| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| 3442 | In Memoriam | QUEEN SH*T | lawlessesq | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 11:46 PM |
| 415 | He didn’t ask about my surgery | RED FLAG 🚨 | lawlessesq | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 12:42 AM |
| 145 | It should be a given that slavery jokes are off limits, especially in the Deep South. | MALE DEPRAVITY | lawlessesq | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/19 12:53 AM |
| 114 | Herpes + poly = 🤮 | MALE DEPRAVITY | lawlessesq | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 02:21 PM |
| 15 | Need Advice | SEEKING ADVICE | lawlessesq | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/20 01:50 AM |
| 1 | They will say anything to get you back. I have no idea what he’s referring to 🤷🏾♀️ | STAY WOKE | lawlessesq | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 06:44 PM |
| 1 | I’m a believer | MINDSET SHIFT | lawlessesq | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/21 11:30 PM |
| 1 | I'm a believer | MINDSET SHIFT | lawlessesq | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/21 07:40 PM |
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
|---|---|---|---|
| 1 | After this, she is still unsure if she should leave.My jaw literally dropped. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 05:24 PM |
| 33 | men's responses to your job/career situation is a quick, easy way to vetThe minute most men find out I’m an attorney, they ask for free legal advice then get upset when I tell them how much a consultation costs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/21 04:44 PM |
| 7 | The Top 10 Professions With the Most PsychopathsI’m a lawyer and I support this message. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 02:05 PM |
| 2 | If he needs space from the relationship, it's a no.You’re a queen 👑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 01:27 PM |
| 17 | From Pickme to picking Me :)So proud of you. I could have written this myself. I’d been seeing a guy for a month and everything was going so well. All of a sudden, his effort begins to diminish. I felt so proud of myself when I calmly told him that we needed to part ways. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 12:41 AM |
| 3 | Had a hard week so i made a charcuterie board with champagne, a lavender candle and a vase full of fresh flowers. Don't wait for a guy to treat you right when you can skip men and do that for yourself.I need to know everything that’s on here. Details please! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/21 03:25 PM |
| 35 | Apparently single women can’t have nice things aka my attempt to buy a houseI bought my 4br, 3 bath house 2.5 years ago. It’s just me and my two dogs. I LOVE all the space and the huge backyard. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 03:25 AM |
| 3 | Honest discussion; let’s talk about the solitude that comes with being a HVWI could’ve written this myself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/21 07:22 PM |
| 18 | I don’t want his name on my doctorate.I don’t have a relationship with my sorry excuse for a father or anyone on his side of the family. For the longest time I considered changing my name to my mom’s (she kept her maiden name). I ultimately decided to keep it and create a new legacy for that name. I have a professional degree, and the name on it is all mine. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 02:26 AM |
| 30 | Friendly reminder: we don’t have an expiration dateI lost my teens and early-mid twenties to low self-esteem, self harm, and older men who used me for my body. It wasn't till I was 28 that I felt like my life was finally getting under control. Now that I'm in my early 30s, I truly feel like my life is taking off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 03:26 PM |
| 13 | A message for the female lurkersI’m so proud of you! Your best days are ahead. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 02:46 PM |
| 15 | Baffling LVM experience I just needed to shareI agree. I play video games. I grew up playing video games with my brother. Now, I may buy one game a year and play for a couple hours here and there when I have absolutely nothing else to do. I enjoy it, but it’s always on the back burner. Caveat: I regularly play Just Dance. It’s fun and a great workout. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 04:22 PM |
| 12 | 2021 is for me and me onlyI could’ve written this myself. I successfully completed KickHimOut2020 early in the year by ending things with my LVM of 2 years. I then turned to the catalog, and it has been a cesspool. I’m deleting all my OLD profiles. I’m committed to having an unburdened 2021 where men are an afterthought. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 01:28 AM |
| 103 | FDS has led me to fully embracing how much I care about height and it feels sooo good! Boy bye 👏5’10” here. I used to second guess my height preference, like I was being unfair to guys. Not anymore. 6’2” or bust! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 01:12 AM |
| 10 | They can’t even be bothered to pretend to make an effort. I set my preferences to 200 characters min for 1st messages to avoid meaningless “hey”s, and this is what I get sent - oh, & this loser claims to have a master’s degree in his profile.I think it’s Plenty of Fish. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 09:39 PM |
| 31 | He didn’t ask about my surgeryHe’s been blocked. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 01:39 PM |
| 12 | He didn’t ask about my surgeryThank you! You should definitely do it. As soon as I’m fully healed, which should be around springtime, I’ll be back on my skates. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 09:59 AM |
| 37 | He didn’t ask about my surgeryThank you! He wasn’t excessive or over the top with his behavior or anything he said. He didn’t lavish me with excessive attention or affection, but it was just slightly more than was necessary. It was enough to be an orange flag, but not a full on red flag. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 09:43 AM |
| 69 | He didn’t ask about my surgeryAfter I stopped responding, he triple texted me and then called. I ignored all of them! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 05:59 AM |
| 8 | He didn’t ask about my surgeryThank you! 🙂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 05:57 AM |
| 16 | He didn’t ask about my surgeryThank you 😊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 04:14 AM |
| 70 | He didn’t ask about my surgeryThank you! I came around a turn too quickly while roller skating. My foot rolled under me as I fell, and I broke my leg right above my ankle. It hurts like hell, but I’m in good spirits. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 02:54 AM |
| 65 | He didn’t ask about my surgeryYou’re absolutely right. Lesson learned. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 02:21 AM |
| 11 | Behold, a modern 24 year old man.I understand what you’re saying, but as a dog owner, someone not liking dogs is a deal breaker for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 12:30 AM |
| 41 | Behold, a modern 24 year old man.I don’t trust anyone who doesn’t like dogs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 11:59 PM |
| 2 | NoGuess I’ll stay single 🤷🏾♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 02:56 PM |
| 5 | Asian men vs Western men preforming on stage.What is this supposed to prove? The difference between Kpop/Jpop and rap? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 07:02 PM |
| 29 | Ladies at some point we have to acknowledge our poor pussy management. Like I know most men are trash but if you continue messing with a LVM male people are going to have less empathy for you. It’s better to be alone than to be with trash.Women who are held captive don’t qualify as “choosing to continue to stay with a man who treats you poorly”. That’s rather obvious. I’m trying to point out you conflating “choice” and “captive”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 10:50 PM |
| 27 | Ladies at some point we have to acknowledge our poor pussy management. Like I know most men are trash but if you continue messing with a LVM male people are going to have less empathy for you. It’s better to be alone than to be with trash.OP’s post is specifically about choosing better partners and choosing to continue to stay with a man who treats you poorly. So no, you taking the post and my statement out of context by way of an extreme example is not productive. You knew very well that this was not about women who are physically held captive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 10:43 PM |
| 10 | Ladies at some point we have to acknowledge our poor pussy management. Like I know most men are trash but if you continue messing with a LVM male people are going to have less empathy for you. It’s better to be alone than to be with trash.Just as extreme examples aren’t productive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 10:38 PM |
| 38 | Ladies at some point we have to acknowledge our poor pussy management. Like I know most men are trash but if you continue messing with a LVM male people are going to have less empathy for you. It’s better to be alone than to be with trash.No one can repeatedly treat you poorly without your consent. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 09:43 PM |
| 41 | 💯🙌Right. Even with the conventionally attractive guys I’m like “Meh. I’m sure you’re not worth the bullshit you’ll bring.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/20 06:24 PM |
| 66 | 💯🙌I swear I'm getting to the point where I don't find any man attractive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/20 03:46 PM |
| 5 | Is A College Degree A Requirement?A college degree is a requirement for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 03:35 PM |
| 14 | Disney movies we grew up withTo this day I’ve never seen Snow White. My mom refused to let me watch it growing up. She said I was not going to watch a movie where a woman took care of men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 03:53 AM |
| 15 | What do you wish you could tell your 22-year-old self?You are enough. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 02:50 AM |
| 41 | This was previously posted on r/EntitledBitch, but who would want to swim in a piss-infested pool? Good on her for having standards.Right it reeks of prejudice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/20 03:48 PM |
| 5 | The Level Up AnthemOne of my Kpop favs! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/20 08:55 PM |
| 2 | I pay $3/mo for an app that gives me their real name with their phone number. 100% worth it. Never met a murderer but lots of catfish.Please DM me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/20 09:40 PM |
| 22 | What are the jobs you consider a red flag? Why?Agreed. I would NEVER date a fellow attorney. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/20 02:50 PM |
| 28 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered (Jan 2nd 2020)Oh yeah, he knew it was me. Him: “See we keep matching. This is fate.” Me: “The devil is a liar.” Unmatch. Delete number. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/20 02:47 PM |
| 180 | What are the jobs you consider a red flag? Why?Law enforcement. They are notorious cheaters, tend to have anger issues and/or God complexes, and have easy access to guns. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/20 01:30 PM |
| 42 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered (Jan 2nd 2020)Met a guy OLD and we exchanged numbers a couple days before Christmas. After that initial conversation, he waited 4 days to contact me again, which was a late “Merry Christmas” text on Christmas Day. He then texts me early the next day and we exchange a few messages over a few hours. Another couple days go by with no contact. We exchange a few messages on Saturday, then another 4 days of nothing. He then proceeds to match with me on another dating app and attempts to have a conversation there de… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/20 01:05 PM |
| 15 | May just send a screenshot of this to the next well-meaning family member who asks me why I’m single. It’s rough out here.Right. Saying it this way allows him to get straight to the PickMeishas who would let him get it raw. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/19 12:42 AM |
| 33 | May just send a screenshot of this to the next well-meaning family member who asks me why I’m single. It’s rough out here.I call bullshit. If he were truly allergic, he'd say he has a latex allergy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/19 09:36 PM |
| 87 | Being a Pick me= slaveryHer clap back was 🔥! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/19 11:38 PM |
| 11 | What snapped you out of Pickmeisha mode? Would you have believed a resource like FDS if it had existed, or do you think hitting rock bottom is the only way for many?Amen! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/19 10:21 PM |
| 3 | High Status Myth vs. High Value MenUnfortunately, there’s some truth to the jokes. I promise we’re not all like that. The good ones routinely discuss how the bad ones gives us all a bad rep. Yes, we will fight like hell for our clients because we’re paid to do it, but the majority don’t do it without considering our conscience and morals. The majority of the bad apples are men, which is why I advocate hard for more women to enter the legal field. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/19 01:00 PM |
| 30 | STD talk - How do you handle it before sex?For HIV tests I’ll have the guy go to CVS/Walgreens/RiteAid and spend $50 on one of the at home HIV tests. Then he takes it in front of me. Results in 20 mins. This of course isn’t foolproof because it can take weeks for the virus to become detectable after transmission, but the test plus 100% use of condoms gives me some peace of mind. I’ll then ask him to test again in a couple months. I’ve never had a guy ask me to get tested, yet they always want to get it raw. Blows my mind. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/19 04:55 AM |
| 16 | Extremely Tall woman doesn’t tell her Tinder Dates how tall she is. Hilarity ensues when they meet in person. Turns out men discriminate based on height too.I seem to attract short men. It’s like they want to conquer the tall woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/19 02:31 AM |
| 1 | High Status Myth vs. High Value MenThen they’re shitty people, but they are not the majority. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/19 02:26 AM |
| 0 | High Status Myth vs. High Value MenPutting children at risk? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/19 02:17 AM |
| 5 | High Status Myth vs. High Value MenTotally agree. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/19 01:38 AM |
| 6 | High Status Myth vs. High Value MenThere is nothing inherently wrong with competition or being adversarial. I’m an attorney. I fight for my clients. Sometimes I have to be a bitch for the sake of my clients. Sometimes I have to appear overly confident for the sake of my clients. I want to destroy the other side because that’s what I was hired to do. I love it. The key when dating an attorney is to find one who understands that it’s just a job and leaves all of that at work. As with any profession that creates a sense of power, yo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/19 10:44 PM |
| 6 | Questioning myself regarding texting...I agree with negging. In my situation he said, “I know you’re introverted, but it doesn’t seem like you’re enjoying yourself.” Now I am introverted, but introverts thrive on more one on one interactions, and I can be fun and charming even on bad dates. I asked him how dates with an extrovert go and he listed off a couple things. My immediate thought was that he was negging to make me self-conscious and to get me to act overly into him. I guess I wasn’t gushing over him at the end of the date, so… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/19 11:18 PM |
| 17 | Questioning myself regarding texting...I’m in a similar situation. I went to dinner with a guy last week. From my perspective the date went well. At the end of the date, and even once during, he made a comment about how he wasn’t sure if I was enjoying myself. Afterwards, he asked me on a second date, which I agreed to. He initiated texts for the next two days. I kept the texting brief, but also fun and flirty. I haven’t heard from him in 3 days. I refuse to initiate contact first, so he is SOL. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/19 08:38 PM |
| 14 | How long to talk on OLD before going out?The guys who are serious ask me out within 2 days of matching. If more than 2 days passes without a concrete plan to meet, I delete him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/19 06:15 AM |
| 19 | OLD dealbreakers/red flagsI matched with a guy who had a picture of him and his dog, and I made a comment about how cute the dog was. He told me that the dog was dead but he figured that the picture would help him get matches. WTF. I noped right on out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/19 04:14 AM |
| 8 | Why I will never have kids unless I am married to a HMV and have a decent careerI’m 31 and also seriously considering using a sperm donor. I’m open to adoption as well. Either way, I know it’s highly likely that I’ll be a single mother. Accepting that has taken the stress out of dating because I know I’ll be fine regardless of whether a HVM comes along. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/19 11:22 PM |
| 22 | Advice for creating a deep attachment from a man as quickly as possible?This. It keeps him chasing you because he is never completely sure about how you feel about him. Throw in some small sporadic acts of kindness and you will mess with his head. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/19 08:18 AM |
| 20 | Strategy for bumble?I send a hello gif (super low effort), then let them take over. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/19 07:48 PM |
| 62 | It should be a given that slavery jokes are off limits, especially in the Deep South.Him: Sorry it was not intended to be a joke but I could see where you’d take it that way. My apologies 🙏 wording was poorly chosen. Me: You’re an idiot. Unmatch | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/19 01:44 AM |
| 27 | Sisters, why do you keep LVMs and fuckboys around in any manner?It could be a self-esteem issue for the woman, wishful thinking that the guy will eventually change, or a belief that negative attention is better than no attention. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/19 05:33 PM |
| 7 | Study: What Women Really Seek In A ManI also get tons of atheists and agnostics. I'm in the bible belt, so this blows my mind. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/19 09:10 PM |
| 7 | Study: What Women Really Seek In A ManShared religion is important to me in a long term partner. I'm a practicing Christian, but I'm turned off by overly religious people. I wouldn't seriously get involved with an Atheist, and there are even some denominations of Christianity that I won't date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/19 07:36 PM |
| 3 | Just in case you were wondering what Alabama Tinder is like, here’s a preview of tonight’s bachelorsIt’s no better in Huntsville. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/19 07:23 PM |
| 33 | I spent four years chasing a low-value man.Black attorneys matter 🙌🏾. Girl, you are Black, beautiful and a member of an elite profession. Don’t let these LVM waste your time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/19 11:41 PM |
| 46 | I spent four years chasing a low-value man.Asking for half the abortion money back literally made my jaw drop. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/19 11:27 PM |
| 18 | I shy away from teachers and “soccer coaches”I had an English teacher my senior year who I despised. He just gave me bad vibes. After I graduated, he was fired for having sex with another senior. The school let him go and he moved to another state. He got a job in a middle school. He went to prison for having sex with one of his 12 year old students. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/19 04:13 PM |
| 31 | I shy away from teachers and “soccer coaches”I’m weary of teachers, coaches, youth ministers, and men who have traveled to countries where sex tourism is popular (e.g. Thailand). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/19 04:07 PM |
| 4 | Did the “Sex Positivity” movement sell women a pipe dream?I agree that with all change comes both positive and unforeseen negative consequences. Yes, the over abundance of porn and the depiction of violent sex, and degrading sex acts is terrible, but I still wouldn’t choose to go back to how it was before. This is basically the premise of The Handmaids Tale. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/19 08:13 PM |
| 5 | Finally tased this A-holeMe too 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/19 05:48 PM |
| 15 | Something that irks meI refuse to allow men to call me cute. Whenever I get that comment I tell them that “cute” is something that a 12 year old considers a compliment, not a 30 year old woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/19 02:35 PM |
| 13 | Black Friday is coming up and I'm stocking up on perfume - what perfumes get you guys the most compliments & smell super sexy?Mon Paris by YSL. Everyone goes wild for it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/19 11:49 AM |
| 12 | Character developmentHe was! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/19 09:09 AM |
| 13 | What to do if guy shows up unprepared?He picks you up to do what? How do you even get to the point of him saying he’ll pick you up without any discussion of the purpose of him picking you up? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/19 01:37 AM |
| 46 | Character developmentI’m an attorney. I had a particularly difficult male client going through a divorce. From the way he talked about his wife, it was clear that he had issues with women. He would routinely ignore the legal advice I gave him, argue with me about it, then go to my male boss to complain. My boss would then provide the exact same advice I’d already given him. However, hearing it explained by someone with a penis suddenly made him understand. The final straw was when he called me by my first name inste… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/19 11:04 PM |
| 10 | this sub and you beautiful ladies pulled me out of femceldom. thank you.Melanin reduces the ability to absorb Vitamin D. Source: I’m a Black woman with Vitamin D deficiency. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/19 08:57 AM |
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