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 THE SCROTATIONlevelupcleverup/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 08:49 PM
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levelupcleverup/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 04:13 PM
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Fuck yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 10:58 PM
2

Sidebar, I encourage you not to flirt in the professional arena. There are ways to deploy your "feminine wiles" to your advantage (like looking fantastic every day) without demeaning yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 05:50 PM
5

It is the epitome of low effort. Like, I have given you my street name and house number. Turn the car off, get out, walk to my door, and knock, like any reasonable human being would do. UGH.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 03:55 PM
2

Yep. He's a friend of a friend and I'd interacted with him before. I felt comfortable having him pick me up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 03:53 PM
8

This is the kind of guy who probably asks "So, what do you bring to the table?" Also, of course he's an investment banker.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 08:30 PM
11

Lovely 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 06:04 PM
4

I screamed!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 03:19 PM
8

Obvious is obvious he does not know ANY women doctors, lawyers, or MBAs. I'm getting my MBA in May and - surprise, surprise - there's a high premium on attractiveness for both men and women in business. I'm as stylish as they come and am very feminine. My aunt is a doctor, works out religiously, dresses her ass off, wears the best makeup - she slays. One of my oldest friends is a lawyer and she always looks sharp as a tack. That guy is a total turdmuffin.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 03:17 PM
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Reason #781 I don't fuck with OLD. Miss me with the argument that the same guys who'd approach IRL are the same guys you encounter online. IRL there's a requirement that a man be courageous enough to approach. It's easy for men to be bold behind a screen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 05:01 PM
4

Just makes me think of how obsessed men are with women's sexuality, and how IT IS NEVER RIGHT. Virginity is fetishized. If you're sexually in control, you're a whore. If you have been sexual in the past and choose not to be sexual NOW, you're an entitled bitch. Women are not human beings in the eyes of most men. We are objects with various characteristics and are perceived to be a "type" based on these qualities. Simplistic and pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 04:59 PM
14

LMAO at "dating is not a game." Life is a game, bro. Win or lose, it's up to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 04:55 PM
2

Right. I am saying that what makes most LVW low-value is their internalized misogyny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 04:46 PM
4

Facts!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 03:18 PM
85

No second chances 2020. Fuck these ninjas.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 02:55 PM
1

Another reason discernment is everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 02:54 PM
67

Today I read something really Pickmeisha and depressing that I wrote last month (to the day!), and all I thought was “who wrote that?” Since joining this sub, I have absolutely and unequivocally cut off all dead weight in my social circle (LVM, LVW, romantic, platonic). I have invested so much more into myself and have held myself to a higher standard. I’ve quit two bad habits and have started training for a half marathon. I have picked up an extra gig ($$) and am making better financial decisio…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 12:59 AM
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Beware the pernicious effects of internalized misogyny, from whence most LV behavior springs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 12:52 AM
10

Is he German?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 12:48 AM
50

Like literally it’s the biological imperative.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 12:47 AM
11

We evolved digital technology to improve our lives. Instead, it is ruining society.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 09:51 PM
32

If only. I love a pretty boy. Some guys think being fit is all it takes. Sorry, sweetie, that’s just the tip of the iceberg (as any woman can tell you).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 08:37 PM
4

What’s wrong with wanting your partner to love only you?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/20 05:02 PM
5

What humans are harmed in the making of “women’s” erotica books, pray tell? I’ll wait.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/20 04:59 PM
1

Meh. He’s definitely rich and seems too busy to cheat or be pornsick, but he seems to lack introspection, which I consider to be a top HVP trait.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 06:45 PM
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Not unreasonable at all. Most healing work can and should be done independently. Never feel like a standard is unreasonable. If you’re bringing it to the table, it’s natural to want someone who’s bringing the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 06:40 PM
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Not just old, but fat, balding, broke old men who can’t get it up. Because we should be terrified of THE WALL and being alone and know that our ONLY worth is derived from having a man. Lmaoooooooo the delusion, entitlement, and depravity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 05:44 PM
13

Wowwwwwww. What a charmer. Doesn’t even pretend to care what this human being has going on in her life, just that “she’s iGnOriNg Meeeeehhhhhh.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 05:40 PM
1

Amazing. So happy for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 05:37 PM
19

That’s exactly right. If it happens, great. If it doesn’t, great. There’s no middle ground - I’m not going to be with any man “just because.” Literally a waste of time and energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 05:36 PM
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As above, so below. Putting effort into our looks is an act of self-love - we are saying to the world, I value myself, therefore I put the time into taking care of my body and putting my best foot forward.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 05:32 PM
1

😭😭😭😭😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 01:50 PM
3

Pure gold.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 01:34 PM
26

And I bet he didn’t even have cancer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 06:55 PM
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Who wrote this? Also, imagine if the genders were reversed: “If you as my husband meet my side dick in a mall and you choose to disrespect me by making a show of it, if the babe respects me and keeps his calm I am upgrading him to husband, end of story...” Think of all the “hypergamy!” and “slut!” comments that would be thrown around. Lmaoooooo they can’t imagine women as being actual human beings. Fucking scrotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 04:48 PM
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That is exactly right. I was used as a girlfriend stand-in by my year-long FWB (god its good to be in Pickmeisha recovery) - to the point that he brought me to a very expensive locale to meet his colleagues and charm them. In the end, it wasn’t about me, or us - it was about what I could do for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 11:28 PM
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In my brief time OLD, I did a case search (my state allows for searches based on first and last name alone). One guy had been charged with domestic violence. Another guy (charming, cool) had a full on rap sheet. Scary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 11:25 PM
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No advice I’ve ever given to a girl who’s being played, abused, cheated on or WHATEVER has ever led to them leaving the relationship, so 🤷🏻‍♀️. I’ll enjoy my big bed, skin care routine, and increasing credit score thanks👍.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 09:03 PM
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I agree. What a horrific situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 11:28 AM
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My ex-husband ended up triangulating with my abusive mother. Agree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 02:11 AM
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All of it. No man in my future will ever know more than absolutely necessary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 02:10 AM
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Love this, and agree wholeheartedly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 02:09 AM
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You should report him. But please stop talking to older guys. Their intentions are not good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 02:08 AM
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Whenever I have ignored my gut instinct I have paid for it. I no longer ignore my gut instinct. It is self-preservation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 02:04 AM
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Ego boost. Sex. Flirting. To loop you back in so he can backburner you again. Long story short: to waste your fucking energy and time. Fuck him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 01:55 AM
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Shake it Out by Florence and the Machine Money by Cardi B Doo Wop (That Thing) by Lauryn Hill Bag Lady by Erykah Badu Stronger by Kelly Clarkson Respect by Aretha Franklin** **anthem Lots more lol but this is a good start I think! ETA to post perpetual mood Disparate Youth by Santigold
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 01:51 AM
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Love the analogy. I’m a shoe person, myself, but the same comparison can be made. And let’s not forget - fewer high value items are produced!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 05:38 PM
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Women are socialized to believe that their value is derived from their association as wife/mother (or, in this case, “bonus mom”). Simple as that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 02:45 PM
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Exactly correct. They refuse to put effort into improving themselves in any way (spiritually, physically, mentally) and have nothing but disdain for those who seek to evoke and take pride in themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 08:30 PM
0

Who is this scrote?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 07:53 PM
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This is why I don’t tell men I’m bisexual anymore. They always assume it will mean we’ll have a threesome. Sorry buddy, my sexuality does not exist for YOUR entertainment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 11:52 PM
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“Can’t afford a man of my caliber?” I hope she blocked him after that. OMFG. The audacity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 11:50 PM
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It’s modern day colonialism. And even more pathetic because they’re only “conquering” (financially and sexually coercing vulnerable women) for THEMSELVES.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 10:54 PM
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My former stripper friend said she learned ALL her game from Russian/Ukrainian (et al) women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 10:51 PM
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“You still Think that male validation has any worth“ This. It doesn’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 04:39 PM
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I don’t do OLD. I tried it briefly and it’s not for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 04:36 PM
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And IRL. Unfortunately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 02:11 AM
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I only engage with men as necessary. I hardly engage with my friend’s husbands (for this and other reasons).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 01:35 AM
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For real?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 01:24 AM
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At least he ended it with “You need to be a high value man and you need game. Are you ready to do what's necessary to make that happen [?]” Truth!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 11:10 AM
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“Late late”!! This sub is full of gems
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 02:45 AM
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Because, ironically, OLD appears to make almost all of its (male) users both lazier and bold. Lazy in that they do very little post-match, and appear to be angling for sex for as little investment as possible. Bold in that they will be straight up about wanting sex right away and will relate sexually/overly familiarly very early on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 05:26 PM
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Thoughtful, spiritually evolved, principled, masculine and gentle, fair fighter, affectionate (I love holding hands). I also like when a man is about his shit - focused.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 10:07 AM
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“I love you.” We haven’t spoken since.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 09:47 AM
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I recognize you from another forum! Props. I went on two (2) - one and two - dates with a guy. Drinks for the first date, an underwhelming dinner for the second date. (This was a few months ago, pre-FDS.) We didn't talk for a month. He hit me up during a snow storm and asked why I'd been a stranger. Chit chat. Then suggested I *come over to keep him warm.* The audacity, y'all. And not that it SHOULD make a difference, but it does, but homeboy was a solid 6, if that. :/ Hard pass on the apps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 07:50 PM
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If I had waited with LVM in the past, I could have saved myself a lot of time and heartache. The D is never worth the headaches, y'all!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 07:46 PM
35

I remember vividly reading a quote by Snoop Dogg (whom I know is an avid cheater, but that's another story) about his wife. To paraphrase: "I love her so much. She made me wait a year." He was invested with the woman (who would become his wife!) for a YEAR before they had sex. If Snoop Dogg can wait, dusty down the block can wait, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 07:44 PM
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Same. I “swore off” dating in 2018 - that lasted seven months and then I ended up in a situationship and dated fuckboys. NOW I am not entertaining a single one, am fully focused on leveling up, and am loving life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 02:14 PM
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I love this! Onward!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 02:13 PM
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I had a couple of guy “friends” that I realized liked having me around because of my beauty, charm, and feminine energy. They are/were total mansplainers, non-supportive, and condescending. I would always leave our exchanges feeling drained. I also started taking religious education classes with a guy in his eighties (!). Old boy had the audacity to ask me to get coffee and called me a “beautiful thing.” Bro. (I had done a makeup class with him without anyone else. Never again.) Men are not your…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 10:55 AM
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Literally no one shames men for being ran through. Community dick is a thing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 10:13 PM
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Sad but true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 10:12 PM
9

🙌🙌🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 03:23 PM
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I’m not citing, but I read that around age ten, boys stop being able to be vulnerable with their friends, and likewise stop being nurturing. They learn that the only “acceptable” ways of socializing are by being angry/aggressive or funny. I have a three-year-old boy who is the most tender child: whenever I or his sister don’t feel well, he will comfort us. He has a little doll that he adores. He is extremely compassionate and empathetic. So I know that men lacking empathy has to come from societ…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 07:58 AM
31

This just gave me chills. Bless you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 07:54 AM
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Where is the lie tho?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 01:15 AM
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Just take it easy on yourself, enjoy the meantime, and put that energy into activities that enrich you. I'm sorry it was a stressful night.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 08:51 PM
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I would just like to say we can extend this energy to all people we encounter, not just potential romantic partners. You have nothing to prove.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 07:36 PM
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Yikes. Looks like a joke. Literally. In one shot, the screen behind the speaker reads "Men prefer debt-free virgins without tattoos." Lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 07:31 PM
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I understand that strict high standards are a cornerstone of the FDS philosophy, and I wholeheartedly embrace this principle. However, I think there are times where life happens and we should be entitled to (and extend) the benefit of the doubt. Men are human beings, and so are we. We are not automatons. You happened to be called upon during your friend's moment of need. I would suggest a new date, location, time, etc to show that you are sorry and are serious about seeing him again. If he takes…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 07:20 PM
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Amen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 04:19 PM
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This is so profound, and so true. I have the questionable gift of being nearly fearless, mostly because I feel like I’ve lived through hell in my life already - with far less awareness and fewer resources than I have now. I’ve been in strange cities, intoxicated, alone, after midnight (for example). What I’ve noticed is that if you make direct eye contact, without smiling or speaking, men who seem threatening retreat. Fuck being friendly - I learned the futility of that long ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 03:20 AM
8

I would not wait. Why? To invest more of your time? Give him your body? If you know you want to leave, leave now. No time like the present.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 03:13 AM
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😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 03:11 AM
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Happy New Years, kween. I left a party early because I was tired and not feeling well. Boundaries FTW! I am so glad I found this sub and am incorporating its principles on a daily basis. Wearing a face mask and about to fall asleep and wake up in a new year and decade. Hugs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 03:10 AM
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Even if he compares you favorably to other women, it’s a shit move.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 12:28 AM
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Ugh and then there go five years of her life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 11:51 PM
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Like literally even one. Or does he have a profile just to neg with no effort?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 11:50 PM
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Why is he even on a dating website?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 11:49 PM
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And yet so common :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 05:27 PM
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😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 05:21 PM
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I think it’s totally unnecessary, not to mention manipulative and a waste of energy. I think we all know in our heart of hearts who really has our backs and who doesn’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 05:21 PM
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Family dysfunction only survives if each member plays their part. Fuck it up and do better. Break the cycle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 01:27 PM
8

(In my Cardi B voice) “Okurrrrrrrr”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 12:33 PM
29

Ouch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 12:32 PM
14

Extraordinary. Spot on. Thank you for sharing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 12:31 PM
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I think OLD is terrible, based on my own limited experience. Truly bottom of the barrel types of men on there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 07:01 PM
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Meanwhile single moms are seen as the scum of the earth. 🙄🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 06:57 PM
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Yes. I made the massive mistake of moving overseas to support my ex-husband’s career, and I was only “allowed” to spend money at the grocery store. I had to get cash back there to be able to buy new clothes, shoes, extra things for the babies, etc. He once called me after I spent more than normal at the grocery store (we were about to host a party) and screamed at me about it. Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 06:24 PM
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I had an ex that I kept as a friend, whom I learned kept all of these women around who still wanted him. One in particular he kept stringing along because he didn’t want her to get an “asshole” boyfriend. Smh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 06:19 PM
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This times a million.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 06:18 PM
9

I love my girlfriends. And - this is true! Lol!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 02:10 AM
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IME HVM have strong character, and seek the same. A LVW - someone without a strong inner life, self-love, or awareness about her direction and expectations in life - would not appeal to them. A HVW - a woman with direction, standards, and strong boundaries - is what they find attractive. It’s threatening to a LVM because it’s foreign to them, and obviously they wouldn’t get far with a HVW, and that’s nOt FaIr.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 01:30 AM
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That is awesome!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 01:22 AM
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Your energy and time are precious. Proceed accordingly. Likewise, make sure that you’re providing good company to those you’re around. Water seeks its own level!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 01:21 AM
7

Pure prophecy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 01:20 AM
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As I’ve heard it said: No romance without finance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 01:19 AM
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Breakups are hard, even if your former partner was terrible. You are allowed to grieve the loss. Take the time you need to care for yourself. You will choose better next time - you will choose someone who deserves you. Hugs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 08:35 PM
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The delusion is real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 07:35 PM
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FDS is the true Red Pill. I see everything differently and I’m acting accordingly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 06:44 PM
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They’re obsessed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 06:42 PM
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Meh. I don’t like animals, but I understand where you’re coming from.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 06:37 PM
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I think it means he’s grounded and involved in real life, which is a plus. I’m spending a ton of time online because I’m on winter break, but for normal day-to-day life I consider this to be a tremendous timesuck. I have respect for people who don’t have socials, or who engage very little with social media. It’s a waste of time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 04:10 PM
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Thank you for this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 04:08 PM
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Exactly. I thought my ex situationship was gOiNg SoMeWhEre because he introduced me to people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 03:06 PM
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I know right!?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 03:05 PM
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Agreed. I would rather have no head than duty head. Fuck that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 02:09 AM
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I wish I could say I was younger - I’m 34, was 32/33 when this “situationship” had my full and undivided attention. I was in love with his/our potential. Never again. At least I know better now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 02:07 AM
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Amen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 02:03 AM
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Good for you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 02:01 AM
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The hate I see for single mothers is incredible, and even I resisted the label because of all of the negative connotations. But fuck that. I left my ex-husband because he cheated on me. That doesn’t make me less valuable in any regard. I respect and understand that there are those who don’t wish to date those with children. All good! But why insult and demean those of us raising children without a partner? Foolishness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 02:00 AM
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Give him time. Don’t tell him what you’re looking for. Wait to see what he is offering, by observing his ACTIONS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 01:55 AM
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Likes younger soles. Ugh I hope NO ONE swiped right on this fool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 01:54 AM
14

Never settle!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 01:53 AM
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Fucking disgusting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 01:52 AM
2

I just introduced her to my mom. Love her and her videos!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 10:00 PM
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HVP are hard to find - but water seeks its own level. As I’ve healed, my friendships and the people I’m surrounded by are much healthier and better overall.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 09:44 PM
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1) Make all As in my final semester of grad school. 2) Get a professional job offer before graduation that meets the salary and benefit requirements I’ve established. 3) Buy a car. 4) Run a 10k. (Hopefully a byproduct of this will be losing the pesky extra ten pounds I’ve been carrying.) 5) Make wise money moves. 6) Remember that I am the prize and not hesitate to delete, block, and curve womanizers and time wasters, as well as those who don’t meet my standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 02:43 PM
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I kept waiting for him to commit: performing sexually, being sexy/cute/pleasant, charming his work colleagues (yes he took me to Bermuda when he had a board meeting as a prop, essentially), not “nagging,” not demanding exclusivity, and not expecting daily communication. He wanted the perks, and he enjoyed not being accountable. FINALLY I wised up. I cringe to think about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 02:39 PM
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Not only did this woman’s HUSBAND tell her her pussy is ugly, he told her HOW he thought it was ugly. It is your most vulnerable, intimate, sacred body part. How fucking sad and pathetic he is. (And of course his opinion is porn-informed.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 02:35 PM
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I also like when someone is a good cook and likes to cook. I don’t think this is a big deal. (Also, this is why I think OLD sucks - it’s simply impossible to understand a person based on a curated online profile.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 02:32 PM
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Last week. And having one tomorrow, but I honestly am not counting it because I have no interest in a relationship with this guy (he’s HVM, but I just don’t feel him like that).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 03:56 AM
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“I want to waste your time long term while also putting your life and reputation at risk.” What a guy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 03:49 AM
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No lie, my coworker’s boyfriend (of five years) has pictures of them together on his Bumble account. (I know.) I created a throwaway Gmail account and sent her the screenshots, but I don’t know if she got it, or would care if she does. :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 02:46 AM
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“Ask what, bitch?” Lmaoooooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 02:40 AM
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Does he listen? Really listen? Does he remember what you have going on in your life, details about your family, your likes and dislikes? HVM. Is he thoughtful? HVM. Is he able to respectfully disagree? HVM. Is he helpful and does he do things to make your life easier/make you more comfortable? HVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 02:39 AM
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I literally had a guy I met OLD ask me to “come over and keep him warm ;)” after a snow where we live. (A) We had never even kissed; (B) We’d been on two dates, and (C) I hadn’t heard from him for a MONTH. When I said “I’m not here to hook up,” he proceeded to mansplain that two people under a blanket get warm, therefore he wasn’t asking to hook up. When I then said “Thanks but no thanks,” he attempted to berate me, saying he thought we’d had a good time on our two dates (lmaoooo). All of that t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 02:34 AM
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Never too late. You are a queen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 02:28 AM
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I blocked a lingering fuckboy, blocked (without hesitation) a few OLD matches who were entitled with absolutely no reason to be, and have completely stopped investing energy in the one guy I had one-itis over. Unbothered, focused on school goals, career goals, body goals, skin goals, parent goals, and financial goals. Because I have nothing to prove in the dating game. I am the prize. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 02:22 AM
9

Also, I understand that OLD works for some, but this post confirms my trauma and I will not be going back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 02:18 AM
18

Translation: “Will choke you while I give you an STD.” Holy shit - are there really women out there who go for this??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 02:17 AM
8

Following
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 05:28 PM
18

Excellent analogy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 01:55 PM
23

I have only hit on guys a couple of times, and it never, ever materialized (thank goodness). I have been pursued and I believe that’s the only way. If you pursued him, you’ll be chasing him the entire time you’re together. Who wants that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 01:31 AM
23

Another term for LVM. Player, expects to split the bills, the rent, dinner, wants you to hang out at the last minute, feels entitled to sex and female attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 01:28 AM
28

HVM are HVM at all ages. They: will be openly affectionate, are respectful of your boundaries, don’t watch porn, initiate, plan, and pay for dates, open doors, are polite, are interested/interesting, encourage you, are gentle with you, want to explore life with you. In short: you will know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 03:10 AM
14

In a word: worthless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 03:07 AM
5

You are worthwhile because you are a living human being. You have everything it takes to get out and create a new life for yourself. At 31, I left an abusive marriage by departing a foreign country to come back to the US, with my children (then 2 and 6 months) and a credit card. That was it. No family, no friends, no house, no job, no car, nothing. I moved to a city and created an entirely new life. It can be done. Every day you stay will be another day of healing you’ll have to do on the other …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 08:17 PM
12

With all due respect, are you suggesting that some women should stay with an abusive man if it means the logistics are easier? I have to wholeheartedly disagree, if so. Nothing is worth staying with an abuser. NOTHING. (FWIW, I left a foreign country to leave an abusive marriage, with two children and no money.) You just go. Get out. Leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 08:12 PM
11

Louder 👏 for 👏 the 👏 people 👏 in 👏 the 👏 back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 08:03 PM
15

For me, it is multi-generational. My grandmother stayed with her husband (my mother’s stepfather) even though he treated my mother like an afterthought - she was never truly part of the family, and they afforded her younger siblings opportunities she never had. They took family photos without her. So obviously she copied that behavior - had me leave the home when she and my stepdad had trouble in their marriage. She overlooked it when my first grade teacher expressed concern that I might have ex…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 06:39 PM
11

Present!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 11:17 AM
24

Saaaaaaame. Literally within the last week I’ve realized my beauty, my inherent worth, and the value of my peace - and I don’t want some random swinging dick f***ing it up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 06:25 AM
8

I live in bumfuck and am not particularly social, and I still have had luck being approached by interested men. IMO OLD is a losing battle - you don’t want to date those guys anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 06:24 AM
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“I am looking to date, and ultimately looking for a serious relationship that leads to marriage.” This is actual and factual, states your objective while also distinguishing what you’re doing (dating) from what you’re looking for (a serious relationship).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 06:16 AM
24

I am proud of you. I also cut off a FWB this year (of almost a year) and that. Shit. Was. Hard. But it had to be done. It’s cliche, it’s trite, but it DOES get better with time and you WILL meet someone new. Good on ya!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 06:11 AM
19

That may be, but I find liberal men to feel a whole lot more entitled to “anything goes” sex on demand than right-leaning ones. At least they convey the image of being respectful of boundaries and traditions, and my anecdata tells me they are less likely to watch porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 05:26 PM
4

I am feeling this. Not worried about any man in the least. Focused on improving my children’s lives, health, fitness, spiritual life, career, and money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 04:20 PM
16

Porsha is my bae, but like - this guy? All this trouble over Mr. Hot Dogs. Sad! This is what happens when you’re dicktimized, ladies! Stay woke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 04:18 PM
7

I have been a supreme Pickmeisha my entire life. Boy crazy for as long as I can remember. Most recently, I found myself being a real Pickmeisha with a guy I briefly dated (during which time he initiated contact, made plans etc.) After we broke up, I started having him over, cooking for him, we would go out and split the check etc. I was desperate for him to want to date me again. (Obviously this is not how it works.) Bottom line, I was tired of chasing men for anything. I cut off all the fuckboy…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 12:02 PM
17

It’s true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 11:49 AM
2

Caveman dick brain, indeed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 02:36 PM
14

All done!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 02:23 PM
2

Same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 05:18 AM
9

I used to be into rapey stuff - being called names, slapped, etc. (I won’t get into it all here, but you get the idea.) I had a one night stand over the summer that changed my whole perspective on my own sexuality - and then I had a fling (non-sexual) this fall that changed my outlook on men. Before these revelations, I considered what I thought to be “love” and “sex” to be highly scripted and performative. Certainly, it wasn’t for my pleasure - or, at best, my pleasure was always only adjacent …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 04:06 AM
16

Sounds like a real charmer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 03:52 AM
1

This happened to me. The guy was very religious and wanted to wait until he was with his future wife to have sex. (We did become sexual once (oral). He was huge and didn’t watch porn and was very sensual. Le sigh.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 01:51 PM
13

I have literally cut all men out of my life. Despite appearances, they were all LVM to one extent or another (note to self: just because he’s handsome, smart, and successful DOES NOT make him HV). And I love it! It is true tho - they alllllll come back so get ready for it ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 05:13 PM
10

I. Stan.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 05:07 PM
29

This is perfect
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 05:54 PM
6

I’ll only date a man who: -Has a bachelor’s degree (at minimum) -Has a professional career -Believes in God/is religious -Is traditional, and wants marriage and children -Is respectful (doesn’t swear excessively, doesn’t discuss sensitive topics without preexisting emotional intimacy already in place) -Is chivalrous, holds doors, holds my hand, pays for dates -Shares my views on sexuality and sexual involvement -Has a healthy relationship with OR perspective on their family of origin -Is self-aw…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 10:05 PM
8

I’ve been thinking about this lately (I’m mid-thirties, divorcing with two children). For the longest time after my separation, I was desperate to find a man. In reality, I was looking for completion. I didn’t feel comfortable being with and by myself. I was seeking a way to avoid the pain of my divorce. Now that I’ve grieved the loss of my marriage, I’m not sure I’d want to go back. I’ve only seriously opened my life up to one man recently, and that turned out not to be a match. I would only wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 01:22 PM
5

I’m about your age and have started dating younger, because I also find guys our age to be the worst. Older guys are the worst and better at manipulation (and creeping into ED territory).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 01:11 PM
6

Not at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 01:01 PM
10

My son loves his doll!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 07:34 PM
3

This is such a reasonable perspective. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 07:31 PM
6

Nothing in life is guaranteed, for one thing. Another thing I’ve learned is not to take advice from anyone you wouldn’t switch lives with in a second. Re: settling. I disagree wholeheartedly, and I say this as a person who settled in the past. You would live your entire life knowing you settled, and the person you settled with would know it, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 07:22 PM
6

I shudder to remember my own Pickmeisha behaviors: staying “friends” with the guy I really wanted to date (never worked); thought because we were fucking we were in a relationship; literally never expected anything from the guy and yet cooked for them, cleaned for them, looked beautiful for them, and gave them the good good. To say nothing of the brilliant, beautiful friends I’ve had over the years who’s boyfriends and husbands are examples of bratty incompetence, or worse. (Paying their child s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 03:13 PM
3

I believe in equality of opportunity and safety (emotional, physical, financial) of all women. I am a feminist. What’s been sold to us and society as “feminism” is not. Sexual liberation did nothing - nothing - for women as a whole. We are still objectified, harassed, and name called. Pornography is ruining lives and relationships. And yet our dating milieu is now overrun with men who expect sex after minimal investment. Truly pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 02:58 PM
1

Seems like there should have been a conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 02:53 PM
3

Women who live with/procreate with men without the security of marriage are fools.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 02:52 PM
2

If he wants you, you’ll know. Women should never pursue a man. :shudder:
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 02:51 PM
2

It was a marketing tactic developed by DeBeers.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 02:50 PM
3

Three? Are you done yet?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 02:49 PM
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I agree. If I can’t vividly imagine having sex with someone (with gusto), it’s a non-starter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 02:17 PM
3

I feel that. I’ve been a pure pick me since the guy I dated earlier this fall broke up with me: still spending time, hanging out, going out, snuggling. All for what? Leaving him in 2019 where he belongs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/19 07:25 PM
7

Play stupid games, get stupid prizes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 03:47 PM
17

To each their own, but chemistry and sexual attraction are very important to me in a relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 03:46 PM
16

I agree. If anything, the game just gets stronger. I’ve started dealing with younger men recently for this very reason
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 04:48 PM
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