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This makes absolutely no sense. So if a woman would really want Brad Pitt but can't have him and settles for a normal guy she meets at the gym, the guy at the gym is supposed to be pissed? Everyone is supposed to be with their first choice or bust? Talk about unrealistic and unreasonable.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/20 04:31 PM
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I personally couldn't care less about that. If your genes beat out my genes generations from now, oh well. I'll be dead and buried by then.
/r/TheRedPill08/08/18 07:05 PM
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The main reason I'm this overconfident and "aggressive" is because I have this fear in my mind of "acting too beta" I think you mean overcompensating, not overconfident. In other words, it's not coming from a natural place. That's why it didn't work. You can't act your way through this shit, it has to come from a natural place born out of confidence.
/r/TheRedPill03/08/18 03:31 PM
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I think the point is where OP says don't ask her what she wants to do, do what you want to do. The argument would be that if you can't find things you want to do that are exciting, then you are probably not a very fun person. I say this as someone who falls a bit into the "not fun person" category as I tend to enjoy the simple things of life and have never really been an adventure seeker.
/r/TheRedPill02/08/18 02:39 PM
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Bar none the best post I've ever read on Reddit. Thank you.
/r/TheRedPill16/07/18 12:45 AM
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The banking world is corporate game of thrones. You do need to prove your worth, bottom line. I've worked in the industry for 10+ years and I can imagine how you came across - arrogant, childish, and entitled. They didn't give two shits that you left and probably laughed at you behind your back when you did. But hey, if that's what you wanted and you can find a better path, more power to you.
/r/TheRedPill25/05/18 08:46 PM
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You wrote exactly what I was thinking. If only the top/senior contributors could write such rational, powerful, unemotional, and well organized thoughts.
/r/TheRedPill23/05/18 05:23 PM
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Most people are just floating through life with no direction. Focusing is so fucking key because it's really easy to be swept away by a feeling that creeps up you and without even realizing it and ends up replacing the mission. Right now I'm working towards a promotion at work and I'm having to sacrifice allegiances I care about in order to achieve it. It's difficult, every day I'm having to fight the instinct to go reconcile with an individual who ultimately has no control over where my career …
/r/TheRedPill18/05/18 07:22 PM
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Neither for music, nor for poetry, nor for fine art have they any real or true sense and susceptibility Man is this so true. As someone who truly appreciates fine art, music, film, food, etc. I quickly learned that talking to women about these things is like talking to a bird about mountain biking.
/r/TheRedPill08/05/18 03:59 PM
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Alpha is a presence. Behaviors are secondary. If an alpha walks into a room you can instantly tell they're alpha before they do or say a single thing.
/r/TheRedPill18/04/18 07:09 PM
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TRP isn't about a judgment call for what men should or shouldn't want. It's simply staring reality in the face for what it is and responding accordingly. Your desires for a traditional family are your desires and you're welcome to have them and pursue them. But just know that you are chasing down a unicorn. If you've read the shit out of the sidebar I'm sure you know all about hypergamy, the light switch, and AWALT. Those are real things. I've experienced them personally. And the likelihood they…
/r/TheRedPill17/04/18 08:07 PM
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Goddamit I hated reading this because I fucking love the stuff and probably drink too much. I may cut to one cup in the morning just to start out and see. At 36 I am noticing a depressingly real decline in libido despite being in really great shape and lifting 3-4x/wk. Age will do that of course but the coffee probably isn't helping.
/r/TheRedPill17/04/18 05:09 AM
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Exactly. Best cure for oneitis is finding more girls. Then your "one" will lose that mystique and you won't even have to throw away a perfectly good plate.
/r/TheRedPill14/04/18 07:50 PM
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This is way too serious of a tone to take. But please go ahead and use it so it makes things easier for the rest of us. TRP doesn't seem to realize you need to dangle a carrot for them to chase. You can't just be a boring, serious, dickface.
/r/TheRedPill01/03/18 04:52 PM
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Dude, listen to yourself. Would Chad be asking this question?
/r/askTRP25/02/18 02:48 AM
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My thought exactly. Either this isn't an HB10 or she is being gamed by Ryan Gosling.
/r/askTRP21/02/18 10:25 PM
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I feel you. Fact is we've been fed a lie, that women can and do actually provide what you're talking about. I believe what really happens is men conflate the superficial ways women show affection for something genuine and deep. It's not, no matter how much we want to convince ourselves otherwise. Part - a fucking big part - of taking the Red Pill is acknowledging that what we always believed we sought from women is never actually attainable and we're chasing a mirage. What this comes down to is,…
/r/askTRP21/02/18 10:17 PM
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This only works if you have top 5-10% looks/physique. Otherwise prepare to be ignored.
/r/TheRedPill18/02/18 04:34 PM
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Dude you are so fucking young. Relax.
/r/TheRedPill18/02/18 02:30 AM
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Couldn't disagree more. A close buddy of mine told me about TRP and I'll be forever grateful.
/r/TheRedPill18/02/18 02:13 AM
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What exactly are you risking? Rejection? Welcome to being a dude. Man up.
/r/askTRP17/02/18 10:23 PM
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What situation? You've got nothing right now. Meet her 1:1 somehow and escalate. If she's not into it move on.
/r/askTRP17/02/18 09:53 PM
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Months of "casual flirting" is waaay too long and classic orbiter behavior. That's where you fucked up. Also you went straight for the zipper after just kissing a girl you've known for months for the first time? You threw her the fuck off.
/r/askTRP17/02/18 06:21 PM
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It's a great point. I like to think of it this way. The "tactics" aren't instructions, they're mileposts. In other words, they should be indications as to whether you're self-improvement is naturally leading to alpha, high-SMV behavior. Over time if you're doing the right "big picture" things - lifting, mission, practicing approach - you should notice the "tactics" starting to occur naturally, or at least close with very little tweaking needed. If you think of each thing as "if abc happens, then…
/r/askTRP17/02/18 06:04 PM
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You should have called her out if needed instead of going behind her back. Then if no change, next.
/r/askTRP17/02/18 05:28 PM
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what are you gonna talk to this girl about? Certainly not the things you're implying (mission, goals, philosophy, character building experiences).
/r/TheRedPill16/02/18 09:49 PM
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Why would you want to build a relationship with one? Just smash, smash, and keep smashing until the plate breaks. On a related note, a 23 yr old HB7 is coming to my place Sat night and she soooo wants it. I'm 36. She keeps trying to validate herself to me when we text/talk and I just shut her down which I'm confident just drenches her undies. Gonna be good times.
/r/askTRP16/02/18 03:35 PM
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You guys are all right, I went way too far. LMAO at myself. Always been super blue pill and now I overcompensated. Been enjoying the roasting, keep it coming.
/r/askTRP12/02/18 10:07 PM
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If you don't know the answer to that you haven't read any of the material. Get on that.
/r/askTRP04/02/18 03:37 PM
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I just want a mouth and a hole Again, stop the porn.
/r/askTRP28/01/18 03:36 PM
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So no shit tests, no uncertainty, nothing more than a couple of make outs... yawn
/r/TheRedPill24/01/18 11:07 PM
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The core of what you're describing comes down to a need for validation which implies lack of self-worth. Work on yourself and I bet you'll feel less need to engage.
/r/askTRP24/01/18 09:51 PM
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Agree with those who have said religious girls, but that comes with its own can of worms and I'm not sure it's all that much better.
/r/askTRP24/01/18 09:12 PM
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Everyone making comments but nobody answering his actual question. How you proceed is you "next" her and forget about her. Move on, that plate has sailed buddy.
/r/askTRP24/01/18 03:38 PM
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I hate to go here I sound like a fagget Oh please, cut the insecure bullshit and just own your comment.
/r/askTRP24/01/18 06:24 AM
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Waxing is painful and expensive and unnecessary. About every other time I shower I shave my entire front except for a happy trail and also shave my back about once a week using this.
/r/askTRP20/01/18 04:47 PM
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My hell man you have oneitis so bad. You were on a yacht with tons of hot women (hopefully you fucked a few of them?) and you're hung up on this one chick??? What are you doing man? Also you sound like a dick. Don't be a dick, be confident, assertive, and maintain frame. Anything more is overdoing it.
/r/askTRP20/01/18 04:40 PM
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I really like this. One thought I've had recently is I've really been undervaluing the concept of escalating verbally first. For example, I had an HB8 over at my place the other night. I should have asked what color bra she was wearing and looked her straight in the eyes while asking. And once she told me I should have said well prove it. Simple right? Almost too obvious! But all it takes is courage and then you've opened the window for physical advances. At least that's how I picture it in my m…
/r/askTRP20/01/18 04:30 PM
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I wish I'd learned this before having two kids while I was still plugged in. FML.
/r/askTRP19/01/18 05:37 PM
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So she feels guilty for fucking you, AND she doesn't want you fucking other girls? Her tears shouldn't be rewarded. Tell her she needs to get comfortable with your situation on YOUR terms (no crying/no feeling guilty/you're allowed to see other women). If she can't, next her. You're the prize, don't bend over for her.
/r/askTRP18/01/18 11:58 PM
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In addition to lifting and eating right, I'd say just being social in general and learning social cues. Find groups with common interests, get out of the house and do shit.
/r/askTRP17/01/18 07:48 PM
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If she had apologized for being bitchy and changed her behavior towards you I think you could have given her a pass. Otherwise you did the right thing by not accepting that kind of behavior.
/r/askTRP17/01/18 04:56 PM
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From r/theredpill sidebar: The Red Pill: Discussion of sexual strategy in a culture increasingly lacking a positive identity for men. There is literally zero in any TRP material I've read that asks anything out of a woman. Everything is geared towards what is expected out of a RP male.
/r/askTRP16/01/18 11:43 PM
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It's a fair question. No, she has not been to my place before. However, and this is context I probably should have included, about a month ago or so when her LTR was crumbling we went out for drinks, then went to her place. This was before I discovered TRP (yes, pretty recently) and out of the blue she gave some comment about how she wasn't sure she could kiss anyone right now because her lips hurt from the dry cold winter air. In my beta mind I took that as a hint I shouldn't try, but looking b…
/r/askTRP16/01/18 11:25 PM
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First off, your situation seems complex and dire enough to warrant going to a professional if you're really intent on changing things. My 2 cents would be to find a hobby that you're passionate about and that involves being social. You went monk mode and completely forgot how to be social. You need to integrate yourself back into society and get back your instincts of normalcy. This is against TRP but I personally would also say that for now you should go ahead and jack off in the bathroom/showe…
/r/askTRP16/01/18 07:41 PM
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He said way too much and made it about him which implied insecurity. He should've just ignored her then gave a one sentence reply about her only if she kept insisting. I think the girls probably viewed him as compensating for his insecurity by being so over the top with his response.
/r/askTRP14/01/18 06:09 PM
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You thought you had a good girl? Like, she was yours? Smh you did get played and it was your fault for getting oneitis. I sympathize, it's easy to do. But time to move on, you're the prize not her.
/r/askTRP13/01/18 05:13 PM
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100% you need to not worry about girls right now. Focus on yourself. Your post reeks of neediness, validation seeking, and incredibly low self-esteem. No doubt all of that is coming through to these girls in your mannerisms and speech and they're scattering like cockroaches when the light comes on. When you can get to a point where you truly believe you're the prize and these women are missing out and you don't need them, then you can move forward. Until those issues are fixed, you're pretty fuc…
/r/askTRP12/01/18 03:57 PM
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You are being thrown a softball lob you could hit out of the park. Take her escalations and call her bluff, essentially. Here are the steps: arrange a time/place to meet where you'll have privacy bring up her texts somewhere in conversation, which will be easy to do since they are her texts, and be playful, tease her about them ("I didn't take you for being into buttstuff" or "favorite position is missionary huh how boring" (or whatever)) but all with a smile, and most importantly display confid…
/r/askTRP10/01/18 07:28 PM
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I've worked in the financial industry for 12 years and to say there aren't incredibly smart, driven, and interesting women out there is purposefully naive. You gave one example and paintbrushed billions of people from it. That's a type of emotionally charged comment I'd expect from a woman, tbqh. It's possible to acknowledge reality and still maintain frame. Those same driven, successful, interesting women are still not worth two seconds of thought unless proven otherwise.
/r/askTRP10/01/18 07:18 PM
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Does that type of behavior actually gain people respect? I mean, look at all of the leaders around the world and I think you'll figure that out for yourself.
/r/askTRP10/01/18 04:24 PM
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That all depends on what you want in life. Do you like your life as it is? Or do you want something else? Your lack of decision-making with regards to how to act likely stems from lack of clarity in what you want. Determine what you want, then take steps to get there. If you want more power and control, then you should probably work on boosting your self worth by lifting, eating healthy, and being disciplined with your money. Power and influence will come fairly naturally once you've done those …
/r/askTRP10/01/18 02:04 AM
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I've always felt I feel other people's emotions really well too. But recently I've realized that's just confirmation bias and I get responses I expect to see, ones that get manifested because I'm creating my own self fulfilling prophecies. I'm timid, therefore of course I get dismissive responses from women. I am convinced I've been seen as attractive by far more women than I give myself credit. If only I'd taken initiative, if only I had built my frame and gotten rid of my ego. It's difficult, …
/r/askTRP09/01/18 03:21 AM
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This is effective and he can get results from it because of who he is and what his SMV is. That's it. Ironically, that's what he's trying to hammer into your head yet you're here trying to dissect his texts. Talk about missing the point. Here's the clue one more time: it's not the fucking texts that makes him successful.
/r/TheRedPill07/01/18 04:08 PM
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Her old flame sent dick pics and apparently they met? She never mentioned it before. I confront her and she says she gave back an old vaccuum cleaner her forgot with her when they lived together, then cried so much and told me I'm paranoid and not being a good husband. This paragraph exists, and yet you're only 70% sure? Dude, you're in straight denial mode.
/r/askTRP02/01/18 07:06 PM
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First of all, realize you're still a child. You have FOREVER. Time is on your side. I sense a ton of anxiety in your post. Relax. Live the life you want to live. Figure out your mission and go after it. If that includes girls, then start practicing. Go out, meet people, attack your social anxiety. But keep in mind it doesn't have to. Just think of what you want your life to look like and start taking steps to get there. But get clarity first. You have none.
/r/askTRP27/12/17 01:34 AM
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So she thinks you have a small dick. So what? It's inside her these days and that's all you should care about. If she started giving you crap directly to your face about this you would think of it as a shit test so why should this be any different. Let it go and wait for a real reason before you next her.
/r/askTRP27/12/17 01:31 AM
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It's not the technique it's who's doing it. Probably wouldn't work if you didn't have high SMV. If you have high SMV and confidence you can pull off pretty much anything.
/r/askTRP25/12/17 02:36 AM
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27 and you've been stuck forever? You're still a fucking child lol
/r/askTRP25/12/17 02:32 AM
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I enjoy time with myself and do whatever the hell I feel like doing. Doesn't need to be complicated.
/r/askTRP25/12/17 01:40 AM
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Partying ain't her scene. OP you did the right thing afaic. LTRs are a bit different than plating. Gotta give and take and sounds like the balance had swung your direction while she's been reasonable, trusting, and supportive of your desire to go out some nights and have a good time. And nothing wrong with a night in drinking wine and fucking right?
/r/askTRP24/12/17 04:58 PM
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I was raised by a dominant, manipulative, narcissistic mother and a beta father and can relate a lot to what you wrote. I created my username when I was in the depths of hell and as someone who believes there is no meaning to life I still think life is dumb, I'm doing a lot better now that I'm doing the right things. Most important thing a man can do is lift weights. I truly believe that. It's the single thing that has turned my life around whenever I've been broken down and defeated. The gym is…
/r/TheRedPill24/12/17 03:48 PM
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I told them a 9. But don't get too excited, we use a 20 point scale.
/r/askTRP23/12/17 09:47 PM
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She will have no recollection of how far her waters reached the shore at one point, And will dismiss anything that was said or done at high tide, as if it were an entirely different ocean.< This is the part that rang most true to me. Seen it time and time again. The key is to not get sucked in by the sweet tide, nor torn down by the harsh waters. I see TRP as building a boat (your frame) big enough to withstand the strength of the level of tide you decide to take on so that you're not blown over…
/r/TheRedPill18/12/17 09:09 PM
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Lol women don't want sex huh? Now I've heard it all.
/r/TheRedPill18/12/17 05:20 AM
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Completely agree about MGTOWs not counting. They lost at the game, they know it, aren't willing to put in the effort to change and become men, and use MGTOW as a way to justify the fact that they have been expelled from the competition of life. Either man up and play the game to the best of your ability - inevitable failures be damned - or don't play. But if you choose to give up and not play, don't kid yourself into thinking it was what you wanted all along. You are not fooling anyone, most imp…
/r/TheRedPill15/12/17 06:30 PM
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