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They're not really suitable yet because they're a bit old for your daughter, but "fantastic mr Fox" and Rudyard Kipling's Just So stories are favorites for my daughter (5) and have been maybe since she was about 3. At a more age-appropriate level the Richard Scarry picture books (busy busy world especially) and Mr Men books maybe? Mr Men and Little Miss and the beatrix potter books were i think good bedtime books about the 2 years age. ​ ​
/r/RedPillWives12/09/18 01:12 PM
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Congratulations! have you started wedding planning yet? ;)
/r/RedPillWives07/09/18 03:26 PM
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Something like "I think we might be ready or almost ready to start a family, but want to talk with you to check you agree and work out a plan for what things we'll do to get ready" Just as a tip some fertility plans suggest lower frequency sex than you're having for (i think) sperm quality reasons, so it might be something to mention that there might be less sex sometimes? IDK, it might not be needed so maybe leave that.
/r/RedPillWives06/09/18 02:36 PM
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So many things like this, I wasn't at all into gardening when we met, I had really stopped reading fiction for pleasure and certainly not the kind I read now. I used to like classic fiction but he's really got me into things like Issac Asimov and sci fi. There's a lot of movies we watched together but Blade runner is very "our film", I'd never seen it but the eloquent way he described it and then cuddling up to watch it made it a special thing for me 😊 The biggest thing is probably church, I was…
/r/RedPillWives25/08/18 06:59 PM
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Thankyou for the advice
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/18 03:57 PM
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Cheating Forming a deep emotional bond with someone else Sending naked pictures to someone other than me Texting erotic messages to someone other than me Maintaining an online dating profile Not cheating but still bad Spending time with their ex-partner Casual flirting with someone other than me Communicating with their ex Not too bad Thinking about someone other than me when having sex with me Going out to dinner with someone who is the opposite sex Fantasising about someone else
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/18 01:29 PM
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I know, but if they're too intense or it takes too long I just get more sore, then it's a chore. I guess everyones just put together different
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/18 12:35 PM
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Soreness or numbness or tiredness would maybe make getting there more annoying than giving up sometimes?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/18 08:58 AM
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So many women do! It's not even weird, it's probably the most basic thing ever to like someone "fit/athletic" but not obviously obsessed with getting huge. So frustrating to be told you don't know what you actually want. The public harrassment thread was a mess, I nearly commented but it's something that i didn't want to get into things like arguing about "realistic" fears vs intimidation and hostility that he didn't understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/18 03:49 PM
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I once made the very mild comment that I didn't like super-muscular guys (as opposed to more balanced and athletic) and got told how I was a liar, I'd absolutely cheat on my husband if some Arniesqe freak came on to me, and that he was weak. Sharing anything actually personal openly here seems a bit like inviting punishment.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/18 02:51 PM
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Normally he kind of knows because i'll ask for hot water bottles and maybe be more tired, but I don't make a point of telling him I suppose unless it will interfere with something. Health things I usually do tell him if i'm worried about anything, he reminds me about appointments and picks up prescriptions quite often for me. I used to be a lot more shy, but after someone has seen you give birth it's kind of different boundaries I think! When we've been trying to conceive I have told way more de…
/r/RedPillWives22/08/18 10:09 AM
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That's a good idea, someone to talk to and help you process some of the grief, I'm so sorry, I wish there was more we could do to help x
/r/RedPillWives21/08/18 02:47 PM
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I used to use the IRC, but my mobile kept dropping me out of it, it was really annoying and then I would miss things and spam up the feed with disconnection messages. I used the mobile app mostly, but when i browse the sub I use the new layout
/r/RedPillWives15/08/18 12:51 PM
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It just doesn't seem to help anyone, it makes a lot of assumptions and prescribes what we should be doing and doesn't seem to make anyone any happier. I also think it's too individualistic and focussed on the idea of rights and privileges to produce happiness. It encourages competition with men in a way which I don't think is helpful
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/18 10:42 AM
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Yes, and I still do. In teenage years it meant I had a few friends who I felt dependent on and now feel were bad friends. Yes, girls are vile to each other as teenagers Not really for me. I avoided guys as much as possible Yes, being a weirdo is worse than being unattractive Yes, or at least for me it did. The ones who approached were all horribly unattractive for one reason or another, or I didn't believe they were actually interested in me so I shut them down.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/18 08:05 AM
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Exactly, we were talking last night about another couple and how the wife was causing conflict by never really trusting her husband to do things, if there was any flaw or issue with something he was responsible for she would be super critical. There is so much less to remember when you can just trust your husband to deal with things and ask for support where needed, trying to control everything is a lot of "emotional labour" feminists complain about.
/r/RedPillWives10/08/18 10:09 AM
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I guess the big thing is we just don't butt heads or contradict each other much, we aren't competing and know what each of us is responsible for? Kind of like before I would sometimes second guess decisions and even if they were not my job I'd interfere more. Now we spend less time deciding things and more time getting them done so it's less stress and conflict. We do talk about it sometimes, when we need to iron something out and events or stress is causing friction but not so much as when I fi…
/r/RedPillWives07/08/18 03:10 PM
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I try to give a good example of support, I'm afraid I didn't see that when I was growing up so I do really try to think what lesson I want to pass on, that dad works hard for the family and we are proud 😊
/r/RedPillWives06/08/18 06:41 PM
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I always try to make sure he knows I'm proud, we made a "well done daddy" card last time he got a raise and made cakes which daughter decorated to give him. When it's a big thing like a promotion last time I surprised him with a special meal out when he gets home with babysitting arranged overnight so we can stay out and relax
/r/RedPillWives06/08/18 03:55 PM
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The easiest way might be to look through themes of romance books written for women? Twilight or 50 shades for example is terrible literature but the leads make the woman feel special and desired. It's like porn is for men I think. Noone believes the story but the scenarios are hot. Powerful and independent men becoming devoted and passionate lovers is quite common.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/18 01:33 PM
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No problem, I really struggled myself as well, there's like a million blogs out there but it's so hard to sort through them so I'm happy to share 😊
/r/RedPillWives19/07/18 03:55 PM
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Hi, these might not be to your taste they're some of the things I use: https://blessedisshe.net/ is really good for devotions, I follow haleycarrots on instagram, she puts up lots of family/catholic things For study and readings my husband uses an app which i'll find out later, I think it's called daily prayer For clothes I mostly just shop at normal stores but some have modest ranges at least online, and I've added a lot of scarves to outfits which work for modesty and comfort (and nursing).
/r/RedPillWives19/07/18 11:33 AM
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This is a really good article, the bit where she says >So over time, sex without intimacy can leave your husband feeling as if you don’t really love him, because you don’t want to be intimate with him. Really seems right, one of the things we've gradually learned about each other is how we feel loved, and my husband needs touch to feel that in the same way I need to feel cared for sometimes to feel loved. If the sex isn't about both of us it's not really showing that love. I really like this, th…
/r/RedPillWives17/07/18 11:06 AM
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If a man gives up at any slight challenge then he obviously wasn't really into you, it's sometimes a test, but sometimes it isn't about that at all and we're uncomfortable about something. Sometimes it's just bad communication, trying not to be needy or clingy or just having other stuff going on might seem to be playing hard to get. I can think of times didn't mean to play hard to get but had a lot of hangups about male assertiveness so suddenly withdrew. But flirting rather than being direct is…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/18 01:38 PM
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An awful lot of people stay in terrible relationships because they are waiting for someone better, I would expect her to cheat as soon as the opportunity arose 😟
/r/RedPillWives11/07/18 12:32 PM
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I really agree with what you say about her missing the point and instincts. She's treating him badly and he will feel emasculated by her probably. It's a really good point that he could lead in other ways and fulfil his instincts but instead she just lies to him.
/r/RedPillWives10/07/18 04:49 PM
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There's a huge amount of manipulation involved, I feel like cheating and lying are inevitable if you are that willing to lie for an easy life 😞
/r/RedPillWives10/07/18 04:42 PM
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That was my feeling, I agree with those points, but I find it interesting how the ideology of these ladies didn't work out in their relationships. I also wondered if their relationships being so built on a false dynamic could last any length of time!
/r/RedPillWives10/07/18 04:38 PM
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Some rather extreme silliness in the campaign to make normal gender behaviour a problem: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-5750405/Melbourne-councils-ban-Barbie-Winnie-Pooh.html
/r/RedPillWives21/05/18 01:40 PM
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We did the whole traditional English thing, with a church wedding and a reception in the town hall ballroom afterwards, I was quite scared of being in front of everyone but it was actually really beautiful. I actually enjoyed our first dance even, and didn't trip over my dress or anything! I'm glad we went for that kind of ceremony, my husband's grandparents said afterwards it was like going to a royal wedding for them, and it meant I could invite some of my family who live further away and the …
/r/RedPillWives14/05/18 03:23 PM
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You could get her a recipe book and let her choose things to make? My daughter sometimes gets recipes in her children's magazines and asks to make them We used to watch a tv shop called "I can cook" but it'd be too little for a 9yo, but she might like watching great british bakeoff or something like that? Good recipes to start with are biscuits and breads, they can't really fail and the children get to be a bit creative. Start little and build skills to start with is how I've tried to do it :) F…
/r/RedPillWives23/04/18 10:19 AM
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I agree with this, sometimes just seeing each other in a different setting makes things new and I just see my husband fresh. Even just him coming back from meetings all dressed up is a change, I think his body language just changes a bit in formal wear?
/r/RedPillWives03/01/18 04:28 PM
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She does seem like she might have some kind of issues, it isn't like they were even a proper couple, it was just like FWB or something!?
/r/RedPillWives22/12/17 06:42 PM
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Actual argument tends to go Me: I think this H: I think that is wrong, because of these reasons Me: OK, but you are not considering something else H: I considered that, but I'm still right This repeats a few times and I get upset usually. He relents and there is a resolution normally but the difference between my persuasion style and his cold and black and white style of debate probably means he wins more. He sort of pulls my arguments apart very surgically, it's a hard thing to argue but someti…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/17 12:07 PM
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Someone okay with cheating knows they aren't getting exclusive sex, but they might think they are getting the only enthusiastic and loving sex, that it's purely duty for the other?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/17 03:11 PM
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As if the women can't tell who pines for them. We can't always. Despite our best attempts to read boy minds all we get is static and "bewbs" on endless loop. I was never very good at noticing, anyway. I don't really agree with women in serious relationships having other close guy friends, because I think it could lead to cheating. But I don't think the backup guy thing is real, or if it is it is a strategy of some guys to try and get girls on the rebound instead of being genuine so it isn't the …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/17 02:25 PM
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The article is talking about women in relationships though, so any orbiter is a fake friend if they're only a friend because they have romantic interest. I still don't really understand how staying in the friendzone is not a choice of the guy, orbiting is not desirable, it's awkward and lame if they finally make a pass if drunk or something and you realise they have been impotently pining after you.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/17 01:57 PM
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Glitter NEVER comes out of the grooves of your kitchen table. ARGH so true. Regrouting our tiled table is on our list after a glittersplosion got everywhere. Merry Christmas, everyone. God bless you all. God bless you too ❤, and everyone x
/r/RedPillWives20/12/17 01:50 PM
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If someone is interested in you romantically but you're in a relationship, they put themselves in the friendzone. Either they intend to get you to cheat or they are hanging on hoping you break up with your partner, both of which make them a horrible "friend".
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/17 01:27 PM
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Are you saying they only make friends with them because they might have a relationship later? I want to check what you mean by friendzone, like is that just being normal friends with no romantic element or maybe light flirting to maintain interest and an intentional thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/17 12:05 PM
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Isn't that obvious that a man has to stay in the "friendzone" if you're already in a relationship? I don't get how that isn't exactly the same as a man making a female friend while he has a girlfriend?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/17 11:04 AM
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Genderfluid Parents Want to Raise Their Son as Gender Neutral - because why not!? and the Christmas romance song with all the romance sucked out of it 🤦‍♀️ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=amK4U4pCTB8
/r/RedPillWives18/12/17 09:09 AM
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You are completely right, ruining someone's life is awful enough but this makes it harder for real victims, i think this woman must be completely evil or crazy. She seems to have been so obsessed with this guy. I think she's could to be charged with perverting the course of justice and could get a life sentence from talking to someone about it, so at least she could pay for it!
/r/RedPillWives15/12/17 07:52 PM
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We tried again to make the shortbread for christmas, and it came perfect this time 😊, just needed to be a little cooler oven and I mixed it with a spoon instead of using fingers to keep the mixture cool. Now i've just got a lot of christmas cards to decorate and we're nearly ready!
/r/RedPillWives15/12/17 01:55 PM
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Quite a scary case where police seem to have conspired to hide evidence to try and convict an innocent man of rape after a fake accusation from his ex. I'm glad that it eventually came out, but it shows how hostile the law can be towards men.
/r/RedPillWives15/12/17 09:34 AM
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Hubs is having to work hard and late a lot recently, so I'm trying to pick up some of the house extension jobs and support him, like last night he had a long Skype call with a good friend and I made sure he wasn't disturbed and got his dinner, I got all the jobs done and let him relax. It's kind of hard sometimes, I miss him a lot when it's like this, but I know that he's working so the family is provided for, so I do appreciate it too. Me and little one are going to meet him off the late train …
/r/RedPillWives13/12/17 06:47 PM
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Yes Yes No Yes Yes It would be weird to pretend to be dumb, I never tried that. My husband enjoys intelligent conversation, how would you even be sure who is smarter if you both are reasonably intelligent adults? I would change 3 to "never be patronising and bossy", that is more the problem if you think being smarter means you get to boss a guy around.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/17 12:01 PM
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Be praiseworthy and don't need the compliment I think. If you need it to help your ego and a woman knows it you can't be sure it is genuine.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/17 05:55 PM
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I got him Chanel Bleu, it's a nice fragrance, the other one I also like is the james bond eau de toilette which is kind of fruity but not girly. He uses cheap disposable razors sometimes for travelling, but has a electric beard trimmer and one of those old folding razors at home I know what you mean with clothes, I struggle to get trousers for hubs, he's got really blocky legs so even if the waist is right it sometimes isn't a good fit. Shirts and underwear and things I sometimes do get though, …
/r/RedPillWives12/12/17 04:06 PM
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I try to find things that appeal to him that he won't expect, he doesn't buy what he considers luxury items very much. Some things that he liked were a set of "Hellboy" books with art and stuff in, a set of aftershave and eau de toilette that I like the smell of, and some special running tops which wick sweat away. Last year I also found some beer flavoured jelly beans which went down well!
/r/RedPillWives12/12/17 11:40 AM
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I'll also leave it as a round to bake with the cut marks just scored into the dough, so it cooks together and can be split into wedges later. I did that, but I need to score deeper, it worked but wasn't neat as I would have liked. Thankyou for the recipe as well! She uses a slightly cooler oven than I did so I might try that and just watch closely to get the right texture. Chilling the dough is something I tried, my husband said his granny used to leave it on a windowsill in a teatowel (and smac…
/r/RedPillWives12/12/17 10:24 AM
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I know, the dryness thing is a pain, I triedopening my oven a number of times and turning the tray to get even heat helped the first batch stay slightly buttery. My recipe said 1cm thick minimum Is the added Earl grey as powder or as liquid? That sounds really interesting, I found cinnamon and mixed spice both work quite well, but it's so icy i haven't got to the town shops (I want some dried apple and some cranberries and some more nuts), our local shop doesn't really have much in the way of ba…
/r/RedPillWives12/12/17 09:47 AM
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The cherry and amaretto jam sounds amazing!
/r/RedPillWives09/12/17 06:54 PM
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I made nut and chocolate shortbread as a practice for Christmas: Choc Nut shortbread https://imgur.com/a/LOeBJ Recipe is super easy, just a 1:2:3 ratio of sugar, salted butter and plain flour, 2 tsp of mixed spice and some chocolate chips and nuts. Mix butter and sugar til smooth and then add flour, mix til it's a dough (I had to rub it a little to make it one lump) and add the choc and nuts. Cut into shapes dust with sugar and bake at gas mark 5 or 190c for about 10 mins. It is pretty amazing 😘
/r/RedPillWives09/12/17 06:52 PM
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Exactly, when you are there to get paid it is pathetic to have that kind of attention forced on you by someone who knows you can't reject them too strongly because they're senior. The worst thing is how some men seem to think that moaning about their wives is like opening the door for flirting. Nope, no way, never going to happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/17 01:30 PM
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You couldn't pay me enough to risk drinking with male co-workers, so that wouldn't help me much!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/17 06:33 PM
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A really important thing about it is respect and unity as parents, it means children don't see conflict and opportunity to play parents off against each other. I think that stability and structure is really good for children. For me, the other massive benefit is that my children will grow up seeing a healthy and loving relationship between parents, and as a child who grew up seeing some terrible relationships as examples, I think that is one of the greatest gifts I can give the children. Making …
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/17 06:19 PM
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"We just think of you as one of the boys, everyone get's treated the same" Well, I don't see you trying to touch the guys up.... I admit there are downsides to working in a female-dominated job as well, but I'll take bitching and flapping over the harassment every time.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/17 02:11 PM
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or using seniority to try and create some stupid secretary porn scenario, because perhaps maybe you might get a bigger bonus if you give them the sex their wife is too disgusted to. "it was just a compliment" and "learn to take a joke, you want to be accepted in the team don't you" are the response to harassment a lot of the time. Workplace harassment mostly isn't nerdy guys asking for a date IMO, it's jumping straight to unwanted physical contact or sexual propositions.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/17 11:02 AM
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He made me smile today, saying he doesn't get really understand much of how my head works, but d*mn well knows when I'm being a pain in the butt 😊 and need a hug or a prod or something
/r/RedPillWives06/12/17 11:21 PM
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I won't get into details, but I'd fallen into a bit of a hamstering thing and gotten very upset and kept it to myself but was worrying about all kinds of things. My husband managed to just cut through it by asking "i don't know what's up, but we keep sniping at each other, something's wrong". He was very gentle about it, but made sure it was dealt with and reassured me beautifully. I was completely starting down the lines of the article Camille posted https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWives/commen…
/r/RedPillWives06/12/17 02:25 PM
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If your feet are symmetrical, can you really say you have ugly-ass feet? Oh yes. The one part of my husband I don't like is the lumpy feet that look like a low poly 90s video game. They match, but they're like God got distracted just at the ankles and left it to the understudy to finish up And don't even ask about him picking things up with a foot, that's just creepy.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/17 01:57 PM
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Branch swing as hard as Eleanor of Aquitaine, rule a country
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/17 12:25 PM
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That's good, I hope it all settles down. Vitamins and fluids and rest are always a good idea, sometimes I get run down without realising it and fatigue hits really hard.
/r/RedPillWives28/11/17 01:24 PM
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Lovely for you, that's so exciting! My pregnancy book: Day-by-Day-Pregnancy It's good for tips as well as interesting about what's happening with baby
/r/RedPillWives27/11/17 04:03 PM
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Not exactly the same (I only made it to 6 weeks breastfeeding) but I did get weird symptoms, I guess from big hormone changes? Mumsnet has some similar stories to yours (some people did pregnancy tests because symptoms were so 1st trimester like), so I think it's probably normal. Maybe check with a health visitor or midwife as well?
/r/RedPillWives27/11/17 03:38 PM
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I think it is a normal reaction, bodily fluids are kind of gross, I was just guessing from reading what some guys write and act like, maybe the sex and ego thing is trying to get over past stuff sometimes For me, I don't know, n=1. But I think you can learn to be much better at sex over time so even if you don't start out best you could improve. And it seems a big thing to say that if you aren't having your best sex ever your relationship won't last
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/17 07:21 PM
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What combination of these emotions do you like the best? It depends how I feel, the security and affection is sort of the constant undercurrent, but on it's own it wouldn't be enough. If i'm sad I need more safety, if I'm all excitable I want more excitement and jealousy Can you elaborate on this? Do you like it when other women eye your man? NO! I hate it, and want to lock him away! But he is desirable, so that makes me desire him more, want to keep him closer. I assume that the latter is the f…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/17 04:50 PM
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OK, not all of this is going to happen all the time, but these are like the things that really matter in the way some guys think a 18 inch donger should. How they make me feel: What happens when I think about them, what is the emotions they trigger? Is there affection, security, but also excitement and jealousy. What happens if I imagine other women looking at them? the emotional reaction to them: How I feel when they are making a move on me, am I tense and anxious that I have to please them, or…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/17 02:55 PM
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How they make me feel, the emotional reaction to them, how I feel after sex with them, and how I feel when they look at me. Also their manual dexterity and chest/facial hair!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/17 02:04 PM
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Yes, but i'm not saying that it is comparable to a human being. That's the point, the reason women are devoted/attracted to their husbands/boyfriends isn't measured by exactly how awesome their dick is, most of the time. Men seem to see it like that, sometimes, but it really isn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/17 01:55 PM
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like in a germophobic way? There is a STD and hygiene thing I guess, but when guys on TRP talk about seducing women and talk about their scorn for their current husbands I always think it is so weird, like the satisfaction seems more about having beaten another guy and "stolen" his woman than enjoying the actual sex. I just seems very about them and their ego and how they were such a sex god. I would guess for the real stories a lot of those women who cheated didn't really need much seduction, t…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/17 01:49 PM
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Men are super competitive about sex, I think. Look at the scoring of women and numbers on TRP: who is that for? That is to show they are a winner, to compare virtual willies. And men hate any suggestion they aren't virile or good at sex. I'm not saying that's bad, it's just how guys seem to me. Are you saying that men don't want women with a high N-count because it decreases the likelihood that he's the best she's ever had? Yes! I think some guys REALLY hate the idea of being a better partner bu…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/17 12:47 PM
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1: It's about ego i think, boys want to be the best. And there is a true thing that someone with loads of failed relationships is probably not a good partner! 2: I lied about not being a virgin to other girls, noone wants to go on a night out with a boring prude 3: You can't, but could ask her friends when they're drunk so it's sort of a joke 4: You shouldn't really 5: No idea, and it's more about personal insecurity than facts because if a woman wants a super dick that makes her cum easily and …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/17 08:33 AM
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RP female (ISFJ) I think for me, with a very shy nature sometimes the match i've found with an ENTJ man works, we kind of cover for each other... Like he is aggressive, I'm passive, but we listen to each other, so he doesn't end up burning bridges and I can stand up for myself a bit more. He's disciplined and focussed on self-improvement so that rubs off on me! I'm not sure i'd advise every ISFJ to pick like me, but I needed someone determined to break through my defenses so it worked, even if i…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/17 01:20 PM
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This seems a kind of silly question. Of course women can, but not all women DO. I can think of women I know who have made silly decisions due to 'alpha' and lots of women who think carefully about attraction and are committed to their husbands/boyfriends.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/17 09:45 AM
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About 32F?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/17 08:53 AM
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is it wrong that i am laughing at a mental imagine of trying to make a sandwich at the same time as giving a blowjob?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/17 01:52 PM
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Thankyou for posting, I'm so glad you're getting support and looking after yourself. It does get easier, sending all our love your way! The thing is – I was scared to ask for help because I didn’t want to come off as weak, or looking for a pity party. And I definitely didn’t want people to know I was bad at this. One 2am nursing session I posted an emotionally, hormonally charged tearful plea in my bump group's Facebook group. I confessed all the terrible thought I had going on in my head and ho…
/r/RedPillWives17/11/17 12:03 PM
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Thankyou, that is a great explanation!
/r/RedPillWives15/11/17 03:34 PM
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I totally see what you mean, in that situation the only way to survive would be to focus on rebuilding your life and accepting things. For the men it makes more sense to never accept giving up because then they lose everything
/r/RedPillWives14/11/17 04:27 PM
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I've been feeling out how solipsism can be a good thing and it makes SO much sense. I never thought it could be a good thing until I considered how it's a survival method that women have been conditioned to since pre-history. I've obviously not seen or felt this myself, I've only see how solipsism makes me stupid and/or take things for granted. But knowing how seeing the world through a paper towel tube helps women stay sane when their surroundings are crumbling makes so much sense as a defense …
/r/RedPillWives14/11/17 03:54 PM
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Exactly, my stepmom has gone vegan for medical reasons as well, and the first few times I felt a bit like I didn't know what to make, but vegan cupcakes are quite easy, houmous and things to dip in it are simple and a lot of Asian food is vegan or nearly vegan with small changes. I just try to have something so they feel welcome. Some vegan dishes shows I've tried at least 😊
/r/RedPillWives09/11/17 06:49 AM
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Prepare as much food as you can beforehand and fridge it so you have more time to get ready and don't feel flustered If children are expected set aside some simple food, a lot of children are fussy and don't like food being mixed up. Also set things up so you don't have to worry if mess is made. It's a huge stress for parents trying to keep a toddler from messing up a host's house for more casual parties I sometimes make a little pizzas for children and let them choose toppings themselves I alwa…
/r/RedPillWives07/11/17 06:03 PM
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It is hard and I think I feel similar about neediness, but my husband and I have different expressions of love, so sometimes we try and use the one the other finds natural. I want to show him I love him, and my way is to kind of groom and fuss, but that isn't his way. It isn't needy to want to know your partner loves you, even big strong men need to know that! Helping him to get that affirmation in an way that helps you respect him would be best I guess. I did make it clear like - I'm attracted …
/r/RedPillWives07/11/17 03:56 PM
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It feels kind of harsh, sorry Comparing a man to his mom in an uncomplimentary way in an argument and pointing out it makes them unattractive is pretty harsh! I saw a really good comment from /u/stingrayvc about how sex is a love and connection thing for men: https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWives/comments/7ahgjn/connecting_with_a_husband_who_works_all_the_time/dpa8iuc/ And I think it is really true, and your husband was looking for connection and comfort I don't want to sound like blaming you fo…
/r/RedPillWives07/11/17 10:55 AM
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That sounds really good, raising your husband's value by looking good and being a good conversationalist are great tips. I'm not great at small talk sometimes, so it kind of helps me to prepare a little and then I feel more confident
/r/RedPillWives03/11/17 05:14 PM
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I think that some of it is controlling women being passive aggressive a lot of the time. Like that article about it the woman was all "I'm in charge, my man is a good feminist, but it's sooooo HARD because he doesn't read my mind and does things his way" My husband is the same, he does lots of things but sometimes I do secretary for him when work is super busy. I think maybe guys who are too passive are annoying to these women but they project it onto all men to hide that maybe they chose badly?
/r/RedPillWives27/10/17 06:09 PM
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I feel that I would never cheat as things are, and I love my husband so much, I really do mean the til death do us part. But life can throw all kinds of things at us and I think acting as if I could never be tempted is ignoring that I still need to maintain attraction to my guy. I feel like assuming I can't stray might lead to putting my guard down and don't want to risk being complacent!
/r/RedPillWives26/10/17 05:53 PM
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I completely agree, but i think because I have such a dislike of cheating I had told myself I was not like the people who do cheat! Like AWALT (but not me!) sort of 🤦 But you are so right we can choose not to accept hypergamy, and knowing I may be tempted by those instincts helps understand how to stay faithful I think
/r/RedPillWives26/10/17 04:09 PM
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Good question! I think I found the idea of hypergamy the hardest to accept. In my head I really struggled to accept the idea that I could be tempted to branch swing. It's silly really, because I had no problem accepting that my husband could be tempted by other women but I trust him to resist that, but I sort of wanted to pretend that I would never even think that way.
/r/RedPillWives26/10/17 03:21 PM
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completely, you change and grow but the beginnings and the memory of the first bits of romance are precious :)
/r/RedPillWives24/10/17 01:29 PM
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It was lovely, I managed a quick 40s hairstyle and a print dress to go with the style of the film to make it extra fun, and cuddling on the couches was great, especially for a quite long film it was so comfy! maybe I’m just overly sentimental though I just like the idea of reliving those wonderful times. What we have now is also wonderful, though I don’t want to forget our beginnings! I think it's really lovely and those early times are always special! I do love how things are now, having a home…
/r/RedPillWives24/10/17 12:38 PM
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Aw, that's so sweet, we sometimes do things like that and it does take me back to the excitement of the first meeting ❤ We sort of did something a bit like that on Friday, he sent a text asking if i wanted to go on a date and then surprised me by taking me to a old fashioned cinema with a lovely restaurant and couches for couples in the cinema to see the new Blade Runner film, because we'd watched the original when dating! It was so fun, although i wish he'd given me a little more time to get re…
/r/RedPillWives24/10/17 12:21 PM
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Oppressiveness not even feminists like male feminists :)
/r/RedPillWives23/10/17 11:01 AM
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I will! I've gone to christmas and anniversary parties with hubs and we do host some of his work friends and clients sometimes but going to a networking thing was kind of new for me, i'll try and post tips more next time :)
/r/RedPillWives21/10/17 07:34 PM
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This is a really good summary, I saw the same article on twitter, and thought how similar it sounded to things we talk about. It is a good article really because of the explanation being about survival. An interesting article for sure, and it definitely got me thinking about the "back-up mates" I've kept in the past, mostly subconsciously. I think the warnings against keeping male friends too close makes a lot more sense now and is something I'll take more seriously. And now that I think about i…
/r/RedPillWives20/10/17 01:27 PM
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I just thought this guy is great (and single!) and wanted to really show him how good i could look, it was a long time before I found RPW, so i don't know if how I was would be recognised advice here! But I think sending a clear signal to a man you're interested in and making sure dress and makeup is appropriate and makes you look as good as possible is all good ideas. Going on a first date especially was sort of a getting to know you thing, we really didn't know each other much beforehand so I …
/r/RedPillWives19/10/17 12:06 PM
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I agree, i don't filter so well sometimes but waiting to a bit later means I forget the little things naturally so only things that were a big thing get passed on
/r/RedPillWives19/10/17 09:37 AM
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I agree with what u/girlonabike suggested, men getting cranky with work stress don't always want to talk about it. I think if the brooding gets a bit much there are some things that you can do to relieve stress that aren't talking, like maybe flirting or suggestion of exercise or whatever activity clears your boyfriend's head really. I find my husband will sometine open up about work frustrations if we're out for a walk, but usually not at home. I don't really know why, but it works. He always s…
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/17 07:04 AM
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We had an evening out at a work party my husband was invited to, I was dreading it a bit because I didn't know anyone, but it was really quite fun, I managed not to derp out and we had a nice dance and we stayed down there for a night. That was nice to get some space and be away from home and family just for a little bit. It's been busy and time with just each other was very welcome. I am trying to do more socialising work things with hubs, I said to him I really missed him when he has to go awa…
/r/RedPillWives18/10/17 08:17 PM
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There is a selection thing as well, more extroverted women post more on here so their ideas are heard more there is a trade off between fear of players and desire for a masculine man and too much confidence could seem to show they assume they will get a date like they are higher value than you and then you wonder if you'll be a plate. emotional connection is important for a LTR and if we want an LTR we need to screen out people who can't provide that. So a hot guy with the wrong personality migh…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/17 10:08 AM
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https://imgur.com/D8iRc1h I made a cake and party food for my daughter's b'day, it was a pretty easy request this time (little miss princess)! So just standard Madeira made in a big greased pyrex bowl, jam and buttercream between layers and on the outside, then fondant cover using gel colours. The party was a lot of fun, and the kids were lovely, lots of good manners asking for things and we had a treasure hunt 😊
/r/RedPillWives14/10/17 05:20 PM
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You mean you made sure that he knew you were interested? Don't men know you like them if you´re on a date with them? (honest question) I don't think they do always, and I wanted to be completely sure he knew because I felt shy on the first date and wanted to make sure he felt we were a thing soon in case other girls were in the picture! And about being interesting and fun, it really is a matter of confidence for me, since I always seem to make seamless banter with people I don't need to impress.…
/r/RedPillWives14/10/17 09:59 AM
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I kind of see what you're asking now more, but there's lots of ways for a single girl to hold men's attention and it depends on the men. You might not be as naturally able to charm every guy in a group at once as she is if she's a total extrovert and you're not, but I think there as some things all guys like: attractive appearance genuine compliments interesting and fun girls If you look good and pay them attention you can charm most men. If conversation drops then ask a question about them mayb…
/r/RedPillWives13/10/17 03:57 PM
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I don't know about every woman, but personally that just sounds like being realistic. When i was in my early 20s and hadn't had children I had far more options. If I was dating now I would have less options and have to be realistic. That isn't being unfair to guys i would consider now that i wouldn't in the past. That's why women LOVE to talk about men they reject, and their turn-offs, because it makes them feel more selective, less slutty, and more desirable. contrast that with the topic about …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/17 02:31 PM
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Perhaps we should get a lifetime supply of caviar when we can? If the choice is between bread and caviar, i don't get why the 'bread' is going to be offended by not being first choice
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/17 11:10 AM
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Little glimpses of sexiness to tease him works really well. He does not see me just wander around naked even after 10 years! Unless that is the plan :) Flirting when he is working out so he can't do anything about it is quite fun. Making him a bit wound up and playing innocent is my strategy!
/r/RedPillWives12/10/17 01:55 PM
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Being pretty and not needy helps maybe! But if we're looking for a LTR and marriage we need to vet well, it's a big commitment
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/17 01:27 PM
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I guess so, but that makes it harder to trust men so that made me vet harder really and test for thirstiness 😞
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/17 12:57 PM
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That kind of thing is why part of why women need to vet men before committing too heavily imo
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/17 12:44 PM
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I get that and feel sorry for those guys, but when i was dating I wanted to fall in love with a man who I could trust. Everyone acts a bit different in a bar or to start with, but after getting to know someone I wouldn't want that all to be faked to be attractive. It's like if someone lied to me and said they were a rugby player because I liked rugby guys. If i found out it wasn't real then it breaks the trust you have and then how can you trust they aren't just using you?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/17 12:36 PM
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Oops. Maybe we don't, i guess the bitterness is like what i called hiding how they feel to be attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/17 10:18 AM
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I think the biggest plus of a naturally attractive guy is that he doesn't have anything to prove and if he likes you enough he's a ltr prospect. TRP guys seem to want to prove something and against LTRs mostly, so falling in love with one is a bad idea. Trusting a guy who has to hide his real nature to be attractive doesn't make any sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/17 10:04 AM
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What stress are you piling on? I guess that does sound a bit dramatic but I meant like unloading my little stresses like a crabby toddler or work being a bit rubbish, or things I want his advice on a decision. Like if I get into it straight away that just is more kind of stressy stuff I'm giving him to think about and even though none of it is huge, he seems to like a break between work and home news. Sometimes he goes for a run first or we snuggle a bit once we have eaten, then his head is clea…
/r/RedPillWives11/10/17 06:26 PM
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Me too, it really brings out the worst when I feel ignored, I hate that feeling but if hubs has worked all day or had big journeys it isn't fair to expect full attention straight away. I think one of those good wife guides that people post sometimes says about that, not chattering lots when your husband first arrives! Being patient and making a drink and showing affection gets a much warmer and more affectionate response 😃
/r/RedPillWives11/10/17 05:20 PM
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This makes a lot of sense really and some good things to remember, thankyou ☺ The causing conflict when men are disinterested or irritable about daily conversation I kind of get. I try to be patient and respect that hubs has been at work before unloading about daily things. If he is tired and stressed it's better to wait and take care of his stress first before piling more on
/r/RedPillWives10/10/17 04:26 PM
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This all seems really sensible and good to remember, i think these are good strategies One thing i definitely recognise is the disinterest and irritability in routine conversations leading to initiating conflict. I've found that sometimes I need to be patient and have that kind of conversation later than i would naturally like. I kind of just like to unload my brain if it's been a bad day but if he's frazzled from work then it isn't going to get a proper response. Better to be patient, and somet…
/r/RedPillWives10/10/17 03:57 PM
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This all seems really sensible and good to remember, i think these are good strategies One thing i definitely recognise is the disinterest and irritability in routine conversations leading to initiating conflict. I've found that sometimes I need to be patient and have that kind of conversation later than i would naturally like. I kind of just like to unload my brain if it's been a bad day but if he's frazzled from work then it isn't going to get a proper response. Better to be patient, and somet…
/r/RedPillWives10/10/17 03:56 PM
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This all seems really sensible and good to remember, i think these are good strategies One thing i definitely recognise is the disinterest and irritability in routine conversations leading to initiating conflict. I've found that sometimes I need to be patient and have that kind of conversation later than i would naturally like. I kind of just like to unload my brain if it's been a bad day but if he's frazzled from work then it isn't going to get a proper response. Better to be patient, and somet…
/r/RedPillWives10/10/17 03:54 PM
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This all seems really sensible and good to remember, i think these are good strategies One thing i definitely recognise is the disinterest and irritability in routine conversations leading to initiating conflict. I've found that sometimes I need to be patient and have that kind of conversation later than i would naturally like. I kind of just like to unload my brain if it's been a bad day but if he's frazzled from work then it isn't going to get a proper response. Better to be patient, and somet…
/r/RedPillWives10/10/17 03:54 PM
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This all seems really sensible and good to remember, i think these are good strategies One thing i definitely recognise is the disinterest and irritability in routine conversations leading to initiating conflict. I've found that sometimes I need to be patient and have that kind of conversation later than i would naturally like. I kind of just like to unload my brain if it's been a bad day but if he's frazzled from work then it isn't going to get a proper response. Better to be patient, and somet…
/r/RedPillWives10/10/17 03:54 PM
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I think there is a sort of fear of male anger, like we should just want entirely peaceful nice men who would never hurt anyone. I don't really get it, the idea that only bad guys get angry. If a burglar broke in, I really want my husband to be angry and dangerous!
/r/RedPillWives10/10/17 01:14 PM
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Great minds 😊
/r/RedPillWives10/10/17 12:59 PM
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The most annoying for me was the government ones, it was a bit like "shouldn't you guys talk to each other even a little bit!" and really long online forms. congratulations again! x
/r/RedPillWives09/10/17 01:10 PM
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Haha, they probably won't mind! I found it a bit frustrating because everyone asks for different things so some banks i needed loads of proof, others I just told them and they said ok!
/r/RedPillWives08/10/17 08:05 PM
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Congratulations, so happy for you! The difference snuck up on me a bit, I didn't expect it to change things sometimes much but it did seem to make things more secure and calm. I didn't make a plan, but do keep a copy of my vows to reread X My only extra advice is to write a list of everyone you have to tell about name change, that took forever and things like hubs life insurance and death-in-service cover I didn't think of until a friend mentioned
/r/RedPillWives08/10/17 05:07 AM
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I don't think you are naive to react to this, I think her article is absolutely horrible. She seems to just think any masculinity is evil and violent and completely ignored that men were being brave and helping people and trying to stop the one bad crazy person I really hope this kind of thing isn't a common view, I haven't heard anyone irl blame the shooting on men, (in England so lots of people are antigun). How she just treats a tragedy as an opportunity to attack men I think most people are …
/r/RedPillWives07/10/17 12:34 PM
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And no national pride, capitalism or religion either! Or soldiers! Or policemen! this is making masculinity sound pretty good, actually :)
/r/RedPillWives06/10/17 03:32 PM
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Something i saw and couldn't even: http://www.independent.co.uk/voices/stephen-paddock-las-vegas-mass-shooting-guns-toxic-masculinity-a7981011.html the tldr is masculinity is evil and men need to be trained from childhood to not show it.
/r/RedPillWives06/10/17 03:20 PM
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I know it's because he can't rest if he's not able to contact me and check that I'm ok. Aw, that's sweet! It looks overbearing to my friends on the outside, but it makes me feel cherished when he's like that. Do you think the judgyness over protectiveness seems a bit jealous sometimes? 😉
/r/RedPillWives05/10/17 11:53 AM
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She sounds like his mom, like she is the only grownup and authority figure :( He gets a little pat on the head for being a "feminist and ally" but then she continues to talk about how much he sucks. I know some ladies treat their husbands like this. I've actually seen one say "no" loudly to their husband when he wanted to say something (in public) and speak over him. It is not any kind of equality, it's being all the worst that they would claim men do!
/r/RedPillWives04/10/17 07:31 AM
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I agree, she seems to want to have her husband read her mind but also sort of obey orders. She can't have it both ways! If she thinks a chore needs doing one way or in a certain time she has to do it herself or actually speak her mind even from a BP side! She is demanding too, my husband sometimes says when I say sorry for not getting everything done "I ain't your employer, love, we'll get it done". She doesn't want to ask but is constantly getting resentful.
/r/RedPillWives03/10/17 05:04 PM
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Teasing is definitely part of ours, there is a funny kind of competition when he is being that way where if i show any amusement or interest he teases me about that until I blush. It is kind of sweet how well he knows me and how hard it is for me to hide things It took me a bit by surprise but with protection thing one of the strongest expressions of love was anger, like if we were talking about something at school or work that had upset me the way his face went grim and cross, I can see he want…
/r/RedPillWives03/10/17 10:50 AM
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These are good tips! One thing I would say about colour catchers is some brands can break down a bit and leave stuff in the washer, so picking a good brand is worth it to avoid a repair bill later! I don't really like laundry much, but it really helps to organise - I have a day for towels, a day for sheets, and split clothes into two days so that I won't let it build up. I think it helps with ironing to have a mist spray, it's a more even spray than an iron usually does, and you don't have to us…
/r/RedPillWives29/09/17 04:52 PM
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Your volunteering position sounds like so much fun, what a great way to contribute and make this season special for the children (and families in general). I hope so! The children love fireworks night and Halloween but a more social get together every season with some kind of dance or display gives chance for them to participate and parents to watch and mingle as well. Writing down recipes is something I really found enjoyable to do with my MIL, we bonded a lot through the shared sadness but wan…
/r/RedPillWives29/09/17 01:43 PM
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I love this idea! I really think that our rituals can build up our villages or families ❤ I've volunteered for the school parent group to try and support the festivals and traditional things. So far we've only had one meeting but we're doing a harvest dance and may day maypoles. And a Christmas disco, which is sort of traditional, even if it's just pop music. I wasn't sure about volunteering, it's a bit out of my comfort zone but I've said I'll help teach the girls some country dances with one o…
/r/RedPillWives28/09/17 07:33 PM
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Think about the things inside him that make him like a family breakfast, red nail polish, blackout curtains in the bedroom, not texting after six at night. While it may be a passing fancy, it also might be a tangible actualization of a deep seated value for family, intimacy, or uninterrupted togetherness. We have a ban on phones after dinner, which was decided on accidentally because he decided he wouldn't read work email unless he knew a specific need, we were talking about it and I saw he want…
/r/RedPillWives27/09/17 08:52 AM
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He has a detached garage that is his workshop. He's been organizing it for a year and any time I offered to help (even under his watchful eye) he declined the offer. Same here, when setting up his workshop he was very picky about how to do things and where things should go so, but he did appreciate help clearing out the space to start doing that, and some ideas for storage solutions - little things like labelling the tins he kept nails and screws and bits in, and buying some magnet strips for to…
/r/RedPillWives27/09/17 08:07 AM
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Congratulations, that's lovely 😊 I think having a rough plan for when/if you have babies is a good idea, my little sister's husband was deployed in Afghanistan most of the 1st year of having a baby which made some things hard.
/r/RedPillWives23/09/17 11:33 AM
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Yay! Congratulations ☺
/r/RedPillWives23/09/17 11:07 AM
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Please do! How some (mostly traditional) things bring people together is very much in my heart at the moment, it can bring such a sense of community and identity. i've realised how much that helps me to feel secure, I feel really bad thinking how much is lost when people just dismiss old customs and then rush around trying to fill the gaps they leave in themselves.
/r/RedPillWives20/09/17 02:46 PM
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peppermint tea and ginger root steeped into a tea with honey helped me, but i had to sip little bits is it triggered by particular smells or foods? sometimes I had to just eat cereals because almost any cooking set me off :(
/r/RedPillWives20/09/17 01:12 PM
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"There's A House Inside My Mummy" is quite good for older toddlers We also have "Za-za's Baby Brother", which is ok, but maybe not so good for more worrisome toddlers, it is quite realistic that parents are busy but that could make a toddler think that parents WANT that! I like the Topsy and Tim's "New Baby" book, but my husband didn't like it so much, so maybe worth a look before buying
/r/RedPillWives19/09/17 01:01 PM
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Thankyou for this, it makes so much sense to show by example and do real positive things instead of getting upset over things we can't really affect or arguing. If people see us being happy, it makes a lot more attractive than being around some preachy supersensitive sjws claiming that everyone is secretly a bigot or something
/r/RedPillWives18/09/17 05:55 PM
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Um, I did think WI, but agree they're usually older ladies I'm in the Midlands, so can't really say a local idea for either of you, but I found some more traditional/RP women at the local village mom and baby group and there is a few of us who meet up for lunch or playdates I think knitting and cooking groups are a good place to look, ones with more younger ladies are usually on Facebook i think
/r/RedPillWives12/09/17 07:50 PM
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Happy Saturday 😆 that made me giggle, is there any living person who has degraded women more than Madonna, ick!
/r/RedPillWives09/09/17 07:40 PM
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Haha, i know! But I had to say, just in case!
/r/RedPillWives07/09/17 01:24 PM
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I needed him there! I wouldn't have been able to stand up for myself with medical staff or stay calm, he was unbelievable. And helped with things like breathing and stance. But I did ask him to stay by me not at the bottom of the bed just because i felt self conscious. Also everything /u/Irisandoleander said was right and beautiful.
/r/RedPillWives07/09/17 12:07 PM
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Yes, that's a too old for colic, could be teeth related grumpiness too, that does interfere a bit, but I think it might be what I heard called a sleep regression We read a book called the wonder weeks, and it talked about how some ages they get a growth spurt and just change out of a good routine and need retraining cos their world is a bit bigger so they change how they see things. I really think getting used to a sleep place might help, cos would you want to go to sleep in a dark cold place or…
/r/RedPillWives22/08/17 05:40 PM
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How old is your baby, it sounds like he might be grumpy because of colic or something? I think sleep training is supposed to work quite quick, like a week or that method isn't going to work? Our girl was very very fussy, she needed a really strong routine to get out of sleeping on us (me in the day and hubs in the evening) and we found a few things helped: rocking in a crib more daytime nap structure helped at night, so we set her to sleep in her crib about 10am and 2pm I think, like maybe havin…
/r/RedPillWives22/08/17 10:25 AM
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Oh, it's like painting the forth bridge with a toddler though, I have to organise or it drives me crazy because there's always mess mounting up!
/r/RedPillWives18/08/17 10:02 AM
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I had the same assumption really, it made me quite scared to get married even when part of my head accepted hubs isn't like that. He is from a super stable family where it was more like you, but has been good at listening when stuff bothers me, even if it's dumb. It took time and trust and seeing things being good and understanding but in the end i sort of separated my parents relationships as having anything to do with mine, they are just different things which aren't similar in any way!
/r/RedPillWives18/08/17 09:50 AM
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I tried to save all my chores and do a mega clean on one day in the past but it never worked that well because the amount to do is daunting and I like spreading it out much more! I have been a lazybutt today and just done the daily chores cos of feeling poorly, but having done a lot earlier in the week I can get away with it and catch up tomorrow without it being a huge deal
/r/RedPillWives17/08/17 04:29 PM
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(I wanted to do a hashtag but Reddit is silly!) momlife 😉 I only work 3 days until 2 o'clock so Monday is one of my busy days, on a day without work I only have a similar amount of chores so this way I get more chance to rest or meet friends and family on those days. Also some nights my husband does bedtime or we all go out for a run so it isn't quite as busy then
/r/RedPillWives17/08/17 04:12 PM
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Do you feel like you learned your relationship/marriage skills from your parents, for better or worse? They were all really bad at marriage! I learned bad habits and irrational fears I think, really! Do you actively try to replicate/avoid behaviours you saw your own parents engage in? Yes! Do you think it's inherently traumatic for a child to experience the break-down of their family unit? Yes, it can be. It can be more or less bad but is always going to make a child feel insecure I think. It ch…
/r/RedPillWives17/08/17 03:23 PM
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This varies a bit, but mine normally is something like: 6:30 wake up, shower, do hair/makeup 7:00 wake up daughter, start getting dressed 7:15 make breakfast 7:45 do daughter's hair 8:00 take daughter to childminder 8:15 get to work 2:00 leave work and pick up daughter 2:15 arrive home, let rabbits out into their pen 2:30 Do weekly chores - monday is clean bathroom and change and wash all the towels 3:30 Do daily chores like dishes/cleaning 4:30 make dinner for daughter 5:00 do some exercise or …
/r/RedPillWives17/08/17 03:10 PM
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Thank you for that link ☺, that graph approach is a really good way of explaining how things develop, I think I really like that way of showing a relationship and where it is easy and hard and why, the time together and purpose and affinity. It's right when you talk about how things change when you're suddenly together always, we definitely found that a big change from the constant fun/romance
/r/RedPillWives15/08/17 09:24 PM
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I think that is a good point, and I guess even if I am lucky it took someone else to recognise some of the good things because I just kind of got used to things gradually and stopped noticing some stuff. It made me want to make sure I was doing my A game too! It must be really tough being a divorce attorney, hearing all the ways marriages fall apart and people feel like their partner changed for the worst
/r/RedPillWives14/08/17 05:48 PM
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It is very sad, the au pair or nanny being like family is one thing but when they are closer to the children than the parents it is a shame.
/r/RedPillWives14/08/17 02:46 PM
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That is a great way to look at As long as that time is quality and set aside. I want to be there for my family as a refuge when things do get busy and stressful for them, it's not much help if we all are feeling that way all the time. That is exactly my feeling. The home is a special place that should be a happy place to come back to, and if we both worked full time and put children into childcare i think we wouldn't have that refuge, even if we had a maid.
/r/RedPillWives14/08/17 01:59 PM
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I think you are right that quality time is really important, as long as money isn't a big worry enjoying time together is so much more valuable. My MIL said once that babies are grown so fast, and it is a privilege to spend time with them while our husbands have to go back to work, and as my little girl is nearly at school i completely see what she meant. Family moments are so important, and even if work is busy or stressful we can still make time to be close
/r/RedPillWives14/08/17 01:40 PM
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Oh, that's a shame, hopefully the new one is fun though! It's a good idea about scouting out before going, I know another couple who did this one we're going to, but we've not done it before so we will have to see how we find it x
/r/RedPillWives05/08/17 07:28 AM
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I hope so 😉
/r/RedPillWives05/08/17 07:16 AM
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Ooh good idea!
/r/RedPillWives05/08/17 07:01 AM
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We've not tried it before, but next week we're doing an escape room, which is sort of like a puzzle thing where you're locked in and work together to escape!
/r/RedPillWives04/08/17 07:11 PM
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It is amazing how lovely some of the old people are, they really appreciate even half an hour, and bringing a little child really lights up their day. She asks them about all kinds of things, it's really cute, like what food they used to eat and what school was like!
/r/RedPillWives03/08/17 12:52 PM
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It's been a really hard couple of weeks, through lots of things, and he has just been a complete rock. He has let me get all my feelings out, and has said really wise things when I needed them. I honestly don't know what I'd do without him I keep telling him I don't think I could love you more and he just teases and says he knows!
/r/RedPillWives02/08/17 05:50 PM
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I used to volunteer at citizens advice bureau when my baby was little and more recently i volunteered for a mental health charity and I think that both were ways to be caring and felt quite natural for me. It was a good way to get a bit of time where I felt like a grown-up when most time is baby stuff We try to visit a few old people we know nearby and help with little things like garden tidying, and I sometimes take baked things too which is always appreciated 😊 I like looking after people!
/r/RedPillWives02/08/17 05:37 PM
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I think most women crave drama and spirituality is another outlet for that. Also, women have a need to feel special, to feel unique and, to feel powerful. Spirituality can sate that craving as well. I think men can find these things is what they do more than how they feel so they can depend more on themselves rather than spirituality. I kind of agree with this, I think men get something different out of church mostly, feelings don't give guys the same validation and things like prayer groups see…
/r/RedPillWives01/08/17 07:31 PM
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Brilliant :)
/r/RedPillWives28/07/17 11:57 AM
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This 100% true in my experience, high standards for himself, high for everyone else too! If you want to carry the family name, you better earn the right lol Haha yes! I think one of the very 'king' moments early on was me saying I was tempted to wag off work and he went very stern indeed, I was all indignant and like "don't judge me". I expected special treatment!
/r/RedPillWives27/07/17 06:41 PM
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I think I am most drawn to the lover description because part of me is very attracted by the passionate and understanding description - it's like a cliché of a romantic guy! But when it comes to reality and reacting to personalities I think I very much actually drawn to the King, I want to be kept safe and have a strong sense of being looked after. A bit strange but I suppose the Lover is like what teenage me fantasized about and the king is what actually makes me want to be with a man most? I t…
/r/RedPillWives27/07/17 05:31 PM
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Congratulations, hope recovery goes well and fishy lets you sleep X It is a very tiring time, but also very special, cherish it ♥
/r/RedPillWives27/07/17 04:18 PM
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We have a whiteboard daily jobs list in the kitchen which is mostly to help me organise chores over the week, but also gives a reminder of longer term to do things and we can write a deadline next to them. It helped organise things, and he preferred that to reminders in an online calendar or me reminding I think a joint list is good because it means me putting things on it isn't setting him a job, and I like ticking things off and he likes the sense of having a clean slate when a job is finished…
/r/RedPillWives24/07/17 11:09 AM
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Really well done, you seem to have taken really good steps and i'm glad it's making you guys happier
/r/RedPillWives06/07/17 08:03 AM
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we're on holiday from tomorrow, so very very busy getting everything ready, but i'm looking forward to it so much :) Good weather, which makes holiday more fun husband for being bloody dashing 😘 Bonus: I'm not sure i've ever done that! I would maybe throw the dish away and start again because my disasters are pretty bad usually
/r/RedPillWives06/07/17 07:57 AM
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Congratulations!
/r/RedPillWives06/07/17 07:47 AM
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The stories hubs told me might be exaggeration, but things like keeping slaves and raping them or forcing servants to participate in sex acts he heard about. Also when travelling they get up to even worse things than at home. It sounds like a nightmare to be a woman or a poor person, or a foreigner unless you are in a western area.
/r/RedPillWives05/07/17 04:38 PM
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The couple stopped the car and.....
/r/RedPillWives30/06/17 04:43 PM
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When a car came driving down an isolated country road....
/r/RedPillWives30/06/17 02:34 PM
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Yes! It's such a good habit to not just react, and I think just that moments so I have time to check myself is a big help, much better than having to mend things after getting annoyed or upset :D
/r/RedPillWives29/06/17 08:51 PM
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Hubs got an unexpected pay rise and a really nice letter saying well done, which made me very proud. He didn't expect it so it was a really nice surprise for us both. I may have squeeed a bit :) My mom is moving closer to us, which will be better for visiting, we can walk over with the children instead of driving I got a really lovely compliment from one of the clinic managers at work. As we're about to go through a budget cut this is good timing to have someone saying how helpful i've been on m…
/r/RedPillWives28/06/17 11:45 AM
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For me alpha is one kind of man, which is sort of opposed to being settled and monogamy and competitive, but masculine men can be cooperative and a strong father. Also some things aren't alpha or beta but are masculine like physical outdoorsy work? I think showing affection for masculine things is a good way to promote it, but for alpha stuff I'd need to maybe shit test more? Show more need for dominance? I see encouragement as when good responses are done out of real feeling maybe exaggerated a…
/r/RedPillWives27/06/17 08:46 PM
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That's a good explanation ☺ I think sometimes guys take comfort tests as manipulation but really it's trying to ask for support or reassurance and they get it once you say. Early arguments for us often went: I do comfort test He treats it as demand, or ignores it I dwell on it, hamster it into something big Next time he makes me feel the same way I overreact, cry Makeup affection It was ok in the end but it did need me to explain a bit, like your suggestions
/r/RedPillWives26/06/17 07:16 AM
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I try to ask before splerging a bit more, but the main thing is just thinking before reacting. We had a really good conversation after I had a problem with my car, and he explained it was unhelpful in a crisis to add more unrelated issues. I realized when I'm panicking or cross I do that and all the worry or irritation comes out at once. I don't know if I can stop myself completely but he understands my reaction more and I appreciate his focus on solving the immediate problem and being calm!
/r/RedPillWives23/06/17 04:44 PM
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I think STFU is probably the most important, I've had a few moments where stopping and thinking has been really helpful and made a little thing stay little and not ruin an evening. But I feel like I understand what he's thinking more now as well. The head of the family idea is MUCH clearer in my mind even though we had a mostly traditional dynamic.
/r/RedPillWives23/06/17 11:50 AM
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I found it hard for about a year after baby but getting my tummy back definitely made me look better to him. I think like the article says he didn't mind some change but when my shape was more like I used to be it made him a bit more attracted!
/r/RedPillWives22/06/17 07:17 PM
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Yes! A few changes can make a big difference to how spontaneously affectionate N is , hair care as well can have the same effect, queenbee's post or some of the tips on r/femininenotfeminist are great
/r/RedPillWives22/06/17 04:40 PM
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That's right, the spot or mole or stretch mark isn't the big deal, more the shape you're in. I think if we change beauty habits as well that can have some similar effect, if he's used to one routine and it drops it shows less effort
/r/RedPillWives22/06/17 04:29 PM
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He doesn’t see the thousand nitpicky flaws you obsess over in the mirror, but he does notice the general shape of your body in comparison to when he met you (if not the particular dress you put on it). This is all really good but this bit jumped out for me, shape and silhouette instead of details do seem to be the way men judge and that is something we can work on or maintain
/r/RedPillWives22/06/17 03:50 PM
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Ha ha! I had quite a sheltered upbringing so men's attention was a bit shocking! It was a bit like "oh, you seem nice....." initially then misreading signals and them getting the wrong idea Introverts with no experience are very bad at dating!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/17 11:48 AM
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Treating the men they are with badly enough to be unhappy or break up, and attacking men for not being women or servants sometimes. It can encourage controlling and narcissistic behaviour I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/17 09:21 AM
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It reminds me of maybe Saudi Arabia, my husband has told me some of the stories from gulf states and the corruption and debauchery is like something out of the Roman empire, but hidden under extreme religion!
/r/RedPillWives21/06/17 06:34 AM
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Oh I can definitely see what you mean, i guess some of my views are because I used to really distrust men and see casual sex as them getting what they want in a hostile way, like every 'male friend' I've had when single has been after sex or a date really pretty much. I guess you have to keep trying and vetting if guys are a good match to find a good one sometimes!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/17 06:20 AM
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Friendship with a guy you're sexing seems weird, like that would get too complicated emotionally for me! I guess it's probably a culture thing too, I've never been in an place where that was openly normal (even university) and I'm all about exclusivity :)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/17 06:08 PM
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I guess I don't really know about ONS and FWB really, like it sounds old fashioned but I feel like if you're having sex regularly then you're kinda in a relationship even if noone says it! But I admit I am a bit weird about guys and commitment and jealousy stuff!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/17 04:47 PM
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I think the idea is you spend time on the ONS and FWB which could distract from a LTR guy, and if you get with a really hot guy on a ONS then your expectations might be unrealistic for a LTR and wish for the ONS guy? Also some guys care about the N-count thing a lot, you know​? But if you found a great guy I don't think that not applying the rpw ideas for dating mean the rpw ideas for LTRs aren't good. Some of it is just being considerate and understanding how to make your guy feel appreciated!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/17 04:19 PM
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But has anyone called you stupid or too ignorant to make a sensible choice for that? I'm sure people might disagree with you but I can't imagine something like "No self respecting intelligent woman could NOT be "red pill" or "anti-feminist" being said. To me it's just the difference between people offering advice or experience and someone demanding ideological obedience.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/17 01:35 PM
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The RPWi sub allows discussion of theories but not argument against them, but people on there are there by choice! Noone is going to tell anyone what to do unless they ask, but feminists are saying even if you don't accept it you owe them support just because you are a woman or you are bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/17 01:03 PM
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No self respecting intelligent woman would EVER identify as "red pill" or "anti-feminist" This is why I don't support feminism. No dissent is allowed, or we are bad and stupid women. We must believe feminism is the saviour that delivered us from all the nasty things. Never mind that rights for all members of society have changed, and that modern feminism isn't anything like the campaigns for legal rights. We're dumb, we don't read books or have any idea how the past was. OBVIOUSLY. The same demo…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/17 09:24 AM
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Because the opinions of feminists which I know I don't agreed with, and the people pushing it seem to end up unhappy. I think it says "we are pro-women", but if you don't behave in a particular way decides you are a bad woman and betraying the sisterhood.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/17 03:35 PM
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Feminism isn't something I support, and the assumption that something is wrong with women who don't support it shows some of what I think is wrong with it
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/17 12:04 PM
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It was really nice, it's been a good day and at the church they got the kids to draw the best thing about their fathers and daughter drew him doing cuddles, I melted a little bit when she showed me 😍
/r/RedPillWives18/06/17 06:02 PM
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That's lovely 😊 We got up a bit earlier and made a big breakfast together (scrambled eggs on morning rolls and pancakes) then gave him presents in bed before he came for breakfast. We had a kind of family day generally, walking to our local church instead of driving to his family church and having a relaxing afternoon at a café with a great indoor play area (and nice cakes!)
/r/RedPillWives18/06/17 04:37 PM
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You can kind of see how you do in early labour with the pain and just have it if you need maybe? Some ladies find it super easy, my little sister only needed 2 paracetamol in labour!
/r/RedPillWives18/06/17 06:18 AM
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For the eye goop we used cotton wool dipped in very dilute salt water that had been boiled and then put in a sealed jug and We added that to a little bit of fresh boiled so it was warm. Then I'd do gentle strokes working away from the nose using fresh cotton a few times. Sometimes she was still very grumpy and cross but it was lots easier than doing eyedrops! I know exactly how you felt with the choking it's so horrible, we had a carrot incident that was similar when she was teething and broke a…
/r/RedPillWives17/06/17 07:22 PM
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I totally get that fear, but you could preplan to have an epidural and the early contractions were quite bearable😃 The pain is one of the things you can control quite a lot, this is what I'm telling myself anyway!
/r/RedPillWives17/06/17 07:04 PM
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Artist/romantic came highest at 7, then 6 for helper, I forget my mbti, I think ISFP? 1 for leader! the lack of decisiveness is real!
/r/RedPillWives16/06/17 04:45 PM
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I prepare normally the night before and sort of juggle it with making dinner or whenever I'm in the kitchen for a bit, it only takes about ten minutes, normally. Normally he likes a sandwich, fruit and some kind of sweet thing like a few biscuits, but sometimes I make soup or stew and put it in a flask especially in the winter. My trick is to fill a flask with boiling water first to get it warm before emptying it to fill with soup so it stays quite hot! I try to vary it so he doesn't get bored, …
/r/RedPillWives15/06/17 08:20 PM
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Don't worry about arguing, I don't really know the answers on this at all! I think maybe most courtship wasn't as romantic as in drama, but I feel that way of behaving would still be a much better one from our point of view, because it sort of forces a man to show what his intentions are and makes it much harder to be plated. You might be right some of the mystery and interest came from sort of separate lives more, but I think a lot of the stories showing courtship do involve men who are leaders…
/r/RedPillWives14/06/17 05:13 PM
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My husband sings it or amazing grace while running sometimes, he says he likes hymns "you can play the tune to on a bucket" :)
/r/RedPillWives14/06/17 03:31 PM
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Every morning when I put my ring on I do so in a grateful way. Grateful that I'm blessed with this symbol on my hand. That's a brilliant way of putting it, I'll remember that
/r/RedPillWives14/06/17 02:47 PM
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We had 1 Corinthians 13 1-8, and Proverbs 3 3-4, which both talk about love and faithfulness The hymns were 'love divine all loves excelling', which is a really traditional English wedding hymn, and 'be thou my vision', as a favorite of my husband which meant we needed a drummer as well as as an organist!
/r/RedPillWives14/06/17 02:43 PM
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We had the Anglican service, so the bits I said were: I, Littleegg , take you, N , to be my husband, to have and to hold from this day forward; for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death us do part; according to God's holy law. In the presence of God I make this vow. N, I give you this ring as a sign of our marriage. With my body I honour you, all that I am I give to you, and all that I have I share with you, within the love of Go…
/r/RedPillWives14/06/17 02:15 PM
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For my older sister, she is a lot of things I am not, including feminist and very controlling. But she tries to be a good person, and i've started to understand more of why she is the way she is, and I do love her. For my husband's handiness, and how easily he mends things! I love that when something breaks or needs maintenance he is able to assess it and usually can do it himself. For my husband's jury duty nearly being over, which is a relief! Bonus: Worst crafting project fail I think was pro…
/r/RedPillWives14/06/17 12:30 PM
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Mention to /u/proprioceptor so i reply to both I will try and suggest but hopefully others might also comment if they maybe have more ideas. Or if i'm wrong :) I see comfort tests and shit tests are both kind of ways to get a guy to prove something and sometimes both can look kind of similar to a guy. When we first moved in together I would sometimes ask my husband to get me little things so i didn't have to get up. He saw this as lazy and a shit test, but inside I saw it as a comfort test to fe…
/r/RedPillWives14/06/17 12:05 PM
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I don't think gentlemen were expected to be just nice from how they're shown in fiction, (my examples that I can think of would be Great Expectations, The Lost World and Pride and Prejudice). A gentlemen is sort of a socially accomplished person with the means of providing (so beta stuff I guess) but also has to be interesting enough that they don't get rejected in courtship and has to SAY they want to court a lady. So like the younger man in The Lost World novel goes off on adventure to prove h…
/r/RedPillWives14/06/17 07:25 AM
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Thankyou for posting this, it is really interesting, I found the ending to be very hopeful: And here, surely, lies our hope for the future. When women forge their own "gender identity," in the way the feminists recommend, they become unattractive to men—or attractive only as sex objects, not as individual persons. And when men cease to be gentlemen, they become unattractive to women. Sexual companionship then goes from the world. All that it needs to save young people from this predicament is fo…
/r/RedPillWives13/06/17 11:06 AM
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I do think 'leviathan' by Thomas Hobbes is very worth reading, but more for like a government/politics, a bit like 'The Prince', but from a different POV.
/r/RedPillWives12/06/17 02:39 PM
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I'm not the best person to explain this maybe cos i've always wanted monogamy, I couldn't have no-strings sex I don't think, i'd get too attached and have moral problem with it. I guess as well if you're having casual sex then you aren't open to a serious relationship, and there's maybe emotional baggage? I do think most people here want a guy who is leadery! and we are talking about things that try to appeal to men like that. I came here after i was already married but I think the ideas help fi…
/r/RedPillWives12/06/17 10:52 AM
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I guess most of us would probably have a similar idea of pretty or not for ourselves, but there's lots of styles which work with different bodies or colourations, r/femininenotfeminist has lots of examples. Like a pretty dress for a tall girl might make me look dumpy, or contours makeup suits some girls but not others. Some stuff is universal, healthy skin and hair, being feminine and not sending signals you don't want. And what your man likes matters, too, of course! My husband sometimes likes …
/r/RedPillWives11/06/17 09:02 PM
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I'm glad you're trying to read and understand, even if you don't agree with stuff maybe different ideas are good to consider. I would have the same worry for a single father, because I think children need a mom too, like moms and dads just do different things well. I agree about different fashions and culture​s, and priorities, I've had days where the highest aim is not smelling of baby grossness! but people are here to try and have a great relationship, so if i choose to not make looking pretty…
/r/RedPillWives11/06/17 06:11 PM
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I don't know if that makes sense or not? You should not have been the subject, the ideas overall should have been the focus. It makes sense, but the problem i had with it and why i argued is that noone really cared what my reasons were, they jumped on MY preference as if that was my view of what everyone should do, which it isn't. It was like if I'd said i only play tennis reading into it that i want to ban all other sports. Someone looked through my post history and found that i'd had trouble b…
/r/RedPillWives11/06/17 04:33 PM
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I posted in an "unpopular opinion thread" here that I disliked keeping current with politics so I asked my husband who to vote for. TBP assumed I was ignorant and basically stupid for asking for the advice of a man I admire who is politically active how best to vote. I pointed out I am well educated (specifically in politics too!), but that keeping informed through the news is not something which helps me be happy, and that my experience with politics had made it a source of anxiety. I can't rem…
/r/RedPillWives11/06/17 03:45 PM
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I do do the comfort testing a lot more than shit testing, my normal comfort test is asking "do you still love me", or maybe "I don't know why you're with me sometimes". He curls me up on his lap and cuddles me out of it :D I sometimes troll him a bit to see what he does, because it's like a fun flirty game I used to shit test when we were first dating a bit more, especially with the things like asking why he liked a particular outfit. He ended up calling them out and started asking "Is this a gi…
/r/RedPillWives11/06/17 08:42 AM
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I posted on TBP once, to respond to one of my comments was being misunderstood, the outragey tone is a bit too much. I post here because I like the people who post here and think they give good advice which works for my marriage, and if i am tempted to act up some of the things here help remind me what I want to act like.
/r/RedPillWives11/06/17 07:57 AM
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I get these kinds of feelings sometimes and the feeling when talking in front of people, I've heard it called imposter anxiety I think? I always find these thoughts come just before going to sleep, when I'm trying to settle, 😌 My worst is one from giving birth, I was in the final stage and legs akimbo with my awesome midwife helping with pushing/breathing when a flipping pair of doctors walk in and one LAUGHS. I haven't felt more humiliation ever, even though I suppose he probably wasn't actuall…
/r/RedPillWives10/06/17 05:40 PM
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We used to have a similar dynamic, I come from a family where conservative was the only way to vote, and rebellious was voting lib dem, my husband is from the north and proud of his family's long Labour history. But the parties weren't all that important, he supported Labour because he is traditional and sees them as on his family's side, and I leaned conservative because I am quite traditionalist. So really the underlying reasons were compatible.
/r/RedPillWives09/06/17 05:27 AM
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/u/PhantomDream09, the mention didn't work, btw, not sure why? This makes me really happy, things have gone mostly to plan, although I haven't achieved all of these yet, but I've done enough to get myself a swimsuit and Thai meal apparently! Tiredness seems to have been really helped by iron supplements, and i've made a lot of progress on most of the other ones. I'm still working on worrying less, but I think it has got better. Housework and tidiness routine is going well too! Trying for a baby …
/r/RedPillWives08/06/17 11:00 AM
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I did, and you're right :) - the response was "Noone wants to be a damn pet, love with no respect is insulting."
/r/RedPillWives07/06/17 09:57 AM
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A lovely sunny weekend and very fun day at the park and boatride, and good relaxing time as a family Hubs being just very much a good man. I was really touched by something Iris posted about her husband, and it made me think just how lucky I am as well. Fitness improving, and gradually getting better at running, so I don't look quite so bad! I'm now faster than a 4yo ;p Bonus: a bath with music on and super hot water, just relaxing to some fun poppy tunes and soaking!
/r/RedPillWives06/06/17 04:34 PM
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I think it was a meme thing: https://np.reddit.com/r/AteThePasta/comments/696fjx/half_of_reddit_eats_an_old_b_pasta_about/
/r/RedPillWives06/06/17 09:13 AM
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That looks really good, I might try using a chipotle salsa if i can't get the pepper itself My current favorite is Rainbow Trout with thin sliced cherry tomatoes and strong cheddar and parsley in the middle in foil parcels - you need to be a little gentle lifting them off the bbq because they leak but they are really nice :)
/r/RedPillWives06/06/17 08:45 AM
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I know what you mean, it's good to hear the ideas of other parents on the day to day stuff and crafts or games but this kind of thing is so ideological. It's like if someone was sharing articles about raising your kids in a religion, really, to me.
/r/RedPillWives03/06/17 06:20 PM
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Yep! Apparently they built swords out of lego/mecano. Ouch!
/r/RedPillWives02/06/17 10:25 PM
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On a more funny note, i was chatting with my MIL about raising boys and she mentioned she'd tried to not buy my husband or his brother any violent toys like action men or guns when they were small. But they just built their own improvised weapons, so she gave up!
/r/RedPillWives02/06/17 02:45 PM
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I don't often use the phrase cultural marxism... but this is pretty much something like that. I only got to the rolemodel one before having a break. It should be satire, but sadly not :(
/r/RedPillWives02/06/17 02:39 PM
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For anyone wanting some rage: how-to-raise-a-feminist-son So you indoctrinate boys, police their language and behaviour, try to stamp out any opposition to your ideas and the you think they'll be TOUGH? Urghhhhh. I'm not against letting kids have gender neutral toys and stuff, but trying to make your kid into a social science experiment is just going to mess them up. They WILL get teased, and beaten up, because little boys are like that.
/r/RedPillWives02/06/17 01:36 PM
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Yes! I liked this idea, but then maybe it should be more votes based on the people in a household too? So like if a husband has a wife and 2 children he gets 4 votes but a single man or woman living alone has 1 vote?
/r/RedPillWives01/06/17 08:28 AM
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It's a similar argument to the property requirements that voting had, I suppose. I don't really have a strong feeling on it, I've just this week copied husband's vote in our national election, but otoh our conservative tradition is quite nanny state by American standards :P
/r/RedPillWives31/05/17 04:22 PM
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Well the 1st wave was about voting and laws right? Which in theory sounds great, but actually when you look at the people involved the ideology gets a bit extreme. A lot of the suffragettes were very radical (and went on to other radical politics afterwards). Just because they campaigned for the right to vote and legal equality, assuming that is basically an ok thing, doesn't mean that their movement was a good thing. Like communists could be described as campaigning for more equality for the po…
/r/RedPillWives31/05/17 03:05 PM
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OK, tricks which might work of various levels of subtle: Flashing him super quick and then being coy and saying "no you missed it!" Straddle him when playing around, and give sexy looks Grab his butt/crotch when he can't do anything about it (for tension). Whisper sexy stuff sometimes. Get him to chase you when teasing! These are just ideas though, you guys will find stuff that works for you. It takes time to get used to each other's signals and how best to be. Like not being passive, but being …
/r/RedPillWives31/05/17 08:49 AM
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If you have children they might change anyway. B or C to E in my case, so it can be quite dramatic. Some guys don't like big boobs, but you could maybe mention the idea of implants and see what he says?
/r/RedPillWives31/05/17 08:20 AM
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I have no idea where this confidence came from. Having a stable family, my love for stories with happy endings, and being a stubborn optimist may be some possible explanations. The only differences between my relationship with Occam and the relationships I cooked up in my head revolve around a scarcity of magic, dragons, and space travel. Happily, I can scratch that itch by playing games. :0) I feel you're probably right about the stability being part of it, because I found that having a quite u…
/r/RedPillWives26/05/17 01:50 PM
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I really like the sound of all of that, but especially these two Common sources of stress, embarrassment, and fear that are unique to men and how we can best recognise and respond to them How men perceive disrespect - body language, word choice, tone, expressions, etc. Male respect vs female respect Men can be really difficult to read sometimes and I'd like to see people's ideas and insights on these!
/r/RedPillWives25/05/17 12:12 PM
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That kinda warm/rich growl that vibrates your stomach just a tiny bit :)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/17 03:38 PM
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Vin diesel's face is meh, but I love the kind of characters he plays, so I kind of ignore the face, his body is pretty good. Also the voice.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/17 03:29 PM
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Gerard Butler is pretty nice I had a thing about lawerence dallagio Maybe Vin deisel in Pitch Black although he has a bit of a peewee herman chin. Still, the presence is real!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/17 12:13 PM
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Not at all my taste when posing, the emphasis on muscle is a bit thuggish and vain. A less sculpted but still strong man in a nice suit or casually doing something physical is hotter.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/17 11:55 AM
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Ya know, like a man would do lol. :p Every time you say that somewhere a feminist is triggered ;)
/r/RedPillWives23/05/17 08:29 PM
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That really good point :) I didn't think about that, but yes! Men who are intellectually masculine get told their traits aren't manly because a feminist would yell that "women can be just as logical, stoic and analytical". My husband STILL has a bit of resentment of teachers from his time at school, even though he got good grades. I know he got into fights and mischief and didn't do homework but basically I think he was bored.
/r/RedPillWives23/05/17 07:32 PM
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Exactly, and aggressive achievement is something men are so good at sometimes! making boys squash that and be passive is never going to work completely, it's just as bad as when women were mistreated in education and a total waste. I feel sad for men sometimes, a lot of boys just don't have a positive role. There was a survey of attitudes to groups in Britain last year I think and of all the groups white young men were seen most badly, even immigrant young men were seen as better :(
/r/RedPillWives23/05/17 06:20 PM
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It can't happen too fast! It just hasn't worked to teach men to act like women to be 'good', it ruins the ones who obey, who are probably genuinely good people in a lot of cases :(
/r/RedPillWives23/05/17 02:29 PM
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Respect for men has died I agree! I think that even the idea of what good a man can bring has gone, so many things are called bad that are masculine, so there is no cultural respect for men. Like boys get told to be more emotional and unaggressive, it's been going on for a long time, teaching boys that what they naturally are is bad.
/r/RedPillWives23/05/17 12:49 PM
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For when you are trolling the feminists in your life :)
/r/RedPillWives22/05/17 11:58 AM
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My (on nhs) birth plan ended up being completely ignored, but that was because i had some meconium in the my waters when broke so they went to induction in case of distress. So after that it was all decided for me except if you want pain relief! I would ring up the unit you're going to go to and ask to speak to a midwife, you might have to make an appointment to go and see them but most midwife units seem pretty good about helping. The midwives even gave us advice over the phone on whether to br…
/r/RedPillWives22/05/17 11:24 AM
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I feel like naturally we'd be more different, but we do quite a lot together because the other wants to. Like he wouldn't ever shop for clothes unless he needed a new suit or something wore out, but shopping together is kind of fun, and he appreciates me picking stuff for him. I wouldn't run or hike much probably if he wasn't doing it, but if i'm going to exercise it's nice to join in with something he finds fun, and he has shown me some really pretty places. Also we talk about each other's hobb…
/r/RedPillWives22/05/17 10:34 AM
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quite a while, maybe like 2 months. I was watching a linked video about some of the violence on American college campuses over speeches by milo and stuff. I showed him the linked video and he got cross and swore about the guy in it. I said he seemed reasonable in the video, and then we argued a bit Not a big thing, we don't argue much and I don't like the confrontation when we do
/r/RedPillWives19/05/17 09:51 PM
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I can't remember them tbh, I think maybe a lot of them really were "I'm not sure, you have to ask" in different ways Like I'm trans but not all the time and sometimes I also identify as a radish.
/r/RedPillWives19/05/17 08:05 PM
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:) I was thinking as I wrote it "is this a thing people do? Am I old and lame?" I am so out of the loop on dating!
/r/RedPillWives19/05/17 05:54 PM
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I'm not clinical, but work in healthcare and we have a list of like 7-8 genders we recognise. It's crazy how quick this has become a thing that's official. Hopefully it doesn't keep getting more extreme, it seems out of control how feelings dictate policy :(
/r/RedPillWives19/05/17 05:50 PM
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Maybe ask to watch some of his favourite films as chill dates? Like Netflix and chill but he picks a classic movie sometimes?
/r/RedPillWives19/05/17 05:43 PM
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I didn't, I think because my baby put on weight sort of ok they didn't think i needed a breastfeeding counselor and i didn't know about lactation cookies or much really. We had an afternoon class about nursing and they were super enthusiastic about it but all the advice was about latching and positioning and the benefits to mom and baby not nutrition. My MIL gave us oat biscuits and oatcakes and stout to try and help but the pumping still seemed painfully slow. Next time i'm going into be a lot …
/r/RedPillWives14/05/17 07:50 PM
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Here is an app we all need ;) Woman Interrupted to deal with the scourge of manterruption
/r/RedPillWives13/05/17 04:38 PM
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That's really encouraging, I only managed 6 weeks first time before I gave up, she was just constantly feeding when awake and it hurt so bad. Plus my production seemed low when I pumped so I think she had to feed lots because of hunger :( This next time might be completely different hopefully!
/r/RedPillWives13/05/17 06:12 AM
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Number 8 made me wince! I don't care if it's terrible or not, next time i really want to avoid that bit
/r/RedPillWives12/05/17 12:57 PM
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I make a wide- eye face i make sometimes before asking for something, which he calls my "i'm about to be a knob face". Or make a beady side-eye when I'm skeptical. And i tap my foot when i'm trying to act nonchalant but am feeling up for shenanigans. I don't really know how but he knows if i'm sad sometimes when I'm sure i've not given any sign. His are difficult to describe but he gets more deliberate in his movements when he's angry or irritable. Normally he moves quite relaxed, but if someone…
/r/RedPillWives12/05/17 12:45 PM
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That's very true! I'm bad at taking criticism personally in general, so being a bit cautious about opening up is the right way to be. How much I value his honest opinion makes the moments where he is proud and pleased all the more valuable though :)
/r/RedPillWives09/05/17 05:43 PM
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My man is painfully honest sometimes, even if he is normally very tactful and diplomatic! But he doesn't seem able to lie and if i demand an answer to a question he will either give his opinion or refuse to answer. If we're in a more heated discussion and he gets passionate then it's pretty normal for me to feel a bit bruised afterwards! Normally he can be honest without any problem though, and puts things in a good way. I am maybe less direct than he is, I do try to avoid some topics to minimis…
/r/RedPillWives09/05/17 09:01 AM
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If he likes mac cheese and grilled cheese, how about a chicken/cheese sauce calzone? Mozzarella and cheddar in a simple roux with mushrooms and maybe cherry tomatoes and basil is really good :) My guy's favorite is square sausage and bubble and squeak (fried potato and cabbage), or steak and potato pie, or really anything with a potato or two and lumps of meat ;)
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/17 02:18 PM
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It's rude, it's selfish and it makes you look like a sneaky entitled bitch to his current missus, her friends and family, but most importantly his friends and family. Not the best way to begin a relationship. Not only that, but if he'll happily leave his current missus when you come along, what's stopping him from doing the same if someone better comes along later on? This X 1000! Family and friends will possibly blame you for the breakup of the previous relationship, and that already puts you a…
/r/RedPillWives05/05/17 09:24 AM
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I'm grateful that a family celebration I organised went well at the weekend, and we made it a really happy celebration (88 yo grandmother-in-law in wheelchair and nearly deaf, so it was a tricky one!) Our vegetable garden, and the anticipation of some lovely food! Hubs being a good father. Watching him read with our daughter makes me fall in love all over again, seeing his passion for reading being passed on Bonus: Sharp small knife for batons, julienne or diced, and a serrated vegetable knife f…
/r/RedPillWives04/05/17 09:05 AM
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Thankyou for the reminder, I guess I do kind of think of it as more safe but the same risks do apply!
/r/RedPillWives28/04/17 02:27 PM
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It is hard to find a balance, I think there's things I would only feel comfortable sharing on the IRC or by PM where it's quite specific like some of them are! Your guide is good, a bit of caution can save a lot of regret :)
/r/RedPillWives28/04/17 02:12 PM
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Really well done on going to the gym, the hardest thing is starting a good habit :) I put on a lot of weight after my first baby, and it took real effort to shift it (I used the old weightwatchers propoints and pilates mainly) but i'm determined to go into a second pregnancy much fitter in general and keep the weight gain off as much as possible. I've added running with husband and 4yo (on a bike) around the neighbourhood some evenings, and i'm gradually getting better stamina and a bit faster. …
/r/RedPillWives28/04/17 01:06 PM
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This post came to mind when i saw this: https://np.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/6804p2/whats_your_job_and_your_partners_job/ Doxxing is pretty scary, and I think it's easy to be complacent :(
/r/RedPillWives28/04/17 12:22 PM
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Thanks for the synopsis that's very thoughtful, added to my list :)
/r/RedPillWives27/04/17 03:11 PM
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There's a lovely one in the village near us, and a bigger one near to where my in-laws live that I sometimes go to. Babies and gossip and often cakes, it's hard not to love it!
/r/RedPillWives25/04/17 03:28 PM
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This, really! A local mother and baby group is a great way to socialise, and you can socialise via playdates for kids with people you meet there. We made friends with some of the people locally through church and local events and me and my daughter sometimes go to help out the older ladies and chat with them which can be quite nice.
/r/RedPillWives25/04/17 11:36 AM
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That's right! It's one thing we got super clear on early on, because of a misunderstanding over a gay friend of his! Turns out neither of us like sharing, and both found possessiveness a turn on, so it worked out :)
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/17 05:37 AM
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If they're gay, it's fine, but otherwise I'd be uncomfortable with it. A 'best friend' is where your man will go if you argue, and the last thing you want is for their shoulder to cry on to be someone interested in them. Plus there's a grass is always greener thing - a friend won't have the daily grind of running a house or looking after kids with you, so it might make you look less attractive compared to his "female best friend" who is always fun and understanding and stuff?
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/17 12:58 PM
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A good challenge, and beautiful pictures of the little one :) Keeping score is such a bad idea, especially when it's so easy to perceive tiredness coming home from work as coldness or irritation. Being loving makes it easier to be loved back. Happy Wednesday!
/r/RedPillWives19/04/17 03:16 PM
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My daughter got into the school we wanted, which is a huge relief and her cousin did as well, so I will get more time to be an auntie to her! It's a church school and really good, so i'm very pleased :) Hubs for his backrubbing. My back was really sore last week and he helped me a lot and it makes me feel very loved Hubs for his hard work. I get sad when he has to work away or late and I miss him terribly. But he is very dedicated and smart, and I know he works hard to give us a good life withou…
/r/RedPillWives19/04/17 10:48 AM
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This is quite a brief article, but I kind of like the principles they have suggested. Keeping things sexy in a marriage is something I think does take a bit of conscious thought, and is important obviously!
/r/RedPillWives13/04/17 02:56 PM
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Hubs listening to my crazy fear stuff and workplace frustrations, his patience is great, and his responses help ground me The garden, just starting to produce some early crops (herbs, spring onions and rhubarb), it's wonderful to play with the rabbits and we've got some good crops to come :) Chatting with my daughter, it is so nice and she has just blossomed into a sweet little girl with her own outlook and interests and it is really nice to have time to talk with her <3 Bonus: Ah! i want so man…
/r/RedPillWives12/04/17 10:57 AM
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It was similar with my husband, he went with me to prenatal classes and built the baby room but I think the really real moment for him only happened when she was born, even though he sometimes stroked the bump when she was kicking. I have some kind of feeling that maybe we think about the future differently to men as well, sometimes. Like there's more imagination and feeling about the future for us and maybe men kind of check for future threats and otherwise don't have the emotional anticipation…
/r/RedPillWives12/04/17 10:01 AM
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You make so much sense there, especially about how different expressions of emotions can be, and not expecting mind reading. It was weird around my husband's grandmother's funeral, the men didn't show much, they were stern faced, and it was only in the private chapel they cried, and you could see how deep it was. But at the wake they were polite and calm again, chatting like nothing was wrong. It isn't wrong, it's just different.
/r/RedPillWives11/04/17 03:58 PM
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Lady Vintage (https://ladyvlondon.com/) is quite good for quality but I don't know about shipping prices, and the return period is quite short. They do free shipping if you order enough :)
/r/RedPillWives11/04/17 01:47 PM
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It's a serious issue, an violent rapist is not someone you should accept having a reason to turn up at the door! Honestly, if he wants to be a hero I would suggest volunteering at a shelter or fundraising for a charity, trying to personally save people is risky and there are proper organisations which have the staff and training (and money!) to do it without the danger. Offering a compromise of her living somewhere else would be my absolute redline because it's a dangerous situation involving a …
/r/RedPillWives10/04/17 12:17 PM
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I just don't like the thought of our home being made into a battered woman's shelter (he's got another friend who is in a similar situation and he has expressed wanting to have her move in too). I think you are right to feel there's something wrong about this, if partners are really abusive he is making your family home a potential target and risking your safety a bit. Shelters should be equipped to deal with that, and secure. I think this is trying to be good but not very wise, and you shouldn'…
/r/RedPillWives10/04/17 11:07 AM
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The one near us has like one half for little ones and one half for parents I think from asking the lady I know who goes. I'd be happy to get a bit more cardio myself as well :)
/r/RedPillWives07/04/17 07:09 PM
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Thanks, I've not done anything like that so I really don't know what would be involved! I have to go along anyway so I will maybe take your advice for myself as well :)
/r/RedPillWives07/04/17 05:05 PM
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Bit of a random question, but what are people's views on girls doing martial arts? Our daughter was kind of interested in a junior karate class which adults can go along to also, but i'm not sure if it's a good thing for a girl to have as a main hobby? Dunno, maybe I'm being weird about it. I just think she'd probably enjoy dance or swimming or maybe Brownies much more. Also, I've been reading "the four loves" by C.S lewis, and it's really good and very much in line with some of the advice given…
/r/RedPillWives07/04/17 03:39 PM
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People have given some really good advice, and I would add this: Both my father and stepfather have behaved like this, and I grew up seeing what it did to my mom. It made me incredibly distrustful of men, and I still have insecurity and trust issues now as a woman with a loving husband who is generally very happy in my relationship. If you suffer repeated episodes of lying and heartbreak when you have children together it may be very damaging to the children as well as to you. It is so painful t…
/r/RedPillWives06/04/17 10:30 AM
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Thankyou for this :) I like the idea that we can't stop the attraction but we can balance it with remembering how much we've committed, it seems a good way to look at things and remind us how valuable what we have is. Preselection is a really strong instinct to use, mate guarding really does bring the focus on how much you value what you have, that's really clever :)
/r/RedPillWives04/04/17 10:56 AM
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Red, Woman. I don't wish i'd married them, I think we would have divorced pretty soon because I wasn't really mature enough for a LTR never mind marriage. Also I'm much straighter than I thought I was! If marrying the first person you have sex with was the cultural norm i would have probably done the same things because it was mostly about rebelling against parents and social norms and being special.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/17 10:09 AM
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Spiders are the worst! just like my stupid brain with its need to imagine the worst all the time :)
/r/RedPillWives03/04/17 01:11 PM
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I did look a bit, but it's a bit weird, and kinda negative. I guess they probably agree with RPW on some things, but they're trying to fix their situations with wives who aren't in agreement?
/r/RedPillWives31/03/17 02:41 PM
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I think those are good boundaries, and although it isn't quite practical for us because hubs has to travel with women he works with sometimes or socialise for business, I do get a bit nervous about it, but I understand how important networking is. In our private lives we'd really not eat or drink alone with someone we're sexually compatible with. I think we established that rule after i blew up at him for going for going to "watch B movies and chill with Vanessa" when we were dating. He forgot t…
/r/RedPillWives31/03/17 08:22 AM
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MIL biopsy came back negative for cancer, just before they left for Israel, brilliant timing for good news and the family are all really relieved. Hubs being supportive for exercise, I know I'll probably never able to keep up with him but he is a good coach and helps keep me going when my little legs are aching :) And gave me a piggyback last night! We have got into Archer and it's great to have a show that makes us both laugh when we want something lighthearted Bonus: Half empty, and probably t…
/r/RedPillWives29/03/17 09:25 AM
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Exactly, it's shaming men for being men then telling them what they should be instead. Ew is right! BTW i thought your post on PPD was really interesting but couldn't decide what to say :)
/r/RedPillWives28/03/17 03:08 PM
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That is a great way of putting it, they are the ones claiming the right to tell men and women how to act and reverse the roles. Totally about power and telling people what to do!
/r/RedPillWives28/03/17 02:58 PM
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Them seeing masculinity as a sin reminds me of something /u/sunhappy_dc posted to PPD.... I find this really strange when they say they want healthy masculinity, they seem to want to change the whole meaning of the word in order to 'prevent violence' and that seems to end up blaming masculinity for all violence and discrimination. Surely they don't expect masculine men to go to something like this?
/r/RedPillWives28/03/17 12:57 PM
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Hubs decision to keep his hair longer. So lovely to run fingers through, and I think it makes him look really professional. A little bit 50s, but it works well for his face. And looks very neat! People here, for good advice and examples! We had a dry spell in the bedroom because hubs has healing stitches and our normal dynamic was off, but I noticed his mood was low and we worked around it (without injury!). My daughter for being a loving and happy little lady, who reminds me of her father in th…
/r/RedPillWives22/03/17 03:29 PM
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Some of it was pretty gross although I found it really interesting! The worst was a giant butt spike, it was quite terrifying!
/r/RedPillWives17/03/17 04:12 PM
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There's a museum in Prague of all stuff like that. here!
/r/RedPillWives17/03/17 03:45 PM
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The feminist is clearly not a real women, as we never fart but emit a pleasant scent of violets instead :p
/r/RedPillWives17/03/17 03:43 PM
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The bonding process is so deep, I don't think they quite get what they're suggesting. And then to say people are ok with other children being hurt or deprived because they're not theirs? I would care more about an adopted child of mine than someone else's child because it's my responsibility to be their mom, that doesn't mean you don't care about the other children but yours are special! Either blood or chosen children! To lighten the mood and get the taste of that out of my head, http://i2.kym-…
/r/RedPillWives17/03/17 03:27 PM
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The random baby thing is just so weird. Like it was written by an alien or robot or something, not a real person. Someone who sees love of family as 'genetic chauvinism' just doesn't seem to get how people are really.
/r/RedPillWives17/03/17 02:57 PM
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This is so true :) I like suggesting disgusting meal choices to our daughter and watching her face screw up, then she figures it out and says "nooo, mom, that's not real" She's started trolling back pretending that she's a statue and has to be lifted and moved, or a robot and only responds to beep boop! My husband swears he will tell our grandkids the plot of computer games and films and pretend they were real wars he fought in. I know the video of our daughter's first night at home he comments …
/r/RedPillWives17/03/17 12:21 PM
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Congratulations :D
/r/RedPillWives16/03/17 01:52 PM
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😳 I do listen at church and ask questions later, honestly!
/r/RedPillWives16/03/17 08:47 AM
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Hugely grateful that husband is dealing with everything for extending our house. I get really anxious about processes like that, but he explained what he called the critical path for it, and it made sense but mostly just reassured me that he had it all under control. Thankful for the doctors and medical staff who have been very helpful to me, my husband and my MIL this week, and their skill and dedication. Thankful that my fertility test came back as positive, which is great <3 Bonus: If we were…
/r/RedPillWives15/03/17 01:15 PM
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It was a bit like that with Brexit, the status quo was kind of uninspiring, and some people really wanted to shake things up.
/r/RedPillWives15/03/17 09:13 AM
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Welcome home! :) Thankyou :) I am still kind of finding my way, and i come from a family which was quite anti-church so i lack really basic knowledge sometimes, like who people are and things. Helping with sunday school has been quite helpful for that even though it's aimed at young children!
/r/RedPillWives11/03/17 09:18 AM
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Thankyou, I know they aren't the same, but i think there's some kind of overlap or some common doctrines some Anglicans follow? I know my husband and his cousin (a vicar and theologian) regard Cardinal Newman very highly although they are both anglicans
/r/RedPillWives11/03/17 09:05 AM
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Sorry, I'm really new to things so my knowledge is very limited, I know we say there is 'one holy catholic church' and some of the CofE churches are more catholic in style but honestly I still have to ask about a lot of things.
/r/RedPillWives11/03/17 08:53 AM
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For a garden party, I think my best tips would be: We have a shaded area with seats, it's more comfortable out of the sun sometimes I make most food in advance, but salad fresh, so it's really crisp If children are coming, I have suncream on hand, and the shade thing is twice as important. Little ones get sunstroke so easily. A play area under shade is a good idea. And spare clothes is really helpful sometimes, there is always a child who needs it! we tend to do similar to an afternoon tea, lots…
/r/RedPillWives11/03/17 08:43 AM
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Thankyou, I will talk to hubs about this, I know he will have his own view but it's worth thinking about especially if we didn't get a good priest
/r/RedPillWives10/03/17 06:10 PM
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Thankyou, I will have a look for those. We go to my husband's family church at the moment, but if the new priest was bad he would definitely want to move I think.
/r/RedPillWives10/03/17 04:57 PM
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It is very confusing to me sometimes, I really hope the next priest we get (ours is retiring) is fairly traditional again, I want to learn properly not twisted by liberal social values :(
/r/RedPillWives10/03/17 04:42 PM
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It's just the Church of England, I checked! The Church of England is still a 'catholic' church I think, from what I understand they aren't a Lutheran protestant church. Some of the Church of England are effectively Catholics in practice, but with the queen as head of church instead of the pope. Like we have a lady chapel and a confession booth in our local parish church, and they can do the same rites I think.
/r/RedPillWives10/03/17 04:10 PM
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This is quite a sad case which my husband told me about, and I thought it was possibly interesting to the sub. A well regarded and devout bishop forced to turn down a role in a major city because of personal attacks over his traditionalist views on some things. He said: “The highly individualised nature of the attacks upon me have been extremely hard to bear. If, as Christians, we cannot relate to each other within the bounds of love, how can we possibly presume to transform a nation in the name…
/r/RedPillWives10/03/17 02:26 PM
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I've made friends with a few of the wives of his work contacts and sometimes we do dinnerparties/garden parties, which isn't really my favourite thing but it's really good for him to socialise like that. At church I help teach the children and try to make sure our daughter is well presented, and look appropriately nice myself :) I have tried to learn some new desserts for the harvest lunch and things so I live up to the standards of my MIL as well, she is amazing at cupcakes but I made some very…
/r/RedPillWives09/03/17 09:07 PM
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I think you're probably right, people really did seem to hate her, or at best tolerate her personality. I can totally understand people being against Trump, but that isn't really enough to get people fired up to vote if the candidate is unlikeable. I kind of liked Bernie, I agree that at least it was a debate about policy, not voting because of supposed gender allegiance!
/r/RedPillWives09/03/17 04:19 PM
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I completely agree, even as someone in a different country it was obvious Clinton was unlikeable, and just didn't seem warm at all. Trump is at least expressive and genuine.
/r/RedPillWives09/03/17 03:15 PM
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Sadly it is the same in Britain: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3015471/SEX-Britain-2015-One-Average-couple-sex-three-times-month-mid-lifers-make-love-young-Compiled-Cambridge-professor-depth-study-does-Britain-s-bedrooms-startle.html I find tiredness is a real problem, it's easy to let the evening slip away from you! We found that being willing to just drop everything (after child is asleep!) was needed sometimes, otherwise we'd get tangled up in chores and tv and internet and be too t…
/r/RedPillWives09/03/17 11:43 AM
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I don't really get the complaint about compliments, telling someone you value them for the things they make you feel and how they benefit make your life better seems nice? I see that list and the reply and it seems like the list includes some things which are compliments about him and his behaviour and how he is special to her. The complaint that she'd say the same to anyone doesn't seem true unless they had the same good points! I think avoiding it is difficult, I do judge things by how I'd fee…
/r/RedPillWives03/03/17 03:49 PM
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Normally something I don't mind getting a little bit dirty (in case of glue, juice, glitter or food!), like jeans and a top, unless i'm going to exercise and don't want to sweat too much. I change when I shower in the late afternoon (while daughter eats dinner) and try to wear something a little bit nicer and more fitted.
/r/RedPillWives03/03/17 03:15 PM
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I hate the "THIS WILL GET WORSE HE IS A MONSTER" thing. Urg. Talk to the man, for goodness sake, try and sort things out. But these people aren't helping, they're trying to paint her husband as bad as possible, to try and get her to do what they think she should do :(
/r/RedPillWives03/03/17 12:32 PM
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They sleep lots, and once they get a steady routine it's not too bad (sometimes!). We had about two weeks before the baby was in a routine where it was a bit all consuming. But quite quickly she moved to a morning nap and an afternoon nap so I could get chores done then and just listen on a baby monitor. I would arrange meeting a friend either for nap time if they were coming to my house or just after a nap so the baby wasn't grumpy! I really needed the social contact and non-baby focussed time,…
/r/RedPillWives02/03/17 03:21 PM
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I'm not a full SAHM, I work part time, but I was for two years when my first child was small. I found there was some downtime but it really depended on what other things I had on. I think I spent maybe two hours a day on chores, and probably four on baby stuff like feeds, washes, naps, changes and playing. I could normally do something in an afternoon and tried to meet up with friends, shopping or volunteer work. The things I don't have as much time for now are volunteering and gardening, but we…
/r/RedPillWives02/03/17 02:44 PM
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I raised that with my husband when we were getting married because my sister had done that and the look of horror on his face was surprising. He didn't mind if i kept my maiden name, but was adamant we wouldn't go double barreled because it would "make us sound like a firm of solicitors". In the end i took his name, initially i wasn't keen but it's really grown on me!
/r/RedPillWives27/02/17 02:20 PM
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It was probably related to married women being banned from a lot of professions back then here, like you had to quit work if you were a teacher and got married! So married women working was maybe kind of taboo?
/r/RedPillWives24/02/17 02:39 PM
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I have to admit the passion week didn't work out perfectly, I accidentally ruined one evening's intimate moment by knocking over my drink, and another we ended up in a bit of an argument, and he's been working long hours. But at least I did make the first move more and we tried some different things. Intimacy I think will be a bit easier and I'll really try to make sure we get that time together and I don't get distracted with chores once we've got time together.
/r/RedPillWives24/02/17 02:34 PM
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That's it, your underlying relationship strength helps the bounce back be easier and closeness return more easily :) (I hope!!) :D It will <3
/r/RedPillWives24/02/17 02:04 PM
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I think it's easy to forget when things are crazily busy with a baby, but it's so true! It's really for the best for children as well because their view of relationships will be formed by how we are with our men, so a strong relationship is for everyone's good <3
/r/RedPillWives24/02/17 01:44 PM
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I will say that I've tried those things. He reads a lot of political things and I will read them too so we can talk about it (but it often makes him angry so it's hard to make those conversations fun lol, so I don't feel like that "quality time" is satisfied if that makes sense). I completely agree on that, it sounds just like my husband. I really don't enjoy those kinds of conversation much :( I have found watching funny videos together quite good though, laughing and cuddling is a good way for…
/r/RedPillWives24/02/17 01:19 PM
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I think our conscription did differentiate so women without children were conscripted, you're right :) I checked and all married women were exempt from conscription and any with children under 14 at home.
/r/RedPillWives24/02/17 12:57 PM
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Ooh, thanks, I saw the film years ago and enjoyed it, I'll give that a look :)
/r/RedPillWives18/02/17 04:31 PM
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He is a very good man <3
/r/RedPillWives17/02/17 07:12 PM
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Yes, that is it, and he is quite old-fashioned about the idea of men "taking advantage" through encouraging women to get drunk, he sees that as bad as well. So to him he sees it as "if you do this dumb thing, then you might have to prove innocence in court, so don't be dumb"
/r/RedPillWives17/02/17 05:22 PM
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His opinion was that "the law is the law", and if you break it, it should punish particularly harshly for rape. So he wasn't really saying there was a 'rape culture', but he had absolutely no sympathy for men who might be falsely accused. He's very black and white about things, it's quite frustrating to debate with! I think he sees it as something where being stupid opens you up to risk, so he doesn't care about the rape culture debate so much as telling people the law and it being enforced.
/r/RedPillWives17/02/17 04:58 PM
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Well, I was a reddit lurker for a bit and got really annoyed at twoX and silly stuff about 'rape culture'. I also watched some Lauren Southern videos and one evening my husband was sitting while I was watching one and we got into a really heated debate around rape culture and women's responsibility. Afterwards he said i should come here because there were like-minded people and it was a positive place. I can't remember how he found the sub but maybe via TRP or PPD.
/r/RedPillWives17/02/17 04:41 PM
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Exactly! if there was a war, food needs to be grown, weapons need to be made, hospitals need to be staffed. Even our Queen served in the world war! I don't like this idea that men should carry the whole burden of war, it's just wrong. I feel so sad when i compare this attitude to our grandparents - at his Grandmothers wake my husband told me how they'd met during the war and his Grandfather joined up young to get his service done and come back to marry her, while she served as a nurse. It's a di…
/r/RedPillWives17/02/17 04:33 PM
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This is something I've never thought about, because national service was abolished so long ago here, but I agree it should be equal. Women might not want to serve in the army, but I know in WW2 women were conscripted and served in lots of ways like farming and industry.
/r/RedPillWives17/02/17 04:19 PM
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He's absolutely right, the point at which the British National Party collapsed was when their leader appeared on question time (like a debate show with lots of different political views and some journalists/celebs answering audience questions) and showed himself up. Milo is trolly, the worst way to argue with him is to get offended I think.
/r/RedPillWives17/02/17 09:41 AM
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Last week I was a bit unsure of how to support, but I tried to make home as relaxing as possible, and when he brought work home I tried to keep out of the way and let him concentrate and told him how much i appreciated him for working hard and being him. I feel like it's something I need to keep looking for chances to do though! For this week, I want to take the initiative and try some more seduction, but also maybe try to push my boundaries a bit. So lights on ;)
/r/RedPillWives16/02/17 01:59 PM
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YAY :D http://m.memegen.com/42zbwk.jpg
/r/RedPillWives15/02/17 03:16 PM
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1) I'm incredibly grateful for my husband doing lots of little things to make sure I could enjoy my birthday in a relaxing and fun way. Also for presents ;) 2) I'm grateful for our vicar who is sadly retiring soon. He married us and is a lovely man who will be difficult to replace 3) I'm grateful for my MIL and mom, who are both good to our family, and make me smile. They are so different, but both are really dedicated to their family. Two different birthday celebrations, but both love gathering…
/r/RedPillWives15/02/17 11:16 AM
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See I am a glass half full kind of gal. That boring story that is cliche really isn't in my relationship. You take everything and look at it with love and kindness and you embrace it. You don't dump your man for what you think might be excitement. You keep him for it and nurture it. I agree so much with this, you can totally have excitement and passion within a relationship, and keeping seeking novelty for excitement is not the healthiest way of finding it. I get fed up with the classic good boy…
/r/RedPillWives15/02/17 10:34 AM
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Yeah, I'm not as good with initiation as you seem to be so we had a different situation, but that was definitely a problem we had. It's just a bit less fun for guys when it's like "do you want sex". I felt a low libido post-birth and PPD and stuff really meant i had to push myself to want sex, so when I felt in the mood i felt obliged to say but then it made it not as fun. As practice for flirting maybe try like a hidden note where your husband will find it cos it's not too subtle and a bit more…
/r/RedPillWives09/02/17 04:58 PM
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I'm not wanting to pry, but do you escalate zero to sex really quick? I'm sometimes pretty impatient with foreplay mentally and sometimes my husband has actually made me slow down and enjoy the buildup because he likes teasing more. He might be up for it, but need a bit of coaxing and play to get really in the mood, perhaps? And like u/CoochQuarantine says, flirting without actually going all the way to initiation might be good?
/r/RedPillWives09/02/17 03:24 PM
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"Pappa can fix anything! Good job Pappa!" That's the same in our house - it amazes my daughter when daddy can't fix something, we think she even went through a phase of trying to break things to test him but we couldn't be sure and she denied it!
/r/RedPillWives09/02/17 08:32 AM
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I think there's two things really, his utterly stubborn determination and his willingness to fight for things. When we first got together, sometimes his inflexibility would cause friction because he doesn't ever bend his rules, and it bothered me that he would 'judge' me if I didn't act like he thought I should. If I said I slacked off because I was cross with my boss his eyes and face told the story that he wasn't happy even though he wouldn't tell me off. Sometimes with parenting his approach …
/r/RedPillWives07/02/17 12:14 PM
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You're in the UK, so I can actually help! (maybe) - m&s do some really good thermal tights, also boden aren't bad (maybe not quite as warm). Maternity wear is your friend, also - the tights and leggings often seem extra warm. I'm really prone to feeling the cold, and get reynauds in my fingers so I am a connoisseur of things to keep warm!
/r/RedPillWives06/02/17 01:11 PM
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I suppose it is political, it's funny in my mind it just came under 'church activities' and something nice for the children to do in the case of gathering food and making up shoebox parcels. I definitely agree about talking vs doing! I think the loudest protestors are the most frustrating because their effort is all showing off, and if they spent that time and effort better they could help people.
/r/RedPillWives06/02/17 11:24 AM
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I do some I guess, but really it's more like supporting things my husband (and his church) do. Food banking and support for a homeless shelter mostly, and care packages for refugee children. But it's not really a political thing, more like a community project
/r/RedPillWives05/02/17 08:55 PM
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I'll go long and guess 17+0, but I really can't remember how fast my bump grew!
/r/RedPillWives03/02/17 03:13 PM
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This week hubs has been away and I've been making the house as nice as possible for him to get back to. I really think when he gets home tonight he's probably going to be pretty tired and maybe want to chill out and just relax. To help, I've asked my mom to look after our daughter and will be looking my prettiest (hopefully). (Honestly I kinda want to jump him, my libido has been going nuts and he was getting changed for evening socialising when he called last night so I kept getting mini stript…
/r/RedPillWives03/02/17 09:59 AM
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She is pretty awesome, she has always spoken up for her beliefs and I find female conservative MPs seem braver about that than male ones who seem more floppy about morality. I think some of them look up to Margaret Thatcher but the poor men haven't had a figure like that for years!
/r/RedPillWives02/02/17 06:21 PM
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I'm in a similar situation (although my little girl is 4 now), my mom and older sister are feminist, but they are mostly well intentioned. I angsted about it when my daughter was little because it took me a long time to sort my view of men out and it still makes me insecure at times. u/PhantomDream09 and u/HappyWifeLifeX have both made really good posts, and I would agree that leading by example and teaching solid values and discipline are the main things. We can't keep our daughters from hearin…
/r/RedPillWives02/02/17 09:05 AM
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Thanks for that summary :) I think that having more anti-feminist media is great, there seems to be a broader social current starting to question feminism now and things like this that are more 'mainstream' might help our daughters not grow up with the narrative of anti-feminist meaning anti-women like some of us did
/r/RedPillWives01/02/17 05:44 PM
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Yep, it needs to be a surprise :) Sometimes I get our daughter to write a little note, sometimes something from me. This week he's away all week 😢 but I sent him a photo at breakfast of a pretend railway bringing daddy home she'd built and he skyped us to say thanks. Even something funny (or rude) can get a smile on a rough day, or just a surprise cuddle before he leaves.
/r/RedPillWives01/02/17 03:03 PM
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It says it's coming to streaming services in March, so it should be online then, but not at the moment I don't think
/r/RedPillWives01/02/17 02:43 PM
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If he struggles waking up maybe a daylight lamp/alarmclock? It can be better for waking up more gently people say than a harsh alarm. I sometimes put like little notes in my husband's lunch to make him smile, something like that might cheer him up in his breakfast?
/r/RedPillWives01/02/17 02:11 PM
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Most people here will know all about The Red Pill film, but I saw this posted on PPD and read the article, it's quite good and neutral in tone if you wanted to share it to promote the film
/r/RedPillWives01/02/17 01:32 PM
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Bringing a coffee/tea (and breakfast)? My hubs leaves way earlier for work than I get up, but he leaves a coffee ready for me to help me wake up when he kisses me goodbye.
/r/RedPillWives01/02/17 12:33 PM
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Our date nights aren't 100% regular, because it depends on babysitting and length of time we can make together alone or if it's an evening at home. But we're trying to make it a bit more of a regular thing. Work is definitely not a topic for discussion, and hubs turns his phone off! If it's an evening I always try to make the outfit for a date something new or something particularly nice. Full makeup for 'going out', and if we're meeting away from home I'll keep the outfit secret to be a surpris…
/r/RedPillWives30/01/17 04:38 PM
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Haha, I ranted at my husband and he ended up giving me a big explanation of why the womens march was more like fascism and Trump is acting patriotically based on something he read by George Orwell (the 1984 writer). I love him and how he thinks, but it's sometimes mentally exhausting when i accidentally open the lid on something he's been thinking over deeply, and suddenly a thesis is being declared over dinner!
/r/RedPillWives27/01/17 03:36 PM
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Yep, absolutely. What even is this nonsense: http://i.imgur.com/zJ6Q23X.jpg
/r/RedPillWives27/01/17 02:01 PM
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Thanks /u/irisandoleander and /u/jade_cat, I did make plans but didn't post here incase hubs stumbled on my post whilst redditing on the train home!
/r/RedPillWives27/01/17 10:00 AM
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Ok, for sure :) Hope it carries on going smoothly, I'm very jealous of your 1st trimester!
/r/RedPillWives26/01/17 06:52 PM
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My first instinct was to ask all the stuff people asked me, but your blog covered it all :) Enjoy this time, it is very special, especially the 2nd trimester <3
/r/RedPillWives26/01/17 06:24 PM
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Congratulations! So exciting :D
/r/RedPillWives26/01/17 03:55 PM
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I guess the feeling of perfection went away a bit when we moved in together and we were in a shared space where our habits could be annoying to the other person. But the attraction and desire doesn't have to go away because you don't see the other person as quite so perfect, I think I honestly love my husband more now than when we were first together and we had the super romantic dates and sexy hotel stays and all that stuff. We've been tested and he's been tested so I know how lucky I am! So it…
/r/RedPillWives26/01/17 12:52 PM
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Thanksfor posting this, I clicked through to her article about dealing with fear of a man leaving you too. I find I need to literally say “I need you.” or “I’m scared you’ll run off” sometimes, even if I know it's dumb. Otherwise I do fall into that mindset of pleasing sometimes. With the reassurance and letting the insecurity out I'm able be more confident. I like your idea of giving by trying to bring value not just comply out of fear. Everyone is much more effective when they're enthusiastic,…
/r/RedPillWives26/01/17 11:26 AM
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I agree with this, it's one reason i stopped watching soap opera type shows, the constant drama was getting into my head as 'normal' for relationships. There are some good marriages on TV shows like King of the Hill, but the vast majority can't leave a character to be happy for too long!
/r/RedPillWives24/01/17 01:52 PM
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I'm a middle child (but was youngest for 6 years) and my husband is a firstborn, i'd say we definitely fit those stereotypes! I'm much less confident than my older sister and way more willing to compromise, but it works quite well. He's serious, and take-charge for sure, while I'm a bit reserved and prefer to be a supporter. I think maybe he'd be different if he'd had a sister rather than a brother, because that is more competitive and they fought (a lot!), but I think he'd have been even more p…
/r/RedPillWives24/01/17 01:31 PM
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That sounds gorgeous :D I'm going to try again and maybe try freezing some so that I can make a big batch in one go rather than just enough for two nights, because it is really a favorite of mine!
/r/RedPillWives23/01/17 04:16 PM
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She is very patriotic :) She begged to go to the remembrance day service because she 'likes the queen and soldiers and I am a big girl now', but hubs' grandmother had just died so he went alone and we just watched a wreath-laying on the TV.
/r/RedPillWives23/01/17 02:35 PM
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I definitely go with "smile and nod" about politics at the in-laws! They are lovely, but my FIL is a republican and quite lefty. Hubs purposefully encourages our daughter to make pictures of the queen and flags to tease him!
/r/RedPillWives23/01/17 02:15 PM
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I've been trying lots of new things in the kitchen so far this year, and some of them have worked pretty well: Gnocchi (Homemade only once so far, i'm normally lazy and buy it) with a Marinara sauce and mozarella shredded on top. Really super simple and quick, the sauce can be made in big batches and frozen so it's ready to go. Slow cooker pork. I've tried several sauce recipes, and really all of them work pretty great. I'd offer a recipe idea, but really anything works as long as it won't boil …
/r/RedPillWives23/01/17 01:32 PM
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Ooh, I made a really delicious butternut squash noodle stirfry: Pic It has mange tout, bell peppers, spring onion (scallion?), baby corn, button chestnut mushrooms and the butternut squash noodles, fried in sesame oil and soy sauce with some siracha. Really good, the saving of carbs is awesome also!
/r/RedPillWives23/01/17 12:27 PM
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I love that he's old fashioned, and doesn't care what people think, but does what he thinks is right/best, he makes me feel really safe. I once rang the police because a burglar alarm was going off further down the street and the operator suggested that I go and look to see if burglars were there! The next day he went to the police station to yell at them over suggesting a (pregnant) woman do something so stupid. Recently he's been planning about building work on the house and checking finances …
/r/RedPillWives23/01/17 09:51 AM
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It's a hard time, and while i'm sure your mom is a great lady and you and your family with do everything you can to support her, sometimes I would expect her to just not be able to be positive - my 5 year survival rate was 80% at diagnosis, and obviously people are trying to cheer you up when they say you've got a great chance. But sometimes you feel irrationally angry, because it's not them feeling like they're playing russian roulette. And sometimes you just keep getting the feelings back when…
/r/RedPillWives20/01/17 06:28 PM
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Thanks for the advice! Hopefully I can use that kind of approach, I do want to leave a good impression normally, but stop being pushed around quite so much. Growing up a middle sister and a bit shy I've sort of tagged along with things and am still learning quite late how to socialise actively rather than just go with other people's suggestions. :) Also, i just realised that asking hubs to check my reply was maybe a bit silly, he's far more direct than I would ever be and a guy, so not the best …
/r/RedPillWives20/01/17 04:42 PM
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In addition, the situation you were struggling with isn't a situation where RPW even applies. These women are not your husband and your attendance at the event didn't involve your man. You don't need to submit or yield to these women, you are not obligated to be their GOFL. Thankyou, I think maybe I should remember this. I find it difficult to not slip into trying to please people out of obligation. Even if I should have no obligation to them, or even if I won't ever meet them again. Perhaps I o…
/r/RedPillWives20/01/17 11:36 AM
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Thankyou for the advice, my worry was if I said I can't go when the reunion wasn't fixed, then she'd offer to rearrange to accommodate me, and then i'd have to find another excuse. I do see your point about it being impolite, though. Do you think it would have been better to say to keep me informed and say no when a proper date was offered? Thankfully this was something where I don't really socialise in the same circles, so offending anyone isn't a big deal and it turned out OK :)
/r/RedPillWives20/01/17 10:52 AM
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Exactly, putting ourselves through feeling bad every time I have to make an excuse is silly because I'm stringing someone along in a way by not being clear! My maid of honour is amazing at dealing with stuff like this, because she's a vicar's wife and she gets so many invitations that if she didn't say no she'd have no chance to even get housework done. I'm really trying to be a bit more firm on things like this, really!
/r/RedPillWives19/01/17 07:45 PM
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Thankyou for the repost :)
/r/RedPillWives19/01/17 12:47 PM
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Aw, congratulations! :) Hub's was like "Oh, okay. So, for sure? Cool" like I'd told him a friend was coming over!
/r/RedPillWives18/01/17 07:54 PM
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Men and women express enthusiasm in all different ways. Are you looking at him wondering why he's not expressing the emotions you might express? I do that sometimes. It's called a covert contract. You build up in your head how you think someone might respond - and when they don't respond that way you miss their actual response. When I tell R some big news I always get a little bummed when he doesn't have a big response - but he has an R sized response and that's exactly how it should be. This is…
/r/RedPillWives18/01/17 04:57 PM
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Exactly! It's a bit like a boy ordering a appletini, you'd assume you perhaps weren't their type ;)
/r/RedPillWives18/01/17 04:04 PM
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On: Beards. Neat, not too curly and lumberjacky! Strong arms and shoulders Kilts! (and I guess calves? not so much in shorts) Deep voice A man doing hard physical work. Slightly sweaty is fine, but not wet to hug. Protectiveness - but not overly white knighty. More of a natural thing than showy, if that makes sense. Smelling of certain aftershaves Bringing me chocolate naked. Being a little bit helpless, like being carried. Small amounts of squealing may ensue ;) Wearing a suit well. Off: Tattoo…
/r/RedPillWives18/01/17 01:37 PM
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Should I take his word for it, and just say what I want? Which would be, "I want to start trying"? Yes! Don't second-guess him and try to find out what he really means. If he has made a decision, trust that he means it! As per Laura Doyle, should I let him brood and let him come to terms emotionally without interfering? Yes! Obviously keep good communication generally though How should I act when I am pregnant? What I mean is, should I do extra in order to reassure him of my abilities and desire…
/r/RedPillWives18/01/17 11:42 AM
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I feel so bad for you! I've had cancer treated with radiation myself, and my stepfather has had chemo also (I'm not so close to him, but saw the chemo effects and assisted with care). Hopefully this has been caught early enough to be very treatable, and the prognosis is good. /u/am3liia has given some great ideas of practical help you could provide, and that's really a lot of what you can do! I think my biggest challenge was the mental health side. Especially if treatment goes well, people can k…
/r/RedPillWives18/01/17 10:22 AM
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what I thought when we first met Dating hard times wedding married :)
/r/RedPillWives17/01/17 10:43 AM
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Good: Hair protecting serum and shampoo is helping my hair look all silky, I had a really helpful discussion with my hairdresser who recommended some products to help get the look i wanted. u/queenbee126's post gave some good ideas as well! Had a really, really lovely day Friday mooching around with hubs. It was indulgent, but was something we both benefited from. Bad: My bosses husband died suddenly, which has messed with my head, he was only in his 50s. Obviously I feel terrible for her, but p…
/r/RedPillWives16/01/17 01:49 PM
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I guess some things I don't get to do so much but my main ones are: Cooking, especially icing cakes and making bread, but really anything a little creative. I don't really get the same when making a staple because it's not as fun to see how it turns out. Swimming, if the water is not too chilly! Listening to audiobooks. I used to be a big reader, but the focus hurts my eye a bit these days so I find audiobooks better. Watching my family together, I love watching my husband and daughter doing thi…
/r/RedPillWives16/01/17 12:15 PM
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It's great you've found one that works without any issues , I did consider an IUD and my sister swears by hers, but she always had very irregular periods so obviously different to my very regular pattern. And I'm a real, real wimp when it comes to pain so the implanting scared me off!
/r/RedPillWives12/01/17 06:36 PM
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Doctors can be pretty bad about hormones and birth control, it is such a guessing game and many medicines interfere with birth control, sometimes even doctors aren't aware of the interactions. It's something where I think much more research could perhaps allow a test to check compatibility or something. I know blood tests for hormone levels would be a bit of a pain, but it's better than finding you're not yourself after taking birth control!
/r/RedPillWives12/01/17 06:31 PM
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I'm pretty sure the pill I was on (microgynon) made me short tempered and messed with libido, but the reason I came offit was I got a clot in a leg vein which really scared me in case I'm prone to that
/r/RedPillWives12/01/17 06:24 PM
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Thankyou for those links, i'll read those :) I'm really not keen on the pill personally, so some more info on NFP is good, the last time i read about fertility much was when we were trying to conceive.
/r/RedPillWives12/01/17 03:10 PM
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That is very artistic! It is absolutely classy as fuck ;)
/r/RedPillWives12/01/17 02:34 PM
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I thought this article was interesting - I've used the pill in the past and recently discussed it when i moved to a new medical practice in terms of bad experiences. Of course there's several different pills and everyone seems to find the effects different, but the article highlights that for some people the effects are really dramatic.
/r/RedPillWives12/01/17 11:29 AM
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I got 11.1% Relaxed, 2.8% Avoidant (Dismissive) I was kind of surprised, I expected to fall into the on-edge side. But the description does make sense I think. It's not easy for me to kick bad habits, and I do enjoy time in my own head. It's just that I reserve the intimacy and openness for quite a small group of people and outside of that it's harder to open up.
/r/RedPillWives12/01/17 09:58 AM
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I am sure ladies here have only very classy tattoos! I watched a show called inkmaster sometimes, some tattoos are really artistic. But the ones I see when I go into town or at work are really not good!
/r/RedPillWives11/01/17 08:58 PM
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It was pretty strong the last place where i had it, a super hipster restaurant my husband took me to. Maybe if it was really subtle, but I'd rather have a smoky salt or interesting vinegar and plain sea salt really. Fresh garlic on new potatoes is divine though, i just think it's weird on chips!
/r/RedPillWives11/01/17 06:00 PM
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Sent this to my husband to cheer him up after some sad things, and his response was "And viking instincts are to steal our enemy's women. Hence our marriage". So i guess it did make him smile a bit :)
/r/RedPillWives11/01/17 04:50 PM
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Being 'Triggered' . I hate it so much, partly because I know it is a valid description of a thing in mental health, but is just completely misused. Tattoos on women being fashionable. I'm sure there are many good ones, but I only see trashy ones :( Garlic salt on chips (fries). I do not want garlic breath on a date!
/r/RedPillWives11/01/17 12:09 PM
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I don't know why but eating things "wrong" really bugs me. My husband teases me by calling me the food pope and makes a "ah-ah-ah" choir sound when I tell him something should be eaten a particular way.
/r/RedPillWives11/01/17 11:39 AM
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Glitter is Satan dust Oh god yes. The worst part of children's crafting to clean up by far. When it's in glue it's ok, but when I got a new hoover for christmas it sucked so much glitter up that my previous efforts had missed. It gets everywhere!
/r/RedPillWives11/01/17 11:29 AM
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Dried fruit is disgusting. All wrinkly and old and weird tasting! And Coriander tastes of soap, and spoils a otherwise nice curry Edit: and penises are inherently funny.
/r/RedPillWives11/01/17 07:32 AM
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We did similar, with a girl's pizza and a boys pizza that they could cover with meats :) It's a lot of fun, next time I might try a sweet pizza as well!
/r/RedPillWives10/01/17 06:24 PM
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though I'm biased, of course d: We should be biased! When a man is YOURS, he is extra special and wonderful :) ...I'm beginning to suspect it may be closer to the 1 year mark (cue squealing) Eeeeeeeee! :) You sound so well matched, it is lovely to read about The rock solid certainty is so reassuring, and the focus on your happiness as important in work, helping you see your way shows the quality of man you have <3
/r/RedPillWives10/01/17 06:17 PM
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I made pizza from scratch for NYE as well, homemade pizza is so good :)
/r/RedPillWives10/01/17 04:54 PM
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Thankyou for this, I will be hugging and appreciating my husband extra when he gets home after reading that.
/r/RedPillWives10/01/17 04:51 PM
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This is so touching, R sounds such a good man. It made me all teary, those moments where a man says he wants this to be forever and is determined to make it happen are beautiful.
/r/RedPillWives10/01/17 09:37 AM
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Good - signed up with a new doctor, they are so much better than my previous one. Very, very helpful and several things already being looked into that my previous GP had fobbed me off about. Also they are quick to get an appointment, so really happy! Bad - I am struggling with diet, i've got very little leeway for treats these days and end up hungry if I want more than one chocolate bar. This is forcing me to confront using chocolate to cheer myself up on bad days. I'm not feeling very inspired …
/r/RedPillWives09/01/17 04:25 PM
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Red is my thing. Bright red tops look so good on my husband, i don't know exactly why, maybe it just draws my eye! For how long to see if it develops I don't know honestly! I only dated properly once before my husband, and that was with a girl. So i'm probably the worst person possible to say about that! I think it took maybe 3 or 4 months before I was sure about things. If it's going anywhere is something that really only time can tell and I would talk to people on the IRC for lots of very fran…
/r/RedPillWives09/01/17 12:03 PM
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Yeah I have thought about whether he's like this bc it's early days, and also the fact that he's around 27-28 y/o whereas I'm 21 so maybe he doesn't want to spook me or something? Could be - he may be quite masculine and being polite to get to know you more, because he likes you, which would be great! A guy can't really lay down the authority a few dates in, and his reply to your snark seems positive to me. I'm kind of still new to thinking about dynamics in detail but my logic is that he's not …
/r/RedPillWives09/01/17 11:23 AM
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Can you imagine trying to grocery shop together like this? Yes, this example is absolutely true. If we shop together, we have to do different bits and don't interfere with each other because my husband does this automatically. Our solution has been to make groceries a budget that I work within and my husband doesn't query unless the budget is breached. On the opposite side, I used to disagree with my husband fixing things or doing car work instead of paying a workman or garage. I've been won ove…
/r/RedPillWives09/01/17 10:44 AM
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He might be being a bit gentle because you're only starting dating, I would give a little bit of time to judge, but /u/Camille11325 made these posts which are very interesting to think about his traits: https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWives/comments/4ep0xh/relationship_dynamics_part_one_updated_expanded/ https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWives/comments/4jzdgi/relationship_dynamics_part_15/ https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWives/comments/4qmox5/relationship_dynamics_part_ii_all_about_men/ It's alway…
/r/RedPillWives09/01/17 09:50 AM
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I'm 33 this year, married, and we've been together 9 years. One kid, just 4, so I was 28 when she was born. She is beautiful, and currently dressed as a ballerina :) When i was little I always wanted to be a bride and a mommy but didn't really play with baby dolls lots, more just teddy bears and pretended they were a baby. I think I kind of stopped dreaming of motherhood as a teenager cos I realised giving birth was painful and babies were kind of difficult! I started thinking about being a mom …
/r/RedPillWives08/01/17 05:27 PM
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To quote hubs "Milo is a posh southern degenerate smarmy arsehole" You can literally see him tense up hearing Milo speak, even if he agreed with anything said, the person saying it makes him against it!
/r/RedPillWives07/01/17 05:21 AM
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I like his trolling, but buying his book would probably cause a domestic in our house, so no!
/r/RedPillWives06/01/17 04:15 PM
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ISFJ To me it's something where the race wouldn't matter but the cultural gap would, and sometimes a cultural gap would be expected but say in a big city with lots of groups the cultures might be more similar to each other than someone from the rural areas. There's a bit of a cultural difference in my marriage, and it does sometimes cause disagreements, but nothing too huge, mostly we joke about it like we make fun of each other's regional and class stereotypes. I think it'd be much worse if you…
/r/RedPillWives06/01/17 04:09 PM
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It's a nasty form of peer pressure when the implication made is you are anti-women if you aren't a feminist. It was at uni that the behaviour of feminists finally made me think the whole philosophy was rotten.
/r/RedPillWives05/01/17 06:11 PM
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I get what they want, but I think they're mixing up freedom and desires. I could have studied to become an engineer I guess, but why should I if i'm happier doing something more fitting with my nature? Equality shouldn't be about being the same, but not being stopped from doing things, to me. And feminists don't seem to get that, they talk like they don't get that men and women aren't the same.
/r/RedPillWives05/01/17 04:56 PM
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I feel like articles like this are a bit passive aggressive and the underlying message is "you should be a feminist, but you misunderstood what it meant and wrongly rejected it, but if you support feminism like you should all will be forgiven, you bad person" Nope.
/r/RedPillWives05/01/17 02:14 PM
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I found it helped to just file stuff to talk about it later - If i know i'll get a chance to raise my concerns I can let it lie easier. He is happy to debate when we're not being parents, and if he feels really strongly he will say why and definitely has the final say! Every time we've phased out a comforting mechanism for my daughter it has been him driving it really because I feel too sorry for my baby and he's more about raising a strong and capable person even if it's hard right now. I know …
/r/RedPillWives05/01/17 01:59 PM
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I find it's as much about my attitude as actual decisions. When my head is in the right place it's like I consider him and his wishes first, then me, then our daughter. If my head is not in a respectful place then I might consider my decisions based on what is best for me first and get crabby if he inconveniences me. Of course there's a balance and i'm not saying I want to be a doormat - the point is more that when I'm in a submitting mindset he gets first priority. And because he is lovely, som…
/r/RedPillWives04/01/17 06:00 PM
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I agree that looks are key to attraction, but personality/success is the glue that holds relationships together. Even the most beautiful man in the world, if he was a non committal d bag, would have a hard time finding a woman worth her salt. Your whole post was really well written, but I agree completely with this. Take my husband and his brother - both look similar except for beard and tattoos, but my brother in law's love life is a train wreck, because while he can get girls, it's only girls …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/17 03:13 PM
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I'm hugely grateful for my husband's attitude, when i start to flag and get uncertain about a project, he's focussed and reminds me what the eventual aim is! I'm grateful for this sub, people here are so nice, and I have really enjoyed finding this place, and the good advice and positive approaches being suggested. And I'm really grateful for all the food my MIL sent us home with after boxing day!
/r/RedPillWives03/01/17 04:14 PM
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Number two for sure, he looks more manly, and I really like beards and that whole kind of look. Maybe could do with a little more bulk to fit my ideal, but to me he is much more sexy than 1. I guess 1 also looks like he grooms too much, like the whole hairless and very defined muscles is like he spends all day looking in the mirror or at the gym.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/17 01:47 PM
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Very late reply, but our night was good - I made pizza and we had friends over, and MIL had our daughter overnight pizza was ace: 1, 2, 3 I was so full afterwards, I fell asleep while we relaxed and caught up and watched old TV shows. It was pretty good, so might be a new tradition :) I don't really make resolutions any more except improving diet after the holidays, but I am up for that and have inspiration for some healthy meals to try out now
/r/RedPillWives03/01/17 01:17 PM
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Good: So much good stuff over the holiday, had fun visiting family and cooking our mini-feast. We made pizza for new years and even managed to get over to IKEA and have started the process of reorganising the house to make more room and better use of space. Stage 1 is a more compact area for crafting and reading for our daughter, as ever hubs did a great job: Pic Bad: nothing really, struggling to sleep a bit so i'm hoping more routine helps with that. Ugly: nothing!
/r/RedPillWives03/01/17 12:18 PM
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I think it's crazy for people to insult over getting worried about terrorism. I got really upset over the christmas market attack in germany, my husband works right near one and it really frightened me :( There's nothing racist at all about being concerned by the risks, the SJW probably wouldn't call it racist to fear travelling to iraq or syria, and really it's the same people acting in those places who are a risk in Paris or London.
/r/RedPillWives03/01/17 11:45 AM
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This is so true - It's really hard to wait and talk privately if I feel he's being overly strict, but it's important. Once my daughter started asking me straight away after he said no, it woke me up that maybe i've slipped up too often! Another difficulty? The kids will mind him better than you, almost guaranteed, even though you will be their main caregiver. That gets really frustrating, really fast. yes. so much yes. When you've battled a toddler all week and they obey dad perfectly all weeken…
/r/RedPillWives03/01/17 11:06 AM
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This is really true, a dad gives something different to a child, like I find I can give comfort well and that's my gut instinct, but dad might try and encourage bravery as well, I sometimes hear him say "make me proud, hey?" at bedtime.
/r/RedPillWives03/01/17 10:54 AM
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Ha, by coincidence that is exactly what my husband did when our daughter wanted to get a pet. Several weekends, laying bricks, building a fence and gate and enclosures. It was hard work with a job as well, but it's attractive for a man to be able to do physical jobs like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/16 10:54 PM
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My husband was so lovely today, we had a long drive and we ended up talking about wanting another baby, and I'm pretty much convinced it is right. He said if we had a giant house and there was no worries about pregnancy and stuff, he'd probably be happy to have kids til he couldn't keep up with them, and that he thought I was a good mom (but more eloquently and thoughtfully than that). The lady who praised my daughter's singing of Rudolf the red nosed reindeer at the supermarket, such a little t…
/r/RedPillWives27/12/16 06:11 PM
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We've just done a third day of visiting relatives, and not wrangling children or cooking will be a massive relief! Also, I love my in-laws, apart from my BIL, he's such a pain. I cannot see how my husband is related to him. My funny story is that we were over at my sisters, and my husband happened to mention that he's naturally left handed but was taught to write right handed, and he considered himself left handed because it was his best main hand for cricket and tennis. But he writes right hand…
/r/RedPillWives26/12/16 09:50 PM
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It sounds like our skin is similar, fortunately I can just about hide from the sun here :) I really recommend pregnancy over winter - it even temporarily cured Raynaud's in my hands (which actually is still better than it was)! It also cleared up acne - if it wasn't for the nausea, the first trimester would have felt amazing!
/r/RedPillWives22/12/16 03:10 PM
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You are exactly right, same as you I did well at school, and went to university to study something i found interesting but I think the whole time I never really thought about what would make me happy, I was trying to please others. I think I wouldn't have dared to stand my ground and say I wanted to be a mom mostly when I was young, even if I'd realised that would make me happy. The pressure was huge. I think I had to grow up and meet my husband before I could say "this is what I want", because …
/r/RedPillWives22/12/16 03:01 PM
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I believe you, but still, i'm a (very) pale english lady, I can't go out even in our mild summers without a hat and suncream! There's a place near us where there's a big pub on a marina and ice cream and craft places, that's lovely in summer, I could sit there all day. Under a shade! I think my grudge against summer is mainly from being heavily pregnant in a hot summer, I found my temperature control was just awful - next time, I will try for a spring baby to keep me warm when it's cold!
/r/RedPillWives22/12/16 02:12 PM
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Holding our baby and comforting her without showing any fear during an hour ambulance ride when she was one. I still can't remember most of it, I was just mentally broken in fear, but he kept calm and just kept whispering reassurances to her and comforting her when she cried, and holding my hand. He broke down for a bit after she went to theatre and he didn't have to be calm any more, but he'd held it together for hours and I still don't understand how he did it. After she came off ICU, he staye…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/16 11:26 AM
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Let me preface this by saying I LOVE WINTER. It is my favorite, I love snow and I love cold. I would absolutely trade summer for another winter, even though I love beachin' on the river. Anyway... Totally agree! I would trade summer with no regrets, I hate suncream and all that stuff, but have to use it to not burn :(
/r/RedPillWives22/12/16 10:55 AM
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It isn't super cold here yet, it tends to get really cold in January and february, but I have some awesome thermal stuff from M&S: Link I got two tops (red and black) and two sets of the black leggings, they go great with boots and a wool dress to make me cosy :) I have a cute bobble hat and a wool coat and scarf for when it gets really icy, and flat boots so I can use the ice-spike things.
/r/RedPillWives22/12/16 10:52 AM
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When we got together, I was pretty ambitious but I hadn't really considered what I wanted, just gone with the expectations of parents and particularly my grandparents. I'd planned a career in politics which I found I hated, then I took a job as a researcher for a gambling machine business which I enjoyed the actual work but the people weren't great. They made me redundant when I told them i was pregnant, and it was a big shock to my plans. It made me think about what I wanted to do - noone would…
/r/RedPillWives22/12/16 10:21 AM
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That's a good idea I will have a look, I need to get her winter boots anyway before the snow hits. She used to strip naked when small, so I guess we've improved from there!
/r/RedPillWives20/12/16 07:06 PM
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My mom - she did the best she could for us, and as a mom I come to appreciate how difficult some things are, and my situation is so much easier than hers was. I think I disagree with a lot of her choices, but can totally see how she thought it was the best at the time. My husbands for his strength and making me feel safe. I literally sleep sounder knowing he's there next to me :) The police and army, because they do such a lot to keep us safe, and in times like these I really appreciate the impo…
/r/RedPillWives20/12/16 04:00 PM
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Normally we're really firm that we don't contradict each other, it's something I've tried hard to get into the habit of. But just recently our daughter has started trying to ask me for a second opinion on stuff, so maybe I have to watch this. We never change a punishment or argue what is the right punishment in front of our daughter, and normally we are united. But I didn't think, and when my daughter asked if she could take her socks off in the restaurant, after waiting really patiently for a 4…
/r/RedPillWives20/12/16 09:47 AM
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I like that top, it looks cute :) I've recently started wearing thin glittery scarves which tend to have a fringe, and while i wouldn't go for a fringe at the bottom, it can be a nice detail i think. Im going to look in another town tomorrow, we're kind of in the sticks so the selection is sort of limited locally. it seems mostly almost '80s style. H&M always have some things i like, so I'll have a quick browse
/r/RedPillWives19/12/16 05:46 PM
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I like longer skirts/dresses, a line (not pencil, especially) , normally just above the knee at the shortest, tops that show off my waist and isn't like a bag, it's good if it's got an empire line or is quite fitted. Colour wise i'm really pale, I did the colour season thing and came out as cool summer to winter, and like deep purples, burgundy, reds, and generally quite dark colours. But for Christmas we always go a bit dressy, and I like to look good (also thin!) at my in-laws. The main proble…
/r/RedPillWives19/12/16 05:01 PM
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you used to be cute, my fallen friend... before you found the feminism Applies to so many people as well as emojis ;)
/r/RedPillWives19/12/16 04:11 PM
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Good: I have so many lovely things planned for Christmas, all our cards and presents are done, plans are sorted, yay! Bad: Was kinda dumb on Saturday, undermined my husband in front of my daughter over something petty, but u/happywifelifex (thankyou!) helpfully kicked my bum on the IRC, and I apologised and learned from it. As a mini FR, when apologising I realised that really I was taking my daughter's side because I sympathise too much with her when hubs is stern. My stepfather issues are part…
/r/RedPillWives19/12/16 02:29 PM
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We're travelling to see all of our parents over Christmas, but on the day we're having lunch at home and i'll be making a traditional meal but with chicken rather than Turkey. I'm quite excited, and my recipies all sorted: potatoes Chicken Cake Custard (I can make proper custard, but hubs likes the powder kind, he says it tastes of being a kid) The fridge is a bit overstuffed at present! For heartwarming, my husband's church had their nativity play on Sunday, it was so sweet: Daughter as an ange…
/r/RedPillWives19/12/16 01:56 PM
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I try not to nag him to come to bed when he stays up late to veg out but we need to find a way to get him enough rest This is kind of something me and my husband had to work out. He needs less sleep than me, so would sometimes stay up reading or on the computer and get overtired especially when we had a baby. Try to give him more time to relax earlier, maybe? Evenings can kind of slip away with getting kids to bed and cooking and stuff so the staying up might be avoidable if you share jobs diffe…
/r/RedPillWives19/12/16 12:46 PM
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Oh, that's a really good post, thanks for the link! You friend was right to be accountable, that's a really good way to be because it takes something bad and builds more ttrust by showing you are committed to learning and doing the right thing.
/r/RedPillWives15/12/16 08:59 PM
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This might sound a bit weird, but honestly it works well when we're doing similar: Small portions of salmon or trout, covered in dark soy sauce and baked (pat dry before putting soy on, and reapply after 15 mins so it sticks) Stir fry beansprouts, baby corn, mange tout, mushrooms and carrot spaghetti (can use ribbons instead if you can't find pre-done carrot spaghetti) in a mix of soy, a teaspoon of dry ginger, pinches of cayenne and five spice to taste, and maybe a tiny touch of honey. For me I…
/r/RedPillWives15/12/16 08:36 PM
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Hmm, we could actually go and see that. Might have to see how bothered hubs is, Saturdays with babysitting are a rare thing, but it's would be interesting. Or I could go full troll and invite my sister. Interesting film by a feminist, so she might go for it >:)
/r/RedPillWives15/12/16 09:54 AM
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Guy friends, as opposed to acquaintances, are something I would always feel weird about. Friends are people you bond emotionally with and it just seems like a bad idea where cheating is a big risk. And clubs are where people go to hook up and drink. I used to love to dance, but i'm not going to go alone and most club dancing now seems to be just guys grinding on you. It's not a good sign if you really want that environment if you're with someone. It's like people don't get that tempting yourself…
/r/RedPillWives15/12/16 09:30 AM
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This is my favorite video: code monkey because my husband sent it to me to describe his job when we were first dating, and it always makes me think of him and how he was when we first met :)
/r/RedPillWives14/12/16 08:42 PM
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Good: I have stood up for myself and not let my sister manipulate me, and also the house is looking pretty tidy.... Bad: Apart from the big pile of clothes in our room I need to sort through and send quite a lot to charity. It is annoying hubs, and he is growly about 'the pile'. Clothes are an emotional thing to me, i really struggle to part with them -_-' Ugly: My sister literally thinks i'm equivalent to a muslim radical or something because i'm going to church. I'm so angry about this, I coul…
/r/RedPillWives12/12/16 02:50 PM
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I hope it works out, as a mom I always wonder if I should do things differently! Honestly I also think kids should learn things themselves without sharing embitterment that guys who stumble on trp have, which isn't a fault but a fact. We have a daughter, but my husband has said that TRP would be unneeded if boys learnt a little by their friends and fathers then were told to learn by trying. Our kids will hopefully see us interacting and learn from that as well as all the other stuff they see and…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/16 12:25 PM
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I think being loving parents who don't bullshit the child with feel good crap, denial, fat acceptance, giving a medal for participating while still giving confidence, love, care... Damn it must be tough It's not that bad, if you love a child you want them to understand how things really are because you love them and want them to be happy, I guess. TBH, I'm pretty squishy as a mother by instinct, and my husband reins that in and I maybe soften his approach so overall we balance discipline and tea…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/16 12:04 PM
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Yep! Ham and pickle :) And I drew boobs on with mustard to make it sexy. I am a sensible mature lady :P
/r/RedPillWives10/12/16 06:35 PM
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Husband sent me this: picture with the caption "another man realises feminism is f*cking him in the arse" followed by "make me a sandwich, a sexy sandwich." I kinda like drunk husband txts when he's on the train home :)
/r/RedPillWives10/12/16 05:12 PM
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I even kill his NPC wives in video games. Haha, I customised the main couple faces in fallout to look kinda like us because I didn't want a long game where his wife looked nothing like me! I didn't realise she dies really soon 🤦 P.S the music in fallout is often really RP, i guess because it's 50s style. Betty Hutton is a new favorite :)
/r/RedPillWives10/12/16 09:01 AM
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I kinda of get where she was coming from, cheating is something i've worried about a lot and I think a drunken hookup would make me really really angry and sad but an emotional affair would be worse because it was like something must be broken in our marriage. But i would call both cheating.
/r/RedPillWives10/12/16 08:38 AM
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Well, the law has passed, and some people are saying it'll be really bad, but nothing has happened so far, Hubs reckons it'll be pretty unnoticeable like the control imposed on mobile last year where you age verify once and the device is unlocked, but i'm not so sure. I'm mostly just not too happy with the idea of the government being able to know what porn you like it's really invasive, and the banned acts are ridiculous!
/r/RedPillWives09/12/16 05:54 PM
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If artificial wombs were available, I think maybe richer families might get a lot bigger - I know I'd have another baby in a second if there was no risk of a bad pregnancy, birth or PPD. You already get stories about women choosing caesarean being 'too posh to push', so I could definitely see it becoming an option on private healthcare, or even a condition of employment that you choose or accept a lower wage for some jobs. Sexbots will probably be banned in England though given recent porn laws,…
/r/RedPillWives09/12/16 04:29 PM
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I got some metallic pens this year, so it looked really nice, but after writing about 80 cards my wrist was too sore to do it lots of times!
/r/RedPillWives09/12/16 03:04 PM
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I'm regretting not having that last week , that looks really neat! I drew holly and corner decorations on some of the family ones though, so they were quite pretty :)
/r/RedPillWives09/12/16 02:43 PM
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I guess the goodness doesn't, it's the other stuff involved Like noone's going to get hot over raising millions for charity, but if a man fought to protect me, hot, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/16 05:20 PM
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Firefighters are a pretty common fantasy (I think), the whole being rescued thing is really masculine, so maybe? Rescue sex is a classic trope I know it's not exactly just the goodness that's attractive but someone being daring and brave is pretty hot. Like you might fantasize about someone like that sweeping you up?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/16 04:54 PM
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If it was IDGAF goodness, seeing someone really passionate about a cause, maybe? Or if someone risked their life to save kids from a burning building or something heroic?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/16 04:10 PM
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The windows OS is good, and the camera isn't bad but with little app support it just sucks. We will have to change, because my husband's phone is getting so old the app updates don't even work on his phone! I'm thinking android, we have an android tablet which i'm fine with, and Iphones seem heavy to me. Thanks for the tip!
/r/RedPillWives08/12/16 03:06 PM
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Windows, so apps are not so good - the IRC ones are confusing, and said i was already logged in :( I do want to get a new phone because of the lack of app support, a cracked screen and it just being kind of an old phone now. But it's soooooo cheap, and i've been trying to be frugal recently.
/r/RedPillWives08/12/16 02:42 PM
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The gifts I'm most excited about are some comics for my husband, and audiobooks for my mom, because they're both real surprises not things they're expecting! We have a massive card list now, which is kind of a pain, but it is nice to keep in touch with everyone!
/r/RedPillWives08/12/16 02:35 PM
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For us we send traditional cards to most people, but for family who like to keep photos of us (really my daughter, let's be honest!) like elderly relatives and grandparents we do send pictures, either in the card or as the card
/r/RedPillWives08/12/16 08:01 AM
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I did really like the challenges, but some lessons take a while to sink in! The power of yes I found way more relaxing than I would have expected, but the listen more one was tricky sometimes when I wanted to unload and had to work out what was most important. SMV I liked, although I did find out last week that I started some gossip at work because I wasn't wearing my rings (because they've been falling off in cold) and looked more made up. Time for hair is a challenge before work, but 10 minute…
/r/RedPillWives08/12/16 07:55 AM
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I really need to work out how to set up IRC on my phone, I love the IRC but just struggle to find time on the computer until evenings
/r/RedPillWives08/12/16 07:24 AM
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You can't just choose what you're attracted to, this is so silly. Like others of said, you do discriminate in dating, but that isn't about prejudice, it's about preference. I've seen the same from HAES campaigners. No.
/r/RedPillWives08/12/16 07:22 AM
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Our system is weird, It is two-party for control, but the little parties are important because if one of the big two has serious problems they might suddenly get a lot of support because voting is often to keep the party you don't like out, not support the one you like! UKIP aren't really seen as outright racist by most people, but I think it depends who you talk to, a SJW would for sure call them racist, but most people would just see them as very anti-europe, which is kind of normal for a lot …
/r/RedPillWives07/12/16 04:49 PM
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I saw that the poster above was banned, but kinda like to talk about the UK if you're interested? The working class/left thing is quite interesting - I'm not from the northern working class, but my husband and his family is and it's been interesting learning how they see politics. There's really TWO lefts in the UK, one which is kinda like the Hillary/democrat feminist/identity politics SJW crap i've seen (and is in power in Labour at the moment), but there's also a quite religious left which is…
/r/RedPillWives07/12/16 01:58 PM
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P.S. follow me! :D I'm going to set up an account for RPWi-type stuff I think, my main account is all like baby stuff and fitness instructors and I haven't touched it for a year!
/r/RedPillWives07/12/16 12:25 PM
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Twitter is quite good I find, although I don't post lots (and don't use real name/photo) I did make some friends from following Lauren Southern (and other interests). Maybe follow IrisandOleander, she has a blog and posts here and on twitter. And of course here and the IRC channel are really good. I imagine there's other tradcon subreddits as well, I don't reddit lots! I found a good group through my husband's family, his cousin happened to be a vicar living near us and i went to a church baby g…
/r/RedPillWives06/12/16 05:49 PM
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I haven't joined either, I have to admit, I browsed a bit and it reminded me too much of the bitchiness of my NCT class. But there might be some SAHM type Facebook groups and things like that
/r/RedPillWives06/12/16 05:39 PM
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Update: Day 1 - I got a wool dress and thermal leggings. My butt is less cold :) Day 2 - I made Hubs special lunch of meat and potato pie (his favourite). Day 3 - We visited Hubs Grandmother and took her a photo album Day 4 - I agreed to swap some hours to help a coworker attend a school thing Day 5 - Was on a mommy day, so didn't get much chance to help strangers, but i'll donate to www.humblebundle.com tonight!
/r/RedPillWives06/12/16 04:57 PM
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I'm the other way around, the biggest place i've lived is Oxford, and it's hardly a proper city life there. Maybe things are a lot more PC in the cities, it sound like social services were horrible to you! Long term, places like Devon or Somerset might be good places to live if you're looking for a more off the grid lifestyle because there seems a few people living that way down there, Plymouth and Bristol might be ok commutes depending on DH's job. I don't really know about finding more conserv…
/r/RedPillWives06/12/16 04:47 PM
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Such a good post, really, really helpful in setting out how to deal with resentments, I've definitely found the IRC great for letting some of these things out as well. Glad you and SO sorted things out <3
/r/RedPillWives06/12/16 04:35 PM
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I wouldn't really say the UK is all left wing, especially in the countryside people are still quite conservative to me, like the villages and little market towns - you might have better experience making female friends in places like that? I know it's kind of a pain to travel to socialise, but mother and baby groups and social groups in the villages around us have lots of SAHMs and are often quite traditional people
/r/RedPillWives06/12/16 03:35 PM
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It's tricky cos some people are a bit more naturally flirty, but I can definitely see why you feel uncomfortable. I don't know if they are just being a bit unprofessional because it's a small business, or if you're right that it's flirting, but if it makes you feel uncomfortable at work it's bad. The treats might be innocent and showing how happy they are to have someone taking on work that was leaving them with no family time, I guess, and that sort of makes sense that the wife role is also a w…
/r/RedPillWives06/12/16 11:52 AM
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Exactly :)
/r/RedPillWives05/12/16 06:05 PM
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I just had a thought about how the exaggeration reminds me of arguments me and hubs had in our early years - I'd have an issue, sit on it, maybe try and drop hints and feel ignored until I blew up and he was like "WTF did that come from?!" Maybe it seems to feminists that they need to yell louder and louder to get a response, but their attitude means they get increasingly tuned out? Completely agree about sexual assault - if you make the definition include things that aren't assault to normal pe…
/r/RedPillWives05/12/16 04:56 PM
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Good: Funeral of husband's grandmother went well, it was sad of course but the family really pulled together, and I think what she would have wanted. I felt like i wanted to support my husband like I would want to be wrapped up in hugs and stuff, but he preferred other kinds of support, and I respected that. Last week was a good week for us, lots of working together and joint decisions, on school for daughter and other stuff, and hubs had two days leave so we had time together. Also we tried Nan…
/r/RedPillWives05/12/16 03:48 PM
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Last night, I dreamed of Whales
/r/RedPillWives05/12/16 11:58 AM
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it's such a shame we don't learn these types of skills and traits as the norm. So true! i was so lucky to watch my mother love and dote on my dad, it really set me on the right path. I am jealous :) I came into my relationship with a ton of issues, and gradually learnt over time and so many mistakes! I have found that I've gradually found myself more and more understanding what I was missing as I got closer to my husband's family. They were very different to my upbringing and initially i was a b…
/r/RedPillWives05/12/16 10:02 AM
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I guess similarly to you guys my husband handles heavy lifting, fixing things, car maintaining and jobs where you need lots of strength (also anything in the cold, usually), because he wants to and knows the skills to do them. I've tried to learn some things he isn't any good at - decorating, furniture repairs and sewing are kind of traditional, but I also do some electrical repairs, like he had a PSP where a button stuck and I found a video of how to fix it, or rewiring plugs or simple things w…
/r/RedPillWives05/12/16 07:46 AM
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I remember when I realized what my husband gave up for me and my family. Not only ease of life but many other things as well. It hit me hard and it scared me much like you are feeling now. It's understandable that you feel this way. Don't wallow in it. Rather celebrate his choice and your life together. Completely agree, I still sometimes get a wobble and say things like "promise you still love me", just to hear him say "OK, I promise you, div" get a hug and be able to put those thoughts aside
/r/RedPillWives04/12/16 05:56 PM
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I liked that as well, she was really willing to look at her behaviour, that's partly why i thought it might be a good article to share!
/r/RedPillWives04/12/16 05:39 PM
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Sorry to pip you ;) I nearly didn't get it posted cos of juggling helping with Sunday lunch and kids! I think it's good they're publicising an alternative to the feminist views, and they're not really negative in the article so maybe more women will at least see that and maybe some will look a bit further and think about their own marriages. As you say, at least they're trying to be a bit balanced.
/r/RedPillWives04/12/16 02:12 PM
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This article isn't going to be giving new information to anyone here I suppose :-) But I thought it would be interesting to see a mainstream news view on RPW ideas and could be interesting to share with others
/r/RedPillWives04/12/16 12:16 PM
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I always find the dynamic between them really strange, tbh, it's like a proper stereotype of what RPW criticises, but he seems to just accept being bossed around. We tend to end up arguing and not talking about once every two months, but i really try to get on because i want to see my niece :(
/r/RedPillWives02/12/16 07:43 PM
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It's so bizarre, I just think that people who believe that must be blind to their own instincts and even obvious stuff like how much hormones affect mood and libido. You are completely right that upbringing and culture are important and have a part in who we are, but if it was everything then people wouldn't inherit personality from parents, which seems so obviously false to me.
/r/RedPillWives02/12/16 06:50 AM
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Haha, that reminds me of a story my MIL told me - she didn't want any violent toys for my husband and his brother, and so they made Lego weapons and fought with anything they could find until their father made them heavy wooden swords to tire them out! My sister is very much in charge of her household though, so I guess 'traditional gender roles' she would take to say she is wrong and she hates not being the boss. Still, recognising boys and girls play differently and using their nature to help …
/r/RedPillWives02/12/16 06:08 AM
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It really frustrates me, you can see how different the little girls and boys play, like I've seen my daughter manipulate boys into competing to build the best play castle for her to be a princess in. It was kinda terrifying how natural it was! And of course boys don't want to play dress up in dresses and are more active in play. And of course girls are more socially capable, denying it doesn't change anything. In the end I got angry because she essentially implied my husband was a bad person for…
/r/RedPillWives01/12/16 07:03 PM
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I was really thinking how sensible the recognition of differences between the genders can be this week - my uberfeminist sister has essentially rejected a chance for her daughter to attend an amazing school (which I am sending my daughter to) because it is run with traditional religious values and isn't progressive enough for her. Recognition of gender differences should make for better teaching, to me, but to her that (and christian ethos) was a huge negative. I just don't get how people think …
/r/RedPillWives01/12/16 06:23 PM
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One thing I would make sure of is that they have space and time to play with their gifts, give them some space to enjoy the newness and don't rush into activities :) Creating a lovely atmosphere like other posters have said is really good, the smells and tastes make for great memories!
/r/RedPillWives01/12/16 10:20 AM
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I've really enjoyed the month of challenges, and i like this one especially. All of them have been fun to think about habits and try new things! Also sex :)
/r/RedPillWives01/12/16 09:16 AM
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My MIL gave me some good advice regarding working and childcare which seems trite but I would still pass it on. You only get the chance to be a mom to a baby for a short time, because they grow so quick, cherish it! "You could work all the hours God sends but you couldn't buy more time with your babies", she said. My own tip would be to remember (although it doesn't always seem that way) being able to be at home and create a happy place for a family is an incredible privilege really, you provide…
/r/RedPillWives30/11/16 06:24 AM
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No problem :D, I kind of want to find the data the article refers to now, but I hate the Office of National Stats website
/r/RedPillWives29/11/16 11:07 PM
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The daily mail article briefly flashed was this one, but I can't find the surveys referenced I'm afraid, researcher fail in this case!
/r/RedPillWives29/11/16 10:37 PM
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OK, I have two recipes, one is my own, the other is totally thieved, but I have a trick which is kinda cool Bubble and squeak OK, so this is really easy and is pretty tasty, and a real favorite of the men in our family when working outside. The basic ingredient are potatoes, preferably cold leftovers, and around the same volume of cabbage, boiled. If you make it fresh 50/50 sweet and savoy cabbages is a good combo, but leftovers is fine. Now you take pretty much any meat (husband likes Lorne sau…
/r/RedPillWives28/11/16 09:58 PM
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:D I am a bit taller than that CQ!
/r/RedPillWives28/11/16 02:42 PM
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Good: Last week was pretty awesome, even one evening where hubs worked til midnight I stayed up as well and kept him company, just to bring drinks and stuff and he was really grateful. We also had a really interesting talk last night about values and children and stuff, it came up because i mentioned how a young kid got doxxed by a youtuber, and hubs tried to explain how he sympathised a bit with the doxxing because he naturally sees things as more black and white and part of him is happy to "se…
/r/RedPillWives28/11/16 01:48 PM
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That's very similar to us in terms of responsibilities, it just kind of fits our personalities and physical limits. We work around what needs doing, but ultimately I just can't lift massive things or do DIY very easily, but he can!
/r/RedPillWives28/11/16 11:51 AM
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In a previous job I did get harassment quite bad, and it could make me feel unsafe and dirty. Like one (married) guy used to hit on me via IM even though he knew I had a boyfriend. It made interaction with him weird and unpleasant. I've had butt pats and comments as I walk away. It was even worse when I worked in a pub. But I just kind of avoid those situations and ignore the creepy stuff and get on with life. Fortunately I've since changed sector so I'm not working with people like that any mor…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/16 03:13 PM
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Exactly :-) I am so impressionable, I want to make rolls now...
/r/RedPillWives25/11/16 05:27 PM
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I agree with that, It's usually enriched dough i use the warm for, I don't know if that's the best way, but it works for me normally.
/r/RedPillWives25/11/16 05:02 PM
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That sounds great, I only have an airing cupboard, so i'm quite jealous! - although, sometimes letting a dough rise slow makes a better flavour, like with a pizza dough, for example. Congrats your rolls turned out well :)
/r/RedPillWives25/11/16 04:49 PM
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Changing gears is exactly the right kind of feeling, like being mom is when I have to think quick and be really consistent to keep discipline and structure, but when I'm more wife I don't try to control things like that, or even want to. But that lets me feel different and be more relaxed and gentle I guess
/r/RedPillWives23/11/16 07:23 PM
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Aw, thankyou! It was kind of interesting to think how different I feel as a wife to when I'm being mom, and I realised that most of the little disagreements that crop up between me and my husband seem to be when I'm not focussed on him as my husband but busy being mom and feel more assertive, maybe?
/r/RedPillWives23/11/16 06:03 PM
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With the SMV challenge I tried to just treat it like a test to see what works and encourage experimentation, like when you're first dating and trying to look awesome. Some things don't look amazing and some is extra hassle, but some things worked well maybe? I think the hardest thing for me was hair, it's something that takes time at the most awkward point in my day, but it's not that difficult, and maybe I will try and vary it more now. Or at least when i'm on a mom day I will have a reminder t…
/r/RedPillWives23/11/16 04:03 PM
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I admit I'm going with the spirit of this one over the strict letter, some nights we are only getting my daughter settled for like 9:30 and it's been stressful. After 5 or 6 frustrating trips upstairs to a tearful child it kind of makes it hard to get in the mood. Still, It's a good aim! And last night my daughter was asleep for 8:30, so we got time to cuddle and I made my move. And nearly fell off the sofa because he moved at the same time!
/r/RedPillWives23/11/16 03:06 PM
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I always had bladder Infections after sex. But since I am a very sex hungry person and love to satisfy my H. I always soldiered through. Do you make sure to pee after sex? It's good to do that to avoid infections Honestly, the sex thing sounds like it is only a small bit of the problem here, and you might be trolling.
/r/RedPillWives23/11/16 11:53 AM
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Second trimester is kind of OK - I had more energy, was less cold than normal, bigger boobs, and no sickness. Bit of reflux and stuff, but mostly good!
/r/RedPillWives23/11/16 10:36 AM
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Yep :) It's kind of just remind them to eat and sleep and keep out the way when it's a big job! I do love that he will try to do stuff like fix the car, I love to watch him work and be all satisfied because he's succeeded. But when he's scraped and oily and grumpy I just kind of want him to pay someone else to do it!
/r/RedPillWives22/11/16 09:08 PM
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I think I kind of see myself as different people when i'm doing different things - at work I'm very professional, very clear in communication, and have to be a bit more assertive (because otherwise people ignore me), because I'm in Admin-lead mode. I can act confident, but I often have to pretend to be more confident than I really am and when under stress I sometimes feel overwhelmed and need to offload a bit afterwards. But I'm completely different as a mom, and don't think the same at all, and…
/r/RedPillWives22/11/16 12:36 PM
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Totally, I rang my MIL later to ask how to get oil out of clothes (WD40 and washing up liquid!) and she kind of sympathised but pulled me back to reality saying it's pointless being cross, that the men of the family are all the same, we just have to let them do the job they're set on, get them into old clothes first and give them a reason to come inside.
/r/RedPillWives22/11/16 06:39 AM
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Ooh yes, I really enjoyed that one, and I'm looking forward to the new triple X which is coming out near my birthday :D Me and hubs gonna go cinema and watch silly action film from the back row like teens <3
/r/RedPillWives21/11/16 08:24 PM
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Haha, I think it's his attitude that does it for me, he is such a badass - although, it was kinda stupid that they had a lesbian fall for him in the last film. Also the growly voice. Mmm-hm!
/r/RedPillWives21/11/16 03:51 PM
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Stannis Baratheon Ned Stark Riddick I like the stern faces ;p I kinda like Daddy Lannister, but hes a bit schemey for me. But maybe less evil than Stannis!
/r/RedPillWives21/11/16 03:19 PM
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We had a bedtime cuddle and made up and I did apologise, and I tried to be extra appreciative on txt this morning... I was such a butthead. Literally got angry at him for being too focussed on fixing my car -_-'
/r/RedPillWives21/11/16 03:03 PM
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Good: have loved the SMV challenge, and done pretty good overall. It also motivated me to go out to the gym in the cold, and I hate this cold weather! Bad: work sucks at the moment. I'm considering transferring team because my boss is being really passive-aggressive, but I'm raising things she does need to deal with, it's literally above my paygrade. Ugly: had a stupid squabble over nothing last night. I was stressed and tired, hubs was stressed and tired, and we just worked at cross purposes. I…
/r/RedPillWives21/11/16 02:51 PM
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OK, weekend updates: Saturday I was visiting my mom and husband was busy doing home stuff, so I went for quite a simple outfit of jeans, a lace-panel top and a cardigan, and trainers (because i was indoors and would take them off anyway). But, I did take the time to try and wave my hair and do full makeup, and my mom complemented the hair - hubs really likes a slight wave but I find it hard to do without it either falling our or going frizzy, so this was practice for trying that more! Saturday n…
/r/RedPillWives21/11/16 01:48 PM
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Finding a good hairdresser is brilliant, she sounds lovely! About suggesting to your boyfriend, I had a similar thing a few years ago and the response was the same, but now my husband does go to a salon I sometimes use because he got so annoyed with the local barbershops not doing appointments and having to waste ages waiting! He mostly likes it, but is sometimes a bit like "I smell melon...... why do i smell of melon?" If they use scented product :)
/r/RedPillWives21/11/16 01:07 PM
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I'm not sure why, but I just find everything about hipster guys kind of not attractive, even though they have a big beard and tattoos, those things should be manly, but on a hipster they aren't! I guess they attract hipster girls tho, otherwise they wouldn't bother!
/r/RedPillWives19/11/16 11:01 PM
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Haha, I actually told hubs about r/buttsharpies (and my own happening upon the valley of the penises) last night to cheer him up, I expected him to know about it but apparently not!
/r/RedPillWives18/11/16 06:53 PM
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I really like a beard, but not super bushy like a hipster, it has to be kind of neat and trimmed. It looks really masculine and mature. Heavy stubble I guess gives the same impression, but it is not as nice to feel, it's scratchy not tickly. I don't like very short stubble, it's too untidy, it makes me think of teenage boys and that's just a massive turn-off to me. I think clean shaved is ok, but it's not my preference because it's a little bit boyish.
/r/RedPillWives18/11/16 06:17 PM
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Reddit does have some really bad stuff, I guess it's kind of better to know where to avoid, and maybe it helps protect your kids to know what's out there? It was bad enough getting rotten.com links at school, now there's way worse out there.
/r/RedPillWives18/11/16 04:05 PM
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It was kinda weird, defo would have preferred puppies.
/r/RedPillWives18/11/16 03:33 PM
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Hmm, maybe warm bath and drink/snack ready for when he gets home? Does he have a special meal he likes which would be good when he got in? Like a supper maybe? Having things all neat and ready for when he gets in so he can relax and enjoy the remaining evening would be good, after such a long day. It's kinda dumb but I send a kissy selfie saying 'miss you' to cheer up hubs on long days sometimes, but that's not really a proper special birthday idea, sorry!
/r/RedPillWives18/11/16 03:20 PM
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As a little game not really worth a post, what's the weirdest thing you've accidentally found on reddit? I followed a link NSFW! r/softies one time thinking it'd be like soft things like puppies or something. Literally a sub full of penis pics, which is OK, but not snuggly.
/r/RedPillWives18/11/16 03:01 PM
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So, lunchtime on day 1, I've done ok. I had limited time before work so prioritised makeup over hair and didn't straighten, I went with a half-up do and makeup and was ok for time. It helped me feel a bit more confident because we've got senior staff in today, which is nice. When I get home I'm going to wear a cute top and jeans, so we'll see what the reaction is when hubs gets home. Planning last night was actually quite fun. Edit: The look was good, I went a bit darker on lipstick than normal …
/r/RedPillWives16/11/16 12:56 PM
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Ha ha, at least one of mine proved to be unpopular for reelz
/r/RedPillWives16/11/16 12:48 PM
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I guess outside the bubble of prenatal classes and moms and stuff you might be right, but honestly the push for a natural birth with no pain relief felt quite strong for me. There was a real feeling of failure needing an epidural and I think I left it later than I should to ask as a result. In England the breastfeeding thing is huge, like health visitors will offer loads of help and support which is good, but if it just isn't working they keep pushing you. My husband intervened at 6 weeks and sa…
/r/RedPillWives16/11/16 07:17 AM
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I think there's like an idea that doctors being involved 'spoils' a wonderful experience and that women are sort of oppressed by medicine, like it's an imposition by male doctors which robs you of a feminine experience. I disagree, pain management is awesome! For breastfeeding there is (in UK) a lot of pressure to do it, and again there's a sort of hippie feminism about it and it makes you feel horrible and neglectful if you can't or don't like doing it in public. I know there are proven health …
/r/RedPillWives16/11/16 05:51 AM
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You're right, people aren't accountable and they don't have responsibility, but I do think that if you took 90% of the people involved in rape complaints in colleges out of a drunken environment there would never be any problem at all. Like if you're in a nightclub surrounded by drunk horny guys, yes, it's a bit scary for a single woman, but those men would be no danger if you met them in any sober environment. Re: single-parent homes, I agree completely. I sympathise with women raising children…
/r/RedPillWives15/11/16 09:38 PM
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I stopped keeping up with politics enough to know which to vote for, because watching the news makes me sad and worried! So I just trust my husband to judge what's best for us, because he enjoys debate and political stuff and keeps up with it. It's sort of funny, he tries to explain why his choice is best and I'm like "don't explain, just tell me what to do!" :-P
/r/RedPillWives15/11/16 06:07 PM
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Ok, mine: I think natural birth and breastfeeding are way overrated and promoted for the wrong reasons sometimes I hate the idea of inheritance tax, and think it's really unfair I ask my husband how to vote, like u/bellascarletta said about rape circumstances. I don't think we have a rape culture, we have a alcoholic and slutty culture my husband is head of the house (I know, this is kinda given here!) Some people are just born bad, and won't change society benefits from traditional family struc…
/r/RedPillWives15/11/16 05:31 PM
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Best of luck :)
/r/RedPillWives15/11/16 03:49 PM
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Belts aren't allowed, but I just checked policy and I think I should be able to get some alterations to uniform shirts as long as I return them if I were to leave and alterations weren't permanent (so stitches to do nipping and fitting should be fine). It's all healthcare regulation, so although I'm not clinical staff we have the same restrictions as nurses, clear forearms, no possible snagging objects like buckles or watches.
/r/RedPillWives15/11/16 03:10 PM
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I'm not sure we're allowed, I might ask though (and about a scarf), a better empire line or more fitting around the waist would be amazing. I think my colours are deep purples, blues and burgundy, so the more greeny blue of my uniform isn't really what i'd choose, but perhaps a deeper blue scarf?
/r/RedPillWives15/11/16 02:21 PM
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A kind of smock shirt in turquoise and blue pattern, it's not the worst, but i'm very pale and I think it washes me out even more. Black trousers which are fine, and black shoes. The main trouble is it's completely provided by my employer, so the sizing you just have to guess, you can't try it on. The shirts are a bit loose because it's one size fits all and I went for my normal size and it squashed my boobs, then I went one size up and it's a bit like wearing a bag.
/r/RedPillWives15/11/16 01:37 PM
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I'm going to concentrate on days i'm not at work, because my uniform is unflattering and includes flat shoes 😞 OK, so my plan is: Do eye makeup and hair while daughter eats breakfast (which takes ages), to avoid interruptions Dress really nice rather than casual when on mommy days. I might set out my outfits the previous day to avoid just grabbing something comfy, otherwise I'll feel rushed and it won't be put together properly.
/r/RedPillWives15/11/16 12:21 PM
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TL;DR: I don't like tattoos. I'd rather date a man with no tats. Same, but it's maybe a class thing in the UK. I am fascinated watching TV where they show the techniques, but mostly dislike the visual on a person. My husband has no tattoos, and his brother has several, so I can easily compare with and without.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/16 09:03 AM
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My husband suggested I'd like the discussion over at RPW, he'd been looking at TRP stuff to try and understand their ideas and thought I'd enjoy discussion with other women who didn't agree with feminism, after i'd watched a few Lauren Southern videos and similar and we'd chatted about them.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/16 04:18 PM
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That's really sad, I hate it when friendships turn bad :( you did the right thing! For repairs on delicate things antique dealers can sometimes work wonders, but they are sometimes quite expensive, maybe worth asking for a quote though.
/r/RedPillWives14/11/16 03:41 PM
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That is the best boops set ever! I will overdose on cuteness now! watches 8 continuously
/r/RedPillWives14/11/16 02:26 PM
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As context, my husband's grandmother died on Saturday, and she was an important figure in our lives. She was always lovely to me and gave me some valuable advice when we were dating so my reflections are sort of related to this. Good: I felt so lucky to have my husband this week, we have had romantic and sweet together time and sad, stressful times. He has been strong and done the right thing for us, and stayed true to his convictions. Seeing him dressed smartly to attend the remembrance sunday …
/r/RedPillWives14/11/16 01:26 PM
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Pretty good, I struggled a little bit to not overthink and do the "what if" thoughts internally, but the highlights were having a really great day on Friday helped by this challenge, I just went with whatever he suggested we do, and had a great time. Also lovin' ;D Yesterday was kind of sad, as we'd had some bad news, but again I let hubs lead and agreed with what he suggested, and it was a really good day together even though we were a bit less lighthearted. It's been a good challenge, i've fou…
/r/RedPillWives13/11/16 05:26 PM
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Exactly! Children shouldn't be worrying about politics, and certainly they shouldn't be taught that other people are scary because they disagree about grown-up matters. Showing that grown-ups can disagree and still be loving is really important. Good manners and believing the best in each other would avoid a lot of the more horrible stuff being said at the moment I think.
/r/RedPillWives10/11/16 04:35 PM
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I love this article, thankyou for posting! To me, grace is something that can be taught and learned from an early age - but it's something that we're lacking as a society due to poor parenting and entitlement. Grace, to me, is something that defines a good woman - in itself, it is a single-word descriptor for a woman who honors her partner, shows respect for those around her, and makes a concerted effort to be a positive influence on the world around her. I really couldn't put this better, I thi…
/r/RedPillWives10/11/16 03:51 PM
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friends i've made at my husband's church, which is helping expand my social circle a bit more my Mother-in-law, who is being supportive about our daughter's school choice and encouraging me to stand up to my sister. We don't always get on perfectly, but she has nearly 40 years of a successful traditional marriage experience! my husband's strength, he's been really ill and it worries me when he's sick, but he's kept a good sense of humour and hasn't complained at all, I'm so happy he's getting be…
/r/RedPillWives09/11/16 04:03 PM
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Such a good challenge, I am going to try hard at this one!
/r/RedPillWives08/11/16 03:38 PM
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Good: Sorted out so much stuff at the weekend, and feel like christmas presents are mostly dealt with, hooray! Bad: Currently engaged in an argument with my sister, over which schools our children will go to. I will see my niece a lot more if the children go to the same school, and she's using that to try and manipulate my school choice. In fact she wants to get me to manipulate my husband, because she wants her daughter to go to the state school instead of the local church of england school, be…
/r/RedPillWives08/11/16 03:30 PM
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I'm the worst and no matter what I do I just can't do it right I know the feeling, but it's wrong, you're not screwing up if you have been told it's ok. I feel guilty and like i've failed sometimes and it's almost always not true, it's just my brain messing my mood and outlook up. When he's less crabby maybe talk it over without accusing him, like don't say "you said this would be ok", say something like "I think me getting on with things will keep waking you up, so maybe we need a new plan?" He…
/r/RedPillWives07/11/16 10:00 AM
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I think honestly I need someone decisive to stop me going round in circles!
/r/RedPillWives04/11/16 09:10 PM
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Also the men, who enjoy setting things on fire and causing explosions ;)
/r/RedPillWives04/11/16 03:47 PM
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It's bonfire night tomorrow, so we'll be setting off fireworks, and standing watching a big fire! I have kebabs half made and marinade ready, and we will cook some sweetcorn and hotdogs as well :) I may make toffee if I have time, too. It is all for the children if anyone asks! Edit: I did make toffee! I took photos thinking I'd show off, but then realised it looks just like a black slab..... Oh well, I will just test the lovely toffee to make sure it isn't poisonous For the children! :D
/r/RedPillWives04/11/16 02:32 PM
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This is really cool, thanks for posting it, I got: Your score on the Explorer scale is 16 out of a possible 42, or 38%. Your score on the Builder scale is 37 out of a possible 42, or 88%. Your score on the Director scale is 14 out of a possible 42, or 33%. Your score on the Negotiator scale is 39 out of a possible 42, or 93%. So negotiator/builder My husband sounds very much like a director/builder, so I guess we match well :D
/r/RedPillWives04/11/16 11:04 AM
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I'm trying with this, but finding it a bit tricky - he is ill and lost his voice mostly, although it's back now, so conversation has been limited! I found sometimes I have succeeded, I've stopped myself doing anxiety-babbling out of emotion sometimes - we had a good conversation instead after I realised him being sick made me anxious and we talked a bit about that. And I have been a bit better at being comfortably quiet than normal, just cuddling for affection instead of saying all the little th…
/r/RedPillWives03/11/16 02:24 PM
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Really good advice, I'm not surprised I got Obliger from the quiz, I have really found it difficult to maintain personal discipline - it is important to have someone to be accountable to for me or I get into 'i'm no good' failure mode. I got my husband to check my weight on the scales recently, rather than recording it myself, and that's actually really helped me. Your ideas about resisting is a good point too - I get exactly those kinds of thoughts.
/r/RedPillWives01/11/16 02:10 PM
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As someone who got turned on by her husband's use of Kant to compare the ethics of /r/fatlogic vs v/fatpeoplehate earlier in the week, this is exactly right! Smooth and intelligent conversation which flows naturally is really attractive!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/16 08:54 AM
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I would agree with /u/Irisandoleander, if he says to get on with stuff, go for it. My husband can sleep through noise like you wouldn't believe, and if he says to do it, it isn't your fault if he wakes. If it doesn't work out, he can ask you to be quiet or change his schedule or something I guess. On the upside, you could consider this pretty good preparation for if you guys have a baby, weird sleep patterns are kind of the rule then!
/r/RedPillWives31/10/16 11:04 AM
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Yeah, they make you drink loads here to make the ultrasound work better (I think), but it was a bit difficult with the wand on one side and little feet or elbows poking me! The picture sounds awesome, it's really weird with the transparency and stuff, but I do find scan pictures so amazing, the baby is all cosy and bundled up, it makes me all wanting another :)
/r/RedPillWives28/10/16 07:55 PM
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Being able to have one when I am in the right mood is important, but not every time. I sometimes want the intimacy but don't want to concentrate and finish on purpose.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/16 11:42 AM
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Congratulations! My daughter seemed to be annoyed with the ultrasound and kept kicking so it took forever to confirm her gender, it was not good with a full bladder! It's so lovely seeing the baby move, did they give you pictures to keep? Your family might want to get dresses if they're so excited, my tip would be ask for bigger sizes, the little ones grow super fast, so some to grow into is helpful!
/r/RedPillWives28/10/16 09:51 AM
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I wish i could hug you, I feel exactly the same. I was lucky with fertility, my treatment (proton beam on eye) can't affect that, i hope it works out ok for you <3 I get really anxious about thoughts of like a genetic tendency passing on to my daughter, she is very fair like i am, very blue eyes like mine, and evidence is not clear on it because it is kind of rare anyway.
/r/RedPillWives27/10/16 06:29 AM
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Sean Bean, the guy who plays Stannis Bareothon, Vin Diesel, Lawrence Dalligio, johnny Wilkinson
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/16 05:57 PM
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But it would have to be something like totally debilitating. Nothing like being a paraplegic. Like if I got Alzheimer and was just a shell of who I am. You know what I mean? I do know what you mean, I totally agree, and I think my husband understands what my wishes would be, but i'm not sure he'd actually follow my wishes in that one case
/r/RedPillWives26/10/16 03:27 PM
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I know what you mean about the maiming thing, I would feel the same. I genuinely have lain awake worrying knowing my husband doesn't accept euthanasia. His determination to fight is reassuring, normally, but that's something where it really isn't what I'd want :(
/r/RedPillWives26/10/16 01:44 PM
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Fears Death, I fear the death of loved ones and worry about this far more than I want to. Whenever my daughter asks about death or related things I get all anxious and messed up just because thoughts of her overlapping with thoughts of death terrify me. Cancer, I had cancer and it was treated and is gone, but I have a fear of it returning or others developing it. Being a bad parent, I hate the idea that I might screw up my daughter for life if I do things wrong. Being judged by people - I always…
/r/RedPillWives26/10/16 11:51 AM
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Haha, I'd be impressed by the sockpuppetry! Also I'd wonder what his aim was, and what he had planned!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/16 07:03 PM
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Ooh, I'm going to guess boy, just because! My favourite girl's names are: Isla, Catherine and Chloe, and for boys Stuart, Philip and George. We made a really long list for girls when we were choosing and I had like 20 girls names, but not as many boy names, like you say maybe they are less fun to pick!
/r/RedPillWives25/10/16 06:34 PM
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Good: we attended a family party at the weekend, and it all went well, daughter behaved lovely, I was mostly happy with how I looked and hubs was charming as ever with my cousins and uncles. I also made up for being crabby on Thursday when H got home early again on Friday and over the weekend •_~ Bad: fitness regime went BAD last week, and ate too much trash. Buildup to party made me a bit anxious I think. Ugly: my phone is breaking, I have to pick a new one and I hate that kind of decision! I w…
/r/RedPillWives24/10/16 05:00 PM
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Glad your SO is doing better, medical emergencies are a real test, well done <3
/r/RedPillWives24/10/16 04:43 PM
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I know what you mean about eloping! But at least the setting is going to be lovely, so it'll make beautiful memories and photos :)
/r/RedPillWives24/10/16 04:38 PM
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I'm glad you found it helpful :) It's not always easy to be light and fun when you're tired, but coming home should be like a high point of the day for hubs and managing a cuddle and getting him a drink is not hard work!
/r/RedPillWives24/10/16 06:35 AM
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Ha ha, yes, I know what you mean. TBH he is normally great at making me feel better if a day has been horrible, but yesterday me being hostile messed that up a bit!
/r/RedPillWives21/10/16 05:34 PM
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Thankyou, that is so kind, I will definitely keep trying and learning x
/r/RedPillWives21/10/16 04:32 PM
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Thanks, I don't do it often, and if I'd had more time to relax I think maybe I wouldn't have done it, but I know it isn't a nice way to greet my husband. He normally just hugs me with my head under his chin when I've had a bad day, and I feel loads better, but this time I let a bad mood stop me feeling better, it was just silly :(
/r/RedPillWives21/10/16 04:15 PM
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Thankyou, I am really trying to show how happy he makes me, and controlling my outlook and mood a bit is something I want to learn to do more. I do feel happy when he walks through the door, and I want him to know that <3 When I first wrote my post I nearly put "this is really unlike me but..." But I don't want to make excuses, I want to avoid it next time! Welcoming happiness is a lovely way to put it, and I will remember what you say. :)
/r/RedPillWives21/10/16 04:04 PM
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Good idea! and really that's what I wanted to say when i unloaded, it was a relief to see him because I felt sad and he makes me feel good. I will try to do that, cos i think it would have kept my perspective better. Normally I'm really cheery in greeting him home, but i want to be more controlled when i feel frazzled i think!
/r/RedPillWives21/10/16 03:50 PM
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It's like you have internet superpowers ;D
/r/RedPillWives21/10/16 01:59 PM
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Congratulations, you'll be a great mod! :D
/r/RedPillWives21/10/16 12:52 PM
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That is crazy, it's such a nice compliment, and she felt harrassed? How could anyone give her a compliment if she's so prickly about what they say :(
/r/RedPillWives21/10/16 12:26 PM
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Our date nights vary quite a bit - it's easier to get babysitting from grandparents if we go for something more formal like a hotel stay and restaurant sometimes. But other times we'll just order in a curry or make pizza and have a movie night, and it's perfect :) I think what I like most is when we pick a kind of date and then I leave it to husband to surprise me, just telling me what kind of outfit I need. He picks great places to eat, like for valentines we went somewhere where you can email …
/r/RedPillWives19/10/16 06:27 PM
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I think it depends on relative wealth and how familiar wealthy and powerful people are, maybe. I went to Oxford university and there's obviously a lot of boys there who are insanely wealthy, and interned at the House of Commons, where you are surrounded by people in government and positions of power. I did see some girls absolutely leap at politicians, CEOs and rich men who aren't really very attractive otherwise, but they're not normally social equals, they're coming from a poorer background or…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/16 08:28 AM
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1) grateful for my husband for covering things when I've been poorly, he's been great <3 2) I'm grateful for my husband for looking after the house and stuff like fixing the bath taps yesterday when they stopped working! 3) I'm grateful for my daughter being so lovely and chilling for a nice day together and behaving really well today, it really makes me pleased how much she tries when daddy asks her to look after me!
/r/RedPillWives18/10/16 04:36 PM
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Thankyou :) I was really pleased to see this on the BBC, in the UK it's like the 'respectable' media channel, it's great they're willing to include some views that aren't feminist. They can be a bit overly politically correct sometimes, and I might have expected them to be a bit hostile. I do try to talk a little bit about feminism, and my friends are sometimes a bit "WTF, why are you not going for a career you could earn way more than the extra childcare costs!" But then the point is I don't NE…
/r/RedPillWives18/10/16 02:46 PM
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Ah, BBC is like region limited - try this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NfZKCDrqgqg
/r/RedPillWives18/10/16 01:07 PM
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I know loads of people really love it, but I don't feel sexy when it's happening, the situation just doesn't do it for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/16 12:25 PM
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I went for a muscular socialist, I like the tribal testosteroniness :) More seriously, I don't think we talked much politics til we met each other's families, I warned him by stepfather was very conservative in politics, cos I didn't want him to accidentally get into an argument. I don't think politics would be a deal breaker for me unless it was really super extreme. Values though are really important, although we'll vote different ways the same things matter to us both.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/16 11:17 AM
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I agree about enjoying being desired :) it's a big part of what gets me in the mood - even if I initiate I find I often try to tease or get chased or grabbed rather than be direct. The description definitely feels right to me - being desirable makes me feel sexy! I had a thought that maybe this is part of why some girls get with bad choices on the rebound - they don't feel sexy, so maybe they go for someone way more aggressive than normal to feel desired and get validation?
/r/RedPillWives18/10/16 08:35 AM
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I haven't, I'll give it a try, thankyou! I've tried eating really plain (like just water biscuits one day) and even that was making me feel like I'd eaten 3 course Xmas dinner, but it didn't seem to matter, so at one point I was like "F it I'm eating chocolate if everything will hurt anyway" I'm not too bad now, it's been easing, but I will try the mint tea, I had it when pregnant (i got bad morning sickness) and it was helpful, so really good idea <3
/r/RedPillWives17/10/16 06:44 PM
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Good: Daughter is going to bed really nicely now, no fussing or calling for us later on. Bad: Not done so good on diet, or exercise last week. Ugly: Been getting pain/bloating after food, which is making me feel awful, and quite down. Hoping it is just a weird bug or something but it sucks. Also feel very unsexy with sore stomach and in pain :( This has made it really difficult to get housework done and be an active mom, and generally feel like quite a crappy wife. Hubs has covered stuff where n…
/r/RedPillWives17/10/16 02:37 PM
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Yes, I love doing little surprises! Normally we divide evening tasks, he often puts daughter to bed, but sometimes I'll get food prepped and everything ready and make him a cup of tea then call him down to relax. It's a little thing, but he gets to rest more. I like to surprise him with particular things for his work lunch which i know he likes which are a bit more effort, and put sweet drawings/letters from our daughter I like surprising with a cuddle from behind, sexy cuddles FTW!
/r/RedPillWives17/10/16 07:06 AM
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Too true, their ego is so massive they think they can just say whatever and it becomes important, like a toddler does!
/r/RedPillWives16/10/16 08:28 AM
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If they are super sure that gravity is a social construct, they could always jump off something really tall with an African perspective. It's so stupid, I just wanna slap them and tell them to stop being silly. Which probably makes me the MOST RACIST EVAR.
/r/RedPillWives15/10/16 08:58 PM
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I saw this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C9SiRNibD14 last night Science is a western cultural construct! SJWs are maybe not the best scientists, I'm thinking ;)
/r/RedPillWives15/10/16 08:35 PM
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I feel like all you can do when it happens is try to be as supportive as possible, love them and encourage them to seek treatment, and it doesn't always work out. Guess the thing to do is always keep learning how to do better in relationships regardless of PTSD or not. Yep!
/r/RedPillWives14/10/16 08:28 AM
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Artificial fabrics seem worse for smelling, to me - agree with others that say white vinegar works to remove smells, also Febreeze do some liquids for washers that work OK.
/r/RedPillWives14/10/16 08:14 AM
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It's a horrible thing to watch someone go through, I'm sorry for you and your partner, that sounds like it was terribly painful :( Sometimes when the mind is sick, people can't get into a place where they can get well. We were definitely lucky, my husband's case was relatively mild and his work were supportive
/r/RedPillWives13/10/16 08:59 PM
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I think we were pretty lucky, I worked in mental health care at the time so spotted some symptoms and he recovered with CBT counselling. But if i'd not known symptoms or how to access the counselling it could have been much harder
/r/RedPillWives13/10/16 04:31 PM
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You clearly aren't a crazy person, so almost anyone you pick won't be totally terrible, IMO! But we've got to be honest when vetting, and if the good is not enough, end it and keep looking, not rationalise sticking with it. You're spending effort on something with no future then. I don't feel it makes you a bad person to walk away, you can't be with someone to fix them. His self-esteem is not your fault or responsibility, you know? But maybe it can be fixed, but I don't like the combo of a polly…
/r/RedPillWives13/10/16 04:22 PM
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I think it's true, there was something in my daughter's dinosaur book about it, I swear! Also my name... I am small (5'2''), and used to moan to my now-husband that my pale face made me look like a boiled egg on photos. He found this is a compliment in Japan, and it was like a cute nickname thing. Wyf is old english for wife, but also makes the name read funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/16 11:42 AM
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No cell phone, definitely no cheese - but i did consider the various workarounds ;p How, definitely Horses are kind of stupid, I reckon I could get away from the tiny horses :)
/r/RedPillWives13/10/16 08:59 AM
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I guess it comes back to his romanticized way of looking at life and making it seem better than it is. To me there is a problem with this - If your man isn't realistic that's bad because he's not going to be driven to improve things. If you see things differently so much you're going to resent him more and more. u/CoochQuarantine is probably right, you seem to know what you want, and this man isn't it, even if he has good points. Sorry, I know it is not nice to hear tho. Also, about the saying "…
/r/RedPillWives13/10/16 07:57 AM
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Funeral. I was annoyed at a few guests not attending wedding, If noone have come I would have been crushed! coma, I couldn't cope with jail hearing No cramps/headaches, for sure I guess go bald, cos smart ladies already pointed out the joy of wigs!
/r/RedPillWives13/10/16 07:44 AM
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Never eat again. But wear chocolate flavour lipbalm all the time ;p New language never loved at all
/r/RedPillWives13/10/16 07:39 AM
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I guess any group where there are more traditional values promoted would have more women looking for "for better or for worse", and obviously clubs and bars more girls looking for less commitment. But a lot of women don't decide to be a fairweather GF/wife, things just go wrong sometimes. Like, my husband suffered PTSD which caused flashbacks, and I stuck with him, supported him and we are stronger for it. But if he'd had uncontrollable anger and started being frequently violent towards me I'm n…
/r/RedPillWives13/10/16 06:55 AM
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The back ones are amazing. I was really suffering painful twinges, but after a lower back massage I've got no pain, and am also so relaxed I could just melt :)
/r/RedPillWives11/10/16 03:54 PM
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I'm grateful for my husband's newly acquired massage skills! I'm grateful for having time to myself today, I got paperwork done, and had some time to read and exercise as well :) I'm grateful for my daughter - she drives me nuts sometimes, but she's beautiful and mostly tries really hard to be good.
/r/RedPillWives11/10/16 03:04 PM
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Wow, that's great!! 🎆🎶 Celebrate CQ 1 month smoke free! 🎶🎆🎆
/r/RedPillWives11/10/16 02:19 PM
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Well done on the not smoking/bitching! How long have you quit for now?
/r/RedPillWives11/10/16 02:06 PM
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Are you in commited relationship/fwb arrangement, series of ons, on a dry spell/a virgin/etc.? Redpill wife, married for 2 years, but relationship now is 9 years old Are you dating up/down? Looks wise I guess up? He's very handsome, even if he hasn't groomed. I can look great but need makeup! Socially sort of even, I've got a good degree, but he's built a really good career without a degree, i've got more wealthy parents, but his parents are very respectable people. Are you happy with current si…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/16 01:04 PM
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Good: Had an awesome day with husband on Friday, just us two, we walked down by a river and visited a nice little shopping area nearby, got some winter clothes for hubs and I got a new sports bra. Had afternoon at home to Netflix and chill, it was ace <3 need to have more days as a couple I think, as well as family time. Bad: Weather is so cold all of a sudden, I was freezing last night, need to check which radiators are on/off otherwise I will be huddled in a ball of blankets by time husband ge…
/r/RedPillWives11/10/16 06:30 AM
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Thanks, the earning power of a wife isn't a bad thing, i just don't see it as something that is making you more attractive really, but the aim shouldn't be that you can just walk away, that's like the advice a feminist would give, staying uncommitted and independent.
/r/RedPillWives09/10/16 07:51 PM
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Glad it's going well :) I'm sort of a perfectionist with cleaning, and doing a bit at a time isn't as satisfying, but it makes it so much easier to find effort and time for a little job than having a couple of hours to really blitz things!
/r/RedPillWives09/10/16 06:26 PM
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I don't get this, financial independence should not be a priority compared to other things a man will value IMO. Financial responsibility is more important I think, that also avoids running up debt and isn't looking like you want to be ready to cut and run
/r/RedPillWives09/10/16 07:58 AM
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I worked fulltime until I was pregnant, but don't think I could manage that now, nor would I want to really, my daughter starts school next year, and having time to make sure the house chores are done so we get more time either as a family or a couple at weekends is more use than extra money. One other thing, you mentioned leaving stuff and doing a big clean - I used to do this, but find breaking it up (and listening to audiobooks as I clean) works better now, having a child messing stuff up as …
/r/RedPillWives09/10/16 07:46 AM
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I think you get so much right with this post, the times I've had men want to be friends, it has gone just like you said, the only exception being my husband's best man, but he's like my husband's friend first and his wife more my friend. I've always been unhappy with such friendships, when we were dating hubs mentioned he was going over to Vanessa's house to watch a film another evening and I was thinking "WTF, is it like an ex or FWB or something" and hamstered like mad. When I dare to say "who…
/r/RedPillWives09/10/16 07:35 AM
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Exactly! Is it actually surprising he is a bit sleazy? He's on his third wife and has a reputation as a womaniser. It's just silly for people to wring their hands like they expected anything different. Even my husband and his best friend, both decent married men, i've heard joking on skype about 'greyhounds', which apparently was slang when they were young for a very short skirt. Men joke like that, it's just a thing they do to bond.
/r/RedPillWives08/10/16 07:32 PM
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I don't really find it offensive, because powerful rich men and politicians act like that, there's no real shock. Like it's basically expected. I don't like it, but I didn't like Trump as a person before, and if I was an American I wouldn't probably change my vote over this. To me it's weird people pretending to be shocked that Trump would act like this, obviously he does!
/r/RedPillWives08/10/16 08:58 AM
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It is great advice :D Also is really good for my sleep! I'm all like "that was nice, feel all loved... Zzzzzzzz" instead of my brain being busy :)
/r/RedPillWives06/10/16 05:40 PM
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Oh, haha, I didn't know! but it is such a lovely way to put it, and something I think is important, I go over and over bad things sometimes, and it is a bad way to live, you just get resentful. A more positive approach seems so naturally in line with femininity the way you put it :)
/r/RedPillWives06/10/16 05:11 PM
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I found this one recently: https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWives/comments/4exnnf/rpw_transcends_sexual_strategy/ And I think it was such a good and positive approach which embraces femininity. The essential posts are all great as well, especially much love to /u/coochquarantine for her posts on availability and saying yes <3
/r/RedPillWives06/10/16 04:44 PM
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I think this post is really good: https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWives/comments/4exnnf/rpw_transcends_sexual_strategy/ Aiming for positivity and bringing happiness and joy into your situation, rather than focusing on the negatives is probably a good way to deal with a new and maybe not ideal situation. Things are rarely perfect, so looking for the positives (not ignoring the negatives we can change of course!) is important :) Also, welcome! <3
/r/RedPillWives06/10/16 09:06 AM
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FWIW, I read RP Wives, and would say I was not a feminist. To play the stereotype, I think I would start by talking about my husband: He grew up very poor, and still sees working class people as 'his people' I think. But he REALLY hates Marxism a ton. He supports politics he believes is better for the working class, but not communism. To me, that is like me and feminism - I want women to be happy, of course! But I think feminism is a damaging ideology which sets women as opponents of men, and di…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/16 06:29 AM
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:) I like that I have heard of 'wife goggles' before as well - the illusion that makes a man say you look beautiful when you're 9 months pregnant and look like a chubby gnome hiding behind a giant pink ball!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/16 07:00 PM
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I have one of these - http://products.babymoov.eu/glitter-bag.html It is pretty good, and has a ton of room for when i need it. My normal stuff: Purse mints painkillers Glasses case work card/pass Lip balm Bottle of water My mummy kit: Spare change of clothes Baby wipes Drink Snacks Small book Crayons Mini notebook plasters Sudocreme Calpol (liquid baby painkillers) childs thin raincoat. I should be better at clearing it out, tbh, there is a lot that gets left in when i'm going to work, and it m…
/r/RedPillWives05/10/16 03:58 PM
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When it's getting longer and lumberjacky I can only take about 5 seconds, I'm all like "Go on go on go on, cuddle me really close on the neck", then just can't take any more and burst out into giggly squeals. But after, my skin is tingling all over. I may be a deviant... Beards rule!
/r/RedPillWives05/10/16 01:26 PM
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Yes, common courtesy or consideration is what I find makes me feel respected - being dismissed or ignored would be the most obvious sign of disrespect, to me. I would have maybe phrased the men's version as 'authority' being the sign of respect but I think it's sort of the same. Like a respected man will have authority when he speaks or suggests a course of action. I definitely feel loved when cherished, being looked out for and being valued and special to my husband. I think the Redpill guys ar…
/r/RedPillWives05/10/16 10:01 AM
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I'm grateful for my health and that of my family I'm so, so grateful for my Husband helping me drag my hamster into the light and beat it into submission last night. Also hugs, damn tickly beard hugs are the best. I'm really grateful for my boss allowing me to change my day off to this Friday so me and hubs can have day off together!
/r/RedPillWives05/10/16 08:39 AM
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I feel sad for men and women who have these defeatist views. It must be very difficult living, interacting, and connecting with others with this giant "all men are scum"/"all women are incapable of love" shield up. I had this conversation with hubs last night - we were discussing how I get anxious around weight change and worry affection might be suddenly withdrawn with no warning like i saw with my parents/stepparents. When we first met I was very suspicious of men, and doubly so of 'nice guys'…
/r/RedPillWives05/10/16 07:59 AM
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It was 8.5 years ago, I think if I'd preferred him to bulk up I would have realised by now. Little helpful advice like "I like your hair done like that" or even which aftershaves you like, or what clothing styles make him look great are just positive feedback, I'm not going to be upset if he chooses something different.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/16 06:50 AM
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He is very much his own man, and i have always liked that, but i don't think saying my own aesthetic preference is really controlling. He could have carried on as before, we wouldn't have broken up. But I was helping him appear more attractive to me (also, to look better at work because of a better suit fitting to give a more refined look).
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/16 06:36 AM
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I agree, if i see a guy who looks like my husband i tend to think "oh, he's handsome.... Oh yeah, kinda looks like hubs"
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/16 06:23 AM
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I never liked thin men, I fancied the rugby players over the football players at school, but there's a level of muscle where I just don't like it, personally. I told my now-husband what I found attractive and he adjusted his workout accordingly, it was no big deal
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/16 06:19 AM
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He already had big arms (and still does), he is naturally muscular and played a lot of rugby, but I think it looked a bit disproportionate when his arms got too bulky, like a bouncer or something. I do find very muscular men look a bit thuggish, to me, I guess just my tastes
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/16 04:59 AM
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I did ask my husband to work his arms less when were first dating because he was going from looking strong to looking like a bond villian henchman! More muscle is not always more attractive, imo, it can just look thuggish
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/16 06:29 PM
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I used it for maybe 2 years in prior to trying for a baby, and during teenage years for acne, microgynon both times. I didn't like it at all in terms of messing with libido, and haven't taken it for 5 years now. I think it is sometimes helpful for cycle regulation, and when I wasn't ready to have a baby it gave an extra sense of security, but I am glad not to be on it now.
/r/RedPillWives04/10/16 03:25 PM
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I'm in England, so I might be around at the same time, although I only really get chance to be on in the evening most days
/r/RedPillWives04/10/16 01:34 PM
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Hello, nice to meet you :) hope to see you around and maybe on IRC, your advice and experience will be good to hear as well
/r/RedPillWives04/10/16 12:23 PM
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Hello :) Nice to meet you!
/r/RedPillWives04/10/16 10:52 AM
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MY PIE! or apparently Gale's http://www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/2749/gales-blackberry-and-apple-pie Are we all Gale? I am confused.
/r/RedPillWives04/10/16 10:33 AM
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Pack it up and let's go home. You are welcome round my house, I made a pie :)
/r/RedPillWives04/10/16 10:15 AM
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I got my stepmother this kind of polish : http://www.selfridges.com/GB/en/cat/nailberry-nail-polish_464-3004226-NOX1/ because it's supposed to be less harsh chemicals, but I don't know how good she found it, but maybe worth a try?
/r/RedPillWives04/10/16 08:44 AM
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Hello new people, hope you find people here as helpful and friendly as I did <3
/r/RedPillWives04/10/16 06:29 AM
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Thanks :) I love that the attitude here is 'we think this works because...' not 'you are a bad person if you don't do this' or expecting everyone to be the same! <3
/r/RedPillWives04/10/16 04:34 AM
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Thanks, that does clarify the difference and is important to remember the theory, to understand why stuff works or not :)
/r/RedPillWives03/10/16 08:40 PM
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I see what you mean, it shouldn't be Must 'or else', it should be what works for each couple for sure! My list was really what I feel me and my husband do, and not a prescription for all people, sorry
/r/RedPillWives03/10/16 08:26 PM
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Good: I worked on house tidiness, and have removed some older toys to make things easier and got some new storage boxes that double as seats. Bad: had to rearrange a planned day with husband from last week to this.. And was I kind of a bitch about it :'( I complained to husband about not replying to txts at work, which wasn't helpful when he was busy. I did rearrange for this Friday tho, so not all bad. Ugly: well, linked to my crabbiness above, I've had bizarre hormones this month, thought I wa…
/r/RedPillWives03/10/16 05:04 PM
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Both General support for each other Maintaining the house Sex Love and affection Maintaining their attractiveness for their partner Financial responsibility Behaving appropriately as a partner Not undermining each other as parents From the woman: Creation of a sense of home for the family For mothers, being the more gentle parent - Kids sometimes need sympathy, and sometimes strictness, and both parents have to do both. But I think a mother most naturally provides the gentle touch. Primary careg…
/r/RedPillWives03/10/16 10:10 AM
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Exactly, I have a portrait of Audrey as a feature in our dining room, and it is just a classically beautiful image! (and good for starting conversations) her boobs look amazing lol They do! nice boobs are really pretty to me, i guess that's something else my mum influenced ;)
/r/RedPillWives03/10/16 08:29 AM
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THANKYOU FOR THE HONEST FEEDBACK WHEN I ASKED IF YOU THOUGHT I'D GAINED WEIGHT RECENTLY or YOU DIDN'T FANCY GAZELLE AGAIN? WELL HOW ABOUT YOU LOOK AFTER THE CUBS OR CATCH SOMETHING BETTER THEN, MY MOTHER ALWAYS SAID YOU WERE A LOUSY HUNTER!
/r/RedPillWives02/10/16 05:03 PM
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Cliche, but I've always thought Audrey Hepburn and Marylin Monroe were gorgeous! More modern, I think Kat Dennings is a actress I think looks great: https://s2.postimg.org/652l9z8ft/Kat_Dennings_Thor_Premiere_white_dress_05.jpg I think big and striking eyes are my favourite features - a little bit curvy figures. It is something like my mum when she was young, but I think I maybe idealise long legs as well because I don't have them!
/r/RedPillWives02/10/16 04:50 PM
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Ha, sneaky :D
/r/RedPillWives30/09/16 05:51 PM
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why have I never thought of that?! One time I said 'buy chocolate but hide it so I'm not tempted'. Next day, crappy day, I go looking and can't find it, so i give up and ask when he gets home where it is... He laughed and reaches top of shelves saying "chocolate is not for midgets" I may have threatened no sex ever again!
/r/RedPillWives30/09/16 05:07 PM
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I linked it to him, and the response was "your crazy is harmless supervillain stuff, so you're fine" I only said I wanted to destroy the sun because I was really hot when pregnant.....
/r/RedPillWives30/09/16 04:32 PM
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Simple but big question! I think his mission is to advance professionally and to be a good father at the moment. I can't really do loads for the first, apart from ensuring he can work weird hours when necessary, still have nice meals and make sure if i attend work events that I am helping his image. I can help to support him with proofreading sometime as well. For the second, I keep the house chores mostly so that we can spend family time at the weekend and support him in parenting decisions. I …
/r/RedPillWives29/09/16 09:01 PM
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I love these! They are so true <3 Especially the marriage box!
/r/RedPillWives29/09/16 09:13 AM
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Well done for admitting it to your husband and here, that's a good attitude and accountability is so important. It also shows how the relationship should be, he's not dictating your behaviour for his benefit, he's looking out for you and trying to work as a good, united team :)
/r/RedPillWives29/09/16 09:11 AM
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Me too :) Although I googled it, and some of this stuff appears to be real: Trigger warning: SJW mentalness! http://nonbinary.org/wiki/Xenogender http://nonbinary.org/wiki/Gender_binary I just give up with this nonsense, people want to be a special snowflake when they haven't even worked out their sexuality yet, and it ends up with stuff like this: https://supermattachine.wordpress.com/2012/01/11/im-sorry-i-just-cant-get-your-pronouns-right-yes-you-can-you-just-wont/ When are these people going …
/r/RedPillWives29/09/16 07:49 AM
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Same here, I was taught to have good manners and be nice, but if someone claims to sexually identify as a toaster, they are just deluded.
/r/RedPillWives28/09/16 04:14 PM
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Exactly - i'm not sure that was real (cringeanarchy sometimes isn't the best source!) but it's getting ridiculous.
/r/RedPillWives28/09/16 03:59 PM
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It's true, feminists will only back women if they agree with everything they say, it's like a cult :( I genuinely think they just want to make it impossible to not give offense, like with the gender pronoun nonsense: http://i.imgur.com/3thQ4mk.jpg
/r/RedPillWives28/09/16 03:16 PM
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Congratulations on the anniversary! I found third trimester really tiring as well, and baby wouldn't let me sleep much because she wanted to play at kicking when I tried to sleep! Housework is sometimes a pain when tired, especially. I found warm baths to relax my aching back helped keep me going.
/r/RedPillWives28/09/16 10:45 AM
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Yep, little kids are not good with boundaries! I think she was about 2.5 when my daughter suddenly decided she didn't want Daddy in the room when she peed, but then she stopped caring again after a few months. Gradually she has started wanting private space and time on her own now (nearly 4).
/r/RedPillWives27/09/16 09:17 PM
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I really want to be ok with nudity in front of my daughter, and we still have baths together, but my hangup that interferes is I don't like complete nudity in from of my husband except in intimate settings, I get too embarrassed and distracted knowing he'll check me out and so I won't go around nude, I need at least a t-shirt or shift or underwear. But I'm trying to not give my daughter any complexes about her body or my hangups so I am ok with changing in front of her or washing together. She's…
/r/RedPillWives27/09/16 06:25 AM
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Really wise words, I need to find a bowing emoji :) I think a part of a successful relationship is looking for the best in each other, and trying to enjoy even learning from the mistakes where you can. You guys sound lovely together <3
/r/RedPillWives26/09/16 07:03 PM
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Good: got a nice day out planned for Friday with hubs, and got a ton of organising done of our paperwork at the weekend, so house is more tidy and filing is all set up easier. Bad: one of my daughter's rabbits got ill and died last week. We did what we could, but sadly the vet said there was no hope. Ugly: still haven't told daughter, and death is a subject I get super anxious about. I know she'll worry about me and hubs dying and ask difficult questions, so really dreading this. Bonus: I don't …
/r/RedPillWives26/09/16 05:05 PM
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The image of a man like that using a baby voice is hilarious :D I was pretty bad, "do you want a blanket, a cough mixture, more medicine, maybe a hot water bottle? Would you like an early night?" So annoying in hindsight!
/r/RedPillWives26/09/16 02:48 PM
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I never imagined that I'd read anyone describing divorce and shared custody as a fantasy for them and their children. It seems crazy, I hate this idea so much! Someone claiming this as an ideal should be condemned by society, it's such a selfish and cynical attitude :( pLTRs scare me! Even though it won't affect me or a lot of the women in this sub, it's terrifying that this could be the new normal soon. I agree, it worries me as well, especially for my daughter. My husband is convinced that it …
/r/RedPillWives26/09/16 01:52 PM
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It's sweet that he tried at least! - I similarly managed to accidentally torment hubs early on when we were first moved in together by babying him when sick, he was all like "stop mithering me woman, I ain't dying".
/r/RedPillWives26/09/16 09:58 AM
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That is funny! I find it sweet when the teasing shows they know your little things that you do :)
/r/RedPillWives26/09/16 08:14 AM
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This makes me feel less weird ;)
/r/RedPillWives26/09/16 07:56 AM
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It's like my feet and toes need to move when I'm thinking about rude things, I have a few other weird habits like if I feel my husband's eyebrows brush me during a cuddle I really want to smooth them and wriggle round to do so... Like I said in IRC, I'm sort of a dork, I am lucky he finds it cute -_-'
/r/RedPillWives26/09/16 07:17 AM
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I don't think that they are sexy on their own, but when I was looking for a LTR I would want them to be compatible, like you need subjects you both enjoy talking about and humour that you both enjoy. Good intelligence, charm and culture are things a partner should have for me, though!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/16 06:58 AM
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I think you are right about complementary partners, I overthink terribly, and my husband is very decisive but then he can be a bit obsessive. Sometimes he needs someone to say "stop working, sleep and eat and come back to it tomorrow". I'm introverted and he is great at mingling, I'm more emotional and he is stoic. Also, I agree on the partner types you point out people look for, I'm quite traditionalist, and it was the mix of masculinity and chivalry that drew me in.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/16 06:31 AM
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My husband noticed that when i'm thinking interested thoughts about him, my feet wiggle (seriously, I am so lame). Occasionally he points this out and I desperately try to control it and pretend nonchalance whilst blushing and hiding my head like a turtle if I have a jumper or big top on.
/r/RedPillWives25/09/16 09:23 PM
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The other ideas are so good! I was thinking perhaps a time challenge - setting aside a decent amount of time every day, whatever is going on, to either spend time as a couple with no distractions, or to do something for yourself if single. It could overlap with Camille's idea of course •_~
/r/RedPillWives25/09/16 05:40 PM
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Welcome as another noob :) your story is great, i especially relate to wondering about raising a child in the current society, it's that which has most made me against feminism, I don't want it to screw up my daughter
/r/RedPillWives24/09/16 12:57 PM
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There absolutely is, I feel very attracted when he says "this is the right thing to do" or "this needs doing, I will do it", even if it will be difficult (or especially then, I think). Also it links to my fangirling over GoT characters who are all about duty in another thread ;)
/r/RedPillWives23/09/16 03:20 PM
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Thankyou for the links, that's really interesting. I think that does seem to fit. I'm fairly sure we're in a LLL relationship. I get the impression he is a far more forceful leader in the workplace, but he appreciates peace and harmony at home. Also, I think the patriarchy thing makes sense of something i didn't really get - My husband and his father and grandfather are very much 'patriarch' figures, but his brother has some of their alpha traits and very few beta 'nice' traits. I didn't get why…
/r/RedPillWives23/09/16 02:19 PM
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I got some great advice from my beautician of all people - that the girls want drama when you talk about your man, it's like a soap when people come in and talk about men. She said not to let them make drama where there isn't any. You are so right about how to judge which friends to be a bit more open about things to, people who want to support you not stir up negative feeling!
/r/RedPillWives23/09/16 01:33 PM
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It does help, my sister in particular gets snippy over any 'i wanted to make him smile' kind of sentiment. But if I put it as 'I made that blue cheese gnocchi because I really enjoy it at the end of a long day', rather than 'I made gnocchi, it's one of his favorites', she doesn't think i'm being a stepford wife. Or when we've discussed time alone being worked around kids, I emphasise my enjoyment, not "Husband took me to X" which dredges up the whole 'who pays/kept woman' bone of contention. I g…
/r/RedPillWives23/09/16 12:48 PM
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I feel bad for you, and sympathise a lot, my older sister has judged my approach a lot, and even my Mum sometimes advises me badly (IMO). I can't say what will work, because I'm not there yet either, after 9 years (yesterday! yay!) of being together. I try to emphasise my happiness, not the details of our relationship, and that has helped. I have a big argument with my sister every few months when I stop biting my lip though :( For my peace, talking to my husband about it helps, he is a voice of…
/r/RedPillWives23/09/16 11:44 AM
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What is your initial reaction? Honestly, when he is in full on stern angry jerk mode, it scares me a little. Not for any real reason or experience. But he's a big man with a grim face and intense eyes when he's like that, it's just really intimidating. If he's only being a bit jerky because of being annoyed at work, or daughter being naughty, I try to be a bit playful, he will normally be a bit grumpy initially then start to smile slightly. Sometimes it needs a bit of flirty stuff to get his min…
/r/RedPillWives23/09/16 08:19 AM
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He was :'( GRRM makes great characters you get really attached to, but especially Ned.
/r/RedPillWives23/09/16 06:26 AM
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Do British have different facial expressions Yes. Our upper lips are stiffened from all the tea ;p They're just picking fault at anything, the 'pout' is just her pressing lips together I think.
/r/RedPillWives22/09/16 03:33 PM
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I've not watched any this year, because it's really bad for my diet, but last year there was a girl who got attacked in the press for being 'too posh': http://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-3187506/Great-British-Bake-girl-accused-posh-s-got-Aga.html It often seems like basically nice pretty girls get a lot of criticism :(
/r/RedPillWives22/09/16 01:12 PM
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I know he did really bad things, but a strong man following a purpose without compromise is something i admire even then.... The Shireen thing was horrible though, I cried a lot. Melisandre is just evil. Ned was more sad :'(
/r/RedPillWives22/09/16 10:46 AM
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You are right, she is tragically feminine when you think about what she really wants But she kills Stannis :( After Ned he was my favorite character...
/r/RedPillWives22/09/16 10:26 AM
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Wow, I kind of get the idea, but it's a pretty high bar! I think if people have bought a house together then really the ring value is more symbolic than anything - and if you can get the ring you want in terms of stone, setting and metal, why spend more?
/r/RedPillWives21/09/16 08:26 PM
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8k (pounds, so like 12k in dollars) for 80 guests, church ceremony. The biggest cost by far was food and catering services, but it was really good, so it was worth it :)
/r/RedPillWives21/09/16 08:09 PM
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My husband said he asked his father who said 2 week's wages, I was cheated ;) Of course, we were shopping for the ring in foreign currency, so i did not have any idea of prices.... honestly, the first window I looked in was a Cartier one, and I actually saw him wince just a little. The tradition was from a marketing thing apparently: http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-27371208
/r/RedPillWives21/09/16 08:00 PM
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I've had this exact conversation about attraction with my husband, there are differences between love and attraction, and you can totally love someone still but have a decline in attraction. I think people need to be honest about that, because there's lots of ways to increase attraction as well!
/r/RedPillWives21/09/16 07:47 PM
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Opinion's on the article? It was so sad! She was probably a lovely person and would have been happier had she opened up a bit :'( Do you think there is a missing connection between attracting a partner and actively trying to be attractive within society today? Sometimes, I think it's like the 'niceguy' problem, people watch films and see tv which tells them just being friendly and nice is enough to show attraction. Some girls do sort of the same thing, they expect a man to just like them with no…
/r/RedPillWives21/09/16 06:45 PM
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Thankyou!! it always makes me smile to think of it, both for the romance but also the funny bits in hindsight :) It's always good to get reminders to show love, but life is busy and I think occasionally looking at these kind of ideas help remind me
/r/RedPillWives21/09/16 03:19 PM
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And that is worth celebrating :) Yes it is! Our first date anniversary is tomorrow, and it is still special thinking of the excitement and anticipation we had! I love the post, celebrating good and bad and looking for an excuse to be joyful seems such a good way to keep happiness in your relationship.
/r/RedPillWives21/09/16 11:09 AM
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Thankyou, I think it will carry on bring fun, and definitely I want to keep the playful attraction, but I feel like we're at a point where we both felt proud of the other, as part of one team :)
/r/RedPillWives20/09/16 09:51 PM
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Ignoring the crabby attitude post, you are so right about vetting/dating being the start of a transition, and learning if I could and wanted to fill that future wife role. You are always so positive, even with seeming trolls :)
/r/RedPillWives20/09/16 06:18 PM
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Sounds gorgeous, I'm not surprised you got a number! I had the seamstress add straps to mine because I was a bit worried about it slipping down during dancing, and I wasn't keen on too much tape, but my girls ended up looking pretty great as well ;D
/r/RedPillWives20/09/16 05:38 PM
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Congrats on the date, hope it goes well! Maybe too much 'aggression' takes any sense of chasing away? I find that the playing coy definitely works, so being too direct might come over as masculine even. I think it also looks a bit desperate to get attention if people dress too raunchy in the wrong setting. Edit: What kind of gown did you go for? I went full gown too - fishtail style with a lacy bolero
/r/RedPillWives20/09/16 03:12 PM
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You put it really well :)
/r/RedPillWives20/09/16 02:44 PM
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Heheheh I remember! ;-) I really need to learn to worry less... I think you're right about the categories men see, a fling is expected to be sexy because that's the whole point, but a wife being too obviously sexy could be seen as advertising herself as if she was up for a fling?
/r/RedPillWives20/09/16 01:12 PM
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Oh yes, I did that too, then was angry when a couple of them made passes at me when drunk... Like, ffs dude, if you can't do it sober, I'm certainly not going to be swept off my feet by the offer of a drunken snog.
/r/RedPillWives20/09/16 06:18 AM
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I know, I much prefer laptop for reddit...... but i'm currently multitasking like a superwife between unpacking a suitcase, a child's bathtime and being a spaz on reddit ;)
/r/RedPillWives19/09/16 06:09 PM
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Sorry! Phone posting, and phone being silly, I've tried to delete them OK, done!
/r/RedPillWives19/09/16 05:42 PM
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Good: Had a lot of fun at the family wedding, danced all night and went to a spa afterwards, had a great time :) Bad: Maybe going to regret how much I ate at weekend, and back is a bit sore from leaning up for dancing, so need to make sure I make gym classes Ugly: was a bit snippy at spa after we had a couple's massage - wasn't happy to see young and attractive masseuse doing leg massage on husband! Bonus: I guess I just told him he was very manly but fun and plays along with our daughter, but i…
/r/RedPillWives19/09/16 05:30 PM
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It's sad, isn't it? my childhood left me thinking that branch swinging to stay ahead of unfaithful men and the inevitable breakdown of relationships was the only way to survive. It didn't help that at university is saw girls throw themselves at the rich boys in the hope of becoming a trophy wife or just getting free drinks and presents even. Urgh.
/r/RedPillWives19/09/16 04:40 PM
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I do see your point as well, the money you have changes the tastes and cultural opportunities you have opportunity to experience growing up, so I maybe downplayed it by dividing the two
/r/RedPillWives17/09/16 07:02 AM
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Thankyou! Bearing in mind i'm very new and i've not thought about these things anywhere near as much as you and others here, I had a further thought FWIW: In hypergamy by a woman, traditionally and even now to a degree, the family receiving her as a relative gain not much aside from her genetics and possibly greater fertility if she is younger than her husband (often the case in a large class jump IMO). I also think a woman marrying up is going to find more manners/social skills barriers to acce…
/r/RedPillWives17/09/16 06:54 AM
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I think the divorce itself unsettled me only a bit, i was only about 3, but it meant the backdrop to the whole of my childhood was the lingering animosity, especially when my mother remarried and her parents considered my step father a far better match than my father, and weren't subtle about it. I think this gave me a completely different view of married life, and really it was the hypergamy and instability that i'd seen that made me negative about marriage - My husband's background of very sta…
/r/RedPillWives17/09/16 06:29 AM
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I'm in England, and the prenatal classes nearest us were held in quite a wealthy area, so there was also that aspect in play, I think it's considered normal to leave it later (mid 30s) for higher paid career women these days. I wasn't happy to leave starting a family later, apart from anything, it can mean that grandparents are too old to play much with children, and I was acutely aware that my younger sister had just got pregnant, so i was keen to have kids of a similar age. It worked out nice,…
/r/RedPillWives17/09/16 06:15 AM
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Thankyou!
/r/RedPillWives17/09/16 06:00 AM
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I would love a link if you happen to have one, that's something I've heard but would like to read up a bit. I was by far the youngest woman in my prenatal classes and I was 28, people are just leaving it way too late now.
/r/RedPillWives16/09/16 09:16 PM
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We're also screwing ourselves! Having kids is harder to recover from the older you are. We're inflicting more difficult birth and births requiring more intervention on ourselves, and having a harder time running around after the children as well. The NHS warns quite strongly about it, the article has links to newspaper stories on not leaving pregnancy too late, and not just for fertility.
/r/RedPillWives16/09/16 08:25 PM
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I had another thought, maybe it's different for men and women in terms of marrying up in terms of how others react to it because the 'self-made man' image is very positive, but the 'golddigger' image for women would make suspicion from family greater that way round?
/r/RedPillWives16/09/16 07:22 PM
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Sorry, I think I expressed myself badly - I can see what you mean, that's a really interesting link, and I can see some of that is definitely things I recognise. I guess I was trying to say i thought the money element is less important than the cultural gaps. Like aspirational lower middle class might clash more with established upper middle than traditional working class would, because the social values differ more, even though in raw wealth they'd be closer. Maybe when vetting, people should b…
/r/RedPillWives16/09/16 07:13 PM
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Ooh, I do see your point, my hubs is from a working class background, and it does make a difference sometimes. Things like valuing time/money differently sometimes with work on house or cars being something, or him being really reluctant to accept money from my parents when his wage was lower. They offered to help with home purchase, and he insisted it would only be a loan. We don't really have tension over it generally though, from moving in together he dealt with overall finances and bills and…
/r/RedPillWives16/09/16 11:52 AM
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"Little boys telling each other what it means to be a man and how right they are", is how hubs describes them. They really need some more balanced views from what i've seen, I get they're angry and insecure in many cases, but they seem as bad as feminists for demonising the opposite sex to me.
/r/RedPillWives16/09/16 08:51 AM
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I agree, but I think the class bit is less important than culture, really class is only money-related when you take out the culture bits. If people are very culturally similar but one happens to have been raised by more wealthy parents, I think the issues aren't going to be too big. I don't think it has no importance, just that the important bits of class relate to culture, not just money. You're so right about culture becoming more important when raising children especially, I think that's real…
/r/RedPillWives16/09/16 08:35 AM
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Thankyou, I will try to repeat this to myself! I think it's partially a leftover hangup from having postnatal depression, I incline a bit too easily to feeling guilty or not a 'good mum' to her, and need a kick to the hamster to get out of such thoughts sometimes. But you're right that being a good mum means doing the beneficial thing, not giving in, and I think your mantra will help :)
/r/RedPillWives15/09/16 11:32 AM
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Your parents' marriage and upbringing will influence how you behave in a marriage. A broken home breeds children who are likely to struggle in their own relationships. Oh god yes, my parents divorce and remarriages definately screwed up my view of relationships and even men entirely for a long while. My husband had to ask me twice to marry him (several years apart) because I felt like marriage would jinx us, even though we were strongly committed.
/r/RedPillWives15/09/16 09:27 AM
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Your attitude to the guilt is where i'm aiming for, but the hamster is strong on this! She's also an only child, and it is great for her, but i sometimes still need a hug and reminding that i'm not the bad guy, as hubs says. He's agreed to do the first day of proper school though, i'd be in bits if she cried and pleaded, but he's pretty good at focussing our daughter with a little "You need to do this to learn and become a good grown-up when you're big, you'll be ok, and I'll be proud of you" sp…
/r/RedPillWives15/09/16 07:42 AM
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Aw poor you, a shower just isn't the same :( You just can't melt into super hot water and let all your soreness out in a shower I find, a steam room and jacuzzi at the gym is quite close, but being at home is better!
/r/RedPillWives14/09/16 04:58 PM
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What I do to just smile go in for a huge hug from my SO. Never fails!! So true, when all is rubbish, I always smile if I get a big hug where I get my head in under his chin and hide from the world!
/r/RedPillWives14/09/16 03:16 PM
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A bath after working out is just wonderful, I always feel mentally and physically relaxed and if i've achieved my goals then i could lie in a warm little bubble of contentment for ages. The thing I hate doing (not that it's every day) is dropping my daughter off at childcare, she is really awkward about going sometimes and even though she loves it she tries to guilt me into not taking her. It's like having a tiny lawyer trying to find loopholes in my argument whilst I get ready for work and try …
/r/RedPillWives14/09/16 02:39 PM
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That video is one of my favourites as well, it really shows just how far from reality things have gotten!
/r/RedPillWives13/09/16 10:12 AM
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I have thoughts on your questions, it has taken me since last night to work out what i wanted to say on three and four! I think loss of control vulnerability for me has two parts, one being sometimes submitting and conceding control, the other being conceding self-sufficiency. The first is an emotional thing, accepting compromise more, but the second is a difficult thing for a modern woman because it means material vulnerability as well when compared to going it alone. I think there's also a vul…
/r/RedPillWives13/09/16 07:08 AM
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I laughed so much :D I tried to imitate with a comparison about dating but I can't do it justice, my version isn't really TBP so much as 'feminist' boys I've known vs reality. The closest that I could get was: Perception Feminist boys: I totally support feminism, a woman should have the right to do whatever she wants always Girl doomed to RPW: I approve, do things for me, and I will select the most feminist of you for my co-equal life partner Future hubs: grr, hate feminism, women for sex, also …
/r/RedPillWives13/09/16 05:43 AM
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Good: Have kept up my workout classes, despite feeling sore Also, I read more of the wiki linked posts, and have been more proactive as a result, more enthusiastic and playful around stuff. I'm blushing for entirely unrelated reasons as I write that :) Also, my dress for a wedding this Saturday is hopefully fixed after initially being awfully fitted. I was very polite but firm and the shop gave me a new seamstress and she redid the fitting, so I can breathe and dance and everything. Bad: still d…
/r/RedPillWives12/09/16 04:22 PM
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Thankyou for the links, I had a think about it and that all seems to say they think they know better than us what we want, how our partners are with us and that we should defer to their ideology over what our judgement tells us. Which is very unpleasant, and disrespectful, in a way that i've never seen anyone here be. Personally, I think your post on sex and also coochquarantine's on the wiki are great encouragement to take control, and to be realistic about what a relationship needs, there's no…
/r/RedPillWives12/09/16 02:59 PM
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Each country seems to treat marriage just a tiny bit different, and have different approaches to maiden names and so on. Like in England you only have to state you wish to use maiden name professionally for passports and it's all legal, but hyphenation can't be done at the time of marriage, it requires deed poll.
/r/RedPillWives12/09/16 12:22 PM
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I didn't know that, but some of my friends keep their maiden name as a 'professional' name to ensure that things like contact details stay constant. One did say she liked that her LinkedIn profile had a different name to her facebook, making it harder for clients to check her facebook.
/r/RedPillWives12/09/16 10:34 AM
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WTF. If he cannot tell if you're into it, then you are probably going to have shitty sex, because he clearly can't read body language. Yes, we should be able to say 'stop', but demanding we constantly have to say 'go' is a silly idea, and not how people act in the moment.
/r/RedPillWives12/09/16 10:22 AM
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Aw, that's a good compromise, it shows you love them both, but you have your new family as first priority - I did feel a bit of loyalty to my father about the name as well, but he is incredibly unsentimental and I think it was actually my sister who cared far more. She'd got married first and did insist on hyphenation, and she saw me taking my husband's name as acting as inferior. My husband was actually more bothered by the idea of hyphenation than me not taking his name! He said he'd rather st…
/r/RedPillWives12/09/16 10:10 AM
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Yep, got to say I did consider it, not in terms of starting a relationship, but I wasn't overly keen on taking my husbands name initially, because it sounded 'northern' to me. By the time I got to getting married, however, I was excited to be officially taking his name. I think my mental image of northerners had changed from 'common, miserable and angry' to 'traditional, loyal and hardworking' by then! Makes me sound really prejudiced there :( But class and regional image is a big thing in Engla…
/r/RedPillWives12/09/16 07:20 AM
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I get their dislike of the redpill boys, there's some sleazy stuff there and a lot of fisherman's tales. But the hate for people like us who are just trying to be happy is horrible. How does it hurt them if I respect my husband and support him leading the family?
/r/RedPillWives12/09/16 06:55 AM
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I started showing it to M but he couldn't make it past the glasses chick who says the video is for people who "like to fuck but don't want to rape anyone" I did the same before posting it, and I think it was about then hubs was muttering "oh for fuck's sake". Almost as funny as his reaction to a gender pronouns video I found (which may make another SPS) where his reaction was "you like boys, girls, or both, this is retarded".
/r/RedPillWives12/09/16 06:49 AM
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Yeah, I am sceptical of anyone who seems to want the status of 'rape victim' publicly. I've worked in mental health a bit, and it really destroyed my willingness to take people's word for it, after too many false claims. Even my boss at the time was like that, and when I discussed post-natal depression with her, straight away she was telling me how traumatised she'd been. Later, she went on about being a rape survivor, and I was thinking "so you had a fling and regretted it". I don't want to be …
/r/RedPillWives12/09/16 06:35 AM
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Exactly, and it makes me frustrated because uk law is clear: you need a reasonable belief in consent. That means to me can't say you have no responsibility to try and display a lack of consent, or legally it can't be rape unless you're unconscious, as far as I know. If there is bad communication, what has probably occurred is bad sex, not rape - I feel that some women want to be able to withhold consent even up to sex and decide afterwards if they were into it or not or even just if they regrett…
/r/RedPillWives12/09/16 06:24 AM
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Every time you have fun and noone signs a consent form, a tumblerina is triggered anew ;)
/r/RedPillWives11/09/16 09:11 PM
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I pinched this from cringeanarchy, so we can all be properly informed about consent ;)
/r/RedPillWives11/09/16 07:29 PM
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Thanks, I see :) Wow! I'd only heard my hubs explanation of the main redpill sub... Not actually looked. And the blue pill sub seems really hateful too!
/r/RedPillWives11/09/16 04:11 PM
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Well, that's my tumblrina fix for the day, even easier than /r/cringeanarchy! Small question, what is a terper? Like a wideboy?
/r/RedPillWives11/09/16 12:00 PM
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You can only do what you can, don't beat yourself up if it does go wrong. It is their mess to fix in the end, but I hope it works out.
/r/RedPillWives10/09/16 06:09 PM
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I like this, I do sometimes make his lunches, but my thing the article made me think of was making sure he has a cup of tea to sit down with when he get in from work, even if i'm child-wrangling and cooking, I think.
/r/RedPillWives10/09/16 05:15 PM
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I'm almost as new to this as you (and am also engrossed by all the good advice here!), but i've always been kind of traditional/conservative in my relationship, and found it is difficult to discuss relationships with my quite dominant/feminist big sister without making her hostile. I would just try and be as good a wife as you can and hope she sees something worth copying or asking about. If she sees you guys happier, who wouldn't think you were doing something right?
/r/RedPillWives10/09/16 05:07 PM
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We're having rice gratin - i replace the cheese sauce with a packet mix and add a tiny bit of english mustard and cayenne to bring out the cheese flavour, and use whatever roasting veg we have in, probably peppers, courgette, onion and carrots.
/r/RedPillWives10/09/16 05:40 AM
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Wow, that's a brilliant clip, i'll watch the rest in a bit, but it expresses exactly what I meant from what i've seen in the bit you linked to!
/r/RedPillWives09/09/16 05:12 PM
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My view on dress differs. I don't think what you were justifies bad behaviour such as rude comments, groping, catcalling etc. I don't think it justifies it, but it is taking a risk sometimes. There are drunk or aggressive (or both!) men out there, and if I was alone and attracting male attention, especially with the impression of being 'easy' or really drunk, I'd expect to catch the attention of those looking to take advantage. Even a decent guy is going to think i'm up for sex in that situation…
/r/RedPillWives09/09/16 09:56 AM
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It's not normally my taste, but some of the Johnny Cash songs are really something I think is very RP - "I walk the line" especially. Plus, he and his wife were devoted.
/r/RedPillWives09/09/16 09:23 AM
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This is so true! I used the example to my husband of walking alone waving money and talking loudly in an area notorious for gangs and drug dealers as a comparison he would understand to the risks feminists on a slut walk were saying they should be able to take without consequence. Yes, the law is the law, and I'm not saying they deserve rape, but they are risking rape by dressing and acting provocatively around drunk men, almost 100% of whom would be no risk whatsoever sober and in a non-sexual …
/r/RedPillWives09/09/16 08:48 AM
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I could not believe some of the tricks she did, even as a newborn. She made different cries when hungry, tired and needing a nappy change, but after a couple of weeks she changed all the cries to the "hungry" cry because it got the quickest response. Devious child!
/r/RedPillWives08/09/16 06:02 PM
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Such good advice on relationships, and I would add that not meeting someone serious is OK as well, college/uni is early in life, and you may be better off waiting if your options are bad or risky. Going back to study again is harder than dating after college, so prioritise the thing you're paying a lot of money for! Hard to accept when everyone seems to be dating or hooking up, but honestly, it's better than being someone's fling or one-night-stand.
/r/RedPillWives08/09/16 08:59 AM
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This is a big one, but I'm not planning on doing much baby proofing. I think babies and children are a lot smarter than we give them credit for, and they have good instincts. They have good instincts, but I've actually seen my daughter at about 8-10 months check if i was watching then purposely bash her head on a table to make herself cry and get attention! Also, she climbs everything - so we've had to bolt stuff to walls so it can't fall on her and avoid furniture that makes climbable stairs to…
/r/RedPillWives08/09/16 07:46 AM
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I think we could have been more flexible with routine for naps and sleep- when things stop working we did adapt eventually, but it's so easy to try and stick with what you think works even after it stops working. Experimenting seems crazy when you get upset by the crying, tho. Hopefully if we have a second we will be less anxious and kind of know what's coming up development-wise and I hope to be more chilled about comparing with other mums. Maybe!
/r/RedPillWives07/09/16 10:13 PM
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Almost all of that I agree with, I have a few thoughts though FWIW Bedtime You're right, but it's tricky when they change all of a sudden, my daughter has been really easy sometimes, but then after she grows a bit, what used to work doesn't any more. I found "crying it out" really tough. TV I think some is ok, it's tricky. I think some shows have had good aspects and help small kids explain their thoughts or have educational content. But not too much, and not long periods. I read some things tha…
/r/RedPillWives07/09/16 08:29 PM
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Yes, he does :) You are right about the clip I think. Girls being embarrassed by a boy they fancy looking at them and giggling is classic. Reminds me that my husband told me he didn't know this at school - he thought girls in school giggling at him and the other rugby team players were making fun for some reason!
/r/RedPillWives07/09/16 05:33 PM
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I think that's true, sorry, it's a hangup i have - i even blush and hide my face when my husband looks too focussed at me sometimes, but a man wouldn't do anything like that at all. My mental image was a staring guy, not an attentive woman. I think sensing when it gets a bit too long a locked gaze and looking away demurely could be attractive to a man, it's inviting but feminine then?
/r/RedPillWives07/09/16 04:48 PM
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True! I find eye contact quite intimidating though, it's a bit like being scrutinised, so too much makes me go that way.
/r/RedPillWives07/09/16 02:41 PM
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I agree it's creepy, I wouldn't like someone trying to force eye contact constantly at all. If you like them a bit already, it'd be nice to have them focus on you and show attraction, but you don't want to date a stalker.
/r/RedPillWives07/09/16 02:20 PM
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My midwife recommended that tea during pregnancy. I tried some at a tea shop and I swear it tasted like dirt water. Stuff tastes weird when pregnant, maybe it would be worth another try? I hated even normal tea when pregnant, it tasted all metallic
/r/RedPillWives07/09/16 07:04 AM
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Ha, yes! Husband mostly just builds it himself and begs me to keep daughter out of the way and make tea - power tools and helpful 3 yr olds don't mix!
/r/RedPillWives06/09/16 06:02 AM
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He said it first, after our first proper kiss (3 weeks dating). I was going on holiday for a week with family the next week and wanted to stake my claim properly, so it was a relief he responded strongly! He was nervous to check my reaction was good, but then grinned and kissed me again
/r/RedPillWives06/09/16 05:49 AM
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Good: Found gym classes I like within walking distance, and Husband built rabbit enclosure so they have big outdoor pen and daughter can play with them more. I could watch for hours! Also, signed up here and for IRC, people were really nice :) Bad: Sitting near hubs brother at a wedding soon. He gets aggressive when drinking, and i find conversation really uncomfortable because you never know when he's going to insult you. Ugly: Garage roof looks in need of repair, and I'm getting quotes. Husban…
/r/RedPillWives06/09/16 05:21 AM
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