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No washer and dryer will fit all that in even two loads. And that’s ignoring all the work involved with gathering the laundry, stripping sheets, making beds, folding, pressing, and putting away all those items. Laundry for a family takes hours to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 12:06 PM
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If you’re doing laundry for your family, it takes far more than one load. Say a family of four, every week you have four sets of clothes, three sets of sheets, lots of bath towels and dish towels. Unless you’re doing it multiple times a week, laundry takes the whole day.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 10:47 AM
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Nope, comparing it by age cohort shows a decrease in younger divorce and an increase in grey divorce. https://www.bgsu.edu/ncfmr/resources/data/family-profiles/allred-age-variation-div-rate-fp-19-13.html
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 10:26 AM
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What you’re looking for is the “adjusted divorce rate.” Here’s some data on it: https://www.bgsu.edu/content/dam/BGSU/college-of-arts-and-sciences/NCFMR/documents/RBT/charting-us-divorce-2008-2021.pdf https://www.bgsu.edu/ncfmr/resources/data/family-profiles/marino-divorce-rate-US-geographic-variation-2021-fp-22-26.html We’re still seeing reduced divorces, even when considering reduced marriages.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 01:33 AM
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That’s pretty weird (especially assuming you live together), but good for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 12:09 AM
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I don’t think you need to get heated and raise your voice for it to be considered an argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 12:06 AM
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This seems like a semantic issue, then. Every couple eventually has disagreements that both partners find hard to compromise on, which is what I would consider an argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 12:03 AM
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Ideally you shouldn’t have much arguing the first year, but ultimately there will be disagreements that aren’t so easy to compromise on. That’s how it is with every relationship, not just romantic ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 11:59 PM
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Yep. I have friends who are former Mennonites and they do not speak very kindly about that aspect of the religion, among others.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 10:33 PM
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So you're mad at children being given clothing that you don't like? Yep, I am. 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 09:45 PM
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Children can’t leave their religion whenever they want and adults who leave the religion lose their family connections. It isn’t an easy decision to make.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 09:41 PM
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Lol when I went to Mormon Girls’ Camp one of the activities was land watersports (sprinklers, water guns, etc.). We were not allowed to wear only our bathing suits during that activity, since men working at the camp might be able to see us. 🤦‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 09:37 PM
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In my view, they should have the ability to wear what they want. Right now, they do not. They’re required by their religious community to wear something specific.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 09:29 PM
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The kids definitely know they’re different and no doubt resent it. I grew up Mormon and resented that I couldn’t wear tank tops, short shorts, or two-pieces, for example. Once they get to adulthood, they can choose whether they stay in that society. But like the Amish, if they leave they are typically alienated by their loved ones (but less severely than the Amish do). One of my old bosses was a lesbian ex-Mennonite who had fortunately been “adopted” by her partner’s family.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 08:59 PM
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Just went for a quick run and saw a Mennonite family out riding their bikes. It makes me so angry that the mom and daughters have to wear stupid fucking 1800s dresses and bonnets, while the dad and sons get to dress pretty much like ordinary people. So unfair, especially when exercising. You can pry my running leggings out of my cold, dead hands.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 08:47 PM
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From a female perspective, that sounds pretty similar. Men cold approach women on a night out with the primary goal of sex, which they hope women will exchange if they give enough compliments, drinks, and the potential of love. Strippers approach men on a night out with the primary goal of money, which they hope you’ll exchange if they give you enough compliments, drinks, and the potential of sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 08:25 PM
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Both men and women are treated as disposable resources.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 12:01 PM
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Not having teen dating experience is only a problem if you believe you are not the norm. Feeling different is the issue, not having not dated during your teens. Despite what Hollywood would like us to believe, teenage relationships are not that common. In a Pew survey from 2015, 64% of teens indicated they had never been in a romantic relationship of any kind and only 19% are currently in a romantic relationship. Teenage sex is even less common, with only 30% of the 35% with teenage dating exper…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 11:44 AM
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It’s only a problem if you believe you are not the norm. Feeling different is the issue, not having not dated during your teens. Despite what Hollywood would like us to believe, teenage relationships are not that common. In a Pew survey from 2015, 64% of teens indicated they had never been in a romantic relationship of any kind and only 19% are currently in a romantic relationship. Teenage sex is even less common, with only 30% of the 35% with teenage dating experience reporting having sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 10:29 AM
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Much less work involved than moving to another country or helping someone immigrate here and adapt to our culture. Less expectation that you will care for and bring over her adult relatives, too. I grew up with a stepdad and stepmom and they were both great. They could easily pass off the serious stuff to our biological parents. I have a much better relationship with my stepdad than I do my dad, but that definitely depends on individual circumstances. My stepmom is more like a cool aunt. Marryin…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 08:22 PM
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I had an ex boyfriend who asked me to parallel park his car. 😬 Agreed on all three of your icks.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 06:42 PM
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Why do you think I’m blaming him? He seemed to be expressing frustration with the lack of chatting, which was exacerbated by the type of date.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 06:28 PM
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Agreed. It seems like a tremendous headache. And bringing someone here also has its difficulties.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 04:14 PM
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Dealing with cultural differences, funding your wife’s family, and dealing with immigration issues is likely much more of a headache for a much longer period of time. There’s a reason so few people do it, while you see blended families all over the place.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 04:10 PM
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That’s strange. Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 03:22 PM
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You think finding a woman abroad and dealing with the cultural difficulties/familial obligations involved would be easier and preferable to being a stepfather?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 02:46 PM
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So if you get to your 40s and are still unpartnered (and women in their twenties are no longer interested), who will you choose? Someone unattractive to most others or someone who’s had some love, but struck out?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 01:56 PM
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Lol nope
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 01:45 PM
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Ok, but men here are trying to get people to care about those “needs” and change laws and culture to give them easier access to sex. It’s not going to happen, fortunately, and is disgustingly obtuse in a different way. Their “psychological/social needs” conflict with our need for physical safety.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 01:43 PM
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Yeah, watching movies or shows aren’t great for a first date, since you don’t get as much face time. Glad you enjoyed the play and sorry the date didn’t continue further.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 01:36 PM
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People rarely care about strangers’ “physiological needs that make them not die immediately.” Why would you think they would care about their social needs?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 01:29 PM
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It’s always hilarious when men think they can identify which women are high n-count before dating them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 01:18 PM
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You need to push yourself out of that vanilla box, sir.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 02:30 AM
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Is satisfying that desire more important than bringing her to orgasm?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 02:20 AM
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What’s the difference, honestly? If you’re having sex and using a vibrator to stimulate her clit instead of your hand, it’s just less work for her or you and a greater chance of success.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 02:12 AM
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I doubt it. My sexual tastes aren’t that outside of the norm. Married couples often try out some kinky shit, to keep things fun and interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 02:04 AM
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Ah, I thought that was a silly argument. Porn isn’t the same thing as a toy. But porn is also a fun thing to try out with your partner. It can add some interesting flair.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 01:59 AM
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Yes, definitely from other women. Their mothers and sisters, especially. My close friends who are Korean and Japanese have dealt with this a ton.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 01:56 AM
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Be more specific
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 01:55 AM
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Asian women get a lot of flack for interracial dating. Hell, they even have people upset at them if they date the wrong kind of Asian.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 01:47 AM
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It doesn’t get any easier than on a college campus. Strike up a convo when waiting in the dining hall. Figure out if you have mutual friends with girls you find attractive and show up at a party where they’re likely to be. Talk to people in your classes and befriend men and women who could connect you with women you’re interested in. Get a work study job that involves talking to other students.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 01:40 AM
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People who view toys as competitors instead of assistants are boring.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 12:43 AM
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Patriarchy simply means that men hold the majority of positions of power throughout culture and government. That’s still the case throughout the west. It makes no claims about whether life is easier for men or women. It simply means that more men hold positions of power.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 11:21 PM
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Why do you think it exists? Physical violence.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 11:18 PM
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Do you believe that African immigrants to the west are no longer impacted by patriarchal norms?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 10:56 PM
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Yes, of course. Patriarchy simply refers to a society or culture that is headed by men. It doesn’t mean always good for the common man.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 10:53 PM
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Most of them. I can’t think of one mainstream religion that is headed by women.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 10:45 PM
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Religion, to start. Unfortunately, it’s still a major force in the west.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 10:37 PM
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If it will make you feel better, then sure. 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 10:25 PM
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What happened 80 years ago?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 10:24 PM
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Those who don’t “believe” in the history of patriarchy are delusional. You can argue that the patriarchy no longer controls most women in the west, but denying that it exists at all is just silly.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 10:01 PM
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Yeah. It happens fairly frequently in areas with a lot of locations. They’re closing half of their stores in the city, with the other half remaining open.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 10:34 AM
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Haven’t they closed around 500 stores in the last 10 years? A drop in the bucket, but still a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 02:31 AM
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There are female Chads now?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 01:48 AM
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Be the change you wish to see 🌟🏳️‍🌈
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 01:41 AM
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Come up with an actual plan. God helps those who help themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 01:12 AM
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The things you mentioned are shared by many families with working mothers. Tradwife = a woman who attempts to model herself after idealized women in the past, ultimately realizing all the ways that lifestyle sucked.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 01:09 AM
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What’s your plan for getting out if things turn bad?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 01:01 AM
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Strong loving families being a loving wife and mother That has nothing to do with tradwifery.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 12:58 AM
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What do you have against Chicago?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 12:56 AM
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Me neither. I’m married, so it feels inappropriate to respond to DMs from random men. Plenty of fun chat to be had out in the open.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 12:55 AM
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Lol that wasn’t personal, it was an insult against all Libertarians. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 12:48 AM
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Why do you want that?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 12:31 AM
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Or more likely, she just doesn’t like who you are right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 12:05 AM
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Lol, I had no idea. 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 11:06 PM
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Depends on the district, state, and specialty. In my state, good teaching jobs are very competitive, since they’re well-paying union jobs.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 10:37 PM
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Thank you! 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 09:53 PM
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?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 09:13 PM
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Fascist pushover?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 09:10 PM
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I teach high schoolers, if that’s what you mean.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 09:00 PM
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Thank you! That’s really nice advice. 🌟
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 08:56 PM
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When you meet someone you actually connect with and you’re both ready for a relationship, it’s like that. The first three months should be all excitement and fun, not assholery.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 08:55 PM
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Well what can I say, I like to beat myself up about things. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 08:50 PM
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Teaching. We’re moving, so I’m looking for a new district.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 08:43 PM
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Unfortunately, tons of people are fat and it makes their faces look bad. Scrawny guys with subpar faces do benefit from building muscle.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 08:43 PM
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Libertarian jerk
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 08:38 PM
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Lol unless you’re deformed, your face is probably good enough. A lot of people are just too fat or too scrawny.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 08:37 PM
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Interview done! I think it went well, but who knows. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 08:34 PM
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They’re looking for something to blame that doesn’t ask for self-improvement. Being short can’t be improved, so it’s a great scapegoat for those who don’t want to improve in other ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 08:33 PM
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Lol exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 08:21 PM
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Yes, but I still feel bad. It doesn’t represent the kind of person I’d like to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 08:21 PM
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I did that fairly recently to a coworker and I still feel bad about it. Dude was reading a historical romance novel, so I made a joke. I shouldn’t have done that, it was shitty.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 07:42 PM
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They’re looking for something to blame that doesn’t ask for self-improvement.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 07:33 PM
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Divorce doesn’t do that; having emotionally distraught, absent parents does that. If you stay in your children’s lives after divorce and breakup amicably, then there’s no reason your children can’t continue to do well.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 11:33 AM
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Good for five years or less, to try to salvage the connection. Bad if it continues past that. Better to divorce, but make an effort to remain in the kids’ lives as involved co-parents. Unhappy people don’t make for positive role models or effective parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 02:17 AM
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how to start a relationship from scratch and get dates or sustain a relationship with someone they are already dating Why do you believe the skills you need for each are so different? They’ve also watched many relationships blossom over time, outside of their own. Grandma and Grandpa can definitely advise you on dating strategies. Whether we know how to listen to them is the question.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 02:13 AM
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The two aren’t mutually exclusive. Part of enjoying dancing is dancing with the opposite sex. It’s like sparring in conversation or having sex. There’s a rhythm to it that’s undeniably fun, sexy, and animalistic. Does this really not look like fun to you? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nbgt5byRQUs
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 02:08 AM
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Why do you think so?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 01:56 AM
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Medical experts have found that healthy body fat percentages for men and women are very different. Women have a higher percentage of “essential fat,” partly to maintain fertility and ovulation. Men are much more efficient at building muscle and do not need that added fat for fertility purposes. Ideal body fat for men is somewhere between 10-20%, while for women it’s between 20-30%.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 01:49 AM
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Imagine thinking dancing is only for girls 😩
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 01:43 AM
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Short hair vs. long hair doesn’t make much of a difference for combing and washing, unless you’re talking ass-length hair (which is way too long, IMO). Blow drying can be more difficult at shorter lengths, since it’s more noticeable if it gets out of place from sleeping. I am not envious watching older ladies style their hair, as blow drying long hair takes much less finesse. You also can’t stick it in a ponytail, which is my nightmare. Brittle hair has only been a problem for me when I’ve gone …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 01:40 AM
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Congrats! 🎉
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 01:35 AM
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You have to get it cut more often, so it’s more expensive. It also can be trickier to style, but that isn’t always the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 01:32 AM
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Even less time than that. I should get my bangs trimmed every 4 weeks, but I usually push it to 6 weeks (fortunately, a bang trim is $15). Truly short hair can be much less between appointments, especially if it’s dyed.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 01:28 AM
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Ooh yeah. Short hair is so high maintenance!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 01:23 AM
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A person who's been in a successful relationship for the last 30 years has almost zero useful active dating advice for the modern day That’s ridiculous. They’ve likely been on more dates, had more sex, and got in more relationship arguments than anyone else in here. That doesn’t mean that they will always know best. But saying they don’t have recent experience is silly.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 01:22 AM
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We think it looks pretty, too. That’s why we put in the effort to maintain it. I don’t care if my hair is generic and unoriginal. Nothing new under the sun.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 01:17 AM
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Chubby men are attractive to women, but that caps at lower body fat percentages. Blame biological needs and hormonal differences for that one.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 01:15 AM
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But the higher earning spouse also wants the more expensive house and is willing to contribute more of their salary to get that. If you genuinely want to make things 50/50 (seems like a lot of work to get nothing), 50/50 by salary percentage seems reasonable to me. So if we’re both contributing no more than 30% of our salaries, that would be around $1250 for the higher earner and $480 for the lower earner.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 01:11 AM
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You’re misunderstanding me. Say I make $150k and my spouse makes $50k and our monthly house payment is $2000. If we split 50/50, then my contribution to the mortgage would be less than 25% of my take home pay. For my spouse, it would be over 70% of his take home pay. That’s not reasonable and is an unfair thing to ask of your partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 12:05 AM
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Grifters who parlay their pain into profit.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 11:57 PM
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Splitting 50/50 has its own issues. Does the person who contributes 70% of their income to the purchase deserve more than the person who contributes 30%? They’re certainly giving up more to fund the purchase. What if the person contributing 70% of their income is still contributing less financially than the person contributing 30%?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 11:34 PM
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Ok, fair enough. You do hear a bit more of that in machismo-heavy cultures. The double-edged sword of restrictive gender norms.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 11:20 PM
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Have you ever ended up in that scenario? Are you in a position to be giving advice on this?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 11:10 PM
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That this isn’t the common problem you’re holding it up to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 11:00 PM
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His response made my point. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 10:54 PM
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I was also weirded out by that. Like if I started a new job that asked me to work longer hours, we would need some changes. But that doesn’t necessarily mean him doing more work. It could be us hiring a maid to lessen both of our loads. If I got a raise but was working the same hours, only difference is that our overall standard of living might increase.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 10:54 PM
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Do you have lots of experience with situations like that?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 10:19 PM
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Haha yes, we are not lacking in that!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 08:57 PM
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Lol what a funny way to put it. 😂 But he’s not wrong about the vaginal canal. There’s definitely less sensation there than other spots.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 08:50 PM
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It’s more the idealized version of what men wanted women to be, a la “The Angel in the House.”. Life was certainly not easier back then, but women were expected to ignore that strife and project a sense of innocence and sweetness that ignored all that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 02:43 PM
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Lol why are you watching videos of middle schoolers on Omegle?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 02:13 AM
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For you. If you don’t love traveling, it’s probably for the best that you seek out someone who better shares your interests.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 02:11 AM
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And that’s why the joke from the post lands.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 11:56 PM
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Hey! If you haven’t done so yet, here’s a reminder to fit in a workout today. At the very least, it will make you feel healthier and happier. I was feeling moody and depressed yesterday and didn’t workout. I almost didn’t today, but forced myself to and feel 10 times better now. You can do that, too. 🌟
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 10:58 PM
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Yes. CDC puts the average n-count at sub-10. I’d guess that the typical sexually-active Millennial or Gen-Zer has between 10-20, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 10:50 PM
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Nagging = a sexist word for asking your partner to keep his word
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 08:14 PM
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A helpful shortcut to divorce 👏
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 08:12 PM
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Infants and toddlers also don’t have the ability to dress themselves, yet killing them is still a crime. A better analog would be someone on extended life support. For the next of kin, withdrawing life support from them is not a crime, even though it ultimately leads to their death.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 03:34 PM
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No, it adjusts based on fluctuations in income. So if you lose a high-earning job and take one making poverty level wages, then your child support payment can be adjusted to the lowest level possible. It’s like taxes in that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 01:40 PM
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Child support is scaled by income. Men living in poverty pay very little in support. Here’s an overview of some of the laws across the US.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 01:22 PM
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But child support is scaled by income. If you make a small amount of money, you contribute a small amount in child support.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 01:18 PM
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Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 01:14 PM
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If those men have been trafficked or enslaved and didn’t choose those jobs themselves, then that’s also a problem. But there are many jobs that do not involve back breaking work, so perhaps they should quit and seek those out.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 01:13 PM
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So you’re making the argument that fetuses that can’t live outside a uterus are the same as elderly people? 😂 That’s certainly a take, as long as you own it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 01:08 PM
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Yeah, I also don’t understand it. It’s like forcing someone to be a foster parent, but with financial support instead of care.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 12:58 PM
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Forcing men to pay child support even after a paternity test showed they are not the father Agreed. I would wholeheartedly support legislation that changed that law.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 12:48 PM
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Absolutely! You are free to commit to the kind of woman you want. But conservatives actively advocate to restrict women’s freedoms outside of dating and even try to restrict who other people can commit to.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 12:46 PM
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How are financial contributions a bodily autonomy issue?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 12:27 PM
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I think it’s a profoundly stupid decision, but bodily autonomy rights reign supreme.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 12:18 PM
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My major objections to financial abortion are the burdens it would place on the taxpayer and the expansion of crime it could cause. Medical abortions do the exact opposite of financial abortions: they reduce taxpayer responsibilities and crime.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 12:10 PM
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Right to privacy includes a ton of different things, like marriage, sex, access to pornography, contraceptives, other healthcare, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 12:00 PM
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What examples would you place in this? Too many to count. Most recently, conservatives are putting major money towards rolling back LGBT discrimination protections and the right to privacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 11:48 AM
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Agreed. Conservative men are willing to give actual money (not just views and clicks) to those who are advocating a rollback of social changes and expanded civil rights. Public opinion, be damned.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 10:59 AM
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Lol I don’t believe that at all. 😂 Just seems like most of them are lesbians or bisexual women who look the part.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 10:51 PM
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No. I definitely crave sex sometimes when I’m feeling stressed. Typically, I think low libido has much more to do with health, fitness, and fatigue than stress.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 10:31 PM
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Is it? I feel like I see men making posts like this one all the time: https://www.reddit.com/r/NotHowGirlsWork/comments/12m3s15/wellrounded_women_scare_me/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 10:26 PM
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Lol it seems like all sex therapists look like that
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 10:14 PM
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Elaborate
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 10:13 PM
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Lol you know there are more polite ways to ask for the source, right? 😂 https://reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/12kyo20/women_lie_about_their_partner_preferences_they/jg89p4r This comment chain is specifically about what men say in this subreddit, so it’s relevant what some guys say.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 09:48 PM
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Comparing someone’s curated highlights to your everyday is always going to lead to dissatisfaction.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 09:44 PM
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Is this a birthday post? What are you turning?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 09:30 PM
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Would it make people love you more? Or make people who didn’t know about your billions interact with you differently?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 09:12 PM
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Life is easier when you’re attractive. It’s also easier when you’re wealthy, but it’s not necessarily happier.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 08:52 PM
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He was accused of rape, apparently after a long line of infidelity. That’s a good reason to divorce. She doesn’t deserve half his property, but she probably will get alimony and some of the money he put away during their short marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 08:50 PM
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Chad with $65k
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 08:35 PM
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It had nothing to do with your original comment. Sure it did. You insinuated that including reputation meant I completely misunderstood men. But the majority of men aren’t repulsed by n-count because of the reputation that comes with it. Most of the men I’ve talked to about this have suggested that public displays of high n-count are bigger dealbreakers than women who’ve simply had a lot of sex behind closed doors.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 08:27 PM
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Other things can even be "very important," even deal-breakers in the extreme, even if she is hot. Agreed. So where are men like you when guys here are going on about how women only need to be attractive to attract and keep a partner?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 08:21 PM
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How is bringing up another comment from earlier today arguing in bad faith? Here it is: https://reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/12lc699/daily_community_chat_megathread/jg8md2k You may not agree with him (men and women certainly aren’t monoliths), but it’s silly to suggest all men don’t care about reputation.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 08:16 PM
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A guy earlier told me that he “believes” that researchers considered an important factor because he “trusts” them more than he trusts women.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 08:13 PM
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Speak for yourself. A male poster I was talking with earlier specifically used the word “reputation” when talking about the negative impacts of high n-count on dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 08:11 PM
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Reputation = status
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 08:02 PM
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So which is it? Do men ignore personality and status and focus solely on beauty? Or do they factor in n-count, reputation, and agreeability? You don’t get to have it both ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 07:58 PM
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And if they didn’t? If they were comparing 8s with 4s, do you see the issue?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 02:03 PM
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How do you know they were comparing men with slightly different levels of attractiveness?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 01:42 PM
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Even $5 an hour for all household work would be cost-prohibitive for most families. losing a breadwinner is far worse than losing a homemaker. Funny thing is that the government and most of the world feels the opposite. If your contribution to the family can be substituted by a welfare check, are you really part of the family at all? Today, most families are dual-income, with the “breadwinner” making only 20-30% more than the lower-earning parent. So most of this is moot.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 09:59 PM
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Ah. Lots of kids have part-time jobs, so when competing with a SAHM they’re still earning more. But your question is a great example of how household work is dramatically undervalued by society. Say mom dies and dad can’t find a replacement wife. Paying for a caregiver, cook, and cleaner will be quite expensive.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 09:48 PM
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I don’t understand your question. Lots of children outearn their mothers.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 09:29 PM
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There will never be a solution. It’s going to be conflict until one of them destroys the other or they intermarry enough to come to a stalemate.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 09:27 PM
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Most of the world is sick of moderating this conflict.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 09:19 PM
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Why spend your time fixating on this topic when you could just let their parents and healthcare professionals worry about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 09:15 PM
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Literally all they’re trying to do is prevent these kids from killing themselves. That’s a cause worth fighting for. So bring it on, I guess. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 09:02 PM
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Because it’s illogical. 😂 Carry on, then.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 08:59 PM
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Explain it to me
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 08:58 PM
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Do you really think most men and women would choose the unemployed 8 with drug problems? 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 08:56 PM
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those people with those who think that minors should be getting life-altering drugs , procedures and medical care A lot of trans kids die by suicide. Seems reasonable that their healthcare providers would try to prevent that. Experts say that gender-affirming healthcare helps with that. Most of us don’t have training on that, so it makes sense to be guided by the experts.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 08:55 PM
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Nope. Imagine choosing between an unemployed 8 with a drug problem and a 7 with a great job and reliability. There’s no contest.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 08:48 PM
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They’re not envisioning someone ugly when they’re asked the first time. They’re thinking about choosing between two reasonably attractive looking men. Which would they choose in that scenario? The more ambitious/intelligent one over the one who’s slightly more attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 08:36 PM
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They’re not envisioning someone ugly when they’re asked the first time. They’re thinking about choosing between two reasonably attractive looking men. Which would they choose in that scenario? The more ambitious/intelligent one over the one who’s slightly more attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 08:36 PM
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Agreed, as long as you know that being a homebody doesn’t mean no career or outside passions.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 10:27 PM
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Yes, there were many different cultural influences. That was confusing. My dad is a bit of a cultural tourist as well, so he’s cycled through a few different religions since Mormonism. Perhaps witnessing all that is what turned me into an atheist. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 10:15 PM
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My parents divorced when I was young. My mom remarried another Mormon, my dad left Mormonism.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 10:11 PM
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since l grew up in a poor and religious neighborhood Come on dude, be honest. You know most of them are trying to be mommy bloggers on social media and pushing some godawful multi-level marketing scheme to be “mompreneurs” 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 10:02 PM
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How are the families you know with SAHWs doing? Do they seem happy and fulfilled, or do they post on social media all day and have an MLM addiction?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 09:53 PM
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I'll let you in on a secret, you'll refuse the dude and look for better lol. Isn’t this advocating for hypergamy and Chad-chasing?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 09:51 PM
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Nope. I grew up Mormon and know many SAHWs who fit the description of what many men here want. For most people, it doesn’t seem to lead to a happy marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 09:50 PM
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Most SAHWs are bored, overloaded, and demanding of their husbands. I don’t understand what’s attractive about that kind of lifestyle for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 09:41 PM
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Say I made you a birthday cake from scratch. It’s not the best made cake, but it’s good enough and makes you feel special. Do you refuse to eat the cake and say that it’s worthless? Or do you eat it graciously, then try to help me make a better one next time?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 09:36 PM
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Why not a nanny or cleaner?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 08:46 PM
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How would I know that he didn’t actually love me? Ignorance is bliss.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 08:22 PM
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For someone to say that to me? Certainly.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 08:13 PM
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Lol these posts are hilarious
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 08:10 PM
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No. What a vengeful thing to say.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 08:07 PM
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I hate how many therapists treat with “Christian-focused” care. It cuts out at least half of the options in my area.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 08:05 PM
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Lol they probably didn’t say it like that. 😂 More likely they were just encouraging the person to re-enter the dating market.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 08:03 PM
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Yep. If you see assholes everywhere you look, then the real asshole is probably you.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 08:02 PM
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My mom and stepdad will have been married for 30 years this year, while my dad and stepmom will have 29 years together. The youthful marriage between my mom and dad didn’t even last 10 years, which is very common for early marriages. https://ifstudies.org/blog/want-to-avoid-divorce-wait-to-get-married-but-not-too-long
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 07:46 PM
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Unfortunately lots of liberals own pit bulls, too. I think it’s a marker of class and income rather than politics.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 07:01 PM
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Unfortunately, so do I. I developed PMLE a few vacations back after a sunburn and now when I get a lot of sun my hands and chest get itchy and bumpy. 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 06:49 PM
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Heat rash, PMLE, or sweat allergy.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 06:32 PM
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What’s the word for men who prefer women to have less money and status than them? Financial abuse? Manipulation? It’s bizarre that lower-earning men are so much more likely to cheat on their breadwinner wives.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 10:30 AM
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People who have been rejected many times tend towards bitterness that won’t go away quickly once they enter a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 01:46 AM
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If a 20 year old has the same experience as a 40 year old, something is very wrong in both of their lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 01:44 AM
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Women also feel that way, since dependent wives also have an uptick in infidelity. But why is the effect so much more significant in men?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 12:34 AM
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Perhaps, but they’re more likely to understand our needs and work to improve situations that impact women (even if only to benefit themselves).
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 12:32 AM
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Protests change things all the time. The advancement of women’s rights is a pretty obvious example of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 12:13 AM
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You’ll probably like more body/facial hair as you get older. I really like beards and a bit of body hair now, but I hated it as a teen.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 12:01 AM
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Completely disagree. Bad sex is painful and includes no orgasm, among other bad experiences. Masturbation always ends in orgasm.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 11:55 PM
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Blame testosterone then and don’t try to suggest that women offend at similar rates. They don’t. It’s not a moral failing, but a biological one. That doesn’t mean that women are wrong to be cautious around men, though. Avoiding dangerous people is a good idea in any situation. Men should do the same, but testosterone messes that one up for them, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 11:54 PM
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And every election we send more women to DC. It’s great! We’re also seeing more women in corporate leadership positions, but we have less of a say there. Obviously in past feminist movements, almost all the people in power were male. So who else could they demand things from? They couldn’t very well give themselves the right to vote or the right to own property.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 11:44 PM
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Yes, I guess all that’s preventing women from committing more arson and mass shootings is how heavy gas canisters and guns are. 🤦‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 11:39 PM
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It will be great when more women are in power, so then we can beg them for things. That said, how have other protest movements been different?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 11:34 PM
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Or you’re having some bad masturbation. What makes sex extra satisfying is the addition of companionship, love, and play, like I said earlier.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 11:32 PM
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And the cheating, probably. 😂 
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 11:19 PM
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Did you assume I wasn’t going to respond to your claim? This is a discussion subreddit, after all.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 10:56 PM
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Did you not read the article? It reports similar findings: While, on average, women who are completely financially dependent on their husbands face about a 5% chance that they will stray, there is about a 15% chance that a man married to a female breadwinner will cheat, the study concluded.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 10:54 PM
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Masturbation takes care of the sexual urge pretty quickly. If the urge remains afterwards, you’re craving companionship, play, and love, not sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 10:32 PM
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Why do men need women?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 10:25 PM
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Having more social training towards empathy doesn’t mean that they will respond with empathy in every situation. Empathy takes significant effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 10:12 PM
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Would you say that most of the inexperienced people in forums like these enter their first relationships as blank slates?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 09:54 PM
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On the other hand, generally speaking it isn't guys who have a problem with high income women... it's women who have a problem with guys who don't make more than they do. No, they care. Men who make less than their wives cheat at much higher rates than their wives do. I find that, for men, breadwinning increases infidelity. For women, breadwinning decreases infidelity. I argue that by remaining faithful, breadwinning women neutralize their gender deviance and keep potentially strained relationsh…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 09:10 PM
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Loneliness and romantic frustration have their own baggage.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 08:57 PM
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Around 80% of men and women 18-24 are single (meaning not married or cohabitating). While many people in that demographic have short term romances, most are not strongly attached. It’s anyone’s game. the overwhelming majority of mixed-gender social settings have far more single men than single women. This makes no sense. Most single women have deeper mixed-gender social networks than than most single men do.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 07:53 PM
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Completely understandable. Libraries and cafes are good meetup places for lessons.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 07:14 PM
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the next time you see a post on one of the dating subs about a woman who is complaining about not being able to find love, ask her about her social life. It's pretty apparent what the problem is. Agreed. The majority of struggling men have the same issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 06:37 PM
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We she in service and ignoring customers? Or was she was salaried and completing her work, despite the phone use?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 05:58 PM
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Too busy = too overloaded for the emotional/social focus dating requires
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 04:12 PM
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It doesn’t even make sense to do routine hernia screens on teen boys. It’s being phased out of routine practice.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 09:19 PM
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Female sports physicals do not include genital checks, nor do yearly comprehensive physicals. That doesn’t start until you go to the OB-GYN for the first time, unless you have symptoms that need to be looked at.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 08:35 PM
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So to prevent a minuscule amount of trans people from slipping through the cracks, you think a bunch of cisgender children should have to have their genitals examined, just in case? Really?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 08:19 PM
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Why is that more important than protecting children’s privacy and bodily autonomy?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 08:09 PM
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Yep, they’re gorgeous. I fully agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 08:04 PM
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People do that kind of thing all the time, though. You pretend to like someone’s interests as a way to connect with them or omit things about yourself that make you look bad. Prostitution is definitely an intense version of that, but I don’t think adjusting your personality and history to fit who you’d like to be now is rare or immoral.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 07:40 PM
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You really wanna be 50 with adult children and end up ruining your family because of some fact of your past that you conveniently forgot to mention? Which would be better: never having that life at all or getting divorced in your 50s?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 07:13 PM
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Obviously yes, he would also have no moral obligation to disclose that. Unless it’s impacting their life today, his history is his history.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 07:12 PM
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Unless the person wants to share it, why would it ever need to come up?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 07:00 PM
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If he went to jail for it, that’s public record and she would likely find out about it. I’d put it in the porn/divorce category. But say he was raped or sexually assaulted himself, he would definitely not need to disclose that experience unless he wanted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 06:59 PM
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The people who would have a problem with these things later in the relationship would also have a problem with it early on. Many of them would be dealbreakers for a lot of people. But if it’s not something that could impact their relationship today, then why are you obligated to disclose them?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 06:47 PM
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I don’t think anyone has a moral obligation to disclose things about themselves. Practicality reigns supreme. They may want to disclose these things to check compatibility, but they have no obligation to do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 06:17 PM
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Porn and divorce are the only ones you should definitely disclose, since there’s a record if those things and they’ll likely come to his attention at some point.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 06:00 PM
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But these kids are already made and need a home. It’s still a risk, but you’re not rolling the dice to bring them into creation. They’re already here.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 05:19 PM
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Your example looks like a textbook troll profile. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 04:15 PM
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Such a good example of the kind of thinking that’s dooming young men to singlehood. 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 04:15 PM
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You mean the thing that most governments ignored for thousands of years? Laws only changed after protest and direct action against it, so the government stepped in to restore order.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 03:51 PM
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You’re the one making the claim. I agree with u/Safinated on this issue. Governments don’t care about justice or happiness. They want order.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 03:46 PM
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No. The goal of government is peace and control.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 03:44 PM
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Example?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 03:42 PM
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Genuinely, what do you think is the goal of government?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 03:34 PM
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It’s a fair point, though. All the government cares about is that there aren’t a bunch of neglected kids running around and later creating havoc in society.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 03:27 PM
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This will encourage even more predatory and harassing behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 03:07 PM
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If the laws are in the books, some people are going to use them to excuse predatory and harassing behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 03:00 PM
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Hookers have been around forever.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 02:24 PM
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Come on, dude. You agree that men are attracted to women who can do things well. I agree that women are attracted to men who can do things well. I don’t think either of those things is necessarily about sex. Wanting a wife that will help with your lifestyle via cooking comes from the same place as wanting a husband that will help with your lifestyle via career advancement.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 02:22 PM
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Disagree, respectfully. There's a reason for many, many men, naivety is a desirable personality trait in a woman. You cannot say the same the other way around. Success does not mean financial or career success. It can be as simple as wanting a wife who knows how to cook, or who is agreeable and makes friends easily, or who didn’t struggle to graduate from high school. Men want women who can do things well, just like women want men who can do the same. Do you develop higher sexual attraction to t…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 02:12 PM
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Both men and women are attracted to successful people. But successful people still struggle with decision-making and hardship sometimes and lean on their partners for help. And it’s attractive when they do so. Think about how you feel when you help your partner do something or figure something out. Women get the same feeling of satisfaction when they help their partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 01:17 PM
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There you go again, saying that all women are the same. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 01:12 PM
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Lol must be why so many unemployed men cheat on their spouses
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 01:08 PM
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Nope
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 01:07 PM
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Opening up isn’t the problem. Refusing to work to improve the situation is what’s unattractive. For example, say you hate your job and complain about it every day. After months of that, if you’re not doing what you can to improve your situation or looking for another job, that’s unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 01:03 PM
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Lol if you think men are above this
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 12:33 PM
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Some women from older generations excuse a lot of sexism, believing it’s just part of life. The same kind of people believe that younger generations shouldn’t fight for better treatment in various arenas, since they went through similar things and came out “just fine.”
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 12:25 PM
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All men do not act the same. That’s the point.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 12:20 PM
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Here’s a few to start with: Be as physically attractive as possible and maintain that for as long as you can. Fitness, hygiene, style, etc. Be ambitious, passionate, and motivated to do well in whatever career you choose. If your field is low-paying, have a plan for how to improve your earning potential while continuing to do what you love. Build a network of male social contacts that like and respect you. Attend social events and be known to be a fun and trustworthy person. Meet women through t…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 11:29 AM
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Yes, I regret some of my hookups. I went through a time at age 20 where I was drinking too much and acting out in response to trauma. But regretting several hookups I had a decade ago doesn’t impact my life much today.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 11:19 AM
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Bandwagon fans show bigger red flags, IMHO. Only if the team is shitty in their behavior and not just their gameplay (like the Browns, lol) would it make any sense. But still a weird thing to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 11:12 AM
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Imagine I described a guy who was violent, controlling, prone to cheating, and emotionally closed off and said that he was a perfect example of AMALT. Plenty of men have those characteristics, right? And misandrists say that all men are like that. So it must be true that all men are violent, controlling, robotic cheaters, since I met one that has all the characteristics they describe.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 11:08 AM
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I know what “all women are like this” means. But the crazy girl you described is not what all women are like. Ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 11:00 AM
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What do I not know about RP? I’ve read tons of RP ideas.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 10:56 AM
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Hilarious when men try to present RP as some authority on what women do. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 10:54 AM
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Honestly, any parent with a 12 year old might be writing long passages about how irritating they are. It will get better, just like it’s gotten better for the older kid. It sounds like the biggest frustration this woman has is how her husband responds to his ex’s behavior and his children’s behavior. Childcare shouldn’t be something that’s solely her responsibility, especially when she’s not their biological parent.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 10:52 AM
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Huh? All women are not like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 10:44 AM
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Who’s a victim in that scenario? Naked people walking around in locker rooms has always been a thing and has always been weird. I grew up basically in a retirement community, so there were always super old people walking around completely naked in mine. Always bizarre.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 10:11 PM
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Men here like to say that, but nothing statistically shows that to be true. What hasn’t kept up are wages for unskilled workers, spurred on by modernization.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 07:44 PM
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Nope. The rise in dual-income families raised the standard of living we consider to be middle class. Our houses have doubled in size, we have way more luxuries and more of us have education, we now have two cars and go on overseas vacations, etc. Single income living is still possible for most Americans. They just want more.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 07:13 PM
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Do I need to prove that it’s helpful to have Spanish speakers on staff when dealing with a heavily Spanish-speaking customer base? 🤦‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 06:59 PM
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Indonesia and Suriname were some of their former colonies, so they have a big local presence there. I’d recommend it for next time you go! One in Amsterdam Centrum that I’d recommend is Kantjil & de Tiger. Great rijsttaffel and they have a cheaper takeout option, as well. Are you there right now? Which city?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 06:56 PM
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Boo. They have fantastic Indonesian and Surinamese food and delicious dairy products.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 05:54 PM
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Haha sounds good! Willow would make a great neighbor. We’ll trade produce over the fence.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 05:53 PM
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I’ve never understood people who prefer to walk around the locker room naked. There are stalls and changing rooms - use them. Reminds me of when I was a preteen and saw one of my mom’s friends there. While she was talking with me, she just stripped down completely. It was so weird and made me so uncomfortable.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 05:33 PM
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My land is my land may be my most conservative opinion. I don’t have 7 broken down cars in my yard, but if I want to have that… fuck off. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 05:29 PM
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Come on. Is Lia Thomas even ranked in the top 20 nationally?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 05:18 PM
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I think my husband would rather be dead than bow down to an HOA 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 05:10 PM
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Those people are wrong. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 05:08 PM
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You might be right. But it’s really nice to have private space away from other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 04:52 PM
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There’s never a guarantee. But you’ll have more success pursuing someone who’s your looksmatch than the alternative.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 04:50 PM
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But if the townhomes are a few blocks away from single family homes, why chose them over the alternative?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 04:49 PM
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What’s the appeal of townhouses that cost more than a single-family home?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 04:21 PM
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If you consider 5s and 6s “ugly,” then you’re proving my point. There are many 2s and 3s out there and they aren’t getting sex from Chad.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 04:06 PM
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Average girls (say 5-6) are not ugly. 8-9s are not hooking up with 2-3s.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 03:55 PM
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Seems like a move someone would make if they caught cheating, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 03:54 PM
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Why do you think hot guys are sleeping with ugly girls? Honestly bizarre.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 03:44 PM
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Since when are ugly men hitting on ugly girls? Nah. They want Stacy, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 03:29 PM
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Overall facial fullness (especially upper) is a bigger giveaway. That’s why buccal fat removal is so bizarre and shortsighted.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 03:23 PM
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Considering her own looks, it’s shocking that she thinks she can make fun of his. She’s a great villain.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 03:10 PM
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The biggest problem with Chelsea is that she’s still with Kwame. That relationship will not last, so it’s probably best to end it now. But how would they eke out that Netflix cash if they broke up early?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 03:07 PM
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Can he take care of you another way? Or can you masturbate with each other? Could be fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 02:46 PM
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Chelsea and Bliss seem pretty cool, through probably better off with men who see them as their first choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 02:45 PM
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Haha nope. Just like men, they’re made fun of and disrespected by strangers and acquaintances alike. And for those that end up in bad relationships, they stay in them for the same reasons men do: they worry they’ll be unable to find someone better.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 02:38 PM
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Yeah, no. Men aren’t approaching ugly women, unless it’s to make fun of them. Just like ugly men, ugly women are either invisible or treated with scorn.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 02:25 PM
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Apex fallacy. Most women do not have the dating experiences you describe. Perhaps you have no sympathy for women’s dating struggles because you don’t actually know what they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 02:08 PM
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Creepy people ignore verbal and nonverbal social cues. If someone shows disinterest in or dislike for you, continuing to pursue them is creepy.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 02:04 PM
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Haha yep, though she has her positive qualities. Irina, though? Monstrous.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 01:52 PM
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Lol no. Larger breasts are due to increased fatty tissue, while glandular tissue is what produces milk.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 01:18 PM
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Perhaps they mean that many young incels follow them? They used to have a cult-like following, though it seems like many of their followers have jumped over to Tate and similar influencers in the last year.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 12:39 PM
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I’m finding conflicting things online. Seems many people consider Shapiro and Peterson part of the manosphere, perhaps due to their cult-like followings among young men. But Tate and Roosh fans don’t seem to claim them.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 12:33 PM
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Yes, so are Peterson and Shapiro. The manosphere doesn’t all push the same ideology.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 12:25 PM
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Peterson and Shapiro are considered part of the manosphere, just not Red Pill.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 12:25 PM
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Ah, thanks. So they’re not speaking out against the manosphere, just red pill dating strategies. They’re considered part of the manosphere.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 12:23 PM
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When did they speak against the manosphere?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 12:02 PM
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Agreed. There are some really bizarre laws surrounding rape and parental rights/duties. Like how the rapist is required to have visitation with the child and can potentially get custody, as well. 😬
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 11:40 AM
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That’s never made sense to me. Being in the child’s life and thinking you’re their father shouldn’t give you the same requirements as a biological father.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 11:11 AM
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Unfortunately, biologically life isn’t fair. Women get pregnant and men are much stronger than women. Once the kid is here, what’s best for the child and what’s reasonable for the taxpayer take precedence.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 11:00 AM
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The big difference is that the women who feel guilty about using their voice expect a whole lot more from their husband than women who want a partnership. Making all the household decisions is a crushing amount of responsibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 10:35 PM
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Sure, some girls try to act like A. But they aren’t successful, since they aren’t robots.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 10:26 PM
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PSA: A doesn’t exist
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 10:20 PM
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Housekeeper. This isn’t that common for most North American families, though a cleaning lady coming every week or every other week is.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 10:04 PM
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It’s definitely a great work multiplier, but it still needs direction and oversight. You’re going to have a job for a while.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 09:07 PM
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So why are you telling everyone here all the things you found in her history? It looks malicious.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 09:03 PM
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This is low. I found it quickly: Sorry for terrible quality and thank you, I got a rape kit and reported it. I was gangraped four days ago and went to the hospital that night for a rape kit and STD testing and found out that everything was negative this morning, I feel relieved because none of them used a condom. I went to my doctor’s for a scheduled physical that I coincidentally had the next day and discussed what happened to me as well. I’m going to get therapy and get examined again Followed…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 08:51 PM
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Provided they had permissions, how are they useful without human direction?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 08:32 PM
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AI today is still a helpful assistant for a human operator, not a human replacement.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 08:27 PM
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Maintaining your earnings is a great reason to skip having children. 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 08:17 PM
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Who do you think have had more success with women: the average RP guy or the average married guy?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 06:54 PM
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Everyone’s struggled at some point in dating, even Chad and Stacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 06:34 PM
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Yep, that’s exactly what women are talking about when they describe coercion through physical intimidation.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 05:11 PM
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Remember ladies A man’s power comes from violence Keep that in mind when dealing with men
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 04:11 PM
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So your issue with the Queen is women taking her seriously and men developing an attraction to her?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 03:59 PM
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Dwarves are supposed to be stout. Guessing you’re not one of the folks who wanted her to have facial hair like in the books. Does it bother you that the king in the Mandalorian is white and also fat?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 03:47 PM
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Men know that we have strip clubs and hookers in the US, too, right? 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 03:30 PM
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They don’t, no genital check is required for female sports physicals.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 03:21 PM
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Almost like they’re evolutionarily made for it, right? 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 03:11 PM
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Lol nope, not common sense. You haven’t proven that men can’t leave their partners and find another. Men throughout the world do it all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 03:06 PM
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I was raised in a strict religious community and would not recommend it. The community aspect is the most attractive part, but you have to put up with too much for that benefit.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 03:05 PM
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I never had a genital check as part of a sports physical. That’s not a routine part of a female physical.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 03:03 PM
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Where does it fall apart? I genuinely believe not caring about women’s stories shows a lack of care for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 03:00 PM
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Haha I’m good on the burger, thanks. You made the claim, so however you’d like to make your case would be fine with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 02:59 PM
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Why do you want to try church?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 02:58 PM
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Prove it
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 02:50 PM
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So now you’re imposing genitalia checks on millions of children, since there’s a chance that a minuscule amount of them could be trans?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 02:50 PM
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There are differences between watching porn, reading erotica, watching a movie with a random sex scene in it, and reading a book that has a random sex scene in it. What was the book?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 02:38 PM
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Evolutionarily speaking, men have always been able to do the same. And they don’t even have to bear the costs of childbirth and aren’t expected to be active caregivers of their children.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 02:30 PM
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Sure, that’s some of them. And pretty much all video games are empowerment stories.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 02:09 PM
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Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 02:05 PM
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Movies/Series with female protagonists just dont tend to interest me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 01:59 PM
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So just say that you don’t like specific genres of shows, like those that focus on romance or empowerment. It sounds like you do enjoy some stories about women’s lives. Do you enjoy stories about male empowerment, though? And if you do, what makes them different from their female-led counterparts?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 01:58 PM
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Come on. Finding something disinteresting = not caring about it. It’s understandable if you don’t like specific genres of stories, like romance or thrillers. Excluding every story that focuses on someone of the opposite sex is nonsensical.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 01:48 PM
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It definitely does. If you believe that no stories about women are interesting, then you don’t care about women or their lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 01:30 PM
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A guy downthread just told me that he finds all stories with female protagonists disinteresting. Female protagonist isn’t a genre.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 01:25 PM
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Hilarious that finding all female-led stories disinteresting is an acceptable opinion among men.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 01:13 PM
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I can’t imagine working full time while caring for a toddler, even while WFH. That’s unreasonable and they should definitely get daycare for at least part of the week.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 01:01 PM
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Lol lots of men refuse to watch things that focus on women
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 12:56 PM
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Definitely. Ever made homemade chicken nuggets with cubed thighs? Really delicious.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 12:48 PM
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Anyone seen Sharp Objects? It focuses on female violence and trauma. Might be interesting to some of you, if you’re willing to watch something with a female protagonist.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 12:30 PM
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Thanks! You’d agree that Statistic Brain doesn’t seem like the best source, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 12:20 PM
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Can you post the actual source? That’s what I’m asking for. I want to read the actual study on this. I would definitely expect therapists to cite their sources, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 11:57 AM
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Can you find the actual source of these stats? I’m having a hard time. Just a lot of divorce lawyers and private investigators including the quote. And neither of them could possibly have a reason to post false statistics, could they? 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 11:52 AM
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Be more specific.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 04:12 PM
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Here’s an example: https://www.education.pa.gov/Documents/Early%20Learning/Early%20Learning%20Standards/Early%20Learning%20Standards%20Kindergarten%202016.pdf Pages 93+ relate to social/emotional learning.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 03:48 PM
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I’m not sure how they handle it in science and health classes, but if that were to come up in my class I would quickly remind them to get focused on our curriculum. The biological basis of gender isn’t relevant to anything I teach. If they want to have that discussion, they can do so outside of my class. If someone were bullying a student because of their gender presentation, they’d get a warning or eventually a detention and call home.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 03:45 PM
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Kids actually need to be taught how to make friends and treat others respectfully. Even when they’re out of their shell, they don’t automatically know how to make and keep friends. That’s taught at school via social / emotional learning curriculum and is a major part of elementary ed.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 03:33 PM
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What are you talking about, then? Teaching students to debate respectfully is an important part of school.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 03:20 PM
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Lol yes, of course it is. My students recently completed several Lincoln/Douglas debates about some political topics and did a great job developing their arguments.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 03:16 PM
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Nah, in K-12 it’s easy to make rubrics that consider the participation of each student. They’re doing most of the work in class, so you know who’s putting in the effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 02:48 PM
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School already requires you to talk to people of different viewpoints and work with others. I have a hell of a time forcing students to work in groups sometimes, but I do it because it’s good for them. They also have social/emotional learning instruction all throughout elementary, though the GOP is now trying to get rid of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 02:45 PM
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Anxious folks, here’s a reminder not to assume attention from strangers is automatically negative.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 02:26 PM
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That’s basically what happens once they get to school age (around 5). Most animal infants aren’t raised communally.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 12:06 PM
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Why
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 11:45 AM
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No, it benefits them reproductively. You see this in many other animals. Humans just take longer than most to leave the baby stage.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 11:44 AM
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Nah, both men and women benefit from short-term monogamy (like 5 years or so).
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 11:36 AM
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Nah, the bad comes with the good. For example, I used to be an artist, but I changed careers because I hated the lifestyle. I don’t like going to parties with strangers and convincing them to give me money, which is what the majority of being an artist is. One of my good friends from college has gotten very successful with his art, with each piece selling for hundreds of thousands and bringing him awards and cool experiences abroad. I sometimes find myself envying his lifestyle, but then I have …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 11:20 AM
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True, plenty of women who will do the same with your husband. But the person to blame in both cases is the one who broke their promises.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 10:53 PM
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That’s really sad 😢
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 10:23 PM
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It’s easier and they meet more heterosexual people.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 09:52 PM
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Eh, people can blame their parents for a lot, but once they hit mid-20s that excuse starts wearing thin. There’s plenty that can be wrong with you by your 20s and there’s little your parents to do to change it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 09:50 PM
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The parents who fuck over their kids seem to stick to two extremes: they either tell their children everything that’s wrong with them (plus more) or they refuse to admit that anything could be wrong with their child.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 09:27 PM
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But did they raise you to be like them, or tell you you deserve the best without putting in the work?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 09:25 PM
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Lol, thanks for proving my point 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 09:05 PM
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Its about all of them appearance and status is talked about the most because none of the other stuff matters without it but for most its the other way around and the issues are caused by a lack of success with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 09:00 PM
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Ugly, poor guys often get into relationships with ugly, poor women. Those who can’t even get those women also have something going on psychologically.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 08:59 PM
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Multiple men responded to this comment claiming exactly that.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 08:53 PM
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Oh now the ugly, poor guys get to have high standards? Lol, found their first psychological problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 08:50 PM
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Go hang out in a shitty bodega late on a Saturday. You’ll see plenty of ugly, poor guys going home with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 08:49 PM
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Plenty of ugly, poor guys get laid because they’re fun to be around.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 08:45 PM
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Lol you can’t be serious. 😂 If they had attractive personalities and social behavior, they would have had success with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 08:44 PM
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Plenty believe it’s completely about appearance and status.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 08:37 PM
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Men here really think there are no psychological differences between men who’ve had success with women and those who are ostracized by them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 08:31 PM
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Think back to middle school and late elementary school. Those who shoot up or mature early (male and female) are treated strangely during that time. It reverses, but it takes a while.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 07:58 PM
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Sorry dude, that’s a lot to overcome. I know you have some cash, are there programs out there that could help you focus on masking some of those behaviors?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 11:05 AM
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Some being autistic does not mean all are autistic. This study puts it at 8%: https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/00223980.2016.1175998
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 10:40 AM
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No, many use it as a crutch that allows them to act more fun around other people. That’s why it develops into an addiction for so many. Be more specific. What level of severity are you talking?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 10:37 AM
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It shouldn’t need to be said, but you claimed that you “can point to literally any school shooter and go "He's autistic" and be correct.” That’s obviously false.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 10:35 AM
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Nope, just anxiety and depression, like many non-autistic people have. Why do you think so many people lean on substances like alcohol to help with social interaction? You are way too hard on yourself physically. Keep losing weight and going to the gym, you’ll see results in how people respond to you. How are your social skills?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 10:32 AM
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So is recasting every violent person as autistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 10:27 AM
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Social interaction isn’t easy for a good portion of neurotypical people, even if it appears that way. Socializing with others can be very challenging. Honestly, it depends on the severity of the autism and the attractiveness of the person. Some people are definitely too weird to receive a warm reception from other people, especially if they also look unappealing. Others don’t have as much of an issue, since they’ve gotten good at masking and look reasonably attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 10:25 AM
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What behavior did you witness that convinced you of that? Nice job pushing those gym friendships to the bar, btw.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 10:15 AM
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That’s genuinely terrifying. I’m so sorry you experienced that.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 10:12 AM
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Unfortunately, a good portion of crime is caused by those men doing shitty things in the pursuit of grandeur.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 12:33 AM
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If my daughter wanted to marry a hardcore red-piller, she probably stopped listening to me a long time ago. So does it really matter what I think? My major concerns would be protecting her from physical abuse and encouraging her to maintain an income, which are the same concerns I would have for my son.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 06:34 PM
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As long as he’s happy and gets along with her well, what would be the problem with any of them? Remember that this was my first condition. If she wants to marry my son and he’s happy and gets along with her well, then I doubt she hates all men.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 05:56 PM
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Nah, historically they would have socially isolated the woman, just like they do today.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 12:28 PM
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Real response. The only one that could present an issue is the one who hates men. But if she wants to marry my son, then does she really hate men?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 12:05 PM
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As long as he’s happy and gets along with her well, what would be the problem with any of them?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 11:53 AM
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Getting an education as a single mother is doable, but it’s very hard and often financially infeasible. Most women I know who had children young, unmarried, and without a degree made careers in hospitality and service. You can make good money, but it’s not an easy lifestyle. Why do you assume women don’t want a career? Isn’t that what this post is about, a woman being happy she chose to get her education and start a career instead of having a child?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 11:49 AM
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So she was incentivized to divorce by sex, not money.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 11:34 AM
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Who’s likely to retire making the higher salary, someone who started at 20 or who started at 40? Starting over and working low-level jobs is hard at 40, both financially and emotionally. You don’t see many people change careers after 40, since starting over and learning a new field is incredibly disruptive.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 11:33 AM
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Nope, she would have been financially better off staying in the marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 11:14 AM
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Getting 50/50 is incredibly easy once children are 4+. Infant and toddlercare is a little different, since they don’t understand not having their primary caregiver accessible. Most fathers unfortunately don’t seek 50/50 custody, even though they could get it. It involves a significant lifestyle change that many men aren’t willing to commit to.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 11:13 AM
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Lol not my type, but you do you. Korean standards of beauty can be unreasonable, especially since plastic surgery is so common there. I do find Steven Yeun and John Cho very attractive, though. Perhaps because they have westernized mannerisms and style?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 11:01 AM
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Korean women don’t think so.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 10:58 AM
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No, given how high her income is already.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 10:50 AM
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Women getting custody more often is a major reason why they don’t benefit from divorce. The average child support payment doesn’t cover the income loss of caring for children full time.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 10:49 AM
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How about through friends, roommates, or at house parties?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 10:39 AM
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Women end up worse off than men do after divorce. They’re incentivized financially to stay married, not to divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 10:37 AM
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Fewer than 10% of divorces involve alimony.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 10:35 AM
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The majority of abortions are done with the father’s awareness and consent. Don’t act like abortion only benefits women.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 10:28 AM
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Yeah, that’s definitely socially acceptable. Doesn’t ensure success, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 06:56 PM
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The high murder rate is due to high rates of poverty and easy access to guns. Neither are found in most Western European nations. It’s not because men in the US are inherently worse than men in other nations. I find it pretty lame that you’re dunking on an entire culture of people. It’s immature and shows a strange lack of perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 12:33 PM
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I’ve also lived and dated abroad and know that there’s a huge variety in male behavior in most countries. Boiling those differences down to nationality or continent is foolish and incomplete.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 12:23 PM
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I’d guess that depends on what you consider mainstream. The religious right is a large group that commands an even larger voice in American culture and laws.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 12:21 PM
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You wrote a whole book up above. I’m just impressed by how much your statements represent the average American. 👍 Nice job maintaining your American culture despite living among Europeans.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 12:13 PM
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Most feminists in the west aren’t claiming to be oppressed by the state. They claim cultural oppression, exactly like that I described. There are numerous religious and cultural groups throughout the US that are similarly oppressive to women. Many of those groups have significant lobbying power and are currently trying to change laws to restrict women’s healthcare and get rid of other policies that support women.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 12:05 PM
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Fair enough then, have a good one.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 11:56 AM
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’Muricans are (largely) incapable of humility and self-reflection. I fucking swear, most of the people I met who are just allergic to admitting they did anything wrong yet have the most inane and stupid worldviews that go beyond any common-sense have been mostly Muricans. They have a scary tendency to form cult-like thinking and try to indoctrinate people in their same beliefs because of the nasty pride and hyper-individualism they all have. Guess you can take the girl out of America, but can’t …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 11:55 AM
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We can debate about those claims more logically if you identify the ones you’re talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 11:52 AM
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You should tell my Mormon family that since I live in the west, I deserve to have the priesthood, get into the highest level of heaven without a husband, and have the right to be in charge of our church.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 11:46 AM
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But feminism definitely isn’t a monolith. It has variety within countries and huge differences throughout the world, even when comparing rich western countries. For example, in multiple Western European countries feminists fight against allowance of the hijab. In the US, feminists fight for acceptance of the hijab. In that situation, cultural norms surrounding religious freedom impact feminist ideas. Modern feminism is an exercise in justifying female privilege through fictional oppression I don…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 11:33 AM
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Lol so silly
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 11:18 AM
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So simple, just change what you want out of life. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 11:00 AM
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If you’re actually looking for a life partner, dating is a stressful experience. If you aren’t looking for anything long term, then of course dating will feel more fun. But that’s not changing how you view dating. That’s changing what you want out of life.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 10:39 AM
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How many murders a week would be compelling for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 10:34 AM
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Dating sucks and most people hate it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 10:28 AM
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I don’t know what you’re trying to say here. What data do you have on new LGBT people? Just yesterday a man here claimed that all women are lesbians. Seems you guys are the ones pushing homosexuality.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 11:50 PM
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Huh?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 11:43 PM
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Perfect for you A++
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 10:28 PM
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Location doesn’t ensure that the person will be receptive. But it’s still the most popular way to meet a LTR partner, even within the 18-29 demographic: https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2020/08/20/a-profile-of-single-americans/psdt_08-19-20_dating-relationships-010/
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 10:19 AM
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That’s more lukewarm, since it’s a venue where people expect to attract social interest from strangers.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 10:09 AM
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They’re talking about cold approach, not lukewarm or warm. Here are some examples: Cold approach = a random girl on the street Lukewarm approach = a girl at a friend’s party Warm approach = someone you know by name at school, work, church, or through friends, etc. Lukewarm and warm are still the best ways to meet women.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 01:02 AM
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I don’t understand what point you’re trying to make. I posted this to respond to claims that female breadwinner couples divorce more. Increased cheating on the part of the man would explain some of that disparity.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 08:55 PM
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Huh? I’m female and married, though I don’t know what my personal life has to do with this post.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 08:46 PM
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From the study: For women, men’s economic dependency appears to stabilize marriage: breadwinning women were less likely to cheat. This is especially noteworthy given that breadwinning women may actually have more opportunities to engage in extramarital sex. Conceivably, breadwinning wives have more disposable income to conceal extramarital activity, and they may be more likely than economically dependent wives to work in male-dominated occupations that allow for frequent cross- gender interactio…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 03:42 PM
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Who said men bad? Read the study, it makes some interesting claims about what could be causing this.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 03:41 PM
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From the study: For women, men’s economic dependency appears to stabilize marriage: breadwinning women were less likely to cheat. This is especially noteworthy given that breadwinning women may actually have more opportunities to engage in extramarital sex. Conceivably, breadwinning wives have more disposable income to conceal extramarital activity, and they may be more likely than economically dependent wives to work in male-dominated occupations that allow for frequent cross- gender interactio…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 03:37 PM
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Even if they lose respect for their spouse, breadwinning women are still less likely to cheat. Men who earn less than their spouse are significantly more likely to cheat.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 03:21 PM
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Why post your preferences here if you aren’t looking to argue them?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 01:55 AM
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To be fair, most women don’t have dildos. They mostly buy vibrators. Many (including mine) don’t even have a penetration component.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 01:20 AM
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Haha she wasn’t my type. I like those who know their limits, especially when hanging out with a bunch of strangers.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 12:09 AM
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Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 12:03 AM
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Lol I was in a relationship for the majority of the time I was abroad. I only had sex with one person the whole time I was traveling.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 11:47 PM
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Working in another country, traveling alone, and getting to take care of a strange drunk girl? 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 10:48 PM
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Lol enlighten me 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 10:31 PM
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Lol the first time I went to Amsterdam, I was couchsurfing with another Au Pair I had never met. We were going on a pub crawl with our couchsurfing hosts and she got sloshed within the first two hours of drinking. We had to carry her home like a rag doll and I remember a bunch of Dutch folks sneering at us, which was warranted. I have no clue what she was thinking.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 10:15 PM
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Meds, therapy, exercise, good sleep, good diet, and no substances can go a long way for keeping mental health good. But I know that’s easier said than done.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 09:52 PM
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And how about for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 09:22 PM
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Desperation or no, would you marry someone you’re not in love with? And what does love mean to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 09:18 PM
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Not really. It’s just talking about details in a piece of writing and what they add to the reader’s experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 08:37 PM
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They’re not teaching students how to write stories. They’re teaching them how to analyze texts.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 08:30 PM
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Yes, absolutely. It’s like in the Pixar movie Inside Out, when previously happy memories become half sad and half happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 08:26 PM
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Single moms receive child support from Chad. You’re advocating to cover the full cost.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 08:24 PM
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Unless you’re talking creative writing professors, why would that matter? You’re not teaching students to write good stories. You’re teaching them literary analysis.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 08:18 PM
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Time off is one of the biggest selling points of being a teacher. 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 08:16 PM
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Discomfort due to broken routines and loss of experiences you could have shared in the future.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 08:15 PM
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All that paper abortions do is shift Chad’s responsibilities onto the taxpayer. Aren’t you guys always complaining about dating single moms? How is this any different?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 08:12 PM
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Get a seasonal job or move to a country where is normal to take all of August off.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 08:09 PM
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When you claim the women you interact with represent all women, that’s the response you’re going to get.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 08:06 PM
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What do you find dumb about it? I find it intense, but somewhat helpful. I think I’m a soft classic.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 01:56 AM
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This may help: https://www.kibbebodytypes.com/quiz/
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 01:56 AM
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Haha true, it is very complicated. But helpful once you identify yourself, as it helps with planning outfits that flatter you. There’s likely a male equivalent out there, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 01:33 AM
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The Kibbe Body Type test is very popular for women on SM these days. Q4M: what types do you find most attractive? Q4W: do you know your type or wish you were a certain type?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 01:18 AM
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It’s only delusional if they don’t get what they’re asking for. How do you know they won’t?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 12:55 AM
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Ok then, let’s look at county level obesity maps. I think it has less to do with political affiliation than poverty, though. Many conservative areas are just very poor.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 11:59 PM
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Haha yes, only your feelings can be trusted. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 11:30 PM
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Yes, definitely.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 11:26 PM
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Obesity prevalence by state
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 11:20 PM
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Ok, I don’t know the correct terms. What I’m saying is that most women don’t expect their men to have that physique.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 11:18 PM
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Fight club Brad Pitt is super muscular. My ideal body type is someone like Joe Keery. Not too muscular, not too skinny.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 10:53 PM
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So am I. My story isn’t unusual. Many dads choose not to be in their children’s lives, so their stepdad becomes their father.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 10:42 PM
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Most popular job in the west for young women right now is sex work,Only-fans,pornography etc Nah, it’s teaching and nursing, just like it’s been for a very long time.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 10:41 PM
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Eh, my stepdad disciplined my brother and I plenty. It’s easy to do when their father doesn’t care enough to be around. I love my stepdad and he’s much more of a father to me than my dad was. He even walked me down the aisle.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 10:39 PM
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Why? Because mothers are more likely to have custody?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 10:34 PM
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Either way, they both come with a whole lot of baggage.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 10:27 PM
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Have you been living under a rock?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 10:08 AM
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the point of being rich is to stay rich. Plenty of people would disagree here. The level of nickeling and diming in this relationship would get old. Why not just stay in a LTR? No need to marry if you’re that worried.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 01:44 AM
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What’s the point of having millions if you’re forced to live on 150k a year? This would be a very weird dynamic, but not necessarily a disqualifier.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 01:22 AM
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Disagree wholeheartedly. Protect yourself in future relationships, please. A relationship is not an excuse for mistreatment, even if it’s done out of intense “love.”
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 01:04 AM
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Lol, absolutely disagree. It’s also what causes around 30% of homicides against women to be perpetrated by their romantic partner, while only 3% of homicides against men are committed by their partners. Obsession is love that’s gone rancid.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 12:55 AM
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Obsession =/= love. If you’ve been interested in someone for decades without reciprocation, you need an intervention.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 10:35 PM
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What are they getting out of this situation? Women know not to compete so directly like that, it doesn’t end well.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 10:28 PM
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Would rather cripple society tbh. Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 10:26 PM
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Then you’ll need society to keep functioning into your old age.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 10:20 PM
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How long are you planning on living?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 10:17 PM
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How is the fertility rate not your problem? Labor is what keeps society running.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 10:08 PM
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The US fertility rate is around 1.7. Covering 1-2 years of family leave per couple seems reasonable considering how long they’re likely to be in the workforce.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 10:02 PM
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Sounds terrible
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 09:58 PM
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I am very curious why she did this. It’s so rare to have a female mass shooter.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 09:03 PM
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What if you’re over 6’2” and still can’t get laid?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 08:26 PM
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No, “vibes” is just a hippie word for instinct, subconscious thought, and situational awareness.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 03:26 PM
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What do you mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 03:10 PM
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I’m sorry you grew up with someone like that. My dad was very similar. At this point, I’ve gone no contact with him. The narcissist’s prayer may resonate with you. I don’t think that’s a gendered tendency, just a shitty person one. It’s understandable that you would connect that behavior to women, as she’s the most significant woman in your life. I hope you have or will find a LTR partner who makes you feel listened to and cared for.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 12:03 AM
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Lol guessing you weren’t around then? That definitely wasn’t the case. Feminism was huge then.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 11:58 PM
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BRUTUS: Who here is so low that he would be a willing slave? If any, speak, for it is him I have offended.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 11:55 PM
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Anybody defending that woke doesn't exist is 100% an insufferable woke asshole that gets mad if someone says "latino/latina" instead of "latinx" and thinks white western women are oppressed because they aren't 50% CEO's. Argument tactics straight out of Julius Caesar 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 11:50 PM
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You’re here, aren’t you? 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 11:41 PM
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Are you seeing this happen in real life? Or mostly online?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 11:33 PM
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Bad vibe = person makes you anxious or wary for some unknown reason Good vibe = they make you feel relaxed, like you can let your guard down
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 11:02 PM
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Warm approach = people who know your name socially or through school/work, Lukewarm approach = strangers you meet at a friend’s party, at church, weddings, business events, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 10:56 PM
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Unfortunately, by the time they’re an adult most women have had scary experiences with men. It’s sensible to be cautious when interacting with them, especially given the power difference. What kinds of things do you believe women in the 90s understood that they don’t today?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 10:39 PM
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Depends what for.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 10:26 PM
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Were there any features you loved, wished you had, or found unnecessary? Lol at that CEO bit. Are they still together or was it just a fling?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 10:22 PM
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Who needs grooming when interacting with men since childhood tells us everything we need to know?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 10:13 PM
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Yeah, though Harbor Freight doesn’t always have the best quality. Do you have a miter saw that you like and which features made it worth the price?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 10:09 PM
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Yes, of course. All throughout Reddit and other places on the internet. This place is specifically where opposing camps come together. If he doesn’t want to talk to women, it may not be the place he’s looking for. Hell, even this place is 70% male. Plenty of places that are 90+.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 09:51 PM
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Getting a service job one day a week is a great help with that. Removes the hardest part, too: why they’re talking to her.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 09:49 PM
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Any recommendations on a good, entry-level miter saw? I’m looking to start building my own frames.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 09:26 PM
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Enjoy! Nothing like releasing nervous energy and emotion through intense exercise.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 09:23 PM
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Why are you here, then? There are some male-only spaces where you could share your ideas.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 09:22 PM
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Eh, cold approaches usually aren’t successful. But you are right about getting out there and being social. Best is to build up your male friendships so you can meet more women via warm and lukewarm approach.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 09:10 PM
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Yeah, that’s dumb. Kids can learn the golden rule way earlier than that. Ideally, they’ll learn that before they head to school. Lol that reminds me of my nanny days, when I took care of a 5 year old who would regularly ruin my drawings when we would color together. One day, I made a mark back on her paper. She got enraged and crumpled up my paper, so I crumpled hers. She screamed that she wanted her drawing back how it was before, so I told her that’s what I wanted, too. After she calmed down a…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 08:30 PM
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It’s normal for the groom to ask his parents what they think of the bride and vice versa. But the opposite partner asking for permission from the other’s parents is very strange in this day and age.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 08:34 PM
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all the research suggests that men care far less about socioeconomic status in their partners than women. No it doesn’t. Class has one of the biggest impacts on who we choose for our partners. That phenomenon is referred to as assortative mating and has tons of research to back it up.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 08:09 PM
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Would it also make sense for the bride to ask the groom’s mother for permission?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 07:20 PM
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My husband asked my parents for their blessing, which wouldn’t have been my preference. It’s something the guy does for himself, not for the woman. If it makes him feel good to do, then whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 06:55 PM
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Lol, you’re the silliest.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 05:59 PM
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Lol, fortunately life doesn’t offer binary choices like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 05:49 PM
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So women are causing these male educators to abuse their students?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 05:38 PM
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What explanation do you have for why male educators are so much more likely to abuse their students?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 05:34 PM
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If you’re getting what you want out of it, why care what society thinks?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 05:26 PM
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People have always disliked hypocrisy.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 05:20 PM
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Male educators make up between 70-85% of school sexual abuse perpetrators, despite making up less than 30% of educators.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 05:10 PM
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Hahaha
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 05:01 PM
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Lol if you don’t want to talk about it, feel free not to respond. You bring up something about gender dynamics in Alaska, I bring up a related thing. That’s how conversation works.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 04:53 PM
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Gender dynamics?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 04:50 PM
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Lol you really haven’t looked at the rape statistics for male teachers, have you? 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 04:50 PM
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Gender dynamics in Alaska. Don’t you find it interesting?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 04:49 PM
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Alaska has very weird gender dynamics. The rape rate is insane when compared to the rest of the US. I don’t have any explanation for why. Rurality isn’t a good enough explanation. https://www.statista.com/statistics/232563/forcible-rape-rate-in-the-us-by-state/
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 04:44 PM
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Isn’t the allegation that they brought her to their houses because they wanted to have sex, she drugged them so they would pass out, and she stole their stuff? Thieves are shitty, but I’d say rapists are worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 04:26 PM
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Lol I think it’s just must be a common male fantasy, being forced to impregnate lots of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 03:37 PM
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It matches the plot of actual erotica I have read before 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 03:32 PM
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Is this erotica? Sounds like erotica.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 03:27 PM
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I’m not the one arguing I know what it means to be a man. It’s very silly and overconfident to assume you know all of the struggles of the opposite sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 03:23 PM
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Where’d you learn about the realities of being a woman? Certainly not through your years of being a man. Definitely hubris.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 03:19 PM
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If you believe that women are so incapable of understanding what men face, how can you be so certain you understand what women face? Hubris to the max.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 03:14 PM
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You need to push to hang out with them outside of the gym. Like hanging out at their house, partying together, or renting vacation houses together, etc. That’s how you meet the women in their lives and the single women their S/Os are close with.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 03:05 PM
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Why not? Are they not your friends? Don’t you spend time with each other in mixed gender settings?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 03:01 PM
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Even now i feel like I am pretending to feel how I feel. I don't know what love feels like. If I ever get into a relationship a lot of the performance will be based on movies books and what my friends do. That’s how most people start out with dating. Nobody knows how to be a partner or how to love someone until they’re given the opportunity to test it out. We all start out as a bunch of pretenders with imposter syndrome.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 12:49 PM
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Unless society goes fully online (a la Ready Player One), I’d wager that the majority of relationships will still start in person. Social proof is hugely important for forming connections. Sub 5s have always struggled with dating. No doubt, being ugly makes things a lot harder.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 11:38 AM
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Even among the 18-29 demographic, the vast majority of people are meeting their LTR partners in real life. https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2020/08/20/a-profile-of-single-americans/psdt_08-19-20_dating-relationships-010/
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 11:16 AM
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Ok, what does that have to do with anything I said? Most people aren’t in serious relationships when they’re younger. That’s true for men and women. The attraction they have to partners in their mid-20s is genuine and likely the most serious interest they’ve shown anyone. Older men arguably don't select partners based on utility anywhere near as much as older women do. So men don’t look for women who want to have children, cook, and care for their home? Or look for women who have college degrees…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 11:15 AM
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Even within the 18-29 demographic, the vast majority of people are still meeting LTR partners in real life situations. I work in a high school and see kids form friendships everyday, so I’m not sure why you believe that your generation has a friendship gap. Most men and women in the 18-24 demographic aren’t involved in serious relationships. Pew should split their strata from 18-29 to 18-24 and 25-29, since the majority of serious relationships in that group are likely happening in the older gro…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 11:09 AM
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Sounds like a more pressing need than finding a woman. Make some friends (at work, school, outside pastimes, etc.) that have girlfriends and wives. Go to parties and events with them, meet their sisters or the friends of their wives, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 10:59 AM
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Yes. Though I don’t think I’ve ever seen a female friend or relative wear the same dress for multiple weddings with overlapping guest lists.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 02:56 AM
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Most women I’ve talked occasions with. Keep in mind that I’m talking about major social events like weddings, not everyday life.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 02:52 AM
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Don’t do it. Meet women through your IRL contacts. Speed dating is uncomfortable for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 02:48 AM
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It’s definitely frowned upon. You can wear the same dress to multiple fancy events if different people will be attending those events. Otherwise, you need to wear something different. Men can wear the same suit to work, a party, a wedding, and a funeral.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 02:46 AM
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But plenty of women already have children with men who have no income or very few prospects. This would just encourage men with means to take fewer precautions, since the taxpayer would end up paying for his children.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 02:43 AM
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Most people (men and women) aren’t looking for serious LTRs between 18-22. They like the idea of love, but are much less in love with the commitment and self-sacrifice required. They start wanting that around their mid-twenties, so they start pursuing it. That’s usually when they start strongly pursuing financial well-being, as well. Most 27 year olds simply want different things than most 20 year olds (and that’s true for both genders).
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 02:22 AM
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Lol how? By encouraging women to avoid them? Because that’s what this advice will do.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 01:58 AM
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So talk to your wife, then.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 01:57 AM
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That’s not a problem for them, though. What you do with your Ferrari is your business, not theirs.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 01:54 AM
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But what do they gain by leaving social media?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 01:51 AM
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What do they “need” to do this for?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 01:49 AM
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No, keep losing. That’s the biggest thing you had going wrong for you. Congrats on your weight loss! It takes a lot of focus to stay an attractive weight. I also doubt you can objectively see the improvement weight loss makes for your face.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 01:07 AM
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Judge them all you want. But if there’s change you want, this is an exercise in futility.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 12:47 AM
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Most women are in serious LTRs or married by their late 20s, most men but their early 30s.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 12:46 AM
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Most grow out of it very quickly, don’t you worry. 20 year olds are idiots.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 12:44 AM
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Perhaps you should rail against tech enslavement instead of women, then. Otherwise, what’s the point?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 12:43 AM
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They sound sensible, don’t you think?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 12:42 AM
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Great explanation of how they’re not delusional, thanks for the assist. 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 12:40 AM
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Are you offering a solution or just whining?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 12:39 AM
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How are they delusional if most women end up married or cohabitating by their late 20s? And most men by their early 30s?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 12:35 AM
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I doubt it. Many women willingly have children with men they know won’t be able to financially provide for their children.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 11:34 PM
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Isn’t Chad ruining most men’s lives already? Now you want to pay for his child support, too?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 11:24 PM
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Yep, tech is the one that requires the least amount of education. Others with a good work/life balance (but require more education) include engineering, chem, data science, accounting, and non-emergent medical fields like dentistry, orthodontry, family medicine, and optometry.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 11:23 PM
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What are you considering rich? There are many jobs that will provide salaries between $100-250k, if that’s what you’re looking for. More than that requires more luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 11:14 PM
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Those two lines are making the same claim. Relationship status isn’t important between 18-24 because most people aren’t looking for something serious during that time. Their lives are in too much flux.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 10:34 PM
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Most people (men and women) aren’t looking for serious LTRs between 18-22. They like the idea of love, but are much less in love with the commitment and self-sacrifice required. They start wanting that around their mid-twenties, so they start pursuing it. That’s usually when they start strongly pursuing financial well-being, as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 10:24 PM
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Yeah, my relationships between 18-21 were also more short-term and started getting more serious around 22. I’m married now to someone I met when I was 24. That’s a common story for most of my female friends, too. Dating sucks, but you have every reason to be hopeful. Having shallow relationships when you’re young is as normal as it gets (for both men and women).
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 09:42 PM
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What do you believe 18-24 year olds get to do that 25+ do not? Your age lets me know if you’ve actually experienced the hellscape you’re describing. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 09:37 PM
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That’s also what’s happening for most women during that time. Most people aren’t in serious relationships during college. Pew needs to split their young demographics to 18-24 and 25-29, since the majority of serious relationships in the 18-29 demographic are happening for those between 25-29.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 09:31 PM
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How old are you?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 09:03 PM
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They say this like they wouldn’t have messed around with as many Stacies as possible had they had the opportunity. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 08:33 PM
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Yep, best time to get married for the first time is between 25-34.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 08:29 PM
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Who cares why they choose to settle down? Both men and women look to get into serious LTRs in their late 20s and most of them are successful.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 07:50 PM
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How do you know that’s not true?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 07:40 PM
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Lol what is this question about? I don’t follow.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 07:40 PM
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I’m not sure what you’re arguing at this point. Seems we agree that the majority of young people aren’t in serious enough relationships to live together at 18-24, but get more serious in their late 20s.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 07:40 PM
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The majority of men 18-24 (69%+) had sex in the past year, so the majority are having situationships or relationships during that time.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 07:21 PM
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They’re not largely alone, though. 69%+ of men 18-24 had sex in the past year, so the majority are having situationships or relationships during that time.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 07:16 PM
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People who’ve been in a relationship for a long time are likely to move in together. Yes they do, lots meet at college and then stay together afterwards. I was living with my first proper GF at 20. Then you would have been considered part of the 11% of men who were doing the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 07:14 PM
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The Current Population Survey is looking at cohabitation and marriage among each cohort. That’s a great way to look at length and intensity of each relationship, IMO. Very few young people maintain serious relationships that involve living together or marrying. But once they hit their late 20s and early 30s, most are able to.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 07:03 PM
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I disagree for the 18-24 demographic. You change a lot over that period of time, so marrying or moving in with a romantic partner is a foolish choice at that age.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 07:02 PM
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Lol that definitely wasn’t my experience. 30s have been awesome so far. Still healthy and reasonably attractive, but with the money, respect, and confidence to do more of what you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 06:58 PM
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Settling is primarily messaging women in the 18-24 demographic, but ending up with women in their own age range. Most men aren’t even pursuing women far outside their age group.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 05:49 PM
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Although men at every age seem to be attracted to very young women, they most often message women who are closer to their own age. The age range of women men say they're most interested in tends to fall within their own age range.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 05:34 PM
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Can you link one of those surveys? What they find most physically attractive over time isn’t necessarily relevant to who they primarily pursue.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 05:02 PM
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Not really, though. Most couples are within 5 years of each other, likely due to practical and personality reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 04:48 PM
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What problem are you alluding to and what’s your proposed solution? Seems reasonable that over 80% of men and women are single between 18-24.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 04:43 PM
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Sure, but we do have measurements. Studies that show sex within the last year show much lower percentages celibate.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 04:11 PM
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Waiting until your mid-20s to look for something serious seems to lead to the best results, since it means less time cohabitating before marriage. Lowest rates of divorce are those who get married between 30-34, with 25-29 closely following.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 04:07 PM
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Once you have grown out there is not much to grow together with anymore. Hard disagree. People keep growing and changing throughout their lives. Statistics are clear that early marriage leads to higher rates of divorce. https://ifstudies.org/blog/want-to-avoid-divorce-wait-to-get-married-but-not-too-long
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 04:04 PM
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What about your links says anything about casual encounters? It identifies singlehood as not being in a “married, cohabitating, or in a committed, romantic relationship.”
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 04:02 PM
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A third aren’t cohabitating or married, but that doesn’t mean they’re sexless or even romantically single. I’d guess that at least 15% of that group is in a LTR, but living separately.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 03:48 PM
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That’s not what young people usually even want, though. They want fun, sex and maybe love. But ONS and situationships are the exact things that aren’t quantified in the Pew study or this one. It’s an error to assume that listing themselves as single means that those men aren’t having sex or short-term fun. Studies that show sexual activity in the last year have much lower percentages celibate, for example.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 03:44 PM
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That’s not what statistics show. People who marry younger are more likely to divorce. https://ifstudies.org/blog/want-to-avoid-divorce-wait-to-get-married-but-not-too-long
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 03:33 PM
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Why? What makes that situation preferable to finding someone when you feel ready? That seems to lead to a lot of divorces and breakups.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 03:29 PM
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Agreed. Most 18-24 year olds are involved in situationships, not serious romances. And for most young people, that’s what they want. There’s so much changing at that point in life that committing to someone seems foolish. Mid 20s, though? That’s a great time to start looking.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 03:27 PM
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Why? Most people change a lot over time and learn more about the kind of people they want to be with. I think it’s great that people don’t have to commit to a partner early.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 03:25 PM
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Because most young people are single and that reads true historically, as well. The 50s and 60s had a weird drop in average marriage age, but go back further and it normalizes. In 1900, for example, the median age of marriage was 26 for men and 23 for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 03:17 PM
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The study looks at marriage and cohabitation.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 03:16 PM
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The Current Population Survey is looking at cohabitation and marriage among each cohort. That’s a great way to look at length and intensity of each relationship, IMO. Very few young people maintain serious relationships that involve living together or marrying. But once they hit their late 20s and early 30s, most are able to.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 03:15 PM
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At the 18-24 demographic, it’s likely more to due with those in college, roommate shifts, traveling, and changing careers. It’s a major time of flux. I had 8 different living situations between 18-24, for example.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 03:10 PM
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But 82% of those women are also single. The 7% difference between men and women is due to those older men dating younger.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 03:07 PM
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89% of young men are single and 82% of young women are single. If that’s an unfairness, they should place the blame on older men.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 03:05 PM
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No. Why would 18-24 year olds owning houses be important? Many live at home or rent, since they’re living very transient lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 03:02 PM
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Wasn’t sure if my title was too leading for a discussion post. I can change the flair if you think it will pass. One question could be: Is the rise in singlehood in the 18-24 demographic important if long term success is still achievable?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 03:00 PM
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Because most people young people are single and that reads true historically, as well. The 50s and 60s had a weird drop in average marriage age, but go back further and it normalizes. In 1900, for example, the median age of marriage was 26 for men and 23 for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 02:58 PM
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It’s absolutely actionable advice. He’s saying to build up your social networks IRL, so you have the opportunity to meet women in person.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 10:42 AM
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Meeting women in clubs is not an easy way to find a relationship. Much better to build up your male social contacts and meet women through soft/lukewarm approach, not cold. Social proof is important.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 10:38 AM
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In the contexts where this is being used (clinical and legislative), it makes sense. They want to refer to everyone who could be affected, including those who don’t match the majority.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 10:23 AM
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Eh, doesn’t bother me if it’s referring to the entire group of people who rely on female healthcare. That can include women, trans men, non-binary people, whatever. Those people are affected by healthcare restrictions, as well. Most people aren’t using that in everyday life. That would be weird, especially when referring to a specific person who isn’t non-binary or trans.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 01:28 AM
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He’ll likely do fine. Give him some time. He did get a woman to marry him and stay with him for over a decade.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 12:55 AM
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Ok, if she already sent nudes, then that’s more acceptable. 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 12:52 AM
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Someone you’ve already had sex with?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 12:47 AM
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No to camping, let’s clear out the dead bodies in the nicest house nearby and enjoy. 👍 Even better if they have a solar generator, gas appliances, and plenty of cleared land for crops and livestock.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 12:29 AM
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Lol nope, rapists actually rape people.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 10:57 PM
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Yes, how ridiculous that those who rape and coerce others into sex would have higher n- counts.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 10:48 PM
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u/questioningfeminist A perfect example.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 10:26 PM
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They grow up being told by culture that men always want to have sex. And if they don’t, then there must be something wrong with the woman. Obviously that’s inaccurate, but that takes time to learn.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 10:12 PM
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That’s really bizarre. Are you sure they’re being honest about their contributions? For the majority of couples, the woman makes 30-40% and the man makes 60-70% of the family income. Most couples put the majority of that towards shared expenses, with some money pooled in separate accounts for savings and fun money.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 09:53 PM
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Lucifer got to do all the cool shit, that’s what happened. You never struck me as religious. Are you?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 09:41 PM
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Who do you know who has told you they expect their boyfriend to cover all their expenses? That doesn’t represent the behavior of any women I know.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 09:39 PM
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Nah, there are plenty of very attractive guys in math and science. What’s yours?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 09:06 PM
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Also mostly math and science guys. That’s always been attractive to me. Keep in mind, though, smart in math and science =/= physically unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 08:53 PM
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Yep, I married a programmer. I’m very artsy myself, but have always liked math and science guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 08:42 PM
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Money makes a big impact on your life. The jobs I listed are well-paying, but have fairly good work/life balances.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 08:35 PM
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For men: Jobs in tech Internal medicine, Dentistry, orthodontry, and optometry Engineering and chem jobs Data science Accounting
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 08:20 PM
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He didn’t get that satisfaction, fortunately. I’m pretty good at being deadpan in the classroom.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 02:46 AM
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This guy was charged and received jail time for his actions. I’m not seeing the humor in this situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 02:33 AM
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The female order is separate from the men’s. Isn’t that what you were asking for? A male only space? They exist, as I said. Which female-only groups are common for women to join?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 02:21 AM
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Yep. They’re all over PA. Here’s one local lodge: https://www.infinityfreemasons.com/join
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 02:18 AM
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Freemasons are pretty huge in my area and they’re still male only (there’s a female equivalent, but they don’t mix). What kinds of female-only groups do you think adult women are joining, anyhow? They’re just as uncommon.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 02:09 AM
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Lots of men have male only roommates and participate in male-only fraternities, sports teams, and social clubs.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 01:57 AM
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That is super creepy, though. She’s protecting her children.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 12:41 AM
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Those guys are known for domestic violence, so they’re good to avoid.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 12:36 AM
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Yeah, I had to stop one group from going into more detail. Earlier in the week I had to prevent another group from including it. The kid was joking about including info about his “female sparring partner.” It was odd. I’m used to some off color jokes from my 16 year old students, but not jokes about domestic violence.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 12:35 AM
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My students gave presentations on the topics of their choice today. It was nice to see their interests. Lots of games as expected, plus musicians and sports players. But so many of the guys chose players that had domestic violence records. It was bizarre. I even had to cut one group off because they were going into too many details. Why would they choose to focus on someone like that?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 12:28 AM
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For men: * Police * Corrections * Military * Sports players
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 12:20 AM
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What’s wrong with flight attendants, businesswomen, and hairdressers?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 12:16 AM
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Ok, agree to disagree, then. Are you moving with a little less speed in your relationships these days?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 12:12 AM
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Glad to hear it, but your relationship would have progressed differently had you proposed later. That’s obvious.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 12:07 AM
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Some do, others do not. Once, a friend of a friend refused to have a philosophical conversation because he said I was “too soft.” This was the first time I had met the guy. But I’m not going to waste my time trying to prove to a stranger that I’m serious enough to talk to. His loss, my gain.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 12:06 AM
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Lol come on, your entire relationship would have been different if you waited a year. My mother wishes she knew my dad for longer before getting married (they divorced), but she still recommends young people to marry young and without much relationship experience. If I made Boomer jokes, this would be a perfect place for one. 😂 You guys really love making it legal.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 11:48 PM
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Eh, some philosophers from the time were skeptics. No doubt many laypeople felt similarly, but didn’t write it down. Studying margin additions in illuminated manuscripts is a trip, too. Some monks were pretty crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 11:08 PM
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Many think pieces and studies are written about this stuff, with people trying to empathize with and understand those who go towards the extremes. For example: https://www.theatlantic.com/politics/archive/2017/05/white-working-class-trump-cultural-anxiety/525771/ https://newrepublic.com/article/138754/blame-trumps-victory-college-educated-whites-not-working-class https://as.vanderbilt.edu/news/2020/07/29/political-science-research-debunks-myths-about-white-working-class-support-for-trump/ https:…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 10:24 PM
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All the good advice is just common sense (which existed as part of the status quo long before RP): Look healthy and fit, have a good job and friend group, groom yourself, and learn social cues.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 10:17 PM
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Yeah. Especially from trauma or loss, which is a regular thing in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 10:10 PM
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Not completely. People change. But it is advisable to know someone for at least a year before making things more serious.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 09:52 PM
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If you have a lot of shrinkage, see if they’ve been trained in dry cutting. This video seems like it could be helpful: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yOgu_Id_yHk
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 09:12 PM
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That probably looked more dressed up. And yeah, your daughter likely has your name and looks like you, so one more reminder of you isn’t going to do much.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 09:02 PM
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My comment wasn’t calling RP a hate group (though some of the things they say are pretty hateful), but pointing out that existence =/= truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 08:56 PM
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Assuming your kids resemble you, you’re likely reading things into it. She probably wanted her to wear something more dressed up.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 08:52 PM
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I don’t think I’ve met many people who openly connect their shitty behavior with their traumatic experiences. Very few people are willing to admit when they’ve been the villain.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 08:47 PM
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Ugh, that is frustrating. I also have curly hair and not every stylist knows how to handle it. What kinds of cuts do you normally ask for?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 08:45 PM
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Red Pill’s existence doesn’t validate its positions. Plenty of hate groups exist that offer no value to society.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 08:42 PM
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What do you mean by weaponizing trauma?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 08:35 PM
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Why are you trying so hard to avoid a haircut, then?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 08:32 PM
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This is just how to make your girlfriend break up with you or cheat on you.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 08:19 PM
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Why are you surprised you have to get a haircut every two years? Split ends look like trash.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 08:11 PM
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How much time or karma do users need to have to post? I see many accounts posting who have very little history.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 06:49 PM
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Sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 01:36 AM
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A few times a week.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 01:35 AM
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That’s a fantastic idea. u/Mrs_Drgree?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 01:25 AM
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That’s great! After your first solo trip, you should hopefully feel less worried about your parents’ reaction to traveling. Do they let kids on the plane alone? For kids from 5-11, you have to pay an unaccompanied minor fee, which pays for a flight attendant to check on you and hang out with you after the flight until you get picked up. It also pays for babysitting if you have a layover or get delayed. 12+, you can travel solo. The first few times I traveled completely solo were scary, but also …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 12:30 AM
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Sounds like a barrier you need to push yourself to overcome. Start out with close flights within Western Europe. Air travel is very safe, especially when compared to car and pedestrian travel. I flew alone frequently as a kid, since my parents were divorced and lived across the country from each other. It’s scary at first, but you get used to it. Most stressful part is making your connecting flight, which can be avoided by booking direct.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 12:12 AM
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If she won’t let you pay for her flight, can you fly to see her?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 11:58 PM
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Unfortunately, that describes many men here.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 11:56 PM
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So which is it: one night stands don’t mean a man desires you, but also marriage and cohabitation doesn’t mean he desires you? We have lots of data on marriage and cohabitation, from the census and various surveys, though few recent studies have been done on it. The studies we have make it clear that people typically choose those within 5 years of each other for LTRs. Scroll to the last page to see the table of percentages.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 11:56 PM
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Actual cohabitation and marriage data.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 11:22 PM
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Perhaps they’re reacting to comments like this one: The reality is the only thing women really do give in turn for everything a man gives is sex. Not saying there's anything necessarily wrong with that, but that's the fundamental reality that everyone wants to look over. Anything beyond that? Women start manufacturing made-up terms and complaining about having to do anything in the relationship (including even having sex itself).
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 11:06 PM
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Ah, the study that proves that older women are more willing to message men on apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 10:55 PM
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Lol a 32 year difference? Post that study. Most couples are within a few years of each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 10:46 PM
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Cheez-Its
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 09:30 PM
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How is domestic violence a pink pill?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 07:45 PM
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Lull didn’t say a woman called him creepy on the escalator. He said that he feels like he seems creepy. I tried to help him get past that fear by sharing how some women feel about men on the escalator.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 10:25 AM
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Technically there has been a crime, but it’s not worth it to them to pursue consequences from the state when they can dole out the consequences themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 10:22 AM
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Most people don’t pursue charges when they’re touched without consent by someone they’re friendly with, even in situations that cross the line (like those I mentioned). It’s more likely that they’d just break up or complain to their social circle.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 01:08 AM
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Perhaps, but I’ve also never heard friends complain about creepy men on the escalator. My comment was meant to be encouraging, btw.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 01:01 AM
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Here are things many wives provide their husbands: childbirth, childcare, financial support, housework, cooking, family shopping, sex, physical touch, emotional support, hostessing and social planning, lifestyle planning, disability and elder care, etc..
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 12:47 AM
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Ok, but I’m telling you that as a woman this has never been something that sticks out as creepy. Perhaps because I associate escalators with public transit, when we’re already packed together like sardines.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 12:44 AM
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You’re misunderstanding. I’ve never thought the man behind me on the escalator was creepy.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 12:37 AM
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Don’t need to, they’re obvious. Every single relationship we have is somewhat self-serving.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 12:33 AM
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She can be insufferable, so her biggest fans must be fine with that kind of behavior. I do enjoy her music though, despite her craziness.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 12:23 AM
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Seems we have fundamental moral disagreements here, best to end the discussion where it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 12:17 AM
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You don’t need to have personal experience with every situation to help people develop healthy coping strategies. You’re misunderstanding what therapists are trained to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 12:13 AM
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What do firearm ownership and military service have to do with anything we’ve been discussing here?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 12:06 AM
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A+, creepy
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 12:04 AM
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Huh? This is never something I have thought about. We all have to go up the escalator sometimes. Just keep 1-2 steps between you and you’ll be fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 12:00 AM
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Fortunately, most women (and men!) are somewhere in the middle.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 11:59 PM
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Still trashy, plus most people won’t hear the backstory.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 11:42 PM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 11:40 PM
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Men also get free public education, for themselves and their children. And that’s been widespread since the late 1800s.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 11:33 PM
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Good luck telling your hot female friends they can’t bring their less attractive friends along with them. It will not go well.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 11:26 PM
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Trashy
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 11:19 PM
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Women in their 60s can still get it. 👍 But also, ew.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 10:56 PM
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I’d much rather work with a 40 year old than a 21 year old. 21-year-olds still have a lot to learn and a lot of hubris to swallow.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 10:47 PM
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People can definitely love you, but you likely won’t be a good partner until you sort your self-esteem out. Blue pill.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 10:35 PM
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If she asks you not to and you keep doing it, then yeah. If you do it in a scenario when you know it would be unwelcome (like in front of her whole family or at work), then that would also be crossing a line.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 10:33 PM
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Find a girl who wants an open relationship and it will be the perfect scenario for you. Otherwise, your lifestyle goals won’t remain met because you’ll end up divorced.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 10:16 PM
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Relationships are also self-serving for men. That’s what it means to be human: your survival rate improves if you have help from family members and cooperate with the surrounding community.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 10:07 PM
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Most men actually do mature, though, just as women do. My husband and I joke about how we would have hated each other if we met in college. Certain behavior suggests someone can’t be redeemed, but the majority of foolish college-aged tendencies people grow out of.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 09:45 PM
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Don’t know why working together to meet shared lifestyle goals would qualify cheating.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 09:40 PM
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Nothing new about marriage as a working partnership.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 09:28 PM
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Can you link the post? I don’t know what you’re referring to.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 09:16 PM
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Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 09:15 PM
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Age definitely moderates emotional responses and gaining experience can improve success in many areas. Some of that is due to biological changes, some from experience getting battered by the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 09:14 PM
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The Pew poll was taken in 2019 and shows that the vast majority are still meeting in-person. https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2020/08/20/a-profile-of-single-americans/psdt_08-19-20_dating-relationships-010/
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 09:06 PM
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Even more reason for women to stop having kids. 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 09:03 PM
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But what did you think love was? Because it’s never been something completely pure-hearted and golden. A lot of it is self serving, since that’s part of surviving as a human.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 09:00 PM
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Young men also get more sensible as they age (fortunately). It’s called maturing and is a natural part of getting older.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 08:48 PM
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Taylor Swift is a great example of how even Stacy can struggle with self-esteem issues and finding love. 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 08:46 PM
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Describe what love means to you. What kind of connection did you grow up imagining?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 08:44 PM
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Most single mothers aren’t on public assistance. https://www.statista.com/statistics/681088/us-pubilc-assistance-status-of-children-living-with-single-mothers-by-marital-status/
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 08:37 PM
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I have 4 sets of grandparents (from stepparents) and 2/4 seemed like love matches. Of the other two, one was a poor match on personality (so neither husband nor wife were particularly satisfied) and the other had a philandering husband who she lived apart from for years (but never divorced).
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 08:28 PM
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Then it’s even more likely that you’re feeling the pull to be with someone longterm.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 10:41 AM
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You’re in college, right? If you’re not ready for another committed relationship, that’s fine. But that’s likely what you’re craving when you feel empty at the end of sex: a stronger connection.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 10:28 PM
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You’re growing up and wanting a more committed relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 10:15 PM
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If you challenge paternity within 60 days of signing, that’s overturned.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 10:13 PM
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I’m thinking it’s the attractiveness of the women. That must be it… Lol. Surely this is satire.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 09:56 PM
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Why does the mother need to know about the paternity test? Some baby saliva and some saliva from dad is all that’s needed.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 09:45 PM
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Depends on why. Did she stop using BC due to health reasons?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 09:20 PM
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Most women work and provide for their families. Marriage is a partnership where you both work and pool your resources to meet shared goals.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 08:45 PM
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There isn’t much need for it to be automatic, but I don’t understand countries that require both parents to consent for the test to be done. Both parents should be able to ask for it on their own.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 08:03 PM
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I’m aware you talked about the WNBA, but pairing the two was a bit slimy, don’t you think? Two completely different situations.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 10:53 PM
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Women say more than just things about feminism. Research how female celebrities and politicians are treated when they try to complain about serious issues throughout the world or even their own lives. People always have something to say.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 10:52 PM
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If you’re going to call out US women’s soccer, don’t try to suggest they are operating at a loss. They make more than the US men’s soccer team.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 10:46 PM
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Sorry, but I just completely disagree here. There’s tons of evidence of women being attacked and ridiculed for expressing frustration with the status quo.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 10:44 PM
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I know that as a woman, I regularly have to soften my language with phrases like “if that makes sense” and smiles, just to not be assumed to be a demanding bitch. I know that studies show if I try to negotiate a higher hiring salary, I’ll be less likely to be offered one and more likely to have the offer pulled. I know that if I make a complaint/warning or try to get medical care, my words are less likely to be taken seriously. People do not listen to women like you think they do.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 10:37 PM
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Nope, women who do the same are frequently attacked or made fun of, as well. Gamergate, anyone? That doesn’t mean that they should stop trying to spread their message. But it’s a regular part of social discourse for both men and women, especially online.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 10:26 PM
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You realize that saying “Society, here’s what’s wrong with you” is different from asking for help, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 10:21 PM
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Say we have a married couple with two kids and a SAHM. To fall under the poverty line, the husband would need to make under $28k. All members of the family would be considered living below the poverty line, including the father. To fall under the poverty line as a single parent living with one child, the parent would need to make under $18k.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 09:08 PM
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It’s calculated using census and tax data, so it records gender and age, as well. Here’s more information on it: https://www.census.gov/library/publications/2022/demo/p60-277.html Much of the difference in poverty levels between men and women is likely tied to the percentage of single women living with children.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 08:13 PM
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Ok, enjoy!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 08:09 PM
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The poverty rate looks at income per household.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 08:07 PM
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Incentives don’t seem to be working in other countries.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 07:59 PM
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That’s how a bell curve works: a lower bottom and a lower top indicate a lower average.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 07:58 PM
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Yep, those whose income falls below the poverty line: https://www.statista.com/statistics/233154/us-poverty-rate-by-gender/
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 07:49 PM
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https://www.statista.com/statistics/233154/us-poverty-rate-by-gender/ I’m not just talking about the 1%. In the education field, for example, 76% of workers are female, while only 24% of superintendents are.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 07:48 PM
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If that were the case, less women would be living in poverty than men and far more women would hold positions of power.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 07:24 PM
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I’m more talking about 20th-21st century history, not before. As shown in the analysis I linked, many women would like to have multiple children, but aren’t meeting those goals within the given time constraints. The trend shown by Gallup is pretty clear. The general ideal for childbearing was around 3.5 kids from the 1930s until the 1960s. In the early 1980s, it hit about 2.5 or 2.6 and has basically been stable since then.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 07:17 PM
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Studies show that most women haven’t adjusted their preferred family size down, just that they aren’t meeting their goals by starting later. If that’s accurate, investing in fertility tech would help a lot. https://ifstudies.org/blog/how-many-kids-do-women-want
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 07:08 PM
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An ex-boyfriend made it for me. But I have seen it on menus recently! Middle Eastern restaurants have gotten more trendy these days. Not a bad idea to focus on fish and eggs. My husband is a big meat eater, but I’ve gotten him to come over to the veggie/fish side more since we’ve been together.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 07:04 PM
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Given current trends worldwide, the best way to do that may be to extend fertility age via assisted reproductive tech.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 06:59 PM
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Having disinterested parents experiencing financial strain is often what causes that trauma, not necessarily parents no longer living together.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 05:27 PM
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I’ve had shakshuka and it’s great! 👍 Never made it, though. Poaching eggs on top of a seasoned dish is delicious.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 05:20 PM
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Practice makes perfect. Push yourself to make two new things every week and you’ll improve quickly. Haha I’m actually from the south, but I don’t live there anymore. It’s fun to learn how to make interesting things at home, so you don’t have to get takeout.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 05:18 PM
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Thanks! It’s a Korean condiment. It’s great to have in your fridge.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 04:26 PM
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This is an easy one! Try it out.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 04:19 PM
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Easy dinner tonight: Sheet pan Bibimbap On a sheet pan, roast kale, sliced red onion, corn, sliced zucchini, and red peppers in oil until tender. Transfer to bowl once finished. Cook rice in a rice cooker or stovetop, then transfer rice to hot sheet pan and bake until slightly crispy. Toss vegetables and rice together, add dollops of gochujang and mayo. Top with 3-4 eggs. Bake until whites are set, mix together before serving.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 04:17 PM
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I want to hear what you think they are. Style preferences, for example, change frequently over time. And behavioral expectations are impacted massively by cultural norms.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 08:38 PM
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I’m 5’5”. Around average height for American women. I feel no obligation to compete via height, so perhaps that’s where the blindness comes in.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 08:28 PM
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I don’t remember my husband’s height and we’ve been together for 10 years. All I know is that he’s significantly taller than me. I think you’re giving people too much credit for having height-guessing capabilities.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 08:24 PM
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Really, though. What are masculine and feminine traits? Are we talking behavioral or physical? And for physical, are we talking about genetic traits or style preferences?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 08:22 PM
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Unless they’re really far off, does it really matter? People don’t actually care about a difference of a few inches.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 08:18 PM
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Call them out. We’re here for it! 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 07:42 PM
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It would definitely be interesting. Hormones alone do so much.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 07:35 PM
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Men and women can be platonic friends if they find each other unattractive or are in happy relationships themselves. And having friends that you treat with respect despite wanting to bone is an exact example of how attraction doesn’t excuse poor behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 07:19 PM
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I’m confused what you mean here. They call themselves Irish or Irish-Americans?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 06:40 PM
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Yep, and they’re doofuses that don’t realize that they should change what they say when speaking to non-Americans.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 05:51 PM
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How about you? How do you hope to use your voice?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 05:05 PM
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Children, education, secularity, and women’s roles.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 04:55 PM
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By attempting to work and bring my voice to areas I’m passionate about.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 04:39 PM
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We’re not discussing whether it’s responsible, just whether it’s possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 04:22 PM
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Hell I'm not even sure how you have sex at that BMI. Lol now you’re just being ridiculous. An increased chance of problems does not ensure problems will happen, especially if she’s ovulating regularly.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 04:12 PM
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One thing that’s lost in these conversations is that most Americans are used to speaking solely to other Americans. When they say those things, they don’t actually mean they’re Irish or Italian, etc. They mean they’re Irish-American or Italian-American, but drop the American when talking to people from the US. It’s implied that they don’t actually mean they’re from Ireland or from Italy, but that’s lost in online formats and outside of the American context.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 03:13 PM
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Yeah, with PCOS and Endo she definitely could have some issues. She should consider freezing her eggs. Best of luck to her, though!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 03:04 PM
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I agree, that’s pretty enormous. But that doesn’t mean she’ll have trouble conceiving or gestating a baby.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 03:02 PM
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Yep, exactly. And you’re right, we Americans suck too. It was rather sad the first time I went abroad and realized how much everyone hated us.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 02:57 PM
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She can definitely have a healthy baby at her age. Unless her health issues are directly related to fertility (like PCOS, Endo, or a history of miscarriages) I don’t know why you’d expect her to be unsuccessful.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 02:52 PM
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More people in the US have English ancestry than Irish. They’re just not willing to admit to it, since who wants to be associated with those colonialist twats. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 02:49 PM
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It’s not about being special, it’s about being American. Celebrating your family’s immigrant identity is about as American as you can get.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 02:43 PM
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True, American culture is about elevating and holding onto the immigrant experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 02:26 PM
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How much of this is due to non consensual or reluctant sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 04:16 PM
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What makes you think you are actually ugly and not just average?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 04:14 PM
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It’s always funny when the next generation believes older people haven’t experienced rejection or hardship.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 03:41 PM
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Too much variety among men to give a good answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 03:40 PM
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Most people we see in daily life aren’t ugly, though. They might be average and not head-turning, but it’s rare when you see a genuinely ugly person.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 03:38 PM
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Didn’t respond to his text yesterday, which shared Neil Young’s “Old Man.”
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 03:31 PM
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Ah. If the girl had taken out a gun and shot three people, she would have gone to court, as well. Perhaps it would have been ruled self defense, just like it was for Rittenhouse. And it’s very likely that people would have criticized her mightily for being out late at night wearing something slutty.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 03:25 PM
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Depends on the personalities of the specific men.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 02:23 PM
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Feminist do say that victim-blaming is wrong. But they don’t blame child abuse victims for their abuse, so where are you getting that?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 02:15 PM
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Lol this isn’t what Feminists say 🤦‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 01:45 PM
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The context matters, though. If she had worn a ball gown to Starbucks, jeans to a wedding, or a bodycon dress to meet his mother, that would have been something to complain about. If someone doesn’t know how to dress for an occasion, that can be a problem. But this wasn’t an example of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 10:40 AM
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If that’s the case, then you let them know the dress code of the place. No need to complain about something they wore previously.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 10:35 AM
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Nope, I just don’t understand why you think her outfit was problematic to wear to a Starbucks date.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 10:34 AM
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That would be a super weird thing to say, though. Especially since he already knows she has outfits to match that occasion.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 10:28 AM
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She wore a cute casual outfit and makeup to a Starbucks date. He also wore casual clothes. I don’t get the point you’re trying to make here.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 10:17 AM
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Rude. 😂 Seaweed is super healthy and delicious.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 08:34 PM
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Yum! I love seaweed salad, but I’ve never made it at home. This mix and this recipe make it easy. Such a delicious snack, so glad I tried making it!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 08:23 PM
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I don’t think the difference is solely due to age gap relationships. They do account for part of it, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 08:13 PM
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Then what’s your explanation for the difference?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 08:13 PM
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I don’t think the difference can solely be explained by age gap relationships, though it does factor in. Some of it has to do with perception of singlehood being different between genders.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 07:57 PM
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It’s not until 65+ that more women are single. And that’s because many of their partners have died. https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2023/02/08/for-valentines-day-5-facts-about-single-americans/ft_2023-02-08_facts-single-americans_01/
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 07:54 PM
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Most couples are 2-3 years apart, some slightly more. I’m 6 years younger than my husband, so when we got together (I was 24, he 30) we would have fallen into different demographics.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 07:51 PM
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They’re also dating/married to slightly older men. Many are single in the 60+ category, though, since lots of men have died.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 07:43 PM
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Nah, many quiet Americans are assumed to be Canadian. It’s happened to me many times.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 07:13 PM
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When I lived abroad I got plenty of attention from men. 🤷‍♀️ You’re projecting.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 07:09 PM
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Plenty of people are like that. Nothing extreme about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 07:06 PM
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You haven’t thought this through. Imagine you’re with someone who struggles with change, is socially stunted, and doesn’t have the confidence to make small decisions on their own. They would make a terrible partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 06:41 PM
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Having a confident partner does make your life easier.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 06:37 PM
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Like she actually said she wouldn't be with a men who doesn't value her confidence and mentality Seems logical. Being with someone who wants you to be insecure seems like a lot of of work. Honestly what is it with this modern day women not accepting their looks play a massive role in guys even paying attention to them Didn’t you ask her what she offers outside of her looks?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 06:33 PM
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Yeah, unless you’re looking for something specific it’s worth it to wait until you have to upgrade. I understand why she waited.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 05:34 PM
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I just did the same. Upgraded from an IPhone 7 to an IPhone 14. There was so little space that my apps were starting to delete themselves. 😅 But if it’s still working well, then why upgrade?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 05:28 PM
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That’s bizarre, I hear people complain about that all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 04:18 PM
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Dating sucks
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 03:09 PM
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Do you think women enjoy dating?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 03:08 PM
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Ok, well you know what I was getting at. It’s a bummer to have parents who are irresponsible with money. Unfortunately, going by credit scores and debt that’s a pretty common issue for both genders.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 02:53 PM
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Perhaps, but as a teacher in PA I’d recommend it for a good salary and benefits package. Salary is well above the median and I can retire after 20 years of service and get 60% of my final salary as a pension.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 02:50 PM
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Weren’t the three of them together when this conversation happened?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 02:35 PM
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Sucks that she already told her conservative parents about it. They didn’t need to know.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 02:26 PM
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That sucks, dude. I’m sorry you have financially irresponsible parents. Too many people do.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 02:23 PM
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And yours is assuming she could only be acting with bad intentions. Men - good, women - bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 02:19 PM
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PA, NY, NJ, IL, MA, and CA, though not uniformly across districts. Many of those teachers make over $100k.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 01:22 PM
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It’ll blow over. There will be a new thing to talk about next weekend. He should go out to a party and try again with someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 12:49 PM
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People who are successful in dating focus on improving their appearance and social status. It’s just common sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 12:43 PM
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Blue pill is literally everyone who is not Red Pill. They’re still plugged into the Matrix, remember? Many blue pill people advocate improving your appearance and financial success.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 12:38 PM
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Sure, she probably knew it could get out. But that’s not her problem. She’s allowed to tell her close friends about a weird experience she had.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 12:34 PM
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Disagree. The advice to improve your looks and status existed long before any of the pills. Status quo = blue pill.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 12:31 PM
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Nah, blue pillers say work on yourself if you’re having lack of success with women. It usually has to do with your appearance or social skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 12:28 PM
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title: I (21m) misread signs and tried to kiss my friend (21f) and now she is filing sexual assault charges against me Can’t reply to you downthread, since AssEater blocked me. Don’t kiss her if she pulls away, of course. You’re supposed to lean in for the kiss and let them meet you halfway.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 12:26 PM
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Moms may give guys advice like “just be yourself,” but most women don’t give that advice to each other or to their male friends. We know it’s about physical attractiveness, confidence, and status and usually say that.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 12:25 PM
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Lol that’s a fun story you’re telling yourself. Chad knows better than that. That’s why he’s Chad.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 12:18 PM
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The link doesn’t work because it’s a quarantined sub. I literally can’t read it. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 12:16 PM
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Link doesn’t work. Can you post the TDLR?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 12:13 PM
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Nah, Chad knows better than to ask like that. At least kiss the girl first before asking for no strings attached sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 12:12 PM
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Dating advice is completely generic, that’s the point. Common sense strategies are shared by both RP and BP. And the biggest ones are be attractive and confident.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 12:11 PM
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She probably told a few friends and was like WTF, then other women found it funny and shared the story. I doubt she was out there telling everyone she knew.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 12:09 PM
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Making eye contact, flirting, and using light physical touch isn’t a specific dating strategy with a name. It’s just being a human who is showing sexual interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 12:08 PM
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Definitely a trait that benefits women, men should do it more. But men are more directly competitive with each other, so perhaps it wouldn’t help them.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 11:58 AM
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Would you give up access to police, essential workers, and infrastructure to have a stay at home wife who relies on you for everything? If so, there are many countries you can go to to live out that fantasy.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 11:56 AM
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The explanations for why certain strategies work, tied to different explanations of male and female psychology.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 11:46 AM
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That sounds like common sense. Nothing RP about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 11:42 AM
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When does BP argue that?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 11:41 AM
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CMV: Blue Pill and Red Pill give very similar advice for how to attract women. They just have different explanations for why it works.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 11:28 AM
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if you meet the 'Red Pill criteria' for attractiveness to women, i.e. wealthy, talented, confident, (somewhat) handsome, then more or less nothing else about your personality or character matters a jot to most women. Being wealthy, talented, confident, and handsome is also what blue pill recommends for success with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 11:26 AM
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Contributing to the world outside of your role in a family unit is part of having a high quality of life and being fulfilled. But aside from that, tomorrow is never promised. Disability/death, divorce, layoff, etc… it’s best for everyone in the family that your wife maintain earning potential throughout your marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 11:12 AM
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Teaching provides a great salary in many states, especially after you’ve put in a bit of time.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 11:09 AM
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Contributing to the world outside of your role in a family unit is part of having a high quality of life. But aside from that, tomorrow is never promised. It would be foolish to teach your daughters or encourage your wife not to prepare for life without a male provider.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 10:53 AM
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No, and hopefully the parent who was cheated on would encourage their children to keep contact with the cheating parent.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 02:22 AM
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70% of men 18-24 having sex in the past year seems decent to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 01:39 AM
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Hopefully they bank that money and use it to pursue their real interest. Otherwise, they’ll likely end up working in hospitality or food service.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 12:45 AM
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Lol if you date a career waitress as a millionaire sports star, you know what you’re getting into.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 12:42 AM
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The data we have shows that less than 20% of men under 35 haven’t had sex in the last year. https://ifstudies.org/blog/number-4-in-2021-more-faith-less-sex-why-are-so-many-unmarried-young-adults-not-having-sex
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 12:33 AM
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Yeah, but it’s under 20% who haven’t had sex in the last year. Not 60%. https://ifstudies.org/blog/number-4-in-2021-more-faith-less-sex-why-are-so-many-unmarried-young-adults-not-having-sex
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 12:29 AM
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Marriage predates literally every economic system and model Marriage was and still is part of the exchange of capital. If we want to say that capitalist ideas began with the end of feudalism, then that was still a very long time ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 11:45 PM
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It’s not my definition: https://www.imf.org/external/pubs/ft/fandd/2015/06/basics.htm
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 11:38 PM
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The essential feature of capitalism is the motive to make a profit. Mercantilism and capitalist ideas have always existed.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 11:34 PM
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Marriage is pretty capitalist, especially in a historical context. What exactly are you arguing for here?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 11:32 PM
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Remember that single does not mean sexless. Plenty of those men are in casual relationships or having ONS regularly.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 11:31 PM
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Isn’t she suing for wrongful eviction? She has a case there, though obviously not for $30M. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 11:30 PM
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Alternate n-count question: When’s the last time you had a STI panel? It’s a sensible question to ask and their response will give you a read on their sexual experience and history.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 11:13 PM
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Welp, looks like she was above the limit. You lucked out.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 11:07 PM
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When’s the last time you got a STD check?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 10:32 PM
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Apparently Plan B doesn’t work for women over a certain weight. So tread carefully! You’re probably not looking to raise more babies.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 10:29 PM
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It’s always so weird when you’re vaguely connected to someone who’s involved in a weird trend. About a decade ago I was an Au Pair for one of the top Brexiteers, who earned a peerage out of that whole debacle. I lived in his house and everything. I wonder if he’s happy with how it worked out. It was beneficial to him. But to the UK? Not so much.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 10:20 PM
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Yeah. Commitment and a sense of home feel really good.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 10:06 PM
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You’ve done that multiple times? Lol. I’ve never even done it once.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 09:59 PM
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Buying a pregnancy test is even more awkward. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 09:38 PM
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That probably accounts for some, but studies show that in LTRs, men and women are just as likely to be the partner with lower sexual arousal. The unfortunate thing is that the majority of men 30+ are not in healthy condition, leading to ED and other types of sexual dysfunction.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 09:34 PM
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That’s super silly, but you do you. Not my fetish.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 09:29 PM
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Seems like you’re an outlier, then.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 09:23 PM
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Gross, keep some mystery alive.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 09:20 PM
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That’s interesting. You don’t even get the urge to masturbate in between those moments?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 09:18 PM
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Interesting, thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 09:16 PM
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Yeah, putting your heart on the line is a dangerous business. But the reward is typically worth the risk.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 09:13 PM
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Good example. Most women share waaay too much with their female friends. Most men don’t, though there are exceptions.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 09:02 PM
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Wasn’t it implied that his kid wasn’t really his? Ooh, I missed that part. How was it implied?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 09:00 PM
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Why? We can give you some real dirt. Though it’s always tricky to pinpoint which behavior is gendered and which is asshole behavior seen in both genders.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 08:55 PM
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Ejection v. unlawful detainer depends on a lot of factors that we don’t know about. Either way, though, she needed anywhere from 15-45 days notice. How he proceeded gave her cause to sue.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 03:43 PM
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Sure. What would you like to discuss?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 01:01 PM
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The process of evicting “a non-rent paying person living in your home, which has not signed a lease and has no title interest in the property” is called ejectment and it takes longer than 15 days. Usually over a month. Agreed that she won’t be getting $30M, as I said in my first comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 01:01 PM
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Yeah, since dads love when their daughters bring home men around their age. Really puts them at ease. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 12:24 PM
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People who can’t get along with their own gender are messed up in some way.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 12:04 PM
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There’s a legal process to evict someone, which involves giving them notice and can take several months. That goes even for people without a formal lease, like family members, especially those who have lived there over a year. Technically, you’re not allowed to change the locks and remove someone’s things without ample warning. Maybe she is seeking to end the NDA because she can meet the preponderance standard on the supposed 11-year oral cohab Good point, seems they had a weird dating agreement…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 11:56 AM
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No, girl is crazy. She has a case for the wrongful eviction, but not for $30M in damages. I’m curious to see if she can get the NDA overturned. NDAs always seemed ridiculous to me, regardless of the situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 11:28 AM
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Not a man, but someone who only has friends of the opposite sex has something wrong with them. That goes for both men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 11:15 AM
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Lol attractive girls have hobbies, too. Many of them also like reading, painting, and playing instruments. 😂 At least you’re aware that this is an ignorant take. Actually get to know some of these girls before suggesting they have no hobbies or interests.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 02:28 AM
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The goal of these initiatives is to bring attention to how war impacts the civilian population.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 09:15 PM
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This seems like a semantic issue rather than an ideological one. The goal of these initiatives is to bring attention to how war harms the civilian population.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 08:33 PM
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Men are typically the main perpetrators of that violence, meaning that women are victims of violence that they contribute very little to.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 05:14 PM
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Lots of people have a moral objection to abortion. Many others have always wanted a child. How is abuse involved here?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 01:21 PM
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Why do so many men here want to pay more taxes to care for Chad’s babies?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 11:26 AM
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The couple's marriage was governed by a separation of property regime, which Ms Moral's husband had asked her to sign at the start of their marriage. It specified that whatever each party earned was theirs alone, with them only sharing possessions. Since marrying, Ivana had dedicated herself 'to essentially working in the home, which meant looking after the home and the family and all that involves,' the ruling said. The arrangement would have left Ms Moral with no access to any of the wealth ac…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 11:26 AM
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Lol this person is just stupid and does not realize how many other cool, coastal cities exist in the west. LA isn’t expensive all because of liberal policies. It’s supply and demand, baby, plus nimbyism and zoning laws.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 03:49 AM
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Is that really the lifestyle you want?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 02:17 AM
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Removing social supports like welfare doesn’t decrease fertility. That’s obvious throughout the world, since countries with poor social safety nets have high birth rates alongside high poverty rates. It does reduce standards of living, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 01:46 AM
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Plenty of men already skip out on their child support. Women also receive reduced support when their child’s father is paying multiple child support claims or is living in poverty.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 01:34 AM
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You’re better than this, meteor.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 01:07 AM
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Lol you dropped the /s
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 12:21 AM
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Exactly. By allowing financial abortion, taxpayers will be paying more. And they don’t even get to have sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 12:19 AM
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“No” - taxpayers
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 12:13 AM
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Can’t read the article, but many women who have children through sperm donor have a male partner who has problems with his sperm or have a female partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 11:28 AM
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Lol you know why it’s illegal? Because it was so commonplace for men to do this in the past. 🤦‍♀️ Anti-discrimination laws weren’t created in response to nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 11:14 AM
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Lol nope, not going to happen. We already have enough kids involved in crime and families living on the streets.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 03:11 AM
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How is it irrelevant to the concept of financial abortion? Someone will pay for the child after the father signs away rights. And it will likely be the taxpayer, even though we didn’t get to have sex. 😢
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 03:08 AM
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Why should the state have more responsibility for the child than the child’s father?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 03:02 AM
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Goodness. Sounds like you were doing something really dumb. Sure you’re not one of those bad boys you were talking about? 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 02:57 AM
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Comparing poverty, crime, life expectancy, suicide, etc… all those measures I mentioned earlier show that residents in conservative states are not better off. Again, what do conservative states actually do to help residents? All they seem to do is provide welfare for corporations and scorn for the poor.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 02:52 AM
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Haha perhaps. And then there’s the rest of us, who’ve never even gotten a speeding ticket.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 02:26 AM
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I’m not saying it’s all due to welfare. But it is true that states with liberal policies have higher standards of living than conservative states. If you want to blame all of that on geography, then ok. How do conservative states help their residents? Because they seem to be much worse off than similar states with liberal policies.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 01:51 AM
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Who said anything about caring? Whether their policies benefit the poor is what matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 01:39 AM
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Lol true, but as a public defender you’re meeting a lot of people on their worst day. You don’t get to see all the times things went right, which is probably a bummer.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 01:38 AM
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If she’s sleeping all the time and avoiding time with you and her kids, those are pretty solid depression symptoms. From your description, she doesn’t sound happy with the split of duties (whether that’s fair or not). You should talk with her about it more directly. Express your concern with her health and encourage her to consider therapy, either personal or couples.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 12:28 AM
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How’s her health? Do you typically split childcare and expenses pretty evenly?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 12:22 AM
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Lots of conservative states have large cities and many of the states with lower poverty levels are mostly rural. Liberal states are often moneymakers because they offer nice places to live and to visit with ample amenities. Poverty has reduced quite a bit in the last 75 years, especially among the elderly, children, and minority groups. It seems you’re misunderstanding the purpose of social assistance. It doesn’t exist solely to help the individual, but to help society. That’s clear when you com…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 12:20 AM
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Which numbers are you talking about? Conservative states have higher percentages of those living in poverty and lower life expectancies. Those living in liberal states do better.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 11:14 PM
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Makes sense, since liberal policies benefit poor people most. But they often seem to choose religion and xenophobia over their own well-being.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 10:57 PM
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Being in management sucks sometimes. Sorry you’re struggling with it right now. It’s so irritating when grown adults refuse to properly do the job we hired them for.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 03:15 PM
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You’re not explaining how pregnancy is a greater benefit to the male than the female, especially given that children are more likely to care for the mother over her lifetime.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 03:12 PM
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The woman can’t get pregnant without the male. They both provide that to each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 02:44 PM
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What inherent benefit does the female provide to the male that the male doesn’t also provide to the female?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 02:07 PM
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It seems like most people who say this are talking about unchecked capitalism, not all private ownership of wealth.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 12:10 PM
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I don’t think you’re understanding what the judge found. She didn’t rule that the allegations were spurious. She dismissed the case because using stolen, privileged documents from the earlier settlement “tainted” the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 11:59 AM
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Fraudulent docs isn’t correct. They were stolen documents, hacked from Ronaldo’s attorneys and about an earlier settlement.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 11:38 AM
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It’s actually the lawyer who has to pay, since she engaged in misconduct by using records that had been stolen from Ronaldo’s attorneys to make her case. https://fortune.com/2023/02/16/cristiano-ronaldo-las-vegas-sexual-assault-rape-case-lawyer-fees-335000/
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 11:33 AM
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Many women would rather be this: “get your money up, you would’ve been killed off by now” than this “your father offers you up to the state leader with the most resources to be your husband.” Having a better social safety net wouldn’t take us back to that. That’s definitely not what we see in social democracies throughout the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 11:23 AM
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Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 03:09 AM
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It’s likely just laziness, though. Bun + sunglasses means she didn’t do her hair and possibly is wearing no makeup. Add on a cute trench and I can go to the grocery store in pajamas and look presentable.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 03:01 AM
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Probably 30% male. Most of the people we hang out with are male/female couples. And then I have longterm close friends that I talk to on the phone (that are majority female), which ups the female percentage a bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 02:59 AM
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What’s wrong with hair in a bun, AirPods, or sunglasses?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 02:51 AM
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It’s very interesting, since hormones shouldn’t lead to that quick of an increase. Perhaps older people aren’t socialized to keep up with their fitness?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 02:41 AM
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It’s weird, I looked it up and in the US there’s very little change over time - a stable amount in each age group. In much of Eastern Europe, it’s between 25-30% overweight for 18-24 year olds and shoots up to over 50% for people between 35-44 and almost 70% for people between 45-64. It’s such a huge increase over time that it’s kind of curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 02:38 AM
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That seems worse, honestly. It would be frustrating to marry someone thin and have them completely let themselves go.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 01:18 AM
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Overweight and obesity is between 51-67% in Eastern European countries, compared with 73% in the US. Still plenty of fat people there.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 01:04 AM
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I’d guess not too often, given how infrequently most women need to protect themselves during daily life. The biggest risk for most women comes from their significant other or another close family member.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 12:56 AM
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Having options doesn’t mean they’re biologically driven to try all those options out.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 11:12 PM
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I'm 32 years old with a wife no kid, house and 2 running cars. I'm solidly middle class, decent life trajectory, no early retirement, and occasional vacations. If you’re not willing to be proud of yourself for that, I’m happy to do so for you. Being solidly middle-class and owning a home at 32 means you could be much, much worse off.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 05:14 PM
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That’s rather curious, unless you grew up in a culture that discourages celebration. Most of the things we celebrate and feel proud of are very mundane and basic: * Celebrating your birthday? Congrats on not dying this year! * Celebrating the birth of your child? Congrats on successfully gestating and going through childbirth! * Celebrating your marriage? Congrats at finding someone who wants to hang out with you. * Celebrating your promotion? Congrats on getting more responsibility and more mon…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 04:06 PM
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I felt pretty damn proud when I moved into my first place without roommates and got my first salaried position. It took a lot of hard work to get there. Why shouldn’t people feel proud of their accomplishments?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 12:23 PM
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Lol all of those women are thin. Having big boobs and large butt muscles doesn’t make you chubby, flabby, or overweight. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 12:12 PM
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Jane Austen books are the most popular romance novels out there. They’re so popular that many modern novelists choose to write original romance stories set in regency England (like the very popular Bridgerton series) and those that directly refer to Jane Austen, modern retellings, or sequels, like these: https://the-bibliofile.com/jane-austen-inspired-books-and-retellings/
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 09:12 PM
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Many paperback novelists employ lazy storytelling, since they basically copy/paste for each new release. The standard romance lead is a trope that allows the protagonist to be special and makes it easy for the author to keep revealing new information about the love interest as the book goes on. But what creates easy conflict and pacing in a story isn’t what most women want in real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 08:34 PM
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RP doesn’t seem to understand what the “brooding rebel with a dark and tortured past” means, though. It’s not dark triad behaviors. It’s a trope that allows the main character to be special and makes it easy for the author to keep revealing new information about the love interest as the book goes on. It’s a great strategy for writing an engaging story. It’s less thrilling in real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 08:16 PM
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But they’re usually not bad boys, they’re just someone surprising and stimulating, who pushes the protagonist to grow over the course of the novel. In every Jane Austen novel, for example, the bad boy faces some sort of downfall and the main character does not end up with him. She ends up with a nice guy who pushes her to be the best version of herself. In other popular series like Outlander, True Blood, and even Twilight, the main love interest is not a bad guy at all, though there may be a lov…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 07:21 PM
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There are also lots of shows about crime families, heists, supernatural beings, and people going on dangerous adventures, but most of us don’t seek that out in our real lives. It’s interesting to imagine living someone else’s life. But that doesn’t mean we gravitate towards those things in reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 06:09 PM
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If you don’t want to chat with me, then don’t. 😂 No need for all the rudeness.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 05:48 PM
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Ugly, fat, slut, etc. all mean similar things, though: that the other girl is low status and below her in the social pecking order.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 05:29 PM
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You’re the coolest, that’s why. But I do not approve of your scary boob size preference. 🌟
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 04:15 AM
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Gross
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 04:08 AM
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Please go. I’ve lived overseas, so I know there’s a lot to recommend it. Why delay?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 04:04 AM
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AMALT, I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 04:01 AM
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Why wouldn’t you be able to have kids with a 30-40 year old? And are you breaking up with folks in their 20s once they hit 30?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 03:39 AM
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So you’ll never want someone over 30 ever? I call bullshit, but you do you.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 03:31 AM
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Why box yourself in like that? Make the decision based on what you want at the time, not something you picked for yourself a decade earlier.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 03:22 AM
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My husband and I joke about how we would have hated each other if we met in high school or college. We learned what we really wanted later in life, which is pretty common.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 03:05 AM
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Why are you measuring your interactions with people based on what they did in the past? People learn through experience, so if they’re choosing you later in life, that’s a compliment.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 01:27 AM
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Divorce, single parenthood, veteran status… sure it does.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 12:44 AM
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Sounds interesting! Thanks for the recommendation. Weird show, but did you watch the Icelandic show Katla on Netflix? A great sense of place and a very interesting mood.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 12:18 AM
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Agreed, same for marriage, parenthood, and enlistment.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 12:16 AM
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Looking for a relaxing, feel good show? I’d recommend The Climb, which is an HBOMax game show about rock climbing. It’s really calming and I love how most people seem so kind and understanding. I never really got into rock climbing, though I love hiking. Any climbers here?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 11:37 PM
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I’d say that PPD skews more introverted and tech-savvy, otherwise… not that different from the general population, regardless of gender. The CDC reports that virgins make up 12.3 percent of females and 14.3 percent of males ages 20 to 24. That number drops below 5 percent for both male and female virgins ages 25 to 29 and goes as low as 0.3 percent for virgins ages 40 to 44. Both male and female virgins in their mid-20s are less common, but they aren’t rare. Many women have 0-2 partners by age 2…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 11:29 PM
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Most women just see how sluts are treated (both by men and other women) and try to prevent themselves and their friends from being treated in similar ways. Seeing some kind of long-con is reading too much into it, especially given that slut shaming starts in elementary school.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 11:19 PM
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Nah, many women are way more romantically conservative than most men here give them credit for. Similar amounts of men and women are virgins into their mid-20s. That’s not to say that all women are, especially if you live in a major city with high levels of casual sex. And overrepresented older compared with who? Most women here are in their 20s and 30s, which seems to be the case for most men. I can only think of one PPD regular who is a woman over 45, while I can think of several men.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 11:08 PM
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These sources show the burden of domestic violence on men, but they don’t show that feminism has restricted DV resources for men or made their situations worse. Before feminism, DV wasn’t even against the law. Feminists fought every step of the way to criminalize spousal abuse and marital rape, as well as provide resources and homes to women who were leaving dangerous situations. By fighting to criminalize spousal abuse, feminists laid the groundwork for men to get justice for domestic crimes ag…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 04:42 PM
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Feminist organisations are the reason that male victims of domestic violence still aren't protected in many Western countries. Source needed. Feminist organizations aren’t in charge of the legal system or even the DV shelter system. But before the advent of feminism, most places didn’t even consider spousal abuse a crime. What other inequalities do you believe were caused by feminists?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 01:11 PM
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Feminists who have actually changed society have done amazing things. They brought us the right to vote, to attend colleges alongside men, to work male-dominated jobs, to play sports, to be able to choose whether or not we have children, etc. Many of those things are not accessible for women outside western democracies. Their accessibility to western women is due to feminism.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 11:59 AM
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Seeing it as a broad ideology rather than an organized movement will help you understand those contradictions. Let’s consider existentialism and marxism. I don’t expect each person who is driven by those ideas to follow them unilaterally. Sometimes they will behave in contradictory ways. Sometimes they will focus on one part of the ideology at the detriment to the other. Groups that are inspired by those ideas may have different goals.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 11:30 AM
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Perhaps the issue is that you see feminism as an organized movement, rather than a broad philosophy that has inspired many separate (and often contradictory) movements. The core claims of feminism are the following: * Men and women are entitled to equal rights and respect. * Women are currently disadvantaged with respect to rights and respect, compared with men. People who believe those ideas can approach the same topics in many different ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 11:07 AM
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I went through my own pretentious reader phase. Don’t worry, you’ll grow out of it. One day, you’ll give yourself permission to enjoy stories again.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 12:18 AM
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Why? You don’t enjoy stories?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 11:43 PM
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I hope to have a very long white braid. Seems classy.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 01:55 AM
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Oh wow, I didn’t realize baby Michael B. Jordan was in that. Great show.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 01:54 AM
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They’re about as common as male virgins. Which is to say, fairly uncommon. The CDC reports that virgins make up 12.3 percent of females and 14.3 percent of males ages 20 to 24. That number drops below 5 percent for both male and female virgins ages 25 to 29 and goes as low as 0.3 percent for virgins ages 40 to 44.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 01:52 AM
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Sounds good, I pity the underpaid caretakers that will have to clean up after you. 😂 I once asked my husband how he would feel if I dressed like a pink-haired old woman on TV. Lol he told me I could dress that way after he died.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 01:34 AM
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Older female virgins
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 01:26 AM
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Grandmas are cool. Can’t wait until I’m actually old and get to wear stupid outfits like they do. Do you have your old man outfit picked out yet?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 01:24 AM
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Early 30s
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 01:14 AM
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Aww, kids these days have the cutest ideas 🥰🥰
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 01:11 AM
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Definitely the weirdest thing I’ve seen on the internet today. Such a WTF.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 12:40 AM
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Pushing your friends to share in your unhappiness sounds like the worst kind of help.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 12:52 AM
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Lol be more specific
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 11:42 PM
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The majority of men and women throughout history have led difficult lives. How are you measuring what makes a better life?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 11:39 PM
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Yeah, some people are really boring. But that isn’t a gendered issue. I had the biggest crush on this one guy in college. He was so hot and was a former pro-skier. I built him up in my head and was so disappointed when we finally went on a date and I discovered he had nothing interesting going on upstairs. He did tell me that I could come over and get hard boiled egg snacks from his room whenever I wanted though, so that was nice. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 11:26 PM
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I definitely have to echo what Lilith said. Some women are boring. Some men are boring. Men come in contact with many women in their lives who have relationships with them that exist outside of romantic attraction and hypergamy. With that in mind, viewing an entire gender as boring is remarkably bizarre.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 11:20 PM
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3, 1, 4, 2
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 12:48 AM
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Well yeah, the first half is about regions of Africa, African leaders and culture, and the slave trade. It goes into way more detail than anything I got in school. Second half is about life in early America for black people, the Civil War, reconstruction, W.E.B. DuBois, Sojourner Truth, etc. then it leads into the Harlem Renaissance, Black servicemen in the World Wars, Civil Rights Movement, etc. Only the last few weeks of class focus on contemporary Black America. I can see pushing back on incl…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 12:45 AM
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Ah ok, that’s not so bad. It came up naturally in conversation and it seems like it was just lighthearted joking. If you were actually short, it would have been ruder.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 12:31 AM
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Lol people make fun of fat girls all the time. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 12:20 AM
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Yes, that’s a weird thing to do. How did that come up?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 12:18 AM
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This level of hyperbole doesn’t look good on you. Chad isn’t Mad Max in this scenario, anyhow. Immortan Joe is. Not a good look for Chad and not a good scenario for men or women. Glad king’s harems aren’t a regular thing in most countries, though they’re still out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 11:42 PM
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Did you read the curriculum? It’s mostly history instruction. This is an elective, anyhow. No one is required to take this course.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 10:00 PM
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Here’s the curriculum: https://www.theflstandard.com/content/files/2023/01/AP-African-American-Studies-Coursework.pdf Seems like a pretty interesting course, to be honest.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 09:57 PM
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Haha, well there’s plenty of variety throughout the world (and here). Compliments also can make me feel awkward. That’s a pretty common response to compliments. https://hbr.org/2021/04/do-compliments-make-you-cringe-heres-why
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 09:37 PM
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But he’s literally asking our experiences, not ignoring our worldview. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 09:29 PM
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I agree, usually. Compliments about my appearance often make me feel awkward, but I’ve trained myself to respond in a way that’s socially acceptable. I love compliments about things I’ve made or ideas I’ve come up with, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 09:20 PM
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Why be rude in your response? He’s just asking for our personal opinions on compliments.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 09:18 PM
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I don’t care too much either way, but there’s dozens of those kinds of labs throughout the world. Here’s a cool interactive map showing the locations of each: https://www.globalbiolabs.org
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 09:14 PM
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From the WSJ: “The Energy Department joins the FBI in saying the virus likely spread via a mishap at a Chinese laboratory. Four other agencies, along with a national intelligence panel, still judge that it was likely the result of a natural transmission, and two are undecided.” No one outside of China knows for sure and I doubt we’ll ever get a clear answer on that.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 08:59 PM
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Do you oppose using a clitoral vibrator during PIV sex? Feels great for both the man and the woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 07:27 PM
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That’s a hard question to answer, since it’s clear that we can never really understand what’s happening in someone else’s head. But listening to our opposite-sex friends, family members, and significant others can help us understand more, as can reading arguments and literature written by the opposite-sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 07:18 PM
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I read erotica and typically think about the characters in that story. I’m not really thinking about myself or anyone I know in real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 05:45 PM
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Huh, that’s surprising. People who act like that into their late 30s are usually an embarrassment.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 12:17 PM
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How do your family and friends feel about your choices?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 11:50 AM
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I agree that material goods aren’t necessarily the biggest contributor to happiness. But complaining that grandpa bought a 900 sq ft house on one salary, while you and your spouse are struggling to buy a 2300 sq ft house on two salaries is foolish. You could buy a 900 sq ft house in many locations on one salary, no problem. But most people today want more than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 03:19 AM
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Makes sense, many 21 year olds do insanely stupid things. Some of you will grow out of it, at least. 😂 Not sure how that props up RP, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 02:31 AM
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If you don’t like your friends, you can always find some new ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 02:27 AM
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Yes, some do. Some enjoy switching off being dominant and submissive. But most don’t want BDSM or rape play. It’s more about not having to ask for things they want, which many men like too.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 01:18 AM
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Lol I picked it up once and flipped to a random page. The girl was talking about how she was sucking on “a Christian Grey flavored-popsicle.” Haha so weird and profoundly unsexy.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 01:14 AM
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Lol just call her what she is: a prostitute. 😂 She’s not a fashion model. She’s an OnlyFans creator. Oldest job around, but this isn’t hypergamy in action. It’s business.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 01:06 AM
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That is so interesting! Common household appliances are another one. Everyone didn’t have a dishwasher or microwave and they definitely didn’t have an air fryer. Another thing that’s changed significantly is travel. Middle-class people weren’t going on extravagant overseas trips or cruises like many do today. They went on family road trips and stayed in motels and campers.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 11:58 PM
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Hahaha. To be fair, he tried to. But the girls he chose weren’t ready (or at least weren’t ready to settle down with him) and I can’t fault them for that. My brother can be hard to take sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 10:16 PM
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Lol what prompted the question?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 10:08 PM
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