letsgetlit2019 Archive

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1	How I Solved My Failing Situation With Pretty Women And Trying To Find Someone Who Has Done The Same Yes. I have. It's been pretty great so far. I still have some level to get on, but I have the approach down pat. It's not about the girls. That sounds like your problem. It's never about the girls. It's always about you. Why? Because you're the star in your movie. And that movie is your life. Shine bright.	/r/seduction	13/06/21 04:55 PM
7	Confused about flirting Flirting is a feeling, my guy. It's all in the eyes. Make strong eye contact with her and don't apologize for your desires as a man. Say what you want to say, then let her respond.	/r/seduction	12/06/21 02:34 PM
1	I get “ewww” and “no” from a lot of women on the streets Smile and make eye contact. A lack of eye contact comes across as insecure, most of the time or like you're minding your own business, which communicates to others to stay away from you unless it's important. Make conversation everywhere you go, with whomever. Lastly, "eww" and "no" don't matter. They don't. You can't be complaining about a reaction before you open the conversation. Those people aren't making rational judgements (they don't know enough about you to make a proper decision) anyway…	/r/seduction	12/06/21 02:29 PM
1	Why you are not attractive, and how to be it. With all due respect, it seems to me that this post has gone over your head. The things you're talking about and the things he's talking about aren't mutually exclusive. To put it simply, you're both correct, but this particular thread is not about relationships. His post was about how to be attractive and the benefits of that. That said, good points	/r/seduction	24/05/21 01:08 PM
2	Large amounts of 18-21 year old women I mean, do you want to get married? I personally would date younger women if I was in your situation. It's worth a shot, if only to stop yourself from regretting at an older age.	/r/seduction	24/05/21 11:40 AM
8	A bit of a reality check This fucking guy	/r/seduction	04/05/21 11:55 AM
1	The limits of Vulnerablity, Confidence and perception I would change the topic to something relatable, like sex. If I was Jack, I'd also have at least something going for me, like a sense of humor. Ultimately, I would know that I want to change my life, and put myself on the path to something, anything. Why? Because sooner or later, everyone gets tired of the game. It might be at 30, 40, 50, doesn't matter. At some point, you either teach it to make money, or move onto other things in life. Also, at 27, your pool of mates your age dwindles, on aver…	/r/seduction	23/04/21 07:20 PM
8	I’m on the verge of suicide because of this. It’s been a year straight of these guilty intrusive thoughts nothing helps. Did I commit a crime Take some time off women. And off social media in general. You sound like you need a timeout. Find someplace quiet and just exist. Like literally exist, everyday. Preferably somewhere with a lot of nature, and stuff. Things that have calmed you in the past. You have to recognize that your projecting hard. I'm not a therapist, but damn if this isn't projecting taken to the extreme. Your okay, man, trust that you're good. You need to find another therapist, and take that shit seriously. If you've …	/r/seduction	21/04/21 03:31 PM
2	The limits of Vulnerablity, Confidence and perception Honesty and Vulnerability. I think some guys think that honesty is an excuse not to improve upon yourself. I think every guy should have ambitions, no matter how ridiculous. The second thing is balancing out honesty with intrigue. You have to be intriguing and mysterious to women, this is accomplished by saying less than necessary, being challenging and leading with your emotions, rather than your words. Notice that you're still not lying at this point. The game simply doesn't call for that much…	/r/seduction	21/04/21 03:12 PM
4	I give up I'm 17 years old. I give up. Story of my life bro. Let me break it down for you. You sound like a "nice guy", if you've never heard that term, look up "No more Mr. Nice guy", it's a book that will make your life much easier. You say you're a very charismatic and open person, and that you have good female friends. You also say that you've never been good with women and confess that you've had to "confess" your feelings to a girl. You don't sound confident or charismatic to be honest, you sound li…	/r/seduction	21/04/21 02:44 PM
3	How to accept rejection in daygame ? Be happy in the rest of your life. That will carry over into all your approaches. Also, practice letting go of the outcome.	/r/seduction	21/04/21 02:29 PM
1	[deleted by user] It could be a lot of different things. Especially now with the pandemic, the logical reasons are simply too many. I prefer the emotional ones, they're much simpler. Low self-esteem. Some people have self-esteem issues, maybe they feel like everyone's judging them about something, so they developed this as a coping mechanism. This especially applies to loved ones, some people will break eye contact because they don't want you to know how they're feeling, for example anxiety (when you're attractiv…	/r/seduction	21/04/21 02:15 PM
2	To those that used to have a hard time holding a conversation, how did you fix your problem? Daunt, my guy, you seem like one of the few people on here that gets it. I've had similar experiences but I've never seen or heard anyone else say these things. Emotions come before logic, at least evolutionarily speaking, so communication like this should be natural between people. It's also the only thing that seems to explain naturals being all over the world, even places where no one teaches pickup.	/r/seduction	21/04/21 01:44 PM
14	Make a habit of talking to all strangers, not just attractive women. Seduction is a subset of being generally charismatic with people. This is generally true, but shouldn't be confused with trying to talk to every. single. person one meets. Ideally, one should have friends and hobbies, as well as social activities that they go to/ attend. These should be varied, and one should be trying out new "things" socially on a weekly/monthly basis. Never been to a club? Go there once. Don't have a drunk story? Try it. You ever been ziplining? No? Well go fucking zipline then. Apply this to restaurants, zoos, clubs/lounges, dancing classe…	/r/seduction	21/04/21 01:35 PM
2	looking for advice to let coworker now i'm (also?) attracted to him Just tell him. You can go around in circles and give reasons why/why not do it, but at some point you just have to tell him. Just go, "I actually find you cute/like your style/work ethic/ generally find you attractive" or just a "Hey, would you like to hang out sometime?". The words themselves don't matter, you can use any combination of words. It's the message behind it that he'll appreciate. There's no perfect way/time to do it, really, because once you perfect an approach to use, you might st…	/r/seduction	15/04/21 09:25 AM
2	Why daygame is not for everyone. (And doesn't have to be.) Furthermore, you don't know me, how many books I've read, how I apply techniques, how much experience I have. You're going off on one statement that I made about street stops. Really what you're saying is you don't like my opinion.	/r/seduction	06/04/21 10:19 AM
3	Why daygame is not for everyone. (And doesn't have to be.) How would my knowledge of daygame change these points?	/r/seduction	06/04/21 10:01 AM
1	How would handle it when your coworker WIFE keeps hitting on you and dresses kind of "too much" around you? The solution is simple, but you sound conflicted. That's the thing. Address your question to your friend (as a hypothetical, just in case he discusses it with her, because if he discusses with her and she knows it's you, the situation is in your favor automatically). I mean the "have an open relationship" question. I agree that this is likely not the case, but if you must ask... Generally, you shouldn't f*** your friend's hot wife, just out of principle. If she has sex with you, she'll automatic…	/r/seduction	05/04/21 03:31 AM
0	Got laid in a Library Also, words themselves don't matter, it's the subtext, vocal tonality etc. I'll admit that this particular success is very likely mostly because the chick found you attractive. But the need to control the outcome and general ego of most guys could very easily have sabotaged the interaction. Again, most of successful seductions is finding out who likes you and convincing people who are on the fence. Not drawing out conversations because you don't like being told "no".	/r/seduction	05/04/21 01:14 AM
0	Got laid in a Library Deafening applause This guy gets it. Finally, someone who gets it. I'm more of a general advice guy, but I've been trying to articulate what was demonstrated here in so many posts. I mean, look at the points. don't be too serious. (I've talked about this, and about being playful) don't hold any grudges no matter what. (My point on taking your ego out of the equation) I say always push for the same day lay, if possible. Also, texting generally is unnatural anyway and should be used mainly for…	/r/seduction	05/04/21 01:01 AM
2	Why am I getting better results by being calculative with how I text women, and not just being authentic to how I would normally speak live, in-person (where you don’t have as much time to think about what to say)? Context. Texting removes a lot of context from a conversation. Things like vocal tonality, eye contact and body language fly out of the window. Especially if you've never met someone in real life before. That's why texting is it's own thing. It's not even a natural form of conversation. That's why calculating makes a lot of sense to me. That said, I don't like or do texting much anyways. And when I do, it's almost always someone i know from real life.	/r/seduction	04/04/21 01:14 PM
1	What makes you feel confident? Knowing that I can cook my own food and survive if it gets to it. Money, aka the ability to pay my Bills. When I wear something, and I know for a fact that I look good. When I'm in a situation that I've been in before. Knowing that I can win a fight. (Because I have before). Knowing that if I can't win a fight, I always have the option to run away swiftly. (I do cardio). Knowing tha I'm constantly improving, and soon I'll be even more confident. And other things of that nature. Oh, and regularly…	/r/seduction	04/04/21 12:06 PM
1	Stories Ask her.	/r/seduction	04/04/21 11:53 AM
1	I realized it's mostly childhood trauma that fucks me up Hey man. If this is true, you should also be optimizing your lifestyle for testosterone production right now. This means diet, exercise and so on. Congratulations on 10 days man.	/r/seduction	04/04/21 07:05 AM
1	[deleted by user] I agree. It's not about you talking, because words don't matter. Just say something and listen, then, build a conversation. You can still work on your humor or smth afterward, but that's the essence of human conversations. Also keep in mind. You're not convincing girls who don't like you at all. That would be a waste of time. You're persuading girls who are on the fence about it.	/r/seduction	03/04/21 01:32 PM
1	"Game"/dating advice for straight women You clearly haven't asked yourself the questions honestly. I will say this, though, everything you said makes perfect sense. I am to an extent, suggesting an open relationship, but not really. I'm not suggesting dating multiple people for long stretches of time, though, that's an option. I brought up the reality of sex for men, and I think most men would agree that that's how it is. Casual sex with another woman is very different from the kind of intimate sex shared in relationships. To be blunt…	/r/seduction	03/04/21 01:05 PM
1	Do you still believe in the whole "Alpha Male" thing? Ideally, as men, we shouldn't have the time to debate this. But, let me answer your question. "Alpha male" is a term that describes something. Generally how words work is that if you think the term is accurate, you use it, or not (we're at the point where we have many words anyway, so you have choice). Then, if other people begin using it in the same context, it becomes more real and takes on a life of it's own. This applies to the term alpha male. Use it, believe in it, it doesn't matter. It's …	/r/seduction	03/04/21 12:29 PM
13	Do you still believe in the whole "Alpha Male" thing? To claim that alpha males don’t exist is to claim that everyone has an equal amount of power and influence (which is absurd.) No, they do. It's just that they just call it being men. They also won't debate you about it, because at a certain level, your time is more valuable than others' opinions. The need to constantly signal it, signifies a lack of alpha male energy, don't you agree?	/r/seduction	03/04/21 12:21 PM
-1	"Game"/dating advice for straight women Why not? Give me a reason. Any reason at all.	/r/seduction	03/04/21 12:17 PM
-1	"Game"/dating advice for straight women To this I'd add, think about your words, opinions and so on. You can debate me, make fun of me and shame me all you want. But, your opinions are important, not to me, but to you. I've already made up my mind, I'm for all intents and purposes, good, until someone brings up a logical counter argument. You, on the other hand are deciding your life and belief systems. To this end, it's helpful to take you ego out of the equation. If we disagree, fine, but keep this in mind. I'm not on your side or m…	/r/seduction	03/04/21 12:07 PM
0	"Game"/dating advice for straight women Ok, that's one way to look at it. Do you have logical arguments for this, or is it all just ego and emotion?	/r/seduction	03/04/21 11:27 AM
6	To be perfect is boring? "I though inner game was about removing all those feelings by working on it." Hey man. Inner game is not about removing certain feelings like you might understand it. The reason for this is that emotions and behaviors (like neediness) are usually accurate indicators of something wrong with one's beliefs. When viewed like this, removing them doesn't really make much sense, no? The thing is finding out why you're acting/feeling like that and rooting out limiting beliefs and insecurities.	/r/seduction	02/04/21 08:29 PM
3	To all men who are trying to seduce girls over texts This is true. It's just that your reasoning seems overly convoluted Being emotionally unreactive is the natural reaction of a guy with options and or a lot of experience with women, especially women of beauty. A girl wonders about your experience with other women sooner or later, and usually gets more attracted the more experience you seem to have. This is because women are attracted to security, and your experience shows that she's likely very safe with you. Training this trait is nice, but it'…	/r/seduction	02/04/21 01:01 PM
3	What are some alpha male habits to allow me to be respected and socially more assertive? I'll list down some skills and then you'll decide how to implement them as habits, cool? Okay. A belief in one's own ability. This ties into skill and experience. If you don't have much skill or experience in an area, it's hard to believe in yourself. To cultivate this socially, start putting yourself in unfamiliar situations, if you've never decided where the group is going out, do it. If you've never planned a party, do it. If you've never.... do it. Your results may vary, but you can always i…	/r/seduction	02/04/21 12:07 PM
13	How would you get an extremely introverted girl who's never had a boyfriend and never puts herself out there? Trust and honesty. Be honest with yourself, know what you want from her. Do you find her attractive? Do you want a sexual relationship with her? Or just friends? Long-term or short-term? I say this because you'd be surprised at how many guys are like, "durr, I don't know" when a girl asks them this question. Having an answer shows that you're being serious about her. Then be honest with her. If she doesn't like you, respect that. If she does, but would like you to slow down, respect that too. Do…	/r/seduction	02/04/21 09:54 AM
1	Hasn’t added me back on Snapchat? Intentional or accidental? I'm trying to respond to your post, you weren't using a lot of detail, so I couldn't tailor my response effectively. I decided to assume that you could be needy, but I might be wrong. If I'm wrong, take what you want from it, and move on. If I'm right, go see someone. Keep in mind that I don't know you that well nor am I greatly affected by your choices	/r/seduction	02/04/21 06:59 AM
1	Hasn’t added me back on Snapchat? Intentional or accidental? You keep answering your own question. If you want to get to know him, like you said so, then that's not neediness. That's a different reason. Neediness would be holding onto a partner because you want to be validated. If his "yes" is okay and his "no" is not, like to a very high degree, then there's usually neediness afoot. Again this is a guideline. What your describing sounds more like desire and curiosity, though I could be wrong. That's for you to really figure out. To notice it in the momen…	/r/seduction	02/04/21 06:47 AM
1	Needy guys talking to girls is like those annoying advertises on YouTube. They want to gain something quickly but don't wanna give anything tangible in return. Needy people are generally too concerned about themselves. This is usually because they have an insecurity, such as thinking/feeling that they're not attractive, and they think that others are the solution. Being needy means you can't truly experience the other person, you can't be in the moment. It causes you to misinterpret things incorrectly, and make mistakes on the approach.	/r/seduction	01/04/21 08:16 PM
1	New to dating, looking for tips/advice Get specific about your goals. This may not seem important, but the people that you meet will almost always prefer you act in their best interests. For this reason only, you should know exactly what you want from women, how you expect to be treated by them, what you can and can't compromise and most importantly why. If a woman were to ask you why you wanted to have sex with her, you should have a good answer for that, you should also have a good answer for why she should have sex with you. This …	/r/seduction	01/04/21 06:01 PM
2	Hasn’t added me back on Snapchat? Intentional or accidental? "He said he does, but doesn’t use it much, and gave it to me." At this point you should have instead asked for his number. You didn't. This sounds like it was a good approach overall, high five for that. However, it seems that your problem here was listening, like you were too caught up in your own thoughts. This is critical because men sometimes say things, and you miss it for whatever reason, and then you wonder whether or not he's interested in you. Next time, be present, listen and react acc…	/r/seduction	01/04/21 04:32 PM
3	21M - What am I doing wrong? Hey man. I think you need to be more aggressive in your approach. The reason for this is that you sound like a really nice, really nice provider guy, which is okay, but clearly not working for you. (Correct me if I'm wrong here). Start with Robert Glover's No More Mr. Nice Guy. (self-help) Also read Mode One by Alan Roger Currie (memoir/seduction manual) and finally Balls Deep by Nick Krauser (memoir). Basically, you need to challenge and greatly expand your perspective when it comes to what's p…	/r/seduction	01/04/21 02:27 PM
2	Cold Approaching like you really don't give half a shit You don't need a course, my friend. You need one on one coaching either over phone or physically, something tailored to your approach, otherwise you'll have to learn a totally different approach. I would recommend GirlsChase.com, based on their articles and content which I found helpful.	/r/seduction	01/04/21 02:15 PM
2	I need serious help Sorry for your situation, man. I'm going to treat you like an adult here and tell it how it is. Here's some ideas you can try, since you asked. I think that you need to have a conversation with your dad about his behavior. This might seem very hard to do, especially, when you're suffering, but you need to talk to him about his hoarding, protectiveness and other issues you have with him. I recommend the books "Crucial conversations" and "Verbal Judo", get a copy of these books somehow and keep th…	/r/seduction	01/04/21 01:36 PM
1	Cold Approaching like you really don't give half a shit I've used non-verbals myself, and I agree that you don't have to verbally state your intent sometimes. My point was that you're not adaptable. Your reply shows me that you're adaptable which settles that, meaning you don't need this ridiculous approach. However, I do have to ask, do you think that you care too much whether the approach works out? If so, why do you care so much? I think starting by answering these two questions (honestly) and exploring their implications in your approaches is all…	/r/seduction	01/04/21 12:01 PM
4	The art of seduction, questions about the rake. Hey man, does this make any sense to you? Rakes are passionate, and usually very sexual in general. The thing with passion is that it fades, causing the rake to leave the woman in question and move on to another conquest. Basically the "live fast, die young"/"easy come, easy go" of relationships. When you're honest with women, you (usually) get the same reflected back to you. Sometimes, though, girls really want you, but they feel like they have to play hard to get so that you don't think they'r…	/r/seduction	01/04/21 11:38 AM
1	How do you make dating and approaching women fun or at least less painful? Hey man. You sound like you're literally in physical pain. Go see a therapist, and take it seriously. Oh, and the answer to your question is to A. Realize that women are people too. One practical way to do this is to make firends with a woman, the more attractive the more effective for this purpose. Reading books written by women and about women's experiences can also work great. An example, do you know how crazy it is for a girl, after hearing all the stories of women getting murdered and raped…	/r/seduction	01/04/21 12:50 AM
0	What is confidence, and how can I know if I have it? See a therapist.	/r/seduction	31/03/21 11:29 PM
1	I blew my chances...because I was trying to be 'Alpha' Mate, don't go around challenging people and call yourself an alpha male. You challenged the ego of a girl who was interested in you, because of what... alpha points? Relax, she wasn't even testing you or disrespecting you, bro. Let that be a lesson. apply the same mentality to the police, or your career and see what happens. Please don't pigeon hole yourself as a person, you are so much more than that stupid word. You're a human being, you love, you care and you are a social being, so you need …	/r/seduction	31/03/21 11:20 PM
3	When women test you, they are providing you with an opportunity for you to prove yourself This is where self esteem comes in, when you have some self-esteem, you can "see" your relationships more clearly. You know that you'll be okay. You can tell when the problem isn't you, and when people are just trying shit. It makes you more grounded as a person. Develop self-esteem, guys. Please. And learn about yourself, learn what you can't tolerate and don't tolerate it.	/r/seduction	31/03/21 10:59 PM
1	What are the odds of this girl just flirting for fun or being actually interested? Mate, she likely is flirting with you. The reason for this is you said the words "needlessly touchy". Let me tell you something about women, women are very sensitive to touch, everyone is really. The question now is what do you do about it? My advice, go meet her in real life (if you can) and ask her out or whatever.	/r/seduction	31/03/21 10:35 PM
1	So close, lesson learned I would like to posit that your co worker might have just wanted casual sex, instead of a relationship. And she probably still likes you now. You ever think of that?	/r/seduction	31/03/21 10:28 PM
3	New to the dating game but I don’t want to be like a pickup artist. Any tips for beginners, books/articles to read for guys who struggle with flirting/banter? Hey man. Focus on the following,; Write down what you want with women, be specific and honest to yourself, what kind of relationships do you want? short-term? long-term? What kind of girls, are they worldy? are they small town girls? Just write something, and don't worry if you don't know what you want yet, that's okay. I don't have books for you, just some general tips: Learn to read body language in the moment (this will take sometime, people watching and reading books on body language helps).…	/r/seduction	31/03/21 10:23 PM
1	Cold Approaching like you really don't give half a shit It does seem like you make a lot of assumptions, though. This approach assumes the following; - That she likes you. This may be the case, or not. - That you like her personality enough to want to see her again. - That she won't question your business card, or challenge you in any way. - That she's not willing to contribute to the conversation. - That the next time you meet will be a "hang out" , whatever that includes. - That she doesn't already have someone hanging out with her. - That she inte…	/r/seduction	31/03/21 10:09 PM
2	How to deal with competition There's a term for this, one-itis. As a man, I think you should be willing to walk away if your expectations aren't met or she's wasting your time. That's the technique, leave her be, honestly and whole heartedly. If she knows what you want, and let's be honest here, she does, from the moment you approach her. See you're not the first man to approach her, she's been studying the body language of guys her whole life up to that point, that's the game for her. She's accepted that she likely will be…	/r/seduction	31/03/21 06:50 PM
2	One week I’m the most attractive guy in the room... the next week I’m invisible. Does anyone else find that attention seems to come in waves? Yeah, that happens. To everyone. Why do you want attention so much though? I mean you specifically said attention, not sex or relationships. That's for you to reflect on, mate. Fix your self-esteem, and learn general social skills. Practice talking with everyone and read about flow, again the highs come and go, but the question should be what you're doing on a regular basis, which should be maximizing your own personal happiness. This will radiate out to others, making them happy and so on and s…	/r/seduction	31/03/21 05:46 PM
1	How to stop spending time on matches/interactions doomed to flake? Look for the book "Mode One" by Alan Roger Currie. It has the answers and will expand your mind. From my end, I would say make a choice in your head first. What do you want with this girl? casual sex? a relationship? Make peace with yourself, if you're not sure yet, (You're sure about sex, don't lie) ask her more about herself. Then tell the girl, in whatever way you feel is respectful, and then take her answer. If the answer is bad for one girl, then it's probably the girl. If the answer is bad…	/r/seduction	31/03/21 05:42 PM
1	Being asked to date someone you don’t like - awkward and embarrassing Hey man. Here are some options; Start a sentence with "to be honest..." and then be honest. Learn to articulate your thoughts, and learn that it doesn't matter what people think. If that's a bit hard, you can throw in a compliment or something. The thing is, you'll become that tough love friend for a while, and then it will just be your thing. I think that's worth it. Start with the compliment and try to sound genuine, then say that you don't find her attractive, then add a compliment at the end…	/r/seduction	31/03/21 05:34 PM
2	DON'T compliment their bodies or face, Compliment their STYLE. This is good advice. That said, to be honest, ask yourself why you're complimenting them. Do you want a reaction? If you want a reaction, then you've already lost, if that's where you're at in the moment, just say that shit. Let it come out, paint a picture, be specific, exaggerate, add a joke. I personally even jokingly tone it down sometimes if it works. If you let it come out like that, it will be more original. If she doesn't respond like you want, you can make it a joke, like "That sounded …	/r/seduction	31/03/21 05:24 PM
2	Will this approach work? Yes, she very likely likes you. Just ask her out or something. This is also a good time to remind you that girls love sex. In case she doesn't, what do you have to lose? The eye-fucking? That has happened before, and likely will again. You know that for a fact because you consciously didn't do that much to cause it.	/r/seduction	31/03/21 05:04 PM
2	Confidence vs Arrogance Arrogance = I am better than you. This may or may not be actually true, but people have egos, and it's difficult to deal with someone when their ego is involved.	/r/seduction	31/03/21 04:59 PM
1	Fellow men, how does one become a more interesting and thoughtful/thought provoking person? 🤔 There are some things that you can do. These are just a starting point, but if the conversation takes off, as they do sometimes, just go with it. Be present. Don't think about what to say when someone is speaking. Respect their time, ask questions. If they stop speaking, make an observation, could be good or bad. You could hate their sweater, because it reminds you of that one time that... or they could remind you of a girl you had a crush on. Ask people about their lives, their interests, Hope'…	/r/seduction	04/12/20 03:00 PM
1	Attractive guys get stared at by women but also men? Attractive girls get almost the same reaction from other attractive girls. To an even greater extent, I have a sister that most people consider attractive, and she has told me of girls getting insecure to the point if wanting to hide their boyfriends and calling her a whore for no reason. I guess we just envy people like that, as humans.	/r/seduction	04/12/20 02:24 PM
1	My road to 100 approaches a day in Melbourne Australia (gradual steps to become a beast) Fair point.	/r/seduction	04/12/20 02:14 PM
2	how do I get "alone time" with this guy I have been texting. We typically only see each other in a small group of friends in the same apartment block that he lives in. The thing about guys is the hints probably won't work. Or he'll realise what you meant after like a year. So make up your mind where you see it going, sex? Or relationship? Or both. Just know exactly what you want, then invite him to your place or to a date or just wait to meet him in a casual special situation and pull him aside. Once there tell him, with words what you want, and stick to it. People always think that that makes it awkward, but I find it leaves to options yes and no, and you fee…	/r/seduction	04/12/20 11:17 AM
2	What do guys prefer? Easy or difficult? I would say it depends entirely on the person that you meet, but I like a girl that's honest. If you want to go immediately, say so. Generally, most guys don't like to be in a relationship with an easy girl but would love to have sex with one. This shouldn't get in the way of anything that you want to do with that person because if you're worried about this, you're trying to control things out of your control. That said, you can just be honest, compliment a guy if you like what he's wearing. Tel…	/r/seduction	04/12/20 10:29 AM
2	My road to 100 approaches a day in Melbourne Australia (gradual steps to become a beast) I would not recommend doing it like this. Think about it, 100 approaches a day is a lot of time. Assuming you stay in set for 5 mins each set that's 500 mins a day in otherwards 8 hours a day approaching women. This is not how the game is meant to be played in my humbly opinion. Think about it in terms of a gym membership, who gets more from it, the guy who stays in the gym all day or the guy who does one hour a day every day of the week? Also ponder this idea, if you're successful with, let's s…	/r/seduction	04/12/20 10:13 AM
2	My main sticking point is lack of knowing about dealing difficult social situations. Can anybody recommend a comprehensive course on social dynamics/confidence? I'm no therapist but example 1 seems like you value the opinions of these people. This could point to some deepset neediness somewhere maybe even from your childhood. I say this because you used the words "paralyzing fear". You also need to forgive yourself for screwing up and stop holding yourself to such an impossible standard, if you hurt someone specific, you can try apologising, otherwise you don't owe those people anything. Bottom line, whatever your decision is, see someone, like a profes…	/r/seduction	04/12/20 09:37 AM
2	My main sticking point is lack of knowing about dealing difficult social situations. Can anybody recommend a comprehensive course on social dynamics/confidence? You can try getting the book "How to Win Friends And Influence People by Dale Carnegie". Another suggestion could be "How to Talk To Anyone" by Leil Lowndes. These two books are good for staters.	/r/seduction	04/12/20 09:28 AM
1	How to express yourself, without getting out of boundaries? If you're not going to lose a job or something, you can just chill and react to people with whatever comes naturally. (Respectfully, of course) Remember, everytime you're talking to anyone about anything, you're risking a negative reaction. People can get mad about a variety of things, from what you look like to how you walk. It's not always your fault. Just relax and do what comes naturally. It will be difficult at first, but try setting small goals for yourself, like relying to a bully, or tel…	/r/seduction	09/06/20 10:05 AM
1	Is she interested? I would say not to stress too much, ask her to hang out, maybe see some of your comedy. Flirt with her, and basically feel out if she likes you. In the mean time, I'd say, keep talking to other women, or start if you haven't already to build that much sought after abundance mentality. Have fun with the girl, tease her a little, try not to come off as too serious. With any luck, this will help you stand out from any men in her life (deadbeat boyfriend). Also, don't be afraid to talk about other g…	/r/seduction	09/06/20 09:50 AM
1	Is it okay to not act on sexual tension? As a guy, I can say that I have felt this way before sometimes. I think you could make it into a sort of game to hold the tension for a while, before getting back to what you were saying. I find that women that I have tension with tend to pay more attention when I tell them something (not that I use them), and we cooperate better even if it doesn't lead to anything.	/r/seduction	09/06/20 09:40 AM
2	Guys Who does push/pull How affective is it? I had a friend who used push pull, back before I even knew what that meant. It always seemed like he was a dick to the ladies but somehow "got away with it". I decided to try it out myself on some chick that I wasn't interested in, so no outcome was expected. Ended up being very effective, and I was wondering whether she knew what I was doing. See, the thing with push pull is that it is a powerful concept, and with time and practice you can use it in very creative ways. Essentially, women like a…	/r/seduction	09/06/20 09:34 AM
2	Fundamentals for invisible game? First timer. I'd say you can try being funny, basically say a joke or smth. I'd also advise making it seem like it's her fault (she's too cute or smth) or like she's the one who likes you. Jokes make the mood childish and humor can be shared even with people who aren't your intended target. Breaks the ice everytime. Also some compliments, observant (make her feel special) but not too cheesy, so people don't catch on. Also, have something to do else, like a snack or drink so that if it goes south…	/r/seduction	09/06/20 09:15 AM