been updatedCan anyone say what exactly was changed? Just wanting to know if it's worth picking up again. | /r/seduction | 24/01/16 02:56 AM |
| 1 | An important revelation I had when I was travellingYou've probably expressed it better then I did. I think a lot of the time we just don't believe we have the potential to be more then what we are and people with weak realities can really be effected and hurt by the comments other people make of them because that's all the reference they have to build their self image, they haven't seen what they are capable of so it just doesn't click in their brain. We get pushed into our little corners and told you are 'that' person, it gets wired into our br… | /r/seduction | 21/10/15 09:30 AM |
| 1 | Australian in EuropeApproach Say you're from Australia ???? Profit | /r/seduction | 21/10/15 06:44 AM |
| 2 | An important revelation I had when I was travellingYeah somewhat, I think European girls tended to be more traditionally feminine, it also matters what country you are referring to. But overall I wouldn't say it is any easier trying to pickup European women (cultural barrier can make it hard sometimes). | /r/seduction | 21/10/15 01:48 AM |
| 1 | German guys numberclose girls and ask them afterwards what they think about being approached. Their answers motivate me so much to go out there and approachI'm still of the belief that being being a fucking boss can make up for a lot in looks (I've seen it personally and can definitely see the difference I get in attraction when I'[m feeling confident v when I'm not feeling confident) But there is no reason why you shouldn't take care and improve you appearance. It's going to make it a lot easier for you and it shows that you value and take pride in yourself which is extremely important. | /r/seduction | 19/10/15 11:30 PM |
| 1 | What are your tips for someone who never had a relationship before?I have formed a limiting belief myself that if I ever found I wanted to date she would be concerned that I have never had a gf. Is it just me or is this belief just bullshit I'm overthinking? | /r/seduction | 11/10/15 06:51 AM |
| 3 | The absolute no nonsense truth about guys that sleep with hot girls and why so many of you get it wrong.I swear there has been a bunch of sad losers coming onto this subreddit lately down voting and disagreeing with anyone that says looks aren't everything. | /r/seduction | 27/09/15 09:31 AM |
| 1 | If looks don't matter, why does everyone tell me to go to the gym?A lot of girls will go for guys that give them good emotions. I knew one girl who once said "I know he is ugly but I want to fuck him so bad" and this guy had a no fucks given attitude and balls full of confidence. | /r/seduction | 16/09/15 06:33 AM |
| 1 | I don't know if i can continue going to school. My heart hurts every time a girl walks past me.Dude honestly shut the fuck up and start trying to talk these girls. Nothing is going to change from being sad, pathetic and feeling sorry for yourself. Your current mindset is the furthest one away from getting any results. Build self esteem, stop looking at what other guys are doing and if girls are looking at you and gaining some validation boost off that, start becoming more positive and upbeat, start improving your social skills by taking action, start giving value in social interactions an… | /r/seduction | 16/09/15 12:33 AM |
| 1 | Message that girl on facebook you always likedYeah there is no harm in maybe giving a couple of girls from your past that you found attractive a message and try to get a conversation going but I don't really think it's a high % strategy | /r/seduction | 26/08/15 11:44 AM |
| 1 | Message that girl on facebook you always likedThis is one thing I'm usually pretty slack on, not in a seductive sense but in a networking sense. I generally find texting and instant messaging boring and a chore and never really initiate many conversations with people through fb or whatever. But I feel like pursuing girls you don't really know or haven't seen in a while on fb isn't the best strategy. In a way a lot of your friends are interconnected through someway on fb and you don't want to get a reputation for being that annoying random g… | /r/seduction | 26/08/15 11:29 AM |
| 3 | 20/M and a kissless virgin.Made out for the very first time. UPDATE!!Great perspective you have there mate, it can be hard sometimes to stay on track in life and girls can be such a distraction and consume so much of our life. | /r/seduction | 17/08/15 01:40 PM |
| 1 | Coming off as a virginYep friends and social circles can be fucked like that. No body likes it when someone has the potential to overtake them as far as confidence and doing better with girls so friends will put friends down to maintain the dynamics of the group. | /r/seduction | 07/08/15 08:42 AM |
| 3 | Coming off as a virginYou seem overly insecure about sex and it probably shows in your body language when the subject comes up and that is why people don't believe you when you've said you have had sex. I mean if you have at least had sex a few times there is no reason why you can't relate to your friends when they bring up sex and if you don't, don't worry about it, maybe make a joke about it and don't worry what they will think. | /r/seduction | 07/08/15 08:37 AM |
| 3 | Struggling to get my head around Alex's 'you are enough' conceptThanks for the advice, I would also be interested in reading that post by Tyler. | /r/seduction | 01/08/15 06:55 AM |
| 2 | Incredibly low self and social confidence .. how to overcome ?It's hard man especially when you don't have a great personality at the present moment to make up for it. You've just got to put all your focus into becoming a guy who gives value and can connect with people easily. Set small goals for yourself and just keep improving socially. Just stay positive, become more self accepting and find a way to shape your confidence around your character and the value you bring rather then your looks. | /r/seduction | 17/06/15 05:41 AM |
| 2 | How to stop liking a girl?Only way I have found is time and improving your confidence to a level where you believe you can do better then her or at least don't think of her as differently then other girls. | /r/seduction | 20/05/15 06:43 AM |
| 1 | Night clubs advice: It's a gameWho said you have to pull on that night? Most the time it's just building attraction and rapport then staying in contact and build from there. | /r/seduction | 04/05/15 11:55 AM |
| 1 | Lost two girls with in 5 minutes last night. What's wrong with me :(Lack of familiarity, experience and confidence in any situation will always make you feel really awkward. Just accept you are gonna have awkward moments and the more awkward moments you go through the less awkward you will become in the end. I look back when I started going out and all that and I was really the same, very hesitant and stiff due to lack of confidence in the situation but all the awkward mistakes in the end helped me learn and improve. | /r/seduction | 03/05/15 11:37 AM |
| 1 | For those ugly motherfuckers such as myself.I understand your point and wouldn't really judge anyone or care if they did get plastic surgery but I think comparing the reconstruction of your face through surgery is on another level then simply going to the gym. | /r/seduction | 20/04/15 05:33 AM |
| 1 | For those ugly motherfuckers such as myself.I don't think I could do it based on the principle of it. I personally think the path to self acceptance is the harder but far more rewarding and deeper lasting option then getting plastic surgery. I feel if I went through with it I would look to fix my nose, then I would look to fix my slight overbite and acceptance of myself would never truly eventuate. | /r/seduction | 20/04/15 04:47 AM |
| 1 | For those ugly motherfuckers such as myself.Lol that's definitely me on the left. Ugly and proud! | /r/seduction | 19/04/15 10:29 PM |
| 2 | For those ugly motherfuckers such as myself.I guess if it was really bad I can understand but I think the problem with most people that get plastic surgery often see the problem worse then it actually is. | /r/seduction | 19/04/15 11:46 AM |
| 3 | For those ugly motherfuckers such as myself.How about family? I don't know, I just think it would be too hard to keep that all under wraps. Was it even that bad before to the extent it stopped you from getting laid? edit - don't get why people are downvoting me, seems there are a lot of insecure people on this board with their looks. | /r/seduction | 19/04/15 08:12 AM |
| 2 | For those ugly motherfuckers such as myself.What are you going on about? | /r/seduction | 19/04/15 07:25 AM |
| 0 | For those ugly motherfuckers such as myself.I looked up what a sliding genioplasty was and I have the same thing where my chin slants back a bit and is noticeable on my side profile. But fuck me if I ever had surgery to correct it, even if I wanted to didn't people call you out on it and give you crap that you got plastic surgery? | /r/seduction | 19/04/15 05:36 AM |
| 1 | I am an awful conversationalist, how do I improve?I wouldn't mind trying out that 15 day course mate, I mean it can't hurt to use it to start off with can it? | /r/seduction | 25/01/15 03:20 AM |
| 2 | Seriously, how do I enjoy clubbing more?It has always depended on my frame of mind, I feel like if you want to have a good time at the club you need to be pumped up and excited. I have always preferred bars though, only reason I still go to clubs is because all my friends always go. | /r/seduction | 16/11/14 09:15 AM |
| 1 | Girls lacking eye contactBut I guess again does a girl have to be submissive to show interest? Looking back at all the times I have approached a girl after I caught them staring and found out she was interested was not usually after they looked down but quickly away in any direction that was most inconspicuous. Think I might just leave these eye contact studies alone, no need to over read things. | /r/seduction | 10/11/14 10:24 PM |
| 1 | Girls lacking eye contactIs there really any truth to this? Why would looking to the side at all mean that a girl is not attracted? I mean looking to the side seems like the most obvious way of trying to look inconspicuous compared to looking at the ground | /r/seduction | 10/11/14 05:20 AM |
| -1 | Looks don't matter. But they do matter. Comprehensive guide.Fucking own it and stop bitching | /r/seduction | 10/11/14 03:28 AM |
| -1 | Looks don't matter. But they do matter. Comprehensive guide.I think people are downvoting me because I'm challenging a common belief that height is a big factor. I'm just stating that in my experience I think it's one of the dumbest insecurities. | /r/seduction | 09/11/14 12:25 PM |
| 2 | Looks don't matter. But they do matter. Comprehensive guide.Well I've never had a compliment on my height and it hasn't stopped friends who are lot shorter then me (5'8 to 5'6) attracting more girls since they have better game. edit- the only time I have ever felt that height has helped me was with tall girls, mostly because they finally can find a guy who is at least a bit taller then them and doesn't make them feel as awkward. | /r/seduction | 09/11/14 11:48 AM |
| 1 | Confidence is a result of experience not wishfull thinking.2 key things that have helped me develop confidence experience & pushing outside of comfort zone (obviously) investing less opinion in what others think of me and more about what I think about my self (affirmations can help this) | /r/seduction | 09/11/14 11:22 AM |
| -7 | Looks don't matter. But they do matter. Comprehensive guide.Height is such a stupid insecurity. I'm 6'3 and have been on both sides of the spectrum of being unattractive and attractive to women and I can say that my height had nothing to ever do with me attracting women at all. | /r/seduction | 09/11/14 11:20 AM |
| 2 | Is anyone else... tired of it?I think this is the best end result you can ask for after you are done with the game. Many guys here want to become good with women and feel a sense of abundance and choice over the women they date instead of not developing themselves and dating the odd average girl here and there who come along. I think it's great you have built yourself up to the person you wanted to be in order to achieve a fulfilling relationship with an amazing girl in your eyes. | /r/seduction | 14/09/14 01:05 AM |
| 3 | Am I over thinking this or is she possibly into me?Sounds like you're 16. | /r/seduction | 08/09/14 05:43 AM |
| 1 | Should you use your lack of experience?Don't question your inexperience or feel insecure or bad about it. When I started out this is what held me back the most and stopped me from getting laid and it was truly all in my head and my own fault. | /r/seduction | 08/09/14 05:42 AM |
| 1 | how to get used to rejectionYou've just gotta learn to not take things personally. There could be a million reasons why a girl rejects you, don't start rationalizing it towards your insecurities or over think it. Start viewing every rejection as a reference point to learn from. | /r/seduction | 02/09/14 04:49 AM |
| 0 | Every girl I meet flakes after a first meeting. My confidence is taking a real beating and I'm starting to think I'm just ugly and hopeless. HELP!It's not about acting confident, it's about being confident, and it's certainly clear you aren't. | /r/seduction | 02/09/14 01:23 AM |
| 0 | Social media and PUArtistryYou are thinking way too much about this. Do you seriously think likes and comments will have any influence on how well you do with a girl? Seems like you are very inexperienced. | /r/seduction | 01/09/14 11:56 PM |
| 2 | Is throwing yourself out there before you get in shape a bad idea?Dude there is no reason you can't start doing both. Putting yourself out there and approaching will only help give you experience and reference points to keep improving if you are mindful enough of your mistakes and have the knowledge of where to improve (RSD is good for that) If you start now and by the time you aren't overweight you would be at a great advantage then what you would be if you did nothing. | /r/seduction | 01/09/14 11:51 PM |
| 35 | Other 'underground societies' similar to pickup?Well the first rule is we aren't suppose to say and well the second rule is we aren't suppose to say | /r/seduction | 31/08/14 11:17 PM |
| 8 | Other 'underground societies' similar to pickup?lol wut?? | /r/seduction | 31/08/14 11:16 PM |
| 1 | Too old to startYou have zero problems? Obviously not, that's very clear. | /r/seduction | 30/08/14 06:39 AM |
| 1 | Too old to startWhat the hell is stopping you from seeking mental help? Its obvious you do not think normally and have some serious deep rooted issues. | /r/seduction | 30/08/14 06:35 AM |
| 1 | Too old to startI surely dont bang girls every night. I've worked hard and admittedly could work even harder to improve myself. Nothing has come easy to me in life but I've never used it as an excuse. I've gone through child abuse, bullying, depression, anxiety, you name it but I've come through it all and have grown to become stronger mentally then most people because of it. | /r/seduction | 30/08/14 06:31 AM |
| 2 | Too old to startExactly, you come on here obviously seeking advice but make an excuse for everything given to you. The answers are there, just stop beating yourself up, being a pathetic fuck and do something about it. | /r/seduction | 30/08/14 06:24 AM |
| 1 | Too old to startAlso to put in perspective. 2 years ago I was sitting at home every weekend in pain and agony of being alone a depressed whilst I knew everyone else was out there going out and having fun. Today I have had 2 groups invite me out and another girl invite me to a house party. Just have to realise there is always hope friend. | /r/seduction | 30/08/14 05:11 AM |
| 1 | Too old to startThe only real thing you can do is keep grinding away and taking any opportunity that is given to you no matter how small or insignificant it may seem. | /r/seduction | 30/08/14 05:05 AM |
| 1 | Too old to startOr just get out and travel the world, the possibilities are endless. | /r/seduction | 30/08/14 05:03 AM |
| 1 | Too old to startSporting clubs are always good, volunteer work, and other various social clubs. Work is always a good place to meet people. I'm assuming you have a job right? If not then work hard at getting a job. | /r/seduction | 30/08/14 04:58 AM |
| 2 | Too old to startFirst you need to work on some of your inner problems. Maybe go see a psychologist to help fix a lot of the problems you are having. Also try watching some Tony Robbins stuff on youtube, his stuff can be very inspiring. I can actually vouch and say that I was also in a dark isolated place for a while. But I pushed myself out there and slowly started making friends, it was obviously awkward at first but I was making progress and now 2 years later I'm a completely different person then what I was.… | /r/seduction | 30/08/14 04:43 AM |
| 3 | Too old to startYou need to fix your mentality. Really do you have any other choice then to try your hardest and push yourself out of your current situation? Sure, coming from a place of deep depression and social anxiety and putting yourself out there to improve is extremely hard, but your only other option is to sit on your laptop all day wanking away your life. At the end of the day it is better to say you have lived a life of 'oh wells' then 'what ifs'. | /r/seduction | 30/08/14 04:27 AM |
| 1 | Daily grind making it hard to improve and stay focusedThanks for the advice. I guess I just have to keep pushing through it until University holidays come and I have less stress on my plate. Stress really does make you a different person, my state is always very low when I have to work all day then come home and have to do assignments. | /r/seduction | 30/08/14 04:22 AM |
| 11 | Feeling inferior to a girl and it's fucking up my confidence.There is nothing you can do but realise that your perception is all in your head. You have brainwashed yourself into believing she is better then you now you just have to brainwash yourself into not. | /r/seduction | 30/08/14 02:25 AM |
| 1 | 23 year old virgin going to Zante tomorrow: Advice?Well obviously the vibe you give off and sub-communications are massive parts in attraction. If you aren't congruent and give off an awkward vibe you're fucked. | /r/seduction | 27/08/14 09:03 PM |
| 1 | How do I start a social circle for the purpose of trying non-pickup game?First become good socially so you have value to give people when you meet them, you have to give people a reason for why they would want to be your friend. After that just make an effort to meet as many people as possible and always accept invites to stuff. Easy. | /r/seduction | 23/08/14 11:55 PM |
| 38 | The Fundamental Differences Between Male and Female Attraction.So literally just be confident and good socially, the same stuff that is brought up every time. | /r/seduction | 23/08/14 11:53 PM |
| 1 | What is your stance on facebook?Would like to get more opinions on this | /r/seduction | 20/08/14 11:55 AM |
| 2 | BF shit test aka how I fucked upCringed so hard at your response. Wtf were you thinking? | /r/seduction | 12/08/14 12:51 PM |
| 0 | On creating a mystery vs. open vulnerabilityForget about all this mystery and open vulnerability crap. Just be yourself and stop worrying about it. | /r/seduction | 12/08/14 12:35 PM |
| 2 | Being "In State" for long periods of time?Know how you feel bro. I had a 2 week stretch a few months ago where like you I had an epiphany of sorts and was my most confident ever and was approaching with ease. Then exams hit and I lost cite of working on myself and improving and it all faded. Been trying ever since to get back to that state, but I have been a shell of that often dealing with insecurity and being in my own head a lot. | /r/seduction | 12/08/14 12:30 PM |
| 3 | As ridiculous as this sounds, I'm a 22 year old male and I feel like I'm running out of time. What do I do?Why is living with your parents at 22 a bad thing? Most people I know who are 22 still do live with their parents as the economy is fucked and its much easier to save living at home and move out when you're financially secure. | /r/seduction | 12/08/14 12:09 PM |
| 1 | Feeling down and ugly, hope ?It's always easier for girls to move on, especially if they're attractive. But the beauty in that is that it gives you room to grow and improve as a person. | /r/seduction | 12/08/14 12:03 PM |
| 2 | GET CONFIDENCE!!!I know it may sound stupid but affirmations have helped me greatly. It's also a case of fake it until you make it. | /r/seduction | 09/07/14 04:55 AM |
| 1 | Im a 28 yo virgin who has hit rock bottom. looking to begin this journey and am in serious need of encouragement/motivation. any at allI'd say 3 or more days. I'm only 20 so I'm horny as fuck all the time still hahaha | /r/seduction | 29/03/14 02:09 AM |
| 1 | Im a 28 yo virgin who has hit rock bottom. looking to begin this journey and am in serious need of encouragement/motivation. any at allYeah nofap may seem stupid at first and it doesn't work for everyone but for me my motivation to go chat up women is 100x higher after I haven't fapped for a few days. | /r/seduction | 28/03/14 08:09 AM |
| 1 | Dancing, according to SCIENCECan't really bend my right knee well since I have had several surgeries on it. I blame that for my lack of success on the dance floor haha. | /r/seduction | 26/03/14 05:02 AM |
| 1 | Focus on the things that matter and everything will fall into place.I think you are the poor soul brother | /r/seduction | 21/03/14 06:35 AM |
| 1 | Focus on the things that matter and everything will fall into place.What are necessarily the steps in building a more attractive lifestyle? It isn't that simple when you are bogged down with school/work and you are stuck with a crappy social circle | /r/seduction | 21/03/14 06:22 AM |
| 1 | My oneitis has come back, don't think I'll ever get rid of itI may come to regret it, but as I said I have met another girl in the same class so if I get rejected which is likely I'll move straight on to the other girl and ignore oneitis. | /r/seduction | 01/03/14 12:53 AM |
| 1 | My oneitis has come back, don't think I'll ever get rid of itWhats GFTOW? | /r/seduction | 01/03/14 12:39 AM |
| 1 | My oneitis has come back, don't think I'll ever get rid of itWe dated for a bit | /r/seduction | 01/03/14 12:36 AM |
| 1 | My oneitis has come back, don't think I'll ever get rid of itThat would be the logical move, but obviously emotionally I feel that would be too challenging for me. I feel like if I make a bold move (express sexual interest not emotionally pouring my heart out) I can at least get some form of closure and maybe move towards slowly getting over her after she rejects me. | /r/seduction | 28/02/14 09:57 AM |
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