livingthedreamnow Archive

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2	Commenter on MensLib explains why custody in court often goes to the primary caregiver. In a perfect world, that would be the case. There's always more to the story. She is now working, and doing well, but I have been very successful professionally, especially since the divorce, so today I still earn at least 5 times what she does. A re-calc of the state formula, based on these new incomes works out pretty close to the same She's currently selling her house, and wants to move her and the kids about a half hour away. She wants to be in the country is the only reason. This move will …	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/04/17 08:13 PM
1	Commenter on MensLib explains why custody in court often goes to the primary caregiver. Well, in my lawyers defense he never said "don't fight this" he would have been happy to earn the extra cash from taking it to court. Where I'm at, there is a "standard" custody arrangement. It's every-other weekend and one weeknight dinner for the non-custodial parent. My local family court is infamous for sticking strictly to this standard, in the name of less disruption to the children. My lawyer basically said "we can fight this, but in the interest of full disclosure know that we'll have to…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/04/17 06:57 PM
2	Commenter on MensLib explains why custody in court often goes to the primary caregiver. They didn't actually move to that county, but I think she had to claim to be living at her parents house (who do live there). They had to bend the rules to make it happen, and it never would have worked if they weren't collaborating to essentially circumvent the family court in the home county.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/04/17 05:24 PM
2	Commenter on MensLib explains why custody in court often goes to the primary caregiver. Geography plays a huge part in this. Where I'm at, treatment varies wildly even by county. I was actually raised by a single father in my home state, so I know it can work out in a Dad's favor. It's not as fair where I live now. For example, when my SO and her ex were divorcing, they wanted 50/50 with no support for either person. They agreed to everything and were completely amicable. The only thing they ended up having to hire lawyers for, was to find a judge who would sign off on it. They end…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/04/17 05:10 PM
2	Commenter on MensLib explains why custody in court often goes to the primary caregiver. A big factor in the quoted success rate for fathers who take the custody battle to court, is that the majority of these fathers that go to court, have ex wives with serious, documented issues like addiction or abuse. It's pretty much the only time it's "worth it" to fight the system. The overarching theme of the custody process is "You can fight, but unless your ex-wife is demonstrably unfit, you will cause more harm than good". I just went through this shit show a few years ago.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/04/17 03:31 PM
1	Q4all: What are people here's, if any, experiences of the "script flipping" at age 30/35? Huge change in dynamics, but I don't know if it's a full script flip. Most opinions of me are that I'm attractive. I never had problems with women, but in my teens and twenties I had to work at it, play the game, to win girls over. Not so after mid 30's. Became single again at 37, and finding female company was a cake walk in comparison to younger years. I had several female orbiters, and even aggressive women pursuing me who wouldn't take no for an answer. Seriously I had one get so aggressive,…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/09/16 09:48 PM
16	If you had to answer "yes" or "no," how would you answer the question of whether marriage is a good for men? As a man who was married for over a decade, I can say unequivocally no. It was overall, the worst deal I ever got myself into. It was pretty much like buying a car with a balloon mortgage.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/03/16 09:01 PM
3	CMV: The only thing you need to get laid is sexual forwardness and aggressiveness. My experience is different. My good friend, was an all around good dude, with baaad skin. He shot above his pay grade in high school. He decided he wanted to try to score one of the schools top 10 finest girls, and was very confident and shameless. I remember being rather impressed with his confidence. She declined. He continued to try to win her over in all the cheesiest ways. She publicly humiliated him over it, and spread all kinds of "creeper" gossip about him around the school. I actually k…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/02/16 01:15 AM
9	CMV: The only thing you need to get laid is sexual forwardness and aggressiveness. Yep, and I think being attractive beyond the required minimum requirements of the the women being pursued is absolutely the missing element of OP's assertion. If you don't meet or exceed women's attractiveness requirement, and you are sexually forward and aggressive with them, you'll find yourself labeled a creep or prosecuted if she's that type. If you're attractive, sexually forward, and aggressive, you will definitely be getting laid.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/02/16 12:12 AM
1	We've all heard of the cock carousel, have any guys here rode the cuck carousel? Have you found your dad tends to go after the same kind of woman? No, actually just the opposite. Each time he'd divorce, he'd say "I"m never making that mistake again", and choose a woman who was very different from the last. So, for instance say, #1 was his age and mentally volatile, so for #2 he chose a woman 10 years older and a responsible working mom. That didn't work out so #3 was 10 years younger than him, and an musician.That didn't work so #4 was the same age, and a homemaker. And so o…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/12/15 07:39 PM
6	(Both pills) Does the rise of TRP and the manosphere show that young men and boys are in need of empowerment?? Can't speak for everyone, but that's essentially what led me to TRP. I'm not the guy who came for advice on women, I've been pretty successful on that front in my life, not top 10% good, but pretty damn good. I was a mentor for young men in a large organization, and after a few years, I started noticing a bunch of really troubling trends with them. Each year, they were more medicated, lonely, angry, lazy, anxious, and progressively less capable. I started drawing some correlations to the number …	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/12/15 09:07 PM
2	We've all heard of the cock carousel, have any guys here rode the cuck carousel? Here are the biggest ones for him. 1) Savior complex- choosing damaged women, thinking he'll be their knight in shining armor and save them, from themselves mostly, therefore securing their respect and love. 2) Committing too fast- operating under the horrible assumption that his blind commitment would lock in their honeymoon phase happiness. 3) Generally approaching relationships as if a woman is a prize to win, instead of realizing his own value, and recognizing that a great relationship is a …	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/12/15 08:16 PM
3	We've all heard of the cock carousel, have any guys here rode the cuck carousel? Well, in my dad's defense, I think he's starting to learn, a little bit, but it may be too late. A decade or two ago, he'd have had wife #next lined up already at this point, but he's finally staying single for a minute. That's improvement, albeit minor. I've also been trying to point out to him some of his least realistic views on relationships, and highlight the recurring patterns that result. It seems to be finally sinking in. Unfortunately for him, it's getting late in the game, and he's not…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/12/15 07:31 PM
4	We've all heard of the cock carousel, have any guys here rode the cuck carousel? I was raised by a single father, and he definitely did this. He just completed his 5th divorce at almost 60 years of age. It was an excellent education for me. I was able to pick out a host of repeating behaviors in both my dad, and the women he married. I learned early what I didn't want to be, and a ton about the often predictable nature of women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/12/15 05:27 PM
2	AWALT is a result of Red Pill men not being choosy enough. "I'm going to prioritize finding someone who has good character and whom I enjoy spending time with, even if they are less attractive" This is my thought process for choosing friends. I made the mistake of choosing a woman this way once. It resulted in a marriage that went on for 12 years. A marriage that felt like I was married to one of my aunts or something. Yea, I won't be doing that again. Now choosing a partner is a joint decision between my brain and my balls, with my balls getting the po…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/15 10:44 PM
4	Q4RP: If you could choose their sexual orientation, would you choose to be a homosexual? So, if you're a Red Piller, do you think that you would have a more fulfilling relationship if you were a homosexual? In my case, absolutely not. It's because of my red pill lens that I do in fact have very fulfilling relationships with women. I know generally what to expect from women, how to anticipate most of their actions, and how to conduct myself in order to gain fulfillment from my relationships with them. Now if I was blue pill, didn't understand / acknowledge the dynamics at play, and t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/11/15 07:35 PM
9	What is a woman to do if she doesn't desire a relationship, but still has sexual needs? At the end of the day her partner count is 3. With a count of 3, I can't imagine count being much of an issue with the vast majority of men she'd meet, unless she's 14 years old. Also why do you assume she "racked up a high partner count." Didn't assume, I made the caveat that these are the circumstances that I personally find reprehensible. I've been in the SMP for 25 years, my frame of reference is likely different from yours. Women aren't men. Yes this is true, I've flipped them over and chec…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/10/15 06:37 PM
25	What is a woman to do if she doesn't desire a relationship, but still has sexual needs? Curious as to what TRPers feel a woman in this situation should do. She should do whatever the hell she wants to do, and deal with any resulting consequences. It's fine if she just wants casual, but she's got to expect that the longer she's casual, the less chance she'll have for something long term in her life. That's both in terms of time to form a bond, as well as her attractiveness level to the men she desires. The only problem I have about a situation like this, is when she's made the choic…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/10/15 06:10 PM
9	Am I the only one that thinks caring about the # sexual partners a girl has is Bluepill behaviour For plating, N shouldn't really matter at all. For LTR there is nothing bluepill about a man having standards surrounding N, and holding firm to those standards. He's planning on making an investment, and should want to make the smartest investment he can. I'll use a car example. If you need a one time ride across town, and you are offered a ride in a 15 year old Honda Civic with 200K miles on it, you'd be a pretty backwards asshat to turn down the ride because the car isn't good enough for you.…	/r/askTRP	12/10/15 05:09 PM
2	What does it take to be a "credible man" So that a woman is willing to submit to you? In the simplest terms, be the real deal. You've got to continuously demonstrate that you are high value, that you've got shit handled on all fronts, and that you'll rock her world in the sack.	/r/askTRP	08/10/15 11:33 PM
18	For Blue and Red: How do you define modern feminism? I define feminism as a collective feminine tantrum. Much the same as how I handled my toddlers' tantrums, I think it's best just to let them cry it out. It's irritating as shit to listen to, but eventually they'll tire themselves out and take a nap.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/09/15 08:03 PM
1	Is a college degree in women a red flag ? One of my roommates was the male version. So much so, that eventually his parents paid him to quit school. They gave him a VP spot in the family business and bought him a shiny new car, just so he'd stop wasting their money. He wasn't even committed enough to finish any of the 6 different majors he pursued over the 6+ years he went to the university. But, he was a man in demand by the ladies that's for sure. Never a lonely night for that guy. No wonder he wanted to stay forever. Pretty sure he's…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/09/15 06:55 PM
1	Is a college degree in women a red flag ? Well, I'm certainly not important enough to be creating universal rules, that's why I specified that it was my experience. To clarify, I was really referring to different degrees. I've never had an issue with a woman who got a BA, and then followed that up with a master's and doctorate. I wasn't clear about that. I have met a few (a dozen maybe) women who spent 10+ years at top tier universities collecting odd degree combinations. One particular woman comes to mind with 4 different art degrees f…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/09/15 05:07 PM
7	Is a college degree in women a red flag ? Decades of experience and observations, of repeating themes of tremendous mental instability, from these two groups (cat hoarders, and career students). I think it likely stems from cat hoarders anthropomorphising their pets and confusing them with real human relationships, and career students confusing the university environment for the "real world". Both of these people become pretty incompatible potential partners, unless they pair up only with those who's lives are equally entrenched in the …	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/09/15 02:54 PM
17	Is a college degree in women a red flag ? A Woman with a college degree is like a woman with a cat. Both the cat and the degree are pretty irrelevant from an attractiveness standpoint, but it shows some level of responsibility. By the same token, in my experience, a woman with several degrees, is similar to a woman with a house full of cats. Both are likely to be certifiably nuts.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/09/15 02:38 PM
11	TRP - If women, fundamentally, cannot be introspective, is it then futile having such debates if biologically, females cannot be…truthful about any imperative gender shortcomings? This is another one of those things that is not meant to be a 100% absolute across the board, but represents a high enough proportion of the female population that you can make a base assumption. Yes, there are some women who are capable of honest introspection, but they are few. These women also tend to be in the bottom SMV brackets, because they are faced with more rejection / indifference from their desired partner pool, i.e. they live a life closer to that of the average man. I've actually h…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/09/15 01:57 PM
1	what's the difference between oneitis (ex) and alpha widow? Oneitis in a man, is basically the mental operating assumption, that one particular woman is the best and only real match for him. This results in him excusing her bad behavior, subjugating himself to her, and anything else under the sun to placate her, to keep this assumed one, and only true match in his sphere. Moving on to other women, doesn't happen, because a man has to work to meet women, and he won't do that work if he believes he's already found his one, unique counterpart. In his mind, …	/r/askTRP	28/08/15 01:57 PM
2	Is TRP having an effect? I generally prefer the company of other people who don't want a short term I would say we're similar in this regard, but in the pursuit of those folks, I end up developing a pretty wide range of acquaintances. Time and place must be a big factor if I've never heard anyone ever say these words. These words were the standard siren song of the yearning or broken hearted women in my life between the 1990's to the recent past. I've only recently noticed a very pronounced verbal openness about the des…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/15 01:10 AM
2	gray hair 20s First, stop giving a fuck. The reason you're getting shit, is because it's a sudden change. I developed a streak of grey hair on the side of my head at 17, and it just progressed from there. I'm still on the dark side of salt and pepper now overall. Women have always responded very well to it actually. Guys would give me shit on rare occasion, like "OMG is that GREY HAIR?!",, and I'd just be unaffected and respond with something like "probably, don't worry you'll find out all about it when you g…	/r/askTRP	21/08/15 12:18 AM
6	Is TRP having an effect? TRP is really only commentary on the SMP from the male POV, and with masculine goals as the underlying constant. It's not a religion or movement that is meant to change anything. Imagine the SMP is a football game, TRP is only equivalent to the guys in the press box. What I will say that I've noticed IRL in the past year, is the number of women who are very upfront about their desire for alphas, and their disgust for betas, in the context of sex. The "All I want is a nice guy" bullshit they used…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/08/15 11:49 PM
7	Is there any reason for a man to get married in today's society? The kids thing makes it sticky. If you want to have kids, marriage is "kid stability for dummies", at the higher producer's risk. I've seen folks have kids outside of marriage, and it work out wonderfully. I've also seen plenty have kids in marriage, with train wreck endings. If you're smart, and you enlist the help of a decent attorney, you can create a pretty solid security framework around a non-married child birth. You have to plan it out, and think about all the angles though. Me though, I'…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/08/15 09:08 PM
11	Is there any reason for a man to get married in today's society? is there any reason for your average Joe to get married in today's society? ANY reason? Sure, based on the individual. Faith, and family tend to be the two most cited "reasons". For me as an individual, absolutely no reason at all. It used to be that the most accomplished folks were the ones drawn to marriage as a statement of status, but I just don't think that makes any sense these days, and I think it's really the lower income levels that still receive some tangible benefit from marriage. For…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/08/15 08:55 PM
4	What if all men followed the Red Pill Ideal: Attractive, fun, strong & healthy, not push overs, what would society look like? If all men became red pillers, there'd be a whole lot more confident and satisfied men in the world. I firmly believe the suicide rate would drop by roughly 50% as well. Yes though, hypergamy would still exist. It's relative, not absolute.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/08/15 08:24 PM
6	How do you talk about TRP to your friends? Generally, you don't. My male friends are typically social justice warriors and won't entertain any sexist conversation. ESPECIALLY with these types. My brain needs some personal stimulation. Some man to man conversation about truth. About being unplugged. What the fuck do I do? What the fuck did YOU do? I have 1 close friend who has been married for decades. He's a solid leader, and a successful family man. He naturally understands most of the principles we discuss in TRP, and I openly talk to …	/r/askTRP	19/08/15 03:58 PM
3	Does TRP claim talent and/or accomplishments are not sexually attractive in women? Why? Nowhere did I say that feminine is equal to easy. Yes, in my opinion, acting and most art, leans toward the feminine. I say that, because the main goal of acting and art is to stir emotional responses and thoughts from an audience, which is in the feminine wheelhouse, and not generally a part of masculine methodology. It's not about building, creating, innovating, or conquering. But my reference is only on the nature of the work here, and not a judgement of a person who does such work. Conversel…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/08/15 05:14 PM
4	Does TRP claim talent and/or accomplishments are not sexually attractive in women? Why? Yes it is individual, as most things are. That said though, when I look around me, which is limited scope without a doubt, there are pretty reliable patterns behind what works for high value men, vs what doesn't work. Everyone who married an accomplished, driven woman, was divorced, myself included. The relationships that have survived among my peers, are distinctly the ones in which they have a supportive spouse. Their wives aren't stupid by any measure, but they definitely take a supporting ro…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/08/15 03:58 PM
10	Does TRP claim talent and/or accomplishments are not sexually attractive in women? Why? why does TRP encourage women to not waste their time exploring/developing their aptitudes? TRP doesn't encourage women to do anything, it's not for women, it's only concerned with how to deal with them / what to expect from them. RPW certainly does advise women to develop their feminine hobbies and talents, because those are bonus points to a wider pool of high value men. As an example, an attractive woman who can cook with skill, and is a good singer, is more attractive to high value men, than …	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/08/15 03:30 PM
5	Does the game really get easier for guys in America as they get older? Explain college! Here's my analogy. Have you ever been to the carnival, and seen the gold fish game? You dangle a mock fishing pole in a wading pool, and you collect a plastic fish. College is similar to that. You have a tightly packed pool, and with only basic skills required, you will "win" something, simply by choosing to play. That something is usually pretty lacking in value, due to the ease with which it is obtained. But you can practically surround yourself with plastic fish. By contrast, in the post-grad…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/08/15 03:39 PM
2	If you can't get intellectual with a woman, how or why would you even LTR ever? It's all up to what you want out of life. I'm primarily a LTR guy. Yes, I've had stretches of random short term hookups in between LTRs, but ultimately LTRs are what I'm drawn to. The caveat being that I only LTR women who are unquestionably LTR worthy, and I won't get married again. Some benefits for me in LTRs with LTR worthy women are that sex gets better and more adventurous, I have a first mate who gets better at her role every day, I create a good example for my kids for how quality relati…	/r/askTRP	06/08/15 03:01 PM
7	Any accountants here? I have an accounting degree, and I've been building my career for roughly 18 years. Are you going to probably have mind numbing days as a staff accountant, sure. But guess what, you'd have mind numbing days if you were a professional porn star too. Everything gets tedious when you have to do it day in, and day out. Here's the most basic truths I can give you about this particular profession. There are more job openings than applicants, making it a very secure choice that gives you options. It's …	/r/askTRP	03/08/15 06:55 PM
10	How is dying alone worse than staying with a gender that will resent you by the time you're 30? TRP complains about promiscuous women and their inability to remain attached No. TRP has a very important place for these women, and that is as plates. Plates are great,, they're easy and temporary, what's not to love about that? We simply warn that these women are very bad prospects for long term relationships and family building. men just resent being with you beyond your expiration date no matter how pleasant you might be? Maybe some. Mostly though, you'll find the resentment comes from marry…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/07/15 07:00 PM
6	Redpillers: why do you think all women want to ride the cock carousel? That would be a completely different topic, that's been beat to death and back in this forum already, but I'll play this one time. No, it's not hypocritical. Men and women are not the same. They're different from their DNA, all the way to their neurological processing. You can't compare these two different things, and call the differences hypocrisy. Yes, it is a double standard. That isn't a sin. Double standards exist in many things in society, women and men are often held to different standard…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/07/15 09:37 PM
4	Redpillers: why do you think all women want to ride the cock carousel? Hell yea, and I'd hope so,,, it would be pretty disturbing to think that all these women do this and don't enjoy it. But that doesn't change the trade offs involved.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/07/15 09:24 PM
6	Redpillers: why do you think all women want to ride the cock carousel? Pretty much, but we're discussing particularly women and the carousel,,, not sexually successful men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/07/15 09:19 PM
5	Redpillers: why do you think all women want to ride the cock carousel? I don't think there's much distinction from a practical standpoint. Seeking validation because it comes easy, isn't much different from seeking validation because you crave it. If you seek it because it's easy,,, soon enough you'll be seeking it because you crave it. It's very similar to drug addiction.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/07/15 09:04 PM
15	Redpillers: why do you think all women want to ride the cock carousel? First, carousel riders are not unsuitable for certain forms of relationships,, they just make less suitable LTR or marriage candidates. I believe there's a curve. The girl who let loose freshman year of college, but reeled herself in quickly is a much better prospect than the woohoo girl who's been riding that carousel like it's her job for 5-10 years.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/07/15 08:39 PM
17	Redpillers: why do you think all women want to ride the cock carousel? this is true for a lot of people. Maybe, but women in general are particularly bitten by the validation bug. Log onto your facebook account and do a selfie count, guys vs girls. If the guys in your circle are like mine, you'll find a roughly 12 to 1 ratio of female selfies to male selfies. So why do the women put up so many? Compare the "like" counts. There's your answer. See gonewild for an even more exaggerated example of what I'm driving at. liking validation is not the same as purposely goin…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/07/15 08:22 PM
19	Redpillers: why do you think all women want to ride the cock carousel? fucking lots of random men isnt appealing at all... Not for you,,, but I assure you there is no shortage of grrrrrrl power types, who fuck for sport and brag about headcount. Plus, even if fucking lots of random men isn't appealing to most women,,,, receiving validation, being lusted after and pursued by men, is very appealing to the majority of women. The sex "just happened".	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/07/15 08:07 PM
2	Husband turned beta? Seeking advice. Is it possible to "get him back on track" so to speak, or is he just showing his true colors? What can i as a wife do to help turn things around and to be a more ideal partner. If you want to move toward a good captain / first mate relationship, send him here, have him read the sidebar and lurk, and get yourself over to RPW to do the same.	/r/askTRP	09/07/15 02:55 PM
10	If AWALT, why does female cheating matter at all? She was a liar and a cheater (since AWALT) from the very beginning. No. AWALT, isn't meant to say that all women are liars and cheaters. AWALT is meant to communicate the point that the motivators that make women liars and cheaters, will affect all women. A high value man, who gives her the tingles, is going to turn her on and cause her to work for attention.. AWALT. It's your job to be that guy,, the one who is high value and gives her tingles. Use AWALT to your advantage. Writing all women off…	/r/TheRedPill	09/07/15 02:32 PM
3	[Discussion / both pills] Social Immaturity driving society to turn to BP / RP First you have to start by defining "mature". Not long ago, a man showed "maturity" by working hard, taking on a wife, supporting that wife, and building a family around her. Women showed maturity by being a faithful, reliable, second in command, that could be counted on to nurture both the husband and the family. Over the past couple generations, the feminine culture has done everything in it's power to convince women that their "maturity" is oppression. They've been encouraged to completely ab…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/07/15 06:43 PM
3	SINGLE DADS: How do you other single dads deal with ex's without being beta? You're doing well. Mine has chilled out quite a bit over the years, but was similar in the beginning. My usual response was something like "as much fun as I'm having, standing here watching you embarrass yourself,, I actually have a lot to do, so I'm going to go,,, call me if you have a question about drop off",, then I gave her a smile, turned on my heels, got in the car and drove off. The key is to not engage, and don't address any parts of the rant, almost as if you've gone deaf. Sometimes sh…	/r/askTRP	26/06/15 06:18 PM
1	Consider taking up wrestling. I was a dual sport athlete for many years (wrestling / american football), and I definitely agree with the points you make about wrestling. One more thing that you develop with wrestling, is getting comfortable putting yourself out there solo, in front of a large crowd. You have these large crowds watching only you (in a singlet no less), and you have to put that pressure and self consiousness out of your mind, and do what needs done. Yes, the wins feel incredible when you succeed purely on your…	/r/TheRedPill	26/06/15 01:29 PM
16	If being a slut is so empowering, why are sluts ashamed of being one? Would you say this is due internalised misogyny, or are women naturally not meant to be promiscuous? I'd say neither. It's basically because women are granted a large amount of intrinsic social value due to their ability to bear and raise children, the next wave of society. With that value, comes some pressure to use that value responsibly. We do it with other groups too,, take police for example. They hold a position that gives them value to a point that they can make life and death decisions a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/06/15 08:58 PM
2	Redpillers, Roosh says the wall is softer than you think and that women over 30 still have unlimited choices. Your thoughts? Truth is, the options these women have aren't just unattractive men. You seem to think women don't like beta qualities which is false. I don't disagree at all. I know women are attracted to betas for certain purposes, and there are a ton of physically attractive beta men. And I also agree that for LTRs, ideally there is a proper mix of alpha and beta qualities demonstrated. Beta isn't evil,,, it simply isn't what I was naturally made to be, so it's not a path I take. I work to incorporate specif…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/06/15 03:33 AM
10	Redpillers, Roosh says the wall is softer than you think and that women over 30 still have unlimited choices. Your thoughts? Yes, the theoretical wall is soft, I think that's obvious as well. But it's really irrelevant, as all it reaffirms is the fact that there is a never ending sea of thirsty betas, just dying to dive in to a steady pussy. When speaking of "options",, it's important to differentiate between sexual options, and commitment options. A woman will for every minute of her life, have more sexual options. Her commitment options are plentiful when young, and drop off sharply at the wall,,, however soft it ma…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/06/15 01:50 AM
5	Storing your sperm and getting snipped. While I personally admire you for taking control of your reproductive choices,,, you absolutely didn't eliminate your risk of ending up paying child support. At some point you're still going to have to put your faith in a woman to reproduce with,, from that point forward, you are still basically banking on her sustaining her desire to maintain a quality relationship with you for 18 years. Anything short of that goal, will likely result in you paying child support Again though, you taking total c…	/r/TheRedPill	11/06/15 11:39 PM
13	Both Pills: How would you summarize TheRedPill ? TheRedPill- Masculine life tactics that at one time were shared and passed down through the men in your family, but now must be discussed anonymously on the internet to avoid personal retribution from an over feminized society.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/06/15 09:48 PM
5	Which states have the least man-raping marriage laws? Or which states are best for marriage? Tax exemptions don't apply all of the time. I'm in a situation where getting married would actually increase our combined tax liability, because her entire salary would be taxed at my marginal tax rate,, which is very high. Spousal privileges, can be identically mimic'd with a will, living will, and durable power of attorney. $250 and 1.5 hours with a lawyer. Can't it be worth it with a solid pre-nup? Maybe,,, sometimes,, if the conditions are just right. But, it's much smarter to have things un…	/r/TheRedPill	11/06/15 09:31 PM
4	tbp and trp: marriage n divorce, why go for it? I guess it's a couple more states than I thought,,, and still 11 states too many.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/06/15 05:40 PM
8	tbp and trp: marriage n divorce, why go for it? I think it's about 2 years in the UK and most american states. A lot of Canada is still affected by common law. I don't know about the UK, but most states in the US eliminated common law by the turn of the millennium. There are only like 3 or 4 common law states left today. I grew up in a common law state, and moved to another common law state,, but both have dropped it at this point (although I believe you can be grandfathered in if you were living together before they ended it). I only know be…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/06/15 05:28 PM
3	An average income just doesn't cut it anymore they want to believe that promotions are somehow always gotten by someone with 'connections' or something. Yep, it's hamstering, plain and simple. By chance, I work for an organization in which both the CEO and the CFO are 30+ year employees who started off in very modest roles with the company. Did they have connections that helped them climb the ladder in the company?,, absolutely. Why did they have connections?,,, because over time, they proved themselves to be truly extraordinary men, and th…	/r/TheRedPill	04/06/15 04:47 PM
9	An average income just doesn't cut it anymore Here's some encouragement for you, from a guy 15 years further down the same path you're on,, if you play your cards right, you're going to shatter the assumptions you made here. Your situation is more about the differences in how a HR career progresses, vs how an Accounting & Finance career progresses. HR staffers get compensated pretty well right out of the gate, but they are pretty much capped at a level that you will easily blow past if you make yourself a subject matter expert in technical …	/r/TheRedPill	04/06/15 02:13 PM
2	Women abuse the fact that divorce laws benefit them. I wouldn't be in a hurry to have kids completely alone. I would definitely aim for a LTR, just like the one I have. I simply wouldn't marry, and she'd have to stay self sufficient. We'd know from the instant that the child was born, what our agreement would be if we had to part ways, instead of leaving it up to a family court judge to decide in divorce. You don't have these agreements in marriage, because you operate under the faulty assumption that marriage is infinite and never ending. Then yo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/06/15 07:35 PM
12	Which advantages do women have in society? Really, this can be summed up quickly. They enjoy many rights, without the related responsibility.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/06/15 06:27 PM
3	Women abuse the fact that divorce laws benefit them. If you have kids though, how do you manage it with kids? Today they're older and I have a top shelf SO. Her career affords her the ability to be home when the kids are done with school. My SO loves my kids and is very supportive of who I am. It's an awesome home life, and she's accepting of the fact that we'll never get married. If I was doing it all over again, and starting with babies,,, I'd definitely be going the Au pair route. The "hardest job in the world" can actually be hired out relativ…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/06/15 05:47 PM
2	Women abuse the fact that divorce laws benefit them. I agree with all of your premises here,,, but there is one that I'd like to expand on a little. Also, married people's assets do climb. So while you are married, you do benefit financially in a significant way. While comprehensive statistics show this to be true,,, it's by no means a rule for all parties that enter marriage. I've been to the divorce rodeo myself and here are a couple facts from my personal experience. I was married for 10 years, and had joint assets for all 10 of those. After 10…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/06/15 04:56 PM
2	Women abuse the fact that divorce laws benefit them. This was the '80's, and my sister and I were teens. The part of the story that got missed, is that he had already re-financed the home, to pay my mother out for the first divorce, and his credit was left pretty damaged as well. Of course the house is only one part of the equation. There were pension value increases, cars, and other property that required his cash to settle. The house is what pushed everything over the tipping point. I'm calling bullshit on the whole damn story. Oh it's bullshit …	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/06/15 03:42 PM
3	Women abuse the fact that divorce laws benefit them. This was in the '80's in a common law jurisdiction,, so today things may be able to be covered, that weren't then and there.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/06/15 12:58 PM
3	Women abuse the fact that divorce laws benefit them. This was in the '80's in a common law jurisdiction,, so today things may be able to be covered, that weren't then and there. Not only didn't she deserve the equity increase from his house, but he also funded her daughter's college tuition with his income during the marriage. That cash spent, isn't an asset, nor a liability, so there is no recovering half of it or anything. It's just a straight loss. I guess the lesson is: Only marry a woman that makes more money and has more property than you do…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/06/15 12:57 PM
2	Women abuse the fact that divorce laws benefit them. I didn't mean to insinuate that he owned the house outright. He was the only name on the deed, and he owned it before the marriage. Unfortunately, he was leveraged pretty heavily against the house, and his credit was poor as a result of having to pay my mother out from the first divorce.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/06/15 12:37 PM
15	Women abuse the fact that divorce laws benefit them. Real life example. My dad owned his house and raised us kids in it. He met and married a woman with a pre-nup,, their marriage lasted only 5 years. During those 5 years, my dad's house appreciated aprox 80K. Wife runs off with a lover, and is entitled to half of the appreciation in my father's property value (not protect-able by pre-nup). Dad doesn't have 40K in cash sitting around. Dad has to sell the house to pay her off. We lose our childhood home. The pre-nup kept her from getting 50% of the…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/06/15 09:06 PM
1	How the destruction of marriage is DESTROYING the feminist welfare state Largely because they bring their culture with them when they immigrate. Family is still very, very important in the hispanic culture. Even then, it's really the recent immigrants who are most likely to have large families. 3rd and 4th generation immigrants are much more likely to adopt the native US culture of self gratification and extended adolescence, than to cleave to the culture of their parents and grandparents. The trends for these 3rd and 4th generation Hispanics are much closer to the n…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/06/15 09:27 PM
-1	How the destruction of marriage is DESTROYING the feminist welfare state Also, if economics was the deciding factor on birth rates, poorer countries would have LOWER birth rates not HIGHER. Exactly. The most affluent nations in the world have less than 10 births per 1,000 inhabitants. Niger has aprox. 50 births per 1,000 inhabitants. It's not an economic issue, as much as many would like to paint it as such. It's a cultural issue.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/06/15 09:09 PM
4	Passing down the Pill: On Children and Marriage if she feels her SMV is relative to mine after we get married, doesn't she also have to feel she can land the richer, handsomer, more athletic, Fortune 250 CEO for me to worry about her hypergamy Nope. There are different types of dominant men. The chances that she'd run off with a more athletic CEO of a Fortune 100 company are very small,,, the chances that she'd be fucking / trying to fuck a tatted up bad boy, or something similar eventually, while you are off taking care of business, are stil…	/r/TheRedPill	29/05/15 08:28 PM
22	Passing down the Pill: On Children and Marriage I understand your point, but I firmly believe you've got a major misconception in here. For reference, I'm a natural alpha, raised by a single father, and a divorced father of 2. If I am as red pill as I think I am, and continue to better myself, I will never have to worry about getting divorced raped. This ignores the most important aspect of SMV,, and that is that it's relative. You having higher actual SMV than your woman, gets nullified if her self-perceived SMV increases drastically. For ex…	/r/TheRedPill	29/05/15 06:29 PM
2	Dating Girl Who Loves Sex, But Refuses Blowjobs Depends on what you want man,, hopefully she's only a plate. For god's sake don't text about it anymore though. Logistics only. If the good sex is enough for you to want to keep this plate spinning,,, then I'd ignore this, and enjoy the good sex. If you don't really care, then when you see her, tell her that while her comments about her other qualities might be true, you're with her in a physical relationship and it seems that she's either unwilling, or unable to meet your physical needs, so you…	/r/askTRP	14/05/15 09:01 PM
3	A little TIFU for MRP. the best thing I have in my arsenal is to shut the fuck up. That's fine. Then separate your finances, tell her why, and then shut the fuck up, while she shit storms her self exhausted. Your relationship is out of control today, every day that you don't make the changes needed, is another day you endorse exactly what is happening. You should really start immediately.	/r/MarriedRedPill	14/05/15 04:02 PM
7	A little TIFU for MRP. So if I understand, she's threatening divorce, and blowing through your bank account. It's time to direct all of your pay into your own account. Nothing about marriage says bank accounts have to be joint accounts. I'd tell her, that given her shaky opinion of the marriage, combined with the excessive spending, you've made this decision. That you will still continue your support of her, but that you don't want these surprises, so you're going to direct your finances yourself. She just needs to re…	/r/MarriedRedPill	14/05/15 01:47 PM
1	Any advice when you've stopped giving a shit to the point you don't care for anything to do with women? It's times like this that offer a great opportunity to double down with whatever self improvement you'd like to accomplish. Want more physical size, spend the extra time at the gym. Want to advance your career, put in the extra hours at the office. Get a degree, learn to weld, learn a foreign language,,, whatever you're actually trying to do with your life,,, jump into it. Spend a year or two focused on a big goal, and after you achieve it,,, do a fresh assessment of the SMP and see what you thi…	/r/askTRP	13/05/15 11:50 PM
6	LTR With-held sex. I lost frame and got angry. OK. I wasn't there, so I can't say I know for sure. Perhaps it's semantics, but if a man acts like this, and his LTR not only sticks around till he's chilled out, but then goes down on him afterwards, I'd say she is taking a submissive posture.	/r/askTRP	13/05/15 05:31 PM
13	LTR With-held sex. I lost frame and got angry. Don't agree at all in this case. LTR game isn't the same as spinning plates. Abundance mentality is the silent proclamation of "I don't care,, I have plenty of options". Being unfazed, and sleeping soundly instead, sends that message. It clearly seems like a one off incident from the description given. If her rebuttal was a recurring theme, or if she was just a plate, my approach would be very different,,, but this post comes across as a tantrum thrown the first time it happened. LTR game is a l…	/r/askTRP	13/05/15 03:46 PM
99	TRP has shattered my world and made me realise what a sexually grovelling beta I've become. Uncoordinated rant. Don't get me wrong, we get along very well and I do definitely see LTR potential with her (I am marrying her after all). however she recently dropped the bombshell: you're never getting one for the rest of your life. Get used to it. Even if my jaw was fine, I'd only do it once a year. Getting her to a point of wanting sex is a game of 95% rejection. I'm sorry man but if you get married under these circumstances, you are asking for a life of un-fulfillment and misery. How can you possibly reconci…	/r/TheRedPill	13/05/15 03:18 PM
23	LTR With-held sex. I lost frame and got angry. You got several things here that need addressed. First, you broke frame in the most nuclear and cringe-worthy way. That's on you. You say she never turns you down,, so this is an isolated event, not a routine behavior that needs corrected. You should have embraced abundance mentality, said "OK, suit yourself" gave her a peck on the forehead, rolled over and went to sleep. Now my current course of action from losing my frame is to radio silence for a few days. I'm supposed to be going to see her …	/r/askTRP	13/05/15 02:30 PM
0	What do you think of r/RedPillWomen I just jumped over there and read up. That's awesome!	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/05/15 12:12 AM
3	What do you think of r/RedPillWomen Not that I don't believe you, I just haven't seen that contingent speak up often when the inevitable "I have an awesome relationship with a great captain, but he doesn't want to get married" posts come up. It's almost always the "he needs to shit or get off the pot" responses that are upvoted to the moon. I've tried to advance the discussion about commitment vs marriage, and it never seems to gain traction. I'm still a big fan, and visit every day, so I'll keep my eye out for them. I often read …	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/05/15 08:55 PM
1	Where do you guys usually meet your women? You don't give your age, so I'm assuming you're young. First,, stop worrying about how others may perceive you. You just do you, and let the rest of the world worry about their opinions. Second,, you need exposure to women. Make a challenge to yourself for a week, to walk up to an attractive girl every day, and compliment something about her. Just say something like "Hey,,, I like your _______". It's a low risk way to ease into interactions,,, easy, right? The next week, do the same thing, but s…	/r/askTRP	12/05/15 08:46 PM
10	Agree to sex everytime she asks for it? If you are high value enough, this is gold. If you are not, she'll LMR you when you initiate, to try to gain back control. I was on a third date with a girl long ago, she had a little bit too much to drink, and wanted to bang. I told her no, that I wasn't interested in having sex with her when she's drunk, she'd need all her faculties if, and when that happened. She puffed out her lower lip, and said OK,,, I went to sleep in the other room. From that point forward, she was single mindedly focuse…	/r/askTRP	12/05/15 08:28 PM
1	What do you think of r/RedPillWomen I love them. They offer good, solid, sexual strategy to women looking ultimately for Red Pill Marriages. Ironically enough, I wouldn't be with one IRL because of their general philosophy that marriage is the only committed relationship that there is.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/05/15 07:45 PM
1	How do men who make six figures and have chiseled bodies get time to screen for good women? It's not as hard as you think. I'm usually at the office till about 7PM. I'd set up drink dates for 7:30PM near my work, about 3 nights a week. The night either ends there, after a drink or two,, or there's still time to hook up and get to sleep before midnight. I simply kept at that routine, until I found one that would make a good LTR for me, given my lifestyle. It left me 2 weeknights and the weekends for my hobbies / gym time.	/r/askTRP	12/05/15 05:10 PM
1	Sex Starved Wives of r/Deadbedrooms Oh, surely she knew. She told me she wanted to lose weight and get in shape, and I enthusiastically encouraged her. I got her a membership at my gym, and even forked out for six months of personal training. She went, but didn't really dedicate herself, and she'd repeatedly tell me she just "can't" lose weight. She went and got her hormones checked, hoping for an excuse there, but the tests all came back completely normal. She then started with the "I just need to accept that I'll never be skinny…	/r/MarriedRedPill	12/05/15 01:51 PM
1	Sex Starved Wives of r/Deadbedrooms I agree that it's likely the majority. For the record though, I have a friend that ended up in a self induced DB, by running a dumb version of dread game on his wife. He thought he was punishing her by not having sex with her,, when his main gripe was that she didn't have better sex with him. He was able to salvage it eventually, but it was a weird 3 year bedroom standoff between those two.	/r/MarriedRedPill	11/05/15 11:31 PM
5	Sex Starved Wives of r/Deadbedrooms It was actually a mindfuck to go through. Because I felt shame for leaving her unsatisfied, and deep down I knew why I wasn't attracted to her, but I felt even worse acknowledging that her physical appearance was turning me completely off,,, like disgusting me. We're talking about 100 lbs here. I knew I wasn't a shallow person, yet at the same time I was completely denying who I was and what I was attracted to. On top of all of that, and probably related to the lack of dicking she was getting, s…	/r/MarriedRedPill	11/05/15 11:21 PM
18	Sex Starved Wives of r/Deadbedrooms I was married for a decade, and my wife definitely complained that our sex life, while decent quality, was nowhere near the quantity she wanted. I wouldn't have called it a DB, but she definitely would. I don't know what leads different people to this end, but I can give you some insight on my own situation. For background, I know I'm a very good lover, I've never had any problems with pleasing women in bed, I've been around a good bit. I suppose as a result, I refuse to ever let a woman use sex…	/r/MarriedRedPill	11/05/15 08:54 PM
1	Which parts of TRP theory correlate with your personal experiences and which do not ? We're all limited in our perceptions by the particular vantage point we occupy in the world. In my life, for instance, I've never personally seen a single instance of male on female domestic violence,, but I accept that it's still a real thing that happens, and is wrong. The clearest place I've seen the love issue show itself is in divorce / dissolution of a relationship, because that is the time when each party honestly presents what they needed but didn't receive in a relationship,, or by dedu…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/05/15 06:24 PM
1	Which parts of TRP theory correlate with your personal experiences and which do not ? Given that nothing is 100% true of anybody, I'll provide rough percentage estimates related to my observations from 25 years in the sexual market place. 1) Masculinity- 90% of the women I've known, are attracted to masculine men. There are some in the other 10% who like feminine guys who reliably bend to their will. 2) Hypergamy- 90% of the women I've known, seek out a partner with higher status or access to resources than themselves. These can be in any of the areas of wealth, social status, an…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/05/15 04:09 PM
2	Do you predict there will be an increase in the disdain towards females in the western world in the following years ? I don't think it will devolve into two "teams". Technology, and the relative affluence of the modern industrialized world, is guiding society into a individualistic structure. Men and women both,, at large,, are very, very self absorbed. Family is a group on facebook, but we hardly sit down to eat together anymore, or spend real time together. Men hardly band together for anything, other than shared personal objectives. Women, congregate together,, but most of the time, they're siting together, …	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/05/15 06:53 PM
2	Do you predict there will be an increase in the disdain towards females in the western world in the following years ? My prediction is yes. Feminist outrage seems to grow by the day, and the vast majority of people in my life have grown tired of it. At least half of the women in my life even scoff at all the girrrl power nonsense, and intellectually dishonest "outrage". I myself am in the "never to marry again" camp as well. In my case though, it's not about women being inherently disloyal and manipulative,,, it's about a broken institution that is horribly biased, and provides no benefit. I have a LT SO, I tru…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/05/15 06:38 PM
1	High value men in their 40s often bounce back after marriage. was the increase in quality of life worth whatever amount of money you had to pay to get rid of the ex? For me, yes. Due to support requirements, I was sending more than 25% of my income to my ex right out of the gate. That stung at the time, but was still worth it. My mantra is "always be improving", and after divorce, that's exactly what I set about doing. 2 years after my divorce I earned a promotion that netted me a 50% increase in base pay, generous stock compensation, and a 50% increase in…	/r/TheRedPill	05/05/15 03:56 PM
38	High value men in their 40s often bounce back after marriage. This has been absolutely true in my case. My situation was just as described. I was providing a pretty great life as a sole breadwinner, when a highly contagious rash of divorce began among my ex-wife's friends. She started fooling around, and asked for divorce. She wanted some sort of "fight" out of me,, but ultimately I wanted a much better partner, so what's there to fight for at that point? Anyway, I had obviously been out of the dating pool for over a decade, and had no idea what to expect.…	/r/TheRedPill	03/05/15 02:25 PM
2	Having the Captain, but not the marriage. Man here, in a similar situation, except she and I have each been married before, and each have two children by our previous spouses. I love my woman with all my heart, and I'm completely committed to her and our life together indefinitely, but I'd rather lose this amazing relationship than marry. Marriage is just that bad. The question of trust always gets thrown around, as in "do you want a man who doesn't trust you". This really is a horrible red herring. The problem isn't about trust. You ca…	/r/RedPillWomen	28/04/15 02:15 PM
28	Anyone ever LTR'd/married a woman that had a lower SMV than you because you wanted to avoid the bullshit? Suspected her cheating and confronted her, she asked for divorce, no fault state, she was a SAHM, so kids and cash prizes go to her. It's a shitty system.	/r/TheRedPill	28/04/15 12:13 AM
37	Anyone ever LTR'd/married a woman that had a lower SMV than you because you wanted to avoid the bullshit? I'd say it's better. At least I knew when, where and how my sex life was going down. In the end, I still got cheated on and divorce raped, so it's just different paths to the same end really.	/r/TheRedPill	27/04/15 10:49 PM
97	Anyone ever LTR'd/married a woman that had a lower SMV than you because you wanted to avoid the bullshit? Yes, I did. Married a woman at least 2 levels lower,, possibly 3,, mainly because I thought that she'd make a good "partner". The cliff notes are, that yes,,, she assumes that she can find another just like you. Also, as the years go on, there is a good chance that she'll begin to fail the boner test pretty quickly (especially after kids / weight increase). By the end, she wanted to have sex constantly, and I could only really stomach it with her once a week or so. Lasted almost 11 years, and ul…	/r/TheRedPill	27/04/15 09:00 PM
2	Marriage bonus! Wife and kids saved me $8000 in taxes. Ex-Wife now :-) I don't know the particulars of her finances these days, we've been divorced for a few years. What I do know, is that my child support payment covers every bill she has in a given month,, and she is very quick to remind me when the first and the fifteenth are approaching. So if I had to venture a guess, I'd say she still is.	/r/MarriedRedPill	30/03/15 05:53 PM
4	Marriage bonus! Wife and kids saved me $8000 in taxes. Was married for 10 years, with two small kids, and a stay at home spouse. Taxes were low, but the "soft costs" of having a wife with access to your bank account kept us just above a paycheck to paycheck lifestyle. Divorced now, pay thousands in child support each month, file single for tax purposes, no deductible children (ex takes both). I get bent over as far as my tax bill goes,, but you know what,, I have a year's worth of cash reserves by saving 15% of each paycheck, I'm maxing out my retir…	/r/MarriedRedPill	30/03/15 02:14 PM
3	PSA: TRP, Bigotry, Misogyny, and the Negative Perceptions Look, I get what you're saying, but this place serves as one of the last bastions of masculinity. We're not here to gain fans, we're not here to get website hits, we're not really here to even make people feel better about themselves. We meet here to discuss the truths of the world, especially the sexual marketplace. These truths are harsh,, they're cold,, they're painful to many,,, and the response to learning these truths is usually pretty harsh, cold and angry. We don't need another space tha…	/r/TheRedPill	24/03/15 07:35 PM
2	How to tell LTR about my RP views on marriage How do you justify that her head wont be in a guillotine during marriage. This is nice but the questions after this speech would be the ones i would have trouble answering. The analogy applies directly to my situation, and may not apply to all. In my situation, I make a lot, I have accumulated a lot. She is also successful in her own right, but I bring in roughly 3X what she does. I also do the majority of things around the house, mainly because I'm efficient at it, and have my own preferences, …	/r/askTRP	24/03/15 02:21 PM
9	How to tell LTR about my RP views on marriage I have a live in LTR, and I've had to have this talk before. I told her when we first started dating that marriage wouldn't be an option with me. A year or two in, she tested the waters again, and I told her "I've been honest with you,, marriage is not something I want now, nor probably ever. I need to know that you accept this, and that the life we have today is what you want forever. If it isn't, then we have a fundamental problem with our relationship, and we won't work in the long run." She …	/r/askTRP	23/03/15 08:34 PM
4	American Men Are Wising Up No, because if you've got a woman who is worth it,, then commit,, but don't marry. Commitment is behavior. You show commitment. It's not a certificate. To draw a more accurate parallel,,, it's more like having a girl who tells you she won't ever be in a threesome. Marriage is basically a threesome, between you, her, and the state.	/r/TheRedPill	11/03/15 12:15 AM
7	On RP and Marriage Well, as a child of divorce, and a divorced father myself, I guess I have a little bit of a different perspective. The best way for me to express what I've learned through all of this is with analogies. A relationship is like a vehicle you move through life in. When you are unmarried, you drive the car. If the ride becomes unbearable, you can stop the car, and get out, and everyone walks off on their separate ways. When you agree to marry, you put your wife in the driver's seat, and you are sitt…	/r/TheRedPill	06/03/15 04:19 PM
22	The brutality of the first rule. The first rule doesn't apply, you're the boy's dad. In my opinion you owe it to him to teach him the world for what it is. I absolutely raise my son by my RP principles. I believe the rule is in relation to trying to "save" grown ass blue pill men by teaching them the truth. Very different from being a good father, and raising a good man.	/r/TheRedPill	04/03/15 09:11 PM
2	Failed shit test in an LTR, what now? She says "we can go if you want" and I reply that I don't (because I know it will lead to fights and no sex for a few days)> Here's your mistake. You always should decide whether to go, or not to go, based on what you want to do. Do not compromise your own desires, to avoid inevitable shit tests. Going to the party, if done right, was a good opportunity to use some light dread game. If you wanted to go, you should have said yes, and then used your RP knowledge to handle and correct the fights an…	/r/askTRP	13/02/15 07:57 PM
1	How should RP man react to a girlfriend thanking him? Yea, always best to keep it simple, with a "thanks!" or "you're welcome". My girl is always very complimentary, and I usually just respond with a thank you. Of course, I also like to compliment her some, but I'm very mindful not to fall into the reciprocation trap. In my more beta days, when I was complimented by the girl I was with, I'd immediately pay her an even bigger compliment,,, don't do that, it just promotes compliment fishing. Anyway, the other day, I'm playing a little grab ass with m…	/r/askTRP	09/02/15 04:10 PM
2	Swallowing the Pill, here is my story as a thank you I'm another graduate of divorce rape university. Thanks for taking the time to write this all out, with hindsight, it's so funny how similar all our stories are! Kudos, on being a great dad too. That's always the hardest part when dealing with these things.	/r/TheRedPill	04/02/15 02:27 PM
2	Are men inherently turned off by low-maintenance women? Yes and there is a chicken / egg element as well. Are they rejected for being low maintenance, or are they low maintenance because they are rejected? All men want high value women, and they lavish gifts and favors on them to try to buy their way into their pants. These girls come to expect this treatment in general, and they demand it. Thirsty betas everywhere are waiting to keep it up,, for some time. The wall crushes these girls, and they end up needing medication to deal with reality. As anot…	/r/askTRP	28/01/15 01:14 AM
1	My GF says she wont take my name if we get married My opinion is to never marry, but some RP men still do find value in marriage somehow.	/r/askTRP	27/01/15 12:53 AM
18	My GF says she wont take my name if we get married Awesome! She saved you the trouble of figuring out if she's marriageable or not.	/r/askTRP	26/01/15 09:26 PM
12	Girldriend gained significant weight since start of relationship. How do I get her to lose it? Ironically enough,,, the surest way to get a woman to lose weight is to break up with her. Can't tell you how many women in relationships just "can't" lose weight. They get dumped, and 30lbs falls off them like it was only a sweater. Magic.	/r/askTRP	07/01/15 09:45 PM
4	What does TRP think of doing nice things for your LTR? Search harder for RP specifically in the context of LTR, and you'll find that you do nice things to reward her good behavior. It's only beta to try to buy pussy with "niceness". If you have a high quality woman who knows her role as first mate, and performs it well,, then treating her well by doing nice things is part of what makes a great captain.	/r/askTRP	07/01/15 04:02 PM
3	Charisma and TRP? They seem to go against each other.. So here's the definition of Charisma: cha·ris·ma kəˈrizmə noun 1. compelling attractiveness or charm that can inspire devotion in others. "she enchanted guests with her charisma" synonyms: charm, presence, personality, force of personality, strength of character; More 2.a divinely conferred power or talent. Charisma is not at odds with TRP,, and charisma is not "making them feel interesting and important",,, that is just how some people with blue pill thought processes think you demonstrate char…	/r/askTRP	17/12/14 10:12 PM
9	Don't Get Married Man, do I get a kick out of reading these threads! I like how some folks think they can perform behaviors that somehow are responsible for their marriages still being intact. The fact is that in marriage, you've got a legal contract that calls for the liquidation of half of your existence for any reason, or no reason at all,, on the whim of either party. I was married for over 10 years,, and even if my ex-wife would have been June freaking cleaver during those years,,, I will say that in my situ…	/r/TheRedPill	08/12/14 11:04 PM
3	I like making my gf happy & I want to fuck ... how do I do both? You run into this in LTR's. Personally, I take a "I'll do whatever you like in the bedroom, but I'll do whatever I like outside of the bedroom" approach. This works for me because she loves the sex and wants it all the time,, and she's very cautious about not fucking up outside the bedroom, because she craves what I give her. As a result, she is very sweet, upbeat, helpful and happy around me in general, because she's constantly got the tingles when we're together, thinking about what's to come …	/r/askTRP	08/12/14 03:57 PM
2	My Relationship Doesn't Seem To Be What I Thought It Was. Just want to offer another man's perspective if I may. I think I have a similar communication style (honest and direct) to your BF. The first statement is his honest struggle. High value men have options, and it's hard to keep your mind off of those attractive options sometimes,, no matter how much he loves you. The second statement of "I can't tell you that you shouldn't worry", is what you really seem to be worried about. I'm assuming here,,, but I believe I expressed this idea to my SO, who I…	/r/RedPillWomen	07/11/14 08:08 PM
1	Does having sex with girls you're attracted to undermine your ability to bang women you're not attracted to? Actually not as ridiculous as it sounds. Was married, she got huge and nasty but was still my wife, so I turned the lights off and did my duty a couple times a week. After divorce, I got with a few absolutely stunning women, and a handful of cuties. I had a moment of weakness where I entertained the idea of reconciling with the ex for the kid's sake,,,, yea, no dice on the physical side anymore. There literally was no way for me to to "bite the bullet" and get it done.	/r/askTRP	05/11/14 08:45 PM
2	For you guys who are deadset against marriage (which, I imagine, is the majority of the sub), did your parents have a bad marriage and, more generally, is there a history of bad marriages in your family? My parents marriages (dad 4, mom 2) were all crap. Mom has been happily cohabitated with a great guy for over 20 years now, unmarried. Nobody in my family before them, ever divorced. So there were plenty of "good examples" but they are all from an era where relationships were conducted in very traditional ways. Things are very different now. Seeing my parents failed marriages actually gave me an advantage in that I had no grand illusion of what marriage is,, I expected rough patches, and was det…	/r/askTRP	09/10/14 06:45 PM
1	The fallacy of Money = Everything I've never heard that money is everything. What money is though, is an easy score keeping mechanism, in the most universal market of competition among men. When you succeed financially, it's highly visible, and therefore a significant smv boost by demonstrating dominance. Being a master in another area of competition will also raise your smv,, but it might not be as easily visible to the larger population, and therefore will provide a smv boost from a smaller subset of the female population. For…	/r/askTRP	04/10/14 05:41 PM
2	The Price Of The Taking The Red Pill: A Reflection Maybe its just me, but I see these largely as benefits of a red pill life, not really costs. Isolation: the stark differences between the red pill man, and everyone else, makes it extremely easy to recognize the few kindred spirits out there. I don't want to feel like a member of the herd,,, I want to feel like the cowboy. There will always be few cowboys, to the many of the herd. To me, that is comforting. Media: the blatant feminization of most mass media has become so repulsive that im not ev…	/r/TheRedPill	21/09/14 04:46 PM
2	(x-post from r/AskChodes) Why Get Married? True, and there are also behaviors that will minimize the risk of being attacked by a bear when confronted,,, but it still would be very unwise to jump into the bear enclosure at the zoo and rely on those behaviors.	/r/askTRP	20/09/14 04:14 PM
14	(x-post from r/AskChodes) Why Get Married? Was married for 12 years. Been in a good LTR for a couple years now, and I'll tell you that without a doubt, there is not a single thing about marriage that makes it "worth it". In my case, I have worked extremely hard, and earn a very large salary. Analogy time: in marriage you lock yourself in a guillotine and hand the rope to a woman in hopes she never pulls it. In a committed non-married LTR you and her both choose to put your heads under a guillotine, and you each hold the other's rope. Thi…	/r/askTRP	19/09/14 08:01 PM
5	I feel sorry for women Look man, we're all lied to. Some people are simply astute enough to pull back the curtain, and recognize the lies. Others choose to remain blissfully unaware. It's only the carousel riders, not women as a gender, who are sad. Just as the Beta Bux are sad men. Everybody has a chance to take the red pill,, most just can't resist the taste of blue....	/r/TheRedPill	05/09/14 12:26 AM
5	Help after winning the argument Good timing, I dealt with this last night. She was upset over a couple boundaries I set, that she was hashing over and over in her head. We had a very real, brutally honest conversation, where I reinforced those boundaries, she agreed and geniunely apologized when we were finished. Afterward, I told her "now I'm going to take you upstairs and fuck some sense into you". She came six times. Honestly, women thrive when men take charge, establish boundaries, and strictly enforce them. They will piss…	/r/askTRP	10/07/14 08:07 PM
3	Recently swallowed TRP, advice requested on nearly 3-year LTR Congratulations on many levels. First on realizing you have a problem and addressing it, second on having a strong relationship, and third for finding this place. First things first, make sure the pain pill bullshit is done for good. You need to be your best self. Relationship wise, I live a similar life, and I would say first, that yes, you have definitely spent some relationship capital here, you broke frame. The good news seems to be that you had a good bit of capital to spend, and I think yo…	/r/askTRP	19/06/14 11:22 PM
17	What was the moment you decided to follow TRP? After I spent 11 years catering to my wife, giving her everything she asked for, putting up with her ridiculous shit tests, demanding nothing of her, and she in turn divorce raped me, took my kids, 60% of my accumulated wealth, and 30% of my earnings for the next 9 years. That kind of screwing will yank the cord out of the back of your head pretty quick. It's been years now, and TRP living has given me a life infinitely better than anything I've ever had before.	/r/TheRedPill	20/05/14 07:23 PM
2	Chivalry I generally behave in a way that many consider chivalrous, including my SO. The difference for me though is the drive behind why I do those things. It's for my own kicks, for my self esteem, pride, whatever. When I hold a door ( for anyone m or f), my subconscious thought is "I'm in charge, welcome to my environment" a smile for everyone, as if I was hosting them in my own dining room, because I project every room to be my own dining room. This has done wonders for me, as it looks appealing as h…	/r/TheRedPill	18/05/14 03:39 AM
2	Is it possible to be a needy alpha? I'll try to clarify a little. 1) Having opinions and speaking them isn't an alpha / beta indicator. A ton of betas are outspoken,, if they weren't,, my interactions with them would be a lot less irritating. It's the nature of the opinion that would carry alpha or beta thought processes. 2) Boundaries are about a whole lot more than push / pull. Boundaries force you to ask the general question "what will I allow to affect me". That affect can be physical, emotional,, whatever. If your happiness /…	/r/askTRP	10/05/14 01:29 AM
3	Is it possible to be a needy alpha? You don't seem to be an alpha personality. You have established opinions that you aren't afraid to speak, but that doesn't really mean much in terms of alpha / beta personality types. If you are too emotional for your own comfort, and those emotions are easily influenced by how others view you or what they say, you have boundary issues that need fixing. Get the book, Boundaries (Townsen and Cloud), it's paperback, easy read. The book spends some time tying emotional boundaries to some Christian …	/r/askTRP	09/05/14 08:32 PM
1	On why you NEVER, ask a women for permission to do ANYTHING. "you, don't mind if I sit here,,, do you" (said with a slight smile) is another great option in that situation.	/r/TheRedPill	09/05/14 07:15 PM
6	Women want a wedding, not a marriage. I don't know man, I've known plenty who had kids out of marriage, and fared just as well, as those of us that were married. I was married, and still have 90% financial responsibility, and an every other W/E and a weekday night for visitation. Can't get too much worse for an "amicable" situation. You have to make sure to sign the birth certificate if unmarried, but after you are stated as the father, it's basically the same set of challenges. There may even be an upside overall, as the man and wo…	/r/TheRedPill	06/05/14 08:00 PM
10	One Hole or Many: To spin plates or to pursue a LTR I agree for the most part, I think the spinning plates list is spot on, but the cons for LTR only exist when you break frame. In my LTR case I have a 7-7.5 professional woman, who pays for more than I ask, she treats to trips out of town etc. Yes, I make twice as much money, but she doesn't expect any of it. I spend what I want on her, responsibly. She has never complained once about the time I spend with friends, or on my hobbies (actually she joins in most of my hobbies with me and is actually…	/r/TheRedPill	06/05/14 07:00 PM
2	Looking to see results from older Rper's and which lifestyle choice felt most rewarding. 39 yo, high smv, man here. Chronology is spinning plates, marriage, spinning plates, LTR. My plate spinning days were all great (best in 30's), my marriage was abject misery, my LTR is beyond fucking awesome. I'd definitely vote LTR as superior (sans marriage). If done correctly from the start. The key is frame. My S/O knows I'm in control, the captain of the ship, and she supports the hell out of that. In return, I take very good care of her, and rock her world in the bedroom at every opportuni…	/r/TheRedPill	05/05/14 09:03 PM
2	For any of you in an LTR - Your woman will push you to be emotionally open with her. Resist this. No, in both expressions, you still convey irritation and discontent. It's just that in the first example focuses on the emotion, and paints you as a victim, and in the second you put the focus on the action and it paints you as a conqueror / problem solver,,, but the actual message conveyed (irritation at work), is basically the same.	/r/TheRedPill	02/05/14 12:44 PM
3	For any of you in an LTR - Your woman will push you to be emotionally open with her. Resist this. I'm in a LTR (2yr), and for those who don't understand what is being said here, let me offer my attempt at an example. Say you're getting screwed over at work, you're upset, she can tell, and wants you to share. Here's the wrong way: "Work has been upsetting me. I just don't feel appreciated, and it seems that whatever I do it's not good enough. I hate it, but I feel trapped." Here's the right way: "Get this, so and so really pissed me off at work because X, so I decided I'm going to do X about …	/r/TheRedPill	01/05/14 06:27 PM