but NOT approach rejection.

I've been recently having a recurring pattern where I'll go on a date with a girl and suddenly she'll go completely radio silent on me and really bums me out. How do stop letting my failure affect my emotions?

For some reason whenever a girl completely ignores me the uncertainty and lack of closure causes great emotional instability in me and I freak out.

my mindset turns really negative and I get really depressed, not about the girl, but about my own life, my whole outlook turns very negative and my self esteem goes down.

I start to get anxious, I think about my game and analyze it, I begin to get depressed about my entire life, I even get bothered a lot and start to wonder why she ignored me. I'm not sure why this bothers me so much. Often I'm not very interested or attracted to the women I'm dating. I'm not even attached to her but her ignoring me really causes me anxiety and GREAT sadness, I start to feel really lonely and unwanted to.

Why does this keep happening and how do I stop it?

This happens to me even if I'm dating more than one girl and even when I don't even like the girl.

I went on a date with this girl who literally was all over me for months, she was showing high levels of interest in me.

I didn't feel particularly attracted to her but I went on a date anyway to see what would happen. She seemed to enjoy the date, and invited me over to her home in the next few days, specifically telling me she was going to be alone. Keep in mind this girl was EXTREMELY interested in me and I basically had it in the bag.

On our first date we were in my car and we messed around a little, I got her naked and then she suddenly said she had to leave to wake up early for work, something felt a little off here and I think I really fucked up with my performance, which destroyed my confidence.

A few days later I text her to come over to her place like she said and she just ignores me. She just disappeared on me.

Even though I didn't like her I felt really crushed by this. It's extremely frustrating to me when women ignore me and especially when I think its due to how I'm preforming, how do I stop letting it get to me. I don't mind an answer either way(negative or positive) but the lack of response causes massive emotional swings on me.

I started feeling high levels of anxiety and I even got a little depressed, why does this keep happening? I must have really fucked up something.

Keep in mind that getting rejected from approaching doesn't bother me at all, it has zero affects on me, but it seems whenever a woman just suddenly ignores me for no particular reason AFTER we go on a date or two it causes great pain. She knows me now so I can't just rationalize the whole "she doesn't even know me" I REALLY get anxious and sad.

I'd like to learn how you guys cope?