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Yep. Women love successful musicians cause they have social status. If you're just some random who plays guitar in their apartment, they couldn't care less. Being a musician doesn't automatically mean women will want to hook up with you.
/r/seduction11/09/15 02:28 AM
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IMO it's much more about how the clothes fit than the clothes you wear. Of course, it depends on the event. Don't go to a formal event in jeans and a t-shirt. I've done very well some nights wearing just shorts and a v-neck. The clothes fit like they're supposed to, so I looked good.
/r/seduction08/09/15 11:36 AM
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That's how you get addicted to coke. First it's to experience the feeling of being super confident. Next, it's "I can't be super confident without coke." That being said, I've done it several times. Also, women who do a lot of coke are dtf.
/r/seduction08/09/15 11:26 AM
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That's ridiculous. There's nothing wrong with making it clear that you don't want a relationship. If she wants more than a fwb situation, she will leave. There are plenty of women who are down for a fwb situation. I've had the talk and it goes down like this: Me: Just want to be clear, I'm not looking for anything serious. Just having fun. Her: I'm not looking for anything other than having some fun either. Me: Awesome. It's simple. She knows what the expectations are and she doesn't have to gue…
/r/seduction08/09/15 11:14 AM
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It really depends on the situation and what each person is comfortable with. With my last FWB, we'd meet up, hang out, and slowly get more physical as the night went on. It'd go from her sitting in my lap to hand holding to making out and eventually we'd go back to my place. Some people don't do hand holding with FWBs. I understand that. We both agreed to just being friends with benefits, so we knew not to expect anything more than casual sex.
/r/seduction08/09/15 11:06 AM
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They're attracted to you? Why question it? Just realize that if they give chase, they're doing something that they're not used to doing. Usually it's the guy that's initiating things. If you don't respond, they can get discouraged very quickly. Source: Used to be an asshole who played with girls who I knew were interested in me. Don't do that. You lose the opportunity to close them and you can get a bit of a reputation for it.
/r/seduction08/09/15 10:48 AM
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I'm not gonna lie, it helps a little bit. Any guy can be good looking though if they take care of themselves. I guess you don't have to work as hard to build attraction cause the attraction is there initially. I've had girls that I just met basically throw themselves at me. I still had to make the moves, but it basically fell in my lap. I'm not model material or anything, but I'm probably above average.
/r/seduction03/08/15 07:09 PM
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Dude, I've seen pictures you posted in previous threads. You're a good looking guy. The facial hair doesn't look good, but your facial structure is solid. That's not the reason you're not getting laid.
/r/seduction16/07/15 10:29 AM
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This is probably the best advice for OP. He's so concerned about getting laid that he's coming off as desperate. I looked up his past pictures and he's honestly a good looking guy (just get rid of the facial hair). All his replies make him sound like he's obsessed with getting laid. That's what's turning the women off. He should be having fun. I'm usually not even thinking about game when I get laid. I am just enjoying myself and flirting up a storm and it happens. I'm not going through the step…
/r/seduction16/07/15 10:26 AM
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Cocaine in tends to work.
/r/seduction16/07/15 04:03 AM
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Treat a fwb as a friend that you occasionally hook up with. My last FWB I had, we'd meet up at a bar, grab a few drinks, and end up having sex somewhere later that night. I wasn't taking her on dates or anything. I got back in touch with her after months of us not hooking up. She invited me to hang out somewhere. I responded with, "We're probably gonna end up banging by the end of the night, huh?" Her response was, "Yeah, probably." Everything is very casual with a FWB.
/r/seduction16/07/15 04:00 AM
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The best way to deal with rejection is to be unphased by it. You asked a girl out, she rejected you. Oh well, she's just one girl and you're onto the next. I've gone in for a kiss and been rejected. I didn't make a big deal out of it and we kept talking as if nothing happened. A minute later she pulled me in and started making out with me.
/r/seduction16/07/15 03:54 AM
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It's gonna happen and it's just a sign that you're attracted to the girl. In my experience, that doesn't happen unless I've already created some sexual tension between the girl and I. If it's just someone I'm friends with, that's not about to happen.
/r/seduction08/07/15 10:39 AM
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IMO the friendzone has to be accepted by the guy. If you're not interested in being just friends and she's trying to make you into a friend, don't just accept the friendzone. Show your intentions clearly and escalate. If she's not interested in that, drop her and move on. I'm not saying that there's anything wrong with being friends with a girl either. That's fine as long as you can accept that you're not going to have sex with her. There are plenty of benefits of being just friends with girls. …
/r/seduction08/07/15 10:17 AM
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The only time I've had girls approach me is when I'm having fun. If you're enjoying yourself, people will want to feed off that energy. If you look serious or like you're not enjoying yourself, you'll seem unapproachable. It has nothing to do with your attractiveness. Girls can be intimidated by the aspects of approaching a guy.
/r/seduction04/05/15 10:46 PM
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/r/seduction04/05/15 12:00 AM
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I've been using Tinder a lot lately. I usually get a few matches a day. I've gotten a few numbers from it. One tried to get me to meet her at a bar at like 11 PM on a Saturday, which is basically a booty call. I wasn't able to make it cause I was hammered and the Uber to get there would have been expensive. Anyways, Tinder is a numbers game. I usually make a joke, maybe about something in their profile or something I came up with on the spot. Keep it fun and don't be too serious. Make some jokes…
/r/seduction27/04/15 06:36 AM
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I've never hear of or seen that work out well. I've seen plenty of guys ask girls if they want to hook up. I've never seen a girl say yes. It makes your intentions clear, but girls mostly want to see you do something about it. Run kino and move in for a kiss. If she stops you, she's not interested and you should move on.
/r/seduction27/04/15 06:15 AM
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I hate to break it to you, it's very likely that she was hooking up with other dudes while you guys were in a relationship.
/r/seduction19/04/15 11:33 PM
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One thing I've noticed when it comes to asking girls out is that it's better to suggest something rather than asking them. Instead of "Do you want to grab dinner/a drink sometime?" say, "We should grab dinner/a drink." or "Let's do ____". I don't know why, but it has a higher rate of success than asking.
/r/seduction17/04/15 03:29 AM
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...And that's why you always have to acknowledge the friend. The friend that's being the third wheel has a ton of power to tear the whole thing down. You should game the friend a little bit also that way she doesn't feel left out and get pissed off. It doesn't have to be much, just enough so that she doesn't throw a fit and cock block you.
/r/seduction12/04/15 06:10 PM
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I live 1/2 block from the largest university in the country. I can step outside my apartment and I'll see at least a few hot girls walking by my complex. At the same time, I just turned 26 and most of the girls are between 18 and 21 around here. They're gonna be fairly immature. At least some of them are pretty smart though, so that's a plus. If I meet a group of girls, the odds are that at least a couple of them will be interested just based on the fact that I'm older and more mature than most …
/r/seduction28/03/15 02:07 AM
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I recently cut out a friend of 3-4 years the other day. It's a little different cause she's a girl and I realized that she almost gets the same treatment that I'd give a girlfriend, but we're just friends. She wants too much attention from me and I've got no reason to keep giving her that. I thought about it and realized that I wouldn't care too much about losing her as a friend. Honestly, the last couple of times we hung out I kinda couldn't wait for her to leave. I spent the last couple of day…
/r/seduction26/01/15 04:47 AM
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Sure, she might not be attracted to you. You don't land in the friendzone if you make your intentions clear and move on after you've been rejected.
/r/seduction19/01/15 03:12 PM
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You get put into the friendzone by not being clear about your intentions from the beginning. This is usually because you're scared of being rejected if your true intentions are known. The girl then assumes that you're just a friend cause you've never given her a reason to think otherwise. I've been friendzoned before. I was fine with it though cause the girl was an awesome wingwoman. I didn't care if we didn't hook up cause she was introducing me to girls that I would hook up with. You have to a…
/r/seduction19/01/15 06:07 AM
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I dance all the time when I go out. Put out your hand. She'll probably offer hers, especially if she just pulled you up to the dance floor. Spin her. Now you've got control and you can lead her. Do what you want with her now. I'll usually pull the girl into me and playfully push her away.
/r/seduction18/01/15 06:01 AM
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My roommate hooks up with more girls than anyone I know. A majority of the time, they're pretty damn hot. He's not a model or anhthing. He might be slightly above average when it comes to looks. He is very social and he has ridiculous social proof. He can go to any bar within the area and run into a bunch of people he knows. He can go out for the night and not have to spend a cent on alcohol cause people will offer him drinks or give him drugs. He also parties way too hard, does a lot of cocaine…
/r/seduction23/12/14 09:05 AM
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Eh, he wasn't confessing his love or anything. He was just saying that he's attracted to her. Since he had known the girl for months and was basically friendzoned by her, it was his best option to get out of the friendzone. Sure, he fucked up by being friendzoned, but the only way out is to be direct about your interest in them. I did this recently with a girl who was trying to friendzone me. She was defaulting to that cause I hadn't k-closed her yet, so what was she supposed to do? She referred…
/r/seduction04/12/14 06:16 AM
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Go on dates with them. Have fun and have sex with them. You haven't expressed a desire to be exclusive with any of them, so you're in the clear. Don't start treating any of them like they're your girlfriend until you decide that you want to be in a relationship with them. I have a roommate who will start hooking up with a girl, go on trips with them, and start calling them his girlfriend while he's still hooking up with other girls. He'll also get upset if they flirt or talk to other guys. He ma…
/r/seduction04/12/14 12:43 AM
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I never say anything before I kiss a girl. I just pull her towards me, put my hand under her chin, lean in, and lead her mouth towards mine. No need to say anything at all. If she backs away, I playfully push her away. The message is pretty clear.
/r/seduction28/11/14 05:29 AM
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Try going out and approaching with the intention of getting rejected. Don't go out with the expectation that you have to succeed. Try just saying and doing something that you know wouldn't work. You probably will get rejected or at the very least you'll have to deal with some awkwardness. Once you experience rejection or awkwardness, you'll be a little bit desensitized by out. You'll realize that it really isn't that bad. It didn't kill you. You're alright. What's actually kind of funny is that …
/r/seduction18/11/14 08:14 AM
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Haha, it's natural. It happens to everyone. It's a sign that you're attracted, so roll with it.
/r/seduction13/11/14 03:53 AM
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I've had casual sex and had that feeling. I'm currently in a position where I'm looking for something a bit more. That's because I actually have had a good amount of casual sex. I've gotten the feeling of being used, but it really wasn't all I was being used for when I look back at it. The girls actually wanted that connection and feeling of closeness. They also wanted some good sex. If they just wanted something the shape of a dick inside them, they would have gotten a dildo.
/r/seduction10/11/14 10:11 AM
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If she's having sex with you, you're attractive enough for her. I've never had casual sex and felt like I wasn't attractive enough. Now, I kinda know what you're getting at when it comes to not good enough for a relationship. I've had plenty of casual sex. I've also had a girl say that they don't want to date me. I thought, "What the fuck? Eh, you're fun to have sex with anyways." It was mostly cause she didn't have enough time for a relationship at the time. It's pretty common for a friends wit…
/r/seduction10/11/14 09:58 AM
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It really depends on how the date is going. Escalate kino and see how that goes. I ramp kino up to a k close. If she's not open to kino escalation, I'm not gonna go for the kiss. I could try for a hail mary, but I've always found that if she's not comfortable with kino escalation, she won't be open to a kiss. I've had a date where the first thing I did was pull her into me and kiss her. She was texting me that she didn't think I was the type to make the first move, which I took as a challenge. I…
/r/seduction10/11/14 09:36 AM
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DaygameCoach said it perfectly. I will add that you know you've crossed the line when she's no longer showing interest. For instance, you're texting her and she suddenly stops replying or she's replying much less frequently. My general rule is to keep the ratio at 1 to 1. If you back off, she should be picking up the slack. If you back off and she isn't making an effort to initiate things, she's not interested. Move on.
/r/seduction10/11/14 09:27 AM
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It's only natural. My rule for friends with benefits is that I don't care about them hooking up with other people, but I don't want it thrown in my face. I'll be hooking up with other girls, but I won't bring those other girls around them or do anything with other girls around them. It's just out of respect for them. I've flirted like crazy with another girl in front of a hook up buddy and I felt really bad about it afterwards. Her showing you that text is throwing it in your face. If it bothers…
/r/seduction10/11/14 08:31 AM
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It's usually random when that happens. I've had times where I've made out with a girl within five minutes of meeting her. She gave me her number and told me to meet her at her apartment. That was followed up by her telling me that she loves giving head. I actually showed up and she was with some other guy, which was a bit awkward and I left. I've also had a girl try to get me to go into a bathroom stall with her at a club after meeting me a minute earlier. It's rare and it just kinda happens. I'…
/r/seduction10/11/14 07:46 AM
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I tend to next girls who bore me. It doesn't matter how hot they are. I won't be attracted to a woman that I think is boring.
/r/seduction10/11/14 07:10 AM
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By the way, she's telling you that she is interested in you. Basically, she's saying you can have it if you want it. A girl that's not interested in you will be certain of whether or not you're in the friendzone. They're not gonna be like, "I don't know if you are, hehe." If a guy is legitimately friendzone, he basically has to go for broke if he wants out. He has to risk their friendship in order to get with her. If he really is sexually interested in her, it wasn't a friendship in the first pl…
/r/seduction10/11/14 05:22 AM
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I've had a girl who was a 9/10 come up, sit next to me, do the brushing her hair thing, and smile at me. I wasn't sober and I was too oblivious to really do anything about it. After we got back from the bars, my roommate told me that she came up to him, asked about me, and told him that she was too nervous to approach me. He told her that I'm friendly and easy to talk to, but I guess she got too nervous to talk to me so she went with sitting next to me and smiling. I'm not brad pitt hot. I know …
/r/seduction10/11/14 04:09 AM
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I actually was at a club a couple of months ago and some girl kinda jumped on me in the bathroom. I didn't know what she was trying to do. It kinda clicked that she wanted me to carry her. I told her to put her leg up, I picked her up from under her legs and carried her. Next thing I knew, she was trying to get me to go into a bathroom stall with her. I just met her less than a minute before. I walked away from it. It's not that she wasn't hot. I was just thinking that if it was that easy, there…
/r/seduction10/11/14 04:00 AM
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Honestly, it's not about being too nice. It's about not showing your true intentions. Don't be afraid to be sexual towards girls. I'm nice. I like helping others, I'm loyal, and I'll have my friends' backs. I also don't shy away from showing girls that I want to hook up with them. I make my moves. Once I started doing that, I found out that most girls were much more interested in me than I originally assumed. Most of the time they were actually frustrated that they were showing interest and I wa…
/r/seduction10/11/14 03:16 AM
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I generally flirt with all my female coworkers. That's just how I am. When it comes to hooking up, I won't do it unless I know that I'm gonna be quitting soon or I don't care about the job. That being said, SinSlayer is right. If you hook up with them outside of work, don't bring that into work. I don't care what job I'm at, I'm there to work. I will entertain some flirting, but that's as far as it goes. If I date a coworker, we might as well just be friends when we're on the job. No one wants t…
/r/seduction04/11/14 09:14 AM
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Exactly. This girl was interested in me and she started to friendzone me a bit cause she took my inaction as a lack of interest. Truth was that I wasn't certain whether I wanted to be friends with her or if I wanted to hook up with her. She's a cool girl that I could definitely see being friends with. She started to treat me like a friend cause that was the frame I was putting out there. After she started to friendzone me a bit, I made it clear what my intentions were. I texted her, "Sorry if I …
/r/seduction04/11/14 08:39 AM
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If she won't meet up with you, she's not interested. Simple as that. No need to confront her. Move on and stop texting her. She might try to get your attention back when you stop texting her. Meet other girls.
/r/seduction03/11/14 08:40 AM
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I'm naturally an introvert. By that I mean I get burned out from socializing after awhile and I need some time to recharge my batteries. That being said, I'll sometimes go out even if I'm not feeling it. If I'm not having fun, I'll head back home. There's really no harm in going out for a little bit unless you're doing that when you have homework or something else to do. Sometimes I'll go out when I'm not really in the mood, but I'll meet some people who are having fun and it turns into a crazy …
/r/seduction01/11/14 06:56 PM
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When I started to realize that girls get just as nervous as we do. They're just as scared of rejection. They just show interest by making themselves open to being approached. To them, if you don't approach them or make your move when they made themselves available, you rejected them.
/r/seduction27/10/14 10:36 PM
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Usually the difference is how fast you're escalating. I'm meeting girls that I can probably f close within a night. If I want to date a girl, I hold off on f closing. If I just want a fuck buddy or a one night stand, I'll f close very quickly. Also, don't take a girl on dates if you just want a hook up buddy. I had a girl tell me to take her on a date. It's cause she thinks of me as a potential boyfriend. I told her no cause I don't want to be in a relationship yet.
/r/seduction28/08/14 08:10 PM
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I think the big realization is that women are just as horny as men. They want to get laid also. Don't be afraid to treat them in a sexual manner. I don't mean treat them like sex objects or anything, but if you want to hook up with them don't treat them like you'd treat a friend. Run kino on them. I live with a guy who brings home a new girl every 1-2 weeks. They're usually at least HB8s. He's decent looking, but he really isn't model material or anything. I'm more physically attractive than him…
/r/seduction25/08/14 09:06 AM
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Oh, definitely. I'm not saying no conversation at all. Just make sure it leads to meeting up with the girl. The other day a girl I met last weekend hit me up on Facebook. It was very flirtatious and that led to a conversation about public sex. Ultimately that led to me asking her to meet up. Every single conversation we've had has led to one of us asking the other to meet up.
/r/seduction25/08/14 05:52 AM
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I think BCFtrip is right. The one platonic friendship I've had with a girl was with my wingwoman. Although we've never hooked up, I can definitely said that I've had several opportunities to and she has hinted a lot that she would want to. I've kept things from escalating each time. When you're driving through the rain and the girl looks at you and tells you that she would love to make out with a guy in the rain but that it would have to be someone that she really cares about, it's an obvious hi…
/r/seduction25/08/14 05:42 AM
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My rule is that texting should only be used to set up a meeting. You can have a little bit of a conversation first, but it should be leading to setting up a meeting with a girl. Any other conversation you want to have with her is better done face-to-face. You can't properly convey what you mean over text. I've had times where I've texted something that wasn't supposed to be offensive and the girl took it the wrong way. I avoid that altogether by keeping my texts to a minimum.
/r/seduction25/08/14 05:17 AM
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Kino. Don't be afraid to touch her. You can also throw in teasing and sexual innuendos. Also, you don't always have to close on a first date. My thing is that I'll usually wait till a second date/hangout after meeting a girl to f-close if I don't want just a one night stand. I might k-close when hanging out with a girl for the first time, but if I f-close her too soon I run the risk of her not coming for repeated visits. I don't want a relationship right now, but I do prefer having girls that I …
/r/seduction20/08/14 11:00 AM
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You just have to go for it if you're feeling it. A big thing is whether or not you're feeling like kissing that girl. I've had a few girls who have wanted to hook up with me in the past month that I've decided not to close with. It wasn't cause I was scared or anything, I just wasn't attracted enough to them at that point. Don't push for a kiss if it doesn't feel right. I don't mean if you're too scared to make a move.
/r/seduction20/08/14 10:52 AM
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I've had times where someone tried to make me the designated driver. They didn't ask, they just tried to tell me that I was gonna be the DD. I grabbed a bottle, took a big swig, and told them to kiss my ass. We grabbed a cab
/r/seduction18/08/14 05:20 AM
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99% of the time they do. What I've learned is that making themselves available is the female version of an approach. If you don't initiate conversation with them, they take it as rejection. I had this happen the other day. I was out with my roommate and a HB9 talked to him. She told him that she thought I was attractive, but she was scared to approach me. He told her to just strike up a conversation. I'm just hanging out and enjoying my time and she came up and sat next to me. She smiled, made e…
/r/seduction04/08/14 01:47 PM
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Exactly. My roommate brings back a different girl every 1 or two weeks. He's average looking. I wouldn't consider him to be super attractive or anything. I've had a HB9 tell me that they were scared to approach me cause I'm really attractive and they were scared of being rejected. I haven't gotten laid in over two months. The difference is that he puts in the work. He approaches girls and he gets it done. I don't. I will have hot girls position themselves by me expecting me to initiate conversat…
/r/seduction22/07/14 02:21 AM
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I'm working on it right now. I think one thing I'm realizing is that women want to be approached. They go out in order to be approached. I go out to bars a lot. I'm fairly attractive so a lot of women will put themselves in a position for me to approach them. I can't tell you how many times I've seen women sit next to me in a bar, give me "the look", twirl their hair, and wait for me to talk to them. It happens just about every time I go out to the bars. I know that I'm not imagining things caus…
/r/seduction22/07/14 02:03 AM
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I've found that it usually happens if they suggest it. If you push them for it, it probably won't work. I had a fwb in high school who was going through a phase of experimenting with girls. She suggested bringing a friend over and it was a good time. I never asked her. She was interested in it and she brought it up. I had another time in high school where two girls invited me over. I knew they were both interested in me and we proceeded to get hammered. I wouldn't call that one a threesome thoug…
/r/seduction05/06/14 11:43 PM
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If it's a good relationship then good for them. Sometimes people get lucky and find the right person early on. If their relationship is a mess and they're desperately trying to make it work cause they don't think that they can get any better then it's just sad. A lot of the time that's the situation. I think I'm 25 and I've never been in a relationship. I've had a couple of close calls, but they usually turned into a mess before I got fully invested. I've had a lot of hook ups and a couple of fr…
/r/seduction05/06/14 11:32 PM
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The general rule is that the one who asks the other person out pays for the date. I tend to keep it casual with a girl that I don't know well by grabbing a drink or coffee and talking. You can't get to know someone if you go to a movie. I'll pay for it if I asked them out. If they offer to pay for their portion, I'm fine with that. It depends on how much money I have in the bank and my mood. A lot of the time I just think, "Screw it, I've got it." The way I see it, you shouldn't make a big deal …
/r/seduction05/06/14 10:57 PM
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Girls like a guy who other women are attracted to. That doesn't necessarily mean that he's a player. If a bunch of people are attracted to you, you've got preselection working for you. If you're hooking up with a good amount of girls, it's not a bad thing usually. That being said, I think the quality of girls makes a difference. It doesn't look good if you're willing to fuck anything with legs. No girl wants to be played though and having the reputation for being a player can work against you. B…
/r/seduction03/06/14 12:40 PM
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I ran into this with my friend in high school. He'd start talking shit about me while I was hitting on a girl. I remember one time I was talking to a girl and he said, "Why don't you call up (girl I hooked up with a couple weeks earlier)? You guys were having fun last time." After that I pulled him aside and told him that he kept cockblocking me and that he needed to stop if we were gonna be cool. He denied it at first, but he eventually admitted that he was being a cockblock and he agreed to st…
/r/seduction03/06/14 12:20 PM
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You don't fuck them. Treat them like a friend and they'll be a friend. If you're a good friend, they'll introduce you to their friends. Hook up with their friends. Female friends are really good for social proof. Then if a bunch of people that she introduces you to are attracted to you, that's even more social proof. You're unattainable for her and you're what everyone wants. She'll probably be attracted to you if she isn't already.
/r/seduction28/05/14 11:26 AM
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This is a trap you can fall into. Let her dictate what needs to be done in order for a relationship to happen. Don't overcompensate by doing things that she never asked you to do. I was in a situation where I fucked up. I was starting to date a girl, but she had a reputation for being manipulative as hell. As a defense against this, I made her earn me. She did play some games, but that stopped once she got really invested in me. If we hung out, it was on my terms. She always had to drive to me a…
/r/seduction08/05/14 10:54 AM
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A good article, but you don't need an invitation to approach. I've had so many times where a girl has come over, hovered or sat right by me, and left annoyed cause I didn't start talking to her. Most of the time it's cause I'm relaxed and distracted by something else. I can confirm that that's basically an open invitation to talk to her 99% of the time. I don't think I've ever opened in that situation and not gotten a positive result.
/r/seduction30/04/14 10:02 PM
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You can have a bit of a conversation if she wants to have one. Make sure you're not texting more than she is. I tend to keep texts brief and to the point. You can't attract through texting and often times you can get caught texting too much, which can push a girl away.
/r/seduction12/04/14 10:48 AM
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This happens a good amount. Girl is on my couch and we're just hanging out. At some point we end up playing with each other's tongues. Not full making out or anything, but I'm seriously taking selfies with her and we're messing with each other's tongues. How the fuck did I not pull her in for a full blown make out session? Fuck. She later said something along the lines of, "you're so innocent and I wanted to corrupt that." I've denied road head from a girl cause I didn't want to crash my car. I …
/r/seduction12/04/14 10:33 AM
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You either get eye contact or you don't. If you do, just smile. You can't trick a girl into giving you good eye contact.
/r/seduction12/04/14 10:17 AM
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You go out solo and you go out often. To be honest, you will end up getting bored and you'll just start talking to random people if you go out enough. Going to bars isn't that fun unless you're interacting with someone else. This is what happened to me tonight. I went out salsa dancing cause I wanted to learn to salsa dance. I got bored with the music and went to the strip of bars right by campus. I couldn't find good music to dance to, so I spent a good amount of time just hanging out and not r…
/r/seduction12/04/14 10:14 AM
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Give her a text saying, "Hey it's ___ , now you have my number." Don't contact her more than that. Text her later with, "Hey let's go grab a drink at_____." Or whatever you want to do.
/r/seduction12/04/14 09:55 AM
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I've had a girl bring an ex on what was supposed to be a date. She was blatantly flirting with him to get me jealous. I started talking to a group of girls next to us and I had her ex come over to join me. We left her alone at the table. I basically threw it back in her face. She came up to me after and said that I couldn't do that if I wanted to date her.
/r/seduction31/03/14 04:37 AM
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Yeah, move on. It happens. You escalated a little too quickly, that's all. She'll hit you up if she wants to hang out again.
/r/seduction14/02/14 07:09 AM
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The whole be outrageous and stand out from the crowd thing works on me and I'm a guy. I had a girl randomly come up to me and ask me, "Will you be my husband? I'm looking for a husband and I've been asking everyone." I laughed and was like, "Yeah, sure. Sounds good. You've gotta buy the ring though." We ended up being good friends and that turned into us hooking up later on. That kind of opener just showed that she is fun and she doesn't take things too seriously, so it worked.
/r/seduction13/02/14 08:05 AM
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It's generally a bad idea. It's easy to go back to hooking up with someone that you used to hook up with. You've already done it, so there isn't much resistance to doing it again. When it comes to dating though, there was a reason things didn't work out before. What makes you think that you won't break up again? Also, it just generally takes more effort to fix something that's broken than meet someone new. Last girl I dated begged me for another chance. I still had some feelings for her, so I ga…
/r/seduction13/02/14 07:41 AM
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Eh, I'm going to a singles awareness day party that one of my university's clubs is throwing. A bunch of hot college girls and some booze. A majority of them are rock climbers, so they have awesome bodies.
/r/seduction13/02/14 07:33 AM
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Make out with her, escalate to feeling her up, hand goes below pants, hand goes inside panties, play with clit, finger her, etc. I shouldn't really have to direct you from there. In my experience, once you get to the point where you're fingering her, it's all downhill from there. That just tends to lead to sex. Be direct with your actions and take control. If she stops you from escalating, back off for a bit. Otherwise, keep escalating. If I'm making out with a girl for a bit, I'll straight up g…
/r/seduction13/02/14 07:29 AM
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I've run into this kind of thing before. I was trying to make things work with a girl and she told me that she didn't think it would work out. I said, "Alright. I guess we've gotta move on and meet other people." She started dating someone else, but didn't seem like she wanted to move on. We hung out twice while she was dating before I cut all contact. She still wanted to sleep in my bed with me. She was still flirting with me and running kino on me. There were a couple of times where she defini…
/r/seduction11/01/14 10:23 PM
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I'm kinda in the same boat. Give yourself a little time to slowly get back into things. Don't expect results immediately, but keep going out. After a while you'll just get bored and start approaching girls just to entertain yourself. Also, try to join a group to meet people. Do you like to do sports? Join an adult softball team. Check out meetup.com for some groups. You can generally meet a ton of people and most of the time the group gets a discounts on things, so it's cheaper. Being attractive…
/r/seduction09/12/13 10:28 AM
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I agree with the starting early part. Getting numbers is good, but it's always best to bring them home that night if you can. During day game/more casual settings you can get numbers and you have a decent shot at getting a reply. With night game/bars you're going to get a lot of numbers that won't reply.
/r/seduction28/10/13 05:54 AM
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You just get used to it after you've been rejected enough times. Just realize that there are other girls out there. You get to a certain point where rejection bounces right off of you. You automatically just go, she isn't interested? K, cool. Next. When you get to a point where you can be rejected and not react to it negatively, it actually makes girls more attracted to you. I've been rejected, didn't make a big deal out of it, and ended up with that same girl chasing after me. I've gone in for …
/r/seduction28/10/13 05:48 AM
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I consider myself to be good looking. I mean, I've had people compliment me on my looks plenty of times. I've been told that I should go into acting. I've dropped a female friend off to a modeling audition and had people assume that I was there to audition. I've seen guys who I know aren't as physically attractive as me get girls that are hotter then what I've ever gotten. My opinion is that it's easy for a guy that's unattractive to become attractive with a little work. Dress well, get a good h…
/r/seduction11/09/13 08:28 AM
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Give yourself more options. Don't overthink the reasons why it went wrong. There are a number of reasons why it could have gone wrong. It could be that you didn't build enough comfort or attraction. It could be that she just had to leave. It could be anything and it most likely didn't have anything to do with you. The fact is that it didn't work out and there are other girls out there. Keep giving yourself more options and keep going on dates. After a while, you won't be affected by rejection at…
/r/seduction28/06/13 12:28 AM
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Ask them about themselves. If you want people to like you and you want to get to know them, ask them questions about themselves. People absolutely love to talk about themselves. Don't force it so that it comes off like an interview, but show interest in them. Tease them on things here and there. Don't be mean about it though. Just playful. That takes some practice to get right. Have a fun time and when you go separate ways, exchange numbers.
/r/seduction28/06/13 12:15 AM
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A ton of how other people see you is based on how you see yourself. If you think you have value, others will also. There's nothing wrong with being giving and nice. However, you have to have the sense of self worth to be able to see when you're being taken advantage of and to call people on that. You've gotta have a rule that if someone is treating you badly, you're not going to be nice to them. You have to have boundaries with how nice you are to people. It's not about being an asshole. It's ab…
/r/seduction28/06/13 12:06 AM
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I go between Mill and Scottsdale a lot. Robbie Fox's and The Canteen are the two places that have the most people. Fat Tuesday is pretty good too. I've found that girls on Mill Ave have less of a bitch shield up than in Scottsdale. I prefer the music in Old Town though.
/r/seduction19/06/13 08:03 AM
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Dress well, work out, and get a good haircut. Guys can go from unattractive to attractive by just doing that. As long as you take care of yourself, a girl will find you attractive. You've gotta change your attitude. Why would anyone be attracted to you if you're self-loathing?
/r/seduction19/06/13 05:53 AM
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24 and in the Tempe area. I'm down. I just go out to have fun. It tends to work well. I usually hit up Mill or Old Town on the weekends.
/r/seduction19/06/13 05:44 AM
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Her ex wasn't around the whole night. Her ex split off to go to a different party. It's kinda hard to make someone jealous when he's not around to see you get on other guys.
/r/seduction27/05/13 07:42 PM
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If I'm being honest, I usually next them. I can't stand trying to have a conversation with people who are shy. I'm naturally shy myself, so it's just a bad combination. I hate having to pry a conversation out of someone. I get along with people who are really talkative because I don't have to pry it out of them. One thing that has worked well with shy people in general is asking them about themselves. Find something that you have in common with them and talk about that.
/r/seduction26/05/13 09:07 PM
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Yep, if a girl expects/wants a relationship from the start she will let you know. I've gone on a date with a girl and she flat out told me that she isn't going to have sex unless she's in a relationship with someone. At that point I slowed things down and got to know her so that I could figure out if I wanted a relationship with her or not. If they're expecting a relationship, they will let you know. If they don't, they're not mature enough to have a relationship with anyways.
/r/seduction29/04/13 12:54 AM
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There are so many hot single girls that are out there that you don't need to go after a girl that's taken. I could have gotten a girl to cheat on her boyfriend with me, but I decided to cut contact with her instead. I casually dated her before and she ended up in a relationship with the guy basically because I was taking too long to commit to her. She wanted a serious relationship, so she got into one. I could have possibly justified hooking up with her by saying I was getting back what was mine…
/r/seduction04/03/13 01:59 AM
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If you have interesting hobbies show that. Most of the pictures I have up are of me doing cool things. One is of me skydiving and I've had lots of girls message me asking about it.
/r/seduction01/03/13 07:35 AM
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I like girls who are alphas. They're generally the girls I go after. Love them. I can't stand shy and introverted girls. Take her out on a fun date. If she's outgoing she'll be down for something that's out of the norm. The last date I had with an alpha female we went to a waterfall nearby and jumped off of it, I almost drove off a dirt road which could have killed us, and we picked up two hitchhikers who luckily were nice. It was a memorable date and surprisingly she loved it. I'm not saying yo…
/r/seduction01/03/13 07:27 AM
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A girl used to call me up and tell me that I should cruise over to her place and eat her out. She started the phone call with that. She lived 40 minutes away and she still lived in her parents' house (don't worry, she's 21), so I was like fuck that. She's really hot and I never ended up f-closing her. I kind of regret that I didn't just decide to drive out there one time. Then again, she was a little crazy and I might have dodged a bullet. If the girl has asked you to come over late at night, go…
/r/seduction01/03/13 07:16 AM
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You never chase a girl. You get them to chase you. I don't mean that you don't approach girls. What you do is approach the girl and immediately give them something to chase after. You're the prize. If what you want is a relationship, get them to chase after it.
/r/seduction28/02/13 09:10 AM
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Yeah, I had this happen to me recently. I focused on one girl and I could have f-closed her. We made out a few times, but it never went beyond that. We both wanted a relationship, so I took things slow. I probably should have just f-closed her from the start and figured things out from there. It actually came really close to becoming a relationship, so I stopped gaming other girls. It's not like I didn't have other options either. There were a few times where I broke the oneitis and I was immedi…
/r/seduction28/02/13 08:54 AM
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I think women do have a lot of options. The thing is that the average guy has zero game. There aren't many guys that are actually interesting enough for a girl to seriously consider them. I was hanging out with a female friend and she gets messages on Facebook from random guys 24/7. Pretty much every guy immediately compliments her on her looks. First off, you shouldn't be trying to run game over Facebook. Second, don't start off with "Hey beautiful." The immediate reaction is "Oh, another douch…
/r/seduction11/02/13 02:08 PM
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Foreplay. Slowly put your hand down her pants and start to play with her clit. Never ask for permission. I've talked to a few girls about this and they all say that asking gives them an excuse to say no. They might want to have sex, but there is always gonna be LMR. You're playing into that by asking for her permission. They will tell you to stop or they will physically stop you if they really don't want to have sex. If she does that, then you immediately stop what you're doing. Until one of tho…
/r/seduction09/02/13 11:36 PM
1

It's definitely easy to socialize while on molly, but it's also very easy for people to tell that you're on molly. That tends to be a turn off for girls.
/r/seduction09/02/13 11:24 PM
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British people can be very sarcastic. Here in the US people don't take sarcasm really well. The British have it down to an art. This may make it seem like British women are bitchy. They aren't.
/r/seduction09/02/13 11:09 PM
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I've flirted with one boss and a lot of my co-workers. People just tend to like it when people flirt with them. Being well-liked at the workplace has its benefits. Did I ever really pursue anything? Nope. It's just a bad idea if you need the job. If you don't really care about keeping that job, go for it. Otherwise I'd recommend against banging the boss.
/r/seduction07/02/13 10:30 AM
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Your last sentence is huge. Relationships are not about having power over the other person. If your relationship is based on who gets control over the other person, that relationship will deteriorate. I've had a girl literally tell me that she was gonna pussy whip me. I should've seen that as a huge red flag and moved on. It turned into this big mess where we were both fighting for control. I finally decided to just walk away from it cause it became clear that there was no way that we'd have a s…
/r/seduction07/02/13 10:20 AM
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Yeah. Just have the intention of meeting someone new. Believe it or not, girls love meeting new people. Just be friendly. Have the attitude that you're an awesome guy and you bring value to people's lives.
/r/seduction07/02/13 10:03 AM
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"Come here." Grab her by the waist, pull her towards you, and kiss her. Pretty simple really. Honestly, it doesn't matter what you say at that point. I've literally said, "Fuck it.", pulled her in, and kissed her.
/r/seduction21/01/13 02:28 AM
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It has never happened. Most girls I know don't know the terminology. I don't use the terminology and I generally do things without really thinking. It's not like I'm thinking, ok, neg the girl now, kino now, etc. I just naturally do it when it's appropriate. If a girl calls me out on it my response would probably be, "Yeah, what's your point?" It's a shit test and I don't care that I'm doing it. It's called flirting and it's what people naturally do.
/r/seduction21/01/13 02:25 AM
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Not entirely true. You have to initiate, but you shouldn't chase too much. Initiate and be interesting enough that they would want to chase you. Being male just means that you usually initiate first because that's how society is. We're told that men are supposed to sweep the woman off her feet.
/r/seduction04/12/12 11:15 AM
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Give them something to chase after. As a guy, you have to be the one that initiates though. It's just the way things work. You can't expect women to initiate things because that's just not how socializing works. It sucks, but it's how it is. I wish I could just sit back and have girls hit on me. Once you initiate, you tease and you make them work for your attention. You give them a reason to chase after you. You don't work for their attention, you make them work for your attention. I've been app…
/r/seduction04/12/12 11:01 AM
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Nice guys work for a girl's approval. Guys who get laid make girls work for his approval. It's a difference between taking value and giving it. Alphas hold the value, so they're the ones who give it out. Betas see the woman as having value, so they're looking to take it.
/r/seduction04/12/12 10:49 AM
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You know what taught me how to get comfortable with kino? I looked at how gay guys interact with women. They have absolutely no problem running kino on a girl because they are not really interested in having sex with them. I'm serious, gay guys run kino on women better than most guys I know. The difference is that you escalate further and k-close the girl. Seriously, how many times have you seen a gay guy take a girl's hand and twirl her? The girl loves it. There is no hesitation on the guy's pa…
/r/seduction04/12/12 10:37 AM
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I'm ballsier when I'm drunk. I don't pick up on things as well though. When I should be doing something, I'm drunk and doing something else. I've had friends tell me that I've had HB10s dancing all up on me and giving me crazy IOIs and I'm just in party mode and I leave the set. Drunk me doesn't give a shit about getting laid, he just wants to have fun and party. Girls like that lack of restraint and I can usually number close at least 1 or two girls by the end of the night. Drunk me is just too…
/r/seduction03/12/12 02:49 AM
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I have a tendency to forget to number close. I get caught up in the conversation and just forget to ask for a number. I think one thing I've learned is that you have to assume that you'll never see that girl again unless you get her number. Most of the time it ends up that way. You have a conversation and you never see them again. If you want to see them again, you've gotta get digits.
/r/seduction19/10/12 11:41 AM
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I'd like to add that you should always do a fun activity for a first date. Keep it lighthearted and fun. Is there a rock climbing gym near you? Do that. Laser tag? Do that. Go to a park and have a picnic. Go to an art gallery (if you're into art). Don't just do the normal sit down for coffee and make it into an interview. Keep things fun. I had one date where I met a girl downtown, rode the lightrail up to the college area, roamed around the shops for a few hours, and had lunch later. There wasn…
/r/seduction15/10/12 09:26 PM
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Be blunt with them. If they don't get it, don't have contact with them. If they're acting crazy, their actions will speak volumes about them. She might be talking a ton of shit, but if you're not reacting to it people won't believe her. They'll see that she's the one acting crazy.
/r/seduction15/10/12 06:31 AM
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The thing is that Mystery kind of takes the whole peacocking thing to a whole different level. The way he dresses is about as over-the-top as you can get with peacocking. Usually it isn't that noticeable and it works wonders. I was at a rave wearing glasses that lit up. I didn't have to approach a single girl there, I had a bunch coming up to me and asking me about them. They're not even that uncommon either. Everyone wears glowy things at a rave, but usually people are wearing glowy bracelets. …
/r/seduction12/10/12 05:13 AM
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Make it into a game and make her work for what she wants. People don't value things that are just given to them. They value the things that they have to work to get. If she earns it, give it to her and don't hold out on her. If you hold out, she'll see the effort she put in wasn't worth it and she'll move on.
/r/seduction12/10/12 04:46 AM
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If you ever want to see if a girl wants you, pull away a little. If she wants you, she'll chase. If she doesn't, she won't.
/r/seduction12/10/12 04:42 AM
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It's a calibration problem. I had the same thing happen when I started. I was negging way too hard and it came off as mean. You're doing it because you think that being a dick is what you have to do. It isn't. Just don't be a pushover and make them work for what they want. Negging should be playful and fun. It's a tease. it's not insulting or mean. I've come to the point where I'm not an asshole or a nice guy. I can be a dick at times and nice other times. A girl doesn't want a guy that's a push…
/r/seduction12/10/12 04:38 AM
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Yeah, I've been told that I'm a good dancer. The fact that I don't look awkward/weird when I dance helps. I usually am with at least one girl when I go out, so that helps a lot also. You might end up dancing with a girl, but you aren't gonna close unless you lead her somewhere else to actually talk to her. I've pulled a girl close to talk into her ear before, but I was pretty drunk, she was extremely receptive to everything, and that was a bold move. That was the girl who I made out with and who…
/r/seduction12/10/12 04:14 AM
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DO NOT stop meeting other girls. It doesn't mean that you have to be fooling around with other girls, but don't stop meeting and flirting with other girls. You are not in a committed relationship until both parties are committed. I learned this recently. I was casually dating a girl who I was seriously considering for a relationship. I'm 23 and I've played this game my whole life. I've never been in a committed relationship. I've had friends with benefits and random hookups, but never had a rela…
/r/seduction11/10/12 11:14 AM
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Don't tap on the shoulder, haha. What I do is I just start dancing and having a good time. If there is a dancefloor, I go right into it without hesitating. Smiles, laughing, and having a good time. As long as the impression you're giving off is that of a guy having a good time and not caring what other people think, girls will gravitate towards you. One of them will position themselves by you and start dancing by you and kind of sync with your dancing. Smile, reach out a hand, and use your hand …
/r/seduction11/10/12 10:57 AM
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In my opinion, you should never stop meeting girls. It doesn't matter whether you're in a relationship or not. It's just keeping your social skills honed. Obviously, you shouldn't be meeting girls with the intention of hooking up if you're in a relationship, but making female friends isn't a bad thing. If they get the wrong idea and want something more, just make it clear that you have a girlfriend that you're very committed to. If you have trust in a relationship, both people can still meet peo…
/r/seduction18/09/12 10:41 PM
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It's rough in the beginning. It's about respect though. Respect every person you meet, don't be a douchebag to them, and they will want to do favors for you. I use every person I meet to meet other people. I have them introduce me to their friends. As long as you treat them with respect, they will want to introduce you to their friends. I like to reciprocate this whenever I can. If they do a favor for me, I'll do a favor for them. When it comes to hooking up with girls within social circles, you…
/r/seduction27/07/12 03:45 PM
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I prefer redheads or girls with auburn hair who are fun to party with but are also kind of nerds. They dress well and have class. They are the type of girls who are freaks in the bed, but you'd never suspect it. I prefer girls to be shorter than me, athletic, and have a nice ass. Nice boobs are a plus, but they're not a requirement. I also like some freckles, but not a ton. I also like a more natural look. If a girl can look really good without any makeup, that's a plus. They have to In the end,…
/r/seduction27/07/12 03:32 PM
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haha, no worries.
/r/seduction28/06/12 03:49 AM
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I'm just reiterating one of your points for the OP.
/r/seduction28/06/12 12:02 AM
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Don't be afraid to touch. Start small and build from there. You don't go straight from handshake (shouldn't ever handshake anyways, hugs are always better) to feeling her up. You build it up, the only thing that tells you to stop is her stopping you. If she stops you, you back off and don't touch her as much. Touch everyone (I know that sounds weird) even guys. I'm straight and I have no problem giving my guy friends hugs or something like that. I just don't touch them in sexual ways cause I'm n…
/r/seduction27/06/12 12:47 PM
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Oh man, don't date anyone too close to them. They will invite female friends over. Flirt with the friends. The friends will automatically find you attractive, you already have a ton of social proof. Just don't date anyone too close to them. You'll probably be fine if it's more of an acquaintance than a good friend of theirs. I lived with a female friend who loves to wing for me (I'm still under the impression that she's attracted to me, but I've got her in the friend-zone). I let her crash at my…
/r/seduction27/06/12 12:36 PM
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Went to my friend's place on Friday. His girlfriend had her sisters over. One was too young for me to go for and the other was old enough and hot, so I started flirting immediately. We go to the store, she grabs some booze, and we come back. We start playing drinking games and the sister is having me take shot after shot with her. She might do this with everyone, but I just assumed it was an IOI and I was going to treat it as one. I'm running kino and it's getting a good response. We go to the p…
/r/seduction25/06/12 08:13 AM
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I love girls who are like this. Challenge them, it creates a sexual vibe. Make it into a bit of a competition. They really do want a challenge. The current girl I'm hooking up with is this way. When we play games we shit talk a lot. It's fun as hell. Although she is dominant, she absolutely loves it when I'm in control. This kind of competition translates to awesome sex.
/r/seduction21/06/12 02:19 AM
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You've gotta let them know straight up. What I've found with sex is that it's impossible to not run into some amount of attachment. I even get slightly attached to girls I have hook ups with, it's hard to avoid it. Just make sure you're on the same page with it. With my current FWB, we both understand it's just sex. I've never taken her on a date, we don't contact each other unless it is to hang out, we meet at my friend's place, and we just go back to my place later for sex. We also limit how m…
/r/seduction21/06/12 01:58 AM
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Here's how I feel about dates, there has to be a certain level of attraction for them to be willing to go on a date with you. Run with this thought, assume she is attracted to you. When you have this assumption, it's easy to run kino, then you can close. Just keep it in your mind that she is attracted to you enough that she is willing to go on a date with you. I've never not at least k-closed on a date. If I can get a date, I can always get at least a k-close. I've literally met up with a girl a…
/r/seduction06/06/12 06:42 AM
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Exactly. It's pretty simple. If you just assume they're attracted to you, you're going to make the moves that you need to make. If you have doubts, you won't. Just assume attraction and make your moves. J
/r/seduction12/03/12 12:39 AM
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I'm currently rooming with a girl that's my wingwoman. They're amazing for social proof. They don't even have to really do much, the fact that girls see you getting along with an attractive woman makes you that much more attractive and gets them to lower their guard.
/r/seduction29/02/12 10:35 PM
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Rapist wannabe? I don't know where you're getting that from at all. LMR exists and it helps to have some kind of understanding of why it exists. If a girl is resisting, you always back off. I haven't said anything advocating forcing your will upon someone who doesn't want to have sex with you. This applies to seduction in general. A girl isn't responding well to your approach? Back off and meet a new girl. A girl isn't responding well to kino? Back off on the kino. You can't force a girl to want…
/r/seduction19/01/12 08:38 AM
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The problem with evolutionary psychology is that it's hard to test a hypothesis. You can't point to a specific part of the brain and say, this behavior stems directly from this structure in the brain. A small part of the brain can serve a ton of functions. What I have is a hypothesis. You're right, I don't have a theory. I used the wrong word, I meant hypothesis. But my hypothesis is based on the observation that LMR exists. I assume that it exists for some evolutionary purpose. I also assume th…
/r/seduction19/01/12 04:17 AM
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You do realize that the mongols mostly raped women, right? Back in the day the conquering force had their way with the women. It usually wasn't consensual sex. Your example of ancient armies bedding the local women doesn't really apply. They'd kill the men, rape the women, and take their belongings. Sure, there was still probably consensual sex going on, but rape was very common. It was their way of breeding out their enemies. If you're a women living back in those days, yes, you had to be caref…
/r/seduction18/01/12 08:42 AM
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How are you going to prove it? What kind of experiment can you possibly set up to prove this theory? You're trying to call me out by saying [citation needed], but an experiment studying something like this would take a very long time. So no, it's not a proven scientific fact. It's a theory that makes a lot of sense. I could be wrong, but I'd bet money that this is why women have LMR.
/r/seduction18/01/12 07:53 AM
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LMR has to do with the fact that sex is risky for women. A guy can have sex and that's the end of it. If a woman has sex it can lead to her being pregnant and vulnerable for 9 months. I know that today we have birth control, but that's only a recent development. For thousands of years women have had to be careful about who they have sex with. They need to be sure that that guy will stick around and protect them. Those who resisted at the last minute ensured that the guy would stick around. If th…
/r/seduction17/01/12 09:29 PM
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That's probably because you recognized them and backed off, backed off a little bit, and built up comfort.
/r/seduction10/01/12 08:08 PM
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I am easily distracted and indecisive. In the past and even now, I'll pass up on opportunities because I suddenly lose interest in what I know I can have. I like to have a challenge. I'm attractive and I'm fun to be around. I'm naturally shy, but I can also be really friendly and outgoing. It really depends on how my social life is at the time. I don't have a lot of friends? I'll be shy. I've got a circle of friends with who I hang out with a good amount? I'm not so shy. I have a good sense of h…
/r/seduction05/12/11 12:52 PM
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I've had a girl come up to me and say, "Will you marry me? My friends and I are on the hunt for a husband." It was obviously a joke. I just laughed and played along with it. "Yeah, sure, why not? Are we gonna have one of those Vegas drive-thru weddings?" The fact that she asked such a random question in such a playful manner instantly made me want to get to know her. I imagine it's the same way for women. I ended up becoming good friends with her first and then we started hooking up. I kinda end…
/r/seduction05/12/11 11:10 AM
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You just test the waters. If she stops you at some point from doing something, don't do it. A little bit of hair pulling and light biting is a great way to get it to be a little rougher. Those two things are vanilla enough that most girls will be into it. Who doesn't like a little light biting? The do open a person up to a little bit of rough play. Then you push from there. Test your waters. If she stops you, then you stop. A lot of it isn't verbal communication, but she will either tell you to …
/r/seduction29/11/11 06:18 AM
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I usually do exactly what you said. Tease, kissing, light biting, kissing the neck. Start slowly tracing your fingers down her stomach, stop just below her pants, don't just go straight for the vagina. Stop at the pelvic area and tease her a bit. Maybe incidentally brush her down there and move up a bit. Continue making out with her. She'll be pretty wet at this point. Put you hand down there and tease her clit with your fingers a bit. You can either come back up and tease her more or you can ju…
/r/seduction29/11/11 06:08 AM
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I've heard somewhere that the only real difference between an introvert and an extrovert is that introverts need to take time to be by themselves and recharge their batteries. Basically, introverts are very capable of being very social, but they quickly become exhausted from it. I know that I am naturally an introvert. I've always thought of it as a bad thing, but I've had girls I know recently tell me that I come off as a bit mysterious when they first meet me, so I've started to realize that i…
/r/seduction07/09/11 06:56 AM
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You go out, approach, and get rejected.When you get exposed to rejection, you realize that it's not that bad.
/r/seduction28/08/11 06:16 PM
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Sense of humor helps a ton. Girls love a guy with a good sense of humor. I use it for my initial hook usually. Since your problem is building physical attraction, do more kino. Tease her a bit and push her away. Being funny helps a ton with negging.
/r/seduction16/08/11 06:28 AM
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Don't act any differently around her. If she wants something more, she'll bring it up herself. It was a kiss which really isn't that big of a deal. Don't avoid her, don't be all over her either. All you really have to do is act the same way you have been acting and she will want to continue hooking up with you. Congratulations on the kiss close, but don't act like it was a huge deal because she will get pushed away if you do. It will develop naturally. Especially if you're hooking up on a regula…
/r/seduction16/08/11 05:43 AM
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When I was in high school I usually was the one being approached, so I had the same mindset for a while and it threw me off. I consider myself to be a good looking guy and when I first started college I thought I could cruise though on that alone. I had a lot of friends in high school that I met through sports and I knew a lot of older kids because my brother was a well-known player on the football team. Having a high social status, I never really had to approach girls in high school, they would…
/r/seduction11/08/11 12:07 AM
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I'm not a virgin, but I can't say I've had a lot of sex either. I do currently know a girl that I could have sex with if I want to. She is attractive, but there are some personality flaws that send up some red flags. I come here for bits and pieces of advice. Like many have said on here, take the advice on here with a grain of salt. Some of it is great advice, some of it is bad advice. Try different things out and see what works for you. Some of this stuff might work for other guys, but won't wo…
/r/seduction18/07/11 06:45 AM
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I recently moved to a new city and for the first 3 months I didn't know anyone and didn't really have a social life. It sucked. The best advice I can give you is to just get out of the house and find some activities to do. No matter what, don't confine yourself to your house. You can't meet anyone that way. I live in an apartment complex with a lot of people who are around my age, so it was pretty easy for me to meet people. I recently met a girl who knows a lot of people who live here and she h…
/r/seduction26/06/11 11:01 PM
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In my experience, it's pretty rare for a girl to be rude or mean to a guy approaching her. If they react that way, you don't really want to know them anyways. You don't want to know someone who is mean/anti-social like that. Most girls will just show disinterest and that's enough to get the guy hitting on her to go away. That's pretty much all you'll run into unless you're being rude yourself. The worst that happens is a few seconds of awkwardness and you move on.
/r/seduction30/05/11 04:48 PM
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Piano Man - Billy Joel. Everyone knows the words and it's not a tough one to sing. It requires a strong voice, but it's in the middle when it comes to the range you need. You're not having to hit crazy high notes and you're not having to hit super low notes. If you're decent with it, people will be singing along.
/r/seduction26/04/11 09:31 PM
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I've been told that I have an actor/celebrity face by some random guy at Souplantation with his wife. It was kind of a random compliment and hard to respond to. I don't look like a particular celebrity, but I apparently have an actor's face. I said thank you and, "Damn, too bad I can't act. I'd be riiich!"
/r/seduction07/04/11 06:10 AM
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Grabbing a girl from a guy mid-dance isn't normal and it's rude as hell. That being said, it's not uncommon for some creepy guy to come up and try to start dancing with the girl you're with. I go out to clubs/bars a good amount and I like to dance when I have a few drinks in me. I'm a good dancer and girls usually tell me this. Occasionally I'll be dancing with a girl and some creeper will start trying to dance with the girl. I'm not a big guy, but I'm not small either, I could easily take a lot…
/r/seduction31/03/11 09:50 AM
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I'll give you that in a bar or club, trying to talk to someone doesn't always work too well since it can often be too loud to hear someone talking.
/r/seduction31/03/11 09:26 AM
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being spontaneous and fun tends to work well
/r/seduction31/03/11 09:22 AM
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I think what's described on here as being "nice" is really just being needy. It's possible to be friendly and social and not come off as needy. Where most guys make the mistake is putting the woman's value above their own. I think that's what we commonly call being "nice".
/r/seduction31/03/11 09:06 AM
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I like the handing them the phone idea. I occasionally do it with guys or girls whose names I can't remember. I don't think remembering a girl's name is all that critical if you only met them that night. Girls will occasionally ask me if i remember their name and I just laughed and said I didn't. All they did was act all upset for a second and tell me their name again. If you really want to save face say, "what's your name again?" (they tell you their first name) "No, I mean your last name." It'…
/r/seduction28/06/10 08:40 AM
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