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Yeah, that's my intention. In fact, I intend to have conversations with everybody, I'm just saying that "Hi" is the bare minimum in case I'm too nervous to even say anything else. Evolving bit by bit is the key
/r/seduction15/10/22 06:06 PM
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Thanks G
/r/seduction14/10/22 09:34 PM
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Asking for directions is easy for me. Starting a conversation out of the blue not so much, that's why I designed the plan this way. Thanks for the encouragement my friend🙏
/r/seduction14/10/22 09:33 PM
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You are getting triggered by a Reddit convo with random strangers, and somehow expect us to believe that you're good with women. 🤣🤣
/r/seduction08/08/22 07:59 PM
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My guy probably dropped out of college to pursue PUA. Not that there's anything wrong with that, it's just not a life path I want for myself.
/r/seduction08/08/22 07:49 PM
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Oh no! Anyway
/r/seduction08/08/22 07:35 PM
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Hit me up when you decide to provide value instead of trying to put other people down
/r/seduction08/08/22 07:27 PM
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Working, doing my thesis, hitting the gym, playing/watching football, going out with my pals. There's more to life than just hitting on girls
/r/seduction08/08/22 07:24 PM
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Easy to say my friend, but I don't go on many dates. Might as well figure out what my mistakes are and improve on them
/r/seduction08/08/22 07:11 PM
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Well said
/r/seduction29/06/22 08:45 AM
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Fair enough. Thanks for the help once again!
/r/seduction27/06/22 10:35 PM
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I like your message overall and agree, and that's exactly why I want to move out. However, didn't you write a couple of days ago that it was creepy to go to a club just to pick up women? XD
/r/seduction27/06/22 10:18 PM
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I fear that not only will I be rejected, but I may potentially be looked upon with disgust for creeping into other people's private space like that. Especially since the last time I did that I could tell the girl was completely creeped out
/r/seduction27/06/22 08:44 PM
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Daygame... Now THAT terrifies me even more xDD but I see your point
/r/seduction27/06/22 08:40 PM
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I hope so, hopefully I will become comfortable with rejection once and for all. But I also have to focus on other things, which I clearly haven't been doing
/r/seduction27/06/22 08:38 PM
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Fair enough. But then, how do I meet new women? I think the key isn't to give up, but rather to become comfortable with rejection, which I clearly still am not
/r/seduction27/06/22 08:37 PM
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That's exactly what I meant, but I think you put it into words better than me. I am so attached to the outcome because I currently don't have self-esteem. I have all those qualities you mentioned in the last paragraph. Why don't I have self-esteem? I'm doing alright in college (almost done) and career, I work out, but I have this deep toxic shame. My dad abandoned me and my mom is always overprotecting me and telling me not to take risks, as if she doesn't trust me. I try to act despite these ba…
/r/seduction27/06/22 08:31 PM
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Deal
/r/seduction25/06/22 03:35 PM
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Yeah, I went out with the mindset of having fun, and I did, so not all was bad. The thing is, I saw 2 or 3 girls I wanted to approach and didn't. 3-second rule, seems like a good idea. Do you have some particular phrase to use? Or just say hi?
/r/seduction25/06/22 12:21 PM
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Thanks bro, but I gotta be honest: yesterday I bitched out, no other way of putting it. Next time, this won't happen
/r/seduction25/06/22 11:18 AM
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Eye contact that signals "I want you to do me" lol
/r/seduction25/06/22 11:18 AM
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I was not that drunk tbh
/r/seduction25/06/22 10:39 AM
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My day game has been weak, not due to lack of social skills, but because of lack of activities. I am still in remote work, and after that I either do the thesis for university or go to the gym (where yeah you can argue that it's a good place to meet women but I find it even more awkward than at the club)
/r/seduction25/06/22 10:38 AM
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Thanks bro. Next time I won't bitch out
/r/seduction25/06/22 10:35 AM
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You're totally right, I would much rather make a fool of myself approaching and being rejected than experience this feeling of being a pussy. For fuck sake.
/r/seduction25/06/22 04:35 AM
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Now that you mention it... Today I'm not feeling needy at all, and I haven't had sex. But I am feeling an extremely positive energy and confidence that if I go out I will meet girls and maybe attract them. I had never thought from that perspective of neediness coming from fear about the future. I always thought it was related to your past experiences being poor. You make a good point.
/r/seduction24/06/22 01:03 AM
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I'm still searching for the solution my guy xD But my current stance is that I have to maximize my performance in all other aspects of my life: appearance, career, workout, hobbies, assertiveness, reaction to rejection, flirting, escalating. These are a lot of aspects, but I believe if I can dominate them, maybe my neediness won't be much of an issue at all. But I'm inexperienced and only recently started properly dating, so I'm not speaking with 100% certainty about what I just said. But I main…
/r/seduction24/06/22 12:46 AM
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I respect your comment, but allow me to counter-argue. I also suffer a lot from neediness (as shown by my post history lol). But I don't think it's a lack of self-esteem, I think I just have a need that isn't being fulfilled, in this case, intimacy with women. "It's a much deeper feeling of self worth. It's when none of your validation comes from women, and all of it is derived internally." But then, why do "non-needy" people take so many women to bed? In fact, why do they even date when they do…
/r/seduction23/06/22 09:27 PM
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Yup, me and everyone else commenting. You, on the other hand, are a genius
/r/seduction23/06/22 08:40 PM
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Nope. I never had a GF nor do I know what my ideal woman would be like
/r/seduction23/06/22 08:37 PM
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Because I don't have a SO, so for what reason should I assume everyone else has? Your post doesn't make sense
/r/seduction23/06/22 08:33 PM
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No.
/r/seduction23/06/22 08:28 PM
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Yup, I have
/r/seduction22/06/22 09:15 PM
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Some nice tips in there. Thanks my friend
/r/seduction22/06/22 09:11 PM
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The thing is, I don't even behave much differently when I'm confident and when I'm not... I just radiate a different energy and women seem to really have a sixth sense to pick up on it
/r/seduction22/06/22 09:09 PM
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I'm not good at dating (yet), but I've noticed that nights where I was in a better mood and confident were the nights where women sent me most indicators of interest. It can't just be a coincidence
/r/seduction22/06/22 08:58 PM
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"Desensitize yourself to outcomes" yeah bro, that is my weakest point. I get rejected in a simple interaction and then spend months thinking about it and feeling without confidence
/r/seduction22/06/22 08:20 PM
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Fair enough, then why don't you teach all of us? What is your method?
/r/seduction22/06/22 08:17 PM
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These tips seem cool, but I'm not sure about number 2. If I'm a shy guy (which I am) and remain loyal to that trait, won't that make me potentially miss out on approaches?
/r/seduction22/06/22 08:00 PM
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That's a good point!
/r/seduction21/06/22 11:10 PM
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I'm still approaching only in night outs. Approaching in those places you mentioned is a bit of a stretch for me (at least for now), as I'm a very shy guy
/r/seduction21/06/22 11:10 PM
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That sounds like a mix of the two options xDD
/r/seduction21/06/22 09:23 PM
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Bro, you're letting society define what is a good/bad experience. Yes, many people say that college years are the best of their lives. But that's because most of them go on to jobs that don't satisfy them and/or end up becoming lazy to enjoy their lives afterwards, or weren't depressed during their college years because of family issues and low self-esteem. I'm 22. I'm practically done with college (only have a thesis left to deliver and don't have classes anymore), and I have a full-time job. I…
/r/seduction21/06/22 09:18 AM
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I've never been bothered by lack of success in dating apps. I've been bothered by lack of success in dating life in general, which is far, far worse. So this can't really shake my confidence. But this year I discovered seddit and other dating gurus, took responsibility for improving and am already getting better. All the best to you too
/r/seduction21/06/22 01:32 AM
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You're probably right bro. I'll leave the profile available for like 24 hours and if I don't get matches I'll uninstall it. Thanks
/r/seduction20/06/22 11:51 PM
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Damn. Maybe you're right. But then again, they looked so cute together afterwards that I wouldn't guess there was friction between them xD but you're probably right
/r/seduction20/06/22 08:55 PM
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I mean, it was a bang average situation. I was sitting by the boarding gate waiting for the departure time, she arrived with her BF to do the same. Nothing special. I made eye contact with her because I do that to everybody. This is just one example, there are many situations where this happens. Some of them were probably indicators of interest
/r/seduction20/06/22 04:46 PM
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Imagine xD
/r/seduction20/06/22 04:41 PM
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This is one of my greatest doubts as well. Dating gurus always mention the importance of eye contact in seduction, but there are situations I just don't understand. The other day I made eye contact with a woman for like 10 seconds, and later I realized her boyfriend was by her side lol. Why the hell was she staring at me then? I'll keep an eye on this thread.
/r/seduction20/06/22 03:27 PM
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I like to think I'm above average in real life xD but meanwhile I've received criticism of my photos from some guys in my DM's, not for bad looks, but for bad photogeny. Which makes sense I guess
/r/seduction20/06/22 12:13 PM
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That makes sense tbh. Everytime I get back on Tinder I have some matches and likes in the first few hours, but then nothing happens.
/r/seduction20/06/22 12:02 PM
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There are women in real life who think I'm attractive. My question was why it doesn't happen on Tinder. Meanwhile I've been constructively roasted by other guys in my DM's for an apparent lack of quality of my photogeny (not to be confused with bad looks), so that's an explanation. Btw, just telling a guy through the internet that he isn't attractive, without having a look at him or his photos, isn't exactly what I would call good advice or even constructive criticism, but you do you.
/r/seduction20/06/22 12:00 PM
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I disagree, I think it matters what I think and not other people. That's the definition of not seeking external approval. I tend to think that it's not lack of good looks, rather a poor profile that's causing bad results on Tinder. However, I do agree that in person it's 1000x better. It's just that I want to do both in person and online dating
/r/seduction19/06/22 08:49 PM
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Maybe she has a boyfriend? There were two occasions where I asked women for their numbers and they preferred to give me their Instagram. I would find out eventually that both of them had boyfriends, which makes sense if you think about it because then it's not "cheating"
/r/seduction19/06/22 08:44 PM
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I'll check it out, thanks bro! Good luck to you too🙏
/r/seduction15/06/22 08:43 AM
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What is the book you mentioned? I can't find it. I loved that comment btw. In fact this whole thread is amazing with so much help from the community. Thanks my friend!
/r/seduction14/06/22 11:45 PM
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My dad leaving us played a part. Not a very good childhood either. And the trauma of past rejections doesn't help. Thanks bro, but let's just say that if you were a hot girl on front of me I'd be a bit more nervous and less capable of being myself xD (which is why I feel the need to practice, practice, practice)
/r/seduction14/06/22 11:04 PM
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I'm working on it bro. Getting rid of toxic shame is hard as fuck, but I'm doing alright. I have a lot of self-limiting beliefs. I have challenged them a few times, by thinking "ok, but what if I act like the opposite is true?". For example, I think I'm a bit weird socially, so I approach a situation with the mindset of "let's assume I'm not weird" and the interaction just goes so much better. I just have to do it more often!
/r/seduction14/06/22 10:55 PM
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I did everything, all 40+ breaking free exercises. The book is great but it doesn't automatically do the work for me. My sex life is still bad because I haven't done enough to approach more women. And this year I've had proof that when I do approach, some accept me (even if I haven't fucked any girl get). I don't watch porn, believe it or not I've never been aroused by two random humans fucking. But I do masturbate, yes. I haven't done it in 11 days and I feel so much better already, and motivat…
/r/seduction14/06/22 09:42 PM
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I've red No More Mr. Nice Guy. Amazing book. The best takeaway I got from it was the ability to be assertive and do whatever I want, and realizing that no one abandons me for being my true self and opening up. It didn't solve my neediness though. However, ever since I published this thread, I still feel needy in that I want to fuck and date women, but I started realizing that that's normal. If I'm not having sex, of course I'm gonna be upset with my sex life. It's up to me to change that through…
/r/seduction14/06/22 02:11 PM
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My mood and confidence swings a lot, so expect a dm sometime😂 Thanks for the help!
/r/seduction09/06/22 05:43 PM
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Well said. You reminded me of a quote I red the other day: "excellence is the gradual result of always striving to do better". I'll be better for sure
/r/seduction09/06/22 04:35 PM
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I've been to therapy for 6 years and still haven't fixed myself completely. If I wait to fix myself completely to start acting, I'm likely fucked
/r/seduction09/06/22 06:57 AM
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In portuguese, they used the word "carência" for neediness, which we commonly use to define oeople who are feeling down bad in their love life Translated directly to English is something like "lack" or "shortage". This is actually great news because now I realize I'm not needy at all, at least in the way Mark described it. I do still feel lonely and craving for intimacy and sex, but hopefully that doesn't repel women the way I thought it would've!
/r/seduction09/06/22 01:51 AM
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I disagree with that definition tbh. But this may be a language barrier because I red the book in my native language and they translated it to a word that is more commonly used for the description I used above. But fair enough. Maybe you could argue that what I'm feeling is loneliness rather than neediness
/r/seduction09/06/22 01:36 AM
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I've had my fair share of masturbation
/r/seduction09/06/22 01:32 AM
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Neediness is needing sex and/or love to feel fulfilled (in my book)
/r/seduction09/06/22 01:31 AM
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Needing sex and/or love to feel fulfilled
/r/seduction09/06/22 01:01 AM
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Good luck to you my friend
/r/seduction09/06/22 12:36 AM
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I appreciate your response, but let me counter argue. For years I've been hearing this talk about people saying they don't need women, and are happy just seeking their own approval. Okay. Then why do you even date? Even if my career is amazing (and modesty aside, it's actually going pretty well considering I'm 22), isn't it normal to be dissatisfied with my sex life? Isn't it normal that that makes me needy? People are saying "vulnerability is sharing yourself without fear of judgement" what if …
/r/seduction09/06/22 12:33 AM
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In my personal life, through work, exercise, reading, playing, hanging out with friends... Also masturbating to not think about it so much. In dating, I've been trying to implement inner game suggestions: nice clothes and grooming, more courage to approach, sharing myself despite fear of judgement.
/r/seduction09/06/22 12:19 AM
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Nope dude, cold approach is invasive in my eyes. Imagine a world where you can not just be by yourself without wanting anyone to approach you, but still have someone approach you. Surely you'll be like "the fuck does this guy want" Hot approach, i.e. when someone has made eye contact or something else, is another subject. And that I've started doing sometimes
/r/seduction09/06/22 12:15 AM
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What if I am authentic despite feeling fear of judgement? Isn't that being vulnerable?
/r/seduction09/06/22 12:12 AM
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Thanks my friend🙏
/r/seduction08/06/22 07:29 PM
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Well, I'll admit. This is the only area of my life where I am not vulnerable (apart from a restricted group of friends). I can't seem to be comfortable with the fact that I'm a virgin at 22. I don't even know how I would justify it to women. Am I a virgin because I just didn't try hard enough? Or because my dad abandoned me and I had no male role model? Because I always was too monogamous to my mom? I don't even know the reason. It's not for a lack of desire, that's for sure. I'm embarrassed to …
/r/seduction08/06/22 06:54 PM
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Let's be honest, does anyone ever actually say anything that's on their mind at all times? If I was to approach a woman saying what's on my mind, I would say "hey, you're hot I'm really needy as fuck, can you please give me your number or como with me so we can go fuck? Would be a first time for me btw" imagine if I actually told this to a girl xDD Not to mention that sometimes I think about some messed up things (I think we all do)
/r/seduction08/06/22 06:32 PM
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Maybe in the future. Right now I'm still a very shy guy and I'm still testing the waters with this approach thing. I only do approach when I sense interest, btw. I'm kind of opposed to cold approach, especially after I totally scared the only girl I ever cold approached lol
/r/seduction08/06/22 06:29 PM
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Well, I am pretty vulnerable, but being vulnerable to that point you just described would involve having to admit that I'm hurt and needy as fuck... Would that be a turn-off for women?
/r/seduction08/06/22 06:23 PM
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Well, when I exercise I do feel better, yeah. The problem is the rest of the day xD
/r/seduction08/06/22 06:20 PM
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But in that case you're agreeing with me: it is non-neediness that tends to lead to vulnerability, not the other way around. I have been very vulnerable ever since I red the book, precisely because I thought that would reduce my non-neediness. And it did actually bring a lot of benefits, but neediness is still present.
/r/seduction08/06/22 06:19 PM
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Sometimes
/r/seduction08/06/22 06:16 PM
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Cheers
/r/seduction08/06/22 06:07 PM
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Partly, yes. And the rest is advice for men
/r/seduction08/06/22 01:37 PM
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Fair enough
/r/seduction08/06/22 01:36 PM
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I appreciate your effort in helping me, but I can't possibly grasp how I could be more vulnerable than I already am. I already share embarrassing things about myself, family issues, am 100% honest, do what I want, am responsible etc. The reason why I'm lonely isn't for lack of abandonment of true self. I feel connected with my friends and some of my family. I just want to have sex, I never had it in my life. Being vulnerable hasn't stopped me from seeking and wanting sex. That's a fact. Maybe yo…
/r/seduction08/06/22 12:40 PM
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Vulnerability is great, but it hasn't stopped me from feeling lonely at night or during work (aka needy)
/r/seduction08/06/22 12:16 PM
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Thanks for your response. Vulnerability has definitely brought benefits to my life, it's much better to share myself completely to my friends than to keep things hidden and then arrive home feeling ashamed. However, I still don't agree that it reduces neediness. I don't mean to be stubborn, but simply sharing my shame, my tragedies, being courageous when approaching women, hasn't stopped me from feeling lonely at night and wanting to be loved and have sex. And trust me, I really have been trying…
/r/seduction08/06/22 12:11 PM
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Amazing effort, thanks! I am working now, but in a few hours I'll try to get back to you
/r/seduction08/06/22 12:02 PM
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Yeah bro. If I was to share everything at anytime, some conversations would be so messed up lol. And a lot of emotional vomit. By "self-sufficient" you mean independent? I've been actually thinking about moving out of my Mom's house recently. Idk if that was your point tho
/r/seduction08/06/22 10:47 AM
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In that perspective, yeah, being vulnerable has definitely reduced my neediness around other people. What I mean is in those times when I'm at home, alone with my feelings, struggling to fall asleep because I can't stop feeling needy. Or struggling to concentrate on my work. Have you experienced this?
/r/seduction08/06/22 10:43 AM
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Being tall? Jk lol. Yeah I don't know. Fuck it
/r/seduction08/06/22 10:38 AM
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Let me guess: the only way is by getting laid
/r/seduction08/06/22 10:35 AM
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Yeah man I don't buy it. At least it hasn't worked for me... But maybe I misunderstood idk. I just want to stop being needy
/r/seduction08/06/22 10:25 AM
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I've red it a year ago, and it has some good concepts overall, but I agree that "vulnerability leads to non-neediness" was probably an L by Mark. I've been actually sharing myself a lot, working so much on my career, body, activities etc, and I even made out with a few women, but that didn't make me any less needy.
/r/seduction08/06/22 10:23 AM
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Nice article!
/r/seduction06/06/22 10:10 PM
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Thanks my friend
/r/seduction30/05/22 06:16 PM
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Makes sense. I guess my weak point is that I rarely pour any emotion onto what I say. I often say that I think player X is good or shit, but I rarely talk about the times I cried when the club I support won titles lol
/r/seduction30/05/22 05:47 PM
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The thing is, the rejection will always bother me until I get used to it. So I have no other choice but to keep on approaching when I feel like it, and grind through the pain of rejections.
/r/seduction30/05/22 02:25 PM
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Most chicks don't like sports, videogames and politics that much xDD
/r/seduction30/05/22 09:44 AM
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Thanks!
/r/seduction30/05/22 01:33 AM
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You're right. This was actually a positive experience, a few months ago I would have never made a move, this time I actually did. I just have to push against my negative emotions about rejection and keep grinding
/r/seduction29/05/22 10:37 PM
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Thanks for the tips my friend
/r/seduction29/05/22 10:34 PM
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I find clubbing/parties to be the easiest way to approach. But I do agree that I overfocused on approaching rather than just having fun. Something to work on
/r/seduction29/05/22 10:32 PM
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I don't get it
/r/seduction29/05/22 10:29 PM
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Man fuck shit tests. I can't be arsed with that shit. If two people are attracted to each other, just behave like it and talk. I started recently with all of this, so my approaches are not so good either. With my male friends we talk about guy things in a guy way lol, and it's hard for me to make the transition to talking with women. Two weeks ago I swear I had the cringiest 10 minutes of my life, a girl gave me her Instagram and we just stood there in silence for 10 minutes because we both coul…
/r/seduction29/05/22 10:29 PM
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Thanks for your reply. I've been putting so much effort in this part of my life, and it was worth it in a sense because I've developed skills that I didn't have before. But I kinda neglected other parts of my life, and it cost my inner confidence.
/r/seduction29/05/22 12:45 PM
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Thanks, I will
/r/seduction29/05/22 12:42 PM
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Yup, I'm still new to this process. Hopefully, as it happens more often, I'll get more comfortable with rejection
/r/seduction29/05/22 12:42 PM
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Facts
/r/seduction29/05/22 12:41 PM
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Thanks!
/r/seduction29/05/22 12:39 PM
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You're right my friend. In a logical sense I completely agree with you. Emotionally, however, it's a different conversation. But it could be because I'm new to being rejected in this context, because only now have I started to approach random people. Maybe when I get rejected a ton of times I'll become more comfortable with it. Thanks for your reply
/r/seduction29/05/22 12:39 PM
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Thanks!
/r/seduction29/05/22 12:35 PM
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I've red it actually. Decent book, although not my favorite in the self-help industry. What I did find from that and other books, is that its teachings are theoretically correct, but it always comes down to whether you are able to implement them in your daily life, which is far from easy. And the suffering of life never truly goes away, you can just learn how to deal with it in a positive, healthy manner. But yes, I need to feel confident just from my own validation. Last week I was feeling amaz…
/r/seduction29/05/22 12:34 PM
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I've always had this problem of taking rejection so personally, ever since I was 14. I actually have a therapist and we've dissected this issue, which is related to family issues (namely, my father's abandonment). However, it's frustrating because I really don't choose to take rejection personally, it just naturally affects me. I have no choice but to work on my confidence and grind through the rejections, though. That's what I'll do. Thanks for the reply
/r/seduction29/05/22 12:29 PM
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The confidence I was feeling last week was probably "fake" confidence, which derived from me feeling validated by women. And it got exposed when I got rejected. You're right, I need to be confident in who I am as a Man in general and not from other people... Easier said than done, but I'll have to find a way
/r/seduction29/05/22 12:26 PM
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Yup... The reason why I felt so great before is probably also the reason I feel miserable now. Well said
/r/seduction29/05/22 12:23 PM
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Tbh I'm not very much into "game", as in PUA concept... I believe in natural attraction and taking a chance. We were in a nightclub and I thought she was coming on to me because she was rubbing against me (might have been lack of space idk). I put my hand in her shoulder, and she kinda pushed me away. That was the "game" lol
/r/seduction29/05/22 12:21 PM
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Abundance mentality, good shout my friend. I'll keep trying, thanks🙌
/r/seduction29/05/22 12:01 AM
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I know bro, I'd been warned beforehand. But still, it's fucked up that it affects me so much. There's a lot of emotional baggage behind this for sure. But hey, what can I do but to try again
/r/seduction28/05/22 11:37 PM
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