First of all, a big, huge thanks to all the ladies of this sub - I can honestly say it's changed my life. Since I started implementing these principles my life has improved a ton. And, of course, not giving a shit is kryptonite to men, and I have been pursued by two gems I'll share info about now.

Candidate 1 - 28, tall, handsome, advanced degree, smart, compassionate. However, when he showed up for our date he called me. I did not answer. Then he texted me saying "I'm here." (I texted back my address, saying "I don't see you! I'll wait for your knock." But we all know this fool wasn't trying to knock.) I, naturally, dressed nicely, did my hair and my makeup for the date. When I tell you this fool had a hole in his jeans and mud on his jacket, I am telling you the truth. I still got lunch out of it, but still - the audacity. The low effort. The LOW VALUE.

Candidate 2 - 34, sexy, funny, cool. However, is just getting out of a relationship and keeps hitting me up trying to "hang out." Says things like "I'm going to begin spending time with other people because that is what I want - whatever capacity that is I haven't worked out for myself. All I know is I enjoy and would like some company." (RICH.) When I told him I wasn't comfortable because of how soon it is after his breakup, he said "What's the harm. We don't have to date. We don't have to fuck. I'm just looking to chill and see how things land and play out." (AMAZING.)

The bar is on the floor, ladies. At least I now have the sense and the self-esteem not to waste time on men who are showing me who they are THE FIRST TIME.